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Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortFrank Anderson on Transcending Trauma and Being LovedIn this powerful episode of Smart Sex, Smart Love, Dr. Joe Kort sits down with world-renowned trauma expert, psychiatrist, and author Dr. Frank Anderson. Together, they explore the many forms of trauma—relational, cultural, global, and more—and how our responses, not just our experiences, shape our healing journeys. Dr. Anderson opens up about his personal transformation, the writing of his memoir To Be Loved, and the deep belief that love and connection can heal trauma. You’ll hear insights on: Why trauma affects everyone differentlyThe role of love, connection, and environment in trauma recoveryInternal Family Systems...2025-06-2032 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDr. Ronald Hellman on Homosexism and SidesIn this insightful episode of Smart Sex, Smart Love, host Dr. Joe Kort welcomes Dr. Ronald Hellman, a distinguished psychiatrist and pioneer in LGBTQ+ mental health advocacy. Together, they delve into the concepts of "homosexism" and "sides," challenging longstanding cultural assumptions about gay male sexuality.Dr. Kort and Dr. Hellman discuss the evolution of the term "side"—coined by Dr. Kort to describe gay men who prefer sexual activities other than anal intercourse—and how it has gained acceptance across dating apps and the broader LGBTQ+ community. Dr. Hellman shares his academic perspective on homosexism, a form of p...2025-04-2932 min
Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach88. Red Flags, Green Flags, and Why We Date the People We Do with Dr. Joe KortComing up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re diving deep into the psychology of attraction, the patterns that shape our relationships, and how we can make more conscious choices in dating - and in love.
We welcome Dr. Joe Kort, a psychotherapist, author, and relationship expert, who will help us understand why we date the people we do.
We'll open talking about masculinity a bit, touching on the topics of performative masculinity, validation, and male on male flirting!
Then we'll get into what red and green flags in dating really mean—and some...2025-04-0452 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDr. Lauren Fogel Mersy and Dr. Jennifer Vencill: Navigating LibidoIn this episode of Smart Sex, Smart Love, Dr. Joe Kort interviews Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy, and Dr. Jennifer Vencill dive into the complexities of sexual desire discrepancies between partners. They discuss the differences between libido, sexual desire, and sex drive, emphasizing that sexual desire discrepancies are common and should be normalized rather than pathologized. The episode highlights two types of libido: spontaneous and responsive, and how cultural narratives often misrepresent sexual experiences. The experts provide insights on how partners can navigate these discrepancies, focusing on communication, understanding individual motivations, and exploring pleasure beyond traditional scripts. Listeners are encouraged...2025-03-2130 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortJay Kaplan on the fight for LGBTQ+ rights under the Trump AdministrationIn this episode of Smart Sex, Smart Love's fifth season, Dr. Joe Kort talks with Jay Kaplan, an attorney for the ACLU of Michigan’s LGBTQ+ Project. Jay shares insights on the Trump 2.0 administration’s executive orders affecting LGBTQ+ rights, particularly policies targeting transgender individuals.They discuss the removal of LGBTQ+ references from federal websites, restrictions on gender-affirming care, and the reinstatement of the transgender military ban. Jay explains the legal challenges being filed to stop these policies and how they impact civil rights.The conversation also covers how the LGBTQ+ community can respond, the impo...2025-02-2133 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortSamantha Wynn Greenstone and Jacob Hoff: Mixed orientation marriages can work“For a while, we thought we were a fluke in the system,” announces Samantha Wynn Greenstone, a social media influencer and actor who “came out” less than two years ago about her unconventional marriage to a gay man. Through social media communications with Smart Sex, Smart Love host, Joe Kort, Greenstone and her husband, Jacob Hoff, finally were able to “label” their relationship as “mixed orientation.” The couple fell in love, were married last November, and have been talking about their monogamous relationship – a “soulful connection” – as Hoff describes it, in People Magazine, The New York Times and social media. ...2025-01-2841 min
The Venus Cuckoldress PodcastAvoid the Post-Nut Catastrophe in Cuckolding - With Dr. Joe KortExplore the emotional intricacies of cuckolding relationships with Dr. Joe Kort in this important episode! Discover invaluable strategies to navigate post-nut regret and the unique vulnerability that can arise in such scenarios. Dr. Kort, a leading expert in sexuality and relationship dynamics, offers profound insights and practical advice on managing emotional pitfalls and improving communication between partners. Psychotherapist Joe Kort, PhD, LMSW, is the clinical director and founder of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is a board-certified clinical sexologist, author of four books, lecturer and facilitator of therapeutic workshops. Throughout his 39 y...2024-06-0831 min
Getting Open with Andrea MillerYou May Accidentally Be Cheating On Your Partner ft. Joe KortOn Today’s episode of The Open Relationships Podcast we are joined by the viral tiktok sensation, sexologist and psychotherapist Joe Kort! We talk about Non Monogamy, Mixed Orientation Couples, and even Narcissism, but most importantly, we try to get Joe to give us some help on our love lives! Join us for an extremely enlightening episode of Open Relationships: Transforming Together, the podcast that aims to improve your relationships & your life! Chapters: 00:00 - Welcome to the Open Relationships Podcast! 01:15 - Introducing TikTok Star Joe Kort 02:00 - Is Narcissism on a Spectrum? 7:06 - How Narcissists Project onto others & Andrea’s Fight...2024-04-0249 min
Getting Open with Andrea MillerYou May Accidentally Be Cheating On Your Partner ft. Joe KortOn Today’s episode of The Open Relationships Podcast we are joined by the viral tiktok sensation, sexologist and psychotherapist Joe Kort! We talk about Non Monogamy, Mixed Orientation Couples, and even Narcissism, but most importantly, we try to get Joe to give us some help on our love lives! Join us for an extremely enlightening episode of Open Relationships: Transforming Together, the podcast that aims to improve your relationships & your life! Chapters: 00:00 - Welcome to the Open Relationships Podcast! 01:15 - Introducing TikTok Star Joe Kort 02:00 - Is Narcissism on...2024-04-0249 min
Queer Divorce ClubDr. Joe Kort; Gay in a Straight MarriageIn this episode of the Queer Divorce Club, join us in a candid conversation with Dr. Joe Kort, a distinguished psychotherapist and the founder of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health in Southeast Michigan. Dr. Kort specializes in working with individuals, particularly men, who grapple with the realization of their gay identity while navigating straight marriages. We delve into the challenges of coming out within a marriage, the complexities of remaining in a marriage as a queer individual, and the arduous journey of making it through divorce. Dr. Kort aptly describes the process as brutal, and together, we...2023-12-0543 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortSearah Deysach: People are pushing sexual boundaries moreSince the pandemic, sexual empowerment has increased 30 percent and sexual self-esteem now is 50 percent higher. Why the change, and is this good? Searah Deysach, a sex educator and owner of Early to Bed and Trans Essentials, answered those questions and many more in my recent Smart Sex, Smart Love podcast. “COVID changed our lives quickly and abruptly,” she begins. “Suddenly we were forced to spend time alone, or alone with our partner. “We were talking about our relationship more and what we wanted; we had to verbalize our thoughts, feelings and desires more often.”Deysach own...2023-10-2528 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortZachary Zane: Bisexuals have it easy ….?????In my first Smart Sex, Smart Love podcast for Season 4, I opened it quite explosively with featured guest, Boyslut Zachary Zane, as he likes to be called.At the young age of 32, Zachary is quite accomplished. He is a Brooklyn-based columnist, sex expert, author and activist whose work focuses on sexuality, culture and the LGBTQIA community. Recently, he wrote a book, Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto, and we talked about it – very openly, candidly and explicitly.Bisexuality has had very little visibility over the years, Zachary notes. “I felt so alone and so isol...2023-07-1934 min
