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The Problem With PerfectWhy Do I Procrastinate And How Do I Stop?Do you find yourself putting things off until the last minute? Me too. I am not proud to admit it, but I am a chronic procrastinator.But what's the harm, anyway? How bad can procrastination be? It turns out that procrastination is connected to anxiety, low self-esteem, and depression. So, if you're putting off doing your taxes, starting that project, or having a tough conversation, this episode will resonate with you. In it, Denise and I discuss the things people procrastinate the most and dig deep into the four main types of procrastinators. We'll also of...2023-03-0735 minThe Problem With PerfectWhy Taking The Trip of a Lifetime Was Worth Every DimeIf you had told me 29 years ago when Tom and I got married that we would get to attend the Super Bowl AND cheer our beloved Kansas City Chiefs to a victory, I would have thought that was the craziest thing I'd ever heard. But guess what?That's precisely what we did last week and it was an absolute dream come true!Join us for this episode as Denise asks me all the questions about this once-in-a-lifetime experience that I will cherish forever. And be sure to listen to the end and find o...2023-02-2143 minThe Problem With PerfectThe Greatest Of These Is Love: Four Stories of Love, Laughter and Overcoming AdversitySongs tell us that love will keep us together. First Corinthians tells us love is patient, love is kind.Hallmark tells us Valentine’s Day is a holiday replete with beautiful flowersand romantic verses. But what do we really believe to be true about love? Not on the one day a year dedicated to love, but on the other 364? When there are financial struggles, illness, competing careers, and babies and children demanding our time and attention? Where’s the love then? This week's episode is a Valentine from four extr...2023-02-141h 39The Problem With PerfectHow To Find Peace With Your Financial FutureThe world tells us that we need to DO it all and HAVE it all to be enough. As a result, many of us struggle to chase success and the almighty dollar that comes with it. We marvel at our stuff and want others to do the same. Or we compare ourselves to others and wonder why we can't afford what everyone else has. Financial stress can cause insomnia, prompt us to battle anxiety and feelings of shame and hopelessness, and cost us our most important relationships. Yet, we still find it difficult to discuss - oftentimes e...2023-01-3157 minThe Problem With PerfectHow Loneliness Is Impacting Us All - Even If We Don't Know ItHave you heard? Public health experts now define loneliness as an epidemic in our country. But just what is an epidemic?The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) says epidemics can refer to a disease or other specific health-related behavior (smoking, for example) with rates clearly above the expected occurrence in a community or region. This is why in a country where the internet and cell phones connect nearly everyone, it's shocking to learn that 1 in 3 Americans is lonely. What's more shocking is the toll loneliness is taking on our friends, family m...2023-01-2438 minThe Problem With PerfectHow To Improve Relationships and Increase Your JoyIn Genesis 2 God said it is not good for man to be alone, but let's face it; relationships are hard. They require constant nurturing and consistent effort. But how do we nurture them? And how do we begin to right our wrongs and begin again with a clean slate?In this episode, Dr. Denise Bickel is back as Robin's guest co-host and they discuss this and much more. Whether we want to strengthen our relationship with our spouse or improve one with a child, parent, sibling, co-worker, or friend, this episode has information that can benefit us...2023-01-1756 minThe Problem With PerfectHow NOT to Should on Yourself About Your New Year's GoalsAnd just like that it's nearly the middle of January. Do you know what that means? It means that the majority of New Year's resolutions are starting to unravel, leaving us once again feeling defeated and discouraged. But don't despair, there's still time to rethink your resolution and transform it into an aspiration that provides productive direction to 2023. Not sure the difference between a resolution and an aspiration or why you should care? Join Robin with guest co-host Dr. Denise Bickel as they discuss the subject and how to be kinder and more encouraging to yourself this y...2023-01-1046 minThe Problem With PerfectWhat Word Mattered in 2022?Choosing a word for the year has become an annual ritual for many of us who want an alternative to the traditional New Year’s resolution. So we pick a word as a