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Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsIs THIS Narcissistic? Q&A with Dr. Rhoberta ShalerNew! Your questions are the focus for this episode. Narcissistic or not so much? What are you wondering about? Recognizing the patterns, traits and cycles that ARE narcissistic is wise...AND so is discerning what is NOT narcissistic. Ask your questions in the chat and I'll answer them as clearly as I can. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:Questions from audience about narcissistic traits Are alcoholics likely to be narcissistic?Do narcissists often have alcoholic tendencies?What about a nitpicky boss?When a man frequently cuts me off mid-sentence, is that a narcissistic?2023-09-1231 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsWhy Not To Believe The Promise Of Change From A Narcissist - Dr. Rhoberta ShalerPeople with narcissistic tendencies and traits want to have their way, and want you to do their bidding. If they really, really, really want something, or, if they are really, really, really afraid of losing something, they sometimes promise to change.How many promises has a narcissist--a narcissistic #Hijackal--made to you about changing behaviors? How many of those promises were kept? Right! Not many.Oh, yes, maybe for a hot minute things improved. That is usually to get you to believe that they sincerely mean what they say. The proof, though...2021-01-1933 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsIntimidation and Coercive Control: How and Why It's Holding You Hostage - Dr. Rhoberta ShalerYou're worn, torn, and put down. You're exhausting in every way. The #narcissist, the #Hijackal, see that as an accomplishment. Hijackals are intimidating. They expect you to comply with their wishes, wants, demands, and supposed needs. #Hijackals threaten you. They want to instill fear and make you dependent on them, all the while complaining that you are, right?It's SO important that you recognize the ways--small and large--that emotional abusers intimidate you, or could intimidate you. Sometimes, their negative behavior starts in small ways, and grows to ultimate control. Or, at...2020-11-1732 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsHow To Clear Your Thinking To Co-Parent With A Narcissistic Hijackal. Dr. Rhoberta ShalerYou are barely out of a toxic relationship, and are hoping to grab a breath and clear your head. That's the moment co-parenting calamities start, right? Then, you're free of the Hijackal, but not free of their self-serving shenanigans. OK, you need strategies to save your sanity. Listen in and grab them! Cardinal rule: Don't Poke A Hijackal®! That will always apply, and especially when you are co-parenting. There is nothing good that comes from poking Hijackals. It all comes back on you, doubled...or more. You know that. So, please stick to...2020-10-2032 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsHow Not To Settle For Less In Life And Love - Dr. Rhoberta ShalerIf you're with a relentlessly difficult, toxic person (a #Hijackal), or were raised by one, it's likely you'll be feeling somewhat trapped, suffocated, limited, or held back. Let's start today to change that. FOMO! Lots of talk about FOMO these days: the Fear Of Missing Out. What are you missing out on just now? If it's love, freedom, possibilities, and joy, it's time to rethink, right? Today, I'm talking about these kinds of FOMO, and what you can do to allay your fears and step into the life you'd...2020-03-0822 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsEmotional Manipulation: When Hijackals Hide Venom In Chocolate - Dr. Rhoberta ShalerToxic people--emotional manipulators--have an absolute need to win. They NEED to have power over you in order to feel safe in their world. That's their problem. Don't make it yours.To get power over you, Hijackals are masters of emotional manipulation. And, they serve it up two ways: smooth or aggressive. Smooth approaches catch you off guard because you so want to believe them and enjoy the love and peace. Aggressive approaches make you fearful and unable to think clearly in the moment. Therefore, masters of manipulation!Hijackals are...2020-03-0123 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsWhy Hijackals Hate and Humiliate - Dr. Rhoberta ShalerHate and Humiliation often go together. ? #Hijackals--relentlessly difficult, toxic people--hate and humiliate to get the upper hand in relationships...AND to make you feel bad about yourself especially in front of other people. It’s nasty! Listen in to understand the double standards of enjoying watching other people be humiliated on Reality TV or Celebrity Roasts, yet hating to be the object of humiliation ourselves. Then, make better decisions about what to do about your relationship with a #Hijackal!#Narcissists and other #Hijackals hate to see you happy. They resent it and too often take swings at...2020-02-2527 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships10 Signs of a Pathological Liar & How to Respond - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler"I know I'm being lied to, but I want it to be true." I hear that so often from clients. I understand that they are so hooked on hope that the person they fell in love with would never lie to them that they believe the lies.Often, they are so exhausted from being in a relationship with a #Hijackal that they don't have the energy to deal with the lying.In today's episode, I'm offering you ten signs of a pathological liar so that you can step back and see if you...2020-02-0420 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsHow to Stop Letting Someone Lie To You - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler#Hijackals manipulate. Therefore, Hijackals lie. Whether that #Hijackal is narcissistic, borderline, or anti-social, it doesn't matter. They will lie.Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult, toxic people--want the outcomes they want. Therefore, they deceive you.Deceiving you means causing you to believe something that is not true usually to gain some personal advantage. Typical of Hijackals, right? They must win. Therefore, you must lose. To them, anything that helps them win is fair game.I know you want to believe the lies. The Hijackal is often telling you what you want...2020-01-2721 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsDiscarded By A Hijackal? 10 Ways To Resist The Pull To Return - Dr. Rhoberta ShalerYou've likely turned yourself into a pretzel to please a toxic person. That's what they want. You can stand on your head and spit wooden nickels for a decade, and you cannot please them beyond a hot minute when they really want something for you.Notice that!You were discarded. Not your idea. Not your choice. Not your timing.You're unhappy and focused on what you've lost. That's natural.BUT, you're out! Being discarded by a narcissist, or a person who narcissistic or sociopathic tendencies, never...2020-01-2022 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsFinding Clarity in the Midst of Hijackal® Chaos & Confusion Dr. Rhoberta ShalerKeeping you in chaos, confusion, and uncertainty is a hallmark of a #Hijackal®. They do it to keep you on guard and off balance. That's a very shaky combination that destroys any possibility of stability in a relationship! Recognizing when a Hijackal is trying to control you (which is always) is an important skill to have for taking back your personal power and sense of self. It's particularly important when that uncertainty has come to feel "normal." There is nothing normal about it, but it is the way #Hijackals roll. You might n...2019-12-2913 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsAre the Holidays Duty, Dread or Delight? 