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Outwitting the ManipulatorLess Is More: Outsmarting Manipulators with BrevityWhen dealing with manipulators, saying less can protect you more. In this episode, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski dive into the power of brevity—and why over-explaining makes you an easy target. Through live role-play, mindset shifts, and simple, real-life tactics, you’ll learn how to respond with calm confidence, defuse manipulation in the moment, and stop feeding the fire. Whether it’s a toxic boss or a needling sibling, this episode teaches you how to stay neutral, keep your cool, and take control.
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Break the habit of over-explaining
Use the “Broken Record” tec...2025-07-2235 minOutwitting the ManipulatorRules and Values In ManipulationDennis and Robin delve into the fundamental concepts of rules and values and their significance in handling manipulation. They emphasize the importance of distinguishing between rules and values, illustrating how manipulators exploit this distinction to maintain control. Through practical examples, the hosts provide strategies for setting and enforcing boundaries when dealing with manipulators, stressing the necessity of clear, specific, and unyielding rules alongside appropriate consequences. Listeners are encouraged to start small, practice consistency, and stay vigilant to effectively manage interactions with manipulative individuals.
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00:42 Understanding Rules and Values
01:44 Manipulators and Value-Based D...2025-06-2630 minOutwitting the ManipulatorKelly: A Survivor's StoryDennis and Robin welcome a special guest, Kelly, who shares her personal experience with a manipulative and abusive relationship spanning over 14 years. The discussion delves into recognizing manipulation, coping strategies, the emotional and mental trauma endured, and the importance of maintaining a neutral response to manipulators. Kelly courageously opens up about her journey, offering insights and advice for others in similar situations. The episode aims to provide support and practical tips for navigating the complexities of manipulative relationships, especially when children are involved.
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01:20 Meet Our Guest: Kelly's Story
02:06 The Challenges o...2025-04-2834 min
#12minconvosRobin Golinski: on Mastering Communication with Intention and Empathy /Ep3794Robin Golinski is a seasoned Executive Communication Coach at The Speech Improvement Company, with over 20 years of global experience in coaching and training. As the founder of Boston Comedy Chicks, she has been a driving force in nurturing female comedic talent, creating a thriving community for women in comedy. Robin is also an accomplished author, having co-authored a chapter on storytelling and humor in The Handbook of Communication Training and co-authoring the book Outwitting the Manipulator. She co-hosts the podcast Outwitting the Manipulator with Dr. Dennis Becker, where they provide practical strategies for protecting against manipulation. Their...2025-04-1413 minOutwitting the ManipulatorRights, Responsibilities, and ManipulationIn this episode of Outwitting in Real Time, hosts Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski explore the complex relationship between rights, responsibilities, and manipulation. They dive into the idea that manipulation thrives when individuals are unaware of their own rights—whether in personal relationships, workplaces, or everyday interactions.
Robin shares personal insights about growing up in a manipulative environment and how that shaped her mindset, particularly the belief that her worth was tied to being of service to others. Dennis expands on how manipulators exploit such mindsets, making individuals prime targets for control and coercion.
The dis...2025-04-0431 minOutwitting the ManipulatorMastering Manipulation: Gethro LaCroix's Journey to AuthenticityIn this insightful and inspiring episode, Dennis and Robin are joined by Gethro LaCroix, a self-admitted former manipulator, who bravely shares his journey of transformation. Gethro delves into his past behaviors, primarily manipulative actions in his dating life, and how a series of realizations led him to pursue a path of honesty and integrity. The conversation covers his experiences with low self-esteem, bullying, and the turning points that shifted his mindset towards authentic human connections. Gethro also discusses his ongoing battle with sobriety and physical fitness, emphasizing the importance of taking challenges day by day. The episode highlights the...2025-03-2138 minOutwitting the ManipulatorNavigating Male Aggression and ManipulationRobin & Dennis delve into the complex topic of male aggression within the context of manipulation. They explore its biological roots, societal influences, and how it manifests in both verbal and non-verbal cues. The discussion includes practical advice on identifying early warning signs, responding effectively, and the importance of maintaining a neutral demeanor to de-escalate potential aggressive situations. Additionally, they emphasize the nuances of handling aggression in various settings, including professional environments, to ensure personal safety and assertiveness.
