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Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 199 - THE ENNEAGRAM INSTINCTS OF CHAKRAS - DAVIDXKRISTENSpecial episode with DG and Kristen of the Sinsomnia podcast on the instincts in chakras. Link for the Chakra/Instinct Correlation Diagram to follow along in our conversation: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1RBqzLoZ5X0JEqE_LlVlYVqOkzg61bL-c/view?usp=sharing
—(1:27) - The archetypal sexual instinct; destruction and creation
—(6:05) - Self-Preservation concretizing out of fear, the shadow side of the sexual instinct in war
—(9:09) - The 7 chakras and their overlap with the enneagram instinctual stackings
—(17:11) - The significance in the numbers of leaves on the chakra lotus'
—(24:42) - Tracking the instincts through the center...
2025-01-131h 02
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 198 - 2024 END OF YEAR WRAP PARTYJoin us with libations and preferred substances as we look back on the beautiful dumpster fire that was 2024.
—(1:27) 4-wings episode postpartum
—(9:39) “This podcast used to be good”
—(14:48) More Alexandra vs Emeka shit talk
—(21:28) Welcome to our end of year 5 drunk pod
—(24:10) What we’ve contributed to the enneagram
—(29:30) Embodying real spirituality
—(35:20) 2024 highlights - Akashic Records
—(39:58) Instinct zone stems
—(43:05) The heart center and 3w2 vs 3w4
—(1:02:10) Josh’s object relations theory
—(1:09:36) ChatGPT can’t mimic DG’s writing style
—(1:14:44) The dream girls and kung-fu / Unshaming the types with Kristen
—(1:24:39) Withdrawn...
2025-01-042h 58
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 197 - WE GIVE YOU 4-WINGSAfter an unfathomable delay we’ve returned to the wings series.
**send in your questions and comments for episode #200 bonanza**
—(1:27) Alexandra gaslighting us about why she gave up on the wing series
—(12:25) 4-wings intro
—(17:53) 9 vs 4 differences / 4’s off-putting emotional aggression
—(23:17) The ambient emotional friction of 4 / frustrated reactivity as a self-protecting boundary
—(29:05) 4w3’s formed self-identity vs 4w5’s formless god particle
—(34:14) 4w5 being in the dark about itself
—(38:33) 4w3 representing something beyond the map
—(42:29) 4w3 refining personal subjective taste into a unique ‘thing’
—(49:09) 4w3 vs 4w5 in interviews / the self-contained rejection off...
2024-12-281h 32
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 196 - ESOTERIC STAR WARS [PART II]: THE PATH OF PRINCESS LEIA - JOHNXKRISTENContinuing where we left off with John and Kristen of the Sinsomnia podcast on the archetypal feminine/masculine myths in Star Wars.
**start sending in your questions and comments for episode #200**
—(1:27) Couples that look like siblings
—(5:50) The different splits in masculine/feminine psyche
—(8:06) Social shadow work to understand sexual instinct/individuation
—(9:52) Seeing masculine/feminine as energies rather than compartmentalized roles
—(13:53) Anger’s role in the sexual instinct
—(16:38) The idea of integration, holding the tension
—(18:15) Being able to stretch and expand creatively
—(19:14) Mother projections, living in paradox
—(24:33) A neutralizing force versus an activ...
2024-12-171h 19
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 195 - ESOTERIC STAR WARS: THE PATH OF PRINCESS LEIA [PART I] - JOHNXKRISTENSpecial episode with John and Kristen of the Sinsomnia podcast on the archetypal feminine/masculine myths in Star Wars.
**start sending in your questions and comments for episode #200**
— (1:27) Plugs
— (5:53) Salome & Star Wars intro
— (7:00) Conditions of existence, Masculine/Feminine, and the third force
— (10:38) John sets the Star Wars stage
— (12:53) A New Hope: Princess Leia Loses It All
— (19:58) Empire Strikes Back: Introducing Eros
— (23:05) Return of the Jedi: The Metal Bikini
— (27:28) The power fantasy, fathers/sons, and male expectations
— (32:00) Kristen zooms out with the Star Wars mythology
— (34:52) A glimpse of the feminine journey
2024-12-091h 31
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 194 - BALTASAR EBANGS A LOTDiving into the shadow sex scandal putting equatorial guinea on the map.
— (1:27) New formats for the pod / send in questions for episode #200
— (5:15) The African gov’t official sex tapes scandal
— (12:51) He’s a smooth criminal 9
— (27:09) Sexual blind conservatism in African culture
— (36:26) Freakoffs is the douchiest DJ name / sexual narcissism
— (40:15) Dispersed mass triangulation in 9s
— (46:43) 3w2 DJ roast segment
— (56:37) The delusions we create and uphold to avoid reality / attachment nostalgia
— (1:11:17) Knowing the monster within
— (1:15:55) Maladaptive self-subversion and sx instinct edge-seeking
— (1:21:19) Big Hormone SP segment
— (1:29:55) The orange man is 2-1 Social
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2024-11-141h 34
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 193 - CONTRASYNS— (1:27) The Big Hormone Self-Pres podcast
— (3:37) Psychedelics as anti-depressants (correction: serotonin is a neurotransmitter not a hormone)
— (11:26) COVID stories and launching the pod
— (16:31) The great disillusionment
— (19:51) Trump and elon dork
— (21:52) Synflow vs contraflow in autonomy conflicts
— (33:30) Getting back into the wing series / 3w2vs3w4
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The Pain of the Blindspot seminar with John & Alexandra
https://www.theenneagramschool.com/painoftheblindspot
Find out what flavor of toxic you are 9w19w88w99w81w99w89w16w76w79w19w86...
2024-10-1738 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 192 - a near death experience— (1:27) the john stream from the void
— (5:22) consciousness experiencing itself and letting go
— (8:45) complicated relationship to brotherhood
— (18:10) a zone is always happening
— (22:08) energy around male connection
— (35:10) self-pres nerd out
— (40:52) bhe guide to crashing out / menendez brothers parent killing
— (45:55) zone stem updates and diddy freakoffs
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The Pain of the Blindspot seminar with John & Alexandra
https://www.theenneagramschool.com/painoftheblindspot
Find out what flavor of toxic you are 9w19w88w99w81w99w89w16w76w79w19w86w...
2024-10-0150 min
How To Avoid Moving To Mars - The David Hill PodcastEpisode 14 - David GrayIn this episode of ‘How to Avoid Moving to Mars’, David Hill speaks with international music icon David Gray, exploring the connection between music and nature, and discussing how a Christmas gift led to him becoming patron of the conservation charity Curlew Action.
2024-09-1846 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 191 - INSTINCT ZONE LOREwhat it do babyyy:
https://www.enneagrammer.com/instinct-zones
— (1:27) We watched Bone Tomahawk
— (5:06) Instinct Zone updates / Emeka’s 1-3 flame burnout
— (10:09) The Play Zones and nailing down long term relationship
— (15:23) Stackings within the stackings made a comeback / syn vs contra zone stems
— (22:05) The weirdness of 3-1 fetish
— (24:20) 3-2 containment and ‘health’
— (28:23) What’s SX2-3 really about?
— (36:31) Stacking vs Zone Stems
— (43:28) Reptilian SP3-1
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2024-09-1547 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 190 - ZEZONE EXTERRASSpilling more instinct zone insights:
https://www.enneagrammer.com/instinct-zones
— (1:27) souuuunddd check
— (4:18) Instinct Zone updates and DG’s SX2-3 game
— (9:43) SX2 game vs SX1 froth
— (14:44) SX3-2 and John’s meats sexual bias
— (19:08) Emeka SX3-1 feeding the fetish
— (23:12) John’s autonomy conflicts and the zones
— (27:08) Renewing the spark in Zone 1
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John and Alexandra sexual instinct zoom course via https://www.theenneagramschool.com/sexual-instinct-class
The Pain of the Blindspot seminar with John & A...
2024-08-3133 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 189 - INSTINCT ZONE STEMSNew juice to wet your beaks. To follow along check out the intro blogs and videos here:
https://www.enneagrammer.com/instinct-zones
— (3:29) What are the instinct zone stems?
— (9:51) Why Alexandra feels like others are doing social wrong / SO2-1 the gossip flake
— (13:48) The Social Zones
— (16:54) DG’s social zone 1 provocations
— (27:22) John’s SO2-3 A-list player influencer vs Emeka’s SO3-2 group container
— (31:15) Alexandra’s SO2-1 sensitivity to social chemistry
— (34:05) Emeka’s impractical SP1-2
— (38:10) The Self-pres Zones
— (41:26) DG and Alexandra’s SP3-2 cozey uniform
— (54:45) Sexual zones / Je...
