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Real Retirement Episode 15: How Gen Xers are Reinventing Retirement with Shelley McIntyreIn this episode of The Real Retirement Show, hosts Yasmin and Kathleen explore the evolving concept of retirement for Generation X. Special guest Shelly McIntyre shares her insights on how Gen Xers are breaking away from traditional retirement models and creating vibrant, purposeful lives post-career. With extensive experience in coaching, Shelly offers practical advice on dealing with change, embracing new opportunities, and building a strong support network. Tune in to hear real stories, expert tips, and a deeper understanding of what retirement means for today's Gen Xers.00:00 Rethinking Retirement: Gen X's New Approach

2025-03-2439 min

My Valley, His Victory 033 - God Keeps His Promises with Amelia HarrisonIn this week's episode, Amelia Harrison, author of a self-published book and the president of Liam's Light Foundation. Amelia shares her experience of losing her son Liam in a drowning accident and how she found strength and faith in God during her season of grief. She emphasizes the importance of celebrating small successes and accepting help from others. Amelia also discusses the challenges of navigating grief with a partner and the need for understanding and communication. She shares resources such as her foundation, Liam's Lite Foundation, and her book, 'Just Show Up,' which offers support and guidance for...

2024-08-1251 min

Healarious Imperfect TenIn this episode, hosts Amy Redbird and Theresa Benson dive into the The Irreverent Trust Guide by Elizabeth Kupferman, known for her insightful and humorous Instagram account @advancedbitches. They explore the "fawn trauma response" from Pete Walker's Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, detailing how extreme people-pleasing serves as a survival mechanism. Through personal anecdotes, Amy and Theresa discuss vulnerability, codependency, and the journey to healing past trauma. They emphasize the importance of sharing vulnerabilities with trustworthy individuals, drawing on Brené Brown's work on courage. The conversation also touches on validation addiction, societal standards of beauty and in...

2024-07-1647 min

Serving Cult 57. The Deep End: #ReleaseTheFootageAnd now we’ve got private investigators calling it a cult and Teal's shocked—like, really shocked. Welcome back to another episode of Serving Cult! This week we conclude our deep dive into The Deep End! Picture this: Teal blames Blake and her manager for the investigator's cult accusations. Classic deflection. Meanwhile, Juliana gets gaslit by Teal and is used as a pawn to bash her. And when Juliana and Blake start packing to leave, Teal completely loses it. It's a full-on meltdown. Nanny Nanny BooBoo follow your bliss, anyone? #ReleaseTheFootage becomes...

2024-06-271h 06

Healarious Episode 8: Sourdough and Self-CareJoin hosts Theresa Benson and Amy Redbird on this episode of "Healarious," where laughter meets deep healing. Explore a lighthearted yet profound conversation about food addiction, the power of self-care, and the journey through trauma recovery. Discover the insights from Elizabeth Kupferman's "The Irreverent Trust Guide," alongside references to renowned trauma experts Pete Walker and Bessel van der Kolk. Theresa shares her transformative experience with myofascial release therapy, while Amy opens up about her struggles and triumphs with CPTSD. Perfect for anyone navigating trauma, seeking humor in healing, or looking to reconnect with nature and self. Tune in for...

2024-06-1945 min

Serving Cult 56. The Deep End: The Hilton Has Holy WaterAnd now we’re waterboarding people and fake channeling spirits, are we? Welcome back to another episode of Serving Cult! This week we are continuing to dissect the doc, The Deep End; it just gets weirder. Prepare for the weirdest role-play you've ever seen, where asking a polite question might get you "inhabited" by a spirit. Molly the investigator steals the show and should be in every cult doc—she spots all the red flags. Oh, and any time Juliana expresses empathy, it's a problem. Is it the Teal Swan cult or the Jedi o...

2024-06-0652 min

Serving Cult 55. The Deep End: I Was So WashedTrigger Warning: This episode discusses topics including emotional manipulation, psychological abuse, and suicidal ideation. Listener discretion is advised. We couldn't resist diving back into The Deep End for another episode of Serving Cult. This time, we're continuing to unravel the chaotic universe of Teal Swan—spiritual guru aka raging narcissist. Teal is furious about her haters and thinks they’re the ones stopping her from making more money and not her awful bedside manner. With ambitions to build the biggest company ever, she's got a crazy-eyed determination that's equally terrif...

