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The Narcissism DecoderWhy Narcissists Stay Stuck in Fantasy—and What It Takes to Break Through In this final clip from my interview on Valerie Greene’s Soul Shaking Love podcast, we explore two more essential questions about narcissistic relationships: How can you encourage someone to seek the help they need? And what makes real change so psychologically difficult for those with narcissistic traits? We unpack the split between the narcissist’s fantasy world and the painful reality they avoid—and why bridging that gap is often the hardest, but most crucial, part of the healing process.Listen to full episode here: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2R3EZ6W5Up...2025-05-0719 min
Soul-Shaking LoveCan a Narcissist Change?We’ve all heard about narcissism, and the typical advice is to leave because they can’t change. That is true most of the time and if you’re in a relationship with a Narcissist, I encourage you to get professional support. However, some therapists who specialize in personality disorders have seen narcissists, with the right support, learn and grow into more empathic people who are capable of showing up with some self-awareness and care. This isn’t the majority, of course, and it’s not to minimize the abuse and hurt that narcissists cause to those closest to...2025-05-041h 06
The Narcissism DecoderCan a narcissist actually change? (Recorded Interview) In this episode, you’ll hear another powerful clip from my interview on Valerie Greene’s podcast, Soul Shaking Love. We explore two of the most frequently asked questions about narcissistic relationships: Can a narcissist truly change—and how can you tell if it’s even possible? We discuss what real change looks like beyond the surface-level promises and gestures, and why it’s so difficult to know whether to stay or go. If this conversation speaks to you, stay tuned—I'll be sharing another clip soon. Listen to full episode here: Spotify: https://ope...2025-05-0125 min
The Narcissism DecoderFrom Codependency to Interdependence (Recorded Interview)In this conversation, Valerie Greene discusses the concept of codependency, contrasting it with interdependence. She explains how codependency is rooted in childhood experiences and emotional neglect, leading individuals to prioritize others' needs over their own. The discussion delves into the impact of these dynamics on relationships and through personal anecdotes Valerie demonstrates the importance of healthy communication and differentiation. She also shares personal insights and strategies for healing codependency, highlighting the need for collaboration and self-awareness in relationships. We examine how healthy boundaries and collaboration enable deeper connections.To read more about the...2025-04-2630 min
The Narcissism DecoderHow to Tell If You’re With a Narcissist (Recorded Interview) In this episode, I share a clip from my interview on Valerie Greene’s podcast, Soul Shaking Love, where we explore two of the biggest questions people ask about narcissistic relationships: how to recognize if your partner is on the narcissistic spectrum, and why these relationships are so painfully hard to break free from. We get into the difference between grandiose and vulnerable narcissists, the fantasy that keeps people stuck, and the deeper emotional wounds that often drive these dynamics. Curious for more? I’ll be sharing another clip next week—or you can check out the full intervi...2025-04-2327 min
The Narcissism DecoderMastering Negotiation with Narcissists (Recorded Interview)In this conversation, I sit down with Rebecca Zung, an expert in negotiating with narcissists. We discuss the complexities of negotiation when dealing with individuals who exhibit narcissistic traits. She emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation, understanding the dynamics of narcissistic behavior, and the need for strategic documentation to leverage situations effectively. The discussion also introduces the SLAY method, which stands for Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate, and You, as a framework for successful negotiation. Through real-life examples and practical advice, Rebecca provides insights into how to navigate challenging relationships with narcissists.Rebecca's Podcast: https://podcasts.a...2025-04-1628 min
The Narcissism DecoderHealing from Betrayal: Insights and Discoveries (Recorded Interview)In this episode of the Narcissism Decoder, Dr. Anthony Mazzella interviews Dr. Debi, a leading expert in betrayal recovery. They explore the unique trauma of betrayal, its profound impact on trust and identity, and the healing process. Dr. Debi shares her groundbreaking research findings, including the five stages of healing from betrayal and the concept of post-betrayal transformation. The conversation emphasizes the importance of personal growth and the choice to heal as essential components of recovery from betrayal.More Information about Dr. Debi can be found here: https://thepbtinstitute.com The From Betrayal to...2025-04-0933 min
From Betrayal To Breakthrough415: Understanding Narcissistic Relationships In this powerful episode, Dr. Debi sits down with Dr. Anthony Mazzella, a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist, to break down the complexities of toxic narcissistic relationships. From love bombing and devaluation to trauma bonding and the psychology behind both the narcissist and their partner, this conversation is filled with eye-opening insights. If you’ve ever wondered why you feel stuck in a toxic relationship, or how to break free from unhealthy patterns, this episode is a must-listen. Key Topics Covered What is a narcissist? Understanding the key traits of narcissism and how they manifest in relationships. ...2025-04-0734 min
The Narcissism DecoderUnderstanding the Toxic Power Struggle: A Case StudyIn this episode, we explore the toxic power struggles inherent in vulnerable narcissism, particularly through the lens of parenting dynamics. We examine how dependency, control, and the cycle of shame play out in parent-child relationships. This episode uncovers the deep emotional conflicts that shape vulnerable narcissism and offers insights into therapeutic approaches to address these dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the impact of "toxic" communication styles and the importance of understanding these patterns in order to foster growth and break free from these destructive dynamics.To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here 2025-04-0229 min
The Narcissism DecoderBreaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse (Recorded Interview)In this episode, Dr. Anthony Mazzella and Jin explore the cult-like dynamics of narcissistic relationships and the profound psychological toll they take on victims. They discuss how survivors often struggle with a loss of identity, the lingering internalized critical voice of the narcissist, and the complex grieving process that follows. Jin sheds light on the role of trauma bonding in keeping victims trapped and outlines essential steps for reclaiming one’s voice and sense of self. The conversation underscores the importance of community support, the unique challenges therapists face in treating survivors, and the hope that exists beyond narcissistic ab...2025-03-2631 min
Negotiate Your Best LifeThe Real Reason It's So Hard to Leave a Narcissist with Guest Dr. Anthony Mazzella and Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #666🌟 Ever wonder why it's so hard to leave a narcissist? In this powerful episode of Negotiate Your Best Life, Dr. Anthony Mazzella, a distinguished psychoanalyst, dives deep into the psychological complexities that trap individuals in narcissistic relationships. If you’ve ever struggled with leaving someone who manipulates and controls you, this is for YOU! 👉 Key Takeaways: 💡 Why narcissistic relationships feel like a "scam": Learn how narcissists use manipulation and the promise of emotional fulfillment to trap you. 🧠 Trauma Bonding Explained: Understand how intermittent validation and emotional highs from narcissists create dependency. 🧑⚕️ Childhood Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse: Discover how early emotional wounds influence our ab...2025-03-2444 min
Negotiate Your Best Life Podcast with Rebecca ZungThe Real Reason It's So Hard to Leave a Narcissist with Guest Dr. Anthony Mazzella and Rebecca Zung on Negotiate Your Best Life #666🌟 Ever wonder why it's so hard to leave a narcissist? In this powerful episode of Negotiate Your Best Life, Dr. Anthony Mazzella, a distinguished psychoanalyst, dives deep into the psychological complexities that trap individuals in narcissistic relationships. If you’ve ever struggled with leaving someone who manipulates and controls you, this is for YOU!👉 Key Takeaways:💡 Why narcissistic relationships feel like a "scam": Learn how narcissists use manipulation and the promise of emotional fulfillment to trap you.🧠 Trauma Bonding Explained: Understand how intermittent validation and emotional highs from narcissis...2025-03-2449 min
Musica para el BunkerEP127.- Música New Age: La SoledadEl episodio de hoy está dedicado a la música New Age, como siempre, pero relacionada con uno de los sentimientos más comunes en determinadas circunstancias, nos referimos a la soledad, que no sólo se
trata simplemente de la ausencia de compañía, sino de una sensación de desconexión, un vacío que se
extiende más allá de lo físico. A veces, la soledad es un compañero silencioso, una sombra que sigue
cada paso. En otras ocasiones, es un torbellino emocional que sacude los cimientos del ser, dejando una
sensación de desorientación y vulnerabili...2025-03-201h 30
The Narcissism DecoderI Know My Partner is Narcissistic – Why Can’t I Leave? (Recorded live interview)In this episode, I sit down with Jin from Narc Troopers—a writer, educator, podcaster, and narcissistic abuse recovery facilitator— to explore the psychological dynamics that keep people stuck in toxic narcissistic relationships and why breaking free can feel impossible. We discuss the fantasy that keeps people trapped, the impact of early childhood development, and Shelly Bach’s concept of pathological mourning. We also touch on the dead mother theory by André Green and its relevance to feeling trapped.This is just a segment of our conversation—if you want the full depth of our discussion and more insi...2025-03-1933 min
The Narcissism DecoderNarcissistic Relations: When to Walk Away (Recorded Live Interview Part 2)This episode is Part 2 of my conversation on Dimming the Gaslight with hosts Mac and Phil, where we dive even deeper into the complexities of narcissism. We explore the motivations behind narcissistic behavior, the struggle with forgiveness, and how therapy can facilitate change. We also discuss the emotional push-pull in relationships with narcissists, the role of brain chemistry, and the tough decision of when to walk away. Understanding these dynamics is key to personal growth and healing.Dimming The Gaslight: Our Healing Journey From Narcissistic Abusehttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dimming-the-gaslight-our-healing-journey-from/id16028996912025-03-1630 min
The Covert Narcissism PodcastWhen Your Adult Child is a Covert Narcissist: A Parent’s Dilemma with Dr. MazzellaIn this powerful Part Two of the two-part series with Dr. Anthony Mazzella and Renee Swanson, we shift perspectives. In part one, we discussed the adult child uncovering a covert narcissistic parent, and this is featured on The Narcissism Decoder. Now we shift to the parent who realizes their adult child exhibits covert narcissistic behaviors.
