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Forgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E23 Make America Charitable Again: An Immigrant's Plea for Mercy, not DebateFriends,
In this episode, I draw connections between my experiences as an immigrant to the United States and the Gospel of Jesus Christ in light of recent social media experiences. There are things immigrants know that others don’t. The sacrifice is deep—cutting ties with home, family, traditions, and futures imagined. We lose birthdays and funerals, the smell of our mothers' food, and the feeling of our language being spoken without judgment.
And now, as Catholic spaces online erupt with harsh, often dehumanizing rhetoric about immigrants—many of whom are people like me—I feel hear...2025-06-2417 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E22 The Dating Crisis: Faith, Forgiveness and Finding Love with Hannah DustmanFriends,
In this episode, we dive into the challenges of modern dating and the journey towards self-forgiveness, featuring a heartfelt conversation with Hannah Dustman, Director of Client Engagement at Metanoia Catholic. Hannah, who is engaged to be married, shares her experiences navigating an increasingly complex dating environment while staying true to her faith and values.
We explore the impact of past choices on present relationships, the importance of self-compassion and openness to divine guidance in the search for love, and the pressure on young adults from societal expectations and family. Hannah offers insights for parents...2025-06-1732 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E21 Internalized Trauma and ForgivenessFriends,
In this episode, I make the crucial distinction between internalized trauma and genuine offenses. I explore the long-term consequences of overt and covert traumas and shed light on how these experiences shape our identities and relationships, often leading to misplaced responsibility and forgiveness.
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In this episode, storytelling coach Emanuela Hall, a homeschooling Catholic revert and mother of three shares her story of rediscovering the Catholic faith, navigating the challenges of marriage and motherhood, and embracing the healing power of storytelling.
Through this episode, we explore how faith and forgiveness have shaped Emanuela's life and how our own stories have the potential to heal others. Don't miss this inspiring conversation on finding faith and moving forward with grace and hope.
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On Camera Checklist + Script Outline https://mailchi.mp/f...2025-06-0338 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E19 Unforgiveness and Fertility: Restoring Balance at the Cellular Level with Viola StephensFriends,
In this episode, my guest, Viola Stephens, a certified metabolic nutrition and detoxification coach, and I delve into how emotional and physical forgiveness can aid healing, especially in women facing infertility challenges. Viola shares her story journey from misunderstanding food to becoming a firm believer in its power to heal the body at the cellular level. Her transformation began with a radical change to organic food, bringing hope to her marriage and restoring their fertility.
Gain insights into the connection between our diet, emotional states, and spiritual lives, and how embracing God's natural design...2025-05-2736 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E18 Grief, Faith & Forgiveness: A Conversation with Allison BrownFriends,
In this episode, my guest, Allison Brown, and I delve into the intertwined experiences of faith, grief, and forgiveness. We explore how faith can be both a source of comfort and struggle, particularly in the face of miscarriage—a topic often shrouded in stigma and silence.
Allison reveals how the child loss has shaped her understanding of joy amidst suffering and the transformative power of forgiveness.
She discusses how having healthy boundaries with self and others have helped her overcome trauma.
We address the often-overlooked pain of miscarriage within the chu...2025-05-2035 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E17 The Power of Forgiveness in Marriage Part 2Friends,
As the guest on this part 2 of the Connected Conversations Holy Union Connect podcast, with hosts Jean and Colin McKenzie and I delve deep into the complexities of marriage, family dynamics, and the transformative power of forgiveness. I share my personal journey through family trauma, revealing how understanding and zooming out on personal histories can foster forgiveness and healing. The conversation underscores the importance of embracing whole stories, recognizing cultural and personal differences, and the integral role faith plays in the healing process.
The MacKenzie's Links:
Instagram: [@holyunionconnect](https://www.instagram.com...2025-05-1325 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E16 The Power of Forgiveness in Marriage Part 1Friends,
In the next two episodes, I am on the other side of the microphone as a guest with Jean and Colin MacKenzie, hosts of the podcast, Connected Conversations with Holy Union Connect. I share my insights on misconceptions about forgiveness, the intersection of faith and science, and the transformative power of leaning into the Holy Spirit for guidance. We explore the nuances of unresolved childhood trauma and its impact on marriage. This episode offers valuable tools and encouragement for couples striving to overcome struggles and embrace forgiveness as a journey rather than a destination.
...2025-05-0635 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E15 Escaping Porn's Trap: A Raw, Honest Talk with Freedom Coach Steve PokornyFriends,
In this episode, Steve Pokorny, Founder of Freedom Coaching, a Catholic Apostolate, shares his journey of healing from pornography addiction and how he now helps others regain their freedom. We discuss the traumatic effect of porn exposure on children and the devastating effects on physical intimacy in marriage. Steve describes a four-step process he uses to help men and women who struggle with pornified images break free from the prison of pornography addiction.
Please help normalize open discussions about the effects of pornography by sharing this episode with parents and anyone who may need...2025-04-2941 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E14 Finding the Father's Love: The Power of One Adult in Trauma RecoveryFriends,
In this episode, I reflect on my Lenten journey with the KNOWN program and my quest to have a deeper relationship with The Father. I talk about the findings of the Adverse Childhood Experiences Study that emphasize the impact one caring adult can have on the future outcomes for children in trauma. I tell about my uncle Isaac John Michaels, who represents the love of the Father that I so needed as a young child exposed to domestic violence. I pay tribute to him by reading an excerpt from my book, With You Always, A Journey w...2025-04-2213 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E13: Breaking the Code of Silence Part 2: Healing from Domestic Violence with Shelly Edwards Jorgensen**Content Warning**This episode contains content not suitable for minors and may activate traumatic memories related to domestic violence. So if little ones are within earshot, stop the recording, grab your earbuds, or listen another time.
Friends,
In this episode, Part 2 of Breaking the Code of Silence: Healing from Domestic Violence, Shelly Edwards Jorgensen and I disc
uss how she navigates life as a “normal” teen and her healing process in the aftermath of her profound losses. She shares the lessons she learned on her journey of healing through forgiveness. Her perspective on just...2025-04-1526 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E12 Breaking the Code of Silence Part 1: Healing from Domestic Violence with Shelly Edwards Jorgensen**Content Warning** This episode contains images of domestic violence not suitable for minors. Please use discretion when listening.
Friends,
In today's episode, I speak with author and domestic abuse survivor Shelley Edwards Jorgensen. Shelley shares her traumatic experiences growing up amidst domestic violence, culminating in the tragic murder of her mother by her father. Through her narrative, we explore the complex dynamics of familial abuse and the burdens it places on children.
