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Life's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #58: Raising a Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud & Ned JohnsonAre you struggling with how much to help—or how much to back off—when it comes to your child’s motivation, schoolwork, and screen time? Dive into this insight-packed episode as leading neuropsychologist Dr. William Stixrud and tutoring expert Ned Johnson reveal game-changing research on autonomy-supportive parenting, fostering resilience, and why letting kids solve their own problems builds lifelong confidence.Hosts Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington join Stixrud and Johnson to unpack the science behind why children crave autonomy, how a low sense of control fuels anxiety and stress, and what it actually means to become a “non...2025-07-1758 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #57: Conflict Resilience with Bob Bordone and Dr. Joel SalinasNavigating difficult conversations at home, work, or in our polarized world can feel overwhelming—but what if building conflict resilience is the key to deeper connection and transformative growth? In this eye-opening episode, hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry dive into the science and art of facing conflict head-on with nationally recognized conflict resolution expert Bob Bordone and behavioral neurologist Dr. Joel Salinas, co-authors of the groundbreaking book Conflict Resilience.Discover why avoiding conflict (or rushing to “resolve” it) can actually harm relationships, communities, and even your own wellbeing. Our guests reveal how embracing discomfort, developing emotional awaren...2025-07-0348 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #56: Spirituality with Dr. Matthieu VillatteAre you searching for a deeper sense of connection, purpose, and meaning—beyond the confines of organized religion? This powerful episode of Life’s Dirty Little Secrets dives into the world of modern spirituality, uncovering why so many people crave meaning without religious labels and how spiritual practices can transform resilience, mental health, and even our everyday relationships.Join leading psychologist, author, and ACT trainer Matthieu Villatte as he explores what it really means to be “spiritual but not religious,” the science-backed benefits of spiritual awareness, and how spirituality—through mindfulness, values, and connection—can help us navigate gri...2025-06-1953 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #55: Belonging with Meg McKelvieFeeling like you don’t truly belong—no matter how hard you try—can leave you lonely, anxious, and questioning your self-worth. In this transformative episode of Life’s Dirty Little Secrets, we unravel the real nature of belonging: what it means, why we ache for it, and how to find it from the inside out.Hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry is joined by licensed clinical psychologist Meg McElvie, an expert in cognitive behavioral and acceptance and commitment therapies, for a profound conversation that turns the concept of belonging on its head. Together, they explore the three la...2025-06-0540 min
Well, hello anxiety with Dr Jodi RichardsonHelping Anxious Children Thrive with Drs Chris McCurry & Emma WaddingtonIn this special episode, Dr. Jodi Richardson welcomes two brilliant minds in child psychology for an in-depth conversation about supporting anxious children and their families. Join Dr. Chris McCurry, clinical child psychologist and author of "Parenting Your Anxious Child with Mindfulness and Acceptance," alongside Emma Waddington, clinician, author, and founder of Us Therapy, as they explore the vital role parents play in helping anxious children not just survive, but truly thrive. In this episode, you'll discover: How temperament shapes a child's anxiety and what parents should look for The powerful concept of "the anxiety...2025-05-2748 minWell, hello anxiety with Dr Jodi RichardsonHelping Anxious Children Thrive with Drs Chris McCurry & Emma WaddingtonIn this special episode, Dr. Jodi Richardson welcomes two brilliant minds in child psychology for an in-depth conversation about supporting anxious children and their families. Join Dr. Chris McCurry, clinical child psychologist and author of "Parenting Your Anxious Child with Mindfulness and Acceptance," alongside Emma Waddington, clinician, author, and founder of Us Therapy, as they explore the vital role parents play in helping anxious children not just survive, but truly thrive. In this episode, you'll discover: How temperament shapes a child's anxiety and what parents should look for The powerful concept of "the anxiety...2025-05-2748 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #52: Toxic Striving with Dr. Paula Freedman DiamondAre you caught in the never-ending race for perfection, feeling burned out by hustle culture and the constant pressure to optimize every corner of your life? In this eye-opening episode, we reveal the truth about toxic striving, uncovering why it’s so hard to break free from relentless self-improvement, comparison traps on social media, and the modern epidemic of never feeling “good enough.”Clinical psychologist and intuitive eating counselor Dr. Paula Freedman Diamond joins hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry to unpack the roots of toxic striving, from childhood messaging to societal expectations—and why “striving” can silently mor...2025-04-2442 min
