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Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Breaking Free from Narcissistic AbuseDr. Les Carter on the #1 Sign Someone Lacks Emotional Maturity in ConflictSubmit your question be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!What’s the single biggest giveaway that someone lacks emotional maturity — especially when the pressure’s on?In this episode, Dr. Les Carter, psychologist, best-selling author, and expert on narcissism and emotional health, reveals the #1 sign of low emotional maturity during conflict. We dive into how this pattern plays out in everyday disagreements, why it derails problem-solving, and what you can do to protect your own emotional space when dealing with it.You’ll learn:The clearest sign of...
2025-08-1828 minMen’s Therapy Podcast
Men’s Therapy PodcastUnmasking the Nice Guy Syndrome & Narcissism w/ Dr. Les CarterIn today’s episode of the Men’s Therapy Podcast, host Marc Azoulay sits down with renowned psychologist Dr. Les Carter. He is an expert in narcissism and the creator of the Surviving Narcissism YouTube channel. He has over four decades of clinical experience. Dr. Carter has spent his career exploring how narcissistic tendencies manifest in men. He highlights how they damage relationships. He also focuses on why so many fall into the trap of what’s commonly called Nice Guy syndrome. “I think the word narcissism is overused,” Dr. Carter admits early in the conversation. “It’s all over Tik...
2025-04-2155 minUncensored CMO
Uncensored CMOHow not to plan: what matters most in 2025 - Les Binet and Sarah CarterIt's our annual tradition to bring Sarah Carter and Les Binet, authors of How Not To Plan, onto the podcast to discuss the hot topics of the year and what marketers need to know in 2025. We've broken this episode into 8 key discussion points, including why consistent advertising is so effective, why the era of purpose is over and another year of the advertising industry needing to remember they are not the customer.00:00:00 - Intro00:00:55 - Reflecting on the agency’s year00:05:25 - Point 1: You are not the customer00:19:51 - Point 2: Ignore Price at your pe...
2025-01-081h 08Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterOvercoming Narcissistic Abuse, featuring Elizabeth ShawDr. Les Carter welcomes Elizabeth Shaw, a social influencer from the UK who speaks articulately about narcissism.  Today’s discussion is about how narcissists will gaslight and confuse as they set you up inside a pattern of narcissistic abuse. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30
2024-11-1941 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterHealing From Complex Trauma, featuring Tim FletcherComplex trauma arises from a history of being deprived of healthy ingredients due to ongoing impositions of unhealthy patterns. Tim is an expert on the topic and brings his decades of experience to us as he explains the origins of this pattern while offering hope for long-term recovery. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and start your free 14-day trial at https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon co...
2024-10-2236 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterThe Dismissive Avoidant Covert Narcissist, featuring Dr. Thais GibsonDr. C has an engaging discussion with Dr. Thais Gibson who discusses the dismissive avoidant attachment style. She explains there is a distinct difference between someone who has a history of reluctance versus a covert narcissist who is being manipulative.A best-selling author, Thais Gibson has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities such as CBT, NLP, somatic experiencing, internal family systems, and shadow work. She has nearly a decade of experience running a successful private practice and engaging with over 30,000 clients through individual sessions, workshops, and an educational platform. This diverse background has culminated in creating Gibson...
2024-09-2437 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterNarcissists Are Masters At Creating Confusion, featuring Dr. Kerry McAvoy Dr. C welcomes Dr. Kerry McAvoy to today’s podcast.  You’ll enjoy their lively discussion about the many ways narcissists attempt to keep you off balance.  They are driven by a natural need to dominate and exploit, but as you understand their confusing mannerisms, you can detach from their harmful initiatives.Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a psychologist and writer, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured on Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. She offers trauma-related advice on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, and the Breaking Free with K...
2024-09-1039 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterDetoxing From A Narcissist, featuring Natalie JambazianDr. C welcomes therapist and author, Natalie Jambazian who recently released the book, Detoxing From A Narcissist.  She describes the nature of toxicity common in narcissistic relationships and offers practical insights for becoming self-empowered.Natalie Jambazian, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and self-love and narcissistic abuse recovery coach in Los Angeles, CA, specializes in helping survivors of narcissistic relationships heal and regain power. As the author of Detoxing from a Narcissist, she facilitates a women’s support group focused on the aftermath of narcissistic abuse. Natalie has been featured in Women’s Health, Yahoo!, PureWow, Well+Good, Veryw...
2024-08-2734 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterWhat's Going On With The Narcissistic Bully In Your Life featuring Bill EddyThank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and start your free 14-day trial at https://aura.com/DrCarter  Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Join the...
2024-08-1338 minBreaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Breaking Free from Narcissistic AbuseOnly Me & Never You: Inside the Bizarre Mind of a Narcissist - Interview with Dr. Les CarterSubmit your question be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!The mind of a narcissist is wildly self-absorbed and oblivious to those around them. They are excessively focused on me, me, me. Dr. Les Carter joins me to discuss what victims get wrong about the mind of a narcissist. He shares how our assumptions and misunderstandings create false hope, causing us to stay too long and to give too many chances. To learn more about Dr. Carter: Visit Website & his Surviving Narcissism YouTube channel.Dr. Carter's book: When...
2024-06-2421 minNext Up: Narcissism
Next Up: NarcissismEpisode 10: Breaking Down Behaviors of NPD with Dr. Les CarterToday, the word “narcissist” is frequently thrown around and used within inappropriate contexts, such as a broad label for “toxic” individuals. How, then, do we differentiate between someone with unhealthy patterns and the manipulative behaviors of a person with NPD?  In this episode, Dr. Z talks with Dr. Les Carter, a clinical psychologist and founder of Surviving Narcissism, who provides deep insights into narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) including its specific cognitive processes and behaviors.     The discussion highlights the critical differences between those who display narcissistic patterns due to upbringing and those with a true NPD, emphasizing...
2024-06-2142 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterWhat Do Narcissists Gain By Belittling You?Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars.  He specializes in anger management and narcissistic per...
