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Pure Desire Podcast409 - The Church, Mental Health, & Healing w/ Dr. Carol TanksleyIn this episode, we explore the intersection of faith and mental health with Dr. Carol Tanksley who has dedicated their life to helping others heal from fear, anxiety, grief, and more. We’ll talk about the Church’s role in addressing mental health struggles, unpack common misconceptions Christians hold about anxiety, depression, and other mental health challenges, and discuss how believers can distinguish between spiritual battles and mental health issues. This conversation highlights the importance of creating safe spaces within the Church for those struggling with mental health, the role of community in the healing process, and offer...2025-05-0658 min
Fringe Radio NetworkThe World Is A Mess, But We Don't Have To Be! with Dr. Carol Tanksley - A Minute To MidniteEpisode 588 of the A Minute to Midnite Show. Tony is joined by Dr Carol Tanksley.2025-04-2440 min
Find Hope Here with Teresa Whiting - Christian Women (Bible Study, Faith, Sexuality, Freedom from Shame)Come As You Are: Finding Sexual Healing in Jesus with Dr. Carol Tanksley - Part 2 (SEXUAL WHOLENESS SERIES)This week we continue our transformative conversation about sexual wholeness from a Christian perspective with Dr. Carol Tanksley. If you haven't heard Part 1 yet, listen here. Whether you're single, struggling with shame about your sexual past, or simply trying to understand how sexuality fits within your faith journey, this episode offers wisdom and practical guidance. Sexual wholeness begins with accepting this invitation to "just come" as you are, trusting that Jesus will meet you with gentleness and guide you toward healing.Click here for show notesWatch this Episode on YouTubeSupport the sh...2025-04-2227 minFind Hope Here with Teresa Whiting - Christian Women (Bible Study, Faith, Sexuality, Freedom from Shame)Breaking Down Sexual Walls: From Shame to Wholeness with Dr. Carol Tanksley - Part 1 (SEXUAL WHOLENESS SERIES)Sexual brokenness often begins with wounds we don't want to face. Dr. Carol Tanksley, OBGYN physician turned ordained minister, draws from 30 years of medical practice and her own journey to explore how our personal stories shape our sexual decisions. Dr. Carol directs our attention to what Jesus emphasized most - the condition of the heart. While behaviors certainly have consequences, lasting transformation begins with addressing the wounds, lies, and empty places in our souls that drive our choices. Your story matters, and God wants to meet you exactly where you are.🎙 Click here for show notes▶️ W...2025-04-1529 min
The Covenant Eyes PodcastWhat's the REAL Reason Churches Avoid Talking About Sexual WholenessSend us a textIs the Church silent where it should be healing?In this powerful episode of the Covenant Eyes Podcast, Dr. Carol Tanksley—physician, minister, and intimacy coach—dives into the deep waters of sexual brokenness, healing, intimacy, and the role of the Church. Joined by host Karen Potter, Dr. Carol shares her personal story, the transformative journey of her ministry, and why real healing requires honesty, community, and God's redemptive love.🔥 Whether you're battling a pornography addiction, supporting a spouse in recovery, or longing for deeper emotional intimacy, this conversation offers...2025-04-0933 min
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A Minute To Midnite588- Dr Carol Tanksley – Audio Only Version558- The World is a Mess. But We don't have to be! – Dr Carol Tanksley Right click to Download2025-04-0938 min
Marriage Rehab: Exposing Narcissistic & Emotional Abuse51. Navigating Sexual Wholeness with Dr. Carol TanksleyIn this episode of Mad.In.Love, Dr. David Hawkins is joined by Dr. Carol Tanksley, author of Sexpectations, and MRC clinician Jill Stenerson to discuss the intersection of sexual intimacy, emotional abuse, and narcissistic behaviors in relationships. Together, they explore what healthy intimacy looks like, how to heal from sexual harm caused by abuse, and practical steps toward sexual wholeness. Whether you're recovering from past trauma or navigating challenges in your current relationship, this episode offers hope and guidance for your journey.Founded by Dr. David Hawkins, the Marriage Recovery Center is the leading authority on...2025-01-2241 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolA Fresh Perspective on Charles Dickens' A Christmas CarolA Christmas Carol, the classic story by Charles Dickens, has been made into several movies and told in countless ways for generations. However, is it possible that this holiday story of Ebeneezer Scrooge and the ghosts of Christmas Past, Present and Yet to Come might have meaning to your own life story? In this special Christmas episode Dr. Carol talks with best-selling author and columnist Bob Welch about stinginess, innocence, grief, joy, transformation, and other contemporary and meaningful lessons about how to live - and how not to live - not only at Christmas but throughout the y...2024-12-1730 min
Raising Kingdom WarriorsSexpectations with Dr. Carol Tanksley | Ep. 15On this episode of Raising Kingdom Warriors, Dr. Carol Tanksley, a seasoned OB-Gyn, minister, and author, shares her deeply personal journey of transformation, the healing power of vulnerability, and the importance of addressing matters of the heart. In this episode, she discusses her latest book, Sexpectations, exploring how our personal stories shape relationships and intimacy. Learn how to submit your sexuality to Jesus, confront hidden struggles, and experience the wholeness and freedom He offers. A thought-provoking conversation about faith, love, and living “Fully Alive.”