2024-08-221h 27
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 188 - CHANNELING THE AKASHIC RECORDS - Valeria KechichianValeria, our akashic channel, is here to talk about channeling.
To get your akashic reading with Valeria DM her on IG:
https://www.instagram.com/valeriakechichian
— (7:55) Welcome Valeria
— (12:34) What is channeling?
— (17:22) Importance of channels being clean vessels / perceiving things with neutrality and no judgement
— (32:59) The enneagram was channeled by Ichazo / the enneagram symbol is sacred geometery
— (35:32) How does the openness of the recipient affect the channeling session?
— (40:29) Groups and couples akashic readings
— (50:55) What does channeling feel like? Paranormal experiences
— (1:00:31) The energetic resonance of holy sites
— (1:07:18) The rays of light
— (1...
2024-07-131h 35
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 187 - THE AKASHIC RECORDS - IKRAMFull on mystical woo.
To book your akashic reading with Valeria DM her on IG:
https://www.instagram.com/valeriakechichian
— (3:29) What are the akashic records? and what’s a reading like?
— (11:49) DG’s a russian doll earth man
— (20:35) Alexandra’s a forest fairy warrior
— (37:45) John’s a player of dark entities
— (53:45) Emeka’s a grounding fusion of raw instinct
— (1:08:54) Ikram’s a golden angel channeler
John and Alexandra are teaching a sexual instinct zoom course this summer starting 7/30 via theenneagramschool.com
Finally figure out what type of toxic you are with Enn...
2024-06-131h 20
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 186 - FUZZCITYROADGot your head on a swivel.
— (1:27) How major the Bermuda Overlays are
— (4:23) No Diddy and creepy 3w2s
— (8:16) Why do people hate Teal Swan so much? / BHE Suicide Hotline
— (16:46) DG’s metallurgy analogy for how a wing transforms a fix
— (23:22) Are the attachment wings harder to see?
— (25:47) What if 9w8 is the most common 9?
— (29:36) Gut is king / 8 chaos vs 1 order
— (43:52) Bermuda hiddenness and discovering their particular specificities
— (52:32) The sensitivity of the human nervous system is the starting point
— (55:01) Bermudas ‘going fuzzy’ is a wide cast net as a platform to show up in
2024-05-281h 00
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 185 - SEVENTYSEVEN FUSSTRATIONS - IKRAMPsychedelic 7 frustration with Ikram.
— (4:00) The overwhelming depths of 7 disappointment and self-hatred / giving yourself what you didn’t get in childhood
— (9:50) The psychic aural fixation of 7
— (13:35) Frustration as the engine to go out into the world / constant bust-boom cycle
— (17:03) 7s walking a tight wire with lines to competency and reactive types on either side
— (20:10) 7 is fighting for creative imagination / the addiction to movement
— (25:25) 4 vs 7 frustration
— (31:08) The unconditional positive self-regard of 7 has a shadow of deep self-hatred
— (36:33) Releasing importance and savoring the moment takes the edge off endless disappointment / offering something at 5
— (48:55) The im...
2024-05-161h 10
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 184 - #nota4 fusstrationContinuing our series on frustration and type 4.
— (2:23) 3w2 interpersonal availability / we’re reacting to 3w2 not bashing it
— (9:17) Aesthetic preferences for 4 as an expression of hidden personal selfhood
— (14:40) 4 staying in the realm where things can only be seen in the dark
— (18:12) The role of 4 for the collective heart in giving voice to personal brokenness and hell
— (21:48) Rejection types setting the scene before getting personal
— (25:21) The vast differences of Bermuda overlays
— (29:45) To lead with frustration risks pain and disappointment
— (33:45) What shame really means / why people start thinking they’re a 4 / beauty and art in 4ness
...
2024-05-081h 11
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 183 - #FFFUSTRATIONNN cuts and slicesit’s the spice of life.
— (1:25) Frustration is the aesthetic of each center
— (6:10) Frustration as the basis of human suffering and expression of personality
— (7:56) Bermuda Overlays and frustration as personalized flavor / rejection as the elemental substrate of each center
— (14:25) Frustration doesn’t give up on their needs but unwilling to work with how to get its needs met / the knot of not having
— (16:58) Rejection cut off vs frustration in relationships
— (24:13) Everyone’s shitting on the thing they most want
— (31:57) Rejection and attachment both have a self-erasing quality / ‘attachment as exposition, frustration as rising action, rejec...
2024-04-271h 09
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 182 - AN INNER JOURNEY TO EGYPTAlejohndra are back with tales of their Egypt trip.
— (1:25) John and Alexandra recap their retreat to Egypt
— (9:05) What about the aliens? / the construction of the pyramids had to be an exercise in presence and intention
— (16:23) The femininity of Egypt
— (21:04) Egypt peaked early and then fell off hard
— (31:06) Special John the mystical guide / the inner quality of the group
— (37:50) The descent down into the deep chambers
— (45:22) The acoustics of the pyramids
— (52:55) A sacred culture that honors the divine and human animal nature
— (58:48) Egypt activates something in you that values the sacred
— (1:13:0...
2024-04-111h 19
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 181 - 333w222vs333w444 - JOSHXLOUISIn this episode of WILTBY Josh interviews Louis.
— (4:50) Josh processing his 2-wing and meeting Louis at the zone / the team love vs team truth confrontation
— (11:45) 3w2 facilitating and orchestrating connection vs 3w4 distant excellence
— (16:35) The philosophy of truth vs love in psychotherapy
— (20:49) Carl Rogers unconditional positive regard
— (29:30) What Josh finds annoying about 4 skepticism of love and connection
— (33:39) Louis’ identification with predator swag
— (42:24) 3w2 vs 3w4 in a team scenario / team vs self orientation
— (48:31) How Josh realized he had a 2-wing / Louis’ social mode of separateness and why he became a therapist
— (57:41...
2024-04-021h 35
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 180 - POOR THINGS - Al & IkramWe watched Poor things right before recording our impressions and thoughts. Call the nota4 hotline at (323) 696-0647.
— (2:40) Overview of Poor Things and its ode to the head center
— (8:40) The surgeon is a 5
— (13:22) 6 reactivity leveling the playing field with negativity
— (16:30) hexad vs attachment response to suffering in the world
— (23:45) The artifice of polite adulthood as a hindrance to growth
— (30:52) The necessity of conveying complex ideas and orientation through symbol
— (36:31) Bella developed so quickly because of her hunger for experiences like a child who views enjoyment as a necessity
— (49:34) Social hexad vs attachment orient...
2024-03-241h 07
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 179 - FORBIDDEN TIPS AND TRICKS 1 - DGXSTJThey don’t want you to know.
— (3:10) Nines are everyone’s least favorite mud cattle
— (6:38) Sixes are annoying cult maintainers
— (11:13) Sevens are the slutty surprise suicide
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2024-03-1816 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 178 - THE DOGVILLE PRINCIPLE - IKRAMA must-watch for every 9 and 9-fixer. Watch Dogville and then come back to this.
— (8:42) Why we’re talking about Dogville / Plot overview
— (19:53) The hope of attachment vs the leverage of rejection
— (24:30) How things went from bad to worse
— (30:04) The arrogance of 9
— (37:32) Grace confronted by the Dogville principle
— (47:14) Grace representing the unprotected innocence of the body center
— (53:00) The 8 tenet of first protecting your self and life force
— (1:03:39) Why Dogville is a must watch for 9s and 9-fixers
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2024-03-061h 16
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 177 - [LIVE POD] HARLEM HEARTSLive from Harlem tunneling thru the catacombs of the heart.
Watch here: https://youtu.be/tnkHm0LCX_c
— (2:18) Alright.. the heart center live
— (6:45) The value of shame / heart-2nd impresisons
— (13:15) Josh’s core 3 image and sensitivity to self-abandonment
— (16:07) Decoupling emotion from the feeling of the heart center
— (20:40) Shame shame shame
— (30:05) The developmental view of the centers / the moment to moment self vs the fixed self
— (35:25) “I’m this type of person now” / your identity is what you pay attention to and care about
— (43:37) 3 image adaptability vs 4 image rigidity / the freedom and fluidity of i...
2024-02-131h 10
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 176 - THE LAST HEARTNew insights emerging on having your heart center last.
