Shows
Not Allowed to DieA day in the life of a DCFS worker with DaMoniqueMariska and I were overjoyed to have Team Maigler Hall of Famer DaMonique back on the show. She works for the Illinois Department of Children and Family Services in helping to connect children and families with resources. This was a really enlightening conversation about the help DCFS can provide as opposed to the negative cliches that people think of when they hear about Child Protective Services. 2025-02-1842 minNot Allowed to DieMaigler guests on Think Differently PodcastIn this episode Marc Hans of the Think Differently Podcast has me on to talk mental health and Paws for Patrick. Mark's podcast is typically about design and so he has a unique perspective. In addition, we are old friends so it is a fun conversation. 2024-03-0556 minNot Allowed to DieLegacy of Ms. Yvonne: be the love you want to see in the worldIn this episode Mariska and I talk about the impact of Ms. Yvonne on the lives of my boys when she was their day care teacher, and how she can be an example of how we can share love. Also how we can view legacy when we did not know a person completely.
Also a chance to weigh in on whether regular listeners of this show would like to be known as Mariskavites, Markiskateers, Team Maigler, or something else. 2024-02-2717 minNot Allowed to DieRape Crisis Support and a different perspective on adoption with Damonique RichardsTeam Maigler Hall of Famer Damonique Richards joins Mariska and me on the podcast to share her experience of adoption and her volunteer work with Resilience where she helped support sexual assault survivors in the ER
Home - Resilience (ourresilience.org)
2023-07-1143 minNot Allowed to DieLie to your Dr. about weed?In this episode Mariska and I explore the challenges of being honest with doctors about marijuana use. We talk about being assertive in medical and romantic contexts and the dangers for a little old dog of staying in the moment too much. 2023-07-0520 minNot Allowed to DieCoping with My Death AnxietyIn this episode Mariska and I announce my new email dmaiglerlcsw@gmail.com, make a plug for watching/listening to the podcast on Youtube, and talk about how I've been managing a recent bout of death anxiety by using meditation apps like Lets Meditate and Atom, exercising, and reminding myself I've been through this before. We also talk about vasovagal syncope and how one can respond to that. 2023-06-2722 minNot Allowed to DieAudrey Grunst shares the Growth and Resiliency Model and tips for determining right level of careMariska and I welcome the incredible dog lover and dynamic CEO, clinician, and author, Audrey Grunst, on to discuss a different approach to therapy that is really accessible and useful for individuals, families, and clinicians.
To learn more check out her book:
Amazon.com: Become Aware: Personal Development Planner (Bee You Personal Development Planners: Bold Color Series): 9798599762812: Grunst, Audrey: Books
And follow Audrey and Simply Bee counseling for tons of great tips on mental health
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/simplybeecounseling/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/simplybeecounseling
LinkedIn: https://www.lin...2023-06-2036 minNot Allowed to DieShould you share your story publicly?Mariska and I were helping the brother of a student I lost to suicide decide if he wanted to become a public speaker to use his pain to help others. In this episode we talk about how to decide if you should share your story, and how. This episode will not be on Youtube. Currently only my episodes with guests are in the youtube feed. If you want me to change that email me to let me know. 2023-06-0621 minNot Allowed to DieHealing from being adopted and the power of walking to resist temptation with Dallas GoodletDallas Goodlet joins Mariska and me to talk about the hole in his heart that came from being adopted (by a very good family) and how that led to addiction, depression, self loathing and his path to healing, and how he has turned walking into a refuge from temptation and a place to get clarity.
Home | Walk with me (thewalkking.com)
2023-05-3035 minNot Allowed to DieEMDR with Becca FergusonMariska and I finally get to talk to an EMDR practitioner! Becca Ferguson tells us about misconceptions and how EMDR actually works. In addition she is offering you 10% off of her mini courses with the code Not Allowed.