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Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolDr. Carol Answers Your Toughest Questions About Intimacy, Sex, and RelationshipsDr. Carol receives lots of questions about relationships, menopause and married sex, marital rape, struggle with pornography, and more. In today's episode she answers some listener submitted questions on a range of subjects. You won't want to miss this! Resources mentioned in this episode: - Navigating Midlife online course - Article Having the Sex Talk With Your Spouse - eBook Dr. Carol's Guide to Sex and Menopause - Article Why You Are Not Entitled to Sex - Article Where to Start if Your Marriage Lacks Intimacy - Free download A Pres...2024-10-2226 min
PSR PodcastExploring the Heart of Sexuality with Dr. Carol TanksleyIn this episode, I chat with Dr. Carol Tanksley, a ministry friend and author of the book Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories About God, Love, and Relationships. We dive into the complexities of sexuality, intimacy, and how personal and cultural experiences shape these aspects of our lives. Dr. Tanksley shares her personal journey of learning about sexuality and intimacy, emphasizing the importance of addressing heart issues and healing from past wounds. We discuss the difference between intimacy and sexuality, the necessity of community support, and the concept of sexual wholeness. Finally, Dr. Carol offers practical ad...2024-08-2834 min
TypologyTransforming relationships with true intimacy, feat. Dr. Carol TanksleyThis week, we welcome back Dr. Carol Tanksley, author of "Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories About God, Love, and Relationships." Dr. Tanksley brings a unique perspective shaped by her extensive background as a former OBGYN and reproductive endocrinologist, offering a compassionate exploration of human sexuality, intimacy and relationships. Dr. Tanksley sheds light on several misconceptions surrounding sex, aiming to challenge and reshape our perspectives. Drawing from her clinical experience, she provides valuable insights on how we all can begin to heal from societal and personal misconceptions about sexuality. Moreover, we delve into the...2024-07-1135 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolWhat Healing from Trauma and Betrayal can Mean for Your Marriage NowYour heart is shattered. How can you find healing when you've been wounded by trauma and betrayal? And that process is even more challenging when you brought your past complex trauma into the relationship to begin with. Trauma expert and counselor Stacey Sadler Smith has both experienced that herself, and now brings years of professional experience to helping both individuals and couples heal from trauma and betrayal. She talks with Dr. Carol on this episode about her own story, about broken attachments, and about the process of repair after trauma and betrayal - both for one's own...2024-06-1136 min
Sex Chat for Christian WivesYour Sexual Story, with Dr. Carol Tanksley We welcome guest Dr. Carol Tanksley, who is an author, speaker, podcaster, licensed OB-Gyn, and a trained and ordained minister. She joins us to talk about how your sexual story shaped you and how to pursue sexual wholeness as God intended. Sponsor Share the Soap – goat milk soap & bath products. Special offer for our listeners: free lip balm (any flavor) with purchase of aloe & goat milk lotion! Put both lotion and lip balm into your cart and check out with the code FCWJUNE. From the Bible John 4:1-42 (Jesus and...2024-06-0530 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolUnderstanding the (False) Solution Porn Offers and Why it MattersMany who use pornography struggle to quit when they try to, even if they deeply believe it's wrong and even while using various tricks and techniques and "praying more". Porn is often seen as the problem, and it is a problem. But what if porn is the (false) solution being offered to a different "problem". On this vulnerable and raw episode, Dr. Carol talks with Drew Boa about how he came to see "porn as my pacifier". They unpack the often-unaddressed issues that lead to pornography use. Hear how Drew did the hard and successful work to hea...2024-06-0433 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolA Survivor's Story of Freedom from TraffickingMost people know sex trafficking exists. But you might imagine that's something "out there" and could never affect anyone close to you. And why would someone ever get hooked into that lifestyle? Why don't they just leave? Dr. Carol's guest on this episode is Jasmine Grace Marino. As a former sex worker who now helps and advocates for others on the journey out of that lifestyle, she talks openly about the matters of the heart that are at play for those affected by sex trafficking, including the roles of addiction and pornography. And it's not hopeless; you'll...2024-05-2834 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolThe Best-Kept and Proven Secret for Improving Your Mental HealthMay is mental health awareness month. It's no secret that mental health issues have become a pandemic in our culture. How can Christians navigate their own mental health in ways that are both effective and consistent with their faith? And what might the Christian church have to offer in the broader mental health arena? Joe Padilla, licensed and ordained minister, talks with Dr. Carol about the Mental Health Grace Alliance - validated in scientific journals, and perhaps the largest network of Christian mental health groups worldwide. Combining research-based best practices and Bible-centered curricula, this resource is a...2024-05-2143 min
