Shows
Undone RedoneUR 242: The Four Relationships Men Must Have — Dan Britton & Jimmy PageOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray chats with authors Dan Britton and Jimmy Page to discuss their latest book, Wisdom Walks, and the four relationships men must have in their lives. Dan and Jimmy break down these four relationships: The Walker, The Warrior, The Watchman, and The Workman, and how we can use these four relationships to become the best version of ourselves and to maximize our emotional connection with others. They also discuss what it means to walk purposefully with Jesus and begin to live a life of meaning and significance that we were...
2020-10-201h 03
Undone RedoneUR 235: The Restored Man − Randy HemphillOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody talk with author and speaker Randy Hemphill as he shares his story of going through the trauma of betrayal as a man. Randy shares his experience with grieving through his betrayal and how important it is for men to allow themselves to properly grieve after experiencing infidelity in marriage. He also shares that there comes a time in every man's journey with God where tips and techniques on how to be better simply do not work. Instead of trying to change ourselves through willpower and effort, Randy r...
2020-08-1945 min
Undone RedoneUR 234: The Last Addiction — Sharon HershOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody chat with author and speaker Sharon Hersh. Sharon shares the idea that addiction can be a gift and that oftentimes the areas that are shattered by trauma and betrayal are the areas that needed to be addressed in a marriage. Sharon explains it does not excuse the abuser for creating the trauma in the relationship, but that the brokenness that comes from addiction helps to create a new paradigm in the relationship that can be the catalyst to break free from addiction as a whole. M...
2020-08-051h 00
Undone RedoneUR 233: Walking With Women Through Betrayal Trauma — Marnie FerreeOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone podcast, Marnie Ferree returns to talk about healing from betrayal trauma with Melody. Marnie is the founder of Bethesda Workshops, a program that specializes in providing a place of healing for those damaged by pornography and other forms of sexual addiction. She and Melody discuss how women that have experienced betrayal can begin to rebuild their lives after their trust is shattered. Marnie then explains that we all need help in walking through our addictions and our wounds. Our listeners can get access to all of Marnie's r...
2020-07-1459 min
Undone RedoneUR 232: Intimate Deception — Sheri KefferOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Melody chats with Dr. Sheri Keffer about the impact of betrayal trauma and the path forward to recovery. Dr. Sheri Keffer received her PhD in Marriage and Family Therapy and her Master of Arts Theology, both from Fuller Theological Seminary. She currently specializes in individual, couples and family therapy at her private practice in Newport Beach, California. She explains how the trauma of betrayal affects our minds, bodies, spirits, and sexuality. Dr. Keffer also provides women new tools they can utilize when dealing with emotional triggers and helps...
2020-07-011h 00
Undone RedoneUR 231: Healing from Racial Trauma — Wendell MossOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray chats with Wendell Moss, a therapist at The Allender Center, to share his story and to specifically discuss racial trauma. The conversation about racial injustice in America is currently dominating conversations and Wendell breaks down his own experiences with racial trauma and how he was able to work through and heal from those traumas. He also explains what we as a country can do to begin listening and engaging the conversation to help those struggling with racial injustice. Our listeners can learn more about Wendell...
2020-06-161h 02
Undone RedoneUR 230: Helping Female Sex Addicts — Marnie FerreeOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone podcast, Tray and Melody welcome a long-awaited guest to the show, Marnie Ferree. Marnie is the founder of Bethesda Workshops, a program that specializes in helping those struggling with sexual brokenness and was the first of its kind to help female sex addicts in what was thought to be a "male only issue." Marnie shares her struggles with infidelity and sexual brokenness, how she has created workshops and resources to help other women, and why it is so important to approach sex addiction as a human issue rather than a purely...
2020-06-1043 min
Undone Redone[BONUS] An Honest Conversation About Racism with Jeremiah, Simeon, & CalebThe conversation about racial injustice in America is raging strong right now and I personally want to do a better job of listening. In so doing, I had the privilege of sitting down to talk racism with former Alabama All-American and NFL standout Jeremiah Castille and his sons Simeon and Caleb, who both also played at the University of Alabama. Simeon was an All-SEC defensive back who also played in the NFL and Caleb played defensive back and left the Capstone with 2 national championship rings and currently is an actor living in Los Angeles. Jeremiah, Simeon, and...
2020-06-0957 min
Undone RedoneUR 229: Healing From Betrayal Trauma — Leslie VernickOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Melody sits down with returning guest Leslie Vernick to discuss walking through betrayals, infidelity, and heartbreak in a relationship. Leslie gives our listeners some tips on how to recognize a toxic person or a toxic relationship and what you can do in those situations. She also explains how and when to set appropriate boundaries, when to confront or to forbear, and how to let go of all those negative messages that can be swirling around in our heads. You can learn more about Leslie's resources at https://leslievernick...
2020-06-0355 min
Undone RedoneUR 228: Coping with COVID — Dr. Barbara LoweOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody chat with returning guest, Dr. Barbara Lowe, to discuss the COVID-19 pandemic from a mental health perspective. Dr. Lowe discusses ways to treat your physical, mental, and spiritual health during quarantine, and, even as life begins to return to normal, what we can do to address lingering issues in our personal lives. She also provides resources that help treat the issues that go deeper than the stress of the pandemic, like https://drbarbaralowe.com/findyourhappy/. You can learn more about Dr. Lowe and the services...
2020-05-1936 min
Undone RedoneUR 227: Celebrating the Value of Women — Elyse Fitzpatrick & Eric SchumacherOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody chat with Elyse Fitzpatrick & Eric Schumacher to discuss their book Worthy: Celebrating the Value of Women, a timely resource that dives into the value, place, and calling of women in the church. But, as they explain in this interview, this isn't a book just for women, but also offers valuable insight for men, especially leaders, who want to grow in their understanding of God's unique design of women. Could we have missed something amid the many abuse scandals that are right now rocking the church? Might the...
2020-05-121h 15
Undone RedoneUR 226: Surviving Financially During COVID-19 — Russ Morgan and Joey MuréOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Russ Morgan & Joey Mure of Wealth Without Wall Street to discuss financial security during COVID-19. Joey and Russ share their expertise to our listeners to help them navigate the financial minefield that is the COVID-19 pandemic. They explain the things every person needs to be doing to keep their head above water in these unprecedented times. They also point to helpful resources and are offering our listeners a chance to join their free community at https://www.wealthwithoutwallstreet.com/community. To learn more about...
