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Sex & ConsentWe're on a little breakBetween moving houses, relocating interstate and months of overseas travel, we've taken a little break – and will return to recording later in the year.
As always, thank you for listening to the Sex & Consent podcast. We look forward to hopping back on the mic for you soon.
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Mardi and Lizzy 2023-09-2301 minSex & Consent14 Megan didn’t call it sexual assault – until #MeToo years laterLike many teenagers, Megan got drunk at a house party when she was 17. When a friend offered to help sober her up in a bedroom, he instead coerced and sexually assaulted her.
After opening up about it, Megan and her parents agreed to blame the incident on her drunkenness and the topic stayed dormant for years – until #MeToo erupted.
In this episode, we unpack Megan’s reckoning with her assault, how she's overcome its impact on her life and how her parents took part in an awakening.
2023-04-291h 03Sex & Consent13 Lexi*’s experience was worse than just bad sexWe all have a story to tell.
In our Storytelling Mini-Series, you’ll hear everyday people’s stories of sexual consent, coercion, misogyny and patriarchy – which Mardi and Lizzy unpack together.
In this episode, Lexi* shares her story of going home with someone she vibed with – only to be confronted with his slut-shaming, dismissiveness and a complete disregard for consent when they got home. Stuck at his place without a phone, she had to figure out how to keep safe. Through Lexi’s* story we explore themes of misogyny, rape culture and sexual violence.
This episo...2023-02-181h 02Sex & Consent12 Why they call rape trials the ‘second rape’Does the justice system really serve victim-survivors? Are all people who rape held accountable? How does rape culture intersect with the justice system?
Join us as we unpack the reality of sexual violence statistics, how the criminal justice system fails victim-survivors and advantages perpetrators, and why rape myths are so important to bust.
If this episode brings anything up for you, you can contact 1800RESPECT or check out the support services here: https://bit.ly/3tcehNV
Subscribe to this podcast, babes, and follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexandconsent/2022-12-181h 05Sex & Consent11 Josh is a trans dad – this is his experienceJosh is a 45-year-old dad who works for himself, is devoted to his young sons and who transitioned at the age of 40.
With the unique experience of living in the world presenting as a woman and as a trans man, Josh shares his story of coming to know who he is, the process of medically transitioning and what it’s like to live truly as himself.
This episode discusses topics like trans gender identity, medical transitioning and parenting as a trans person. If listening brings anything up for you, please check out the support services he...2022-10-1352 minSex & Consent10 Claire never consented to that kind of violenceWe all have a story to tell.
In our Storytelling Mini-Series, you’ll hear everyday people’s stories of sexual consent, coercion, misogyny, patriarchy and more – which Mardi and Lizzy unpack together.
In this episode, Claire looks back on a series of problematic sexual experiences from her teens and 20s. With help from Claire’s eloquent storytelling, we connect her encounters with coercion, rape culture, indifference to consent and violence to their origins: patriarchy, misogyny and mainstream porn.
This episode discusses rape, violence and heavy themes. If listening brings anything up for you, please c...2022-08-1947 minSex & Consent09 The overturning of Roe vs Wade – and what about abortion rights in Australia?The US Supreme Court’s overturning of Roe vs Wade will impact millions of people who need an abortion – but some voices are missing in the uproar, while others are busy touting gun rights.
In this episode, Mardi and Lizzy explore:
What the Roe vs Wade ruling means for people who can get pregnant in the US
Abortion rights in so-called Australia
The absence of cis men's voices in the abortion conversation
The enraging hypocrisy between abortion rights and gun laws in the US
If this episode brings anything up for you, you can contact 1800RESP...2022-07-121h 02
Here to F*ck Spiders03 Consent: As We Know It TodayTW: frequent reference to rape and sexual assault occurring throughout this episode
This episode is a continuation of the consent series, in which our co-hosts Alysha and Hannah discuss consent in the current context. This episode explores current laws around consent and coercion in Australia; some of the impacts of rape culture and the way it influences cultural beliefs and myths about consent.
If you would like to contact Alysha and Hannah to ask questions or suggest future topics please find them on Instagram @heretofckspiderspodcast or via email at heretofckspiders@gmail.com.
Useful re...2022-06-012h 03
Sex & Consent08 When Louise's* rejected housemate turned on herWe all have a story to tell.
