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Forgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E46 A Living Legacy: Family Relationship Patterns & Forgiveness with Dr. Ilene CohenFriends,
We inherit more than DNA — we inherit stories, beliefs, and wounds. But we also inherit the power to heal them.
In this episode of Forgiveness is for You, Dr. Ilene Cohen, LMFT, shares how her grandfather’s legacy as a Holocaust survivor shaped her work in forgiveness and family systems therapy. It’s a conversation about breaking cycles and creating new legacies of love.
Dr. Ilene's links:
Website: www.doctorilene.com
IG: @doctorilene
info@drilene.com
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2025-12-0229 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E45: Unconscious Inheritance: A Mother-Daughter Conversation on Generational Trauma & ForgivenessFriends,
In this episode, my adult daughter, Ashlene Silva Dybus, and I talk about what it was like for her to grow up with me — a mother still learning to heal from the effects of Complex PTSD, and how we’ve both come to see the ways trauma quietly travels through generations.
Together, we explore how awareness, compassion, and forgiveness are helping us reshape our family story, one revelation at a time.
In this episode, we talk about:
How trauma shows up in parent–child relationships
Seeing family patterns with fre...
2025-11-2533 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E44: Beyond Labels: Addiction, Identity and ForgivenessFriends,
What happens when the label that once helped you heal begins to hold you back?
In this follow-up to S2E43: Alcohol, the Brain and the Holidays, I continues my conversation with Christie Walker, the Catholic Sobriety Coach, who has been sober for nearly 29 years. What began as a practical talk about staying alcohol-free during the holidays evolved into a deeper reflection on identity, faith, and forgiveness.
We explore the powerful question:
“Do you still identify as a recovering alcoholic after nearly three decades of sobriety?”
The answer opens...
2025-11-1815 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E43: Alcohol, the Brain and the Holidays with Christie WalkerFriends,
The holidays can be full of joy — but also full of challenges when alcohol is part of every celebration. In this episode of Forgiveness is for YOU, I welcome back Christie Walker, the Catholic Sobriety Coach, to talk about how alcohol affects the brain and how to navigate the season sober, grounded, and at peace.
In This Episode You’ll Learn:
How alcohol impacts the brain and behavior
Why identity matters in recovery and sobriety
Practical strategies for navigating family and work events
How to protect children in environments where drinking is pro...
2025-11-1140 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E42: Staying the Course: Addiction Recovery in Marriage with Michele SimpsonFriends,
When addiction enters a marriage, it tests every promise and every ounce of faith. In this episode, Catholic Mindset Coach and founder of St. Monica's Way, Michele Simpson opens up about her decades-long journey of loving a husband with alcoholism while remaining faithful to her Catholic marriage vows.
She shares how she learned to balance compassion with boundaries, find peace amid chaos, and transform her suffering into a ministry that supports other spouses of addicts.
This episode offers hope, wisdom, and perspective for anyone walking the long road of love and recovery.
2025-11-0431 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E41: From Therapy to Mentorship: A New Path to Healing with Adrian & Shae MisiakFriends,
In this powerful episode, we explore an alternative to traditional therapy that may just resonate more deeply than you expected. I’m joined by Adrian and Shae Misiak, graduates of the Catholic Psych Institute’s Mentorship Program — a model that blends psychology and faith in a revolutionary way.
Adrian and Shae share the story of their five-year marriage and their discovery of accompaniment through mentorship. We talk about what mentorship really looks like, how it differs from conventional therapy, and why this model could offer deeper, more sustainable healing for those feeling stuck or disillu...
2025-10-2843 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E40: Forgiving the Unforgettable: Lessons from Dr. David StoopFriends,
Have you ever wondered how to forgive someone when the memory of what they did still feels fresh? In this episode, I explore what it truly means to forgive what you can’t forget.
Drawing from the insightful forgiveness work of the late psychologist Dr. David Stoop and his book Forgiving What You’ll Never Forget, I share personal stories from my own healing journey through trauma, faith, and forgiveness. Together, we’ll unpack why forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting, how to release resentment without denying your pain, and how genuine forgiveness can bring peace ev...
2025-10-2120 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E39: BefriendingYour Inner Child Part 2 with Brya HananFriends,
In this, Part 2 of the Befriending Your Inner Child Series, Catholic therapist Brya Hanan returns to share how she helps clients forgive. We discuss misconceptions about forgiveness in the church and how her 5A Process - Anchor, Acknowledge, Attune, Ask, Act - helps clients practice embodied forgiveness.
Brya Hanan's Links:
bryahananlmft@gmail.com
http://bryahananlmft.com
IG: @bryahananlmft
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2025-10-1415 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E38: Befriending Your Inner Child Part 1 with Brya HananFriends,
Have you ever noticed an adult regress emotionally when faced with challenges—crying easily, throwing tantrums, or shutting down? These are signs that the wounded inner child is running the show.
In this two-part series, I’m joined by Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Brya Hanan, who shares her personal story of healing childhood trauma through inner child integration and her Catholic faith. Now, as a therapist, she helps others befriend their inner child, release old wounds, and move toward wholeness.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
What it means when the in...
2025-10-0738 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E37: Anatomy of a Grudge: Finding Freedom in ForgivenessFriends,
In this episode, I’m joined by my husband, Steve, as we explore the anatomy of a grudge—how it starts, why it lingers, and the cost it demands of us emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
We speak candidly about:
The subtle ways grudges shape our behavior
The role of spiritual dryness in forgiveness
Why unresolved pain often comes from the people closest to us
How grace helps us release what’s been gripping us for too long
🕊️ If you’ve struggled to let go of bitterness, especially toward those in your own family, I inv...
2025-09-3023 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E36: Time to Pause: Facing Collective Trauma TogetherFriends,
In this episode, I ask listeners to take a moment to pause and reflect on the impact of political violence and how it shapes collective trauma. Drawing from personal experiences and historical events, I explore how trauma resonates across communities and generations, and consider the first steps toward healing. I reflect on my own experiences of political violence and how it triggers past wounds. I discuss how trauma manifests in our nervous system and daily lives. I ask listeners to take steps to pause, process, and hold space for difficult emotions and listen to the Gospel o...
2025-09-2321 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E35: Preemptive Apologies: Barriers to Trust and ForgivenessFriends,
Have you ever noticed someone apologizing before doing something wrong, or right before criticizing someone else? This is called a preemptive apology. While it may seem polite or humble, it’s actually a subtle barrier to trust and a roadblock to true forgiveness.
Preemptive apologies create distance, erode integrity, and shift blame. By recognizing and avoiding them, we can build stronger relationships rooted in honesty, accountability, and real forgiveness.
Listen now to uncover how to move beyond preemptive apologies and embrace a path of genuine healing and reconciliation.
Reference: The Lita...
2025-09-1615 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E34: Remembering Rose: A Story of Friendshhip and ForgivenessFriends,
In this special episode of Forgiveness Is for YOU with Dr. Carron Silva, I share a deeply personal tribute to my dear friend of 28 years, Rose Brinks, who recently passed away after a courageous battle with ovarian cancer.
