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WRFH/Radio Free Hillsdale 101.7 FMWherefore Art Thou, Romeo?: FACES: Examples of Other RelationshipsThis week on Wherefore Art Thou, Romeo?, Greg and Emily continue discussing John Van Epp's getting-to-know-you, FACES, acronym. They move into 'E,' Examples of Other Relationships whether those be relationships with siblings, parents, and friends or previous romantic relationships.
2025-10-2722 min
Wherefore Art Thou, Romeo?FACES: Examples of Other RelationshipsThis week on Wherefore Art Thou, Romeo?, Greg and Emily continue discussing John Van Epp's getting-to-know-you, FACES, acronym. They move into 'E,' Examples of Other Relationships whether those be relationships with siblings, parents, and friends or previous romantic relationships.
2025-10-2722 min
WRFH/Radio Free Hillsdale 101.7 FMWherefore Art Thou, Romeo?: FACES: Compatibility PotentialToday, Greg and Emily explore John Van Epp's third letter in the getting-to-know acronym, FACES: Compatibility Potential. What are those make-or-break issues that make you compatible or incompatible with someone? Stay tuned till the end for the answer to a special question Emily has for Greg.
2025-10-1822 minWherefore Art Thou, Romeo?FACES: Compatibility PotentialToday, Greg and Emily explore John Van Epp's third letter in the getting-to-know acronym, FACES: Compatibility Potential. What are those make-or-break issues that make you compatible or incompatible with someone? Stay tuned till the end for the answer to a special question Emily has for Greg.
2025-10-1622 min
Be With Me: 7 Minutes of Biblical WonderHow to avoid TRUSTING a JERK S30e40 Psalm 25There is a wonderful book that I often recommend:How to avoid marry a JERK. by John van Epp. The idea is to use the dating period to get a current and past track record of data, and not discount red flags and turn them into pink flags. Do a hard target investigation into the character of your dating partner, so as to reliably predict the future with them. Ferret out whether they are a JERK, or their character is trustworthy enough to marry. I’m going to steal that idea spiritually:...
2025-10-0506 min
WRFH/Radio Free Hillsdale 101.7 FMWherefore Art Thou, Romeo?": FACES: Attitudes and Actions of the ConscienceJoin Greg and Emily as they discuss the second step in getting to know someone; learning about the foundation for their actions. In John Van Epp's book, How to Avoid Falling In Love with a Jerk (or Jerkette), he discusses the acronym, FACES, and A stands for attitudes and actions of the conscience. This can be anything from political standing to matters of faith. Greg and Emily explore what to watch for when considering becoming more serious with someone.
2025-10-0322 min
WRFH/Radio Free Hillsdale 101.7 FMWherefore Art Thou, Romeo?: FACES: Family Background P.2Emily and Greg continue their conversation about John Van Epp's 'getting-to-know' acronym, FACES, and the role of family in your relationships. Are you doomed to be your parents? How does your family effect your own relationships and what does it say about how you deal with problems? Hear about this and more on today's episode.
2025-10-0322 min
WRFH/Radio Free Hillsdale 101.7 FMWherefore Art Thou, Romeo?: FACES: Family Background P.1In John Van Epp's Book, How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk, Van Epp uses the acronym, FACES, to explain how best to get to know a person. Greg and Emily work through the first letter, F for Family Background. What roles do your parents play in your future relationships? Hear about this and more on today's episode.
2025-10-0322 minWherefore Art Thou, Romeo?FACES: Attitudes and Actions of the ConscienceJoin Greg and Emily as they discuss the second step in getting to know someone; learning about the foundation for their actions. In John Van Epp's book, How to Avoid Falling In Love with a Jerk (or Jerkette), he discusses the acronym, FACES, and A stands for attitudes and actions of the conscience. This can be anything from political standing to matters of faith. Greg and Emily explore what to watch for when considering becoming more serious with someone.
2025-10-0122 minWherefore Art Thou, Romeo?FACES: Family Background P.2Emily and Greg continue their conversation about John Van Epp's 'getting-to-know' acronym, FACES, and the role of family in your relationships. Are you doomed to be your parents? How does your family effect your own relationships and what does it say about how you deal with problems? Hear about this and more on today's episode.
2025-09-2922 minWherefore Art Thou, Romeo?FACES: Family Background P.1In John Van Epp's Book, How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk, Van Epp uses the acronym, FACES, to explain how best to get to know a person. Greg and Emily work through the first letter, F for Family Background. What roles do your parents play in your future relationships? Hear about this and more on today's episode.
2025-09-2922 min
Cypress Church Weekly TeachingHow To Date God's Way In A Swipe-Right Culture | RelationshipsWhat does the Bible really say about singleness? In Week 1 of our Relationships teaching series, we discover how Scripture honors singleness, why it can be a season of freedom, and how your true worth is not found in relationship status but in your identity in Christ.Paul reminds us in 1 Corinthians 7 that singleness is a gift and can be lived wholeheartedly for God. Singleness may be for a season or a calling, but either way, it provides space to grow in intimacy with Christ and live with fewer distractions.We also explore Dr. John Van Epp’s Relational Attachment Mo...
2025-09-1432 minCypress Church Weekly TeachingThe Truth About Being Single | RelationshipsWhat does the Bible really say about singleness? In Week 1 of our Relationships teaching series, we discover how Scripture honors singleness, why it can be a season of freedom, and how your true worth is not found in relationship status but in your identity in Christ.Paul reminds us in 1 Corinthians 7 that singleness is a gift and can be lived wholeheartedly for God. Singleness may be for a season or a calling, but either way, it provides space to grow in intimacy with Christ and live with fewer distractions.We also explore Dr. John Van...
