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Narcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapHow to manage fearIn this episode Dr Supriya teaches victim-survivors about fear, and how to manage fear reactions in response to a narcissist's bad bad behaviour. Narcissists rely on evoking fear in others to maintain control and gain their all important 'narcissitic supply'. Being able to terminate fear responses is essential when it comes to the clear thinking that is required when divorcing a narcissist - but learning how to actually become fearless will also give vicims a huge tactical advantage over their narcissistic ex. Support the showIf you've found the podcast helpful please do co...2025-07-2817 min
Thriving not SurvivingEp 2: Thriving After Trauma: Eleanor’s StoryKeywords: narcissism, healing, relationships, childhood trauma, emotional abuse, support systems, personal growth, therapy, self-discovery, empowerment, healing, self-preservation, group therapy, fostering, forgiveness, compassion, transpersonal psychology, thriving, spirituality, mental health 'Summary: In this episode of 'Thriving Not Surviving', host Helen Valentino welcomes her best friend Eleanor, a psychotherapeutic counsellor, to share her journey of overcoming childhood adversity and navigating relationships marked by narcissistic traits. Eleanor discusses her challenging upbringing, the impact of her stepmother's behaviour, and her eventual decision to leave toxic relationships. The conversation delves into the complexities of narcissism, the importance of support systems, and the healing journey that...2025-04-1547 minNarcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapPractical tips for finding a divorce lawyer who understands Narcissism.In this episode Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna explains how crucial it is for a spouse separating from a narcissistic individual to find a divorce lawyer who understands the specifics of narcissistic personality disorder. She also gives specific tips to help you to find the right lawyer for your divorce. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism. Her most up-to-date books are: Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving Narcissists in Divorce: From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth and The Narcissist Trap: The Mind-B...2025-03-1720 minNarcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapForensic psychologists Professor David Cooke & Dr Caroline Logan on assessments for courtsIn this episode, leading consultant clinical forensic psychologists Professor Cooke and Dr Logan speak with Dr Supriya about the importance of the expert witness psychologist (who is being asked to look for personality disorders for the court) being provided with evidence relevant to the case. They talk about how they triangulate evidence from different people, the importance of speaking with people who know the suspected personality disordered person, and they discuss what sort of written evidence they need. They also talk about the importance of face-to-face assessments, and how it can be beneficial to see the person in...2024-10-1526 minNarcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapHow to find a personality disorder expert for the family court with Professor David Cooke and Dr Caroline Logan.In this episode, top forensic psychologists Professor David Cooke and Dr Caroline Logan discuss with Dr Supriya what to look for on a resumé if looking for a competent psychologist to assess your narcissistic ex for the family court. They discuss the common error made by the courts in instructing psychiatrists to carry out personality assessments, and the potential issues that result. They also delve into the different presentations of psychopathy, and why inexperienced clinicians find women more challenging to assess for personality disorders. Professor Cooke and Dr Logan also talk about their upcoming workshop for psychologists wh...2024-09-2832 minNarcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapHow to prepare for leaving a narcissist – Part TwoThis podcast was brought to you in association with Stowe Family Law, the largest family law firm in the UK, as part of their Stowe talks series. The Stowe talks podcast and video series are designed to help people go through a relationship breakdown and all the challenges this brings, covering topics including narcissism, domestic abuse, supporting children, finances and navigating the family court. Follow the link for Stowe talks podcast series on Spotify or watch their video series on YouTube Supriya's brand new book, the second in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From...2024-09-2542 minNarcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapHow to prepare for leaving a narcissist – Part One, with Stowe Family LawIn this episode, in which she was interviewed by Stowe Family Law, Dr Supriya McKenna gives some pointers to help you prepare for leaving a narcissist, with family lawyers Liza Gatrell and Matthew Taylor. This is the first episode of two on this subject. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving, and Narcissists in Divorce: From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth.This podcast was brought to you in...2024-09-1842 min