Check out Becca's website and courses:
Online Courses, Workshops, & Group Therapy | Becca Ferguson, LPC (beccafergusonlpc.com)
2023-05-2359 minNot Allowed to DieOvercoming Narcissistic Parents with Dr. PraveenaDr. Praveena works with parental narcissistic abuse victims. She has created a framework known as the Narcissistic Victim Empowerment Technique (NVET) to help victims find the freedom from manipulating and controlling thoughts of toxic parenting. She joins Mariska and me to talk about how to overcome narcissistic parents and partners.
Check out her website:
Home - Narcissistic Victim Empowerment Technique (NVET) (dr-praveena.com)
2023-05-0935 minNot Allowed to DieWhen to challenge when to support?Lately I have been wrestling with the appropriate time to push clients, question them, challenge them, encourage them, and/or just support them. As a therapist or a friend you want the people you talk to to feel comfortable and safe, but sometimes what a person needs to hear is not comfortable. In this episode Mariska and I delve into some of the challenges I have been facing in working with my clients to find what is appropriate for them each week. Sorry the audio quality is still not back to our old standards but it is improving. 2023-05-0216 minNot Allowed to DieGetting your shit together and laundry doneIn this episode we explore several of my clients who are beating themselves up for not having their lives where they want them. Mariska and I hope to give them a way to reframe and have a little less self judgment. 2023-04-1818 minNot Allowed to DieTips for releasing toxic shameIn this episode Mariska and I discuss some things to think about for therapists, clients, and anyone who is about to consider disclosing something or receiving disclosure of a memory that feels toxic and shameful to the person sharing it. 2023-04-0423 minNot Allowed to DieDialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) with Dana Slowinski of the Family Recovery CenterMariska and I get the chance to talk to Dana Slowinski, who has been teaching me about DBT for years. Dana is the co-founder of the Family Recovery Centers: https://familyrecoverycenters.com/
This is just a brief overview of DBT to learn more: https://depts.washington.edu/uwbrtc/our-team/marsha-linehan/2023-03-2132 minNot Allowed to DieWhen your safe space is violatedWhen you or people you care about have had their safe space violated how do you not let yourself be consumed by anger and hate for the bullies who did it? In this episode Mariska and I discuss the violation of the privacy of the group room of the school where I work and how that impacts the kids who see that space as a refuge. Lots of references to my favorite movie It's a Wonderful Life. 2023-03-1121 minNot Allowed to DieHow a therapist feels after a client suicide attemptEver wonder what a therapist is thinking after a client discloses that they made a suicide attempt? Mariska and I talk through my feelings after a recent disclosure. 2023-03-0722 minNot Allowed to DieAn inspirational bi-polar journey with Steve WilsonIn this episode Mariska and I talk to author and support group leader Steve Wilson about living with bi-polar disorder for decades and how he has used his experiences to help others by leading support groups. It inspires me to see Steve's 50 year marriage and dedication to maintaining his mental health hygiene.