2024-05-2131 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterBreaking Free From Trauma Bonds, featuring Dr. Nadine Macaluso Dr. Les Carter is joined by Dr. Nadine Macaluso who specializes in treating relationship trauma and C-PTSD. Her personal story was depicted in the movie, The Wolf Of Wall St. starring Leonardo DiCaprio. Actress Margot Robbie’s played the role based on Nadine’s life. Once she broke away from her harrowing experiences, she took time to heal, eventually remarried, then earned her Ph.D. in Somatic Psychology. She has authored a book, Run Like Hell, detailing what she has learned.To learn more about Dr. Nadine Macaluso, you can visit her website here. Thank you to Aura for sp...
2024-05-0743 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterHealthy Versus Unhealthy Boundaries, Featuring Terri Cole Dr. C welcomes therapist Terri Cole who has worked with many individuals seeking to find appropriate relationship boundaries. She lays out many of the do’s and don’ts of managing boundaries, with the idea that it’s each person’s responsibility to oneself to be authentic. Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to...
2024-04-2336 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterNarcissistic Families That Resemble Cults, Featuring Meredith MillerDr. C interviews Meredith Miller who helps individuals traumatized by highly authoritarian family systems. Her psychological thrust goes beyond surviving, but in helping survivors shed the victim’s mindset so they can move fully into a rewarding adult identity.To find more of Meredith’s resources, visit https://www.innerintegration.com/. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and start your free 14-day trial at https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30...
2024-04-0937 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterStrategies Narcissists Use To Minimize Your Self-Trust, featuring Dr. Ramani DurvasulaDr. C is joined by Dr. Ramani Durvasula, who discusses information from her latest book, It’s Not You. Specifically, she walks us through some of the most common ways narcissists whittle at your capacity to trust in yourself. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30
2024-03-2645 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterWhy Narcissists Can’t Admit Being Wrong? Featuring Guy WinchDr. C has an enlightening discussion with Dr. Guy Winch about narcissists who simply cannot say: “I was wrong.” Dr. Winch identifies multiple reasons they have this difficulty, then discusses our best responses. To find more of Dr. Winch’s resources, go to https://www.guywinch.com/. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter  Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingn...
2024-03-1937 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterIf You Had Controlling Parents, featuring Dr. Dan Neuharth Dr. C is joined by Dr. Dan Neuharth who speaks into the topic of the fallout from controlling parents. His kind manner makes his wonderful insights quite easy to digest. If you had difficulties at the hands of a parent, there is hope. You can find out more about Dr. Neuharth at his website: https://www.drdanmftcounseling.com/ To read his articles in Psychology Today, click here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/dan-neuharth-phd-mft Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp an...
2024-03-0537 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterA Narcissist's Coercive Control, featuring Dr. Christine Marie CocchiolaDr. C interviews Dr. Christine Cocchiola about her vital work with survivors of coercive control.  She discusses how people can unwittingly become trapped in coercive relationships, then discusses a multitude of ways to address it therapeutically. Check out Dr. Cocchiola’s resources here: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/ Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter  Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-s...
2024-02-2037 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterBuilding The Self You Were Never Allowed To Have, Featuring Jerry WiseTherapist Jerry Wise and Dr. Les Carter discuss how many people have been required to fit into an unhealthy narcissistic system, meaning they were discouraged from being who they really are.  In this engaging discussion Jerry discusses how to reverse that trend as you embark on your path of self-discovery. For the past 45 years, Jerry Wise has helped thousands of people get their narcissistic dysfunctional family OUT OF THEM, enabling them to enjoy a life free of its toxic grip. Jerry Wise has a popular YouTube channel with over 100,000 subscribers. He has extensive experience as a...
2024-02-0637 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterA Narcissist's Underdeveloped ConscienceYour conscience is that inner voice reflecting your values and morality.  Ideally it would be developed in the context of empathy and respect.  Narcissists, however, tend to lean toward one extreme or another regarding matters of the conscience.  They can be very rigid or they can be very loose.  Either way, relationships suffer.  Dr. Les Carter will break this down for you in this challenging topic. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter  Sign u...
2024-01-2332 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterThe Trait That Eventually Reveals Covert NarcissismInitially when you encounter a covert narcissist, you can be impressed by their seeming normalcy or charm. Living behind the veneer of the False Self, they have learned how to play the game of looking nice. But over time, one trait keeps showing up that alerts you to something more sinister. Being defined by selfishness and control, this pattern will let you know that you are in the presence of an unhealthy person. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will...
2024-01-0931 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterThe Blending Of Narcissists And Codependency, Featuring Darlene LancerDr. C welcomes author and therapist, Darlene Lancer, whose expertise is the exploration of narcissists, codependents, and the problem of shame. She explains how necessary it is to be aware of a narcissist's dominance, especially if you are inclined to lay aside your true self in deference to the controller. Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert author on relationships, narcissism, and codependency. She’s counseled individuals and couples for over 30 years and coaches internationally. Her 10 books include Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist, Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You, Codependency fo...
2023-12-1936 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterWhen Narcissists Refuse To Accept Your Boundaries, Featuring Dr. Jamie ZuckermanNarcissists are threatened by you being distinctly you.  This means they predictably use distorted thinking when you declare that you deserve respect, that you should be able to follow your own plans.  Our guest, Dr. Jamie Zuckerman, explains how essential it is to know the intentions of narcissists as you then determine inwardly how you will proceed with your plans, with or without the narcissist's consent. You can learn more about Dr. Zuckerman on her website: https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/. Find her books at https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/books. Follow her on: ...
2023-12-1239 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterWhat Dominant Narcissists Don't Want You To KnowMany narcissists make it their task to establish dominance and power.  Dr. Les Carter explains, though, that such an effort is driven by many unresolved issues they don't want to reveal.  Even when they refuse to come to terms with who they really are, you can learn to see through their facade, determining to respond with a very different mindset. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW cour...
2023-12-0532 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterHealing From Toxic Relationships, Featuring Dr. Stephanie SarkisDr. C speaks with Dr. Stephanie Sarkis about her book that describes how to recognize toxic relationship patterns so you can focus instead on staying true to who you need to be.  Her insights and wisdom are sure to be beneficial. You can find Dr. Sarkis on her website: https://stephaniesarkis.com/. You can purchase her book, Healing From Toxic Relationships, at https://stephaniesarkis.com/toxicrelationships/. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/D...