— (4:22) Alexandra’s new insights about heart-last and image being a cultivated sense of identity
— (12:27) Being a social-blind image type / reinforcing who you are to yourself
— (16:28) Painting your self-portrait and updating how things reflect on you
— (23:18) Aesthetic of personality and unearthing an ocean of values
— (26:08) What does neglecting the heart center cost you?
— (33:02) Heart last and 4 fix reflex to wince away from being seen
— (39:00) Heart lasts underestimate how what they’re doing will cause them to feel shame
— (44:33) Events of the world as heart-last phenomen...
2024-01-291h 03
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 175 - why so reactive ???We’re back at it looking at reactive harmonics.
— (3:22) Reactive vs frustration / harmonics is how we resolve a situation
— (7:16) ‘Hopeful’ better describes what positive outlook is up to / reactive aims to uncover where the other is located under duress
— (9:51) Katt Williams and 6 exposing the worst case scenario
— (12:34) 4/6/8 testing to see if you can hang with negative realness
— (19:54) Reactive types are provoking the authenticity of each center
— (26:09) 4 vs 8 purging poison and creating space
— (32:35) The audacity of hope for positive types
— (40:35) Do we need a better name for reactive?
— (48:56) 6 is the most psycho reactive type...
2024-01-191h 09
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 174 - 2023 END OF YEAR WRAP PARTYLooking back on 2023 with libations. Happy new year you filthy animals.
— (2:20) Our impressions of BHE year IV / shifts in the business of the enneagram
— (8:31) Why interest in the enneagram is taking a dip
— (14:27) Do people know about BHE or nah
— (20:06) Enneagram reddit thinks Naranjo is the truth
— (27:31) Highlights of 2023 episodes / the zones and the 7
— (38:39) Social pain and the attachment support groups
— (43:00) Frustration underlines the suffering of the personality
— (49:41) Plans for 2024
— (59:20) Love is in the air / beauty to scary ratio
— (1:01:52) The return of trump
— (1:13:25) Igbo spirituality market days
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2024-01-041h 21
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 173 - BIG WINTER FLICKSChatting the enneagram in the movies.
— (2:48) Non-romantic sexual instinct in Suspiria / sx-middle teases / Twin Peaks’ weird sp/sx
— (10:32) Holy Mountain and Enter the Void as sexual instinct movies
— (14:39) Paul Thomas Anderson and attachment stories
— (16:38) How rare sexual is in the stacking / most movies are sp/so / Ari Aster makes deranged sp/so movies
— (21:08) Get Out and Parasite as so/sp / what social type movies focus on / 10 reasons why Wes Anderson sucks
— (32:52) Passages sx/so 6 attachment madness
— (44:39) The Assistant sp/so bermuda hell
— (49:23) 8 directors / Possessor and hexad with attachment fixes / Tyler Perry’s a 2 direct...
2023-12-171h 16
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 172 - ASTROCARTOGRAPHY - ODINAKAOd’s with us this week to dive into the interesting world of astrocartography.
— (10:12) What is astrocartography and how’d we get into this?
— (16:08) Moving to significant areas on your astro map
— (21:17) How to create your astrocartography map / what the circles on the map mean
— (25:25) John’s lines confirm his love affair with Egypt
— (29:04) DG’s meetings with dark men and misadventures in Africa
— (34:02) Alexandra’s lines and the birthplace of her love
— (38:12) And reconnecting with her spanish roots
— (44:57) How far away is too far from a line?
— (49:00) What it means when your sun line...
2023-12-041h 13
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 171 - PART2.OPS SOCIAL ROLES - IKRAMContinuing where we left off with Ikram and the Objective Personality Social Types. We’ve been typed #3 for DG, Alexandra, and John. #2 for Emeka. #4 for Ikram.
— (6:16) The sp/so framing of the social roles concept makes it smaller / does social roles have any implications for the sexual instinct?
— (8:40) Emeka vs John sx/sp with responsibility vs specialization
— (11:43) Flex masculine identity vs Friends feminine identity
— (18:23) Specialization and responsibility minimize personhood in lieu of what i’m doing
— (20:40) Responsibility-specialization tidal waves
— (34:01) What is responsibility vs specialization
— (40:35) Sexaul display as a Social Role 1 and 4
— (50:48) What...
2023-11-2359 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 170 - OPS SOCIAL ROLES - IKRAMWe’re talking about the Objective Personality Social Types this week with Ikram. We’ve been typed #3 for DG, Alexandra, and John. #2 for Emeka. #4 for Ikram.
— (7:55) *Gasp* John is taking responsibility / intro to OPS social roles
— (14:18) What does flex mean?
— (20:03) Flex vs friends
— (27:39) Friend saviors get their flex through connections with people / Flex alienates friends
— (31:44) Distribution of social roles / Jesus is a #1?
— (34:01) What is responsibility vs specialization
— (40:01) How specialization last shows in Emeka
— (43:38) Your social role is the position you take in a social dynamic
— (45:36) Flex last for Ikram / Flex last doesn’t mean...
2023-11-151h 24
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 169 - [LIVE POD] GOATS AND MODELS IN THE BACKROOMSLive from Brooklyn backrooms answering your questions.
Watch here: https://youtu.be/WlHQcWEglks
— (2:32) How important is trifix order?
— (12:10) What feels like boring chores to the sexual instinct?
— (17:31) How DG experiences his lines of connection as a 9 with no attachment fixes
— (25:26) What cakes would each of us bake?
— (30:13) How to rizz up the 3-7 stem?
— (36:56) What are the holy ideas and higher centers?
— (45:10) Insights from the baaaack roooommms - attachment is the seed for object relations
— (52:39) Is so/sx what is represented on all the memes on extraversion?
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2023-11-0559 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 168 - THE SHAMEThe wet heart types. Live pod this weekend. Be on the lookout for details.
— (4:35) Assertive hexad types being out of touch with their shame
— (6:26) Shame is not a great word for what the heart types are experiencing / identity needing to feel special
— (12:57) Heart types needing to reinforcing pictures to feel a felt sense of specialness
— (15:17) Confusing heart type shame with feeling ashamed / shame is the emotion of being out of alignment with value
— (25:30) 4 and 4-fix shame
— (34:37) Denigration and disgust is the 4 fix reaction to shame
— (42:41) 3 and 3-fix shame / being a 3 is like climbing...
2023-10-171h 15
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 167 - THE RAGEThe fuming and stewing gut types.
— (4:03) Alexandra wants to be led when she’s in the mood
— (9:05) David is very angry at the sun
— (16:49) And the plague of bread people
— (20:35) Alexandra finally admits she has a rage problem
— (30:30) Emeka’s rage is the fuel that keeps the car running people over
— (34:25) 8 vs 1 fix anger and boundaries / the games begin once the 8 lets you in
— (42:41) 4s and 8s are drama queen inversions of each other
— (45:59) The cutting denigrating rage of 1s
— (50:02) 1s think they know the one best way to do everything
T...
2023-10-0256 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 166 - THE FEARDelving into the fear and anxiety of the head types.
— (3:57) 5 fear of being contaminated
— (10:40) Avarice is a sense that personhood isn’t robust enough to be fully exposed in the world
— (11:30) The 8 line to 5 and the 2 line to 8
— (16:30) Ways to work on 5 avarice
— (19:18) 5 fear as one way endless monologues
— (24:17) How Emeka and John experience 5 fix fear
— (33:52) 6 fear of fear itself
— (37:02) 6 considering all possibilities / fear disguised as responsibility and logic
— (46:48) 6 preemptive call outs and self-deprecation / the essence quality of 6 is to be the universe’s eye
— (50:33) 5 subjectivity vs 6 objectivity
— (57:37) Toxic 7 fe...
2023-09-261h 18
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 165 - S O C I A L Instincity— (8:25) Riffing on new terms for social / resonance and frequency
— (15:08) Social as a 3D matrix / What is the big deal with what social types are looking for?
— (20:15) We feel social chemistry with those who we feel regulated by
— (23:17) Social boners and turn ons / the sensation of social in the body
— (26:42) Social-blinds aren’t updating social impressions as the connection evolves
— (30:03) Do the social-blinds confuse sexual attraction with socal attraction?
— (39:52) How do the social-blinds recognize when they’re being cared for or that they care?
— (48:03) Social resonance is either there or it’s not
— (51:58) Are we n...
2023-09-171h 08
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 164 - ** FOURFOURSTRATION INTENSIFIES ** - JOHNXJOSEPHA sexual 4w5 and a social 4w3 walk into a bar.
