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The LEAD 360 Podcast with Anthony WaitePermission to Be You W/ Diane XuerebIn a world that attempts to force us to become something that we are not, many often find themselves living a life that is/was created for them rather than by them. Today's guest is Diane Xuereb. Diane is a coach who empowers women to live from their authentic selves and embrace the power that comes from within! Join us as we talk about the Permission to be You!
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Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebJamie Smart - Alcohol Saved My LifeIn this Episode
This was a very 'sober' conversation about Jamie's journey with alcohol addiction.
As the title of this episode states, alcohol was a lifesaver. I'm guessing that nobody would think that alcohol could save anyone's life.
I think, generally speaking, one would think that its quite the opposite, drinking destroys and can ultimately kill people.
However in this case Jamie goes as far as saying that it did save his life.
'I don't know what would have become of me'.
'When I was 12 years old I...2021-03-1230 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebLena Stoots - Survivor's GuiltIn this Episode
I was particularly struck by two things, the first being that even though Lena went through 32 rounds of radiation and 16 weeks of chemo, she did not give herself permission to rest or stop.
The second one is her resilience and I think I should use caps for that word because she had oodles of it. The beautiful thing about these very painful journeys is that we discover just how resilient we are.
In the initial stages of the diagnosis, her reasoning was let's get it over with. Let's get rid of...2021-03-0626 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebHannah Cremona - NepalIn this Episode
I was really excited to welcome Hannah as my guest. You can hear it in my voice as I introduced her.
I always wanted to have a fellow Malteser on my show and finally, it happened.
Hannah has a wonderful story to share, it's about her frustration with not listening to her childhood dreams of travelling to different countries to volunteer in organisations. She wanted to be exposed to other cultures and have different experiences in life.
Hannah was faced with the challenge of working in a family bus...2021-02-2625 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebLucy Sheffield - Blank Canvas In this Episode
What a heartwarming story, one that is very similar to mine. The challenges of coming out as a gay person.
PHEW!!!
It can be so difficult navigating life when it seems that the whole world is against you.
Lucy took off to Spain and thought that she would leave everything behind her. However, as we all know, wherever you go, your baggage goes with you.
There is no escaping it, no hiding it, no magic trick. It doesn't magically all go away.
Spain did help...2021-02-1937 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebElizabeth Lovius - WalkaboutIn this Episode
In this sparkly conversation, Elizabeth talks about her childhood and being doted on by her eight uncles and aunties.
In spite of having all that love she felt called, she had to go beyond the protection of her family to follow the calling. She knew that something 'truer' was beckoning, so she left Australia to visit the world. "At age 25 I left and I never lived in Australia again".
In that process, during that journey, she discovered something about being human. She discovered that two things are true, we are all...2021-02-1224 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebClaudia Sasse - Passport to SurrenderIn this Episode
This is a unique story about what a woman did when she and her husband decided to divorce. There was no question in her husband's mind, there was no option for him, the children would remain with him.
She talked about how she navigated her divorce and the fact that she had a big decision to make. Do I stay next to my children or do I follow my heart and my intuition?
Her story surprised me and it was the last thing I expected. I was brought up in a...2021-02-0540 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebJacquie Forde - ButterIn this Episode:
Jacquie was the middle child between two brothers. As she was growing up she competed for the attention of her mother.
Jacquie also spoke about her need to be validated in her place of work.
She worked very hard and took that competitive edge to her job. "In that competitiveness, there was also the approval seeking. Look at how I can do this, I can do this better than you." "I had to work 10 times harder than any man just to be seen"
I resonated with her story, for...2021-01-2920 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebSally Lesser - Tupperware Frying PanIn this Episode:
What struck me in this conversation is the way in which Sally interacted with the actors of the soap opera, One Life to Live. "Being a costume designer is a little bit of being a therapist."
Sometimes actors for reasons of their own would have a hard time with the costume that they had to wear. They would complain about the costume and sometimes refuse to wear it.
She used to take a step back and get curious about their state of mind instead of reacting to them. She allowed them...2021-01-2232 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebLori Vazquez - 7th DayIn this Episode:
Lori talks about her struggles with breaking out of a religious box, the 7th Day Advent Church.
To be perfectly truthful it felt more like a cult to me than a religious organisation. But once again it is a religious institution dictating a way to be and live.
She loved her religious upbringing, however, she struggled with the fact that she felt that she had to always behave in a certain way.
The way she put it: 'There was this war of, having to live up to, you re...2021-01-1535 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebLucy Palmer - Make Your BedIn this Episode:
Lucy talks about the challenges she had to face during her marriage with a man who was trying to cope with an illness that he did not understand.
