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Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage237 - The Secret to Stronger Relationships: Embracing Emotional DifferencesPurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseAre you feeling lost in your relationship and unsure how to maintain your sense of self? Do you struggle with setting healthy boundaries or managing emotional tension with your partner? Curious about why couples who’ve been together since a young age sometimes hit unique roadblocks? In this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin are joined by therapist Leanne Rogers to unpack the transformative concept of differentiation—the ability to honor your own identity while staying deeply connected to y...2025-08-0843 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage236 - Marriage Unfiltered: Coping with Trauma, Busy Family Life, and Staying ConnectedPurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseIn this special episode, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin sit down with Zach Brittle, host of Marriage Therapy Radio, for a deeply authentic and vulnerable conversation unlike any other. This is a replay of their appearance on Marriage Therapy Radio.Instead of focusing on their roles as therapists or podcasters, Tarah and EJ open up about their journey as a couple—sharing the real, sometimes messy, and absolutely inspiring moments that have shaped their marriage.Get ready to hear the Kerwins talk candidly ab...2025-08-0150 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage235 - Redefining Intimacy: Zach Brittle on Emotional, Physical, and Sexual Connection in Long-Term RelationshipsPurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseWhat does true intimacy mean, and how can couples move beyond just physical or sexual connection?Why do so many couples struggle to talk openly about their sex lives, and how can this conversation be improved?How can partners negotiate their different needs for emotional, intellectual, and sexual intimacy over the long term?In this transformative episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin sit down with Zach Brittle, renowned couples therapist and host of Marriage Therapy Radio, to unpack...2025-07-2542 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage234 - Exploring Sexual Intimacy: The Relationship Renovation Sexual Intimacy InventoryAre you and your partner truly able to communicate your needs, desires, and boundaries around sexual intimacy without fear of judgment?Do past experiences, trauma, or upbringing impact the way you connect sexually with your partner?How can couples bridge the gap when one partner is satisfied with the frequency of intimacy and the other is not?In this transformative episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin introduce listeners to their brand-new Relationship Renovation Sexual Intimacy Inventory—a powerful tool designed to spark open, honest, and non-triggering conversations about sexual intimacy. As...2025-07-1834 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage233 - Healing After Betrayal: Dr. Monique Thompson’s Guide to Infidelity RecoveryPurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseAre you struggling to process the aftermath of infidelity in your relationship?Wondering if healing and trust are truly possible after betrayal?Curious about expert tools and real-life strategies that can help couples rebuild after an affair?This episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast dives deep into these pressing questions with Dr. Monique Thompson, a renowned therapist and life coach specializing in infidelity recovery.Join hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin as they sit down with Dr. Thompson to uncover the complexities...2025-07-1137 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage232 - High School Sweethearts Reunited: How Dave and Suzanne Built an Unbreakable BondPurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseWhat role does emotional safety and vulnerability play in building and maintaining a secure relationship?Why is proactive couples counseling essential—even when the relationship isn’t in crisis—and what lasting tools can it provide?Hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin welcome Dave and Suzanne to share their extraordinary journey of growth, heartbreak, and reconnection. From meeting as high school sweethearts, a painful breakup, and over 30 years apart in unfulfilling relationships, Dave and Suzanne reveal how fate—and Facebook—brought them back together...2025-07-0448 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage231 - Navigating ADHD in Relationships: Compassion, Connection, and UnderstandingPurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseAre you wondering how ADHD can impact intimate relationships and what unique challenges couples face when one or both partners have ADHD? Are you curious about the difference between character traits and neurological wiring when it comes to forgetfulness, time blindness, and emotional connection? Want to learn concrete ways to cultivate compassion and create systems of support in relationships touched by ADHD?In this insightful episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin welcome special guest Alex Romo, LMSW and...2025-06-2730 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage230 - Understanding Attachment Styles: The Key to Better Sex and Deeper ConnectionPurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseHow do your early childhood attachment experiences shape your physical and emotional intimacy as an adult?What common challenges do couples face when trying to communicate about sex and intimacy?Which actionable steps can partners take to break free from old patterns and foster a more secure, fulfilling connection?In this powerful episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin unpack the fascinating connection between attachment styles developed in childhood and the complexities of adult intimacy. Drawing...2025-06-2034 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage229 - Navigating Intimacy, Parenting, and Partnership: Insights From Leanne and AaronPurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseHow can couples create long-term systems that encourage honest, open communication—even during tough times?What are practical ways to maintain intimacy and connection amidst parenting, work, and life’s chaos?How do Leanne and Aaron navigate differences in desire and emotional needs while building a secure relationship?In this candid and heartfelt episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin welcome their first-ever couple to the hot seat: Leanne and Aaron. From their acro yoga-inspired first encounter in a Tucs...2025-06-1351 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage228 - Reclaiming Connection: Small Steps to Strengthen Relationships Despite a Hectic LifePurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseAre you and your partner feeling more like roommates than lovers?Struggling to find time for meaningful connection amidst career, kids, and daily responsibilities? Wondering what practical steps can help rebuild intimacy and create space for your relationship, even when life feels overwhelming?In this insightful episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin confront the all-too-common challenge of being “spread too thin” in modern relationships. Drawing on both their personal experiences and years of working with couples at their coun...2025-06-0633 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage227 - Brave Intimacy Adventures: Core Gifts and Deeper Sexual ConnectionPurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.How do our deepest vulnerabilities and fears relate to our "core gifts" in both emotional and sexual intimacy?What powerful questions can couples (or individuals) use to uncover and share their sexual core gifts with their partner?How can couples move from surface-level connection to deeper, more fulfilling intimacy using practical tools and rituals?In this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin welcome back renowned psychotherapist and Deeper Dating podcast host Ken Page founder for an intimate Part I...2025-05-3057 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage226 - Discovering Core Gifts with Ken Page: Healing Intimacy and Deepening ConnectionPurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.What are "core gifts," and how can recognizing them transform your relationships?How do our most vulnerable and sensitive parts impact intimacy and connection with our partners?What actionable steps can you take to identify, embrace, and communicate your core gifts to strengthen your relationship?In this powerful episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin sit down with renowned psychotherapist, author, and Deeper Dating podcast host Ken Page to dig deep into the transformative concept of "core gifts." Ken shares his personal journey from...2025-05-2344 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage225 - Five Relationship Mistakes Couples Make and How to Avoid ThemPurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Are you unknowingly making relationship