2025-09-0734 min
Relationship Prescriptions with Dr. CarolJerks, Red Flags, and God's Design for Healthy Lasting RelationshipsIn a culture where relationship longevity is at an all-time low, even within the church, how can we build relationships that truly last? In this insightful conversation, Dr. Carol talks with Dr. John Van Epp, a leading relationship expert, pastor, professor, and creator of curricula for singles, engaged couples, and married couples. With over a million people impacted by his programs in both faith-based and secular settings, Dr. Van Epp brings much practical wisdom rooted in research and Scripture. Together, they explore the Relationship Attachment Model (RAM) and how it offers a framework for making wise, emotionally healthy choices...
2025-07-2956 minWherefore Art Thou, Romeo?Relationship Attachment Model (RAM) and Long-Distance Part 2In this episode, Emily and Greg finish discussing John Van Epp's RAM board and use it as a reference in their conversation about long distance relationships. They ask the question, "Can long distance relationships be successful?"
2025-07-2621 minWherefore Art Thou, Romeo?Relationship Attachment Model (RAM) and Long-Distance Part 1In this episode, Emily Schutte and Marriage Therapist, Greg Schutte discuss John Van Epp's RAM board or the Relationship Attachment Model as a means of explaining how to pace a healthy relationship.
2025-07-2624 min
Daniela Faour#13: ¿Cómo evitar enamorarte de un idiota?¿Te enganchas con chicos que sabes que no te convienen? ¿Te obsesionas con alguien que apenas conoces? ¿Te cuesta soltar a ese que te gusta pero sabes que no es para ti?💥 En este episodio te explico el modelo que cambió mi manera de entender las relaciones: el Relationship Attachment Model (RAM) del psicólogo John Van Epp.Aprenderás:✅ Por qué te apegas tan rápido a alguien✅ Cómo conocer bien a una persona antes de confiar y comprometerte✅ La regla de los 3 meses para evitar relaciones tóxicas...
2025-06-0519 min
By the BookEp. #14: “How to Avoid Falling In Love with a Jerk” w/ Ava TurnerIn this episode we talk about the book “How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk” by John Van Epp with Ava Turner. Ava is currently a senior in her undergraduate program studying Marriage and Family Studies at BYU Idaho, where she found her passion for relationship education & mental health, & family advocacy. She now works as part of BYU-Idaho's Hope Council, doing mental health advocacy, awareness, and education & as a T.A. for a Child & Family Advocacy class on campus. After graduation, Ava hopes to empower individuals & families as a Family Life Educator & Christian Family Advocate—helpin...
2025-05-2721 min
Dr. Sheryl‘s PodCouchEpisode 082 - A Better Share with Dr. Morgan CutlipDr. Morgan Cutlip is a mother of two, married to her high school sweetheart, and she has worked in the field of relationship education for over 15 years alongside her father, Dr. John Van Epp, who is the founder of Love Thinks and developer of multiple relationship education courses that have been taught to over a million people worldwide. She is “on a mission to help women feel empowered in all of their relationships so that they feel whole, light, and deeply connected to those they love.”Her new book, A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Ment...
2025-04-2928 min
I'd Rather Be ReadingDr. Morgan Cutlip on Why Understanding the Mental Load Is Critical to the Success of a RelationshipWe are in for such a fun conversation today with Dr. Morgan Cutlip, author of A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex, which is out April 8. In today's episode, Morgan teaches us why understanding the mental load is so important to a successful partnership. She teaches us that the mental load is comprised of three parts—physical, cognitive, and emotional, and we talk about that, as well as the cycle of unmet needs, the PAR acronym and what it means for both men and women, and what the de...
2025-03-3030 min
Keeping It YoungThoughts for Singles about Finding a Spouse Part 3Part 3: 3. Be wise in your approach Questions that should be asked before a relationship becomes serious Not all of these are deal breakers, but they need wise examination and counsel Your spiritual testimony No Unequal yoke with someone who is not a believer Virginity Porn Drugs/alcohol Debt Your friends saw the red flags. Your family voiced their concerns. But you were so caught up in the excitement of new love that you missed all the warning signs. Now you're stuck in a relationship that's making you absolutely miserable. Why does this happen? According to researchers a...
2025-03-2331 min
Relationships TalkRelationship Attachment ModelLearn about Dr. John Van Epp's Relationship Attachment Model (R.A.M) with Corinne Patterson.
2025-03-2237 min
Truth Tok PodcastMorden Dating - s2 e4 Ps Jack Should broke guys date | Online dating work | Girlfriend allowanceTruth Tok Podcast on Sacred Screens with Ps Jack – "Send Pics (Love on a Server)"Welcome to this week’s deep-dive episode of Truth Tok Podcast on Sacred Screens with Ps Jack! In this provocative installment, we tackle modern relationship challenges head-on. Get ready for a candid conversation where no topic is off limits—from the ins and outs of dating in a digital age to the timeless debates over arranged marriages versus dating for marriage.In This Episode You’ll Explore:Dating Dilemmas:• Should broke guys date?• When is a guy really ready for a committed relationship?• Do girlfriend allowances hel...
2025-03-201h 00
Truth Tok PodcastMorden Dating - s2 e4 Ps Jack Should broke guys date | Online dating work | Girlfriend allowanceTruth Tok Podcast on Sacred Screens with Ps Jack – "Send Pics (Love on a Server)"Welcome to this week’s deep-dive episode of Truth Tok Podcast on Sacred Screens with Ps Jack! In this provocative installment, we tackle modern relationship challenges head-on. Get ready for a candid conversation where no topic is off limits—from the ins and outs of dating in a digital age to the timeless debates over arranged marriages versus dating for marriage.In This Episode You’ll Explore:Dating Dilemmas:• Should broke guys date?• When is a guy really ready for a committed relationship?• Do girlfriend allowances hel...
2025-03-181h 00Relationships TalkWhat is a Jerk?In this episode, we will be discussing Dr. John Van Epp's definition of a Jerk and how to be aware of what it is. Our guest is Ava Turner.