2024-05-301h 03

Serving Cult 54. The Deep End: Trauma Dumping RetreatBecause we just can't stay away, we're back with another episode of Serving Cult, and this time we're diving into The Deep End. Meet Teal Swan, the YouTube sensation, spiritual guru, and, well, raging narcissist. Get ready as we plunge into a world where spiritual leaders go full cult, ticking off our cult bingo card: white people doing weird shit, kumbaya singing circles, and, of course, bare feet galore. Join us as we dissect this new cult docuseries, complete with Trent's angry rants that start almost immediately! Imagine overcoming tra...

2024-05-2356 min

Serving Cult 53. Brandy Hellville: Where Are Your Parents?This week, we're taking a different approach to the podcast and bringing you an episode that is simply…random. In this episode, Elizabeth and Taylor dive into the darkly glitzy world of Brandy Hellville: The Cult of Fast Fashion. Think unsupervised teenagers in short shorts as a breeding ground for eating disorders. Also, Meri Brown from *Sister Wives* is apparently leveling up from reality star to cult leader? We’re just as baffled but totally here for the tea. Meanwhile, Elizabeth has joined the cult of... dollhouses? Yes, you heard right. It’s endearing and slightl...

2024-05-1655 min

Serving Cult 52. Quiet on Set: Dan Schneider is a Cult Leader (Allegedly)Hey there, cult lovers! This week, we're switching gears a bit for our devoted cult following. Before we dive into our usual podcast review antics, we're taking a detour to discuss something intriguingly adjacent to cultish behavior: 'Quiet on Set', a docuseries shining a light on the dark underbelly of beloved Nickelodeon shows from back in the late 90s and early 2000s. Get ready for a wild ride as we unpack everything from Drake Bell's rollercoaster journey to the troubling patterns of unhealed trauma to the mystery of Amanda Bynes' current whereabouts, and the puzzling a...

2024-05-0948 min

Serving Cult 51. The Synanon Fix: Chuck's Giving Donald Trump EnergyStrap in for the wild finale of our deep dive into The Synanon Fix, where things go from quirky rehab commune to full-blown, “What the hell is even happening?” territory. Our fearless investigative reporter has all the juicy details. As we wrap up this saga, it's clear Synanon was more soap opera than utopia. Join us for this rollercoaster ride through one of history’s most insane cult catastrophes and remember—just because someone builds a “paradise”, doesn't mean you should move in! Subscribe on all the usual podcast spots and get your fix of history’s wil...

2024-05-0242 min

Serving Cult 50. The Synanon Fix: Chuck Invents The Biggest LoserThis week's recap of The Synanon Fix kicks things off with a bang—a fatathon complete with a marching band. Yep, you heard that right, a fatathon. And trust us, that's just the beginning. And just when you think it can't get any weirder, we drop the bombshell—it's an eating disorder cult. Yeah, let that sink in. Join us as we peel back the layers of control and chaos of the Synanon Fix! Grab your snacks, this one's gonna be a wild ride. Imagine overcoming trauma with ease and support! Join the...

2024-04-2755 min

Serving Cult 49. The Synanon Fix: Sex Room Sticker ChartsThis week we are continuing our dive into the new cult docu-series called, The Synanon Fix. In episode two, we leave behind heroin addicts and are in full-on cult mode with gentle silent raves, women shaving their heads in the name of feminism, and something called “the sex room.” This new cult series checks all the boxes on the cult bingo card as Chuck, the cult leader, introduces more restrictions as he makes more money. Oh, and Taylor is NO longer sold! Join us on this adventure to understand why 2-year-old babies are hiking in our rev...

2024-04-181h 04

Serving Cult 48. The Synanon Fix: The Greatest Breakthrough Since FreudHere come the Dopefiends! This week we are leaving behind the Duggars and diving into heroine addicts with a new cult docu-series called, The Synanon Fix. In this new series, we are introduced to Chuck, an alcoholic who believed that Alcoholics Anonymous just wasn’t enough, so he started a rehab center for recovering drug addicts…with a catch. From well-dressed dop-fiends screaming profanities at each other to Lucille Ball hanging out at the Santa Monica rehab beach house, this new cult series is unlike any other we’ve reviewed so far becaus...

