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Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 191 - Next ChaptersWe’ve been on quite a journey together since 2021. Over 190 episodes, we’ve shared stories, strategies, and support to help you navigate past divorce and on to your best life.So many of you have taken these lessons and put them into action. You’ve rebuilt your life, restructured your families, supported your children, and created a new chapter for yourself. We are so proud of you and of the community we’ve built together.Today’s episode feels a little different, because it is. After four years of podcasting...
2025-10-0612 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 189 - Knowing Your BrainIn Episode 189, Doreen and Jeff tackle a vital subject: the interaction between the primitive brain and the thinking or prefrontal brain during the challenging experience of divorce. This significant life transition can affect your emotional and physical well-being.By understanding how these distinct areas of the brain operate, you can empower yourself to better manage the emotional upheaval that often accompanies divorce. Doreen and Jeff will shed light on how instinctual reactions, driven by the primitive brain, can contrast with the insights gained from engaging your thinking brain (the prefrontal cortex). This knowledge can help you build...
2025-08-1130 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 173 - Navigating the HolidaysThe holidays are here once again and if you’re not feeling the warm and fuzzies we understand. The holidays can bring up some memories that can be both good and bad. TV commercials, social media or just people in general are telling you to be thankful, merry and joyful. Easier said than done! In episode 173 Jeff and Doreen discuss some tips to help you make it through the holidays. Book your free call with Jeff at: https://lad-coaching.com/schedule-appointment/
2024-12-1633 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 172 - Happily ever afterRemember the fairy tales we read as children? Snow White? Cinderella? Beauty and the Beast? Each ended with one version or another of “…and they lived happily ever after.” In this episode, Jeff and Doreen discuss how the idea of "They lived happily ever after" is not possible because life is 50/50. Imperfect and full of trials and disappointments. This story book phrase is a romantic illusion that can lead to disappointment when people expect life to be perfect. Book your free call with Jeff at: https://lad-coaching.com/schedule-appointment/
2024-12-0230 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 169 - Suffering is a ChoiceOne of the lessons that we have teach often is how to recognize the 50-50 good/bad of the world. And a big part of that is learning how to accept pain and to develop the capacity to feel. In the episode Doreen and Jeff discuss the benefits of excepting your feelings and working through the emotions you will experience in marriage, during divorce and after divorce. Book your free call with Jeff at: https://lad-coaching.com/schedule-appointment/
2024-10-2827 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 168 - Getting unstuckRunning away from emotions and the feelings you’re experiencing before, during and after divorce is often a coping mechanism that can make your problems harder to deal with in the long run. In this episode Doreen and Jeff talk about getting unstuck during your marriage, divorce and afterwards. They discuss that getting unstuck doesn’t mean that you will suddenly going to have clarity about what the rest of your journey will look like, however, baby steps will be the catalyst to get started. Often, getting unstuck means taking a few steps in the dark, and feeling our way...
2024-10-2134 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 167 - How do I know when to Divorce? In this episode Doreen and Jeff give you more clarity on when it’s time to divorce. If you are in any stage of confusion, this episode is a must listen to. They discuss the warning signs that just might give you the ah ha you need to make the correct discussion in your best interest. Book your free call with Jeff at: https://lad-coaching.com/schedule-appointment/
2024-10-1438 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 166 - How long does it take to get Divorced?In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss different ways to speed up the divorce process. They will give up ways to speed up the process and will not only save you time, but it may also save you money, emotion, and stress. The less confrontational the divorce, generally, the less time it will take. Book your free call with Jeff at: https://lad-coaching.com/schedule-appointment/
2024-10-0746 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 164 - Regret doesn’t serve youRegret is typically not a very useful emotion. It has us worrying and stressed. It’s usually over something that’s happened or been done. It’s like a missed opportunity or a failed event is kind of how I think about it. And the feeling is this intense disappointment over having made the “wrong” decision. In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss how regret will not serve your wants or your goals. Book your free call with Jeff at: https://lad-coaching.com/schedule-appointment/
2024-09-2324 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 163 - How it all StartedIn this exciting episode you’ll find out how Doreen Yaffa, a high power Board Certified Family Attorney of almost 30 years and her husband, 4th degree Black Belt, Sensei Jeff Wilson both became Life Coaches and started their business Life After Divorce Coaching in Boca Raton, Florida. This episode will also appear for the first time on YouTube. So, hear or see them explain their motivation and love for helping others before, during and after divorce.
