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Trim the WickOur Week at the International Maxwell Conference 2025Have you ever done something or been a part of something that just blows you away? This week we share our experience at the International Maxwell Conference 2025. This was a time of challenge and inspiration that changed Becky and I forever. Join us as we share and hopefully will inspire you.Learn More about Dan & Becky's offerings or to support :www.trimthewick.comHave a question? Need to talk? Send us a message!2025-03-2543 min
Trim the WickAll the Clever Plans of Mice and Men: When things don't go as plannedThis week Dan and Becky share about the struggles of dealing with disappointment when this go awry. Sometimes you just got to be honest in sweat paints and slippers. They share about what helps them through the tough times.Have a question? Need to talk? Send us a message!2025-03-1129 min
Trim the WickThe Leadership Qualities of Jesus in Matthew 14This we have a special episode of the Trim the Wick podcast. Dan is teaching at Connection Church Clermont FL. The Leadership Qualities of Jesus in Matthew 14 the feeding of the 5000.Have a question? Need to talk? Send us a message!2025-03-0425 min
Trim the Wick9 Traits to Cultivate a Fruitful Marriage: Joy (Replay)Is there more than just striving after happiness? Is my marriage supposed to hit that dopamine button over and over again? What do I do when times are bad and I'm in a place of desperation? This is where Joy steps in and gives us strength to overcome even in the worst of situations. This week Becky and I talk about having Joy in your marriage and why it is essential. Have a question? Need to talk? Send us a message!2025-02-2526 min
Trim the Wick9 Traits to cultivate a fruitful marriage: Love (Replay)Welcome back the the Trim the Wick podcast. This week we replaying our series on marriage. Becky and I have been married for over 33 years and have a lot of experience of doing marriage right and wrong. We have four children who are all adults and a list of life's ups and downs, from military, college moving across country to being homeless we have experienced a lot. In this series we what to share with you the things that we have learned and to help you to have a fruitful marriage. This week we are focusing on LOVE.2025-02-1838 min
Trim the WickSpecial Episode: How to have a Strong Marriage part 1 CommunicationWelcome to the season of LOVE, Becky & Dan wanted to help you start this season off right. We have a 2 part series on how to have a Strong Marriage. This week we are focusing in the importance of communication in your marriage. Everything in a relationship lives and dies with communication but so many couples don't take the time to really connect in their communication. We hope this is a lesson for you to foster better communication.Learn More about the Maxwell DISC Assessment : https://www.matthew257.com/disc.htmlHave a question? Need to...2025-02-0430 min
ABA on TapGOOD JOB! Dr. Becky and Salient Reinforcement EffortSend us a textABA on Tap has discussed the ever ubiquitous 'Do This!' as a discriminative stimulus. And of course, once the child imitates correctly, you say "GOOD JOB!" as the standard, overly used and potentially ineffective consequence, dare we say 'reinforcement.' In this episode, Mike and Dan brew over an article from Dr. Becky Kennedy (see link below). Dr. Becky advises parents to reconsider the use of 'good job' as a response to indicate satisfaction with a child's behavior. She provides great insight that is applicable to any parent and child d...2025-02-031h 07
Trim the WickLiving Whole: The Benefits of Personal DevelopmentThis week Becky and Dan finish their series on Living Whole. They discuss the surprises and benefits of personal development. From increased confidence to being prepared for the things of life, focusing on personal development will be your key to better living.Have a question? Need to talk? Send us a message!2025-01-2822 min
Trim the WickSpecial Episode at Podfest 2025 Living Whole: 3 Keys to Personal GrowthBecky and Dan are live from Podfest 2025. They share insights and lessons learned about the importance of personal growth. Join us as they stories of what they saw at Podfest 2025.Have a question? Need to talk? Send us a message!2025-01-2122 min
The Allender Center PodcastTending to One Another’s Stories in Marriage with Dan & Becky AllenderTo celebrate the forthcoming release of The Deep-Rooted Marriage, co-authored by Dan Allender and Steve Call, Dan and Becky Allender reflect on their own marriage story — its unique dynamics, the challenges they’ve faced, and the redemptive journey they’ve walked together. They open up about how their family-of-origin stories shaped their relationship in ways they didn’t initially realize and the intentional work it took to build new, healthier ways of connecting, particularly over the past decade. Whether you’re married, dating, or reflecting on other relationships in your life, we think Dan and Becky’s vul...2025-01-1746 min
