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Life After I LeftElisha Tamasi on Life After… Body Shame: Elisha’s journey to confidence, healing & self-love.Audio: Just a heads-up, the audio in the first few guest interviews isn’t perfect (we’ve been navigating a few tech gremlins), but everyone must start somewhere. Please stick with us, the stories are worth it, and the audio will improve. This week’s episode is a deeply powerful and heartfelt conversation with life coach, speaker, and podcast host, Elisha Tamasi, a woman whose story will both move and empower you. From childhood body image issues and toxic diet culture to hitting rock bottom and rebuilding her self-worth from the ground up, Elisha...2025-06-0438 min
Happy, Healthy & Whole - The PodcastHappy, Healthy & Whole | Guest Episode: Radical Self-Love with Elisha TamasiIn this episode of Happy, Healthy & Whole, I’m joined by Elisha Tamasi—also known as The Polynesian Life Coach—a self-love and confidence coach whose work is as bold as it is beautiful.Elisha turned her own journey through body shame, diet culture, and self-doubt into a mission: to help women stop shrinking, stop waiting, and start loving themselves right now—as they are.Together, we explore:Why confidence isn’t a performance—it’s a permission slipHow to unlearn the body beliefs that keep you stuckThe hidden ways diet culture shows up in “self-impro...2025-04-2623 min
The Polynesian Life Coach133. 2025 Goals - Inspiring You To THINK BIG!QUEEN! HAPPY NEW YEAAARRRRR!
We are back in action and kicking off 2025 with a powerful episode to inspire you to THINK BIG and set goals that truly reflect self love this year!🚀
In this first episode of the year, I'm challenging you to step outside of your comfort zone and dream beyond the limits you've placed on yourself.
It's time to set intentions that will elevate your life and bring you closer to the woman you’re destined to be.
Tune...2025-01-2029 minThe Polynesian Life Coach97. Birthday TraumaWow exactly a month ago I celebrated my 31st bday and omg it was such an emotional one. On this week's podcast I share those emotions and tell you all about my bday trauma, I know a few of you can relate so i've also added in some tips that'll help you.
Thank you for listening love xx2024-07-0128 minThe Polynesian Life Coach96. Stop Complaining, Start Taking Action!Stop complaining sis! This weeks poddy is a reminder to watch your words!
Do you complain a lot? Are you taking action to change the situation you continue to complain about or is it something you've been complaining about for years? This poddy might be the wake up call you need!
Stop complaining and start taking control and taking action!
Listen and let me know what you think here2024-06-2412 minThe Polynesian Life Coach95. Co Parenting And Ego With Ani TahuiSis thank you so much for being here!
On this weeks podcast episode I have special guest Ani Tahui the owner of activewear brand Tahui Active.
We talk about business, size inclusivity, self-love and self acceptance, getting pregnant at 19 years old, accepting motherhood, motherhood struggles, coparenting and ego and so much more
I was blown away from this podcast episode honestly thank you so much to the Sis for jumping on the podcast and if you want to follow her journey, please click the link below and follow her. She’s fucking incredible!
https://www.instagram.com/tahui.active/
https://ww...2024-06-171h 02The Polynesian Life Coach94. Keep Your Promises To YourselfBabe it's so important you keep your promises to yourself! When you break the trust with yourself it has many negative impacts like self doubt, lowered self esteem, negative mental health and so much more.
Listen to this week's podcast to hear why it's important to keep your word!2024-06-1009 minThe Polynesian Life Coach93. Stop Playing! Back Yourself!Hey queen, thank you so much for being here!
On this week's podcast episode I talk about the importance of backing yourself ‼️
Having self-confidence, self acceptance and self compassion, as well as self validation haha all the selfs.
I also speak on standing up for yourself. Please enjoy and let me know what you think in the comments or dm me on IG here2024-06-0312 minThe Polynesian Life Coach92. Why You Don't Show Up As Your Fully Expressed SelfSis do you feel like you're not being your true self? Like you have to change yourself or put on a facade to fit in. On this week's podcast I talk about why we don't show up, caring what others think and how to be so secure in yourself that when people do try to dim your light - it doesn't stop you!
I also wanna gift you my free training that teaches you how to become a wahine toa and build unstoppable confidence, click the link below to get your copy - https...2024-05-2717 minThe Polynesian Life Coach91. Struggle To Speak Up? Listen To This!Babe, if you take anything from this video let it be
YOUR VOICE IS IMPORTANT
WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY MATTERS
PLEASE SPEAK YOUR TRUTH
Love youuuuuu xx
PS - you can get the free training I refer to in the video here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/page/4951102024-05-2019 minThe Polynesian Life Coach90. Why Labels Are Detrimental To GrowthWhat labels have you places upon yourself? Could they be doing more harm than anything? On this week's podcast I talk about how the labels you place upon yourself could actually be doing more harm than good. Take a listen and let me know your thoughts here2024-05-1312 minThe Polynesian Life Coach89. STOP Punishing Yourself!Welcome back to this weeks podcast episode sis!
This week I talk about pushing yourself vs punishing yourself!
Growing up I had such a bad relationship with exercise and saw it as punishment. The only reason id exercise is to punish myself for what I had eaten and for not exercising and becoming so fat (when I used to think being fat was a bad thing).
I only ever saw exercise as a way to lose weight.
Now I exercise for my health, to be fit, strong and be able to keep up with Mets and my future kids.