2024-04-1157 min

Serving Cult 47. Shiny Happy People: My Little Pony is the AntichristIn this episode, we review the final episode of the docuseries, Shiny Happy People. We dive into more charges against Joshua Duggar, Jim Bob Duggar’s oldest son, and his being caught with child pornography. We eventually see some change as women begin to speak out about the abuse happening at IBS and people begin to leave! Join us as we talk about how the speaker of the house, Mike Johnson, uses his son as an accountability partner not to watch porn, watch Bob Duggar lose in his race for the senate by a l...

2024-04-0454 min

Serving Cult 46. Shiny Happy People: Care Bears Serving Humanistic PrinciplesTrigger Warning: We talk about child sexual abuse in this episode. If that is triggering for you we recommend skipping this episode and joining us next Thursday for another new episode! This episode is anything but shiny and happy as we continue the traumatic experience that is watching and reviewing Shiny Happy People. Just when we thought it couldn’t get any worse, we uncover even more disturbing information about Bill Gothard and the abuse he would inflict on young children. Join us as we talk about the new laws Bill Gothar...

2024-03-2851 min

Serving Cult 45. Shiny Happy People: Which Toys Do I BurnWelcome back, cult lovers! In this episode, we are exploring more of Shiny Happy People. This cult docuseries will have you convinced that toys are demonic and women shouldn’t be treated as people…well we hope you are not actually convinced! In this part three, we talk more about how Jim Bob Duggar exploited his daughters for money, why IBLP should NOT be compared to real boot camp training, and how Cocomelon is actually demonic according to the internet. Join us for an episode full of tangents that will have you googling the “have your kid...

2024-03-2151 min

Serving Cult 44. Shiny Happy People: Doomed From the BeginningWelcome to another episode of Serving Cult! We’re back talking about the Duggars again and it just keeps getting worse. In this episode, we continue to dissect the new docuseries, Shiny Happy People. This week, we focus on Josh Duggar, the eldest of the Duggar children, and uncover some of the scandals he's involved this. This episode is not for the faint of heart, as we touch on child victims being forced to share lies for the camera to an inside look at life as a parentified child. Join us as Trent goes on his usual angr...

2024-03-141h 00

Serving Cult 43. Shiny Happy People: Go Forth and MultiplyToday, we delve into the often controversial world of reality TV and conservative ideologies as we dissect the new docuseries, Shiny Happy People. Join us as we unpack the representation of gender roles in the popular show, "19 Kids and Counting." In this episode, we put the spotlight on the Duggar family, touching on the inherent discrepancies of public figures who preach one thing yet practice another. We'll explore the motives and consequences of their ideals, and even take a peek into the teachings of the male dominion in familial structures. So, buck...

2024-03-0737 min

Serving Cult 42. Twin Flames: Religious Cults For Tax CutsWelcome back to another episode of Serving Cult! This week, we explore the last episode of, Escaping Twin Flames, and after this docuseries, we are indeed ready to escape! This last episode takes an even weirder turn as Jeff transitions the cult from a spiritual to a religious organization in the name of tax cuts, forces cult members to get gender-changing surgeries, and tries to brainwash his followers into thinking this is not a cult (when it obviously is). Tune in to hear how the cult is still active and how cults are still growing! It i...

2024-02-2941 min

Serving Cult 41. Twin Flames: Judas Was an Energy LeakWelcome back to Serving Cult! In this episode, we dive deeper into this new cult documentary series called Escaping Twin Flames. This second episode takes us away from matchmaking and finding true love and brings us into a whole new world of MAP, which is all about finding your life's true purpose. Jeff has become the self-proclaimed Jesus Christ, everyone gained 70 pounds, and the army gets involved. Listen in to understand (or try to understand) the chaos that is Escaping Twin Flames. Giveaway! Because we are SO happy to be back doing the podcast, we...

2024-02-2249 min

Serving Cult 40. Twin Flames: The Mirror Exercise Gone WrongIn this episode, we venture into a new cult documentary series called Escaping Twin Flames. This series begs the question, would you pay 10 million dollars to find your twin flame? Well, some people would! In this breakdown of the first episode of Escaping Twin Flames, we meet Jeff and Shaleia, the original twin flames “power couple” who have convinced their followers that they can help them find their twin flame…in exchange for a bit of cash. Listen in to find out what happens when those who are desperately in search of love are exploited for fina...