Life's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #51: New Thinking on Grief with Dr. Ray OwenGrief is an inevitable part of life, but do we truly understand its complex nature and the different ways it affects us? Dive into this enlightening episode as Dr. Ray Owen, a seasoned clinical and health psychologist, unravels the multifaceted world of grief. With over forty years in the National Health Service, Dr. Owen brings unparalleled insights into the universality of grief, its manifestations beyond just sadness, and how cultural nuances affect our grieving process.Explore why grief can be so much more than just a singular emotion, as Dr. Owen discusses everything from anger and shame...2025-04-1045 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #49: Parenting Your Anxious ChildNavigating the turbulent waters of parenting an anxious child might just hold the key to fostering resilience and emotional growth in both parents and kids alike. In this episode, hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry engage in a meaningful dialogue about the reality of anxiety in parenting and how it not only affects parents but also their children.They explore the evolutionary roots of anxiety, emphasizing that it's a natural, baked-in response meant to protect us. By normalizing anxiety as part of the parenting journey, the hosts empower listeners with strategies to support children who exhibit anxious...2025-03-1340 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #45: ADHD in Women with Michaela ThomasUnlocking the complexities of ADHD and perfectionism can be a game-changer for many seeking self-understanding and balance. In this episode, Michaela Thomas, a senior clinical psychologist, delves into how self-identification and formal diagnosis can transform lives in therapeutic and group coaching settings. She sheds light on the nuanced relationship between ADHD and perfectionism, explaining how perfectionism often suppresses joy and hinders self-expression.Thomas passionately explores the heightened sensitivity to rejection that individuals with ADHD experience, tying it to past ostracization and the resulting hypervigilance in social situations. This conversation is packed with insights on managing multiple responsibilities...2025-01-1649 min
Life's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #44: Parental Burnout with Debbie SorensenIn this episode of Life's Dirty Little Secrets, hosts Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington welcome back clinical psychologist Debbie Sorensen to discuss the growing issue of parental burnout.Sorensen, an expert on chronic stress and burnout, elaborates on the overwhelming pressures faced by modern parents and how societal expectations, economic pressures, and lack of support contribute to their exhaustion. The conversation also touches on perfectionism, micro stressors, and the importance of self-compassion and support networks. They provide practical advice, emphasizing the importance of asking for help, reducing expectations, and ensuring parental well-being.Highlights: Parental...2025-01-0247 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #43: Who Am I? Navigating Identity in Young Men with Nike OruhIn this episode of Life's Dirty Little Secrets, hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry are joined by Nike Oruh, a therapeutic specialist and clinical lead counselor at Edinburgh Napier University.The discussion delves into the struggles young men face today, focusing on their search for purpose, the influence of social media, gender role shifts, and the need for safe spaces to express emotions.The conversation emphasizes the importance of emotional vocabulary, positive role models, and community support systems to help young men navigate the complexities of modern masculinity and emotional well-being.Highlights:...2024-12-1951 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #42: Raising Loving Siblings with Jonathan CaspiIn this episode, Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry welcome back Dr. Jonathan Caspi, a sibling expert and family therapist, to discuss the intricate dynamics of sibling relationships.Dr. Caspi delves into the complexities of sibling conflict, the importance of closeness, and the impact of perceptions of favoritism. He provides actionable strategies for parents to preempt conflicts, establish rules of engagement, and reinforce positive interactions.The conversation also highlights the critical issues of sibling abuse and the lifelong benefits of strong sibling bonds. Raising Loving Siblings Sibling Conflict and Closeness The Importance of Sibling Relationships...2024-12-0553 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #40: Detoxifying Masculinity with Russell KoltsIn this episode of 'Life's Dirty Little Secrets,' hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry are joined by Dr. Russell Kolts, a clinical psychologist and professor at Eastern Washington University. They discuss the complexities of masculinity and anger in today's society.Dr. Kolts shares insights on how societal expectations shape male behavior, the challenges men face in expressing emotions, and the importance of creating safe spaces for men to be vulnerable. The discussion also covers the role of temperament and upbringing in emotional development and highlights the impact of competitive social contexts on behavior.The...2024-11-071h 00Life's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #39: The Two-Way Gift of Compassion with Becky PlattIn this episode of 'Life's Dirty Little Secrets,' hosts Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington delve into the transformative power of compassion and human connection in healthcare. Joined by pediatric nurse and humanitarian Becky Platt, who recently completed a mission in Gaza with Save the Children, they explore the profound impact of empathy in high-pressure medical environments.The discussion spans heart-wrenching stories of young patients, the courage in providing dignified end-of-life care, and the mutual gifts of understanding during moments of grief. Becky shares insights from her nonprofit 'Don't Forget the Bubbles,' which offers