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Everything HurtsNo bones about it - musculoskeletal health is important!In Episode 27, Danielle and Cheryl are joined again by guest Katelin Cashman, a PA who specializes in women’s midlife health, to talk about exercise in midlife. As estrogen packs up its bags and leaves, our bones change and become weaker, muscles get smaller, connective tissue weakens (hello, balance), we start to feel the wear and tear of osteoarthritis, and unexplained joint aches and muscle pains bounce around (they might evade medical tests, but they’re real – Kate validates it!). We find out that exercise is the answer to so many WTFs. Kate breaks down how it improves your cardio...2025-07-2932 minEverything HurtsGrave Decisions. Literally.In Episode 26, Danielle and Cheryl talk about the importance of planning the party you *won’t* be around to see. Of course no one wants to think about their demise, but there are a lot of things you should be making decisions about now, so that your crazy Aunt Patty isn’t making decisions about whether to bury you in the local cemetery or scatter your ashes off the back of a cruise ship in Bermuda. They discuss last wishes, planning for who is going to take your belongings and pets, and whether they’re going to need a bounce...2025-07-2221 minEverything HurtsEpisode 25 - Katelin Cashman returns to talk bone health!Danielle and Cheryl have been talking for 25 episodes. To celebrate, they decided you should hear someone else talk for a change – so they invited Menopause Specialist Katelin Cashman, PA, back to talk about bone health in middle age women. While 50% to 85% of variation in bone mineral density is due to genetics (thanks mom), you can also make changes in your diet, lifestyle, weight training, and supplements to optimize your skeletal system. Katelin explains bone density (along with other metrics for bone health) and DEXA scans (the gold standard on measuring), and then helps you understand what those tests mean an...2025-07-1533 minEverything HurtsTo regift or not to regiftWith Danielle’s birthday coming up, Episode 24 is full of chatter about gifts and regifting. There are studies that show that regifting is actually completely OK with the gift giver, but the gift receivers need to chill out and stop feeling so guilty (there’s even National Regifting Day on December 27 this year). They also laugh about themed gifts – calling to mind Cheryl’s momentary mention of liking owls that caused an avalanche of owl-themed items and, of course, Danielle’s love of squares turning into a borage of gifts that resemble the furry backyard visitors. In the discussion are gift c...2025-07-0820 minEverything HurtsSweet Summertime (Break)It's summertime, so Cheryl and Danielle are taking a well-deserved day off for the July 4th holiday! We want to hear from you! Because it takes a village to raise…well…ourselves, we’re ready to share a laugh, a cry and even an F-bomb with you. Reach out to us on Instagram, Facebook, email, carrier pigeon, smoke signals, whatevs. Instagram:Everything HurtsDanielleCherylFacebook:Everything Hurts GroupEmail: ouch@everythinghurts.life2025-07-0101 minEverything HurtsDid Influencers Kill Individuality?In Episode 23, Danielle and Cheryl are joined once again by Boston-based photographer Melissa Ostrow and they’re talking about photos – and how everyone looks the same in them these days. Going far beyond following trends, the trio has decided that platforms like TikTok and Instagram (influencers, they’re looking straight at you) are taking creativity away and pushing one similar look that lacks individuality. Cheryl, leaning on her early love of magazines that forged her career path, digs deep into the world of ‘80s glossies like Seventeen, Sassy and Teen Beat and how teens would grab a little inspiration from eac...2025-06-2420 minEverything HurtsTaking your best photos with Photographer Melissa OstrowIn Episode 22, Danielle and Cheryl have an amazing guest who wants to help you put your best face forward – literally. Melissa Ostrow is a well-known photographer in the Boston area who has been making people look amazing in front of the camera for two decades in her professional career of portraits, party pics, corporate events, and more. She takes the hosts through a litany of tips on how to make sure you get your good side with every photo you take (spoiler alert: it’s not that high camera and crossed leg that you’ve been taught). Melissa...2025-06-1725 