2023-11-2844 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterNarcissists Show Who They Are In ConflictsIt's easy to be pleasant and friendly when you are in agreement with others.  But Dr. C highlights how your level of maturity is on display in the midst of conflict. He discusses a narcissist's starting point when you have differences, then gives a stark contrast by identifying the healthy alternatives. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect htt...
2023-11-2132 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterThe Conniving Sociopath, Featuring Dr. Jane McCartneyDr. C has an enlightening discussion with Dr. Jane McCartney from London as they break down the problems associated with sociopathic individuals.  She has a wealth of information on this vital topic. Dr. McCartney is a Consultant Chartered Psychologist in the UK, working with a wide range of patients and clients. She has previously worked for the NHS in the UK within residential secure universities. She has also worked for the UK court system. Dr. McCartney has a specialist interest in narcissistic traits, characteristics, and personality issues. Dr. McCartney can be found on YouTube at ht...
2023-11-1438 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterSetting Boundaries with a Narcissist, Featuring Dr. Henry CloudDr. Henry Cloud joins Dr. C today as he discusses ideas about the need for boundaries in key relationships. You can find Dr. Cloud at https://www.drcloud.com/. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored You can find Dr. Cloud's work at https://www.drcloud.com/ or at https://www.boundaries.me/. Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Se...
2023-11-0738 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterThe Empath And The Narcissist...Lots Of QuestionsRecently, Dr. C recorded a webinar about the empath and the narcissist, and specifically he focused upon the necessity of maintaining healthy boundaries.  In today's podcast he answers multiple questions generated by that webinar. If you want to purchase the resale of the webinar, go to https://survivingnarcissism.tv/webinar-the-empaths-superpower/. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set...
2023-10-3132 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterThe Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist, Featuring Debbie MirzaToday Dr. C interviews author Debbie Mirza on her book, The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist. She describes what this pattern consists of, and the two of them discuss ways to stay out of their unique manipulations. To learn more about Debbie, visit her website at https://www.debbiemirza.com/. If you are interested in online therapy, Dr. Carter has a sponsor who can assist. Go to our sponsor https://betterhelp.com/drcarter for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help. Listen to Dr. C’s POPULAR PODCAST at...
2023-10-2439 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterThe Genius Of Empathy, Featuring Dr. Judith OrloffDr. C welcomes psychiatrist and best-selling author, Dr. Judith Orloff.  She has a deep history of studying and writing about the strengths inherent in the empathic approach to relationships.  Their discussion focuses on understanding what is at stake when narcissists attempt to minimize the healthy ingredients of an empath. To learn more about Dr. Orloff, visit her website, https://drjudithorloff.com/. Preorder her book on her website or at https://www.amazon.com/Genius-Empathy-Practical-Sensitive-Relationships/dp/1683649710. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% of...
2023-10-1742 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterThe Least Narcissistic Person I've Ever MetDr. C takes a detour from his normal talks about narcissism, describing a very difficult time in his own deep history.  During this time, he encountered an unusual man, Miguel, who could almost be described as an angel in disguise.  He was the exact opposite of the narcissistic people Dr. C has encountered on so many occasions.   Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https...
2023-10-1031 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterWhy Do Narcissists Have To Be So Right?A common identifier of narcissism is the inability to receive input, as well as a refusal to tune into others' feelings and perceptions.  Dr. Les Carter explains that behind such a pattern is a deeper issue...Narcissists have declared themselves to be the keepers of truth.  They must be right.  The more you can see through a narcissist's need to lord over you with their version of false correctness, the less inclined you will be to fall prey to their domination tactics. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of...
2023-10-0332 minTouched Out! A Mental Health Podcast for Parents
Touched Out! A Mental Health Podcast for ParentsUnveiling Strength | Les' Journey Through Narcissistic Abuse and Postpartum PsychosisWelcome to Episode 15 of Touched Out! A Mental Health Podcast for ParentsOn todays episode we speak to Les, a remarkable individual from Spokane, Washington, faced immense challenges from a young age. At just 5 years old, she was placed into foster care due to her mother's abandonment. This early trauma set the stage for a series of difficult experiences.A Mother’s Exploitation and AbuseLes shares how her mother involved her in various cons to make money, leading to her exploitation from a young age. Raised by an ab...
2023-09-261h 11Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterSlay The Bully, Featuring Rebecca ZungDr. C welcomes Rebecca Zung who has just released a new book, Slay The Bully, How To Negotiate With A Narcissist And Win.  Being a family law attorney specializing in high conflict cases, she brings a wealth of information to the table as she explains the SLAY method of responding with narcissists. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/rea...
2023-09-2640 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterThe Two Sides To A Narcissistic Trauma BondTrauma bonding inside unhealthy relationships arises as the recipient experiences ongoing emotional overload.  Dr. Les Carter describes how you can break the bond by understanding what the narcissist hopes to gain, then by identifying and living into your best version of yourself.  You can succeed in defining who you want to be, separate from the narcissist. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/cou...
2023-09-1932 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterA Narcissist's Profound InsecurityNarcissists, being fully committed to the False Self, want you to assume they are the ones with the answers, when in fact, they are deeply insecure.  In this episode, Dr. C responds to questions he has received from listeners for the purpose of showing you some of the many ways narcissists display their inner tension.  They can't come to terms with their hidden insecurities, but you can stay disentangled when they attempt to drag you into their dysfunction. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a...
2023-09-1232 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterA Narcissist's Aggressive And Manipulative Tactics, featuring Jim BrillonA defining feature of narcissism is the willingness to manipulate.  And because of other issues like the need for control, an attitude of entitlement, and raw selfishness, it is predictable that they will have serious anger issues too.  Not a good combination.  Dr. Les Carter welcomes therapist Jim Brillon who will discuss in detail how to maneuver through the traps narcissists wish to lay in front of you. Visit Jim's website to learn more about him: https://jimbrillon.com/ You can follow Jim Brillon on:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JimBrillonTherapyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jim.brillon/Tik...
