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The Real NetworkThe Psychology Behind P. Diddy’s Disturbing Acts | Kurt Egelhof on Directing Isidingo26.05.25 Pt 1 - Kurt Egelhof is a legend in the South African arts and theatre scene. He joins Gareth to talk about the genesis of Isidingo and how he came to direct over 250 episodes of local TV dramas like Isidingo, Scandal!, and Backstage.
Gareth also weighs in on the breaking news that Mzansi Magic has dropped Podcast and Chill with MacG following controversial and offensive remarks.
Plus, with the P. Diddy trial currently making headlines, disturbing details have emerged around themes of humiliation, power, and control.
From a psychological perspective, Dr Hanan Bushkin unpacks what drives...2025-05-261h 02The Gareth Cliff ShowThe Psychology Behind P. Diddy’s Disturbing Acts | Kurt Egelhof on Directing Isidingo26.05.25 Pt 1 - Kurt Egelhof is a legend in the South African arts and theatre scene. He joins Gareth to talk about the genesis of Isidingo and how he came to direct over 250 episodes of local TV dramas like Isidingo, Scandal!, and Backstage.
Gareth also weighs in on the breaking news that Mzansi Magic has dropped Podcast and Chill with MacG following controversial and offensive remarks.
Plus, with the P. Diddy trial currently making headlines, disturbing details have emerged around themes of humiliation, power, and control.
From a psychological perspective, Dr Hanan Bushkin unpacks what drives...2025-05-261h 02
It's Going to be OKChild of DivorceDr Hanan Bushkin deals with a listener question about divorced parents, and how the kids involved can deal with the conflict - no matter how old they are.2024-05-1313 minIt's Going to be OKUnhelpful LabelsDr Hanan Bushkin gives Gareth Cliff advice on setting boundaries and creating specific dynamics between people. Producer James asks Dr Hanan about people who believe that depression isn’t real, and the difference between a tough time and depression.2024-03-1815 minIt's Going to be OKFear of FailureGareth and Dr Hanan Bushkin discuss conflict on social media, and who you should be comparing yourself to when interacting online. Hanan’s answer? “You should be assessing what you want to achieve in life.” Dr Hanan also explores the reason people avoid setting goals for self-improvement.2024-03-1114 minIt's Going to be OKOverwhelming SupportSimphiwe chats to Dr Hanan Bushkin about how to deal with being flooded with messages of support after a loss. Dr Hanan also gives Simphiwe advice on how to deal with people who make romantic advances during a period of grief.2024-03-0414 minIt's Going to be OKThe Co-Dependant Love StoryDr Hanan Bushkin has some thoughts on the Will Smith x Jada Pinkett Smith saga. Is it co-dependancy or a lie?2023-10-2311 minIt's Going to be OKShould you Trust your Feelings?The team delves into whether or not you should actually trust your feelings. Dr Hanan Bushkin gives advice on how to navigate platonic relationships when you don't like your friend's partner, how to foster a relationship with an estranged parent, and more!2023-09-1116 minIt's Going to be OKRelationships with AddictsDr Hanan Bushkin questions Gareth about how he makes sense of getting older after his recent birthday. The audience sends in some questions for the doc to answer, including dealing with an addict in a relationship.2023-08-2812 minIt's Going to be OKBeating ProcrastinationDr. Hanan Bushkin gives advice on how to stop procrastinating and get things done, using discipline and motivation… two of his favorite subjects to talk about.2023-07-1013 minIt's Going to be OKRegret and AcceptanceBernard Buys, aka Betty Bangles, has had some strange encounters after announcing his plans to emigrate and is unsure how to deal with it. Dr Hanan Bushkin gives him some guidance on how one should react to such encounters, and make the best decision for your future self.2023-07-0313 minIt's Going to be OKGoal First, Strategy SecondDr. Hanan Bushkin and the team discuss Gareth’s frustration with reliability and consistency in people. There are specific boxes you need to place some people into, in order to avoid disappointment. Know your goal first, and strategize second.2023-05-1514 minIt's Going to be OKSunken Cost SyndromeWhen you invest a lot of time and effort into a person, is it worth it to hold on… or start fresh and hit that reset button? Dr Hanan Bushkin explains how to correctly distribute your time, effort and coins - even if it means writing off a lot.2023-04-0311 minIt's Going