Can't Host: Gay, Bisexual, and Queer Men’s Sex and RelationshipsEp.17: Why Straight Men Have Sex With Men with Dr. Joe KortDownload my FREE 'Dick Magnet Subliminal Affirmations' at https://georgelizos.com/dickmagnetAre straight men who have sex with men closeted gay or bi? In this episode, clinical sexologist Dr. Joe Kort shares the difference between sexual orientation and erotic orientation, shedding light on this phenomenon. We also discuss heteroflexibility and homoflexibility, why straight men enjoy anal play, and four questions to determine someone’s sexual orientation. Dr. Joe Kort also shares how toxic masculinity limits straight men’s sexuality, and why Generation Z are more sexually fluid.About Me2023-03-1022 min
Can't Host: Gay, Bisexual, and Queer Men’s Sex and RelationshipsEp.16: Are You Addicted to Sex? With Dr. Joe KortDownload my FREE 'Dick Magnet Subliminal Affirmations' at https://georgelizos.com/dickmagnetIs sex addiction a thing? In this episode with clinical sexologist Dr. Joe Kort, we talk about what out-of-control sexual behaviour is (also known as compulsive sexual behaviour and hypersexuality), and how to heal it. Dr. Joe also shares the distinction between sexual and erotic orientation, the differences between top, bottom, versatile, and side, as well as the distinctions between asexuality, allosexuality, and graysexuality. Finally, Dr. Joe shares practices to healing shame and trauma that often result in out-of-control sexual behaviour.Ab...2023-03-0330 min
Sean L. ShowOn The Side (w. Dr. Joe Kort & Lucas)Certified Sex & Relationship Therapist, Author, and Podcast Host, Dr. Joe Kort is my guest this week! My friend Lucas joins me as co-host for this special episode with the man who coined the term "Side" which is now featured on both Grindr & Scruff as a sexual position. We learn what is means to be a side and what is that lived experience like in the Gay community? We also dive into the topic of straight men who have sex with men? Are they still straight? We learn what happened next when Dr. Joe went viral on TikTok for his...2022-12-0259 min
Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan WillowSex is Messy, Dirty, & Pleasurable, Understanding Our Sexuality with Dr. Joe KortSend us a textEp 198: Sex is Messy, Dirty, & Pleasurable, Understanding Our Sexuality with Dr. Joe Kort. "Sexuality and erotic interests are not clean. They are messy, nuanced, smelly, dirty, prideful, pleasurable, shameful, and we have to make room for all of that and not try to clean it up and try to make it a textbook thing," said Dr. Joe Kort. This is the last sentence he said in the interview and I think it's so very right, poignant, and definitely an accurate statement. Sex is all of those things, and even more! And it's certainly...2022-10-1152 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortJoshua Grubbs: Pornography, is it a problem or an addiction?Pornography is not an addiction; it is a way to escape from other issues in your life. In a recent Smart Sex, Smart Love podcast, Joshua Grubbs, PhD, a clinical psychologist and associate professor in the clinical psychology PhD program at Bowling Green State University, talks about addictions and how to gain a better understanding of them. He notes that research is exploding when it comes to understanding sex addiction … and whether it truly is an addiction. “The more we know about it, the more we need to know,” he finds. Not every problem we face is an addi...2022-03-0821 min
Gayish PodcastGayish: 263 Sides (w/ Dr. Joe Kort)Anal schmanal. Sexologist, psychotherapist, and host of the podcast “Smart Sex, Smart Love” Dr. Joe Kort joins us to talk about sides, the term he coined in 2013 to describe gay men who don’t have anal sex. We also dip into straight guys, MSM (men who have sex with men), and Mike gets a little therapy about demisexuality.
In this episode: News- 1:53 || Main Topic (Sides)- 16:56 || Guest (Dr. Joe Kort)- 21:02 || Gayest & Straightest- 52:10
Links:
Dr. Kort's 2013 Huffington Post article about sides: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/guys-on-the-side-looking-beyond-gay-tops-and-bottoms_b_3082484
Podcast episode about asexuality referenced in the sh...2022-01-2059 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortJeff Abraham on how to last longer in bedCouples often are so focused on lasting long enough in bed that they end up experiencing performance anxiety and the shame and worry that accompanies those feelings. The result: a bad bedroom outcome. But this can change! During a Smart Sex, Smart Love podcast, Dr. Joe Kort talked with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, who offers some advice for lasting longer in the bedroom and having better intimacy. Anxiety is the number one reason therapists see individuals dealing with sexual dysfunction, and many express their worries about premature ejaculation. The bedroom experience should be stress-free, romantic, empowering, safe and...2021-11-3029 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortShana James on breaking the cultural context about a man’s vulnerabilityVulnerability in men can lead to isolation, depression and suicide. In fact, the suicide rate in men is four times more than women, and suicide is the seventh leading cause of death in men.Why are men afraid to share their vulnerability? And what can they do about it so they will feel empowered to lead a life of connection, openness and honesty? As young boys, males are taught not to shed tears because it is a sign of weakness. It is unmanly and unattractive, they’ve been told. It’s time to break this cultural context! Duri...2021-11-0124 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortJohn Ball and Lisa Goyette on how businesses can create a more authentic and empathetic workplaceLet’s take a moment to relive those days as children on the playground. Were you bullied, teased, or ridiculed? You probably remember some of those experiences like they happened yesterday. Years ago, you built walls of protection and silos of safety to make sure no one could hurt you. It’s time to tear down those walls and silos and take the risk of going back to the playground again, say John Ball and Lisa Goyette. During a Smart Sex, Smart Love podcast. John and Lisa, founders of CH Training & Coaching, talk with Dr. Joe Kort about...2021-06-0726 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortGalen Fous on the collision of fear, shame and trauma with sexual development and desireThere is an epidemic … people leading secret lives. It causes psychological and relationship mayhem. Your innate sexuality is your birth right, however, few claim it. In fact, many struggle most of their life searching for their authentic self instead of freely enjoying their sexuality, and expressing it honestly, consensually and shame-free. No matter how much you have struggled in the past with secretive, compulsive, unhealthy sexual behaviors, you still can learn to become sexually honest, authentic and fulfilled. Your current and future partners will be grateful you did. Galen Fous, master of transpersonal psychology (MTP), sex-positive therapist, aut...2021-05-2428 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDr. Laurie Betito on Sexual wellnessWhy don’t we talk about sexual pleasure? Why are teenage boys taking Viagra?How can older adults continue to enjoy sex?At the Pornhub Wellness Center, these questions – and dozens more – are discussed honestly and openly and backed by evidence-based facts. During a Smart Sex, Smart Love podcast, Dr. Joe Kort interviewed Laurie Betito, PhD, a clinical psychologist, sex therapist and Director of the Pornhub Wellness Center. The sexual wellness, sexual health and sexual education website was designed for people to learn about sex the right way. You won’t learn to drive by watching...2021-05-0228 min
Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser#51 Heteroflexibility: Sexual Fluidity for Straight Men (with Dr. Joe Kort)On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Joe Kort, a Licensed Sex and Relationship Therapist. Dr. Kort specializes in working with male sexual dysfunction, infidelity, relationship concerns, and with individuals identifying as LGBTQ, and presenting issues. He is the author of four books: 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives, 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love, LGBTQ Clients in Therapy: Clinical Issues and Treatment Strategies, and Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?: A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men. Dr. Kort is a blogger for Ps...2021-04-0859 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDr. Joe Kort on Mixed orientation marriages and relationshipsI’ve heard the story so many times through the years …. a husband comes out of the closet, only to send his wife into it. Mixed orientation marriages and relationships are far more common than we realize, but our culture still considers them taboo. One spouse is gay or bisexual, one is heterosexual, and the secret finally is released, only to cause anger, hurt, resentment and a flood of negative emotions. These couples still love each other, which creates even more anxiety and conflict. This truly is a two-person crisis. The wife deserves support, understanding and someone to ta...2021-03-2927 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortJon Shanahan on Men’s CosmeticsApproximately 56 percent of men “admit” they use makeup. “Admit” is the key word. There seems to be a taboo associated with men’s cosmetics. Like sex, it’s something we don’t talk about it. But it IS time to talk. During a Smart Sex, Smart Love podcast, host Joe Kort, PhD, spoke candidly with Jon Shanahan, co-founder of Stryx, a men’s cosmetics company launched two years ago to provide the products men need, but aren’t comfortable saying so. Jon likes to tell everyone that he is straight, married and the father of two children. He immediately wants to announce...2021-03-0831 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortClinton Power on the silent suffering of gay menIt may sound crazy, but gay men are lonely. Most of us think they are happy and lead a life filled with love, but this isn’t even close to the truth. Loneliness in gay men is reaching epidemic proportions.In this episode entitled “Gay men and loneliness,” host Joe Kort, PhD, psychotherapist and certified sex therapist, talked with an expert on the subject – Clinton Power – a relationship therapist based in Sydney, Australia, who specializes in couples therapy and relationship challenges. In 2003, he founded Sydney Gay Counselling to support the mental health and wellbeing of LGBTQ singles and couple...2021-02-1627 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortBarry McCarthy on Rekindling DesireBad sex can destroy a loving relationship, but good sex cannot save a bad relationship. In this episode, Joe Kort speaks with guest Barry McCarthy, PhD, a clinical psychologist, certified sex therapist and author of 14 books and 100 professional articles on sexuality. The topic: rekindling desire.Although sex should be a positive experience for couples, it often is not, Barry finds. Conflict, avoidance, lack of spontaneity, and not knowing each other’s expectations or sexual style all contribute to a power struggle that can ruin the sexual experience and the relationship. Sex is not a pass or fail ex...2021-02-0827 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortRichard Sprott on Kinky sex and self-exploration: exploring gender and sexual identitiesIn this episode, host and certified sex therapist Joe Kort, PhD, talked with Richard Sprott, PhD, about kinky sex and self-exploration. Dr. Sprott is directing a research project that looks at social saturation, the postmodern self, and identity development. He has conducted extensive research on alternative sexualities and non-traditional relationships with a special emphasis on kink/BDSM sexuality, and polyamory or consensual non-monogamy. Dr. Sprott finds that the field of kink has really exploded over the past few years as more and more people are exploring it as a way to express their sexuality. Kink is considered the umbrella...2021-02-0128 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortRoz Gould Keith on Erasing the stigma surrounding transgender identitiesWhen originally confronted with the news that her daughter was going to transition, Roz admits she was clueless about what this meant for her child. The word transgender wasn’t even part of her vocabulary. What she did know was this was not a phase. Now, as her son, Hunter was going through something really big that would change the course of his life, and she was going to do everything she could to help him. That’s when Roz started her own research to find resources for Hunter and was approached to share her story.The floo...2021-01-2526 min
The Heart of Jacks PodcastDoctor Joe KortThe Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #10 - Dr. Joe KortGuest: Dr. Joe KortReleased January 18, 2021 Mining for material on social mediaMaking your own happiness chemicalsAnd choosing sides with Doctor Joe Kort Sponsor: The Woodhull Freedom FoundationSupported by Patreon at https://patreon.com/theheartofjacks/ Segment 1: Paul returns with a little inspiration from a friend’s FB feed and a little advice about making your own “happiness chemicals” the easy way.Segments...2021-01-1836 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortGeorge Khamis on It’s Time to be the Author of Your Own StoryAre you surviving or thriving during this global pandemic? Are you living your best life right now? How are you responding to so many unforeseen changes? During the pandemic, many of us are facing unique challenges that test our resilience. George Khamis, therapist with The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health in Royal Oak, Michigan, discussed this subject on a Smart Sex, Smart Love podcast hosted by Joe Kort, PhD, psychotherapist and clinical director of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health. Today, stress and anxiety can seem overwhelming and people are struggling to cope, but we can build...2021-01-1727 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortFinn Deerhart on How do you Begin to Uncover your Erotic Identity?Sex can, and should, be an access point to an immense internal world. In healing our connections to ourselves and others, we uncover a powerful way of being in our bodies, our relationships, and our lives. Finn Deerhart, sex counselor, coach, Tantra facilitator and public speaker, discussed this subject during a Smart Sex, Smart Love podcast featuring host Joe Kort, PhD, psychotherapist, certified sex therapist and clinical director of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health in Royal Oak, Michigan.The challenge today for many individuals is what to do when you notice that your behaviors are...2021-01-1128 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortScott McCarty on Why are men stigmatized and women fetishized when it comes to maintaining appearance?Recently I’ve been posting videos on TikTok about many different mental and sexual health topics, and the response has been surprisingly overwhelming … unfortunately. I was shocked that some were not listening to my messages; they were shaming me and personally attacking me because I wear a hair piece. This Smart Sex, Smart Love podcast is dedicated to a discussion, not just about men choosing to wear hair pieces, but about the double standards around maintaining and improving your appearance. Men are attacked, humiliated and emasculated because we want to look attractive, we want to feel sexy, and w...2021-01-0428 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDr. Holly Richmond on How the Latest Innovations in Sex Tech are Transforming the Way we Mate, Relate and MasturbateOn this week’s show, Joe is delving into the world of sex tech with his guest, Dr. Holly Richmond.They chat about how the latest innovations in sex tech are transforming the way we mate, relate, and masturbate. “Sex tech is redefining how we have sex,” says Holly. “It’s not heteronormative penis/vagina sex anymore these days.”Dr. Holly is a Somatic Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. She says Millennials are having less sex than any generation in recorded history and talks about how technology has played a role in this. “Th...2020-12-2827 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortHayden Dawes on racism, self-compassion, and radical permissionOn this week’s show, Joe is joined by Hayden Dawes, LCSW, LCAS, to talk about racism, self-compassion, and radical permission.Hayden, who describes himself as a Compassion Warrior, Social Worker, Mental Health & Intersectionality Therapist, believes radical permission is a powerful practice that is life-changing.His work examines the psychosocial challenges impacting people of color and LGBTQIA+ individuals, and he believes we have to see that race operates and permeates through many of our social systems, often leading Black people to be at a disadvantage. “Racism is such an ordinary thing in America, we often don’...2020-12-2130 min
