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Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonConnecting Through the Nervous System: Polyvagal Theory with Deb DanaThis conversation revolves around the nervous system and its impact on the way that we connect. Dr. Alexandra is joined by Deb Dana, the leading translator of Dr. Stephen Porges’ scientific work on Polyvagal Theory to the public and mental health professionals. As just one example of her huge impact, a term she coined, glimmers, has gone viral on TikTok. You’ll hear Deb take us through Polyvagal Theory, explaining the three principles of neuroception, hierarchy of response, and coregulation. You’ll learn about the states our nervous systems go between - how those states feel and the typ...
2025-12-0953 min
Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon“I Think I’ve Outgrown My Relationship!”On Reimagining Love, we've done several solo episodes where Dr. Alexandra takes a seemingly simple and straightforward statement that folks are making about relationships. Then she pulls it apart to try to find more shades of grey, to add more complexity and layering to a phrase that she finds has gotten too simplistic. In today’s episode, we are going to look at what it means when people say they've outgrown their relationship*. First, Dr. Alexandra will talk you through what she thinks people are saying when they say they've outgrown the relationship. Then she is going to look at...
2025-12-0245 min
Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonVisualizing Your Best Self: How To Get More Confidence, Clarity, & Connection with Mimi BouchardThis episode is brought to you by Activations. Head to activations.com/love for an exclusive offer.One critical component of any relationship equation is You. When you embody your best self - the self with the most clarity, motivation, aliveness - you bring your most important self to your relationships.Dr. Alexandra sits down with Mimi Bouchard, an entrepreneur and author, who reveals her transformative journey to her best self across the important pillars of her life: financial, mental, physical, spiritual, and social.As a result of her work, she created the...
2025-11-2544 min
Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonCarrying the Mental Load: How Unequal Cognitive Labor Can Affect Your Relationship with Allison DamingerIn this conversation, Dr. Alexandra totally nerds-out with Dr. Allison Daminger about the division of work in couples, particularly in an often overlooked domain: the mental space. In her research, Daminger found that even when couples approximate parity around “time use”, there are still huge gaps in what she calls “mind use” or cognitive labor… even for modern couples who believe in what she calls the Myth of Mutuality, an equal partnership where both partners evenly share the load.You will hear about the gendered disparities in cognitive labor in the home in a gentle, blame-free way. When it co...
2025-11-181h 01
Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonNobody Wants This: How to Love Across Potentially Dealbreaking Differences (Part 2) with My Husband, ToddDr. Alexandra is in-studio with her husband, Todd, for this special two-part conversation about loving across potentially dealbreaking differences. Inspired by the Netflix show, Nobody Wants This, starring Kristen Bell and Adam Brody, Dr. Alexandra and Todd reflect on navigating a faith difference, with Dr. Alexandra ultimately converting to Judaism in preparation for their marriage. They discuss the larger question: how can a couple go about navigating ANY potentially dealbreaking difference? In this second part of their studio conversation, Dr. Alexandra and Todd talk about scorekeeping, with gender roles, attachment styles and general disposition/worldview in mind, b...
2025-11-1139 min
Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonNobody Wants This: How to Love Across Potentially Dealbreaking Differences (Part 1) with My Husband, ToddDr. Alexandra is in-studio with her husband, Todd, for this special two-part conversation about loving across potentially dealbreaking differences. Inspired by the Netflix show, Nobody Wants This, starring Kristen Bell and Adam Brody, Dr. Alexandra and Todd reflect on navigating a faith difference, with Dr. Alexandra ultimately converting to Judaism in preparation for their marriage. They discuss the larger question: how can a couple go about navigating ANY potentially dealbreaking difference? You’ll hear their reflections on Dr. Alexandra’s decision to convert to Judaism, as they discuss the implications of being the 'sacrificing partner' versus the one b...
2025-11-0455 min
Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonWhy Self-Compassion is an Essential Practice with Dr. Kristin NeffDr. Alexandra’s conversation with Dr. Kristin Neff is all about self-compassion, an essential tool for your emotional well-being toolkit (and that’s scientifically proven!). Dr. Kristen Neff, a trailblazer in the field of self-compassion research, introduces the three foundational pillars of self-compassion, illustrating how integrating all three of these elements empowers individuals to confront their inner critic and cultivate healthier connections. The discussion delves into the biological and family of origin influences that shape our self-criticism, while also addressing the grief that may surface when embarking on a self-compassion journey. You will also learn about Fierce Self-Com...
2025-10-2850 min
Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonFor Love, In Truth: How to Live Authentically and Find Joy with Dr. Martha Beck“The cost of that is courage, to live for love, in truth. It takes a lot of guts and the rewards are indescribable.”Dr. Alexandra sits down with bestselling author and coach Dr. Martha Beck to explore what it means to live “for love, in truth”, a mantra that can redefine the way we experience love and relationships. In a world filled with societal pressures and expectations, Martha shares her wisdom on how embracing authenticity can unlock profound joy and lead to fulfilling connections. Martha reflects on her unconventional journey through relationships, and the life-changing lessons learned from a s...
2025-10-211h 03
Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonWhat To Do When Your Partner Is Struggling (Part Two)In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra will be taking you through how to take care of yourself and your relationship when your partner is struggling. Perhaps your partner is struggling with a job loss, a health diagnosis, a mental health challenge, the loss of a loved one, family drama, co-parenting with an ex, or something else entirely. Whatever it is, the theme is that there is some scenario that is taking up more of your partner’s bandwidth than usual, leaving less bandwidth for you and your relationship.In this second part, Dr. Alexandra is going to ta...
2025-10-1438 min
Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonWhat To Do When Your Partner Is Struggling (Part One)In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra will be taking you through how to take care of yourself and your relationship when your partner is struggling. Perhaps your partner is struggling with a job loss, a health diagnosis, a mental health challenge, the loss of a loved one, family drama, co-parenting with an ex, or something else entirely. Whatever it is, the theme is that there is some scenario that is taking up more of your partner’s bandwidth than usual, leaving less bandwidth for you and your relationship.In this first part, Dr. Alexandra is going to be...
2025-10-0740 min
Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonHow Healing Your Inner Child Can Deepen Your Relationships with Christine HasslerWhat if the key to deeper intimacy lies in understanding the echoes of our past? Dr. Alexandra Solomon sits with Christine Hassler, a Master coach, podcast host, and author, to discuss how our family of origin roles shape our present connections, emphasizing the importance of inner child work and relational self-awareness. Christine shares her journey through the unhealthy patterns that surfaced in her own relationship with her partner, Stef, offering a raw look at the necessity of self-reflection in cultivating healthier dynamics.You'll come away from this episode with:A deeper understanding of how family of...