...2024-05-0607 minThe Polynesian Life Coach88. The Truth About 30 Day ChallengesHey sis! Thank you for being here. On this weeks poddy I uncover a trigger of mine haha those 30 day challenges😒
The reason why it triggers me is because all my life I’d chase these challenges for weight loss reasons and I’d restrict myself for the 30 days and lose the weight but then once it’s done I’d revert back to everything I was previously doing and just put the weight back on again. It became very unhealthy and I think people are doing them for all the wrong reasons
My whakaro - why start if it’s not somethi...2024-04-2910 minThe Polynesian Life Coach87. Rebranding - Introducing The Polynesian Life CoachHey sis! Eeeekkkkk I am soooo excited! My rebranding has launched and I am officially 'The Polynesian Life Coach' hehe the amount of love and support I have received has been sooo incredible and this podcast is just a little korero about that. From the photoshoot, to the logo, to why I wanted to change my brand name and how I decided for it to be TPLC. Please enjoy and let me know what you would love to see from TPLC by dm'ing me on IG here2024-04-2312 minThe Polynesian Life Coach86. Mother Daughter RelationshipsHey Sis, thank you so much for being here!
On this week’s podcast I share what I would have loved with my mother daughter relationship growing up, although I am so glad that things turned out the way that they are because I am the woman I am today this is a loving letter to all the mums out there.
Pls enjoy and share you feedback here xx 2024-04-1520 minThe Polynesian Life Coach85. How To Overcome Obstacles In LifeHey gf! Thank you so much for being here! Today I’m talking about how to overcome obstacles in life.
Sometimes we think these obstacles are bad luck and terrible but let’s be real, these moments are actually what shape you. Are you going to let it break you or are you going to push through? Life is not linear, there’s going to be up and downs.
If you are watching this and you are currently going through something - I want you to know that everything is going to be ok. You got this 🧡🧡
Want to work with me? Cli...2024-04-0816 minThe Polynesian Life Coach84. My Thought On Ozempic & Weight Loss SurgeriesHey sis, welcome back to another podcast episode! On this week's podcast I answer a q that came from IG - what's my thoughts on Ozempic and Weight Loss Surgeries.
I think this may be a controversial topic but I loved the question because I am very passionate about self love, body positivity and being confident in my plus size body.
Here's my whakaaro/thoughts, i'd love to know yours!
Let me know by messaging me on instagram here xx2024-04-0114 minThe Polynesian Life Coach83. The Impact Of Working On YourselfHey love! This is a bonus episode for you!
I recently went on a IG live with the beautiful Natasha West, she asked to interview me as part of her Mana Wāhine series which was such an honour.
In the interview she asked me about myself and how I became a Life Coach, the barriers I faced, the effects working on myself has on me, my whanau and community and so much more!
If you enjoy this podcast episode please don't forget to rate and review it :)2024-03-2832 minThe Polynesian Life Coach82. Communication & Confidence With Lilz aka CrossthickHey queen! Eeeeek I'm sooo excited for you to hear this one!
On this week's podcast I have special guest Lilz aka Crossthick joining me!
Lilz is a influencer, mum, LSKD sponsored athlete, strong boss baddie and a keynote speaker.
We talked about Confidence, her journey to becoming a influencer, getting hate online, her traumatic pregnancy and birth story, breaking generational cycles and so much more...
Huge mihi to Lilz for blessing the podcast, if you want more, follow Lilz here2024-03-251h 10The Polynesian Life Coach81. FOCUS - Your Quarterly Kick Up The ButtSis! It's been an incredible past couple weeks!
Actually, the whole year so far has been amazing!
I’ve been in such inspiring spaces and around some amazing amazing people which has lead to more amazing and incredible ideas and things I want to do this year haha
And this has low key taken me off the road I was on to achieving my goals and dreams.
So on this week's podcast episode I give you a loving quarterly kick up the butt! Haha
I remind you of those be...2024-03-1814 minThe Polynesian Life Coach80. Relationship Series #6 - Friendships, Colleagues & AcquaintancesHey queen! Thank you for being here!
On this week's podcast I finish up the relationship series talking about relationships with friends, colleagues and acquaintances. I speak about the expectations we have, becoming the friend that we want to attract, dealing with people you don't like and so much more.
Enjoy sis!2024-03-1117 minThe Polynesian Life Coach79. Relationship Series #5 Family DynamicsHey Kia Ora love! Thank you so much for being here!
On this week's podcast I talk about Family Dynamics, I share about my own relationship with my family members, family expectations, not having my parents in my life, having hard convos with family members, forgiveness and so much more!
Please enjoy and let me know any of your takeaways xx2024-03-0428 minThe Polynesian Life Coach78. Relationship Series #4 Heartbreak/When To LeaveHey love, this weeks podcasts a hard one but its for those of you who are experiencing heartbreak and/or know you need to leave a realtionship
I give you tips on how to know whether you should leave or not and how to manage through heartbreak
At the end of the day I just want you to know that everything is going to be alright
Love you xx 2024-02-2619 minThe Polynesian Life Coach77. Relationship Series #3 For CouplesHey love! Thanks for coming back to the relationship series! I am soooo excited for you to listen to this one! This episode is for my couples but even if you're single rn I would still recommend to have a listen!
I talk about the 5 love languages, communication in relationships, individuality, goals and more.Please enjoy! And let me know your thoughts here2024-02-1919 minThe Polynesian Life Coach76. Relationship Series #2 For My Single LadiesAll my single ladies this one's for you!
On this podcast episode I share my tips on how to date and find the love of your life hehe i'm so excited for you!
If you haven't listened to episode 1 of this relationship series please go back and listen to it before you listen to this one
I'd love to know what you think and if you have any questions here2024-02-1323 minThe Polynesian Life Coach75. Relationship Series #1 Relationship With SelfHey guys! Welcome back to the podcast! For the month of February I am doing a relationship series and this week I am talking about the relationship you have with yourself.
Ooooofff this is SO IMPORTANT!
We attract what we are, if you want an amazing partner you need to become that!If you want a partner that has an amazing mindset, great job, is goal driven, etc.
You need to be that! If you struggle with self love and worthiness this is your invitation to work on it.