Gay Men's Life Lab with Buck DodsonFinding and Keeping Love with Dr. Joe KortHey guys! On this episode, I talk finding real love with relationship, sex and LGBTQ expert, Dr. Joe Kort. Author of 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Find Real Love, Dr Kort and I dive deep into how to get better at finding and keeping relationships...a hot topic!Tune into to learn...Why waiting until you're ready to be in a relationship doesn't workWhat it means to come into your own gay masculinity & why it matters in loveHow gay male competition and “competency wounds” block intimacyHow to navigate the three phases of love: Call of th...2020-12-1953 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortPeter Bippus on Difficult Topics Around Male Sexual AssaultOn this episode Joe meets Marriage & Family Therapist, Peter Bippus to talk about survivors of male sexual assault.Having worked with a host of populations from inmates awaiting trial, to families coming to terms with their transitioning children, to survivors of domestic abuse, Peter is not one to shy away from difficult topics.He hosts a monthly online group for male survivors of sexual assault where he offers a safe space for its members to share, support and grow.Talking about male sexual assault is difficult. “Men are not supposed to be the vi...2020-12-1425 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortShadeen Francis on The Transformative Power of Pleasure“Pleasure is about the experience of feeling good,” say’s today’s guest, licensed psychotherapist, media personality and author, Shadeen Francis. “Pleasure is hardwired into our nervous system!”Known for her signature brand of warmth and humor, all of Shadeen’s work is inspired by her commitment to helping people live lives full of peace and pleasure. In this episode, Joe and Shadeen discuss the transformative power of pleasure. And how we can increase assets like pleasure in our lives.Beyond orgasms and sex, Shadeen believes pleasure is a very necessary part of our wellbeing and that we ne...2020-12-0729 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortCharon Normand-Widmer on Somatic Psychotherapy and Sex TherapyOn this episode, Joe is talking about somatic psychotherapy and how it relates to sex therapy, with Licensed Master Clinical Social Worker, Charon Normand-Widmer.Charon practices at The Center for Relationships and Sexual Health in Royal Oak, Michigan. She specializes in working with individuals seeking support navigating erotic, gender and sexual identity challenges; alternative relationships; and trauma, utilizing a strengths-based, psychodynamic, mindfulness-based approach. Charon uses Somatic therapy seeks to help individuals learn to self-regulate, “I teach clients how to track their own bodies.”But what is somatic psychotherapy? And how is this therapy helpful for coup...2020-11-3032 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortBrian McNaught on Intimacy and LGBTQ older adultsOn today’s show, Joe is joined by certified AASECT sexuality educator, presenter and author, Brian McNaught, to chat about Intimacy and LGBTQ older adults.Forty percent of Americans age 65 to 80 are sexually active. Before the COVID containment, sexually transmitted infections were on the rise in nursing homes. Even if they’re unable to perform sexually, most older people never lose their desire for intimacy, in whatever form it might take. “Regardless of how their bodies look on the outside, inside they feel young and want intimacy,” says Brian.Named “the godfather of gay diversity training”...2020-11-2327 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortBradley Birkholz and Jason Villarreal on ‘Side Guys’ – Gay Men Who Enjoy Sex Without Anal PenetrationOn this episode, Joe is talking about ‘Side Guys’ – Gay Men Who Enjoy Sex Without Anal Penetration with YouTuber, LGBTQ+ activist, and writer, Bradley Birkholz and Latino nurse practitioner, Jason Villarreal.Gay men are constantly referring to and defining themselves as “tops”, “bottoms”, “Verse”, Top Verse, Bottom Verse”. When they consider dating or simply hooking up, gay men typically ask the other guy what he is, as it relates to anal sex.Gay men are rigidly defined by penetrative sex. There’s so much talk and discussion about who gives and who receives. I’ve had straight peopl...2020-11-1628 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortMichael Vigorito on Out-of-Control Sexual Behavior“There’s no such thing as an eroticectomy! People want to be sexual, but they don’t want to feel shame about it,” says this week’s guest, Michael Vigorito. “So, we (therapists) are not un-wiring the sexual gas pedal with our clients. We are working on how to manage it.”On this episode, Joe chats about the out-of-control sexual behavior model, with licensed marriage and sex therapist, Michael Vigorito – Co-author of ‘Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior – Rethinking Sex Addiction.’The truth is, that in trainings for sex addiction treatment, there lacks a mandatory sexual heal...2020-11-0929 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDr. Joe Kort on My Online Romance Fraud Hell!Today’s episode is a topic very personal to Joe and close to his heart: Online Romance Scamming.Millions of people turn to online dating apps or social networking sites to meet someone. But instead of finding romance, many find a scammer trying to trick them into sending money. And Joe knows exactly how that feels, because he too is a victim of romance fraud hell!About 10 years ago, Joe got a very curious message.It was from a woman who said she was in love with a person who had be...2020-11-0234 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortRenelle E Nelson on Infidelity & BetrayalOn this episode Joe is chatting about Infidelity with licensed marriage & family therapist, and certified sex therapist, Renelle E Nelson.Relationships are sometimes complicated and finding out your partner is cheating on you can be devastating. It can feel like the relationship is over and nothing can be done to save it. The truth is, current studies show that recovery from infidelity can happen successfully, and your relationship will be better than ever on the other side.Renelle, who works in Arizona, is an infidelity/intimacy recovery strategist, and believes we need to take responsibility f...2020-10-2627 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDr. Anna Randall on What Do I Need to Know to Have a Successful Kinky Relationship?October is National Kink Month and on this episode, Joe is joined by San Francisco Bay sex therapist, TASHRA Exec Director, and published researcher, Dr. Anna Randall, to chat about all things kink.Anna thinks we are far more sexually explorative than we’d often like to admit, and that you are not alone, or ‘weird,’ if you want to have a kinky relationship! “You can’t pull the kink out of a person,” says Anna.People with kinky fantasies often feel highly stigmatized too. So, Joe and Anna delve into why it is so hard for some...2020-10-1928 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDr. Hani Miletski on Mother-Son IncestOn this first episode of Season Two, Joe is joined by psychotherapist and author, Dr. Hani Miletski.Hani is located in Bethesda, Maryland, with her private practice. She has trained and supervised therapists and professionals in the field of human sexuality throughout the world. Plus, she is the author of two books, including the clinically revered, Mother-Son Incest: The Unthinkable Broken Taboo Persists. On this show, Joe and Hani discuss one of the most taboo sexual subjects out there; mother-son incest.As Joe says, “When a man sexually abuses it’s more overt. But...2020-10-1230 min