2024-09-1635 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 162 - Co-parentingAbout half of all American children will experience their parents’ divorce. While divorce is often stressful for families, a great deal of the stress gets thrusted onto the children trying to adjust to their new life. One important factor linked with child outcomes after divorce is the quality of the divorced couple’s co-parenting relationship. In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss some of the do’s and don’ts of coparenting and how to your children’s best interest first.
2024-09-0931 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 161 – What’s luck and hope have to do with it?In this episode, Doreen and Jeff dive into the impact of relying on hope and luck, and how these attitudes can actually hinder your future results. They explore the common mindset of saying "someday if I’m lucky enough" or "I hope so," and explain why these thoughts can keep you stuck in place rather than moving forward. Learn how to shift your mindset from wishful thinking to setting powerful, intentional goals. Doreen and Jeff share strategies for making a commitment to your goals and taking massive, purposeful action to achieve them. Tune in to discover how yo...
2024-09-0232 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 160 - Slow DownIn this episode, Jeff and Doreen explore the transformative effects of slowing down your mind. During the divorce process taking the time to calm our mind and body allows us to think more rationally and make better decisions. Deep breathing serves as a powerful tool to achieve this state of calmness, allowing us to think clearly and make choices that align with our wants. By combining a calm, rational mind with intentional deep breathing, you not only enhance your decision-making abilities but also unlock the potential to create and accomplish anything you truly want. Tune...
2024-08-2636 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 159 - Life is Good and BadPeople are often taught to see the world in black and white, categorizing things as either good or bad. There are good guys and bad guys, and the goal is to eliminate the bad so that only the good remains. However, this binary thinking can lead to unrealistic expectations and an intolerance for anything less than perfection from yourself or others, ultimately making you miserable. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen discuss the pitfalls of perfectionism and how it can negatively impact your relationships and personal well-being. They explore the importance of embracing imperfection and adopting a...
2024-08-1922 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 158 - Cost/Benefit and DivorceIn this episode, Jeff and Doreen explore how a cost-benefit analysis, commonly used in business, can be a powerful tool during a divorce. This method involves evaluating the worth of a relationship or action by subtracting the costs (such as time, money, and effort) from the benefits (such as friendship, companionship, and social support). This analysis can help you strategically approach the divorce process. By conducting a thorough cost-benefit analysis, you can gain clarity on your priorities and make informed decisions that will guide you through the divorce process more effectively. Jeff and Doreen provide f...
2024-08-1232 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 157 - Exercise and DivorceFitness and exercise have many benefits to your life after divorce. Join us as Doreen and Jeff discuss the many ways you can benefit both mentally and physically from exercise.
2024-08-0519 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 156 - Seek First To UnderstandCommunication is the most important skill in marriage and in divorce. You spend years learning how to read, write, and speak. But what about listening? What training have you had that enables you to listen so you really, deeply understand another human being? Probably none, right? During most divorces, spouses like most people, seek first to be understood to get their point across. In doing so, you may ignore the other person completely, pretend that you’re listening, selectively hear only certain parts of the conversation or attentively focus on only the words being said, but miss th...
2024-07-2926 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 155 - What Should I Ask During A Legal Consultation?In this episode, Jeff and Doreen provide a comprehensive guide on what to ask during a legal consultation with a divorce attorney. Navigating a divorce can be overwhelming, but knowing the right questions to ask can help you feel more prepared and confident. They cover essential topics to discuss, ensuring you get the most out of your consultation and lay a solid foundation for your case. By asking these questions, you can gain a clearer understanding of the legal process, your attorney’s capabilities, and the best path forward for your situation. Jeff and Doreen provide further in...
2024-07-2228 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 154 - Should I File First?In this episode, Jeff and Doreen dive into the legal aspects of divorce, discussing why it can be advantageous for a spouse to file for divorce first. Drawing on Doreen’s nearly 30 years of experience as a Family Attorney and over 20 years of being Board Certified in Family Law, they share invaluable insights into the divorce process and the strategic benefits of being the first to file. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of how taking the initiative can influence your case and hear expert tips on navigating the complexities of divorce with confidence.
2024-07-1535 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 153 - The Difference Between Hearing And ListeningIn this episode, Jeff and Doreen dive into the difference between hearing and listening. Hearing is an automatic, constant physical ability – it’s passive reception of sound waves from the environment, requiring no conscious effort. On the other hand, listening is an active process – it’s about paying attention, decoding, and understanding the messages being communicated. When going through a divorce listening is key when it comes down to negotiations, communication with your lawyers, mediators and yes, even your soon to be ex-spouse. Differentiate listening and hearing, and you’ll become a better communicator, a more empathetic friend, an...
