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All Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 260: The Power of a Reset - Taking a Step Back to Bring You CloserIn this episode of the podcast, we dive into the power of a marriage reset—why taking a step back from the chaos of everyday life can bring you closer together and reignite the spark in your relationship.Whether you’re feeling emotionally distant, disconnected, or simply stuck in the day-to-day routine, a reset can help you reassess your connection and renew your commitment to each other.You’ll learn:The signs that your marriage might need a resetSmall, actionable ways to create space for reconnectionHow stepping back from y...
2025-02-1827 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 259: Triggers - Why they are so hard, and how to manage them betterIn today’s episode, we explore how to manage intense emotional moments in relationships, especially when triggered by something your partner says or does.I break down the four key steps that happen in these moments and provide practical strategies to help you slow down and navigate the emotional storm.We start by understanding how a trigger is created and what it does inside your body and how to truly tune in to uncover your needs in the moment.I share specific thoughts and ac...
2025-02-1128 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 258: 5 Things Every Couple Must Get Right for a Strong, Lasting MarriageWhat makes a marriage truly thrive? Whether you're engaged, newly married, or years into your relationship, there are five key areas that every couple must get right to build a strong foundation. In this episode, we’re breaking down the essentials that lead to long-term love and connection.I cover:How to communicate effectively (even when you disagree)The money conversations that prevent stress and resentmentNavigating family dynamics, boundaries, and personal spaceConflict resolution strategies that actually workAligning your long-term vision so you grow together, not ap...
2025-02-0427 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 257: Becoming the Partner You Want to Be Married ToIn this episode, we’re diving into a transformative topic: Becoming the Partner You Want to Be Married To. Whether you’re engaged, newly married, or have been together for years, this conversation will challenge and inspire you to reflect on your role in creating the kind of marriage you desire.What You’ll Learn:The common trap couples fall into: focusing on your partner’s flaws while downplaying your own need for growth.How self-awareness and accountability can create deeper connection, trust, and teamwork in your relation...
2025-01-2829 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 256: All Things Marriage and All Things YouWelcome to the NEW podcast! We’re shaking things up to better reflect the work I do with couples and individuals—helping you love your marriage again, navigate major decisions, or build a strong foundation for your future.Marriage isn’t just about the partnership; it’s deeply tied to how you show up as an individual. Your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors shape the connection, communication, and fulfillment you experience in your relationship.In this episode, we explore what it truly means to show up for your marriage by diving i...
2025-01-2130 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 255: Breaking Negative Patterns in Your MarriageDoes it ever feel like you and your spouse just go around in circles over and over again? It's so common for couples to stay in the same kinds of negative cycles.In this episode, we dive into why we repeat unhealthy patterns in relationships and how to break free.I share with you where your patterns come from, why we choose familiar over the "right and healthy" thing, and how our brains are driven to try to solve issues the same way over...
2025-01-1437 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 254: Growing Together as a CoupleWhat does it mean to grow together as a couple? It’s not always as simple as it sounds. This episode is all about navigating those differences and creating a process that works for both of you.Here’s the thing: growth will look different for everyone. I break down what growing together as a couple looks like, particularly for couples that experience the anxious - avoidant attachment style dynamic.In this episode, we dig into:The real work anxious and avoidant partners need to focus on to grow...
2025-01-0735 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 253: Hard ConversationsEven though it's so easy to avoid them, hard conversations have the potential to move your life forward in the direction you want to go.Hard conversations can happen with yourself, with your spouse, with your children, and anyone else you have an important relationship with.In this Episode of the podcast, I'm breaking down all aspects of having hard conversations. From your intentions and goals, to the barriers that get in the way, to how to have effective (yet hard) conversations.It is...
2024-12-3134 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 252: Getting StartedThere are stages of changing your life. In this episode, I share with you the process of change, and offer the most important things to focus on when you are getting ready to change. I also share one of the biggest obstacles to your success - managing your emotions. I walk you through a process that helps you to understand, process and manage your emotions in way that fuels you to move forward instead of remaining stuck.Whatever you want to create for yourself in 2025 is totally possible for...
2024-12-2432 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 251: Emotional FulfillmentWhat we all crave in our human existence is a sense of emotional fulfillment. We want to feel content, satisfied and happy.Often we seek emotional fulfillment inside a marriage or within other intimate relationships. Yet, when for various reasons, when those relationships are not fulfilling or there is constant strain, it can be difficult to know how to create emotional fulfillment in other areas of life.In this podcast episode, I'm essentially answering the question: "How do I create emotional fulfillment for myself when my marriage isn't happy?"
2024-12-1731 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 250: Choosing YourselfWhat would it be like to truly choose yourself? To have an lived experience where you WANT you? You are a priority to you. You fully accept and love you?In this episode of the podcast, I invite you to overcome the specific obstacles that often stand in the way and prevent you from fully choosing yourself.It is my hope that you walk away completely inspired and more committed to YOU and your wellbeing.Also mentioned in this episode:
2024-12-1038 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 249: The Well Made Woman: CAROLYNI'm so thrilled to introduce you to my client Carolyn, who joined The Well Made Woman Program last year.In this conversation, you'll hear what helped her go from being a long-time podcast listener (and note-taker) to officially joining one of my coaching programs. You'll hear how her commitment to make the most out of the experience lead her to do the work and ultimately achieve the progress she was seeking. Carolyn also shares how she is different now, and how this work has...