Dr. Mazzella, a seasoned psychotherapist and psychoanalyst, brings his expertise in to explore the emotional turmoil, self-doubt, and painful realities parents face when confronted with this harsh truth. Together, we unpack the deep-seated psychological mechanisms that drive covert narcissism, the role of...2025-03-1334 min
The Narcissism DecoderCovert Narcissism: The Impact of Emotional Manipulation (Recorded Live Interview)In this episode, we explore the insidious impact of covert narcissism on parent-child relationships with expert Renee Swanson. We discuss how emotional manipulation can masquerade as love, creating lasting confusion and self-doubt. We examine how these patterns shape adult relationships and the challenges of breaking free. Finally, we highlight the power of connection over correction in parenting and share strategies for healing and repairing the relationship. To Listen to Part 2 of my discussion with Renee or to learn more about her work please visit: https://www.covertnarcissism.com/https://bleav.com/sho...2025-03-1233 min
The Narcissism DecoderLive Q & A: Trapped! The Real Reason You Can’t Walk Away I’m really excited to share some big news with you—this Friday, March 14th, at 7 p.m. EST, I’ll be going LIVE on YouTube for a special podcast recording with Lisa Taylor Austin! We'll explore why people stay in relationships with narcissistic partners despite clear emotional turmoil. The conversation will dive into the compelling fantasy that keeps people bound to these relationships—the shared fantasy or "magical union" between the narcissist’s grandiose self and the partner’s hopes for emotional fulfillment. Please join us on utube: https://youtube.com/live/zPOfW1JgnfU?feature=share To read mor...2025-03-1101 min
The Narcissism DecoderCan a Narcissist Change? (Recorded Live Interview Part 1)This episode is Part 1 of my conversation on Dimming the Gaslight, where I was a guest with hosts Mac and Phil. They asked some fascinating questions as we explored various aspects of narcissism—its emotionality, neediness, and ties to codependency. We also discussed whether narcissists can change, how pain can drive transformation, and the complexities of manipulation, apologies and accountability in relationships.Dimming The Gaslight: Our Healing Journey From Narcissistic Abusehttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dimming-the-gaslight-our-healing-journey-from/id1602899691To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here 2025-03-0928 min
The Narcissism DecoderThe Key to Healthy Relationships: Not Just Apologizing (Recorded Interview Part 2)In this episode of The Narcissism Decoder, I’m joined once again by Josh as we continue our conversation on the challenges of maintaining healthy relationships post-divorce. Josh shares further insights into effective co-parenting strategies and emphasizes the distinction between apologies and amends, highlighting how true amends involve actionable steps to correct past wrongs rather than just an expression of intention. We explore the importance of focusing on one's own actions and feelings in relationships, underscoring that healthy connections are rooted in mutual respect and a genuine willingness to take responsibility for mistakes.Send “Mazzella” to IG for...2025-03-0529 min
The Narcissism DecoderCo-Parenting After Divorce: Overcoming Codependency (Recorded Interview Part 1)In this episode of The Narcissism Decoder, I’m joined by Josh, who shares his personal journey through divorce and co-parenting. Together, we explore the emotional complexities of divorce, the impact of codependency on relationships, and the importance of self-reflection and personal growth in choosing a healthier path forward. Josh opens up about the challenges of maintaining healthy relationships post-divorce and offers valuable insights into effective co-parenting strategies, emphasizing the necessity of forgiveness and letting go of resentment. We also begin to discuss the importance of “keeping your side of the street clean” in co-parenting dynamics, fostering healthier interactions for ev...2025-02-2629 min
The Narcissism DecoderEmotional Vulnerability in Narcissistic Relationships: A Personal Perspective (Recorded live interview Part 2)This is part two of my interview with Darren, a therapist and coach. In this episode, we dive deeper into the complexities of relationships involving narcissistic individuals. Together, we explore therapeutic approaches to understanding and managing narcissism, emphasizing the spectrum of narcissistic traits and the potential for building healthy self-esteem. We discuss the importance of developing intimacy and relationship skills. Darren also sheds light on the concept of object constancy—often a developmental challenge for those with narcissistic traits—and the potential for meaningful change when awareness and motivation are present. This episode offers valuable insights for anyone navigating the...2025-02-1928 min
The Narcissism DecoderUnpacking Narcissism: A Personal Perspective (Recorded live interview Part 1)In this episode of The Narcissism Decoder, I’m joined by Darren, a therapist and coach. Together, we dive into the complexities of relationships involving narcissistic individuals. Darren shares his personal journey of recognizing narcissism within his family and relationships, particularly with his father. We explore the challenges of navigating relationships with narcissists, the role of denial, and the importance of emotional vulnerability. There is a particular focus on what to do when an loved on is not accepting necessary medical treatment recommendations. To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here 2025-02-1229 min
The Narcissism DecoderHow to Deal With a Narcissistic Adult Child - Recorded Interview 2In part two of the conversation, Shannon and I continue exploring the complexities of managing relationships with adult children who exhibit narcissistic tendencies. Shannon emphasizes the importance of first fostering a healthy relationship with oneself as a foundation for setting effective boundaries. We discuss the importance of self-regulation and understanding one's own emotional state before addressing conflicts. The conversation also touches on the impact of enabling behaviors, the consequences of no contact, and the role of trauma in shaping parent-child dynamics. To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here 2025-02-0532 min
The Narcissism DecoderHow to Recognize Narcissistic Traits in Adult Children: Key Patterns Parents Should Know - Recorded Interview 1In this episode of The Narcissism Decoder, I’m joined by therapist, author and coach Shannon. Together we explore the complexities of relationships between parents and their adult children, particularly focusing on narcissistic traits and toxic dynamics. We discuss how enabling behaviors and lack of boundaries contribute to dysfunctional interactions, and emphasize the importance of both parties taking responsibility for their own emotions and actions. Through practical insights and real-life examples, Shannon and I provide strategies for setting healthy boundaries, improving communication, and fostering more balanced and respectful relationships within families.To read more about the various fa...2025-01-2930 min
The Narcissism DecoderUnpacking the Hidden Layers of Vulnerable and Grandiose Narcissism: Step 2 of Relationship GrowthIn this episode, we delve deeper into narcissism and explore the intricate dynamics of vulnerable and grandiose self-states, focusing on Step 2: Containment and Relating. Central to this discussion is the concept of "reenactment," which highlights the importance of clarifying a person’s experience as it unfolds “in the moment.” This step emphasizes staying present with self and other representations, particularly when navigating projections. Engaging in this process may involve acknowledging fault and expressing empathy for the painful experience of rejection your partner feels, while gently guiding them to reflect on how their distorted projections influence their perception of you.T...2025-01-2229 min
The Narcissism DecoderHow to Navigate Vulnerable Narcissism: The True Meaning of EmpathyIn this episode, we delve into the complexities of vulnerable narcissism, exploring its characteristics, emotional needs, and the importance of empathy and containment in fostering healthier relationships. Emphasis is on the concept of containment as a crucial strategy for emotional regulation and support. The discussion highlights practical approaches to understanding and managing the emotional demands of individuals exhibiting vulnerable narcissistic traits, ultimately aiming for meaningful change and growth. A fuller definition of empathy is provided along with examples of how to really empathize with loved one. To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click h...2025-01-1531 min