Drawing from her book Beautiful Ashes: A True Story of Murder, Betrayal, and One Woman's Search for Peace, Shelley recounts heartbreaking...2025-04-0840 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E11 Choosing Forgiveness: Fr. Thomas Berg on Healing, Catholic Guilt and ReconciliationFriends,
In today’s episode, I welcome guest, Fr. Thomas Berg, an author, speaker on issues regarding church life, and visiting Professor of the Practice at the McGrath Institute for Church Life. He holds a Ph.D. in Philosophy from Rome’s Pontifical University Regina Apostolorum. Fr. Tom’s work centers on seminarian formation and healing those wounded by clergy sexual abuse. He and I discuss his co-authored book with Dr. Timothy Lock, Choosing Forgiveness: Unleash the Power of God’s Grace. Among other topics, we explore the act of forgiveness, the phenomenon of “Catholic guilt”, the four-step fo...2025-04-0138 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E4 Woman, Know Your Worth! with Dana NygaardFriends,
In today's episode, I sit down with Psychotherapist Dana Nygaard, who combines psychotherapy and deliverance ministry to assist women in recognizing and overcoming toxic relationship patterns. Discover the importance of self-forgiveness and how unresolved issues can hinder trust and love.
Dana explains the significance of secure attachment and how healing family of origin wounds can lead to fulfilling, God-centered relationships. Learn practical steps to heal from past hurts and gain the confidence to choose wisely in future relationships.
Dana's Links:
Websites:
https://www.dananygaard.com/
https://w...2025-03-3037 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E10 Addiction Recovery, Brotherhood & Forgiveness with Kenneth HarouffFriends
In today’s episode, Catholic Men’s Coach Kenneth Harouff shares his story of alcohol addiction recovery, betrayal, and forgiveness in marriage. We discuss the role of community in recovery and growth and the importance of self-ownership and communal accountability. We talk about spiritual bypassing and the need for more conversations about digging deeper into our somatic experience in recovery from addiction and within intimate relationships.
Kenneth's Links:
Kenneth@catholicmenscoaching.com
www.catholicmenscoaching.com
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Need someone to accompany you on...2025-03-2541 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E9 Trauma Reenactment, Sin and Redemption*Content Warning* This episode contains content not suitable for minors and may activate traumatic memories.
Friends,
In this episode, I make distinctions between sexual sin and trauma reenactment as a result of early childhood sexual abuse. I address feelings of shame and use examples from my story to demonstrate how beliefs about sin can keep us trapped in self-condemnation and prevent healing. I share personal insights about agency within mental illness, self-forgiveness, and the healing presence of the Father.
References:
Herman, J. L. (1992). Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abus...2025-03-1816 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E8 How LOVE Heals with Isaac WickerFriends,
In today's episode, Isaac Wicker, a Catholic licensed therapist and co-creator of the groundbreaking KNOWN program, and I delve into the profound impacts of understanding the transformative power of the Father's love and forgiveness.
Isaac shares his journey from childhood sensitivity to the big questions of life to becoming a wise therapist who combines therapy and his Catholic faith to bring healing. He tells about the impact of the KNOWN program on his students. As a student of the program, I talk about the wisdom of the lessons and how it has made a d...2025-03-1138 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E7 Parts Work: A Path to Forgiveness with Margaret SchayFriends,
In this episode, I am joined by Margaret Schay, a Catholic Mindset Coach and Executive Director of Right to Life of Louisville. Margaret shares her journey of childhood trauma, perinatal loss, and healing through forgiveness. She emphasizes the importance of tuning into your body and embracing parts work, or Internal Family Systems(IFS) therapy to establish inner security and peace. We discuss the concept of Saint Pope John Paul II's Theology of the Body, the profound impact of acknowledging our inner world, and how these practices align with Catholic spirituality to foster a life of abundance...2025-03-0339 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E6 Becoming A Student of ForgivenessFriends,
In this episode, I challenge the notion that forgiveness is something we should just automatically know and I advocate for the study of forgiveness as a life skill. I delve a little deeper into a poll I conducted about a forgiveness course offering and give a rationale for why it's important to become a student of forgiveness. I explore the benefits forgiveness offers, from improving sleep, aiding weight loss, healing deep emotional wounds, and the connection between unresolved trauma and physical health.
I use personal examples of how forgiveness is a skill we develop ov...2025-02-2516 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E5 The Power of Music in Forgiveness with Bill MullinFriends,
In this episode, I sit down with Bill Mullin, the creative mind behind the podcast musical "As I Recall Forever." Discover how Bill's work blends art and faith to explore themes of forgiveness and redemption. Through his unique musical compositions, Bill reveals how forgiveness can be a transformative force in our lives.
Delve into Bill's personal journey as he shares stories of overcoming guilt, embracing faith, and finding purpose in his creative pursuits. His musical, a tapestry of life experiences, invites listeners to reflect on their own paths towards forgiveness.
Bill Mullin's...2025-02-1833 min
Maternal Narcissism UnmaskedTransforming Pain into Strength: The Healing Journey for Narcissistic Abuse SurvivorsIn Part 2 of the "Maternal Narcissism: Unmasked Podcast," host Cristy Murray welcomes Dr. Carron Silva, a South African immigrant and Catholic wholeness coach, for an enlightening discussion on healing from the impact of narcissistic mothers. Dr. Silva shares her personal journey and emphasizes self-compassion, forgiveness, and seeing parents through eyes of compassion and grace. The episode explores practical strategies for maintaining boundaries and caring for aging narcissistic parents without slipping back into abusive cycles. They also touch on cultural influences on family dynamics and the importance of breaking generational cycles to pave the way for healthier relationships with one's...2025-02-1322 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E3 End of Life, Grief and Forgiveness with Nicole HaugenFriends,
In today's episode, I am joined by Hospice Nurse and Grief Coach Nichole Haugen as we discuss her work with those at the end of life, grief, and the forgiveness process.
Through her story, Nicole provides valuable insights and tips on navigating grief and forgiving oneself and others. Nichole offers a glimpse into the power of faith and acceptance in finding peace amidst life's challenges.
Unwinding golf ball video:
https://youtu.be/2nmmwFJ-poI?si=htm0VurlwI5VewVu
Nichole's website: https://nursegriefcoaching.com/
Connect with Dr. Carron2025-02-0427 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E2 He Chose her Over Us with Kerri BishopFriends,
In this episode, my guest, Kerri Bishop, shares her story of facing an unexpected and devastating betrayal in her marriage. On Mother's Day 2009, while pregnant with her fifth child, her husband left her, their four boys, and one on the way, leading to a tumultuous period of loss and self-discovery.
Amidst the chaos of losing her home and grappling with her identity, Kerri found solace and direction in her faith. She embarked on a transformative quest, taking on life's challenges and emerging stronger. Her story is a testament to the power of forgiveness, as...2025-01-2834 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS2E1 New Beginnings: Gratitude, Farming, and a MasterclassFriends,
Welcome to Season 2 of the Forgiveness Is For You podcast! In this episode, I give a brief update on Season 1 and share what's coming in 2025, including a major relocation to New Mexico where my husband and I will embark on a new mission combining farm life and healing retreat opportunities.