Men in the Arena - Christian Men's PodcastSex and the Single Christian Man: Honoring God with Your Body Before (or After) Marriage w/ Dr. Carol Tanksley EP 732How should a single Christian man approach sex? What does honoring God look like when single, dating, or divorced? In this second episode in our two-part series on “SEXpectations," Jim Ramos is joined by Carol Tanksley, MD DMin, to discuss biblical principles for how to honor God in your sex life during all seasons. The first episode focused on married sex. This week's interview focuses on sex and the single, dating, and engaged Christian man. Dr. Carol's Book: (Using our link to check out the book helps support our ministry - thanks!) [Honor God through your fitness. Use code 'ARENA30' a...2024-05-1750 minA Minute To Midnite509- Dr Carol Tanksley – Audio Only Version509- Sexuality, Relationships, Spirituality. Get the Help You Need! – Dr Carol Tanksley Right click to Download2024-05-1732 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolWhy Being a Real Man is Different than you Think, and How to Get ThereWith all the talk in the last few years about "toxic masculinity," what is a real man? Does it have to do with doing "manly" things such as sports or being outdoors? It can't be being "nice;" that's not appealing. What's really at the core of being a man, particularly as God intended? Author, radio host, and advocate for children's healing Brant Hansen talks with Dr. Carol on this episode about the kind of men, and especially young men, we need. He describes some critical decisions a young man needs to make, and applies this to relationships...2024-05-1437 minMen in the Arena - Christian Men's PodcastSEXpectations: God’s Design for Your Sex Life w/ Carol Tanksley EP 730Are you disappointed by your sex life? Many Christian men in otherwise happy Christian marriages are not getting the sex they hoped for. There are hidden motivations, lies, and expectations that may be manipulating your views on sex! In this two part series on “SEXpectations," Jim Ramos is joined by Carol Tanksley, MD DMin, to discuss biblical principles for how to honor God in your sex life during all seasons. This first episode focuses on married sex. Next week's interview will focus on sex and the single, dating, and engaged Christian man. Dr. Carol's Book: Sexpectations: -> https://tinyurl.com/sex...2024-05-1054 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolAre You Getting What You Wanted: The Christian Man's Key to the Life You Always WantedWhat did you expect out of life and marriage? Are you getting what you wanted? Life can get busy and overwhelming for a man in the "stress bubble" in trying to manage life, marriage, perhaps kids, career, and trying to be the man God created you to be. You could use some help. Jim Ramos, author, speaker, and founder of Men in the Arena, is Dr. Carol's guest on this episode. They talk about the major mindset shift Jim had to experience that changed everything in his life and especially in his marriage. Husbands will be both e...2024-05-0751 min
Strong Tower Mental Health Podcast170. Redefining Sex and Intimacy with Dr. Carol Tanksley, MD, DMinDid you know that your sex life has a story to tell? Many of us avoid the topic of sex, but our avoidance says more about a key to our freedom that we need to get curious about. It’s an invitation to know God more deeply and authentically. Carol Tanksley, MD, DMin is a licensed ob-gyn physician and wrote a book about the expectations of sex. In this episode you will hear the insights of how she discovered to write the book and highlights we need to know. The book is about reframing your good and not-so-good stories ab...2024-05-0640 min
T Time: Spiritual conversations For, With and About Women.A Conversation with Dr. Carol Tanksley: Understanding Intimacy and Its Role in RelationshipsWhat would it look like to have a God given view of Sex and Intimacy? In this episode of T Time Twanna discusses Understanding God’s desire for us with intimacy and its role in relationships with Dr. Carol Tanksley.00:09 Intro01:13 Biology vs Intimacy04:16 “Sexpectations”07:07 The big deal about sex10:16 Healing from past sexual experiences17:07 The start of “Sexpectations”20:24 God’s view on sexuality and intimacy25:42 Relationship Prescriptions29:51 How Dr. Carol dealt with her sexual dysfunctions34:26 Closing PrayerFor video...2024-05-0137 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolHow to Maintain a Soft Heart in a Hard-edged SocietyThere are many reasons for and ways of becoming hard in our cruel world. You may think a hard heart is a good and protective thing. When harm or disappointment comes, a natural human response is to develop a tough and closed heart. But that also closes you off to the good things God intends for you and wants to work in you. Is there a way to cherish a soft heart in a tough world? Mother, writer, and teacher Charaia Rush is Dr. Carol's guest on this encouraging episode. They talk about how shame and pain...2024-04-3038 min
The Flip Side with Noah FilipiakEp. 95: Dr. Carol Tanksley on Spouses with Differing Levels of Sex Drive & Finding Sexual WholenessNoah interviews Dr. Carol Tanksley on her new book Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories About God, Love, and Relationships. The conversation covers a broad spectrum of topics relating to sexuality for singles and married couples and how each of us are looking for sexual wholeness. Noah and Dr. Carol talk at length about when a husband and wife have different levels of sex drive within a marriage, the problems this can cause, and what can be done about it.
