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Pure Desire Podcast413 - Anchored in Hope: A Conversation with Dr. Sheri Denham KefferIn this powerful and deeply compassionate episode, Dr. Sheri Denham Keffer joins us to explore the theme Anchored in Hope—a lifeline for those navigating the stormy waters of sexual betrayal, trauma, and addiction. With wisdom drawn from years of walking alongside individuals in pain, Dr. Sheri unpacks how rediscovering our true identity in Christ fosters self-awareness, ignites healing, and grounds us in a hope that endures—even when it feels out of reach.We dive into practical steps for reconnecting with hope during the darkest moments, how to support loved ones in their recovery without minimizing thei...2025-06-031h 05
HomeWord with Jim BurnsEpisode 53-Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal with Dr. Sheri Denham Keffer*Trigger Warning* This episode contains adult themes around pornography and marital betrayal.For the wife whose husband was unfaithful or discovered to have a sexual addiction, you know the pain, anger, and sense of betrayal that overtakes you. Today’s guest, Dr. Sheri Denham Keffer, knows this agony all too well - and her journey through it is what led her to help women in a similar situation today. Dr. Sheri Denham Keffer received her PhD in Marriage and Family Therapy and her Master of Arts in Theology from Fuller Theological Seminary. Dr. Sheri’s al...2025-04-2447 min
New Life Live! on Oneplace.comBorderline, Emotional Abuse, and More Caller Questions from March 7, 2025Topics: Christian Walk, Borderline, Adult Children, Emotional Abuse, Separation, Reconciliation, Aging Parents Hosts: Brian Perez, Dr. Jim Burns, Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Jim talks about finishing well; pray to break the strongholds that are entangling you, love God, do the right thing, and repeat every day. 2. How do I have empathy for my adult daughter who was diagnosed as a mild sociopath with Borderline PD and is very mean to me? 3. My husband is verbally and emotionally abusive. How do I reconcile after moving out of the bedroom five weeks ago? I have been told that I...2025-03-0748 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comAddictions, Sexual Intimacy, and More Caller Questions from March 5, 2025Topics: Betrayal, Suicide, Adult Children, Estrangement, Addictions, Boundaries, Sexual Intimacy Hosts: Brian Perez, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jim Burns Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri shares what we can learn from the hedgehog effect and prickly quills. 2. My 32yo nephew lived with me and attempted suicide in my house; my daughter blames me and has cut off communication; what do I do? 3. How can I deal with old patterns from a spouse who has addictions? We separated for a while and are back together. 4. I am 56yo and my wife and I haven’t been intimate for more than a year be...2025-03-0548 min
The Covenant Eyes PodcastHealing from Betrayal Trauma: Finding Hope and Restoration with Dr. Sheri KefferAre you struggling with the pain of betrayal trauma? Do you feel lost and alone after discovering your partner's sexual acting out?In this powerful episode of The Covenant Eyes Podcast, Karen Potter and Heidi Cooper sit down with Dr. Sheri Keffer, renowned marriage and family therapist and author of "Intimate Deception," to discuss the devastating impact of betrayal trauma and offer a message of hope and healing.Dr. Keffer, a survivor herself, shares her personal journey and insights into the trauma experienced by betrayed partners. She explains what betrayal trauma is, how it manifests...2025-02-2642 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comAlcohol, Estrangement, and More Caller Questions from February 21, 2025Topics: Childhood Trauma, Alcohol, Parenting, Estrangement, Adult Children, Caregiving, Boundaries, Social Media Hosts: Brian Perez, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Becky Brown Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri talks about the wounds of omission and the wounds of commission. 2. Is there something else my friend can do to help her husband stop drinking? She is making plans to leave. 3. I have been estranged from my adult daughter for the last 3yrs and have never seen my grandkids. I feel bad I had a lot of rules when she was growing up. 4. What is my role for a sibling in assisted living who always...2025-02-2148 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: February 19, 2025Topics: Caregiving, Self-Care, Physical Abuse, Estrangement, Adult Children, Addictions, Vaping, Autism, Parenting Hosts: Brian Perez, Becky Brown, Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions & More: Becky discusses compassion fatigue and how to prevent it when we take care of others. What should I do if my daughter was physically abused by her children's father but is now back with him and has disowned me? I am helping The post New Life Live: February 19, 2025 appeared first on New Life. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/451/292025-02-1948 min
The Human Intimacy PodcastGaslighting, Lies, and Healing: The Path to Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal (Episode #54)Gaslighting, Lies, and Healing:
The Path to Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal
In this powerful episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner is joined by Dr. Sheri Denham Keffer, a nationally recognized expert on betrayal trauma and author of “Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal.” Together, they dive deep into the topic of gaslighting—what it is, how it impacts betrayed partners, and why it is often more devastating than the betrayal itself. They discuss the psychological and emotional toll of deception, blame-shifting, and minimization, and how these behaviors contribute to trauma.
D...2025-02-1941 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Power of Attachment in Healing Relationships with Geoff Steurer (Episode #53)The Power of Attachment in Healing Relationships
with Geoff Steurer
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner welcomes his longtime friend and colleague, Geoff Steurer, a licensed marriage and family therapist and expert in relational healing. Together, they dive into the crucial role of attachment in relationships, especially in the aftermath of betrayal and addiction.
The conversation explores how attachment bonds shape our experiences of intimacy, trust, and security. Geoff and Kevin discuss common attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and how they influence relationship dynamics. They a...2025-02-1239 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comSuicide, Emotional Affairs, and More Caller Questions from February 6, 2025Topics: Gaslighting, Suicide, Depression, Parent Issues, Retirement, Intimacy, Emotional Affairs Hosts: Brian Perez, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri shares a story from her first marriage that demonstrates gaslighting and blame shifting. 2. My 17yoson is struggling with suicidal ideation and wrote a note saying he doesn’t like hearing my husband and me arguing; what can we do? 3. My wife’s work is damaging her physically, but it has been hard for her to let go and retire; how can I help? 4. Although my husband is sober from porn, weed, and drinking, I don’t want t...2025-02-0648 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastBreaking Free: How to Get Unstuck from Trauma and Reclaim Your Life (Episode #52)Breaking Free:
How to Get Unstuck from Trauma and Reclaim Your Life
In this milestone 52nd episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis discuss one of the most challenging aspects of healing—getting stuck in trauma. Many individuals feel trapped in past experiences, unable to move forward despite years of therapy or self-help efforts. Trauma is not logical; it bypasses rational thought and gets stored in the body, often resurfacing in fight, flight, or freeze responses.
