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Break the Cycle with DSD225. I Realized I’ve Been Teaching Manifestation All Along (Just Without the Woo)For years on this channel, I’ve talked about things like limiting beliefs, absolute thinking, black-hole thinking, and what it really takes to rebuild your life after a major disruption.Recently, while exploring the work of teachers like Dr. Joe Dispenza, David Bayer, and Katie Clark, I had a realization that stopped me in my tracks:Much of what they’re teaching—under different language—is the same core mechanism I’ve been talking about all along.This video is the beginning of a new series where I connect those dots.Not in a “wish it into existence” way.Not in a motiv...
2026-02-0236 minBreak the Cycle with DSD224. The More You Try to Control It, the Worse It GetsThere was a time when I believed that if I could just control the outcome—say the right thing, explain it better, try harder—everything would finally get better.But the harder I tried to force the situation, the worse it became.In this video, I talk about the hidden cost of trying to control what we can’t control, and why healing often begins when we finally let go. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up. It doesn’t mean approving of what happened. It means choosing peace over constant tension.When you stop forcing outcomes, your nervous system set...
2026-01-2622 minBreak the Cycle with DSD223. Never Make Decisions When You’re Sick (Here’s Why Doing Nothing Is Smart)When you’re sick, exhausted, or run down, your brain does not function normally.Fatigue amplifies fear.Stress hormones spike.Catastrophic thinking takes over.Suddenly, everything feels urgent, permanent, and hopeless — and that’s when people make decisions they later regret.In this video, I explain: • Why illness distorts your thinking • Why catastrophic thoughts feel so real when you’re sick • Why reacting in that state is dangerous • And why the healthiest response is often to do nothingIf you’re feeling overwhelmed, emotional, or mentally foggy right now, this message is for you:Rest first.Stabilize.Decide later.This video is part of t...
2026-01-1414 minBreak the Cycle with DSD222. Why You Feel Stuck After Narcissistic Abuse (It’s Not Your Fault)If you’ve been out of a narcissistic relationship for months or even years and still feel stuck, confused, or emotionally drained—this video is for you.Healing from narcissistic abuse doesn’t follow a normal timeline. You didn’t just lose a relationship. You lost emotional safety, self-trust, and a sense of reality. That kind of damage doesn’t disappear just because time has passed.In this video, we talk about: • Why healing feels slow after narcissistic abuse • How your nervous system stays in survival mode • The difference between trauma bonding and love • Why grief and identity loss keep people stuck...
2026-01-1221 minBreak the Cycle with DSD221. When Children Start Questioning a Parent’s Behavior — A Healthy ResponseWhen children begin to realize that something about a parent’s behavior doesn’t feel right, it can be confusing, frightening, and isolating — especially if they don’t know how to talk about it safely.In this video, we talk about how to support kids when they start noticing unhealthy or unpredictable behavior from a parent, without attacking, diagnosing, or putting them in the middle.This video covers: • How to respond when a child says “something feels off” • Why believing your child matters more than explaining things away • How to help kids understand it’s not their fault • Teaching emotional boundaries i...
2026-01-0918 minBreak the Cycle with DSD220. Letting Go of a Narcissist: The Hard Truth That Brings PeaceLetting go after narcissistic abuse is one of the hardest — and most necessary — steps in healing.If you’ve been stuck waiting for closure, explanations, or accountability from a narcissist, this video is for you. In this presentation, I break down what letting go really means, why emotional detachment is essential, and how releasing the need to engage can restore your peace and sense of self.This is not about forgiveness or excusing harm. It’s about protecting your energy, strengthening boundaries, and learning how to move forward without staying emotionally tied to someone who continues to cause damage.In this...
2026-01-0718 minBreak the Cycle with DSD209. Letting go and update on civil caseA deep dive discussion on the struggles of letting go with an update and review of the redacted Order Sustaining Demurrer on my civil case.
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In this episode DSD talks about the struggles and importances of learning to “let go”. We discuss how difficult it is to actually do, being forced to learn the “lesson”, recognizing when you’re being pulled back in, and notice when you are stuck in the rumination cycle. Duane then shares how things really start to change ONCE you accept the situation and allowing yourself to “move on”. He also shares...