2024-12-0432 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 248: Why You Are So AngryAnger in relationships. It's a natural human emotion that when misunderstood can create a lot of conflict and disconnection.In this episode, I break down the most common reasons for some of the anger you have been feeling and offer a pathway forward to help you use your anger to create positive progress in your life.The work of navigating difficult emotions is so essential. When you have the tools to understand what's truly going on for you, then you have the power to change it.
2024-12-0335 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 247: The Well Made Woman: DIANADiana's story is that of a woman who is committed to finding her place of power rather than always blaming her husband. Through our work together in The Well Made Woman, she realized how much of her resentment and frustration came from not being able to see her role, and not doing things to create better situations for herself.In this episode we talk about her Transformational Goal, and how achieving that goal has had immense ripple effects in her life - not only herself, her marriage, but also...
2024-11-2727 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 246: Transformational GoalsIn this episode, we are diving into the idea of Transformational Goals - goals that change YOU, and thereby change your LIFE.This is a new concept I created that I am SOOO excited to share with you. Because, it really does have the potential to change your life.Whatever you are wanting to be better - in your life, your relationships, you marriage, it starts with critical shifts inside of YOU.When you focus on the qualities and characteristics you want to embody...
2024-11-2643 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 245: The Well Made Woman: CINDYIn this episode, I have the absolute pleasure of sharing with you one of my clients' experiences inside my coaching program, The Well Made Woman.I appreciate so much Cindy's willingness to share her relationship journey, all the transitions, and the power she has been able to reclaim for herself. You will hear from her as she talks about attempting to get her partner on board with improving their relationship, and then coming to the realization that focusing on herself, her healing, her understanding, her growth was the BEST...
2024-11-2038 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 244: The Well Made WomanWhat comes to mind when you hear that something is well made? In this episode, we are diving into the concept of a well made woman and why becoming more intentional in the way you show up in your life has so many positive ripple effects.We have goals for everything - work, finances, health - and today we are talking about the internal goals that create you being your BEST.In this episode you will come to better understand yourself, what it would be like for you to...
2024-11-1946 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 243: Internal ValidationWhose opinion do you value the most? If the answer is anyone other than yourself, this episode will be eye-opening. We are conditioned from an early age to please others. To change the way we operate to accommodate how others feel. As children this makes sense - it's essential for our survival. But as adults, and especially in marriage, we want to cultivate the skill of internal validation. When you value, acknowledge and appreciate your own feelings, perspectives and needs, you become less co-dependent on your spouse to always...
2024-11-1233 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 242: Communicating EffectivelyIf you've ever wondered "how do I communicate more effectively with my spouse"...then this podcast episode is for you.I break down the hidden agenda behind this question, and help you determine what you true communication goals are.You'll also learn the 3 essential components of effective communication, and what needs to happen in each category in order to your to truly be heard and understood.This unique perspective will truly help you create the transformations necessary to improve the way you and your...
2024-11-0536 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 241: Core Negative ImageWhat are your thoughts about your spouse? If I were to ask you to describe them on their worst day as a partner to you, what would you say?Your answer is the Core Negative Image you have of them. It's the set of negative thoughts and beliefs you have that often you are responding to when you are angry, frustrated, sad or disappointed.It's important to uncover these thoughts and to take a look at how they drive your energy, interactions and communication with your spouse.
2024-10-2938 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 240: What's PossibleHow often do you sit and contemplate what's possible from a positive perspective?Our brains are very good at asking the "what if" question when it comes to worry inducing thoughts.In this episode of the podcast, I'm turning it upside down and introducing you to a powerful concept that will open your mind and accelerate your progress in creating more of what you want in your life and marriage.You will learn the power of asking "what if" from the future you desire.
2024-10-2231 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 239: Cumulative EffectWhat you do, over and over again creates BIG gains. In how you feel, how you experience your marriage, and your overall life.In this episode I share with you the concept of cumulative effect and why it's so important to create the healthy, happy marriage that you want.It may seem like your day-to-day decisions to do the right and loving thing are slow in crating the BIG changes you want, but that's not necessarily the case.Tune in to learn more about...
2024-10-1542 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 239: Cumulative EffectWhat you do, over and over again creates BIG gains. In how you feel, how you experience your marriage, and your overall life.In this episode I share with you the concept of cumulative effect and why it's so important to create the healthy, happy marriage that you want.It may seem like your day-to-day decisions to do the right and loving thing are slow in crating the BIG changes you want, but that's not necessarily the case.Tune in to learn more about...
2024-10-1542 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 238: 4 Relationship Positions in MarriageWhen a marriage experiences challenges, there are a set of predictable positions each person holds that create conflict, disconnection and dysfunction. In this episode I'm taking you inside a concept I first learned about from world-renown couple's therapist Terry Real and sharing with you 4 common relational positions that perpetuate marital issues.Knowing where you and your partner fall on each of these is incredibly important data to have in order to shift things in a more position direction.The positive changes you are wanting...
2024-10-0846 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 237: Benefit of the DoubtHave you ever considered how giving your spouse the benefit of the doubt can actually benefit YOU?In this episode, I share with you the power concept of Benefit of the Doubt and talk you through why it will help you improve your marriage.If you find yourself assuming and expecting the worst, this podcast will give point you in a more productive direction to experience more of what you want.Also mentioned in this episode:...