A link to his book: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/teetering-on-a-tightrope-steven-w-wilson/11429674892023-02-2839 minNot Allowed to DiePsychedelics and Mental Health with Nathan GatesMariska and I were elated to talk with Nate Gates host of Altered States of Context podcast, to talk about misconceptions and things to consider at the intersection of mental health and psychedelics. I am a genuinely big fan of Nate's perspective and feel like I always learn a lot from him.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/altered-states-of-context/id15745299592023-02-2153 minNot Allowed to DieCommunicating your pain and Reframing Valentines DayMariska and I summarize what several of my clients have been struggling with this week including chronic pain, chronic non-suicidal depression, and writing a victim impact statement for a judge. We also touch at the end of a different way to view Valentines Day as perhaps a reason to celebrate the end of the HOLIDAYS. 2023-02-1424 minNot Allowed to DieShould I call child protective services?In this episode Mariska and I discuss some things to consider when thinking about calling Child Protective Services (or Department of Children and Family Services in Illinois 1800-25-ABUSE). Never a fun thing to have to consider BUT if you do don't be afraid to consult with us. 2023-02-0722 minNot Allowed to DieFrom Survivor to Thriver, Finding your balance in mental health with Erik DaRosaMariska and I explore a number of mental health topics and treatments with Erik DaRosa, co-host of the Survivor to Thriver mental health podcast. Erik shares a great deal about his struggles with OCD, among other things, and his Equilateral Triangle of Healing with Western medicine on one side, Eastern approaches to healing on another, and nature therapy as a third (there is a reason why they call him the Ski Sherpa). Truly a lot to learn from Erik.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/from-survivor-to-thriver/id15517582012023-01-3151 minNot Allowed to DieDumped by a NunWhat do you do when someone upsets you but it isn't their fault and there is no one to blame? Mariska and I explore a couple dilemmas my students are facing AND we get pretty assertive in asking you to not just rate and review, but also FOLLOW and RECOMMEND the podcast. 2023-01-2419 minNot Allowed to DieHow to talk to young people about mental health, drug use, and decision making with Eric DaddarioEric Daddario joins Mariska and I to share his experience of losing his younger brother to a drug overdose and how that led him to a path of public speaking to young people and college hockey teams.
Learn more about Eric and the Herren Project:
https://thedecisionswemake.com/
https://herrenproject.org/
2023-01-1738 minNot Allowed to DieMy Emotions Impacting Client RelationshipMy emotions are not supposed to come in to sessions, but when one of my clients gets treated really poorly by a trusted friend I make a mistake and give advice rather than listening and offering possible options for her to decide what is best for herself. Listen in to hear the background and learn what rule 29 is. 2023-01-1020 minNot Allowed to DieHow Psychoanalytic/dynamic approach can HEAL trauma with Dr. MasaMariska and I talk to Dr. Masha Hojat-Khoshniyat of Heal and Thrive Psychotherapy and Coaching https://www.heal-thrive.com
She talks about how her experience immigrating from Iran, becoming a therapist, and working with populations from abused children to inmates in the correctional system led her to feel like something was missing in helping people to heal. That something turned out to be a deeper dive into the clients past pain that they can often only get through psychotherapy. Mariska and I are big believers that psychotherapy is an incredibly valuable tool for some people that is rea...2023-01-0319 minNot Allowed to DieEyes acquire Ears connectMariska and I wind down 2022 with some thoughts on connection related to dating. Thinking of this time of year as one to be softly open but saving the grand opening for spring. We wish you gratitude, awe, and healthy paws as you leave 2022 behind and head into 2023. 2022-12-2713 minNot Allowed to DieMaigler Podcast RecommendationsI subscribe to over 100 podcasts. On this episode I read my list and give you one sentence about each. Here is the list I can fit.
99% invisible, Atlas Obscura, The Al Franken Podcast, Think Differently, Impact Theory, The Dungeoncast, The Life and Times of Frederick the Great, Fantasy Footballers Podcast, The NPR politics Podcast, Bears Insider Podcast, What Roman Mars can Learn about Constitutional Law, This Job is History, My Favorite Murder, Just Breath: Parenting your LGBTQIA Teen, Not Another D&D Podcast, Articles of Interest, Harris Football Podcast, Spitballers Comedy Podcast, Lord of the Rings Lorecast, Par...2022-12-2034 minNot Allowed to DieThe 6th grade perspective on fortnite and stress management with Ryan MaiglerAt long last my son Ryan joins Mariska and I to talk about how to tell when video games are becoming a problem, healthy hobbies, and stress management. 2022-12-1517 minNot Allowed to DieLet's talk about HospiceHospice is a really scary term for what can be a truly beautiful opportunity. In this episode Mariska and I (with my awful I have a mild cold voice) explore hospice, how it works, and how to reframe it. 2022-12-0616 minNot Allowed to DieChronic physical health issues intersecting with Mental Health with TaliaMariska and I welcome back our first repeat guest, Talia, who talks about difficult aspects of getting treatment for physical health issues while also having mental health challenges. Talia doesn't sugar coat it or make this process feel easy, because it isn't, but she shares an important message of strong self advocacy and hope. If you have ever felt anxiety walking into a doctor's office because you fear you won't be truly heard, this is a must listen. 2022-11-2922 minNot Allowed to DieTips for enduring the holidaysIn this episode Mariska and give a positive plug for the documentary Stutz on Netflix, and talk about some tips for getting through the holidays for people with eating issues and tips to support teens and treat them how they want to be treated. 2022-11-2219 minNot Allowed to DieParenting LGBTQIA teens with Heather Hester THE Chrysalis Mama!In this episode Mariska and talk to writer, podcast host, parenting mentor, and LGBTQIA super ally Heather Hester. We discuss how to not freak out about your kid dating an older person and how to handle the holidays and family members in different places in their level of support.