The Narcissism DecoderHow to Relate to a Vulnerable Narcissist: Key Strategies and Insights (Recorded Live Discussion)In this episode of The Narcissism Decoder, Lisa Taylor-Austin and I explore the complexities of vulnerable narcissism, with a focus on therapeutic approaches and practical ways to relate to a vulnerable narcissist in your life. We delve into the importance of containment, discussing two key aspects essential for fostering emotional safety and understanding. Our conversation highlights strategies for engaging with vulnerable narcissists, emphasizing how empathy, patience, and healthy communication can help navigate these challenging dynamics. Whether in therapy or personal relationships, we aim to provide insights that encourage growth, connection, and a deeper understanding of these individuals....2025-01-0835 min
The Narcissism DecoderVulnerable Narcissism: The Dynamics Behind Control and HelplessnessIn this episode, we explore the theme of helplessness in relationships, particularly focusing on how vulnerable narcissism and emotional dependency manifest in interpersonal dynamics. We look closely at the roots of these behaviors in childhood experiences, the impact of communication styles, and the emotional burden placed on both the helpless individual and their helpers. The conversation emphasizes the importance of awareness in breaking the cycle of helplessness and fostering healthier relationships.TakeawaysHelplessness often masks deeper emotional vulnerabilities.Vulnerable narcissism can lead to dependency on others.Childhood experiences shape how individuals express needs.Neediness is...2025-01-0226 min
The Narcissism DecoderNavigating Narcissistic Relationships: Why Self-Regulation is Essential-Recorded Interview - 2In this episode of The Narcissism Decoder, I’m joined once again by therapist and author Kristal DeSantis, who returns to share another vital strategy for staying safe in relationships with narcissistic partners. This time, we focus on the importance of self-regulation and how it serves as a cornerstone for maintaining healthy relationships.We explore the differences between healthy and unhealthy conflict, emphasizing the value of self-expression and accountability in navigating emotional dysregulation. Healthy conflict allows both partners to share their perspectives constructively, while unhealthy conflict often devolves into name-calling and emotional escalation. Our conversation als...2024-12-2625 min
The Narcissism DecoderSpecial Holiday AnnouncementAs the holiday season approaches, I want to thank you for your ongoing support and share my gratitude for your time and engagement each week. The holidays can be a mix of joy and challenges, especially when complex family dynamics arise, so please know you’re not alone—I’m here if you need support. Looking ahead to 2025, I’m excited to bring more expert guests to the podcast to offer fresh perspectives on narcissism and relationships, helping us explore diverse approaches to these complex dynamics. Your feedback keeps me inspired, so please continue sharing your thoughts. Wishing you a peacef...2024-12-2402 min
The Narcissism DecoderTwo Powerful Strategies to Protect Yourself in Narcissistic Relations - Recorded Interview - 1In this episode of The Narcissism Decoder, I’m joined by therapist and author Crystal DeSantis. Together we explore the complexities of navigating relationships with narcissistic partners. Crystal talks about the importance of self-awareness in understanding relationship dynamics and creating safety as a foundation for healthy connections. We also dive into why many individuals seek emotional connection but struggle to achieve it, noting that true connection requires both vulnerability and skill. We clarify the difference between emotional dumping and genuine vulnerability and explore how relationships can become transactional rather than deeply emotional. Finally, we focus on building essential communication an...2024-12-1828 min
The Narcissism DecoderBorderline Personality Disorder and The Hidden Danger of AbandonmentIn this episode, we delve into the complexities of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and its similarities with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). The conversation explores the emotional struggles faced by individuals with BPD, particularly their fear of abandonment and the impact on their communication styles. We contrast the literal mode of communication often seen in BPD with the representational mode that fosters deeper connections and self-reflection. Finally, insights into navigating emotional responses and the significance of self-compassion in managing intense feelings are provided.To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click h...2024-12-1126 min
The Narcissism DecoderHow Narcissists Create Loyalty ConflictsIn this episode, we explore the complex relationship between parental alienation and narcissism, focusing on how one parent may manipulate a child to reject the other, creating loyalty conflicts and psychological manipulation. We discuss how these dynamics can foster codependency between the child and the alienating parent, who may project unresolved anger and create a polarized view of the other parent. The episode also delves into the narcissistic fantasies driving these behaviors, impacting the child's perception of relationships and reality. To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you a...2024-12-0416 min
The Narcissism DecoderCovert Narcissism – Holiday Bonus ReplayThis week on The Narcissism Decoder, we’re revisiting our most popular episode - which is on covert narcissism. Originally recorded during the podcast’s early days, the sound quality reflects our humble beginnings but remains clear and full of valuable insights. Whether you’re a new listener or returning for a fresh perspective, this episode offers a rich exploration of covert narcissism, with practical examples and guidance for navigating these challenging relationships. Take this opportunity to reflect and reintegrate, and we’ll be back next week with brand-new content!To read more about the various facets of narci...2024-11-2739 min
The Narcissism DecoderBorderline Personality Disorder: Exploring Ego Weakness and Relationship ChallengesIn this episode, we delve into the complexities of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), exploring its emotional impact, characteristics, and the critical differences between BPD and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). We discuss the role of self-image, emotional reactivity, and mentalization in individuals with BPD, emphasizing the importance of understanding these dynamics for effective treatment. The conversation also highlights strategies for emotional regulation and the significance of emotional validation in fostering stability for those affected by BPD.Soundbites: "An unstable self-image leads to unstable relationships.""The ego has difficulty holding up a consistent sense of self.""Emotional v...2024-11-2030 min
The Narcissism DecoderUnderstanding Narcissistic Relationships and How to Protect Yourself In this episode, we delve into the complexities of narcissistic relationships, examining the emotional dynamics that often unfold. We focus on the concept of omnipotent incorporation, where narcissists attempt to control or merge with their partners, denying them individuality. Through personal anecdotes and clinical examples, we illustrate the emotional impact of being in a relationship with a narcissist. Finally, we offer insights on navigating these challenging dynamics, emphasizing the importance of creating space from the merged experience to foster healthy dialogue and mutual understanding.Chapters00:00U...2024-11-1430 min
The Narcissism DecoderConfronting Pathological Narcissism: A Psychodynamic PerspectiveIn this episode of The Narcissism Decoder, we delve into the complexities of pathological narcissism, focusing on the grandiose self-structure and its origins. We explore how caregivers’ excessive praise and validation shape this self-concept, leading to a fragile identity that oscillates between superiority and feelings of inadequacy. Through clinical examples, we illustrate the limitations of consistent emotional support and the pitfalls of relying on admiration instead of genuine connection. Fostering empathy, and engaging in self-reflection to cultivate an authentic self is a good start, but not enough to make inroads into the grandiose structure. We emphasize the ...2024-11-0624 min