2025-03-1536 min
Church Life TodayNationwide Study on Faith and Relationships, with J.P. De GanceWouldn’t it be fascinating if the most current social science research discovered not some new and unheard-of things but rather ancient and even biblical truths? The nonprofit organization Communio is reporting that this is indeed what is happening. Through their Nationwide Study on Faith and Relationships, they have found that family structure is the most important indicator for the religious commitment of those raised in that home. Alongside that, of course, we regularly find people who do better in school, who are more successful in work, who are healthier, and who can manage relationships better on their own. It...
2024-08-1935 min
The ProfNoctis Weekly ShowWhat can we learn from Character Creators and Healthy Relationships in games? | PNWS Ep. 1For our first episode, Wade (aka ProfNoctis) and Evan (aka Whiskers) introduce the show and how it's all about helping you enjoy the things you enjoy more and springboarding you into the life you want. Next, we have part one of our special three-part Character Creator segment (00:01:01-00:26:53) where we explore the history, psychology, and what it says about us and our play depending on the characters we make— including personal experiences from Final Fantasy XIV, the Sims, and WWE games. As a break between segments, we have our Mini Game Stretch Break (00:26:54-00:34:55) where we consult the Bingo Wh...
2024-06-251h 09
A TE PODCASTOD#017 - EU helyett Visegrádi Unió? - Nagy Dénes AndrásAz EP választás közeledtével nagyon sokan az Európai Unióval foglalkoznak, de van egy másik szervezet, ami még közelebb áll hozzánk, és épp ezért hatalmas lehetőségeket rejt. "Lengyel-magyar két jó barát, együtt harcol, s issza borát" – van egy ilyen mondás magyarul és lengyelül is. Csehországban, Prágában járva mindenhol gulyást, lángost és debreceni kolbászt látni, Szlovákia történelmi kapcsolódásait Magyarországhoz pedig talán nem is kell magyarázni. Magyarország ezzel a 3 országgal együtt alkotja a Viseg...
2024-06-041h 37
Parallaxis UniverzumMatematikai magyarázat a nyakkendőnk rondaságára (Egy csodálatos elme) | Parallaxis #1081947-et írunk: John Nash megérkezik a Princeton egyetemre, hogy matematikát tanuljon. A különc fiút egyetlen dolog érdekli: egy egészen eredeti ötlet megtalálása. A matematika szakon könyörtelen verseny folyik, és sokan szívesen látnák Nash bukását. Mégis épp a rivalizálás adja meg neki a kellő lökést: egy este a helyi bárban megfigyeli, hogyan versengenek a fiúk egy szőke lányért, és az ötlet, mely oly régóta kísérti, megfogan, és megírja dolgozatát a játékelméletről, a versengés matematikáj...
2024-05-0950 minParallaxis UniverzumMatematikai magyarázat a nyakkendőnk rondaságára (Egy csodálatos elme) | Parallaxis #1081947-et írunk: John Nash megérkezik a Princeton egyetemre, hogy matematikát tanuljon. A különc fiút egyetlen dolog érdekli: egy egészen eredeti ötlet megtalálása. A matematika szakon könyörtelen verseny folyik, és sokan szívesen látnák Nash bukását. Mégis épp a rivalizálás adja meg neki a kellő lökést: egy este a helyi bárban megfigyeli, hogyan versengenek a fiúk egy szőke lányért, és az ötlet, mely oly régóta kísérti, megfogan, és megírja dolgozatát a játékelméletről, a versengés matematikáj...
2024-05-0950 min
HetiVálaszAmerika segítségéről és a (világ)háborúról: Ukrajna megmenekült, de fordulat aligha lesz – vendégünk Jójárt KrisztiánSzombaton a washingtoni képviselőház, szerdára virradóra pedig a szenátus is elfogadta az Kijevnek szánt, 61 milliárd dolláros katonai segélycsomagot. Ezzel újraindulhat a fegyverszállítás Ukrajnába. De pontosan milyen fegyverek? Nincs-e túl késő ehhez? Fordulhat-e a háború menete, és mennyi realitása van a világháborús veszélynek, aminek felemlegetése a magyarországi választási kampányban lassan olyan, mint a levegővétel? Erről szól a HetiVálasz 223. adása; vendégünk Jójárt Krisztián a Nemzeti Közszolgálati Egyetem John Lukács...
2024-04-251h 02
Self EvidentWhat Women Should Look For – A Dissection of Intentional Dating | Guest: Dr. Karl Benzio (SE #66)This is Part II of our conversation with Dr. Karl Benzio, a Christian psychiatrist and co-founder of Honey Lake Clinic in Florida. in this episode, Dr. Benzio expounds how different people are wired for dating, and much more.
Resources & References:
Part I: A Psychiatric Evaluation of Community & The Dating Scene | Guest: Dr. Karl Benzio
How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk: The Foolproof Way to Follow Your Heart Without Losing Your Mind | John Van Epp… Continue Reading
2024-04-1735 min
No Regretz MarriageA Great Tool to Assess Your RelationshipsWe are always looking for great tools to help couples build a better marriage. We are also continually learning and training so we can help couples and churches. One of the tools we are currently pursuing traing in is RAM - Relationship Attachment Model developed by Dr. John Van Epp. In this episode we discuss the basic concept of RAM and how you can apply them to your relationships.
2024-04-0227 min
Magyar Hang podcastokNem Trumpon múlik, mennyi pénzt adhat Amerika Ukrajnának a háborúra – Reptér Csizmazia GáborralA „szuperkedd” után egyértelművé vált, újra Joe Biden és Donald Trump küzd meg egymással az amerikai elnöki székért. Hogy áll a kampány, hogy áll a két, 80 körüli jelölt? Miért épp a migráció és a vele összefüggő nagyvárosi közbiztonság lesz a kampány központi témája? Mi akar Trump és mit Biden? Tényleg nem fog majd egy pennyt se adni Trump Ukrajnának az orosz invázió elleni harcára, ahogy arról a volt elnökkel találkozó Orbán Viktor beszélt? Egyáltalán min...