minEverything HurtsMeeting the new youEpisode 21 begins with Cheryl’s admission that she’s weak – she colored her hair after six months of grey root grow out. Then she and Danielle discuss how we’re becoming new people in a sense as we age and it’s hard - saying goodbye to who we were, and embracing (although sometimes not too eagerly) who we are now. For example, they remember when going out was just a fun thing to do, even…gasp…last minute. Now we have to check the restaurant, check the parking, check the walking distance to the restaurant from the parking, and then we ha...2025-06-1019 minEverything HurtsWhy’d you have to go and make things so complicatedWas Avril Lavigne right - is life just too complicated? In Episode 20, Danielle and Cheryl realize that in their 30s, they were just training to be an adult. Now, it’s go time. At this age, we have mortgages, kids, aging parents, career changes, ever-changing bodies, and the constant challenge of making everyone happy. A wise friend once explained that it’s because we’re trying to make everyone happy no one ends up being happy, while another mentioned that everyone wants change but no one’s actually implementing it. So here Danielle and Cheryl are, craving the simplicity of what...2025-06-0321 minEverything HurtsMementos or mess – spring cleaning our childhoodSpring cleaning has Cheryl and Danielle harkening back to the days of Atari, Mousetrap, even…gasp…rabbit foot keychains, as they get sentimental during Episode 19 of Everything Hurts. Cleaning out the garage or basement can dig up a bunch of emotions, especially when it involves sifting through boxes of childhood items. What gets kept and what gets trashed? The two revisit toys from the ‘80s that stood the test of time, as well as Gen X items that don’t fly anymore (hello, lawn darts, we’re looking squarely at you). Then, when Cheryl discovers some of her essays from colle...2025-05-2719 minEverything HurtsCell Phones: Devil’s Work, Godsend, or BothIn the U.S., nearly all adults (clocking in at about 98%) own a cell phone. That’s roughly 331 million people. The vast majority, about 91%, of those cell phone owners have a smartphone. In Episode 18, Danielle and Cheryl explore their love/hate with their phones. Yes, they’re obviously helpful but do we really need to be able to text, track, talk, and Google at any given second. Newsflash: we lived without them for centuries. They also talk about how a surprising study actually found that kids with cell phones are happy and more social. Who knew? We wa...2025-05-2021 minEverything HurtsGym self-care: Cold plunges and hot saunasIn this Episode 17, Cheryl and Danielle discuss how their tolerance and patience have changed as they age, and one place the difference is very evident is at gym. Is no place sacred? When they aren’t yelling at people to shut up in the sauna, they’re giving the side eye to those who don’t wipe down their machines after use. However, the meat of this episode is actually spent discussing how to stay cool at the gym – in a cold plunge, that is. Cold water therapy stretches back as far as 3500 BC, when it was noted in the anci...2025-05-1319 minEverything HurtsToday’s info overload – is ignorance actually bliss?Between Dr. Google, the internet as a whole, and tracking apps like Life360, we have access to too much info. Full stop. To begin Episode 16, Danielle drops one bit of info that we all should know – she recently took a job as the co-host of a new morning show on WZLX FM radio in Boston. Then she and Cheryl chat about how, overall, it’s exhausting how we have fingertip-access to so…much…information these days. Basically, they ask - is it healthy to be “smart” or is ignorance bliss? They discuss cognitive overload (it’s a thing) and what steps you...2025-05-0621 minEverything HurtsYour Body and Alcohol – a Talk With PA-C and Meno Expert Katelin CashmanIn Episode 15, Cheryl and Danielle raise a glass to how our middle-aged bodies handle alcohol. Spoiler alert – not well (Episode 1 started the conversation of When Happy Hour Turns Sad). Chiming in with plenty of knowledge is their guest, Katelin Cashman, PA-C, Menopause Society Certified Practitioner, certified functional nutrition informed professional, and founder of Plaistow, N.H.