3 Empowering Tips - Dr. Rhoberta ShalerHolidays or any celebration can be stressful. It may be exciting--which is stressful in itself--and it may be distressful.Give yourself permission to recognize and act on the three empowering tips for surviving the holidays with other humans.In fact, these three tips will always help you feel empowered.Are the holidays duty, dread, or delight for you?Can you look forward to any celebration, without concern that it will be ruined by others?If you have a #Hijackal parent or a #Hijackal partner or ex, you know...2019-12-2119 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships6 Steps to Keep You Safer Around Hijackals & Other Toxic Folks. Dr. Rhoberta ShalerDifficult, defensive, and destructive behaviors can turn into dangerous ones! These six steps to keep you safer around toxic people, around #Hijackals, are absolutely vital to recognize and take. Keep yourself safer! In today's episode, I'm defining "dangerous" as dangerous to your well-being in all ways, and to your children's well-being and best interests. I give you six vital questions to ask yourself--honestly ask yourself--and honestly answer.When you're with a toxic person, you are likely to make excuses for their behavior, rationalize or justify their behavior. Time to stop doing that. And...2019-12-0229 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsCo-Parenting With a Narcissist Without Losing Your Mind. Dr. Rhoberta ShalerYou've divorced a #narcissist, a #Hijackal®. That was difficult, no doubt.Now, you're settling in--or trying to settle in--to some kind of reasonable co-parenting model. That's tough, too. I know, I've done it.It's not easy to co-parent with a #narcissist.It's not what you expected to have to do.You're still resentful about the relationship, and devastated by the divorce.BIG RULE: Never make your children feel like pawns, messengers, or casualties of your divorce. Yes, that's tough, too, but it is S...2019-11-1729 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsSix Constantly Flying Red Flags That Should Tip You Off to Hijackals - Dr. Rhoberta ShalerYou're been in the relationship for a while. Maybe, it's even your parent! Or, a new partner?Or, you're waking up to the fact that you simply cannot please your partner because s/he WILL NOT be pleased, no matter what you do!Your partner may be a #Hijackal®.Your partner may have narcissistic behaviors and self-centered motives.Your partner may have anti-social behaviors.Your partner may incapable of empathy, and therefore, incapable of real love.You need to know these six red flags!2019-06-2331 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsWhy You Shouldn't Go Back to a Hijackal® & How To Stay Away Dr. Rhoberta ShalerYou're out! You likely took a long time to make the decision to leave the narcissist, or in my terms, the #Hijackal. You also likely talked yourself out of it more than a few times, right? Then, you make your move for all the right reasons. It's difficult AND you do it. Uh-oh! Now, you're second-guessing your decision, and beating yourself up a bit. NO! Please don't!Remind yourself that you left for all the right reasons.Not so easy when you're feeling unsure, alone, and maybe even...2019-06-1028 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsNever Go "Nose Blind" to Verbal Abuse. Smell It For What It Is! Dr. Rhoberta ShalerHave you heard that TV ad for air freshener that implores you to notice that you may have gone "nose-blind" to the unpleasant smells in your kitchen, garbage, basement, or car? Well, I think people go "nose-blind" to verbal abuse...and, to emotional abuse, too. It's time to stop! Today, I'm talking about the ways you might be justifying the bad behavior of a #Hijackal in your life, a relentlessly difficult, usually self-centered person who wants power and control over you...always. It's not just occasional. It's a way of life for them, and they have...2019-04-0126 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsTuning Up Your Self-Confidence After a Hijackal Tramples It - Dr. Rhoberta ShalerSelf-confidence! Sounds good, doesn't it? You want to have, express, and experience it, and that's not always easy after a #Hijackal has trampled it. You can become self-confident, and today's episode will give you great steps! How are you doing with your self-confidence? Has someone bashed it? Are you ready to improve your self-confidence and step out with more conscious self-love? Great. You'll love this episode!Once you're on a downward path with your self-confidence, the world seems to conspire to keep you there. You even find ways to put yourself down and...2019-03-2529 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships7 Ways to Keep Their Passive-Aggression from Driving You Nuts! Dr. Rhoberta ShalerYou need to learn how to side-step toxic, passive-aggressive behavior, and save your sanity, right? Today's episode gives you 7 ways to do just that. Other episodes have talked about important aspects of being in relationship with a passive-aggressive person, and about what to do if you are being passive-aggressive. Now, how to protect yourself from the toxicity of passive-aggressive behavior coming from someone else!You feel the energetic hit of their toxic behavior, but strangely, most folks immediately question themselves. That's where you have to start making changes. Once you recognize the passive-aggression...2019-03-1728 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsWhy Narcissistic Hijackals Seem to Find You & Why You Like Them - Dr. Rhoberta ShalerOh, the joys of being love-bombed, right? Only you had no idea that that was what was happening!You honestly believed you had found your partner, your person, your soulmate, the person who knew you so well, and could anticipate your needs. You just knew you'd be happy forever. All was well...until the "Gotcha!" That's the moment when you realized--much as you tried not to notice--that things were no longer as rosy as they seemed. You recognize that you are often being discounted, being belittled, and often, too much rage. Maybe, there is...2019-03-1128 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsWhat Three Billy Goats & a Troll Have to Do with Covert Narcissists Dr. Rhoberta ShalerWhatever has the story of the Three Billy Goats Gruff got to do with covert narcissism? Just who is that troll under the bridge in the story? In your story?Let's take a look at that in today's episode of Save Your Sanity.Sad that any one has to live under a bridge, for sure. No doubt about it, the parents of a covert narcissist taught them how to do it. That's how they survived their childhoods. Unfortunately, those are the only strategies they currently have, and so....under the bridge!2019-02-2427 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyWhat You Need First If You Want to Have Great Relationships. Host Dr. Rhoberta ShalerToday's episode is so important: a required ingredient for a great relationship! And, it may not be what you think.We all live, work, or play with other humans, and we know it sometimes takes more skills than at other times. Some people are more work. Some people are toxic and you need to recognize that right away, and steer clear!And, you may think that your past relationships define you. They can, but I hope they do not!It's not rocket science to understand that your early training continues...2018-12-2811 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyWhat You Need First If You Want to Have Great Relationships. Host Dr. Rhoberta ShalerToday's episode is so important: a required ingredient for a great relationship! And, it may not be what you think.We all live, work, or play with other humans, and we know it sometimes takes more skills than at other times. Some people are more work. Some people are toxic and you need to recognize that right away, and steer clear!And, you may think that your past relationships define you. They can, but I hope they do not!It's not rocket science to understand that your early training continues...2018-12-2800 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsHow Conscious Self-Care Saves You So Much Stress & Distress - Dr. Rhoberta ShalerDo you ever try to downplay your need for great self-care? If you're like many folks--too many folks--you likely do! You may have been raised to believe that you should be ok, power through, and need nothing.You may have been told that other people