The Narcissism DecoderHealing the Narcissist's Grandiose Self: Relationship ChallengesIn this episode, we examine the complexities of pathological narcissism, focusing on how the grandiose self-structure ("big ego") shapes relationships and hinders authentic connection. Using the case of a man named Barry, we explore how grandiosity serves as a defense against low self-esteem and painful emotions, leading to the creation of a false self. We discuss how understanding these dynamics is crucial for fostering deeper, more genuine relationships. This episode also highlights key therapeutic techniques to help individuals reflect on their grandiose beliefs and work toward cultivating their true selves. To read more about the various facets o...2024-10-3025 min
The Narcissism DecoderWhat is Blocking True Love? Narcissistic Partners and How to Reconnect - 2In this episode, we continue our discussion on "narcissistic psychic retreats," focusing on how individuals with narcissistic tendencies often escape into a fantasy world where their needs are instantly met. We explore how feelings of anger and judgment can cover up deeper vulnerabilities and experiences of loss. By examining a real-life example, we illustrate how these emotional defenses operate and their impact on relationships. The conversation emphasizes the importance of staying connected with painful emotions rather than retreating, as recognizing these moments can lead to healthier interactions. Ultimately, we share practical strategies for breaking free from the retreat. 2024-10-2328 min
The Narcissism DecoderRestricted and Stuck in Life? The Surprising Reason You Can’t Move Forward-1In this episode, we dive into the concept of the “depressive position” and its relationship to development. We talk about the challenge of accepting the independence and separateness of others, and the struggle to let go of the need to control them. We explore how the depressive position involves facing the tough realities of loss, separation, and limitations — and why this process is crucial for our emotional growth. We also introduce the idea of “pathological organizations”, those defense mechanisms that can keep us safe BUT also leave us trapped. And finally, we'll give you a sneak peek into the next episo...2024-10-1625 min
The Narcissism DecoderTrapped in a Toxic Relationship? How to Break Free from the 'Fog'! Recorded Live InterviewIn this second part of our live recording with Bre Wolta, a Certified Relationship Clarity Coach, we dive deep into the complexities of trauma bonding and the emotional fog that often clouds toxic relationships. Together, we explore practical techniques for healing and breaking free from these cycles – which we can also call the THE FANTASY TRAP. Bre shares the importance of gathering data about your current reality and the role of body awareness in recognizing unhealthy patterns. We focus on how to regulate emotions. We also discuss the significance of integrating different parts of yourself and navigating the grief an...2024-10-0932 min
Heartbreak to Wholeness: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships44. Why Do I Keep Holding On? Trauma Bonding & Why It's So Hard To Leave An Abusive Cycle With A Narcissist With Dr. Anthony MazzellaWhy do we stay in painful, confusing narcissistic relationships even when we know they hurt us? If you’ve ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of emotional highs and devastating lows, this episode will shed light on the deeper dynamics at play in trauma-bonded relationships and how early experiences shape these unhealthy attachments.In this episode, you’ll discover:How codependency and love bombing are intertwinedThe link between trauma bonds and unresolved childhood griefHow abusive relationships become falsely associated with safety & why they are so hard to leaveThis thought-provoking discussion is fu...2024-10-0259 min
The Narcissism DecoderWhat Works in Narcissistic Therapy? Tools and Techniques - Recorded Live DiscussionIn this episode, I present Part 2 of a live interview with Lisa Taylor-Austin, where we discuss the complexities of narcissism and its treatment. Lisa and I delve into the psychological approaches for addressing Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), agreeing that while building safety and trust is an important and necessary step, it is not enough on its own. I review additional therapeutic techniques that I have found helpful in terms of understanding deep inner struggles caused by projection and introjection. To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If y...2024-10-0223 min
The Narcissism DecoderHow Two Experts Navigate Narcissistic Dynamics - Recorded Live DiscussionIn this episode, I present Part 2 of a live interview with Lisa Taylor-Austin, where we discuss the intricacies of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Lisa and I continue our discussion on psychological mechanisms like projection, introjection, and splitting, which shape the disorder and impact relationships. I emphasize the need to understand the internal dynamics of NPD, particularly how narcissistic individuals project their negative self-image onto others, leading to distorted perceptions of relationships. The conversation explores therapeutic techniques that are used to to break the projective-introjective cycle. Please click here for Part 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MkSrHOwUur42024-09-2527 min
The Narcissism DecoderWhat Really Triggers Narcissistic Rage?In this episode, we explore the connection between shame and narcissism. We look at how shame is a powerful and often misunderstood emotion that is central to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Shame can drive individuals with NPD to either retreat into themselves or lash out to protect their fragile self-esteem. I discuss how shame impacts behavior and how it can be linked to early childhood experiences. We also explore how shame manifests in adult relationships. Overall, this episode delves into the complex and crippling emotional state of shame.To read more about the various facets of narcissism p...2024-09-1827 min
Mick UnpluggedDr. Anthony Mazzella | Unpacking Narcissism: Self-Reflection and CommunicationWelcome back to Mick Unplugged! In today's episode, we dive into an eye-opening discussion with Dr. Anthony Mazzella, a trailblazer in integrated medicine and holistic care. Together with your host Mick Hunt, Dr. Mazzella challenges conventional wisdom on boundaries in relationships, offering insights into the value of getting closer to someone's subjective experience for true understanding and conflict resolution. We delve deep into psychodynamic and psychoanalytic therapies, exploring how they address root causes rather than just symptoms. Dr. Mazzella sheds light on complex topics like narcissism and borderline personality disorder, emphasizing the importance of self-reflection and effective...2024-09-1629 min
The Narcissism DecoderThe Hidden Role of Shame in Narcissistic Personality DisorderIn this episode, we explore the complex emotion of shame and its deep connection to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). We'll uncover how shame influences behavior, leading individuals to either retreat into isolation or lash out to protect their fragile self-esteem. Through relatable examples, we delve into the origins of shame in early childhood and its lasting impact on adult relationships. You'll learn to recognize the signs of shame in narcissistic behavior and gain insights into the defensive mechanisms that often accompany it. Join us as we unravel the hidden layers of shame in narcissism and discover how it shapes...2024-09-1108 min
The Narcissism DecoderWhy Do We Destroy Our Own Happiness?In this episode of the Narcissism Decoder, we explore the complex reasons why some individuals struggle to accept positive experiences, such as love, comfort, and success. We delve into the psychological concept of splitting, where early life experiences, like critical caregiving, can lead to an internalized negative self-view. Through a case study, we discuss how this self-criticism manifests and why it becomes difficult for some to embrace supportive voices or good opportunities. We also touch on the defense mechanisms that protect a fragile sense of self, leading to behaviors like self-sabotage. Finally, we consider how increasing awareness of these...2024-09-0425 min
The Narcissism DecoderHow Splitting Affects Your Relationships! Recorded Live DiscussionIn this episode we are joined by a listener of the podcast who raised very important questions about episode 14 “Why do I think and act in such extremes.” Celeste and I discuss the concept of splitting, which is thinking in extremes. We explore a case study of a patient who struggles with over-confidence and insecurities, depending on his different environments. He feels disconnected and lacks a sense of belonging. This split world is linked to his split representations of the two most important people in his life, his critical grandmother and supportive mother. The conversation raises questions about why he id...2024-08-2830 min
