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The Relaxed Male9 Different Marriage and Relationship Pitfalls You Want to Avoid.Marriage is an adventure. If you don’t look at it as such then you run the risk of falling into a deep pit much like I did with Pitfall Harry. Marriage is not easy and in the early days can be wrought with lots of emotions and struggles. This is why so many marriages fail before reaching the 10-year mark. You first struggle with the idiosyncracies of the girl you dated. You noticed odd things you at first thought were cute habits of her being weird but now you are questioning if you can put with it her ti...2024-08-2235 min
The Relaxed MaleWhen someone lets you downMany times we will inadvertantly elevate someone to a higher level of status than we wanted to. I had something happen here recently that caused me to realize that I had actually elevated a man to an unheard of level of integrity. Then when he showed me that he didn’t believe all that he stated. To say the least, I had thoughts that I was betrayed, and he had sold out to the Woke mind virus. I wanted to set my heels and almost punish him for violating, my standards, by keeping the proof that he was a hypocrite up...2024-08-1525 min
The Relaxed MaleProcessing Your Emotions For a Better LifeWe go through emotions hourly. Those emotions correlate with the different thoughts that we have. It is said that we have around 60,000 thoughts a day. That means that we have around 60,000 emotions a day. Now incorporate the 50-50 principle and you have half of your thoughts are gonna be good thoughts because they generate good emotions and the other half are gonna be bad thoughts that generate bad emotions.Many many times we struggle with negative emotions. We avoid those negative emotions. We get angry or frustrated because we have a thought that we don’t wanna have and so...2024-06-2028 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Path of Fulfillment Is Acknowledging Emotional PainWe all experience pain at one time or another. Pain can be a physical sensation from a Papercut or it could be from an emotion. The pain that I am talking about today is emotional pain. The feeling that we get from the emotions that we don’t like. Emotions, for instance, powerlessness, frustration, fear, uncertainty, insecurity, humiliation, lost, are often viewed as painful and are often avoided.These emotions and more similar to them are unpleasant to experience. Often when we feel these emotions, we want to hide from them. We want to buffer or indulge in...2024-06-0630 min
The Best Advice Ever PodcastS02E33- "Don't Live in the PastComedian Mike Goodwin shares his experiences of recent speaking engagements, reflecting on the challenges and lessons learned. He also discusses the importance of not living in the past and shares personal insights and anecdotes. The conversation covers a range of topics, including public speaking, self-reflection, and the complexities of social media interactions.
Tour dates and tickets: mikegoodwin.com Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BowtieComedyOfficial Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bowtiecomedy/ Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bowtiecomedy?lang=en About Mike Goodwin: Mike Goodwin is a refreshingly funny comedian...2024-06-0546 minThe Best Advice Ever PodcastS02E33- "Don't Live in the PastComedian Mike Goodwin shares his experiences of recent speaking engagements, reflecting on the challenges and lessons learned. He also discusses the importance of not living in the past and shares personal insights and anecdotes. The conversation covers a range of topics, including public speaking, self-reflection, and the complexities of social media interactions.
Tour dates and tickets: mikegoodwin.com Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BowtieComedyOfficial Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bowtiecomedy/ Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bowtiecomedy?lang=en About Mike Goodwin: Mike Goodwin is a refreshingly funny comedian...2024-06-0546 min
The Relaxed MaleHow We Break The Connection With Our WifeSo we have noticed that the lack of intentionality with our significant other has to change. To be able to change you have to know how you arrived in the circumstance you are in now. That is what we are going to be talking about this week. What actions did we take to break our connection?***Warning***Don't fall into the victim mindset here. You may want to say,"Well, she doesn't try either.""She started it""She is just cold""She never liked the marriage to start"2024-05-2341 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Power of Living Life IntentionallyWith much of life, we can either float down the river of life or we can steer our life to where we want to go. The difference is that when we use intention we get closer to where we want to go sooner than if we just drift.Lack of intention is where you hope you arrive at your desired destination. You are just going through life and often unintentional people come across as if they are asleep and don't put much thought into why they are doing what they are doing. They often will find these people blaming...2024-04-2521 min
The Relaxed MaleWhy You Need Relationships in Your LifeMen struggle with strong meaningful connections. Many even struggle with just having a relationship. So many men today don't have close relationships or their relationships are just surface-level connections that don't fulfill the purpose of a relationship. We men need relationships and yet we forsake our own needs for a plethora of reasons. So why do we need to have good strong relationships? Why can't we just hermitize ourselves and just be done with it? Benefits of a good relationship Why are relationships needed? What makes the messy emotional events of having relationships with both men...2024-03-2128 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Rules of Engagement for Effective CommunicationWhen it comes to talking to each other we often get so much wrong. It isn't because we don't care or don't want to be heard but we simply don't know how to communicate effectively. Our ability to open good solid channels of communication lags behind our ability to talk. The hang-up is the habits we have created when we were growing up. Our thoughts of what the other person is saying. We believe that emotions happen to us and so when someone says something that isn't nice and doesn't feel good, we stop communicating and that is when...2024-02-1524 min
The Relaxed Male V4VHow are you going to invest in yourself?
