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When Our Adult Children Walk AwayRebuilding Trust: How Estranged Moms Can Reconnect- Episode 2Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.This episode is a follow-up to our Mother's Day conversation—and it's all about what to do next. If you’ve been blamed, shut out, or accused of things that hurt to hear… this one’s for you.We’ll walk through how moms can start rebuilding trust when a relationship with their adult child is fractured or strained, especially when they're not sure how to begin. Each point helps buil...2025-05-1124 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 Crossed Wires: The Role of Emotional Incest in EstrangementSubscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Premier Content - Subscriber-only EpisodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.This one’s tough—there’s no getting around it. And! It is a new and growing element of conversations related to estrangement.There was a time when incest was all-in...2025-05-0412 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayThe Hardest Days: What is a high risk day and how to prepare (Overview) Episode 1 of 5Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Some days are more difficult than others. Some days shine a spotlight on our estrangement grief - the silence and loneliness. These are high-risk days. On high-risk days, the silence can be deafening. High-risk days trigger more intense feelings. Holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, and other important days can be reminders of your estranged adult child. These are what we refer to as high-risk days. High-risk days often reopen emotional wounds a...2025-04-2715 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayWhen Mother’s Day Hurts: 10 Reasons Our Kids Pull AwayHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Mother’s Day can bring up a lot of emotional turmoil, can trigger our grief, and can shine a light on the empty chair at the dinner table - especially when your relationship with your adult child feels broken or distant. In this episode, we’ll examine 10 reasons adult children who are or have been estranged say they step back or walk away from their moms. We'll also consider how y...2025-04-1636 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 Managing High-Risk Days: How to Protect Your Heart, Mind and Future RelationshipSubscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Whether it's a holiday, birthday, or significant life event, high-risk days may – usually do - heighten the pain, loneliness and embarrassment of estrangement. In this episode of When Our Adult Children Walk Away, Dr. Janet Steinkamp offers practical strategies to help you prepare, set boundaries, and maintain emotional balance.💡 Understand why these days feel harder than others and why you feel more vulnerable.💡 Learn ho...2025-04-0815 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 Close But Different: Rejection vs DejectionSubscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.If you’re experiencing some degree of estrangement, you have almost certainly experienced the sting of rejection and the emotional gut punch of dejection. When some part of our involvement in our relationship is rejected, we can become overwhelmed by disbelief, anger, hurt feelings and despair. In this episode, we’re breaking it down. Rejection is the action – the delivery of the message. It is what happens when so...2025-04-0120 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away5 Differences: Therapist or Coach? Which is best in my circumstances?Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Ever wondered whether you need a therapist or a coach to help with your family estrangement (or any big life challenge)? Or maybe both? What if a person is professionally licensed and trained as both a therapist and an estrangement coach?In this episode, we break down the key differences between the two—how they work, what they focus on, and who might be the best fit for your ci...2025-03-1815 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away5 Ways Therapists and Coaches can Help Resolve or Reinforce an EstrangementHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.This is a premium Subscriber episode. This is the link to subscribe. https://www.buzzsprout.com/2134816/subscribe Please contact me at Janet@JESteinkamp.com if you have difficulty subscribing or have other questions. Thank you.In this episode, we’re diving into the different but complementary roles therapists and coaches play in family estrangement—whether they’re helping to heal relationships or, sometimes uninten...2025-03-0735 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 Reasons 11 - 20: 20 Reasons Walking on Egg Shells is a Gift (Extended)Subscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.This is a premium Subscriber episode. This is the link to subscribe.https://www.buzzsprout.com/2134816/subscribe Please contact me at Janet@JESteinkamp.com if you have difficulty subscribing or have other questions. Thank you.Walking on Eggshells is a concept we use to describe the extreme hypersensitivity parents feel when their relationship with their adult child is faltering...2025-01-2134 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayIt's True, Moms and Dads Experience and Navigate Estrangement Differently (Extended)Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.This is a premium Subscriber episode. This is the link to subscribe.https://www.buzzsprout.com/2134816/subscribe Please contact me at Janet@JESteinkamp.com if you have difficulty subscribing or have other questions. Thank you.Unlike the short episode