— (4:21) Vulnerability and sensitivity as a 4
— (7:21) The difference between 9 sensitivity and 4 sensitivity
— (10:55) Type 4 is over-individuating to express singular identity
— (13:30) Joseph won’t laugh at your jokes / 4 image ego self-editing and controlling natural heart expression
— (16:37) John’s 4 frustration shows up in his romantic relationship and creativity
— (21:05) The crippling self-limiting image rigidity of 4
— (25:06) Joseph’s social 4 frustration and shame with social chemistry
— (29:57) Getting dumb and allowing humiliation as a pathway to loosening up 4 image rigidity
— (46:02) Feeling deficient about getting into the body
— (52:27) Getti...
2023-09-021h 08
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 163 - THE SP/SX & SX/SP ROASTATHON - Courtney Joseph & KristenA horde of social types attempt a roast of the social-blind legends.
— (7:55) Let the roasts begin
— (10:50) Creeps and Homewreckers
— (13:19) The limited personas and channels of engagement of social blinds
— (14:33) Joseph’s social 4 impressions of working with social blinds / social blinds being terrible judges of people
— (20:21) Podcasting in the dark vs the social of communicating and being perceived on video
— (29:36) Are the social types actually roasting the social-blinds? / social blind roasts sound like personal grievances
— (37:30) SX/SP’s annoying fixation on romantic relationships and inappropriate sexual heat
— (42:50) The social blind life or death objectifying...
2023-08-251h 35
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 162 - SOCIAL PAIN AND HEARTBREAKS - Ikram & KristenWe’re joined by two social types, Ikram & Kristen, to explore the pain and suffering of the social instinct.
— (12:33) Post-zone reflections on social pain and longing
— (16:44) Potential dangers in social space
— (22:48) The naivety of social-blinds with the social game
— (26:50) Why people tear others down to prop themselves up
— (29:47) Social is how we project our inner identities and shadows out into the world
— (36:18) Dysfunctional social sabotage and attachment dynamics
— (40:29) Our nervous systems are regulated by other people / the healing power of connection
— (49:30) Owning your own social danger and parasocial obsessions
— (1:08:33) Personal encounters...
2023-08-171h 40
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 161 - THE ATTACHMENT SUPPORT GROUP - Josh LavineIntroducing the attachment support group, brought to you by Alexandra and Josh.
— (12:36) Why do attachment types need support?
— (14:18) A brief overview on what attachment types are
— (20:17) What accountability means for attachment types / waking up from self-abandonment
— (29:00) Attaching vs preference / the gift of attachment is flexibility
— (33:52) The value of a group that facilitates self-seeing and self-holding
— (40:17) A space to witness and acknowledge grief
— (42:30) BHE is a hexad support group
— (48:58) The goal isn’t to become like hexad types
— (55:05) The format and bullet point topics for the classes
For more on the Attachmen...
2023-08-051h 08
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 160 - THE SO/SX & SX/SO ROASTATHONWe’re back roasting the crackhead and lovebomb babies of the enneagram.
— (22:17) Why do we call self-pres blinds babies? / Overly dependent on the attention of other people
— (26:24) Self-pres is self-regulation and self-containment. Not just paying your bills and taking care of yourself
— (29:54) Difficulty making long term choices / a blindspot for one’s limitations
— (34:18) Sp-blinds identifying with their capacity to be affected by others
— (37:30) Sp blinds still stuck in high school / connection and chemistry without animal reality
— (41:58) Slippery conversational amnesia
— (43:47) Hobosexuals and so/sx frivolous bling display / personality as a juicy social ornament
— (52...
2023-07-291h 11
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 159 - [LIVE POD] AN ORAL HISTORY OF BHE/EUWatch the live pod on youtube:
https://youtu.be/lhaDNCSuwW4
— (18:41) What we’ve contributed to the enneagram as a group
— (23:18) Josh leads us through piecing together the history of the group
— (37:44) DG’s instinct cards and the birth of the collage exercise
— (44:34) How Alexandra found the group and typing meltdowns
— (53:51) Courtney finding the group and her object relations contributions
— (59:12) How COVID led to the first zone and John met Alexandra
— (1:04:48) How did Josh find the group and began creating with the enneagram?
— (1:22:33) How Alexandra came to join the pod?
— (1:33:20) How t...
2023-07-211h 49
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 158 - THE INSTINCT STACKING ROASTATHON - SP/SO & SO/SP— (10:40) Welcome to our roast of the sx-blinds
— (15:52) so/sp are way too serious and stuck-up about relational categories and context
— (21:40) so/sp’s do it with their gloves on in the museum
— (25:57) The power drive of so/sp / lineage and geneology?!
— (30:35) What we like about so/sp reluctantly
— (37:38) The roast of sp/so begins - the fixation on stuff
— (43:52) sp/so collectors and hoarders
— (49:30) sp/so’s killing the vibe with their day to day minutia and gross body stuff
— (1:03:16) What we like about sp/so
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram rea...
2023-07-021h 14
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 157 - THE CATFISH ABYSS— (6:30) Peering into the catfish void and the starvation of connection
— (13:10) The failure of social in the west and the nuclear family / catfish as an internet age phenomenon
— (19:50) Soft white underbelly and the horrors that arise from a lack of community
— (23:42) What’s in it for the catfisher?
— (27:13) We’re all catfishing a little bit out of fear of rejection
— (31:15) The thirst to reveal ourselves to someone and falling in love with AI
— (33:18) Our wounds and missing pieces make us vulnerable
— (40:26) We’re doing an episode on the art of loving book
— (46:50) Akashic records and aliens...
2023-06-2351 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 156 - WE GIVE YOU 3-WINGSOur reluctant cult leader finally decided to pick up where she left off.
— (12:24) Alexandra’s intro to 3w2 vs 3w4
— (16:06) 3w4 self as exemplary object vs 3w2 self as interpersonal star
— (18:07) 3w4 bitchy frustration vs 3w2 schmoozy rejection
— (32:00) Are 3w2’s better manipulators than 3w4’s?
— (38:00) 3w2 vs 3w4 singers / which is more of a cameleon?
— (40:49) Positive vs reactive wing
— (46:58) Superego offerings of 3w2
— (49:24) What cringes Nancy out about other 3w4s
— (52:50) 3w2s ask better questions
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new website https://www.saturnr...
2023-06-1259 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 155 - THE LAST SHALL BE FIRST— (4:16) What it’s like to have frustration, rejection, or attachment last
— (14:26) Emeka’s rejection/frustration refined border freakouts
— (23:16) DG & Alexandra are rejection last ghostly 9s
— (25:22) John’s frustration/rejection locked down non-personhood
— (32:54) What 4s with more attachment are like
— (42:55) Attachment/rejection are stable negotiators
— (48:56) Gut lasts are unhinged
— (50:42) Head lasts are impulsive creatures
— (54:40) Heart lasts are dead inside
Support and fund the new illustrated trifix book project by DG and Kristen and get your copy before time runs out:
https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/inkstoryrebel/enneagram-trifix-book
Check out the SinSomnia pod...
2023-06-0258 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 154 - LOVELINE BLINDERS— (1:27) Am I just attracted to 9s because they’re soft?
— (12:41) ♫ The softest place on earth ♫
— (16:53) What do people like about hooking up with 8s or 1s?
— (25:33) How do I help my 7 process grief?
— (34:08) The fixated 9 crusade around healing
— (39:38) Why are people so obsessed with image when image types are so rare? / what’s it like to have each center last?
— (52:33) Center lasts and different O.R. last episodes coming soon
— (54:48) Important philosophical discussions on milfdom
Check out Julie’s fall retreat, Alive in Your Medicine, at riverbendcoaching.com
Support and fund the new i...
2023-05-261h 02
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 153 - S E X U A L instincity— (13:24) Noticing people from an attraction lens / sexual blind weird algebra
— (18:32) Trying to describe what attraction is without using social signifiers
— (25:09) The chemical infection of the sexual instinct and the drug analogy
— (28:03) What happens after the merging of sexual?
— (30:55) The mercurial growth element of sexual chemistry / sexual is seeking or creating polarities that remix boundaries
— (36:44) Gender neutrality vs polarity / Sexual is engaging the tension between various polarities
— (44:12) Disagreement and disruption as a form of sexual polarity
— (53:06) Your porn stash as a truth serum for your sexual instinct
Check out Julie’s fall retreat, Alive...
2023-05-171h 05
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 152 - SPRING HORMONES BE MOANINGSuper spreader hormoan instinct talks.