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00:29 Understanding Male Aggression
01:42 Biological Factors of Aggression
03:41 Practical Responses to...2025-03-0641 minOutwitting the ManipulatorDealing with Backlash: How to Respond When a Manipulator Pushes BackIn this discussion, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski explore the concept of backlash—how manipulators react when confronted or when their tactics are exposed. They delve into strategies for recognizing and handling backlash effectively, ensuring that you maintain control and prevent being drawn back into manipulation. Through real-world examples and expert insights, they provide practical techniques to navigate pushback with confidence and resilience.
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01:17 Understanding Backlash
01:44 Dealing with Manipulative Backlash
09:00 The Importance of Documentation
11:48 Empowerment Through Awareness
14:49 Backlash vs. Badgering
17:01 Badger...2025-01-2433 minOutwitting the ManipulatorOvercoming Manipulation: A Conversation with Angela LanutoRobin is joined by Angela Lanuto, a real estate agent from Hudson Valley, who shares her personal experiences with manipulation. Angela offers invaluable insights and practical advice on recognizing manipulation, setting boundaries, and reclaiming personal power. The discussion delves into childhood experiences, professional relationships, and the impact of manipulative romantic partners. Angela also provides tips for mentally and energetically distancing oneself from manipulators, highlighting the importance of self-love and empowerment. Additionally, the episode touches upon Angela's role in real estate and her efforts in community support and non-profit engagements.
Find Angela at https://angelalanuto.com/2024-12-1944 minOutwitting the ManipulatorHoliday Manipulation: Safeguarding Your JoyDennis and Robin delve into the nuances of manipulation during the holiday season. They aim to help listeners avoid becoming targets of various forms of manipulation, including consumer manipulation, family dynamics, and relationship pressure. Key topics discussed include the impact of social media on expectations, the tactics used in holiday marketing, strategies for handling family guilt trips and favoritism, and the psychological nuances behind public proposals during holidays. The hosts provide practical advice on setting boundaries, making plans, and staying in control to ensure a joyful holiday season.
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00:57 Holiday Manipulation: Protecting Yourself
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Outwitting the ManipulatorHoliday Manipulation: Safeguarding Your JoyDennis and Robin delve into the nuances of manipulation during the holiday season. They aim to help listeners avoid becoming targets of various forms of manipulation, including consumer manipulation, family dynamics, and relationship pressure. Key topics discussed include the impact of social media on expectations, the tactics used in holiday marketing, strategies for handling family guilt trips and favoritism, and the psychological nuances behind public proposals during holidays. The hosts provide practical advice on setting boundaries, making plans, and staying in control to ensure a joyful holiday season.Topics00:57 Holiday Manipulation: Protecting Yourself01:38...2024-12-0739 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorNavigating Manipulation: Insights from Andrew’s JourneyIn this podcast episode, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski engage in a candid discussion with Andrew, a guest who shares his personal experiences with manipulation. The conversation delves into the complexities of identifying manipulative behavior, particularly from family members, and the emotional toll it can take. Andrew reflects on his childhood encounters with manipulation from his parents and how these experiences shaped his adult relationships. He emphasizes the difficulty of discerning genuine concern from exploitative behavior, especially as he grapples with mistrust towards others. The episode aims to provide listeners with insights on recognizing manipulation and fostering healthier...2024-11-1934 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorMedia and Workplace Manipulation with David YasThe guest is David Yas, founder of The Boston Podcast Network. They discuss various aspects of manipulation in both media and workplace settings. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, David shares his experiences with workplace betrayal and the importance of resilience and self-awareness in overcoming manipulation. The conversation also explores the ethical and creative implications of AI in media, touching on topics like fake news, AI-generated content, and deepfakes. Key insights include recognizing manipulative behavior, understanding cognitive regeneration, and balancing the fun and ethical considerations of AI in content creation. The discussion emphasizes the pervasive nature of manipulation and the...2024-10-2442 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorThe Power of CuriosityIn this episode, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski explore the role of curiosity in protecting oneself from manipulation. They discuss how curiosity, a natural human trait, can serve as a critical tool for self-protection, while also being a tactic used by manipulators. The hosts highlight the importance of being curious, courageous, and asking questions (CCQ) to remain vigilant against manipulation. They discuss how societal factors, like technology, affect curiosity and underscore the need to develop a curious mindset. They also cover how manipulators exploit curiosity to control and discourage one's inquisitiveness. The episode concludes with strategies to maintain...2024-10-0932 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorIt’s Not Your Fault, I’m just going to blame you!In this episode, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski delve into the intricate topic of manipulation, focusing on the aspect of blame. They discuss how manipulators use blame subtly to condition others into accepting responsibility for things that are not their fault. Robin shares her personal experience with a utility company's customer service representative to illustrate the pervasive nature of unwarranted apologies. They emphasize the importance of not internalizing blame and using assertive language to protect oneself from manipulative tactics. The discussion also explores alternative ways to express empathy without taking on blame and practical advice for managing relationships...2024-09-2332 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorWhy Are You Tolerating Manipulative Communication?In this episode, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski discuss the importance of not tolerating manipulative communication. They explore what it means to show intolerance toward manipulative behaviors and how this affects your personal and professional life. They guide listeners through seven thought-provoking questions designed to help identify and set boundaries against various forms of manipulation. The conversation emphasizes the significance of recognizing manipulative patterns and acting decisively to not endorse such behavior. Throughout, the hosts provide practical examples and advice on handling manipulators effectively.