The Narcissism DecoderThe One Trick to Help Motivate Your Child! Recorded Live DiscussionIn this episode we are joined by a long-time listener of the podcast who has insightful questions about narcissism. This interview effectively illustrates the complexity of narcissism, the challenges of parenting, the importance of self-awareness and how Jim is inadvertently reenacting a part of his childhood relationship with his father. Jim's interest in learning and improving his relationship with his daughter is palpable, he is open and honest about everyday parental challenges.To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual th...2024-08-2129 min
The Narcissism DecoderRelating to the Covert Narcissist: Tools That Work– Part 2In this episode, we continue our exploration of covert narcissism by delving into practical tools and techniques for managing relationships with individuals who exhibit these traits. Building on the foundations laid in episode 37, we discuss the limitations of common recommendations. Emphasis is placed on the importance of understanding the origins of covert narcissistic traits and the need for emotion reunion and validation. Through clinical examples, practical strategies for maintaining relationships are highlighted, including validating their experience without gratifying their need for a magical reunion. To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here ...2024-08-1426 min
The Narcissism DecoderRelating to the Covert Narcissist: Why Most Recommendations are Limited Part 1In this episode, Dr. Anthony Mazzella explores how to relate to someone with covert narcissistic traits. He cautions against common tools and techniques that are often ineffective, such as establishing boundaries and keeping conversations brief. Dr. Mazzella explains that these approaches limit meaningful communication and erode trust and intimacy. He highlights the importance of understanding the defining characteristics of covert narcissism, including sensitivity to criticism, emotional manipulation, and a victim mentality. Dr. Mazzella also introduces the separation individuation process as a key theory in understanding the origins of covert narcissistic traits. He concludes with a teaser for Part 2 of t...2024-08-0729 minThe Narcissism DecoderWhy Leaving an Abusive Relationship is Hard: Trauma Bonds Explained in an InterviewIn this episode, you will hear the final piece of the live interview I had with Tami from the Ageless 50+ community. In this part of the interview, the focus is on dealing with trauma bonded relationships. Trauma bonds are explained as intense emotional connections that often form in abusive relationships, making it difficult for individuals to leave despite the harm they endure. An example is given of a woman who couldn't emotionally separate from her abusive mother, leading her to repeat similar patterns in her adult relationships. The conversation highlights how these bonds can feel addictive, much like a...2024-07-3123 minThe Narcissism DecoderManaging Narcissistic Rage: Effective Strategies and Tips for Reducing Conflict -Live Interview 2In this episode, you will again hear a live interview I had with Tami from Ageless 50+. In this part of the interview, the focus is on dealing with individuals who exhibit narcissistic traits, particularly when they have low self-esteem. Also, through a spontaneous role play, I try to demonstrate how to talk to an angry dysregulated person in your life. The main points include the importance of helping such individuals become aware of their reactions and responses without inflaming the situation. The discussion emphasizes the necessity of not labeling or blaming the angry or dysregulated other. The episode offers...2024-07-2421 minThe Narcissism DecoderCan A Narcissist Change? A Segment of a Live InterviewIn this episode, I had a live interview with Tami from Ageless, the 50+ community, where we discussed the definition of narcissism, the concept of a narcissist revising history, and whether narcissists can change. We delved into various therapeutic approaches to help individuals with narcissistic traits become more tolerant and increase their frustration tolerance. I also reviewed the core features of a grandiose sense of self, including exaggerated self-importance, entitlement, need for admiration, lack of empathy, and fragile self-esteem. This episode provides practical insights and techniques for fostering growth and understanding in individuals with narcissistic traits, highlighting how addressing these...2024-07-1722 minThe Narcissism DecoderUnderstanding Black-and-White Thinking in Narcissistic Relationships: A Live Interview In this episode, I'm excited to share a segment from a live interview I had with Reframing You, an inspiring platform dedicated to personal growth and self-improvement. Throughout our conversation, I respond to insightful questions that delve deep into splitting, or black and white thinking. I highly recommend checking out her site for more valuable content; the link is below. Enjoy the episode! https://www.reframing-you.com/To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Ma...2024-07-1024 minThe Narcissism DecoderUnderstanding Narcissistic Relationships: The Hidden DynamicsIn this episode, we delve into the intricacies of narcissistic traits and relationship dynamics, starting with the concept of trust and jealousy. The discussion highlights the paradox of narcissists not showing jealousy when their partner is socializing but becoming deeply affected if the relationship is threatened. This behavior is explained through the psychoanalytic concept of "affect block," a defense mechanism that masks true feelings. The episode also explores how narcissistic traits are linked to dismissive attachment styles developed from early caregiving experiences. This stance, while preserving autonomy, ultimately prevents meaningful connections, but can be addressed and prioritized in therapy...2024-07-0332 minThe Narcissism DecoderInjustice, Resentment and Revenge: Tools and Techniques to Move Forward 2In this episode, Dr. Anthony Mazzella explores the topic of resentment and its impact on the healing process after infidelity. Resentment, rooted in unresolved anger and perceived injustice, serves as a barrier to both external reconciliation and internal peace. It fuels desires for revenge and retaliation, leading to the adhesiveness of trauma. The person who cheated needs to demonstrate genuine remorse, take responsibility for their actions, and address underlying issues. The person holding onto resentment must acknowledge its depth and destructiveness, grieve the loss, and seek professional therapy for individual and couples therapy.Takeaways2024-06-2616 minThe Narcissism DecoderNavigating the Complexities of Infidelity: The Destructive Role of Resentment 1Infidelity is a complex issue that deeply impacts individuals and relationships. Understanding the reasons behind cheating, such as dissatisfaction, neglect, or narcissistic characteristics, is crucial for addressing infidelity. Regret and remorse play significant roles in the potential for relationship repair, especially when there is cognitive dissonance. Developing empathy is essential in the healing process, as it helps cheaters understand the impact of their actions. Resentment can be a significant barrier to moving forward, and addressing it is critical for emotional healing and growth.To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click...2024-06-1916 minThe Narcissism DecoderStuck in Life and Lacking Motivation? How to Overcome Stagnation and Lack Of VitalityUnmasking Depression: The Hidden Impact of Narcissistic Caregivers -Therapeutic InterventionsIn this episode, Dr. Anthony Mazzella delves into the concept of white depression, which involves an unconscious identification with a narcissistically preoccupied caregiver. He explores the impact of emotional resonance and affective attunement on an individual's development, as well as the connection between this type of depression and narcissism. Dr. Mazzella also discusses the therapeutic approach to addressing the lack of emotional resonance and affective attunement, and the role this plays on freeing oneself of feeling stuck in life and lacking motivation. To read more about the...2024-06-1224 minThe Narcissism DecoderUnderstanding the Illusion of Excessive Agreeableness: Exploring Obstructions to ConnectingUnderstanding the