— (7:47) Nancy chimes in on instinct love languages and what men really want but won’t say they want
— (13:01) Sex work revealing missing needs and desires / strip club talk
— (20:28) What’s up with America’s hyper-sexuality vs sexual conservatism
— (25:52) Culture as an instinctual meme / Latin culture drawing from Aztec mythology culturally integrates more sexual instinct
— (29:06) Sex at Dawn and the creation of monogamy / the sexual threat of trans-racial mixing to culture, legacy and blood lines
— (42:32) Hookup chronicles and sp/so sexuality
Watch Nancy’s interview with Josh on What It’...
2023-05-0752 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 151 - INSTINCT RELIGION ＜=＞ LOVE LANGUAGESDearly beloved / we’re gathered here today / to love through this thing called instinct
— (2:59) We make our dominant instinct a religion / how we manipulate what love is through our dominant instinct
— (5:47) Integrating the social instinct’s verbal-contextual expressions of love / Alexandra’s ‘love cup’ religion propaganda
— (15:03) Zooming out and talking about the relationship meets non-negotiable needs of love / sp/sx wants a smaller and smaller intimacy cave
— (21:09) Overcoming the fear of the blindspot instinct / the analogy of social as light / ’socially slutty’
— (30:47) Social is seeing yourself as a three dimensional human. Personality and character traits, not jus...
2023-04-2458 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 150 - 2 lone swordsmen telling instinctstoriesDeserted by the others, the two lone swordsmen continued into the abyss of the unknown. With only memories of forgotten ancient texts to guide them. These are their stories.
— (5:25) The role of cultural differences in the expression of type / confrontational blunt 9s from other cultures
— (12:20) How our early life experiences and environment create an unexpected relationship with certain instincts / Emeka and food
— (22:01) Digging up John’s leftover concept of each instinct having a close vs distant optimal distance
— (28:28) The difference between 9s merging and sexual instinct merging / instinctual dynamics in relationships
— (36:45) Wild topic switch to so...
2023-04-171h 06
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 149 - 2.STOLEN YOUTHPart 2 baby.
— (1:39) The grounded reality of this cult vs the ridiculousness of Holy Hell
— (7:45) We’re all vulnerable to sources of idealized parenting
— (19:25) The school was for outcasts primed to fall for a parental manipulator
— (28:35) 9’s attaching to a story as a form of maintaining psychological comfort
— (31:34) We should watch Holy Hell and Wild Country
— (39:08) Applications to become part-time BHE slaves are now open
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Check out John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school. And sign up for thei...
2023-04-0947 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 148 - 1.STOLEN YOUTHWatch Stolen Youth on Hulu and get into this.
— (5:13) Larry is an 8w9 862 Wouldn’t Hurt a Fly
— (9:18) What’s so compelling about a type like Larry?
— (13:00) The government and military as social hooks used to manipulate victims
— (24:43) Setting an attachment landscape and opening the door for alternative realities with ‘taking responsibility’
— (29:53) 8’s leveraging victimhood and why Larry is sp/so
— (44:29) Shaping reality with relentless alternative memories / attachment as a survival strategy
— (48:39) The seductive pull of a being given a scapegoat for why your life sucks / rejection creating parental dynamics
Check out Alexandra’s...
2023-04-0353 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 147 - OPS INTERMISSIONCheck out our prior episodes on objective personality if you haven’t already. John - Ti/Se-CS/P(B) / Alexandra - Se/Fe-PB/S(C) / David - Te/Se-PC/S(B) / Emeka - Se/Te-PC/B(S).
Watch Stolen Youth on Hulu for next week.
— (5:59) 3 Playas vs John’s Play-last / What is Blast
— (10:28) Play is co-creative real time learning / PC vs PB
— (14:51) Blindspots and tidalwaves / Emeka’s Sleep-last
— (17:46) Alexandra and John’s Play vs Play-last relationship dynamic / Emeka’s Play and De as a reclusive 8 rejection type
— (21:00) Hopefully eventually the enneagram gets integrated into...
2023-03-2630 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 146 - II.SCRATCH MY SOUL::IntercourseCont’d.
— (6:02) This is now a 9 enabling self-pres podcast
— (11:26) Become a hope machine / lift some weights
— (18:14) We should do an episode on the self-pres love language
— (21:11) John’s sleep vs Emeka’s sleep last as recluse cavemen
— (26:29) Tackling big life topics through the lens of the enneagram / most relationship advice is missing the thing it most needs - the sexual instinct
— (31:15) Finding your attraction orientation apart from what’s generally accepted as attractive
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Check out John and Josh’s ne...
2023-03-1941 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 145 - SCRATCH MY SOUL::IntercourseWe’re talking about love, relationships, and sex again.
— (4:34) Friendship jealousy and what causes it
— (13:38) The tension between expecting too much from a romantic partner and not expecting much at all
— (17:05) Western isolation puts more pressure on romantic relationships
— (20:25) The need to be seen in a relationship and what it means
— (24:26) All About Love by bell hooks defines love as an action to prioritize the other’s well-being
— (32:06) We can only love or see an other to the degree that we can see and care for our own well-being
— (38:44) Putting yourself aside for an other...
2023-03-121h 05
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 144 - alexa, play the wingsplainers on shuffleRiffing and winging it.
— (4:25) Josh’s new object relational theory of the centers and the superego triad
— (10:20) The hornevians might explain why certain types are next to each other
— (11:18) 8w9 vs 8w7 centralized vs decentralized leverage
— (17:06) 1w9 vs 1w2
— (30:25) 4w5/5w4 ephemeral self-invention
— (44:00) The hell of the double hexad types
— (47:43) Plans for more soul intercourse episodes
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Check out John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school. And sign up for their first class — A Developmental View of...
2023-03-0652 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 143 - NO LOVE LOVELINEHaven’t done one of these in a while. Applications to join the cult of cream are open today.
— (10:32) Someone had a lot to be sorry for
— (11:28) Borderline personality disorder, suicide, and 4 / mental illness and enneagram types
— (18:08) Our body impressions of the heart types
— (26:07) Heart types are rare / why are most people 6 or 9 and why are 4s so rare?
— (35:37) We’re the most unsuccessful cult leaders and grifters in existence / 49 reasons to join Alexandra’s cult of cream
— (45:12) Object relational affect of the wings and how they work with the types that cross centers
...
2023-02-261h 05
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 142 - PART2.DREAMWORK Therapy Hang - Kristen OberlyPicking up where we left off with Nancy’s homecoming. Then onwards to David and Alexandra.
— (8:04) David’s shares a haunting dream he had after his mother’s death
— (17:03) Kristen probes David for more and interprets what be might represented
— (36:41) Alexandra shares a dream she had about bleeding middle fingers on subways
— (41:27) Kristen draws the connections between middle fingers and saturn; which is associated with austere standards and discernement
To book Kristen for a dream interpretation you can reach her at:https://www.inkstoryrebel.com/services-1
Check out Courtney’s enneagram offeri...
2023-02-201h 02
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 141 - DREAMWORK Therapy Hang - Kristen OberlyWe’re not crying you’re crying. Kristen is back to psychoanalyze our dreams and traumas. Starting with Nancy.
— (10:37) 9s sleeping all the damn time / hit up the Loveline if you’re an insomniac 9
— (15:38) Nancy tells us the story of her traumatic disaster move to the Netherlands
— (30:34) And how it directly relates to a juicy dream she had about a beheading
— (41:01) Kristen interprets the competency themes in Nancy’s dream
— (50:27) And being confronted with the feeling and disappointment of failure as a 3
To book Kristen for a dream interpretation you can reach her at:https...
2023-02-121h 00
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 140 - i n y o u r d r e a m s ( p a r t 2 ) - Kristen Oberly— (3:16) Nancy shares a dream with a recurring theme / what the unconscious is trying to tell us with a repeated dream
— (10:59) Compensatory dreams / John’s social last dreams and parasocial drama
— (23:32) Working with Kristen on dreams
— (31:39) Exploring how dreams are shaped by instincts
— (35:43) Alexandra’s persistent dreams about women
To book Kristen for a dream interpretation you can reach her at:https://www.inkstoryrebel.com/services-1
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new website saturnruled9.com
Check out John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school. And sign up for their first...
2023-02-0545 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 139 - in your dreams (part 1) - Kristen OberlyOur dreamlord Kristen is with us this week to discuss exploring the corridors of our nocturnal psychodramas.