Rose was more than a friend—she was a force of nature. Fierce, faithful, and often unfiltered, she lived life on her terms and touched countless lives with her compassion and strength. From caring for the most vulnerable in her community to challenging me to grow in forgiveness, Rose left behind a legacy of resilience.
...
2025-09-0916 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E33: Helping Teens Heal: Forgiveness, Resilience and Parenting with Jenny KrumdrickIn this episode, Teen Resilience Coach Jenny Krumdrich shares practical, faith‑centered tools parents and teens can use to build emotional resilience and prevent familial estrangement. Jenny explains mindset work, quick exercises to calm panic, communication strategies, and how parents can model healthy behavior.
We discuss the root causes of teen anxiety—comparison, perfectionism, and the pressure to earn worth—and offer accessible approaches, including family coaching, parent resources, and forgiveness practices to rebuild trust and strengthen relationships.
Jenny's links:
Email: joyfuljenny@contagiouslight.org
Website: www.ContagiousLight.org
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2025-09-0236 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E32 Race, Family and Forgiveness: Finding Myself at 40 with Kristina TalbotFriends,
What happens when a family secret changes everything you thought you knew about yourself?
At 40, Kristina Talbot was settled in her career, marriage, and identity—until her mother, in the early stages of Alzheimer’s, revealed that Kristina’s biological father was African American. Suddenly, she discovered four siblings, a large extended family, and a biracial identity she had never considered before.
In this conversation, we talk about:
The impact of race on identity and belonging
Navigating a parent’s mental decline while facing life-changing truths
Meeting and connecting with new family m...
2025-08-2635 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E31 Forgiving the Unforgivable: Kimberly Haar's Story of Thriving After ViolenceFriends,
In this episode, Kimberly Haar, a seasoned therapist and author shares her story of overcoming trauma and betrayal and the attempted murder of her boyfriend by her ex-husband. Kimberly's story is one of triumph over trauma, highlighting the power of forgiveness and faith in rebuilding her life.
Through candid conversation, Kimberly unveils the emotional and spiritual challenges she faced after a devastating experience with her ex-husband. Despite the profound hurt, she chose a path of forgiveness, demonstrating that healing is possible even in the darkest of times.
Discover the transformative power of l...
2025-08-1936 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E30: Acceptance, Frogiveness and Boundaries: A Healing Path for Estranged Adult ChildrenFriends,
In this episode, I offer insight and guidance for adult children navigating no contact or limited contact with parents.
You'll hear reflections from my own story and insights on how to hold firm yet merciful boundaries, challenge inherited beliefs, and gently open the door to healing—even if reconciliation feels out of reach.
In this episode, I explore:
What to do when estrangement feels like the only safe option
How to examine and challenge inherited family narratives and judgments
The importance of self-forgiveness in healing fractured relationships
Setting boundaries that are cle...
2025-08-1217 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E29 Estranged: A Parent's Guide to Forgiveness and Healing Family RiftsFriends,
In this episode, I dive deep into the painful phenomenon of family estrangement, where adult children enforce no-contact orders with their parents, leaving many elderly individuals isolated from their families and grandchildren. I explore the emotional turmoil experienced by these grandparents and discuss the importance of forgiveness in healing long-standing family wounds.
I share practical tips for sidelined grandparents on how to navigate the chasm created by generational differences and past conflicts and offer a series of steps to foster healing, including taking an inventory of past injuries, respecting boundaries, and seeking professional help...
2025-08-0516 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E28 Hearing God's Voice with Jonna SchusterFriends,
In today's episode, Jonna Schuster, author of the book Hearing God's Voice, shares her experiences of growing in the ability to discern God's voice in prayer and tips for how you can determine whether you are hearing yourself, the enemy, or God in prayer. Jonna is the cofounder of Catholic Revival Ministries and helps Catholics grow in holiness by developing a personal relationship with the Lord through the gifts of the Holy Spirit.
Jonna's gentleness is a reflection of her relationship with the Trinity and I felt truly blessed to participate in this interview ab...
2025-07-2936 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E27 Marriage Under Attack: Facing Spiritual Battles TogetherFriends,
This episode features special guests Colin and Jean MacKenzie, founders of Holy Union Connect, a faith-based ministry to help couples fortify their marriages against both earthly and spiritual challenges.
Join the conversation as Colin, Jean, and I delve into the Catholic teachings on marriage, the importance of prayer, and how couples can support each other in times of spiritual attack. Drawing upon their personal experiences and professional backgrounds, the MacKenzies offer practical insights and guidance for couples seeking a Christ-centered relationship.
Whether you're navigating marital challenges or simply looking to deepen your...
2025-07-2248 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E26 Marriage and Motherhood: When In-Laws Cross Boundaries Part 2Friends,
In this episode, my guest, Miriam Susan, and I discuss the challenges of balancing parental expectations with the needs of a growing family. She shares personal stories about the difficulties faced when dealing with in-laws, particularly the struggle to establish and maintain healthy boundaries.
Miriam shares her forgiveness journey, highlighting how forgiveness can be achieved without necessarily reconciling with those who've caused harm.
Miriam's Links
Email: hello@desiringpeace.com
Website: https://www.DesiringPeace.com
Free Resource: 5 Signs You're Not Too Sensitive and % Emergency Scripts https://DesiringPeace.co...
2025-07-1523 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E25 Marriage & Motherhood: When In-Laws Cross Boundaries Part 1Friends,
In this, part one of a two-part series, Miriam Susan, a Catholic wife and mother of six, and host of the podcast Catholic Wives Desiring Peace, shares her decades-long journey navigating the emotional and spiritual toll of intrusive in-laws. Grounded in Scripture and lived experience, she reveals how faith helped her uphold the sanctity of marriage while enforcing boundaries with charity and clarity. If you've ever struggled with in-law conflict, this honest and hope-filled conversation is for you.
Miriam's Links:
Email: hello@desiringpeace.com
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ro/po...
2025-07-0834 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E24 Those Who Mourn: Navigating Guilt, Loss and Forgiveness with Eileen TullyFriends,
In today's episode, Eileen Tully, a Catholic wife, mother, and founder of the Sursum Corda apostolate, shares her story of losing her twin daughters and the painful yet transformative decade-long journey of healing that followed.
Together, we discuss:
How grief can impact our relationship with God, ourselves, and others
The role of guilt in the grieving process and how to release it through forgiveness
Faith as a tool for navigating the most difficult times in life
Practical steps for grieving Catholics to stay connected to their f...
2025-07-0145 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E23 Make America Charitable Again: An Immigrant's Plea for Mercy, not DebateFriends,
In this episode, I draw connections between my experiences as an immigrant to the United States and the Gospel of Jesus Christ in light of recent social media experiences. There are things immigrants know that others don’t. The sacrifice is deep—cutting ties with home, family, traditions, and futures imagined. We lose birthdays and funerals, the smell of our mothers' food, and the feeling of our language being spoken without judgment.
And now, as Catholic spaces online erupt with harsh, often dehumanizing rhetoric about immigrants—many of whom are people like me—I feel hear...