2024-02-072h 02Break the Cycle with DSD183. Jame Brashear verdict for the John Mast killing!A discussion about the voluntary manslaughter conviction of James Brashear in the killing of John Mast.
Show Notes
In this discussion Duane discusses the jury verdict for Jame Brashear in the killing of John Mast during a scheduled custody exchange in February 6th 2021 in Lewiston Idaho. The discussion covers the charge for murder 1, murder 2, and voluntary manslaughter. The trial started on Tuesday, August 22nd 20223 and completed on Friday, August 25th 2023. There were what appeared to be “missed opportunities” that prosecution didn’t not cover during the trial. Duane talks about his thoughts when the defendant and hi...
2023-08-281h 35Break the Cycle with DSD179. Can everything actually work out?Can everything actually work out?
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2023-05-271h 36Break the Cycle with DSD178. Stop second guessing why you fought for your kidsStop second guessing why you fought for your kids
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2023-05-2525 minBreak the Cycle with DSD177. Coping with narcissistic in-laws and their influence on our ex and lives!Coping with narcissistic in-laws and their influence on our ex and lives!
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2023-05-211h 11Break the Cycle with DSD176. Getting close to summer vacation and graduationsGetting close to summer vacation and graduations
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2023-05-141h 34Break the Cycle with DSD174. Discussion in taking your life back and being doneDuane talks about almost being “done” with family court and how life is going to be afterward.
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In this improtu episode Duane discusses being “almost done” with family court, custody, and child support. The decade long experience is coming to an end in a few months and everything is going to change. All of his kids will be adults living their own lives.
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2023-04-022h 20Break the Cycle with DSD171. What to do when they don’t pay their “half”Toxic narcissistic abusive people will use the children’s medical bills to continue abuse
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Duane receives a question about how I dealt with the continued finical abuse through medical billing. In this podcast Duane talks about the importances of understanding your emotions, what you can do, and how our perspective MUST change over time.
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2022-12-1131 minBreak the Cycle with DSD170. Angie Atkinson Grief Stress and HealingYouTuber and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach Angie Atkinson passed away Sunday, November 27th
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In this show Duane takes a moment to recognize the loss of Angie Atkinson and the impact she has had on the narcissistic abuse recovery community. Duane and Angie have previous guested on each other’s shows.
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2022-12-0526 minBreak the Cycle with DSD168. How do you make it through a high conflict narcissistic divorceA discussion about the steps Duane when through to go from the anger, bitterness, and despair of a high conflict narcissistic divorce to where he is now.
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The hardest part of recovering from a high conflict narcissistic divorce is finding your way through. We start this process looking for answers and thinking something has to change before anything can get better. At the beginning of this journey we think and believe the change has to be accountability, justice, vindication. As we progress through this we realize the change comes from within us. In...
2022-10-2755 minBreak the Cycle with DSD167. The Dangers of breaking No ContactA viewer shares their story of breaking “no contact” with their ex and how it stalled their healing!
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A listener shares their story of breaking 3 months of No Contact to meet up with their ex. They thought they had healed and this would be a good idea but it was definitely not. Immediately after the meeting they felt as though they were back at day one. Duane talks about the dangers of breaking no contact and what it means when you have one of these setbacks. Duane then reads another comment where a pers...
2022-08-0221 minBreak the Cycle with DSD165. Trusting again after narcissistic abuseLearning to trust again after a toxic narcissistic divorce where you feel like you were conned and tricked!
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In this episode DSD talks about the struggles of learning to trust yourself again after a high conflict narcissistic relationship. Often times people feel they can no longer trust themselves to see “red flags” with personal, professional, and romantic relationships. Duane deep dives into this issues with reasons why it happened and techniques to help yourself get your life and trust back! We quickly talk about the risks of going back to a toxic ex. Duan...