Trim the WickLiving Whole: When Personal and Spiritual Development Align Part 1Would you like to life as a whole person? Being able to balance your Personal and Spiritual Development or should you only focus on your Spiritual Development and everything else will fall in line. Also isn't it sinful to focus on yourself? This week Dan and Becky start a 3 part series on Living Whole. We dispel some myths, give encouragement and share practical helps to move forward.Have a question? Need to talk? Send us a message!2025-01-1422 minThe Allender Center PodcastCreating a Better Marriage Through Story with Becky AllenderBecky Allender sits down with Rachael Clinton Chen for a one-on-one conversation. Becky reflects on how she and Dan have experienced profound transformation in their marriage, particularly since the Allender Center was founded in 2011. It was during this time that they began practicing the fundamentals of story engagement within their own relationship—a journey that not only changed their lives but also inspired the Marriage offerings at the Allender Center. No matter what season you’re in—whether your relationship is new or you’ve been married for decades like Dan and Becky—there’s always something new to learn...2025-01-1035 minTrim the WickPersonality Tests—Are They Worth It? Becky Takes the DISC Assessment!Have you ever taken a personality assessment? This week, Becky dives into the Maxwell DISC Assessment, and we unpack the results together. Was it accurate? What surprising insights did she uncover? Did it leave her pulling her hair out—or was it totally worth the time? Tune in as we explore Becky’s experience and discuss whether the DISC Assessment might be a game-changer for you too!Have a question? Need to talk? Send us a message!2025-01-071h 14Trim the WickTrusting God with the Process: Goodbye 2024, Hello 2025!This week Dan and Becky look at the lesson learned from 2024. Over the course of a year the you understand that God has a plan and He has a process. They share some insight to what 2025 will be bringing.Have a question? Need to talk? Send us a message!2024-12-3129 minThe Allender Center PodcastReflections on the Year with Dr. Dan & Becky AllenderAs we near the close of the year, Dan and Becky Allender are continuing a podcast tradition: sitting down to reflect on their experiences and inviting you, our listeners, to join them in this meaningful practice. Dan and Becky share their own reflections—what they’ve learned, what they’re grieving, and what they’re celebrating—as they prepare to transition into a new season. They’ve also shared a few practical ways you can reflect on your year: Scroll through your photo gallery. Notice the moments that brought you joy, growth, or even challen...2024-12-2742 minTrim the WickUFO's, Drones and Trusting GodThis week Dan and Becky do a podcast ripped from the today's headlines!!! Are we safe? Are we seeing an alien invasion? Probably NOT! but do we see the small things and miracles that God performs around us everyday? Dan and Becky talks about how God proves to us on a daily how we can trust Him.Have a question? Need to talk? Send us a message!2024-12-1720 minTrim the WickLiving an Intentional LifeIn this episode of the Trim the Wick podcast, hosts Dan and Becky discuss the importance of intentional living. As they reflect on the rapid passage of time, they emphasize the need to prioritize tasks that align with one's purpose and spiritual calling. Through engaging anecdotes and practical advice, they explore how to manage life's demands while focusing on what truly matters. Don't miss this insightful conversation on living a life of purpose and intention!Chapters:(00:00) Dan Wick says as he gets older, time seems to move faster(08:44) Becoming a disciple o...2024-12-1025 minTrim the WickWhat do You do When God Redirects You?You might have your plans made. You prayed, considered, and asked friends for advice, but God redirects you. What do you do? How do you deal with the embarrassment and frustration. Over the last few months Dan and Becky have been dealing with this issue. In this episode they share what they did and how a redirect from God is for our good.Have a question? Need to talk? Send us a message!2024-12-0321 minTrim the WickThanksgivingThis week Dan and Becky sit down and talk about Thanksgiving and how to focus on the blessings of your life. There is so much noise out there about how to stick it to your family members or avoiding fights around the "Thanksgiving" table that we sometimes forget the the joy of being thankful. Our prayer is that you and your family have a wonderful and blessed Thanksgiving.Have a question? Need to talk? Send us a message!2024-11-2616 minTrim the Wick4 Keys to Good Leadership in the Feeding of the 5000Join Dan and Becky on this week's episode of Trim the Wick as they explore the multifaceted qualities of leadership through the teachings of Jesus. Discover how compassion, teaching, challenging, and empowering others can transform you into an effective leader in any aspect of life. From the story of Jesus feeding the 5,000 to personal anecdotes, learn how to inspire and guide those around you. Tune in to uncover the essential elements of leading with purpose and intention!Chapters:(00:00) Introduction(02:00) The Concept of Leadership(05:30) Jesus as the U...2024-11-1929 minTrim the WickKenya: Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the LifeJoin Dan and Becky in this heartfelt episode of the Trim the Wick podcast as they explore their passion for the mission work in Kenya. Discover the profound impact of a simple message, "Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life," on the lives of those living in the slums of Nairobi. Hear inspiring stories of transformation and hope as former gang members, addicts, and more embrace a new path. Learn how Pastor Steve and Mariam