2024-07-0833 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 152 - Self Worth is the Key your SuccessAcknowledging your worth and believing in it is indeed crucial during such a challenging time better known as divorce. Self-awareness and self-assurance can help you rebuild your life and set a positive foundation for the future. It's like renovating a house; you need to clear out the old, damaged parts and build something stronger and more resilient in their place. In the episode Jeff and Doreen will give you tips on dismantling old beliefs and empowering you with a new version of yourself. This process can involve reflecting on past experiences, understanding what didn't work, and being open...
2024-07-0124 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 151 - Redefining Your IdentityFinding your new self after a divorce can be challenging but also exhilarating. After years of being part of a couple, figuring out who you are on your own might seem daunting, but it’s also an opportunity to explore new possibilities and invigorate your life. The upside of divorce is that it provides a fantastic opportunity for growth and self-discovery. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen discuss ways to redefine your identity post-divorce, helping you move forward with confidence and build a life that truly reflects who you are. Join them as they share insights and stra...
2024-06-2426 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 150 – Summer Custody: Balancing Fun and FairnessSummer is here and the heat is on! Who gets the kids and for how long? While most summer schedules are determined during the divorce process, it's essential to maintain flexibility, compassion, and understanding towards your ex. Prioritizing the kids' needs and ensuring they have a relaxing and enjoyable summer vacation is key. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen discuss strategies for balancing summer custody arrangements and creating a positive experience for everyone involved.
2024-06-1721 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 149 - Communication with PurposeWhether you are co-parenting or striving for a more civil relationship, effective communication with a clear purpose is crucial. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen explore strategies designed to help you navigate conversations with anyone, especially your ex. They share insights and practical tips to enhance your communication skills, fostering better understanding and cooperation. Join them to learn how purposeful communication can transform your interactions and lead to more harmonious relationships.
2024-06-1025 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 148 - The Mediation Process Divorce mediation is a viable option for couples considering divorce in Florida. This voluntary process allows couples to make decisions about various aspects of their divorce with the assistance of a mediator. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss the process itself and add in a few tips to make the process go smoother and allow for the process to be a success.
2024-06-0321 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 147 - GuiltGuilt manifests in various forms during a divorce, often intertwined with feelings of regret and shame. It's common for at least one party to experience guilt to some degree. If left unaddressed, guilt can disrupt the divorce process, particularly during settlement negotiations, in two primary ways. First, guilt can lead to one party making overly generous concessions, driven by a sense of remorse or a desire to compensate for perceived wrongs. Second, guilt can also cause a party to become overly defensive or obstructive, attempting to justify their actions or resist compromise out of a...
2024-05-2731 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 146 - Kids and Your New Person In this episode, Doreen and Jeff delve into the delicate topic of introducing a new romantic partner to one's children. They explore the timing and approach that are essential for ensuring a smooth and positive transition for both the parent and the children. By discussing the right time and the appropriate manner in which to introduce a new partner, Doreen and Jeff aim to provide listeners with valuable insights and guidance on navigating this significant milestone in blended families. Through thoughtful consideration and open communication, they offer strategies for fostering understanding and acceptance among all parties involved, ultimately fostering...
2024-05-2127 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 145 - Anger is expensiveUnchecked anger can exacerbate the challenges of divorce, fueling extensive and bitter litigation that inflicts unnecessary financial strain on families. Prolonged legal battles, lasting for months or even years, and can tear families apart and pose significant harm to children. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen offer guidance on effectively managing anger before, during, and after divorce. By addressing this powerful emotion head-on, they aim to mitigate the destructive impact it can have on individuals and families, fostering a more constructive and amicable resolution to the challenges of divorce.
2024-05-1336 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 143 - Find and then Create YourselfIn today's episode, Jeff and Doreen delve into the concept of finding oneself, emphasizing that this journey is merely the starting point. Beyond discovering your true self, it's essential to identify your desires and goals, and then take proactive steps to manifest the life you envision. Taking action is the crucial key to transforming your aspirations into reality.
2024-04-2924 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 142 - Procrastination is a Good ThingRather than succumbing to feelings of embarrassment, guilt, or being immobilized by procrastination, consider the potential for something extraordinary. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen dive into Procrastination and how it can serve as a catalyst for unleashing your creativity and productivity. By understanding your procrastination patterns, you can transform your thoughts ( The Model-Episode #120 ) into tools for identifying your top three priorities, paving the way for significant achievements each day.
2024-04-2233 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 141 - Knowing Your StuffIn this episode, Doreen and Jeff delve into a crucial aspect of navigating divorce: understanding your assets. Whether you're considering divorce or already in the midst of it, having a clear grasp of your financial landscape is essential. Join them as they discuss why knowledge truly is power in this situation.