mistakes that could be sabotaging your connection with your partner?What are the most common pitfalls couples face, and how can you move from frustration to real solutions?How can you and your partner grow together and reignite intimacy, even through life’s biggest transitions?In this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin break down the five biggest mistakes couples make—and, more importantly, how to overcome them. From lack of communication and emot...2025-05-1636 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage224 - Transforming Relationships Through the Enneagram with Christa HardinPurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Ever wondered how understanding your Enneagram type could transform your relationship?Curious which enneagram pairings are most common—and what makes them tick?Looking for fun, accessible ways to deepen emotional and intimate connection with your partner?In this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin sit down with Christa Hardin, renowned therapist, author, and founder of Enneagram and Marriage. Christa dives deep into the power of the Enneagram as a tool for couples’ growth—unpacking how kn...2025-05-0937 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage223 - Code Word: Transform Your Arguments With This Simple Relationship ToolPurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Are you tired of conflicts with your partner escalating and leaving you both feeling disconnected?Curious about a proven system that helps couples pause, self-regulate, and return to emotional safety—even in the heat of the moment?Want to model healthier conflict resolution for your kids and transform the dynamic of your entire household?Tarah and EJ Kerwin take you deep into the transformative power of the “code word” system—a real-world tool that has enhanced their marriage and countless others. Discover how couples...2025-05-0234 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage222 - Emotional Affairs Unveiled: Boundaries, Transparency, and Steps for RecoveryPurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.How do you know if a close friendship has crossed the line into an emotional affair?What are the warning signs and root causes behind emotional affairs in a relationship?How can couples heal from emotional affairs and prevent them from happening in the future?In this honest and insightful episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin dive deep into the complicated world of emotional affairs. Drawing directly from their extensive experience working with couples and real-life questions, they...2025-04-2534 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage221 - Building Healthier Relationships Through Personalized Physical Wellness with Wits & Weights' Philip PapePurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Ever wonder how physical wellness can transform not just your own life, but your relationship too?Struggling with motivation and consistency when it comes to fitness, whether individually or as a couple?Curious about why strict diets and rigid approaches so often lead to frustration—and what to do instead?In this compelling episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin welcome Philip Pape from the acclaimed Wits & Weights podcast for an insightful and motivating conversation. Philip shares his unique, data-driven approach to...2025-04-1844 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage220 - Reversing Intimacy Anxiety: Strategies for Couples to ReconnectPurchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.What exactly is intimacy anxiety, and how does it manifest in a relationship?How can couples identify signs of intimacy anxiety in their relationship?What are effective strategies to overcome intimacy anxiety and rebuild emotional and physical connections?Dive deep into the intricacies of intimacy anxiety with EJ and Tarah Kerwin in this enlightening episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast. Discover what intimacy anxiety truly means and how it could be silently influencing your relationship. EJ and Tarah break down the common symptoms...2025-04-1133 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage219 - Simplifying Parenting & Strengthening Relationships with Susie PettitPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.How can finding a middle ground simplify parenting?What role do boundaries and emotional intelligence play in raising resilient kids?How does popcorn parenting help in letting go of anxieties?In this eye-opening episode of Relationship Renovation, Tarah and EJ Kerwin sit down with parenting expert Susie Pettit for an enlightening discussion about simplifying parenting while nurturing healthy relationships. Susie, a certified life, relationship, and parenting coach, demystifies the complexities of raising teens in the digital age by emphasizing the power of boundaries, emotional...2025-04-0442 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage218 - Couples Therapy Myths That Could Be Sabotaging Your RelationshipPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course. What’s holding couples back from starting therapy? In this eye-opening episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin bust the most common myths about couples counseling—and reveal how these false beliefs may be sabotaging relationships before healing ever begins.Despite what you may have heard, therapy isn’t just about “talking”—it’s about transformation. With research showing that 75% of couples report relationship improvement and 90% report better emotional health, the data is clear: therapy works. So why do so many couples wait too long...2025-03-2827 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage217 - Rediscover Your Authentic Self: Mindfulness for Deeper Connection & Joy with Kelly SmithPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Are you finding it hard to stay connected with yourself amidst the chaos of daily life? How can mindfulness help you in rediscovering your authentic self? Could this be the key to enhancing your relationship and overall happiness?In this deeply insightful episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin welcome back mindfulness expert Kelly Smith, founder of Yoga for You for an enriching conversation. As a podcaster, author, and mindfulness coach, Kelly shares inspiring tools and practices to help listeners reconnect with t...2025-03-2136 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage216 - Breaking Free from Criticism and Defensiveness in RelationshipsPurchase Relationship Renovation at HomeWhat skills are essential to break away from the cycle of blame and defensiveness in relationships?How can vulnerability and open communication transform your connection with your partner?What are practical steps for repairing and reconnecting with your partner after a conflict?In this insightful episode of "Relationship Renovation," hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin delve deep into a topic many couples struggle with – the blame game. Understanding how criticism and defensiveness can erode trust and emotional safety in a relationship is crucial. Tarah and EJ share pe...2025-03-1431 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage215 - Strengthening Relationships: How to Transform Criticism with Dr. Warren FarrellHow can couples transform criticism into deeper connection rather than division?What practical tools can listeners implement to fill their relationship with appreciation and understanding?How can maintaining a 'conflict-free zone' improve long-term relationship satisfaction?In this enlightening episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin engage in a profound discussion with Dr. Warren Farrell, a renowned thought leader in the realm of relationships and men's mental health. Delve into Dr. Farrell's latest book, "Rolemate to Soulmate," which unveils the secrets to sustaining lifelong love by turning...2025-03-0736 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage214 - Understanding Trauma and Its Impact on Adult RelationshipsPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Are you and your partner navigating the impact of past trauma on your relationship? Do you want to understand how childhood experiences might be affecting your adult intimate connections? Are you looking for steps to foster healing and strengthen your relationship? In this enlightening episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin discuss the profound effect of childhood trauma on adult relationships and share their personal journey through healing. They explain how trauma shapes attachment styles and coping mechanisms, and offer insights into recognizing triggers...2025-02-2834 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage212 - Building Lasting Love: Tips for Long-Term Relationship Success in a Fast-Paced WorldPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Are you and your partner struggling to keep your relationship thriving amidst life's chaos? Searching for practical strategies to feel more emotionally connected? Curious about what elements are truly essential for lasting love?In this enlightening episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin delve