When it comes to talking to each other we often get so much wrong. It isn't because we don't care or don't want to be heard but we simply don't know how to communicate effectively. Our ability to open good solid channels of communication lags behind our ability to talk. The hang-up is the habits we have created when we were growing up. Our thoughts of what the other person is saying. We believe that emotions happen to us and so when someone says something that isn't nice and doesn't feel good, we stop communicating and that...2024-02-1524 min
The Relaxed MaleGetting Beyond the "I Don't Want To" Barrier and Start LivingIn episode, we delve into the common challenge of setting new year's resolutions and subsequently abandoning them shortly after. This often stems from the obstacle of not having the desire to put in the necessary effort or make the required changes. I shed light on the resistance and obstacles we encounter in various aspects of our lives, ranging from mundane tasks to substantial responsibilities like paying taxes. I lay emphasis on the importance of making choices based on our genuine desires, even if it entails exerting effort and making sacrifices. Life consists of a series of choices, an...2023-11-2327 min
The Relaxed MaleNurturing Self-Trust and Follow-ThroughNow we all know about doing what you say to other people. This is part of keeping your word and that is important. If you break your word there is a lack of trust. That lack of trust has ramifications through more than what you want to think, and this is part of what is keeping you from going for the big prize in life. You don't even believe in yourself. People Don't Believe You It may be a given but I would still reiterate the point that if you can't keep your word others are not...2023-06-0126 min
The Relaxed MaleLetting Others Fix Their Own ProblemsWhat happens when you try to fix other people's problems? The answer is a lot of unintended consequences. Many guys who are going through their divorce see that they are struggling to find their place in the current scenario and with men often having some aspect of a nice guy they try to rush to a person's aid. Why can't you fix a problem if you can? Trying to fix a problem isn't going to help anybody but yourself feel good about yourself. It doesn't help the other person with their problem it may give a...2023-05-1129 min
The Relaxed MaleLiving Your Life in FearWhat does it look like when you are living your life in fear? When you have a constant state of anxiety and fear how does one man cope? In fact, how does anyone cope? That is a huge and very important question to ask I come across so many men who are living in one form of fear or another. The Gentleman who is talking in this post shows all the detail of why living in fear causes you so many different forms of suffering and anguish. Anyone else in here dealing with a soon to...2023-04-2042 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Truth of Being JudgmentalSo, how many times have you had someone yell at you about bout not judging them? What do they mean by the whole don't judge me? How do you not be judgmental? You cant What is actually happening people don't want to be told they are out of step. They don't want to be told they are wrong. It is a double standard It is a lot like how women want to dress nicely to attract the guys they find attractive but get...2023-03-2334 min
The Relaxed MaleOff Balance? Get FocusedHow many times have you found yourself off balance? Especially when you are going through something as unpredictable as a divorce. It is easy to be knocked off balance when you don't have your focus What happens when you are off balance? Small things set you off Your attention is easily drawn away from the important objective. You will not get anything accomplished easily You will find yourself in scarcity mindset more You will have more drama in your life Exercise To Try Close your eyes and stand on one foot. Very difficult right? Why...2023-01-2028 min
The Relaxed MaleWhat Does Your Future Hold?This is the end of the year. Therefore it stands to reason that we are looking toward the future. Why you don't look to the future? I don't know how. What if I fail? I don't have the money I don't know what I want I have never done X. Are you looking to the future or are you just daydreaming? Many times we say we are looking at the future when in all reality we are daydreaming. The difference between planning and dreaming is the deadline.2022-12-2929 min
Better with Dr. ErickaSuicide, Mental Health, Support, and Year End with Dr. Ericka GoodwinThis bonus episode discusses suicide prevention, mental health, support, and the end of the year. This episode features your host, Harvard-trained, double board-certified psychiatrist, Dr. Ericka Goodwin.
Questions this episode will answer:
-What can you do to help decrease suicide?
-How can support improve mental health?
-What are strategies to improve your mental health for the new year?