I share an update on my forgiveness masterclass in development, designed to address deep misconceptions about forgiveness and explore trauma's impact on the ability to forgive.
This episode also delves into feedback from a recent poll I conducted on the interest in...2025-01-2110 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E55 Election 2024 & The Gift of ForgivenessFriends,
In this episode, my husband, Steve Silva, and I delve into the emotional journey of losing a long-standing friendship following the recent election. As we discuss the power and liberation that forgiveness provides, we explore ways to bridge the political divide, especially during the holidays. We share insights on managing emotions and setting boundaries while emphasizing the importance of self-giving and understanding.
We introduce Pope St. John Paul II's 'The Law of the Gift' and how it embodies the essence of selflessness and share how our brains are wired for community.
If yo...2024-12-1724 min
The Catholic Sobriety PodcastBONUS EPISODE: Forgiveness + Alcohol and the Holidays from The Forgiveness is for You Podcast with Dr. Carron SilvaLooking for hope and guidance during the challenges of the holiday season? Here’s a special bonus episode just for you!Dr. Carron Silva interviewed me for her podcast, Forgiveness is for you: Overcoming Trauma through Forgiveness and she has graciously allowed me to share it here as well. The holidays can be a stressful time, especially when alcohol adds anxiety to family gatherings, celebrations, or even trips.In this episode, I open up about my battle with alcohol, my 27+ years of sobriety, and how I now help high-achieving women find la...2024-12-1243 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E54 Birth Trauma Recovery & Forgiveness with Brigid TebaldiFriends,
*Content warning* In today's episode, Birth Trauma Recovery Coach Brigid Tebaldi and I discuss obstetric violence and the trauma some women experience when giving birth. This topic is not for minor ears and could be triggering for those who have suffered infertility or traumatic births. Please use discretion when listening.
If like me, you’ve never even heard these terms before, it's worth a listen. This information is valuable for both men and women, because you know what? It takes two to tango and two to heal together from the trauma that might have bee...2024-12-1041 min
Connected Conversations with Holy Union ConnectForgiveness as a Path to Healing: Insights with Dr. Carron SilvaIn this episode of Connected Conversations with Jean & Colin MacKenzie, we’re joined by Dr. Carron Silva, a Catholic wholeness coach, speaker, and author of With You Always: A Journey with Jesus. Dr. Carron shares her transformative insights into the power of forgiveness in marriage, relationships, and healing from trauma.We explore:The role of the Holy Spirit in true forgiveness.Misconceptions about forgiving and forgetting.Dr. Carron’s 7D Process for cultivating a heart ready to forgive.How unresolved childhood trauma impacts marriage and how to navigate it.Cross-cultural marriage dynamics and finding common ground.Prac...2024-12-071h 04Forgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E53 A Saintly Prayer for Each Day with Belinda Terro MooneyFriends,
In Episode 50, I interviewed speaker, coach, author, and Master Licenced Clinical Social Worker and Professor Belinda Terro Mooney about her career as an addictions counselor and how she's navigated forgiveness in her own life and with clients. In this second half of the interview, we talk about her Carmelite spirituality and her latest book, Pray with Us, A Saint for Each Day. I introduce the episode with a brief background on the saints and my experience of adapting to the belief in the intercession of saints as a new Catholic believer.
Belinda's links:
h...2024-12-0322 min
The Freedom to Love PodcastS1 E51 Dr. Carron Silva Interviews Jeremy RohrToday, Jeremy shares a conversation from his guest appearance on the "Forgiveness is for You" podcast with Dr. Carron Silva.Together, they explore the profound impact of pornography on young people, the trauma it creates, and the path to healing through human formation and faith. Jeremy reflects on his journey, sharing practical strategies and insights to help parents, mentors, and young men break free from shame and addiction. Discover how freedom from pornography restores the ability to love authentically and live out God's plan for our sexuality.Check out the ...2024-12-0229 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E52 Holiday Sobriety Tips from The Catholic Sobriety Coach Christie WalkerFriends,
In this episode, for many, the Holidays are a time of stress, and alcohol addiction can increase anxiety as those who struggle with alcohol and those who love them navigate family gatherings, workplace celebrations, and even winter vacation trips to warmer places.
In this episode, Catholic Sobriety Coach Christie Walker shares the story of her destructive dance with alcohol, staying sober for over 27 years, and now helping high- achieving women navigate sobriety. Christie shares tips for how to navigate alcohol to protect your relationships from this enemy of peace during the holidays.
If...2024-11-2642 minConnected Conversations with Holy Union ConnectFinding Grace in Grief: Navigating Loss with Faith and Shared Meaning with Jessica BarbozaIn this heartfelt episode of Connected Conversations with Jean & Colin MacKenzie, we sit down with Jessica Barboza, a licensed counselor with expertise in trauma-informed care and a deep commitment to integrating faith into therapy. Jessica’s work at Laetare Health Group focuses on relational and individual healing, and her unique approach helps families and couples navigate the profound challenges of grief and loss.Jessica sheds light on the misconceptions surrounding the grieving process, explaining why it’s not a linear journey but a deeply personal and communal experience. She introduces William Worden’s Four Tasks of Mourning, emphas...2024-11-2045 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E51 Freedom to Love: The Battle Plan to Fight Porn Addiction with Jeremy RohrFriends,
In this episode, husband, father, and founder of Freedom to Love, Jeremy Rohr and I delve into the sensitive and pressing issue of pornography and masturbation's impact on emotional and psychological development. Jeremy shares his journey of overcoming addiction and how he now empowers fathers and sons to break free from the cycle of guilt and shame.
Jeremy recounts his early exposure to pornography and the struggles it brought into his life, including the misconceptions and challenges it posed in his marriage. Through candid conversation, he highlights the importance of understanding God's purpose for...2024-11-1941 min
Cycles and Sanctity Podcast | Understand your Cycle and NFP, Grow in Holiness87 | The Beauty of Forgiveness with Dr. CarronToday, we are joined by the inspirational Dr. Carron Silva, a Catholic Wholeness Coach & Forgiveness Guide. She has spent over 30 years seeking healing from abuse and racial discrimination.
Together, we'll delve into the complexities of forgiveness, drawing on personal stories, spiritual insights, and the powerful role of faith in Jesus, grace, and surrender in overcoming trauma.
From confronting painful family dynamics to finding empathy in unexpected places, Dr. Carron shares her healing journey through her relationship with the Divine Physician, Jesus Christ.
Whether you're struggling with unresolved hurt or seeking a path to gen...2024-11-1434 minCycles and Sanctity Podcast | Understand your Cycle and NFP, Grow in Holiness87 | The Beauty of Forgiveness with Dr. CarronToday, we are joined by the inspirational Dr. Carron Silva, a Catholic Wholeness Coach & Forgiveness Guide. She has spent over 30 years seeking healing from abuse and racial discrimination.
