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The Flame WithinOutcome independenceA fourteen part series on a masculinity post done by Mark Fitzy someone DM'd me and asked me to cover. 2023-01-1721 minThe Flame WithinConcessionsYou can't just want more for your life. You have to start doing and stop making concessions for things in your life that are important to you. 2022-11-2216 minThe Flame WithinFriends and DiscountsGiving your friend a discount or a pass on behavior is not being a friend to them but rather depriving them of an opportunity to get better. I expect more from my friends and never want to deprive them of that opportunity. Some may get angry, some may stop talking to you but so long as they get better that's all that really matters. They will realize at some point that you are coming from a place of love and they will be back. 2022-11-1519 minThe Flame WithinBelief Systems?What do you believe about yourself and why do you believe it? Let's take a look as to why you believe those things and installing a new belief system.2022-11-0820 minThe Flame WithinPutting in reps…You’re never going to get good at anything unless you do something consistently and make the effort to get good at it.2022-10-1222 minThe Flame WithinWhat’s your rock bottom?I see things, lots of things that bother me about how men present themselves to the world. The other day this one hit hard and it begged the question, what is this dudes rock bottom? How much lower can he go? Then it begged the question, how many of you are living at rock bottom just getting by? Just making ends meet? The bigger question, what the fuck are you going to do about it?2022-06-2616 minThe Flame WithinWhat to do with uncomfortableWhat do you do when you are uncomfortable with your thoughts? Do you isolate, look down at the bottom of a bottle of booze, sit around and hope things get better? They won’t. It’s fine to think through things but it’s better to do it with a clear mind. This brief episode will tell you how.2022-06-2318 minThe Flame WithinDon’t lay downIf you believe in who you are and what you do, don’t lay down for anyone else’s beliefs or to societal norms. Do you.2022-06-0119 minThe Flame WithinUnbrokenNobody gets to tell you how to live YOUR life, do not conform to how others want to do it, what they believe or what they believe is possible for you. Only you can limit you.2022-05-182h 12The Flame WithinDo not justify, just doAnything from diet/nutrition to training and mindset, it’s your journey and while some may question it, you don’t need to explain or justify it.2022-05-1217 minThe Flame WithinTurning the cornerTake a look back every so often and reflect on your success however how small you thin it may be. You are not that man anymore and that’s something to be proud of.2022-05-0514 minThe Flame WithinWins, losses and lessonsWins are wins, awesome. Losses are losses, treat them as such. We all lose and shouldn’t sugar coat those losses. They sting, as they should. Don’t make them something they are not. Winning and losing are two distinctly different things, take the lesson from each but don’t leave the feelings of each define how you feel about yourself.2022-04-2514 minThe Flame WithinTime is everythingInvest your time that serves you best. There is nothing more precious or valuable than how YOU decide to spend your time. Choose wisely and eliminate anything that sucks your time.2022-04-2019 minThe Flame WithinBe realisticSharing your goals to others can sometimes had unforeseen responses. I received one of those responses earlier this week and it set my soul on fire. Only you know what’s realistic, only you can figure that out. Don’t let others tell you what’s realistic and what isn’t because they are projecting their own thoughts and expectations on to you. They don’t know you or what burns inside you. In short, fuck them.2022-04-1510 minThe Flame WithinStay the courseEpisode 60 - If you want to work toward who you want to become, you have to stay the course. You have to keep going no matter what. No one really cares about your self improvement other than you. Remember that.2022-04-0923 minThe Flame WithinImprovement is always about youWhatever reason you are looking to improve, it’s about you. Walking through your shit or slaying your demons. It’s about you. It’s the way, the path through it and while there is no end to getting better, there’s definitely a beginning.2022-03-3119 minThe Flame WithinYou are worth itWhatever the cost, whatever the risk or whatever it takes to get better. You are WORTH the cost to improve.2022-03-2221 minThe Flame WithinF*ck what they say…real masculinity is NOT toxic.I am a real person, flesh and blood. I get sick and at times get really sick like I have been this week. Fuck it. I recorded this episode anyway and decided to share it. We aren’t perfect and this one shows that about me. I mustard up my “toxic masculinity” and recorded anyway.2022-03-1920 minThe Flame