2023-09-0535 minBreaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Breaking Free from Narcissistic AbuseWhy do narcissists have to make life miserable? Dr. Les Carter Explains NarcissismSubmit your question be answered on air to the Fan Mail link below!In this episode, Tara and Kerry interview Dr. Les Carter, a psychologist with wildly popular YouTube channel and podcast, Surviving Narcissism about the narcissistic mindset. Dr. Carter demystifies why these individuals are so good at turning the tables on us, making us feel like the crazy ones. Links: Dr. Carter's YouTube ChannelSupport Us:Become a supporter of the show here. Get in Touch:YouTube: ...
2023-07-2430 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterRethinking Narcissism, Featuring Dr. Craig MalkinDr. Les Carter shares an insightful interview with psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin, who is a lecturer at the Harvard Medical School in Cambridge, Massachusetts, and who also maintains an active therapy practice.  Dr. Malkin explains how narcissism is a combination of inborn temperament and learned patterns, and also discusses why they have such difficulty regulating themselves as adults. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Con...
2023-05-1642 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterNarcissists Are Defined By Psychological LazinessA hallmark of the mature personality is the willingness to take responsibility for who you are.  Mature people understand that every stage of life presents challenges, and they welcome the process of introspection as they determine how to wisely respond.  Narcissists, however, refuse to do the hard work of finding insight and making adjustments.  Instead, their psychological laziness prompts them to look outwardly toward you, requiring you to adjust so they can feel satisfied.  Dr. Les Carter contrasts healthy introspection to a narcissist's shallowness, and encourages you to take the more fulfilling path. Thank you to Aura for...
2023-05-0932 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterWhy Does A Narcissist NEED To Keep You Deflated?Narcissists are predators who are quite willing to exploit and use you for their own personal gain.  Dr. C describes their mindset as they engage with you, then he also identifies cues they look for to determine if indeed you will susceptible to their schemes.  As you see through their patterns it will position you to remain true to yourself, staying out of the snares they lay in front of you. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sp...
2023-05-0233 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterThe Emotional Chaos Narcissists Bring To You, featuring Kati MortonWhile narcissists try to present themselves as all together, behind the scenes there is much unfinished business they carry.  Dr. C talks with special guest Kati Morton about what drives narcissists and how we can maintain emotional steadiness despite their lack of it. You can find Kati on her website, https://katimorton.com/. You can follow Kati on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube at @katimorton. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for D...
2023-04-2542 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterNarcissists Carry Pervasive Neediness InsideNarcissists like to give the impression that they have life figured out and that you should defer to their mandates.  Dr. Les Carter offers a very different perspective, discussing how they are actually profoundly needy and act as they do because they have not learned to come to terms with life's challenges. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/rea...
2023-04-1832 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterThe Impact Of Trauma Bonding On The Body, Featuring Caroline StrawsonDr. C welcomes trauma specialist Caroline Strawson who explains how trauma bonding to a narcissist impacts you physiologically.  Having a history in the medical profession as well as surviving her own traumatic experiences, she brings a wealth of information and insight into this vital topic. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNC...
2023-04-1134 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterHow To Spot A Toxic Narcissist, featuring Dr. Kerry McAvoyDr. C is joined by Dr. Kerry McAvoy, author of Love You More.  She clearly describes some primary signs to watch for as you determine the level of toxicity in a narcissist.  As you understand how their outward actions are an indication of inner turmoil, you can learn not to be pulled in by their manipulations. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://cour...
2023-04-0439 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterWhy Are Narcissists So Combative?The longer you engage with narcissists, the more they illustrate how internally conflicted they are.  But instead of using healthy introspection, they turn outward as they try to make you responsible for their personal turmoil.  Dr. C discusses this phenomenon by emphasizing that you are not required to enter into their combative games.  Instead, you can resolve to be a person who lives with well conceived initiatives despite their inability to reciprocate. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter ...
2023-03-2832 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterBelieving Me: Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, featuring Dr. Ingrid ClaytonGo to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Dr. Ingrid Clayton joins Dr. C in discussing her own history of trauma and abuse and how it has impacted her.  She is a talented therapist who specializes in trauma recovery and is willing to draw upon her experiences as she remains in the role of a fellow sojourner with the clientele she assists. Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv...
2023-03-2137 minUncensored CMO
Uncensored CMOHow not to plan - Les Binet & Sarah CarterLes Binet and Sarah Carter are planning royalty. Starting out at the iconic BMP, the agency which evolved over time to become adam&eve today, they are the planners behind many famous campaigns. Not least John Lewis which lasted an impressive 14 years. A few years ago their popular myth busting column turned into the well known book ‘How Not to Plan’ taking conventional wisdom and turning it on its head. I catch up with the dynamic duo to pick their considerable brains on the topics they think marketers least understand.Talking points from this episode:The real...
2023-03-151h 02Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterWhy Narcissists Cannot GrowIf you are a healthy person, you know you are a work in progress.  You seek input.  You contemplate insights.  You embrace accountability.  Dr. Les Carter reminds you that such an approach is anathema to narcissists who instead will thwart others' efforts to discuss improvements.  As a result, they persist in all sorts of maladaptive behaviors. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/cour...
2023-03-1431 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterHow Narcissists Try To Rob You Of YouIllogical as it may be, narcissists approach their closest relationships with the goal of emptying you of yourself, filling you instead with themselves.  Dr. Les Carter outlines the many tactics they use, and explains their profoundly insecure reasoning.  Your task is to become aware of their aims, then leaning into your uniqueness as fully as possible. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://cour...
2023-03-0731 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterFierce Love As An Alternative To Narcissism, Featuring Dr. Jacqui LewisDr. Jacqui Lewis is a highly respected author and speaker who recently published the book, Fierce Love.  She and Dr. C discuss how she learned to move away from toxic relationships by becoming devoted to the practice of love…beginning with oneself, then toward others, and then in the public arena. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when...