educational resources...2024-10-2451 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #37: Youth Interpersonal Violence with Carina SimmonsIn this episode of Life's Dirty Little Secrets, hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry talk to Carina Simmons, a consultant clinical psychologist from Barts National Health Service Trust, Royal London Hospital. Carina discusses the complexities surrounding youth interpersonal violence, the impact of social media, and the challenges faced by youth in managing emotions and mental health.Emphasizing a holistic approach, Carina highlights the importance of addressing both individual and systemic factors, the need for early intervention, and the role of emotional literacy in preventing violence. The conversation also explores the unique difficulties faced by young men in...2024-09-2651 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #36: The Secret Power of Disagreements with Dr. Yael SchonbrunIn this episode of 'Life's Dirty Little Secrets,' hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry welcome back Dr. Yael Schonbrun, PhD, a clinical psychologist, writer, and faculty member at Brown University. Dr. Schonbrun discusses the surprising benefits of disagreements, emphasizing how differences can nourish relationships, foster growth, and help individuals thrive.She explains the importance of mindset shifts, the role of conflict in couples and society, and shares strategies for turning disagreements into productive and positive experiences. The conversation also touches on personal anecdotes, the challenges of maintaining perspective, and the power of repair in relationships.2024-09-1252 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #35: Two Homes, One Family: Making It Work with Tiffany Rochester (Part 2)In this episode of 'Life's Dirty Little Secrets,' hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry welcome Tiffany Rochester, a clinical psychologist and co-parenting coach.Tiffany discusses the importance of separating well, providing evidence-based, compassionate, and collaborative solutions as alternatives to litigation. She highlights the need for strategic planning, conflict resolution skills, and effective communication to foster better outcomes for children.Tiffany offers practical advice on managing the initial stages of separation, involving key professionals for guidance, and maintaining a child-focused approach.Highlights: Collaborative solutions for separated families Creating space for emotional reaction...2024-08-2955 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #34 - The Power of Separating Well - choosing peace over conflict with Tiffany Rochester (part 1)In this episode of 'Life's Dirty Little Secrets,' hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry welcome Tiffany Rochester, a clinical psychologist and co-founder of Co Parenting Companion.Tiffany discusses her work in providing separated families with evidence-based, compassionate, and collaborative solutions as an alternative to litigation. She dives deep into the challenges and solutions for co-parenting, emphasizing psychological flexibility, kindness, and effective communication.Tiffany highlights the importance of supporting parents through the separation process to reduce conflict and foster better outcomes for children, providing practical strategies and insights into co-parenting dynamics.Highlights:...2024-08-1546 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #33: Parents Matter - But Do We Make a Difference with Dr. Emily EdlynnIn this episode of 'Life's Dirty Little Secrets,' hosts Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington talk with Dr. Emily Edlin, a clinical psychologist specializing in children and families.They explore the question of whether parents truly make a significant difference in their children's lives. The conversation delves into parenting pressures, the influence of genetics versus parental involvement, and the impact of different parenting styles. Emily shares insights from her new book on autonomy-supportive parenting, offering practical advice on managing parental anxiety and fostering healthy development in children.The episode highlights the importance of maintaining a...2024-08-0151 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #32: Choicefulness with Dr. Aprilia WestIn this episode of 'Life's Dirty Little Secrets,' hosts Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington engage in an insightful conversation with Dr. Aprilia West, a renowned psychologist, executive coach, and author, about the concept of 'choicefulness.' West, with over 20 years of experience working with various individuals and organizations, delves into how our power lies in our moments of choice.She explains how default reactions can limit our potential and discusses the importance of mindful, intentional decision-making. The conversation covers practical steps for developing choicefulness, recognizing cognitive and emotional biases, and aligning actions with what truly matters...2024-07-1842 min
Wise EffortWise Effort and Dirty Little Secrets With Emma Waddington and Chris McCurryIn this episode of Wise Effort, Diana is crossposting a recent interview of her on Life's Dirty Little Secrets, hosted by Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington. They delve into the concept and practice of Wise Effort.Listen and Learn:Wise Effort and EnergyPrinciples and Techniques for Wise EffortValue of Diverse InteractionsRecognizing Negative NarrativesManaging Emotional ResponsesRelated ResourcesGet enhanced show notes for this episodePre-order my upcoming book, Wise Effort: How to Focus Your Genius Energy on What Matters Most, and receive special pre-order bonus gifts.Want to become more psychologically flexible? Take...2024-07-1550 min