— (9:48) How Kristen got into dream interpretation
— (14:52) Dreams are a way to open up a dialogue with your unconscious and push the ego off its pedestal
— (19:14) Collective projecting from a lack of a transcendent function
— (21:48) What does dreamwork add to understanding your enneagram type?
— (26:41) Every person or object in a dream is an aspect of yourself
— (28:13) Emeka’s psychic dreams and how those work / John’s mundane counter-4 dreams
— (37:55) The significance of recurring dreams
— (40:51) How Kristen stays gro...
2023-01-2950 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 138 - A NEW VARIANT OBJECT RELATIONS THEORY OF THE CENTERS - Josh LavineJosh is back to unveil his profound new model of the centers and object relations from a point of view of development. This is major.
— (13:30) Josh explains how his variant model of object relations and the centers came about / issues with the protecting and nurturing object relational framework
— (20:03) Ken Wilber’s holonic theory of consciousness and the centers as a sequence of development through sensation, gaze, and symbol
— (27:48) Object relational affects are oriented to the milieu of each center / frustrated, rejected, or attached to sensory impact, gaze & attention, or symbol & orientation
— (28:48) How this framework makes the c...
2023-01-211h 34
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 137 - 2022 YEAR END WRAP PARTYJoin us on our annual end of year drunk pod looking back on 2022’s ups and downs.
— (7:13) Parasocial discord and drawing lines in the sand
— (15:23) Looking back on the vibe of 2022 and the growth of the pod
— (23:38) The year of Emeka slowing down / DG’s hot nerd creative updates
— (32:44) Revisiting Alejohndra conscious sex talk and the sexual instinct
— (50:51) Nancy getting married and moving halfway across the globe
— (59:26) Favorite episodes and ideas for 2023
— (1:07:04) John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school
— (1:16:59) Play vs play last OPS talk
— (1:30:44) Last call for 2023 plans
Che...
2023-01-071h 42
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 136 - THE DEVELOPMENTAL ENNEAGRAM [PART II] - Josh LavinePicking up where we left off with Josh and Spiral Dynamics.
— (1:38) The conflict of what it means to help people with the enneagram from the worldviews of different stages of development
— (7:33) Yellow distinguishes between and integrates interior subjectivity and external objectivity
— (12:53) DG’s 7-fix ain’t got time for yellow
— (16:31) Yellow makes finer distinctions beyond Green’s assumption that everyone’s whole
— (20:43) The limitations of Yellow is the insistence that everyone can develop
— (25:57) Teal has an awareness of construct as a vantage point for meaning making
— (29:55) The way to develop is to reach the limits of y...
2023-01-0353 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 135 - THE DEVELOPMENTAL ENNEAGRAM [PART I] - Josh LavineBHE 135 - THE DEVELOPMENTAL ENNEAGRAM [PART I] - Josh Lavine
Josh of What It’s Like To Be You is hangin with us this week.
He broke down how the enneagram is missing and needs a developmental* model (*Not Riso’s Levels of Development)
— (14:44) Our understanding of the enneagram evolves with the development of an introspective eye
— (16:51) The ability to see oneself is a developmental achievement / words have different interpretations and meanings for each stage of development
— (19:50) Riso’s levels of development is a measure of identification and awakening. It’s not a vertical deve...
2022-12-2250 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 134 - THE 2 REJECTION EPISODE - Niklas WilkensNiklas joins us to dive more into the inner workings of our favorite type.
— (11:22) Niklas’ journey realizing and seeing his 2 rejection type structure
— (14:18) Emptiness is what ignites the 2’s rejection dynamic
— (17:38) The irritating penetration of 2 rejection / what’s behind the desperation of the possession dynamic
— (21:09) The all or nothing of rejection prevents seeing the dynamic / the instinctual blindspot as the gateway
— (27:54) The 2 and 8 oppositional relationship to life force / contending with the rejected shadow self
— (37:59) 2’s shutdown their autonomy to protect the relationship
— (41:43) The emotional landscape of 2 is tethered to the dynamic working with the other
2022-12-121h 18
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 133 - WE GIVE YOU 2-WINGS - AlexandraOur favorite type finally got winged.
— (1:27) How much does the center of the wing play a role?
— (22:21) Contrasting the attachment 3-wing vs the frustration 1-wing
— (27:12) 2w3 as a mouth and emoji queen
— (38:09) Justifying Pride with the double image of 2w3 vs the superego of 2w1 / the assertiveness of 2s
— (42:37) Ego boundaries of assertive, withdrawn, and superego types / why superego types can seem very assertive at times
— (46:59) How the wings support the emotional leverage of 2
— (51:27) Frustration as a singular ideal makes 2w1 far more specific in their offering and unadaptable
— (59:19) Your back pocket type...
2022-11-291h 13
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 132 - [LIVE POD] BROOKLYN BEDROOM EDITIONComing to you live from a brooklyn bedroom in the zone. A round the chat circle audience q&a pod. Watch the video pod here: https://youtu.be/cXMTPc5YIHo
— (1:27) Awkward soc-last attempts to kickstart the pod
— (9:50) How everyone got into the enneagram and what it has done for them?
— (11:58) Celia, a 6w5 middle manager, mistyped as an 8 before finding us
— (13:14) Sarah, a social 9 DJ, found the enneagram through evangelical christian content and mistyped as a 4
— (17:44) Kristen, a social 9 Bermuda, mistyped as a 5 before finding the pod and turning her life upside down
— (23:24...
2022-11-171h 07
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 131 - DAHMER’S A 9Happy Halloween. Send in your questions and topics for the upcoming live pod.
— (3:38) Dahmer as an attachment type and death obsessed soc-blind
— (10:49) The hot serial killer phenomenon / serial killers as an aesthetic
— (15:31) The disconnection from death in the west as a lived experience creates a shadow death obsession
— (25:44) The social and type dynamics that allowed Dahmer to get away with it for so long
— (26:22) Dahmer fandom and serial killer fixation as an example of our collective lack of relationship to death
— (34:41) Alcoholism as self-medication for loneliness and social isolation
— (43:17) We should explore how to ma...
2022-10-3159 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 130 - KALI IN THE HOUSE [PART II] - Julie HarrisPicking up where we left off with Julie of Riverbend Coaching and the archetypal feminine.
— (6:32) Julie starts us off with a short guided practice to bring us back into the space of the feminine
— (10:14) People are not in touch with their responses from the pelvis and genitals
— (12:10) The head center through the lens of the feminine
— (17:01) The panoramic vision of the feminine head center makes us aware of the whole and the emerging facets of the truth of what’s happening now
— (21:00) The multi-dimensional faceted learning approach we’ve brought to the enneagram has a feminine c...
2022-10-201h 17
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 129 - KALI IN THE HOUSE [PART I] - Julie HarrisJulie of Riverbend Coaching is here with us to explore the archetypal feminine.
— (6:48) Why and how Julie connected the archetypal feminine and the enneagram’s 3 centers
— (9:04) The feminine in the body center — sacred form / the fertile matrix
— (14:45) The feminine in nature is an uncontrollable force that gives life
— (15:24) Could the goddesses be connected to the types?
— (19:59) The patriarchy compartmentalizes and the goddesses can both be sexual and nurturing
— (21:21) Developing the feminine: Being more in your senses and open to the experience / welcome the shadow / don’t seek certainty or stasis
— (25:42) The patriarchy perpetuat...
2022-10-111h 10
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 128 - KILLING YOUR IDOLS - AlexandraYes, Dive in.
— (1:40) Sx types and Sx middles are most prone to delude themselves into thinking they’re going for what they’re passionate about or self-transforming
— (7:18) Social clout chasers with no genuine connection
— (8:51) The psychological penetration of sexual can be used to get cheap ego hits that avoids any risk and self-transformation
— (12:05) Discussions in John’s study group on using the instinct for ego vs using it to support the real needs of the body and inner life
— (14:32) It’s not just attachment types that get into relationships for the wrong reasons
— (20:04) You’...
2022-09-301h 27
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 127 - THE COURTNEY REJECTION EPISODE [PART II]Picking up where we left off with Courtney and rejection.
— (1:46) The protection from vulnerability and transactional nature of relationships is true for all of us / But it’s more true for rejection types
— (3:24) The different flavors of separateness and intensity of the rejection types
— (8:21) How John and Courtney experience rejection in relationships as frustration and attachment types
— (14:21) How rejection types can redefine their self-concept in less narrow terms by sensing the automatic wall in the body
— (20:20) How to distinguish the not there-ness of rejection vs the not being there of 9
— (23:20) Rejection type possession swe...