to be OKBody Positivity vs Fat ShamingDr Hanan Bushkin mediates a little argument between Gareth and Leigh-Ann about body image. Leigh-Ann (having considered herself fat for most of her life) talks about the importance of feeling comfortable in your skin, and promoting beauty of all shapes and sizes… vs Gareth’s argument of “no one likes to see overweight people and stop making excuses!” Whose side are you on? Dr Hanan weighs in.2023-03-2019 minIt's Going to be OKUnStuck: Bully vs VictimDr Hanan Bushkin is in studio with Gareth to introduce you to an incredible duo with a touching story. Clinton Fein and Bryan Schimmel are touring the country to tell their story of how a victim/bully relationship has been reconciled and are now close to being best friends. Dr Hanan gives his analysis and view on the bullying relationship, and tips for a successful reconciliation.2023-03-1324 minIt's Going to be OKThe Quest for Eternal YouthDr Hanan Bushkin weighs in on something Gareth and the team were discussing regarding children growing up overprotected. He also covers the reasons why we might want to stay young, instead of embracing growing older gracefully.2023-02-2013 minIt's Going to be OKGoing through the MotionsDr Hanan Bushkin joins the show to unpack the tragic passing of AKA and his former manager Tibz. He advises how to mourn in the space of your friends and loved ones, and not to handle such emotions on your own.2023-02-1315 minIt's Going to be OKThe Power of ForgivenessCandice Mama opens up about the time in her life where she forgave her father’s killer, and advocated for his parole - in order to set herself free from the heartache it had caused her family. Dr Hanan Bushkin explains the importance of forgiveness, and how it can be life-changing.2023-02-0615 minIt's Going to be OKLoadshedding: Rewards & ConsequencesLoadshedding is affecting us all in one way or another, but there is more than one aspect to consider. Dr Hanan Bushkin explains the mindset we need to have, which includes the theory of successful people vs unsuccessful people, and the coin theory about knowing which situations you can and can’t control.2023-01-2312 minIt's Going to be OKIntroducing UnStuckDr Hanan Bushkin introduces a new feature that he wants to kick off this year, called UnStuck. It’s a mediation feature where couples, business partners, friends or colleagues who are stuck in complicated situations come on the show for a live mediation session. If you have a complicated situation that you need help with, send an email to contact@cliffcentral.com and get unstuck!2023-01-1616 minIt's Going to be OKThe Secret to HappinessAre you single or with a partner for the wrong reasons? Dr Hanan Bushkin explains why relationships are important, people’s fear of being alone or social pressure, and why it’s important to be honest with yourself and enjoy your own company.2022-12-1916 minIt's Going to be OKFulfilling One’s NeedsThis week Dr Hanan Bushkin unpacks two emails - one wanting advice on making a big move to another city, and the other wanting to know if being needy is a bad thing.2022-12-1215 minIt's Going to be OKInternal vs ExternalGareth asks Dr Hanan Bushkin what people can do for the upcoming festive season, which isn’t so positive for some. Dr Hanan explains why going inside your own head can be a bad thing… and how living ‘externally’ is the solution.2022-11-2819 minIt's Going to be OKDealing with Matric Exam StressIt’s that time of year - matric exams… and along with that comes a lot of stress and anxiety - for both the learners writing the exams, and their parents! This week Dr Hanan Bushkin speaks about what we can do to help our kids, and how they can help themselves. He’s joined by teacher and school owner, Tyron Fuchsloch.2022-11-0715 minIt's Going to be OKHow to deal with a Home Break-inWe got an email from one of our listeners with a similar issue to something Simphiwe wanted some help with. Simphiwe joins the show to seek advice from Dr Hanan Bushkin on how to deal with a recent break-in at her home.2022-10-3115 minIt's Going to be OKHow to Maintain Adult FriendshipsIs it possible to have too many or too few friends? Is it normal to not have any friends? This week Dr Hanan Bushkin responds to an email from Steph about making new friends as an adult.2022-10-2413 minIt's Going to be OKChange of PerspectiveThe team speaks to Antoinette, who wrote a blog post that inspired Dr Hanan Bushkin. Her article chronicles her perspective on South Africa, and Dr Hanan thinks that every South