2024-03-191h 17
Women's Hot Topics with Shug Bury#243 The Do's & Don'ts of DatingWhat do you expect when dating? Are you being up front and honest? Whether you're young, looking for your life partner, divorced or widowed… this show is for you. Shug Bury sits down with Dr. John Van Epp, relationship expert, author and President/Founder of Love Thinks, LLC, to discuss the do's and don'ts of dating. To learn more about our show, go to him4her.org. To watch our shows, go to our Women's Hot Topics with Shug Bury YouTube channel.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
2023-09-2035 min
Women's Hot Topics with Shug Bury#242 Dating In This Crazy WorldIs your dating life bombing? What questions should you ask, what should you look for in a date? Whether you're young, looking for your life partner, divorced or widowed… this show is for you. Shug Bury sits down with Dr. John Van Epp, relationship expert, author and President/Founder of Love Thinks, LLC, to discuss WHAT NOT TO DO in your dating relationships! To learn more about our show, go to him4her.org. To watch our shows, go to our Women's Hot Topics with Shug Bury YouTube channel.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
2023-09-0632 min
HERself195. The Secrets to Long-Term Partnership with Dr. John Van EppIt always feels good to get advice from those who are two steps ahead of us in life. And that’s exactly what today’s episode is. We have the pleasure of interviewing Dr. John Van Epp, developer of evidence based relationship programs. He also has his PhD in counseling and psychology. Dr. John Van Epp has over 44 years of marriage experience himself and has raised two daughters who are also in healthy marriages. You might even recognize one of his daughters; Dr. Morgan Cutlip, who has been on the show twice before!
2023-08-211h 00
Our Journey To EdenHow To Choose The Right Marriage Partner w/ John Van Epp Ph.D. EP 40 Tired of ending up in bad relationships? The disastrous dating scene is a milieu of hookups and situation-ships. Divorce statistics are shocking and on the rise. Cohabitation does not produce the results you would think or hope for. I asked myself what is going on in this upside-down world. Enter...John Van Epp Ph.D. the President and Founder of Love Thinks. *You can watch this episode on Youtube and see John demonstrating the Relationship Attachment Model. ''Van Epp and his innovative Relationship Attachment Model (RAM), books, and relationship courses were awarded the Smart Marriage Impact Award (2008), the National Association of R...
2023-06-291h 25
Stronger Marriage ConnectionA Better Approach for Dating & Marriage | Dr. John Van Epp | #42 On today’s episode, Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz talk with Dr. John Van Epp who brings to light some of the most important things we can do when selecting a life partner as well as how to strengthen those relationships over time. We learn some of the predictors of how long-term relationships will turn out as well as some principles to help navigate both red and green flags within our relationships.Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction: Who is John Van Epp?2:42 – Life-partner selection process11:58 – Predictors of getting to “know” and getting to “no”13:33 – Media love vs True love
2023-06-1952 min
Ben Thinking#33 - Cameron Smith - Mormon, ADHD, Mental Health, Coming OutCameron talks about his story coming away from the Mormon church and how his family and friends treated him during his separation of the Mormon church and now coming out as Bisexual. Cameron discusses what practices he uses to keep his mental health in a safe place.
- "Emotional Blackmail" by Susan Forward https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Blackmail-People-Obligation-Manipulate/dp/0060928972/ref=sr_1_1?crid=EO9IXXS590SP&keywords=emotional+blackmail&qid=1679430789&s=books&sprefix=emotional+blackmail%2Cstripbooks%2C124&sr=1-1
- "Come as You Are" by Emily Nagoski https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090
- "How to Avoid Falling in Love With a Jer...
2023-05-151h 28
BE BETTER PODCASTBE BETTER with INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPSLife is short, but relationships don't have to be. I share Dr. John Van Epp's Relationship Attachment Model (R.A.M.) to strengthen your intimate relationship and keep you and your partner moving in the right direction. Take a listen.
2023-03-0434 minBE BETTER PODCASTBE BETTER with INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPSLife is short, but relationships don't have to be. I share Dr. John Van Epp's Relationship Attachment Model (R.A.M.) to strengthen your intimate relationship and keep you and your partner moving in the right direction. Take a listen.
2023-03-0328 min
Broken to BreathtakingFour Things To Know Before Falling In LoveIn this episode we're going to discuss just four things to learn and to know before entering the dating realm. Of course, there are many more and I will happily share some of them in the future! But for today, we're keeping it simple with the first four things that you can easily learn and research in order to set yourself up for the most success in relationships. Resources:~How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk by John Van Epp~The Runaway Bride~The mentor I reference in this...
2023-02-0828 min
The Yellow Pill PodcastBonus: Practical Love and a FrameworkIn this bonus episode, Tobi shares his thoughts about what he describes as "a gentle kind of practical and efficient love".
He also gives a quick overview of the areas to seek to know a person as highlighted by the Relationship Attachment Model (RAM) created by John Van Epp in his book "How To Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk"
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2022-11-2823 min
Mama KnowsRelationship Drama dissected by two Psychologists w/Dr. Morgan Cutlip & Dr. JohnMama Knows listeners sent in their relationship drama and Dr. Morgan Cutlip & her dad Dr. John, Psychologists, unravel what in the world is going on and how you can fix it?https://lovethinks.com/https://www.mylovethinks.com/online-courses/https://www.instagram.com/drmorgancutlip/Morgan Van Epp Cutlip developed an interest in romantic relationship health at a young age, and traveled with her father when he first started teaching the How to Avoid Falling for Jerk program over 20 years ago.Since, Morgan has completed her Bachelor’s degree in psychology at Mi...
2022-10-1847 min
My Healing VillageBreaking the Cycle of AbuseLet’s face it, we all have our fair share of traumas, most commonly because of something our parents did. Yes, our very own parents. While most parents mean well, there are some who may not know how to raise a child in a loving or nurturing environment. They can be stubborn, unwilling to listen, and would even disregard their children’s feelings. Oftentimes, these types of parents grew up in households with parents who were similarly unaffectionate or disconnected from them. They most likely didn’t receive the kind of love and care that can also lead th...