2025-09-3041 min
Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonManaging Anxiety: Three Root Causes To Help You Find Relief with Noelle McWard AquinoAnxiety is one of the most common emotional struggles today. Whether you have a formal diagnosis or are simply experiencing the symptoms, you are not alone. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined by anxiety expert, therapist, and author Noelle McWard Aquino to talk about the three distinct root causes Noelle has identified and written about in her book Anxiety Unpacked. Together, they discuss which characteristics each type has and what core needs drive them. And most importantly, they discuss practical tools and strategies to help you find relief and peace, regardless of your anxiety type.
2025-09-2357 min
Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonIt’s Not Just You: The Myth of Limitless Resilience with Dr. Tasha EurichHave you ever felt like your resilience is being pushed to its limits, especially in the chaotic and complex world we live in today? Dr. Alexandra sits down with organizational psychologist, researcher, and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Tasha Eurich to delve into the insights from her new book, Shatterproof: How to Thrive in a World of Constant Chaos (and Why Resilience Alone Isn’t Enough). In this conversation, they discuss the myths of resilience, as well as what a “resilience ceiling” is and how to identify when we’ve hit it. Most importantly, they talk about how to under...
2025-09-1640 min
Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonNavigating Political Polarization: How to Connect Through Curious Conversations with Mónica GuzmánThere are a few things we likely can all agree on: (1) we are living in a very polarizing time, (2) it’s hurting us, and (3) the way that we talk about politics is broken, given that we are all living in different information orbits. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra sits down with Mónica Guzmán who offers us some hope for the relationships in our lives that have suffered as a result of this polarization. She also offers us the perspective we need to help us stay grounded, even as the structures all around us fiercely demand our attention and...
2025-09-0953 min
Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonMailbag Episode! Rebuilding After InfidelityThe fourth and final mailbag episode of the summer is here! Dr. Alexandra has advice for three listeners with three relationship dilemmas related to infidelity and rebuilding trust, both relationally and within themselves.Start healing together with these listener challenges:Our first listener question concerns shame upon discovering an extramarital affair.The second question deals with jealousy in the wake of some boundary-breaching behavior that is impacting the relationship.An affair partner asks our third question, as she struggles with honesty and clarity within the affair from her married partner.Resources worth mentioning from the...
2025-08-2656 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonRevisit & Reflect: Drs. John & Julie Gottman on Protecting Connection in Your RelationshipWelcome to R&R: Revisit & Reflect, a new episode format here on the podcast. We’re living in a time of information abundance (sometimes information overload) and lots of that information is about mental health and relational health! But there’s a difference between consuming content and integrating it. When we consume, the information might just pass through us, whereas when we integrate, the information weaves its way into our unique story or situation, creating insight and the potential for a shift in mindset, in emotion, in belief, and in behavior. With these R&R episodes, you’ll refl...
2025-07-2922 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonMailbag Episode! Trouble in ParadiseWelcome to another summer mailbag episode, in which Dr. Alexandra digs into recent listener questions so that we can all grow, together. Two of the questions today follow a general shape of a question that comes across Dr. Alexandra’s desk quite often. Something like: “Everything’s perfect in my relationship…BUT….” There’s some challenge, incompatibility, or roadblock that feels outside of our control—or, something within *US* that’s holding us back from taking things to the next level, even though everything feels so right—and we can’t get unstuck. Dr. Alexandra speaks to two listeners in this spot, as well...
2025-07-221h 01Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonLiving Authentically: How to Cultivate Vulnerability, Emotional Safety, and Joy with Jennifer PastiloffDr. Alexandra sits down with author and speaker Jennifer Pastiloff for a heartfelt conversation centered on vulnerability, new beginnings, and embracing joy through trying times. Jen’s candid sharing of her personal journey reminds us that we're constantly given opportunities to evolve ourselves, heal, and step more deeply into our authenticity. Jen and Dr. Alexandra also discuss navigating the "messy middle" after a breakup or divorce, and how we can begin again in life after facing bumps in the road. Jen's new book, Proof of Life: Let Go, Let Love, and Stop Looking for Permission to Live Your Life, is...
2025-07-0834 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonRevisit & Reflect: Esther Perel on Reigniting The Spark in Your RelationshipWelcome to R&R: Revisit & Reflect, a new episode format here on the podcast. We’re living in a time of information abundance (sometimes information overload) and lots of that information is about mental health and relational health! But there’s a difference between consuming content and integrating it. When we consume, the information might just pass through us, whereas when we integrate, the information weaves its way into our unique story or situation, creating insight and the potential for a shift in mindset, in emotion, in belief, and in behavior. With these R&R episodes, you’ll reflect and jo...
2025-07-0127 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonMailbag Episode! Blended Families, Long Distance, Talking About the FutureThe second mailbag episode of the summer is here! Hear Dr. Alexandra’s advice for three listeners from around the world, with three relationship dilemmas: the first is a fellow “Alexandra” who lives in England and is struggling with her blended family. Next, we hear from a listener in Hawaii who is trying to make a difficult decision about their relationship. Finally, Dr. Alexandra answers a question from a listener in the UK who is ready to have a baby…but her boyfriend is not. Listen to hear Dr. Alexandra’s guidance and submit your own question by following the link b...
2025-06-241h 05Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonStep Into Your Purpose: Using Righteous Anger for Good in a Broken World with Shannon WattsIf you’re ready to empower yourself to step into your true purpose but are paralyzed by fear, what-ifs, and imposter syndrome, you’ve found the right conversation. Today’s guest is Shannon Watts, the founder of Moms Demand Action, the nation’s largest grassroots group fighting gun violence in the U.S. Like many of us, Shannon was left outraged and broken after hearing news stories about school shootings and seeing the impact of gun violence on communities across the countries. One night, her sadness transformed to rage, and her life was changed after a Facebook post kicked off what...
2025-06-1755 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonThe Journey of Raising a Disabled Child: Cultivating Community and Self-Compassion with Amanda Griffith-AtkinsWe are all connected to folks with disabilities, whether they’re part of our inner circle, or members of our broader community. Unfortunately, there’s a great deal of stigmatization, misunderstanding, and judgement that crops up around disabled folks and their families. Parents of disabled children are traveling on a different path than other parents, and often need more support, but the people around them don’t always know how to provide it. Therapist Amanda Griffith-Atkins joins Dr. Alexandra on this episode to offer guidance to those parents, as well as the people around them. When Amanda’s son Asher wa...