Together, we'll delve into the complexities of forgiveness, drawing on personal stories, spiritual insights, and the powerful role of faith in Jesus, grace, and surrender in overcoming trauma.
From confronting painful family dynamics to finding empathy in unexpected places, Dr. Carron shares her healing journey through her relationship with the Divine Physician, Jesus Christ.
Whether you're struggling with unresolved hurt or seeking a path to gen...2024-11-1434 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E50 Forgiveness and Overcoming Addiction with Belinda Terro MooneyFriends,
In this episode, I interview Belinda Terro Mooney, a remarkable woman who has transformed her life's challenges into a mission of hope and healing for others. Belinda's journey is one of resilience, having navigated through personal trauma to become an addictions counselor, college professor, author, speaker, and mindset coach.
As part one of a two-part series, Belinda shares her story of growing up in a family affected by addiction and how it shaped her path toward helping others. She opens up about her work in the prison system, her role as a homeschooling mother, an...2024-11-1241 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessSpecial Edition! You're Invited: Uncover Your Forgiveness Habits WorkshopFriend,
In this special edition, I invite you to a brand new workshop I created called Uncover Your Forgiveness Habits.
I wonder if you resonate with any of these:
You were, at some point, forced to say you were sorry as a child when you didn’t actually mean it.
A caregiver may have punished you for an infraction you were accused of without hearing your side of the story and made you apologize.
You saw people in your life say, “It’s OK” but hide their resentment.
The offended party might have brushed off the i...2024-11-0705 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E49 Healing Our Parts: Internal Family Systems Therapy with Claire SchiemerFriends,
In this episode, I sit down with Licensed Therapist and Coach Claire Schiemer to discuss the transformative power of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. As an advocate for integrating spirituality into healing, Claire shares her journey and expertise in using IFS to help clients navigate trauma and find forgiveness.
Claire explains the fundamentals of IFS, highlighting how it views symptoms as parts of ourselves that need compassion and integration, rather than problems to be fixed. By understanding and addressing these parts, individuals can achieve deeper healing. The conversation also explores the profound connection between I...2024-11-0533 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E48 The Reality and Nature of Spiritual Warfare with Fr. Ken GeraciFriends,
In today's episode, Father Ken Geraci of the Fathers of Mercy shares his journey from a secular life to embracing the priesthood, highlighting the transformative power of faith. We discuss the nature of spiritual warfare, explore the dangers of complacency in faith, and the importance of engaging actively in this cosmic battle for our souls.
The conversation also delves into the power of the Divine Mercy Chaplet and the Sacrament of Reconciliation, offering insights on how these spiritual tools can aid in healing and forgiveness.
Join me and Father Ken as we exp...2024-10-2942 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E47 Uncover Your Forgiveness HabitsFriends,
In this episode, I dive into the world of habits, specifically focusing on "forgiveness habits" and how they shape our lives. Discover how your upbringing and the behavior patterns of your caregivers influenced your ability to forgive or hold onto resentment.
I explore five key points of awareness that contribute to your forgiveness habits: your unique design, values, belief system, family of origin, and perception of agency. Through reflective exercises, learn how to identify and transform negative patterns into positive, healthy forgiveness habits.
Relevant Links:
https://www.etymonline.com/word...2024-10-2209 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E46 Steps to Overcoming Self-CondemnationFriends,
The hardest thing one can encounter in life is forgiving one's own transgressions. In this episode, I review research studies on self-forgiveness, self-exoneration, and the cycle of self-condemnation as presented in the Handbook of Forgiveness. Additionally, I contribute tips for mindset work to eliminate rumination in the cycle of condemnation and offer an easy-to-understand process for overcoming self-condemnation presented in the research literature.
Whether you're struggling to forgive yourself or others, this episode provides valuable tools and perspectives to aid in your journey toward forgiveness.
To learn more about the Handbook of Fo...2024-10-1513 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E45 What's Your Forgiveness Attachment Style?Friends,
In this episode, I delve into the psychological concept of attachment and how our early childhood experiences with caregivers influence our approach to conflict and forgiveness.
I discuss the foundational work of psychologists like John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, who identified various attachment styles—secure, avoidant, anxious, and disorganized—and their implications for our adult relationships. Learn how these styles can affect your capacity to forgive and navigate conflicts effectively.
Discover why securely attached individuals might find forgiveness more accessible, while those with anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachments face unique challenges in letti...2024-10-0813 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E44 The Stewardship of ForgivenessFriends,
In this episode, I explore the concept of forgiveness as an area of stewardship. Drawing inspiration from biblical parables and stories, I delve into how forgiveness can be seen as a valuable gift from God that we are called to steward wisely.
I reflect on the parable of the talents and the story of Joseph to illustrate the importance of using the gift of forgiveness to heal and grow spiritually. I also share practical insights on how to become better stewards of forgiveness in our daily lives, emphasizing that the more we forgive, the m...2024-09-3011 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E43 Forgiving Spiritual Betrayal with Lisa LeopoldFriends,
In this episode, my guest Lisa Leopold, a faith-based counselor and survivor of spiritual betrayal, touches on a topic that some find taboo to discuss. Lisa shares her deeply personal journey of overcoming trauma in a fractured family, spiritual betrayal, and her struggle with forgiveness.
We discuss the impact of spiritual abuse and the role of forgiveness in healing. This episode offers profound insights and practical advice for anyone struggling with forgiveness after being betrayed by someone who was supposed to help bring them closer to God. Lisa's story is a testament to the r...2024-09-2437 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E42 Healing through Forgiveness After Abortion with Elsa Escobedo Lopez*Content Warning*
Friends,
In this episode, I am joined by Elsa Escobedo-Lopez, an occupational therapist, mother, and wife of 35 years, who shares her powerful story of overcoming the trauma of abortion through forgiveness. Elsa opens up about her journey of post-abortive forgiveness and how she now helps others heal from the pain of abortion as a healing retreat facilitator.
This is a heartfelt conversation about the complexities of forgiveness, the impact of trauma, and the importance of community support in the healing journey. Whether you have been affected by abortion or are struggling wi...2024-09-1747 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E41 From Apartheid to Forgiveness: Part 2: Coming to America*Mature Content Warning*
Friends,
In this episode, I take the guest chair for Part 2 with Heather Gaffney from the Warrior Words Podcast to share my journey from Apartheid South Africa to life as an immigrant in the United States. We talk about the importance of forgiveness in the healing of political terror.