2025-06-2417 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E22 The Dating Crisis: Faith, Forgiveness and Finding Love with Hannah DustmanFriends,
In this episode, we dive into the challenges of modern dating and the journey towards self-forgiveness, featuring a heartfelt conversation with Hannah Dustman, Director of Client Engagement at Metanoia Catholic. Hannah, who is engaged to be married, shares her experiences navigating an increasingly complex dating environment while staying true to her faith and values.
We explore the impact of past choices on present relationships, the importance of self-compassion and openness to divine guidance in the search for love, and the pressure on young adults from societal expectations and family. Hannah offers insights for parents...
2025-06-1732 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E21 Internalized Trauma and ForgivenessFriends,
In this episode, I make the crucial distinction between internalized trauma and genuine offenses. I explore the long-term consequences of overt and covert traumas and shed light on how these experiences shape our identities and relationships, often leading to misplaced responsibility and forgiveness.
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2025-06-1011 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E20 When Stories Hurt and Heal: A Storytelling Coach on Forgiveness and Faith with Emanuela HallFriends,
In this episode, storytelling coach Emanuela Hall, a homeschooling Catholic revert and mother of three shares her story of rediscovering the Catholic faith, navigating the challenges of marriage and motherhood, and embracing the healing power of storytelling.
Through this episode, we explore how faith and forgiveness have shaped Emanuela's life and how our own stories have the potential to heal others. Don't miss this inspiring conversation on finding faith and moving forward with grace and hope.
Emanuela's Links:
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On Camera Checklist + Script Outline https://mailchi.mp/f...
2025-06-0338 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E19 Unforgiveness and Fertility: Restoring Balance at the Cellular Level with Viola StephensFriends,
In this episode, my guest, Viola Stephens, a certified metabolic nutrition and detoxification coach, and I delve into how emotional and physical forgiveness can aid healing, especially in women facing infertility challenges. Viola shares her story journey from misunderstanding food to becoming a firm believer in its power to heal the body at the cellular level. Her transformation began with a radical change to organic food, bringing hope to her marriage and restoring their fertility.
Gain insights into the connection between our diet, emotional states, and spiritual lives, and how embracing God's natural design...
2025-05-2736 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E18 Grief, Faith & Forgiveness: A Conversation with Allison BrownFriends,
In this episode, my guest, Allison Brown, and I delve into the intertwined experiences of faith, grief, and forgiveness. We explore how faith can be both a source of comfort and struggle, particularly in the face of miscarriage—a topic often shrouded in stigma and silence.
Allison reveals how the child loss has shaped her understanding of joy amidst suffering and the transformative power of forgiveness.
She discusses how having healthy boundaries with self and others have helped her overcome trauma.
We address the often-overlooked pain of miscarriage within the chu...
2025-05-2035 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E17 The Power of Forgiveness in Marriage Part 2Friends,
As the guest on this part 2 of the Connected Conversations Holy Union Connect podcast, with hosts Jean and Colin McKenzie and I delve deep into the complexities of marriage, family dynamics, and the transformative power of forgiveness. I share my personal journey through family trauma, revealing how understanding and zooming out on personal histories can foster forgiveness and healing. The conversation underscores the importance of embracing whole stories, recognizing cultural and personal differences, and the integral role faith plays in the healing process.
The MacKenzie's Links:
Instagram: [@holyunionconnect](https://www.instagram.com...
2025-05-1325 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E16 The Power of Forgiveness in Marriage Part 1Friends,
In the next two episodes, I am on the other side of the microphone as a guest with Jean and Colin MacKenzie, hosts of the podcast, Connected Conversations with Holy Union Connect. I share my insights on misconceptions about forgiveness, the intersection of faith and science, and the transformative power of leaning into the Holy Spirit for guidance. We explore the nuances of unresolved childhood trauma and its impact on marriage. This episode offers valuable tools and encouragement for couples striving to overcome struggles and embrace forgiveness as a journey rather than a destination.
...
2025-05-0635 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E15 Escaping Porn's Trap: A Raw, Honest Talk with Freedom Coach Steve PokornyFriends,
In this episode, Steve Pokorny, Founder of Freedom Coaching, a Catholic Apostolate, shares his journey of healing from pornography addiction and how he now helps others regain their freedom. We discuss the traumatic effect of porn exposure on children and the devastating effects on physical intimacy in marriage. Steve describes a four-step process he uses to help men and women who struggle with pornified images break free from the prison of pornography addiction.
Please help normalize open discussions about the effects of pornography by sharing this episode with parents and anyone who may need...
2025-04-2941 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E14 Finding the Father's Love: The Power of One Adult in Trauma RecoveryFriends,
In this episode, I reflect on my Lenten journey with the KNOWN program and my quest to have a deeper relationship with The Father. I talk about the findings of the Adverse Childhood Experiences Study that emphasize the impact one caring adult can have on the future outcomes for children in trauma. I tell about my uncle Isaac John Michaels, who represents the love of the Father that I so needed as a young child exposed to domestic violence. I pay tribute to him by reading an excerpt from my book, With You Always, A Journey w...
2025-04-2213 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E13: Breaking the Code of Silence Part 2: Healing from Domestic Violence with Shelly Edwards Jorgensen**Content Warning**This episode contains content not suitable for minors and may activate traumatic memories related to domestic violence. So if little ones are within earshot, stop the recording, grab your earbuds, or listen another time.
Friends,
In this episode, Part 2 of Breaking the Code of Silence: Healing from Domestic Violence, Shelly Edwards Jorgensen and I disc
uss how she navigates life as a “normal” teen and her healing process in the aftermath of her profound losses. She shares the lessons she learned on her journey of healing through forgiveness. Her perspective on just...
2025-04-1526 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E12 Breaking the Code of Silence Part 1: Healing from Domestic Violence with Shelly Edwards Jorgensen**Content Warning** This episode contains images of domestic violence not suitable for minors. Please use discretion when listening.
Friends,
In today's episode, I speak with author and domestic abuse survivor Shelley Edwards Jorgensen. Shelley shares her traumatic experiences growing up amidst domestic violence, culminating in the tragic murder of her mother by her father. Through her narrative, we explore the complex dynamics of familial abuse and the burdens it places on children.
Drawing from her book Beautiful Ashes: A True Story of Murder, Betrayal, and One Woman's Search for Peace, Shelley recounts heartbreaking...
2025-04-0840 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E11 Choosing Forgiveness: Fr. Thomas Berg on Healing, Catholic Guilt and ReconciliationFriends,
In today’s episode, I welcome guest, Fr. Thomas Berg, an author, speaker on issues regarding church life, and visiting Professor of the Practice at the McGrath Institute for Church Life. He holds a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Rome’s Pontifical University Regina Apostolorum. Fr. Tom’s work centers on seminarian formation and healing those wounded by clergy sexual abuse. He and I discuss his co-authored book with Dr. Timothy Lock, Choosing Forgiveness: Unleash the Power of God’s Grace. Among other topics, we explore the act of forgiveness, the phenomenon of “Catholic guilt”, the four-step fo...