This episode delves into the neuroscience behind trauma, explaining implicit vs. expl...2025-02-0543 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comAffairs, Narcissists, and More Caller Questions from January 29, 2025Topics: Triggers, Adult Children, Affairs, Narcissists, Separation, Stroke, Medication, Dating, Christian Walk Hosts: Brian Perez, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Jacqui discusses why we should be curious and not furious when triggered. 2. What are my next steps after my daughter admitted she committed adultery in her 1yr marriage? 3. I left my narcissistic husband of 27yrs before Christmas; am I doing the right thing? 4. What can I do to help my sister whose husband had a stroke but refuses to take his medication? 5. My 18yo daughter went on her first date ever, but her dad doesn’t...2025-01-2948 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comPsychedelics, Affairs, and More Caller Questions from January 20, 2025Topics: Christian Walk, Connection, Adult Children, Grandparenting, Estrangement, ADD, Medication, Psychedelics, Affairs Hosts: Brian Perez, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Jacqui shares from Romans why we should lean into the relational aspects of who God is, rather than the rules. 2. My daughter asked me not to help her children’s dad, and now she is upset because I helped him by taking my grandson to the doctor. What can I do to see my grandkids? 3. My adult daughter who is nursing won’t take medication for her ADHD and wants to microdose with mushrooms. What do y...2025-01-2048 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comJealousy, Divorce, and More Caller Questions from January 15, 2025Topics: Trauma, Borderline, Jealousy, Anxiety, Boundaries, Divorce, Grief, Ministry Hosts: Brian Perez, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri discusses how vicarious trauma impacts us emotionally and relationally. 2. I have borderline personality disorder and am extremely jealous and anxious so that I don’t even want another woman talking to my husband. 3. What does it mean to detach with love? I have to detach from my ex-husband who is an addict. 4. My friend started ministries and did a lot for the Lord to help the blind community, but he just passed away; how do I take it...2025-01-1548 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comJealousy, Divorce, and More Caller Questions from January 15, 2025Topics: Trauma, Borderline, Jealousy, Anxiety, Boundaries, Divorce, Grief, Ministry Hosts: Brian Perez, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri discusses how vicarious trauma impacts us emotionally and relationally. 2. I have borderline personality disorder and am extremely jealous and anxious so that I don’t even want another woman talking to my husband. 3. What does it mean to detach with love? I have to detach from my ex-husband who is an addict. 4. My friend started ministries and did a lot for the Lord to help the blind community, but he just passed away; how do I take it...2025-01-1548 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comSexual Addiction, Medications, and More Caller Questions from December 25, 2024Topics: Anger, Bitterness, Disappointment, Teens, Parenting, Sexual Addiction, Paranoia, Medications Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Jacqui suggests the biggest gift we can give ourselves is to release ourselves from the confines of anger, bitterness, and disappointment. 2. Should I help my teen daughter regulate her anger? She has been getting angry about not being able to drive our car everywhere. 3. My husband disclosed some sexual behaviors and went to a facility where they extended his stay. 4. Are there any long-term effects from taking Zoloft? My brother told my mom he was not coming...2024-12-2548 min
New Life Live! on Oneplace.comSexual Addiction, Medications, and More Caller Questions from December 25, 2024Topics: Anger, Bitterness, Disappointment, Teens, Parenting, Sexual Addiction, Paranoia, Medications Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Jacqui suggests the biggest gift we can give ourselves is to release ourselves from the confines of anger, bitterness, and disappointment. 2. Should I help my teen daughter regulate her anger? She has been getting angry about not being able to drive our car everywhere. 3. My husband disclosed some sexual behaviors and went to a facility where they extended his stay. 4. Are there any long-term effects from taking Zoloft? My brother told my mom he was not coming...2024-12-2548 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comFather Issues, Enabling, and More Caller Questions from December 18, 2024Topics: Hope, Father Issues, Lying, Sexual Integrity, Enabling, Adult Children Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri shares the history of the song It is Well with My Soul and how it gives her hope. 2. Is it okay to be done with the relationship with my father? He was physically abusive to my mom for 40yrs and never accepted responsibility. 3. I have a pattern of being dishonest to my wife of 36yrs when I know she’s going to be angry, and I have acted out sexually. 4. How do I navigate my mother en...2024-12-1848 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comFather Issues, Enabling, and More Caller Questions from December 18, 2024Topics: Hope, Father Issues, Lying, Sexual Integrity, Enabling, Adult Children Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri shares the history of the song It is Well with My Soul and how it gives her hope. 2. Is it okay to be done with the relationship with my father? He was physically abusive to my mom for 40yrs and never accepted responsibility. 3. I have a pattern of being dishonest to my wife of 36yrs when I know she’s going to be angry, and I have acted out sexually. 4. How do I navigate my mother en...2024-12-1848 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comHolidays, Intimacy, and More Caller Questions from November 28, 2024Topics: Self-care, Siblings, Confrontation, Intimacy, Physical Abuse, Divorce Hosts: Becky Brown Dr. Sheri Keffer, Laura Mangin-McDonald Caller Questions More: 1. Laura suggests the best Christmas gift you can give is to invest in yourself so you can give all of yourself to your loved ones. 2. I used to be close to my sister, but she has been talking a lot about me behind my back; how do I handle inviting her to a holiday brunch at my house? 3. How can I find support so I can feel loved instead of tolerated? My husband and I haven’t had sex in over tw...2024-11-2848 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comHolidays, Intimacy, and More Caller Questions from November 28, 2024Hosts: Becky Brown Dr. Sheri Keffer, Laura Mangin-McDonald Caller Questions More: 1. Laura suggests the best Christmas gift you can give is to invest in yourself so you can give all of yourself to your loved ones. 2. I used to be close to my sister, but she has been talking a lot about me behind my back; how do I handle inviting her to a holiday brunch at my house? 3. How can I find support so I can feel loved instead of tolerated? My husband and I haven’t had sex in over two years, and I feel frozen; how do I...2024-11-2848 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNewlyweds, Secrets, and More Caller Questions from November 20, 2024Topics: Boundaries, Intimacy, Affairs, Newlyweds, Friendship, Secrets, Trust, Betrayal Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Laura Mangin-McDonald Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri shares insight on setting boundaries. 2. I have been married 7mos to a doctor, but we have only been intimate three times. What do I do? 3. Why do I keep on having failing friendships and meeting the wrong people? 4. I’ve been married 47yrs and saw a note on my husband’s desk that makes it look like he is talking to a therapist; I am also locked out of his email account. Do I say something to him? Sugg...2024-11-2048 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNewlyweds, Secrets, and More Caller Questions from November 20, 2024Topics: Boundaries, Intimacy, Affairs, Newlyweds, Friendship, Secrets, Trust, Betrayal Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Laura Mangin-McDonald Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri shares insight on setting boundaries. 2. I have been married 7mos to a doctor, but we have only been intimate three times. What do I do? 3. Why do I keep on having failing friendships and meeting the wrong people? 