How are...2024-02-0514 minThe Polynesian Life Coach74. Money Talk With Te Kahukura Boynton aka Maori MillionaireYal! I am so excited to have my first podcast guest for 2024! Te Kahukura Boynton aka Maori Millionaire!
I am so excited for you to listen to this episode as it is such an important korero!
We talk about what money is, how a poor mindset correlates to lack of money, the effects colonisation has on generational wealth, tips for creating multiple sources of income and so much more!
This is a must listen episode! Enjoy!2024-01-2954 minThe Polynesian Life Coach73. Watch Who You Ask Advice FromThere’s a lot of people out there that talk the talk but don’t necessarily walk the walk
And I want to make sure you are taking advice from the right people
Speak to people who have actually done what you wanna do
They have the experience and can show proof that they’ve done it!
Don’t ask your poor friend for financial advice
Your single friend for relationship advice
Your mum who doesn’t have a biz for biz advice
Speak to the people...2024-01-2212 minThe Polynesian Life Coach72. Why It’s Important To Feel Your FeelingsYou’ve gotta feel it to heal it babe!
How often do you hold space for your feelings? How often do you see and hear yourself?
This weeks podcast is all about feeling the feels.
Instead of bottling them up or pushing them to the side.
Pay attention to why you are feeling that way.
What happened? Why do you feel this way? Get clear
Journal it out
Share it with someone you can trust
And you may even need to talk to a...2024-01-1518 minThe Polynesian Life Coach71. BE The Change You Wish To SeeWant change in the world? Be the one who makes the change
Be the leader
Don’t underestimate the impact you can have by being the change
Whether you impact 1 person or 1 million people
Instead of complaining, take charge, become who and what you wish for
I hope this podcast inspires you to show up differently in 2024
This is the energy babe!
Go kill it xx
Let me know what actions you are going to...2024-01-0810 minThe Polynesian Life Coach70. Take 'Lose Weight' Off Your New Years ResolutionsHappy New Year love!
I feel like 'lose weight' is one of the top things people put on their new year's resolutions list and on this week's podcast I invite you to take it off.
Enjoy the podcast! xx2024-01-0110 minThe Polynesian Life Coach69. Be KindHey lovely! Thanks for being here!
I hope you had a wonderful Xmas and you're being kind to yourself, this week's podcast is about being kind. If you find that you aren't being a kind person this is your invite to look inside of you and see what's going on, make time and space to heal and spread love instead of spewing hate.
Enjoy the poddy!
PS: If you would love some help and support on yor healing journey dm me "heal" on IG here
2023-12-2617 minThe Polynesian Life Coach68. Fuxk Affirmations! Do this instead!Hey love, thanks for being here!
On this week's podcast I am talking to those of you who have been doing affirmations for awhile and aren't seeing any results.
Like anything, one thing doesn't work for everyone so here's an alternative if you're done with affirmations!
Please enjoy and let me know your thoughts :)2023-12-1815 minThe Polynesian Life Coach67. Setting Healthy BoundariesHey love, this week's podcast is all about setting healthy boundaries. I think this is so timely as we head into Xmas and being around family/friends. Setting healthy boundaries protects your mental health and your energy. This Xmas I invite you to take a look at your life and where you need to set those boundaries, what's the boundary and what will you do if they don't adhere to it? This is a crucial listen, please enjoy!2023-12-1123 minThe Polynesian Life Coach66. Don't Take Life For GrantedDon’t play with your life sis!
Last week I got my new glasses and this whole podcast stemmed from it. How often do you take life for granted? The fact that you can see is a blessing. That you can hear, smell, walk, talk. Love, none of this is promised but here we are taking that shit for granted.
Let this podcast be the wake up call for you to stop taking life for granted and live it to the fullest!
I love you...2023-12-0416 minThe Polynesian Life Coach65. What CAN You Do Before The Year Ends?Hey love, can you believe 2023 is coming to an end?
How did you go with accomplishing your goals this year?
On this week's podcast we are going to look over those goals and do a little bit of a clean up, celebrate what we have achieved and see what we can get done before the year ends.
Book I quoted in the episode is The One Thing by Gary W Keller and Jay Papasan
To listen to the podcast I referenced in the ep click here2023-11-2720 minThe Polynesian Life Coach64. Why You May Need New FriendsYou are a product of your environment so you need to make sure that environment is good sis. Are the people around you uplifting? Supportive? Do they share similar values? Are they positive or do they drain your energy?
On this week's podcast episode I share about a time in my life where my environment was horrible, like absolutely terrible but when I removed myself from that environment my whole life changed for the better.
I also share some signs that means you need new friends
Please enjoy and let me know what you think over on instagram here2023-11-2024 minThe Polynesian Life Coach63. How I Optimise My Time After Going Back To A 9-5After being self employed for 3 years I've gone back to a 9-5 job and when I first started I was like WTF I really feel like I don't have much time in my day to do anything.
I spend 8.5 hours at mahi, 2 hour travel time, 8 hours sleep, so that only leaves me with 5.5hours of free time left and between running my biz, cooking, cleaning, spending time with Mets, doing life admin, etc it doesn't feel like much.
On this podcast I share how I make the most of my time because now that i've...2023-11-1323 minThe Polynesian Life Coach62. Internalised FatphobiaThis weeks podcast episode is another one from my coaching program but ties into last weeks podcast so if you haven't already listened to that please go back and listen.
The resources I mention in the episode -
Watch Youtube video - "I am Fat" by Victoria Welsby here
Read book "You have the right to remain fat" by Virgie Tovar
Questions to answer...
What things are you doing in your life that reinforces fatphobia?
What are you doing that supports i...2023-11-0614 minThe Polynesian Life Coach61. Unlearning FatphobiaHey love, this is a little video taken from my online coaching course but I thought it would be so beneficial to you!