2024-02-151h 20

Serving Cult 39. Love Has Won: Mother God Goes on Dr. PhilWelcome back to another episode of Serving Cult, where we mock cult leaders one cult doc at a time and learn the lessons so we don’t accidentally join one. On this third episode of season three, we are diving into...Love Has Won: The Cult of Mother God. On this final episode of the cult doc series, Love Has Won, we discover why love has in fact not won. In this final episode, Amy Carlson aka mother god goes from the Hawaiian Goddess of Fire Volcanoes to having her decaying body being driven across state lines! Ye...

2024-02-0850 min

Serving Cult 38. Love Has Won: Mother Turns BlueThis week everything gets even crazier in episode two of Love Has Won: The Cult of Mother God. We learn that father god and Taylor are rocking the same hairstyle and apparently, there's some Father God's multiverse? Also, Mother God may not be all-powerful because the alcohol and drug abuse starts to catch up with her and she starts to turn blue…Join us in this episode to learn all the ways to NOT join a cult! Come hang out with me on TikTok and Instagram or join my Secret Membership to continue doing our trauma...

2024-02-0148 min

Serving Cult 37: Love Has Won: Pick Your Galactic Celebrity A TeamAsk an Advanced Bitch is back...and she's Serving Cult! Welcome to our new and improved podcast, Serving Cult where we mock cult leaders one cult doc at a time and learn the lessons so we don’t accidentally join one. On this first episode of season three, we are diving into...Love Has Won: The Cult of Mother God. This cult doc series is all about the life (and death) of Mother God, also known as Amy Carlson. Join us as we dissect the first episode of Love Has Won and learn about her gala...

2024-01-2553 min

Serving Cult 36: Sometimes Self-Isolating is SafeAdvanced Bitches, it’s time to say Bye Bye! Sadly, we have made it to the end of another season. I’m immensely grateful for every bitch listening and I hope these episodes have given you insight or made you laugh in some way. Stick around for season 3, Advanced Bitches! In Part 1, I answer the question, “How do I stop self-isolating when I’m dealing with my shit?” First of all, I am the QUEEN of isolating myself when I’m struggling so the first thing I will tell you is….don’t beat yourself up. What would happen if...

2023-08-031h 01

Serving Cult 35: Embracing Our True Selves While Healingin Part 1, I answer the question, “How do we embrace and grow into our true selves as we heal? I have done some advanced as fuck work on self-acceptance. Now I’m faced with the question of who am I without all the bullshit?” And I answered this question with a question, “What if it is okay to not know?” Of course, advanced bitches, you know I can never give a short answer so listen in to hear me go into more detail! And if you’re looking for more on this topic, check out my newsletter where I recently ans...

2023-07-271h 18

Serving Cult 34: Imposter Syndrome: What Makes You Think You Don’t Belong?Advanced Bitches, have I got a juicy episode for you this week! From NXIVM updates to chocolates being delivered to Trent and Taylor, you won’t want to miss this one! In Part 1, I answer the question, “Does Imposter Syndrome include hanging out with a certain group even when you really don’t belong?” Answer? The only requirement to belong is resonating with the message and wanting to belong. I get way deeper into this answer, but if you are struggling with Imposter Syndrome and want to learn more, check out my Secret Membership where I teach classes...

2023-07-201h 17

Serving Cult 33: Journaling: Safety Over EverythingAdvanced Bitches Welcome Back! In Part 1, I answer this question from a listener, “How do I start journaling?” There is only one answer! And it’s a much simpler answer than you’re probably expecting. Even Advanced Bitches tend to overcomplicate things sometimes, but that’s okay because you’re still an advanced bitch. In my response, I break down some journaling techniques to help you get started and even share a special one I haven’t shared before. Listen in to find out! And in part 2, We find out that Taylor has joined a cult…well she’...

2023-07-131h 13

Serving Cult 32: Can We Have A Real Relationship?Are you an anxious, avoidant, anxious-avoidant, or secure attachment style? Well, in Part 1 of this week's episode, I answer this question from a listener, “How do I work on being secure in all relationships?” Answer? It starts with knowing the attachment style you have and making the conscious decision to have a real relationship! If you want to know more about what having a REAL relationship means, check out the episode and my book, The Irreverent Trust Guide! Does Duolingo count as a cult? Well according to Taylor it does and so does Wild Wild Country! In Part...