2022-10-0939 min
Ladylike － 巫婆之水ep23 如何避免愛上渣(上)- 告白玩在一起還是要思考捏哈囉 大家今天張弦月
是從新月開始月亮轉了90度，
這是一個躁動和浮躁的時刻，也是我們審思自己、拋開過去，採取必要的初步行動的時刻。
例如避免渣男/女/非二元性別，等垃圾人的時間
我們為何會愛上渣，為什麼身邊總是有個朋友總是鬼遮眼一直處在一段不舒服的關係？
一而再再而三地重複，約翰·范·埃普 (John Van Epp)博士用自己臨床的經驗尋找背後的成因，
想要找到健康戀愛指南並寫出「如何避免愛上渣」這本書。
T&S也在新的一集 分享一路戀愛中的人型垃圾圖鑑
這集也是 如何找到愛的延續，大家不要忘記回去複習一下ㄅ
也可以分享你們最垃圾的經驗有哪些？
2022-09-051h 01
Marriage Champions#25: Dr. John Van Epp. President and Founder of Lovethinks. Author, "How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk". RAM Model: Relationship elements : know, trust, rely, commit, and touch. Couple check in meetings.· 00:00 Background of How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk book and title.
· 05:25 Background as church planter, pastor, marriage counselor, creator of relationship programs for singles, dating and married couples in and outside churches. Training military chaplains working with singles.
· 18:59 Impact of marriage and relational breakdown on loss of faith. Relational problems are major felt need in American society. Major opportunity for churches to engage society.
· 29:48 Marriage trends in 20thcentury. Decline of marriage in 1920s and 1960s.
· 40:01 Head and heart working together in dating relationship.
· 50:47 Role of romance in relationships in the We...
2022-08-152h 00
Love Thinks PodcastEnneagram 101 with Christa HardinHave you heard about the Enneagram and wonder what it is all about? Christa Hardin joins Dr. John and Dr. Morgan to clearly explain this tool that has helped so many individuals and couples. For years, she has provided enneagram coaching and resources specifically for couples in marriage(https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com).If you’ve ever wondered how someone discovers their Enneagram type, you’ll love how Christa breaks down the key questions to ask to discover yours and helps John figure out his Enneagram type during the episode.
2022-05-2541 minLove Thinks PodcastGoing from Partners to Parents: Marriage After Kids with Tricia and DaveIn this episode of the Love Thinks podcast, Dr. John Van Epp and Dr. Morgan Cutlip sit with Tricia Fox and Dave Ransom who are a married couple of two young children. Dave and Tricia share their experience transitioning from a couple to parents and what married life was like after kids. They share relatable moments and struggles and how they navigated through growing stronger and more connected.
2022-05-1838 min
AuditóriumBaló Dániel: Nem mindig a megújuló a fenntarthatóBaló Dániel építész, egyetemi oktató, a Murum Stúdió alapítója, a MOME StudioB és a TIMBOO társalapítója. Tanulmányait a budapesti Moholy-Nagy Művészeti Egyetemen, a Lisszaboni Műszaki Egyetemen és Koppenhágában, a Dán Királyi Képzőművészeti Akadémia építész karán végezte. Diplomája előtt Európa több jelentős tervezője mellett próbálhatta ki magát építészként, így dolgozott a Pritzker díjas svájci Peter Zumthor, a spanyol RCR Arquitectes és a brit John Pawson irodájában is.2016-ban...
2022-05-1737 minLove Thinks PodcastGet to know Dr. John Van Epp and Dr. Morgan CutlipDr. John Van Epp and Dr. Morgan Cutlip share their story and how they began working together as a father-daughter team to help people in their relationships. They share stories of some of the earliest experiences of Dr. Morgan's life and how they shaped her interest in helping people develop healthy relationships and how Dr. John inspired and nurtured this interest.
2022-05-0433 minLove Thinks PodcastHandling the mental load a solo parent with Dr. Brooke WeinsteinThis is our third podcast interview on the topic of the “mental load.” Dr. Brooke Weinstein joined Dr. John and Dr. Morgan to share how she has successfully learned to carry her mental load while keeping her own self-care a high priority. Her story is inspiring with many diverse and challenging chapters: a wife with a husband struggling with depression; a mother of two boys (now 8 and 5); a working mom with a thriving practice; an almost divorced and later, widowed solo-parent. And yet, through all these experiences she has been resilient to continue to deepen her joy and love of l...
2022-05-0438 minLove Thinks PodcastA couple shares about healing from a betrayalIt takes courage to share aspects of your life and marriage on a podcast, and something beyond courage to talk about personal failures. Peter and Alex personify this exceptional courage, as they share about a dark time of betrayed trust in their marriage and how they were able to build back their love and trust. Dr. John and Dr. Morgan sat down with Alex and Peter, parents of three kids, ages 5-9, and were amazed at the grace and wisdom they expressed in their relationship over the last few years of working through an emotional affair.
2022-04-2736 minLove Thinks PodcastHow to not freak out when your 8 year old tells you they have a crushMost parents will eventually face the day when their young kid admits that they have a crush or someone has a crush on them. Many parents feel anxious and unequipped for the conversations that may need to follow. Dr. John and Dr. Morgan are a father-daughter team, and they are in a really unique position to discuss this often-overlooked area of how parents can engage with their elementary kids about their crushes... and yes, they said “elementary” kids! They discuss how to engage young kids in meaningful conversations when their child shares that either they have a crush, or someo...
2022-04-2039 minLove Thinks PodcastHow a married couple shares the mental loadDr. John and Dr. Morgan sat down with Charity and Ted to explore how they deal with their mental loads. They have been married 20 years and are in the hectic season of raising four kids, ages 9-16. Although no one is perfect, they are a wonderful couple and through this interview they share several tips for tackling the mental load together throughout all stages of a relationship.