4. I’ve been married 47yrs and saw a note on my husband’s desk that makes it look like he is talking to a therapist; I am also locked out of his email account. Do I say something to him? Sugg...2024-11-2048 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comGaslighting, Sexual Addiction, and More Caller Questions from November 15, 2024Topics: Self Worth, Gaslighting, Dating, Communication, Grandparenting, Abandonment, Suicide, Sexual Addiction Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Alice Benton Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri talks about DARVO, the manipulative tactic used by people accused of wrongdoing, and how we need to trust our gut instinct. 2. As a widower dating a widow, how do we find a therapist to deal with our communication issues? I’m a vacillator and she’s an avoider. 3. I am struggling to raise three grandkids all by myself, and I am afraid my 7yo grandson wants to kill himself. 4. What should I do after I caug...2024-11-1548 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comGaslighting, Sexual Addiction, and More Caller Questions from November 15, 2024Topics: Self Worth, Gaslighting, Dating, Communication, Grandparenting, Abandonment, Suicide, Sexual Addiction Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Alice Benton Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri talks about DARVO, the manipulative tactic used by people accused of wrongdoing, and how we need to trust our gut instinct. 2. As a widower dating a widow, how do we find a therapist to deal with our communication issues? I’m a vacillator and she’s an avoider. 3. I am struggling to raise three grandkids all by myself, and I am afraid my 7yo grandson wants to kill himself. 4. What should I do after I caug...2024-11-1548 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comChildhood Trauma, Bipolar, and More Caller Questions from November 13, 2024Topics: Conflict Resolution, Parenting, Medication, Suicide, Childhood Trauma, Trust, Bipolar Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Alice Benton, Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Alice shares the true sign of relational health is how quickly repair occurs after a rupture. 2. How do I work with my husband if we disagree on giving our kids medication? My daughter struggles with suicidal ideation. 3. Around Christmas when I was 11yo, my mom went into my bedroom and shot me in the head and then blew her brains out! How do I trust anyone? 4. My wife has bipolar disorder and many of her relatives have...2024-11-1348 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comChildhood Trauma, Bipolar, and More Caller Questions from November 13, 2024Topics: Conflict Resolution, Parenting, Medication, Suicide, Childhood Trauma, Trust, Bipolar Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Alice Benton, Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Alice shares the true sign of relational health is how quickly repair occurs after a rupture. 2. How do I work with my husband if we disagree on giving our kids medication? My daughter struggles with suicidal ideation. 3. Around Christmas when I was 11yo, my mom went into my bedroom and shot me in the head and then blew her brains out! How do I trust anyone? 4. My wife has bipolar disorder and many of her relatives have...2024-11-1348 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comPhysical Abuse, Abandonment, and More Caller Questions from October 29, 2024Topics: Christian Walk, Physical Abuse, Adult Children, Schizophrenia, Abandonment, Affairs, Trust Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Jacqui shares how Jesus had to remind His disciples that God was here with them, and God is here with us in our own tough times. 2. My son-in-law is abusing my paranoid schizophrenic daughter and went to jail when he hit her in the past. Should he be reported again if she can’t support herself and her 12yo? 3. How can I get my niece to get help? Her husband doesn’t have anything to do with...2024-10-2948 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comPhysical Abuse, Abandonment, and More Caller Questions from October 29, 2024Topics: Christian Walk, Physical Abuse, Adult Children, Schizophrenia, Abandonment, Affairs, Trust Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Jacqui shares how Jesus had to remind His disciples that God was here with them, and God is here with us in our own tough times. 2. My son-in-law is abusing my paranoid schizophrenic daughter and went to jail when he hit her in the past. Should he be reported again if she can’t support herself and her 12yo? 3. How can I get my niece to get help? Her husband doesn’t have anything to do with...2024-10-2948 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comAffairs, Self-Harm, and More Caller Questions from October 23, 2024Topics: Accountability, Affairs, Separation, Dating, Grief, Self-Harm, Suicide, Church Life Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri discusses how hard it is to own what we have done that harms others. 2. My husband had an affair for over 10yrs, we’ve spent thousands of dollars on counseling, and now he only checks the boxes instead of going deeper. 3. My girlfriend broke up with me 2mos ago because her mom threatened to kill herself if she didn’t; what do I do if I’m still in love with her? 4. How can my daughter and I...2024-10-2348 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comAffairs, Self-Harm, and More Caller Questions from October 23, 2024Topics: Accountability, Affairs, Separation, Dating, Grief, Self-Harm, Suicide, Church Life Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri discusses how hard it is to own what we have done that harms others. 2. My husband had an affair for over 10yrs, we’ve spent thousands of dollars on counseling, and now he only checks the boxes instead of going deeper. 3. My girlfriend broke up with me 2mos ago because her mom threatened to kill herself if she didn’t; what do I do if I’m still in love with her? 4. How can my daughter and I...2024-10-2348 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comFear, Alcohol, and More Caller Questions from October 16, 2024Topics: Fear, Holidays, Affairs, Incarceration, Adult Children, Sexual Abuse, Dating, Alcohol Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri discusses how the upcoming holidays can produce fear of intimacy, fear of vulnerability, and fear of being re-injured. 2. What do I do to help my 32yo son who is having a baby with a married woman, and my 30yo son who is a 4-time felon? 3. I was physically and sexually abused as a child, raped when I was a teen, then I became a perpetrator myself; if people have had trauma, can they have a...2024-10-1648 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comFear, Alcohol, and More Caller Questions from October 16, 2024Topics: Fear, Holidays, Affairs, Incarceration, Adult Children, Sexual Abuse, Dating, Alcohol Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri discusses how the upcoming holidays can produce fear of intimacy, fear of vulnerability, and fear of being re-injured. 2. What do I do to help my 32yo son who is having a baby with a married woman, and my 30yo son who is a 4-time felon? 3. I was physically and sexually abused as a child, raped when I was a teen, then I became a perpetrator myself; if people have had trauma, can they have a...2024-10-1648 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comDivorce, Betrayal, and More Caller Questions from October 2, 2024Topics: Sexual Addiction, Divorce, Mother Issues, Affairs, Betrayal, Grief Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Laura Mangin-McDonald Caller Questions More: 1. Laura Mangin-McDonald shares about the big gap between what we desire and where we are. 2. My husband has a sex addiction and wants a divorce; is it a good thing for me to try to stay with him? 3. How do I deal with my mom resenting me and never being able to please her? She just had a stroke, and she’s very ugly to me. 4. For two-thirds of my life my husband sexually betrayed me; what is the best wa...2024-10-0248 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comDivorce, Betrayal, and More Caller Questions from October 2, 2024Topics: Sexual Addiction, Divorce, Mother Issues, Affairs, Betrayal, Grief Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Laura Mangin-McDonald Caller Questions More: 1. Laura Mangin-McDonald shares about the big gap between what we desire and where we are. 2. My husband has a sex addiction