2024-04-1523 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 140 - Getting your Power BackIn this episode, Jeff and Doreen explore the theme of reclaiming your power. Discover strategies to embrace personal responsibility and move away from blame as part of the healing journey following a divorce.
2024-04-0825 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 139 – Taking OwnershipWhile going through divorce there are many circumstances that we cannot control. The one thing we always have control over, however, is ourselves. And taking responsibility for ourselves is incredibly empowering and a huge part of the healing process. It isn’t about blaming yourself for the divorce. It’s about seeing every situation in your life as if you own it and taking responsibility for your part of it. When you learn to do this, you give yourself so much more power than staying in a victim mentality. This...
2024-04-0129 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 137 - Be Future minded in the Present What would the You, that has already achieved, that has already become, that is already where you want to be, how would you act today and what decisions would you make differently if you made decisions as if you were already there? In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss how living your present life future minded can be essential to creating an amazing life.
2024-03-1830 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 136 - Loving your life after DivorceYou truly have the capacity and capability to create the life you want and deserve after Divorce. In this episode Jeff and Doreen will discuss how the pieces explained in the last five episodes all work together in this recording of February’s webinar.
2024-03-111h 00
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 135 - The Results of our ActionsIn the fifth installment of our series, Jeff and Doreen dive into the concluding segment titled "Results." They explore the current state of your life and the journey that brought you here, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness in determining what your life will look like in your life after divorce. This invaluable resource underscores the idea that the fulfilling and desirable life you seek is closer than you may realize, offering insights into how to attain it.
2024-03-0433 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 132 - ThoughtsWelcome to Episode 132 of our podcast. This is Part 2 of 5 and where we uncover how powerful our thoughts can be and how they create different feelings and emotions. Doreen and Jeff discuss how you can have thoughts that serve your goals and dreams. It’s all about awareness and control of your thoughts. Find out how this ability alone will make the biggest changes to your life after divorce and grace you with amazing empowerment.
2024-02-1230 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 131 - Circumstance Welcome to Episode 131 of our podcast, where we kick off a 5-part series on the Elements of the Model. In this series, we explore the powerful tool known as “The Model” and how it can be used to customize your amazing life after divorce. In this episode, Doreen and Jeff take a deep dive into the elements that make up the model, starting with the first step: the Circumstance. They discuss why circumstances cannot be changed or denied, and provide insights on how to navigate them effectively. Join us as we unravel the secr...
2024-02-0523 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 129 – Is it Happiness or is it Success?In this thought-provoking podcast episode, Doreen and Jeff dive into the misconception that success is a prerequisite for happiness. They explore the idea that happiness actually plays a crucial role in achieving success, especially in the context of life after divorce. Additionally, they delve into the distinction between happiness and success, questioning societal expectations and exploring the true meaning of both. Join us as we uncover the secrets to finding happiness and success in your own life!
2024-01-2229 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 128 - Loving Yourself: Embracing the Past, Present, and FutureWelcome to a motivational episode where Doreen and Jeff dive into the concept of self-love. Discover the significance of loving your past, present, and future self, and learn practical strategies to cultivate a deep sense of self-acceptance and appreciation. Tune in to gain valuable insights on how to truly love yourself, regardless of your personal history, current circumstances, or future aspirations. Get ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and unlock the limitless potential of self-love.
2024-01-1524 minLife After Divorce CoachingEp. 126 - New Year, New YouWe have with the brand-new gorgeous year ahead of us and the past completely behind us. We now have a fresh start and an amazing opportunity to make 2024 the best year ever. In this episode Doreen and Jeff talk about the choices that we make when we have a new start. How to get past the tough times and focus on your successes.
2024-01-0129 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 125 - Saying GoodbyeSaying goodbye isn’t easy and most of us don’t do it enough. What we mean by that, it is beneficial to your future life after divorce to say goodbye to the things in your life that no longer serve you. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss how and why to say goodbye to things in your life that don’t serve your future self.
2023-12-2626 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 124 – Before, During and After Divorce AccountabilityGet ready for a sizzling episode that will leave you fired up and ready to take charge of your life! It's time to own up to your thoughts, actions, and results, and yes, even your role in that divorce. Brace yourself for a mind-blowing shift in perspective as we dive into the power of personal accountability. This episode is all about empowering yourself, learning valuable lessons, and embarking on a healing journey like never before. But hold on tight, because it's not as easy as it sounds! Life throws obstacles our way, and that's where having an...