Check out her website at: https://chrysalismama.com/
And her podcast at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/just-breathe-parenting-your-lgbtq-teen/id1486711596
2022-11-1538 minNot Allowed to DiePolitics and Mental HealthMariska and I make a bold declaration of being grossed out by both political parties but particularly the Republicans. We make an appeal for listeners to think of fairness as everyone getting what they need and asking themselves which candidates are supporting that and other values that align with supporting mental health. 2022-11-0717 minNot Allowed to DieHow many ways can we hate our bodies? Letting go of self loathing.In this episode Mariska and I discuss body dysmorphia and dysphoria and ways in which they can protect us from accepting ourselves and the love of others. 2022-11-0121 minNot Allowed to DieI lost another friend to suicide and building a mental health informed cultureIn this episode Mariska and I share our feelings about losing another one of my former students to suicide and how we, as a society, need to do a better job of taking mental health into account as we build our expectations for school, work, etc... 2022-10-1825 minNot Allowed to DieMeditation through exercise with Nita Sweeney award winning author and mental health advocateIn this episode Mariska is cross with me for not promoting our instagram notallowedtodiepod and we talk with Nita Sweeney, award winning author of Make Every Move a Meditation. This is a really fun conversation that makes meditation and exercise both feel like they are for everyone.
https://nitasweeney.com/
2022-10-1137 minNot Allowed to DieAllowing positivity into grief with Marie Alessi, best selling author of Loving Life After LossMariska and I get a ray of light in what is generally considered a dark topic. Marie Alessi shares her experience of building a movement around letting people know while it is ok to not be ok, it is also ok to heal and feel times of joy in your sadness.
https://www.mariealessi.com
https://www.amazon.com/Loving-Life-after-Marie-Alessi/dp/B08RX65LXG
https://www.instagram.com/loving.life.after.loss/?hl=en2022-10-0338 minNot Allowed to DieInsider info on getting Disability Benefits with Spencer BishinsMariska and I ask questions of author and former Social Security internal lawyer who reviewed thousands of cases to find out how the system works with regard to getting SSA benefits for a mental health disability. This is a must listen (and a book you should really read) if you or a family member may ever need to get Social Security disability.
https://www.bishinspublishing.com/2022-09-3042 minNot Allowed to DieExploring Trauma Healing Yoga Therapy with Anissa HudakMariska and I chat with the inspirational Anissa Hudak about how Yoga can be used in direct ways to help heal from trauma and PTSD. Anissa shares her own story and demonstrates how Yoga can be safe and accessible to anyone. If you have ever thought Yoga was not for you, or your trauma was too scary to touch, this is a must listen.