2025-06-1052 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonMailbag Episode! Part OneThroughout the summer, Dr. Alexandra will be answering listener questions through Mailbag Episodes. Today’s questions include a query from a listener in Los Angeles who is struggling with her feelings about a choice the guy she’s seeing has made, and isn’t sure how to proceed after a tricky conversation. Next, you’ll hear from Marina in London, who wants some extra support in the aftermath of infidelity. She’s curious about post-traumatic growth and what might be possible for her. Dr. Alexandra wraps things up with a question from a listener in New York, whose boyfriend of over a...
2025-06-0338 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonThe Four Types of Connection: Unlocking What Really Matters in Life with Dr. Adam DorsayConnection, both with others and with oneself, really is the answer to so many of life’s woes. We know that investing in our relationships helps us become happier, healthier, and more fulfilled. Dr. Adam Dorsay, author of the book Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the 4 Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love, walks us through this straightforward but vital idea in this episode: that the antidote to the uniquely modern angst so much of us experience today is connection. Sounds simple, right? Well, not always, when there are so many pulls on our attention and sh...
2025-05-2052 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon“My Family Is a Mess. Will the Dynamic Ever Change?”When there’s a struggling person in a family, the system often coalesces around that individual, and while we might imagine these patterns get left behind when kids grow into adults, the dynamic often endures for the long run. Reimagining Love listener Cristina wrote in to Dr. Alexandra from Chicago, asking about how to better handle the challenges of such a situation. She’s the only one in her family who is in therapy, and she is eager to disrupt the dynamic. Cristina wants to stay connected to her sisters, despite the challenges they’ve faced, and her hope is to...
2025-05-1352 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonCrushes, First Love, and Heartbreak: Supporting Teens Through Relationship Milestones with Lisa A. PhillipsParents of adolescents can sometimes feel like they’re in a tough spot: they get so much pushback and can lose their confidence when it comes to talking about the topics that really matter such as romance and love. Additionally, many parents don’t feel up to the task of talking with their teens about this subject—often because they’re still making sense of their own relationship journeys. In her new book, First Love: Guiding Teens through Relationships and Heartbreak, journalist, author, and professor Lisa A. Phillips reminds us that all adults are really still recovering from being teenager...
2025-04-2251 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonIntroducing ‘No Small Endeavor’: How to Have Flourishing Relationships with Alexandra SolomonToday, we are excited to share Dr. Alexandra’s recent interview on the Signal Award-winning podcast No Small Endeavor. Produced by PRX and Great Feeling Studios, the podcast explores what it means to live a good life with the help of courageous and impassioned guests like renowned happiness expert Gretchen Rubin, Hidden Brain podcast host Shankar Vedantam, and New York Times bestselling author Malcolm Gladwell.In this specific episode, host and theologian Lee C. Camp and Dr. Solomon discuss insights from her book, "Loving Bravely,” as well as the secrets to thriving intimacy, mastering the art of apol...
2025-04-1151 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonCan You Have an Amazing Career AND an Amazing Relationship?Few topics are more relevant to our day-to-day lives than work. For many of us, our jobs are more than just occupations—they’re where we achieve goals, make meaning, experience successes and failures, and cultivate our self-esteem. So, when work and love collide, we find ourselves at a rich intersection of emotions, expectations, and needs. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra uncovers why fighting with your partner about work is never just that, and shares tools you can use to cultivate intimacy and ambition simultaneously. You’ll learn about what Dr. Alexandra calls “the Work-Love Matrix,” understand the connections between yo...
2025-03-2548 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonIs There an “Effort Mismatch” in Your Relationship? When two partners have a major difference between them, it can kick up a lot of dust in a relationship. One of the most common is what Dr. Alexandra calls “The Effort Mismatch”: while one partner tends to scan the relationship for problems and is always on the lookout for growth opportunities (The Change Partner), the other partner holds steady, generally accepting the relationship for what it is today (The Acceptance Partner). The good news is, when both partners understand and value their differences, this contrast between them can be a huge asset to their relationship. However, most...
2025-03-1856 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonFrom LinkedIn's Everyday Better with Leah Smart: How to Stop Fighting About Work With Dr. Alexandra SolomonToday, we're sharing an episode of LinkedIn's Everyday Better podcast! Dr. Alexandra recently joined host Leah Smart for a conversation about relationships and work. Learn more below and enjoy this bonus episode!The research is clear: how satisfied you feel at work impacts the quality of your relationships at home, and the quality of your relationships at home impacts the way you show up at work. That’s why Dr. Alexandra Solomon wants you to think more deeply about the work-related arguments you have with your partner. Whether you and your partner disagree about how muc...
2025-03-141h 00Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonHow to Know When It’s Right: The Conversations that Unlock Connection with Lindsay Jill RothMany of us have cultivated confidence in our careers, our family life, and our friendships, but when it comes to dating, we feel lost at sea. This was the case for acclaimed TV and live events producer Lindsay Jill Roth, who found herself asking what she knew were the wrong questions in dating (What does he want me to say? How can I make this person like me?). So, she set out to create a tool for herself that she's now sharing with the world. In her new book, Romances & Practicalities, Lindsay offers a roadmap for how to understand...
2025-02-2555 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonFamily of Origin Roles Series: The Perfect One (From Performance to Presence)Today’s episode is part of a new solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (aka FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messag...
2024-12-0348 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonHow to Stress-Proof Your Relationship: Strategies for Busy Lives with Elizabeth EarnshawWe all know that when we’re stressed, we’re not our best selves. But what happens when this stress threatens to erode our most important relationships, and we feel powerless to change the dynamic? Returning guest Elizabeth Earnshaw joins Dr. Solomon to address this pressing yet common issue. Liz is a licensed family and marriage therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, AAMFT Approved Supervisor, and founder of A Better Life Therapy. She’s known for her popular Instagram account @lizlistens, is the author of I Want This to Work, and has been featured in the New York Times, USA Today, The Wa...
2024-11-2657 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonWhat Role Did You Play in Your Family of Origin? (Re-release)Today’s episode is the first of a new solo episode series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles. Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messaging about...
2024-11-121h 06Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonTen Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict (Part Two) (Re-release)In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Alexandra provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team.Relevant links:Listen to Part One of the Conflict seriesAccess the Conflict Skills worksheetCouples therapy directories: Gottman Referral NetworkTherapist.comPsychology TodayDomestic Violence ResourcesOrder Dr. A...