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Dr. Carron discusses her early life in a segregated South African school, her involvement in the resistance against Apartheid, and her unexpected path to the U.S. She recounts the profound cultural shifts, the challenges sh...2024-09-1033 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E40 From Apartheid to Forgiveness Part 1Friends,
In the next two episodes, I am in the guest’s chair as I share my story on the Warrior Words podcast with Heather Gaffney. Heather shares stories of people who have experienced trauma and have learned how to thrive despite what happened to them. She looks for the beauty in the broken. In this episode, I talk about growing up under the political system of Apartheid in South Africa. By sharing these episodes, I hope that you can see why it’s so important for me to teach forgiveness as a life skill and accompany thos...2024-09-0330 min
Warrior Words | Stories of Hope | Finding Beauty After Battles & Thriving After Surviving Trauma35. The Consequence of Bitterness and Resentment on the Path of Forgiveness | Dr. Carron SilvaWelcome to Episode 35 of the Warrior Words podcast!
In this episode, I am airing an interview conducted by Dr. Carron Silva on the Forgiveness is For YOU podcast with yours truly!
We discussed my forgiveness journey as it pertained to my marriage. She also asked me about my feelings of bitterness and resentment. I'm sure it is not surprising that these feelings, when we hold onto them, can impede healing and the ability to forgive.
Stay tuned to the end to hear my thoughts on the interview. NOTE...2024-09-0339 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E39 Forgiving and Praying For Yourself with Justin VeazeyFriends,
In this episode, my guest Justin Veazey, an IT consultant and father of seven, and I delve into the complexities of praying for oneself. Justin shares his journey of overcoming the hesitation to pray for himself and how it has deepened his trust in God.
We discuss the challenges of self-love, the misconceptions around it, and the importance of recognizing one's own value. We explore how self-forgiveness plays a crucial role in this process and how it aligns with loving others as oneself.
Join us as we unpack practical steps to start...2024-08-2728 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E38 Healing Hearts through Unbound Prayer with Deanna BartaliniFriends,
In this episode, I sit down with Deanna Bartolini, an experienced Unbound Prayer Minister, to delve into the transformative power of Unbound Prayer Ministry.
Through heartfelt stories and personal experiences, Deanna shares how this unique prayer practice has brought profound healing to many, including herself. We discuss the importance of forgiveness, the role of the intercessor, and how Unbound Prayer can help release burdens and foster spiritual freedom.
Deanna also provides insights into the five keys of Unbound Prayer and explains how listeners can access this ministry or become prayer ministers themselves.2024-08-2031 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E37 Ignatian Prayer Practices with Kylie HeinFriends,
In this episode, Prayer Warrior, Spiritual Director, and Mindset Coach, Kylie Hein, shares her journey with Ignatian spirituality, revealing how the spiritual exercises of St. Ignatius of Loyola can guide us in healing and forgiveness.
Discover the significance of contemplative and mental prayer, the practice of the daily Examen, and how imaginative prayer can place us in the Gospel scenes to deepen our connection with God. Whether you’re struggling to forgive others or yourself, this episode offers practical insights and spiritual tools to help you on your journey.
Tune in to lea...2024-08-1341 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E36 The Power of Prayer in Forgiveness: Practical Insights for Personal GrowthFriends,
During July we explored mourning loss in the forgiveness process. You heard interviews with Mama Jane, who struggled with fertility, Dr. Abby Jorgensen, who supports families experiencing perinatal loss, and Paige McLemore, whose sister was tragically murdered. Forgiveness involves loss, but it also brings hope, accessible through prayer.
In August, we will delve into various forms of prayer and devotion, focusing on inner healing prayer to soften our hearts towards self-forgiveness and forgiving others.
In today's episode, we explore what prayer is, different types of prayer, and their importance in the forgiveness...2024-08-0615 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E35 Navigating Perinatal Loss with Dr. Abby Jorgensen*Content Warning* Infant and Childbirth loss.
Friends,
In this week's episode, I delve into the delicate topic of perinatal loss with bereavement doula and sociology professor, Dr. Abby Jorgensen. Discover how Dr. Jorgensen helps families navigate the process of forgiveness, and the complex emotions that accompany such profound loss.
We explore her unique role in supporting parents through the stages of grief, providing both emotional and practical support. Dr. Jorgensen shares her journey into this field, the intersection of her sociological expertise with her doula work, and the importance of validating grief in ou...2024-07-3037 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E34: I Forgave My Sister's MurdererFriend,
This week I welcome Paige McLemore, Middle School Principal and Forgiveness Ministry Founder, who shares her remarkable journey of forgiving her sister Lee's murderer after 20 years of wrestling with hatred.
Paige opens up about her life before and after the tragedy, the immense grief and anger she faced, and how she eventually found peace and joy through her obedience to Christ. She discusses the transformative power of forgiveness, not just for others, but also for oneself, and how it led to a life filled with love, grace, and purpose.
This episode is a...2024-07-2345 minThe Catholic Sobriety PodcastEP 88: Healing Through Forgiveness: Dr. Carron Silva's Journey and InsightsWhat does it mean to truly forgive? In this episode, we welcome Dr. Carron Silva, a Catholic wholeness coach and retreat presenter, who shares her powerful journey of healing through the lens of forgiveness. Raised amidst the brutal realities of apartheid South Africa, Dr. Carron opens up about the racial and personal trauma she endured. Listen as she reveals how her unwavering faith and the nurturing influence of her grandmother guided her towards becoming an advocate for forgiveness and led to her impactful work, including her book "With You Always: A Journey with Jesus."Forgiveness i...2024-07-1655 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E33 Navigating Infertility with Mama Jane Snyder*Content Warning* This episode contains mature content not intended for persons under the age of 18.
Friends,
In this episode, I am joined by Mama Jane Snyder, a fertility awareness instructor and Catholic Mindset Coach. Together, we explore the emotional and spiritual challenges of infertility, emphasizing the importance of forgiveness and self-compassion.
Jane shares her journey through seven years of infertility and how she now supports couples in similar situations. We discuss the unitive and procreative aspects of marriage, the cultural silence around infertility, and the impact of faith in navigating these challenges. This e...2024-07-1637 min
Journeys of Hope | a Pilgrim Center of Hope podcastJourney to Interior FreedomDiscover the path to interior freedom with Angela Sealana and Dr. Carron Silva, a Catholic wholeness coach, forgiveness guide, and speaker at the 2024 Catholic Women's Conference. Dr. Silva shares her personal journey from growing up under apartheid in South Africa to becoming a coach who helps others find spiritual and emotional healing. In this episode, we will discuss: Why is interior freedom essential to a joyful life? How can the typical person achieve it? What is trauma, and how do we know we have it? What is a wholeness coach? What is a coach’s role as...2024-07-1157 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E32 Grief, Betrayal and Healing in ForgivenessFriends,
In this episode, we delve into the complex emotions surrounding forgiveness, particularly in the aftermath of betrayal and deep personal loss. My exploration is framed by personal reflections on a former colleague's shocking conviction for sexual assault on minors, a person I worked closely with for 14 years. This experience has led me to reflect deeply on grief, identity, and the forgiveness process.