Check out her website for more info: https://www.traumahealingyoga.com/
Anissa referred to IAYT https://www.iayt.org/ during our chat. So also check out their website for more resources. 2022-09-1933 minNot Allowed to DieI will finish the gameIn this episode I discuss the trite but helpful sayings that provide me with perspective and help get me through tough workouts and tougher days. Also we promote the launch of https://www.instagram.com/notallowedtodiepod/ That's right the instagram account you have all been waiting for. 2022-09-1218 minNot Allowed to DieManaging Pregnancy et al with Mental Health Challenges with Team Maigler superstar KristenIn this episode Mariska and I talk to Kristen who is a mother of three and Team Maigler Hall of Famer about managing the challenges of pregnancy, post partum, breast feeding, etc... and how each of them impact mental health.
Mental Health in pregnancy
https://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mental-health/treatments-and-wellbeing/mental-health-in-pregnancy
Post partum psychosis
https://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mental-health/problems-disorders/postpartum-psychosis
Post-natal depression
https://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mental-health/problems-disorders/post-natal-depression
Nami Support line
https://www.namichicago.org/mental-health-support-options2022-09-0646 minNot Allowed to DieRe-labeling Suicide Prevention and Mr. Privilege Tries to LearnMariska and I are re-united and I explore how the term suicide prevention can be problematic and hurtful. 2022-08-2919 minNot Allowed to DieMentally Ill Family Members with super guest EleanorIn this episode Mariska and I interview Eleanor, a therapist and school social worker, about how she navigated childhood and her ongoing life with her severely mentally ill Mother. 2022-08-2244 minNot Allowed to DieCPT therapy 12 week trauma transformation, and is Love a feeling or a promiseI experiment with Logic pro for a choppy recording, (please forgive me) and explore Cognitive Processing Therapy. 2022-08-1618 minNot Allowed to DieToo soon to laugh?In this episode we discuss my trip to Minnesota where I had to flee from gun shots and decide if it was too soon for humor in a lock down situation. Also when can we laugh when a person we care about dies? 2022-08-0821 minNot Allowed to DieSurviving Recurrent Major Depression with ANDY GRANT!Andy Grant from Real Men Feel http://realmenfeel.org/ joins Mariska and I to talk about how to push through when depression returns, AND advice for family and friends about how to support people who are experiencing a depressive episode. 2022-08-0137 minNot Allowed to DieLet's Fight! Frequently and Fairly.In this episode I explore the dangers of not fighting in relationships and how that can be more unhealthy than fighting frequently if we do so fairly. Also how do we learn how to fight fair. Plus Mariska grooms herself. 2022-07-2725 minNot Allowed to DiePartial Hospitalization Programs with guest experts Natalie and Talia!!!Everything you ever wanted to know about Partial Hospitalization Programs with our first ever guests on the podcast, Talia and Natalie. These Team Maigler Hall of Famers share their experiences in PHPs and some special guest input from Stanley, Natalie's dog. 2022-07-1542 minNot Allowed to DieSevering the Guilt Grief Connection and Highland Park Shooting, how to talk to kids.In this episode I explore how to talk to kids about the shooting in Highland Park Illinois and the function guilt plays in helping us manage our grief but also how to let go of that guilt that does not belong to us. 2022-07-1322 minNot Allowed to DieCan you teach empathy? Plus a bonus dream analysis.In this episode Mariska and I explore empathy and if it can be taught.2022-07-0520 min
Not Allowed to DieFind Your Underground RailroadMajor history is unfolding everyday. 100 years from now how will you want to be remembered? What causes will matter for you and how will you get involved? The Supreme Court has been on a very conservative tear lately and a new underground railroad for women seeking healthcare may need to develop. In this episode we explore this idea and the greatness of the film Everything Everywhere All at Once. 2022-06-2520 minNot Allowed to DieChosen Family for AllSome reflections on Father's Day and what to do if we are lacking some of the relatives we need for support. 