2024-08-131h 08Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonTen Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict (Part One) (Re-release)In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Alexandra provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team.Relevant links:Access the Conflict Skills worksheetCouples therapy directories: Gottman Referral NetworkTherapist.comPsychology TodayDomestic Violence ResourcesOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to D...
2024-08-0640 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonMidlife Transitions: How to Lean in Rather than Resist the ‘Messy Middle’ with Chip ConleyWhen it comes to life stages, “midlife” often gets the short end of the stick. We speak about adolescence and retirement as vistas rich with opportunity and possibility while we joke about midlife and its related crises. However, when we adopt an affectionate perspective, opportunity and joy prove to be just as possible in this “messy middle” stage. Many transitions take place over the decades following age 50. These milestones are no less impactful than those we celebrate, such as graduation and marriage, and yet most of us lack rituals to mark these evolutions and help us build communiti...
2024-07-2347 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonRelational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Part Two) (Re-release)In the second part of the "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" series, Dr. Alexandra continues the conversation about Relational Ambivalence and offers listeners eight things they can do to help them move from stuckness to clarity.Relevant links:Listen to Part One of this seriesGet the Relational Ambivalence worksheet"Should I Stay or Should I Go?" article by Dr. AlexandraE-course for therapists & coaches: “Loving Bravely: Helping Clients who are Single, Dating, and Single Again”Mark Groves Ted TalkBook: Deliberate Practice in E...
2024-07-0945 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonMental Health and Relationships in Post-Roe America with Shefali Luthra and Dr. Pooja LakshminJune 24th marks the two-year anniversary of The Supreme Court’s decision to overturn Roe v. Wade. Because Reimagining Love is a show devoted to relationships and helping people cultivate relationships founded in empowerment and care, Dr. Alexandra wanted to shine a light on the pervasive and pernicious impacts of the Supreme Court’s decision on individuals, couples, and families in the United States. In fact, abortion has become virtually unavailable or significantly restricted in 21 states leaving pregnant people and their loved ones across the country facing the fears and roadblocks in their attempts to access reproductive healthcare. In...
2024-06-2556 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonStrategies for a Thriving Long-Distance Relationship (Re-release)Long-distance relationships are no walk in the park, but that doesn't mean they can't thrive. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra tackles this topic, sharing tools and tips for couples. If you and your partner live in different time zones, are pros at FaceTime dates, and are constantly asking, "when's our next visit?", this episode is for you.Relevant links:Access the Long-Distance Relationships worksheet hereOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s NewsletterSubmit a Listener QuestionTake Dr. Alexandra's "Relationship Su...
2024-06-041h 04Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon"I Need Connection & My Partner Needs Space. Now What?"In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra examines a central tension in all relationships: the need for space versus togetherness. If you often find yourself wanting more connection, are you needy? If you typically need more space, are you avoidant? Here, Dr. Alexandra encourages us to ditch the labels and pathology, and instead acknowledge that both space and connection are fundamental needs in an intimate relationship. To help you navigate this, Dr. Alexandra shines a light on the meaning we assign to our orientations around space and shares strategies to help you and your partner create agreements that maximize connection...
2024-05-071h 01Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonWhen You're the Affair PartnerThroughout her decades as a therapist, Dr. Alexandra has helped many people navigate being "the affair partner." Participating in infidelity creates an intoxicating yet profoundly confusing blend of emotions and experiences. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra examines the psychology of this role and offers a compassionate look into the surrounding context: the thrills, secret benefits, sources of shame, and potential origin stories embedded within this controversial role.Relevant links:"A Great Wagon" by RumiJournal of Sex & Martial Therapy: "Object of Desire Self-Consciousness Theory" by Anthony F. Bogaert and Lori A. Brotto
2024-04-0957 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonWhen Shame Blocks RepairIn this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra confronts a common roadblock to repair: shame. Often, in the wake of relational harm, feelings of shame secretly run the show, causing you to get combative and defensive or freeze, flee, or fawn in essential moments. Dr. Alexandra provides strategies for moving from shame into action—so that you can make yourself available for repair—and gives tangible tips for how to make a heartfelt and effective apology.Relevant links:Access this episode's companion worksheet hereReimagining Love episode: "Why Can't I Get Over It?"Dr...
2024-04-0252 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonFrom Burnout to Balanced: Bringing Self-Compassion to Our Careers with Esther BoykinEsther Boykin joins Dr. Alexandra for an expansive conversation around the intersection of mental health and our careers. Esther highlights the difference between self-care and self-compassion, and points us towards using self-compassion as an essential tool for improving both our personal and work lives. When we bring self-compassion to our careers, we prevent burnout by opening up a deeper connection to our common humanity. Together, Esther and Dr. Alexandra then respond to a listener who thinks her relationship is being held back by her partner's ambition.Relevant links:Connect with Esther online and on Instagram
2024-03-1950 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon"Why Can't I Get Over It?"Deceit, infidelity, and betrayal profoundly shake our inner worlds. If you're struggling to heal from relational harm, you may be endlessly ruminating on the past and wondering why you can't just let it go. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra breaks down the process of forgiveness and provides seven reasons why you can’t get over it. Relevant links:Access this episode's companion worksheet hereDr. Alexandra's e-course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding after Betrayal or DeceitReimagining Love episode: "Tending to "Little You" & Exploring Your Family of Origin"Tak...
2024-03-0555 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonAre You Ready to Date Again?Thinking about re-entering the dating scene after a breakup or loss? How can you tell if you're truly ready to get back out there? In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra provides five Relational Self-Awareness-informed indicators that you can use to help you discern whether you’re ready to date again.Relevant links:Access this episode's companion worksheet hereListen to Reimagining Love's "Guidance for the Newly Single" episodeLearn more about Relational Self-Awareness with Dr. Alexandra's books, Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy BackOrder Dr. Alexandra’s new book, Love...
2024-02-1358 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonWhat Role Did You Play in Your Family of Origin?In this in-depth solo episode, Dr. Alexandra explains the six common roles we played in our original family systems. Way before we ever were involved in a romantic relationship, we were part of a family system, and that system, for better or for worse, shaped our ideas about who we can and cannot be. Through understanding our past, we can see how these roles continue to show up in our relationships today and use that knowledge as a powerful Relational Self-Awareness tool.Relevant links:Take the Family of Origin Roles QuizReimagining Love: "...