2020-05-0559 min
Undone RedoneUR 225: COVID-19 & Financial Stress — Ericka YoungCOVID-19 has shut down the US economy and many are feeling the effects as unemployment applications hit record levels. On this week's show, Tray and Melody talk with Financial Coach Ericka Young to discuss how to handle financial uncertainty during this unprecedented pandemic. Ericka offers practical guidance to help navigate the current financial landscape as well as ideas on preparing for the future. She also encourages viewers to take the time to step back and ask the question "is my plan working?" and, if it isn't, offers help in creating a plan that will get them through...
2020-04-3046 min
Undone RedoneUR 224: What To Do When Your Child Sees Porn — Bryce LandwehrOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Therapist Bryce Landwehr to discuss how to parent a child that has been exposed to pornography. Bryce explains that especially since we all have more free time during the COVID-19 pandemic, its more important than ever to ensure that we have a proper way to talk to our children and parent them through that exposure. Bryce talks about why grace based parenting is key to helping our children navigate a place that often they know more about than we do. Our listeners can learn...
2020-04-2150 min
Undone RedoneUR 223: Restoring the Nobility of Manhood — Jeff StrueckerOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray sits down with Army Ranger Jeff Struecker to discuss what it means to be a man. Jeff and Tray discuss how we should mend men who are suffering from brokenness and how to build boys into men. We often try to grow up being a man without ever having someone properly teach us what it means to truly be one. Jeff explains how we can properly realize our masculinity without having to "ruffle a manly pose for our timid hearts." This is an episode you don't want to miss...
2020-04-1456 min
Undone RedoneUR 222: Ministering in the Messy — Gary ThomasOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Gary Thomas to talk specifically to ministry leaders who are overwhelmed in the midst of an unprecedented time with COVID-19. Gary explains how ministry leaders need to identify their strengths in the church and when to recognize that something is outside of "their lane" so that they can allow others to take control of that work. This is an episode everyone can benefit from, but is specifically target to those who are leading churches throughout this difficult time. For more information on Gary Thomas...
2020-04-0758 min
Undone Redone[Bonus] Starting Wednesday, April 1: Q&A with Mel & TrayGet Your Questions Answered! Tray and Melody's journey has provided unique wisdom and insight in the areas of marriage, parenting, pornography addiction recovery, and betrayal trauma. Each Wednesday at 2 PM CST, you have the opportunity to have any specific questions you might have answered on Q&A with Mel & Tray, a new feature being offered by Undone Redone. No question is off-limits. Click the link below to register for this FREE event. Submit your question at ask@undoneredone.com.
2020-03-3107 min
Undone RedoneUR 221: Ministering to Military Families — Megan BrownOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with military spouse and minister Megan Brown. Megan works with the military community, specifically spouses, on how to connect into your community as a military spouse and increase community engagement with active duty members and veterans alike. Military life and the transitions it puts families through can bring challenges including marriage building, creating community, and finding a sense of purpose. Through empowering others to build their military life well, Megan works to help those facing challenges find a purpose and become a part of something...
2020-03-241h 10
Undone RedoneUR 220: I Was Sex Trafficked — Christa LynnOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Melody sits down with trafficking survivor Christa Lynn. Christa tells Melody how she survived a life filled with neglect, addictions and trafficking, and how she is using that experience to help children, teens and young adults recover from the trauma of human trafficking. Christa Lynn works closely with One More Child, an organization that works to stand beside survivors of trafficking as they overcome vulnerabilities, obstacles and injustices to build dream-worthy lives. Our listeners can learn more about Christa and her work with One More Child at onemorechild.org
2020-03-171h 13
Undone RedoneUR 219: Getting Marriage Right — Tod Jacobs and Peter LynnOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with guests Tod Jacobs and Peter Lynn, authors of Not a Partnership, to discuss why we seem to keep getting marriage wrong and what we can do to make our marriages stronger. Tod and Peter present tools and strategies to not only sustain marriages, but to enrich them as well. They believe that as two people develop the mindset and practice of serving something greater than themselves in their marriages, a miraculous transformation occurs and the marriage is strengthened as a result. Our listeners can...
2020-03-1257 min
Undone RedoneUR 218: Same Crossroads, Different Results — Tray and Melody LovvornOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody host their first podcast from their new office. They talk about how God will often bring us back to the same crossroads in our lives, but with different results. Tray speaks to our listener's about how to walk these same crossroads without letting the shame narrative take over. He explains that the reason we can begin to find joy in the present is often because we remember where the Lord has taken us. This is a great episode for those feeling like they are walking the same...
2020-03-0323 min
Undone RedoneUR 217: Grace in the Chaos — Kara Kae JamesOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Melody sits down with Kara-Kae James to talk about the challenges and triumphs of motherhood, particularly with postpartum depression. Kara is an author of 6 books and is passionate about seeing women's lives changed and impacted through the truth of God's Word. Kara explains that she knows so many moms out there are struggling like her and in desperate need of a reminder that God loves them. She works to help women engage in meaningful conversations about difficult topics and push them to rethink their lives by looking closer at themselves...
2020-02-2634 min
Undone RedoneUR 216: I Was Married To A Sex Addict — Tanya McCawWe all know that betrayal trauma is a pain unique to the men and women that have to face it. However, it is often so easy to focus on the end goal of where we are headed rather than the journey itself. Our guest on today's episode is Tanya McCaw, who sits down with Melody to share her journey through betrayal and reconciliation. She explains how she was married to a sex addict, what that betrayal looked like, and how she used the resources available to walk through the pain and brokenness that seemed to overwhelm her life. This...
2020-02-041h 08
Undone RedoneUR 215: Boundaries & Safe People — Dr. Henry CloudOur guest on today's show is Dr. Henry Cloud. Dr. Cloud is a New York Times bestselling author, and his books have sold over 10 million copies. He discusses the importance of making safe choices in relationships and setting appropriate boundaries, whether its friendships or romantic relationships. He explains how people can identify the traits that bring nurturing people into our lives, as well as ones we need to learn to avoid. Tray and Melody are so excited to have Dr. Cloud on the Undone Redone Podcast and this is an episode you don't want to miss! Our listeners can l...
2020-01-291h 01
Undone RedoneUR 214: Climbing Out of Debt — Ericka YoungOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Ericka Young to discuss tackling debt and other financial hardships in marriage. Ericka and her husband Chris carried loads of debt that included student loans, car payments, and a mortgage. They eventually found themselves in over $100,000 in debt, but were able to pay everything off successfully after being taught by the master of finance himself, Dave Ramsey. Now over ten years later, she helps both people and businesses transform their finances, careers, families and, most importantly, their futures. She explains the importance of discussing y...