The recent suicide of Stephen "Twitch" Boss has brought the conversation of suicide and mental health back to the mainstream. The end of the year, a never-ending pandemic, plus chaotic moments around eve...2022-12-2747 min
The Relaxed MaleHow to Attract More WomenOk, Guys this week we are talking about what men need to stop doing to attract more women. The Thanksgiving Story The biggest reason I did this show is that on Thanksgiving my mom got an unsolicited Dick pick from one of the guys she is talking to. how do I know? because I was looking at a picture my mom's suiter had sent earlier when he sent her an image of his morning wood. This is something that seems to be running rampant. Women are complaining and men are winding why they aren't getting...2022-12-0142 min
The Relaxed MaleCan You Forgive?It doesn't matter how you look at it, you have had the feeling that you have been wronged at least a few times in your life. It may be just a minor faux pas or something major where you have had a major grievance. We all have the opportunity to forgive at one point or another. The problem most people have is that they have the opportunity to forgive someone and they don't. These people often struggle with the anger and resentment that builds up within themselves. All because there was some occurrence and there wasn't any s...2022-11-1035 min
The Relaxed MaleRise of The Lonely ManWe are talking about the Lonely man this week. We look at, why are there so many lonely men in society. Boosts! Main topic Today I wanted to talk about a post that has been making its rounds on social media and other sites. This is why there are so many lonely men in society today. Is the lonely guy lonely because he is toxic, or is it be of other factors? It is from Psychology Today and it came out back in August. This article is called The Rise of the Lonely Si...2022-10-2747 min
The Relaxed MaleWhy You Are PoorYou look around you see many people of different degrees of wealth. Some are rich, some are very rich and others are filthy, stinking rich. The same goes for the other direction. You have those that don't make as much as you. Some are poor. There are those who are dirt poor and there are those who are so poor they can't even pay attention. You fall somewhere in the middle of the two extremes. You aren't filthy stinking rich nor are you destitute. You often see people talking about the poor and how terrible i...2022-10-1338 min
The Relaxed MaleYour Motivational TriadBoosts! Chad 8599 sats - I heard your Boostagram on PC 2.0 so I’m checking out your podcast. Main Show Why do you do what you do? Sounds like a weird question to ask yet we always ask that and there is a reason why we keep doing the same things over and over. Why do certain people keep falling into the same traps time and again? Why do men pick the same type of woman over and over again? Why do we struggle on improving ourselves? Why do we struggle on losing weight? Why do we...2022-10-0637 min
The Relaxed MaleYou're Wrong, and That's OKWe often come across people who claim we are wrong, or that we have someone who is completely wrong and has no clue about the topic at hand. An instance where so many people who didn't know what they were talking about are often seen as blowhards or complete fools. Today it seems like everybody has to be right. Insistent on being right and even when you prove that they’re wrong. they find a reason to be right. I’m not pointing out one particular set of folks with this either. I find myself being very insi...2022-09-2926 min
The Relaxed MaleDon’t Make Decisions While Going Uphill going up a hill is hard You lose momentum when making a decision you are under more emotional influence The hill is the toughest of the path You don't have enough data We are faced with decisions all the time. But when do you want to make those decisions? Many people often make their decisions at the wrong moment. What is going up the hill? Going up a hill is at a time of heightened emotional state. This is when you let your emotions make decisions, not your thinking brain. The uphill battle is where...2022-09-0826 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Drawbacks of Self-Improvement You draw attention to other's lack of action You lose friends who just want to hang Your mother will worry about you People will judge you People will actively hope for you to fail Other people will feel bad about themselves They will resent you Self-improvement is lonely All that sounds like a good reason not to better yourself, right? Wrong that is the very reason to better yourself. You have to look at their lack of action as a motivator to actually propel yourself to better heights. The other people can come along but they most likely won't...2022-09-0133 min
The Relaxed MaleDo You Really Not Care?Many times I hear the words I don’t care. This is in response to what others think to how they act in a group. Many guys will sluff off the phrase I really don't care or that's just how I am. Is this productive or is it a mean's for you to not have to try? What happens when you don't care? There are many effects of a man not caring about something. Isolated Aggravated Feel alone - because restless Why do you not care? There are many reasons that men say they don't ca...2022-08-1827 min
Better with Dr. ErickaMy Month of Me and Self-Care with Dr. Ericka Goodwin
This episode features your host, Dr. Ericka, discussing insights and tips from her month that was solely dedicated to rest and recovery. Her experience as a double board certified psychiatrist and entrepreneur gives her additional insight into strategies that work.
Questions this episode will answer:
-What is a month of me?
-What are tools to help prioritize yourself and your healing?
-How can you increase wellness and self-care even if you don’t have a whole month?
-Why does wellness matter?