Stowe talksEpisode 44 How to prepare to leave a narcissist - Part 1In the first of this two-parter episode, Matt and Liza were delighted to be joined again by Dr Supriya McKenna, one of the leading experts in the field of narcissism, to discuss how to prepare to leave a narcissist. Dr Supriya shares her deep knowledge of narcissism, why it is harder to leave one, including hoovering and gaslighting, finding the right lawyer, and practical tips on the preparations needed to end your relationship. Meanwhile, Matt & Liza share legal insight, the options available to you and the pitfalls to avoid. 00:00 Introductions 02:34 Why is it harder...2024-09-1039 min
Stowe talksEpisode 45 How to prepare to leave a narcissist - Part 2In the second part of this episode, Dr Supriya McKenna, a highly experienced specialist narcissism expert, continues to share her advice and practical tools and techniques to help people prepare to leave a narcissist. (You can access the first part of this episode here.)We pick the conversation back up as Dr Supriyas shares her advice on preparing financially, before exploring how to stay safe online, saving previous communications, and keeping personal items safe. Before closing with her top tops. Again, Matt & Liza share their insight into how the law can help and the pitfalls to avoid. 2024-09-1040 min
Narcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapThe Closet or Covert NarcissistIn this episode Narcissism expert, Dr Supriya McKenna describes the difficult to spot Closet Narcissist, using a character from her book. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism. Her most up-to-date books are: Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving Narcissists in Divorce: From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth and The Narcissist Trap: The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders Support the showIf you've found the podcast helpful please do consider supporting the show with a small monthly donatio...2024-08-1122 min
Narcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapIs your partner a narcissist? With Stowe Family Law.In this episode, in which she was interviewed by Stowe Family Law, Dr Supriya McKenna gives some pointers to help you identify whether you are in a relationship with a narcissist, with family lawyers Liza Gatrell and Matthew Taylor. They discuss the reasons why it is so important to know whether your partner is a narcissist before you consider divorcing them, and highlight some interesting legal tips that might be of use during your divorce. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in D...2024-07-2657 min
Stowe talksEpisode 40: Are you in a relationship with a narcissist?Narcissism has become a popular buzzword. But despite the interest, there are many myths that undermine the complexity and destructive impact of this personality disorder.We were delighted to be joined again by Dr Supriya McKenna, one of the leading experts in the field of narcissism, to discuss how you can tell if you are in a relationship with a ‘real’ narcissist, and why knowing this is so important, particularly if you want to leave them. 00:00 Introductions 02:25 Why is it important to know that you are in a relationship with a ‘real’ narcissist?03:05 Why are nar...2024-07-2654 min
The Smart Divorce PodcastThe new rules to keep your divorce out of courtSend us a textIn this episode, Tamsin discusses with Karin Walker the new Family Procedure Rules, from 29th April 2024, being implemented to keep more couples out of court and using the wide range of non-court dispute resolution options to agree their financial settlement. Karin is not only a family solicitor but also a mediator, collaborative lawyer and arbitrator.Karin WalkerKarin Walker is a family lawyer, based in Woking, Surrey. She is a solicitor, mediator, collaborative practitioner, neutral evaluator, and arbitrator. Having previously been a partner in a la...2024-06-2141 minNarcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapThe Communal NarcissistIn this episode Dr Supriya describes a lesser known outward presentation of narcissism – that of the Communal (or 'altruistic') Narcissist. Support the showIf you've found the podcast helpful please do consider supporting the show with a small monthly donation here. Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse is Dr Supriya's latest book. The second book in the Narcissists in Divorce series, From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth is also available now. An in...2024-05-2318 min