2023-02-2838 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterWhy Do Narcissists Need You As A Foil?In the best case scenario, as you build relationships, you will be honest about your strengths and your weaknesses.  Narcissists, however, are schemers attempting to establish superiority, and are not interested in honest relationships.  In fact, their posturing is done for the purpose of setting themselves up as the gold standard, with you being the less-than-adequate one.  That way, when the relationship eventually crumbles, you become the foil. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Sign...
2023-02-2132 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterBreaking Free From A Narcissist, featuring Dr. Ramani DurvasulaRecently Dr. Les Carter interviewed Dr. Ramani Durvasula about how to break free from a narcissist.  In this wide ranging discussion you’ll get to know more fully what she considers the greatest challenges as you become separate and distinct in your manner of participating in relationships. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupo...
2023-02-1445 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterHow To Interpret A Narcissist's AngerOn the surface, narcissists can appear decent or cooperative, but that falls apart when tension and anger arise inside relationships.  Dr. Les Carter explains how narcissists carry many internal, dysfunctional patterns that show up in moments of conflict, so it is essential to know what you are up against.  Pulling back the curtain, he explains how to interpret a narcissist's blustery, non-cooperative moods so you don't make the mistake of assuming responsibly for their mismanagement of anger. Go to https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a th...
2023-02-0732 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterThe Absurdity Of A Narcissist's EntitlementCentral to the pattern of narcissism is an ongoing attitude of entitlement.  Dr. Les Carter breaks down this topic by explaining the many ways this trait impacts the narcissist's interactions with you.  As you clearly understand the lack of common sense associated with their entitlement, you can choose to step away from the "requirements" the narcissist wishes to impose. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect http...
2023-01-3131 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterAn Honest Alternative to Narcissism, featuring David ZahlDavid Zahl is the author of a new book, Low Anthropology, which describes the need to be authentic and honest in the ways relate, as opposed to creating and maintaining an ideal image of oneself.  They discuss the need for letting go of the need to falsely impress, choosing an approach to relationships that embraces each other’s True Self. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW cours...
2023-01-2437 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterShould You Fear The Narcissist?Inevitably, when you have ongoing interactions with a narcissist, you learn that these individuals do not operate with positive intentions toward you.  So should you fear the narcissist?  Dr. Les Carter answers, yes and no.  You should have a healthy fear that prompts you to use realistic care and caution.  But, then he explains that they too harbor much fear, and it comes from an underdeveloped sense of Self.  That being the case, you need not fear their attitudes and pronouncements about your character.  Balance is key. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online...
2023-01-1727 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterIs Narcissism The Same As Evil?Narcissism is identified by selfishness, the need for control, a feeling of superiority, a lack of empathy, and manipulative behaviors.  So, as you attempt to understand it fully, you may wonder if it means that person is given over to evil intentions.  Dr. C explains how there is a great overlap between narcissism and evil, and gives a thorough working understanding of this quality so you can be informed.  Your comprehension of evil can allow you to know how to have strong boundaries and initiatives. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your men...
2023-01-1029 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterWhat Drives A Malignant NarcissistOn the far end of the narcissistic spectrum is the Malignant Narcissist.  These people have the traits we know to be common among narcissists, but in exaggerated extremes.  Dr. Les Carter breaks down this pattern of life so you can know how they think and what motivates them.  The more you understand their internal troubles, the better you can make assertive adjustments on your side of the equation. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for...
2023-01-0330 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterThe Many Faces Of A Narcissist's ControlAt its best, the desire to be in control can lead to qualities like reliability, responsibility, organization, and completion of tasks. But when narcissists attempt to be in control, their self-absorption and entitlement leads them into all sorts of less-than-desirable behaviors and attitudes. Dr. C teaches you how to know when a narcissist is in high control mode, and most importantly, what it reveals about that person. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast ...
2022-12-2032 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterWhat's Going On With The Passive-Aggressive Narcissist?In any ongoing relationship, tensions and frustrations can arise, creating emotions of anger or perplexion. Passive-aggressive narcissists have decided that openly addressing those tensions can create more problems that it solves, so they become stealth. Dr. Les Carter discusses the rationale used by these individuals and offers ways to respond, even when that person stays stuck inside their dysfunction. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com/DrCarter Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect ht...
2022-12-1332 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterBeing A Transformational Leader In A Narcissistic World, Featuring Adrian TerryAdrian Terry is an executive with GM Finance who is locked in on the concept of transformational leadership, which emphasizes building significance in others as a means of addressing team objectives.  He compares the many traits of the narcissistic leader to the healthier counterparts, and shares his insights about leadership being part of a broader worldview that include all people at the table. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Then add all of t...
2022-12-0639 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterCovert Narcissism And Gaslighting Go Hand In HandKnowing how difficult it can be to identify covert narcissists, Dr. Les Carter addresses how necessary it is to identify how they operate. Their favorite tactic is gaslighting, meaning they proactively try to generate confusion within you about your interpretations, priorities, and preferences. As you see their gaslighting for what it is, it highlights the necessity of listening to yourself. Covert narcissists are highly controlling, yet they want you to think you are the one with the problem.  Don't take the bait! Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off o...
2022-11-2932 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterIn Sheep's Clothing, Featuring Dr. George SimonIn the ongoing effort to describe covert narcissism, Dr. C interviews Dr. George Simon about his book, In Sheep's Clothing.  They break down what to watch for as you discern how to identify covert narcissists.  Dr. Simon discusses the origins of this pattern and how to respond to it wisely.  Drawing upon decades of research as well as his work as a therapist, Dr. Simon is a treasure trove of information regarding character disorders and how to respond to them. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of...
2022-11-1538 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterAlternatives To A Narcissist's Lack Of VulnerabilityThe mark of a healthy relationship is openness and honesty, but those are traits that narcissists dread. Due to their need for tight image control, they cannot be vulnerable. In this episode, Dr. C poses multiple questions he wishes he could ask narcissists to remind them of their own influences, and how their lack of vulnerability was created. He then highlights primary traits that accompany a relationship style that makes vulnerability possible. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https...