She was brought up by a deacon mother so it was natural for her to adopt the beliefs that were passed on to her. She created rules for herself and wanted to live up to them.
In sickness and in health she assumed all responsibility for her marriage, sometimes to her own detriment.
This conversation is a clear example of h...2021-01-0741 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebDel Adey Jones - What you think of me is none of my businessIn This Episode
As children, we depend on the love of our parents in all aspects of our lives. We look for safety, recognition and to feel loved.
However, unfortunately, our parents make mistakes because they are human and they too have a past.
As a result, through their innocent behaviour, we might come to the conclusion that we are not lovable and we are not enough.
People-pleasing starts at a very early age. We try to adjust to our parents, we do our best to please them, in an effort to...2020-12-2241 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebAsiaw Julius - BMXIn This Episode
Julius talks about the pains of addiction.
Initially, a person might turn to drugs to find some sort of relief. Relief from emotional and also very often physical pain.
For Julius, it was 'his saving grace but also a thorn in his side'.
I would say that it is safe to say that millions of people around the world want to feel loved. They want to feel appreciated and acknowledged.
If and when they don't feel it, they look for ways to create that elusive feeling c...2020-11-3038 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebMelissa Ford - The Jab FestIn this Episode
One of the things we talked about is perfectionism or as Melissa puts it, 'always wanting to get things right'.
In her case she wanted to look like she had it together, to try and look like that 'I knew more than I knew'.
Always trying to get things right is one way of proving to ourselves that we are enough and/or that we are worthy.
This is born from a misunderstanding that says, to be loved we have to be perfect or we have to keep d...2020-11-0335 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebCindy Virginia - PatchouliIn this Episode
This was a very light-hearted conversation, nonetheless, Cindy touched upon a subject that might be an issue for many people.
Cindy talked about her anxiety disorder and how she learnt to listen to the prompts her body gives her when she is in an anxious state.
We often misunderstand or fail to see how ingenious feelings are. Many of us for many years have tried to change our negative emotions.
Let's face it, how many of you enjoy feeling bad?? I most certainly don't.
However, resisting any...2020-10-0834 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebTracey Rampling - BirthIn this Episode
During this conversation, I couldn't quite link the aim of the podcast to her story.
In actual fact at one point during the conversation, I was a little confused.
I was wondering how permission formed any part of what Tracey decided to do with her husband and children.
Then in an instant, I saw how Tracey gave herself permission to begin a new adventure.
Even though the decision she took was painful for her, she took the bold step.
Many or perhaps most people...2020-09-2335 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebCristiana Blasutta - Whispering Out LoudIn This Episode
First I have to come clean and say that I was listening to Cristiana with I don't believe you filters on.
Even though it's strange to admit it, I was doing the best that I could at that moment.
I love this quote of Maya Angelou: "do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better".
There were points in the conversation that I was literally listening with my mouth wide open.
I couldn't believe that there was truth in...2020-09-0334 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebNicky Bartley - Einstein's DeskIn This Episode
During the conversation, on more than one occasion, I asked Nicky to give me concrete examples of stress.
The answer I was looking for did not come via concrete examples but from one very simple realisation. Listen closely and if you hear it I'd love to know what it is you heard.
In the meantime here are some questions for you to consider:
Are you trying to change yourself into an acceptable version of who you think people want you to be?
Are you a bad p...2020-08-0636 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebDenise Pink - What if it's not true?In this Episode
This conversation was recorded nearly six months ago and whilst I was editing it, I realised that I was listening differently.
I heard something that I had already heard before but this time it was more profound.
Denise shed light on the heart of the reason why I started this podcast.
It is to inspire you to allow yourself to step into our light and in doing shine it on others. The Light includes your darkness because in my mind without it we are incomplete.
She po...2020-07-1247 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebJulian Freeman -SeagullIn This Episode
Everybody has their own idea of the words Permission to be You. Here is some of Julian's version.
A paraphrased quote:
'To be you is your default setting it is naturally who you are. Its about doing nothing. Its about just allowing who you are to come out. It doesn’t take any effort in fact its about unlearning some stuff. We all have wings and they are designed to fly.'
Have you unknowingly clipped your wings?
Are you using the full thrust and span of the w...2020-06-2841 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebQuaden & Yarraka Bayles - Double Edged SwordIn This Episode
Yarraka sheds light on some of the things that were uncovered as a result of her going live on Facebook with her son Quaden in February 2020.
Yarraka talks about a number of sensitive issues, namely racism, discrimination, bullying and an extraordinarily high rate of teenage indigenous suicides.
She talks about Quaden's journey up till now. The number of operations he has had to have throughout the course of his very young life. As well as the bullying and hate he was subjected to.