into the heart of what it takes to keep a long-term relationship strong in today's fast-paced world. Discover essential components like commitment to growth, effective conflict resolution, and creating shared values and goals. Tarah and EJ...2025-02-1427 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage211 - The Intersection of Neuroscience and Therapy in Trauma Recovery with Cody IsabelPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Are you curious how neuroscience can transform mental and emotional health? Ever wondered how AI could predict your mood or emotional state? Want to understand how technology empowers individuals to overcome trauma and improve their relationships?In this enlightening episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin welcome Cody Isabel, founder of the Mind Brain Body Lab and an innovator in the intersection of neuroscience, technology, and mental health. Cody unravels the complexities of trauma bonding and how modern technology can offer practical...2025-02-0743 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage210 - Rebuilding Trust: Overcoming Anxious-Avoidant Attachment in RelationshipsPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Are you struggling with trust issues in your long-term relationship?Wondering how to navigate mismatched attachment styles? Are you curious about practical steps to bridge the gap between an anxious and avoidant partner? In this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin read a heartfelt email from a listener facing these challenges. Tune in as they offer insightful advice, break down the complexities of attachment styles, and provide actionable tools like daily emotional check-ins, creating transparency agreements, and more. Whether...2025-01-3133 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage209 - Mindfulness and Motherhood: Kelly Smith on Managing Resentment and Finding PeacePurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.How can mindfulness and meditation help in managing resentment in relationships?What are the practical steps to begin a meditation practice that aids in emotional clarity?How does resentment manifest in relationships, especially in the context of new parenthood, and what can be done to address it?In this insightful episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin welcome Kelly Smith, founder of Yoga for You and host of top-rated podcasts, Mindful in Minutes Meditation and Meditation Mama. Kelly shares her...2025-01-2446 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage208 - Enhancing Intimacy: Rewriting Your Relationship StoryPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.How can couples effectively communicate their needs and desires for physical intimacy?What practical steps can couples take to reflect on and improve their intimacy?How do stress and daily distractions impact intimate relationships and what can be done to overcome these obstacles?Tarah and EJ Kerwin dive deep into enhancing intimacy within relationships. They introduce their innovative program, "Relationship Renovation at Home," designed to offer couples a structured approach to improving their intimate connections. The episode centers around their unique tool, "rewriting your...2025-01-1731 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage207 - Navigating Grief: Healing and Empathy in RelationshipsPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Are you and your partner struggling to navigate the turbulent waters of grief?How can couples support each other when one feels overwhelmed by loss?What are the best strategies to maintain a healthy relationship amidst personal despair?In this heartfelt episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin sit down with mental health expert Carolyn Fiolek-Winson to explore the profound impact of grief on relationships. Drawing from her personal experiences of profound loss and her expertise in grief counseling, Carolyn shares invaluable...2025-01-1037 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage206 - Crafting Intentions for a Stronger Relationship in 2025Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Are you looking for ways to feel more emotionally and intimately connected with your partner in 2025?Do you want to create actionable, shared goals to strengthen your relationship?Are you curious about navigating potential challenges while setting intentions with your significant other?In this episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin guide you through setting meaningful intentions together as a couple. Reflecting on the victories and struggles of the past year, they provide a three-step framework to help you dream...2025-01-0322 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage205 - Creating Emotional Connection: Marriage365 Insights with Casey and Meygan CastonPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.In this enlightening episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin welcome Casey and Meygan Caston, the dynamic duo behind Marriage365, to explore the critical elements that keep marriages thriving. Drawing from their personal experiences and professional insights, the Castons delve into how they navigate contrasting parenting styles, emphasizing the balance between fun spontaneity and steady structure. The discussion highlights the importance of effective communication tools such as weekly marriage meetings, which have proven to reduce conflict duration and enhance emotional connections. Hear firsthand how both couples have transformed...2024-12-2736 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage204 - Holiday Special: Creating Deeper Connections with Your PartnerPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.What is the foundational element for a happy, healthy relationship?How can couples create a deeper emotional and intimate connection?What practical steps can you take to improve your relationship during the holiday season?In this heartwarming holiday-themed episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin unwrap the ultimate gift for couples: the gift of connection. With cozy visuals and thoughtful insights, they delve into the importance of belonging and how it manifests in healthy, fulfilling relationships. Tune in to hear...2024-12-2014 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage203 - Rebuilding Trust and Emotional Safety: Whitney and Derek's StoryPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Join our hosts, EJ and Tarah Kerwin, as they dive deep into the complexities of marital growth and emotional resilience with our inspiring guests, Derek and Whitney. In this heartfelt episode of Relationship Renovation, Tarah emphasizes that actions speak louder than words when building genuine intimacy, and Derek shares the profound impact of his past behavior on his relationship. Whitney's journey from considering divorce to reigniting love and trust provides a relatable and motivating narrative for anyone grappling with relationship struggles.Tune in to hear how Derek's military...2024-12-1356 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage202 - Breaking Barriers: Communicating About Physical and Emotional Intimacy, Part 4 in Intimacy SeriesPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.How can couples differentiate between acceptance and resignation in their relationship struggles?What role does curiosity and empathy play in overcoming feelings of rejection?How can open and vulnerable conversations improve both physical and emotional intimacy?Join hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin on the fourth part of the "Intimacy Balance" series, where they delve deep into the complexities of maintaining both physical and emotional intimacy in long-term relationships. In this episode, the Kerwins explore how acceptance, rather than resignation, can transform your relationship, helping...2024-12-0631 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage201 - Overcoming Emotional Barriers: Building Intimacy through Connection and Communication in Relationships Pt 3Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.What are the common barriers to emotional intimacy in relationships, and how can they be overcome?How can couples improve their communication to build deeper emotional connections?Why is vulnerability crucial for emotional intimacy, and how can partners embrace it effectively?In this engaging episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin tackle the complex issue of emotional disconnection in relationships, highlighting the critical barriers that many couples face. From fear of vulnerability and lack of trust to poor communication skills, the episode...2024-11-2942 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage200 - Unlocking Deeper Connections: Emotional and Physical Intimacy in Relationships Pt 2Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.How can resolving conflicts through vulnerability enhance emotional intimacy in relationships?What are the key distinctions among the various types of non-sexual physical intimacy in fostering deeper connections?Why is nurturing spiritual, intellectual, and experiential intimacy crucial for a balanced relationship?In this insightful episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin dive deep into emotional and physical intimacy, continuing their captivating Intimacy series. Join them as they explore how resolving conflicts healthily through vulnerability can deepen relational bonds. Discover...2024-11-2233 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage199 - Mastering the Balance: Emotional and Physical Intimacy in Relationships Pt 1Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.What are the different types of physical intimacy and how do they impact a relationship?How does emotional intimacy complement physical intimacy, and why is it crucial for long-term satisfaction?What are the key components needed to build and sustain both emotional and physical intimacy in relationships?Hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin dive deep into "The Intimacy Balance," exploring the significance of both emotional and physical intimacy in maintaining a happy and healthy relationship. Discover the nuances of physical touch, from the comforting and...2024-11-1533 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage197 - Transforming Money Conflicts into Financial Harmony for CouplesPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.In this episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin welcome financial coach Austin Black, host of The Heart of Money podcast, to explore how couples can strengthen their relationship through better money management. From handling preexisting debt before marriage to preventing financial disagreements, this conversation is packed with actionable strategies to build trust and financial harmony.Austin shares his “Six Secrets to Healthy Money Conversations” and practical resources, including free masterclasses, to guide couples in creating a unified financial vision. With real-life stories and insights, EJ and...2024-11-0131 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage196 - Reignite Your Relationship: Cultivating Curiosity for Stronger ConnectionsPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Ever wondered how to reignite the spark in your relationship? In this episode of Relationship Renovation, Tarah and EJ delve into the transformative power of curiosity. Join us for an insightful discussion packed with actionable advice on how to keep the flame alive in your partnership.Questions this episode will address:How can cultivating curiosity strengthen emotional and physical intimacy in relationships?What daily practices can partners implement to maintain and enhance their connection?How can using tools like books, apps, or guided programs support this journey?2024-10-2529 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage195 - Path to Lasting Love: Tools for Relationship SuccessPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.What are the benefits of practicing vulnerability and emotional support in a relationship?How can structured methods and continuous effort lead to long-term relationship improvement?In this compelling episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts Tarah and EJ delve into the nuances of fostering a healthy and resilient relationship through structured methods. They share anecdotes reflecting their journey from reactive patterns to validating and supportive interactions. By continuously practicing self-awareness and communication skills, they’ve managed to turn contentious situations into opportunities for growth and unity.Li...2024-10-1831 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage194 - Reddit AITA Cheating and Friendship: Can They Coexist in a Healthy Relationship?Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Can a relationship survive after a partner crosses a fidelity boundary?What steps should be taken if a significant other forms an intimate connection outside of the marriage?How can partners rebuild trust and set boundaries to protect their relationship?In this compelling episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin plunge into the intriguing world of Reddit's AITA (Am I the Asshole) subreddit. They tackle a listener-submitted story involving infidelity and the emotional turmoil that follows. Amidst personal sharing and professional insights...2024-10-1118 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage191 - Rebuilding Love Together: The Journey of Relationship RenovationPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.How can couples use the "window of tolerance" to better manage conflicts?What are the benefits of practicing vulnerability and emotional support in a relationship?How can structured methods and continuous effort lead to long-term relationship improvement?In this compelling episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts Tarah and EJ delve into the nuances of fostering a healthy and resilient relationship through structured methods. The hosts share anecdotes reflecting their journey from reactive patterns to validating and supportive interactions. By continuously practicing self-awareness and communication skills...2024-09-2029 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage187 - Turning Arguments into Growth Opportunities in RelationshipsPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.How can a seemingly trivial argument reveal deeper emotional triggers in a relationship?What steps can couples take to repair their relationships after a conflict?How can families involve their children in understanding and resolving conflicts?In this captivating episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin delve into a real-life argument they experienced over the weekend. Spoiler alert – it's not really about the hot dog! Using their backgrounds as seasoned therapists, Tarah and EJ dissect the layers of their argument to...2024-08-2323 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage185 - Building Resilience in Your Relationship: Navigating Difficult Times TogetherPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.How can couples build resilience in their relationship to navigate difficult times?What role does vulnerability play in fostering resilience within a relationship?How can addressing uncomfortable situations together strengthen the bond between partners?In this episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ explore the importance of building resilience in romantic relationships. They discuss how couples can navigate challenging moments and emerge stronger, closer, and more connected than ever before. By sharing personal experiences and insights from their work as couples...2024-08-0928 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage184 - Appreciating Your Partner: How Gratitude Can Transform Your RelationshipPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Welcome to Episode 184 of Relationship Renovation! In today's episode, your hosts Tarah and EJ dive deep into the power of gratitude and appreciation in transforming romantic relationships.Have you ever struggled to express gratitude to your partner, even when you know how important it is? Tarah and EJ understand the challenges couples face in cultivating a culture of appreciation. They share their personal definition of gratitude, describing it as both a feeling and a practice, and emphasize the need to be mindful and kind in expressing thanks.2024-08-0231 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage183 - Navigating Conflict: Building Stronger Relationships Through CommunicationPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.Are you feeling isolated in your relationship?Do you and your partner struggle to communicate effectively?Are you worried about the impact of arguments on your family’s future?In Episode 183 of Relationship Renovation, hosts Tarah and EJ dive into the heart of their recent, intense argument and the feelings of isolation and hopelessness it brought up. Through raw and vulnerable storytelling, they explore the deep-seated issues that triggered their conflict and share the emotional journey to repair and reconnect within 24 hours. Emphasizing the im...2024-07-2631 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage176 - Attachment Series Part 1: Foundations of Emotional Bonds in RelationshipsPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.What are the different attachment styles, and how do they impact relationships?How can understanding your attachment style help improve your relationship?What practical steps can couples take to build secure attachment?Tarah and EJ embark on the first part of a transformative three-part series focused on attachment theory. This episode dives into understanding your individual attachment style, which may be causing dysfunction in your relationships. Tarah and EJ discuss the origins of attachment theory from John Bowlby's research and break down the four...2024-06-0726 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage174 - From Despair to Repair: Building Stronger ConnectionsPurchase Relationship Renovation at Home Online Course.How can couples build positive resourcing to repair their relationship after periods of disconnection?What are the challenges and benefits of male vulnerability in a relationship?How can couples balance their busy lives while prioritizing their emotional connection?In this