2023-12-1827 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 123 – Setting Passionate GoalsDivorce can be a challenging and transformative experience. As you navigate this new chapter in your life, it's important to find ways to rediscover your passions to create a fulfilling future. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss finding your passion and how to apply them to your post-divorce journey.
2023-12-1125 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 122 - Loneliness and DivorceIn the beginning stages of healing after divorce it’s normal to experience grief, sadness, and anger and other emotions can start you on an emotional rollercoaster. Emotions like these may cause you to pull away from others and isolate yourself, which can eventually lead to feelings of loneliness. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss loneliness and divorce and what you can do to about it.
2023-12-0426 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 122 – Loneliness and DivorceIn the beginning stages of healing after divorce it’s normal to experience grief, sadness, and anger and other emotions that can start you on an emotional rollercoaster. Emotions like these may cause you to pull away from others and isolate yourself, which can eventually lead to feelings of loneliness. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss loneliness and divorce and what you can do about it.
2023-12-0425 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 121 - Tips before DivorceIn this episode Jeff interviews Board Certified Family Attorney Doreen Yaffa on some great tips to consider before you divorce.
2023-11-2725 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 120 - Revisiting the ModelThe thoughts we have are very powerful to the results we have in our life, especially when you are moving past divorce and picking up the pieces to your next best life. In this episode, Jeff and Doreen discuss a helpful tool called the Model that will clarify how this works.
2023-11-2030 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 119 - Boundaries Can Be Life ChangingIn this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss setting Boundaries. When you set a boundary with other people in your life, it can be very empowering and can really accelerate the healing process and your growth after divorce.
2023-11-1329 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 118 - The Manual and DivorceOften the people we have Manuals for aren’t even aware that these so-called “rule books” exist, yet we expect them to follow the rules in them and then we get upset with them when they don’t. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss how to shed your manuals and lead a more empowering life after divorce.
2023-11-0628 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 117 - Divorce AngerA very common and expected emotion that shows up before, during and after divorce is Anger. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss how to except your anger as a normal emotion. Once you are aware of your anger and what to do with it to serve your goals and your future.
2023-10-3023 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 116 - What Can You Learn from Your DivorceThere is so much you can learn about yourself from your divorce. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss turning your feelings into a commitment to improve yourself and empower yourself to heal, learn and create the best life ever after divorce.
2023-10-2321 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 115 - When to LeaveIn the episode, Jeff and Doreen explain how they believe and teach the concept of get happy before you leave. Don’t leave a situation in order to be happy. Find out when and how to leave.
2023-10-1640 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 114 - Coaching Concepts on LifeIn this episode Jeff and Doreen as they give you 10 concepts on life that are important elements of their coaching practice. Try these out for size. They might just blow your mind and affect your life in so many ways.
2023-10-0936 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 113 - Don't Worry, Be MindfulWhen worrying become excessive, persistent and uncontrollable it can affect your daily life and slow down the healing process after divorce. Well, don’t worry about it! In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss how to get a grip on worrying and give you 6 tips on how to take control back of your life.
2023-10-0223 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 112 - Moving Past GrudgesOne of the biggest issues after divorce is holding grudges. In this episode Doreen & Jeff discuss the benefits of letting grudges go no matter who you are holding a grudge against. Learn some tips on how to get rid of grudges that could possibly hold you back from the life you desire after divorce.
2023-09-2526 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 111 - Avoid Making The Same MistakesIf you can figure out the reasons your last relationship broke up, you’ll be less likely to travel the same road again. Do you keep choosing the wrong type of partner? Do you sabotage your relationships by hiding your true thoughts and feelings? Reflection can be painful and time-consuming, but it’s the best way to gain insight. If you keep making the same relationship mistakes, it may be because you haven’t taken time to stop and think about your relationships. In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss why this happens and how to avoid making the same m...
2023-09-1821 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 110 – Thinking about a Prenuptial and Postnuptial? In this episode Jeff interviews Doreen about prenups and postnups. Learn how these agreements can help before, during and after your marriage.
2023-09-1120 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 109 - All or NothingAre your “All or Nothing” thoughts slowing down your healing process after your divorce? In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss what a “All or Nothing” mindset is and how this one dimensional thinking can effect your future growth in your life.
2023-09-0430 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 108 - Procrastination before, during and after DivorceIs procrastination holding you back from filing, getting through or getting over your divorce? Doreen and Jeff discuss how to turn your procrastinations into motivations. Don’t let procrastination paralyze your goals towards your amazing life after divorce.