2022-11-0829 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterHealing From Hidden Abuse, featuring Shannon ThomasWhile narcissists can be openly abusive, especially in episodes of conflict, there are many ways that they will abuse you silently. Dr. Les Carter discusses this pattern with author and therapist, Shannon Thomas, whose book Healing From Hidden Abuse highlights ways to protect yourself from the narcissist's schemes. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Then add all of the following Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect ht...
2022-11-0136 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterThe "Of Course" Method of Responding To Narcissists, Featuring Ross RosenbergDr. C interviews psychotherapist and author, Ross Rosenberg, regarding his work with people struggling with Self-Love Deficit Disorder and how they become magnets for narcissists.  Ross describes the treatment he refers to as the "Of Course" method, explaining the necessity of developing a keen awareness of your own subconscious motivations as well as those of the narcissist. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at https://betterhelp.com/survivingnarcissismpodcast Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Con...
2022-10-2534 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterYour Clean Anger Toward a NarcissistNarcissists are notorious for their immature management of anger, and as a byproduct of their dysregulation, you might be pulled into their dysfunction.  Dr. Les Carter explains that the management of anger is a clear way of separating narcissists from healthy people, so he challenges you to stay on the course toward maturity even when narcissists don't.  In this episode he offers a clear contrast between a narcissist's unhealthy anger versus your clean management of that emotion. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of your first mo...
2022-10-1832 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterHow Covert Narcissists Create Trauma BondsCovert narcissists have a special way of bonding with you that can feel normal...at first.  They are masters of deception in the sense that they can create initial positive impressions, even as they slowly diminish you. Dr. Les Carter gives you a clear description of trauma bonding, and weaves it into an explanation of the distinct ways covert narcissists operate.  You can learn to detect the signs of the trauma bonds in your key relationships, then as your insight grows, so can your capacity for boundaries and independent living. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this ep...
2022-10-111h 02Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterWhy Narcissists Cannot Pull Out Of Their NarcissismWhen you have an ongoing relationship with a person who is persistently narcissistic, it is only natural that you'd want to confront that individual with the hope that healthy adjustments can be made.  But instead of engaging in a constructive conversation, narcissists will predictably double down on their dysfunction and will refuse to receive input.  In this episode, Dr. Les Carter identifies the lead ingredient that inhibits narcissists from growing, and describes all sorts of other patterns associated with that one ingredient.  Your task is to be aware of what you are up against so you can remain steady in...
2022-10-0430 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterHow to Detect Covert NarcissismNarcissists do not always show the full extent of their pathology in the early stages of a relationship.  They can seem pleasant, easy-going, supportive, and receptive...at least for a while.  But as you remain with that person, certain trends begin to emerge, leaving you to wonder about the viability of the relationship.  Narcissists are known for not having good self-awareness or for not taking responsibility for their flaws, so they will deny their problems.  Knowing this, Dr. Les Carter explains 4 categories of behavior that reveal the breadth of the covert narcissist's dysfunction.  They will gaslight you when you call...
2022-09-2729 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterThe 3 D's Of Narcissistic Abuse, Featuring Dr. David HawkinsIn this episode, Dr. C is joined by Dr. David Hawkins of Seattle, Washington, who discusses his work with men and women trying to heal from narcissistic abuse. Dr. Hawkins gives his seasoned opinions about what is necessary for the narcissist to change and how the partner can also find hope. He zeroes in specifically on 3 primary components of the narcissistic pattern that have to change. This interview features two therapists who have much in common as they share words of healing and encouragement. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and...
2022-09-2037 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterHealing Words from Surviving Narcissism's Team HealthyA few months ago, Dr. C asked his YouTube followers to send in comments about how they had learned to heal from narcissistic abuse.  He was overwhelmed with many reflections of wisdom and sage advice.  In today's episode he shares some of the most poignant comments that he received.  Keep in mind that these nuggets of insight are from people just like you...those who have felt hurt, but are determined not to let the pronouncements of a narcissist to rob them of their strength and dignity. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your onl...
2022-09-1330 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterHealing From Narcissistic Abuse, Featuring Dr. Ingrid ClaytonAfter repeated exposures to exploitative, manipulative narcissists, a person can experience identity confusion and emotional turmoil.  Dr. Les Carter has an enlightening discussion about this problem with clinical psychologist, Dr. Ingrid Clayton.   Drawing from her new memoir, Believing Me: Healing From Narcissistic Abuse and Complex Trauma, she explains the common trauma responses of fight, flight, freeze, and fawning.  Dr. Clayton makes it clear that even in the aftermath of trauma with a narcissist, healing can happen.  Hope is within reach as you learn to listen to your own voice. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secu...
2022-09-0632 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterWhat Drives a Narcissist's Anger?A natural byproduct of the narcissistic pattern is the perpetual struggle with anger.  Dr. Les Carter breaks down the ingredients of narcissism, showing you how they are easily predisposed to emotional dysregulation.  Then he describes six different elements at play that keeps the narcissist stuck in a dysfunctional rut.  All the while, you will be blamed for their tense state of mind.  But as you are enlightened about what is really inside the narcissist, you can become poised to opt out of their anger traps. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and...
2022-08-3030 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterHow Narcissists Are Held Back by Simplistic ThinkingWouldn't it be nice if life could be reduced to a fixed formula that offers simple, ready solutions to any situation? That's the kind of thinking narcissists bring to their relationships. Being naturally self-absorbed, entitled, controlling, and exploitive, they want you to know how things ought to be according to their agenda, and there will be a price to pay if you do not conform. Dr. Les Carter breaks down this pattern so you can understand their strategies and motives. Then he challenges you to focus on a fuller mindset that leads allows you to manage diversity and nuances...
2022-08-2331 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterAdam, Eve, The Serpent, And NarcissismFor millennia people have been trying to make sense of humanity's plight, often distilling their thoughts into stories. Virtually every major religion has a story about the origins of human struggle, whether it be the Jewish, Islamic, or Christian traditions. Likewise Hinduism, Buddhism, and many indigenous peoples have their stories. Since the characters, Adam and Eve, are so well known in Western culture, Dr. C has chosen to give an overview of 5 aspects of the Eden story that address the topic of the human condition and, especially, narcissism. Then he cites teachings from social psychologist Erich Fromm, who likewise...