powerful episode of *Relationship Renovation*, hosts EJ and Tarah dive deep into a topic that many couples face but seldom discuss—feeling disconnected from each other. They courageously share their own experiences of disconnection amidst the demands of raising children and running a business. EJ...2024-05-2439 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage173 - Navigating the Highs and Lows of Marriage: Real Talk on Struggles and TriumphsHow can couples stay connected during challenging times?What strategies can help manage feelings of sadness and overwhelm in a busy life?How can partners support each other through emotional ups and downs?In this heartfelt and incredibly honest episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin share a raw glimpse into their own relationship dynamics. Celebrating their 11th wedding anniversary should have been a joyous occasion, but life had other plans, leading to unexpected challenges and disappointments. Tarah opens up about her struggles with sadness and depression, while EJ candidly discusses...2024-05-1720 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage171 - Building Safety and Intimacy: Strategies for ConnectionWill a lack of intimacy lead to relationship anxiety?How can you rebuild an intimate connection with your partner?What are safety containers and how do they help in nurturing intimacy?In this insightful episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ Kerwin delve into the complexities of intimacy and its impact on relationships. With a focus on the anxiety and tension that can arise from intimacy issues, they explore practical solutions to help couples foster a safer, more connected environment. Touching on personal experiences and professional insights, they introduce the...2024-05-0328 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage170 - Healing Emotional Disconnection in Long-Term RelationshipsAre you feeling emotionally disconnected from your partner?Do you wonder how to meet each other's needs more effectively?Are you struggling to set boundaries with family while living under the same roof?In this heartfelt episode of Relationship Renovation, EJ and Tarah delve into a listener's email about the challenges of emotional disconnection after eight years in a relationship. They discuss the nuances of needing affection and support, the struggle of living with judgmental in-laws, and the complexities surrounding a child's special needs. EJ and Tarah offer insightful advice on how to...2024-04-2628 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage169 - Identifying and Communicating Your Needs: A Guide to Better ConnectionAre you struggling to communicate your needs within your relationship effectively?Do you feel that your partner isn't hearing you or understanding what you truly need?How can you express your needs in a way that not only is heard but increases the likelihood that they will be met?In this compelling episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts Tarah and EJ dive into the intricacies of recognizing and expressing needs in a partnership. They unpack the common pitfalls that prevent partners from effectively communicating and understanding each other's needs. By sharing personal...2024-04-1922 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage168 - Emotional Affairs: Recognizing, Repairing, and Rebuilding TrustAre you worried about emotional affairs and how they might be affecting your relationship?Unsure about how to establish healthy boundaries with your partner or friends?Struggling to understand why emotional affairs happen in the first place?In today's insightful episode hosts Tarah and EJ address a listener's challenging experience with an emotional affair and offer their professional guidance to navigate this complex situation. They delve into the reasons behind emotional affairs, discuss how to define them, and emphasize the critical role of boundaries within a relationship. Whether you're repairing trust or aiming...2024-04-1226 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage166 - Want to Snuggle? A Guide to Getting Closer with Your PartnerAre you and your partner on the same page with your levels of physical and emotional intimacy?How can you discuss and navigate differing desires without judgment or tension?What playful tools can you use to communicate about your intimacy needs effectively?Dive into Episode 166 of Relationship Renovation, where hosts EJ and Tarah unwrap the complex layers of physical and emotional intimacy in relationships. This episode introduces listeners to the "frisky scale," a unique and engaging approach for couples to gauge and discuss their intimacy levels in a non-threatening way. Learn how to...2024-03-2929 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage163 - How to Stop Being Defensive in Your Relationship and Build Emotional SafetyHow does defensiveness affect your relationship with your partner?What role do childhood experiences play in shaping emotional responses in relationship?How did EJ and Tarah work through their challenges and what lessons can listeners learn from their experience?In this revealing and heartwarming episode of Relationship Renovation, EJ and Tarah Kerwin open up about their own journey to emotional safety and intimacy in their relationship. EJ shares his struggle with defensiveness and the impact it had on their relationship, while also delving into the roots of his emotional responses that were shaped...2024-03-0827 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage160 - Breaking Through Relationship Barriers: How to Empower Change in Your PartnerHow can you approach a situation where your partner is unwilling to change in the relationship?What are the potential reasons behind a partner's resistance to change in a relationship?How can you empower yourself when feeling disempowered in a relationship dynamic?In this episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, EJ and Tarah address a listener's struggle with a partner who refuses to acknowledge their need for change in the relationship. The dynamic of feeling stuck and powerless when met with resistance from a partner can be challenging, but the hosts discuss strategies...2024-02-1621 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage159 - The Intimacy Dilemma: Bridging the Gap Between Emotional and Physical ConnectionWhat are the challenges couples face in maintaining emotional and physical intimacy over time?How do changes in life circumstances, aging, and hormonal shifts affect a couple's intimate relationship?What impact does trauma, big and small, have on emotional and physical intimacy within a relationship?Show notes:In this episode, hosts EJ and Tarah delve deeply into the intimacy dilemma faced by many couples. They candidly explore the challenges that arise in maintaining emotional and physical intimacy over time, shedding light on how life changes, aging, and hormonal shifts can impact...2024-02-0926 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage158 - Marriage Communication Tool: Six Words ExerciseHow can couples use the "Six Words" exercise to define the qualities they want in their relationship?What is the significance of the "Six Words" exercise in the context of improving communication and decision-making for couples?How does the "Six Words" exercise help to promote a positive and intentional approach to nurturing a healthy relationship?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, EJ and Tarah Kerwin delve into the "Six Words" exercise, a powerful tool designed to help couples define and cultivate the qualities they desire in their relationship. Throughout the discussion, they walk...2024-02-0222 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage157 - Restoring Harmony: Effective Communication Post-Conflict in RelationshipsAre you seeking ways to reconnect with your partner after a difficult fight?Do you want to learn the importance of understanding emotional triggers in your relationship?Are you wondering how to turn conflicts into opportunities for personal growth and a deeper connection?In this episode, seasoned therapists and married couple EJ and Tarah delve into the transformative power of conflict in relationships and the art of reconciliation. Through their personal experiences and therapeutic insights, they reveal how understanding the psychology behind upbringings and unconscious triggers can significantly bolster the way couples navigate...2024-01-2630 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage151 - Holiday Edition: Connecting Deeply Despite Seasonal Stress (Family and Money)Are you struggling with setting healthy boundaries during holiday family gatherings?Do financial pressures and gift-giving expectations during the holidays cause tension in your relationship?How can you stay connected and supportive of your partner amidst the hustle and bustle of the holiday season?