2022-06-2113 minNot Allowed to DieChoose Social WorkIn this podcast Mariska and I try to manipulate you into believing that social work is the best discipline for a therapist so if you are deciding what kind of grad school to attend, or shopping for a clinician, our biased opinion is social work is the tops. 2022-06-1324 minNot Allowed to DieGoodbyes unsaidIn this episode Mariska and I discuss what it is like when you do not get a chance to say goodbye and how to manage some of those feelings. I end the episode in a coughing fit, but don't worry I'm ok. 2022-06-0619 minNot Allowed to DieShould I tell my Dad I relapsed?In this episode I talk about how to determine whether or not to tell the truth to parents about hard things, from relapse to finding out about infidelity. Also an update on Mariska and her potential steroid use/abuse. 2022-05-3118 minNot Allowed to DieCocaine for Prom?In this episode I discuss how to combat the desire to be preachy and give advice when you are talking to people who you think might be on their way to a bad decision. 2022-05-2319 minNot Allowed to Die13 reasons review and DIY trauma quizIn this episode we explore what makes Mariska's tummy ache, my thoughts on the book 13 reasons why, and how a client created her own multiple choice quiz to share her trauma experience. 2022-05-1819 minNot Allowed to DieLeftover Pieces podcast guest appearanceFollow the link to my guest appearance on The Leftover Pieces podcast where I talk about the many ways suicide has impacted me personally and professionally: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5YfQbBNvraVqO1TxMJq8eZ?si=OLRyVqNpS5ei5j25R2XtBg&utm_source=copy-link2022-05-0900 minNot Allowed to DieEnneagram and space for becomingThis week Mariska and I explore the ideas behind personality inventories like Myers Briggs (I'm and ENFP according to Truity) and Enneagrams (I'm an 8). While these can be fun, we also have to keep space in life for people to change and develop whether that is with ADHD, Autism Spectrum Perspectives, or gender. 2022-05-0219 minNot Allowed to DieDay of Silence and HeterosexismMariska and I rant about the culture wars and how people using the trans female athlete debate in a way that really hurts trans people. We talk about how to inform well meaning people about when their perspective is hetero-sexist. 2022-04-2521 minNot Allowed to DieManaging mixed signals and fear of being the "wokest"In this show I begin by endorsing Brene Brown's Atlas of the Heart series on HBO Max. Then I lament how I hesitate to share it more broadly out of fear of being labeled as "woke" or an SJW (social justice warrior), which is a shame as we should embrace being an ally and not be afraid to share it. Then I dive into the dilemma of mixed signals from friends and how to respond to them. Mariska chimes in with some passive aggressive paw licking to shame you into rating and reviewing. 2022-04-1821 minNot Allowed to DieHealing from the death of a fryndshipSome friendships are so strong they need a different name. I have never seen men have one so I associate them most with women. What happens when one of these fryndships (a non romantic love bond stronger than even a powerful typical friendship) dies. How does a person learn to open again and can that be a trauma? 2022-04-1118 minNot Allowed to DieNo spark. Should we break up?Is good the enemy of great when it comes to relationships? In this episode I explore some things I encourage clients to think about when they are trying to determine if a relationship can be improved or if we should leave and move on. The 3 F's of what don't work in change, and the 4 R's of what we need to do to change get reviewed here as well. Also, Mariska gets pretty manipulative to get you to rate and review. 2022-04-0221 minNot Allowed to DieStop gas lighting yourself and define successIn this episode we explore how to stop gas lighting yourself, consume the hard medicine of negative feedback, and define that you can achieve. 2022-03-2822 minNot Allowed to DieHow could he just leave?This week I had three clients whose partners (who all happened to be male) just left and were not willing to even try to work on the relationship. This is a podcast in a little of the why that can lead to a partner choosing to just leave. 2022-03-2121 minNot Allowed to DieMy mistake and Health Issues GroupIn this episode I talk about the bravery of one of my students calling me out when I mis-gendered him on the podcast. How to react to negative feedback and learn from it. I also talked about the joy of starting a new group at my school and how I hope it will go. 2022-03-1219 minNot Allowed to Diesuicidal friend 101What do you do if a friend says something scary and they are not responding?! We go through some of the steps and options in this episode. Plus how to handle getting cut from badminton. 