are more important than you are, and that you are a good person when you put other people first...all the time!NO! Not good. Always putting yourself at the end of your list is DEFINITELY NOT GOOD! . You may well become...2018-12-1016 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsHow To Stop Walking on Eggshells - Dr. Rhoberta ShalerAny chance that you're getting your exercise by walking on eggshells?That's a tense, anxiety-ridden, stressful way to get your exercise. Exercise is supposed to make you feel better. Walking on eggshells certainly won't!Whether the #Hijackal you're with is of the narcissistic, sociopathic, passive-aggressive, histrionic, or borderline variety, keeping you on edge is their specialty. When you are on edge, they feel powerful, right? That means they are scooping up your power, and it's time to stop letting them.But, how? In today's episode, I give you four BIG...2018-12-0118 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsWhat Emotional Abuse Is & Its Impact On Your Life - Dr. Rhoberta ShalerAbuse is any behavior that is designed to control or dominate another person. Whether that is through fear, humiliation, intimidation, isolation, guilt, blaming, manipulation, or denial, it is abuse, emotional abuse.When you were little, your brain was still growing. You instinctively knew that you had to keep your parents--The Giants--happy so that they would feed and protect you. At least, that's what you hoped.Many children, though, are emotionally abused. As adults, they often don't really see it and its impact on their lives and relationships. Today, I want...2018-11-2424 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships3 Assertive Things To Do When Your Partner or Parent Refuses to Take Responsibility with Dr. Rhoberta ShalerSAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor3 ASSERTIVE THINGS TO DO WHEN YOUR PARTNER REFUSES TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY It's so infuriating, right? A difficult partner, or parent, refuses to take responsibility for anything that isn't praise-worthy. S/he will step right in if they can take credit for something good, though. But, when something goes sideways, it's all you, all your fault , right?You don't mean to, but you may well be enabling that difficult person, that #Hijackal. Enabling is s...2018-11-1714 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyThe Impact of Emotional Abuse on Children and The Adults They Become. GUEST: Dr. Jonice WebbEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorUNDERSTANDING THE IMPACT OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE AND NEGLECT ON CHILDREN...AND ON THE ADULTS THEY BECOME.GUEST: DR. JONICE WEBB, Author of the first book written on Childhood Emotional Neglect ( CEN )In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER asks: "Do you recognize what emotional abuse of children is? It's much more than you might think."Abuse is any behavior that is designed to control or dominate another person. Whether that...2018-10-0300 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyThe Impact of Emotional Abuse on Children and The Adults They Become. GUEST: Dr. Jonice WebbEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorUNDERSTANDING THE IMPACT OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE AND NEGLECT ON CHILDREN...AND ON THE ADULTS THEY BECOME.GUEST: DR. JONICE WEBB, Author of the first book written on Childhood Emotional Neglect ( CEN )In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER asks: "Do you recognize what emotional abuse of children is? It's much more than you might think."Abuse is any behavior that is designed to control or dominate another person. Whether that...2018-10-0341 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyGo for the Gold. Be a Leader in Your Own Life. GUEST: Lisa Marie PlatskeEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorGO FOR THE GOLD. BE A LEADER IN YOUR OWN LIFEGUEST: LISA MARIE PLATSKE, AWARD-WINNING LEADERSHIP EXPERTDR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Four Important Principles To Achieve the Results You Want Today, I'm sharing four important--actually essential--principles to grow your business, increase your effectiveness, and create relationships you most want. Tall order...and, these work!You've heard that "attitude is everything." There's truth in that...2018-09-2600 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyGo for the Gold. Be a Leader in Your Own Life. GUEST: Lisa Marie PlatskeEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorGO FOR THE GOLD. BE A LEADER IN YOUR OWN LIFEGUEST: LISA MARIE PLATSKE, AWARD-WINNING LEADERSHIP EXPERTDR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Four Important Principles To Achieve the Results You Want Today, I'm sharing four important--actually essential--principles to grow your business, increase your effectiveness, and create relationships you most want. Tall order...and, these work!You've heard that "attitude is everything." There's truth in that, and w...2018-09-2641 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyGot Energy Leaks? Procrastination? Denial? Resentment? Forgiveness? GUEST: Brenda AdelmanEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorStop Emotional Energy Leaks! What About Forgiveness?GUEST: Brenda Adelman, Acclaimed Actor. Author. Recipient of Hero of Forgiveness Award. ---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Do You Have Unfinished Business from Emotional Energy Leaks? What are emotional energy leaks?procrastinationdenialresentmentsgrudgesunresolved relationship issuesfor a few! Which ones are plaguing you?Rhoberta gives you insights into why you may be keeping these leaks in place...2018-08-2900 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyGot Energy Leaks? Procrastination? Denial? Resentment? Forgiveness? GUEST: Brenda AdelmanEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorStop Emotional Energy Leaks! What About Forgiveness?GUEST: Brenda Adelman, Acclaimed Actor. Author. Recipient of Hero of Forgiveness Award. ---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Do You Have Unfinished Business from Emotional Energy Leaks? What are emotional energy leaks?procrastinationdenialresentmentsgrudgesunresolved relationship issuesfor a few! Which ones are plaguing you?Rhoberta gives you insights into why you may be keeping these leaks in place, and w...2018-08-2945 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyWhat About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family GUEST: Jeff JonesEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorWhat About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family GGUEST: Jeff Jones, therapist, addiction counselor, interventionist, and family recovery coach. ---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How to Give Up, Give Back, and Recover From Shame Have you ever felt shame? Been shamed? If you haven't, you've been extremely fortunate. Most people have. Shame is when someone does their best to make you feel small, un...2018-08-2246 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyWhat About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family GUEST: Jeff JonesEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorWhat About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family GGUEST: Jeff Jones, therapist, addiction counselor, interventionist, and family recovery coach. ---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How to Give Up, Give Back, and Recover From Shame Have you ever felt shame? Been shamed? If you haven't, you've been extremely fortunate. Most people have. Shame is when someone does their best to make you...2018-08-2200 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships3 Big Reasons Hijackals® Never Stop and Why You MUSTSAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor3 BIG REASONS WHY HIJACKALS® NEVER STOP AND WHY YOU MUST! Hijackals put you down, wear you down, and tear you down. They have to, in their minds because, at deep levels, you are THE competition!You are not, but they behave as though