and wants a divorce; is it a good thing for me to try to stay with him? 3. How do I deal with my mom resenting me and never being able to please her? She just had a stroke, and she’s very ugly to me. 4. For two-thirds of my life my husband sexually betrayed me; what is the best wa...2024-10-0248 minPure Desire Podcast378 - Intimate Deception w/ Dr. Sheri Denham-KefferToday’s guest, Dr. Sheri Denham-Keffer, is the author of Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal, a therapist, and betrayed partner herself.Dr. Denham-Keffer shares insights on betrayal trauma, healing, and recovery. This episode offers hope and guidance for those facing betrayal or compulsive sexual behaviors. The discussion covers the impact of sexual deception, the importance of truth-telling, and practical steps for partners to rebuild their lives. ResourcesFull Episode On YoutubeIntimate Deception: Healing The Wounds Of Sexual BetrayalFREE MONTH Of Brave One CommunityB...2024-10-0152 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comSobriety, Elder Abuse, and More Caller Questions from September 27, 2024Topics: Christian Walk, Boundaries, Teens, Alcohol, Finances, Elder Abuse Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Jacqui discusses the burdens we carry and taking them to the Lord. 2. When my ex-husband wanted me to bail him out of jail, I turned him down. How should I treat him now? 3. My soon-to-be 18yo daughter has always been challenging to me, and she has narcissistic tendencies. 4. My 30yo nephew is struggling with alcohol; he was sober for 3mos but has recently relapsed. 5. I found out that a couple I know charged thousands on my credit card...2024-09-2748 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comSobriety, Elder Abuse, and More Caller Questions from September 27, 2024Topics: Christian Walk, Boundaries, Teens, Alcohol, Finances, Elder Abuse Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Jacqui discusses the burdens we carry and taking them to the Lord. 2. When my ex-husband wanted me to bail him out of jail, I turned him down. How should I treat him now? 3. My soon-to-be 18yo daughter has always been challenging to me, and she has narcissistic tendencies. 4. My 30yo nephew is struggling with alcohol; he was sober for 3mos but has recently relapsed. 5. I found out that a couple I know charged thousands on my credit card...2024-09-2748 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comChildhood Trauma, Drug Addiction, and More Caller Questions from September 25, 2024Topics: Reactions, Comparisons, Childhood Trauma, Passive-Aggressive, Drug Addiction, Adult Children, Siblings, Verbal Abuse, Grief Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Laura Mangin-McDonald Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri Keffer shares her parable on how a pot of boiling water can describe what’s happening in a relationship. 2. There are so many comparisons for couples out there on social media; how can we have healthy conversations with our spouse and not hurtful? 3. My husband can’t follow through on things he agreed to do; should he be digging deeper into a childhood trauma? 4. Thank you for the advice you gave my husband and...2024-09-2548 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comChildhood Trauma, Drug Addiction, and More Caller Questions from September 25, 2024Topics: Reactions, Comparisons, Childhood Trauma, Passive-Aggressive, Drug Addiction, Adult Children, Siblings, Verbal Abuse, Grief Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Laura Mangin-McDonald Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri Keffer shares her parable on how a pot of boiling water can describe what’s happening in a relationship. 2. There are so many comparisons for couples out there on social media; how can we have healthy conversations with our spouse and not hurtful? 3. My husband can’t follow through on things he agreed to do; should he be digging deeper into a childhood trauma? 4. Thank you for the advice you gave my husband and...2024-09-2548 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comSexual Integrity, Intimacy, and More Caller Questions from September 18, 2024Topics: Hope, Parenting, Sexual Integrity, Sexting, False Accusations, Narcissists, Intimacy Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri Keffer shares from Nahum that God is in the whirlwind and the storm, so hold on. 2. How do we talk to our homeschooled teens and 5yo child about sex from a Christian point of view? 3. My wife of 24yrs has been accusing me of being with other women, but I haven’t been unfaithful. 4. After 30yrs of marriage, how do I know if I’m married to a narcissist? 5. My wife is a teacher and when the...2024-09-1848 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comSexual Integrity, Intimacy, and More Caller Questions from September 18, 2024Topics: Hope, Parenting, Sexual Integrity, Sexting, False Accusations, Narcissists, Intimacy Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri Keffer shares from Nahum that God is in the whirlwind and the storm, so hold on. 2. How do we talk to our homeschooled teens and 5yo child about sex from a Christian point of view? 3. My wife of 24yrs has been accusing me of being with other women, but I haven’t been unfaithful. 4. After 30yrs of marriage, how do I know if I’m married to a narcissist? 5. My wife is a teacher and when the...2024-09-1848 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: August 23, 2024Topics: Communication, Trauma, Grandparenting, Teens, Retirement, Finances, Christian Walk Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris shares how we retraumatize people with the feedback we give them. 2. How can I help my 17yo grandson feel like I’m not his enemy? He gets high, skips school, and is in the juvenile system. 3. I’m going to be 70yo in a few months and thinking of retiring from being a nurse, but my husband doesn’t want me to until our credit cards are paid off; what do I do? 4. Interview with the Kendri...2024-08-2348 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: August 23, 2024Topics: Communication, Trauma, Grandparenting, Teens, Retirement, Finances, Christian Walk Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris shares how we retraumatize people with the feedback we give them. 2. How can I help my 17yo grandson feel like I’m not his enemy? He gets high, skips school, and is in the juvenile system. 3. I’m going to be 70yo in a few months and thinking of retiring from being a nurse, but my husband doesn’t want me to until our credit cards are paid off; what do I do? 4. Interview with the Kendri...2024-08-2348 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: August 21, 2024Topics: Shame, Grandparenting, Discipline, Divorce, Dating, Engagement, Adult Children, Sexual Abuse Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri Keffer shares about external shame and what betrayed partners are saying. 2. My 13yo entitled granddaughter acted like a 2yo on a recent flight and demanded to sit in my aisle seat; where do we go from here? 3. What should I do when my wife says she’ll file for a divorce if I go on a trip to the Philippines where I’m from? I’m a Christian, but she isn’t. 4. Our son has been dat...2024-08-2148 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: August 21, 2024Topics: Shame, Grandparenting, Discipline, Divorce, Dating, Engagement, Adult Children, Sexual Abuse Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri Keffer shares about external shame and what betrayed partners are saying. 2. My 13yo entitled granddaughter acted like a 2yo on a recent flight and demanded to sit in my aisle seat; where do we go from here? 3. What should I do when my wife says she’ll file for a divorce if I go on a trip to the Philippines where I’m from? I’m a Christian, but she isn’t. 4. Our son has been dat...2024-08-2148 min
Therapists' Take with Carrie and JoshEpidsode 33: On "Should Faithful Partners Feel Foolish After Infidelity?"In this episode of Therapists' Take, we dive into the emotional turmoil faithful partners experience after infidelity, particularly the pervasive feeling of foolishness. We'll explore why so many partners blame themselves and break down the three most common ways this feeling manifests: "I feel foolish for letting it happen," "I feel foolish for letting it happen again," and "I feel foolish for staying." We'll also discuss how to navigate the uncertainty that follows betrayal and the journey toward regaining a sense of self.