WithinHouston, there’s a problem….When things you can’t control changes your plans and how to respond to them.2022-03-0916 minThe Flame WithinGet out of your feelzWinning does not care how you feel about doing what you need to. Be stronger than your feelings and break through being tired, burnt out or anything stopping you from doing what you need to in order to reach your goals.2022-03-0612 minThe Flame WithinPutting in hard ass workStop being a pussy and being afraid of a little hard work. Want to get better? Put in the work. Want anything out of life? Put in the damn work. Life doesn’t get easier from avoidance of work, it gets harder. It makes your life easier. People look at you differently because they see you differently. You get that look of respect and it’s amazing.2022-03-0413 minThe Flame WithinJudgment Free ZonesWe live in a society where you are always being judged. ALWAYS. Get used to it. Some complain that “it shouldn’t be that way” but the reality is, that you are. You can succumb to the judgment and let it freeze you or break free from the fear of being judged. How to let that criticism roll off your back or make it work for you2022-03-0119 minThe Flame WithinInterview with FitzyMen are just men, nothing special about any one of us. Join us as we speak about mindset, self-accountability and how Fitzy changed his life.2022-02-2447 minThe Flame WithinFoundational Self ImprovementIf you’re improving, tackle the low hanging fruit. Don’t over complicate it, haircuts, fingernail trims, showering and basic grooming. Then keep tackling what you are bringing to the world.2022-02-2317 minThe Flame WithinMen need to hear the truthSometimes hearing the truth, as a man, can be a kick in the balls. Not enough men are willing to listen to to it or get butt hurt when they hear it. Whether it comes from a friend, spouse, or a child being called on your shit can be difficult to face. Learn to respond to it, assess it and make changes if necessary. It will change your life.2022-02-1822 minThe Flame WithinHitting the curveWhen life throws you a curve with difficult times don’t get caught with the bat on your shoulder, learn how to hit it out of the park when they come.2022-02-1617 minThe Flame WithinFace your fearsYou do this this one step at a time and the more you face your fears the stronger you get. It isn’t that you will no longer be scared BUT you may be able to start laughing in the face of those fears and move forward regardless.2022-02-151h 45The Flame WithinNutritionally speakingIf you’re ever going to improve your physique you need to polish up your nutritional habits. My story.2022-02-0218 minThe Flame WithinMen’s mental well being - a considerationThere is more to consider than the higher suicide rates in men then we are currently examining. Improving your life through self awareness, self help, living in abundance, with a mental point of origin and mission may help you get out of that dark spot.2022-01-3119 minThe Flame WithinThe quiet yearningYou Quietly yearn for things you do not have while fear losing what you do. Go get what you want and leave that fear behind.2022-01-2713 minThe Flame WithinChoice is an illusionIf you are starting or are in the midst of a making yourself a better man the choice to do so is merely an illusion and more importantly doing what you need to do to continue down that path is merely an illusion.2022-01-2541 minThe Flame WithinThe Real PillOnly one pill you need to take and that is the harsh reality of what it means to be a man. If I ask 20 men what it means to them I may get twenty answers but all can agree that it means becoming the best version of yourself.2022-01-2320 minThe Flame WithinWhen your discipline fails youNone of us are perfect nor should we claim to be. Every so often we get knocked on our ass and we tempted lose the discipline we have carefully crafted for ourselves. Here’s how to get it back.2022-01-2019 minThe Flame WithinCultivating credibilityWhen you live authentically you build credibility with others, especially those around you. When a part of your life slacks, it has an effect on those around you and who may or may or take advice from you.2022-01-1815 minThe Flame WithinAsshole FriendsAsshole friends challenge you, make your life more colorful, bright, believe you and even kick you in the balls once in a while. Those are you real friends, keep those assholes close.2022-01-1211 minThe Flame WithinChase excellence, not acceptance.We’ve all had those friends, you know the ones, they live in the past and ignore the here and now and their future. These “friends” suck and will be stuck in a life of acceptance. If that’s what you want for yourself, fine but I wanted no part of that shit and now have gents that push me to be my best daily. I put myself in self in a position to be the example and to lead from the front and that’s exactly what I do. What do you want?2021-11-0851 minThe Flame WithinStop acting like a helpless