2024-10-0138 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 236: Unhealthy Dynamics in MarriageOne of the most important distinctions you need to be able to make in your marriage is what is healthy vs. what is unhealthy.So much unhappiness and conflict arises when one or both of you are operating from a relationally UNhealthy place.In our episode today I'm breaking down the most common unhealthy dynamics I see - both those that I would considered "marital neglect" and those that I would define as "marital aggress". When you clearly understand what is healthy and what...
2024-09-2446 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 235: Enemy MindsetDoes your spouse sometimes feel like an enemy to you? Do you struggle to get on the same page about simple things? Find yourself always feeling like you are on the defensive with them? Does it feel like they look for ways to make things harder to you to get along?If so, this episode will help you so much.I'm breaking down the concept of the Enemy Mindset and how it's taking a toll on you and your marriage.I also teach you...
2024-09-1739 min
Soul-u-tionsLeaving Love Notes With Dr. Chavonne PerotteThis week Tara sits down with a very special guest Dr. Chavonne Perotte. Dr. Chavonne is a marriage counselor and in this episode, she gives some fantastic advice on ways to meet in the middle in your marriage.
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2024-09-1137 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 234: How Parenting Challenges Mirror Marriage Challenges (A personal story of transition)This one is a vulnerable and personal podcast about my own parenting challenges as my daughter enters her tween years. In several conversations I've had, I noticed the striking parallels between different seasons of the parenting relationship and different seasons of the marital relationship.At the end of the day relationships are relationships are relationships.As I've processed my own shifting dynamics as a parent, there are so many relevant lessons, take aways and helpful approaches that will support you in our own shifting dynamics with your spouse.
2024-09-1035 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 233: Self Leadership in MarriageHow do you lead yourself well in a challenging season of your marriage? What does it look like to still show up as your best, even when you are angry, hurt and upset? What are the standards you commit to holding yourself to, no matter what?In today's podcast episode, we are diving into the topic of self leadership - showing up, doing what's right, with kindness, love and respect. This concept is so important in order for you to create the experiences and positive changes that you want...
2024-09-0328 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 232: Grief, Compassion and Radical AcceptanceIn this episode of the podcast we are having a sensitive conversation about the topics of grief, compassion and radical acceptance.So many people struggle with what to do with their unmet expectations. The answer is to grieve.So many people struggle with regret and shame for past choices. The answer is to have compassion.So many people exhaust themselves trying to make their partner or marriage something different than what it is. The answer is to practice radical acceptance.
2024-08-2729 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 231: Breaking "Bad" HabitsWe all have behaviors and actions we take that keep us from our goals. In marriage, there are likely things you have a habit of doing that keep you from experiencing the healthiest and happiest marriage possible. In this episode of the podcast I break down some of the most common "bad" habits I see couples engage in. Underneath any behavior that keeps you from your goal is an underlying need. We will be discussing how to go beyond "will power" and "discipline" to change the foundation of how you operate so that forming...
2024-08-2040 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 230: STUCKIn today's podcast, we are diving into the experience of being STUCK. So many people come to me feeling like they are not making the progress they want. And it's a long-term experience for them.If you have this same experience it's important to identify exactly where you are stuck. There are 4 specific categories of "stuckness" to consider. Once you have more information about where the bottle neck is for yourself, then you have the roadmap for making positive changes that move you forward.So whether you feel stuck...
2024-08-1336 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 229: How to Have a More Fulfilling LifeDoes your life feel like groundhog day, where you're just going through the motions day in and day out with little that brings you joy?Or maybe the troubles in your marriage weigh you down so much it's hard to find joy in the rest of your life.If so, this episode is for you. We are diving into the topic of how to create a more fulfilling life.No matter what circumstances you currently find yourself in, there is a perspective, way of...
2024-08-0638 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 228: Giving UpWhen you read the words, Giving Up within the context of marriage, one idea may come to mind - ending the marriage. But before a couple ever gets to that point, there are other decision points where the action is to give up.In this podcast episode I break down the 3 most common ways I see people give up - on trying, on the process of help, and the marriage itself. For each, I break down the mindset and circumstances that lead to giving...
2024-07-3029 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 227: How this Work WorksIf you've ever wondered, what is marriage coaching, and exactly how does it work to improve a marriage, this episode is for you.I share my own personal notes for how I move my clients from conflict and disconnection, to productive conversations and emotional closeness again.There are 10 very specific, concrete skills, shifts, and approaches we take inside my couples coaching programs. As you listen to me describe each one, assess in your own marriage, how well you are doing in these areas.
2024-07-2325 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 226: Trigger Response PlanWe live in a day and age where having a safety response plan is essential. I'm taking this idea and concept and applying it to your emotional and relational safety as well.In the podcast today we will be diving into the idea of a Trigger Response Plan - a set of steps you take when you are triggered that help you to process what's happening, understand what you need to feel better, and take the appropriate steps to resolve whatever has upset you.Having a process to handle...
2024-07-1632 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 225: The Power of Curiosity in Your MarriageWould you consider yourself a curious person? Do you approach conversations with a desire to learn, and with an open mind?This is a superpower skills to bring to your marriage.In this episode of the podcast, I share with you the difference being more curious can make in the communication with your spouse. If you find that your current discussions are filled with defensiveness and finger pointing, practicing more curiosity will create more understanding and vulnerable conversations.I break down 5 steps to take...