Becky are changing lives through the Nairobi Faith Rescue Mission, and find out how you can get involved in this l...2024-11-1222 minTrim the WickSimply Parenting: Ep 3 - Love PeopleJoin Dan and Becky in the final installment of their three-part series on "Simply Parenting." This episode dives into the profound connection between Christian living and parenting, emphasizing the importance of modeling godly behavior for children. Discover how to love your children as God loves you, addressing their strengths and weaknesses with compassion and guidance. Explore the balance between obligation and genuine love in parenting, and learn how to cultivate a heart of service in your children. Don't miss this insightful discussion on raising children with love and grace.Chapters:(00:00) Introduction...2024-11-0524 minTrim the WickSimply Parenting: Ep 2 - Love GodIn this week's episode of the Trim the Wick podcast, Dan and Becky continue their series on "Simply Parenting." Dive into a conversation about the importance of loving God and how it forms the foundation for effective and heartfelt parenting. Discover practical tips on modeling a genuine relationship with God for your children and learn how to instill values that will guide them through life's challenges._______________Like what you heard? Listen to more episodes here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trim-the-wick/id1496074089Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/t...2024-10-2957 minTrim the WickSimply Parenting: Ep 1 - Am I Doing it Right?In this episode, Dan and Becky kick off a new series called "Simply Parenting," aimed at breaking down the overwhelming expectations placed on parents today. They discuss the pressures from social media, societal norms, and even government regulations that make parenting feel like an insurmountable task. Drawing from their own experiences of raising four children to adulthood, Dan and Becky share how they navigated through external judgments and internal pressures. They emphasize the importance of focusing on principles rather than rules, and how aligning parenting with biblical teachings can simplify the journey.Tune in to l...2024-10-2222 minTrim the WickSpecial Episode: Hurricane Milton Weathering the StormJoin Dan and Becky in a special edition of the Trim the Wick podcast as they navigate life without power after Hurricane Milton. Discover how preparation and faith can help weather life's storms, both physically and spiritually. Listen in as they share practical tips for hurricane preparedness and draw parallels to spiritual readiness, offering encouragement and insights on finding peace amidst chaos.Chapters:(00:00) Introduction(02:00) Preparing for the Storm(10:00) The Experience of Hurricane Milton(20:00) Spiritual Preparedness(30:00) Community and Encouragement(40:00) Conclusion________Like w...2024-10-1522 minTrim the WickKenya: The Places You Go and The Things You SeeJoin Dan and Becky as they take you on a vibrant journey to Kenya in this week's episode of Trim the Wick. Discover the unexpected beauty and rich culture of Kenya through their stories and experiences. From the bustling streets of Nairobi to the lush landscapes of Mount Elgon, get a glimpse of the warmth and hospitality of the Kenyan people.Whether it's exploring city streets or sharing heartfelt moments with locals, this episode is a celebration of discovery, connection, and the joy of missions. Don't miss out on this captivating exploration of a land f...2024-10-0829 minTrim the WickDoom Scrolling & Task Paralysis: Symptoms of Spiritual OverwhelmIn this episode of Trim the Wick, Dan and Becky dive into the overwhelming impact of constant news and social media updates on our mental health and spiritual well-being. They discuss the aftermath of Hurricane Helene, the emotional toll of being inundated with global crises, and the importance of focusing on what we can control. Join them as they explore how to navigate this information overload by trusting in God, staying true to our purpose, and finding peace amidst the chaos.Chapters:(00:00) Introduction(00:45) Aftermath of Hurricane Helene(03:30) Th...2024-10-0124 minTrim the WickAll You Need Is A Child's DeterminationIn this episode of Trim the Wick, Dan revisits a cherished discussion on determination, inspired by the simple yet profound actions of a ten-month-old child. Listen in as Dan recounts how watching a baby navigate their home sparked reflections on resilience, God's calling, and the importance of continual striving despite setbacks. Through personal anecdotes and scriptural insights, this episode offers a heartwarming and motivating look at how we can learn from the determination of a child to pursue what God has placed in our hearts.Chapters:(00:00) Introduction(01:00) The Determined Child2024-09-2424 minTrim the WickGrowing Pains: Seeking First the Kingdom When the Cares of Life are LoudIn this episode of the Trim the Wick podcast, Dan and Becky delve into the challenges and growth that come with stepping out in faith. They share personal stories of trusting God through uncertain times, moving forward in their spiritual journey, and the importance of not becoming stagnant in one’s faith. Tune in to hear about their experiences with financial uncertainty, the lessons they’ve learned, and the books that have inspired them along the way.Chapters:(00:00) Introduction(02:00) Life's Unexpected Changes(10:15) The Importance of Moving