2025-04-0138 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E4 Woman, Know Your Worth! with Dana NygaardFriends,
In today's episode, I sit down with Psychotherapist Dana Nygaard, who combines psychotherapy and deliverance ministry to assist women in recognizing and overcoming toxic relationship patterns. Discover the importance of self-forgiveness and how unresolved issues can hinder trust and love.
Dana explains the significance of secure attachment and how healing family of origin wounds can lead to fulfilling, God-centered relationships. Learn practical steps to heal from past hurts and gain the confidence to choose wisely in future relationships.
Dana's Links:
Websites:
https://www.dananygaard.com/
https://w...
2025-03-3037 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E10 Addiction Recovery, Brotherhood & Forgiveness with Kenneth HarouffFriends
In today’s episode, Catholic Men’s Coach Kenneth Harouff shares his story of alcohol addiction recovery, betrayal, and forgiveness in marriage. We discuss the role of community in recovery and growth and the importance of self-ownership and communal accountability. We talk about spiritual bypassing and the need for more conversations about digging deeper into our somatic experience in recovery from addiction and within intimate relationships.
Kenneth's Links:
Kenneth@catholicmenscoaching.com
www.catholicmenscoaching.com
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2025-03-2541 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E9 Trauma Reenactment, Sin and Redemption*Content Warning* This episode contains content not suitable for minors and may activate traumatic memories.
Friends,
In this episode, I make distinctions between sexual sin and trauma reenactment as a result of early childhood sexual abuse. I address feelings of shame and use examples from my story to demonstrate how beliefs about sin can keep us trapped in self-condemnation and prevent healing. I share personal insights about agency within mental illness, self-forgiveness, and the healing presence of the Father.
References:
Herman, J. L. (1992). Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abus...
2025-03-1816 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E8 How LOVE Heals with Isaac WickerFriends,
In today's episode, Isaac Wicker, a Catholic licensed therapist and co-creator of the groundbreaking KNOWN program, and I delve into the profound impacts of understanding the transformative power of the Father's love and forgiveness.
Isaac shares his journey from childhood sensitivity to the big questions of life to becoming a wise therapist who combines therapy and his Catholic faith to bring healing. He tells about the impact of the KNOWN program on his students. As a student of the program, I talk about the wisdom of the lessons and how it has made a d...
2025-03-1138 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E7 Parts Work: A Path to Forgiveness with Margaret SchayFriends,
In this episode, I am joined by Margaret Schay, a Catholic Mindset Coach and Executive Director of Right to Life of Louisville. Margaret shares her journey of childhood trauma, perinatal loss, and healing through forgiveness. She emphasizes the importance of tuning into your body and embracing parts work, or Internal Family Systems(IFS) therapy to establish inner security and peace. We discuss the concept of Saint Pope John Paul II's Theology of the Body, the profound impact of acknowledging our inner world, and how these practices align with Catholic spirituality to foster a life of abundance...
2025-03-0339 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E6 Becoming A Student of ForgivenessFriends,
In this episode, I challenge the notion that forgiveness is something we should just automatically know and I advocate for the study of forgiveness as a life skill. I delve a little deeper into a poll I conducted about a forgiveness course offering and give a rationale for why it's important to become a student of forgiveness. I explore the benefits forgiveness offers, from improving sleep, aiding weight loss, healing deep emotional wounds, and the connection between unresolved trauma and physical health.
I use personal examples of how forgiveness is a skill we develop ov...
2025-02-2516 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E5 The Power of Music in Forgiveness with Bill MullinFriends,
In this episode, I sit down with Bill Mullin, the creative mind behind the podcast musical "As I Recall Forever." Discover how Bill's work blends art and faith to explore themes of forgiveness and redemption. Through his unique musical compositions, Bill reveals how forgiveness can be a transformative force in our lives.
Delve into Bill's personal journey as he shares stories of overcoming guilt, embracing faith, and finding purpose in his creative pursuits. His musical, a tapestry of life experiences, invites listeners to reflect on their own paths towards forgiveness.
Bill Mullin's...
2025-02-1833 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E3 End of Life, Grief and Forgiveness with Nicole HaugenFriends,
In today's episode, I am joined by Hospice Nurse and Grief Coach Nichole Haugen as we discuss her work with those at the end of life, grief, and the forgiveness process.
Through her story, Nicole provides valuable insights and tips on navigating grief and forgiving oneself and others. Nichole offers a glimpse into the power of faith and acceptance in finding peace amidst life's challenges.
Unwinding golf ball video:
https://youtu.be/2nmmwFJ-poI?si=htm0VurlwI5VewVu
Nichole's website: https://nursegriefcoaching.com/
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2025-02-0427 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E2 He Chose her Over Us with Kerri BishopFriends,
In this episode, my guest, Kerri Bishop, shares her story of facing an unexpected and devastating betrayal in her marriage. On Mother's Day 2009, while pregnant with her fifth child, her husband left her, their four boys, and one on the way, leading to a tumultuous period of loss and self-discovery.
Amidst the chaos of losing her home and grappling with her identity, Kerri found solace and direction in her faith. She embarked on a transformative quest, taking on life's challenges and emerging stronger. Her story is a testament to the power of forgiveness, as...
2025-01-2834 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E1 New Beginnings: Gratitude, Farming, and a MasterclassFriends,
Welcome to Season 2 of the Forgiveness Is For You podcast! In this episode, I give a brief update on Season 1 and share what's coming in 2025, including a major relocation to New Mexico where my husband and I will embark on a new mission combining farm life and healing retreat opportunities.
I share an update on my forgiveness masterclass in development, designed to address deep misconceptions about forgiveness and explore trauma's impact on the ability to forgive.
This episode also delves into feedback from a recent poll I conducted on the interest in...
2025-01-2110 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E55 Election 2024 & The Gift of ForgivenessFriends,
In this episode, my husband, Steve Silva, and I delve into the emotional journey of losing a long-standing friendship following the recent election. As we discuss the power and liberation that forgiveness provides, we explore ways to bridge the political divide, especially during the holidays. We share insights on managing emotions and setting boundaries while emphasizing the importance of self-giving and understanding.
We introduce Pope St. John Paul II's 'The Law of the Gift' and how it embodies the essence of selflessness and share how our brains are wired for community.
If yo...
2024-12-1724 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E54 Birth Trauma Recovery & Forgiveness with Brigid TebaldiFriends,
*Content warning* In today's episode, Birth Trauma Recovery Coach Brigid Tebaldi and I discuss obstetric violence and the trauma some women experience when giving birth. This topic is not for minor ears and could be triggering for those who have suffered infertility or traumatic births. Please use discretion when listening.
If like me, you’ve never even heard these terms before, it's worth a listen. This information is valuable for both men and women, because you know what? It takes two to tango and two to heal together from the trauma that might have bee...
2024-12-1041 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E53 A Saintly Prayer for Each Day with Belinda Terro MooneyFriends,
In Episode 50, I interviewed speaker, coach, author, and Master Licenced Clinical Social Worker and Professor Belinda Terro Mooney about her career as an addictions counselor and how she's navigated forgiveness in her own life and with clients. In this second half of the interview, we talk about her Carmelite spirituality and her latest book, Pray with Us, A Saint for Each Day. I introduce the episode with a brief background on the saints and my experience of adapting to the belief in the intercession of saints as a new Catholic believer.