2023-07-061h 09

Serving Cult 31: The 3 Grief Symptoms to Commit to MemoryAdvanced Bitches, Welcome back! In this episode, we dissect a new cult documentary, talk about how not trimming your eyebrows is grounds for divorce, and Taylor reminisces on the old youtube days (who remembers salad fingers??) In Part 1, I answer this question from a listener, “How do I support my husband, he just lost his mom and has never experienced a loss like this?” I share 3 things I would tell anyone who is dealing with grief right now. I also suggest checking out my book, The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to Survive Months 1 to 3. In Part...

2023-06-2952 min

Serving Cult 30: Surviving Isn't LazinessAdvanced Bitches, we’ve brought last week's guest back! Alex is here again to share more about her experience with her alternative peer group aka cult. In Part 1, I answer this question from a listener, “Is freeze mode just the psyche's way of waiting for things to get better?” Because I’m not just an advanced bitch, but an honest bitch, I share about how I used to dissociate through bulimia and TV (my preferred dissociative cocktail) and why it’s important to be so so gentle with ourselves! In Part 2, We talk more with Alex about...

2023-06-241h 23

Serving Cult 29. Have You Ever Met An Unworthy Baby?Welcome to another episode of Ask An Advanced Bitch! This episode is special because we have an advanced bitch guest on today. This guest has some experience with cults, so we got the inside scoop! In Part 1, I answer this question from a listener, “Dear Advanced Bitch, I’d love your quick and dirty guide to building self-worth.” I promise listener, you’re already more worthy than you think, but in case you don’t believe me - I give a three-step quick and dirty guide to building self-worth! And trust me, being worthy doesn’t always feel comfort...

2023-06-151h 31

Serving Cult 28. Keep Going Never StopAdvanced Bitches, have you joined a cult this week? Well, the students at Sarah Lawerence accidentally did. On this week's episode of Ask an Advanced Bitch, we dive a little deeper into Stolen Youth: Inside the Cult of Sarah Lawerence. In Part 1, I answer this question from a listener, “How do I tell if I like someone romantically, as a friend, or if it’s my attachment wounds that like them?” Answer? The Ladder of Trust! If you’re not sure what that is, click the link below to check out my youtube video explaining exactly what the ladd...

2023-06-081h 22

Serving Cult 27. Trauma Did A Number On UsHey, there Advanced Bitches! Welcome back to the second episode of season 2 where we talk gentle habit stacking, college students getting stoned, and doing pilates in the dark?? Anyway, if you haven’t watched Stolen Youth: Inside the Cult of Sarah Lawerence, RUN to Hulu right now! In Part 1, I answer this question from a listener, “How…all of it…how?” Even with so few words, this question hits deep and the answer hits even deeper. In Part 2, Now with our season 2 catch-up out of the way, it’s time to dig into Stolen Youth: Inside the C...

2023-06-011h 14

Serving Cult 26. You Can't Weaponize My HealingAdvanced Bitches, we are back with Season 2 of Ask An Advanced Bitch! Have you missed me?! I sure as hell have missed you and that’s why I’m extremely excited to be back kicking off another season with a primitive cunt chat with Taylor! In Part 1, I answer this question from a listener, “What is the safest and most advanced way to respond when people who aren’t advanced try to tell you that they are? How do I protect myself from people who try to weaponize my healing?” In Part 2, Taylor and I have a lon...

2023-05-251h 07

Serving Cult 25. 10 Requirements for Healing TraumaIt is the finale of Season 1! In Part 1 I talk about the 10 Requirements for healing trauma, citing D. Crenshaw’s work, linked below. I detail each requirement, explain the importance and give contextual examples of what this may look like. In Part 2 I am joined by Taylor to let you know about new developments in our lives and in the podcast, and what to expect for Season 2. If my podcast helped you grow or made you giggle, I’d really appreciate it if you left an Apple Podcasts review. Let me know via email and socia...

2023-01-0658 min

Serving Cult 24. Cults: The Vow Season 2 Episode 2This is the penultimate episode of Season 1 of Ask An Advanced Bitch! I am joined by Taylor and Trent to discuss all things The Vow Season 2 Episode 2. The Vow is an HBO true crime documentary series about the NXIVM Cult and its leader Keith Raniere. Thank you so much for riding with us for 24 episodes! If my podcast helped you grow or made you giggle, I’d really appreciate it if you left an Apple Podcasts review. Let me know via email and socials what you’d like to see from Season 2, and hopefully I’ll see you in my gro...