2022-08-1323 min
The Relaxed MaleAltruism's DangersThe Operation Tears of the 22 Mission Critical Retreat. Storytime - home town alma mater is giving away free school supplies and I raised the question of why this seems like it will end badly? I got a lot of parents from that area chimed in saying it was a good thing. I really don't think it is, for many different reasons. I have several thoughts as to why not having the parents provide the supplies Well this is when you really need to have that debate. Just leave it alone? why? Because it’s easier? It’...2022-07-1429 min
The Relaxed MaleLive an Intentional LifeWhat is intention? So many times we are living our life because we see someone else doing something or we are told how we should live our lives and we blindly just do it. We don't think about does that fit what we want in life? You often see teenagers struggle with this. These Young people run from one fad to the next. This is why the current fad of gender studies is so damaging. Because they don't know if the permanent changes to their lives are what they really want. They think they do but they won't even...2022-07-0720 min
The Relaxed MaleWhy is Divorce So Difficult?Now, this may sound like an obvious bit of knowledge but I see many men ask why is divorce so hard? There are many reasons as to why it hurts so much, why you are having to suffer, and more thoughts like that. Yet we keep with the dirty pain and keep resisting the facts that are at hand. We want to control the circumstances in our life. Yet doing so only increases the suffering we experience. What is dirty pain? This is the pain we resist. It is pain that we believe is happening to us...2022-06-3039 min
The Relaxed MaleWhy Men Need Men in Their LivesNEWS Operation Tears of the 22 is having its retreat for Veterans again this year. But instead of Byrds Adventure Center, They are having it at Adam Sandoval's Kriver Campgrounds. You can get your tickets for 4 days of fun and jeeping around. There are going to be bands in the evening and I will be there coaching everyone who wants it and some people who don't. So Sign up here! Main topic One of the biggest parts of having a fulfilling life is having that important network of masculine friends. The need to be able to meet and talk...2022-06-2331 min
The Relaxed MaleDreamers of the DayThose who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds awake to find that it was vanity; But the dreamers of day are dangerous men. That they may act on their dreams with open eyes to make it possible T. E. Lawrence Do you dream during the day? Many of us men don't allow ourselves to dream. We feel that our world is what Our circumstances dictate. We as men often feel trapped, and we resign ourselves to this life. yet that we don't have to we can change everything about our world all we...2022-05-1224 min
Better with Dr. ErickaMeeting Overwhelm and Challenges Head-On with Dr. Ericka GoodwinThis episode is another solo episode, and we’ll be discussing how to face overwhelm and challenges because avoiding or ignoring them won’t make them go away. The guest for this episode is our host, Dr. Ericka who has so much knowledge with over 20 years of experience in human behavior as a Harvard-trained, double board-certified psychiatrist.
Questions this episode will answer:
-What can watching a lot of reels and tik toks be a sign of?
-When is a good time to evaluate whether how you are living is aligned with...2022-05-1027 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Sinkable Female-Led RelationshipsNow there are many different types of relationships around. Many work and more don't. Wanted to examine one relationship "Style" that is being talked about and the Nice guy thinks he will like it, yet the woman will become miserable. That style is the Female Led Relationship Thanks, to the Woke wave of Feminism you are seeing women we are wanting to change the family dynamic. Why? well, they are entering into relationships with the mindset that men are the scourge of society and that the traditional roles are the root of all suffering. Yet their suffering...2022-04-2856 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Model: ActionThe Model Series The Model Circumstance Thought Feeling Action - This episode Results Your action What do you want to do? Is the action serving you? How this line fits into the model This is what we do based on how we are feeling. Our actions lead to the results. You have to change how you think of the circumstance if you want to change your action. Take trying to lose weight. Circumstance - You are 50 pounds overweight Thought - You can't stand how...2022-03-1727 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Model: FeelingsThe Ruck March report The Model Series The Model Circumstance Thought Feeling - This episode Action Results What are emotions? VIbrations Emotions are vibrations that start in your mind and are felt throughout your body Emotions are also associated with different neurotransmitters and hormones your body produces dopamine - pleasure, happy gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA), - Calming serotonin - Joy and contentment Oxytocin - love Endorphins - relaxed Hormones we avoid norepinephrine - FIght or flight cortisol - Stress Adrenaline - stress We often avoid these hormones because they don't feel good in general. Yet...2022-03-1057 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Man's UniformThe clothes make the man. Have you ever heard that phrase? Well, there are reasons that getting dressed is important for you and what you want to accomplish. Dressing up is one thing but how do you normally dress? That is the question. This doesn't mean you have to be at the pentacle of men's fashion. In fact, I question the fashion industry and how they are trying to femininize men. Men do have a way to dress and the uniform they choose to wear for their battle is important. There is a reason for uniforms to be worn...2022-01-2017 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Power of Men's GroupsThere are many ways you can build your community. There is the church, schools, civic organizations, your place of employment, and your neighborhood. You can find men who you would like to aspire to be like just about anywhere. And right off the bat let’s point that out. These men will rub off on you. The phrase, “ Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future” fits. If you want to be successful in business you want successful men. If you want to get in shape, have men who take pride in their health. Good marriages? Same thing. 2022-01-0628 min
The Relaxed MaleAre Goals Important?The start of the year is here. This is the time everybody talks about what their goals are, what they want to achieve, and how they plan on how they are achieving it. Why are goals important? Why do you want to even think of goals? IT seems that nobody actually completes their goals. Especially when it comes to New Years Resolutions People start with good intentions and then around March that fire and determination you had all the way back at January first is up and gone. Then before you know it, it's November...2021-12-3027 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Antiwork MovementThere are changes happening in our society, and there are two groups of people who are involved. There are the people who realize they can do better and do something about it and then there are the ones who want to sit around and complain about the quality of their life and have stuff handed to them. Because of this, you have two different factions forming. There is the great resignation and then there is the antiwork. Another way to look at this is the boys and the men. The Great Resignation These are the people who hav...2021-12-1644 min