Illusion of Excessive AgreeablenessExcessive agreeability can obstruct genuine communication and connection, leading to irritation and frustration in relationships. This behavior often stems from a fear of conflict and a desire to avoid "inner" discomfort, which is rooted in early childhood experiences with emotionally rejecting caregivers. The goal is to help individuals recognize and explore their false agreeableness, addressing the illusion of connection and the fear of being alone or abandoned. This can lead to genuine connection, emotional flexibility, and freedom.To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here 2024-06-0623 minThe Narcissism DecoderAlone While Together: Building Frustration Tolerance and Impulse ControlAlone While Together - Understanding Obstructions to Communication In this episode I am challenging you to imagine how effective communication begins with the ability to tolerate frustration and delay gratification. Obstructions to communication often arise from low frustration tolerance and poor impulse control. This can lead to impulsive actions and hinder genuine understanding. Slowing down and reflecting, which I demonstrated is not easy, enables clearer expression and deeper connection. Without meaningful communication, loneliness, emotional isolation and deprivation can persist, leading to destructive behaviors and a constant need for stimulation. Genuine connection and communication require curiosity, effort, and the a...2024-05-2217 minThe Narcissism DecoderImproving Life & Relationships: Exploring Psychotherapy's BenefitsImproving Life & Relationships Today we explore just one way psychodynamic psychotherapy enhances quality of life and relationships. I explore how the psychodynamic process helps individuals understand and work through unresolved anger and trauma. The therapeutic process is tailored to each person's unique needs and circumstances. From the perspective of this one approach, the goal is to break the cycle of projection and introjection, where past trauma is projected onto loved ones, causing destructive "repetitive" patterns in relationships. By accurately identifying and labeling feelings, individuals can gain insight into the underlying dynamics shaping their experiences and behaviors. Once we can...2024-05-1524 minThe Narcissism DecoderI Got Scammed! An Exploration into How This May Have HappenedIn this conversation, "I got scammed!" we explore the concept of grandiosity in narcissism. I discuss how grandiosity manifests in narcissistic individuals and the overlooked aspect of intolerable suffering. I illustrate how intolerable suffering plays out in the case of someone who was scammed. We look closely at the connection between grandiosity and the timeshare scam, highlighting the rejection of anything good and the delusional structure of the grandiose sense of self. The conversation concludes with a focus on the challenges faced by individuals with narcissistic characteristics and the importance of helping them develop the capacity to take in so...2024-05-0817 minThe Narcissism DecoderWhat is Depression? An Investigation Into What Leads to ChangeWhat is Depression? In this episode, we discuss the role of aggression and 'bad introjects' in depression. We explore the origins of the critical and aggressive inner voice in depression, which often stems from early caregiver relationships. I emphasize how "bad" introjects develop and later in life the impact they have on fueling depression. A review of several pathways to depression is discussed and I highlight the detrimental effects of ineffective coping mechanisms. Effective treatment techniques that lead to lasting change are detailed before I conclude with a brief review of previous episodes that delve into the complexities of depres...2024-04-2419 minThe Narcissism DecoderNavigating the Depths of Depression Among Teens: Implementing a Treatment ApproachIn this episode, I discuss a recent paper I presented on adolescent depression. I highlight the urgent need for understanding depression and effective treatment interventions for this growing mental health issue. I explore the role of "exclusion" and separation in healthy development and how, if not resolved, these painful feelings play a significant role in adolescent depression. Using a case study, I delve into the experience of depression in adolescence. Finally, we look at treatment interventions and the importance of exploring and subsequently resolving adolescent omnipotence and grandiosity. To read more about the various facets of narcissism ple...2024-04-1034 minThe Narcissism DecoderExploring the Core of Narcissistic Relationships: Anti-relating vs Genuine Discovery and AcceptanceTakeaways· Self-other differentiation is critical in understanding narcissistic relationships.· Narcissistic relationships thrive when narcissistic needs are met.· The preference for illusion over reality can lead to destructive dynamics.· Embracing differences and engaging in genuine discovery of the "other" is essential for healthier relationships.· Confronting and mourning lost fantasies is a challenging but necessary process in the journey toward loving relationships. To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services...2024-04-0319 minThe Narcissism DecoderTreating Narcissism: How to Deal with A NarcissistIn this episode, we discuss how to relate to a narcissist in your life without sacrificing your own well-being. We explore the dynamics of dealing with constant accusations, suspicion and invasive tracking measures. I emphasize the importance of taking these accusations seriously and understanding the projection and splitting that may be occurring. I suggest and give clear examples of how to not label your partner's behaviors but instead the goal is to focus on describing what is happening in the present moment. I also highlight the significance of embracing loss and different perspectives, as well as the hope that can...2024-03-2017 minThe Narcissism DecoderTwo “Narcissistic” Causes of Anxiety and a Psychodynamic Treatment ApproachThis episode explores the links between anxiety and narcissism. It begins by discussing shame stress and the inner critical (angry) voice as significant causes of anxiety. The conversation then delves into the necessity for a flawless self-image and how it triggers anxiety. The connection between anxiety, narcissism, and exclusion is explored through examples of individuals who feel the center of attention. The episode also provides guidance on how to exist with someone with anxiety and narcissism, emphasizing the importance of questioning and softening the critical inner voice. The underlying issues that contribute to anxiety, such as unprocessed emotions, are...2024-03-0615 minThe Narcissism DecoderAnxiety and Aggression: An exploration of the link between Anxiety and AggressionIn this episode, we explore the connection between perfectionism and anxiety, highlighting how the inner critical voice fuels feelings of inadequacy and fear of judgment. I discuss the role of anger as a driver of anxiety and explain how the critical inner voice originates from early relationships with overly critical parental figures. I emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing the critical voice to achieve lasting change. I conclude by discussing anxiety as another facet of narcissism and invite listeners to continue exploring this topic with me in the next episode.To read more about the various fac...2024-02-2813 minThe Narcissism DecoderHow to Take Charge of Your Anxiety: A Psychodynamic ApproachIn this episode, we explore the complex relationship between anxiety and shame stress. I highlight how shame stress often goes undetected and untreated in individuals dealing with narcissism. The manifestations of anxiety, including perfectionism, procrastination, and self-destructive thoughts are described and I emphasize how traditional approaches to anxiety only treat the symptom and not the underlying cause. I introduce the concept of "shame stress" and its role in driving anxiety. I share a case study to illustrate how shame stress can manifest in social situations and I demonstrate the tools and techniques that I use to foster lasting changes. I co...2024-02-2117 minThe Narcissism DecoderParenthood and Parenting Problems: Establishing the BondIn this episode, we tackle common parental challenges like tantrums, defiance, and risky behavior. Traditional solutions often fall short, but by understanding the underlying causes—the impact of affective misattunement and rupture in the parent-child bond—we can foster healthier relationships. Rather than focusing solely on behavior, we explore tools and techniques to address the underlying emotional needs and re-establish a strong and