African needs to hear it!2022-10-1716 minIt's Going to be OKThe Relationship GameShanon joins the show with a tricky situation she would like some advice about, involving her boyfriend’s best friend and his wife. Dr Hanan Bushkin shares how saying, “This is how you made me feel” is a useless statement - and instead it helps to address people on how you want them to play the game.2022-10-0314 minIt's Going to be OKHow to Deal with GriefThis week Dr Hanan Bushkin joins the team to discuss something that pretty much everyone can relate to - grief. He talks about the phases (not stages) of grief, and also shares some useful tips on how to deal with it.2022-09-2615 minIt's Going to be OKWorking Mom GuiltDr Hanan Bushkin unpacks the identity many women have with being mothers, and the struggle to find balance when you’re a working mom. Sacrifice is inevitable, but compromise is a substitute. The coin theory makes an appearance again, reminding you to choose carefully where you invest your time and energy as a parent.2022-09-1914 minIt's Going to be OKThe Heart is a LiarThis week Happiness joins the show to get some help from Dr Hanan Bushkin about dating, and why she seems to attract men who are only physically interested in her. He explains how important it is to have a vetting process to find exactly what you are looking for.2022-09-1215 minIt's Going to be OKBoundaries & ConsequencesSarah reached out to Dr Hanan Bushkin this week to get some tips for dealing with narcissists, and protecting your child in the process. Dr Hanan explains why boundaries and consequences are extremely important.2022-09-0515 minIt's Going to be OKFrameworks & BlueprintsLeigh-Ann steps up as the patient on today’s show, discussing how she has dealt with severe depression and ADHD for over 20 years. Is medication and therapy enough? Dr Hanan Bushkin breaks down how frameworks and blueprints are essential in life.2022-08-2915 minIt's Going to be OKAm I a Sociopath?Landi sent us an email asking for Dr Hanan Bushkin’s help, as she has been struggling to self-diagnose her lack of strong emotions. This leads to her wanting to know whether she is a sociopath, or simply has daddy issues.2022-08-2213 minIt's Going to be OKHow to be more SupportiveRyno contacted us, hoping that Dr Hanan Bushkin has some advice for him about becoming a more supportive brother. Dr Hanan explains how he should lead with behaviour first, and the emotions will follow.2022-08-1511 minIt's Going to be OKLive Q&A SessionThis week Dr Hanan Bushkin does an open question and answer session with the audience. He explains how change starts by changing your environment before changing within.2022-08-0814 minIt's Going to be OKDealing with Family EstrangementThis week Ash reached out to seek some advice from Dr Hanan Bushkin about her difficult family situation. He explains how she can process the grief by using a bungee jumping analogy.2022-08-0116 minIt's Going to be OKRemoving “I think…”Nicola got in touch with us, and she joins the show to get some advice from Dr Hanan Bushkin about an ex-boyfriend who cheated on her, gave her an STI, and told elaborate lies about his life. Dr Hanan pulls no punches in giving her some tips on how to move on!2022-07-2516 minIt's Going to be OKA Sisterly SituationThis week Melanie joins the team to seek advice from Dr Hanan Bushkin. She has 2 younger sisters that tend to exclude her, she’s not sure why. She would like to know if she should take it personally, and how to approach them about it.2022-07-1815 minIt's Going to be OKLive Q&A SessionThis week things are done a bit differently as we have Dr Hanan Bushkin do an open question and answer session with the audience - learn how to calm a panic attack and more.2022-07-1116 minIt's Going to be OKThe 51/49 RuleAlison joins the show to talk to Dr Hanan Bushkin about moving to another country. He shares tips on how to process all the emotions during the stress of a relocation, which involves a new home, job and country.2022-07-0417 minIt's Going to be OKAdjusting back to ‘Normal Life’With so many people struggling to readjust to ‘normal life’ with the lifting of the mask mandate, Dr Hanan Bushkin joins the team to shed some light on why people are struggling with this, and he gives us some tips on how to bounce back.2022-06-2714 minIt's Going to be OKHow to Build Trust againThis week we received an email from a listener about her cheating partner. Dr Hanan Bushkin shares his expert opinion on how building trust is a two-way process, and that as