2022-07-251h 19Break the Cycle with DSD164. Importance of transparency in family courtReno Law Review files motion of intent to intervene in the Alex Falconi, Our Nevada Judges, American Civil Liberties Union case for transparency and 1st amendment rights in Family Court
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We update the listeners on the news of Reno Law Review filing a motion to intervene in the ACLU and Our Nevada Judges case against the Nevada Court System. Duane discusses how important it is when we are presenting and telling people about our situations. We then discuss the unfortunate news of Spiritual Empowered Coaching being demonetized by YouTube and her plan to...
2022-07-1859 minBreak the Cycle with DSD163. Remaining Calm is Super Important with a NarcissistToxic narcissistic people have a unique ability to push your buttons and get you emotionally dysregulated. It is incredibly important to recognize when this is happening and take steps to keep yourself calm.
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In this show we discuss how a toxic narcissistic ex is able to target their “button pushes” to trigger raw emotions and emotional dyregulation. Duane discusses the importance of recognizing this and then taking steps to calm yourself down. We then address a concern, example, where the other parent is doing things that we do not agree with. Duane then disc...
2022-07-161h 03Break the Cycle with DSD162. Pushing buttons for control and Parental AlienationIn this show we discuss how a toxic narcissistic ex will use the information they know about you to push your buttons
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Duane discusses how a toxic narcissistic ex will use they information they’ve learned about you to target how to push your buttons and get a reaction from you. It is important to understand what they are doing, why they are doing it, and how to effectively respond and react to it. We then take a caller who is struggling with the fact the ex has married his ex-best-friend and exposed th...
2022-07-141h 00Break the Cycle with DSDTaking your power backTaking your power back is a difficult process and in this podcast Duane and callers discuss this process
2022-07-1200 minBreak the Cycle with DSDSuccesses in family courtDuring this podcast Duane takes numerous phones calls with a couple of them highlighting their successes in family court in both the United States and the United Kingdom.
2022-03-062h 04Break the Cycle with DSDRebuilding Relationships with Adult ChildrenJohn Steinbeck from Brainwashing Children joins Duane to discuss ways to rebuild and repair your relationships with your adult children.
2021-09-2853 minBreak the Cycle with DSDI want to violate a court order and see my kidsDuane tackles a question from a Facebook comment where a father has not seen his child in over 18 months and is considering showing up at church to see him.
2021-09-241h 35Break the Cycle with DSDDo not fall into the anger trapDuane hosts an impromptu livestream discussion that talks about how anger can be a trap and left unchecked can result in mistakes that are difficult to recovery from.
2021-04-291h 14Break the Cycle with DSDGetting through the financial nightmare from a toxic exIt’s all about money! Duane talks about the unique problems you face when going through a high conflict divorce and ways to take control of your finances.
2021-01-041h 03Break the Cycle with DSDGrowing after the pain of a toxic narcissistic relationshipDuane finishes the year with a discussion on how these difficult experiences can *force* you into reevaluating your life decisions. Although these times are extremely difficult, and potentially dangerous you can get your life back and truly grow from all of this.
2020-12-311h 02Break the Cycle with DSDRebooting your life after narcissistic abuseIt’s all about rebooting your life! In this episode, which started by having to reboot the system to get the show working, Duane talks about how we all have to reboot and start over.
2020-12-301h 00Break the Cycle with DSDLearning how to document your case to win ft. Christine GilleChristine Gille from Gille Kaye Law Group joins Duane to discuss the best interest factors, how to document your case, and what are the reasons to file for modifications
2020-12-291h 00Break the Cycle with DSDPicking your path forward | choose your battles wiselyPicking your battles is important and with today’s callers this is very much the case. Duane talks with two people, one at the beginning of the divorce process trying to make sense of their ex’s lies and the other looking to figure out the court process and potentially appeal the recent court decision.
2020-12-221h 00Break the Cycle with DSDResidual trauma and taking your life backIn this show Duane starts with discussing the unfortunate reality that it takes time to move past trauma once the circumstances change.
2020-12-141h 04Break the Cycle with DSDStruggling with accepting who they truly areDuane discusses the difficulties of accepting the reality of our situation and the betrayal that you go through. It can be very difficult to realize the relationship was based on a lie.