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00:49 Defining Intolerance in Communication
02:15 The Cost...2024-09-1328 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorTests and Traps of ManipulationIn this episode, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski discuss the intricacies of manipulation, focusing specifically on the concepts of 'tests' and 'traps.' They explain how manipulators test their targets' compliance and set up traps to control them. The discussion includes real-life examples, the importance of recognizing patterns, and tips for protecting oneself from these tactics. They emphasize the need for awareness and intuition to identify manipulative behavior effectively.
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01:10 Understanding Manipulation: Tests and Traps
03:07 Examples of Compliance Tests
09:09 Physical and Verbal...2024-09-0532 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorThe Benefits of ManipulationDr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski delve into the topic of manipulation and explore whether there can be any positive aspects to it. Robin shares her personal experiences with manipulation, detailing how these challenges have strengthened her resilience and competence. They discuss the importance of standing up for oneself, the concept of choice, and the idea that manipulation can teach invaluable lessons about self-advocacy and personal boundaries. Together, they encourage listeners to recognize their own power in overcoming manipulative situations and offer insights and tactics to develop confidence and resilience.
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01:12 Exploring Manipulation: A New...2024-08-2437 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorIndentifying Manipulative Word Choice and Nonverbal TacticsIn this episode of 'Outwitting the Manipulator,' Robin and Dennis delve into the details of manipulative tactics focusing on word choice, language, tone, and nonverbal cues. They discuss how manipulators use specific words, inflection, volume, and body language to control and influence emotions. Through practical examples, they explain the importance of identifying these behaviors and provide techniques to counteract manipulation. They also explore how understanding a manipulator's style—ethos, pathos, or logos—can guide your responses effectively.
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00:39 The Power of Word Choice
03:00 Non-Verbal Manipulation Techniques
04:54 Love Bombing and Emot...2024-08-1431 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorRecognizing Your Own Manipulative BehaviorsRobin and Dennis dive deep into the challenging topic of recognizing and addressing your own manipulative behaviors. They discuss the fine line between manipulation and persuasion, share personal anecdotes, and offer insights on how to self-correct once these behaviors are identified. Through introspective conversation and practical examples, this 30-minute session explores the nuance of everyday manipulation and emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility for one's actions.
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01:10 Recognizing Your Own Manipulative Behaviors
04:54 Personal Stories and Real Estate Examples
07:41 Manipulation vs. Persuasion
14:07 Self-Reflection and Identifying Manipulation
16:13 Understanding Manipulation...2024-07-1631 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorProtecting Your Emotions: How to Avoid Being OverwhelmedIn this episode of Outwitting the Manipulator, Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski delve into the complex topic of emotional manipulation, discussing how manipulators use emotional overload to control their targets. The hosts explore various tactics manipulators employ, such as planning emotional sneak attacks and targeting specific vulnerabilities. They also emphasize the importance of self-awareness, identifying triggers, and practicing mindfulness to help listeners protect themselves from emotional manipulation. Key strategies include understanding personal vulnerabilities, recognizing physical symptoms of emotional reactions, and developing mindfulness techniques to maintain emotional control. The episode concludes with practical advice for listeners on how to...2024-07-0933 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorUnderstanding and Countering Emotional ManipulationIn this episode of 'Outwitting the Manipulator,' Dr. Dennis Becker and his co-host Robin Golinski delve into the nuances of emotional manipulation, specifically focusing on the concept of 'emotional overload' or 'sneak attacks' utilized by manipulators. They discuss the importance of awareness, identifying emotional triggers, recognizing physical symptoms of emotional response, and understanding personal narratives. They introduce mindfulness as a powerful technique to control emotional reactions and emphasize that controlling emotions is both possible and a personal responsibility. Practical advice and strategies for identifying and managing manipulative tactics in both personal and professional settings are explored.