Belinda's links:
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2024-12-0322 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E52 Holiday Sobriety Tips from The Catholic Sobriety Coach Christie WalkerFriends,
In this episode, for many, the Holidays are a time of stress, and alcohol addiction can increase anxiety as those who struggle with alcohol and those who love them navigate family gatherings, workplace celebrations, and even winter vacation trips to warmer places.
In this episode, Catholic Sobriety Coach Christie Walker shares the story of her destructive dance with alcohol, staying sober for over 27 years, and now helping high- achieving women navigate sobriety. Christie shares tips for how to navigate alcohol to protect your relationships from this enemy of peace during the holidays.
If...
2024-11-2642 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E51 Freedom to Love: The Battle Plan to Fight Porn Addiction with Jeremy RohrFriends,
In this episode, husband, father, and founder of Freedom to Love, Jeremy Rohr and I delve into the sensitive and pressing issue of pornography and masturbation's impact on emotional and psychological development. Jeremy shares his journey of overcoming addiction and how he now empowers fathers and sons to break free from the cycle of guilt and shame.
Jeremy recounts his early exposure to pornography and the struggles it brought into his life, including the misconceptions and challenges it posed in his marriage. Through candid conversation, he highlights the importance of understanding God's purpose for...
2024-11-1941 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E50 Forgiveness and Overcoming Addiction with Belinda Terro MooneyFriends,
In this episode, I interview Belinda Terro Mooney, a remarkable woman who has transformed her life's challenges into a mission of hope and healing for others. Belinda's journey is one of resilience, having navigated through personal trauma to become an addictions counselor, college professor, author, speaker, and mindset coach.
As part one of a two-part series, Belinda shares her story of growing up in a family affected by addiction and how it shaped her path toward helping others. She opens up about her work in the prison system, her role as a homeschooling mother, an...
2024-11-1241 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessSpecial Edition! You're Invited: Uncover Your Forgiveness Habits WorkshopFriend,
In this special edition, I invite you to a brand new workshop I created called Uncover Your Forgiveness Habits.
I wonder if you resonate with any of these:
You were, at some point, forced to say you were sorry as a child when you didn’t actually mean it.
A caregiver may have punished you for an infraction you were accused of without hearing your side of the story and made you apologize.
You saw people in your life say, “It’s OK” but hide their resentment.
The offended party might have brushed off the i...
2024-11-0705 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E49 Healing Our Parts: Internal Family Systems Therapy with Claire SchiemerFriends,
In this episode, I sit down with Licensed Therapist and Coach Claire Schiemer to discuss the transformative power of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. As an advocate for integrating spirituality into healing, Claire shares her journey and expertise in using IFS to help clients navigate trauma and find forgiveness.
Claire explains the fundamentals of IFS, highlighting how it views symptoms as parts of ourselves that need compassion and integration, rather than problems to be fixed. By understanding and addressing these parts, individuals can achieve deeper healing. The conversation also explores the profound connection between I...
2024-11-0533 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E48 The Reality and Nature of Spiritual Warfare with Fr. Ken GeraciFriends,
In today's episode, Father Ken Geraci of the Fathers of Mercy shares his journey from a secular life to embracing the priesthood, highlighting the transformative power of faith. We discuss the nature of spiritual warfare, explore the dangers of complacency in faith, and the importance of engaging actively in this cosmic battle for our souls.
The conversation also delves into the power of the Divine Mercy Chaplet and the Sacrament of Reconciliation, offering insights on how these spiritual tools can aid in healing and forgiveness.
Join me and Father Ken as we exp...
2024-10-2942 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E47 Uncover Your Forgiveness HabitsFriends,
In this episode, I dive into the world of habits, specifically focusing on "forgiveness habits" and how they shape our lives. Discover how your upbringing and the behavior patterns of your caregivers influenced your ability to forgive or hold onto resentment.
I explore five key points of awareness that contribute to your forgiveness habits: your unique design, values, belief system, family of origin, and perception of agency. Through reflective exercises, learn how to identify and transform negative patterns into positive, healthy forgiveness habits.
Relevant Links:
https://www.etymonline.com/word...
2024-10-2209 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E46 Steps to Overcoming Self-CondemnationFriends,
The hardest thing one can encounter in life is forgiving one's own transgressions. In this episode, I review research studies on self-forgiveness, self-exoneration, and the cycle of self-condemnation as presented in the Handbook of Forgiveness. Additionally, I contribute tips for mindset work to eliminate rumination in the cycle of condemnation and offer an easy-to-understand process for overcoming self-condemnation presented in the research literature.
Whether you're struggling to forgive yourself or others, this episode provides valuable tools and perspectives to aid in your journey toward forgiveness.
To learn more about the Handbook of Fo...
2024-10-1513 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E45 What's Your Forgiveness Attachment Style?Friends,
In this episode, I delve into the psychological concept of attachment and how our early childhood experiences with caregivers influence our approach to conflict and forgiveness.
I discuss the foundational work of psychologists like John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, who identified various attachment styles—secure, avoidant, anxious, and disorganized—and their implications for our adult relationships. Learn how these styles can affect your capacity to forgive and navigate conflicts effectively.
Discover why securely attached individuals might find forgiveness more accessible, while those with anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachments face unique challenges in letti...
2024-10-0813 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E44 The Stewardship of ForgivenessFriends,
In this episode, I explore the concept of forgiveness as an area of stewardship. Drawing inspiration from biblical parables and stories, I delve into how forgiveness can be seen as a valuable gift from God that we are called to steward wisely.
I reflect on the parable of the talents and the story of Joseph to illustrate the importance of using the gift of forgiveness to heal and grow spiritually. I also share practical insights on how to become better stewards of forgiveness in our daily lives, emphasizing that the more we forgive, the m...
2024-09-3011 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E43 Forgiving Spiritual Betrayal with Lisa LeopoldFriends,
In this episode, my guest Lisa Leopold, a faith-based counselor and survivor of spiritual betrayal, touches on a topic that some find taboo to discuss. Lisa shares her deeply personal journey of overcoming trauma in a fractured family, spiritual betrayal, and her struggle with forgiveness.
We discuss the impact of spiritual abuse and the role of forgiveness in healing. This episode offers profound insights and practical advice for anyone struggling with forgiveness after being betrayed by someone who was supposed to help bring them closer to God. Lisa's story is a testament to the r...
2024-09-2437 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E42 Healing through Forgiveness After Abortion with Elsa Escobedo Lopez*Content Warning*
Friends,
In this episode, I am joined by Elsa Escobedo-Lopez, an occupational therapist, mother, and wife of 35 years, who shares her powerful story of overcoming the trauma of abortion through forgiveness. Elsa opens up about her journey of post-abortive forgiveness and how she now helps others heal from the pain of abortion as a healing retreat facilitator.
This is a heartfelt conversation about the complexities of forgiveness, the impact of trauma, and the importance of community support in the healing journey. Whether you have been affected by abortion or are struggling wi...