2020-12-101h 00Break the Cycle with DSDYour perspective will change after this experience | and it isn’t all badDuane discusses how this experience has changed the way he looks at things, how his perspective has changes, and what he how your priorities change after a toxic divorce
2020-12-041h 03Break the Cycle with DSDDo not become a martyr to the family court machineDuane discusses the problems of surrounding yourself with people who are defeated.
2020-12-021h 00Break the Cycle with DSDWhy it’s so difficult to stop thinking about a toxic exDuane discusses the difficult path of breaking from a toxic ex and to stop constantly thinking about them.
2020-12-011h 00Break the Cycle with DSDIt is difficult to see the bigger picture during narcissistic abuseDuane discusses the struggles of seeing the bigger picture when trying to deal with narcissistic abuse.
2020-11-241h 00Break the Cycle with DSDWords and Behaviors Manipulative People use when you break up ft. Paul ColaianniPaul Colaianni the host of The Overwhelmed Brain and Love & Abuse Podcasts joins Duane to discuss the words and behaviors manipulative people use when you want to break up with them. Paul is the author of the book, “The Overwhelmed Brain Personal Growth for Critical Thinkers” and developed The M.E.A.N Workbook an assessment & healing guide for difficult relationships.
2020-11-181h 05Break the Cycle with DSDFinding the perspective of peace after a toxic relationshipDuane shares a story of something that happened yesterday and how he views perspective and luck!
2020-11-171h 00Break the Cycle with DSDTake back your life and stop making destructive decisionsIn this episode Duane discussions his struggles with making destructive decisions and ways you can help yourself to ultimately take care of yourself.
2020-11-1659 minBreak the Cycle with DSDGoing back for more pain with a toxic exIn this episode Duane discusses the struggle people have letting go of their ex and their willingness to go back for more pain.
2020-11-1259 minBreak the Cycle with DSDTrusting your gut when dealing with a narcissistIn this show Duane discusses the importance of trusting your intuition when dealing with ANYONE.
2020-11-1059 minBreak the Cycle with DSDOvercoming a bad agreement with a narcissist in court | make sure you understand and read your agreement firstIn today’s episode Duane takes a serious caller who has signed a bad stipulated agreement that limits his time and places extra stipulations on his behaviors as compared to the ex.
2020-11-091h 00Break the Cycle with DSDFinding solutions instead of problems | remaining calm is always the best course of actionDuane discusses an example of how remaining calm and looking for solutions can hep any situation.
2020-11-061h 00Break the Cycle with DSDIt really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks | your foundation for recoveryIn this show Duane discusses how it ultimately does not matter what anyone else thinks but yourself.
2020-11-041h 00Break the Cycle with DSDGetting provoked by the narcissistic exIn this episode Duane discusses an example of how the ex has tired to provoke him into a negative reaction. You have to remember these people will continue the same tired tactics over and over again.
2020-11-0359 minBreak the Cycle with DSDWhy does everyone believe a narcissistIn this episode Duane discusses the various ways a narcissistic person is able to convince people to believe their stories and how sometimes they ultimately lose in court
2020-11-021h 00Break the Cycle with DSDUse their narcissistic patterns to your advantageIn this episode Duane discusses way you can use your knowledge of narcissistic behavioral patterns to your advantage. Two callers share their stories on how they were able to “win” in court.
2020-10-3059 minBreak the Cycle with DSDMost of the time all this bad is leading to something goodIn this episode Duane discusses how oftentimes the pain and trauma that we endure through this situations are leading us, or guiding us, to a better situation.
2020-10-271h 00Break the Cycle with DSDThe successes of NOT taking the baitIn this episode Duane discusses the difficulties of realizing they are not who we thought and that we now are the latest in a long time of “abusers”. We also discuss some success stories of exposing the true nature of a toxic ex.
2020-10-2659 minBreak the Cycle with DSDDoes this narcissistic nightmare stop?In this episode Duane discusses the recurring fear that the alienation will not be broken and everyone will believe the narcissist’s lies
2020-10-221h 00Break the Cycle with DSDFiguring out your life after narcissistic abuseFiguring our your life after narcissistic abuse is tough and in this episode Duane goes down the rabbit hole and talks about ways to get out
2020-10-201h 00Break the Cycle with DSDManaging your stress and anxiety before trial | do not let the narcissist break youDuane discusses the struggles of preparing for trail and the stress and anxiety that comes with it!