-based Journey Health. The three ladies talk about what’s physically different about our bodies at this age that might be affected by drinking, and Katelin offers tips on how to overcome those issues. She also teaches us about metabolism and how our bodi...2025-04-2938 minEverything HurtsF*** Cancer (and screenings you should schedule right now)In Episode 14, Danielle and Cheryl once again bring Kennedy Elsey, from Mix 104.1’s Karson & Kennedy AM show to share her diagnosis and subsequent ass kicking of breast cancer. They talk about how she worked with her caregivers through surgery and radiation, as well as a surprising (and documented) sadness you feel when you leave your fellow warriors she saw every day in the hospital. The trio also talks about osteoporosis and Dexa scans, colonoscopies, breast MRIs for dense breasts, and all the screenings that women in middle age need to be up-to-date on (and push for, if they feel th...2025-04-2220 minEverything HurtsMusic as a Life’s Soundtrack (and the ‘80s were the best)Music is an integral part of most of our lives, as you can tell by the fact that you don’t care who sees you dancing when the grocery store jams hit hard. To hit all the right notes on this topic, Danielle and Cheryl sit down with guest Kennedy Elsey (of Boston's Mix 104.1 Karson & Kennedy morning show fame). When the three women were younger, reading liner notes to new records was an hours-long activity, as was waiting patiently for the DJ to stop talking so they could tape record their favorite songs. And who didn’t love all thos...2025-04-1524 minEverything HurtsTossing out the Golden RuleCheryl and Danielle begin Episode 12 by discussing what some people choose to share on social media. Coming from a time where kids were trucks without governors and there wasn’t a threat of actions being blasted into the ether, it’s amazing what people will post these days. Parents will post kids throwing up; teens will post themselves doing stupid stuff. Is nothing sacred? Which brings the two ladies to life’s biggest lesson – by letting go of the Golden Rule (do unto others as you would have them do unto you) sometimes you enjoy your relationships more. When you stop...2025-04-0821 minEverything Hurts‘80s TV and VHS exercise loveIn Episode 11, Danielle and Cheryl dive into the days of old school movies (Bueller…Bueller) and TV, as they reminisce about the ones they loved in their childhood (think Love Boat, Fantasy Island, Silver Spoons, Mash, Different Strokes, Cheers). And of course, there are shows they loved that wouldn’t exactly play today (looking squarely at you, Archie Bunker). But who doesn’t love a VHS tape (be kind, rewind)? After all, that’s how we got our exercise back in the day - thanks to ‘80s ladies like Kathy Smith and Tamilee Webb. While they look back on those time...2025-04-0119 minEverything HurtsFriendships can be a royal PITAIn this episode of Everything Hurts, Danielle and Cheryl break down what friendships are and how they seem to change as we age. When we’re younger, our friends are our entire world. Then we move to college and things become a bit more spaced, but you’re still thrown together into classes, dorms, etc. In our 20s, people scatter and friendships ebb and flow. Once you get into your 30s, that’s when you start to take a look at your friends and think “is this connection worth it?” In your 40s and 50s, it’s all about finding your...2025-03-2519 minEverything HurtsLet’s talk about perimenopauseWomen don’t talk about perimenopause. And, sadly, their doctors don’t either (research states it’s due to lack of preparedness). So, in this episode, Danielle and Cheryl do just that. They commiserate about dry skin and frizzy hair, insomnia and lack of sex drive, heart palpitations and hot flashes. Pick your poison. They offer advice to their younger listeners on how to prepare for perimenopause, what to expect, and they talk a little about the frustration this age group experiences when dismissed as they speak up about symptoms occurring (“Oh, you’re just getting older”). Danielle gets candid about...2025-03-1820 minEverything HurtsGen X kids: a tale of pegged jeans and feathered hairConsider this episode of Everything Hurts a palate cleanser, as Cheryl and Danielle ask you to throw it back (but not too hard - you’ll throw out your back) with a bit of nostalgia. They start the show by returning to early Gen X days of drinking from hoses, walking uphill both ways to school, and sitting on plastic couches at your grandma’s house (that noise when you peeled your thighs off on a summer day). They add into the mix the “finer” things in life, taking you down Memory Lane with visions of pegged