with the same title, this episode examines differences and similarities in how moms and dads describe their experiences and strategies for navigating estrangement.2025-01-0729 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayIt's True, Mom's and Dad's Experience and Navigate Estrangement Differently (Short)Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.In this episode, we dig into some of the differences and similarities of how moms and dads tell us they experience and navigate estrangement. Yes, dads and moms often experience estrangement differently. And, in ways, similarly. Only... we know it isn't really that simple, right?I hesitate to categorize how we experience and navigate estrangement by our gender. The concept oversimplifies and discounts the complexities of our...2024-12-2310 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 Reasons 1 - 10; 20 Reasons Walking on Egg Shells is a Gift (Extended)Subscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.20 Reasons Walking on Egg Shells is a Gift - A Deep Dive Into Reasons 1-10 (Extended)Walking on Eggshells is a concept we use to describe the extreme hypersensitivity parents feel when their relationship with their adult child is faltering. It means being hyper-aware or fearful of saying or doing anything that might upset the estranged child, often to avoid further damage to a...2024-12-0634 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayThe "Let Them Go" Movement and It's Distant Cousin "Let Them Go - Good Riddance" (Short)Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.The "Let Them Go" movement grew out of the emerging phenomenon of parental and family estrangement. Originally the movement was based on positive acceptance, open minded awareness, and love. This movement emphasizes personal well-being and the right to distance oneself from harmful dynamics.More recently, the movement has spun off a 2nd movement. We now hear from a “Let Them Go – Good Riddance” faction. In this episode I provi...2024-12-0108 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayStop The Noise! The 20 Gifts of Walking on Eggshells (Short)Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Walking on Eggshells is a concept we use to describe the extreme hypersensitivity parents feel when their relationship with their adult child is faltering. It means being hyper-aware or fearful of saying or doing anything that might upset the estranged child, often to avoid further damage to an already fragile relationship. This can lead to stress, frustration, and feelings of helplessness for parents. One of the most frequent questions I hear...2024-11-2208 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away6 Tips to Proactively Give Space to Your Adult Child and Avoid MisrepresentationHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.In this episode, I discuss six tips that will proactively ensure you give space to your adult child and avoid misrepresentation by others. This topic is a continuation of discussions about communication, how to maintain it, how to ensure direct access if and when either the parent or adult child is compelled to reach out, and how to ensure others represent you accurately to others who may also be in contact...2024-11-0817 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayIs the Sky Really Falling? How to Avoid the Habit of CatastrophizingHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.In this episode, we consider avoiding or getting out of the habit of catastrophizing. You might be saying, “Hasn’t the worst already happened?” I suggest that it hasn’t. Or, maybe it’s more accurate to say that anticipating a catastrophe does not help move you toward preparing to repair and establish a new connection. Catastrophizing holds you in disbelief, anger and despair.Catastrophizing is a common behavior that affec...2024-10-2519 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayCracking the Busy Body Code: Managing Your MessageHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.In this episode, we crack the Busy Body Code. I share several easy strategies to manage a busy body by controlling your message. You can protect your privacy, ensuring that more energy can focus on maintaining emotional well-being. I share several responses you can use when approached by even the most well-meaning "share-er." I provide ways to sort through publicly neutral messaging to ensure the difficulties you're...2024-10-1124 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayFriendly Advocate or Flying Monkey? (Extended)Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.So often, people who love and support us are also in contact with or know our distancing or estranged adult child. I'm frequently asked whether it is "a good idea" or "will it work" to have one of these people talk to the adult child on the parent's behalf. I also hear stories about people taking it upon themselves to approach an adult child without the parent's involvement—to defend us...2024-09-1512 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 The Terms of Estrangement - Definitions and Implications (Extended)Subscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Adult children involved in estrangement often use specific terms and phrases to articulate their feelings and experiences. Newly estranged parents must understand and adopt these terms in today's context to fully grasp what their adult child tells them. It is not unusual for parents to become frustrated and feel imposed upon when they learn the new definitions and meanings of words and phrases. It may b...2024-09-0820 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayFriendly Advocate