2024-02-061h 02Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonThe D Word: An Empowering Approach to Divorce with Kate AnthonyRenowned divorce coach Kate Anthony sits down with Dr. Alexandra to offer us an empowering approach to divorce that centers accountability and integrity. Sharing wisdom from her own divorce, Kate guides Dr. Alexandra through the experience, from exploring what is embedded within the question ‘should I stay or should I go?’ to all the tricky things that emerge in the aftermath of a separation: parenting decisions, the gender dynamics of divorce, and the heaps of unsolicited advice that’s coming your way.Relevant links:The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision about Your Marriage by Kate A...
2024-01-2354 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonReflect With Me: Checking In With Ourselves and Our Relationships in the New YearIn this special mini-solo episode, Dr. Alexandra invites you to join her as she reflects on 2023 and moves into the new year with intentionality. Sharing her perspective on resolutions, Dr. Alexandra encourages listeners to navigate this time with self-compassion and gentleness. Then, Dr. Alexandra guides listeners through two exercises designed to reflect on the lessons and challenges of the past year and find optimism for this upcoming year.Relevant links:Access this episode's accompanying worksheetOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s NewsletterSu...
2024-01-0224 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon"My Partner’s Unhealthy Habit is Driving Me Crazy!" (Part Two)Whether it's smoking, indulging in less-than-ideal meals, or not hitting the gym as often as we'd desire, it's easy to take our partner's unhealthy habits personally. If you struggle to cope with a partner's habit, Dr. Alexandra is here to help. In the second episode of this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra introduces the idea of a 'Health Habit Discrepancy' and encourages you to get curious about why you and your partner might think differently about health habits. Then, Dr. Alexandra speaks to both partners, providing guidance on how to navigate this conversation with sensitivity and understanding.Listen...
2023-12-1935 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon"My Partner’s Unhealthy Habit is Driving Me Crazy!" (Part One)Whether it's smoking, indulging in less-than-ideal meals, or not hitting the gym as often as we'd desire, it's easy to take our partner's unhealthy habits personally. If you struggle to cope with a partner's habit, Dr. Alexandra is here to help. In the first episode of this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra examines what might be lying beneath your concerns and offers strategies for you to explore.Access this episode's companion worksheet hereSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s NewsletterOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubmit a Listener Question
2023-12-1241 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonThe Highs and Lows of Finding "Your Person": Bringing a Sense of Humor to Dating with Julie Krafchick & Yue XuJulie Krafchick and Yue Xu, hosts of the popular podcast Dateable, join Dr. Alexandra for a fun, yet insightful, conversation about all things dating. Together, they explore our rapidly changing dating culture and tackle three sticky relationship situations.Relevant links:Listen to the episode of Dateable where Dr. Alexandra joined Julie and Yue to discuss pace discrepanciesListen to the Dateable podcastListen to Exit InterviewOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question
2023-11-2151 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon100th Episode: Answering Your Questions!Today's show is the 100th episode of Reimagining Love! Dr. Alexandra celebrates this milestone by answering several great listener questions: one from a woman in her 20s who is grappling with stability vs adventure in her love life; one about ambition differences between two partners; and one from a man desiring more affection from his partner. Take a listen to hear from Dr. Alexandra on all of these great questions!Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Hosted by Si...
2023-11-141h 04Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonFamily Dynamics: How to Maintain Your Voice and Your Connection with Your Family of Origin with Julia SamuelDr. Alexandra is joined by therapist and author Julia Samuel for a wide-spanning conversation about family systems, intergenerational healing, grief, and money.Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Every Family Has a Story: How We Inherit Love and Loss by Julia Samuel:https://bookshop.org/p/books/every-family-has-a-story-how-we-inherit-love-and-loss-julia-samuel/18378436?ean=9780385684392Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Hosted by Simplecast, an...
2023-11-0753 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonKids & Digital Wellness: Parenting in the Age of Screens with Dr. Devorah HeitnerDr. Devorah Heitner, an author and digital wellness expert, joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about parenting, technology, and the internet. As our world become more and more complex for kids of all ages, Dr. Heitner empowers parents to have conversations with their kids at all ages and stages, model healthy tech usage, and more.Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World by Devorah Heitner, PhD:https://bookshop.org/p/books...
2023-10-3152 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonDesire Differences: What to Do When You and Your Partner Have Mismatched Libidos with Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy & Dr. Jennifer VencillIf you and your partner have a desire difference between you, you're not alone. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined by guests Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy and Dr. Jennifer Vencill for an honest and compassionate conversation about mismatched libidos and how partners can navigate this challenge as a team.Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Desire: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences in Relationships by Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy & Dr. Jennifer Vencillhttps://drlaurenfogel.com/book/Subscribe...
2023-10-241h 05Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonLove, Acceptance, & Growth: The Insights We Glean from Couples Therapy with Dr. Tracy DalgleishDr. Alexandra is joined by Dr. Tracy Dalgleish for a rich discussion about both of their new books, as well as the growth potential for couples when they engage in therapy and Relational Self-awareness.Order Dr. Tracy's new book, I Didn't Sign Up For This:https://bookshop.org/p/books/i-didn-t-sign-up-for-this-a-couples-therapist-shares-real-life-stories-of-breaking-patterns-and-finding-joy-in-relationships-including-her-o-tracy-dal/20082816?ean=9781683736622Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day:https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Dr. Tracy's podcast, I'm Not Your Shrink:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-acceptance-and-therapy-with-dr-alexandra-solomon/id1452433255?i=1000631102057Subscribe...
2023-10-1759 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonMy 9 Favorite Resentment-Busting StrategiesResentment is one of the most common yet debilitating emotional states we can find ourselves stuck in. In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra normalizes the feeling of resentment and offers nine strategies that can help us get unstuck and begin to honor our own feelings and offer compassion to the people we love.Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day, available now:https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Episode #24 of Reimagining Love, 10 Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict:Part 1:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386...
2023-10-1059 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonIf They Wanted To, They WouldA phrase we've been hearing a lot lately, especially in the dating world, and I’m sure you have as well is “If they wanted to, they would.” In today's episode, Dr Solomon will look at the kinds of fears and beliefs that lead people to stick the “if they wanted to they would” label on a relationship dynamic. You'll also lean into what might be happening in a dynamic that would lead you to declare “if they wanted to, they would” and what else you might do besides stick this label on and walk away.Pre-order Dr. Alexandra...
2023-09-191h 03Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonShould You Be Friends With Your Ex?When a relationship comes to a close, how do we decide for ourselves what kind of connection, if any, should remain between us and our former partner? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the topic of friendship with exes and shares some helpful musings and questions for anyone who is hoping to gain clarity about what might serve them and their former partner best in this new uncharted chapter.Pre-order Dr. Alexandra's brand-new book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices To Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/loveeverydaybook/Subscribe...