2024-09-1747 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E41 From Apartheid to Forgiveness: Part 2: Coming to America*Mature Content Warning*
Friends,
In this episode, I take the guest chair for Part 2 with Heather Gaffney from the Warrior Words Podcast to share my journey from Apartheid South Africa to life as an immigrant in the United States. We talk about the importance of forgiveness in the healing of political terror.
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Dr. Carron discusses her early life in a segregated South African school, her involvement in the resistance against Apartheid, and her unexpected path to the U.S. She recounts the profound cultural shifts, the challenges sh...
2024-09-1033 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E40 From Apartheid to Forgiveness Part 1Friends,
In the next two episodes, I am in the guest’s chair as I share my story on the Warrior Words podcast with Heather Gaffney. Heather shares stories of people who have experienced trauma and have learned how to thrive despite what happened to them. She looks for the beauty in the broken. In this episode, I talk about growing up under the political system of Apartheid in South Africa. By sharing these episodes, I hope that you can see why it’s so important for me to teach forgiveness as a life skill and accompany thos...
2024-09-0330 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E39 Forgiving and Praying For Yourself with Justin VeazeyFriends,
In this episode, my guest Justin Veazey, an IT consultant and father of seven, and I delve into the complexities of praying for oneself. Justin shares his journey of overcoming the hesitation to pray for himself and how it has deepened his trust in God.
We discuss the challenges of self-love, the misconceptions around it, and the importance of recognizing one's own value. We explore how self-forgiveness plays a crucial role in this process and how it aligns with loving others as oneself.
Join us as we unpack practical steps to start...
2024-08-2728 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E38 Healing Hearts through Unbound Prayer with Deanna BartaliniFriends,
In this episode, I sit down with Deanna Bartolini, an experienced Unbound Prayer Minister, to delve into the transformative power of Unbound Prayer Ministry.
Through heartfelt stories and personal experiences, Deanna shares how this unique prayer practice has brought profound healing to many, including herself. We discuss the importance of forgiveness, the role of the intercessor, and how Unbound Prayer can help release burdens and foster spiritual freedom.
Deanna also provides insights into the five keys of Unbound Prayer and explains how listeners can access this ministry or become prayer ministers themselves.
2024-08-2031 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E37 Ignatian Prayer Practices with Kylie HeinFriends,
In this episode, Prayer Warrior, Spiritual Director, and Mindset Coach, Kylie Hein, shares her journey with Ignatian spirituality, revealing how the spiritual exercises of St. Ignatius of Loyola can guide us in healing and forgiveness.
Discover the significance of contemplative and mental prayer, the practice of the daily Examen, and how imaginative prayer can place us in the Gospel scenes to deepen our connection with God. Whether you’re struggling to forgive others or yourself, this episode offers practical insights and spiritual tools to help you on your journey.
Tune in to lea...
2024-08-1341 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E36 The Power of Prayer in Forgiveness: Practical Insights for Personal GrowthFriends,
During July we explored mourning loss in the forgiveness process. You heard interviews with Mama Jane, who struggled with fertility, Dr. Abby Jorgensen, who supports families experiencing perinatal loss, and Paige McLemore, whose sister was tragically murdered. Forgiveness involves loss, but it also brings hope, accessible through prayer.
In August, we will delve into various forms of prayer and devotion, focusing on inner healing prayer to soften our hearts towards self-forgiveness and forgiving others.
In today's episode, we explore what prayer is, different types of prayer, and their importance in the forgiveness...
2024-08-0615 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E35 Navigating Perinatal Loss with Dr. Abby Jorgensen*Content Warning* Infant and Childbirth loss.
Friends,
In this week's episode, I delve into the delicate topic of perinatal loss with bereavement doula and sociology professor, Dr. Abby Jorgensen. Discover how Dr. Jorgensen helps families navigate the process of forgiveness, and the complex emotions that accompany such profound loss.
We explore her unique role in supporting parents through the stages of grief, providing both emotional and practical support. Dr. Jorgensen shares her journey into this field, the intersection of her sociological expertise with her doula work, and the importance of validating grief in ou...
2024-07-3037 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E34: I Forgave My Sister's MurdererFriend,
This week I welcome Paige McLemore, Middle School Principal and Forgiveness Ministry Founder, who shares her remarkable journey of forgiving her sister Lee's murderer after 20 years of wrestling with hatred.
Paige opens up about her life before and after the tragedy, the immense grief and anger she faced, and how she eventually found peace and joy through her obedience to Christ. She discusses the transformative power of forgiveness, not just for others, but also for oneself, and how it led to a life filled with love, grace, and purpose.
This episode is a...
2024-07-2345 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E33 Navigating Infertility with Mama Jane Snyder*Content Warning* This episode contains mature content not intended for persons under the age of 18.
Friends,
In this episode, I am joined by Mama Jane Snyder, a fertility awareness instructor and Catholic Mindset Coach. Together, we explore the emotional and spiritual challenges of infertility, emphasizing the importance of forgiveness and self-compassion.
Jane shares her journey through seven years of infertility and how she now supports couples in similar situations. We discuss the unitive and procreative aspects of marriage, the cultural silence around infertility, and the impact of faith in navigating these challenges. This e...
2024-07-1637 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E32 Grief, Betrayal and Healing in ForgivenessFriends,
In this episode, we delve into the complex emotions surrounding forgiveness, particularly in the aftermath of betrayal and deep personal loss. My exploration is framed by personal reflections on a former colleague's shocking conviction for sexual assault on minors, a person I worked closely with for 14 years. This experience has led me to reflect deeply on grief, identity, and the forgiveness process.
I compare grieving stages to phases of forgiveness, drawing from Bowlby and Parkes’ Four Phases of Grief Model, and use personal anecdotes and insights into how to navigate through these emotional phases....
2024-07-0914 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E31 The Price of Revenge: A Scientific and Biblical PerspectiveIn this podcast episode, I explore the concept of revenge through scientific research and Catholic teachings. I begin by examining the contrast between a heart of stone, hardened by experiences of injustice, and a heart of flesh, capable of forgiveness and love.
Drawing from the Catechism of the Catholic Church and psychological research, I discuss how revenge impacts individuals psychologically and spiritually, often leading to further harm rather than healing.
The episode emphasizes the transformative power of forgiveness, highlighting its role in restoring inner peace and aligning oneself with God's compassion. Ultimately, it encourages listeners...
2024-07-0214 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E29 A Legacy of Love with Theresa EppichIn this episode, Canadian Teresa Eppich, a fifth-grade teacher and author of the book A Legacy of Love, How a Holocaust Survivor Inspired Me to Live with Greater Freedom and Purpose shares the profound impact of her decade-long friendship with Eva Olsson, a Holocaust survivor who has touched countless lives with her message of resilience, love, and forgiveness.
Eva's incredible journey from surviving the Holocaust to becoming a celebrated author and speaker is a testament to her unyielding spirit and dedication to spreading hope. Teresa discusses how Eva's life and teachings have transformed her own perspective, emphasizing...