child…There are few things in life that are guaranteed. Death and taxes are an absolute certainty. And I don’t know much but if your wife is mothering you, she despises you for it. Stop being that guy and step into your own.2021-10-2024 minThe Flame WithinJust start doing somethingThe smallest thing can help you along your way to self improvement and can be a springboard to your success. We all start somewhere and it’s going to be the little wins that lead to bigger win. Success begets success.2021-10-1519 minThe Flame WithinYou know what right looks like…In this episode I compare the manliness of my dog to you. He’s instinctual and gives zero fucks of the opinions of the other dogs in the home or in the neighborhood. He isn’t saddled with social conditioning and knows what right looks like. I contend that all me do and should live a little more like Chuck.2021-10-0418 minThe Flame WithinLife’s way to damn shortLife is easy to damn short not to be getting the things you want out it. What’s holding you back?2021-09-2918 minThe Flame WithinDrinking out of a firehoseYou’re going to encounter many different things you could be doing but you need to focus on YOU and nail down what you want to fix.2021-09-2916 minThe Flame WithinKeeping your mental edgeIllness and injury are part of the game Your best bet to getting back in the saddle is to pick up where you left off by keeping your mental game strong.2021-09-2116 minThe Flame WithinDrinking out of a fire hoseSelf improvement can be like drinking out of a firehose especially when you discover that being a man has so many more different facets than what you were originally believed. The key to getting better is to take one thing at a time improve in that arena and move to the next and need it and can apply it2021-09-1416 minThe Flame WithinQuitting is for the weakSo long as you are still here it’s still your mother fucking set until you say it isn’t. This is your life and you create your own reality.2021-09-1018 minThe Flame WithinKnowing your valueAt some point men need to make a decision about being valued, whether that’s at work, in a relationship or at home. Stop settling for being just an ATM, the guy who works Saturdays all the time, or just someone that gets yelled at when shit goes sideways. If you do not like being there, then don’t. Others will value you, I promise.2021-06-2223 minThe Flame WithinDeath by a thousand cutsIn this episode I talk about making concessions, allowing others to treat you with disrespect and stopping those things from happening to you. Every time you allow these things to happen you are slowly killing you, your self esteem, self confidence and self worth. You have the power to change it.2021-06-1750 minThe Flame WithinJust Start f*cking DoingWhen you start improving, it hurts and it sucks but you’re motivated. You have to start, sometimes over and over again but your starting point has changed. You start from the experience of your previous attempt. When you get better, your life gets better and those around you get better. You have better friends because your old friends have been left behind and you earn the respect of those now around you. BUT, you have to START doing, over an over if you must. One day at a time and 1% better at a time. Let’s get fucking to it!2021-06-1122 minThe Flame Within“Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future” DPOn the path to self improvement you are going to lose some friends because you’re improving. That’s ok, there’s room for those who are like minded and on the same path. These are your new friends. **To my friends who love and support me. You know who you are and you are the best.2021-06-0823 minThe Flame WithinForgiveness, a gift for yourselfForgiving your self is an intricate part of moving forward. You must forgive yourself for things you didn’t know, messed up or didn’t do right the first time. It’s ok to mess up or not know something but it isn’t ok to keep doing it. You have an obligation to do better. Forgiving yourself is the first step.2021-06-0819 minThe Flame WithinNegative Self TalkYou can use negative self talk constructively by having your “feels” about yourself and then figuring out what the fuck you’re going to do about it. The trick is being specific with it and narrow it down past “I’m a loser”. Ask yourself some follow up questions - how are you a loser? Get specific and then figure out how you’re going to conquer it.2021-06-0123 minThe Flame WithinThere will be painYou can feel the pain and suffering of living a life worth remember or the pain of regret later. Life is about choices and the choice is solely yours. — short sidebar on decision making that I think you will enjoy.2021-05-2519 minThe Flame WithinAnalysis ParlalysisAre you froze in fear, feel underserving or just feel overwhelmed with the amount of information in the manosphere or in general? Take a listen on how to solve that puzzle.2021-05-2519 minThe Flame WithinDo the