Join us as we unpack these complex emotions and offer insights to help faithful...2024-08-1951 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: June 28, 2024Topics: Communication, Finances, Boundaries, Pornography, Blended Families, Engagement, Adult Children, Anxiety Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris shares about communication differences; be more interested in understanding rather than correcting. 2. Is my husband a wolf in sheep’s clothing? Is he taking advantage of me financially? 3. I discovered my husband has been viewing internet pornography. 4. I am apprehensive to meet my future stepson today; do you have any suggestions? He is a disabled vet. Suggested Resources: Take Your Life Back Worthy of Her Trust How We Love To support this ministry financially, vi...2024-06-2848 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: June 26, 2024Topics: Shame, Guilt, Parenting, Communication, Teens, Brain Issues, Adult Children, Separation Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri Keffer shares about unhealthy shame and unhealthy guilt. 2. We have been fostering a 15yo for a month and are not able to communicate with her; how do we break through to her? 3. I believe I incurred brain trauma and potentially CTE from my time playing football. Can you give me some guidance for what I need to do? 4. My son-in-law suffered from trauma in his past and no longer wants to be married to my...2024-06-2648 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: June 26, 2024Topics: Shame, Guilt, Parenting, Communication, Teens, Brain Issues, Adult Children, Separation Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri Keffer shares about unhealthy shame and unhealthy guilt. 2. We have been fostering a 15yo for a month and are not able to communicate with her; how do we break through to her? 3. I believe I incurred brain trauma and potentially CTE from my time playing football. Can you give me some guidance for what I need to do? 4. My son-in-law suffered from trauma in his past and no longer wants to be married to my...2024-06-2648 min
Sandpaper MarriageEpisode 31 Betrayal TraumaWe interview "Lauren", who shares her experience with Betrayal Trauma, due to her husbands sexual addiction.
There are many resources available to help. Please check them out.
The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists https://www.apsats.org/#!event-list
Pure Desires Ministry https://puredesire.org/
Daily Disciplines through Bravehearts University https://www.braveheartsuniversity.com/
Daring Ventures with Dr. Jake Porter https://www.daringventures.com/
Dr. Dan Drake's Intimacy Pyramid https://intimacypyramid.com/
Books:
Help Them Heal empathy workbook by Dr. Carol...2024-06-1739 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: June 7, 2024Topics: Suicide, Hope, Emotional Affairs, Adult Children, Boundaries, Estrangement, Blended Families Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Alice Benton Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri Keffer reflected on the powerful suicidal call on June 5. 2. My husband had an emotional affair but doesn’t seem to be getting any better; what caused my husband to sneak around with a woman for 10yrs? 3. My daughter lives with me and has brought a 45yo man to squat in my house; what should I do? My granddaughter also lives here. 4. I’ve been married 40yrs, and my husband hasn’t talked to my son for ye...2024-06-0748 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: June 7, 2024Topics: Suicide, Hope, Emotional Affairs, Adult Children, Boundaries, Estrangement, Blended Families Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Alice Benton Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri Keffer reflected on the powerful suicidal call on June 5. 2. My husband had an emotional affair but doesn’t seem to be getting any better; what caused my husband to sneak around with a woman for 10yrs? 3. My daughter lives with me and has brought a 45yo man to squat in my house; what should I do? My granddaughter also lives here. 4. I’ve been married 40yrs, and my husband hasn’t talked to my son for ye...2024-06-0748 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: June 5, 2024Topics: Habits, Caregiving, Making Decisions, Self Worth, Dating, Friendship, Depression, Suicide Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Alice Benton, Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions: 1. Dr. Alice Benton shares What To Do To Change a Habit. 2. After caregiving for my mom until she passed, how do I determine where I want to live? 3. Why do I keep attracting unsafe people if I’m a safe person? Why do opposites attract? 4. I’ve set up an appointment to be euthanized because I can’t handle life and don’t know how to tell my 29yo daughter or fiance. Suggested Resources: Emotional Freedom Workbook Changes That Hea...2024-06-0548 min
RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery66 - The Path to True ReconciliationWhat is the step by step process to recovery?
What if my husband isn't an addict but there has been some type of infidelity or porn use?
How do we recover our relationship after betrayal?
Today, Kylene and Patrick walk you through the exact steps they recommend couples and individuals take to begin the healing process whether or not it's an addiction.
watch Patrick’s testimony starting at 38:21 https://www.youtube.com/live/rirnsSLaYcw?si=I7aPoJ34MBsL42nD
Where to begin:
2024-06-0548 minRecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery66 - The Path to True ReconciliationWhat is the step by step process to recovery?
What if my husband isn't an addict but there has been some type of infidelity or porn use?
How do we recover our relationship after betrayal?
Today, Kylene and Patrick walk you through the exact steps they recommend couples and individuals take to begin the healing process whether or not it's an addiction.
watch Patrick’s testimony starting at 38:21 https://www.youtube.com/live/rirnsSLaYcw?si=I7aPoJ34MBsL42nD
Where to begin:
2024-06-0548 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: May 31, 2024Topics: Brain Issues, Counseling, Childhood Trauma, Depression, Adult Children Hosts: Chris Williams and Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri Keffer explains her Triune Council of the Brain Analogy (how triggers affect the brain). 2. My wife went to biblical counselors, but they never even asked about her past; what do you say to my wife or the counselors who have convinced her she’s okay? 3. How can I be more compassionate and supportive with my adult daughter who is depressed? I can’t grasp how or why she has gotten to this point. 4. What are your thoughts on the Inte...2024-05-3148 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: May 31, 2024Topics: Brain Issues, Counseling, Childhood Trauma, Depression, Adult Children Hosts: Chris Williams and Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Dr. Sheri Keffer explains her Triune Council of the Brain Analogy (how triggers affect the brain). 2. My wife went to biblical counselors, but they never even asked about her past; what do you say to my wife or the counselors who have convinced her she’s okay? 3. How can I be more compassionate and supportive with my adult daughter who is depressed? I can’t grasp how or why she has gotten to this point. 4. What are your thoughts on the Inte...2024-05-3148 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: May 29, 2024Topics: Surrender, Codependency, Adult Children, Drug Addiction, Physical Abuse Hosts: Chris Williams and Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Chris Williams and Dr. Sheri Keffer share about Resistance That Blocks Surrender. 2. How can I fix myself to be able to communicate with my daughter who is a single mom and only reaches out when she needs me? 3. I have a 22yo granddaughter who lives with us and has been in-and-out of rehab for fentanyl addiction; what do I do to help her? 4. I left a violent marriage of 3yrs, my third marriage; how can I not make the same mistake...2024-05-2947 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: May 29, 2024Topics: Surrender, Codependency, Adult Children, Drug Addiction, Physical Abuse Hosts: Chris Williams and Dr. Sheri Keffer Caller Questions More: 1. Chris Williams and Dr. Sheri Keffer share about Resistance That Blocks Surrender. 2. How can I fix myself to be able to communicate with my daughter who is a single mom and only reaches out when she needs me? 3. I have a 22yo granddaughter who lives with us and has been in-and-out of rehab for fentanyl addiction; what do I do to help her? 4. I left a violent marriage of 3yrs, my third marriage; how can I not make the same mistake...2024-05-2947 min
Disrupting Divorce: Conversations for WomenEpisode #180: The Deadly Duo - Money & Sex with Dr. Sheri Keffer[Warning: This episode may be triggering for some, be gentle with yourself and take breaks while listening, or pass on listening until you’re ready. It is not meant for children’s ears.) Rhonda sits down with Marriage and Family Therapist, Dr. Sheri Keffer of the Brave One Community to discuss sexual deception and betrayal and how that intersects and affects your finances. Here are some highlights of what they cover: What is sexual acting out? What should you be doing if you feel your spouse i...2024-03-2249 min
Pirate Monk Podcast408 | Sheri Keffer | Intimate DeceptionOn this episode: Samson celebrates the 20th Anniversary of its first meeting! Nate, Aaron, and Erin host and interview this week. Erin updates us on the pillow fights at the Sarah Society (no really, its a therapeutic technique). She also discusses the meetings, members, summits and webinars of the Sarah Society.