2024-06-1830 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E27 Taking Ownership in the Forgiveness ProcessIn this episode, I celebrate the milestone of 5,000 downloads and express my deepest gratitude. The episode takes inspiration from a listener's struggle with forgiveness, expanding on a discussion that began in episode 24 with Hannah Dustman. The episode also encourages reflection on the role one may take in conflicts and the tendency to self-blame.
Listener's comment:
I was floored by the description of Phlegmatic tendencies as I checked off every box! I think Hannah kind of hit on another aspect I was acknowledging about myself in that a lot of times I find myself not only...
2024-06-0413 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E25 Navigating Forgiveness as a Melancholic with Tiffany HallerThis insightful episode of the "Forgiveness is for You" podcast ushers you into the intricacies of forgiveness for people with a melancholic temperament through the challenge-filled journey of Tiffany Haller, a resilient mother working through her forgiveness amidst marital separation.
With Dr. Silva's guidance, uncover the unique struggles melancholics face while aiming to forgive, be it their introspective nature, sensitivity, or tendency towards rumination. Further, she enlightens you on their fears and barriers, such as high expectations, vulnerability fear, and lack of closure, which often make forgiving oneself a daunting task.
Discover the helpful strategies...
2024-05-2134 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E24 A Single Phlegmatic's Struggle with ForgivenessThis episode features a heart-to-heart conversation with Hannah Dustman, a single woman who grapples with her phlegmatic disposition and the process of forgiving.
Through Hannah's personal experiences and candid reflections, listeners are offered a glimpse into the unique path to forgiveness undertaken by a phlegmatic individual. Hannah’s story is a testament to the delicate balance between preserving peace and addressing issues calling for forgiveness.
This podcast episode is a thought-provoking exploration for anyone wishing to learn how temperament types impact the path to forgiveness, or for those desiring a greater understanding of their own fo...
2024-05-1429 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessBonus Episode: Mom's Day MusingsHappy Mother's Day!
In this bonus episode, I share a story of my family and how Mother's Day has changed over time. I also remind moms that it's OK to make mistakes and that we are all human and forgiven.
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2024-05-1006 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E23 A Choleric Mom's Journey to Self-ForgivenessIn this insightful podcast episode, we plunge deep into the psyche of the choleric temperament. We unravel nuances of anger and the therapeutic strength of forgiveness, through the lens of a choleric. The guest, Catherine Johnson, a Catholic Mindset Coach and mother, engages in a candid conversation about her battles with rage, mom guilt, and her path to forgiveness.
The podcast emphasizes understanding the choleric person's tendencies like direct communication, boundary-setting, and the propensity to set aside resentment for personal growth. It shines a light on obstacles commonly faced by cholerics when attempting to forgive, such as...
2024-05-0628 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E22 A Sanguine's Journey of Healing and RedemptionIn this enlightening episode, delve deep into the sanguine temperament and its relationship with forgiveness. Explore the intrinsic qualities of Sanguines, their optimism, tendency to avoid conflict, and how these traits impact their journey towards forgiveness. Listen as our sanguine host shares her personal experiences, providing an intimate perspective on sanguine forgiveness and the challenges it presents.
Engage in a candid discussion with Marty Thompson, a Catholic Mindset Coach, Father, and self-identified sanguine. Gain insight into his battle with addiction, the healing power of forgiveness, and the crucial role it played in his journey towards sobriety. Learn...
2024-04-3028 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E21 Who You Are Is How You ForgiveWe all have a certain way of being, what psychologists call a personality type. There are hundreds of personality tests designed to determine what makes you tick. In this episode, I discuss one approach to understanding personality: The Temperaments. I will be discussing their origin, and what they are. In the next four episodes, I will go into depth about how each temperament might show up in the forgiveness process.
Click HERE to discover your temperament.
References: The Four Temperaments by Rev. Conrad Hock
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2024-04-2312 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E20 Understanding Love, Forgiveness and Divine DesignWelcome to Episode 20 of the Forgiveness is for YOU Podcast. Today I talk about LOVE. What is love? What is self-love and what does it all have to do with forgiveness? What does it mean to love God with all our heart, mind, soul, and strength, and to love our neighbor as ourselves? I explore the answers to these questions through the lens of the Theology of the Body and invite you to contemplate that who you are is how you forgive.
I contend that our primary caregivers influence our image of God, which could pose a...
2024-04-1613 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E19 Finding Beauty in the Broken with Heather Gaffney"No matter how ugly things get, there is always a way to find beauty in the broken." That is what my guest on this episode, Heather Gaffney, believes and so beautifully exemplifies through her story as a survivor of domestic violence. Heather shares her forgiveness process of herself and her ex-husband in a kind, loving, and open way that feels genuine and inspiring.
Heather Gaffney is an author, podcaster, and YouTuber. She is the host of the Warrior Words podcast and the Beauty in the Broken YouTube channel.
Guest Bio: Heather has a Master’s Deg...
2024-04-0935 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E18 From Bitterness to Joy with Steve SilvaWelcome to Episode 18! In this last episode on emotions in the forgiveness process, my best friend and husband of almost 32 years, Steve Silva, shares his thoughts about the emotion of bitterness and how it can be redeemed. We talk about the difference between bitterness and sorrow and his process of forgiving me for emotional injuries in our marriage.
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2024-04-0216 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E17 Is Making Amends Atonement?Welcome to Episode 18 of the Forgiveness is for You Podcast. Today, I make a distinction between two concepts people around the world contemplate as we enter into Holy Week: Making amends and atonement. These concepts, if I may, are central to the act of forgiveness. One is utterly dependent on our own strength, and the other is only possible by the grace of God.
I refer to the Alcoholics Anonymous 12-Step Recovery Program’s directive to make a list of persons harmed and make amends. I trace the etymology of amends and atonement and their application to liv...
2024-03-2615 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E16 You First! 5 Steps to Overcome Pride in ForgivenessIn today's episode, I define pride in the context of forgiveness. Pride is like two sides of a coin, heads or tails, virtue or vice.
If pride stops at the pleasure or satisfaction we experience for an accomplishment that required great sacrifice, or a level of intimacy we achieved in a relationship, or recognition for a job well done, but doesn’t become the measure by which we measure others, then pride is a virtue.
From a Judeo-Christian perspective, pride is considered a capital sin, a sin that “begets” or gives rise to other sins. Pride i...
2024-03-1914 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E15 Overcoming Resentment in the Forgiveness ProcessIn today’s episode, I discuss the power of resentment in the forgiveness process and offer 10 steps for overcoming it.
The definition of resentment comes from an article, From Ressentiment to Resentment as a Tertiary Emotion by Warren D. TenHouten published in 2018 in the Review of European Studies Volume 10, No 4.
TenHouten claims that resentment is not a primary or secondary emotion, but a tertiary emotion, “whose primary emotional components are anger, surprise and disgust, and whose secondary components are contempt, shock and outrage.” Resentment is a conglomerate of emotions.
I refer to a study...
2024-03-1212 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E14 Encounter the Joyful Unknown with Monica HerberIn today’s episode, I welcome my first Guest, Monica Herber. We talk about Monica and her husband’s adoption of a child with profound disabilities and their journey through forgiveness to joyful living. Click on this LINK for a picture of Monica's family.