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Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolGetting to the Roots of Sexual Issues and the Way to HealingIf you've been wrestling with sexual "stuff," you may wonder things like, How did I end up this way? Why do I keep doing this? Why do I keep trying harder and nothing seems to change? Why aren't my prayers working? How do I get out of this mess? In this conversation with Dr. Carol, counselor, author, and minister Jay Stringer explains why the details of your story, especially your sexual story, shine the light on the path to healing. He uses attachment theory to explain how we come to be where we are, including how our...2024-04-2347 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolA Transgender's Story of Brokenness, Faith, and HealingTransgender issues have become a hot topic in culture and in the Christian church. Is the cultural narrative missing the point, and if so, where? How can Christians address the distress those struggling with gender issues experience in a redemptive way? Dr. Carol's guest on this fascinating episode is Walt Heyer, who transitioned to living as a woman for eight years, and then de-transitioned back to his birth gender. Walt has now devoted his life and influence to helping others who are struggling with these issues. His faith and relentless pursuit of wholeness will inspire you. 2024-04-1642 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolWhy Information Alone Can't Fix Sexual Brokenness Part IIIn part one of last week's conversation, Dr. Carol described why information alone is not effective in bringing sexual wholeness, and why experiences and true connection is necessary. In part two, you'll hear what Dr. Carol Ministries has already been doing to help people grow into sexual wholeness, and some of the results. And you'll hear about the new kind of experience we are offering to help people bring Jesus into the places they need Him most, and how you - or a friend - can be a part of this. Check out Dr. Carol's...2024-04-0919 min
TypologyBefriending feelings to find wholeness, feat. Dr. Carol Tanksley (Enneagram 5)Dr. Carol Tanksley joins Typology to discuss her journey of self-discovery and the powerful impact learning to see her emotions as knowledge has had on her life. As Dr. Tanksley explains, “When I finally started to understand that it was not knowledge that I needed to quote ‘fix me,’ then I started to make progress. […] Things started to change in my life. I started to come to terms with the emotional and feeling part of me, hence the wing four. I had all kinds of feelings. They were there all the time.” Learning to befriend our feelings opens the door to wh...2024-04-0428 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolWhy Information Alone Can't Fix Sexual Brokenness There's an abundance of information available in regards to sexuality and relationships. But that information has not resulted in any lessening of sexual brokenness - in the culture at large or within the Christian church. Something is missing. In this first of a two-part conversation, Dr. Carol addresses that missing piece by discussing neurobiology, the way God created human beings with the need for intimacy (different from sex), and the process God uses to bring us to integration and wholeness. You'll understand what leads to true change, and why more information doesn't work. Check out...2024-04-0228 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolLove Across the Spectrum: Neurodiversity and Your Christian Marriage If your marriage is difficult, when is it a character issue? And when is it the way someone's brain is wired? How do you respond with grace while protecting your sanity? Neurodiversity, in particular autism spectrum disorder, impacts human relationships deeply, especially marriages. On this episode Dr. Carol talks with Dr. Stephanie Holmes, psychologist and coach specializing in neurodiverse Christian marriages, about how understanding brain wiring provides perspective on living wisely in a difficult marriage, differentiating character issues vs. neurology issues, and provides an honest look at how to find a God-honoring way to function well.2024-03-2637 min
Simply For WomenFrom Broken to Beautiful: Embracing Life's Journey with Dr. Carol TanksleyWhen the pieces of a broken life come together, they can form a mosaic more beautiful than the original; this is a truth Dr. Carol Tanksley embodies. As an OBGYN turned minister, Dr. Carol shares her emotional saga from the throes of mental turmoil to the solace of divine connection. Have you ever felt the transformative power of a single, humble act of faith? Today on Simply For Women, we journey alongside the biblical woman who teaches us the profound impact of reaching out to Jesus in our darkest moments. Thanks for listening to Simply...2024-03-2512 minSimply For WomenHealing Connections Between Mind and Divine with Dr. Carol TanksleyWitnessing a serene sunset always fills my heart with a sense of divine peace, a reminder of the profound connection between our spiritual well-being and the world around us. Today's podcast reaches deep into this connection, as we're joined by Dr. Carol Tanksley, whose wisdom on embracing God's presence promises to inspire and rejuvenate your soul. Have you ever felt the transformative power of a single, humble act of faith? Today on Simply For Women, we journey alongside the biblical woman who teaches us the profound impact of reaching out to Jesus in our darkest moments. 