2024-07-0923 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 224: Fading AttractionAre you at a place where the attraction you feel towards your spouse has faded? You're not alone. This is a common issue so many people face.In this episode of the podcast, I am breaking down exactly why this happens. It may seem like your spouse's appearance or their way of being is the reason you can't feel excited and attracted to them. But it's more than that.Tune in to this episode to learn which of the 5 culprits of fading attraction are actually at play for you.
2024-07-0227 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 223: Internal AngerAnger. It's an emotion so many of us feel. And when I speak to women who are trying to address their anger, it usually involves blaming others. As human beings we are wired to protect ourselves by NOT looking inside to find answers. It's easier to look at what other people are or are not doing.Yet, so often the REAL, CORE reason we feel anger in our lives has a lot to do with what I've defined as internal anger. The part of you that's angry at you....
2024-06-2527 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneBONUS: WMW Masterclass June 26I wanted to make SURE your heard about my new Masterclass on June 26th. It's the Well Made Woman Masterclass and we are diving deep into how to stop self-sacrifice and how to implement healthy boundaries in your relationships and/or marriage.If you find yourself feeling angry and resentful, and are ready to start taking better care of YOU, this is the masterclass that sets that in motion for you.Get all the details, plus register for free here: https://drchavonne.com/wmwm/...
2024-06-2508 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 222: Self SacrificeWe live in a culture that would have us wear self-sacrifice like a badge of honor.When we speak highly of others, it is usually touting how giving they are, how much they do for others, how they seem to accomplish so much.Rarely do we hear accolades for how well a person took care of themselves, how they set healthy boundaries, how they prioritized their needs and goals.Yet it is the latter that is associated with a greater sense of well-being, fulfillment...
2024-06-1831 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 221: Asking WhyAs human beings, we are naturally curious and our mind will always want to ask the questions why. You can ask the question why in a way that empowers you or disempowers you. In this podcast episode I am breaking down why it's so important to ask WHY, and sharing with you a process to help you use this question to motivate you to actually create what you want. This is a powerful tool to shift your mindset, and to help you uncover the internal motivation that will best...
2024-06-1123 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 220: Focus on What You WantWhen you experience challenges in your life or marriage it can be easy to become hyper-focused on what's going wrong. Your brain will naturally want to ruminate on how bad things are, how disappointed you are feeling, and how unhappy your situation is making you.However, the more you focus on what's going wrong, the more things go wrong. That's because your thoughts and beliefs direct your actions and responses. In this episode, I'm sharing the power of focusing on what you WANT as the way to create positive...
2024-06-0431 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 219: Honor YourselfOne of the most important skills to develop toward the path of greater fulfillment in life is to be able to honor yourself. Honoring yourself is a beautiful act of self love. It's you standing for you.However, many people have the wrong idea of what this actually looks like.In this episode of the podcast, I break down the 3 mistakes I see happen, that create unnecessary conflict and disconnection in your marriage.I also leave you with 7 specific...
2024-05-2827 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 218: Judgment Free Zone in MarriageAs human beings we are wired to judge. The idea of judgment helps us determine what is right and true for ourselves. It helps us discriminate and decide upon values, courses of action, and preferences. Inherently, it's not a bad thing.But in marriage, judgment often shows up as making yourself right and the other person wrong. This leads to communication issues, disconnection and conflict.In this episode, I'm tackling the topic of judgment, why it happens in the first place, as well as 4 specific and tangible benefits of...
2024-05-2135 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 217: In Your FeelingsEmotions can be a BIG deal in your marriage. Feeling angry, frustrated, sad or disappointed greatly influences the way you show up and interact with your spouse. Many times, my clients experience such intense emotions that it's hard to get out of them and take the loving actions that will created connection and forward progress.In this episode of the podcast, we dive into the experience of being "in your feelings" where you have an emotional block keeping you stuck in a state of...
2024-05-1428 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 216: When Your Spouse Doesn't See a ProblemOne of the most common questions I get asked is "what do you do when your spouse doesn't see the problems in your marriage?" Today I'm answering that question in detail with exactly what will help you move forward to have a better experience in your marriage.Inside this episode you will understand WHY your spouse may have a blind spot, and how you can think about it in a way that leads to less frustration and disappointment, and actually helps you to connect with them and understand them better.
2024-05-0731 min
The Profitable Nutritionist136. Competing for Time with Your Spouse with Dr. Chavonne PerotteMarriage and relationships can be deeply affected by the financial ebbs and flows that come with entrepreneurship and that often show up as competing for time with a spouse.Examples include:How do you handle conversations with your spouse if they aren't on board with your business or think it's taking too much of your time?Or if they think since you're "working from home" you should be doing _____ instead of _____.What if your spouse thinks your time spent on your business would be better off at a different job?Or if there just...
2024-05-071h 02All Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 215: Prolonged ArgumentsDo you and your spouse take a long time to recover from certain arguments?In this podcast episode I'm diving into the topic of prolonged arguments - those times where one or both of you stay upset and in a state of conflict longer than you'd like. There are 5 main reasons this happens and it's important you understand exactly WHAT is contributing to this dynamic in your own marriage. I also share with you the three most important approaches that will help you repair...