2022-03-0717 minNot Allowed to DieInfidelity's impact on the KidsOne of my clients was reminding me the major impact that parents cheating can have on the kids. This episode is an exploration of that. 2022-02-2823 minNot Allowed to DieRemoving the Stinky Pole (aka self defeating behaviors)If you ever do dumb things and want to stop, this episode explores how we figure out what we are getting from those behaviors and how to find other ways of meeting those needs. There is also a surprise interruption (or two) in this episode and some reveal of how the Not Allowed to Die podcast is made. 2022-02-2117 minNot Allowed to Dienavigating school supportsThis is a toe dip into the waters of how to get supports from schools and a bit from the perspective of the school. I have a lot more to say on this topic since this is my primary gig, but the episode was running long so if you have questions please send them along. 2022-02-1327 minNot Allowed to DieDeath of my nephewTRIGGER WARNING! In this episode I react to the death of my 26 year old nephew by suicide on 1/24/22. It may be difficult to listen to so if this is a topic you find triggering please skip this one. I share my personal experience of dealing with this overwhelming situation. Hopefully there will be something useful in it. 2022-01-3124 minNot Allowed to DieAdulting? What does it mean to be an ADULT?Does being an adult suck? Does it have to? What does it even mean? 2022-01-2420 minNot Allowed to DieAn Atheist and a Christian walk into a relationship...What do you do if you do not share the faith of the person you are dating? How does this impact how you will raise your children? Can atheists and Christians find common ground? 2022-01-1721 minNot Allowed to DieWarning People about Mentally Ill Family MembersWhat do you do when you have a family member that may be toxic to others. How do you warn people to steer clear? 2022-01-1016 minNot Allowed to DieGetting better at Self CareMost of us stink at prioritizing self care, in today's podcast I talk about some tips of how to work self care into your day in ways that are realistic and sustainable. 2022-01-0316 minNot Allowed to DieThe allure of hopelessness and understanding secondary gains.Depression is more than just a parasite, it is something our brain uses to shut us down. Why? What is the allure of hopelessness? How do I sometimes benefit from things that I feel I hate and really want to change. 2021-12-2618 minNot Allowed to DieAnalyzing Dreams, Drawings, and Tarot.I am far from an expert in any of these areas but I offer a few thoughts on my lens in which I view analyzing and interpreting areas where our subconscious may be sharing more than our conscious mind is ready to express. 2021-12-1320 minNot Allowed to DieIs therapy worth my time? Also some thoughts on BetterHelp and TalkspaceIn this episode I discuss how to determine if you should commit the time and financial resources to therapy or just work things out on your own. Also I give my views on remote therapy options like BetterHelp and Talk Space (not sponsors...yet). 2021-12-0618 minNot Allowed to DieHoliday blues, and setting appropriate expectations for how we feel around the holidays.Many of my clients are feeling disappointed that they cannot get excited for the holidays. This is a brief episode about how to set appropriate expectations for how we may feel during the holidays. 2021-11-2908 minNot Allowed to DieReturning to the scene of the Romantic crimeWhy do we go back to partners that kinda sucked? This episode is an exploration of the draw of a partner who has already let us down so many times that they can't really disappoint us anymore (or can they?). I close with some tips on how to help people we care about who keep returning to unhealthy relationships. 2021-11-2215 minNot Allowed to DieGrieving dementia and alzheimer'sThis weekend I went to two funerals for people who died before their time due to complications from dementia and/or alzheimer's. I share some observations about how grieving can be different in cases when there is a death after a long illness or when a person was struggling and the complex feelings that can create. 2021-11-1520 minNot Allowed to DieUnderstanding Self Injury and how to use Impulse Control LogsSelf Injury is typically not life threatening it is an unhealthy coping skill. We often use impulse control logs to treat them. The segments of the log are: time, place, location, trigger, feeling, want to feel, options tried, result.
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/471279.Bodily_Harm
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