way to help set our intentions for the year: our North Star to keep us on track. But before we embark on the process for the year ahead, it’s helpful to reflect on the year behind. How did we do keeping our word at the forefront? Letting it help guide our yes’s and no’s?Join Robin and her guest co-host Dr...2022-12-2734 minThe Problem With PerfectWhat Is Anticipatory Grief And Is It Wrecking Your Holiday SeasonHave you found yourself experiencing a dull ache this holiday season? Or maybe you're frequently on the verge of tears? Or ready to scream at someone at the drop of a hat? Or maybe you're just so tired that you can barely force yourself to get out of bed, let alone do Christmas shopping. If so, then you may be experiencing what psychologists call Anticipatory Grief.In this episode, Dr. Denise Bickel is back with Robin to share her lifetime of experiences around this subject. In it, they discuss the definition of anticipatory grief, give examples of...2022-12-2038 minThe Problem With PerfectHow to Find Hope In Dark Times With Dr. Mark VellekChristmas is the most wonderful time of the year, or is it? For many of us, Christmas reminds us of people lost, broken relationships, and dreams unfulfilled. It's a time when all is supposed to be hopeful and bright, yet the pain of living in this broken world threatens to overshadow any holiday cheer.So how do people find hope, even in the hopeless? In this episode, we interview Dr. Mark Vellek, an oncologist and friend who daily has to deliver devastating news. How does he remain positive during the darkest of days? Ho...2022-12-1343 minThe Problem With PerfectIs It Time For A Change To Help You Achieve Your Ikigai?Don't know what ikigai is? Neither did I until I was put on the hot seat in this week's episode. Interviewed by Dr. Denise Bickel, I share the details of a significant career change I've recently made in an effort to fully embrace my ikigai (pronounced icky guy).Simply put, ikigai is a Japanese term for your purpose; what gives your life meaning. For me, as another birthday is celebrated, I realize I have a greater sense of urgency to achieve ikigai in all areas of my life, including my career. How about you? Need s...2022-12-0641 minThe Problem With PerfectAre You An Optimist Or Pessimist (And Why Does It Matter) with Special Guest Dr. Denise BickelIn her recent blog post, Dr. Denise Bickel contemplates a quote she heard on a podcast: "You’ll have a happier life if you are an optimist. Choose that.” Not an optimist by nature, Denise explores what it means to be an optimist, a pessimist, and a realist.This week, Denise joins Robin on the podcast to further the conversation. If you've ever wondered where you're at on the optimist/pessimist scale and how it impacts your life - then this episode is one you won't want to miss. Special Guest: Dr. Denise Bickel, PhD, MSW...2022-10-2532 minThe Problem With PerfectSigns You Might Benefit from Therapy With Dr. Denise BickelImagine going your entire life without seeing a doctor; without getting your blood pressure checked, without routine lab work, or even a pelvic exam. Sounds ludicrous, doesn't it? Yet, that is exactly how the majority of Americans care for their mental health.Depending on the statistic or study, only around 40 percent of American adults have seen a mental health expert at some point in their life. Maybe it's because of the stigma surrounding it or maybe it's because we don't really know when we need one. And if we know we need one, how do we find o...2022-01-1845 minThe Problem With PerfectWhat to Say When Someone is HurtingWe've all likely found ourselves in that awkward situation where someone we love is hurting. Maybe they are grieving the loss of a relationship, the death of a family member, the fear of losing a job or even the sadness of having a sick child. In our search to find the perfect helpful words, it can be easy to say the wrong thing. or worse, not say anything at all. In this episode, Dr. Denise Bickel joins us again to give us practical wisdom about what to say - and not to say - when someone we lo...2020-04-2834 minThe Problem With PerfectAdvice From A Doctor: It's Okay if the Coronavirus Has You GrievingThe anxiety and fear that the coronavirus pandemic is producing seems to be intensifying the longer we have to sit with our new reality. It’s clear that many of us are worrying about life and death issues for ourselves or those we love, as well as the long list of unknowns to face after this is "over." But what might be less obvious are the emotions that come with the long list of things we've lost.Psychologists have a word for these feelings associated with loss. It's called grief. In this episode, Dr. Denise Bic...2020-03-3125 min