or Flying Monkey? (Short)Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.So often, people who love and support us are also in contact with or know our distancing or estranged adult child. I'm often asked whether it is "a good idea" or "will it work" to have one of these people talk to the adult child on the parent's behalf. I also hear stories about people taking it upon themselves to approach an adult child without the parent's involvement—to defend...2024-08-3004 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 What the H@!! are they talking about? Reproductive Memory vs Reconstructive Memory (Definitions and Differences) ExtendedSubscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Memory distortion is common in our human experience. It can be particularly relevant in crumbling relationships between parents and their adult children. Too often, what were once happy or benign memories morph - seemingly - suddenly into abusive and traumatic events. Parents are often caught off guard and sent reeling into a cycle of disbelief, anger, helplessness and pain.To complicate matters further, outsiders can...2024-08-2321 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayWhat the H@!! are they talking about? Reproductive Memory vs Reconstructive Memory (Definitions and Differences) ShortHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Memory distortion is common in our human experience. It can be particularly relevant in crumbling relationships between parents and their adult children. Too often, what were once happy or benign memories morph - seemingly - suddenly into abusive and traumatic events. Parents are often caught off guard and sent reeling into a cycle of disbelief, anger, helplessness and pain.To complicate matters further, outsiders can influence or drive the...2024-08-1505 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayNote to Self: 10 Daily Tips to Keep You in the Parent-Partner LaneHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.A few years ago, in the middle years of our family's estrangement from my adult daughter and grandchildren, I adopted the phrase "Parent Partner.” I borrowed the term from the early days of divorcing parents (remember Gweneth Paltro's divorce from Chris Martin?) working together to co-parent young children. The concept is that divorcing parent-partners choose to work collaboratively, in a friendly manner, to jointly parent young children. They may eve...2024-08-0516 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 What, When and How: Apologize or Explain (Extended)Subscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.In healthy and effective communication, the strategic use of apologies and explanations can significantly influence the outcome and effectiveness of our efforts to manage potential rifts in our relationships. Both play an essential role in maintaining trust, reducing confusion and ensuring seemingly small grievances don’t become catastrophic.In this episode I provide a detailed explanation of how apologies and explanations function within the context of...2024-07-2717 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayWhat's the Difference? Apology and Explanation (Short)Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.In healthy and effective communication, the strategic use of apologies and explanations can significantly influence the outcome and effectiveness of our efforts to manage potential rifts in our relationships. Both play an essential role in maintaining trust, reducing confusion and ensuring seemingly small grievances don’t become catastrophic.Where apologies address the emotional aspects of a conflict, explanations tackle the rational side. By understanding when and how to use ea...2024-07-2004 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 3 Ways Estrangement is Different for Dad'sSubscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.This Sunday in the US is Father's Day. Many families around the country will spend time celebrating their dads. But, the day can be difficult for our estranged dads - and research tells us that the same is true for many of their estranged adult children. For estranged dads and adult children, the day shines a spotlight on circumstances that led to their strained or fractured relationships.2024-06-1435 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away8 Healthy and Emotionally Charged Realities of Letting GoHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Parenting doesn't end when our children grow into adulthood; it just evolves into a different phase with its own set of challenges. Parents often struggle with letting their children become independent adults. It can be hard to transition from being the primary decision-maker to taking a backseat role in their lives.We are challenged to Let Go. We are faced with finding a new balance in how much support...2024-06-1017 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 What is the Difference: Gas lighting vs ReframingSubscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.The concept of gaslighting has become a common term over the past few years. So what is it and why is it that our adult children are quick to accuse parents of gaslighting?Gaslighting is when someone says something convincingly and with authority puts into question another's perspective and experiences. Gaslighting pushes others to change their own thinking, beliefs, observations, and values. That, my friends...2024-06-0309 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 8 Things Our Adult Children Consider Before Leaving or ReconnectingSubscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Estrangement is most accurately