2022-04-1346 minLove Thinks PodcastA man's perspective on the mental loadOne of the biggest challenges faced by couples is how they carry and express their “mental loads.” In this first of several podcasts on the topic, Dr. John and Dr. Morgan sat down with Jonathan to explore how he handles his own mental load, and the ways he and his wife work together to support each other’s mental loads as they raise their four kids, ages 7, 5, 3, and 1.
2022-04-0643 minLove Thinks PodcastWhen to Back Down From a Fight Part 2At one time or another many of us have felt that we either backed down from a fight too soon or pushed too strongly.In part two of this episode we explore how to make the decision of whether or not to back down from a fight.
2022-03-3022 min
Consecrating Your LifeJaniece Seegmiller: An Optimistic Mindset about SexAre single people aware that it's OK to desire sex? While we know about the law of chastity and the dangers of pornography, we don't always talk about the beautiful side of our sexuality.
My friend Janiece and I talk about sex in a positive way. We hope to open the discussion about sex to be more optimistic, and that you will seek more information about your own sexual appetites and on how to teach the rising generation about sex.
Some resources we referenced:
Fostering a Positive Perspective of Sexuality (from the Liahona, A...
2022-03-2740 minLove Thinks PodcastWhen to Back Down From a Fight Part 1In this episode, Dr. John Van Epp and Dr. Morgan Cutlip have a conversation on what you can do to help yourself back down from an argument. Some of the topics discussed are: embracing humility, skills for calming yourself (aka self-regulation), tools for identifying your emotions as they begin to escalate, understanding your triggers, and so much more.
2022-03-2337 minLove Thinks PodcastMarried to a partner struggling with their mental healthWe are honored to be joined with Kelly, a mother of two young kids aged 2 and 4 months old. Kelly has been married for seven years but is currently separated. She wrote in because her husband struggles with depression and anxiety and she’s found that there’s little space for her to express her own needs without him either taking it as a personal attack or spiraling into a depressive episode. We discuss solutions and approaches that could help Kelly and her husband to team up as one and treat depression as an intruder in their relationship. We enc...
2022-03-1628 minLove Thinks PodcastFinding Yourself After Divorce with MarcusLife after divorce can be a difficult and confusing experience to navigate. In this episode Dr. John and Dr. Morgan sit down with Marcus, a recently divorced individual who is learning how to develop a new sense of self after his marriage ended. Marcus discusses his anxious attachment style and Dr. John and Dr. Morgan share some ways his attachment style may show up in his future relationships as well as make suggestions as to what Marcus can do during this time of self-discovery to be more prepared for his next relationship.
2022-03-0927 minLove Thinks PodcastDating After Divorce with LindseyLindsey talks about her experience being single and entering the dating world again. She expresses difficulty setting boundaries and knowing when to invest more in the relationship versus when to cut ties. Dr. John and Dr. Morgan help Lindsey develop a game plan for her next relationship and discuss what blind spots she may have to pay more attention to.
2022-03-0237 min
The Lilly Elizabeth PodcastHow to Avoid Falling in Love with a JerkLilly discusses the RAM Model from Dr. John Van Epp's "How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk."Find the book on Amazon (highly recommend reading and taking notes): https://www.amazon.com/How-Avoid-Falling-Love-Jerk/dp/0071548424
2022-02-2453 min
Love Thinks PodcastBoundaries over minor issuesDr. John Van Epp and Dr. Morgan Cutlip discuss setting boundaries over minor issues. They explore ways expand your options beyond just boundary setting and factors to consider whether or not a boundary needs to be set. Dr. John and Dr. Morgan give practical ways of approaching boundaries over minor issues.
2022-02-2332 min
Women's Hot Topics with Shug Bury#169: How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk - Part IITired of the drama? Listen in as Shug Bury gets to the bottom of relationship issues with expert John Van Epp, PhD, in the second of a two part interview discussing How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk.Listen to HIM4Her Radio: Women's Hot Topics on Salem Network's AM 980 The Mission every Saturday at 11:00AM CT, Sundays at 3:00PM CT and Tuesdays at 6:00PM CT. After airing, you can listen to HIM4Her Radio: Women's Hot Topics wherever you get your podcasts. Don't forget our interviews on the HIM4Her Ministries YouTube page! To support...
2021-10-2325 min
Women's Hot Topics with Shug Bury#168: How To Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk - Part IAVOID THE JERKS AND FIND "THE ONE" WHO'S RIGHT FOR YOU! Join Shug Bury and her guests, John Van Epp, PhD and his daughter, Morgan Cutlip, PhD, as they discuss How to Avoid Falling In Love with a Jerk. Listen to HIM4Her Radio: Women's Hot Topics on Salem Network's AM 980 The Mission every Saturday at 11:00AM CT, Sundays at 3:00PM CT and Tuesdays at 6:00PM CT. After airing, you can listen to HIM4Her Radio: Women's Hot Topics wherever you get your podcasts. Don't forget our interviews on the HIM4Her Ministries YouTube page! To support o...
2021-10-1625 min
Valley Real Life SermonsREALationships | Week 1Kick off our REALationship series with John Van Epp, author of the RAM Series. Take the first step in building healthy, Godly relationships with those around you by walking through this 6 week study.
2021-09-1236 min
The Balanced Parent Podcast069: The Mental Load and How to Ease It with Dr. Morgan CutlipI don't know about you, but before I became a mom I had no idea how heavy the load would be. Not just the day-to-day tasks of feeding and caring for a family, but all the unseen, unspoken, invisible labor that is a part of modern motherhood. The planning, the home organization, the lists, the mental maps, the appointments... EVERYTHING seems to fall on us at times.
If you ever felt this way, I want to send you compassion and grace for what you are going through. As a mom, I know how it...