2019-12-1758 min
Undone RedoneUR 213: In Good Faith — Scott ShayOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with author and banker Scott Shay. Shay is a Co-Founder and Chairman of Signature Bank and a longstanding Jewish community activist. He has started a Hebrew school, an adult educational program, and chaired several Jewish educational programs. Shay discusses his new book In Good Faith: Questioning Religion and Atheism, describes what motivated him to engage with the arguments of the New Atheists. He also explains that the temptation of idolatry did not disappear in the Old Testament but persists as part of human nature to t...
2019-12-1051 min
Undone RedoneUR 212: Building a Stronger Marriage — Les ParrottOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Dr. Les Parrott to discuss strengthening your marriage. Dr. Parrott is a bestselling author, a professor of psychology at Northwest University, creator of the SYMBIS Assessment, and founder of the Parrott Institute for Healthy Relationships at Olivet Nazarene University. He and his wife Leslie are a husband-and-wife team who not only share the same name, but the same passion for helping others build healthy and stronger relationships. Dr. Parrott explains that a marriage can only be as strong as the two spouses in it...
2019-12-0433 min
Undone RedoneUR 211: Post Traumatic Growth — Dr. Shannan CrawfordOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Dr. Shannan Crawford to discuss post traumatic growth. Dr. Crawford is a licensed clinical psychologist, conference speaker, adjunct professor, and innovator-expert in Restoring Self-Cohesion. She explains the difficulty of overcoming severe trauma in our lives and the steps we can take to begin that recovery process. She shares her own stories of trauma with Tray and Melody and how God and His word can work to identify and eliminate internal blocks or triggers that hinder us from optimally thriving and fulfilling our life purpose...
2019-11-261h 01
Undone RedoneUR 210: Reminiscing — Charles BillingsleyOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with award winning singer and songwriter, Charles Billingsley, to reminisce about their time at Samford University and discuss how sometimes the "perfect" image we strive for isn't the right one. Charles discusses his jump into music and how God really tested his strength and walk through his voice. Charles conveys the central message of his heart is to assist other believers in discovering a lifestyle of worship. He explains that every decision we make, every sin we commit is ultimately a worship issue, as a...
2019-11-1945 min
Undone RedoneUR 209: Turning Challenges Into Positive Changes — Dr. Barbara Lowe On this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Melody sits down with Dr. Barbara Lowe to discuss turning extremely rough situations into positive change for Christ. Dr. Barbara Lowe is a practicing psychologist who specializes in helping wounded people recover and reclaim their destinies, take a deep and serious dive into discussions about where traumas begin, and what resources are available to help people recover and thrive. Our listeners can learn more about Dr. Lowe's story and her ministry by visiting https://drbarbaralowe.com/. Quotes: "The most important thing I learned in my walk with...
2019-11-0651 min
Undone RedoneUR 208: Disappointed, Difficult, or Destructive Marriage? — Leslie VernickOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with author and counselor Leslie Vernick. Leslie is the author of seven books, including the best selling, The Emotionally Destructive Relationship and her most recent book, The Emotionally Destructive Marriage. She speaks with Tray and Melody about the difference between a disappointing relationship and a destructive relationship, and what we as spouses can do when we find ourselves in either type. Our listeners can learn more about Leslie and her work by going to her website: https://leslievernick.com/ Quotes: "When you...
2019-10-2953 min
Undone RedoneUR 207: The Joy of Intimacy — Rabbi Manis FriedmanOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Rabbi Manis Friedman to discuss intimacy in marriage. Rabbi Friedman states that we all crave intimacy because It's essential to our emotional and spiritual health. Yet, he also explains that today's culture faces an intimacy crisis and often times, even when we're in a committed relationship, we still feel painfully alone. Our listeners can learn more about Rabbi Friedman at his website, https://itsgoodtoknow.org/ Quotes: "Intimacy flourishes in an atmosphere that is permeated with kindness, respect, and sanctity. True...
2019-10-2246 min
Undone RedoneUR 206: Don't Keep Jesus From Your Kids — Joel FitzpatrickOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Joel Fitzpatrick to discuss spiritual parenting between fathers and their children. Joel Fitzpatrick has served as an ordained minister in the Presbyterian Church in America with a focus on youth and family. He received his MDiv from Westminster Seminary California. Joel lives in Southern California with his wife of nineteen years and their two children. He is a sinner, a preacher, the author of Between us Guys, the coauthor of Mom, Dad . . . What's Sex?, and contributed chapters to The Sinner and Saints Devotional: 60 days in th...
2019-10-1542 min
Undone RedoneUR 205: Meteorologist Mom: Balancing Career and Life — Ashley GannOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Meteorologist Ashley Gann to discuss work life balance. She explains that it's easy to categorize ourselves based on one area of our lives and define ourselves only by that task or talent. She stresses that we can always find balance in our lives if we live it with intentionality. Ashley Gann is the Chief Meteorologist at CBS 42 in Birmingham, AL and is a believer, wife, and mother of 3. Our listeners can learn more about Ashley on her Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook pages, all of...
2019-10-0853 min
Undone RedoneUR 204: When To Walk Away — Gary ThomasHave you ever found yourself in a toxic relationship with others? As Christians, we often feel the guilt and responsibility of meeting the needs of unhealthy people in our lives. Whether a family member, spouse, coworker, or friend, toxic people frequently seek to frustrate our empathy in Christ Jesus. While you're seeking God's kingdom first, it seems like they're seeking to distract your focus and delay your work. Instead of attempting the impossible task of mollifying toxic people, it's time we dedicate our energy to the only worthwhile effort: completing the work God has given us by i...
2019-10-011h 00
Undone RedoneUR 203: Life Before and After Alabama Football — Simeon CastilleFormer Alabama and NFL cornerback Simeon Castille is our guest on this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast. Simeon shares his story of growing up with his All-American father, Jeremiah Castille, and the foundation of faith that his parents created for him. Simeon talks about "breakfast club", which was the summer training program that his father created in order to help he and his brother Tim reach their goals of playing at Alabama and in the NFL. Simeon also courageously shares his own journey from a performance paradigm to a grace paradigm and how he came to understand...
2019-09-2549 min
Undone RedoneUR 202: Dangerous Curves AheadOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody discuss their trip to the Utah Coalition Against Pornography while on location and how a road sign at Valley of Fire National Park got them thinking about marriage. They discuss that like roads we travel, marriage is not always straightforward and easy by design. They tell us the importance of recognizing that marriage will never be perfect or even easy, and that there will always be struggles in a marriage. It's by accepting that truth that couples can begin to work through those problems and find lasting...