I compare grieving stages to phases of forgiveness, drawing from Bowlby and Parkes’ Four Phases of Grief Model, and use personal anecdotes and insights into how to navigate through these emotional phases....2024-07-0914 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E31 The Price of Revenge: A Scientific and Biblical PerspectiveIn this podcast episode, I explore the concept of revenge through scientific research and Catholic teachings. I begin by examining the contrast between a heart of stone, hardened by experiences of injustice, and a heart of flesh, capable of forgiveness and love.
Drawing from the Catechism of the Catholic Church and psychological research, I discuss how revenge impacts individuals psychologically and spiritually, often leading to further harm rather than healing.
The episode emphasizes the transformative power of forgiveness, highlighting its role in restoring inner peace and aligning oneself with God's compassion. Ultimately, it encourages listeners...2024-07-0214 min
Persistence in Prayer with Kylie Hein#63 Forgive Yourself With Dr. Carron SilvaSend us a textDid you know that according to the Mayo Clinic, letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for improved health and peace of mind. Forgiveness can lead to:Healthier relationships.Improved mental health.Less anxiety, stress and hostility.Fewer symptoms of depression.Lower blood pressure.A stronger immune system.Improved heart health.Improved self-esteem.And yet, while all of that sounds great, forgiveness isn’t easy. Staying angry feels safe. It feels justified. It feels necessary.In this episode I want to take you deep into the realm of...2024-06-2557 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E30 From Gratitude to Forgiveness with Amy Latino**Content Warning!** This episode contains mature content.
Friends, in today's episode, I delve into the powerful connection between gratitude and forgiveness with my special guest, Amy Latino.
A devoted wife, homeschooling mom, and entrepreneur, Amy shares her compelling story of growing up with a father who struggled with his own traumas, leading to a strained relationship filled with emotional neglect and abuse. Despite these challenges, Amy reveals how a moment of gratitude for the gift of life led her to a profound sense of forgiveness for her father, years after his passing.
We ex...2024-06-2432 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E29 A Legacy of Love with Theresa EppichIn this episode, Canadian Teresa Eppich, a fifth-grade teacher and author of the book A Legacy of Love, How a Holocaust Survivor Inspired Me to Live with Greater Freedom and Purpose shares the profound impact of her decade-long friendship with Eva Olsson, a Holocaust survivor who has touched countless lives with her message of resilience, love, and forgiveness.
Eva's incredible journey from surviving the Holocaust to becoming a celebrated author and speaker is a testament to her unyielding spirit and dedication to spreading hope. Teresa discusses how Eva's life and teachings have transformed her own perspective, emphasizing...2024-06-1830 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E28 Navigating Faith: Avoiding the Trap of Spiritual BypassingIn this episode, I explore the concept of spiritual bypassing, a term coined by Clinical Psychologist John Welwood in the 1980s. I discuss how spiritual practices can sometimes be used to avoid facing unresolved emotional issues and trauma, particularly in the context of religious observance. Drawing from personal experiences and biblical references, I delve into the dangers of disordered religiosity and how it can hinder true forgiveness, spiritual growth, and healing. Join me as I uncover ways to cultivate a genuine relationship with God that embraces suffering and leads to holistic healing.
References:
John Welwood...2024-06-1111 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E27 Taking Ownership in the Forgiveness ProcessIn this episode, I celebrate the milestone of 5,000 downloads and express my deepest gratitude. The episode takes inspiration from a listener's struggle with forgiveness, expanding on a discussion that began in episode 24 with Hannah Dustman. The episode also encourages reflection on the role one may take in conflicts and the tendency to self-blame.
Listener's comment:
I was floored by the description of Phlegmatic tendencies as I checked off every box! I think Hannah kind of hit on another aspect I was acknowledging about myself in that a lot of times I find myself not only...2024-06-0413 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E26 Sacred Wounds: Family, Faith & Forgiveness with Claudine NoelIn this episode, I have a heartfelt conversation with Claudine Noel, Board-certified physician, Life Coach, Catholic convert, and the editor of the transformative book, Sacred Wounds, Stories of Redemption, Healing, and Growth. We delve into the complex themes of family, faith, forgiveness, and the unique experiences and challenges faced by immigrants. This episode offers valuable insights into forgiveness, faith, and healing, it's a must-listen for anyone on the path of personal growth and healing.
The conversation stresses the indispensable role of forgiveness in the healing journey. We discuss challenges in identifying personal wounds to heal and understanding p...2024-05-2829 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E25 Navigating Forgiveness as a Melancholic with Tiffany HallerThis insightful episode of the "Forgiveness is for You" podcast ushers you into the intricacies of forgiveness for people with a melancholic temperament through the challenge-filled journey of Tiffany Haller, a resilient mother working through her forgiveness amidst marital separation.
With Dr. Silva's guidance, uncover the unique struggles melancholics face while aiming to forgive, be it their introspective nature, sensitivity, or tendency towards rumination. Further, she enlightens you on their fears and barriers, such as high expectations, vulnerability fear, and lack of closure, which often make forgiving oneself a daunting task.
Discover the helpful strategies...2024-05-2134 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E24 A Single Phlegmatic's Struggle with ForgivenessThis episode features a heart-to-heart conversation with Hannah Dustman, a single woman who grapples with her phlegmatic disposition and the process of forgiving.
Through Hannah's personal experiences and candid reflections, listeners are offered a glimpse into the unique path to forgiveness undertaken by a phlegmatic individual. Hannah’s story is a testament to the delicate balance between preserving peace and addressing issues calling for forgiveness.
This podcast episode is a thought-provoking exploration for anyone wishing to learn how temperament types impact the path to forgiveness, or for those desiring a greater understanding of their own fo...2024-05-1429 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessBonus Episode: Mom's Day MusingsHappy Mother's Day!
In this bonus episode, I share a story of my family and how Mother's Day has changed over time. I also remind moms that it's OK to make mistakes and that we are all human and forgiven.
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Connect with me HERE as your forgiveness coach. I will hold space for yo...2024-05-1006 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E23 A Choleric Mom's Journey to Self-ForgivenessIn this insightful podcast episode, we plunge deep into the psyche of the choleric temperament. We unravel nuances of anger and the therapeutic strength of forgiveness, through the lens of a choleric. The guest, Catherine Johnson, a Catholic Mindset Coach and mother, engages in a candid conversation about her battles with rage, mom guilt, and her path to forgiveness.
The podcast emphasizes understanding the choleric person's tendencies like direct communication, boundary-setting, and the propensity to set aside resentment for personal growth. It shines a light on obstacles commonly faced by cholerics when attempting to forgive, such as...2024-05-0628 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E22 A Sanguine's Journey of Healing and RedemptionIn this enlightening episode, delve deep into the sanguine temperament and its relationship with forgiveness. Explore the intrinsic qualities of Sanguines, their optimism, tendency to avoid conflict, and how these traits impact their journey towards forgiveness. Listen as our sanguine host shares her personal experiences, providing an intimate perspective on sanguine forgiveness and the challenges it presents.