2021-07-2734 min
Girls Gone Gab#41. What’s Up & Book ClubThis is a lengthy episode so grab a snack before you settle in for this one! Mackenzie and Cierra begin the episode with a recap of events following last week’s encounter with the spirit world. They also discuss Mackenzie’s continued vaccine love saga, Netflix’s The Circle, and former Bachelor, Colton Underwood’s, recent announcement. The second half of the episode (beginning at 45:41) introduces our new book club series exploring John Van Epp, Ph D ‘s “How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk: The Foolproof Way to Follow Your Heart Without Losing Your Mind”. Chapters 1-4 touch on topic...
2021-04-231h 25
What About Therapy6. How To Create a Strong Relationship: R.A.M.In this episode, Enoch talks about the Relationship Attachment Model, otherwise known as the R.A.M. The R.A.M. was developed by John Van Epp, Ph.D. and he talks about it in his book How To Avoid Falling In love With A Jerk. (Link down below!). Enoch teaches how the R.A.M. works, and how to keep it balanced to form the strong healthy bonds that successful relationships are made of.
Link for the R.A.M. picture:
http://www.codependencynomore.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/Relationship-Attachment-Model-2.gif
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2021-03-2535 minWhat About Therapy5. Ingredients For ChangeIn this episode, Enoch talks about 4 (4.5) key ingredients that are required for change when it comes to unhealthy emotional needs or even addictions. He references the book How to Avoid Falling In Love With A Jerk by John Van Epp, Ph.D. The link for the book is down below! The 4.5 ingredients are:
1. Insight Into Yourself
2. New Information To Direct Change
3. Motivation
4. Time
4.5 Patience
If you know of anyone who can benefit from this episode, please share it with them! Thank you all so much for your...
2021-03-1025 min
Single to SealedNCMO? No more!Episode NotesHi there! Thanks for tuning into this episode with us.We hope this episode helps those of you with questions about the issue of NCMO's. Our desire is to guide you to find truly fulfilling and successful relationships, built with the building blocks that secure a firm and healthy relationship for you and your partner.Dr. John Van Epp and his RAM model:https://dating.lovetoknow.com/Interview:_How_to_Avoid_Marrying_a_JerkD&C 58:26 - "Slothful Servant, commanded in all things."D&C 121:45 - "Let virtue garnish...
2021-01-1116 min
FrancoinformadorPrimer debate presidencial en EE.UUPRIMER DEBATE EN EE.UU. Después de meses de diatribas, el presidente estadounidense Donald Trump y su rival demócrata en la carrera por la Casa Blanca, Joe Biden, se enfrentaron este martes en el primer debate de una campaña que transcurre bajo alta tensión. Faltan 34 días para las elecciones en Estados Unidos.Decenas de millones de personas siguieron atentos el choque verbal entre el presidente republicano, de 74 años y el exvicepresidente demócrata, de 77. Si bien el impacto sobre los comicios es limitado, estos encuentros marcan el ritmo d...
2020-09-3000 min
Heart of DatingS5 Ep86: 086: How to Avoid Falling in Love With a Jerk with John Van EppHeart of Dating is kicking off a BRAND NEW Season with a BRAND NEW Episode! We welcome Season 5 with an incredible conversation with John Van Epp!
We are grieved, heartbroken, and sick over the injustices and acts of hatred regarding the murders of George Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, and countless others within the black community...murders and injustices that have been going on not just in this last year, but for hundreds of years. Not only do we mourn, but we are committed to doing even better as a community, podcast, and ministry when it comes t...
2020-06-101h 17
Love, Life, Legacy: A Show About SexAre You Ready for Marriage? | Tim RarickJoin Andrew as he interviews Tim Rarick, a professor and a speaker at BYU Idaho, who seeks to make complex ideas simplified. In this episode Tim helps to explain why people struggle with deep emotional issues and how ties can be mended through focusing on being integrity to what we yearn for in relationships. An introduction of Tim Rarick [0:11] Who does Tim work with? [3:00] Is dealing with porn a global issue? [4:30] What are the main causes of problems for families? [8:20] What ways can parents help their children inherit healthy...
2020-05-2750 min
ALLWays Another WayEp:97 How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk — John Van EppFirst off, the term jerk is genderless.
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This book should be required reading for all people that are of dating age and reread again after any unsatisfactory relationship.
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The world would be a healthier place indeed.
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I’ve listened to this book and chapters of this book 5 different times on @audible.
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I’ve recommended this book to countless friends that have loved it!
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No one is taught relationship skills. Maybe your parents talked about it. Maybe they didn’t?
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You definitely watched your parents relationship behavior and those around and drew knowledge and behavior from that.
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Not all of us had go...
2020-03-0649 min
The Art of Manliness#584: How to Avoid Falling in Love With the Wrong PersonWhy do people sometimes fall in love with someone who is all kinds of wrong for them? Their friends and family see lots of red flags about their partner, but they themselves miss these warnings entirely, sometimes to catastrophic consequences.
My guest today argues that these kinds of errors in relational decision-making happen when someone lets his heart rule without also heeding his head. His name is John Van Epp, and he's a therapist and the author of the book How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk. We begin our conversation discussing what society's default template for creating a s...
2020-02-121h 01
The Art of Manliness#584: How to Avoid Falling in Love With the Wrong PersonWhy do people sometimes fall in love with someone who is all kinds of wrong for them? Their friends and family see lots of red flags about their partner, but they themselves miss these warnings entirely, sometimes to catastrophic consequences.
My guest today argues that these kinds of errors in relational decision-making happen when someone lets his heart rule without also heeding his head. His name is John Van Epp, and he's a therapist and the author of the book How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk. We begin our conversation discussing what society's default...
2020-02-1259 min
America's Health CrisisFathers and Families Coalition of America Paulette Young 858-769-4936 press 1Families and Fathers Coalition of America is a nonprofit 501(C)(3) established in 1996. Established in 1996, transitioned in 2010 as a National and International Professional Development and Advocacy Agency. Dr. James Rodriguez is the CEO and founder of this organization. Tonight we will feature some of the speakers that are taking part in the 21st Families and Fathers Coalition of America National Conference schedule for February 24-27, 2020. The speakers for tonight is as follows: Dr. James Rodriguez, Wendy Thelese Tally (KW Essential Services CEO),Barbara Coloroso (Internationall best selling author and for the past 44 years an International speaker and consultants on parenting/teaching...