you are. And, no amount of assuring them, caring for them—or pandering to them—will change this. So, you have to change, because they won’t! Today, I...2018-08-1817 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyAbundance, Prosperity & Tapping Into The Body-Mind Connection GUEST: Jolen PhilbrookEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorAbundance, Prosperity & Tapping Into The Body-Mind Connection GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Prosperity Starts Between Your Ears Sometimes, people are surprised when I talk about prosperity and relationship in the same sentence or breath. They simply haven't connected the two. Today, I'm talking about where prosperity is actually created: between your ears. And, then, how that actually plays out in your daily life.2018-08-1453 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyAbundance, Prosperity & Tapping Into The Body-Mind Connection GUEST: Jolen PhilbrookEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorAbundance, Prosperity & Tapping Into The Body-Mind Connection GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert---------------------------------------------DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Prosperity Starts Between Your Ears Sometimes, people are surprised when I talk about prosperity and relationship in the same sentence or breath. They simply haven't connected the two. Today, I'm talking about where prosperity is actually created: between your ears. And, then, how that actually plays out in your...2018-08-1400 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsIs It Actually Competition That's Ruining Your Relationship?SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorIS IT ACTUALLY COMPETITION THAT'S RUINING YOUR RELATIONSHIP? ARE YOU MORE FRENEMIES THAN FRIENDS? There's nothing attractive, compelling, or safe about competition in a relationship that is not on a playing field, in a pool, or a ring. It's destructive and exhausting. VERY IMPORTANT to recognize if competition is what's at the core of a relationship that doesn't feel safe.Do you feel safe in your relationship? Are you relaxed and s...2018-08-1115 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyLove, Dump, Or...? What About Radical Acceptance? GUEST: Andrea MillerEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorLove, Dump, Or, ...? What About Radical Acceptance? GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How Do You Create and Experience Acceptance in Your LIfe?You want to be seen, heard, known, acknowledged, appreciated, and accepted in life. By your parents. By your partner. By others in your world. Not everyone is willing or capable of doing that. I've written about this more in my b...2018-08-0953 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyLove, Dump, Or...? What About Radical Acceptance? GUEST: Andrea MillerEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorLove, Dump, Or, ...? What About Radical Acceptance? GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How Do You Create and Experience Acceptance in Your LIfe?You want to be seen, heard, known, acknowledged, appreciated, and accepted in life. By your parents. By your partner. By others in your world. Not everyone is willing or capable of doing that. I've written about this more in...2018-08-0900 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyIntimacy, Pleasure, and How to Get More of Both GUEST: Rabbi Manis FriedmanEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorIntimacy, Pleasure, and How to Get More of Both GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore?DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Creating and Enriching Emotional Intimacy with your Partner"The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated." ~ William James Emotional intimacy allows you to feel appreciated--and known, seen, heard, accepted, and acknowledged, too. When that is not present i...2018-08-0246 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyIntimacy, Pleasure, and How to Get More of Both GUEST: Rabbi Manis FriedmanEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorIntimacy, Pleasure, and How to Get More of Both GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore?DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Creating and Enriching Emotional Intimacy with your Partner"The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated." ~ William James Emotional intimacy allows you to feel appreciated--and known, seen, heard, accepted, and acknowledged, too. When that is not...2018-08-0200 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyWhat About Unconditional Love and Creating Peace? GUEST: Swami Sadashiva TirthaEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorWhat About Unconditional Love and Creating Peace in Relationships?GUEST: Swami Sadashiva Tirtha, The Orange Cowboy, host of the TV show, Talking with Our AngelsDR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Four Scary Reasons Unconditional Love May be a Dangerous Myth "Wait! Don't run away. I'm not taking away the idea of unconditional love. Hear me out...please. " ~ Dr. Rhoberta Shaler In today's episode, Dr. Shaler steps way out...2018-07-2537 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyWhat About Unconditional Love and Creating Peace? GUEST: Swami Sadashiva TirthaEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorWhat About Unconditional Love and Creating Peace in Relationships?GUEST: Swami Sadashiva Tirtha, The Orange Cowboy, host of the TV show, Talking with Our AngelsDR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Four Scary Reasons Unconditional Love May be a Dangerous Myth "Wait! Don't run away. I'm not taking away the idea of unconditional love. Hear me out...please. " ~ Dr. Rhoberta Shaler In today's episode, Dr. Shaler steps way out...2018-07-2500 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships4 Questions To Ask Yourself To Not Miss Emotional Red FlagsSAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor4 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF TO NOT MISS EMOTIONAL RED FLAGSDo you live on the edge, knowing that at any minute you could suffer from a stinger, a snide comment, or a cold shoulder from your partner, parent, or other difficult person?Are disdain and disapproval always waiting in the wings?Are you generally on-guard and waiting for the other shoe to drop?Those are feelings you have w...2018-07-2317 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyCreating a Safe Place to Love Yourself GUEST: Pernilla LillaroseEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorCreating A Safe Place To Love Yourself...and Doing It GUEST: Pernilla Lillarose, Hakomi Therapist, Self-Love Mentor, and Founder of Young Women Empowerment Circle DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:In today's episode, Dr. Shaler talks about what the term, "self-love" really means. We hear it spoken of so frequently that we may not think about what it actually means. It's not about being vain, arrogant, conceited, or self-centered. It's a very positive thing...2018-07-1849 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyCreating a Safe Place to Love Yourself GUEST: Pernilla LillaroseEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorCreating A Safe Place To Love Yourself...and Doing It GUEST: Pernilla Lillarose, Hakomi Therapist, Self-Love Mentor, and Founder of Young Women Empowerment Circle DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:In today's episode, Dr. Shaler talks about what the term, "self-love" really means. We hear it spoken of so frequently that we may not think about what it actually means. It's not about being vain, arrogant, conceited, or self-centered. It's a very positive thing...2018-07-1800 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsIs Your Hijackal® Partner Difficult, or Actually Dangerous?SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorIs Your Hijackal® Partner Difficult, Or Actually Dangerous? Being with a Hijackal is a little like being part of that urban legend of cooking