adults we shouldn’t be governed by our emotions.2022-06-1317 minIt's Going to be OKThe Lure of an AffairDr Hanan Bushkin shares his expert advice when it comes to having an affair with a married person. He talks about cheating and the emotional attachments that come with it.2022-05-3017 minIt's Going to be OKNo Romance without Finance?Aspasia Karras, editor-at-large of Sunday Times Lifestyle, recently wrote an article about how the French press is reporting that Prince Albert of Monaco is paying Princess Charlene a sum of over €10m (R169m) per year to stay in her miserable marriage. Can there really be “no romance without finance”? Dr Hanan Bushkin shares his expert opinion on the matter.2022-05-2315 minIt's Going to be OKDealing with Mental BlocksClaire is a 16-year-old gymnast who wanted advice about how she can deal with a mental block. Dr Hanan Bushkin shares some simple tips on how to approach these obstacles, and how to overcome them.2022-05-1614 minIt's Going to be OKHow to Deal with an Absent FatherThis week our very own Lebang Kgosana needs some advice from Dr Hanan Bushkin. She would like to know how to deal with the previously absent father of her oldest son, who wanted to come back into his life earlier this year, but is already letting them down again - how can she protect her son from this pain that is obviously on its way?2022-04-2515 minIt's Going to be OKWhy Do Women Cheat?When the topic of cheating is brought up, most people tend to look at men. This week, Dr Hanan Bushkin unpacks why women cheat. He shares insights on how men and women define cheating, how committed relationships require work, and the reality of people fearing being alone.2022-04-1117 minIt's Going to be OKHow to Deal with Irrational FearsEver felt super confident one moment and suddenly plagued with feelings of fear and anxiety the next? Willem joins the show to talk to Dr Hanan Bushkin about dealing with irrational fears. Dr Hanan shares tips on how to deal with moments like that, and the importance of creating a framework.2022-04-0415 minIt's Going to be OKHow to Control your RageDr Hanan Bushkin chats to Ethan, who is having trouble controlling his rage. How useful are these so-called ‘negative’ emotions? Goal first, strategy second is a useful way to figure out how to spend your daily energy.2022-03-2818 minIt's Going to be OKThe Cause of Your DepressionSinger Nathan Ro joins us this week. He has lost 3 friends to suicide this year, and has some questions for Dr Hanan Bushkin about systematic depression, and why psychologists are so expensive. If you need help, you can contact the South African Depression and Anxiety Group on 0800 456 789 (24-hour helpline).2022-03-1419 minIt's Going to be OKDealing with DeathOur resident psychologist, Dr Hanan Bushkin, joins us to address mental health issues and dealing with death. With the recent passing of a few celebrities over the past couple of weeks, Lebang wants to discuss the use of social media as an outlet of sharing such sad news.2022-03-0719 minIt's Going to be OKDon’t Ever Lose HopeThis week one of our CliffCentral family members, comedian Dave Levinsohn, joins us to share his difficult lockdown experience. Dr Hanan Bushkin shares the 4 non-negotiables for anyone going through a hectic time in their life.2022-02-2820 minIt's Going to be OKDesperate for LoveThe Tinder Swindler on Netflix is all everyone is talking about - and these romance scams are quite common, with some of them being really clever and sophisticated! Dr Hanan Bushkin unpacks how being desperate for love can make one miss the red flags, and how to avoid being swindled.2022-02-2116 minIt's Going to be OKDealing with Eating DisordersSilvia sent us a very sad message about a young girl who succumbed to an eating disorder. Dr Hanan Bushkin answers her questions on how to help someone with this condition, and dispels the myth that the parents are at fault.2022-02-0717 minIt's Going to be OKThe Law of Focused IntentThis week Tracy joins the team to talk about two deaths in her family that have happened in less than a year, which has led her to reflect on something she wants to discuss with Dr Hanan Bushkin.2022-01-3115 minIt's Going to be OKHow to Tackle Black TaxThis week the team is joined by Mpho who wants Dr Hanan Bushkin’s advice on how to discuss ‘black tax’, and navigate setting boundaries, especially in the African context where respect is revered.2022-01-2419 minIt's Going to be OKOvercoming Suicidal ThoughtsThis week Dr Hanan Bushkin chats to Mandla Mahlangu, who