2024-07-0133 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorManipulation in DatingIn this episode of 'Outwitting the Manipulator,' hosts Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker are joined by Liz, who shares her experiences with two types of manipulators: a narcissist and a psychopath. Liz details how she met these men via online dating, the patterns of manipulation she encountered, the emotional and psychological impacts, and her journey towards recognizing and overcoming these toxic relationships. They discuss key signs to look out for in potential manipulators, tips for self-awareness, and strategies for escaping manipulative situations. Liz's story underscores the importance of understanding oneself and the tactics of manipulators in navigating...2024-06-2338 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorManipulation is EverywhereIn this episode of 'Outwitting the Manipulator,' hosts Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker discuss the pervasive and dangerous impact of social media manipulation based on a recent study from the Oxford Internet Institute. They delve into the alarming findings that indicate manipulation tactics are used in 80 countries, posing significant threats to democracies worldwide. The conversation extends to the broader implications of these findings, the role of AI and algorithm-driven content, and how individuals can protect themselves by being curious, courageous, and questioning their behaviors and sources of information. The hosts emphasize the importance of critical thinking and...2024-06-1436 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorIs It Really ’For Your Own Good’?In this episode, Robin and Dennis discuss the often-heard phrase 'It's for your own good' and question its true intentions. They explore how advice, feedback, rules, and teachings can be manipulative, particularly in groups such as cults, cliques, and teams. The discussion focuses on the importance of discernment, trust, and autonomy to avoid being manipulated. They emphasize the need for curiosity, courage, and questioning to understand whether something truly benefits you. The episode also highlights a worksheet and upcoming virtual workshops available on their website, outwitinrealtime.com, designed to help individuals develop personal policies against manipulation.
You...2024-06-0732 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorHow Much Does Manipulation Cost?Robin and Dennis cover the pervasive and often immeasurable costs of manipulation in personal, professional, and global settings. They emphasize how manipulation is increasingly sophisticated and insidious, impacting individuals and society as a whole. They highlight real-world examples and studies showing the significant financial and emotional costs of manipulative behaviors, particularly in the workplace. The conversation explores the types of workplace manipulators, their motivations, and the detrimental effects on company morale and efficiency. They also provide insights on how to identify and address manipulation through communication strategies and the importance of tackling these behaviors head-on. Robin and Dennis conclude by...2024-06-0330 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorSticks & Stones - Dealing with Name-CallingIn this episode of the 'Outwitting the Manipulator' livestream podcast, hosts Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker delve into the topic of name-calling as a manipulative tactic. They discuss their own experiences with innocuous nicknames from childhood and emphasize the difference between affectionate nicknames and harmful name-calling used strategically for manipulation. The discussion covers both overt and covert instances of name-calling in professional and personal settings, exploring the negative impacts and the emotional effects they have. They also address the challenge of labeling and provide strategies for dealing with name-calling, stressing the importance of awareness, context, and assertive responses. The...2024-05-2431 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorMastering Manipulation: Dissecting Netflix’s ’Baby Reindeer’Join Robin and Dennis in this episode of Outwitting the Manipulator as they dive into the fascinating and chilling world of manipulation through the lens of the hit Netflix series "Baby Reindeer." This unique show provides a gripping example of coercive control and psychological manipulation, bringing to life six key tactics used by manipulators. From excessive communication to gaslighting and false victimhood, Robin and Dennis break down each tactic, discuss real-life applications, and offer insights into protecting oneself against such manipulative behavior. Don't miss this compelling episode filled with practical advice and a deep analysis of manipulative dynamics.