Our Guest: This week we get to know Dr. Sheri Keffer. Dr. Sheri is an author, speaker, talk-show host, and therapist with over 20 years experience. She provides personal and professional expertise in helping the betrayed, betrayer, and the couple in relationship. As a CSAT, Dr. Sheri, un...2024-02-2256 min
Pathway to RecoveryEmpowering Betrayed Partners Through Boundary Setting w/ Sheri KefferSend us a textIn this episode, Tara McCausland talks with Dr. Sheri Keffer about the importance of setting and holding boundaries in relationships, particularly when dealing with sexual betrayal and addiction. Dr. Keffer shares her personal journey of recovery and emphasizes the need for betrayed partners to have courage and patience with themselves as they practice setting and holding boundaries. Questions addressed include:-What are boundaries and why are they so critical if you’ve been affected by sexual betrayal? How are they different from punishment? - What are some sign...2024-02-061h 02
Life Recovery Today with Stephen ArterburnEpisode 50 - Sheri Keffer Steve Arterburn and Dr. Sheri Keffer discuss gaslighting, addressing what it is; why people do it; examples of what it can look like; the toll it can take; and how to empower yourself if you experience gaslighting. 2023-10-1227 minRecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery30 - What to do When You Discover Infidelity in Your MarriageHave you ever found yourself the position to ask the questions: I just discovered my husband texting other women - what do I do? Or, I just discovered infidelity, what do I do next?
Getting connected to helpful resources quickly can make the biggest difference in recovery for BOTH partners. Patrick and Kylene talk about how to approach this situation when it comes up in your relationship and below they have included links to their favorite resources for both individuals to get started on their healing journey!
For addict:
1) Find a CSAT in y...2023-09-0657 minRecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery30 - What to do When You Discover Infidelity in Your MarriageHave you ever found yourself the position to ask the questions: I just discovered my husband texting other women - what do I do? Or, I just discovered infidelity, what do I do next?
Getting connected to helpful resources quickly can make the biggest difference in recovery for BOTH partners. Patrick and Kylene talk about how to approach this situation when it comes up in your relationship and below they have included links to their favorite resources for both individuals to get started on their healing journey!
For addict:
1) Find a CSAT in y...2023-09-0657 minLife Recovery Today with Stephen ArterburnEpisode 44 - Sheri Keffer Steve Arterburn shares thoughts on stress and addiction. Dr. Sheri Keffer explains the barriers that can prevent a person from communicating their needs and shares practical tips for intentionally asking for what you need. 2023-08-3127 minRecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery28 - Resources for RecoveryI just discovered my husband looking at pornography- what dod I do?
The importance of connecting to safe, effective, and knowledgeable resources right away after discovery is invaluable for both the betrayed partner and the sex/porn addict.
In this episode Patrick and Kylene discuss effective resources and include the most common links they recommend using to get started below.
For addict:
1) Find a CSAT in your local area https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357
2) If that's not possible, find a CSAT or sex addiction therapist or...2023-08-231h 11RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Sex Addiction Support, Betrayal Recovery, Reconciliation, Porn Addiction Recovery28 - Resources for RecoveryI just discovered my husband looking at pornography- what dod I do?
The importance of connecting to safe, effective, and knowledgeable resources right away after discovery is invaluable for both the betrayed partner and the sex/porn addict.
In this episode Patrick and Kylene discuss effective resources and include the most common links they recommend using to get started below.
For addict:
1) Find a CSAT in your local area https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357
2) If that's not possible, find a CSAT or sex addiction therapist or...2023-08-231h 11
Hope For WivesEpisode 28: Spectrum of TriggersWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are finalizing our conversation around the more nuanced aspects of triggers. We Will be Discussing: What are the spectrum of triggers? What about when someone else in her world is triggered? Resources mentioned in this show: Intimate Deception by Dr. Sheri Keffer Hope For Wives Episode 11: What are triggers? How to navigate them? Scripture references: Psalm 16:1-11 Help Us Hel...2023-07-2524 minHope For WivesEpisode 27: Hidden Wounds Under TriggersWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are further exploring triggers. We talked about triggers last season in episode 11. Our discussion now will include the sneaky aspect of triggers, more subtle effects. Triggers are annoying and tend to stick around longer than we want them, too. I often hear how my clients are exhausted from the triggers. We Will be Discussing: Will triggers ever end? What are your thoughts around Dr. Sheri Keffer’s quote that says, “Under e...2023-07-1815 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 178: Sexual Wholeness - Healing from Sexual Betrayal with Stephanie BroersmaWe are in the middle of a sexual wholeness series. Last week, I spoke with Dr. Ryan Hosley about sex addiction, what it is and how someone can find healing. Dr. Ryan spoke about the spouse in several situations and the necessity to bring them into the healing process. This is where I spent most of my role as a marriage and trauma therapist for close to twenty years, helping leaders who found themselves in a sexual betrayal marriage and wanting to find healing and restoration. I learned so much along the way, from the PTSD that spouses carry...2023-04-2541 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: April 12, 2023Hosts: Chris Williams, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris Caller Questions: - God used Dr. Sheri, Dr. Jacqui, and your Emotional Freedom Workshop after my husband tried to strangle me! - My stepdaughter accused me of sexually abusing my 3yo grandchild, but I’m innocent. - How do I get the large amount of money back that I loaned to a narcissist for his surgery? It doesn’t seem like he’s ever going to repay me. - Do I give up on my 35yr marriage if my husband was promiscuous in the past and has always been shut down emotio...2023-04-1249 min
Man Within Podcast515 - Dr. Sheri Keffer on Being A Medic, Not A Mechanic, How Men Can Help Their Spouses Heal, and Why Honesty Is The Best PolicyDr. Sheri Keffer is a regular cohost of the nationally syndicated radio talk show New Life Live! with an audience of more than two million people each week. For over twenty-two years, she’s worked as a Doctor of Marriage and Family therapy in Newport Beach, California. Dr. Sheri is also the Founder of BraveOne.com, helping betrayed spouses heal from their trauma.