2019-10-161h 01
Cairn.fmDr. John Van Epp – Follow Your Heart without Losing your MindThe post Dr. John Van Epp – Follow Your Heart without Losing your Mind appeared first on Cairn University.
2019-09-2700 min
Cairn University ChapelsDr. John Van Epp – Follow Your Heart without Losing your MindThe post Dr. John Van Epp – Follow Your Heart without Losing your Mind appeared first on Cairn University.
2019-09-2734 minCairn.fmCairn 10: Summer Love Tune-Up (with John Van Epp)Summer love gets a tune up with Cairn alum Dr. John Van Epp ’80, president of LoveThinks. This audio and video podcast explores what has and has not changed in recent years in dating and relationships.
The post Cairn 10: Summer Love Tune-Up (with John Van Epp) appeared first on Cairn University.
2019-07-1100 min
ViclondonbanS06E14 A Forradalmat távolról bámulvaAmi a John Oliver anyagból kimaradt, s ahogy én innen a távolból látom a szemünk előtt kibontakozó forradalmi eseményeket.....
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Én akkor váltam “a tüntető lánnyá”, amikor csütörtökön letepertek a rendőrök. És miért? Mert kifejeztem a véleményemet - egy viszonylag érdekes formában. Hangosan, mérgesen és látványosan. De ezzel nem voltam egyedül, és azzal sem voltam egyedül, hogy elvittek. Rengeteg olyan fiatalt is bevittek, akik csa...
2018-12-1743 min
The Struggle is Real: Modern ParentingPreparing them for Puppy Love feat. Dr. John Van EppThe current cultural trend in America is for children to begin dating at earlier and earlier ages. This means that now, perhaps more than ever, it is crucial for parents to begin teaching their children about relationships sooner rather than later. It’s important to take a holistic approach that integrates love, dating, marriage, sex, and everything in between into an ongoing conversation about relationships. Tune in for more.
Special Guest: Dr. John Van Epp, Author & Creator of Love Thinks
Resident Expert: Dr. Alicia La Hoz
Hosts: Omar Ramos & Veronica Avila
2017-09-2550 min
Don’t Miss Into A Next-Level Full Audiobook On Your Commute.How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk: The Foolproof Way to Follow Your Heart Without Losing Your Mind by John Van EppPlease visithttps://thebookvoice.com/podcasts/1/audiobook/315995to listen full audiobooks.
Title: How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk: The Foolproof Way to Follow Your Heart Without Losing Your Mind
Author: John Van Epp
Narrator: Alexander Cendese
Format: Unabridged Audiobook
Length: 9 hours 3 minutes
Release date: May 9, 2017
Ratings: Ratings of Book: 3.8 of Total 5
Ratings of Narrator: 5 of Total 2
Genres: Relationships & Intimacy
Publisher's Summary:
Based on years of research on marital and premarital happiness, How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk (previously published in hardcover as How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk) will help you break destructive dating patterns...
2017-05-099h 03Explore New Full Audiobooks in Health & Wellness, Relationships & IntimacyHow to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk: The Foolproof Way to Follow Your Heart Without Losing Your Mind by John Van EppPlease visithttps://thebookvoice.com/podcasts/1/audiobook/315995to listen full audiobooks.
Title: How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk: The Foolproof Way to Follow Your Heart Without Losing Your Mind
Author: John Van Epp
Narrator: Alexander Cendese
Format: Unabridged Audiobook
Length: 9 hours 3 minutes
Release date: May 9, 2017
Ratings: Ratings of Book: 3.8 of Total 5
Ratings of Narrator: 5 of Total 2
Genres: Relationships & Intimacy
Publisher's Summary:
Based on years of research on marital and premarital happiness, How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk (previously published in hardcover as How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk) will help you break destructive dating patterns...
2017-05-099h 03
Faith & Family Bible Podcast with Steve WoodEpisode 043 - How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk - Part 2The struggles young people have in relationships, leading to eventual heartbreak, is HUGE. And there aren’t a lot of solutions out there. That’s why every Catholic parent should prepare to head off future problems by listening to and heeding the advice given by host Steve Wood and his guest, Dr. John Van Epp, author of the blockbuster book, How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk.
A companion CD for this book can be purchased at Dads.org.
2017-03-1027 minFaith & Family Bible Podcast with Steve WoodEpisode 042 - How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk - Part 1A critical question for parents is: “How do you get the anti-cohabitation message across to people whose hearts and minds are closed to the truth?" Listen to host Steve Wood and his guest, Dr. John Van Epp answer this very important question as they discuss Dr. Van Epp's blockbuster book, How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk.
A companion CD for this book can be purchased at Dads.org.
2017-03-0327 min
Rabbitt Stew ComicsEpisode 067Batman Annual, Superman Annual, Justice League of America 10, DC New Talent Showcase, Ghost Rider 1, IvX 0, Savage 1, Fantastic Beasts, Nocturnal Animals, Mr. Marvel, Deadly Class, ResurrXion creative teams (Weapon X, X-Men Blue, X-Men Gold, Iceman, Jean Grey, Generation X), Guardians of the Galaxy trailer Details: Batman Annual by Tom King, David Finch, Scott Snyder, Ray Fawkes, Declan Shalvey, Paul Dini, Neal Adams, Steve Orlando, Riley Rossmo, Scott Wilson, Bilquis Evely; Superman Annual by Peter Tomasi, Pat Gleason, Jorge Jimenez; Justice League of America 10 by Bryan Hitch, Tony Bedard, Tom Derenick; Ghost Rider by Felipe Smith, Danilo Beyruth, Tradd...
2016-12-091h 29