2020-10-151h 00Break the Cycle with DSDEx playing games with medical | when should you settleIn this episode Duane discusses games with medical billing and expenses, deciding if a settlement is “good”, and young adult callers recognizing toxic relationships and seeking support.
2020-10-141h 00Break the Cycle with DSDDeciding the right course of action (coa) against a narcissistic exIn this show Duane tackles the recurring question, what is the best course of action in court against a narcissistic, high conflict, toxic ex who ENJOYS the “fight”.
2020-10-131h 00Break the Cycle with DSDBreaking the toxic patterns of our livesDuane discusses the struggles of creating new patterns and breaking the old ones
2020-10-091h 00Break the Cycle with DSDWinning a Toxic Narcissistic Divorce | Attorney Marco BrownMarco Brown, a Divorce Attorney based in Salt Lake City Utah joined Duane to discuss high conflict divorce and strategies to deal with them.
2020-10-081h 00Break the Cycle with DSDFiguring the narcissist out | it’s a trapIn this episode Duane discusses the trap of trying to figure the narcissist out and how that can slow down our healing and growth.
2020-10-0758 minBreak the Cycle with DSDBlame shifting with Amber HeardDuane is joined again by Leslee Powers from Spiritually Empowered Coaching to discuss blame shifting and examples of how Amber Heard uses these techniques
2020-10-061h 00Break the Cycle with DSDRecovering when the narcissist has the upper handIn this start of the week show Duane tackles some hard issues where a listener’s disability was used against them to lose custody
2020-10-051h 00Break the Cycle with DSDBe strategic in your communication | anticipate retaliationDuane discusses the importance of being strategic in your communication and anticipating a toxic ex’s retaliation
2020-10-0259 minBreak the Cycle with DSDPeople don’t see what you do | how a narcissist can use your perception against youIn today’s show Duane discusses the dynamic of why people do not understand our perspective. He also addresses how a narcissistic ex can use that against us with other people.
2020-10-0158 minBreak the Cycle with DSDKeeping the door open | how to not make things worseDuane discusses with a caller some ways to try to repair the relationship with his 18 year old son.
2020-09-301h 00Break the Cycle with DSDAdapt when things don’t go as planned | rolling with it when the narcissist creates chaosLearning to adapt is a critical skill when dealing with a narcissist. In the this episode Duane discusses his experience and struggles with having to adapt, in real time - with constant change and chaos
2020-09-2559 minBreak the Cycle with DSDBe selective who you share your story with | most people do not understandDuane starts the show addressing a comment from a listener about talking with people who do not understand.
2020-09-2459 minBreak the Cycle with DSDDealing with narcissistic games is draining | how to maintain your perseverance and sanityIn today’s show Duane talks about the inherent strength we all have and how you’re so much stronger than you think!
2020-09-231h 00Break the Cycle with DSDAmber Heard & Johnny Depp | The making of a toxic narcissistDuane is joined by Leslee Powers from Spiritually Empowered Coaching to discuss the Amber Heard Johnny Depp case. Leslee has a series where she has been covering the details of the court transcripts.
2020-09-221h 00Break the Cycle with DSDCrazy making behavior | they want you to react to themIn today’s show Duane talks about various examples of crazy making behavior and how they are constantly working to get you to respond and react.
2020-09-2159 minBreak the Cycle with DSDIt feels like forever after a toxic narcissistic divorceIn this show Duane talks about how it feels like it will take forever to recovery from a high conflict narcissistic divorce.
2020-09-1859 minBreak the Cycle with DSDForcing a narcissist to be a good parenting | exercise in frustrationDuane talks about the struggle of trying to force your ex to be a good caring parent.
2020-09-171h 00Break the Cycle with DSDDeciding what is worth fighting far | when you have to confront the narcissistDuane discusses the differences between the battles and the war and how to decide when you have to fight the narcissistic ex.