In this conversation with Sathiya, they discuss:
-What it means to be "trauma-squared"
-The definition of real intimacy
-Being married to a sex addict
-Spiritualizing can be a form of de...2023-04-061h 01
Husband MaterialHow Much Does She Need To Know About The Porn? (LIVE)Have you ever wondered how much your crush, girlfriend, fiancée, or wife needs to know about your relationship with porn? In this episode, you'll learn the appropriate level of detail to share when you're single, dating, engaged, or married. This episode is challenging and necessary.✅ Free document: Resources For Partners Of Husband Material MenDownload other free documents at husbandmaterial.com/documents Further reading on therapeutic full disclosure (including paid links):What's A Therapeutic Full Disclosure?, by Dr. Sheri KefferFormal Therapeutic Disclosure, by Vicki Tidwell Palm...2023-02-1335 minNew Life Live! on Oneplace.comNew Life Live: February 10, 2023Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Becky Brown Caller Questions: - What should I do to help my 25yo son who gambled away all his money and might be suicidal? - Am I enabling my children and grandchildren because I can’t accept their limitations? - How do my mom and I confront my uncle for molesting my aunt and cousins a long time ago? - How can we get our daughter and her husband to stop neglecting their children’s health issues? To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/451/292023-02-1049 min
Husband MaterialHealing From Sexual Betrayal (with Dr. Sheri Keffer)What is intimate deception betrayal trauma? Why is it so hard for partners of porn users to get help? When it comes to healing, what (doesn't) work? Dr. Sheri Keffer explains how porn impacts partners—and more importantly, what we can do about it. She even guides you on how to share this episode with your wife or girlfriend without triggering her. If you're married, your wife will love hearing from Dr. Sheri!Dr. Sheri Keffer is the author of Intimate Deception (paid link) and a regular cohost of New Life Live! with an audience of more th...2022-09-1253 min
The Carrie Abbott ShowHealing from Sexual BetrayalDr. Sheri Keffer, co-host of the nationally syndicated Christian talk show New Life Live, joins us to share her invaluable insights on sexual betrayal, why pornography is so dangerous and how we can be empowered to heal from our wounds. See Dr. Sheri this weekend! See:2022-05-1125 minThe Covenant Eyes PodcastIntimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal with Special Guest Dr. Sheri KefferMany women are living with wounds of sexual betrayal, and you may not even know it. What does that look like in day-to-day life, and how can you help?Key topics covered in this episode:Impact of lying and deception on a spouseHow church leaders can unknowingly collude with deceptionFinding a support communityStay up to date on our podcast: https://learn.covenanteyes.com/podcast-newsletter/More Information:"Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal" The first month FREE in BraveOne Community: braveone.com/covenant (C...2022-04-2836 min
Secret Habit10. Betrayal Trauma Recovery For Partners of Sex Addicts; How To Heal When Porn Addiction Causes a Rupture of Trust, Safety & SecurityLooking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:
1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: https://secrethabit.ca/call/
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We want to help women feel safe to give their pain a voice. Sadly, this opportunity is not easily found... Today, we unpack the topic of Betrayal Tra...2022-03-1526 min
Therapy Extended With Liza YoungAnswering The Betrayed Partner's Questions with Dr. Sheri KefferHave you been betrayed sexually by your spouse? Do you have questions about your trauma response, why he did what he did, how to trust again, how to begin healing, what it looks like if you stay, what it looks like if you leave and more? Be encouraged as Dr. Sheri answers these questions and more! Dr. Sheri Keffer is a regular cohost of the nationally syndicated radio talk show New Life Live! with an audience of more than two million people each week. For over twenty years, she’s worked as a Doctor of Mar...2022-03-141h 03
R.E.S.T. With Virginia DixonIntimate Deception: Dating DenialExpanding the conversation we concluded with Dr. Sheri Keffer, Jordan Engel, a newly engaged ambassador of R.E.S.T. along with her fiancé, photographer Benjamin Dulay, join us to discuss the consequences of intimate deception we see prevalent in today's generation.*Disclaimer: The content in this podcast is meant for mature audiences only (18+) as some of it may be difficult to hear. Continuing to listen to this content releases R.E.S.T.™, Virginia Dixon and Dr. Sheri Keffer from all liability.Interview LinksR.E.S.T.™ Events How We Love Online Quiz S...2022-03-0446 minR.E.S.T. With Virginia DixonIntimate Deception: Healing the WoundsIn this final episode of our Intimate Deception series, Dr. Sheri Keffer targets areas of neglect as well as the necessary steps of healing for both the betrayed and the betrayer.*Disclaimer: The content in this podcast is meant for mature audiences only (18+) as some of it may be difficult to hear. Continuing to listen to this content releases R.E.S.T.™, Virginia Dixon and Dr. Sheri Keffer from all liability.Interview LinksR.E.S.T.™ EventsHow We Love Online Quiz Soul Hunger Quiz The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Ko...2022-02-2525 minR.E.S.T. With Virginia DixonIntimate Deception: IndicatorsDr. Sheri Keffer continues the conversation surrounding the Intimate Deception of sexual betrayal by addressing the healing that must take place in order to 'establish authority over chaos.*Disclaimer: The content in this podcast is meant for mature audiences only (18+) as some of it may be difficult to hear. Continuing to listen to this content releases R.E.S.T.™, Virginia Dixon and Dr. Sheri Keffer from all liability.Interview LinksR.E.S.T.™ EventsHow We Love Online Quiz Soul Hunger Quiz The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der KolkWher...2022-02-1833 minR.E.S.T. With Virginia DixonIntimate Deception: BetrayalHelping others heal from the wounds of sexual betrayal is the focus for Marriage, Family, and Sex Addiction therapist, Dr. Sheri Keffer. Join us as we discuss her book, "Intimate Deception" and the importance of displacing the confusion, chaos and dis-ease. *The content in this podcast is meant for mature audiences only (18+) as some of it may be difficult to hear. Continuing to listen to this content releases REST, Virginia Dixon and Dr. Sheri Keffer from all liability.Interview LinksR.E.S.T.™ EventsHow We Love Online Quiz Soul Hunger Quiz The Body Keep...2022-02-1139 min
The Hopecast with Rachael FlickThe Hopecast-Episode 55-The Effects of Sexual Betrayal with Dr. Sheri KefferThe effects of sexual betrayal can be detrimental to any relationship, and can leave one’s partner emotionally devastated. But just how damaging can this impact be? What are the psychological and physiological implications that this type of betrayal has on the brain? On today’s episode of The Hopecast, Rachael Flick sits down with author, speaker and therapist of more than 20 years, Dr. Sheri Keffer.. Dr. Keffer answers those very questions and also shares from her own personal and professional experiences that healing from such pain and moving forward in wholeness is possible. 2021-10-1931 min
The Living Truth Podcast - Freedom From Unwanted Sexual Behavior, Hope & Healing For the BetrayedTrauma Brain & Empowerment After Betrayal with Dr. Sheri KefferSexual betrayal is traumatic, causing chronic stress which can alter our brain functions. Dr. Sheri Keffer shares her simple and easy to understand explanation of what is happening in our brains and how we can manage triggers to move from hopelessness into empowerment. Dr. Sheri sheds compassionate light on how both the partner and the addict can manage the chronic stress of unwanted sexual behavior and betrayal. Learn more about Dr. Sheri at www.braveone.com. The Living Truth Podcast sheds light on the deeper issues beneath porn addiction, sex addiction, & help for those enduring the devastation of sexual betrayal...2021-08-2351 min
Grow Your Path to WellnessIntimate Partner Betrayal w/ Rebecca RayThis episode was hands-down one for the books! Kelsi and I learned so much from Rebecca Ray about what intimate partner betrayal is, how it impacts both partners in a relationship, and how the healing process is facilitated through concrete action steps. We explored the differences between sex addiction and addiction to alcohol/drugs, the intersection of trauma wounds and so much more!