2024-04-3025 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 214: 6 Ways Communication Breaks DownIf you find yourself having conversations with your spouse that leave you feeling frustrated, unheard, and misunderstood, this podcast episode will shed important light on what's been going on.I'm diving into the most common examples of communication breakdowns I see in my coaching practice.Understanding EXACTLY where things veer off course will give your the necessary information to actually course correct and ultimately have more productive conversations that move you forward together on the same page as a couple.Also...
2024-04-2330 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 213: What to Do When You're TriggeredIn marriage, there will be things that trigger you. Your spouse will say or do something, and you have an intense emotional reaction. Reacting to triggers immediately can lead to arguments and conflict that spirals out of control.When most people are triggered, their mind focused on all the things the OTHER person is doing wrong. But in this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing with you the benefits and opportunities for you to go INWARD when you are triggered. I offer you the specific reasons this approach will...
2024-04-1624 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 212: Not What You WantHow do you deal with things when it's not what you want? From the small things like a wrong or delayed order, to bigger things like major disappointments in your marriage - the way you decide to handle situations matters.In this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing both simple reminders and choice points you always have when things are not unfolding the way you would like.This episode will help you assess how you are currently processing unmet expectations or frustrating circumstances and seasons in your life with...
2024-04-0932 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 211: Doing LessBeing busy is one of the most common distractions we use to keep us from truly connecting with ourselves.We pack our days with too many things that are not important, stress us out, or cause us to stretch ourselves too thin.One of the major reasons couples struggle in their relationship is a function of how much overwhelm they experience - often at their own hands. There is a psychology behind being busy.And learning how to break...
2024-04-0234 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 210: Underlying Core IssuesIf you'd like to solve some of your conflict for good, it's important that your get to the underlying core issues - these are the deeper needs, desires, values and expectations that drive you both,Couples are in conflict because they are being driven by opposing core issues. When you understand this, and are clear about your specific underlying issues, the way you handle arguments, and disappointments changes dramatically.In this episode, I share a process to help you uncover your underlying core issues. The five steps presented will...
2024-03-2631 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 209: Gratitude as a Power ToolHow often do you practice gratitude? It's the one thing that will give you the perspective you need in order to feel better, solve your issues at a higher level, and move yourself forward in a more positive direction.In this episode of the podcast, I"m diving deep into the process of gratitude and how you can use it as a power tool in your life.Whether you're feeling blah, struggle with issues in your life or marriage, or just want to give...
2024-03-1925 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 208: Identity ShiftsIf you want your marriage to improve, it requires an identity shift. Usually in both of you. You have to go from a couple in conflict, to a couple that sees themselves as a united team.In this episode of the podcast, I'm diving in to identity shifts. This episode airs on my actual birthday and I was reflecting on my identity this time last year, versus where I am this year. WOW. What a difference. Listen in as I share a simple process...
2024-03-1232 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 207: What You WantHow often are you thinking about and moving in the direction of what you want? Thinking about what you want is one of the most valuable uses of your time. When you focus on what you want, you give yourself the opportunity to create it. Your brain becomes more oriented to how it's possible vs. how it's not.In this podcast episode, we are diving into the 5 steps that help you tap into the goals and desires you have for your marriage so you can actually make them a r...
2024-03-0528 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 206: 4 Questions to Get UnstuckWhere were things in your marriage this time last year? Are they better, the same, or worse now? So many couples find themselves stuck dealing with the same thoughts, feelings and issues. In this episode of the podcast I talk through 4 questions you want to ask yourself to uncover and deeply understand why you are where you are.This is a deep and profound conversation to have with yourself, and asking these 4 questions will help you see what's been happening and also what's possible...
2024-02-2725 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 205: How to Not be PettyPettiness in marriage. Even as adults, we can go there sometimes. It seems justified, but rarely leads to the type of communication and connection we truly want.In this episode I'm breaking down the mindset of petty behavior, so you can understand why this way of showing up can sometimes be so tempting.I also provide you with specific strategies to overcome any petty tendencies in your marriage and offer you the pathway to a more mature, vulnerable and healthy way of working through your issues.
2024-02-2023 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 204: Communication FAQsWhenever I am speaking on the topic of communication in your marriage, there are a series of questions that are commonly asked.This week on the podcast, I'm answering them for you.I dive into the following questions:What to do when your spouse is super defensive What to do when your spouse shuts down and refuses to talk about something How to stop being so angry when you bring things to your spouseWhat to do...
2024-02-1335 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 203: 3 Communication Breakdowns that Lead to DivorceYour communication is the FOUNDATION of your marriage. If you can't communicate effectively, you can't connect. And if you can't connect you have two people essentially living separate lives.In this episode, I have a special guest, and close coach friend, Julie Danielson join me for this co-podcast. Julie is a DIVORCE coach, yep you read that right. And the insight she shares about the communication breakdowns that were persistent issues in her clients previous marriages is enlightening. In this episode, she shares 3 specific issues in communication, that when...
2024-02-0640 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 202: The Power of a ChallengeToday we are talking about challenges - specifically, when you commit to a certain set of actions for a defined period of time in order to achieve an important goal. Challenges can really support you in creating positive change in your life. And at this point in the year, you may have lost sight of a goal, or fallen out of the habits you are looking to change. This episode will give you the boost of motivation you need to get back on track.I'm sharing 3 different types ways...