The Divorce Survival Guide PodcastEpisode 79: Sexual Health and Intimacy with Dr. Joe KortWhen we’re talking about marriage, sex is an important topic. So in the month of July, we are talking ALL about sex and intimacy. I’m kicking off the month with Dr. Joe Kort. Dr. Joe is a Licensed Sex and Relationship Therapist who is trained in Sex Therapy and Imago Relationship Therapy (you know I love my Imago peeps!). Dr. Kort specializes in working with sexual dysfunction, relationship concerns, and with individuals identifying as LGBTQ and presenting issues. Something I see a lot in my work is when someone gets caught cheating, and then they claim...2020-07-0749 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortLeyla Gulcur on Multicultural and Cross-cultural Relationship & Sex TherapyOn this episode, Joe’s chatting about multicultural and cross-cultural relationship and sex therapy, with Dr. Leyla Gulcur.Leyla is a licensed psychologist trained in the United States and provides multicultural sex and relationship therapy to culturally diverse clients around the globe. She has lived, worked, and traveled extensively in North America, Europe, the Middle East, North Africa and South Asia. Leyla is originally from Turkey and conducts sessions in both English and Turkish.In addition to her clinical practice, Leyla has worked to strengthen sexual rights worldwide, particularly in Asia and the Middle East. Sh...2020-06-1527 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortKate Anthony on Should I Stay, or Should I go?This week Joe’s guest is Kate Anthony. Kate is the host of the critically acclaimed podcast ‘The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast,’ and the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, ‘Should I Stay or Should I Go?’ which helps women make the most difficult decision of their lives using coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience and deep self-work. She’s widely known as an expert in co-parenting and divorce.Based in Los Angeles, Kate talks about saving or splitting from your relationship and asking yourself the hardest question of all, ‘should I stay, or should I go?’ “People o...2020-06-0826 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortEleni Economides on How to Talk to Your Teen About MasturbationOn this episode, Joe is joined by Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, Eleni Economides.Eleni is located in Rochester NY where her work focuses on helping her clients address concerns around sexuality and relationships. On this show, Joe and Eleni discuss how best to talk to your teenagers about masturbation.As Eleni says, masturbation is a healthy milestone for our teens and is a very normal part of our sexual development. Teaching them to do it right (as an act of self-love, body awareness and self-soothing) is a gift that...2020-06-0128 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortMeagan Narvaez on Mindful SexToday Joe is joined by Sex Coach and host of, ‘The Sex And…’ podcast, Meagan Narvaez and they’re chatting about how to connect to our body’s wants and needs, in order to stay more present during sex, whether solo or with partner(s). Meagan is a queer Latinex therapeutic sex and relationship coach, currently living in Atlanta, Georgia. She helps clients explore their sexual and mental blocks, so they can have fulfilling, orgasmic, thrilling, and gratifying sex.“Sex is a skill set,” says Meagan, “And most of us have many obstacles that prevent us from tapping into tho...2020-05-2529 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortCathy Saputo on Menopause/Perimenopause , Relationships & Sexual HealthThis week, Joe is joined by Certified Sex Therapist, Cathy Saputo, from Saputo Counseling Services, and they’re chatting about perimenopause, menopause, relationships and sexual intimacy.Cathy wants people to know that perimenopause and menopause, does not have to be a negative experience. Sure, it can be challenging, especially when we are not informed, but it can be managed! We need to make it less of a taboo subject and more of a health conversation.Cathy aims to normalize this change of life and talk openly about it! She says this pa...2020-05-1829 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe Kort‘Reasons Why I’m Single’ girls, Chelsie & Staci, on Relationship Killers & How to Navigate ThemThis week, Joe’s guests are co-hosts Chelsie & Staci from the comedy lifestyle podcast, “Reasons Why I’m Single” – a hilarious show revealing the struggles two 30 something Metro Detroiters have dating.These girls pride themselves on being open books! ‘Reasons Why I’m Single’ discusses the ups and downs (hint: mostly “downs”) and mayhem that ensues in the world of dating today. The girls join Joe to talk all things, ‘Relationship Killers,’ – what to look out for, how to navigate the bad stuff, and how to deal with baggage from previous relationship experiences, to be able to move on in love. As Chelsi...2020-05-1126 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortAmber Boone on Dating Rules for Realists, Not Romantics.This week, Joe’s guest is host of the ‘Thirty, Flirty and Thriving’ Podcast, Amber Boone.Last year, Amber, along with her business partner, hosted the first ever ‘9 to Thrive’ women’s empowerment conference in downtown Detroit. She is a frequent speaker at industry events and has a lot to say on the use of social media, especially dating apps and what real romance is like today. “Instead of looking to find the right partner, become the right partner yourself!” says Amber. “Your self-care comes first.”Amber spills the beans about modern dating expectations and how...2020-05-0427 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDr. Megan Fleming on Prioritizing Sexy Self-Care Time as a ParentOn this episode, Joe explores how to prioritize self-care time as a parent, with his guest, Dr. Megan Fleming. Dr Megan is a nationally recognized, certified sex & relationships expert, with over 20 years experience with individuals and couples, teaching them skills and strategies to get the sex & relationships they really want. As the resident sex expert on the ‘Girl Boner’ podcast, Dr. Fleming believes coming into our sexual being, is what allows us to thrive and feel fully alive. She says, “Sexuality is vitality!”But, finding time for self-care and sex as a parent, is tough. Even more so now...2020-04-2722 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDr. Lee Phillips on Sex Therapy and Chronic Illnesses & DisabilitiesThis week Joe meets Dr. Lee Phillips. Dr. Phillips is in private practice in Washington, DC where he treats clients with chronic illness and sexual dysfunction. Author of the book, ‘Sex & Love When You Are Sick?’, Lee, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, also lectures on topics including sexuality, anxiety & stress management, caregiving stress, depression in the elderly, mindfulness and cognitive strategies for chronic pain. Dr Phillips wants to crush the myth that people with chronic illness and other disabilities are not sexual. Also, today, during Covid-19 many are dealing with anticipatory grief as well, and that plays into...2020-04-2031 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDr. Jennifer Berman on Female Urology & Sexual HealthOn this episode, Joe is joined by world renowned expert, New York times bestselling author and one of the nation’s leading authorities in the field of female sexual health, Dr. Jennifer Berman. Jennifer and Joe discuss female urology and sexual health. Dr Berman believes that sexual health for women is a critical component of good general health. As one of only a few female urologists in the United States, she’s considered America’s leading expert on women’s sexual health issues.Dr. Berman says sexual health issues are often sensitive topics for people to discuss and most...2020-04-1333 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortLiz Reed on Toxic Relationships & How to Avoid Toxic LoveThis week Joe‘s guest is Clinical Social Worker, Therapist & host of the ‘Liz Life Guru’ podcast, Liz Reed. Liz joins Joe to talk all things Toxic Relationships & How to Avoid Toxic Love.