Life's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #31: Our Favorite Dirty Little Secrets - Season 2Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry host the wrap-up episode, celebrating the end of season two. They reflect on various discussions from the season, including self-discovery, personal growth, relationships, equity, social justice, and mental health.The wrap-up includes highlights from various episodes, featuring topics such as challenging societal norms, the importance of self-regulation in neurodivergent individuals, and the complexities of relationships with narcissistic personalities.Highlights: Sibling Dynamics and Aggression Sexual Education Victim Blaming Neurodivergence[00:00] Introduction and Season Two Wrap-Up[01:29] Challenging Norms and Definitions[01:38] Self-Discovery and Authenticity[02:59] Dr. Steve...2024-07-041h 06Life's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #30: Wise Effort with Dr. Diana HillIn this episode of Life's Dirty Little Secrets, special guest Dr. Diana Hill, a clinical psychologist and host of the "Wise Effort" podcast, joins hosts Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington to delve into the concept of "Wise Effort."As the discussion unfolds, Dr. Hill offers actionable advice, introducing three steps to embrace wise effort: get curious, open up, and choose wisely. She delves into the balance required to manage energy effectively, avoiding pitfalls like attachment, avoidance, and negative self-stories. Highlighting the significance of consilience and radical regeneration, the episode touches on the abundance of renewable resources and...2024-06-2047 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #23: Good and Evil with Stephen BatchelorIn this enlightening Life's Dirty Little Secrets episode hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry delve deep with the Buddhist philosopher, Stephen Batchelor on navigating ethical dilemmas in a world bound by societal norms. In this episode, Stephen challenges listeners to find courage and clarity in uncertainty, and to embrace radical self-acceptance as a means to thoughtful, compassionate living.Touching on the need for like-minded communities amid the decline of traditional institutions, this episode encourages individuals to consciously forge new support systems. Stephen's call for a personal approach to spirituality and ethics resonates throughout the discussion, advocating for...2024-03-1449 min
Life's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #22: Perfectionism with Dr. ZJoin hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry, alongside esteemed guest Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona (affectionately known as Dr. Z), as they delve deep into the intricate maze of perfectionism. Together, they unravel the complexities that drive our relentless pursuit of flawlessness and the hidden costs it entails.Dr. Z opens the discussion by dissecting the motivations behind perfectionistic tendencies, from a profound care for one's work to the haunting fear of failure and the rigid adherence to internalized rules. As she shares fascinating insights from her clinical experience, you'll learn about the crucial need to examine these...2024-02-2941 min
Life's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #21: Our Sexual Selves with Kristen CampbellIn this episode of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets," hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry invite Kristen Campbell, a clinical psychosexual therapist, to delve deep into the secrets of our sexual selves. From exploring the emotional neglect in previous generations to the importance of personal responsibility for pleasure, this episode promises to challenge deeply ingrained societal messages around sexuality and provide valuable insights.Kristen touches on the lack of investment in sexual development as people grow, leading to anxiety and feelings of inadequacy in partnered experiences. She emphasizes the importance of personal responsibility for pleasure and the need...2024-02-1546 min
Life's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #19: Season 2 - Life's Dirty Little SecretsFor season 2 of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets" podcast, hosts Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington express the importance of embracing our fallibility in a society that often rewards pretending to be perfect.They give a sneak peek of the exciting conversations lined up for the upcoming season, featuring guests and topics such as Steve Hayes (myth of normalcy), Kristen Campbell (our sexual selves), Elisabeth Lahti (the Finnish concept of sisu), Dr. Zurita (the downsides of perfectionism), and Stephen Batchelor (the duality of good and evil) and more.Don't miss out on this insightful and engaging podcast...2024-01-3109 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #18 - Our Favorite Dirty Little Secrets - Season 1In the season 1 finale of Life's Dirty Little Secrets, hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry explore the profound complexities of embracing change and fostering personal growth. Through candid and introspective discussions, they delve into the challenges of self-doubt, imposter syndrome, and the transformative power of second-order change.Drawing from their experiences and insights gained throughout the past year of podcasting, Emma and Chris reflect on the invaluable lessons learned and express gratitude for the privilege of witnessing the genuine human experiences shared on their show. They also offer a glimpse into the forthcoming Season 2, tantalizing listeners with...2023-12-0738 min