2019-09-1715 min
Undone RedoneUR 201: Meant To Live — Nancy HicksOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Melody sits down with Author Nancy Hicks to discuss empowering women in God's Grace, even after a trauma in The Church. Nancy's mission is to raise up women around the globe by igniting and equipping them with the power and grace of Christ. They discuss her latest book, Meant to Live, which unpacks how Christians can live in the power and glory of the Gospel―the Good News of Jesus Christ―and celebrate God's glory in themselves, and the Church. Our listeners can learn more about Nancy at her website http...
2019-09-1044 min
Undone RedoneUR 200: Weathering Life — James SpannOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody celebrate their 200th podcast with a very special guest, meteorologist James Spann. Tray and Melody talk about how James inspired them to start podcasting and how they have evolved over time through their podcasts. James discusses his passion for using one's talents to minister to Christ and how anyone can minister to others. He also discusses the importance of weather awareness and how he aims to mitigate loss of life from severe weather in Alabama. Our listeners can follow and contact James Spann on Twitter, https://twitter...
2019-09-0454 min
Undone RedoneUR 199: Silencing The Lies of 'Not Enough' — Sharon JaynesOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Melody sits down with Sharon Jaynes to talk about women's struggles in the church and growing up in an abusive environment. For ten years Sharon served as Vice President of Proverbs 31 Ministries and co-host for their daily radio feature. She is the author of 20 books with Harvest House, Moody, Baker, and Multnomah Publishers. She emphasizes that God has the power to transform women's lives for the better. Our listeners can learn more about Sharon at https://sharonjaynes.com/, https://girlfriendsingod.com/sharon-jaynes/, and https://www.proverbs31.org/read/devotions/our-writers...
2019-08-2638 min
Undone RedoneUR 198: How To Help Your Anxious Teen — Jessica ThompsonOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Jessica Thompson to discuss her seventh book, How to Help Your Anxious Teen: Discovering the Surprising Sources of Their Worries and Fears. She stresses how many of our societal norms can actually exacerbate anxiety in teens and how parents can approach their children to discuss and manage anxiety. Jessica is the author of several books and is a frequent conference speaker. Her heart is to see women, families, and children freed from the bondage of moralism. She is a contributor at Christ Hold Fast. S...
2019-08-1949 min
Undone RedoneUR 197: Understanding Eating Disorders — Alice ChurnockOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody bring Alice Churnock into the studio to discuss the importance of understanding eating disorders. Alice specializes in counseling adolescents, women, and parents in areas relating to eating disorders, body image, and depression, as well as stress and anger management. She stresses that eating disorders go far beyond that of anorexia and bulimia, and that it is pivotal to understand the root issues that lead to these disorders. Most of the time, eating disorders arise as a coping mechanism for problems in life, and Alice explains how to walk w...
2019-08-1249 min
Undone RedoneUR 196: Walking With My Daughter Through Her Eating Disorder — Kristen HattonOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Kristen Hatton to discuss what its like walking with a child or teen struggling with an eating disorder. She emphasizes the importance of talking to our children about the idols in their lives that drive undesirable behaviors instead of just trying to fix it for them and make them "good kids." Kristen has written multiple books including The Gospel-Centered Life in Exodus for Students, Face Time: Your Identity in a Selfie World and Get Your Story Straight. Our listeners can learn more about Kristen...
2019-08-0552 min
Undone RedoneUR 195: Enmeshment vs DifferentiationOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down to discuss enmeshment, differentiation and interdependence in marriage. They work to define the difference between each of these terms and different ways that couples can practically address enmeshment in a relationship so that they can work towards a fuller, more healthy marriage. For more information on the tools and tips Melody and Tray discussed in this week's podcast, visit https://undoneredone.com/. Our listeners can also check out the upcoming Open Your Purse and Embark Men's Recovery Intensive events at https://undoneredone.com/openyourpurse and h...
2019-07-3030 min
Undone RedoneUR 194: Rethinking Sexuality — Juli SlatteryOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Author Juli Slattery to discuss sexuality. Juli explains how sexuality is often misinterpreted in the church and that only 10% of Christians enter a marriage without some form of sexual experience from a previous relationship. Juli then discusses what to do for Christians that reach marriage with or without baggage and say "Ok... Now what?" We encourage our listeners to check out her new book "Rethinking Sexuality" and visiting her website https://www.authenticintimacy.com/ for more resources on properly defining God's view of healthy...
2019-07-2255 min
Undone RedoneUR 193: Submission In MarriageOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray shares his thoughts on submission in marriage and how often men will misinterpret verses like Ephesians 5:22. He explains that God has not called husbands to be tyrants in a relationship that demand their wives to do whatever they say, but instead to lovingly lead them as Christ is leading us in our lives. Quotes from this episode: "Many times guys we don't know who we are and we try to feel powerful by controlling our wives. That is not what the Lord has called us...
2019-07-1622 min
Undone RedoneUR 192: One Day At A Time — Daniel FickOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray sits down with Daniel Fick to discuss pornography addiction and lust. Daniel Fick is the author of One Day at a Time, his story of navigating lust, adultery, pornography, and the healing that only Christ can bring. He tells his journey of addiction and what others can do in similar situations. Our listeners can purchase One Day at a Time on amazon and contact Daniel at Onedayatatimebook@gmail.com.
2019-07-0856 min
Undone RedoneUR 191: No Hope In Silence — Tom and Michelle WeaverOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Tom and Michelle Weaver to discuss what it's like coming forward when a spouse struggles with sexual infidelity and pornography addiction. Tom and Michelle both emphasize how silence only hurts a relationship and how keeping secrets from your spouse can ultimately destroys the foundations of that relationship. Tray and Melody also spoke at Tom and Michelle's Come to the Table Conference, and our listeners can hear both parts of that discussion at these links https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5yKTzIoBjzA&list=PLYoRkz4XSywMKX5...
2019-06-3045 min
Undone RedoneUR 190: The Subtle Trauma of Spiritual Abuse — Rachael ClintonOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Rachael Clinton for part two of their discussion on trauma. Rachael defines what spiritual trauma can look like and how trauma can manifest itself in different ways depending on the person. She then explains how we can begin recovering from spiritual trauma and how leaving the church or faith completely isn't the only option. Our listeners can learn more about Rachael Clinton and her ministry at https://theallendercenter.org/about/team/rachael-clinton/.