2024-01-3030 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 201: How to ListenOne of the most commonly sited skills couples mention needing improvement in is LISTENING. They can recognize their mutual inability to truly listen to understand each other, and notice how often they are listening to PROVE their point. In this episode of the podcast, we are diving into why this happens, and the specific steps you can take to become a better listener in your marriage.When you both are practicing this work, you elevate your conversations and are able to be more productive and effective as a team.
2024-01-2335 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 200: What's NormalWe are tackling a tough topic today. What's normal? It's a question I get asked so often and while what's normal is in many ways subjective. However, in my conversations with many couples and individuals, there are some common things I see happening (or hear about happening) that are outside the normal range of what's healthy in a relationship.In this episode, I break down the 5 most common not normal vs. normal behaviors and ways of interacting. It is my hope that after listening, you have a better idea...
2024-01-1636 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 199: Prepared for AnythingOne of the reasons couples have a hard time communicating is because they are not appropriately prepared for all the directions a conversation can go.Often people come to me wanting to know how to handle certain situations that have happened and not gone well.The key is to learn from what went wrong and to focus your energy on the most important aspects of creating a positive interaction.Being prepared for anything requires you spend some time on the front end making decisions...
2024-01-0925 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 198: Doing things DifferentlyHappy Happy New Year! This podcast episode is a great conversation to have with yourself if you have ANYTHING in your life or marriage you want to be different in 2024.In it, I break down the 5 things you want to consider and think about in order to bring about lasting positive change. I also share some of the things I am doing differently, and an important goal I have for my own life this year.The...
2024-01-0234 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 197: Ready for ChangeIt's that time of year! That interesting week between Christmas and the New Year.It's just quiet enough to reflect on what 2023 has been like, while also looking ahead to what you want in 2024.In this podcast episode, I give you the opportunity to assess for yourself, if you are truly ready for change.One of the reasons people find themselves stuck with the same issues year after year is because they embark on change in idea only. They...
2023-12-2627 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 196: Your Childhood and Your Marriage (Part II)Today we are continuing to connect the dots between your childhood and your marriage.Your formative years growing up in your family set the stage for so much about how you operate in relationships. This is the case for both you AND your spouse.Understanding why you each think, react, and operate in various ways is so important.When you can trace much of those things back to childhood, the issues you face become less personal. You have a perspective of greater understanding. That...
2023-12-1935 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 195: Your Childhood and Your Marriage (Part 1 Attachment Styles)Your childhood plays such an important role in how you experience and show up in your marriage. Your relationship with your primary caretakers sets the stage and template for the expectations you have and how you become accustomed to feeling around others. More often than not, these early experiences become the patterns that you subconsciously replicate over and over again.In this episode, I'm breaking down why understanding your childhood and having clarity on your specific attachment style is SO important in understanding the current dynamics in your marriage.
2023-12-1242 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 194: Self DoubtS E L F D O U B TThat twinge of, is this okay, or not?Am I asking for too much or not?Should I do this or not?It's a very common issue I see a lot of women struggle with. It's something I've processed deeply in my own life and have so much insight to share with you on this podcast.I break down the exact areas I see people (mostly us women) doubting themselves the most, as well...
2023-12-0533 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 193: Feeling LonelyLoneliness in marriage.It's not a topic that gets talked about very much. It's more common than you think.In this episode of the podcast I break down 8 different types of loneliness and and why they happen. It's important to narrow down to the specifics of your loneliness so you can start making positive progress more quickly.I also share with you 4 specific questions to start answering for yourself so that you can navigate any lonely seasons in your life and marriage with a...
2023-11-2839 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 192: People Who Get on Your NervesYes, you read that right! Just in time for the holidays, we are getting straight to it with people who get on your nerves. This episode is a GREAT listen for ANYONE who may encounter a friend, family member, or spouse who has a tendency to push ALLLLL your buttons.There's so much to learn from the people who trigger us. In this episode I am breaking down step-by-step exactly what you can do NOW to prepare yourself for more positive interactions and a greater sense of peace and...
2023-11-2133 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 191: Getting on the Same Page Part IIIn this episode, we are picking up our conversation about getting on the same page. In Part I, I shared the mindset necessary to open you and your spouse up to being able to apply the approach and strategies I share in this episode.Today, I'm sharing a 5-step process to help you have the conversation in a way that leaves you both feeling heard, respected, and valued for your opinions.It's important to remember that getting on the same page about certain topics (parenting, finances, work-life balance) isn't...
2023-11-1426 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 190: Getting on the Same Page Part IOne of the most common issues couples struggle with is getting on the same page about important topics (money, parenting, work/life balance, etc).The way to make massive progress in this area starts first with your mindset.There are a set of thoughts and beliefs that make communicating with each other more difficult, or easier - even when you don't initially agree.In this podcast episode I give you 5 specific mindset shifts to make in order to have better discussions when you are...
2023-11-0730 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 189: What Are You Committed To?Self awareness brings choices.When you can notice your tendency to do or think certain things, you now have the choice to move yourself in the direction that moves you forward or keeps you the same. In this podcast episode, I offer 7 specific areas to examine where your commitment lies when it comes to your mindset about your marriage.For each one, I encourage you to assess where you fall currently in terms of your commitment. Where are you spending most of your time...