2023-07-1853 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonStrategies for a Thriving Long-Distance RelationshipLong-distance relationships are no walk in the park, but that doesn't mean they can't thrive. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra tackles this topic, sharing tools and tips for couples. If you and your partner live in different time zones, are pros at FaceTime dates, and are constantly asking, "when's our next visit?", this episode is for you.Access this episode's companion worksheet herePre-order Dr. Alexandra's brand-new book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices To Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and ThriveSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s NewsletterSubmit a Listener Qu...
2023-07-111h 03Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonWhy You're Frustrated with Dating AppsFeeling burnt out and frustrated with dating apps? You're not alone. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra unpacks why so many people feel this way, offering explanation and validation for daters who are feeling stuck and disillusioned. Tune in next week to hear Dr. Alexandra's 12 Relational Self-Awareness strategies for using dating apps.Get the brand new REIMAGINING LOVE WORKBOOK:https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/reimagining-love-workbook-0c34cba5-a457-4253-b7d7-9ca051dc0326Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://fo...
2023-05-0242 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonFinding Yourself Again: The Truth About Codependency with Melody BeattieDr. Alexandra is joined by Melody Beattie, a legendary self-help author. A revised edition of Melody's 1986 book "Codependent No More" was recently published, and she and Dr. Alexandra discuss the topics it delves into and answer a listener question about losing oneself in relationships.Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie:https://bookshop.org/p/books/codependent-no-more-how-to-stop-controlling-others-and-start-caring-for-yourself-melody-beattie/9158976?ean=9781954118157Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Ta...
2023-04-2551 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon"I'm Thinking About Getting Back Together With My Ex." (Part One)If you are thinking about getting back together with an ex, there's a lot to consider. In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra guides listeners through 12 Relational Self-Awareness questions that will help them gain clarity about their situation and create version 2.0 of their relationship with confidence, if they make the choice to reconcile with their former partner. In next week's episode, Dr. Alexandra will share an accompanying worksheet for this series.Episode 67: Dealing with Breakup Regret:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000604088930Episode 66: How to Get Closure After a Breakup:
2023-04-0444 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonLessons from the Longest Study on Happiness: The Connection Between Thriving Relationships and A Fulfilling Life with Dr. Marc SchulzDr. Marc Schulz, co-author of the book "The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness" joins Dr. Alexandra for a fascinating overview of the longitudinal research that he and his colleague Dr. Robert Waldinger synthesized in their new book. Dr. Schulz discusses some of the biggest takeaways from this study with Dr. Alexandra, including hopeful and exciting insights about the connection between thriving relationships and a fulfilling life.Shop Organifi products and get 20% off as a Reimagining Love listener:https://www.organifishop.com/pages/lovepodThe Good Life: Lessons...
2023-01-3152 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonLove Stories: My Best Friend AliDr. Alexandra sits down with her lifelong best friend, Ali, for a heartfelt conversation about their four decades of friendship and everything they've learned about each other and themselves along the way.Ali's book, "The Heirloom"https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-heirloom-alexandra-folz/11612835?ean=9780998276908Ali's intuitive counseling website:https://alexandrafolz.com/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Take Dr. Alexandra's "Relationship Superpower" Quiz:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/rsa-quiz/
2022-11-2946 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonCaring For Ourselves & Each Other: How We Heal with Alex ElleDr. Alexandra is joined by Alex Elle, author of the new book "How We Heal." They discuss healing through personal writing, how we can re-parent ourselves, and how we can build a life full of individual and relational growth amidst challenges and change.Register for Dr. Alexandra's E-Courses before the price increases on 11/11/22:https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/How We Heal: Uncover Your Power and Set Yourself Free by Alexandra Ellehttps://bookshop.org/p/books/how-we-heal-uncover-your-power-and-set-yourself-free-alexandra-elle/18265479?ean=9781797216263Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/...
2022-11-0850 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonLove Stories: Building a Life Together with Elise & SuzIn this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra sits down with Elise & Suz, a young and recently married couple, for a thoughtful conversation about queerness, modern marriage, and building a life together. Elise & Suz share the story of how they met, their relationships with their own queerness and identity, and how they reimagined traditions for their wedding. They also reflect on some of the challenges, and the joys, of the post-marriage chapter.Sessions Live Conference with Esther Perel (use code "ALEXANDRA" at checkout for 10% off):estherperel.com/alexandraSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s...
2022-10-2554 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonGetting Present: Tuning Into Your Body with Dr. Hillary McBrideDr. Hillary McBride joins Dr. Alexandra to discuss her work on embodiment and presence. They talk about why and how to listen to what your body is telling you, and Dr. Hillary guides listeners through a body meditation that can help you come back to the present moment and feel more at ease.Sessions Live Conference with Esther Perel (use code "ALEXANDRA" at checkout for 10% off):estherperel.com/alexandraThe Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection Through Embodied Living by Dr. Hillary McBride:https://bookshop.org/p/books...
2022-10-1849 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon"I Love My Partner, But Their Family is Toxic!" (Part Two)In-law dynamics are complicated. What do you do when your partner's family is particularly challenging, or you're the one in the relationship with the family drama? Dr. Alexandra addresses all of this and more in today's episode.Sessions Live Conference with Esther Perel (use code "ALEXANDRA" at checkout for 10% off):estherperel.com/alexandraGet the In-Laws worksheet:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/inlaws/Listen to Part 1 of this episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000581520129Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dr...
2022-10-1143 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon"I Love My Partner, But Their Family is Toxic!" (Part One)In-law dynamics are complicated. What do you do when your partner's family is particularly challenging, or you're the one in the relationship with the family drama? Dr. Alexandra addresses all of this and more in today's episode.Sessions Live Conference with Esther Perel (use code "ALEXANDRA" at checkout for 10% off):estherperel.com/alexandraSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about ou...
2022-10-0444 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonTalking About the Future: Navigating a Pace DiscrepancyOn this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra dives into a topic that all of us have grappled with at some point or another: talking about the future with our partner. If you're struggling with a pace discrepancy with your partner, whether it's about becoming exclusive, moving in together, getting married, or starting any kind of new chapter, this conversation is for you.Get the Talking About the Future worksheet:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/futureSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://fo...