2019-06-1746 min
Undone RedoneUR 189: Understanding Your Trauma Narrative — Rachael ClintonOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Rachael Clinton for a two-part discussion on spiritual trauma. Rachael is a trauma specialist, pastor, preacher and therapeutic practitioner who serves as the Director of Organizational Development for The Allender Center at The Seattle School. In the podcast, she explains why going into places of pain and trauma is an important part of the healing process. While we often times believe we can just ignore or think our way into healing, Rachael explains that true healing comes from utilizing resources and finding the right...
2019-06-1043 min
Undone RedoneUR 188: Relational Reset — Laurel ShalerOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Dr. Laurel Shaler. They discuss Dr. Shaler's latest book, Relational Reset: Unlearning the Habits That Hold You Back, which outlines unhealthy patterns that may be holding us back, gives us practical steps for improving our relationships, and helps us to find our ultimate security and identity in Jesus Christ.
2019-06-0452 min
Undone RedoneUR 187: The Importance of PlayEpisode 187 features Tray and Mel discussing the importance of rest and play as they record after a week of writing at beautiful Smith Lake in North Alabama. They discuss the underlying unbelief that keeps us perpetually "doing" instead of taking time to simply "be". But, as they share in this episode, rest and play are vitally important in keeping us energized and enjoying wholehearted living. Where do you need to cut back in order to build in the margins necessary for adequate play and rest? Please share this episode with family and friends who also need to...
2019-05-2727 min
Undone RedoneUR 186: Rekindling Joy In Marriage - Marcus Warner and Chris CourseyOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Dr. Marcus Warner and Rev. Chris Coursey to discuss revitalizing joy in a marriage. Marcus Warner is a former pastor and college professor who has written several books on topics ranging from how to study the Bible to spiritual warfare, emotional healing, and leadership. Chris Coursey travels the world equipping couples, ministry leaders, and churches in relational brain skills. They discuss 4 key habits to kindling joy in a relationship on a daily basis and explain how we can rewire our brains to find joy...
2019-05-2052 min
Undone RedoneUR 185: Awakening Your Sex Life -- Ruth BuezisOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Ruth Buezis to discuss awakening one's sex life and what God truly wants sex to be for married couples. She explains that God wants our marriage bed to restore us, refresh us, comfort us, make us one, and to be a picture of the intimacy that He wants with us. Ruth is the author of multiple books including Awaken Love: The Truth About Sex That Will Transform Your Marriage and leads conversations on her website, https://www.awaken-love.net/ .
2019-05-1359 min
2019-05-0751 min
Undone RedoneUR 183: Upside-Down Spirituality — Chad BirdTray and Melody welcome Chad Bird back to the show on this week's episode. Chad is an author and speaker devoted to honest Christianity that addresses the raw realities of life. On today's show, Tray, Mel, and Chad discuss his latest book, Upside-Down Spirituality: The 9 Essential Failures of a Faithful Life which takes a deep-dive into the counter-cultural life God desires for each of us. Chad invites us to put our striving for success aside in order to embrace nine specific failures in the areas of our personal lives, our relationships, and the church. Chad has a...
2019-04-3052 min
Undone RedoneUR 182: Beyond the Battle -- Noah FilipiakOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Noah Filipiak to discuss his new book Beyond the Battle: A man's guide to his identity in Christ in an over-sexualized world. Noah discusses the base of his addiction to pornography during the rise of the internet and how it affected his marriage. He then discusses his inspiration for the book and how he worked to find the root of his desires and treated them in a Christ based perspective. Noah leads a small group of online discussions of his book and encourages guys...
2019-04-1658 min
Undone RedoneUR 181: The Importance of Full DisclosureOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down to discuss the importance of full disclosure to a loved one after experiencing infidelity in a marriage. They speak on the difficulty of coming forward to disclose information to a spouse and how vital it is to begin that journey of healing and rebuilding in a relationship. Tray also speaks about two non-profits that he and Melody have worked closely with: Magic City Woodworks and Sozo Children. You can check out Magic City Woodworks at http://www.magiccitywoodworks.org/ and Sozo Children at http://www...
2019-04-0833 min
Undone RedoneUR 180: Co-Parenting After Divorce — Travis ShepardOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Travis Shepard. Travis is a Major in the U.S. Air Force Reserved. Travis speaks about his story that lead to divorce while being active in the United States military. He speaks to Tray and Melody about his reunion with Christ and how he is working to father his daughters through the divorce.
2019-03-191h 00
Undone RedoneUR 179: Holy Sexuality and the Gospel — Christopher YuanOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray sits down with author Christopher Yuan. Dr. Christopher Yuan has taught the Bible at Moody Bible Institute for over ten years and his speaking ministry on faith and sexuality has reached five continents. He speaks with Tray about his experiences as a gay man returning to Christ, and how the church can begin to have a better understanding of sexuality in light of God's grand story of creation, fall, redemption, and consummation.
2019-03-121h 03
Undone RedoneUR 178: Helping Children Protect Their Bodies — Justin HolcombOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with speaker and author Justin Holcomb to discuss talking to your children about sex in a healthy discussion. Justin is the author of multiple books including God Made All of Me, Ride of My Disgrace, and On the Grace of God. Justin explains that it's never too late to sit down with your child and talk about sex as a glorious gift from God. Justin is an Episcopal priest and a theology professor at Reformed Theological Seminary and Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary. He wrote Kn...
2019-03-0548 min
Undone RedoneUR 177: Grace & Truth in the LGBQT Discussion — Preston SprinkleOn this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Dr. Preston Sprinkle. Sprinkle is the author of many books including "People To Be Loved", "Living In a Gray World", and "Grace//Truth 2.0". They discuss exploitative relationships, the LGBT community, and how to have an honest dialogue of Grace and Truth with those struggling with same sex attraction.
2019-02-2652 min
Undone RedoneUR 176: Healing On The Other Side of Pain On this week's episode of the Undone Redone Podcast, Tray discusses upcoming events before diving into the idea of healing on the other side of pain. Tray talks about how pain is an important part of the healing process as God works to bring deep-rooted issues to the surface of our lives, and we can begin to work through them with His power and glory.
2019-02-1230 min
Undone RedoneUR 175: Every Good Marriage Begins With A Funeral — Gary ThomasOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Tray and Melody sit down with Author Gary Thomas. Gary has published over 19 books including Sacred Marriage, 9 Must-Have Conversations for a Doubt-Free Wedding Day, and Authentic Faith.