Engage in a candid discussion with Marty Thompson, a Catholic Mindset Coach, Father, and self-identified sanguine. Gain insight into his battle with addiction, the healing power of forgiveness, and the crucial role it played in his journey towards sobriety. Learn...2024-04-3028 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E21 Who You Are Is How You ForgiveWe all have a certain way of being, what psychologists call a personality type. There are hundreds of personality tests designed to determine what makes you tick. In this episode, I discuss one approach to understanding personality: The Temperaments. I will be discussing their origin, and what they are. In the next four episodes, I will go into depth about how each temperament might show up in the forgiveness process.
Click HERE to discover your temperament.
References: The Four Temperaments by Rev. Conrad Hock
If this podcast resonates with you, please rate and...2024-04-2312 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E20 Understanding Love, Forgiveness and Divine DesignWelcome to Episode 20 of the Forgiveness is for YOU Podcast. Today I talk about LOVE. What is love? What is self-love and what does it all have to do with forgiveness? What does it mean to love God with all our heart, mind, soul, and strength, and to love our neighbor as ourselves? I explore the answers to these questions through the lens of the Theology of the Body and invite you to contemplate that who you are is how you forgive.
I contend that our primary caregivers influence our image of God, which could pose a...2024-04-1613 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E19 Finding Beauty in the Broken with Heather Gaffney"No matter how ugly things get, there is always a way to find beauty in the broken." That is what my guest on this episode, Heather Gaffney, believes and so beautifully exemplifies through her story as a survivor of domestic violence. Heather shares her forgiveness process of herself and her ex-husband in a kind, loving, and open way that feels genuine and inspiring.
Heather Gaffney is an author, podcaster, and YouTuber. She is the host of the Warrior Words podcast and the Beauty in the Broken YouTube channel.
Guest Bio: Heather has a Master’s Deg...2024-04-0935 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E18 From Bitterness to Joy with Steve SilvaWelcome to Episode 18! In this last episode on emotions in the forgiveness process, my best friend and husband of almost 32 years, Steve Silva, shares his thoughts about the emotion of bitterness and how it can be redeemed. We talk about the difference between bitterness and sorrow and his process of forgiving me for emotional injuries in our marriage.
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Lent is here and now is the perfect time for my 5 D...2024-04-0216 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E17 Is Making Amends Atonement?Welcome to Episode 18 of the Forgiveness is for You Podcast. Today, I make a distinction between two concepts people around the world contemplate as we enter into Holy Week: Making amends and atonement. These concepts, if I may, are central to the act of forgiveness. One is utterly dependent on our own strength, and the other is only possible by the grace of God.
I refer to the Alcoholics Anonymous 12-Step Recovery Program’s directive to make a list of persons harmed and make amends. I trace the etymology of amends and atonement and their application to liv...2024-03-2615 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E16 You First! 5 Steps to Overcome Pride in ForgivenessIn today's episode, I define pride in the context of forgiveness. Pride is like two sides of a coin, heads or tails, virtue or vice.
If pride stops at the pleasure or satisfaction we experience for an accomplishment that required great sacrifice, or a level of intimacy we achieved in a relationship, or recognition for a job well done, but doesn’t become the measure by which we measure others, then pride is a virtue.
From a Judeo-Christian perspective, pride is considered a capital sin, a sin that “begets” or gives rise to other sins. Pride i...2024-03-1914 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E15 Overcoming Resentment in the Forgiveness ProcessIn today’s episode, I discuss the power of resentment in the forgiveness process and offer 10 steps for overcoming it.
The definition of resentment comes from an article, From Ressentiment to Resentment as a Tertiary Emotion by Warren D. TenHouten published in 2018 in the Review of European Studies Volume 10, No 4.
TenHouten claims that resentment is not a primary or secondary emotion, but a tertiary emotion, “whose primary emotional components are anger, surprise and disgust, and whose secondary components are contempt, shock and outrage.” Resentment is a conglomerate of emotions.
I refer to a study...2024-03-1212 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E14 Encounter the Joyful Unknown with Monica HerberIn today’s episode, I welcome my first Guest, Monica Herber. We talk about Monica and her husband’s adoption of a child with profound disabilities and their journey through forgiveness to joyful living. Click on this LINK for a picture of Monica's family.
Monica is the founder of The Joyful Unknown LLC, Speaker, and Certified Catholic Mindset and Marriage Coach. Her passion is to help individuals and married couples learn the tools needed to choose joy in the midst of suffering. Monica guides clients into joyful living while helping them cope with losses due to tragedy, devas...2024-03-0525 min
Warrior Words | Stories of Hope | Finding Beauty After Battles & Thriving After Surviving Trauma9. Part Two: Coming to America - Surprise! The Trauma Response Rears its Ugly Head with Dr. Carron SilvaWelcome to Episode 9 of the Warrior Words podcast!
Today we continue the incredible episode I had with Dr. Carron Silva about Apartheid last week. This week she shares about her journey to the United States - the hows, whys, and surprises of coming to America.
Armor Up.
Fight the Good Fight.
Seek Beauty.
Make Your Words Warrior Words.
Learn more about Dr. Carron Silva:
Website: https://drcarron.com/
Podcast: FORGIVENESS is For YOU - https://podcasts.apple.com...2024-03-0537 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E13 Pockets of Joy in the Midst of SufferingIn this episode, I discuss how we can make ourselves receptive to joy amid our suffering and how we can use our suffering for the good of others. I discuss the four levels of Happiness in Fr. Robert Spitzer’s book, Finding True Happiness and give three tips for how to cultivate receptivity to joy: 1. Stop, 2. Drop and 3. Rock & Roll. I mention the song Jerusalema as one of my favorites to dance to when I am opening myself up to receive joy.
I refer to the Laughing Jesus image and wonder what Jesus' laughter sounds like.
We...2024-02-2710 min
Warrior Words | Stories of Hope | Finding Beauty After Battles & Thriving After Surviving Trauma8. Apartheid and Forgiveness. The Impact of Both with Dr. Carron Silva, Part OneWelcome to Episode 8 of the Warrior Words podcast!
This is an incredible episode. I was blessed with the opportunity to speak to Dr. Carron Silva about Apartheid. She explained a little bit about what that system was and then shared how the oppression of a group of people, based solely on their skin color, impacted a country and individual families.
We tend to think globally, understandably so, when we hear about atrocities occurring to entire groups of people. What we may not consider is how those atrocities trickle down to the individual families & p...2024-02-2733 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E12 Overcoming Shame in the Forgiveness ProcessIn this episode, I discuss the emotion of shame, the third core emotion we might experience in the forgiveness process. In recent history, shame researcher Brene Brown has made headlines around the world as she exposed this gnarly emotion and its effects on the human psyche and relationships. I focus not so much on the research but speak directly to shame concerning the forgiveness of self.