2024-05-1531 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorPassive Aggression as ManipulationIn this episode of 'Outwitting the Manipulator,' Robin and Dennis delve into the complexities of passive-aggressive behavior from a communication coaching perspective, rather than a therapeutic one. Throughout the discussion, they differentiate between aggressive, passive, and passive-aggressive behaviors, providing insights into how such dynamics manifest in both personal and professional settings. They share practical strategies for identifying and addressing passive-aggressive patterns, emphasizing the importance of being direct, pivotal in curtailing manipulative behavior. Examples range from workplace scenarios to personal relationships, underlining the significance of awareness, direct confrontation, and setting clear consequences. The hosts also highlight their upcoming workshops and...2024-05-1536 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorIs Your Relationship Healthy or Manipulative?Robin and Dennis discuss how to evaluate if your relationships are healthy or unhealthy. They emphasize that happiness and health in relationships are fundamental human rights and responsibilities. The episode outlines three essential steps for assessing the health of any relationship: expressing feelings without blame, ensuring the other person is receptive and truly listens, and observing if the other person demonstrates understanding and respect through behavior change. The hosts also explore the nuances of manipulative behavior within relationships, highlighting the importance of recognizing and acting upon red flags. The discussion includes practical advice on how to address and react to...2024-04-2631 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorMurdering the MessengerIn this episode Robin and Dennis guide listeners on how to navigate situations where they observe someone they care about being manipulated. The concept of 'murdering the messenger' is discussed, emphasizing the idea that trying to help can sometimes lead to backlash, especially in sensitive relational dynamics like coercion or manipulation, making the helper a new target. The episode covers strategies to intervene without escalating the situation, such as interjection, distraction, and the use of a surrogate to deliver messages indirectly. Furthermore, it touches on the importance of listening and being open to feedback for those who may be targets...2024-04-1933 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorAggression - and Manipulation - in SportsRobin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker discuss verbal and physical aggression in sports, focusing on manipulation tactics used by coaches and the impact on athletes. They explore the normalization of aggression in sports at all levels and the dangerous trend of aggression being celebrated and rewarded. The discussion delves into the importance of good coaching, emphasizing understanding individual motivations and fostering a positive mindset. The script highlights the need for awareness among parents and teachers to protect children from manipulative behavior in sports environments. The hosts advocate for a shift towards coaching methods that prioritize developing athletes' skills without resorting...2024-04-1332 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorNavigating the Maze of Manipulation and PersuasionThe podcast delves into the intricate dynamics of communication, manipulation, and persuasion, exploring whether manipulation can ever be deemed appropriate or beneficial. Robin and Dr. Becker engage in a thought-provoking discussion about the complexities of human behavior, emphasizing the importance of critical thinking and curiosity in the face of manipulation.
They dissect various scenarios, from advertising tactics to political rhetoric, to illustrate the fine line between persuasion and manipulation. The hosts challenge listeners to question their own reactions to information and to analyze the underlying motivations behind manipulative tactics.Throughout the podcast, Robin and Dr. Becker stress the significance...2024-04-0530 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorWhy Does Society Reward Manipulators?In this episode of the "Outwitting the Manipulator" podcast, Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker discuss the prevalence and impact of manipulation in society. They delve into the reasons behind the increasing instances of manipulation in personal relationships, corporations, and governments. Robin and Dennis explore the psychological and evolutionary aspects of manipulation, emphasizing that any behavior rewarded is likely to be repeated. They highlight the dangers of falling for manipulative tactics, which often provide instant gratification or promise a better outcome. The hosts stress the importance of critical thinking, curiosity, and courage to challenge manipulative tactics and differentiate between...2024-03-2928 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorCuriosity, Critical Thinking & CourageRobin Golinsky and Dr. Dennis Becker host "Outwitting the Manipulator," a weekly live stream focused on dissecting manipulation and offering strategies to counteract it. In this episode, they discuss the importance of curiosity, critical thinking, and courage in navigating manipulative situations.
Robin and Dennis emphasize that a curious mind is an active, thinking mind, distinct from mere distraction. The hosts stress the value of questioning and not merely accepting information at face value. They illustrate this with real-life examples, including a story where people mindlessly formed a long line without knowing the reason behind it.
...2024-03-2231 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorA False Sense of UrgencyThe conversation revolves around the pervasive use of a false sense of urgency in manipulation, whether in marketing tactics, personal interactions, or sales pitches. Dennis and Robin discuss various instances where urgency is manufactured to prompt immediate action without thoughtful consideration.
They highlight how manipulators exploit vulnerability, distractiveness, and emotional triggers to pressure individuals into making decisions they might later regret. Drawing from personal experiences and examples like the sale of encyclopedias or booth demonstrations, they underscore the importance of awareness and assertiveness in navigating manipulative situations.