In our Storytelling Mini-Series, you’ll hear everyday people’s stories of sexual consent, coercion, misogyny, patriarchy and more – which Mardi and Lizzy will then unpack together.
In this episode, Louise* shares her story of a nightmare housemate who turned on her when she rejected his sexual advances. We look at the ways he punishes Louise* through a framework of misogyny and abusive behaviour. Thank you for your story, Louise*.
Our Storytelling Mini-Series will touch on heavy themes. If this episode brings anything up for you, please...2022-05-1054 minSex & Consent07 That time Anna* was coerced by her friend's housemateWe all have a story to tell.
In our Storytelling Mini-Series, you’ll hear everyday people’s stories of sexual consent, coercion, misogyny, patriarchy and more – which Mardi and Lizzy will then unpack together.
In this episode, Anna* shares an experience of sexual coercion. From this story, we pull back the layers of coercion, male fragility, victim-blaming and protection of people who coerce. Thank you for your story, Anna*.
Our Storytelling Mini-Series will touch on heavy themes. If this episode brings anything up for you, please contact 18...2022-04-121h 14
Sex & Consent06 For the boys – looking at masculinityIn the sixth and final episode of our Consent & Coercion 101 series, we take a look at masculinity and men’s involvement in sexual violence (yeah not all men, we know).
We get across the current context of male-perpetrated coercion and sexual violence in Australia, the social factors that contribute to this, what people mean by male entitlement, patriarchal (sometimes called toxic) masculinity, shitty rigid gender roles for men and how men are impacted by sexual violence.
If this episode brings anything up for you, you can contact 1800RESPECT or check out the support services here: ht...2022-02-2757 min
Sex & Consent05 The grim reality that inspired Mardi’s PhDIn the fifth episode of our Consent & Coercion 101 series, we dive into the *really* interesting research that inspired Mardi’s PhD on sexual coercion.
This includes two epic bits of research that debunk the ‘miscommunication theory’ (the theory that date rape is merely a result of men and women “not understanding each other”) and proof that, actually, men do know how to do consent – even when they claim that it’s confusing.
If this episode brings anything up for you, you can contact 1800RESPECT or check out the support services here: https://bit.ly/3tcehNV
Babes, we...2022-02-2759 min
Sex & Consent04 Getting across rape cultureIn the fourth episode of our Consent & Coercion 101 series, we show you what rape culture looks like.
Tune in as we explore definitions of rape culture, how rape culture manifests in our everyday lives, how rape culture impacts survivors of sexual assault, and examples of rape myths and where they show up.
If this episode brings anything up for you, you can contact 1800RESPECT or check out the support services here: https://bit.ly/3tcehNV
Babes, we’d love if you could subscribe to this podcast and follow us on Instagram: https://www.ins...2022-02-271h 05
Sex & Consent03 A tour of the patriarchyIn the third episode of our Consent & Coercion 101 series, take our hand as we step inside the patriarchy (oh wait, we’re already in it).
Tune in as we discuss definitions of the patriarchy, how to spot the patriarchy in your everyday life, and how the patriarchy impacts women, non-binary/gender-diverse folk and men.
If this episode brings anything up for you, you can contact 1800RESPECT or check out the support services here: https://bit.ly/3tcehNV
Babes, we’d love if you could subscribe to this podcast and follow us on Instagram: https...2022-02-2758 min
Sex & Consent02 What does consent actually look like?In the second episode of our Consent & Coercion 101 series, we’re talking about consent, baby.
Tune in as we discuss outdated views of consent, today’s affirmative consent model, what consent and non-consent look like, consent as a process, and the nuance between consent and *willingness* to have sex (something that comes up in relationships).
If this episode brings anything up for you, you can contact 1800RESPECT or check out the support services here: https://bit.ly/3tcehNV
Babes, we’d love if you could subscribe to this podcast and follow us on Instagr...2022-02-2759 min
Sex & Consent01 Sexual coercion is common AFIn the first episode of our Consent & Coercion 101 series, we dive deep into the topic of Mardi’s PhD thesis: everyday coercion – that is, the way that sexual coercion has been normalised in heterosexual sex.
Tune in as we explore sexual coercion broadly, the tactics that people (mainly blokes) use to turn a ‘no’ into a ‘yes’, the connection between coercion and rape, and some of the best bits of Mardi’s PhD.
If this episode brings anything up for you, you can contact 1800RESPECT or check out the support services here: https://bit.ly/3tcehNV
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