When I asked Quaden why...2020-06-0438 min
Insightful Conversations with Del Adey-JonesDiane XuerebDiane was born in Malta and now lives in the Netherlands. She is the host of a podcast called …Permission to be You. A podcast which intends to Nudge, Push and Inspire people to give themselves the permission to be exactly who they are.It was through surviving difficulties in her own life, that Diane was inspired to want to help others find the freedom to express and embrace the power of being themselves.Diane, like me, has a wonderful fascination with storytelling. She is a woman after my own heart, and I know this is going to be...2020-06-0331 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebJudy Cohen - Natured doesn't do DuplicatesIn this Episode
There were several things that struck me but my favourite is the following:
'I don't need to be agreed with and I don't even need to be understood. Trying to be understood is kind of grasping for love in itself.'
I sought to be understood and sometimes I still do, what I had not realised is that what I was really looking for is love.
To reach a point of not needing to be understood is truly liberating, try it?!. Let go of the need of being un...2020-05-1037 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebDiane Xuereb - The Oxygen MaskIN THIS EPISODE
A member of my group posed some wonderful questions about boundaries and essentially about saying no.
I found it so interesting that I was inspired to record a podcast about it.
Following you will find some of the questions.
So what happens when someone starts engaging with you talking with you and you don't have space for it or the interest?!
How do you care for your boundaries and yourselves when the other is not tuned in or aware?
What is your responsibility to take care...2020-03-1112 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebTerri Broughton - IndivisibleIn this Episode
I have been trying to write down some bullet points in the form of questions like I normally do when I release a podcast but this time I am at a loss for words.
I have also literally been delaying releasing this very huge gift because I wanted to keep it for myself. Oops, sorry!
So finally after a rather long delay here it is:
Terri was my coach and the very first person who pointed me to the truth of who we all are.
Considering...2020-03-0243 minPermission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebDiane Xuereb - The Chestnut Tree In This Episode
This is inspired by Caroline flack and dedicated to all those people we will never have the pleasure of meeting.
It is also dedicated to the people who were left behind because their loved ones decided to exit and put an end to their suffering.
I was touched as well as disturbed by the number of posts that popped up on my timeline.
It made me think about the countless number of people who ended their own lives because it seemed like the only way that they c...2020-02-1911 min
The Daily Dog2020-02-09 Fudge and Diane XuerebIn the Tuesday, February 11, 2020 episode of The Daily Dog Podcast, Diane Xuereb tells us about how she came to rescue Fudge, a Chihuahua/Yorkshire Terrier mix.More from Diane Xuereb:Website: http://www.beyoutv.comInstagram: http://instagram.com/diane.xuerebLinkedIn: http://LinkedIn.com/in/diane-xuereb-permission-to-be-you-coaching-38889633Facebook: http://facebook.com/diane.xuereb.9All The Social Thingys:Leave a Voicemail1 (321) 430-4763Subscribe to The Daily Dog on your favorite Podcast Apps:https://link.chtbl.com/DailyDogThe Daily Dog on YouTubehttps...2020-02-1107 minPermission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebDiane Xuereb - Inside OutIn this Episode
In this solo episode I talk about the Inside Out Paradigm through this short episode you can gain an understanding of how our mind works.
This model/paradigm has helped me immensely, actually, I will go far as saying that it was freeing to discover that everything starts and ends with me.
With this understanding I now know where my feelings come from and as a result I know that my thoughts about whatever I think about what people think or might say about me are simply made up and...2020-02-0907 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebMira Griffiths - Celebrating Peace In this Episode
Miroslava is her full name: Mir means peace and Slava means celebration.
Considering that Mira is relatively young, in my eyes she already has had a rich and varied experience of life. Simply just repeating all the names of the places that she lived had me out of breath. This conversation is jam-packed with gold, its one insight after the other.
Here is a very short summary of the conversation:
"Trusting yourself is constant learning. Sometimes you fail in the things you think you know but then you le...2020-02-0240 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebThe Hulk - Farah HalabiIn this episode
Farah has such a wonderful way of expressing herself. She turns drama into a hilarious story, she really had me in fits.
Amongst other things she spoke about motherhood and how she thought she should be to be a good mother. That is all I am giving away.
Here are some questions for you to ponder:
What and how do you have to be a good mother?
How high have you set the bar for yourself? This applies to anything in your life!!
What...2020-01-1841 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebPretzel - Jen Walbridge MayIn this episode
In spite of feeling uncomfortable and somewhat afraid she still decided to be my guest and for that I am truly grateful. Thank you Jen
We had an easy going discussion, amongst other things, about how she tried to keep peace in what she called a 'chaotic household'!