Robin shares anecdotes from her past, such as...2024-03-1331 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorCompliance in Your Own ManipulationChatGPTIn this conversation, Robin and Dennis discuss the topic of manipulation and compliance in relationships, particularly coercive control. They emphasize the importance of recognizing manipulation tactics, taking action to resist manipulation, and avoiding compliance with manipulative behavior. Robin shares her experience of observing manipulative dynamics in online forums and discusses the danger of becoming entrenched in a victim identity. They stress the significance of documenting manipulative behaviors and patterns, providing specific examples of how to respond to manipulation in real time. Additionally, they highlight the prevalence of manipulation in relationships and the need to address coercive control, especially...2024-03-0928 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorBetween Paranoia and TrustDennis and Robin delve into the topic how individuals can navigate the spectrum between paranoia and blind trust. They discuss the impact of fear on one's susceptibility to manipulation, using examples such as vaccination beliefs and religious faith. They emphasize the importance of curiosity and critical thinking in avoiding manipulation, encouraging listeners to ask questions and look deeper into situations. They highlight the prevalence of manipulation in various aspects of life, including social media. Listen for insights on how individuals can move towards a more guarded mindset to protect themselves from manipulation.
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Understanding the...2024-03-0130 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorProtecting Your ReputationYour credibility, your integrity, and your reputation are everything. Dennis and Robin talk to you about what your "ethos" is and how a manipulator can "shop" that ethos and use it for their own gain.
2024-02-2128 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorManipulation on Valentine’s Day!Valentine's Day is known for love, chocolate, roses ... and manipulation? Absolutely, according to Robin and Dennis, who are here to guide you through what is often a trecherous day.
2024-02-1329 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorSocial Media: Preying on Our InsecuritiesRobin and Dennis discuss social media, and how it preys upon people's insecurities. The moving of 'optional' to 'mandatory' for social media has been a tool of manipulation, particularly for teenagers. The episode covers this phenomenon and what can be done about it.
2024-01-0928 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorManipulation in the Holiday SeasonThe holiday season brings cheer, but it also gives opportunties for the manipulators. Robin and Dennis help you avoid holiday gloom.
2023-11-2257 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorA Childhood of ManipulationRobin and Dennis welcome Simon, who shares his story of a challenging childhood fraught with manipulation.
2023-10-0626 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorConquering the Fear of SpeakingRobin and Dennis address the odious fear of speaking, a very common problem at the top of almost everyone's list.
2023-08-2929 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorManipulation in BusinessRich, a former CPA, joins the show to discuss inauthenticity and manipulation in the business world.
2023-07-2523 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorManipulating Through InertiaInertia. What has that got to do with manipulation? Inertia is a human condition that's very common, and it's when you're stuck. It's not moving forward. It's not doing anything. You cycle through life. Sometimes you're active and productive. Other times you experience inertia throughout the day. Robin and Dennis discuss the intersection of intertia and manipulation.
2023-07-1019 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorDealing With a NarcissistAlison Kurt joins the show with an open and honest account of her experiences with a narciissist.
2023-06-2628 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorThe Backhanded ComplimentWhen is a compliment not a compliment? When it is backhanded -- and thus a tool of manipulation. Robin and Dennis discuss.
2023-06-2623 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorA Young Target of ManipulationDennis and Robin hear a tale shared by Vanessa, a young target of manipulation.
2023-06-2631 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorCommunication as a WeaponCommunication is a good thing -- until it is used for manipulation. Robin & Dennis discuss.
2023-05-1727 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorThe Dangers of Love BombingDennis and Robin explain what "love bombing" is -- then hear a real example of it with guest Lolya Pushak.
2023-05-1726 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorThe Specter of ComplicityAre you complicit in your own manipulation? Robin and Dennis discuss what you need to know.
2023-04-1923 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorA Tale of a Manipulative FatherBecky Norwood, the founder of Spotlight Publishing, shares her story of a childhood marred by the manipulation of her father.
2023-03-2325 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorAll About ManipulationRobin and Dennis are back for Season 2 and once again talking about manipulation and how you can protect yourself from being manipulated while it's happening.
2023-02-2827 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorThe Importance of ListeningRobin and Dennis wrap up season 1 by discussing the importance of listening -- and share six active-listening techniques that anyone can use.
2022-12-2839 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorTechniques You Can Use Against ManipulatorsIn earlier episodes Robin and Dennis addressed the tactics that the manipulator does to you. Now they reveal techniques that you can use against the manipulator to protect yourself as it's happening.