2023-08-2826 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 107 - Is resentment holding you back?Resentment can be that negative emotion that can hold you back from the future you deserve after divorce. In this week’s episode Jeff and Doreen discuss why it can hold you back and what to do if you’re stuck in resentment.
2023-08-2119 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 106 - S.M.A.R.T. GoalsGoal setting after divorce keeps you grounded and focused on what you really want for your new life. In this episode Jeff and Doreen discuss why goal setting is important to launching and achieving that new life after divorce. Find out why your goals must be S.M.A.R.T. and how to stay focused on your desired life.
2023-08-1425 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 105 - Leaving the Pity PartyAre you visiting the “Self-Pity Party?” In this week’s episode Doreen and Jeff discuss how you compound your negative emotions by feeling sorry for yourself instead of doing something about it.
2023-08-0728 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 104 - Vacay MindsetDo you want to feel like you’re on a permanent vacation? In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss how to manage your time after divorce so you can enjoy your down time as if you were on vacation.
2023-07-3120 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 103 - Success is Sweet RevengeSuccess is sweet Revenge, especially after divorce. In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss how everyone must fail to succeed. It’s these failures that make success the best revenge on your own doubts and barriers that you put on yourself.
2023-07-2422 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 102 - Thoughts are RealThoughts are real. You can smell them, sell them, and even hear them. In this episode, Doreen and Jeff discuss the power thoughts have in your life after divorce and how you can decide how to use your thoughts to shape your future.
2023-07-1725 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 101 - We Love Our PetsWhile they might not understand the full extent of life after divorce, pets do experience sadness and depression when someone is no longer a part of their daily lives. In this episode Doreen and Jeff discuss tips on how you can help your pet deal with divorce, as well as, what to consider when you’re thinking about getting a pet after divorce.
2023-07-1023 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 99 - Retell Your Divorce StoryWe all have “stories” that we tell ourselves and other about our divorce. What is the story you are telling? Is it focused on the negative? In this episode, Doreen and Jeff discuss seeing the positive of divorce, even if it is small to start so that you can move forward and find the evidence in your life that can fuel you to recover quicker and start to live in a happier and better place after divorce.
2023-06-2625 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 98 - Traveling - You deserve it!You may be thinking that you don’t deserve or can’t travel right now because you have so much to deal with basically recovering from the divorce. However, travel can be such an amazing opportunity to jump start your new life, explore somewhere you have always wanted to visit, or just set aside some much needed “you” time to regroup and recharge yourself. Come listen to Jeff and Doreen as they talk about their recent travel to Argentina that inspired them to talk to you about how travel can be just what you need.
2023-06-1924 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 97 - Telling your child about the Divorce and More…Getting advice from trained professionals is always a good idea before telling your child about the decision to divorce. It all depends on the age of eth child and other factors and should be approach with love and understanding. Doreen and Jeff discuss their own experiences telling their children and also other tips and thoughts to consider.
2023-06-1230 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 96 - Exercise and DivorceFitness and exercise have many benefits to your life after divorce. Join us in as Doreen and Jeff discuss the many ways you can benefit both mentally and physically from exercise.
2023-06-0519 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 95 - Embrace the Hard TimesDivorce can be challenging. How we face those challenges can be a catalyst to an amazing life after divorce. In this episode, Doreen and Jeff discuss understanding how our brain provides us lots of reasons to shy away from doing hard things, which in turn keeps us stuck in a place we don’t want to be. Embracing challenges unlocks the key to strength and creating the life we dream of.
2023-05-2922 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 94 - Divorce and ResistanceWith divorce comes many changes. This week Doreen and Jeff discuss why we resist the changes, associated with divorce, and how to embrace these changes so you can transition sooner into your new life.
2023-05-2225 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 93 - No Whining on the YachtThere is a difference between voicing a concern and whining or complaining. In this week’s episode, Doreen and Jeff discuss how to deal with the whinner in you or in those around you. Most importantly, if you are whining about your divorce, how to stop whining and start winning.
2023-05-1529 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 92 - Reinventing YourselfDivorce can be a catalyst for change and an opportunity for personal growth. In this episode, Doreen and Jeff explore the idea of reinventing yourself. You'll leave this episode knowing how to reflect on your current identity and envision who you aspire to become.
2023-05-0921 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 91 - Talking to YourselfThe Googles tell us that we have around 60,000 thoughts each day just to ourselves. These are the ongoing thoughts that fill our minds all the time. Some thoughts are obvious and some not so much. In this week’s episode, Doreen and Jeff, explore self-talk and how to improve your positive self-talk so you can feel better and work more efficiently towards the results you want after divorce and to a better life.