“You deserve to be happy,” says Liz. “In order to make that happen you have to choose a good tribe!” Liz, a psychotherapist with a passion for helping people change their lives, specializes in anxiety, depression, addiction, as well as family issues. “Often, we think that since we share a bond with family, a DNA with them, that they are the people that we need to be with...2020-04-0626 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDavid Phillips on Toxic MasculinityThis week Joe’s guest is the founder of IT in the D & Podcast Detroit, David Phillips. Dave joins Joe to talk all things Toxic Masculinity. “Many, many guys are not cavemen!” says Dave. Toxic masculinity is a narrow and repressive description of manhood. It’s the cultural idea of manliness, where strength is everything, while emotions are a weakness. “As a guy, you’re seen as weak if you go see a therapist,” says Dave. “Men are told they shouldn’t express emotion or admit they feel vulnerable. That’s so wrong! You gotta be the guy friend wh...2020-03-3023 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortSkip McClatchey on HIV & AIDSThis week, Joe’s guest is Skip McClatchey. Skip works for Wayne State University’s Adult HIV/AIDS program and is on the show to discuss how HIV stigma is unwarranted, and helps nobody. Skip began his HIV work as a volunteer with the Wellness project in Ferndale, Michigan, back in the early 90s during the peak rise of incidences.“It’s not people that are problematic,” says Skip. “It’s the behaviors! HIV is a disease that anybody that has ever had unprotected sex is at risk for.” Skip believes HIV is very treatable, regardless of income or insura...2020-03-2330 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortMistress Lexi on What It’s REALLY like to be a Female DommeOn this episode, Joe’s guest is Mistress Lexi – a popular domme in the adult fetish scene right now. Joe and Lexi go right under the covers of her world, talking about the nitty gritty of working in the online kink industry. They chat about Sissification, Cock & Ball Torture, Findom, Hypnosis, and Chastity. Plus, how exactly did Lexi, known as, ‘Domme of the Dead’, become involved in this scene, and what drives her customers to hand over their cash to dommes?“People come to me online because they need an outlet,” says Lexi. “They don’t have their need...2020-03-1628 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortRachel Keller on Sex & FaithOn this week’s episode, Joe chats about Sex & Faith with Licensed Clinical Social Worker, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and author, Rachel Keller. Rachel grew up in the conservative Christian church and experienced both the positives and negatives of that culture. Today, she is passionate about helping others find sexual freedom, a sex positive Christianity, wholeness and empowerment. So passionate about sex and faith, she has co-authored a book called, Advancing Sexual Health for the Christian Client: Data and Dogma.Rachel asks, “Why would God create our bodies with so many pleasure nerve endings if He/She didn...2020-03-0927 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortAmanda Luterman on Erotic EmpathyOn this episode Joe chats about Erotic Empathy with psychotherapist and founder for the Center for Erotic Empathy, Amanda Luterman. Amanda, who works in private practice in Montreal, Canada, believes eroticism within a couple’s relationship is very important. Her clinical work focuses on prioritizing a couple’s connection with empathy; an approach and skill set she has developed called, ‘Erotic Empathy.’“You need to accept your partner can view you in a light that you may not see yourself,” says Amanda. “We need to validate and include the unique experience of the person that is right in front of yo...2020-03-0227 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDr. Mimi Hoang on Bisexuality, Pansexuality, Asexuality & Sexual FluidityThis week Joe welcomes Dr. Mimi Hoang onto the show. Mimi is a nationally-recognized psychologist, educator, author, and activist specializing in the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, LGBTQ+ and Asian Pacific Islander communities.They talk about bisexuality, pansexuality, asexuality and sexual fluidity; the myths, the definitions, the disparities and the ways to become more bi-affirmative.Dr. Mimi’s steadfast leadership has earned her multiple awards, and she’s been named ‘One of the Most Significant Women in the Bisexual Movement.’ She currently works at Loyola Marymount University, LA, and is the creator of the ‘Bi on Life’ self...2020-02-2424 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortMark Sing on 2020 Dating Trends & NLPThis week Joe meets Mark Sing, a world-renowned dating coach and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) practitioner. Mark and Joe chat about the latest crazy dating trends, such as ‘Fleabagging’ and White-Clawing,’ plus, they explore why it is that some men just aren’t having any successful dates. “Women are designed to weed out self-depreciation,” says Mark. “I’m here to re-program that out of men.” He believes that some men aren’t getting favorable dates because of what’s going on inside their heads, “I aim to rewire their brains so that they can be a GO-GIVER on the dating scene!”Con...2020-02-1727 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDr. Stephanie Buehler on Sex After CancerOn this episode Joe tackles the tricky subject of sex after cancer with Dr. Stephanie Buehler. There’s no way around it, having cancer sucks, but, Stephanie, a licensed psychologist and AASECT– certified sex therapist, believes that although talking sex and cancer in the same breath is awkward, we must remember that still being able to have a sex life is very important to cancer survivors. “One’s sexual script may have changed since having cancer,” says Stephanie. “But, human beings are very inventive, and if you can change the way you think about sex and go back to basics, begin...2020-02-0525 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortBianca Laureano on Social Justice EducationOn this week’s episode, Joe chats about Social Justice Education with Bianca I Laureano. Bianca is an award-winning educator, curriculum writer, and sexologist. She is a founding member of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN) and The LatiNegrxs Project.Together, they discuss why racial justice is an important topic in the sexuality field, and why intersectionality is so important for us to understand. “It’s not about being right, it’s about being understood,” says Bianca.Connect with Bianca I Laureano:Website | Facebook2020-02-0328 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortBianca Laureano on Social Justice EducationOn this week’s episode, Joe chats about Social Justice Education with Bianca I Laureano. Bianca is an award-winning educator, curriculum writer, and sexologist. She is a founding member of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN) and The LatiNegrxs Project.Together, they discuss why racial justice is an important topic in the sexuality field, and why intersectionality is so important for us to understand. “It’s not about being right, it’s about being understood,” says Bianca.Connect with Bianca I Laureano:Website | Facebook2020-02-0328 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortL.A. Jamison on Reparative Therapy – Sexual Conversion AttemptsThis week Joe discusses the controversial world of Reparative Therapy, which is sexual conversion attempts to turn people from gay to straight. His guest is Larry Jamison, a writer, educator and activist, who has spent ten years exploring ex-gay ministry and reparative therapy. Larry wants people to understand why someone might choose to do sexual conversion therapy and that it’s not about ‘crazy’ people, but very vulnerable people trying to get help. “There’s nothing good about going to war with your sexuality,” says Larry.Connect with L.A. Jamison:Website2020-01-2725 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortSilva Neves on Helping Clients Recover from the Trauma of ‘Sex Addiction’ TreatmentsThis week Joe chats with psychosexual and relationship psychotherapist, Silva Neves. Together they explore how therapists help clients recover from the trauma of sex addiction treatments. Silva, who works in his private clinic in Central London, UK, believes the ‘traditional’ sex addiction therapy model should be banned. ”Sex addiction therapy is so harmful,” he says. ”It’s a modern day version of conversion therapy for one’s erotic interest, and a ‘one size fits all’ treatment doesn’t fit at all!”Silva tells us about alternative treatments for compulsive sexual behaviors that, in his view, are far more effective than ‘t...2020-01-1325 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortJudas and Jess on Online Findom Part TwoDid you know that Online Findom is when a submissive person feels aroused as he opens his wallet to his Dom? Listen here to Part Two of Joe’s chat with Findom Master Judas and Findom Dom Jess as they discuss what