2022-08-1628 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterNegotiating with the Narcissist, Featuring Rebecca ZungDr. Les Carter interviews noted family law attorney, Rebecca Zung, who discusses her approach to negotiations with a narcissist. Using what she refers to as the SLAY method of negotiation, her primary emphasis is to teach the one leaving a narcissist to find inner strength, making decisions based on insight into the narcissistic pattern and belief in oneself. Her ultimate goal is to guide individuals to a place of personal freedom and confidence. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my link: https://aura.com...
2022-08-0937 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterMind Games Narcissists Will Play With YouIn this episode, Dr. Les Carter highlights two of the most common aspects of narcissism:  control and manipulation. Narcissists actually believe you should filter your way of life through them. So, when you act, think, or prioritize differently, they are not bashful about bringing you under their controlling agenda. And true to their nature, they will use all sorts of gaslighting tactics to accomplish their purposes. In this episode, Dr. C identifies eight of the most common mind games they use. Knowledge is power, and as you are able to see in real time how you are being manipulated, y...
2022-08-0230 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterGrowing Up In A Narcissistic Family Featuring Julie L HallFor healthy personality development, is essential for children to have a home that emphasizes trust and empathy.  Unfortunately, in homes dominated by a narcissistic parent, that is a lost luxury.  Dr. Les Carter is joined by Julie L. Hall, author of the book, The Narcissist In Your Life.  Drawing from her own personal journey, Julie describes how kids are impacted by a narcissistic family. Then she describes how as an adult, adjustments can be made in the effort to find wholeness and personal freedom. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental hea...
2022-07-2634 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterWhy You Need To Understand Narcissistic InjuryHow often has a seemingly simple disagreement with a narcissist turned into a big production?  Narcissists are known for out-of-proportion anger in response to circumstances that could otherwise be managed cleanly.  Dr. Les Carter describes the phenomenon called "narcissistic injury."  Narcissists carry a great deal of emotional pain inside, but because they are committed to maintaining a False Self, they are unable to discuss problems logically.  When they are triggered by you, that pain rises to the surface, prompting the narcissist to attack in the same way a wounded animal does.  Your task is to understand what is in play...
2022-07-1928 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterLies The Narcissist Wants You To BelieveWith narcissists, the name of the game is mind control.  They have convinced themselves that they are on a higher plane than you, and it is therefore your duty to prop up their vaulted ego.  Of course, you know that their distorted thinking is not accurate, yet they can persist in the effort to keep you subordinate.  In this crucial discussion, Dr. Les Carter identifies eight of the most common lies the narcissist wants you to believe.  But as you become keenly aware of their game, you can opt out.  Simply put, you cannot allow a narcissist's lies to becom...
2022-07-1257 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter12 Ways to Identify a Sociopathic NarcissistThere is a form of narcissism that is especially difficult: the sociopathic narcissist.  Sociopaths are known for their lack of a moral compass, their lack of compassion, and their strong tendency toward punitive anger.  Dr. Les Carter highlights twelve ways to identify a sociopathic narcissist.  As you become aware of their tendencies and how they wish to take over your distinctions, you can become poised to stay away from their clutches, seeking a life of dignity, respect, and civility instead. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy and get 10% off of...
2022-07-0529 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterHow Narcissists Toy with TruthFor any relationship to thrive, trust has to be paramount. And for trust to be established, honesty is essential. Narcissists, however, live behind the wall of the False Self. They have an exploitative agenda as they make connections, which means honesty is little more than a commodity that can be twisted to suit their immediate desires. A narcissist's "truth" is not truth at all, but an attempt to advance their ever-shifting agenda. Dr. Les Carter describes what to watch for when engaging with a narcissist, and he discusses the necessity of you being the person of integrity that the...
2022-06-2830 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter15 Off Label Patterns That Reveal NarcissismAcademia tells us that narcissists are identified by an attitude of entitlement, the need for control, willingness to exploit, low empathy, and more.  Drawing upon his 40+ years of speaking with individuals in his therapy office, Dr. Les Carter expands upon the academic definition by highlighting 15 of the most common "off-label" indicators of narcissism.  As you see the many ways that a narcissist will reveal their disorder, you can become more confident as you learn to trust in your own balanced approach to life. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental healthy an...
2022-06-2131 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterWhy Are Narcissists So Resistant To Change?In this episode, Dr. Carter takes you inside the mind of a therapist, discussing the patterns he would identify in his patients.  He focuses on 4 universal truths (and more) that we each need to come to terms with, then highlights the healthy alternatives.  Then he focuses on the mind of a narcissist, describing how they tend to respond when confronted with the need for growth and change.  Narcissists have multiple barriers to overcome if they are going to mature, and most are so entrenched in their dysfunctions that they sabotage the process altogether.  It's important for you to understand how...
2022-06-1432 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterOnce You Realize You Can’t Get Through to a NarcissistOne of the finest qualities you can have is the desire to grow and learn. You know yourself well enough to understand that you can always improve, so that is part of the mindset you bring to your relationships.  But when you are engaging with narcissists, it eventually becomes apparent that they don't share the same eagerness to grow and learn. Instead, they think competitively, meaning they are constantly vying for the upper hand. And what is worse, when you eventually pull away, your adjustments will come with a high price. Dr. Les Carter addresses this matter with compassion, as...
2022-06-0730 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterNarcissism and the Problem of PhoninessIf you're trying to manage life honestly, your entanglements with a narcissist can prove to be especially difficult.  One of the defining features of narcissism is phoniness...the commitment to living behind the shield of a False Self.  In this episode, Dr. Les Carter offers multiple ways of identifying how narcissists illustrate their phoniness, then he goes behind the scenes to describe how and why this develops.  Once you are able to spot what is happening, you can develop the objectivity necessary for a much better way of managing your relationships. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring thi...
2022-05-3132 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterHaughty Comments From NarcissistsIn an effort to convey how narcissists think in real time, Dr. Les Carter draws upon testimonials from members of Team Healthy who have received haughty comments from narcissists.  Not only do these comments reveal egotism, but they also illustrate how illogical (to the point of ignorant) narcissists can be.  As you are able to see through their entitled attitudes, you will be poised to make the necessary adjustments so you will no longer be ensnared by their efforts to find control over you. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your mental he...