The Smart Divorce PodcastFair or Achievable - Spending your money in the right way when divorcing a narcissistSend us a textIn this episode, Tamsin talks to family solicitor (among other things) Karin Walker, who is an expert on Narcissistic Personality Disorder, about where to spend your money wisely if you are divorcing a narcissist.Karin WalkerKarin Walker is a family lawyer, based in Woking, Surrey. She is a solicitor, mediator, collaborative practitioner, neutral evaluator, and arbitrator.Having previously been a partner in a large Surrey based firm, she set up the award-winning firm, KGW Family Law, in January 2012. All of the firm’s solicitors ar...2023-12-2242 min
Narcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapHow to parent alongside a narcissist - Part 2, with Dr Supriya McKennaIn this episode, in which she was interviewed by Stowe Family Law, Dr Supriya McKenna explains how to communicate with a narcissistic co-parent to reduce the narcissistic supply. She explains the concept of parallel parenting, and how to deal with being triggered by communications from the narcissist. She also gives her top tips for building evidence for court in your communication with the narcissist, explains how to stick to your boundaries with the narcissist and explains the serious pitfalls of the family court and child arrangements orders. They discuss Live with orders, and the importance of having a very de...2023-12-1543 min
Saving Lives In Slow MotionNarcissists and Psychopaths - spotting them and dealing with themThese are both words that are bandied around quite a lot in common parlance but what do they actually mean? And what is the difference between them?In this episode I look at the similarities, differences and why they come about.Links:Trump - a textbook narcissist: https://www.uu.nl/en/node/541/donald-trump-textbook-narcissistDSM-5 classification of Narcissistic Personality Disorder: https://emedicine.medscape.com/article/1519417-overview?form=fpfDr James Fallon: https://www.ted.com/talks/jim_fallon_exploring_the_mind_of_a_killer?lan...2023-12-0114 min
Stowe talksEpisode 24: Parenting alongside a narcissist Dr Supriya McKenna - Part twoIn the second part of this episode, Dr Supriya McKenna, a highly experienced specialist narcissism expert, continues to share her advice and practical tools and techniques for people trying to parent alongside a narcissist. (You can access the first part of this episode here.) We pick the conversation back up as she explores the role of parallel parenting and how to help children understand the narcissist behaviours and deal with the way they respond by validating their experience and emotions. She then continues with tips and advice on how to manage communication with th...2023-11-2440 min
Stowe talksEpisode 23: Parenting alongside a narcissist with Dr Supriya McKenna - Part one In the first of this two-parter episode, Matt and Liza were delighted to be joined again by Dr Supriya McKenna, a highly experienced specialist narcissism expert, as she shares her advice and practical tools and techniques for people trying to parent alongside a narcissist. Building on our previous conversations (see links below to listen if you’ve not already), Dr Supriya starts by explaining what narcissistic personality disorder is, what drives them, and how this manifests in their behaviour, especially during divorce and parenting. She talks through how you can never co-parent with a narcissist, how t...2023-11-2433 min
Narcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapParenting Alongside a Narcissist - Part One (with Stowe Talks)In this episode, in which she was interviewed by Stowe Family Law, Dr Supriya McKenna explains the underlying drivers which lead to Narcissists being unable to cooperatively coparent with you. She explains what behaviours you can expect from the narcissist, and how they use the children as weapons of post separation abuse. She continues in Part Two. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders.Th...2023-11-2335 minNarcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapDr Supriya McKenna on the radioBill Buckley interviews Dr Supriya McKenna about narcissistic personality disorder, live on BBC Radio Berkshire. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new booksNarcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving Narcissists in Divorce: From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth and The Narcissist Trap: The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders Support the showIf you've found the podcast helpful please do consider supporting the show with a small monthly donation here. Narcis...2023-10-2511 min
Human Rights TalksBreaking Down Online Hate & Violence Against WomenDescription: This episode is a recording of a roundtable event organized as part of the Digital Peace Project Series and aims to unpack violence against women online & discuss tangible solutions to making online environments more equitable. Feat. Lucina Di Meco ( #ShePersisted ) Annabel Ashalley-Anthony (Melanin Gamers) Supriya Dwivedi (Centre for Media, Technology & Democracy), Bridget Todd (Podcast host 'There are No Girls on the Internet') and Catherine McKenna, (Climate & Nature Solutions).