The Relaxed MaleStop Trying To Fix EverythingIt doesn't have to be fixed As nice guys, we really hate having people not be at a certain level. If they are unhappy or upset for any reason, we feel we have to fix it. Even if people are having more fun and laughing beyond our comfort level, we have to find a way to fix the issue instead of just allowing people to be. Nice guys feel that they have to fix a problem out of the hopes that that person will start to like and appreciate us. When in all reality people...2021-12-0920 min
The Relaxed MaleYou Have To Start with a Dingy before you can Have a YachtI remember when I was young I was put out by the fact that I really wanted to be in a place of management yet I always had to start at the bottom. This feeling has gone on for many men for centuries. There are those who think they deserve to be in a higher position than where they are. They don't have the skills to even contemplate the amount of work that actually takes. Many workers only see that the Managers don't do the manual labor of that industry. They don't see all of the other...2021-11-0430 min
The Relaxed MaleMen's Need for ViolenceMen need violence in their lives. For today's society that sounds almost scary. What! See this is toxic masculinity at its core! Men need to be removed from all of society because they are advocating everything violent. All the wars are fought because of men. Crimes are committed because of men. Well, this isn't exactly the case but the saying, Hard times make strong men strong men make good times good times make weak men weak men make hard times. this phrase shows how society has cycles, and those cycles need men who ha...2021-10-1424 min
The Relaxed MaleWomen Detest Nice GuysThere is one thing women absolutely hate and that is the one thing society has pushed on men. The Nice Guy. Ever since the industrial revolution men have been raised by their mothers. Dads leave to go to the factory and come home at the end of the day. They may get weekends with them but that's not a guarantee. Now because of this, we have been getting more and more nice guys showing up in the world. Nice guys are not nice. Nice Guys and People pleasers are liars and manipulators. Just about everything...2021-09-1836 min
The LASTING LOVE PodcastDating apps don't work! Going Dutch? Get 3 dates/wkSingles frequently complain that dating apps don't work, there aren't attractive singles, all the good ones are married, and dating isn't fun. Additionally, they want to know what to do when someone wants to go Dutch. These were the questions and comments that Karen, a 38-year old divorced mother of three, had when she came in for her session this week.This is Alisa Goodwin Snell with the Lasting Love Podcast. I have nearly 30 years of experience as a Marriage and Family Therapist, author, public speaker, and dating coach; thus, there's little that singles will say that...2021-09-0730 min
The Relaxed MaleAre You Wetting the Leather?When it comes to events in your life we have to take into consideration what you are starting with. Many times as men get frustrated with the lack of results that we get when we try something. The problem is what are you starting with? The meaning is this, guys, we want instant results. Many people grow frustrated with our jobs when we just started, we wonder why we are not higher up in the echelon of our jobs. We wonder why we have no credibility when we just start something. These are problems of us not wedding the...2021-09-0226 min
The Relaxed MaleHow Men Talk To Each OtherMen talk to each other in a way that women and some modern males don’t understand. You hear talk of how toxic masculinity is the problem with society and part of that toxic masculinity is how men talk to each other. They mention how we tease young men as they start to develop facial hair and we suggest putting some milk on that peach fuzz and letting the cat lick it off. Some folks believe that is mean and hurtful. When in reality not exposing your son to those innocent taunts is setting him up for failure ...2021-08-2631 min
The Relaxed MaleAim For AwesomeWhat holds you back from taking the steps you are wanting to take? Now, these reasons can be many, but one of the biggest reasons is fear. We are afraid that we will change. We fear that our friends won’t like us. We are afraid of what happens if you succeed. We also fear what people will think if we fail. What happens if we screw something up? What if we are seen as a fraud. Do we really deserve this success if our idea takes off? According to Tripp Lanier, We want 4 things out o...2021-08-1918 min
The Relaxed MaleDisempowering ThoughtsNews going to be making some changes to when things are being released. I want to keep the current release schedule for the video of the week the Wednesday blog post and the podcast but I have lots of other plans for the site that are being ignored so Once a month there will be only a video and a podcast. If I can do the other plans and take out an item of the honey-do list and I still have time to write then you can consider the blog post a bonus. But I have been...2021-08-0154 min
The Relaxed MaleYour Basket of BeliefsQuestion of The Week By The Brotherhood of Men What are some unknown laws of manhood? There really aren’t any unknown laws of manhood. There are things in men's lives that they need to do to have a great and masculine life. Men have purposes and it needs to be at the top of objectives to find out what that purpose is. Most times that purpose is something that is bigger than them. They are helping other people to achieve their purpose. That could be through a service-based life. Like being the best employee you...2021-07-2236 min
The Relaxed MaleSurviving a Divorce Quick Mention about the Event Operation Tears of the 22, Off the Hardball, is coming quickly if you are a veteran this event is free, if you are not a vet then it is only $20 and you get a good time and you are helping out those veterans that are stuck in a dark place. Question of The Week by The Brotherhood of Men What is the most important thing to teach a child so they will be successful? That they are in control of their emotions. They can be happy or sad and that is OK...2021-07-0836 min
The Relaxed MaleWhy Marriages Fall ApartEvent: Operation Tears Of the 22 Off the Hardball This event is to help veterans to reset mentally SIgn up Question of the week be Brotherhood of Men Why is the divorce rate so high, especially in Western countries, if love marriages work? Well, there are theories as to why. The number one resin though is the No-fault divorce. This was started in 1969 by one of the greatest presidents the US had. Now Reagan later said he regretted signing the bull when he was governor of California. He did this as...2021-06-2458 min