it’s really like having a submissive spin the ‘Cash Wheel’. “To a degree, I would consider myself a sex worker,” says Judas. “Even if there is no sex involved. Everything I do is consensual, even if I rape their wallets.”Want to read more on the topic? Check out my article on Psychology Today: http://bi...2020-01-0625 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortJudas Khrist on Online Findom Part OneThis week Joe explores Online Findom. There’s so much to say about consensual human ATM kink transactions, that we have a two-part special on this subject. In this show, Part One, we chat to Judas, AKA ‘Demon Daddy’ from Portugal, who explains that in prostitution, money is for sex. In Findom, money IS the sex! And Judas has found there to be no end of people who long to be dominated, humiliated and relieved of their cash for sexual kicks….Want to read more on the topic? Check out my article on Psychology Today: h...2019-12-3027 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortJennifer Hurvitz on What You Need To Do To Stay Happily Married From A Divorce Coach Who Knows!This week’s guest on Smart Love, Smart Sex is bestselling author, podcaster and Certified Divorce & Relationship Coach, Jennifer Hurvitz. Host of the popular, ‘Doing Divorce Right’ podcast, Jennifer (divorced for five years) thinks couples should try super hard to make their marriage work if kids are involved. “Being in love is a choice, not a feeling,” she says. “You choose to show up for that person!” Jennifer says that after her divorce, she was “surprised” that while she doesn’t miss her “Was-bund,” she does miss her family being together more than she thought she would.She believes that to mak...2019-11-2528 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortRocki Harris on Interracial Relationships & SexWhy is the black penis more imagined than seen on screen? And, how do we dispel the stigmas about black versus white penis size? These are some of the subjects this week’s podcast delves into. Joe’s guest is Detroiter, Raquelle ‘Rocki‘ Harris – host and producer of Rocki’s Reality Podcast on Motor City Woman Radio. Together they chat all things sex and interracial relationships. “I want to remove the taboo of talking openly about race and sex,” says Rocki.Connect with Raquelle ‘Rocki ‘ Harris :Website | Facebook2019-11-1822 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortChris Wilson on Men and Body ImageMen are increasingly concerned about their body ideals, and yet, society generally minimizes these concerns or doesn’t acknowledge them.We have a society of men who feel unable to speak up about these concerns and often sit with it, which causes them to have emotional distress which can result in depression, Body Dysmorphic Disorder, and health issues related to excessive exercise and rigid food consumption. Listen as Joe and Pennsylvanian therapist Chris Wilson, chat about the emotional distress men can experience with the pressures on them to have the ‘perfect’ body, and how social media and celebr...2019-11-1128 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortTina Schermer Sellers on Why Sex Is Better Without ShameOur sex stories are one of the most important stories one needs to be clear about,” says this week’s guest, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers. Clinical Sexologist, Tina, believes that our sex history is not a cohesive narrative in most of us, but it needs to be to lead a sex life that is free of shame. Hear Joe and Tina discuss how religious sexual shame is the earliest and greatest form of shame, affecting a person’s core belief in their worthiness to be accepted by those who mean the most to them. And how sex and bias educat...2019-11-0423 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortJess and Joe on ‘Side Sex’ and What Anal Sex Means to YouThis week Joe meets Jess, a twenty-something woman, who has a lot to say on the subject of enjoying sex without penetration. This episode, all about sex on the side, pegging and anal sex, deals with the subject of what counts as sex with your partner. Does it have to be penetrative to be sex? Do you have to be a top, or a bottom? If you’re a ‘side,’ is it still sex? What if you just like pegging? As Jess says, “If you have an orgasm, it’s sex!”2019-10-2824 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortJacob Rostovsky on Transgender Issues“When you’re born in the wrong gender, your gender changes, not necessarily your sexuality,” says this week’s guest, transgender activist, Jacob Rostovsky. Jacob, who came out at 13 years old as trans, has been fighting for transgender rights, acceptance and access to affirmative care ever since. Jacob believes there is no one way to be trans, especially when it comes to exploring someone’s transgender and sexual identity. Hear Joe and Jacob talk about trans sex and sexuality – it’s less complicated than you think, and why gender expression is what you go to bed wearing, rather than who you are wi...2019-10-2125 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortJo Langford on LGBTQ Youth“The language kids use these days about sexuality can be exhausting,” says this week’s guest, Jo Langford. “We often have to coax out the meat of what kids are saying, because the landscape of sexuality language and what words mean to them, is changing very fast all the time.” On this episode Joe chats to Jo Langford – therapist, author and sex educator for tweens, teens and parents. His newest book, The Pride Guide, is a guide to sexual and social development, safety and health for queer youth and their families. Jo and Joe talk all things around gender diversity an...2019-10-1429 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortRound-Table Chat on Coming Out in honor of National Coming Out DayJane, Jared and Nick join Joe for this special episode to chat all things ‘Coming Out.’ Three different guests, all with different experiences of coming out, talk about the highs of finally being able to live their lives authentically, and the lows of the effect coming out had on their families. Each guest has been on a winding journey of self-acceptance to get to where they are today – Jane happily engaged to her fiancée, Jare, who self-identifies as bisexual, firstly coming out as gay, then coming out a second time as demisexual, and Nick, who was born female-bodied, then me...2019-10-1127 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortJim Gerardi on Coming Out in honor of National Coming Out Day“It was more or less common before the 1970s for gay men not to come out to their families,” says this episode’s guest, 81-year-old, author, Jim Gerardi. “If your family knew you were gay, back then, no one said anything and that could go on like that for years!” On this special episode in honor of national Coming Out Day, Joe chats to Jim about his coming out story. Jim tells Joe how he didn’t come out to his parents until he was 39-years-old. What has gay life been like for Jim? What changes has he seen in the commu...2019-10-1123 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDominic Davies on Pink Therapy for LGBTQ & Other Sexual Health IssuesThis week’s show addresses the importance of training therapists beyond cultural competency. Just learning the right pronouns is not enough! On this episode, Joe chats to Dominic Davies, a psychotherapist and clinical sexologist in the UK, who has become what some call, the Father of Queer Therapy in England. Dominic and Joe talk about the differences between diversity in the USA and the UK. Plus, why we all need well-trained therapists who truly understand the impact of minority stress towards groups such as LGBTQ and GRSD people. How can we, as therapists, build resilience for them?Fi...2019-10-0726 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortRachel Needle on Surprising Reasons Sex is Good for Your HealthThis week’s guest on Smart Sex, Smart Love is Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Rachel Needle. Together, she and Joe Kort talk about why it is so important for therapists to talk about sex when working with individuals or couples, how our biggest sex organ is our brain, how sex is good for you, and, what couples can do to keep the passion alive in their relationship! Physical intimacy is extremely important in a relationship and it’s good for you! Joe and Rachel get down to the nitty gritty of exactly why sex is good for...2019-09-3026 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortTrey Lyon on Male Sexual Fluidity and PornSometimes