2022-09-061h 03Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonLove Stories: Partnership & Parenthood with Cathy & Todd AdamsOn this special Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined by Cathy and Todd Adams. They're husband and wife, co-hosts of the popular podcast Zen Parenting Radio, and so much more. Cathy and Todd open up about all aspects of their relationship, discuss how it's grown and changed over time, and explore how it connects with their work around parenting and personal growth.Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World by Cathy Cassani Adamshttps://bookshop.org/books/zen-parenting-caring-for-ourselves-and-our-children-in-an-unpredictable-world/9780306925207?gclid=CjwKCAjwx7GYBhB7EiwA0d8oe0Uh6rkzzhTRl6xTwMGtdHg26Uyp3BGgOsQW9...
2022-08-301h 07Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonLoving and Loving Again: Personal Evolution in Relationships with Mark GrovesMark Groves joins Dr. Alexandra to answer a listener question about getting back together with an ex, and they discuss the personal growth and expansion that's possible when we allow ourselves to get honest and vulnerable with the people we love most, and with ourselves.Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLoveSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101...
2022-08-2347 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonTuning into You: How Self-Reflection Creates Healthy Relationships with Emmalee Bierly & Jennifer ChaikenThe Shrink Chicks—therapists Emmalee Bierly and Jennifer Chaiken—join Dr. Alexandra for a vibrant conversation about cultivating self-understanding in the context of relationships and family. They tackle two wonderful listener questions and share lots of laughs along the way.Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLoveSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Get the Relational Ambivalence worksh...
2022-08-1647 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonRelational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Part Two)In the second part of the "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" series, Dr. Alexandra continues the conversation about Relational Ambivalence and offers listeners eight things they can do to help them move from stuckness to clarity.Listen to Part 1 of this series:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000574755271Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence"Should I Stay or Should I Go?" article by Dr. Alexandra:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/should-i-stay-or-should-i-go-relational-uncertainty/E-course for therapists & coaches: “Loving Bravely: Helping Clients wh...
2022-08-0944 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonRelational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Part One)Welcome back to Reimagining Love! On today's episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the complicated question that many of us have faced at some point in our lives: Should I stay in this relationship, or should I leave? If you're unsure of what the wisest path forward is, and you're hoping to proceed with compassion for your partner and yourself, this episode is for you.Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLoveGet the Relational Ambivalence worksheet:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course...
2022-08-0238 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonLove Stories: ToddcastDr. Alexandra's husband Todd joins her in the studio for a special and personal episode about their decades-long love story and marriage, sharing joyful moments and the lessons they've learned along the way.Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLoveSubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.co...
2022-06-281h 10Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonGetting to Zero: Conflict & Repair with Jayson GaddisDr. Alexandra is joined by Jayson Gaddis, founder of The Relationship School and the book "Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships." They discuss Jayson's approach to conflict-repair, which focuses on calming the nervous system and bringing both partners to their baseline, where the potential for positive change is highest. Jayson and Dr. Alexandra answer a great listener question as well about broaching difficult topics in the context of an intimate partnership.The Family Institute at Northwestern University:https://www.family-institute.org/Getting to Zero: How to Work...
2022-06-2150 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonLearning to Cherish: From "You & Me" to "Us" with Terry RealWorld-renowned author and therapist Terry Real joins Dr. Alexandra for a discussion about his career, his new book (Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship), men in relationships, conflict resolution, and more.The Family Institute at Northwestern University:https://www.family-institute.org/Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terry Real:https://bookshop.org/books/us-getting-past-you-and-me-to-build-a-more-loving-relationship/9780593233672Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LO...
2022-06-1447 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonDisrupting the Underfunctioning/Overfunctioning DynamicDr. Alexandra explores the common underfunctioning/overfunctioning dynamic in long-term partnerships. She talks about why many couples fall prey to these roles, including cultural messaging and family-of-origin scripts, and she shares strategies for breaking free from this dance so that the relationship can feel more balanced.Get the companion worksheet for this episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/dynamicThe Family Institute at Northwestern University:https://www.family-institute.org/Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LO...
2022-06-0759 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonLove Stories: Permission for Pleasure with Al Fine, Co-Founder & CEO of Dame ProductsOn this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined Alexandra Fine, the co-founder and CEO of Dame Products, an innovative company that designs pleasure-enhancing products for people with vulvas. This episode is all about Dame the brand, but more importantly, it’s about Al, the very special person behind Dame's groundbreaking products, who had a radical vision she followed to fruition.Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for a discount at checkout):https://ww...
2022-05-3147 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonUnderstanding Ourselves: The Challenge & Gift of Therapy with Lori GottliebLori Gottlieb, Atlantic columnist and bestselling author of “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,” joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about her book and the role of therapy in modern life. They also answer two listener questions together.Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb:https://bookshop.org/books/maybe-you-should-talk-to-someone-a-therapist-her-therapist-and-our-lives-revealed/9781328662057"Dear Therapist" Column in The Atlantic:https://www.theatlantic.com/projects/dear-therapist/Dear Therapists with Lori...
2022-05-2451 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonSelf-Advocacy in Action: Finding Your Voice in Relationships with Nedra TawwabDr. Alexandra is joined by Nedra Tawwab to talk about relational boundaries, self-advocacy, and communication. Nedra offers a whole host of wonderful questions we can ask ourselves when we are feeling drained or annoyed by our partner, as well as suggestions for a listener with a depressed partner who is struggling to establish caretaking boundaries in her relationship.Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid...
2022-05-1751 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonWe Need to Talk About GhostingHave you ever been ghosted? Dr. Alexandra dives into the cultural weight of this term, and why the experience of being left in the lurch can feel so incredibly painful. Rather than fixating on the unanswerable question of why someone ghosted us, wondering if we did something wrong, or minimizing the pain, Dr. Alexandra encourages us to sit in the grief of a confusing ending and find strength amid the disappointment.Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw3IqSBhCoARIsAMBkTb0r5_iBQR_NRXogKj6fneSiDWl64rULQK1kh0...
2022-05-0359 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonTen Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict (Part Two)In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Alexandra provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team.Listen to Part I of the Conflict series:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000555568444Get the companion worksheet for this episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/skillsSubscribe to...
2022-04-051h 09Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonTen Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict (Part One)In this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Alexandra provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team.Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)https://www.dameproducts.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQjw3IqSBhCoARIsAMBkTb0r5_iBQR_NRXogKj6fneSiDWl64rULQK1kh0RbSp-HWfzT9_dPZbgaAlRwEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.dsGet the companion worksheet...