Check out the IG post I referred to about fat shaming in kids media here
Follow Alicia Mccarvell here
Ask yourself these questions...
What are your beauty standards?
What does healthy look like to you?
Let me know your takeaways on Instagram here2023-10-3021 minThe Polynesian Life Coach60. Breaking Negative Generational CyclesI'm back from holiday fam! We have so much to talk about! On this weeks podcast episode I talk about my holiday to NZ, the cruise, realisations I had in NZ, putting yourself first and breaking generational cycles.
Pls enjoy!2023-10-2325 minThe Polynesian Life Coach59. How To Start A PodcastI can't wait to hear your podcast my love!
Here's all the equipment and links I talked about in the episode...
Microphones -
Samson Q2U - https://www.officeworks.com.au/shop/officeworks/p/samson-recording-and-podcast-pack-black-q2u-ps90028785
Otto - https://www.officeworks.com.au/shop/officeworks/p/otto-usb-studio-microphone-otmicusbdc
Platform - Anchor aka Spotify for podcasters - https://podcasters.spotify.com
Imovie is what I use to edit - download this onto your computer
Canva (for podcast logo) - https...2023-10-1623 minThe Polynesian Life Coach58. Let's Talk Scarcity MindsetHey my loves, on this weeks episode I thought I would share a lil korero I had in The Vibe Tribe about having a scarcity mindset.
Please enjoy!2023-10-0913 minThe Polynesian Life Coach57. How To Not Care About What People ThinkOn this weeks poddy I speak about not caring what people think and let's be real, it's a thing and something even to this day I have to check myself for.
I share with you how your judgment of others relates to how you care what others think.
How important it is to be secure in yourself, know your values, worth and what you stand for
That you need to challenge and investigate your thoughts and why you care
Writing down the impact that caring what others think has on your life and where it is stopping you from...2023-10-0219 minThe Polynesian Life Coach56. Feel Like You're Behind? Listen To This!There's so many factors as to why we may feel like we are behind in life - on this week's episode I unpack this...
Sometimes we feel behind because we are comparing ourselves and what we've achieved in life to societies expectations, how our friends and family are doing or what their expectations are, we compare ourselves to where we thought we would be - for me that was married and pregnant at 21 years old LOL
I give tips on how to overcome this like seeing our so called "...2023-09-2517 minThe Polynesian Life Coach55. What Going Back To a 9-5 Has Taught MeHey my love, I'M BACKK!! Aroha mai for missing last week I was absolutely bedridden all week but this week makes up for it because I am sharing with you all the lessons i've learnt from recently going back to a 9-5.
I talk about the shame, fear of failure and resistance of going back
How it has helped me understand the women I work with more
I speak about how it is a right now phase and not a forever phase
How easy it is to get...2023-09-1931 minThe Polynesian Life Coach32. Relationships - Cheating & Being Cheated OnNot me telling you my deepest darkest secrets on this episode haha.
This week I talk about my past relationships, relationships with friends and saying I love you.
Thank you for the podcast request - I'm glad cos I feel like this is a side of me I have never really talked about.
Please if you have any podcast requests msg me on instagram here
Want to learn how to love and accept your body without losing a kg?
Book you Body Acceptance Masterclass tickets here2023-09-1829 minThe Polynesian Life Coach54. How Do I Find My Purpose?How to find your purpose 🫶This q has come up a few times with my clients so I thought I’d share with you some tips on how to find your purpose…Take time for yourself to reflectWhat matters to you?What are your value, interests, passions?What topics make your feel alive and engaged?Look back at past experiences where you felt fulfilled or purposefulWhat are your strengths, talents, skills?What comes naturally to you?What do you excel at?What would you do if all your ne...2023-09-0618 minThe Polynesian Life Coach53. Selfish or Selfless?Sis, is it being selfish or selfless?
Putting yourself first isn’t selfish, it’s the right thing to do
You can’t poor from an empty cup
I share my journey with putting others first, people pleasing and moving away and working on myself and putting myself first
We can’t give if we don’t got
Have a listen and let me know what you think, dm me on IG - https://instagram.com/soextra.__2023-09-0421 minThe Polynesian Life Coach52. I Know I Want To Change But Where Do I Start?*BONUS IG LIVE*
I know I want to CHANGE but where do I start?Start with finding out what’s stopping you❣️What’s the thought that keeps popping up that is stopping you from making a change?I wrote down some of the things clients have said in the past and shared how to overcome themI’m scared of the unknownI don’t want to feel discomfortI lack clarity on what I wantI don’t like changeI have no motivationIt’s too hard!I d...2023-08-3020 minThe Polynesian Life Coach51. Growth Looks Different To Different PeopleHey my beautiful friend!
On this week's podcast episode I share my beautiful tāne Mets incredible story and congratulate him on winning his rugby grand finals.
I highlight the fact that growth looks different to different people and how important it is to have sit down convos with your partner to talk about your values, what is working, what's not working and going through the wheel of life exercise.