defined as a continuum of distancing. Estrangement in families refers to voluntarily or involuntarily distancing oneself from one or more family members or loved ones, usually due to significant conflicts or issues within the relationship. Checkout https://www.togetherestranged.org/levels-of-estrangement to find a very helpful image of the estrangement continuum. In cases other than those involving abuse or addiction, adult chil...2024-05-2719 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayWhat is the Difference: Independence or EstrangementHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.https://www.whenouradultchildrenwalkaway.com/aboutOne of the most frequent questions I'm asked is, "How do I know if my child is cutting ties and wants to be estranged?" Why is it important to understand the differences and similarities? Knowing the difference helps us assess the health of a relationship. Take a listen as I dig in and talk about the differences. And - importantly...2024-05-2008 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayThe Continuum of Estrangement - Where does your relationship sit?Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly. Determining the level of estrangement between you and your adult child can involve some introspection and assessment of your relationship dynamics. Are you asking yourself questions like: What is the Continuum of Estrangement? What is the progression of distancing? How do I know if my adult son or daughter is on the continuum? How do I slow down the increasing distancing of my son or daughter?This ep...2024-05-1313 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away5 Imposters: The Anatomy of an Authentic ApologyHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.For parents and adult children experiencing some level of estrangement (see the Continuum of Estrangment link below) understanding what an authentic apology means can be pivotal in repairing their differences. In this episode we dig deeper into the 5 imposters of an authentic apology. You will learn how to recognize and avoid these imposters, preparing you to recognize your responsibililities, how to hold yourself accountable and how to communicate your authentic apology.2024-05-0622 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away3 Lies and a Truth - The Amends LetterHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.If you've listened to other WOACWA podcast episodes, you know that I ground my work in effective, respectful, and intentional communication. I integrate communication training with my six-stage Estrangement Grief Model (Disbelief, Anger, Despair, Acceptance, Transformation and Maintenance). By this, I mean that our estrangement journey can be most effectively navigated and remedied by reflecting on our relational circumstances, holding ourselves accountable for our own contributions to the estrangement, u...2024-04-2930 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 Estrangement Grief - Stage 6 - MaintenanceSubscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.In this episode, Dr. Steinkamp presents the sixth stage of Estrangement Grief. During the stage of maintenance - Maintenance. In this stage, we have embraced some of the changes we chose to make in our lives after moving through the first five stages of estrangement grief. We have embraced our imperfections, grown to forgive ourselves and our adult child and come to recognize th...2024-02-1017 min
Boomer Banter, Real Talk about Aging WellInsights from the Estrangement Series: The Ultimate RecapSeason 7 - Episode 172In this episode of Hey, Boomer, host Wendy Green delves into the complex and emotional topic of family and friend estrangement. The candid discussions with experts and real-life stories shed light on the pain and potential for reconciliation in strained relationships. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on the importance of fostering connections and prioritizing friendships as they navigate the challenges of aging.Episode OverviewHost Wendy Green reflects on the profound insights gained from the show's series on family and friend estrangement and reconciliation. Drawing from conversations with guests like...2024-02-0631 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 Estrangement Grief - Stage 5 - TransformationSubscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.The transformation stage of grief in the context of estrangement typically refers to the process of adapting and finding meaning after experiencing the loss of a relationship with a close family member, friend, or significant other. Estrangement involves a significant emotional distance or fracturing of a once-close relationship. The stages of grief in my model are: Disbelief, Anger, Dispair, Acceptance, Transformation, and Maintenance.In the...2024-02-0216 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 Estrangement Grief - Stage 4 - AcceptanceSubscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.The acceptance stage of estrangement grief is one of the phases individuals may go through when experiencing the pain and emotional turmoil associated with being estranged from a family member or significant other. It is important to note that the grieving process is subjective and varies from person to person.During the acceptance stage, individuals may begin to acknowledge and come to terms with the...2024-01-2618 min