Life's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #17: Adolescenting - How to Connect With Your Inner Adolescence with Dr. Louise HayesIn this episode of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets," join hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry as they dive into the world of adolescence, exploring its challenges, growth opportunities, and the curious minds that define it. Joined by special guest Louise Hayes, a clinical psychologist and author, they discuss why adults struggle with adolescents, the importance of embracing mistakes and taking risks, and the power of curiosity and creativity. They also touch on Louise's volunteer work with the Pearl Trust, a charity helping children in Nepal. Get ready to embrace your inner adolescent and discover the secrets to navigating life's...2023-11-2344 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #16: Autonomy Supportive Parenting with Dr. Emily EdlynnIn this episode of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets," hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry delve into the complexities and challenges of promoting autonomy in children. They are joined by special guest Emily Edlund, a clinical psychologist, academic, and author, who shares her experiences and insights on the topic. The conversation covers the importance of maintaining a trusting relationship during adolescence, the dangers of using the phone as a weapon in parenting, and the need for ongoing conversations about technology use. They discuss strategies for autonomy-supportive parenting, including empathy, problem-solving, and allowing independenceHighlights: The positive impact...2023-11-0949 min
Life's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #15: Burnout with Dr. Debbie SorensenIn this episode of "Life's Dirty Little Secrets," hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry dive deep into the topic of burnout with special guest, Dr. Debbie Sorensen. Burnout is a widespread issue in today's society, especially in chronically stressful roles such as the workplace, parenting, and caregiving. Dr. Sorensen sheds light on the importance of reconnecting with our values to combat burnout and regain vitality in our lives. Join us as we explore the misconceptions surrounding burnout, its impact on various professions, and the need for systemic changes to address this prevalent issue. Don't miss this eye-opening conversation about...2023-10-2644 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #7 Parental Guilt with Dr. Yael SchonbrunBeing a working parent is a balancing act that requires juggling numerous roles and responsibilities. It's a challenging situation, marked by the constant tension between work commitments and parental responsibilities. However, this tension can also offer opportunities for personal growth, learning, and skill development. With the right perspective, our experiences as working parents can positively influence our parenting style and enrich our ability to navigate conflicts and challenges with grace. Chris McCurry and Emma Waddington bring this topic to life during their conversation with Dr. Yael Schonbrun. Dr. Schonbrun points out how dealing with the role tension of being...2023-07-0648 minLife's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #6: Grief with Mahima GuptaJoin Emma and Chris as they delve into the often overlooked topic of grief. In this episode, they are joined by Mahima Gupta, a clinical psychologist with over 10 years of experience. Mahima shares her personal experiences of grief, including the loss of her best friend to suicide and a devastating family tragedy. Through her story, listeners gain a deeper understanding of the complex emotions and challenges that come with grief. This episode provides valuable insights and offers support for those who may be experiencing their own grief or seeking to better understand the grieving process.H...2023-06-2239 min
Life's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #4: Self-Doubt with Jim LucasOn this episode of Life's Dirty Little Secrets, hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCury are joined by Jim Lucas. The topic of discussion: self-doubt. Despite years of experience and professional development, all three still struggle with feelings of insecurity and uncertainty. hey discuss how self-doubt can hold us back, but also how it can be a useful tool for growth and exploration. From parenting to professional development, they explore the importance of being open and honest about what we don't know, and how it can actually help us become better at what we do.Highlights: Understanding S...2023-04-1333 min
Life's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #1: I'm Adulting but Don't Feel Like an AdultStruggling to feel like a full-fledged adult? Emma Waddington and Chris McCury discuss the topic of adulting and how it has become a modern phenomenon. They discuss the struggles of adulthood, how it has changed between generations and why people feel anxious about adulthood and its associated responsibilities.Highlights: The idea of adulting Why adulting is discussed more now than in previous decades Why people feel uncertainty and doubts when it comes to being an adult Why people feel like they haven’t become adults Resources for making the leap into adulthoodResourcesHow...2023-03-3031 min
Life's Dirty Little Secrets PodcastSecret #3: Eating Disorders and Self-compassion with Dr. Diana HillMany of the secrets we carry are so common and we’re really all sharing the same shame and regret, but the hope is to have more compassion for each other but mostly for ourselvesIn this episode, Emma and Chris talk with Dr. Diana Hill about her disordered eating recovery and how she applies the lessons she learned from this challenge to her therapy practice and daily living.Diana Hill, PhD is a clinical psychologist, international trainer and sought-out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and compassion. Host of the podcast Your Life in...2023-03-3025 min