2024-03-2212 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolOne Woman's Journey of Homosexuality, Healing, and JesusSame-sex attraction and homosexuality are hot-button issues both in culture and in the Christian church. But beneath the debates about behavior, as important as those are, there are deeper matters of the heart including the need for attachment and intimacy. How does that connect with what Scripture says about homosexuality? In this challenging and deep episode, Dr. Carol talks with Anne Edward about her own journey through lesbianism, the matters in her heart that led her out of that, and what it's looked like for her to follow Jesus and now minister to countless others wrestling with i...2024-03-1945 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolThe Impact of Narcissistic Abuse in Marriage Confused, emotionally exhausted, or feeling crazy or depressed about your marriage? These might be signs you are being impacted by narcissistic and emotional abuse. Narcissism is a loaded word in our contemporary culture. But how do you know if that's what you're experiencing is your imagination, or is truly toxic? Dr. David Hawkins, director of the Marriage Recovery Center, has been dealing with individuals so affected for over 40 years. He joins Dr. Carol on this episode to provide a sobering picture of the suffering narcissistic and emotional abuse brings, and also to offer some wonderful guidance and hope...2024-03-1253 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolThe Truth About Faith, Trauma, PTSD, and Post-Traumatic GrowthBad things happen even to good people. What happens in a person when they experience trauma or ongoing hardship? There's been a lot of talk in the last few years about trauma-informed care, PTSD, and such. How does all that integrate with faith in God and one's Christian experience? Dr. Shannae Anderson, licensed clinical psychologist, has been working in this field for over 25 years. She talks with Dr. Carol on this episode about integrating psychological trauma-informed care with the Holy Spirit's presence and work in a person's heart to bring healing, growth, meaning, and resilience. They talk...2024-03-0544 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolHow Feeling Entitled to Sex Can Destroy Your MarriageCulture has made many people believe you must have a happy sex life in order to be whole and fulfilled in life. The church has "Christianized" that idea, leading many to believe you are entitled to sex, especially if you're married. But countless Christian married people are finding that doesn't work out well. Author, husband, podcaster, and pastor Noah Filipiak talks with Dr. Carol on this episode about how feeling entitled to sex almost destroyed his marriage, and what he believes now. They talk about the belief some have that sex is the "prize" for getting married...2024-02-2748 min
Susie Larson LiveGod, Love, and Relationships with Dr. Carol TanksleySex is a big deal--yet many Christians struggle to make sense of their sexual story in light of their faith. Dr. Carol Tanksley shares from her book "Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories about God, Love, and Relationships." She offers a redemptive, practical path to sexual wholeness. Faith Radio podcasts are made possible by your support. Give now: click here2024-02-1351 min
Wholly Well JourneyEp 013: Dr. Carol Tanksley on Sexual Wholeness and Restoring a Messy PastWhat does it mean to be sexually whole? In this episode, Stephanie engages in a deep conversation with Dr. Carol Tanksley on the topic of Sexual Wholeness. Dr. Carol, a medical doctor, ordained minister, and relationship coach, shares insights from her latest book, Sexpectations, delving into the complexities of sexuality, intimacy, and healing from sexual brokenness. You'll be guided through an exploration of the differences between sex and intimacy, the various forms of sexual harm individuals may experience, and the journey toward achieving sexual wholeness. Dr. Carol also addresses the importance of ongoing transformation, for...2024-02-1333 min
The Covenant Eyes PodcastMastering the Art of Intimacy: Insights from Dr. Carol TanksleySend us a textWelcome to another insightful episode of The Covenant Eyes Podcast! In this episode, we have the honor of hosting the accomplished Dr. Carol Tanksley – author, speaker, personal coach, and licensed OB-GYN physician. Dr. Carol shares her unique journey, highlighting the profound impact of personal growth and overcoming challenges in her life.Discover the depths of Dr. Carol's ministry as she discusses her latest book, "Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not So Good Stories about God, Love, and Relationships." This candid conversation delves into the complexities of sexuality, relationships, and intimacy, offering va...2024-02-0720 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolHow to Have the Intimacy You Always Wanted in Your MarriageThe illusion that intimacy in marriage just "happens" may not even last as long as the wedding cake. Maybe the intimate connection between you was good but became broken, or maybe you've never had that strong of a connection. What are the practical steps for those who want more from their relationship to actually build true intimacy that lasts? Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith had to wrestle with that question in their own marriage. On this episode they talk with Dr. Carol about not only their story, but the practical framework they've developed to help couples at every...2024-02-0642 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolA Christian Lawyer Addresses Sexual Abuse by Church LeadersTragically there are too many times when a spiritual leader uses their spiritual authority to perpetrate sexual harm and abuse on individuals under their care. The harm such victims experience is deep and long-lasting. And when these individuals seek help, the church's response has too often only added to their pain. In this sobering but enlightening episode Dr. Carol talks with Christian lawyer Boz Tchividjian about clergy sexual abuse in the Protestant church - a cause he has devoted a good share of his career to. Boz has worked for decades on behalf of those who have...2024-01-3044 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolBoundaries for Christians: How to Guard Your Heart and Love WiselyDo you find yourself struggling with people pleasing, unhealthy relationships, avoiding conflict, or trouble setting boundaries? Have you lost yourself along the way of trying to love those closest to you? Perhaps you're suffering and struggle to understand why. On this episode Dr. Carol talks with Courtney Burg about the family-of-origin dynamics that may set you up for codependency and ongoing dysfunction. And then you'll hear how to overcome your fear of setting boundaries, and what that looks like for a follower of Jesus. You can learn to love in ways that are wise and life-giving. 2024-01-1633 min