Resources from Rebecca on the topic:
-𝐁𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐬: 𝘐𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘋𝘦𝘤𝘦𝘱𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯: 𝘏𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘞𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘚𝘦𝘹𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘉𝘦𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘺𝘢𝘭 by Dr. Sheri Keffer, 𝘔𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘚𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘏𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘵: 𝘈 𝘎𝘶𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘗𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘚𝘦𝘹 𝘈𝘥𝘥𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘴 by Stefanie Carnes, 𝘔𝘰𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘉𝘦𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘥 𝘉𝘦𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘺𝘢𝘭 by Vickie Tidwell Palmer, 𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘚𝘦𝘹𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘈𝘥𝘥𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘚𝘱𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘦 by Barbara Steffens
-𝗪𝐞𝐛𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐞𝐬: The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists, Bloom for Women, Recovering Couples Anonymous, Find help for Sex Addiction (IITAP—International Institute for Trauma and Addictions Professionals)
-Rebecca's Practice: Ray Family Therapy
𝐋𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐮𝐬 𝐚 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐥𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐮𝐬 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐢𝐠𝐠𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰! Be sure to like & subscribe so you don't miss out on the latest episodes.
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Power of Purity | Helping Men to Honor God with their Sexual GiftPOP 245 - Intimate Deception with Dr. Sheri Keffer - Part 2Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman who discovers that the man she loves has been viewing pornography or having an affair must deal with devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact that the man she thought she knew has lied and deceived her. She may even bear the brunt of shame and judgment when the people around her find out. Drawing from her experience both as a marriage and family therapist and a woman who personally experienced the devastation of sexual betrayal, Dr. Sheri Keffer walks wom...2020-10-0638 min
Power of Purity | Helping Men to Honor God with their Sexual GiftPOP 244 - Intimate Deception with Dr. Sheri Keffer - Part 1Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman who discovers that the man she loves has been viewing pornography or having an affair must deal with devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact that the man she thought she knew has lied and deceived her. She may even bear the brunt of shame and judgment when the people around her find out. Drawing from her experience both as a marriage and family therapist and a woman who personally experienced the devastation of sexual betrayal, Dr. Sheri Keffer walks wom...2020-09-2934 min
Undone RedoneUR 232: Intimate Deception — Sheri KefferOn this week's episode of The Undone Redone Podcast, Melody chats with Dr. Sheri Keffer about the impact of betrayal trauma and the path forward to recovery. Dr. Sheri Keffer received her PhD in Marriage and Family Therapy and her Master of Arts Theology, both from Fuller Theological Seminary. She currently specializes in individual, couples and family therapy at her private practice in Newport Beach, California. She explains how the trauma of betrayal affects our minds, bodies, spirits, and sexuality. Dr. Keffer also provides women new tools they can utilize when dealing with emotional triggers and helps...2020-07-0100 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 34 (Part 4): Sexual Wholeness Series: Healing From Sexual Brokenness with Dr. Sheri KefferWe are finishing up our series on sexual wholeness. As we conclude, we need to talk about how partners heal from the trauma of betrayal. We are so grateful to share with you an incredible resource, Dr. Sheri Keffer! Not only does she have the credentials to back up her wisdom, she has the personal experience that shapes her heart, compassion, and call to this life work. Dr. Sheri is a regular cohost of the nationally syndicated radio talk show New Life Live! with an audience of more than two million people each week. For nearly twenty yea...2020-06-1630 min
Living Wholehearted Podcast With Jeff and TerraEpisode 31 (Part 1): Sexual Wholeness Series: Healing from Sexual Brokenness with Josh & Jaelyn HarrelWelcome to a short series on sexual wholeness. We have been helping leaders live with integrity for a couple decades now and sexuality seems to be at the forefront of what many are struggling with in our counseling offices. In these sacred spaces, leaders and their families are processing pornography addictions, sexual betrayal, sexual identity and how to raise children with healthy sexuality. These topics are rarely discussed, often misunderstood, and deeply impacted by our individual experiences (and traumas). Sexuality evokes all kinds of emotions and we warn you that this series is not an easy one to listen to, t...2020-05-2635 min
Relational Trauma SOSEpisode 10: Facing Denial To Live In Truth
Facing denial to live in truth is critical for anyone, but especially those of us who have a loved one that struggles with addiction. Let’s learn why it’s an important element to address when healing from betrayal.
Denial. What is it and why do we need to be aware of it? This podcast episode uses a parable from Deiter F. Uchtdorf about blind men feeling and describing different parts of an elephant. One feels the trunk and says that it must be snake-like, while another feels a leg and thinks it's more like a tree.
D...2020-05-0516 min
Talking About the No-No'sChelsea's Story on Betrayal and Sexual AddictionChelsea shares her story about partner betrayal and we discuss sexual addiction. Resources for todays episode are Intimate Deception by Sheri Keffer, It's Not Supposed to Be This Way by Lysa TerKeurst, The Healing Choice Guidebook by Susan Allen, Wired for Intimacy by William W. Struthers
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From Betrayal To BreakthroughIntimate Deception w/ Dr. Sheri KefferDr. Sheri Keffer's life came screeching to a halt when she found out that her new marriage to a pastor was filled with pornography, affairs, and prostitutes. Now a clinical sex addiction therapist and EMDR practitioner in addition to her audience of over two million people per week on her regular co-hosting gig at New Life Live, Dr. Sheri knows what it takes to heal and helps others realize that they are not alone, not crazy and can heal after sexual betrayal. The way men and women experience sexual betrayal is very different, and it is only...2019-10-2836 min