2022-12-221h 20

Serving Cult 23. Navigating Decision ParalysisIn this episode I give an update about how I’m doing as I experience post-event collapse syndrome due to moving house and state. I explain the coping mechanism I use in times where I have limited emotional and physical capacity, and have to let some responsibilities slide. I tease out a comforting concept, that while people might care about our dropped responsibilities, no one will remember the incident within a year. I also make a case for Imperfection Practice, which is showing up and doing things with the capacity available, rather than waiting for when one can achieve pe...

2022-12-1519 min

Serving Cult 22. Cults: The Vow Episode 9 Season 1Taylor joins me to wrap up season 1 of The Vow, discussing all things in episode 9. Grooming, manipulation and hypnotism through the screen!? The Vow is an HBO true crime documentary series about the NXIVM Cult and its leader Keith Raniere. LINKS The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/ Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com...

2022-12-081h 27

Serving Cult 21. Triggers in the workplace, Codependent Relationships and Maladaptive Eating HabitsToday’s episode is jam packed with your questions! In this solo episode I tackle everything from toxic workplaces to maladaptive food habits. Specifically, the questions are: how to handle a toxic work environment, understanding why parents’ décor decisions are frustrating, how to stop filling the void a codependent relationship left, how to maintain healthy relationships with family despite differing world views, how to find clarity and purpose after a divorce, and how to stop being emotionally overwhelmed. Buckle up for an episode full of tools for emotional self-regulation, advice on how to analyse relational dynamics, managing CPTSD respo...

2022-11-2438 min

Serving Cult 20. Navigating Bigoted Family and Messy Healing JourneysIn today’s episode I answer two listener questions. The first one is about how to engage with bigoted family. My short answer is that…you don’t! I explain that engaging is a losing game, because they remain unconvinced and you remain frustrated. I share that in moments like these I like to reach into my toolbox of strategies and coping mechanisms, and offer some to them. I explain that if you have to be in the same space as a bigot, use scripts which are predetermined answers to questions and situations you will find uncomfortable as may help y...

2022-11-1726 min

Serving Cult 19. Speaking to our Children about Our TraumaToday’s episode is all about your trauma related questions! The first listener asks how much of our trauma do we share with our children once they become adults? I tackle this question in two parts, firstly how to approach discussing trauma with children when they’re young, and then with our children once they’re adults. I discuss how I approached telling my children I would be checking into to rehab, and how I navigated not wanting to lie while also not burdening them with details they wouldn’t be able to process. I encourage the listener...

2022-11-1028 min

Serving Cult 18. Co-dependency, Comparison and Self-Doubt After DivorceToday’s episode is packed with your listener questions! From co-dependency, to comparison and divorce. In Part 1 I answer a listener question about what to do about a man she’s dating who is ‘hot and cold’, and generally inconsistent. I explain that first and foremost, in order to heal from co-dependency we must develop a keen eye for identifying relationship dynamics. I explain that the one he is exhibiting is the “bait and switch” and that she ultimately needs to create a standard for behaviour she tolerates and then move towards what she appreciates and away from what is distressi...

2022-11-0326 min

Serving Cult 17. Can Codependent Friendships withstand Self Development?In Part 1 I answer a listener question about whether she can do my self-development programme while remaining in communication with a friend she has co-dependent and sometimes abusive dynamics with. She loves her friend dearly and is also afraid of being alone and without said friends’ love. I firstly establish that she is in control of her healing, and gets to decide who stays and who goes; there are no mandatory requirements. I warn her that it is easy to fall into old patterns with people we formed bonds with when we were young, and that this is something to...

2022-10-271h 21

Serving Cult 16. Self-Deprecation, Triggers and Master ManipulatorsIn Part 1 I answer a listener question about how to deal with someone in their running club who makes derogatory remarks about their body that inadvertently trigger the listener. I explain that we need to separate the question into its two parts: concern for the person making the remarks, and addressing how the listener is triggered by them. I firstly encourage the listener to consider whether adults need ever tell other adults how to feel and act. I explain that correcting adults in this way may highlight an underlying assumption that our behaviours and beliefs are superior to theirs...