What is your number one surviving skill?
What is your go to emotion when you feel threatened?
What are you still doing now, today, in this moment that does not serve you any longer?
Is it c...2020-01-0526 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebCancer Saved My Life - Mayda PocIn this Episode
This conversation made me think about a quote by Carl Jung which I saw earlier on this week: 'If the path before you is clear, you're probably on someone else's. Mayda makes a short but powerful reference to this.
What are you saying yes to?
How is it affecting your health?
When and how do you stop to rest?
Is it possible that your need to succeed and or be accepted might be actually killing you instead of helping you?
Could it be that your need to...2019-12-1543 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebEnergy Moves - Fiona WinterIt’s really hard for me to choose which points to highlight because once again it’s filled with so many beautiful insights and wisdom.
Here are some of them:
*Sensuality and integrating it more into our lives
*Women and the many roles they play in society, easy to forget who they are
*How people can come back to themselves through movement
*Do you express your sensuality, if so how do you do that?
*Are you stepping fully into your feminine power?
*In how far are...2019-11-2827 min
Armchair TalksDiane Xuereb - Fairy Tales and TransformationDiane Xuereb was born in Malta and now lives in the Netherlands. She is the host of a podcast called “Permission to be You”. Through surviving difficulties in her life she wants to help people find the freedom to express who they really are. Diane has a wonderful fascination with story telling and recently discovered that fairy tales hold information that can be used for personal transformation. In this episode she talks about the television series “Once Upon a Time” and how she started to see the archetypal patterns within the stories that on closer inspection can elicit change...2019-11-2524 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebRejener8 - 8 Steps to Joy - Jenny SchmalMy Personal Reflection
I always have a vision of what an episode should sound like, (crying is not included), for it to be able to have some sort of impact on whoever listens. I guess I have absolutely no control over that, every single conversation has a different story and takes a life of its own. Albeit with a similar message and those who need to hear it will do so.
Here is some of what was said in this episode:
I cannot really express what this conversation did for me because words...2019-11-1727 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebPassion Business Podcast - Anke HerrmannIn this Episode
Do you know what is at stake when you stop yourself from doing anything your heart calls you to do??
Anke’s perspective about what is at stake, after she left East Germany changed the way I look at taking a risk.
Listen to how leaving her home town forever changed the way she looked at doing things that were calling her to take action!!
She asked herself this question: If I could have anything, what would I wanna do?
When did you ask yourself that qu...2019-11-0829 min
Passion Business PodcastPassion Business Podcast – Episode 23: Diane Xuereb – Permission to Be YOU
In beautiful, insightful conversation Diane shared how
rebuilding her life after a relationship breakup, without family and initially without a place to live or a job, started her journey of self discovery
she realized that there is a gift in every challenge and why she now calls that tough time “the best thing that ever happend to her”
when her coaching business didn't develop as expected she realized that she didn't need that business to be “something”, and
letting go of the attachment to a specific outcome opened different ways for her to share her powerful message
...2019-11-0333 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebSoulfully You - Emma BurnsAs I listened to the recording the following statement really struck me.
Emma, " It almost looked as if, if I told myself and bullied myself, it somehow protected me from others doing it!!"
Is there anything you punish yourself for, it could be unconscious or conscious??
Stop and think about it if you will, it really is worth inquiring.
Nothing you have done in the past deserves punishment.
Listen to why Emma was punishing herself and it was only until she forgave herself that she saw that what she...2019-10-3137 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebExpand - Leanne WebberIn this episode, Leanne talks about how being herself helped deepen her relationships and made some of the friendships more meaningful. She found that she either attracted people or repelled them. She made a lot of new friends and she did not lose that many friends, " a lot less than I would have expected". She also managed to let go of many of the perceptions she had about what other people would think about her and she realised that many of the negative vibes that she was picking up were not from her friends but herself.
Expand by Leann...2019-10-2326 min
Permission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebCreating a Pattern of Possibilities - Christine ZornesIn this episode, Christine shares something that she had never talked about publicly before. She also talks about how her gifts could have been misunderstood in the past so she hid them until she realised that she was given these gifts to help others heal.
"I love helping people to find their pattern of possibilities, to get away from vicious cycles as they get stuck and that can be anything from, pain, depression to finances and work or just love and relationships."
This was a great conversation with some lovely nuggets about the power of be...2019-10-1723 minPermission to Be You - The Podcast Diane XuerebInvitation to the Permission to Be You Podcast - Diane XuerebA discussion about how being ourselves is the most powerful thing we can do for ourselves and ultimately for others.
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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/diane-xuereb/message2019-10-1406 min