frogs: you don't notice the dysfunction and abuse because the heat is slowly turned up. And, then? You're cooked! You want to believe that a Hijackal can change. In fact, most people in relationship with these difficult, toxic people are good people who want to believe that if they lo...2018-07-0115 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships5 Telling Things People Say That Show Their Passive-Aggressive SidesSAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor5 Telling Things People Say That Show Their Passive-Aggressive SidesWhen you experience passive-aggressive behavior from someone, it messes with your head. You question yourself. You second-guess yourself. It's crazy-making. A passive-aggressive behavior pattern in someone leaves you feeling confused, second-guessing yourself, and questioning your sanity. "Did I? Didn't I? I thought I did. I thought we agreed. Didn't we?" Sound familiar?You know about Hijackals® from my books and podcasts. On...2018-06-2611 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyHow to Speak Up Powerfully When You Want Things to Change GUEST: Tina DietzEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorHow to Speak Up Powerfully When You Want Things to Change - Episode 44GUEST: Tina Dietz, Speaker, Audiobook Publisher, Podcast Producer, Content Marketing Expert DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:In today's episode, Dr. Shaler shares compelling ideas about how you can be keeping yourself from having the life and relationships you most want.What's getting in your way? What's stopping you? Do you know? Stop and think about it...seriously....2018-06-1944 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyHow to Speak Up Powerfully When You Want Things to Change GUEST: Tina DietzEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorHow to Speak Up Powerfully When You Want Things to Change - Episode 44GUEST: Tina Dietz, Speaker, Audiobook Publisher, Podcast Producer, Content Marketing Expert DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:In today's episode, Dr. Shaler shares compelling ideas about how you can be keeping yourself from having the life and relationships you most want.What's getting in your way? What's stopping you? Do you know? Stop and think about...2018-06-1900 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyChange Your Life with Powerful Self-Talk & Heart-Centered Focus GUEST: Candy BaroneEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorChange Your Life with Powerful Self-Talk & Heart-Centered Focus - Episode 43GUEST: Candy Barone of You Empowered Strong: YES! Catalyst and change agentDR. RHOBERTA SHALER:In today's episode, Dr. Shaler shares compelling ideas about how you can be keeping yourself from having the life and relationships you most want.What's getting in your way? What's stopping you? Do you know? Stop and think about it...seriously.2018-06-1345 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyChange Your Life with Powerful Self-Talk & Heart-Centered Focus GUEST: Candy BaroneEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorChange Your Life with Powerful Self-Talk & Heart-Centered Focus - Episode 43GUEST: Candy Barone of You Empowered Strong: YES! Catalyst and change agentDR. RHOBERTA SHALER:In today's episode, Dr. Shaler shares compelling ideas about how you can be keeping yourself from having the life and relationships you most want.What's getting in your way? What's stopping you? Do you know? Stop and think about it...seriously.2018-06-1300 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships7 Warning Signs and Wake-Up Calls That Your Partner is MORE Than SelfishSAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor7 WARNING SIGNS AND WAKE-UP CALLS THAT YOUR PARTNER MAY BE MORE THAN SELFISH You excuse. You rationalize. You justify. And, repeat. You think that if you are more understanding, loving, compassionate, or giving then the demands will stop. Not if you're with a Hijackal®! That's why it's so important to know if that's the case.And, I've written a free ebook for you to find out. How To Spot A Hijackal. Get it HE...2018-06-1013 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyHelp! What About the Money When Thinking About Divorce? GUEST: Michelle JacobikEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorHELP! What About The Money When Thinking About Divorce - Episode 41GUEST: Michelle Jacobik, author of Prosperity After DivorceDR. RHOBERTA SHALER:In this episode, Dr. Shaler introduces a new topic: prosperity. This is the first time she's addressed this.As you know, Dr. Shaler has written many books, and one called "What You Pay Attention To Expands" offers the keys to understanding how powerful your mind is...2018-05-3044 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyHelp! What About the Money When Thinking About Divorce? GUEST: Michelle JacobikEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorHELP! What About The Money When Thinking About Divorce - Episode 41GUEST: Michelle Jacobik, author of Prosperity After DivorceDR. RHOBERTA SHALER:In this episode, Dr. Shaler introduces a new topic: prosperity. This is the first time she's addressed this.As you know, Dr. Shaler has written many books, and one called "What You Pay Attention To Expands" offers the keys to understanding how powerful your mind is...2018-05-3000 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships12 Signs You Are in a Love/Hate Relationship And Need HelpSAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS® with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorThere is something wrong, something off, in your relationship. You can feel it, and you may not be quite able to put words to it, to describe it to yourself even. Yet, you know it's not right!Good start! Go with your gut!Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic, disturbing--and often dangerous--people, have "tells." Those are the signs that you need to see as early as possible...even if that happens after you've been wi...2018-05-1915 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyHow to Leave a Hijackal With Your Spiritual Self Intact GUEST: Lily SandersEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorHOW TO LEAVE A HIJACKAL WITH YOUR SPIRITUAL SELF INTACT - Episode 38GUEST: Lily Sanders, Author of Truth to Triumph: A Spiritual Guide to Finding Your TruthDR. RHOBERTA SHALER:You've likely not happy when you blurt something out, and think better of it later, right?You want to have the presence of mind to be your best self, even in the face of irrationality, rudeness, and toxicity.2018-05-0839 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyHow to Leave a Hijackal With Your Spiritual Self Intact GUEST: Lily SandersEMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorHOW TO LEAVE A HIJACKAL WITH YOUR SPIRITUAL SELF INTACT - Episode 38GUEST: Lily Sanders, Author of Truth to Triumph: A Spiritual Guide to Finding Your TruthDR. RHOBERTA SHALER:You've likely not happy when you blurt something out, and think better of it later, right?You want to have the presence of mind to be your best self, even in the face of irrationality, rudeness, and toxicity.2018-05-0800 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyHow To Live With Few Regrets & Move Towards Success GUEST: Scott KimbroThe Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorHOW TO LIVE WITH FEW REGRETS AND MOVE TOWARDS SUCCESSHighlights: Dr. Shaler talks about "Are You Mistaking Activity for Progress?"Guest: Scott Kimbro, Author of SubmUrgency: How To Live & Die Without Regrets Dr. Shaler offers her own tricks on how to stop wasting time on regrets __________________________________________________________________________________________Moving towards success is never a straightforward path...at least, not for most people. There are curves, sidelines, and...2018-04-0400 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyHow To Live With Few Regrets & Move Towards Success GUEST: Scott KimbroThe Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorHOW TO LIVE WITH FEW REGRETS AND MOVE TOWARDS