WorkWhat’s stopping you from getting better? Time, consistency and Effort. Keep putting in work, any progress2021-05-2321 minThe Flame WithinUnfuck your lifeYour life has purpose and meaning, fulfill it. “Man’s greatest burden is unfulfilled potential” ~ Dan Pena. Realize you don’t have to give into the life everyone expects you to live. Get your shit together and start moving forward before it’s to late.2021-03-2525 minThe Flame WithinStop putting people on a pedestalShe’s just like you. She wants sex, she puts her pants on the same way, she is just a woman. A different gender. While you can’t ignore gender difference, you can when it comes to putting people on a pedestal. No one is better than you, just different.2021-03-2417 minThe Flame WithinAlpha is a mindsetThe cry of the western man, “I wanna be more alpha.” It’s not completely what u think it is. Listen on.2021-03-1417 minThe Flame WithinBroken MenIt’s time to start living your life free from expectation of society, of others and start expecting “things” from yourself. Stop being “broken” and start living life on your terms.2021-03-1219 minThe Flame WithinGet on with it and WIN!All to many times we try a new thing then stop doing that thing or don’t do all of it because it’s hard, it’s this or it’s that. Stop quitting on yourself. Self transformation is not an all or nothing proposition but rather a process to gain all an leave nothing to chance. Commit to the process and go to war with yourself.2021-03-1115 minThe Flame WithinHistory - His/Story - YOUR Story. Rewrite it, gentleman.We only have so many days on this earth gentleman. Don’t wait another day in rewriting your story. Be the man you have always wanted to be now. Let’s get to work!2021-03-1018 minThe Flame WithinShe is not your mother eitherWhen your woman dries up, starts to resent you and becomes a raging lunatic, I might have the solution for you. Stop acting like her child.2021-03-0917 minThe Flame WithinYour wife is not your stylistStart dressing intentionally and cultivate your look and what you present to the world.2021-03-0923 minThe Flame WithinSelf-Discipline (redux)You aren’t winning and it’s because you lack the self-discipline to accomplish the things you set out to do. You don’t want to put in the time or effort into It and you just don’t want it badly enough.2021-03-0716 minThe Flame WithinJust f*cking lift.The one thing that stokes that masculine flame and is a core tenant of being a man is lifting. Just go LIFT!!2021-03-0623 minThe Flame WithinSingle Moms and the peanut butter mentality.All women are like that, right? Wrong. This piece isn’t in defense of single women, or maybe it is but there is a mentality that single moms are poison. They aren’t. They are people who either made a bad decision, had something horrible happen or got out of a bad situation. Never had any of those happen to you? Not suggesting you settle on something you don’t want just some things to consider when it comes to single moms.2021-03-0617 minThe Flame WithinBlood is NOT thicker than water“The Blood of the Covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.” has been bastardized and twisted and used as a way to manipulate by your “family.”2021-03-0615 minThe Flame WithinToxicity in your life...Hard thing to let people go but it’s your life and you have to do what’s best for you. Releasing toxic energy from your life is a freeing experience and one of the best things you can do for the new you.2021-03-0415 minThe Flame WithinNot giving a f*ck is a super power.The title says it all.2021-03-0414 minThe Flame WithinValidation and youConfidence - Self Respect - Self Worth These are the cornerstones of of not seeking validation from the outside world. Validation comes from within because you believe in you and aren’t worried what the outside world thinks. It comes from putting in reps and putting in work into your belief systems.2021-02-2617 minThe Flame WithinHonesty, self-accountability and self disciplineBeing honest with yourself, holding your self accountable and starting to build your self-discipline muscle are the keys to your new kingdom, gentleman.2021-02-1912 minThe Flame WithinSeriously, shut the f*ck up.Stop the validation seeking behaviors. Do what you need to do and stop talking about it.2021-02-1611 minThe Flame WithinWalking on Egg ShellsIf you’re having trouble in your relationship you’re probably going about “winning” her back all wrong. You don’t win her back, you make yourself better. Win her or lose her, you win.2021-02-1419 minThe Flame WithinStop stepping on your own dick.Men need action, not words. Shut the f*ck up more and start getting your life back by acting.2021-02-1241 minThe Flame WithinOwn your shit, Men.The Flame Within you is there. It may be dimly lit, but it is there. If you’re a man, you were born with it. Let’s throw some gas on it and turn it into a raging inferno.2021-02-1220 minThe Flame WithinThe Flame Within (Trailer)2021-02-1100 min