I also remind you that we all have incredible stories and we can help so many by sharing them and not comparing them!2023-08-2924 minThe Polynesian Life Coach50. How Do I Be More Productive?How do I be more productive? ✅
This is what I do to get shxt done…
📝 Write down everything you want and need to do
👉 Get clear on every task and break big tasks into smaller tasks
⏰ Prioritise your tasks - look up time matrix on YouTube and action
💨 For any task that takes less than 2mins do it immediately
🗓️ Set 1-3 tasks per day only
🛒 Batch similar tasks and same place tasks together
🥰 Have realistic expectations and standards - you know yourself best
⚡️Sche...2023-08-2316 minThe Polynesian Life Coach49. How Do I Stop Worrying About My Weight?On this weeks poddy episode I talk about how to stop worrying about your weight ✋
Waking up every morning thinking about how much I weigh, how to get that number down, starving myself, skipping meals, torturing myself with workouts and thinking about the numbers all day and night had me bloody exhausted
But now, none of that is on my mind and here’s a few reasons why…
I changed my environment
I got rid of the scales and diets
I got rid of friends and family that would comment on their weight and always talk badly about theirs
I stoppe...2023-08-2117 minThe Polynesian Life Coach48. How Do I Show Up As My Fully Expressed Self?Bonus IG live
How do I show up as my fully expressed self? Or as I like to say being So Extra & proud ☺️For so long I didn’t show up as my fully expressed self because I was worried about what people might think of me, that judgment and worry about not fitting inAsk yourself - what is it costing me? For me it was my happiness, I was living a life where I was so bloody miserable 😩Investigate where in your life you are hiding and why?Challenge those thoughts 💭Who do yo...2023-08-1609 minThe Polynesian Life Coach47. Vulnerability HangoverBeen feeling very vulnerable in these spaces the last couple weeks but I feel like that's a given It's a part of the level up and something I need to do to become the best version of me and become who I want to beBeing open, honest, and emotionally exposed is uncomfortable af and so challenging. Sharing your true thoughts, feelings, and experiences to others and not knowing how people will respond is daunting.But we have to remind ourselves that we are doing the best we can and we...2023-08-1413 minThe Polynesian Life Coach46. How Do I Stop Doubting Myself?IG live episode
How do I stop doubting myself?Self doubt is normalYou’ll have self doubt but I think it’s important to know how to manage itThink about the times when you feel self doubt, what are you doing?Usually you’re about to go to that next level 🔥Give your doubts attention, see them, hear them, what’s coming up?What’s the worst case scenario? Let’s go there!Have self compassion - of course you’re scared you’re about to do something big!! 😮💨This i...2023-08-0714 minThe Polynesian Life Coach45. How Do I Embrace My Tummy/Problem Area?BONUS EP from IG live
How do I embrace my tummy/problem area? Love this q that came off the back of my last post 🧡Firstly, your tummy/ body is not a problem and you don’t need to be fixed ❣️I invite you to change your languageIf you’re currently at a stage where you are aware of your thoughts around this area 💭And you’ve challenged it ‼️And now you are ready to change itYou need to…Choose what you want to believe - don’t identify with that thoug...2023-08-0214 minThe Polynesian Life Coach44. Self Love with Sarah ViliamuOn this weeks poddy I have special guest Sarah Viliamu!
Sarah is a self love advocate, model, speaker, business owner, mum, wife and influencer.
We speak about all things self love - why women struggle with self love, Sarah's journey to self love, tips on how to practice self love and more.
Enjoy sis!
You can connect with Sarah here
Buy tickets to the 'Move For You' event here (use code 'VIBETRIBE' for $10 off)2023-07-3132 minThe Polynesian Life Coach43. How To Practice Self CompassionBonus - IG Live Episode
How do I practice self compassion?We lack a lot of self compassion when it comes to our body imageThe mean things we say to ourselves and how negatively we talk about ourselves“I hate my body, stomach, stretch marks, rolls”“I’m not good enough, worthy, attractive”“Ew, I look so fat and disgusting”So I put together a easy to remember acronym - ACTAwareness, AcknowledgmentChallenge, Change, CareThankfulness, Throw it away, Train yourselfACT is my go-to for anytime I’...2023-07-2616 minThe Polynesian Life Coach42. Why I Didn't Go To Lizzo's ConcertThis week we are talking about why I chose not to go to Lizzo's concert
It's a goodie and I hope it helps you expand your thinking
Questions to ask yourself...
Why am I doing this?
What am I prioritising?
Am I looking out for my highest self and what that women needs?
Are you thinking bout your dream life?
Or are you settling for less?
If you are ready to prioritise yourself and your relationship with your body join me in The V...2023-07-2520 minThe Polynesian Life Coach41. How Do I Stop Comparing My Body To Smaller Bodies?Love this q that was asked in last weeks Fat Fridays Q&A IG live. Have a listen and let me know what you think xx
Self compassion is key sis 🔑 And I know it’s hard!When you’re feeling down because of your weight the last thing you think you deserve is self compassionBut you do❣️And if it’s hard to be kind to yourself think of a loved one - how would you treat them if they came to you telling you they hated their body?I used to picture my...2023-07-1716 minThe Polynesian Life Coach40. How Do I Stop Judging The Size Of My Body When I Look In The Mirror/Photos?BONUS EP from my Fat Friday's Q&A Series
How do I stop judging the size of my body when I look in the mirror/photos?
Practice self compassion 🥰
Sis you’re incredible! You need to hype yourself up and show yourself all the love and kindness you give to others.
If this feels hard to do, think about a loved one and how you treat them - give that same love to yourself 🧡
Focus on what you love - we are so conditioned to go straight to what we hate when it comes to the mirror, instead point out what you l...2023-07-1511 minThe Polynesian Life Coach39. Why I Promote UnhealthinessI've been getting abit of feedback online where people think I am promoting unhealthiness so I want to make it clear...
My message is that -
Your weight doesn't equal your worthiness
You can look in the mirror and love what you see as a fat person
You can be plus size and confident in your body
I think people get it twisted because they think that fat = unhealthy and I'm here to challenge that
Is it true?
There's also different types...2023-07-1016 minThe Polynesian Life Coach38. How Do You Practice Self Love Whilst Trying To Lose Weight?BONUS EP from my Fat Friday's Q&A Series
I LOVE this question so much cos I think so many people think that self love and weight loss cannot co exist
We think that if someone wants to lose weight they must hate themselves
But I think self love is NECESSARY in order to lose weight in a healthy way ❣️
Please listen and let me know your thoughts here
Need help with loving you plus size body? I got you sis!2023-07-0514 minThe Polynesian Life Coach37. Why Hiding In Photos Reinforces FatphobiaStop hiding in photos and videos, bending your body like crazy to look "flattering"
Embrace what your body truly looks like! Sure, we want to look good in photos but this narrative reinforces that tummy rolls, double chins, stretchmarks, etc is not beautiful and we must hide it.