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Narcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapRebuilding your life after a relationship with a narcissist - Dr Supriya McKennaIn this episode, in which she was interviewed by Stowe Family Law, Dr Supriya McKenna gives some strategies to help you to rebuild your life after a relationship with a narcissist. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders. This podcast was brought to you in association with Stowe Family Law, the largest family law firm in the UK, as part of our Stowe talks se...2023-05-3059 min
Stowe talksEpisode 20 Rebuilding your life after narcissistic abuseIn this episode, Matt and Liza were delighted to welcome back Dr Supriya McKenna, a highly experienced specialist narcissism expert, as she shares her advice and practical tools and techniques for people rebuilding their lives after narcissistic abuse. Building on the conversation in our episode in Season 1 (see below to listen if you’ve not already), Supriya explores the impact of post-separation narcissistic abuse, how to parent with a narcissist (the only option is parallel parenting), building financial independence, and the importance of switching off that narcissistic supply, whatever the challenges.She discusses the importance of...2023-05-2357 min
Narcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapEasy ways to avoid dating a toxic mate after narcissistic abuse - with Dr Elinor GreenbergIn this episode personality disorder psychologist and psychotherapist, Dr Elinor Greenberg, chats with Dr Supriya McKenna (author of 'The Narcissist Trap - The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders) about easy ways to spot a toxic date. Dr Greenberg's tips are particularly useful for anyone worried about being back in the dating arena after a narcissistic relationship. She describes a simple method involving counting the negative things said in the first hour of a first date, and another where you simply closely examine your date's behaviour in the very first 10 minutes of the date. She also explains how the di...2023-04-0432 minNarcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapDr Elinor Greenberg discusses the giveaways that you might be dating a Narcissist.In this episode internationally renowned clinical psychologist Dr Elinor Greenberg talks with Dr Supriya McKenna about the various ways that Narcissists can convincingly present as being genuine when dating. She gives the tip offs for each of her archetypes - the Detective, the Hunter, the Narcissistic Love Script, The Romantic, The Casanova and the Recycler. They talk about the idea of 'I-Thou' versus 'I-It' relationships - and how in all their relationships the narcissist views the other person merely as an object. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the au...2023-02-1738 min
Narcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapDr Craig Malkin talks Narcissism - Part FourIn this episode Dr Craig Malkin discusses his role in the NY times bestselling book "The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump", in which he broke down the behaviours of pathological narcissism as exhibited by Mr Trump. We discuss how it is actually simpler for the spouse of a narcissist to recognise narcissism in their partner than for a clinician (who has very limited information). We also talk about mutual abuse and reactive abuse, about whether narcissists are conscious that they are narcissists, and about the dark tetrad of psychopathy, sadism, narcissism and machiavellianism. We also talk about the category o...2022-12-1823 min
Narcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapDr Craig Malkin talks Narcissism - Part ThreeIn this episode Harvard psychologist and narcissism expert and author Dr Craig Malkin talks with Dr Supriya McKenna and Karin Walker about how one can protect their children from becoming narcissistic, even when they have a narcissistic parent. They also discuss the difficulties encountered in dating when one has had a previous narcissistic relationship, to do with attraction, chemistry, trust and relating in new ways. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving and The Narcissist Trap :The M...2022-12-0428 min
Narcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapDr Craig Malkin talks Narcissism - Part TwoIn this episode Dr Craig Malkin, psychology lecturer at Harvard Medical School and narcissism expert and psychologist explains the concept of the 'spectrum of narcissism', which he describes in his book, Rethinking Narcissism. He talks about 'healthy narcissism', and about those people who do not have enough of it (the 'Echoists'). We talk about the overlaps of this type with co-dependents, highly sensitive people, and empaths. Dr Malkin explains the importance of feeling one's anger when one is a victim of narcissistic abuse. We also talk about social media, and how this can have a part to play in...2022-11-2031 min
Narcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist TrapDr Craig Malkin talks Narcissism - Part OneIn this episode, Dr Craig Malkin, Psychology lecturer at Harvard Medical School and narcissism expert, discusses with us how ageing can affect narcissists. We talk about narcissistic collapses, and how in older narcissists whose relationships have broken down they use projection (blaming others of what they themselves are thinking, feeling or doing) as a defence. Dr Malkin talks about the concept of the psychotic spiral, and how during a narcissistic collapse narcissists may even become delusional in their thinking. We also discuss therapy for narcissists, and what Dr Malkin's experience of this has been. Dr Supriya is a...2022-11-0628 min