2023-05-0125 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 90 - BufferingWhen you overindulge in alcohol, eating, shopping or anything to avoid a negative emotion, it’s called buffering. Listen to this episode as Doreen and Jeff discuss buffering and working past negatives emotions, especially as you heal from divorce. This way you can enjoy and live an authentic life.
2023-04-2422 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 86 - The Manual and CoparentingIn this episode, Doreen and Jeff discuss what a manual is and how to think about them as to your coparenting relationship with your ex. However, recognizing where you may have unwritten manuals for anyone, in your life, is something worth considering especially as you move forward in healing from your divorce and designing a life on purpose.
2023-03-2732 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 85 - Throw Away Your TDLIs it possible to throw away your TDL and get more done? The answer is yes. Come listen to this weeks episode where Doreen and Jeff discuss how being “busy,” after divorce especially, doesn’t have to be so stressful.
2023-03-2034 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 84 - Relationships After DivorceRelationships are important to most of us. Whether it's a friendship, coworker, romantic relationship, or another type of relationship, the truth is that they take time to nurture. In episode #84, Doreen talks about why you should take some time to look at the relationships in your life after your divorce. Which ones do you want to spend more time on, which might you consider saying goodbye to, and which new relationships would you like to create? Listen as we explore some things to consider when it comes to the relationships in your life — some of them might surprise you.
2023-03-1325 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 83 - Exercise Can HelpWe all know that exercise is great for our physical and mental health. But did you know that exercise also has other great benefits when going through divorce? In episode 83, Doreen and Jeff discuss 6 ways that exercise can speed up feeling better during and after divorce and push you to a better and happier life.
2023-03-0620 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 80 - Divorce and ChildrenIn this episode, Doreen and Jeff discuss some general thoughts about children and divorce, children at different stages/ages, and co-parenting with your ex, keeping in mind your child’s best interest. Sharing common ground and having a game plan to discuss important child related coparenting issues is vital to assisting children to best deal with divorce.
2023-02-1335 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 78 - David Moreno, Badass Business CoachIn this episode, Doreen and Jeff talk with Dave Moreno, the Badass Business Coach. Find out what a Badass Coach is and get some insight on how divorce can affect your business and how to circumvent issues.
2023-01-3030 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 77 - Respond Don't ReactWhen you first hear the words react and respond they seem to have similar meanings. Yet, through our coaching, we have come to understand that there is a difference in their meanings, particularly when communicating during challenging situations such as divorce. In this episode Doreen and Jeff explain the difference between the two words and how to effectively manage your thoughts, during a conversation to create the best results possible.
2023-01-2327 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 75 - Grass is Not GreenerWe’ve all heard the expression “The grass isn’t always greener on the other side”. In this episode, Doreen and Jeff dive deep as to the meaning of this saying and how it can affect your present happiness and how you can choose when and how to feel. Living in the present with appreciation, even when your circumstance is divorce, can truly be a place you should be ok with. Let’s learn why.
2023-01-0931 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 74 - GriefIn the episode Doreen and Jeff discuss a recent personal tragedy that lead them to the topic of grief. Learn the 5 stages of grief. Whether it’s divorce or a loss of a pet, it’s important to know these stages to get through the healing process.
2023-01-0217 minLife After Divorce CoachingEp. 71 - Conversation with Doreen YaffaIn this episode Jeff interviews Doreen about how she got into coaching, her style of coaching, and her focus on helping women to create their best lives after divorce.
2022-12-1223 minLife After Divorce CoachingEp. 70 - The Difference Between Coaching Men and WomenIn this episode, Doreen interviews her husband Jeff Wilson. Jeff Wilson is a entrepreneur, business owner and family man who loves life coaching. Discover Jeff’s background and motivation that drives his coaching practice. Find out the difference between coaching a women and coaching a man.
2022-12-0531 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 11 - The ModelToday is all about getting back to the foundation using "The Model." Whether you're new to this process or just need a refresher, it's a powerful skill for when you notice your thoughts are not serving you. You have the absolute ability to change your results by changing your thoughts - and I'm going to help you do just that. Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law Group or Your Divorce Law Center, their respective officers, directors, emplo...
2021-10-1824 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 10 - Cultivating Positive Co-ParentingIn this episode, I will give you advice on how you can create a positive co-parenting relationship and why it is so important for your kids. For example, treat your relationship with your ex as you would a business partner- keep emotions out of it. I know my situation is unique, but a civil partnership CAN be accomplished if we just focus on the goal – children who know they are loved. Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are they endorsed by Yaffa Family Law G...