For all of the resources mentioned in this episode please visit https://www.outwitinrealtime.com/
2022-12-2142 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorParalanguage: Manipulation by Facial ExpressionThe topic is non-verbal approval and disapproval, or the manipulative tactics of "paralanguage," all of those moments where you are actually communicating without talking.
2022-12-1434 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorRedefining Reality: Yes, You Are Losing Your Mind!Dennis and Robin discuss gaslighting; the creation of self-doubt; and reframing past events, three of the tactics manipulators often use.
2022-12-0738 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorInvalidation and Dictating FeelingsTwo tactics that have huge consequences for your mindset: Invalidation and dictating feelings.
For more info on Robin and Dennis please visit: www.outwitinrealtime.com
For the book Outwitting the Manipulator: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1953806244/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_S8YEHV3QCZD3AQ2P0RP9?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
2022-11-3036 min
Outwitting the Manipulator‘Love Bombing’ and Other Manipulative TacticsIn this episode Robin and Dennis discuss three common tactics used in manipulation: "love bombing"; calculation and planning; and hurt and rescue.
2022-11-2332 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorContextual Tactics of the ManipulatorRobin and Dennis tackle the contextual tactics of the manipulator and their use of surrogates.
For more info on Robin and Dennis please visit: www.outwitinrealtime.com
For the book Outwitting the Manipulator: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1953806244/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_S8YEHV3QCZD3AQ2P0RP9?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
2022-11-1632 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorCommon Conversation ManipulationsRobin and Dennis discuss the five most common methods of manipulation in conversation, how they are used in concert, and how to escape them. For more info on Robin and Dennis please visit: www.outwitinrealtime.com
For the book Outwitting the Manipulator: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1953806244/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_S8YEHV3QCZD3AQ2P0RP9?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
2022-11-0930 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorHumor HurtsRobin and Dennis discuss humor as a manipulation tactic. Humor can make you feel loved and happy, but it can also be a powerful weapon in the world of manipulation. The dangers of irony, sarcasm and more.
For more info on Robin and Dennis please visit: www.outwitinrealtime.com
For the book Outwitting the Manipulator: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1953806244/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_S8YEHV3QCZD3AQ2P0RP9?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
2022-11-0222 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorThe Four Most Terrible Tactics Used To ManipulateIn this episode Robin and Dennis discuss the four most terrible tactics used to manipulate (blame, bullying, name-calling and public humiliation) and the ways to avoid them.
For more info on Robin and Dennis please visit: www.outwitinrealtime.com
For the book Outwitting the Manipulator: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1953806244/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_S8YEHV3QCZD3AQ2P0RP9?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
2022-10-2636 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorPersuasion vs. ManipulationIn this episode Robin and Dennis discuss the element of persuasion and how it differs from manipulation. Learn how to protect yourself -- by knowing what you are protecting yourself from.
For more info on Robin and Dennis please visit: www.outwitinrealtime.com
For the book Outwitting the Manipulator: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1953806244/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_S8YEHV3QCZD3AQ2P0RP9?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
2022-10-1823 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorWhat Makes You A Target For Manipulation?In this episode Robin and Dennis discuss how a manipulator looks to make you a target for manipulation. Learn to develop self-awareness about vulnerabilities that can make you a target. The show also covers things you can do to make yourself a little less vulnerable.
For more info on Robin and Dennis please visit: www.outwitinrealtime.com
For the book Outwitting the Manipulator: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1953806244/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_S8YEHV3QCZD3AQ2P0RP9?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1
2022-10-1223 min
Outwitting the ManipulatorWhat is Manipulation?What is manipulation; how do we define it? Robin and Dennis discuss why manipulators manipulate. Most pain points in your life Inevitably has to do with manipulation.
Learn where the birth of this control and manipulation typically takes place, and how to handle it.Get the book Outwitting the Manipulator: https://www.amazon.com/Outwitting-Manipulator-Protecting-Yourself-Real-Time/dp/1953806244
Contact Dr. Dennis Becker: https://speechimprovement.com/dr-dennis-becker/
Contact Robin Golinski: https://speechimprovement.com/robin-golinski/
2022-09-0823 min
The Boston PodcastHow To Master A ManipulatorDennis Becker and Robin Golinski are the authors of
"Outwitting the Manipulator: Protecting Yourself in Real-Time."
For more on the duo visit https://speechimprovement.com/
To buy the book: https://www.amazon.com/Outwitting-Manipulator-Protecting-Yourself-Real-Time/dp/19538062442022-01-2740 min