Secondly, we forget what we look like and then compare the "unflattering" photo our mum posts to the "flattering" photo you post.
They can both coexist, we look different at every angle and every angle is okay.
We just aren't aware of it...2023-07-0317 minThe Polynesian Life Coach36. How To Be Confident In Your Plus Size BodyDo you struggle with being confident in your plus size body? You dress down or don't wear the cute clothes you want to wear?
This episode will help you overcome this and SHOW TF UP!
Ask yourself 💭 What’s currently stopping me from showing up confidently?
For me I had a lot of internalised fatphobia I had to unlearn
Uncover what your current belief system is
What do you think of confident plus size women when they show up? Honestly, I used to be judgmental asf!!
I...2023-06-2618 minThe Polynesian Life Coach35. Why Weight Loss IS NOT The AnswerNearly all the ladies i've spoken to that don't love what they see in the mirror tell me that weight loss is the answer.
"Once I lose the weight then i'll be happy, i'll be confident, i'll love what I see in the mirror"
And i'm here to tell you that's not true!
I'm speaking from lived experience too and here's the reasons why...
1. You'll look in the mirror and still be unhappy
2. We've got it twisted - weight loss isn't a requirement for self love and acceptance
2023-06-1917 minThe Polynesian Life Coach34. Why It Is NEVER OK To Comment On Someone's Weight
1 - If you celebrate someone for weight loss I feel like it’s almost automatic that when they gain weight they feel bad and like a failure.
You just told me losing weight was good so when I gain weight it’s obviously bad.
Instead of commenting on someone’s weight, highlight the way it’s made them feel or anything else that doesn’t involve physical appearance.For me, my TOP TIER compliment is “Leesh, I love your...2023-06-1216 minThe Polynesian Life Coach33. Is "FAT" An Offensive Word?According to our IG fam it is!
I thought I would open up this convo to help people overcome this word.
If someone referring to you as fat affects you negatively and sends you on a mental downward spiral I invite you to look at things differently...
If we pull it all back - Fat is a describing word.
It's not the word, it's what we make it mean. What are you making the word mean?
Reclaim it! Take the power away from it! Self Awareness is key!
You get to choose what it means!
If you want to have...2023-06-0616 minThe Polynesian Life Coach31. Being A Curve Model With Talita SimpsonYou're gonna love this episode! On this week's podcast I talk to Talita Simpson, she is bloody incredible and multifaceted and I wanted to get her on to have a beautiful korero about being a plus size curve model.
She shares with us how she got into modelling, what the industry is like and her top tips. We also talk about self belief, comparison, body image issues and so much more. I can't thank Talita enough for blessing us on the podcast! If you loved this as much as I did please rate and...2023-05-221h 07The Polynesian Life Coach30. Life Sucks SometimesSometimes life sucks! Haha I love that title cos it's how I be feeling lately.
On this week's podcast I talk about the realisations I had from being in that funk. I am a true believer in "everything happens for a reason" and I believe this funk was a gift because it helps me support and assist the women in The Vibe Tribe better. It reminded me to have compassion and that I am human and even though "I know" how to manage my mind and do the work it's a whole other thing to actually practice...2023-05-1516 minThe Polynesian Life Coach29. Culture with Tarsh Bamblett aka Queen AcknowledgmentsWhat an enlightening amazing korero with Tarsh!
We speak about culture, the importance of Acknowledging country, what life is like as a first nations Australian and so much more.
This episode was exactly what I needed and I hope you get some goodness from it too!
Connect with Tarsh here2023-05-0858 minThe Polynesian Life Coach28. Live Journal Entry - ProductivityWelcome to my mind haha this week I share with you a live journal entry on productivity and societies pressure around it as well as my own pressures that cause overwhelm and then I don't do anything lol.
I realise...
I put too much pressure on myself and need to be kinder to myself
The need to always be doing something stems from childhood and having a strict dad
I was caught up in the pressure of society and having to always be doing stuff
I need to spend less time on my...2023-05-0117 minThe Polynesian Life Coach27. Seeking External ValidationThis weeks episode is huge! Something i've been uncovering and will continue to uncover as it's something I resonate with heavy.
Seeking that external validation from the people around me when I really needed to self validate.
I share with you tools that have helped me overcome this!
Enjoy! and please let me know your thoughts on today's podcast episode by leaving a comment, rating and reviewing or messaging me on instagram @soextra.__
Secure your spot for my FREE So Extra & proud Masterclass here
Want to le...2023-04-2421 minThe Polynesian Life Coach26. My StoryOn this week's podcast I share my story, from childhood to now.
I speak on...
Neglect and Abandonment
Negative Body Image
Emotional Eating
Being a hoodrat (lol)
Being a bully and fighting
Drinking at a young age
Being a So Extra queen hehe
Getting bullied for being a so extra queen
Being a Flight Attendant and getting fired
Seeking validation online
Moving to Melbourne
Depression, drinking, smoking, drugs
...2023-04-1716 minThe Polynesian Life Coach25. Hierarchy in the Polynesian CultureOn this weeks podcast episode we talk HIERARCHY!
This is something I had to unlearn and realise that I needed to stop putting people on a pedestal, at the end of the day we are all people with and without the titles. The main points in this episode are…
I speak on my “don’t talk back ” childhood
It pays to explain things to children, not just “do this cos I said so”
Question everything and everyone
Just because they have a higher title than you doesn’t mean...2023-04-1128 minThe Polynesian Life Coach24. Fuxk What Others Think With Erika Cramer The Queen Of ConfidenceWOOOH i don't think you guys even understand how much of a honour and pleasure it is to have my life coach Erika TQOC on the podcast. Erika has helped me change my fricken life! I have to pay my respects and give her her flowers because the mahi/work she does in this world changed my life and is changing women's lives!!