2021-10-1121 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 9 - Setting Clear External BoundariesIn the last episode, we talked internal boundaries, the ones we set for ourselves. Today, we're setting external boundaries, meaning boundaries with others. How many of us need help in this area? In this episode, I'll help you define your boundaries and teach you how to communicate them clearly. When we learn how to set boundaries and how to enforce them: We start to take care of ourselves on a whole new level We start to love yourself more We start to respect the time that you have, how you want to spend it and who and how yo...
2021-10-0429 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 8 - Internal BoundariesIn the next two episodes, we're talking boundaries -- boundaries you set for yourself and for others. Today is all about you. In this episode: What are boundaries How setting boundaries can help us to stop wasting time and energy How boundaries can be the key to building strength within Click here to get updates, tips and expert advice and be one of the first to hear about Doreen’s new online community! Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own and do not represent the views of nor are th...
2021-09-2715 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 7 - The Myth of Happily Ever AfterAs women, we’re conditioned to unrealistically, in my opinion, believe that when we marry the person of our dreams or what we think the person of our dreams is, that we will live this make-believe story, which includes a handsome prince who will take care of us, a home with a white picket fence, perfect children and maybe one Golden Doodle. Oh and we'll look amazing and never age. We're taught that marriage is the perfect formula for our life ever-after of happiness and bliss. But I ask you, if life is a combination of good and bad, the...
2021-09-2019 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 6 - It's a 50/50 LifeOne of the things I tell all my clients is that it's a 50/50 life. The sooner we get it, the happier we'll be. Life is 50% good, 50% not so good and knowing that is the key to some amazing days ahead. How you feel today about your divorce is not how you will feel forever -- I promise. So let's dive in. Click here to get updates, tips and expert advice and be one of the first to hear about Doreen’s new online community! Disclaimer: Views expressed by the participants of this program are their own...
2021-09-1424 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 5 - Setting GoalsAfter divorce, you're likely feeling a bit numb, sad, unmotivated. There is a time and a place to mourn this, to permit yourself the chance to grieve and to not be hard on yourself. It's important to your healing and then it's important to taking action to your best future self and life. So part of what I believe is important to becoming the best version of ourselves is to have goals. In this episode, we talk: Why we need goals as humans and how they help us on such a larger scale and with a bigger picture in mi...
2021-09-0632 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp. 4 - No More RegretsAre you dealing with any feelings of regret stemming from the breakdown of your marriage? I bet the answer is yes. For some of you, it may be a lot of regret that you're thinking about on a more regular basis and for others, it might creep in every so often. I don't want you to get stuck in that regret mode. In this episode, we dive into the feeling of regret and how you can use regret to your advantage, to create a better life for yourself by avoiding the same mistakes and instead going for your dreams.
2021-08-3017 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEp.3 - Taking Your Power BackWe're talking one of my favorite subjects, I hope that it rocks your world as much as it did mine. I call this the manual. Think about it: You know this very thick manual that you've written for your ex, have you ever let him see it or read it? Does he know what he's supposed to do in order to operate himself in your life post-divorce so that his relationship with you worked correctly? When I ask this of my clients, I get this perplexed look. The manual is like a playbook or rulebook on...
2021-08-2330 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEP.2 - Letting Go of Victim MentalityCould you be stuck in divorce victim mentality? It's quite possible. But you have the ability to change your thoughts and create an amazing life after divorce. In this episode, I'll give you the tools that I've learned going through my own divorce, being a child from divorce and dealing with thousands of clients as a divorce attorney for over 26 years. • How to identify victim mentality and get out of it. • How to stop playing the blame game • How to respond to comments that could fuel the flames • How to surround yourself with others who...
2021-08-1613 min
Life After Divorce CoachingEP.1 - Can You Really Have an Amazing Divorce?I know you want to move on to your amazing life, and because I know that you have what it takes to get going, we're going to start making changes today. You are likely searching for something to get you through your divorce and onto your best life. I have no doubt that if you stay with me on this journey, you will understand happiness and fulfillment and truly accomplish and have anything you want in your life. In this episode: How to become accountable for yourself and not leave your happiness in the hands of your...
2021-08-0935 minLife After Divorce CoachingWelcome to Your Amazing DivorceWhat if your divorce could end up being one of the best things that could ever happen to you? Host Doreen Yaffa is a marital and family lawyer and certified life coach who's coached and consulted women for over 26 years -- she's seen it all. Now she's sharing her expertise and own personal experience to help you turn a difficult time into Your Amazing Divorce. Favorite or follow Your Amazing Divorce on your fave podcast app. Click here to get updates, tips and expert advice and be one of the first to hear about Doreen’s new onli...
2021-05-2100 min