2019-01-2259 min
Undone RedoneUR 174: Stumbling Toward Wholeness — Andrew BaumanOn this week's episode, Tray and Melody sit down with Andrew Bauman, a licensed mental health counselor from The Seattle School of Psychology and Theology, to have an in-depth discussion about his struggles with pornography and the unexpected death of his son, Brave. Andrew explains that pornography began to parent him in areas where his parents were voiceless. His father, although a pastor, struggled with addiction for 25 years and ultimately undid their family. "That arousal and excitement in porn in a way began to give me new life, but that only lasted until it began to kill m...
2019-01-1550 min
Undone RedoneUR 173: Grace and Resolutions Grace and Resolutions: How do we balance our desire to be disciplined, check off certain boxes and be good stewards of God while also beginning to seeing grace not as just a form of salvation, but as a form of sanctification in your walk?
2019-01-0829 min
Undone RedoneUR 172: Recovery During the HolidaysOn this week's episode, Tray and Melody talk openly and honestly about how painful the holidays can be for those who are dealing with marital issues stemming from sexual brokenness. During the holiday season, everywhere we look we see smiling, happy families…out shopping, on the Hallmark channel, commercials that are non-stop. When we are experiencing a season of brokenness that overlaps with the holidays, things can really be magnified and our enemy…the accuser of the brethren…often loves to point out the discrepancy in our circumstances and what we see around us. Having experienced 6 years of div...
2018-12-1224 min
Undone RedoneUR 171: Overcoming an Eating Disorder - April McKinneyOn this week's Undone Redone podcast episode, Tray and Melody are joined by April McKinney of the 20,000 words podcast. April is a wife, mom, chef, podcaster, and believer. April bravely and body shares her story of overcoming an eating disorder in her younger years and how that impacted her faith journey and life. April shares her undone redone story in a transparent and vulnerable way which will impact and inspire everyone who listens. To learn more about April visit her website, www.aprilmckinney.com.
2018-12-0459 min
Undone RedoneUR 170: Preparing Kids For An Unfiltered World — Dina AlexanderOn this week's Undone Redone podcast, Tray and Melody welcome Dina Alexander back to the show! Dina is the Executive Director of Educate and Empower Kids, a Texas-based non-profit that provides resources to parents and educators to encourage deep connection with their kids through media education, meaningful family communication and intentional parenting. In this interview, Dina shares wisdom and insight for parents on media literacy, body image, positive self-talk, living in an image-based culture, and becoming a trusted resource for your children on the topic of sex and sexuality. If you haven't already heard her...
2018-11-2751 min
Undone RedoneUR 169: Giving Thanks and What We've Been Up ToHappy Thanksgiving! After a 2 month hiatus from the show, Tray and Melody are back with episode 169 of the Undone Redone podcast where they discuss their trip to Uganda with SOZO Children, celebrating the 10th anniversary of their remarriage in the Bahamas, the Open Your Purse gala, becoming empty nesters, recent speaking trips to Maryland and Georgia, and of course, thoughts on Thanksgiving. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider giving us a rating and review on iTunes and/or Stitcher Radio! God bless!
2018-11-2018 min
Undone RedoneUR 168: Healthy Conflict in Marriage Part 2Tray and Melody are back for part two of their two part series on healthy conflict in marriage. They dig more into what having conflict in a marriage can look like when it is healthy and how to handle conflict with grace. Tray and Melody discuss how loses yourself in your coupleship can often times lead to more issues and more conflict because if you are properly inmeshed your spouse should understand. The problem with that is that when you think that your spouse is thinking the same thing which leads to stagnant frustration. Tray a...
2018-09-0336 min
Undone RedoneUR 167: Healthy Conflict in Marriage Part 1Tray and Melody kick off a two part series discussing healthy conflict in marriage and how to deal with conflict in a Godly relationship. When you put two broken people together you will have conflict regardless of what you do. You ultimately cannot avoid conflict, but rather you need to learn how to work through conflict in a healthy manner. Avoiding conflict leads to more conflict because at some point everything that is constantly pushed down comes bursting to the surface. Tray and Mel discuss what they have learned about having healthy relationships and how...
2018-08-2823 min
Undone RedoneUR 166: MySecureFamily and Open Your PurseTray and Melody are talking My Secure Family and the event benefitting MSF called Open Your Purse happening September 21st. Listen to hear more about what Tray and Mel are doing to prepare and equip parents with the tools and knowledge to protect their children in the world of technology. There will be a ladies only event at the Grand Bohemian Hotel in Mountain Brook, Alabama. This is a wonderful opportunity to gather with a community of women at a dinner benefitting a incredible initiative. The Open Your Purse Benefit is unlike any event Birmingham h...
2018-08-2419 min
Undone RedoneUR 165: Healing From Betrayal Trauma — Catherine EtheringtonMelody is joined by Catherine Etherington all the way from Northern England to discuss betrayal trauma, her unique insight into addiction of all types, recovery and the beauty of grace. Catherine and Melody talk their own journey through betrayal and finding healing through various resources and community. Catherine and Melody discuss how finding community, support and finding someone to process the pain with are the best first steps for women to take after facing betrayal. Self care is an extremely important part of the healing process due to the amount of emotional energy women are putting out. C...
2018-08-1452 min
Undone RedoneUR 164: Keep Walking: Healing After Betrayal— Lynn CherryMelody is joined by Lynn Cherry to take betrayal, healing and the beautiful grace found in the gospel. Melody and Lynn share their personal journeys walking through betrayal trauma and how they got through the most difficult times in their lives. Lynn walks us through her own undone redone story including getting married, starting a family and discovering betrayal from her husband through pornography addiction. Lynn and Melody discuss her book. And how it is used as a healing tool for women facing betrayal. Lynn was born and raised in North Dakota. She discovered a...
2018-08-0741 min
Undone RedoneUR 163: What Sex is Not — Jeromy DarlingTray is joined by singer/songwriter, actor, speaker, and advocate against sexual exploitation in all its forms, Jeromy Darling of The Spokeman. Tray and Jeromy dive into a conversation surrounding his passions, abstinence, music, movies and the beauty of faith based relationships. Jeromy has his hand in a vast array of projects ranging from speaking engagements, music, films, writings and even tied martial arts. He walks us through these projects, why he is passionate about each of them and how you can get involved. Jeromy has been married to his one and only girlfriend Gretchen...