reached out to talk about his depression, anxiety, and mental health as a whole. They also dive into the bad treatment that mental health patients get at public healthcare facilities. Dr Hanan shares ways on how to overcome suicidal thoughts.2022-01-1715 minIt's Going to be OKOvercoming BullyingIt’s the last show for the year and we seal it off with Mapelo, who joins the team seeking advice from Dr Hanan Bushkin. Mapelo has experienced intense physical abuse from his brother, who is 10 years older than him. He even got a protection order against him, but that wasn't the solution he had hoped it would be.2021-12-1317 minIt's Going to be OKSuicide SeasonThis week Dr Hanan Bushkin shares how to deal with Covid and its effect over the holidays, and the importance of creating frameworks that will allow you to deal with whatever life throws at you.2021-12-0619 minIt's Going to be OKNavigating Family RelationshipsDr Hanan Bushkin shares some advice on how to navigate a tricky family relationship - and how sometimes the only solution is to grin and bear it to keep the peace.2021-11-2920 minIt's Going to be OKLearn How to CommunicateThis week Dr Hanan Bushkin tackles the importance of communicating and making compromises in your relationship. He also gives advice on how to deal with a traumatic event.2021-11-1512 minIt's Going to be OKTake your Parents to WorkMatthew’s dilemma is that his parents haven’t really grasped that he is a fully grown adult, with potentially valuable insights and opinions too. Dr Hanan Bushkin sheds some light on how to navigate this, and the importance of knowing where you want to go in life.2021-11-0817 min
The Strenuous Life Podcast with Stephan KestingWhy Conspiracy Theories Are So Damn Hard to Disprove, with Dr Hanan BushkinDr Hanan Buskin is a clinical psychologist specializing in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. In this episode we go deep into the benefits conspiracy theorist get from believing and sharing their crazy ideas and the long, difficult process required to gently wean them off conspiratorial thinking. Follow Dr Hanan on Instagram @drhananbushkin and check out his clinic at areallygoodtherapist.co.za2021-11-031h 14It's Going to be OKHow to Parent 101This week Dr Hanan Bushkin explains how to create the balance of getting your kids to harden up, versus empathy to how they respond to the world around them. He shares the importance of creating a system that rewards good behaviour and punishes bad behaviour.2021-10-1816 minIt's Going to be OKWhat Abuse Looks LikeBarret, who works at CliffCentral, joins Dr Hanan Bushkin this week to talk about the abuse he experienced as a child, and to get help on how to overcome that trauma.2021-10-1113 minIt's Going to be OKLiving with Manic BipolarYour first thought when you hear that someone has bipolar might be that they have different personalities. Well, in this episode Dr Hanan Bushkin dispels that by talking to Celeb Mutombwa, who speaks about living with manic bipolar. They get into the highs, the lows and the impact that this has on the people closest to them.2021-10-0419 minIt's Going to be OKEmotional ForgivenessThis week, Dr Hanan Bushkin dissects the murder of the Dickason children in New Zealand, and tries to explain what might have gone wrong. To his surprise, the husband has spoken up about forgiving his wife and requesting that everyone else do the same.2021-09-2719 minIt's Going to be OKFinding a Sense of PurposeSo many people seem to tie their sense of purpose to being a parent, a partner or their job title... but what happens when it all changes? This week Dr Hanan Bushkin delves into how to deal with long term low level anxiety.2021-09-2014 minIt's Going to be OKWorkplace Conflict ResolutionMbulelo says Simphiwe is always late for work, even though she gets there 5 minutes before the show starts, he believes she should be there 30 minutes before. How can such conflicts be resolved between people who have to work together daily, but see things so differently? Dr Hanan Bushkin helps the two of them reach some point of resolution.2021-09-1315 minThe Strenuous Life Podcast with Stephan KestingAn Epic Rant Against ConspiracismIn this rant I go off about conspiracism, Ivermectin, Joe Rogan, anti-vaxxers, elk meat diets and more. This is from an Instagram Live session I did with Dr Hanan Bushkin (@drhananbushkin) - Dr Bushkin is a psychologist so he really knew how to wind me up and set me loose!2021-09-1057 minIt's Going to be OKResolving Friendship ConflictsWhat