2022-09-2244 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 126 - THE COURTNEY REJECTION EPISODE [PART I]Courtney is with us this week to work her magic on rejection.
— (4:43) Courtney is here to bring the pain and hear rejection types suffer / What’s been opening up for Emeka?
— (8:49) How rejection types set the dynamic up so it doesn’t work — a pre-rejection frame
— (13:10) Courtney gives a recap/overview of object relations and why it matters
— (15:02) Our O.R. is a blueprint for how relationships need to be setup in order for us to feel like a person
— (16:24) What separates rejection from attachment & frustration is the cutting off from awareness of the original wou...
2022-09-1750 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 125 - REJECTION IS POSSESSIONWe’re bringing the pain to rejection types. How penetrating the other becomes the replacement for connection.
— (2:08) The penetration and leverage of rejection is a possession of the other
— (4:25) Riffing on what sexual 8 possession really means / all the rejection types are doing possession through their centers
— (11:06) Possessing the other becomes a replacement for the connection the rejection type assumes is not on the table
— (13:46) Callback to soul intercourse and how that had a parental rejection dynamic for Emeka
— (16:51) Rejection types are tracking how much it matters to you / tiers of penetration
— (20:36) Rejection types needing...
2022-09-081h 03
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 124 - WE GIVE YOU 1-WINGS - AlexandraOk, fine. Wings are back with Alexandra. For now.
— (1:47) Insights from Josh’s type 1 interview with Alex /Putting the gut back into the 1’s frustration
— (8:15) Burning frustration and 9 vs 4
— (20:48) 1s are very rare / the distribution of types we’ve typed
— (25:33) 1w9 keeps the ideal more in the abstract / 1w2 brings the ideal into people’s hearts and out into the world
— (30:39) 1w2 is more of the stereotypical ‘reformer’ than 1w9 because of the rejection and pride of 2
— (36:49) 1w2s are more singular in their motives, while 1w9s tap into the universal abstract of what the colle...
2022-08-311h 03
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 123 - REJECTION LETTER ＜ADDENDUM＞ - JosephWe’re continuing our discussions on rejection. This time with the Enneagrammer/DAA typing team riffing on some new insights.
— (6:22) Lever points and what being indispensable means to a rejection type / Joseph’s impression of feeling used by rejection types
— (9:47) Emeka’s analogy of rejection types as limited persons born with missing limbs
— (15:38) Frustration is in relation/reaction to an ideal, while rejection assumes a baseline of being cut off
— (17:35) Rejection types see their offerings as transactional resources and indispensable commodities
— (22:29) What’s necessary to get 8s is to understand how they control potent leverage po...
2022-08-251h 03
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 122 - THE MISSING PIECES [PART 2] - AlexandraWe’re back to explore more missing pieces blindspots. But first, Sophie joins us to discuss upcoming Fourth Way talks organized by her and John’s group.
— (29:43) Exploring various polarities and opposites
— (36:43) John’s body last vs Alexandra’s heart last
— (41:07) The difference between using a polarity to grow vs using someone to outsource the needs of a missing piece
— (47:34) You must identify and become aware of the polarities at work in you so you can integrate those blindspots rather than outsourcing them externally
— (51:38) Couples make unconscious agreements to maintain their opposite qualities to ensure they don’t...
2022-08-181h 11
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 121 - REJECTION LETTERWe’re penetrating the untouchables this week. Strap in for a meandering dive into what rejection types are really up to.
— (16:32) The rejection separateness in sexual 8 display /Rejection types having a fractional sense of personhood
— (20:52) The micro-disengagements of rejection types / the intellectual intensity of 5s
— (27:17) DG’s instinct overlap schema for each rejection type
— (30:17) The psychic structure of rejection is shaped by penetration / why 2’s heart penetration feels so potent
— (37:06) Self-pres independence vs rejection separateness / rejection dynamics in our families
— (46:42) The cutting off of rejection is a retroactive amputation
— (57:32) How micro-disengagement shows up in 2s
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2022-08-101h 26
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 120 - WE GIVE YOU 9-WINGS - AlexandraWings are back with Alexandra. This week, the wings at the crown.
— (11:44) Overview riffs on nine wings / 9w8 is meaty
— (18:01) The 8-wing gives 9w8 permission to be more dissociated and messy
— (28:13) 9w1 has tension giving itself permission to relax / sensitive refined relaxation
— (31:10) 9w1’s often mistype as 4 because of their frustrated refinement and fussiness
— (36:00) The archetypal role of 9w8 and how rejection reinforces their 9ness / 9w8s are not angrier than 9w1s
— (39:40) 9w1 tone police vs 9w8 cutting off
— (42:53) 1-wing is idealist and philosophical
— (46:54) How frustration and rejection facilitates attachment to discon...
2022-08-031h 16
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 119 - THE MISSING PIECESThe instinctual blindspot ain’t the only one you need to integrate. We explore how certain types, centers, and qualities that are missing in us become shadows.
— (6:42) How we’re attracted to those that embody typological qualities we’re missing
— (11:53) We’re drawn to and most affected by our last weakest center
— (15:40) Unaddressed blindspots become unconscious demons and quarter life - midlife crisis
— (23:40) Exploring the types that are missing for us / Emeka’s missing superego and 9
— (24:59) Nancy and DG are missing the rejection types 2/5/8
— (31:10) Extreme polarity is very attractive but unstable
— (35:56) What missing all the rej...
2022-07-2747 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 118 - [LIVE POD] Q&A/AMAWe haven’t deserted y’all. Coming live to you from Brooklyn, NY answering your AMA questions. And we’ve got a small live audience with us. Link to the live video on Youtube: https://youtu.be/plnJ9a1pFUA
— (8:30) We’re all mistyped
— (9:55) Yes, you’re the toxic one if your 9 has checked out
— (11:58) Self-pres 9s carrying the weight of the world
— (15:44) 9s being mean and dramatic but nice in different contexts
— (19:16) Hexad types with attachment fixes and vice versa
— (29:13) Josh and the What It’s Like To Be You pod / what it's like to interv...
2022-07-201h 03
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 117 - WE GIVE YOU 8-WINGS - AlexandraWe’re back at it again with wings, starting with the most lovable 8s.
— (18:14) Intro to the body center and its purpose
— (20:28) 8w9 is the godfather/godmother
— (27:30) 8w9’s attachment wing makes them more controlling and sensitive to disrespect
— (32:23) Positive types fuel the immovable ego agendas of 8 and 1 — destruction and order
— (35:31) The lovable perfection of 8w7
— (41:06) How to distinguish the idealization of 8w7’s frustation wing and 8w9’s positive attachment wing
— (48:23) The extreme lengths a 9 might go to not do anything
— (55:35) We’re doing a Q&A/AMA live pod next week / send in your...
2022-06-2458 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 116 - THE UPSIDE DOWN TRIANGLE / REFLECTIONS - AlexandraWe went off the deep end to explore the upside down hexagram triangle and David’s reflections between hexad and attachment.
— (12:08) Recapping what 3/6/9 represent for humanity vs the hexagram triangle
— (16:14) The hexagram triangle is the upside down of the 369 triangle
— (18:06) DG’s reflections and how the hexad types types are born of the attachment types (3>7/8, 6>1/2, 9>4/5)
— (26:33) The hexagram is out of sync with the cosmic flow
— (27:16) The line from 9 to the space between 4/5 is the everything to the nothing
— (30:04) John dives into the spheres of existence on the kabbalah / the tension between the everything and th...
2022-06-171h 00
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 115 - WE GIVE YOU WINGS [Part I] - AlexandraBirthday girl Alexandra CQ is here to bestow on us her insights on wings. Lots of food for thought.
— (5:23) Misconceptions about wings from various schools of the enneagram
— (9:00) Balanced wings aren’t a thing but you can sometimes access your other wing
— (10:38) 8w9s are more attached to the position of control than 8w7s
— (12:03) What happens with hexad types with attachment wings
— (14:30) 7w6’s attachment wing makes them more relatable and conservative / Both 7-wings are reactive types
— (19:53) Attachment types all have wings from different harmonics, while hexad type wings are of the same harmoni...
2022-06-0855 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 114 - you should learn how to type / but why - Joseph SimoneThe Enneagrammer team explores why learning how to type is a must.
— (5:00) Learning how to type is a requirement for applying the enneagram
— (9:14) ‘Only you can type yourself’, as if you’re conscious of your *unconscious* motivations
— (12:30) To use and apply the enneagram you have to first start with accurate observations of how it applies
— (16:34) Typing is a practice of observing distinctions snapping into place and forming 3D architecture
— (18:26) Use the inherent bias of your type’s lens to identify your own relationship to each type
— (22:49) Every description you’ve ever read is a work-in-progress s...