SUCCESSHighlights: Dr. Shaler talks about "Are You Mistaking Activity for Progress?"Guest: Scott Kimbro, Author of SubmUrgency: How To Live & Die Without Regrets Dr. Shaler offers her own tricks on how to stop wasting time on regrets __________________________________________________________________________________________Moving towards success is never a straightforward path...at least, not for most people. There are curves, sidelines, and setbacks...2018-04-0458 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyIs Your Family History Ruining Your Relationship Life? GUEST: Johanna LynnRelationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorDr. Shaler opens the show with thoughts on things you might believe about yourself if you were raised by a Hijackal®Guest, Johanna Lynn, Clinical HypnotherapistAll that happened to you in life affects everything that is currently happening in your life. If you are not getting the results in life and relationships that you want, then, you want to listen to this episode for sure. Dr. Shaler talks about a common iss...2018-03-2800 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyIs Your Family History Ruining Your Relationship Life? GUEST: Johanna LynnRelationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorDr. Shaler opens the show with thoughts on things you might believe about yourself if you were raised by a Hijackal®Guest, Johanna Lynn, Clinical HypnotherapistAll that happened to you in life affects everything that is currently happening in your life. If you are not getting the results in life and relationships that you want, then, you want to listen to this episode for sure. Dr. Shaler talks about a common issue: hoping someone will bring up a dif...2018-03-2859 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsTips for Divorcing a Hijackal® When Children are Involved - Dr. Rhoberta ShalerWhen you considering divorcing a toxic person, or when you ARE divorcing a #Hijackal, and you have children, there are many considerations that might be important in other divorces.#Hijackals MUST win. They don't really want the children as much as they want to have control over whether or not you have them. And, of course, they want control over the children, too. People--you and the children, in particular--are what we call "supply" to Hijackals. You supply them with validation, attention, interest, and all other things each one needs to feel large and in charge.2018-03-2311 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyHow to Manage Uncertainty, Ambiguity and Chaos in Relationships GUEST: Dr. Dennis Merritt-JonesThe Relationship Help Show with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor HOW TO MANAGE UNCERTAINTY, AMBIGUITY & CHAOS IN RELATIONSHIPS Toxic people thrive on--and, therefore create--uncertainty, ambiguity and chaos. That's how they gain power and control over people, conversations, and circumstances. Today's show will help you see where and how you are being controlled by uncertainty...even when you don't think it's possible.Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives you strategies for safely saying what you mean, at the time it needs to be said. Guest, Dr De...2018-03-2100 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyHow to Manage Uncertainty, Ambiguity and Chaos in Relationships GUEST: Dr. Dennis Merritt-JonesThe Relationship Help Show with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor HOW TO MANAGE UNCERTAINTY, AMBIGUITY & CHAOS IN RELATIONSHIPS Toxic people thrive on--and, therefore create--uncertainty, ambiguity and chaos. That's how they gain power and control over people, conversations, and circumstances. Today's show will help you see where and how you are being controlled by uncertainty...even when you don't think it's possible.Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives you strategies for safely saying what you mean, at the time it needs to be said. Guest, Dr Dennis Merritt-Jones, aut...2018-03-2159 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsBONUS Q & A Should I take my Hijackal partner back again? Dr. Rhoberta ShalerYou parted ways with a toxic partner, a #Hijackal, maybe a narcissist.And, now s/he has come back, promising to be different and professing undying love?Or, you were discarded by a toxic partner.And, now you're lonely and hurting, and thinking that maybe it was all that bad?You're thinking of apologizing for nothing you did wrong because you're trauma-bonded.You know the answer is a flat-out "NO!" but I know that's not always easy to pull off.Today's episode gives you some...2018-03-2105 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyIs That Passive-Aggressive? GUEST: Dr. Ganz FerranceEMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOWwith Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorIs the behavior you're upset about passive-aggressive? Dr. Shaler gives you tips for recognizing and managing passive-aggressive behaviors. They can be so frustrating and infuriating. Respond well to passive-aggressive behavior. If you don't, it will continue, and the relationship will stay stuck!Guest: Dr. Ganz Ferrance talks about men and his book, The ME Factor: Your Systematic Guide to Getting What the Hell You Want.#1 Introduction to Episode 35#2 What is Passive-Aggressive Behavior? D...2018-03-141h 00Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyIs That Passive-Aggressive? GUEST: Dr. Ganz FerranceEMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOWwith Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorIs the behavior you're upset about passive-aggressive? Dr. Shaler gives you tips for recognizing and managing passive-aggressive behaviors. They can be so frustrating and infuriating. Respond well to passive-aggressive behavior. If you don't, it will continue, and the relationship will stay stuck!Guest: Dr. Ganz Ferrance talks about men and his book, The ME Factor: Your Systematic Guide to Getting What the Hell You Want.#1 Introduction to Episode 35#2 What is Passive-Aggressive Behavior? 2018-03-1400 minSave Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsBONUS Q&A: How to Stop Second-Guessing Yourself Dr. Rhoberta Shaler#Hijackals, those relentlessly difficult, toxic people, want you to feel unsure of yourself. Keeping you on guard and off balance gives them a sense of power and control. I'm sure you don't want to give another person power and control over:who you arehow you arewhat you dowhat you thinkwhat you feelwhat you needwhat you wantand what you remember.Am I right? I'm sure I am. You're an adult and you deserve to be in a relationship that is equal, reciprocal, and mutual. Anything less than that is not...2018-03-1408 minSave Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsBONUS: What is Passive-Aggressive Behavior, Really? Dr. Rhoberta ShalerPassive-aggressive behavior will drive you slowly round the bend!Foot-dragging, procrastinating, truth-evading behaviors! Crazy-making!Passive-aggressive people are often fearful of telling their truth the first time out. They will tell you what you want to hear in the moment, and then, when they don't follow through, they try and blame you for it. Crazy-making!I've written a few books on #passive aggression and I invite you to have a look here on my Amazon page:https://www.amazon.com/s?k=%22rhoberta+shaler%22&crid=2XI4F84XB7QS3&qid=1577601563...2018-03-1406 minSave Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsBONUS: How Can I Learn to Trust ? Part 2 Dr. Rhoberta ShalerTrust often seems impossible, but trust is absolutely necessary for a relationship to be successful.It's important to be able to calibrate your level of trust within a relationship consciously.Today, I'm using a example of how trust became a major issue in a mediation within a corporate team. Imagine how that translates into a love relationship.All the denial in the world cannot cover up the effects of a lack of trust.Are you able to trust yourself?Are you able to trust your partner? 