Boomer Banter, Real Talk about Aging WellRebuilding Relationships with Estranged Adult Children with Dr. Janet SteinkampSeason 7 Episode 170In this episode, Wendy Green engages in a deep and meaningful conversation with Dr. Janet Steinkamp about the challenges of estranged relationships with adult children. Wendy and Janet both share there personal experiences, emphasizing the importance of self-reflection, adapting communication styles, and nurturing trust and grace in rebuilding relationships. The discussion touches upon the emotional complexities, the stages of grief, and the impact of family dynamics on estrangement.Guest bioDr. Janet Steinkamp is an educator, teacher-trainer, communication expert, estrangement consultant, researcher and mom. In 2019, Dr. Steinkamp...2024-01-2345 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 Estrangement Grief - Stage 3 - DespairSubscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.In this – the 3rd stage in my estrangement grief model, we sit in Despair. In the Despair stage, our primary experience and emotions include agony, hopelessness, depression, rejection, lack of joy and happiness, woefulness, blame and shame. We ask questions like – why me, why our family? Where did I go wrong? Embarrassment and isolation set in and can sometimes take hold. In the...2024-01-2022 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayGratitude, Holidays and EstrangementHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.[This episode was recorded and produced in November of 2023. It was published and distributed in January of 2024. The content is applicable to all holiday celebrations and gatherings. Our apologies for the delayed availability.]Dealing with the holidays as estranged parents can be challenging, but it's possible to navigate this time with self-care, communication, and thoughtful planning. In this episode, we explore the unique pressures and triggers of...2024-01-1817 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 Houston We Have a Problem! Are Parents Scrubbing the Launch?Subscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Remember the 2006 comedy Failure to Launch, starring Sarah Jessica Parker and Mathew McConaughey? I found it pretty easy to identify with Kathy Bates, who plays the mom (Terry Bradshaw plays the dad) – of a son who would not stand on his own two feet. They had to creatively coerce their adult son to move out. Well, news flash. The tide has turned, and we – the paren...2023-11-1414 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 Estrangement Grief - Stage 2 - AngerSubscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.In this episode, we take a deep dive into the 2nd stage of my model of estrangement grief - Anger. This and the other five stages are uniquely related to crumbling relationships between family members. The primary experiences in the Anger stage are overwhelming indignation, exasperation, animosity, antagonism, bitterness, spite, fury and rage. We find ourselves saying things like – how dare the...2023-10-2419 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 Estrangement Grief - Stage 1 - DisbeliefSubscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Unlike other models and theories, I refer to the first stage of grief in estrangement as Disbelief.In the stage of Disbelief, our primary experiences include shock, panic, overwhelming doubt, denial, minimizing or skepticism and rationalizing. During this stage, we tend to send many texts, email messages, and voice messages - imploring our adult children to listen to our...2023-10-0315 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away6 Stages of Estrangement Grief - An Overview - Episode 1 of 7Hi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Are you cycling through your emotions at warp speed? Are you angry in one moment and crippled by sadness in the next? Are you feeling helpless and hopeless? Wondering if life will ever be good again? Are you embarrassed to tell your friends, or perhaps your friends begin to pull away when you tell them about your broken relationship? In this episode, I provide an overview of the six stages of...2023-04-1718 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 5 Signs Your Relationship with Your Adult Child Is Unraveling – The Yin and Yang of EstrangementSubscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Is your relationship with your adult child falling apart? Are things between you changing, but you can't quite understand why? Are you looking for ways you can stop the unraveling without making things worse? How bad are you willing to let things get before you take action? In this episode, we dig into the first two levels of estrangement on the estrangement continuum - Cordial Contact and L...2023-04-1618 min
When Our Adult Children Walk Away🔒 Wait! What? You're leaving?! Does this mean we're estranged?Subscriber-only episodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Is your adult child walking away? Did you miss the warning signs? How can you make sure it doesn't get worse? In this episode, I will define estrangement and we will get familiar with the continuum of estrangement. You will be able to determine where your relationship falls on the continuum. And I'll share some things you can do to stop the progression of estrangement in your...2023-04-1412 min
When Our Adult Children Walk AwayIntroductory EpisodeHi Listeners. I'd love to hear from you. Send an email to Janet@jesteinkamp. It is not possible to respond to your Fan Mail posts directly.Hello Sweet Parents,Welcome to the When Our Adult Children Walk Away Podcast. I invite you to join me for a series of episodes in which we dig deep into the challenges today's parents face as we navigate the expectations of our adult children. In each episode, I explore a different aspect of estrangement, including the continuum of separation, the estrangement grief cycle, the critical role of c...2023-04-1204 min