loving connection.To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new pati...2024-02-1423 minThe Narcissism DecoderIs it Depression ....or Narcissist Deflation?In this episode I explore the concept of narcissistic deflation and its potential misdiagnosis as depression. I highlight the importance of detecting and properly treating narcissistic deflation, which often goes unnoticed without the expertise of a trained professional in personality disorders. Shame states are identified as a key factor in this phenomenon, with examples provided to illustrate their impact on individuals. The connection between excitement, disappointment, and shame is explored, emphasizing the role of misattunement in triggering shame. I discuss the importance of regulating shame and developing self-regulation skills to prevent narcissistic injury. Finally, I offer a treatment approach f...2024-02-0720 minThe Narcissism DecoderWhy Do I Think and Act in Such Extremes?Exploring Techniques and Overcoming Overwhelming Busyness! In this episode, Dr. Mazzella explores techniques for overcoming 'all or nothing' thinking and behaviors. He addresses a listener's question about healing fragmented selves. The conversation explores the concept of splitting and integration, the perils of perceiving the world in extremes, and the importance of accepting differences without assuming disconnection. The goal is to achieve integration and a more nuanced understanding of oneself and others. The episode concludes with an example of how Dr. Mazzella treats this kind of extreme, black or white, all or nothing thinking in...2024-01-3114 minThe Narcissism DecoderAre Dr. Mazzella’s Treatment Strategies Effective? Listener Questions & ExperiencesIn this episode, Dr. Anthony Mazzella responds to listener questions, delving into topics such as coping with chaos in life and distinguishing between borderline and narcissistic traits. He explores a listener’s allure of chaos and its connection to an underlying desire for conflict and turmoil. The episode also covers Dr. Mazzella’s practical treatment strategies and a listener’s application of one of his tools when relating to a covert narcissist. The discussion concludes by addressing the distinctions between borderline and narcissistic personality disorders, emphasizing borderline traits such as powerful rage and swift, intense, and clingy involvements.To r...2024-01-2436 minThe Narcissism DecoderWhy the Need to Create Chaos & Conflict?In this episode, Dr. Anthony Mazzella explores why narcissists need to create chaos. He describes the manifestations of this behavior and delves into the psychological reasons behind it. Dr. Mazzella explains how chaos-seeking narcissists play on situational vulnerability and bring up topics designed to evoke maximum emotional impact. He also discusses the gratification and satisfaction that narcissists derive from creating chaos. Dr. Mazzella provides intervention strategies, including containment, ego-supportive interventions, and exploring the need for this painful affective state. TakeawaysNarcissists create chaos to satisfy their need for emotional turmoil and to re...2024-01-1743 minThe Narcissism DecoderWhat is Narcissistic Rage: Causes & TreatmentIn this episode of the Narcissism Decoder, we explore the intricate world of narcissistic rage by addressing three pivotal questions surrounding healthy and unhealthy expressions of anger. Drawing insights from real-life examples, we delve into the nuances of anger, rage, and hatred, unraveling the complexities of emotional triggers and counter-control dynamics within relationships. The narrative offers profound insights into the patterns of narcissistic rage and provides a glimpse into making inroads with a narcissist. Join me on an interpretative journey as we connect split-off aspects in each partner, unraveling the cycle of rage within complex relationship dynamics...2024-01-1038 minThe Narcissism DecoderTrauma Bonding: How to Break the Addictive CycleIn this episode of the Narcissism Decoder podcast, the focus is on strategies to break the trauma bonding cycle. After highlighting the complexities of these relationships, I explore commonly suggested approaches found online, pointing out their limitations and why they may fall short in addressing the profound intoxication experienced within such bonds. Specifically, I critique strategies like journaling and creating boundaries, arguing that they overlook deeper feelings, such as the need for excitement and chaos to ward off inner emptiness. I illustrate these points through a case example, contrasting superficial online advice with the nuanced exploration I believe is...2024-01-0336 minThe Narcissism DecoderThe Trauma Bond: A Radically Different PerspectiveIn this episode of The Narcissism Decoder, we explore trauma bonding—a profound psychological pattern where individuals form intense attachments to manipulative and abusive relationships, despite recognizing the harm. Through a psychoanalytic lens, we examine connections to unprocessed early losses and the creation of sadomasochistic dynamics. Trauma bonding is revealed as a defense mechanism against a lack of vitality in the early parent/child matrix, resulting in a profound inner deadness and an inability to acknowledge loss, leading to pathological mourning. This intricate exploration unveils how the trauma bond acts as a desperate attempt to patch over emotional voids, st...2023-12-2036 minThe Narcissism DecoderWhen the Narcissist Returns Home: The Unrelenting Loop of DespairIn this episode, we explore the cyclical dynamics of a person grappling with self-hatred and projection. The individual exhibits a perpetual loop of feeling judged and persecuted. Drawing from psychoanalytic theory, I emphasize defense mechanisms, specifically projection and introjection, as key contributors to the individual's distorted perception of the external world. I highlight the struggle to break free from this cycle, emphasizing the need to increase awareness of one's inner psychic reality. The proposed treatment approach involves acknowledging destructive impulses, taking ownership of emotions, and fostering trust in actual people to shift from projecting internal judgments to introjecting healthier...2023-12-1345 minThe Narcissism DecoderNarcissistic to Loving Relationships: Tools and Techniques to Facilitate ChangeThis episode of Narcissistic Relationship Dynamics delves deeper into the intricate dance of narcissistic dynamics, revealing a carefully crafted blueprint of elevation and devaluation with a hidden purpose. The focus shifts to the psychology of narcissistic relating, addressing the question of what needs to happen for improvement to occur. The episode provides a detailed case study, showcasing tools and techniques employed to facilitate a transformation from narcissistic ways of relating to a more loving approach. The emphasis is on moving from perceiving others as part objects to whole objects, demonstrating a tangible path to healthier relationship dynamics.To...2023-12-0635 minThe Narcissism DecoderOmnipotent Narcissistic RelatingIn this episode, Dr. Anthony Mazzella explores the concept of the omnipotent narcissistic object relationship and how it affects relationships. He provides examples of omnipotent narcissistic relating and discusses the origins of this way of relating. Dr. Mazzella also delves into psychoanalytic theory and social media content to gain a deeper understanding of narcissistic relationships. He examines the shift from "love bombing" to devaluing. The importance of sustaining the omnipotent narcissistic object relationship is emphasized, along with the undercurrent of separation. Dr. Mazzella concludes by discussing how to work with and change the narcissistic object relationship....2023-11-2946 min
Dans la tête d'un CEO par Yacine Sqalli#130 Éric Larchevêque (Ledger, Algosup, Coinhouse) - extrait : Qui veut être mon associé ? (produit avec Mantu)[EXTRAIT] On fait un tour dans la tête du grand Éric Larchevêque, cofondateur de Ledger, Coinhouse & ALGOSUP, qui répond aux questions de Yacine Sqalli. 🎙️Mais Éric est aussi investisseur au sein de l’émission “Qui veut être mon associé ?” (tout comme Anthony Bourbon et Frédéric Mazzella que nous avons déjà reçus) !D’ailleurs, cet épisode a été enregistré entre 2 émissions de la prochaine saison !Dans cet extrait, Eric nous dévoile les coulisses de cette émission dans laquelle il prend tant de plaisir à participer...2023-11-2609 min