2022-03-2940 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonRelational Health: Loving with the Brain in Mind with Dr. Mona FishbaneDr. Alexandra is joined by renowned guest Dr. Mona Fishbane for a deep-dive into healthy relational habits, conflict resolution, and aging alongside one's partner.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Loving with the Brain in Mind: Neurobiology and Couple Therapy by Mona Fishbane, Ph.D.https://bookshop.org/books/loving-with-the-brain-in-mind-neurobiology-and-couple-therapy/9780393706536Keep Sharp: Build a Better Brain At Any Age by Sanjay Gupta, MDhttps://bookshop.org/books/keep-sharp-build-a-better-brain-at-any-age/9781501166730...
2022-03-2250 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonTending to Loss: What We Get Wrong About Grief with Megan DevineToday's episode is all about grief, featuring guest expert Megan Devine. Megan is a grief advocate, dedicated to helping us live through the things we never thought we’d face. Dr. Alexandra and Megan discuss what we all get wrong about grief, and they address a question from a well-meaning listener who wants to learn how to better support a friend who has suffered a painful loss.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274It's Ok That...
2022-03-1549 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonWhat Women Lose in Marriage: The Case for a Radical Awakening with Dr Shefali TsabaryDr. Shefali Tsabary, New York Times bestselling author and parenting expert, joins Dr. Alexandra for a rich discussion about her new book, A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free, which explores the ways in which our patriarchal culture traps women into cycles and arrangements that keep them from living their fullest lives.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free by...
2022-03-0850 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon"I Love Them, But I'm Not in Love With Them"This solo episode focuses on the phrase “I love them, but I’m not in love with them.” Have you heard it in your own life? Dr. Alexandra unpacks what can lie beneath the surface of this phrase and explores the feelings, ideas, and commitments that the world “love” captures for different people.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit your question to Dr. Alexandra:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274The Brain in Love (Helen Fisher, TED):https://www.ted.com/talks/helen_fisher_the_brain_in...
2022-03-0142 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonValues & Communication: The Next Sexual Revolution with Cindy GallopDr. Alexandra is joined by tech entrepreneur Cindy Gallop, who has made waves in the business world. She's the founder of Make Love Not Porn, the world’s first user-generated, human-curated social sex video-sharing platform, socializing and normalizing sex in order to make it easier to talk about sex, and to promote consent, communication, good sexual values and good sexual behavior. Cindy tells the story of MLNP and discusses a listener question with Dr. Alexandra.Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit:https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceitMa...
2022-02-0846 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonCan We Rebuild After Infidelity?Deciding whether to stay or leave a relationship in the aftermath of infidelity is not easy, and in this episode, Dr. Alexandra walks through the factors to consider when reeling from this crisis. She poses reflection questions for both partners and situates the crisis of infidelity in research and our cultural context. Dr. Alexandra also announces the launch of her new e-course, Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit, which can be found below.Get the companion worksheet for this episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/trustDr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I...
2022-02-0144 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonLove Stories: Recovering from Infidelity with Kristi Born & Rainier WyldeOn this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra welcomes on a couple with a stunning story of rebuilding their marriage in the aftermath of infidelity: Kristi Born & Rainier Wylde. Together, they explore the story of their relationship, starting from the day they first met, to the early years of their marriage, to the moment of rupture, and the incredible journey of repair that they continue today. Their story gives us the opportunity to empathize with the pain of infidelity, as well as providing insights about what rebuilding trust can look when both partners are committed to walking forward together.
2022-01-251h 36Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonWorking Through Jealousy as a CoupleIn this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra gets into the nitty gritty of a common relational challenge: jealousy. Addressing both the jealous individual and their partner, Dr. Alexandra illustrates how jealousy can manifest, what it says about a relationship and how couples can move through the emotion as a team.Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceithttps://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceitGet the companion worksheet for this episode:www.dralexandrasolomon.com/jealousySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com...
2022-01-0448 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonLove Stories: Embodied Sisterhood with Drs. Lindsay & Lexie KiteFor this special Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra welcomes identical twins Dr. Lindsay Kite and Dr. Lexie Kite to Reimagining Love. Lindsay and Lexie received PhDs in the study of women’s body image and have become leading experts in body image resilience and media literacy. Dr. Alexandra dives deep with the Kites to hear about their childhood growing up as identical twins, tracing how the challenges and joys of their sisterhood led them to the important work they do today and how their relationship has evolved through every stage of life.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s News...
2021-12-281h 16Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonDating Again: Healing the Past, Embracing the Present with Elizabeth EarnshawA listener question about dating after divorce spurs a fascinating discussion between Dr. Alexandra and guest expert Liz Earnshaw, a marriage and family therapist and author of the new book I Want This To Work. Liz and Dr. Alexandra offer encouragement and possibilities to this listener as he considers looking for love in this new chapter.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Referenced in this episode:Liz Earnshaw's book: I Want This to Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in th...
2021-12-1448 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonDating & Dealbreakers: Lessons from Reality TV with Nick ViallNick Viall starred on the 21st season of ABC’s The Bachelor and hosts the popular podcast The Viall Files, where he discusses all things Bachelor Nation. On this episode, Dr. Alexandra chats with Nick about the national conversations that The Bachelor franchise spurs about relationships, gender, and dating, and how these conversations can be both productive and divisive. Nick shares experiences and tools from his own relationship and helps Dr. Alexandra answer a listener question about defensiveness. (CW: brief mention of sexual harassment & abuse)Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/
2021-11-1648 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonDifference as a Bridge: Cross-Cultural Love with Dr. Adia GoodenDr. Alexandra is joined by guest expert Dr. Adia Gooden for an in-depth discussion about loving across a cultural difference. Together they answer a listener question and then broaden out to discuss racial, ethnic, religious, and political differences in intimate partnerships. Dr. Alexandra and Dr. Gooden validate the challenges these couples will likely face while also highlighting the beautiful possibilities for growth, richness, and respect between two individuals with different origin stories. This episode also explores the ways that cross-cultural relationships have the potential to send positive reverberations through families, communities, and beyond.Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s...
2021-11-0943 minReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra SolomonTrailer - Reimagining LoveReimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon is your destination for profound, enlightening discussions about love, family, intimacy, and everything in between — a podcast that gives us the opportunity to reimagine ourselves, our relationships, and our world. Hosted by renowned clinical psychologist, professor, and award-winning author Dr. Alexandra Solomon, featuring conversations with notable guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop-culture.To join our conversation about the relationships that matter most, subscribe or follow the podcast today.(Guest voices include: Esther Perel, Nick Viall, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, Dr. Adia Gooden, Shadeen Francis)Subscribe to...
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