do you do when you make new friends, and you all get along just fine, but they are very religious and you are not? If you have an issue with a colleague, partner, family member or friend, and you would like to receive a free consultation with Dr Hanan Bushkin live on the show, email us on contact@cliffcentral.com.2021-09-0618 minIt's Going to be OKDealing with Toxic ParentsDo you have a toxic parent? Should you cut them out of your life, or accept the abuse? Dr Hanan Bushkin shares some insights on how to deal with toxic people in your life, and how sometimes people will hurt you simply by being themselves.2021-08-3019 minIt's Going to be OKSocial Media AddictsThis week Dr Hanan Bushkin answers a question from Claire, who asked about the effects of social media on our mental health. He explains how it becomes so addictive, and the importance of getting the right kind of positive feedback.2021-08-2317 minIt's Going to be OKQuitting because of Mental HealthThere have been a lot of mixed reactions to Simone Biles choosing to withdraw from some of the Olympic events due to struggles with her mental health. Dr Hanan Bushkin delves into definitions, stigma, and the complexities of such actions.2021-08-0219 minIt's Going to be OKThe Grief PandemicIt seems that almost every day we are hearing that someone we know has either died, or is in hospital - and lately it’s mostly Covid related. Our social media feeds are full of RIPs or messages of hope and support for someone in ICU. These are our friends, family members and colleagues. How do we deal with this overwhelming and seemingly endless cycle of loss on a personal level? Dr Hanan Bushkin tells us how we as a nation can handle the potential ‘grief pandemic’.2021-07-0520 minIt's Going to be OKIs an Addictive Personality Real?The phrase “addictive personality” gets tossed around a lot these days. Dr Hanan Bushkin unpacks whether an addictive personality is a real thing, what addiction is, and how your environment plays a huge role.2021-06-2818 minIt's Going to be OKThe Aim is to Find your LaneDr Hanan Bushkin answers a question from one of the listeners about self regulation, and not using other people’s validation to feel good. He debunks the theory of not needing the feedback of others to feel better about yourself.2021-06-2116 minIt's Going to be OKDo you Suffer from a Saviour Complex?Dr Hanan Bushkin unpacks the saviour complex and what it might mean if you have the need to constantly ‘save’ people by fixing their problems. He shares some of the characteristics and tendencies of this complex, and also points out possible ways to overcome it.2021-06-1419 minIt's Going to be OKCreating Safe SpacesThis week Dr Hanan Bushkin shares how to create safe spaces for your loved ones in order for them to open up about whatever they are going through, and the difference between making someone feel better and actually helping them. There are even a few Oprah moments!2021-06-0718 minIt's Going to be OKChase Your Own GoalsDr Hanan Bushkin explains how comparison is the thief of all joy. What people should do instead, is chase their own goals. Learn to focus on comparing yourself to become a better version of yourself.2021-05-3117 minIt's Going to be OKDance While the Music is PlayingDr Hanan Bushkin joins the team to have a candid conversation about mental health and the impact of the Covid-19 vaccine. He advises that people shouldn't wait for happiness, but should dance while the music is playing... and the importance of being able to adjust to new situations that may occur in your life.2021-05-2415 minIt's Going to be OKIntroducing Dr Hanan BushkinThe world is going through tremendous chaos and change, individuals and corporations are trying to adapt to this change with little or no guide or reference point. What is the public ‘bidding’ for? Emotional stability? Consistency? Answers? Hope? Leadership? A blueprint? An escape? Dr Hanan Bushkin - renowned psychologist and head of the Anxiety and Trauma Clinic - chats to Gareth about all this and more.2021-05-1017 min
Gareth's GuestsDr Hanan BushkinThe world is going through tremendous chaos and change, individuals and corporations are trying to adapt to this change with little or no guide or reference point. What is the public ‘bidding’ for? Emotional stability? Consistency? Answers? Hope? Leadership? A blueprint? An escape? Dr Hanan Bushkin - renowned psychologist and head of the Anxiety and Trauma Clinic - chats to Gareth about all this and more. www.cliffcentral.com2021-05-1017 min