Dans la tête d'un CEO par Yacine Sqalli#130 Éric Larchevêque (Ledger, Algosup, Coinhouse) - extrait : Le poker, la formation. et sa mission sur Terre. (produit avec Mantu)[EXTRAIT] On fait un tour dans la tête du grand Éric Larchevêque, cofondateur de Ledger, Coinhouse & ALGOSUP, qui répond aux questions de Yacine Sqalli. 🎙️Mais Éric est aussi investisseur au sein de l’émission “Qui veut être mon associé ?” (tout comme Anthony Bourbon et Frédéric Mazzella que nous avons déjà reçus) !D’ailleurs, cet épisode a été enregistré entre 2 émissions de la prochaine saison ! Dans cet extrait, Eric nous parle de Poker, d’ALGOSUP qu'il a cofondé et ses ambitions pour cette école; et enfi...2023-11-2415 min
Dans la tête d'un CEO par Yacine Sqalli#130 Éric Larchevêque (Ledger, Algosup, Coinhouse) - extrait : Les clés du succ. (produit avec Mantu)[EXTRAIT] On fait un tour dans la tête du grand Éric Larchevêque, cofondateur de Ledger, Coinhouse & ALGOSUP, qui répond aux questions de Yacine Sqalli. 🎙️Mais Éric est aussi investisseur au sein de l’émission “Qui veut être mon associé ?” (tout comme Anthony Bourbon et Frédéric Mazzella que nous avons déjà reçus) !D’ailleurs, cet épisode a été enregistré entre 2 émissions de la prochaine saison !Dans cet extrait, on parle des facteurs clés de succès de Ledger. Éric nous livre ses précieux conseils po...2023-11-2208 min
Dans la tête d'un CEO par Yacine Sqalli#130 Éric Larchevêque (Ledger, Algosup, Coinhouse) - extrait : La quête de sens. (produit avec Mantu)[EXTRAIT] On fait un tour dans la tête du grand Éric Larchevêque, cofondateur de Ledger, Coinhouse & ALGOSUP, qui répond aux questions de Yacine Sqalli. 🎙️Mais Éric est aussi investisseur au sein de l’émission “Qui veut être mon associé ?” (tout comme Anthony Bourbon et Frédéric Mazzella que nous avons déjà reçus) !D’ailleurs, cet épisode a été enregistré entre 2 émissions de la prochaine saison ! Dans cet extrait, on parle de la jeune génération et la quête de sens dans leur vie professionnel...2023-11-2110 minThe Narcissism DecoderRelating to the Paranoid Narcissist in Your Life: Insights and StrategiesIn this episode, I delve into the characteristics of paranoid narcissism, emphasizing their treatability and offering insights on how to relate to individuals with this personality type. I highlight their unique blend of narcissistic traits and pronounced signs of suspiciousness. Drawing from psychoanalytic theory, I explore the origins of paranoid narcissism, which sheds light on the early experiences that contribute to this personality cluster. Ultimately, the episode underscores the importance of addressing feelings of shame and humiliation as a key aspect of treatment for individuals with paranoid narcissistic tendencies.To read more about the various facets of...2023-11-2133 min
Dans la tête d'un CEO par Yacine Sqalli#130 Éric Larchevêque (Ledger, Algosup, Coinhouse) : Discussion avec un passionné. (produit avec Mantu)« J’entreprends pour être libre mais je suis libre parce que j’entreprends. » 🌀« Privilégier la rentabilité parce que c’est le meilleur moyen d’arriver à une scalabilité. »On fait un tour dans la tête du grand Éric Larchevêque, cofondateur de Ledger, Coinhouse & ALGOSUP, qui répond aux questions de Yacine Sqalli. 🎙️Mais Éric est aussi investisseur au sein de l’émission “Qui veut être mon associé ?” (tout comme Anthony Bourbon et Frédéric Mazzella que nous avons déjà reçus) !D’ailleurs, cet épisode a été enregistré ent...2023-11-2059 minThe Narcissism DecoderRelating to Covert Narcissists: Insights and StrategiesRelating to Covert Narcissists: Insights and Strategies delves deep into the world of covert narcissism through a psychoanalytic lens. Join me as I explore the descriptive factors, analyze the underlying causes from a psychoanalytic perspective, and shed light on the lifesaving mode of narcissistic repair. Gain valuable insights on how to navigate relationships with these individuals. To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information. 2023-11-1439 min
The Narcissism DecoderNarcissistic Struggles and Healthcare Professionals Part II: Breaking the Cycle of Punitive SuperegosIn this episode, we delved into the origins and dynamics of the punitive superego, intricately linked with perfectionism, grandiosity and narcissism. Drawing on Bion's (renowned psychoanalyst) theory of beta and alpha functioning, we illuminated how individuals may project inner conflicts onto external authorities, creating a fear of punitive consequences. By detailing the nuanced interplay between perfectionism, punitive superegos, and Bion's conceptual framework, we attempted to demonstrate the practical application of this theory.To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual t...2023-11-0734 min
The Narcissism DecoderThe Role of Perfectionism/Grandiosity among Medical Health Professionals – Part IIn this episode on perfectionism, also known in psychoanalytic terms as grandiosity, we unraveled the complex dynamics of this enduring trait. Perfectionism, defined by relentless pursuit of flawlessness and self-worth contingent on meeting exceptionally high standards, is a predominate and pervasive narcissistic trait. Through a psychoanalytic lens, we delved into object constancy, integration, and drew from Margaret Mahler's separation-individuation theory. An example was provided to illustrate how these theories come into play when interacting with someone exhibiting narcissistic traits.To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are i...2023-10-3149 min
The Narcissism DecoderIntroduction to the Narcissism Decoder PodcastA brief introduction to the goals and mission of the Narcissism Decoder Podcast is discussed. In each episode we will delve into a distinct facet of narcissism through a psychoanalytic lens. From this vantage point, we embark on a journey to unearth methods for nurturing empathy and comprehension while navigating relationships with individuals exhibiting narcissistic traits. Through thoughtful strategies, the ultimate goal is to foster personal growth and extend support to those impacted.To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking...2023-10-2506 min
PARDO MIRAMON164 Chris Geith Música para la inteligencia Emocional Mindfulness Musicoterapia Meditación Relajación Estrés OptimismoMuchos abrazos navideños. 5 de los Artistas que escuchamos a continuación son nuevos en nuestros podcast:
01- Chris Geith - Angel Of Wisdom.
02- Chris Spheeris y Anthony Mazzella - Looking Back. 03:43.
03- Brian Culbertson - Sonic Dreams. 08:17.
04- Wayne Jones y Karen Hua-Qi-Han - Eastern Horizon. 14:28.
05- Origen - Ave Maria. 20:36.
06- Eamonn Karran – Autumn Fall. 24:49.
07- Sine - To The Sky. 30:10.
08- Harmonium - Scope. 35:23.
09- Crystal Secret - Lost In Paradise. 46:36.
10- Banghra Lounge Voices - Kamasutra in Heaven. 51:52.
“Donde las palabras fallan, la música habla.” Hans Christian Andersen.
Emotional Intelligence music, Musictherapy, Healing, Peaceful, Wellness...2020-12-2757 min
PARDO MIRAMON162 Kondor Música para inteligencia Emocional Mindfulness Musicoterapia Meditación Relajación Estrés Zen Optimismo YogaAbrazos para todos vosotros; hoy os traemos una selección Musical para la Inteligencia Emocional muy especial. 10 de los Artistas que escuchamos en esta ocasión son nuevos en nuestros podcast:
01- Kondor - Encouragment.
02- Oleg Byonic – Dry the rain. 02:27.
03- Wayne Jones y Karen Hua Qi Han – Eastern horizon. 08:38.
04- George Mesterhazy – In Paradisum. 14:45.
05- Leo Rojas – White arrows. 20:15.
06- Madhava - Mellifluous. 26:32.
07- Deep Wide – Castillos de arena. 29:30.
08- Holland Phillips – The moment. 35:33.
09- Rolf W Kunz – Silver rain. 39:35.
10- Chris Spheeris y Anthony Mazzella – Loocking back. 42:53.
11- Michael Whalen – Sacred spaces. 47:32.
12- Artenovum – In search of incredible. 51:52.
“Si...2020-10-2757 min
12H, L'Heure H - L'invitéL'intégrale de 12h, L'heure H du mercredi 3 juinCe mercredi 3 juin, Hedwige Chevrillon a reçu Jean-Eric Branaa, maître de conférences et spécialiste de la politique et de la société américaine, Nicolas Dupeux, directeur général de l'Accor Arena, et Frederic Mazzella, président et fondateur de BlaBlacar, dans l'émission 12h, L'heure H sur BFM Business. Retrouvez l'émission du lundi au jeudi et réécoutez la en podcast.
Dans 12H l'heure H, retrouvez ceux qui font l'actualité dans des entretiens majeurs présentés par Hedwige Chevrillon.
BFM Business est la 1ère chaîne française d'information économique et financière en continu, avec de...2020-06-0300 min
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In the back of the heart, there is always an island
Solitary, away from even friendly people
An island meant sometimes to share with one
I never showed my island to anyone before
but you can see it if you like
In return, I don’t ask for much
Now and then a touch
Perhaps a friendly word, the sight of your eyes invading my private world
And yes, perhaps a little love, not much at first, but more than you give to strangers....2017-08-0858 min