We talk about her childhood, the key factors to her success, not giving a fuxk what other people think, money scarcity, her hardest lesson in life, what she is teaching her...2023-04-0351 minThe Polynesian Life Coach23. Remember Who TF You Are!This week's episode is like a flow on from last weeks, last week I talked about what I physically do to get out of bed cos i didn't want to get into my mindset but as I slowly start to feel better and more myself i've managed to get into the thought work. I share with you a journal entry that made me realise why I was feeling the way that I was feeling. Reminder to have more self compassion in these moments, remember who tf you are and all your past accomplishments, surround yourself with supportive people, focus...2023-03-2818 min
The Polynesian Life Coach22. Do The Bare MinimumDo the bare minimum! This doesn't sound like the best advice but for me, in moments when I can't get out of bed this has been the best advice. It helps stop me from overwhelm in getting a million and one things done but instead to just take one step at a time. Something is better than nothing. I hope this episode helps you!
If you need mental health support please click the link below for your country:
AUSTRALIA - https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support
NZ - https://mentalhealth.org.nz/helplines2023-03-2018 min
The Polynesian Life Coach21. Feeling Shit For Moving Away From My FamilyI am back in Melbourne yal! I had the best holiday in Fiji and NZ and thought I would do an episode on all the lessons I learnt while I was away. This episode was like a little debrief on my holiday 🧡
Connect with me on IG @soextra.__
Want to join The Vibe Tribe? Click here2023-03-1324 min
The Polynesian Life Coach20. How To Be ConfidentWant more confidence in your life? Listen to this!!!
On this week's episode I share with you the tips and tricks I use to be more confident!
1. Awareness - what are you currently telling yourself? Drop the thoughts/self talk that doesn't help you!
2. Choose to be confident!! Confidence is not something I always have but it is something I always choose to be!
3. Become - What does "Confident (enter your name here)" look like, how does she act? BE HER!
4. Practice - practice makes you better and builds...2023-03-0614 minThe Polynesian Life Coach19. Want To Be A Flight Attendant? Listen To This!Please go and apply right now! It's honestly the best!
On today's episode I talk all things Flight Attending...
The interview process, pros and cons, my fav and least fav place and answer some of your questions.
Enjoy! And if you want more Flight Attending podcasts please DM me and let me know on IG @soextra.__
Want to join The Vibe Tribe? Click here2023-02-2729 minThe Polynesian Life Coach18. Stop Judging!No questions asked, no judgment passed! Haha IFYKYK!
On this weeks podcast I introduce a new segment, idk what it's called yet but I share with you a story to get you thinking.
I share the Zen story and talk about my takeaways...
- Nothing exists until we give it meaning
- We all have different perspectives that comes from the way we were raised, our environment, our conditioning, etc
- We've all had different experiences in the world and that's why we have different viewpoints and opinions
2023-02-2010 minThe Polynesian Life Coach17. The Travel AffectEver felt the most you, the most free, the most real when you're travelling? Hi5!! That was me! And that's now something I call 'The Travel Affect'.
When you're in another country and feel on top of the world and you don't care what anyone thinks of you! I was thinking about this today and thought back to when I realised this, it was when I was doing the work on myself and creating my alter ego with my life coach. She asked Who do you want to be, What does your alter ego dress like, show u...2023-02-1320 minThe Polynesian Life Coach16. Talking Love With My Love MetsThis ep is so special cos I have the love of my life on the poddy hahaha with valentines coming up I thought it would be nice to sit down with my valentine Mets hehe. We answer questions yal asked us on instagram, talk about how we met, what we love about each other, a time when our relationship was at a low point and so much more.
Please enjoy this episode and apologies in advance for the audio, we had some tech issues.
You can watch the visuals on this episode here
Co...2023-02-0649 minThe Polynesian Life Coach15. High School LessonsOmg I just found this episode in the archives haha. An oldie but whakarongo mai!
On this episode I talk about my lessons from High School, take it with a grain of salt haha...
1. It's not that serious, school seems so full on but honestly I don't even use half of the stuff I was taught in high sch in my everyday life. Have fun and enjoy high sch! Go party! Hahahaha and be present in the moment cos I feel like it goes by so fast!
2. Fighting isn't cool, I wish we...2023-01-3016 minThe Polynesian Life Coach14. Body Image With LaviOoohweee this was such a good episode! I was so excited to have Lavi on the podcast, she's someone I found online and fell in love with her mahi as I related to her so much. We talk about so many important topics like sexual assault, body image, being a single mother and breaking the cycle.
I hope you get everything you need from this episode. It's also available on Youtube here if you want the visuals.
Connect with Lavi here
Connect with me here2023-01-231h 00The Polynesian Life Coach13. Want To Do The Work On Yourself? Listen To This!Better late than never am I right? haha aroha mai fam!
On this week's episode I share something so special with you, "The Vibe Tribe" this is something I am so passionate about and so excited to share with you!
I started The Vibe Tribe after I struggled to see people like me, polynesian people, in these personal development spaces. Not only did I struggle to see people like me in these spaces, it was hard to even find a poly coach. I wanted this kind of space so bad so of course I had...2023-01-2023 minThe Polynesian Life Coach12. Putting Yourself First With Agnes and ElenaTalk about some selfless souls, it was a honour to have both Lena and Agnes on the poddy, they're besties, youth workers and selfless turned selfish (in a good way lol) souls who are on such a beautiful journey in life. We talk about youth work, the differences between PI raised in Aus in comparison to NZ, a near death experience, church, fa'a samoa and so much more, I learned so much about church in this episode thank you Agnes haha.