jeans, KangaROOS sneakers...2025-03-1121 minEverything HurtsWhen your elderly parents won’t listenWith snow on the ground and Cheryl’s 79-year-old dad reaching for the shovel, Episode 7 takes her and Danielle’s conversation to a frustrating place – what to do when your elderly parents want to do too much. They discuss moving into caretaker roles and how parents can become difficult as they view these new limitations as attacks on their autonomy. They become who we once were – kids that won’t listen. Cheryl and Danielle address the “40-70 rule” as a timeframe for talking to your parents about how to care for themselves so they remain healthy and safe, as well as what t...2025-03-0427 minEverything HurtsWhy Mid-life Crisis – Why not Mid-life Revelation?In this episode of Everything Hurts, Cheryl and Danielle turn mid-life crises into mid-life opportunities. Gone are the days when the middle of your life meant making bad decisions that threw off the balance of the universe (hello, $200K sports car.) Instead, you’ve made it this far, why not reward yourself by finally being yourself. Want a tattoo? Get one. Want to pierce something? Do it. Want to travel? Take the trip. Want to have an affair. No…don’t do that. Surveys show women in their 30s look forward to being more confident because they’re less apt to G...2025-02-2520 minEverything HurtsAging Ain’t for the Weak… or the CheapIn this episode of Everything Hurts, Danielle and Cheryl give a little breakdown of beauty issues women in their middle age face. Taking a page out of Andie McDowell’s interview with Katie Couric in 2024 - where she exclaims, “To be an older person trying to be young, what an effort!” - they chat about whether we should finally stop the nonsense. They discuss growing out grey hair, hooded eyes exacting revenge on flawlessly applied cat eyes, and avoiding discount Botox and lash lift kits. They also hit you with treatments that are worth the time/effort/money (hello, Kerati...2025-02-1821 minEverything HurtsNot My CircusIn this episode of Everything Hurts, Danielle and Cheryl revisit Episode 3’s Karen conundrum with some comical research out of the UK on who really are the biggest complainers (spoiler alert: we’re looking squarely at you Louise). They also discuss their thoughts on how today’s Karen doesn’t match the OG definition from a decade ago. They touch on the popular “let them” theory by New York Times bestselling author and motivational speaker Mel Robbins, while also lending credence to Cheryl’s most valuable lesson to her daughter – it’s not your circus, not your monkeys. They also chat up stayi...2025-02-1119 minEverything HurtsSorry, Not SorryWhy are we always apologizing?In this episode of Everything Hurts, Danielle and Cheryl ask you to count how many times throughout the day you say, “I’m sorry.” Even when it’s not your fault…They’ll wait…Was it a lot? Unfortunately, it probably was. They discuss research that uncovers how women actually do apologize more than men, as well as how angry men are seen as more influential than angry women. That’s right. Twelve angry men get a cinematic classic; a dozen angry women is “Karen” convention. We also talk about how women are typica...2025-02-0419 minEverything HurtsDad Bod vs. Hot Girl SummerWhy do women have to work so hard?Seasonal depression is a thing, and glamming it up to just leave the house this time of year ain’t happenin’. In this episode, Danielle Murr and Cheryl Fenton wonder why there’s such a strong dichotomy of effort levels to achieve what society considers “hot” for men and women. Everything we have to aspire to requires work, as dad bods and Hollywood’s obsession with “rodent” boys (The Bear’s Jeremy Allen White, Saltburn’s Barry Keoghan and Dune’s Timothée Chalamet, to name a few) are more easily at...2025-01-2820 minEverything HurtsWhen Happy Hour Turns SadPart 1: A two-part series why women over 40 drop the ball on holding their liquor. (Hint: it’s not our fault)Cocktails are a thing, right? That is until they’re not. In this episode (Part 1 in a series on alcohol and middle-aged women), Cheryl Fenton and Danielle Murr discuss how, ever since entering a certain age bracket (hello, 40+), drinking alcohol - even an innocent glass of red wine - isn’t the party it used to be. The discussion begins with the holiday season’s booze-centric parties and the resulting 3am racing heart, acid reflux, and insomnia. Should D...2025-01-2119 minEverything HurtsEverything Hurts Trailer2025-01-0801 min