2018-03-0708 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyDo Hijackals Become Wonderful With A New Partner? GUEST: Bree BonchayEMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOWwith Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorHOW CAN I LEARN TO TRUST? Part 2Today. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler offers further insights into learning to trust, and learning to trust AGAIN. Trust is such an essential element in a healthy relationship. You may have had previous experiences with folks in your life where you sadly learned you could not trust them. This tends to color your new relationships. Dr. Shaler offers insights to help you gain a new perspective on building trust...2018-03-0757 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyDo Hijackals Become Wonderful With A New Partner? GUEST: Bree BonchayEMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOWwith Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorHOW CAN I LEARN TO TRUST? Part 2Today. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler offers further insights into learning to trust, and learning to trust AGAIN. Trust is such an essential element in a healthy relationship. You may have had previous experiences with folks in your life where you sadly learned you could not trust them. This tends to color your new relationships. Dr. Shaler offers insights to help you gain a new perspective on building trust...2018-03-0700 minSave Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsBONUS Q&A How to reduce the conflict and craziness in a relationship Dr. Rhoberta ShalerIs conflict something to be avoided? Are you uncomfortable around conflict?How do you know when to confront? Will you confront a difficulty head-on?What about when someone's behavior is crazy-making, or someone's behavior is confusing? What about when you're with a toxic person, when you're with a #Hijackal? Today's answer is to a question about setting boundaries with a person who is always blaming? #Hijackals make everything your fault. #Hijackals see you as prey. You're not. Good...2018-02-2808 minSave Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsBONUS: How Can I Learn to Trust? - Part 1 Dr. Rhoberta ShalerHow do you learn to trust? How did you learn when you were young?Were you able to trust when young?Who did you trust? All the answers to those questions can be basic to how you trust others now. And, to your ability to trust yourself, too!If you've been with a difficult person, a toxic person, your ability to trust and your willingness to trust will need some attention. Today's BONUS episode is a start.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory...2018-02-2704 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyLearn to Say NO! to Toxic People GUEST: Laura RubinsteinEMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOWwith Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorNew insights on how to find love and support within yourself, to commit to creating and maintaining your healthy, safe life with other humans. Do You Want to Feel Showered with Appreciation? Do these things. Insights from Dr. Rhoberta ShalerGuest Conversation with Laura Rubinstein - Learn to Say No. What it Takes and Why We're Reluctant to Do ItToxic people, difficult people, push you to d...2018-02-211h 07Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyLearn to Say NO! to Toxic People GUEST: Laura RubinsteinEMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOWwith Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorNew insights on how to find love and support within yourself, to commit to creating and maintaining your healthy, safe life with other humans. Do You Want to Feel Showered with Appreciation? Do these things. Insights from Dr. Rhoberta ShalerGuest Conversation with Laura Rubinstein - Learn to Say No. What it Takes and Why We're Reluctant to Do ItToxic people, difficult people, push you...2018-02-2100 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyLove Yourself, Tune Up Your Self-Confidence, & Step Out! Dr. Rhoberta ShalerEMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOWwith Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorValentine's Day Show: It All Starts With Loving Yourself.Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives you insights, wisdom, and great tips for jumpstarting self-confidence. It Happened To Me - True Stories: Wendy Newman - Dating a Wealthy Man and Oops!Do you really need a new love story? It starts with you.What You Really Need to Have a Great RelationshipTune In and Turn Up Your S...2018-02-141h 04Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyLove Yourself, Tune Up Your Self-Confidence, & Step Out! Dr. Rhoberta ShalerEMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOWwith Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorValentine's Day Show: It All Starts With Loving Yourself.Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives you insights, wisdom, and great tips for jumpstarting self-confidence. It Happened To Me - True Stories: Wendy Newman - Dating a Wealthy Man and Oops!Do you really need a new love story? It starts with you.What You Really Need to Have a Great RelationshipTune In and Turn Up...2018-02-1400 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsBONUS: "It Happened To Me" - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler's storyToday's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor "It Happened To Me" is a feature of the Save Your Sanity podcast. Guests tell their real life stories of life with Hijackals. Whether they loved on, lived with one, left one, or were raised by one, you'll relate to their experiences, and hear how they found ways to move positively forward.Today, it's Dr. Shaler's own story.Would you like to come on air and tell your "It Happened To M...2018-01-0308 min
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsSpirituality, Hijackals & You Dr. Rhoberta ShalerI'm asked so many times, "Am I going against spiritual principles to keep myself safe from my abusive spouse?" So, I wanted to answer that in an episode for you, to share my thoughts on this matter.Some people are paralyzed by their indecision about staying or going. They have an eternal argument in their minds about "what's right" and how to reconcile their spiritual beliefs with the abuse they see and feel.It is never right to be abused, or to allow someone to be continuously abusive towards you...2017-12-2710 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyStop the Toxic Dance and Recognize Hijackals® with Dr. Rhoberta ShalerEMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOWwith Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorToday's episode is all Dr. Shaler. She created the non-clinical term, Hijackals®, to give everyone a way to talk about the patterns, traits, and cycles of people with tendencies towards personality disorders.It's important to recognize when you're with a Hijackal. If you don't, you will think that everything in the relationship is your fault, because that's what the Hijackal tells you. You'll soon be making yourself into a people-pleasing pretzel, trying to be good enough. And, i...2017-12-2658 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyStop the Toxic Dance and Recognize Hijackals® with Dr. Rhoberta ShalerEMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOWwith Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorToday's episode is all Dr. Shaler. She created the non-clinical term, Hijackals®, to give everyone a way to talk about the patterns, traits, and cycles of people with tendencies towards personality disorders.It's important to recognize when you're with a Hijackal. If you don't, you will think that everything in the relationship is your fault, because that's what the Hijackal tells you. You'll soon be making yourself into a people-pleasing pretzel, trying to be good enough. And, i...2017-12-2600 minSave Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsBONUS: Should I Stay or Should I Go? Dr. Rhoberta ShalerBig question. Knowing the answer takes a whole lot of thinking…unless, of course, there is physical or sexual abuse.Then, there is only one answer: GO. Go to the police. Go to the court. Go to any lengths you need to protect yourself and your children. GO.For most of you, though, going or staying is not black or white. It’s a whole lot of grey that travels from close to white some days, to too close to black others.