Monica is the founder of The Joyful Unknown LLC, Speaker, and Certified Catholic Mindset and Marriage Coach. Her passion is to help individuals and married couples learn the tools needed to choose joy in the midst of suffering. Monica guides clients into joyful living while helping them cope with losses due to tragedy, devas...
2024-03-0525 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E13 Pockets of Joy in the Midst of SufferingIn this episode, I discuss how we can make ourselves receptive to joy amid our suffering and how we can use our suffering for the good of others. I discuss the four levels of Happiness in Fr. Robert Spitzer’s book, Finding True Happiness and give three tips for how to cultivate receptivity to joy: 1. Stop, 2. Drop and 3. Rock & Roll. I mention the song Jerusalema as one of my favorites to dance to when I am opening myself up to receive joy.
I refer to the Laughing Jesus image and wonder what Jesus' laughter sounds like.
We...
2024-02-2710 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E12 Overcoming Shame in the Forgiveness ProcessIn this episode, I discuss the emotion of shame, the third core emotion we might experience in the forgiveness process. In recent history, shame researcher Brene Brown has made headlines around the world as she exposed this gnarly emotion and its effects on the human psyche and relationships. I focus not so much on the research but speak directly to shame concerning the forgiveness of self.
I explain the Christian understanding of the origin of shame and talk about what happens in the mind when we experience shame.
Finally, I give tips on how to...
2024-02-2013 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessEww that's disgusting! 5 Ways to Approach Disgust in the Forgiveness ProcessDisgust is an oft-overlooked emotion in the healing of trauma and deciding to forgive. Moral disgust is the reaction to a physical reaction towards a person who violated the moral code, such as sexual, verbal, or physical abuse and betrayal in a relationship.
If we are to forgive ourselves, we will need to take a good, hard look at how disgust is showing up in our thoughts and is manifested in our bodies.
When disgust is internalized, we have a visceral reaction to our own thoughts, emotions, and actions.
When disgust is externalized...
2024-02-1312 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E10 Emotions in Forgiveness: AngerIt’s important to understand how our emotions can help us heal or keep us stuck in unforgiveness. In this episode, I talk about the role of anger in the forgiveness process. I make the distinction between the state of anger and the emotion of anger.
We can allow ourselves to be in a state of anger, but not for too long. When we allow the emotion of anger to morph into a state of being, we become an angry person and our tendency toward sin increases. We can allow ourselves to experience the emotion of anger an...
2024-02-0617 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E9 Is Retelling My Trauma Story Helpful or Harmful?In this episode, I examine how our thoughts, words, and actions in unforgiveness can result in sin that we may not even be aware of committing. I also caution against advice I was given in the early stages of my recovery from sexual abuse.
The advice I got was to retell my story in all the minute detail to anyone who would listen, with the understanding that validation cures trauma. However, with each retelling of my stories, I was strengthening the neural networks in my brain that held the trauma. I was making myself sicker by reliving...
2024-01-3014 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E8 Is Loving Our Enemies Forgiveness?In this episode, I am tackling the belief that “good” Christians have to forgive because God tells us to love our enemies. But is loving the same as forgiving? So many Christians who are still in the process of working through forgiveness get trapped in unhealthy relationships because they feel guilty about not loving their enemies as Jesus exhorts us to do in Matthew 5: 43-45. Victims are often strongly encouraged to re-engage in relationships with offenders as their Christian duty to forgive.
I challenge two concepts in this belief, (1) what it means to be a “good” Christian and (2) wh...
2024-01-2314 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E7 How to Say, "I'm Sorry" and Mean ItToday’s episode is about how we learn to forgive, what we can do to unlearn some bad forgiveness habits, and how to make a sincere apology.
We are social beings and human brains develop in community. From a very young age, we observe how adults in our homes behave toward one another. We copy their behavior, but we are also directly impacted when we are instructed to do as they say.
How we learn to forgive has a direct impact on our relationships throughout life. Forgiveness requires words and actions. Some of us believe th...
2024-01-1613 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E6 Self Forgiveness & Internal Family SystemsIn today’s episode, I discuss how Internal Family Systems Therapy is one way to uncover the parts of ourselves that carry blame and shame in our unforgiveness of self.
Forgiving ourselves is in line with the second commandment, to love our neighbor as ourselves. Loving ourselves as God loves us requires fully accepting who He created us to be. We cannot extend to others what we cannot do for ourselves.
Shame and blame are tango partners in keeping us stuck in unforgiveness of self.
When it comes to forgiving ourselves, we must be...
2024-01-0913 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E5 What Forgiveness Is NotToday’s episode, What Forgiveness Is Not, is the fourth in a four-part series called Understanding Forgiveness. In today’s episode, I discuss what forgiveness is not.
Forgiveness is not a one-time event we have to do it over and over and over sometimes for years before we can actually say that we have forgiven the person.
Forgiveness not for the offender, it is for you, to set your heart free from holding on to the emotional bonds and the memory that you have connected to the offender.
Forgiveness is not accountability for someone else. We may never be a...
2024-01-0209 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E4 What Forgiveness Is Part 3Today’s episode is the third in a four-part series called Understanding Forgiveness. In today’s episode, I discuss seven more distinct characteristics of forgiveness.
Forgiveness requires supernatural love – what we call agape love. This is the type of love with which God loves us and is made available to us through participation in the Sacraments. Forgiveness frees us to love more abundantly.
Forgiveness is an opportunity to reconcile ourselves with God. The Catechism of the Catholic Church # 2844 states that forgiveness is "...a high point of Christian prayer. Forgiveness also bears witness that, in our world, love is strong...
2023-12-2411 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E3 What Forgiveness Is Part 2Today’s episode is the second in a four-part series called Understanding Forgiveness. In today’s episode, I discuss four more characteristics of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is our own responsibility. If we wait for the offender to ask for forgiveness first, we may never have an opportunity to forgive. Waiting for the offender to show remorse is surrendering our power and agency to the offender.
Forgiveness is allowing God to help us walk through the pain of the forgiveness process. Instead of moving away, it’s moving toward the thoughts and emotions that are rooted in the wound or past painful experie...
2023-12-0711 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E2 What Forgiveness Is Part 1Today’s episode What Forgiveness Is, Part 1 is the first in a four-part series called Understanding Forgiveness. In today’s episode, I discuss four distinct characteristics of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is an act of the will. We decide if, when, and how we will forgive. Jesus never forces us to forgive. He equips us with the ability to forgive through the free gift of grace to fill our hearts with forgiveness. The more we forgive, the more we will be forgiven. When we struggle with forgiveness, our prayer can simply be, Lord, I want to forgive, please help my unfo...
2023-12-0710 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E1 Forgiveness Is For You Podcast Welcome!Hello Forgiver,
In this very first episode of the Forgiveness is For You Podcast, I explain why I believe that forgiveness is the ultimate path to healing from any kind of trauma. I include a brief history of my background as a South African immigrant and my own healing through forgiveness from various traumas. I hope that my story will inspire you to explore the role that forgiveness can play on your own path to interior freedom.
In the next four episodes, I will debunk common myths about forgiveness and help you begin contemplating how...
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