2020-09-151h 00Break the Cycle with DSDFamily Court machine fighting against youIn this show Duane takes callers who are fighting the family court machine to have time with their children
2020-09-111h 00Break the Cycle with DSDEstranged parent/child relationships ft. Kris GodinezDuane is joined today with Kris Godinez to talk about the effects of estranged parents.
2020-09-101h 00Break the Cycle with DSDBeware of the “nice” and struggling with co-parenting counselingIn today’s show Duane takes two callers one who is struggling dealing with the “nice” from their ex after his victory in court and then a caller who is court ordered to do co-parenting counseling and needs a strategy going forward.
2020-09-091h 00Break the Cycle with DSDStruggling with anxiety and fining supportOn today’s Labor Day show we start out with a call struggling with their ex ignoring and rejecting their child. Duane then rants about why these people just can’t even pretend to actually love their children. A listener then asks how Duane was able to prevent his ex from leaving the state with the kids. This rolls into a discussion on how family court is slow. Duane reminds everyone about the Thursday collaboration with Kris Godinez and another mystery guest that he is working on bringing on the show. We then have a question about will a custody eval...
2020-09-071h 00Break the Cycle with DSDCreative ways to bond with your kidsToday’s Friday show starts with tips to bond with your children when you have limited to no funds. The key is giving them your time and attention and it can be a critical step in defending against parental alienation. Duane talks about one technique where he would spend 15 minutes dedicated to whatever the child wanted to do. He then goes on to describe the “creative day” they would do all together. We then discuss the troubles of comparing yourself to what your ex is doing. A listener asks for recommends on books that helped Duane. Although the answers are simple...
2020-09-0459 minBreak the Cycle with DSDDisneyland Dad is it a bad thing?On today’s episode Duane starts off talking about the concept of “Disneyland Dad” and how no matter what you do a toxic ex is going to shame and ridicule everything you go. We then dive into the issue of how to deal with teachers when you have a toxic ex. Duane then discusses how important it is to “learn” the rules of the family court game. He then talks about being able to see the end of this in 3 years. A viewer then is struggling with comparing their situation to their ex who has family and support while they have nothi...
2020-09-031h 00Break the Cycle with DSDEx putting on “great parent” showDuane starts today’s show talking about how a narcissistic parent can put on a show and have people think they are a great and attentive parent. We then tackle a question for a listener who is struggling with trust issues. Duane then takes a question of do the children ultimately realize something is wrong with the other parent. We then talk about how a narcissist will try to destroy you and you have to work against their efforts. A listener then comments about how a narcissist can not love even their child unconditionally. Duane then takes a caller from th...
2020-09-021h 00Break the Cycle with DSDThe Struggles of Family CourtIn today’s show Duane tackles the topic of family court issues. The show starts with a viewer asking what to expect in family court. Duane then shares a viewers story of perseverance and ultimate success through the system. He then discusses how a narcissistic toxic ex will try to bankrupt you financially and emotionally to get what they ant. We then have a return caller talking about their experience through the family court. We then have a caller who discusses the tactics they used to get more time with their child. Duane ends with a caller who is questioning if...
2020-09-011h 00Break the Cycle with DSDDouble Binds and how to deal with themNarcissists are experts at creating and exploiting double binds. In today’s episode we start by talking about a viewer who is worried their spouse has compromised their phone, computer, and emails. Duane then mentions a schedule collaboration with Kris Godinez on her channel. A listener shares that their ex broke into their emails and downloaded steps 1 and 2 from their Alcoholic Anonymous notes sent to their sponsor. We then discuss what to say to your children about what is going on. Duane then takes a caller from Ireland who although never married has kids with his ex and is struggling wi...
2020-08-311h 00Break the Cycle with DSDHow to find a good therapist ft. Kris GodinezIn this show Duane is joined by Kris Godinez from We Need to Talk with Kris Godinez show. Kris is a licensed professional counselor in Arizona and has a thriving practice there. Duane and Kris talk about the importance of therapy and some of the key things to look for when interviewing a therapist. They dive into the importance of rapport and the markings of a good trauma therapist. Kris then discusses how there are narcissists in the profession and how important it is to trust your gut. They then talk about how in the education system they tend to...