The Counter Culture Mom Show with Tina GriffinPrevalence of Sexploitation Among Minors Requires Proactive Parenting - Dr. Carol TanksleyTAKEAWAYSParents will not be with their kids all the time, so they must prepare their children to have character and awarenessEveryone needs connection and intimacyShame isolates us from people and even from God - we have a choice to step into the light and disinfect shame with truthWe need to be having conversations with our children that will help them understand their own needs and desires🛠 TOOLS AND RESOURCES FROM EPISODEDownload the Counter Culture Mom App: https://bit.ly/3d2wSYyS...2024-01-1227 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolHow to Help Your Children Adopt Positive Attitudes, Act Righteously, and Develop Healthy HabitsDoes trying to get your children to obey leave you frustrated and upset? And does it seem that if you clamp down harder, your kids only resist more? What if there were a way to help your kids want to "be good," know how to do that, and actually demonstrate a healthy godly character even when you're not watching? Dr. Kathy Koch from Celebrate Kids joins Dr. Carol on this episode to help you learn how to Parent Differently. She offers practical, relatable, and spiritually-related insights and strategies that focus on guiding and growing your kids so...2024-01-0936 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolThe Deeper Meaning of ChristmasThe Christmas season brings lots of emotions; anticipation, hope, joy – and for some, deep loneliness, pain, or grief. Being intentional about how you celebrate the holiday season will make it so much more meaningful. In this holiday episode Dr. Carol talks with Dr. Andrew Fox, pastor and professor, about the deeper meaning of Christmas including some unique and fun differences in how Christmas is celebrated in the U.S. versus Great Britain. Find Dr. Fox on his website, Facebook, Instagram, or YouTube. Check out Dr. Carol's article How to Plan Your Way through the Ho...2023-12-1929 min
Dream Out Loud Podcast2023 Top Rated Podcasts: Carol Tanksley: Coaching Through GriefIn this top-rated replay episode, Carol Tanksley opens up about her journey, what got her into coaching, how processing grief factors into coaching, the lessons she's learned in coaching, and so much more!2023-12-1431 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolFrom Suffering to HopeTo be human is to suffer. And we don't like that! Much of our energy is expended is seeking to prevent or stop suffering. It's not that such efforts are not good; they are. But if we are to get through this human experience with any hope at all, we will need to change our relationship with suffering. To help us do that, Dr. Carol talks with Dr. Curt Thompson, Christian psychiatrist, about the journey from suffering through perseverance and character to the formation of hope. If you suffer, you need to hear this! With deep caring...2023-12-0545 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolHealing Earthly Father Wounds By Connecting with your Heavenly FatherYour relationship - or lack thereof - with your earthly father impacts your relationship with your heavenly Father. If your earthly father was absent, or unpredictable, or harsh and abusive, or neglectful, or emotionally unavailable, you'll experience God the same way. Overcoming father wounds is a challenge for so many people. Kia Stephens has experienced father wounds. In this episode she talks with Dr. Carol about the long process of her healing, and how she has built a healthy relationship with her Heavenly Father. Kia now helps countless others find the same healing - in their earthly...2023-11-2137 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolIt's Not a Zap: Understanding the Process of Spiritual FormationDon't you often wish God would "zap" you from here to there? If you need to change and you ask Him to change you, don't you wish it would happen quickly? But all longterm followers of Jesus discover that spiritual transformation is a process - and one where we learn to cooperate with God. Jonathan Daugherty has experienced that transformation, and now as founder and president of Be Broken Ministries he helps many others experience that as well. In this episode he talks with Dr. Carol about the 3-stage process to become spiritually mature and whole, and...2023-11-1439 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolRedefining the Christian Way of Thinking About Purpose and CallingChristian culture has promoted the idea of purpose and calling. But the struggle to find and fulfill one's purpose and calling has left many feeling frustrated, tired, and discouraged. Longing for significance and greatness seems often futile and disappointing. Do our priorities and perspective need to be changed? Dr. Carol talks with Kelly Needham, Bible teacher, author, wife and mom, about how we've been fooled in our understanding of purpose. Striving for meaning and longing for significance is not fulfilled by things we do, but by Who we know. This conversation just may set you free and...2023-11-0739 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolLiving in Grace: Strengthening Your Marriage with Gospel PrinciplesEvery marriage is the union of two sinners. And that sets every couple up for pain and disappointment. Most couples simply react to the stresses their marriage encounters, or don't think about it much until a crisis hits. Grace and intentionality can change all that. On this episode Dr. Carol talks with Brad and Marilyn Rhoads about how their own marriage was desperately challenging in the beginning, and