2023-10-3136 minAll Things Marriage with Dr. ChavonneEpisode 188: Having Your Own BackOne of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself is deciding to have your own back.This is where you consciously make the choice to take care of your emotions and operate from a place of love, grace, compassion, and understanding of yourself.In marriage, there will be times when you will feel alone, rejected, dismissed or misunderstood by your spouse.The solution is not to spend endless conversations trying to get them to understand you or change their perspective.
2023-10-2430 min
Ambitious and Balanced Working MomsPrioritizing your marriage (with Dr. Chavonne Perotte)What does it take to start moving your marriage up the priority list (even if your spouse does not)? To answer this question, I invited life and marriage coach, Dr. Chavonne Perotte, to share with us some strategies and tools she uses in her coaching practice. We talk about what it takes to get on the same team so it’s not you against your spouse as you navigate challenges like: how to make household duties and responsibilities more equitable? We talk about creating a culture change in your marriage where you make decisions together as roles and responsibilities sh...
2023-10-0947 min
MFR Coach’s Podcast w/Heather Hammell, Life + Business Coach for Myofascial Release TherapistsEP. 124 Decide What You Want With Relationship Coach Chavonne PerotteResearch shows that good relationships help people live longer, deal with stress better, have healthier habits, and so much more.
Our guest would agree, as she shares, “Relationships are the core of your life.”
I am joined today by Dr. Chavonne Perotte. She is a life and marriage coach who helps couples develop the mindset and skills to create happy marriages. She is the author of Voices in Your Ear: New Conversations to Transform Your Mind and Renew Your Marriage and is the Founder of RelateAble, LLC, a coaching practice that provides virtual coaching to coupl...
2023-07-1040 min
Become A Calm MamaYour Marriage with Dr. Chavonne PerotteToday on the podcast, I’m continuing the series of conversations with experts in all areas of life. This week, Dr. Chavonne Perotte is here and we’re talking all about your marriage.Dr. Chavonne is a life and marriage coach who helps couples develop the mindset and skills they need to create happy marriages and partnerships. She also has a doctorate from Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health, where she focused her research on communication and intimate partnerships. In 25 years of marriage, I’ve been through a lot of different stages - no kids, b...
2023-01-1947 min
Unleash Her VoiceEp 9: Interview with Marriage Coach Dr. Chavonne PerotteUnleash Her Voice has their first official guest! And what a guest indeed! The absolute wonderful and genius Dr. Chavonne Perotte!!! If you are married, if you are in a relationship, if you are a woman, you do not want to miss this episode!If you are obsessed with Dr. Chavonne as you should be! Here is where you can find her!https://www.instagram.com/chavonneperotte/https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/https://drchavonne.com/And here is where you can subscribe to her podcast! https://open.spotify.com/show/0HXMBQQ7989zkr2jCibGJF...
2022-10-2033 min
Half-Finished to Done Podcast with Cristina Roman, Productivity Coach for Ambitious Business OwnersEP. 06 Managing Procrastination Within a Partnership with Dr. Chavonne PerotteProcrastination can affect all areas of our lives, including our relationships with the people around us.
When it comes to romantic relationships, the effects of procrastination can show up everywhere in the relationship—from overwhelm due to being overcapacity to over-relying on your partner to meet your needs to taking their procrastination personally.
So how do you deal if you or a partner is a procrastinator? That is exactly what you will uncover in this episode.
Our guest today is Dr. Chavonne Perotte. She is a life and marriage coach who helps couples de...
2022-07-1941 min
It Tastes Like FreedomBody Love & Relationships with Dr. Chavonne Perotte | Ep.11Your Body is with you from day one until the end, learn how to build your relationship with her and love her wholeheartedly. In this episode, Chanci and life and marriage coach, Dr. Chavonne Perotte, discussHow to not buy into society’s lies about what your body “should” look like.Why loving the body you have is essential to your health goals.How to “love your belly”.Why loving your body is a choice.How to navigate painful thoughts about your body.How learning to love all of you is a superpower!Why it’s not your partner's jo...
2022-06-3038 minThe Profitable Nutritionist21. Handling Unsupportive Spouses with Chavonne PerotteI have another wonderful expert to introduce you to today. Having talented, genius friends I get to talk to and record our chat for you is where it’s at. And they call this work?! No way.Welcome to the show this week, Dr. Chavonne Perotte. Chavonne is a marriage coach for couples, and also happens to be MY coach, which makes this episode even juicier for you: Believe me, Chavonne has coached me on ALL the marriage bumps in the road, and she is so good at it.You do not want to miss th...
2022-02-2242 min
RelateAbleEpisode 91: Trigger TriadToday I want to share with you a new concept that I created and recently shared with my private coaching clients. I call this concept the Trigger Triad and it’s all about self-awareness. This idea offers you an opportunity to navigate and quickly recover from your triggers so that you can move on to the […]
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2021-03-2525 min
Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell22: Are We Roommates or Lovers? with Dr. Chavonne PerotteThis week on Get Your Marriage On!, Dan sits down with Dr. Chavonne Perotte to discuss what to do when you are living like a roommate with little intimacy or meaningful connection. If you're often disappointed that your needs aren't being met or that you are always compromising but still feel the same this is the podcast for you. Dr. Chavonne Perotte is a Life and Marriage Coach with a doctorate degree from John Hopkins University. To find out more about Dr. Chavonne's work check out her website here.