Forward(20:45) Trust...2024-09-1728 minTrim the WickThe Person of Holy Spirit: Signs and WondersIn this episode of the Trim the Wick podcast, Dan and Becky continue their series on the person of the Holy Spirit. They share personal stories and insights about how the Holy Spirit works in the natural world, performing miraculous signs and healings. From breaking fevers to restoring hearing, they discuss the awe-inspiring power of the Holy Spirit and the importance of faith. Tune in to hear about their transformative experiences and the lessons they've learned about trusting in the Holy Spirit.Chapters:(00:00) Introduction(01:00) Discussion on th...2024-09-1027 minTrim the WickThe Person of Holy Spirit: One Body One SpiritIn this episode of the Trim the Wick podcast, Dan and Becky share their transformative experiences from mission trips, focusing on the vital role of the Holy Spirit. They discuss how stepping out of their comfort zones in places like Kenya has deepened their reliance on God and strengthened their faith. Tune in to hear amazing stories of divine intervention, the power of prayer, and the joy that comes from trusting the Holy Spirit, even in the most challenging circumstances.________Like what you heard? Listen to more episodes here: https://podcasts.apple...2024-09-0329 minTrim the WickThe Person of Holy Spirit: Recognizing His PresenceIn this special road edition of the Trim the Wick podcast, Dan and Becky take you on a journey as they delve deeper into the topic of the Holy Spirit. Broadcasting from their car, they discuss how the Holy Spirit manifests in our lives, debunk common misconceptions, and share personal experiences of spiritual awakening. Join them for an enlightening conversation about receiving and recognizing the Holy Spirit's presence in your life.__________Like what you heard? Listen to more episodes here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trim-the-wick/id1496074089Follow us...2024-08-2735 minTrim the WickThe Person of Holy Spirit: Being Counter-CulturalIn this episode of Trim the Wick, Dan and Becky explore the transformative difference between religious Christianity and Spirit-filled living. They discuss:Pitfalls of focusing on worldly church success metricsThe Holy Spirit's demand for genuine life changeHow Spirit-filled living can be counter-culturalPersonal experiences transitioning from religious routine to Spirit-led lifeBiblical insights on embracing the Holy Spirit's powerJoin them to discover how moving beyond religious rules into a dynamic relationship with the Holy Spirit can equip you to overcome life's challenges with authentic spiritual power.__________Like what you heard? Listen to more episodes here...2024-08-2031 minTrim the WickCheptais Kenya: African Drums, Tribal Wars and Praising the LordIn this week’s episode of Trim the Wick, Dan and Becky share an incredibly moving story from their time in Kenya. Despite facing unimaginable hardships, the faith and resilience of a Kenyan village left a profound impact on them. They recount their journey up Mount Elgon, where they encountered a community that, despite losing many of its men to tribal conflict, displayed unwavering faith and joy. This episode serves as a powerful reminder of the strength and hope that can be found in the most difficult circumstances. Tune in to be inspired and encouraged by...2024-08-0624 min
Happiness Journey with Dr Dan: Where every journey is worth living.Happiness journey with Dr Dan podcast: Season 23 Ep 2: Special Guest Mindset coach Becky UpchurchBecky Upchurch is a mindset coach who specializes in helping busy women create time for themselves and their goals by learning to say no without fear, guilt, or worrying about what other people think. Both clients and audiences love Becky’s ability to get to the heart of the matter in relatable ways that balance honesty, kindness, and levity to inspire change. Becky believes that the fastest and best way to achieve your goals is through practical, easy-to-implement strategies, managing your
mindset, and trusting in your ability to create sustainable change. She strives to accomplish this in her own life...2024-08-0429 minTrim the WickThe World is on Fire! Are You Ok?In this week's episode of the Trim the Wick podcast, Dan and Becky dive deep into the theme of enduring faith amidst life's trials. They discuss the constant challenges we face, from personal setbacks to global crises, and how to hold on to faith and confidence through it all. With heartfelt encouragement and scriptural insights from Hebrews and Romans, they remind us of the importance of perseverance, community, and genuine love. Tune in for a powerful message of hope and resilience.__________Like what you heard? Listen to more episodes here: ht...2024-07-3035 minTrim the WickAm I Doing It Right? Reading the BibleIn this episode of Trim the Wick, Dan and Becky delve into the transformative power of the Bible. They discuss the importance of engaging with the word of God beyond mere academic study, emphasizing the role of the Holy Spirit in illuminating and applying scripture to our lives. Dan and Becky explore four distinct methods of Bible study—devotional reading, structured reading programs, topical studies, and unstructured personal study—highlighting the benefits and challenges of each. Whether you're a seasoned believer or new to the faith, this episode offers practical insights and encouragement for deepening your...2024-07-2336 min