Better with Dr. ErickaLife Wisdom from an Old School Mom with Lela GoodwinThis episode is a special treat because it features my mother, Lela Goodwin. This conversation features sharing her wisdom about practical and important life lessons. She has lived the full life as a mom, homemaker, entrepreneur, and matriarch. She keeps growing and being an example of how our journey continues to develop as we travel through our full life. You don’t want to miss a minute of this episode because she shares information that society and school often don’t tell you. She shares the truth and sheds light upon the mysteries of "adulting." Don’t worry if you don...2021-06-2226 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Art Of Being Present Also, Check out the Operation Tears OF the 22 Off the Hardball happening on August 5-8 at Byrd Adventure Center The Question of The Week By The Brotherhood of Men Help me. How do I stop feeling hurt when people say mean things about me? Is what they are saying true? If not then why are you giving these people all your power? You are volunteering your peace of mind and happiness to people who obviously don’t have your happiness in mind. Stop with the victim mindset. You have the power to let some...2021-06-1025 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Worst Phrase We Are Teaching Our KidsJoin the Operation: Tears of the 22 Off the Hardball event for the veterans. WIll be happening on August 5-8 at Byrd Adventure Center In the beautiful Ozark National Park Sign up Today Question of The Week by The Brotherhood of Men All my favorite childhood things such as cartoons, video game characters, toys, etc., are becoming a thing of the past. Is this a sign that it's time to grow up and move onto other things? Well, I would ask what age are you? If you are 18 or older then yeah it is time to grow u...2021-05-2044 min
The Relaxed MaleFree Yourself From The Opinion of Others Question of the Week by The Brotherhood of Me Why am I not happy in my life? There are a lot of reasons that you are lacking joy and happiness in your life. Since I don't know you from adam I can only guess as to why you are unhappy and restless. The number one reason I would surmise is that you don't have a purpose. What gets you out of bed each morning? People need to have a why a purpose, a passion Whatever you would like to call it, you need on...2021-05-1334 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Grudge: The Heaviest of WeightsJoin the Operation: Tears of the 22 Off the Hardball event for the veterans. WIll be happening on August 5-8 at Byrd Adventure Center In the beautiful Ozark National Park Sign up Today Question of the Week by The Brotherhood of Men How do I simplify life and be happy? How to always be happy? Well, I will break it to you you can and actually don't want to be happy all the time. How would it look if you were at your grandmother's funeral and you were just sitting around with a grin on your face...2021-05-0645 min
The Relaxed MalePlaying The Victim Means You're Playing to LoseJoin me in helping Operation: Tears of the 22 and their first-time event over at the Byrd Adventure Center in Arkansas. This is happening between August 5-8 and are they ever putting up a bang-up event. There are going to be music and jeep rides on the many trails that span around the heart of the Ozark National Forest. on top of all that, there are going to be some amazing food trucks there to squash any hunger you have. We will also be having an auction where one of the lots is a 3-month coaching package with me! So...2021-04-2938 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Folly of Happy Wife Happy LifeMention The Operation: Tears of the 22 off the Hardball event is coming up on August 5-8 Free for veterans and their families. There are going to be Jeep clubs there for you to go rock crawling and other jeep trails. Fishing and hiking, Then there is the benefit of being our in nature. Event Page: https://www.facebook.com/tearsofthe22/ Question of the week Why does toxic masculinity exist in our society? The term toxic masculinity was a word created by people w...2021-04-1536 min
The Relaxed MaleAre You An Asset or A Liability?If you are a veteran there is an event just for you coming August 5-8 in Byrd, AR. It is being brought to you by Operation: Tears of the 22. There will be food trucks, music, talks, and Jeep rides. If you are interested you can get more information on Facebook event page Question Of The Week How does someone adapt to not having a mother throughout their lives and not be bitter? A boy needs his mother yes. The same as a boy needs his father. The same as a girl needs both parents as...2021-04-0844 min
The Relaxed MaleGet Outside! Question of the week by The Brotherhood of Men How do I become a better father, husband, and steward of the community, despite having a rough past? by Bryan Whitson Build your 4 pillars of a good man. Your mind Read learn and grow. Learn about yourself. Read how to communicate with your son and with your spouse. As you read apply the lessons you learn. Write in a journal that way you are leaving a gift for your family. You are also able to see your improvements. Writ...2021-04-0141 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Need For a Band Of BrothersQuestion of The Week by The Brotherhood Of Men What is the best way to become a good father to a teenager you just met? Now I don't know all the details so let's do this in two parts. Those parts will be the most likely scenarios, This is your stepson and a boy in your neighborhood. Stepson If the boy is your stepson then your role isn’t the disciplinarian. This isn’t really gonna work for two reasons the teenager doesn’t have that type of bond with you. The other reason is that th...2021-03-1832 min
The Relaxed MaleMen Need A PurposeQuestion of the Week by The Brotherhood of Men How do I become stronger after a breakup? In the last 2 years I've had my heart broken twice… how do I begin to feel worthy again? How do you become stronger? Much like you become stronger physically you have to work on it. There are different fields you want to turn your attention to. Like your arms, legs, and chest. You have to work on 4 main pillars. Now I don't know if you are a man or a woman and these pillars really don't apply to just one sex...2021-03-0428 min
The Relaxed MaleUsing Affirmations CorrectlyQuestion of the week By The Brotherhood of Men What is the motivation behind people that voluntarily choose to become parental figures to others even without solicitation? https://qr.ae/pNE9rO Why do affirmations work? Affirmations much like the power of I am, which is an affirmation in itself helps to set your mind into motion what it does best that is making sure it reaches that goal. They affirm a set of beliefs those beliefs can be positive or negative. The reason they work is that you believe what you are saying. So i...2021-02-2528 min
Design ConversationsDon Goodwin: Conran design directorDon Goodwin played a significant design role as an Associate Director of the Conran Design Group in London in the sixties, and then in Australia with Carl Nielsen, and later as Principal of Goodwin Design. Additionally, he became National President of the Design Institute of Australia and was recognised with a Life Fellowship.