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for...2017-12-2107 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyHijackals & Spirituality. Guest: Dr. Dennis Merritt-JonesEMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOWwith Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorGuest, Dr. Dennis Merritt-JonesIntro - Hijackals, Power, and SpiritualityUnconditional Love Can Be a Very Dangerous Myth with a Hijackal in Your LifeGUEST:Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones - Part 1 Becoming Who You Were Born to BeDr. Dennis Merritt-Jones - Part 2 Spirituality is Not About Having Power Over PeopleDr. Rhoberta Shaler - Spirituality, Hijackals, and You. What To Do.2017-12-1900 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyHijackals & Spirituality. Guest: Dr. Dennis Merritt-JonesEMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOWwith Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorGuest, Dr. Dennis Merritt-JonesIntro - Hijackals, Power, and SpiritualityUnconditional Love Can Be a Very Dangerous Myth with a Hijackal in Your LifeGUEST:Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones - Part 1 Becoming Who You Were Born to BeDr. Dennis Merritt-Jones - Part 2 Spirituality is Not About Having Power Over PeopleDr. Rhoberta Shaler - Spirituality, Hijackals, and You. What To Do.2017-12-1955 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyRecognizing Relationship Predators: Dr. Rhoberta ShalerHave You Become the Unwitting Prey of a HIjackal® Predator?SEG 2 - Jan: I Knew Better But I Married Him AnywaySEG 3 - Hijackals are Predators - Pt 1. Dr. Rhoberta ShalerSEG 4 - Hijackals are Predators - Pt 2 Dr. Rhoberta ShalerSEG 5 - Dating Red Flags That Mean Long-Term Relationship TroubleCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp2017-12-1356 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyRecognizing Relationship Predators: Dr. Rhoberta ShalerHave You Become the Unwitting Prey of a HIjackal® Predator?SEG 2 - Jan: I Knew Better But I Married Him AnywaySEG 3 - Hijackals are Predators - Pt 1. Dr. Rhoberta ShalerSEG 4 - Hijackals are Predators - Pt 2 Dr. Rhoberta ShalerSEG 5 - Dating Red Flags That Mean Long-Term Relationship TroubleCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerY...2017-12-1300 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyHow to See Red Flags of Dating Disasters Guest: Lorna PooleEMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOWwith Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorGuest, Lorna Poole - Going from Dating Disaster to Finding Long-Time LoveHow's Your Dating Radar? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you see why you may be missing red flagsGuest, Dating Coach Lorna Poole, talks candidly how dating disasters woke her up to what she really wanted and how she found long-time love and what it took to get it.More about Lorna PooleShe is...2017-11-2800 min
Transforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyHow to See Red Flags of Dating Disasters Guest: Lorna PooleEMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOWwith Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorGuest, Lorna Poole - Going from Dating Disaster to Finding Long-Time LoveHow's Your Dating Radar? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you see why you may be missing red flagsGuest, Dating Coach Lorna Poole, talks candidly how dating disasters woke her up to what she really wanted and how she found long-time love and what it took to get it.More about Lorna PooleShe is...2017-11-2858 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyDifficult or Dangerous? Dr. Rhoberta ShalerEMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOWwith Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorA new season begins! New format, new guests!Seg 1 - 6 minutes Intro to EpisodeSeg 2 - Q & A Filed for DivorceSeg 3 - What's up? Power in Positions - Harvey WeinsteinSeg 4 - Is Your Relationship Difficult or Dangerous?Seg 5 - Have You Given Up Your Boundaries?CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor...2017-11-0100 minTransforming Relationship with Emotional SavvyDifficult or Dangerous? Dr. Rhoberta ShalerEMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOWwith Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help DoctorA new season begins! New format, new guests!Seg 1 - 6 minutes Intro to EpisodeSeg 2 - Q & A Filed for DivorceSeg 3 - What's up? Power in Positions - Harvey WeinsteinSeg 4 - Is Your Relationship Difficult or Dangerous?Seg 5 - Have You Given Up Your Boundaries?CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/Rho...2017-11-0154 minSave Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsBONUS: Are You Looking for a Fight? Dr. Rhoberta ShalerSometimes you're speaking up about something you believe in. Other times, you want to fight and use a topic to make it happen. Can you tell the difference?Don't be "that person" who is always gunning for an argument, or purposefully trying to get a rise out of their partner. That is bad behavior and totally un-loving.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/Rho...2016-12-2307 minSave Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsBONUS: Recognize a high-conflict person in a relationship. Dr. Rhoberta ShalerHigh-conflict people - there's always drama but you can't pin it down. I talk about my term, #Hijackals, for these relentlessly difficult people, these toxic people. It's important to be able to recognize them as soon as possible, whether you've been with one for ten years or ten hours! Listen to this episode of For Relationship Help and learn the other signs that signal a high-conflict person.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.c...2016-12-1007 minSave Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsBONUS: Why Do I Get So Angry? Dr. Rhoberta ShalerAnger is a challenging feeling AND something you can manage. In ANY relationship, it's super-important to be capable of recognizing and managing your anger while still acknowledging your feelings and getting to the real source of the issue.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp#relationshipadvice #tipsfo...2016-11-0902 minSave Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsBONUS: How To Stop Blaming. Dr. Rhoberta ShalerBlame can be destructive to your relationships. If you find yourself blaming your partner, listen to this podcast episode with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopto...2016-10-2107 minSave Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsBONUS: Q&A Listener questions answered by Rhoberta Shaler, PhDListeners can submit questions. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD answers many common questions in these videos.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 --------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!Learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships.Join my Optimize Circles now.Discussion groups safely off social media + videos + articles + webinars + 21 Steps to Empowering Emotional Savvy personal home study program delivered by email + group Ask Me...2016-10-2025 minSave Your Sanity - Help for Toxic RelationshipsBONUS: Trapped By A Hijackal? Robert Imbriale intervews Dr. Rhoberta ShalerMy friend and colleague, Robert Imbriale, interviewed me recently about what it means to be trapped by a #Hijackal.We had a great talk as Robert had some fundamental questions, and insightful questions, about being in a relationship with a #narcissist or someone with narcissistic tendencies, and behaviors.Are you feeling always blamed?Are your thoughts feelings dismissed?You may be dealing with a relentlessly difficult, toxic person. I call them "Hijackals®." You can find them in the workplace but they are more likely to be difficult at home w...2016-08-3134 min