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah delve into the complexities of managing couple dynamics during the festive period. This episode deals with relatable situations and offers practical advice on navigating the gift-giving imbalance and achieving inclusivity among both families. With the mission to nurture healthier...2023-12-1532 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage150 - Navigating Stress and Emotions Together: Relationship Renovation - Holiday Season EditionHow can couples manage the distribution of labor and balance self-care during the holiday season?What are the common stressors and dynamics couples face during the holidays, and how can they navigate and support each other through these challenges?What strategies and techniques can couples use to stay connected and mindful during the festive season while maintaining wellness and intimacy?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, EJ and Tarah dive deep into the unique challenges couples face during the holiday season and provide expert guidance on staying connected and emotionally attuned to each...2023-12-0824 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage149 - The Silent Partner: Encouraging Expression in LoveHow can couples improve emotional intimacy when one partner is less expressive?What are effective communication strategies for less expressive individuals in relationships?Why is emotional safety crucial for maintaining a strong connection in a marriage?In this episode, EJ and Tarah delve into the intricacies of emotional safety and expression within intimate relationships. Through a heartwarming excerpt from a couple's therapy session, they explore the journey of a less emotionally expressive male partner who steps into vulnerability and the positive ripple effect it creates in his relationship. Our hosts unpack trust and...2023-12-0131 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage146 - Transforming Thought Patterns: Fostering Deeper Connection with Your PartnerWhat is internal dialogue, and how does it impact our relationships?How does negative internal dialogue affect emotional safety and connection with our partner?How can we become aware of and address negative self-launching thoughts to improve our relationship?In this compelling episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, E.J. and Tarah Kerwin delve into the fascinating topic of internal dialogue and its profound impact on our relationships. They explore how our self-launching thoughts often pull us away from our partners, leading to feelings of disconnection, confusion, and perceived threats. By sharing personal...2023-11-1023 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage145 - The Path to Emotional Safety: Building Trust and Connection in Your RelationshipAre you wondering how to create emotional safety within your relationship? Are you looking for strategies to cultivate a sense of security and acceptance with your partner? Do you want to understand why emotional safety is vital for a healthy and thriving relationship? In this episode of "Relationship Renovation," hosts EJ and Tarah dive deep into the crucial topic of emotional safety in relationships. They explore its definition, the impact of its absence, and the path to building trust and connection. Tune in to this insightful episode where EJ and Tarah provide expert...2023-11-0333 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage144 - Kidsplosion: How Having Children Can Impact Your Relationship in Unexpected WaysIn this episode, EJ and Tarah answer three key questions about the impact of having children on a relationship:1. How does becoming parents affect the dynamics of a relationship?2. What are some common challenges couples face when they have children?3. How can couples stay connected and prioritize their relationship while raising a family?In this episode of Relationship Renovation, hosts EJ and Tarah delve into the topic of how having children can impact your relationship. They discuss the common challenges that arise when couples become parents and share their own experiences...2023-10-2728 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage142 - The Marriage Question: Debunking the Myth of Knowing 'The One' Right AwayHow does the past affect our ability to commit in relationships?Is it common for couples to have different beliefs about marriage and commitment?How do childhood experiences impact our attachment styles in relationships?What factors contribute to one's readiness for marriage and long-term commitment?On this episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah dive into a listener's email about the struggle to commit deeper in a relationship. They explore the idea of knowing if someone is "the one" and discuss the different perspectives and expectations around marriage...2023-10-1324 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage138 - Taking a Closer Look: Boundaries as the Foundation of a Healthy, Intimate Relationship Pt. 1Have you ever thought about the importance of boundaries in your relationship?How do you typically approach difficult conversations with your partner?Do you feel comfortable expressing your boundaries to your partner?On this episode of the Relationship Renovation podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah delve into the important topic of boundaries. Drawing from their Relationship Renovation at Home program and workbook, they guide listeners through a series of thought-provoking questions to help them better understand and communicate their boundaries with their partners. Tune in as EJ and Tarah share their own experiences and...2023-09-1528 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage137 - The Power of Patience and Trust: Strengthening Your Bond Through HardshipsHave you ever experienced a moment of disconnection after a period of being closely connected with your partner? How did you handle it?What are some strategies for cultivating patience in difficult moments within a relationship?How can resourcing, such as visualization or other techniques, help regulate emotional reactions during challenging times?Join us as we embark on an exhilarating journey into the heart of relationships with EJ and Tarah! 💑 They're about to reveal the ultimate secrets to fortifying your love, especially when life throws curveballs your way.💫 Imagine going from the su...2023-09-0821 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage134 - Navigating Ambivalence: Exploring the Uncertain Path of Relationships with Teresa JansenHave you ever been in a relationship where you felt ambivalent about staying in it? How did you navigate those feelings?How do you think attachment styles and personal history influence our relationships and decision-making processes?In this thought-provoking episode, Tarah and EJ are joined by special guest Teresa Jansen LAC, as they delve into the complex topic of ambivalence in relationships. They explore the challenges faced by individuals who choose to remain in a relationship despite their partner's uncertainty, and how attachment and personal history play a role in shaping these dynamics. With their...2023-08-1832 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage133 - The Positive Power of Investing in Each Other: Belief, Trust, and Growth in RelationshipsJoin Tarah and EJ as they embark on a captivating exploration into the boundless power of narratives and their profound influence on our relationships. Uncover the illuminating insights that lie within the realm of narrative as our hosts unveil the secrets to dismantling troublesome narratives that often fuel negativity while unveiling the art of cultivating uplifting ones.Through heartfelt discussions and a shared commitment to growth, EJ and Tarah guide us toward a refreshing perspective. They reveal how deliberately reshaping our narratives can liberate us from the clutches of pessimism, fostering a radiant environment for positive thoughts...2023-08-1126 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage131 - The Power of Open Communication: Navigating Conflict, Sex, and Romance in RelationshipsHow have your perspectives on asking for emotional support and expressing your needs changed over the years?How do you navigate conflicts in your relationship? Are you able to express your feelings and needs openly?How do you approach conversations about sex drive differences in your relationship? Are you able to have open and honest discussions about your needs and desires?In this episode, EJ and Tarah dive deep into the power of open communication, focusing on shifting perspectives and understanding expectations within relationships. Get ready to be inspired and learn...2023-07-2821 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage130 - Breaking Down Expectations: Avoiding Resentment and Anger in RelationshipsIn this enlightening episode of "Relationship Renovation," join hosts Tarah and E.J. Kerwin as they explore the profound impact of time and intentionality on relationships. From navigating expectations to healing after infidelity, the hosts provide thought-provoking answers to four crucial relationship questions:Can time truly heal all relationship wounds, even in cases of infidelity?Is it possible to solve all problems with the right amount of time and intentionality?Should we expect our partners to instinctively know our needs without communicating them?How does attachment theory influence our relationship expectations?2023-07-2121 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage82 - Relationship Ready - Preparing for a healthy partnership - Interview