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The Relaxed MaleThe Recipe for HappinessQuestion of the Week by The Brotherhood Of Men I have low self-esteem, short height, no talent, no skills, average intelligence, and bad social skills. What do I do? How can you find happiness? Many people seem to think that they cant be happy. That is probably true. The reason they can't find a way to be happy is that they don't know the recipe for happiness. The Recipe Now, this isn't my recipe, and I didn't get it from my grandmother or anything. I am not really sure who I got this from but...2021-01-2828 min
The Relaxed MaleHolding SpaceMain Topic What do does it mean to hold space? You may have heard people say this from time to time and it sounds a bit odd. Holding space. How could one possibly hold space for yourself or anybody else? That is what I want to actually help you understand this week. How do you hold space for anybody including yourself? What do I mean by holding space? In a nutshell, holding space is not acting right off the bad. We jump in to help our wives when they are having a hard day. We are trying...2021-01-0733 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Silent ContractThe Question of the week Brought by Brotherhood of Men The Main Topic This week we are talking about the silent contract or silent hit on those we say we love. The Silent Contract The silent contract is when we don’t do something to wait it out for the other person to get the hint and when the other person doesn’t take those hints it brings forth hurt feeling and frustration. Maybe it is the trash is getting full. Do you wait for your spouse to notice it and take it out on their...2020-11-1928 min
The Relaxed MaleFind Who You Are Question of the Week - Courtesy of The Brotherhood of Men Comes from a Youtube Comment but user D in response to the last episode Don't Settle "Don't settle for what? Lmfao. Some people don't have any choice in their circumstances you ignorant f***. By the way, no matter what action you take during your life, it ends EXACTLY the same way -…" D Youtube User Now sadly either he deleted the comment shortly after posting it or Youtube removed it. Either way, there is something wonderful ab...2020-10-2233 min
The Relaxed MaleDon’t SettleQuestion of the Week By The Brotherhood of Men Why do Grandparents like to make quarrels in the house? Main Topic Why you don't want to become complacent. Becoming complacent causes you to rust. you miss many different opportunities that if you are on the lookout you could easily find. I call this complacency rusting. Because we men lose valuable skills when we start to rust. You can find rust forming on the 4 pillars of a Relaxed Male. Examples of rusting Mind - Fixed beliefs...2020-10-1539 min
The Relaxed MaleCancel The CancelingThis week we are talking about the current atmosphere in the US there is a lot of contention and lack of communication. We have the right rubbing the very being that drives the left up the wall. We are throwing “evidence” of why one side is right and the other side is wrong. So much that Facebook is almost unusable. I am actually thinking of installing the “Remove All Politics” Extension to my browser. Now it isn’t because I don’t like a political discussion from time to time. I was poking multiple bears with a very short st...2020-10-0839 min
The Relaxed Male4 Pillars of a Relaxed Male: The Man's SoulThis week we are talking about The Man’s Soul. This pillar has a couple of different facets. Not only does it mean building and creating but Feeding your soul is also tied to mental health. What does a Man’s soul mean? In a nutshell, it is being creative. We are said to be made in God’s image He is also called the creator. He created the Heavens and the earth and all that goes with that. If we are made in his image then it would be thought that we are creators too. Be A Cre...2020-08-1340 min
The Relaxed MaleThe 4 Pillars: The Man's MindWhy does a man’s mind need to be kept up? That is what we talk about this week on our continuing series about the 4 pillars of a relaxed Male or maybe fo a confident man. I don’t know I am playing with the thought and still working through some of the details. Either way, the principles of a man’s mind will stay the same. What do I mean by a man’s mind You have to feed your mind to keep it strong. Don’t mean just puzzles It is you You need it t...2020-08-0639 min
The Relaxed Male4 Pillars of Relaxed Male: The Man's BodyQuestion of the week https://www.quora.com/Is-it-better-to-reward-good-value-or-punish-bad-behavior-during-parenting/answer/Bryan-Goodwin-10?ch=10&share=1a1465c2&srid=p0zJe Main topic Why is the man’s body important to living a relaxed male lifestyle? The body is where you are at. Yeah, you are also in your mind but your body represents who you are. Are you fat or just slightly pudgy? Maybe you are a bean pole. How we look is important and tells the world a lot of what we think of ourselves. So your body is...2020-07-3042 min