2021-03-2434 minRelateAbleEpisode 90: Emotional Self-CareWhen people think of self-care they usually think of ways to physically care for themselves. Physical self-care is important and should not be ignored. There is, however, another type of self-care that I would like us to discuss today and that is emotional self-care. This form of self-care is important because when a spouse who […]
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2021-03-1622 minRelateAbleEpisode 89: How to End Bickering and ArguingIt’s perfectly normal to disagree from time to time. But when your focus is more on being right and convincing your husband to see things your way, it can lead to bickering and arguing. If this unhealthy communication habit has created a wedge between you and your spouse and if you are ready to get […]
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2021-03-0823 min
The Clever Girls Know Podcast With Bola Sokunbi183: Overcoming Lack Mentality To Embrace Abundance With Dr. Chavonne PerotteToday, on the podcast we are talking about overcoming lack and scarcity mentalities and embracing abundance! To have this conversation, my special guest is Dr. Chavonne Perotte. Dr. Chavonne Perotte is a life and marriage coach who helps women and couples develop the mindset to create happy marriages. She is also a trained as a social science researcher. She received her doctorate from the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health and focused her research on communication and intimate partnerships. She is the author of Voices in Your Ear: New Conversations to Transform Your Mind and Renew Your Marriage and is t...
2021-03-0247 minRelateAbleEpisode 88: Obligated LivingDo you ever do something not because you truly want to, but because you feel like you should? We are currently living in a unique time where life feels like it’s happening to us and you’re just going through the motions. Obligated living can create stress and strain in marriage as you deny parts of […]
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2021-03-0228 minRelateAbleEpisode 87: Being Happy in a Hard MarriageEvery marriage is going to have some hard, rocky times that you will need to navigate. The goal is not to be happy all the time, but to maintain your inner joy and contentment even in the hard times. The best way to do this, regardless of external circumstances, is to focus on self-improvement and […]
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2021-02-2323 minRelateAbleEpisode 86: Getting What You WantOur brains are wired to want more. This happens all the time in marriage. It could be wanting more help, communication, attention, or passion. Having more of whatever that thing is, seems to be the cure-all to the marriage struggles. What I have observed is that in the various scenarios, most people are making some […]
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2021-02-1628 minRelateAbleEpisode 85: What it Takes to Love Your Marriage AgainLoving your marriage again is something that is within your control. It doesn’t require your husband to do a complete 180. It doesn’t need to take a long time. In this episode, I break down five specific mindset shifts that can change your experience in your marriage and get you back on track with loving […]
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2021-02-0923 minRelateAbleEpisode 84: God and Your MarriageWelcome to another episode! I am so happy that you are here. Today we are going to talk about God and your marriage. I believe that if you want to transform your marriage, consider how you can make God’s presence the center of your union. I would like to share with you five practical steps […]
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2021-02-0223 minRelateAbleEpisode 83: Your 2021 Marriage StoryHappy New Year! Welcome to 2021. Today, I want to continue the conversation from last week’s episode. I hope that you took some time to answer the 20 questions provided to paint a clear picture of 2020’s lessons and successes in your marriage. It is now time to focus on how you want to experience […]
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2021-01-0727 minRelateAbleEpisode 82: 20 Questions for 2020It is that time to wrap up 2020 and make way for 2021. This year is definitely one for the books. Whether you experienced successes beyond your wildest dreams or became a stronger person for the hardships you endured. Reflecting on what you took from 2020 is the best way you can prepare to be […]
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2020-12-3126 min
The Progress ProjectExpectations in Marriage with Dr. Chavonne PerotteToday we have an interview with life and marriage coach, Dr. Chavonne Perotte. This episode is packed with insights about marriage and you might finish listening and decide to start right back from the beginning again like we did! You’ll learn: What it could be like to show up to your marriage with zero expectations of your spouse How to make requests of your spouse from a place of real love, not frustration Practical tips for how to manage your mindset in a frustrating situation (hint: it’s not while you’re in the middle of it...
2020-08-1838 min
The Marriage Life Coach PodcastHow to Calm Down When you are Triggered in your Marriage with Dr. Chavonne PerotteI am so excited to have Dr. Chavonne Perotte, a fellow marriage coach, back on the podcast with me today. Today, we’re going to hear about her Calm Down Method, a tool she created for couples to use when they are feeling triggered in their marriage. I know you’re going to learn a lot from her and some tips on how to handle those tough situations in your relationship. Find full show notes, transcript, and links to resources at http://maggiereyes.com/podcast/28
2020-08-0743 min
Simple Online BusinessEp. 125 Business and Your Relationship with Dr. Chavonne PerotteThis week’s episode is a conversation with my friend, Dr. Chavonne Perotte. Chavonne is a life and marriage coach, and together, we explore the intersection of business and marriage. From the “husband objection” in your sales conversations, to your own dynamics with your partner as it relates to your investments, to the common pitfalls moms experience growing their businesses – you do not want to miss this value packed episode. Don’t miss Chavonne’s thoughts about the Five Love Languages and how they relate to your business, what to do if you’re not on the same page...
2020-08-0558 min