2022-05-2430 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterNarcissists Can't Grasp That Control Is An IllusionIt should come as a shock to no one that narcissists have a pervasive need to control people and circumstances, and in this episode Dr. Les Carter describes how it plays out.  But as you pull back and reflect upon the effectiveness of a controlling approach to relationships, you can quickly conclude...it doesn't work.  Control is an illusion.  Even as narcissists seem to score "victories" in their efforts to control, over time, their influence wanes greatly.  Simply put, most people who are on the receiving end of a narcissist's controlling agenda eventually seek the exit.  So what if you d...
2022-05-1726 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterHere's How Covert Narcissism WorksNarcissism is defined by the need for control, a lack of empathy, an attitude of entitlement, self-absorption, and more.  Overt narcissists leave little to the imagination, and you can spot them rather quickly.  Covert narcissists have the same defining features, but they are much more deliberate in hiding their inclinations.  Over time, however, their real colors will eventually surface, and it can be a great disappointment to you.  Yet, as you learn to spot the indicators, you can become positioned to protect yourself with necessary boundaries. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Take charge of your...
2022-05-1054 minSurviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les CarterSo, Exactly What Is Narcissism?Narcissism is definitely a hot topic in the world of psychotherapy, and as such, the word "narcissist" is prone to being misused or misunderstood. Dr. Les Carter gives you a solid working definition of narcissism so you can know what you're dealing with as you encounter individuals on the spectrum. The more clearly you understand this pattern of life, the more successfully you can plan to overcome the difficulties it presents. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Talk charge of your mental health and get 10% off of your first month of therapy at:https://betterhelp...
2022-05-0330 minBlended Kingdom Families Podcast
Blended Kingdom Families PodcastDealing with Child Manipulation and Parent Alienation with Special Guest Dr. Les CarterWe are so excited to announce our new podcast episode, “Dealing with Child Manipulation and Parent Alienation”, with Dr. Les Carter. Dr. Les Carter is an author, psychotherapist, and counselor with 40+ years of experience in the field. He is the author of over 20 books and resources including "The Anger Trap" and "When Pleasing You is Killing Me". IN THIS EPISODE, WE DISCUSS:How to handle a narcissistic ex spouseWhat child manipulation looks likeTeaching your child to know the essence of loveParent alienationThis podcast is available on all major podcast platforms! You can also find...
2021-09-2734 minBlended Kingdom Families Podcast
Blended Kingdom Families PodcastNarcissistic Personality Disorder & Blended Families with Dr. Les CarterOn today’s episode, “Narcissistic Personality Disorder & Blended Families," Scott and Vanessa sit down with Dr. Les Carter to discuss how to deal with narcissistic behavior in your blended family. We cannot wait to share with you the wisdom that Dr. Carter brings!Today’s guest, Dr. Les Carter, is an author, psychotherapist, and counselor with 40+ years of experience in the field. He is the author of over 20 books and resources including "The Anger Trap" and "When Pleasing You is Killing Me". In today’s episode Dr. Carter will discuss:- What is Narcissistic Personali...
2020-11-0936 minBookBaby Spotlight
BookBaby SpotlightBookBaby Spotlight - Les CarterLes Carter, psychiatric counselor and best-selling author, tells BookBaby why he'll never return to traditional publishing! An expert on narcissism and anger management, his most recent book, When Pleasing You is Killing Me, is available on BookShop now. His YouTube channel is here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIELB1mz8wMKIhB6DCmTBlw/featured. To learn more about BookBaby: www.bookbaby.com For Les Carter's book, and thousands of other independently published books: store.bookbaby.com
2019-11-1422 minWestworld: The Podcast
Westworld: The Podcast‘Les Écorchés’ S2E7 Deep Dive (Ep. 87)Les écorchés literally translated means “the tormented.” That turned out to be very appropriate with all the torment we saw in the latest episode of “Westworld.” Craig Carter and Ashley Melzer give their general thoughts on “Les Écorchés” (1:24) before discussing the attack on the Mesa part I (24:42), the Man in Black and Maeve (43:08), and the attack on the Mesa part II (54:50). Become a supporter on Partreon Check out our merch on Society6
2018-06-061h 27Grab Free Audiobook in Self Development, Communication Skills
Grab Free Audiobook in Self Development, Communication SkillsThe Anger Trap by Les Carter | Free AudiobookListen to full audiobooks for free on :https://hotaudiobook.com/freeTitle: The Anger Trap Author: Les Carter, Frank Minirth Narrator: Kirby Heybourne Format: Unabridged Length: 9 hrs and 22 mins Language: English Release date: 07-31-12 Publisher: Audible Studios Genres: Self Development, Communication Skills Summary: It's easy to identify rage in people who lose their temper at traffic jams, unruly children, unresponsive coworkers, and unrealistic bosses. But we may not recognize more subtle manifestations of anger, such as being uncomfortable with loose ends, acting impatiently, or being overly critical. That is anger, too. And, as is so often the case, angry folks...
2012-08-019h 22Discover New Releases Audiobooks in Self Development, Communication Skills
Discover New Releases Audiobooks in Self Development, Communication SkillsThe Anger Trap Audiobook by Les Carter, Frank MinirthListen to this audiobook free with a 30-day trial. Go tohttp://hotaudiobook.com/freeTitle: The Anger Trap Subtitle: Free Yourself from the Frustrations that Sabotage Your Life Author: Les Carter, Frank Minirth Narrator: Kirby Heybourne Format: Unabridged Length: 9 hrs and 22 mins Language: English Release date: 07-31-12 Publisher: Audible Studios Ratings: 4.5 of 5 out of 134 votes Genres: Self Development, Communication Skills Publisher's Summary: It's easy to identify rage in people who lose their temper at traffic jams, unruly children, unresponsive coworkers, and unrealistic bosses. But we may not recognize more subtle manifestations of anger, such as being uncomfortable with loose ends...
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