how grace change both of their hearts. They then address how grace impacts communication, sex, money, and more, and why a foundation of God's grace and being intentional is...2023-10-3138 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolThe Hidden Reasons Men Struggle to Love, and How They Can LearnSobriety is not enough. There are many men who have found sobriety from problematic sexual behaviors, but their relationships are still in tatters. And many women say something like, "My husband doesn't know how to love me." What's missing? Dr. Eddie Capparucci answers these questions in this episode with Dr. Carol, addressing the underlying reasons many men struggle with addiction, sex, and intimacy, and how they can overcome these blind spots. If you want to move beyond stopping bad behavior and experience a truly healthy relationship, this is for you. Check out Dr. Eddie Capparucci's Inner C...2023-10-2442 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolGetting Up Again: How God Uses Adversity and ResilienceWho hasn't felt knocked down, held back, or left out? Perhaps you feel that way now. Whether your problems stem from your own choices and behaviors, or whether you've been harmed by others, there is a pathway back to goodness and a life full of purpose. That pathway involves cooperating with God in changing your mindset and taking positive action. Kimberly Jones, better known as Real Talk Kim, talks with Dr. Carol on this episode about places in her life where she felt stuck, and how she changed her mindset and her actions in becoming the hugely...2023-10-1735 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolHow to Deal with a Narcissist at Home or In ChurchToo often narcissism seems to thrive in our churches as well as in some Christian homes. Navigating out of the pain and dysfunction involved is hard. And Chuck DeGroat has been helping churches, individuals, couples, and church systems address these issues for over 20 years. On this episode Dr. Carol talks with Chuck DeGroat about some of the deeper personal and church system factors that can lead to narcissism, and what's required to find healing both personally and in the church. If you've been harmed by narcissistic abuse you will find this insightful and healing. Connect...2023-10-0341 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolIn the Name of God: The Church's Response to Sexual Abuse and ExploitationSomeone sitting beside you at church, at work, or at school has experienced sexual abuse or exploitation. Perhaps that's even you. Unfortuately, the Christian community's response has not always been effective. Drawing from her own story makes Trish Propson – chaplain, author, speaker, and advocate – a sensitive and engaging voice in bringing hope and healing to those who need to be set free. On this episode Dr. Carol talks with Trish to shine the light on how sexual abuse and exploitation are affecting members of the Christian community, and what the church can do about it. Conn...2023-09-2640 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolStronger Together: Why Close Friends Are Necessary The loneliness epidemic is real, and has a larger impact on physical and mental health than most people realize. But friendship is hard and messy, perhaps more so in our culture today than ever before. Are ongoing authentic friendships really possible? And are they worth the effort and the risks? Lawyer, author, and speaker Justin Whitmel Earley joins Dr. Carol on this episode to talk about how we are all Made for People and the concept of covenant friendship. He talks vulnerably about the difficulties and risks of such friendship, but also about how this is...2023-09-1932 minRelationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolHoly Sexuality: A Gospel-centered Approach to Sex in Today's CultureTeens and young people today are swimming in, drowning in, an unhealthy culture especially around issues of sexuality and gender. Holy sexuality often seems outdated or impossible. But these questions and challenges are not new. Dr. Christopher Yuan joins Dr. Carol in this deep and empowering episode to address holy sexuality - what it is, how it differs from the contemporary mindset, where these challenges come from, and how teens and young people can be discipled to embrace a gospel-centered lifestyle and worldview around issues of sexuality and gender. Check out The Holy Sexuality Project, e...2023-09-1246 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolWhat Does the Bible Really Say About Same-Sex Marriage?Issues around same-sex relationships are "hot topics" both in culture and in the Christian church. And what about same-sex marriage in particular? What does the Bible really say about same-sex marriage? And how should we even go about addressing these kinds of questions? On this no-holds-barred episode Dr. Carol talks with Preston Sprinkle from the Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender, about what the Bible has to say about what marriage IS and how that impacts our conversations around LGB issues. They address how followers of Jesus should both think and behave in theologically faithful and personally c...2023-08-2956 min
Theology in the RawPurity Culture, Female Sexuality, Shame, Body Positivity, Lust, Modesty, and a Theology of Menopause: Dr. Carol TanksleyDr. Carol Tanksley practiced medicine as an OB-Gyn physician and Reproductive Endocrinologist for over 29 years. While continuing to practice medicine, I also obtained an M.Div. (Master of Divinity), and then a D.Min. (Doctor of Ministry) from Oral Roberts University, focusing on Christian leadership. She’s an author of several books that focus on mental, physical, and sexual health from a Christian perspective. In this episode, we talk about the challenges facing Christian women in the wake of purity culture. We talk about shame, body positivity, challenges to female sexual satisfaction and desire, Christian marriages, lust, modesty and clothing, me...2023-08-241h 09