2020-08-281h 00Break the Cycle with DSDMaking the best decisions possibleIn today’s show we tackle a lot of the issues that complicate making “good” decisions. We oftentimes get stuck trying to prove to ourselves what we are really dealing with. The discussion starts off with a question of, “what is the red pill”. Duane dives into the origins from the movie “The Matrix” and then how it pertains to our situation. We then cover a question where one listener’s son is saying he “wants a new mommy”. Duane then talks about how he was programmed to think his own father was a “bad guy”. Duane then brings Debby in as a guest for a bit...
2020-08-2756 minBreak the Cycle with DSDBringing only good into your lifeIn today’s show Duane starts off discussing how important it is to focus on things that help improve your life and get you to where you are wanting to go. We then have a question about the struggles to accept that the relationship was a lie. A listener talks about their 8 year journey to find healing and growth. Duane then talks about an example his oldest son is going through where is mom is poking at him about his hair. This leads to a discuss on how much you can and should share with adult children. There is a di...
2020-08-251h 00Break the Cycle with DSDFinding who you are - you get to be youIn this show Duane discusses finding who you are and healing plus growing through these experiences. He then discusses his involvement with Veronika Archer and her “You Get to be YOU” Podcast Series that has over 32 experts in their respective areas. We then discuss how these experiences give you the opportunity to change the direction of your life. Duane then discusses how he used therapy with YouTube (Richard Grannon) to work through the emotional pain and trauma he was going through. A listen er asks, “Do we create our own mess” and Duane discusses his thoughts on lessons and how these ex...
2020-08-241h 00Break the Cycle with DSDDon’t get stuck and let them winThis was a rough show, the callers at the end has some bad and good news. The show starts with a comment from yesterday asking does the ex remarry to “hurt us”. Duane then discusses how we can get stuck ruminating the about the ex. Then we discuss ways to work around the ex when they are holding/hiding information. A caller shares how they have gotten their life back, became a nurse and overcome narcissistic abuse and the suicide of their child. Finally we have a caller who is struggling with the guilt of feeling happy when they can’t see...
2020-08-211h 00Break the Cycle with DSDFocusing on your own pathIn today’s show Duane starts by talking about personal accountability and focusing on your own path. Too often people start to focus on the “problems” of others instead of doing the work on themselves. He then discusses a comment where a listener is concerned if it is okay to ignore a the person they broke up with. We then have a caller who is celebrating 27 days free from the narcissist and is in their own place. Duane then discusses the phases of divorce and how learning can be VERY helpful in minimizing mistakes. A listener is having an issue dealin...
2020-08-2059 minBreak the Cycle with DSDFeeling Lost and finding people who understandFeeling lost and confused is extremely common when recovering from narcissistic abuse. It is incredibly difficult to fine people who understand. This show starts when a discussion of feeling lost. We then have a caller who runs the site Pissed Off Parents and talks about how important it is to get educated on the process to help protect yourself. The next topic is why filing first is an advantage and Duane deep dives into the realities of this scenario and what it really means. We then have a caller who was a victim of the “silver bullet” and how it has...
2020-08-1959 minBreak the Cycle with DSDFeeling numb and brokenIt is normal to feel numb and broken after prolonged narcissistic abuse by an ex and the family court system. This is the starting point of day’s show. Duane discusses a comment where a listener feels like they have been going to therapy forever. Another questions “what is normal” anyway? We then going through the stress and anxiety of seeking help and confronting our own demons. A call asked do assigned therapists or GALS help or do they get it wrong. Another caller asked what does the narcissist want and why do they make simple mistakes that undermine their own ca...
2020-08-1859 minBreak the Cycle with DSDPlaying the narcissist’s game | stop beating your head against the wallWe start the week talking about how playing the narcissist’s game is a losing battle. You will end up beating your head against the wall trying to get a better outcome and how it holds you back. Duane briefly talks about how Caleb Leverett is doing after his cryptic video posted over the weekend. Move on to discussing how to develop and implement new routines. Speaking of moving on, we look at the difficult of being able to “move on”. Duane discusses a bit of his experience with fighting back over medical billing and collection issues. We briefly discuss MGTOW...