The Relaxed MaleDenying Your EmotionsQuestion of the week John Dude, I thought this was a podcast that was supposed to help dads with their sons. When are you going to start helping those dads with their sons? Main Topic We are often stoic for many reasons but can that be overdone? Yes, the answer is simply yes. It can be overdone. We as people develop different means to cope with the different events in our lives. Often though we use these coping mechanisms to help us avoid uncomfortable situations or events. As men, we have a different...2020-07-0941 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Stories We are Living OutWe all have a story in our head. Yet we often have the wrong story. The story you tell is apart of whether or not you are going to succeed. Now, these stories are yours. But are you telling your story in the right frame of light or are you perhaps living somebody else story? Doing this doesn’t serve you and often it doesn’t benefit you in any way. What is meant by your story? Your story is what are you telling yourself. It can also be the story others are saying about you...2020-05-1438 min
The Relaxed MaleTaking ActionIf you want to succeed you have to take action. Sounds like that is a no brainer. Yet one of the reasons most people don’t succeed is because they don’t take the steps they need to take. They will hymn and haw over what they should or should not do Why people don’t take action Fear Afraid of what others will think Fear that they will change Afraid that they will lose their friend's Procrastination (fear) Afraid of what others will think Fear that they will be see...2020-04-1626 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Biggest Liar is The People Pleaser So many people say they hate liars. You cant trust them. Yet many of those people are the worst liars around. Now there are two types of people who are inherently liars. No, I am not talking about Navy recruiters or politicians. I am talking about Addicts are liars and the other natural liar is a people pleaser. I want to talk this week about the second. I will address the first at some time down the road, but today we are looking at people pleasers. Why People Pleasers? 2020-04-0226 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Scarcity Mindset This week talking about the opposite of the abundant mindset in Episode 14. That is a scarcity mindset and the problems it can cause in your efforts of being successful. We all have problems with negative thinking. Those negative thoughts are normal and have a purpose but they don’t serve us as they did in the caveman days. We use to not have enough and we had to fight for all that we had. Today that is still somewhat true but now scarcity is an element that holds us back. It keeps us safe and when being sa...2020-03-1247 min
The Relaxed MaleThe Abundant Mindset What is an abundant mindset? People with an abundant mindset feel freer to give and share because they don’t see that the resources in their life are in scare supply. They have the motto of There is more where that came from. Often people who aim for and achieve big goals are people who have an abundance-oriented mindset. Because they aren’t worried about what they don’t have, abundant mindset folks are generally happier and easier to get along with they like to take people on their journeys and include more people in their...2020-03-0537 min
The Relaxed Male V4VThe Abundant MindsetWhat is an abundant mindset?
People with an abundant mindset feel freer to give and share because they don’t see that the resources in their life are in scare supply. They have the motto of There is more where that came from. Often people who aim for and achieve big goals are people who have an abundance-oriented mindset. Because they aren’t worried about what they don’t have, abundant mindset folks are generally happier and easier to get along with they like to take people on their journeys and include more people in their success becaus...2020-03-0537 minThe Relaxed Male V4VBe YourselfSo there are so many people following each other it is actually pretty hard to see who is really leading. From Tattoos being a kind of interesting piece of art on bikers and sailers to now you see almost everyone with a tattoo.
What makes leaders and successful people are that they are different. They don't march to anybody's drum but their own. Though people around them try to force them into their square hole. These people are unique.
Don Imus
Howard Stern
Rush Limbaugh
What makes each of t...2020-02-1923 min
The Relaxed MaleBe YourselfSo there are so many people following each other it is actually pretty hard to see who is really leading. From Tattoos being a kind of interesting piece of art on bikers and sailers to now you see almost everyone with a tattoo.What makes leaders and successful people are that they are different. They don't march to anybody's drum but their own. Though people around them try to force them into their square hole. These people are unique. Don ImusHoward SternRush LimbaughWhat makes each of these three men different. Their c...2020-02-1623 min
The Relaxed MaleWhats Holding You BackTalking about failing to even start today. What holds you back? What are the factors that keep you from even taking getting far enough down the road to even feel stuck?Fear This is the biggest of all and encompasses just about everything that makes you not even want to jump off the diving board into the pool of cool success.Fear of Results But we want results right? Yes, we do. yet many times those results can be scary to think of. There are people who are afraid of what's going to happen to...2020-02-0135 min