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolDecoding Narcissism: Understanding the Signs and Solutions In Your RelationshipsNarcissism can be an unfounded accusation, and it can also lead to marriage trauma. How do you know if you're living with a narcissist? And what if you might be one? Narcissism creates challenges for any relationship, but especially in the most intimate relationship of marriage. In this episode Dr. Carol talks with Dr. Jake Porter, relational psychotherapist, about the nuances of narcissism, why we all need a bit of it and when it becomes a problem, and some practical things you need to know if you're living with such a person. There's more hope than you...2023-08-2247 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolHealing from Loss: The Importance of Grieving WellWe all experience loss. Small or large, healing from any loss requires grieving well. Many people imagine grief only applies when a loved one dies. It certainly applies then, but for mental, relational, and spiritual health it's important to grieve all our losses. Chuck and Ashley Elliott have experienced losses - individually and together, including loss of trust through pornography use, and loss of children through repeated pregnancy loss. They talk with Dr. Carol on this episode about the impact of grief on relationships with each other, with family and friends, and with God. Connect w...2023-08-1541 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolWhat to Do If You've Been Betrayed in Your RelationshipWhen trust is broken in a marriage there's always an underlying story. Although behaviors absolutely matter, there's more to be addressed. Looking at the matters of the heart for both the betrayer and the betrayed spouse makes a new chapter possible - regardless of what happens in the marriage. In this episode Jessica and Ryan McDaniel talk with Dr. Carol about their story. You may first think it's Ryan's story, but keep listening; it's Jessica's story too! And then they talk about what's happened in both of their hearts, and how they now help other couples work...2023-07-2551 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolMarried But LonelyBeing married and feeling alone may be the worst loneliness of all. Whether or not sex is happening, your heart craves true intimacy. And can true connection happen even after trust has been broken? Danisa and Jorge Suarez did not have good role models to build their marriage on, but they persisted. In this episode Dr. Carol talks with them about what they learned, and their work together now as a couple helping other couples overcome sexual issues or betrayal and build the kind of intimacy they need. They also talk about their heart for helping Christian l...2023-07-1843 min
The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#128 - Is Sex a Problem in Your Marriage? How to Communicate to Increase Intimacy with Your Husband with Guest: Dr. Carol TanksleyDoes Your Husband Expect Sex Even When You Don’t Want It?
Have you experienced trauma in you past that makes intimacy difficult for you?
You want him to feel fulfilled but you just don’t enjoy it?
You WANT this area of your marriage to be healthy, strong and comfortable, but there’s a lot to unpack. You WANT to open up to your husband about it, but you also don’t want to make him feel bad… plus, it’s just plain embarrassing sometimes!
Whether it...2023-07-1528 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolThe Why and How of Talking to Your Kids About Sex If you're a parent, you are likely anxious about talking with your kids about sex. And many parents and others who care about kids feel that the ways most people have been handling "the sex talk" hasn't worked well at all. The Lindas have a different approach than you're used to seeing. In this episode Dr. Carol talks with Linda Noble and Linda Stewart, who are both educators and parents, about the deeper ideas kids need to understand about God's design for the body, sex, love, and relationships, and how parents and mentors can make this a normal p...2023-07-1147 minRelationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolThe Idol Trap: How to Avoid Making Marriage, Singleness, or Parenthood Your Ultimate GoalRelationship status is a big deal. Marriage was God's idea, and He created it to be good. But when we make something God created to be good into an idol, it becomes harmful. We can do that with marriage or parenthood. We can also do that with singleness. In this brief episode Dr. Carol addresses the harm that can come when we turn one of God's good gifts into an idol, and how we must fully live into the relationship status to which God has called us – regardless of whether married, single, or parents - or not.2023-07-0416 min
The Counter Culture Mom Show with Tina GriffinWalking Through the Tough Journey of Infertility Together as a Couple - Dr. Carol TanksleyInfertility can heavily affect marriages when couples begin playing the “shame and blame” gameSupport your partner throughout infertility by reaffirming your unconditional love for them, regardless of whether you have childrenWe are not taught to suffer well in our culture and infertility is a type of suffering that pains many peopleChurch can serve as a highly isolating environment for those who are longing to expand their families🛠 TOOLS AND RESOURCES FROM EPISODEPrimal Life Organics: https://bit.ly/3NwTY8UGuide to Women’s Health Bo...2023-06-2727 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolLiving Without LustLUST. What a disturbing word for many. Is living without lust possible? What is lust, and is it possible to have healthy sexual desire apart from lust? Dr. Carol's guest on this episode believe the answers to those questions is YES. Jay Haug is the executive director of Living Without Lust, an organization helping men who struggle with lust and supporting the Christian leaders who serve them. He shares his own story of sex addiction and the long journey to finding freedom, and what the most important keys to freedom are for anyone experiencing the control of...2023-06-2739 min