2020-08-171h 00Break the Cycle with DSDHow life gets better after thisWe finish the third week of the new show! The discussion was how life gets better after going through this. It can seem impossible to believe that you can have a life after this but you can and it can be better than you ever imagined. We have a return caller who shares their court victory and celebrates their success. Then a viewer has a question on how their ex can start the divorce but won’t leave him alone. Duane talks about how these experiences provide you an opportunity to reflect on your life and grow from the experiences. A...
2020-08-1459 minBreak the Cycle with DSDWhy the narcissist won’t leave you alongIn this show we discuss some examples of how a narcissistic ex won’t leave you alone. How they will come back and try to re-insert themselves back into your mind. This start will a comment about how after four years an engaged ex shows up at the workplace to give back papers and photos. Next we have a caller who’s uninvolved ex decides to use the court system to try and pushing the mother of their child. There is a discussion about how much pain is involved in recovery and how hard it is to fight the funk of d...
2020-08-111h 00Break the Cycle with DSDChanges that are happening with Eric CarrollWe are joined today by Eric Carroll from Dad Talk Today talking about some exciting new opportunities for the Dad Talk Today show. Duane and Eric also talk about some of the key issues that people are dealing with over the holiday season.
2019-12-171h 22Break the Cycle with DSDWhen you feel like giving up - Has the narcissist defeated youDuane discusses the difficult topic of when you feel like you’ve lost everything. This podcast was inspired by an email from a view who is going through a very difficult time. They have lost in family court, their evidence and arguments were not even heard, and they are trying to figure out their next course of action.
2019-07-2232 min
Break the Cycle with DSDMark Ludwig - Americans for Equal Shared ParentingMark Ludwig from the Americans for Equal Shared Parenting sits down with Duane to talk about his organizations efforts to bring the presumption of shared parenting to all 50 states and effect changes to Title V. Mark has spent the last year meeting with state and federal legislatures as well as the executive branch to bring awareness to this problem.
2019-03-1155 min
Break the Cycle with DSDThe Path Through The DarknessThis episode discussions Duane’s path through the darkness and his journey of healing and recovery. He also discusses the 4 pillars of support that he personally utilized to help him through this.
2019-02-2545 min
Break the Cycle with DSDDealing With Triggers From Your ExThis episode discusses some excite news for the YouTube Channel and PodCast. This is followed up with the topic of dealing with triggers from your ex. This can be very complicated and Duane shares some ideas he used to help himself through his own personal troubling times.
2019-02-1128 min
Break the Cycle with DSDMy Story With DepressionIn this episode Duane discusses his own personal struggle with depression. His story starts with a difficult family life which prepared him for his toxic marriage to his ex wife. Throughout his life he always thought he would struggle with depression and anxiety. It wasn’t until he really started working on healing himself that things started to change.
2018-11-0524 min
Break the Cycle with DSDKids Used as PawnsToxic narcissistic ex spouses tend use use children as pawns and put them in the middle of everything. This creates a double bind / no win scenario that makes our lives very complicated and difficult. In this podcast Duane talks about his personal experience with this and a story shared by one of the DSD Discord users. His hope is this podcast will give you some new ways to look at the situation and ways to make the best decisions for your specific situation.
2018-10-2937 min
Break the Cycle with DSDBattling Catastrophic ThinkingCatastrophic Thinking can be a huge battle when you are healing from toxic emotional narcissistic abuse. This battle can be much more difficult when you are struggling with external forces such as heath, finances, legal issues and many other stressors. In this podcast Duane discusses some techniques he has used to help him battle catastrophic thinking.
2018-10-1532 min
Break the Cycle with DSDLearning to let go - Special Guest Leslee PowersIn this episode Duane and Leslee Powers return together to talk about the struggles of letting go and beginning the process of moving on. This is a very complicated topic that many have difficulties with. Duane asks Leslee the way she helps her own clients go through this process. Later in the episode Duane and Leslee talk about manifestation and what it all means.
2018-09-0423 min