2018-07-3127 min
Undone RedoneUR 162: The Case for Christ — Lee StrobelTray is joined by Lee Strobel to talk his story of going from atheist to Believer, his books, and the transformative power of Christ, the Gospel and Grace. Lee walks us through the thought process he went through in his journey of discovery of Christ and understanding his love and grace. Lee gives us some insight on his conversion and sanctification process which lasts a lifetime. He also gives hope to those who are struggling with shame of dealing with wrongdoings and it not being instant. Lee's book The Case for Christ was turned into...
2018-07-2426 min
Undone RedoneUR 161: Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot — Mo IsomTray and Melody are joined by Mo Isom to talk her books, Jesus, tough conversations, and her own undone redone story. Mo, Mel and Tray discuss parenting kids to have a healthy view on sex and purity. Mo talks through her undoing story of identity issues, eating disorder struggles, loss, grief and brokenness. She tells us of how she reached her rock bottom and from that moment forward God has totally changed her life and what she had planned. She lets us in on how she went through season of isolation and she went through a season o...
2018-07-1053 min
Undone RedoneUR 160: Alone — Dave McIntyreTray is joined by Dave McIntyre who won season two of The History Chanels hit reality show ALONE. Dave talks his wilderness survival skills, relying on God during trying times, and a little bit about his own undone redone journey. Dave takes through his journey of finding a love for Christ and the wilderness and how he was able to open a wilderness survival ministry in Brazil. He was able to live both his passions together until he came face to face with his own undoing, which for Dave was a divorce. This divorce caused him to...
2018-06-261h 03
Undone RedoneUR 159: Protect Young Minds — Kristen JensenMelody is joined by Kristen Jensen from Protect Young Minds for episode 159 to talk her ministry, her books and faith based parenting. Kristen is the founder of Protect Young Minds and best-selling author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids and Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds. She serves on the Prevention Task Force of the National Coalition on Sexual Exploitation. She received her bachelor's degree in English Literature and her master's degree in Organizational Communication. Kristen grew up in both Wyoming and Massachusetts, is the mother of three awe...
2018-06-1920 min
Undone RedoneUR 158: Masculine Initiation — Chuck DeGroatTray is joined by seminary professor Dr. Chuck DeGroat to discuss masculine initiation, his books, his personal journey, and the shame that impacts everyone. Chuck gives us an insight on a significant moment of experiencing shame and how he took that specific moment to start a journey of looking at his sexual and emotional story. Tray and Chuck discuss the crisis of masculinity that faces our culture and society today. Chuck offers his opinion on how we need to address this issue and what Christian Men can do to help grow men up at an...
2018-06-1241 min
Undone RedoneUR 157: Changing Lanes — Brett HendrixTray is joined by Brett Hendrix of Changing Lanes Ministries to discuss his story of grace, what his ministry is doing and his passion for change that happens in authentic community. Brett takes us through his journey of addiction and the impact that had on his childhood, marriage and continues to have on him today. After being exposed to the playboy channel at the age of 8, Brett suddenly found his identity engulfed by pornography for the rest of his years growing up. Fast forward through 22 years of addiction Brett was faced with a trio of events that...
2018-06-0522 min
Undone RedoneUR 156: Porn: A Living Nightmare — Ben Bennett and Jake KissackTray is joined by Jake Kissack and Ben Bennett from Josh McDowell ministries to talk their own struggles with pornography, the shame that comes with that and how they are using their stories to make a difference now. They discuss their work with Josh McDowell ministries and how you can get involved. Ben grew up in Virginia Beach, Virginia and met Christ at an early age. After being heavily involved in the campus ministry of Cru throughout college, and developing a great desire to see college students transformed by the gospel, he joined their staff in 2011. For...
2018-05-2234 min
Undone RedoneUR 155: Porn Kills Love — Clay OlsenTray is joined by Clay Olsen for episode 155 to discuss Fight the New Drug, Fortify, and why fighting the addiction of pornography is so important. Clay is a passion fueled idea machine with a clear vision to impact the world. In college, he founded Fight The New Drug with a few like-minded friends. Since then, it has grown into a worldwide movement. Over the years, Clay has presented to more than 100,000 people on the harmful effects of pornography and other forms of sexual exploitation. With an exceptional talent in ugly dance moves and a flair for competitive...
2018-05-1528 min
Undone RedoneUR 154: Mom, Dad... What's Sex? — Jessica Thompson and Joel FitzpatrickTray and Melody are joined by siblings Jessica Thompson and Joel Fitzpatrick to discuss talking to your kids about sex and their new book, Mom, Dad… What's Sex? Jessica and Joel discuss what prompted the brother/sister duo to write a book on sex and what gives them a unique perspective on the topic. They wanted to put out a resource that they could use in their own parenting as well as provide parents with a source of guidance with a gospel approach. By diving into various aspects of our kids lives such as social me...
2018-05-0148 min
Undone RedoneUR 153: Pain as the Pathway to Healing — Jay StringerTray is joined again by Therapist Jay Stringer to discuss how we can go into our pain and that can be a roadmap to our healing. Jay talks about his work with men and women in diving deep into the root of where issues might come from. Jay discusses how diving into this pain often puts you on the path towards direct healing.His first book Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing, will be released in the fall of 2018. You can read the first chapter and pre-order your copy of the book here. http://www.jay-stringer.c...
2018-04-2433 min
Undone RedoneUR 152: Beggar's Daughter— Jessica HarrisTray and Melody are joined by Jessica Harris who is the founder of Beggar's Daughter and an author. Jessica tells her story of struggling with pornography and ultimately her addiction to it. She brings us into her journey into the shame she felt and her forgiveness through grace and the gospel. She reflects back on her journey and healing process and how she is still healing through grace from this. Her passion now is to create a community for women to be open and hopeful that this isn't a issue to face alone. Jessica Harris...
2018-04-1732 min
Undone RedoneUR 151: Accountability That Flows From Community — Sam BlackTray and Melody are joined by Sam Black from covenant eyes to discuss the need for filtering and accountability online, authentic community, intentionality and living a life of freedom. Tray, Melody and Sam discuss the importance of having not only accountability partners in life but the benefits of utilizing tools that Covenant Eyes provides. These tools not only allow you to put filters in place for your children but also allow their internet history to be sent to you in a report weekly. This is a wonderful parenting tool that allows conversations to be opened up and...