2022-05-2957 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 113 - LOVELINE // REBOUNDBouncing back into the swing of things with a light loveline.
— (1:27) Riffing on the spiritual role of the enneagram and inner work in society
— (9:06) New beginnings applying the discoveries from the last year
— (20:44) Can the enneagram be used widely long term as a developmental tool?
— (22:17) Reasons why it’s unlikely the enneagram undiluted will ever become a mainstream hit
— (24:36) Sherwin williams paint and the commercialization of the enneagram
— (28:55) How do we see someone relating to both hexad and attachment as a type 1? Can you be both?
— (33:23) Type 1s aren’t about being good as much...
2022-05-2249 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 112 - [LIVE POD] PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENTAllow us to reintroduce ourselves. Coming to you live from Nothingville, Virginia. For the first time, watch the video version of this episode on our youtube page: https://youtu.be/wk62CguaO8k
— (2:11) Our response to the responses to the Ian Cron Episode
— (7:25) Reintroducing ourselves as a group that’s both irreverent and centered on inner work
— (11:25) The approaches to inner work you prefer are a reflection of your type’s point of view
— (17:45) Our provocative style reflects our personalities and is a much needed contrast to the generally accepted beige enneagram culture
— (21:38) American entit...
2022-05-151h 09
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 111 - THE OBJECTIVE PERSONALITY DOWNLOAD [Part II] - Dave PowersWe’re picking up where we left off with Dave Powers of objectivepersonality.com, exploring similarities between OPS and the enneagram.
— (1:39) Function animals cont’d with John’s play last
— (6:57) How working on the last animal is similar to integrating the instinctual blindspot, and how to work on sleep and consume as last animals
— (15:47) How to work on the play and blast last animals
— (26:08) Consciousness as a collection of programs running us
— (33:08) Learning from experiences as we get older is how we develop beyond our worst patterns
— (37:28) Dave/Shan’s enneagram types and typing from diff...
2022-05-0159 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 110 - THE OBJECTIVE PERSONALITY DOWNLOAD [Part I] - Dave PowersDave Powers of objectivepersonality.com is with us to dive into what the OPS system has to offer and explore its inner work similarities with the enneagram.
— (5:49) Dave tells us the story of how Objective Personality got started
— (10:40) How mapping Jung’s 8 functions to Tony Robbin’s human needs gave birth to the OPS coins
— (19:32) Observers vs Decider talk and the life paths and issues either side creates
— (22:59) How to decipher if someone’s an observer or a decider
— (28:25) Comparing our experiences typing people and the drama that ensues
— (33:05) Blindspots are painful to address and are...
2022-04-231h 04
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 109 - THE IAN CRON EPISODEThis week we have on special guest Ian Cron, author of the Road Back To You. We’ve put aside our differences and tried to come to an understanding.
— (5:10) Introduction to Ian Cron and his work
— (8:49) Love and compassion are what makes us human
— (15:23) 4s are focused on the dark but are also envious of your happiness and light
— (22:44) We make amends for #nota4 and the emotional psychological trauma it has caused
— (28:66) The church has revolutionized the enneagram
— (33:69) The emptiness of our hearts have to be filled by his love
If you haven’t a...
2022-04-0230 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 108 - THE TINDER SWINDLER - AlexandraThis week Emeka and Alejohndra are discussing the Netflix doc, The Tinder Swindler. The rest of crew has been held hostage by our road back to you haters in Prague. Please paypal $500 to bhepodcast@gmail.com or David and Nancy will die. Love you babies forever.
— (7:58) Overview/Summary of the premise and why this story is compelling from the POV of the enneagram
— (13:29) Attachment is the fundamental O.R. structure for everyone and people don’t really connect with each other
— (15:28) 3s are mirroring back to you what you find valuable and crafting an emotional landscap...
2022-03-281h 05
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 107 - THE BERMUDA ZONE - Courtney & AlexandraNancy hosts a bangin attachment talk with Alexandra and Courtney. Some magic happened in this Bermuda Zone.
— (3:24) Contrasting and comparing attachment to disconnect experiences from the perspective of 3/6/9
— (10:38) 3&9 vs 6 differences on revealing their location
— (18:54) Round robin impressions of the other attachment types
— (21:18) What’s scary about 9 for 3&6
— (24:16) What’s scary about 3 for 6&9
— (30:02) What’s scary about 6 for 9&3
— (36:41) 6’s need to earn it and are committed to life being difficult
— (40:11) Courtney’s experiences as an attachment parent
— (44:10) Nancy recalls what it was like to be parented by a hexad vs an attachment parent
— (48...
2022-03-191h 34
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 106 - THE EGYPT EPISODEThe long awaited episode on John’s Egypt obsession is here. John has returned from the holy lands with much to share on the pyramids.
— (6:57) Why we should give a f**k about Egypt?
— (14:01) Egypt requires us to be present in all three centers
— (16:25) John Anthony West and the origins of symbolist egypt
— (21:42) Egyptians understood that the divine expressed itself with intentional metaphor
— (24:19) The law of 3 and inner work metaphor in Horus, Set, and Isis is at core of what Egypt represents
— (29:03) The Ennead of Heliopolis being a precursor to the origins of the enneagra...
2022-03-111h 11
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 083 - SP:x:HELL [FACE/OFF] - Nancy oxo DavidWe’re descending into the hell of the self-pres instinct with this face/off between Dominatrix Nancy and Cult Daddy David
— (5:20) The hellish fear vs the comfort stages of self-pres
— (9:09) The friction between the pursuit of money for a certain lifestyle and actually getting to live that lifestyle
— (11:11) Nancy’s cottage core bi-sexual farm lifestyle goal
— (19:37) Pushing the body to extremes is a self-pres high
— (24:46) Energy conservation and keeping the blinders on to get the goods
— (31:53) Creating a sense of home and why self-pres attachment types overwork
— (38:03) How capitalism and self-pres sustainability sha...
2021-08-1156 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 079 - HEXAD VS ATTACHMENT UNDRESSED [PART CONT’D]We’re back with new insights to share continuing our hexad vs attachment series.
— (1:26) Revisiting the curious case of David Gray and his hidden very weird attachment
— (9:09) Reviewing the last episode’s insights on the individuated vs attachment yes and no
— (12:40) The premature yes of attachment vs the premature no of rejection vs the ‘yes, but no’ of frustration
— (16:50) Emeka’s experience of the severing of rejection and ‘no’ as a baseline
— (21:47) Nancy’s reaction and how the grass isn’t greener on the hexad side
— (30:36) The latest on John’s book release and Courtney joining us n...
2021-07-1034 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 078 - 9X9 ATTACHMENT FACE/OFF - David oxo AlexandraWe’re continuing our explorations of attachment with a face/off between Cult Daddy David and Undignified CQ Alexandra. Venture into this double 9 labyrinth and you *might* emerge from the mist with insights from below and above attachment.
— (7:26) An examination of the internal yes/no tug of war from the perspective of attachment types
— (15:42) Ideas on how attachment types might find their location sooner rather than later
— (24:33) Alexandra and David’s complaints about hexad types
— (34:25) Differences between Alexandra and David’s attachment and How ‘familiar’ attachment showed up for David as a young f*ckboi
— (41:44...
2021-07-051h 07
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 072 - SOUL::INTERCOURSE [Part DG]: The Curious Case of David GrayWe getting all up in DG’s grille this week. What’s his deal with sexuality and relationships anyway?
— (2:32) David unpacks his significant age gap kink
— (7:01) DG’s childhood and how that influences how seriously he takes himself as a partner
— (14:03) The most intense soul level attraction DG ever experienced
— (22:06) Is this too spicy for this pod or even relevant to ‘soul intercourse’? [soc-lasts clumsily attempt to read the room]
— (30:18) How we’ve approached meeting the soulmate and David’s challenges with this idea as a 9
— (41:57) The insecurities of 9 and other attachment types getting in the way of lo...
2021-05-221h 06
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 001 - Introductions Galore: Our Enneagram Backgrounds and Typing Journeys, Why Typing Is ImportantWelcome to the genesis of Big Hormone Enneagram. Your hosts with the mostest are John Luckovich, Nancy Walter, David Gray, and Emeka Okorafor. In this episode you'll get to know us and hear how these 4 odd insurgents found their way to a thing called the Enneagram.
2020-01-061h 32