with Jessie KrallIndividuals enter into relationships unaware of the obstacles they will face to establish a healthy, loving connection that lasts a lifetime. By exploring unconscious feelings, thoughts, and behaviors, you can create the awareness needed to communicate and express love to your partner in a way that increases the likelihood of a long-lasting marriage or coupleship.In this episode, Tarah and EJ talk with Jessie Krall MA/LPC about a new online product that Tarah and Jessie created. Relationship Ready is a 10-lesson program designed for individuals to understand themselves better to find or enhance a loving, intimate...2022-08-1929 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage54 - When Resentment Flares - Understanding and navigating through resentment in your relationshipThroughout an intimate relationship, couples face challenging times. Many of the burdens you face as a couple, result from difficult times, external stress, and how you and your partner cope. Oftentimes, the stress you face is a direct result of your partner's choices and how they succeed and fail to adapt to the ups and downs of life. Resentment is the uncomfortable emotion that individuals in a committed relationship feel when they blame their partner for the emotional discomfort they are feeling. Resentment is a result of pulling apart in challenging moments and beginning to feel alone and unsupported...2022-02-0434 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage52 - It Got Real Quick - When real life struggles hit your relationship early onThe beginning of a relationship is often a time of excitement and immense pleasure. You and your partner stay up late talking, kissing, and more! It’s almost like you can’t get enough of them. You can face the next day of work or school with little to no sleep and show up with the high of love exuding out of every pore on your body. This “honeymoon” period of love and attraction can last weeks, months, or even years. But when it ends, there can be a tremendous letdown, and suddenly the love of your life becomes human wi...2022-01-2126 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage49 - Reflection and Intentions - Creating purpose with your partnerTaking an honest and empathetic yet critical look at how the past will affect the future helps couples create the loving relationship that they crave. It helps them identify the obstacles that get in the way of healthy conflict resolution. When couples lack the understanding of the roots of the discord in their relationship they get lost in destructive patterns of communication which diminishes their ability to feel intimately connected. In this episode, Tarah and EJ begin by reflecting on the fatigue and distress they have seen individuals and couples struggle with over the past y...2021-12-3130 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage47 - Sex Love and Goop Review - Two Couples Counseling Therapists ReactionWhen a couple seeks help for their relationship, they address various topics -- communication, parenting, finances, family integration, appreciation, work/life balance, and of course, sex and intimacy. No issue is more complicated to navigate than a couple's intimate relationship. Having the ability to express love and receive love from your partner is the foundation of wellness and satisfaction in your relationship. Unfortunately, sex and intimacy are frequently where couples are most ill-equipped to communicate constructively. When couples become comfortable talking about sex, they open the door to a mutually satisfying intimate relationship where they feel loved, cherished, and...2021-12-1728 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage45 - Surviving the Holidays Part 2Family dynamics, gift buying, finances, blended families, and holiday expectations are one of the many issues couples have to cope with in the weeks ahead. The holiday season is a time where there are added stressors and expectations. At a time when individuals want to feel deeply connected to their partner, they can easily find themselves lonely, frustrated, and unfulfilled.In this episode, Tarah and EJ take questions from their social media followers. They share strategies couples can use to stay connected and united throughout the holiday season. This episode focuses on helping couples communicate and create...2021-12-0328 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage43 - Surviving the Holidays Part 1Family dynamics, gift buying, finances, blended families, and holiday expectations are one of the many issues couples have to cope with in the weeks ahead. The holiday season is a time where there are added stressors and expectations. At a time when individuals want to feel deeply connected to their partner, they can easily find themselves lonely, frustrated, and unfulfilled.In this episode, Tarah and EJ take questions from their social media followers. They share strategies couples can use to stay connected and united throughout the holiday season. This episode focuses on helping couples communicate and create...2021-11-1926 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage42 - The Enjoyable and Enriching Experience of Couples Counseling - Interview with Jessie KrallThe idea of going to couples counseling can be intimidating and feel daunting. Often, couples put off seeking support until they are in a place of crisis. This complicates the process and can slow down healing because their communication has gone so far offline. When couples come to counseling preventatively or early on in their relationship, they can strengthen their relationship and avoid many damaging dynamics that leave them emotionally and intimately distant.In this episode Tarah and EJ interview Jessie Krall, a therapist at their center. Jessie shares her experience of working with couples and how...2021-11-1230 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage41 - Are We Enjoying This? - Looking for What You Love About Your PartnerIndividuals can get so caught up in life that they take their relationships for granted. Instead of appreciating all of the ways that their partner enriches their life, they only notice moments of discomfort and disruption. If couples aren't careful they can get stuck in patterns of frustration and annoyance that pull them apart and erode their intimate connection.In this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss the importance of enjoying your relationship by noticing what is wonderful about your partner. They discuss common detrimental dynamics that couples fall into and strategies to see your partner in a...2021-11-0322 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage39 - Emotional Triage - Taking Care of Each Other in ConflictCouples often lack the tools to navigate conflict in a healthy way. They both become emotionally activated and engage in a "war of perspectives". They desperately want to feel heard and understood, but because they are both hurt, angry and frustrated they struggle to listen and validate each other's thoughts and feelings.In this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss Emotional Triage, a strategy that can be employed during difficult moments which helps couples remain emotionally connected and build confidence in their ability to resolve conflict.This is one of many tools Tarah and EJ teach...2021-10-2234 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage38 - Recovery's Impact on Relationship - Interview with Dean AndersonMore than half of all adults have a family history of alcoholism or problem drinking. More than 7 million children live in a household where at least one parent is dependent on or has abused alcohol. Alcohol abuse can be a significant cause of relationship stress. It is essential to understand the impact problem drinking has on your individual and relationship wellness.In this episode Tarah and EJ interview Dean Anderson (author, executive, husband, and father). Dean discusses the impact alcohol had on him as an individual and partner. He shares his road to recovery, and the significant...2021-10-1539 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage37 - It's a Long Game - Individual Growth in Your RelationshipRelationships improve when each individual commits to facing their challenges and growing as a person. By committing to personal growth and learning to support your partner in their development you create the possibility for a long-lasting healthy relationship.In this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss realistic expectations of the pace of change in yourself and your partner. They share challenges they face in their relationship and what they have learned both as a couple and as therapists about how to create the atmosphere most supportive of individual growth which enriches a relationship.Together Tarah and...2021-10-0826 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage35 - Smooth Transitions - Learning to Navigate Change TogetherIn our years of working with couples in counseling, it has become clear that when couples go through changes that this often destabilizes them. Often couples find themselves feeling separate and frustrated with one another and have no idea how this happened. The truth is that individuals have very different