there’s just so much to say on a topic, that’s it’s hard to cram it all into one episode. That’s certainly the case with this week’s guest, sex-positive advocate, Trey Lyon. Founder of Fuck Yeah! Friendly Fire – a leading-edge blog source for heteroflexible pornography, Trey’s amassed a quarter of a million followers on his journey towards the de-stigmatization of integrating pornography fully into one’s sexuality. Listen as Joe and Trey delve deeper into what fluid sexuality looks like, and how one can find a life of peaceful sexual self-acceptance, despite what society might ba...2019-09-2329 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortJames Wadley on Black Culture and Sex & SexualityMy guest this week believes black culture and sex and sexuality is a people issue, rather than a race issue. Dr. James Wadley, is an Associate Professor and Chair of the Counseling and Human Services Program at Lincoln University. He is also the founder and editor-In-chief of the Journal of Black Sexuality and Relationships. An expert on sexual diversity and race, James chats to Joe about his mission to bring openness and community to those from all walks of life. Especially those that might have otherwise shied away from getting sexual health help for themselves or their families. Listen t...2019-09-1627 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortLaura McGuire on Consent and the #MeToo Movement“If you’re not comfortable to ask your partner during sex, “How are you doing? Is what I’m doing OK with you?,” then you’re not ready to have sex!” says this week’s guest, Dr. Laura McGuire. On this episode, Joe chats to Laura McGuire – a nationally recognized sexologist and consultant. Laura’s worked as an instructor, presenter, educator and trainer on topics including, Consent education and Sexual Harassment Prevention. Laura and Joe talk all things consent and the #metoo movement and Laura gives advice on what you should be asking before you hop between the sheets with someone. “You n...2019-09-0924 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortNikki Prause on How Porn and Sex are Different in the BrainThere’s been a lot of noise in the media about porn use, with many doomsayers claiming that it triggers dangerous neurochemical changes in the brain. However, newer research says that just isn’t so. This week Joe talks with American neuroscientist, Nikki Prause, who thinks that porn and sex are totally different in the brain. Hear Nikki explain how her brain research debunks the myth that you can have an addiction to sex or porn. Brain science is hot these days, so listen to Nikki and Joe talk about how rigorous studies have not found sex addiction to be a...2019-08-3028 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortMiles Striker on The Most Surprising Things About Being A Kink & Fetish Porn StarHave you ever wondered what working in the fetish and kink adult movie scene is like? On this week’s episode, Joe meets Miles Striker – one of the most well-known actors in the adult fetish scene right now. Miles and Joe talk about the nitty gritty of the porn industry and Miles gives the lowdown on getting down for the camera. Joe asks, ‘What’s it like acting out scenes involving fetishes like, macrophilia (a fascination with or a sexual fantasy involving giants)?’ And, how exactly did Miles, an Iraq veteran, get into BDSM porn?Find Miles...2019-08-2626 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDr. Joe Kort on Male Sexual FluidityWhy would straight identified men have sex with other men? Are they gay, bi or somewhere in between? Do you really understand what sexual fluidity is, or, even means? This week Joe talks about his book, ‘Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?: A guide for women concerned about their men.’ Men are stigmatized for having one non-heterosexual thought, and women are fetishized for having one. Joe addresses the concerns of worried women who suspect their men are not straight. Listen to Joe help make sense of a confusing situation, plus make sense of ways couples can have sexual health...2019-08-1925 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortStephanie Sullivan on PolyamoryYou’ve heard of polyamory, right? But, do you really understand what a polyamorous relationship looks like? This week Joe chats with Stephanie Sullivan, a polyamory-affirmative therapist to talk all things polyamory. Is it just cheating? Why do some people confuse it with affairs or infidelity? Even while our society has made incredible strides in the legalization of same-sex marriage, the idea that a relationship could include more than two people has remained a taboo—even when one in five Americans claim that they have been in a relationship with more than one person. Hear Joe and Stephanie dispel the p...2019-08-1524 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortLaurie Mintz on Becoming Cliterate and Bridging the Orgasm GapWhy is it women say they orgasm far less from penetrative sex with their partner, whereas men say they orgasm nearly every time? And, how unfair is this for women! This week on Smart Sex, Smart Love, Joe chats all things cliterate with Laurie Mintz – champion of bridging the orgasm gap and award winning college professor, who’s book, ‘Becoming Cliterate – Why Orgasm Equality Matters–And How to Get It’ is making the New York Times sit up and take climax notes. Laurie explains that we’ve been thinking about sex all wrong. Standard penetration is how men most reliably achie...2019-08-0525 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortAri Tuckman on Fidelity, Sex and Digital ToysThis week’s guest on Smart Sex, Smart Love, is psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Ari Tuckman. Ari and Joe delve deeper into what monogamy means for couples when it comes to sex and digital toys, and exactly what the notion of a ‘fidelity agreement’ means. Why should couples have conversations about what is and isn’t acceptable behavior in their relationship? How do fidelity needs evolve over time? And, how tight do fidelity agreements need to be for partners to feel secure? Ari also shares his knowledge of how couples can effectively tech up their sex life with digital...2019-07-2826 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDouglas Braun-Harvey on Out of Control Sexual Behaviors & Sex AddictionSexual health author, trainer and psychotherapist Douglas Braun-Harvey bridges sexual and mental health. A certified group Therapist, Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor and Certified Sex Therapist, Doug chats to Joe about Out of Control Sexual Behaviors, (OCSB) versus “Sex Addiction” on this week’s Smart Sex, Smart Love podcast. Doug is all about reconsidering the popular notions of addictive sex. His collaborative client/therapist treatment relationship is founded on the principle of men taking responsibility for defining and integrating their personal sexual health vision. So, Joe asks, ‘Do you think “sex addiction” really exists and if not what about his model of OCS...2019-07-1930 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortSusan Kamen on Connecting Imago Relationship Therapy to Sex – Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr. Joe KortHave you heard of IMAGO Relationship Therapy, but have no idea what it is? This week on Smart Sex, Smart Love, Joe meets Susan Kamen, host of “Grow Your Guru,” a weekly show on NRM Streamcast. Susie is a certified Imago therapist and relationship specialist, teaching people the imago dialogue process to create safety, and to allow someone to be heard, especially on difficult topics like sex! Susie and Joe talk all things Imago relationship therapy, and how Imago therapy is different. Do you have conflict in your relationship? Are you looking for an opportunity for some healing and grow...2019-07-1924 min
Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe KortDavid Ley on Sex Addiction & PornIt’s sometimes hard to debunk “sex/porn addiction.” This week on Smart Sex, Smart Love, Joe Kort chats with David Ley, an internationally-recognized expert on issues related to sexuality, pornography, and mental health. Together Joe and David discuss how David debunks the myth of “sex addiction”, in his book, ‘The Myth of Sex Addiction’. Is “sex addiction” a real diagnosis, or an avoidance to deal with the real issues a person is struggling with? And asks, ‘What does “sex addiction” mean for you?’Find Dr. David Ley on:Facebook: Facebook.com/david.leyphdTwitter: Twitter.com/DrDavidLey2019-07-0627 min