You can connect with Agnes here and Elena here
Before you leave...
C...2023-01-091h 01The Polynesian Life Coach11. Setting Yourself Up For Success In 2023HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! I'm so excited for all the amazinggg things we're about to achieve this year yal!!
This podcast ep is a practical one fam so grab your pen and paper and lessssgoooo!! Hehe.
What was your word for 2022?
What are you grateful for in 2022?
What accomplishments are you proud of in 2022?
What did you learn in 2022?
What can you improve on?
What habits do you want to start/stop?
What were your 2022 goals? Did you do what you set out to...2023-01-0224 minThe Polynesian Life Coach10. Creating Closure with Fipe aka Living KokoAhhh yal there's so much goodness in this episode with Fipe from Living Koko! Everytime I see her we have the most beautiful korero and she shares such cool, amazing and inspiring stories so I had to have her on. We speak about grief, choosing to not have kids, mocking in the island culture, business, trauma and so much more. If you love this episode as much as I do don't forget to tell us on IG and/or rate us!
You can connect with Fipe here
Connect with me here 2022-12-261h 30The Polynesian Life Coach9. Why I Don’t Celebrate XmasMerry Xmas yal! On this episode I talk about why I didn't celebrate Xmas growing up - listen to hear more about my experience. I also speak about my Xmas traditions now and how we all have options to choose what we want to do at this time of the year. If there's a Xmas tradition you grew up doing that you don't like, you have the option to change it. You don't have to do the same shxt you hate doing 'just because it's always been that way'. Stop doing things just because it's how society does it or...2022-12-1919 minThe Polynesian Life Coach8. Body Positivity with Oriana Plus Size from W A A A AOmg what a huge pleasure to have the beautiful Oriana Plus Size from W A A A A A! Oriana is a stan for normalising bigger bodies, promoting body positivity and spreading plus size love.
She shares about her journey as a young child in a predominately white school knowing she was different and embracing it, her parents were so supportive and she gives huge props to them for allowing her to be herself which assisted her with her confidence and body positivity.
We speak on being part of the LGBTQIA+ community, staying true to yo...2022-12-1246 minThe Polynesian Life Coach7. Imposter SyndromeBruh, where do I even begin? Imposter syndrome hit me crazyyyy last month and I share with you a raw and real clip of me going through it.
Imposter syndrome is loosely defined as doubting your abilities and feeling like a fraud. That's how I was feeling - like a fraud!
I was questioning everything "is my life really as good as I say it is?" but once I shared with my safe spaces I felt comfort in knowing I wasn't the only one who felt these feels and as my coach says "this is...2022-12-0519 minThe Polynesian Life Coach6. Motherhood with Ama and Venna aka LashfixLashfix is in the buildingggg!! I am so honoured to have my good friends Ama and Venna join me on the podcast! And baby Malachi the cutie makes his appearance too! Hehe.
Ama and Venna are the owners of Lashfix, they are polynesian sisters navigating their way through the business world.
Lashfix started in 2014 and Venna shares her journey of how she started, shortly after Ama joined her in what Ama thought was the 'CEO of marketing' position hahaha. (you'll have to listen to get the joke) haha but Ama shares her beautiful story on h...2022-11-281h 24The Polynesian Life Coach5. Business LessonsDo you want to start a business? In this episode I talk about my business lessons. Something I am so passionate about. Here are my top tips that you probably aren't expecting lol.
1. Work on your mindset - read books, podcasts, get a mentor/coach, etc
The difference between Leesh who started So Extra in 2018 to the Leesh who made So Extra her full time income was the difference in me working on my mindset. Working on my self doubt, comparison, caring what other people think, money scarcity/trauma, feeling like i'm not good enough...2022-11-2116 minThe Polynesian Life Coach4. Confidence with Gabby GoodmanWe have Gabby Goodman on the podcast yal! I found Gabby on Tik Tok and absolutely fell in love with her online presence.
We speak about her self love journey and what self love means to her, Quote 'Self love is being self aware' she shares about how she was bullied about her weight and what she learnt from that time in her life. We cover her relationship with food and bond over how much we love food hahaha.
Her confidence is something I absolutely adore and she so kindly shared with us some of her tips to creating confidence...
1. S...2022-11-1430 minThe Polynesian Life Coach3. Body Acceptance & Retreat LessonsI’m the biggest i’ve ever been in my life and the most confident!! 🥰
Body acceptance is something i’ve struggled with my whole life and on this week's podcast episode I speak about my journey. My whole life I’ve been trying to lose weight and had the thought that ‘once i get to x amount of kgs i’ll be happier’ but I’ve got to that goal weight and I still had the same problem - I still wasn’t happy so i’ve come to realise that it has nothing to do with the weight❗️
2022-11-0727 min
The Polynesian Life Coach2. Self Awareness with Alaina Key aka Make It PrettyToday I had the honour in sitting down with the amazing Alaina Key from Make It Pretty.
Alaina was one of the first polynesian women I found in biz that I looked up to so it was so perfect that she was my first guest.
We talk about how her biz came about, what key factors led to her success and she gave us tips for businesses who want to grow their following - get onto those instagram reels fam!
We also spoke about the effects covid had on her livelihood, biz and mental well being, her decision to move b...2022-11-0245 min
The Polynesian Life Coach1. Why I Got Fired From My Dream JobYou guys!!!! WTH this is my first podcast episode!!! Eeeeek!!
Thank you for being here and WELCOME to 'Life Lessons with Leesh'
This is a safe space where me and my guests talk about our lessons which sometimes comes with pain/trauma and we talk about how that turned into power/triumph. I hope it gives you something to think about, inspires you, educates you on different topics and situations people go through and of course I hope we have a little bit of fun!!
In this episode I talk about the lessons...2022-10-3129 min