I explain the Christian understanding of the origin of shame and talk about what happens in the mind when we experience shame.
Finally, I give tips on how to...2024-02-2013 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessEww that's disgusting! 5 Ways to Approach Disgust in the Forgiveness ProcessDisgust is an oft-overlooked emotion in the healing of trauma and deciding to forgive. Moral disgust is the reaction to a physical reaction towards a person who violated the moral code, such as sexual, verbal, or physical abuse and betrayal in a relationship.
If we are to forgive ourselves, we will need to take a good, hard look at how disgust is showing up in our thoughts and is manifested in our bodies.
When disgust is internalized, we have a visceral reaction to our own thoughts, emotions, and actions.
When disgust is externalized...2024-02-1312 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E10 Emotions in Forgiveness: AngerIt’s important to understand how our emotions can help us heal or keep us stuck in unforgiveness. In this episode, I talk about the role of anger in the forgiveness process. I make the distinction between the state of anger and the emotion of anger.
We can allow ourselves to be in a state of anger, but not for too long. When we allow the emotion of anger to morph into a state of being, we become an angry person and our tendency toward sin increases. We can allow ourselves to experience the emotion of anger an...2024-02-0617 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E9 Is Retelling My Trauma Story Helpful or Harmful?In this episode, I examine how our thoughts, words, and actions in unforgiveness can result in sin that we may not even be aware of committing. I also caution against advice I was given in the early stages of my recovery from sexual abuse.
The advice I got was to retell my story in all the minute detail to anyone who would listen, with the understanding that validation cures trauma. However, with each retelling of my stories, I was strengthening the neural networks in my brain that held the trauma. I was making myself sicker by reliving...2024-01-3014 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E8 Is Loving Our Enemies Forgiveness?In this episode, I am tackling the belief that “good” Christians have to forgive because God tells us to love our enemies. But is loving the same as forgiving? So many Christians who are still in the process of working through forgiveness get trapped in unhealthy relationships because they feel guilty about not loving their enemies as Jesus exhorts us to do in Matthew 5: 43-45. Victims are often strongly encouraged to re-engage in relationships with offenders as their Christian duty to forgive.
I challenge two concepts in this belief, (1) what it means to be a “good” Christian and (2) wh...2024-01-2314 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E7 How to Say, "I'm Sorry" and Mean ItToday’s episode is about how we learn to forgive, what we can do to unlearn some bad forgiveness habits, and how to make a sincere apology.
We are social beings and human brains develop in community. From a very young age, we observe how adults in our homes behave toward one another. We copy their behavior, but we are also directly impacted when we are instructed to do as they say.
How we learn to forgive has a direct impact on our relationships throughout life. Forgiveness requires words and actions. Some of us believe th...2024-01-1613 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E6 Self Forgiveness & Internal Family SystemsIn today’s episode, I discuss how Internal Family Systems Therapy is one way to uncover the parts of ourselves that carry blame and shame in our unforgiveness of self.
Forgiving ourselves is in line with the second commandment, to love our neighbor as ourselves. Loving ourselves as God loves us requires fully accepting who He created us to be. We cannot extend to others what we cannot do for ourselves.
Shame and blame are tango partners in keeping us stuck in unforgiveness of self.
When it comes to forgiving ourselves, we must be...2024-01-0913 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E5 What Forgiveness Is NotToday’s episode, What Forgiveness Is Not, is the fourth in a four-part series called Understanding Forgiveness. In today’s episode, I discuss what forgiveness is not.
Forgiveness is not a one-time event we have to do it over and over and over sometimes for years before we can actually say that we have forgiven the person.
Forgiveness not for the offender, it is for you, to set your heart free from holding on to the emotional bonds and the memory that you have connected to the offender.
Forgiveness is not accountability for someone else. We may never be a...2024-01-0209 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E4 What Forgiveness Is Part 3Today’s episode is the third in a four-part series called Understanding Forgiveness. In today’s episode, I discuss seven more distinct characteristics of forgiveness.
Forgiveness requires supernatural love – what we call agape love. This is the type of love with which God loves us and is made available to us through participation in the Sacraments. Forgiveness frees us to love more abundantly.
Forgiveness is an opportunity to reconcile ourselves with God. The Catechism of the Catholic Church # 2844 states that forgiveness is "...a high point of Christian prayer. Forgiveness also bears witness that, in our world, love is strong...2023-12-2411 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E3 What Forgiveness Is Part 2Today’s episode is the second in a four-part series called Understanding Forgiveness. In today’s episode, I discuss four more characteristics of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is our own responsibility. If we wait for the offender to ask for forgiveness first, we may never have an opportunity to forgive. Waiting for the offender to show remorse is surrendering our power and agency to the offender.
Forgiveness is allowing God to help us walk through the pain of the forgiveness process. Instead of moving away, it’s moving toward the thoughts and emotions that are rooted in the wound or past painful experie...2023-12-0711 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E2 What Forgiveness Is Part 1Today’s episode What Forgiveness Is, Part 1 is the first in a four-part series called Understanding Forgiveness. In today’s episode, I discuss four distinct characteristics of forgiveness.
Forgiveness is an act of the will. We decide if, when, and how we will forgive. Jesus never forces us to forgive. He equips us with the ability to forgive through the free gift of grace to fill our hearts with forgiveness. The more we forgive, the more we will be forgiven. When we struggle with forgiveness, our prayer can simply be, Lord, I want to forgive, please help my unfo...2023-12-0710 minForgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through ForgivenessS1E1 Forgiveness Is For You Podcast Welcome!Hello Forgiver,
In this very first episode of the Forgiveness is For You Podcast, I explain why I believe that forgiveness is the ultimate path to healing from any kind of trauma. I include a brief history of my background as a South African immigrant and my own healing through forgiveness from various traumas. I hope that my story will inspire you to explore the role that forgiveness can play on your own path to interior freedom.
In the next four episodes, I will debunk common myths about forgiveness and help you begin contemplating how...2023-12-0709 min
Becoming Trauma-InformedS3EP25: Finding Meaning Through Forgiveness with Dr. Carron SilvaSend us a textContent Warning- Political Terror, S*xual Assault, and Domestic Violence In this incredibly powerful episode, Dr. Carron Silva shares her childhood experiences growing up in South Africa during the 1960s as a woman of color. Her story is one of trauma and terror, and also love, forgiveness, and faith. Dr. Carron Silva is a Catholic Mindset Coach and Forgiveness Guide. She curates a space where individuals can participate without due pressure to please, perform, or pretend, to explore their deepest thoughts and be vulnerable to safely challenge bel...2023-04-1859 min