2018-04-1025 min
Undone RedoneUR 150: The Long Road Back — Stephen MizellTray and Melody are joined for the 150th episode of the Undone Redone Podcast by author, speaker, pastor, and entrepreneur Stephen Mizell. Tray, Mel and Stephen talk the messy stories, his own undoing and coming back from the mess through grace. Growing up a Pastor's kid, Stephen's father urged him to try other things before settling on ministry and Stephen did just that. After trying a slew of jobs and businesses Stephen felt God stirring in his heart in 1995 to go into ministry. He took a church in rural North Carolina where they were for several years.
2018-04-0353 min
Undone RedoneUR 149: The Making Of A Sword — David DelaGardelleTraylor is joined by artist and craftsman David DelaGardelle of Cedarlore Forge to discuss the journey to becoming a full time craftsman, God fulfilling dreams, marriage, and sword making. David takes us through the journey of starting sword making as a hobby in high school to now doing this full time. He reflects back on how God provided him with everything he wanted and dreamed and that made him realize these physical and earthly things do not fulfill you. He walks us through the struggle of seeking perfection and success in your chosen work. David...
2018-03-2757 min
Undone RedoneUR 148: Building a Custom Parenting Plan — Bethany MeadowsTraylor and Melody are joined by Bethany Meadows to talk parenting, faith, adoption, and the great news of the gospel. Bethany worked in youth ministry as a mother of one daughter and fell in love with teenagers. She called herself a mother to one with the heart of a big family. She ended up reading an article about an organization which ultimately led her to feeling called to adopt. Bethany and her husband ended up adopting 4 siblings despite being overwhelmed and lining up every excuse she could find. With the addition of four c...
2018-03-1353 min
Undone RedoneUR 147: Party of One: Celebrating Singleness — Joy Beth SmithTraylor and Melody are joined by author Joy Beth Smith to discuss her book, Party of One, celebrating seasons of singleness, and finding other joys in life. Joy talks through her upbringing and various aspects of it that have impacted who she is as a person, a christian and a single. She discusses how she has had a desire to have a husband throughout her life, but she also appreciates her singleness as its own beautiful, life giving time on its own. Joy emphasizes that a season of singleness doesn't mean you put your life on pause...
2018-03-0648 min
Undone RedoneUR 146: Your God is Too Glorious — Chad BirdTray is joined by returning guest Chad Bird on episode 146 of the Undone Redone Podcast. They discuss Chad's new book, Your God is Too Glorious, his own undoing and redoing, and the good news of the gospel. Chad discusses his story of undoing and the grace of God that brought him out of it. Chad discusses his new book focusing on seeing God work in our everyday lives. Our lives are boring and regular, but those are the lives that God is excited to get involved in. Chad reflects on how you can open your h...
2018-02-271h 00
Undone RedoneUR 145: Ordering the Chaos — Chris McAlisterTray and Melody are joined again by Pastor, Professor, and Executive Coach Chris McAlister to discuss ordering the chaos, your identity, the impact of the #metoo movement, and healthy marriage. Chris discusses his views on the #MeToo movement and the positive and negative impacts it has on men and women. Discussing the difference within men and women's identities and traversing the world of dating and romance within this culture. Healthy marriages need both individuals to be confident in their own identity rather than relying on their spouses to define who they are. What is the...
2018-02-201h 05
Undone RedoneUR 144: Former Model Talks Sex, Imitation Love, and True Beauty — Leah DarrowTray and Melody are joined by former model Leah Darrow to discuss sex, imitation love and true beauty. This conversation seemed from the recent awards show where influential people in Hollywood were standing up for the #MeToo movement and standing up against exploitation, but directly after this the trailer for the new Fifty Shades Freed movie was played. A movie that is entirely about abuse, imitation love and exploitation. Leah tweeted about the ignorance or compliance that Hollywood shows when they do things like this. Leah takes us through her season of understanding the difference of authentic...
2018-02-1356 min
Undone RedoneUR 143: What Brought Me Back To God — Philip YanceyTray and Mel are joined by Philip Yancey for episode 143 to discuss his story of leaving the faith due to the fundamentalist church he grew up with and what brought him back to Christ. Tune-in as one of the leading Christian voices of our day describes his journey from understanding God as a scowling super cop to a loving and gracious Father and the specific elements that God used to reveal Himself. Philip, Tray and Mel dive into a discussion of the beauty of sex in God's plan for our lives and how he seeks to have...
2018-02-061h 02
Undone RedoneUR 142: Dealing With Sexual Brokenness in the Church — Jacob SimmonsTray and Mel are joined in studio by Jacob Simmons to discuss the often brushed aside topic of sexual brokenness and the Church. When it comes to sexual brokenness, the church remains silent on it because they often think, "Oh we'd never do something like that" and it becomes hard for someone to seek help form the church when they are comparing their shame to everyone else's highlight reel. Tray shares some staggering statistics released by the largest porn site in regards to consumption of pornography in 2017 showing that the enemy is hunting in the unique place...
2018-01-301h 07
Undone RedoneUR 141: True Spirituality is Desperation — Erik GuzmanTray and Mel are joined by Erik Guzman to discuss spirituality, his new book, and have an honest conversation about the beauty of Christianity. Erik discusses how various people he has had the opportunity to speak with have impacted his life and put him on a path of discovery. Jesus takes us into not just the blatant stuff but the nuances of our brokenness and that really shows us the beauty and amazingness of Christ's Grace. Erik discusses his mini book The Gift of Addiction and how true Spirituality is just desperation. Even though it...
2018-01-2453 min
Undone RedoneHealing From Sex Addiction — Seth Alan TaylorOn this week's show, Tray and Mel are joined by author, speaker, and life-coach Seth Alan Taylor who openly shares his journey of recovery from pornography addiction and offers hope and help for fellow sojourners. Seth's first book, Feels Like Redemption, leans into the issue of porn addiction, but is a book for everyone who seeks to experience freedom in their lives. Trained by Dr. Dan Allender at the Seattle School of Theology and Psychology, Seth brings deep insight and wisdom to this important question of "How Do People Change?" A few quotes from this epis...
2017-07-3158 min
Undone RedoneUR 109: The Heart of Man — Dr. Dan AllenderAuthor, Speaker, Teacher and Professor Dr. Dan Allender joins Tray and Mel for episode 109 of the show to discuss the upcoming film, The Heart of Man, and the importance of entering into our own narrative in order for true healing to occur. An expert in sexual trauma, Dr. Allender shares practical insight into the journey to wholeness. A co-founder of The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology, he is the author of The Wounded Heart, The Healing Path, To Be Told, and God Loves Sex, and the co-author of Intimate Allies, The Cry of the Soul, Bold Love...
2017-05-2457 min