ways in which they cope with change and when their instinctual responses to change do not line up then problems arise.In this episode, Tarah and EJ explore the different life transitions couples face. They discuss the reasons why transitions can be difficult for couples and provide...2021-09-1730 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage32 - EMDR Demystified - Interview with Robin Memel Fox MA/LPCTarah and EJ Kerwin interview Robin Memel Fox MA/LPC, a therapist specializing in Dance/Movement and EMDR. They spend the interview discussing EMDR, a well-researched trauma resolution technique. They help the audience understand this therapeutic approach, how it works, and the benefits it offers individuals who have experienced trauma.EMDR International Association (listing of therapists and resources)https://www.emdria.org/https://www.emdria.org/about-emdr-therapy/Books:Getting Past your Past by Francine Shapiro, Ph.D.Tapping...2021-08-0633 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage31 - Don't Keep It in a Box - Relationship Challenges for military vets, law enforcement, and first respondersTarah and EJ interview Liz Montgomery, Psy D.Dr. Liz is a military vet and therapist specializing in trauma and its' effect on relationships. They discuss the culture of the military, law enforcement, and first responders and how the skills they develop in their occupation often cause trouble for them in their intimate relationships. Individuals in these fields often struggle to connect with and communicate in a vulnerable way with their partners. They compartmentalize their emotions and can become frustrated and overwhelmed in emotionally challenging situations. They discuss barriers to treatment and provide guidance in finding the...2021-07-2326 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage30 - Benefit of the Doubt - Expecting the best (not the worst) from your partnerOften times couples begin to expect the worst of their partner. They assume that even in the most simple interactions there are hidden or negative feelings. In this episode, Tarah and EJ explore why couples struggle to give each other The Benefit of the Doubt. They explore how this dynamic develops in long-term relationships and the consequences when it is not addressed. They also help couples develop ways to address this dynamic in order to feel more deeply connected.Tarah and EJ also offer an at-home program for Couples seeking to build a better relationship....2021-07-0927 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage29 - Offense vs. Defense - Communicating in Frustrating MomentsIn this episode Tarah and EJ asked their social media audience to provide statements that create conflict in their relationship. They take each of these statements and share ways to communicate them in a way that is more hearable to your partner. Often couples struggle to communicate there frustrations in a kind, loving and honest way. Their message which is lost in their delivery. A vulnerable or even loving desire for connection is completely obscured by their inability to express their feelings. Tarah and EJ attempt to normalize habitual patterns of communication that many couples struggle with.2021-06-2527 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage28 - Acceptance vs. Resignation - A Healthy Approach to StrugglesIn this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss a healthy approach to the normal struggles that couples face in their relationship. In all relationships, there are challenging dynamics that can only be resolved through intentional effort over a longer period of time. This mindset creates an atmosphere where a couple can avoid falling into feelings of resentment and despair which can pull them apart and create new obstacles to a deep and loving connection. They share strategies that support couples in staying committed to personal and relational growth.Tarah and EJ have are relationship experts...2021-06-1126 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage27 - Couples Counseling Success Story - Interview with Mike and KatieIn this episode Tarah and EJ interview Mike and Katie, a couple who went through their Relationship Renovation program over a year ago. The four of them discuss the process of couples counseling. Mike and Katie share the positive shifts they experienced in couples counseling and how their relatioTarah and EJ have are relationship experts who help couples understand the underlying individual issues that often lead to struggles within the relationship. They normalize the ups and downs of relationships and offer tools to support healthy communication and individual growth.Tarah and EJ's goal is...2021-05-2836 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage26 - Crisis Averted - Healthy Conflict ResolutionIn this episode, Tarah and EJ dissect a recent conflict that they had and how they found a healthy resolution that led to increased confidence in their ability to solve problems together. They explore common pitfalls that they and many couples fall into in emotionally activated moments.Tarah and EJ have are relationship experts who help couples understand the underlying individual issues that often lead to struggles within the relationship. They normalize the ups and downs of relationships and offer tools to support healthy communication and individual growth.Our...2021-05-1413 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage25 - Relationship Renovation at HomeIn this episode, Tarah and EJ share their new online program for couples, Relationship Renovation at Home.Our goal is to create a safe environment where couples explore their feelings and grow together. By establishing clear, honest, and compassionate communication, we help strengthen or rebuild the foundation of your relationship.Relationship Renovation at home is designed for couples facing struggles in their relationship and couples who want to strengthen their relationship. Relationship Renovation at home gives couples the tools to communicate in a healthier way and strengthen their intimate...2021-04-3015 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage23 - Uncontrollable Child (Parenting Strategies) - Interview with Matis MillerIn this episode Tarah and EJ interview Matis Miller.Matis Miller, LCSW, is a licensed clinical social worker and certified cognitive and dialectical behavior therapist with more than fifteen years of experience. He is the founder, director, and supervisor of The Center for Cognitive & Behavioral Therapy of New Jersey. His educational and training background includes certification in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) from the Academy of Cognitive Therapy and intensive training at the Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Miller has also been awarded certification from the DBT-Linehan Board of Certification in dialectical behavior therapy...2021-04-0137 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage21 - Don't Drop It Like It's Hot - Communicating with Your Partner about FrustrationsIn this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss the importance of addressing concerns with your partner early on. Often couples avoid addressing issues for various reasons. When they don’t communicate their frustrations or needs, negative feelings can build, and they can begin to express negative emotions in an ineffective way that pulls them apart. Tarah and EJ discuss why couples can become conflict-avoidant and how this can backfire and create more conflict. By creating agreements with your partner about how and when you will communicate frustrations, you can create systems that foster honest and kind communication.Su...2021-03-0226 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage13 - It's a Slippery SlopeIn this episode Tarah and EJ have a guest, Bryce Paradis MA Clinical Therapy, a therapist specializing in couples counseling and substance abuse. The three discuss substance use/abuse and it's effects on healthy relationships. The also talk about increased alcohol use during the current Covid quarantine. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands2020-04-2917 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage12 - Hello Intimacy Do I Really Know You?In this episode Tarah and E.J. discuss intimacy. They help couples understand that intimacy exists on a spectrum from kind words all the way to sex. They also explore how emotional safety creates an atmosphere where couples have the ability to give and receive love more freely.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands2020-04-1114 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage11 - Love in the New NormalIn this episode Tarah and E.J. discuss challenges couples are facing in relation to Covid-19 and discuss their upcoming FREE 4 week intimacy building program for couples. www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands2020-04-0115 min
Relationship Renovation | Couples | Love | Advice | Intimacy | Communication | Marriage1 - Our StoryMeet EJ and Tarah Kerwin, the husband-wife team behind He Said She Said Couples Counseling. In this first episode, the two discuss how and why they got into couples counseling. www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands2019-02-0621 min