2022-10-201h 16

Serving Cult 15. Hurricanes and Harry PotterIn Part 1 I answer a listener request to offer support to those facing hurricane Ian in Florida. I talk about my experience during the grid failure in Texas and how isolating it was on an emotional and physical level. I encourage people suffering due to the hurricane to acknowledge the depths of their distress, and to generally allow themselves to grieve the end of the natural world as we know it due to climate change. I summarize that shitty things happen to all of us, but come in different flavours, and your flavour is unfortunately this hurricane. I explain...

2022-10-131h 12

Serving Cult 14: Studying Cults, Betrayal and Outgrowing FriendshipsToday is a solo episode, in Part 1 I discuss why I love studying cults, and in Part 2 I answer two listener questions. During the first half I explain how beneficial I find it to observe cults. I discuss how cults can be a mirror for our interpersonal relationships, and how empathizing with their victims helps us examine our own trauma responses. I also detail how engaging in cult material can help us be more aware and alert of cultish dynamics in the mundane and everyday. In Part 2, the first listener asks if their post-breakup expectations were unrealistic, and the...

2022-10-1236 min

Serving Cult 13. Nonviolence and effective ConfrontationIn part 1 answer a listener question about how to approach confronting a Fight Mode person about their upsetting behavior. I first detail why assessing other people's trauma responses in times of crisis is not conducive in achieving the desired outcome of mutual understanding, respect and boundaries. Diagnosing people can have the unintended effect of creating hierarchies and power dynamics in our heads that don’t aid conflict resolution. I then recommend the highly effective tool of Nonviolent Communication coined by Marshall Rosenberg. This framework advocates for a formulaic approach to confrontation that distinguishes fact from emotion in order to fa...

2022-09-291h 27

Serving Cult 12. Trauma at the HairdresserIn Part 1, a listener writes in explaining that her hairdresser did a poor job, and - despite her dismay - she found herself comforting the hairdresser. I explain that this is typical Fawn and Freeze Behaviour and contextualize what this behaviour looks like in different scenarios. I offer her comfort and practical tools to ensure better outcomes. I illustrate the power of bringing ‘advocates’ with her to services she knows she struggles vocalizing her needs. I recommend bookending experiences with check ins with an accountability partner so that she doesn’t end up agreeing to prices or services she didn’t...

2022-09-221h 15

Serving Cult 11. Comparison is A Bitch, and NOT an Advanced OneIn Part 1, I tackle a listener question about how to stop comparing herself to other women. I contextualize where this behaviour stems from. Her parents projected their own insecurities onto her by using comparison to other children as a tool to affirm and uplift her. This had the opposite effect, creating a belief that her achievements only exist in competition and contrast with others’, and that to be ‘up’ someone must be down. Moreover, this behaviour robs her of the opportunity to feel happy for herself and others, independent of jealousy. I detail an incredibly sobering tool I developed years...

2022-09-151h 11

Serving Cult 10. Surviving Caregiving for your Manipulative ParentIn Part 1 I make a special announcement about the formatting of the podcast going forward, and detail my newsletter subscription (linked below). In Part 2 I answer a listener question about how to safely engage with her ailing, emotionally manipulative mother. The listener is torn between caring for her mother in her time of need, while maintaining her own boundaries, work and general life interests that her mother sees as a direct threat to the love and care she’s receiving. I explain how ‘fawn’ responders might react to this overwhelming situation, and then detail how to foster a healthier. Firstl...

2022-09-081h 11

Serving Cult 9. How to Differentiate Intuition from Trauma ResponsesIn Part 1 I tell you about what I’m working on: developing a comforting and sustainable sleeping routine! It’s harder than you think. In Part 2 I answer a listener question about intuition vs. trauma responses. How can she learn to trust her inner voice when it comes to dating men if it’s been informed by abandonment and neglect? I discuss the importance of defence mechanisms and how they’re rooted in experience and your body’s attempt at self-preservation. I then detail the active choice to override your initial defence mechanism response with an intentional tool to ensure you...

2022-09-0151 min

Serving Cult 8. Tooth Trauma and Toxic WorkplacesIn Part 1 I talk tooth trauma! If you know, you know. For many of us the dentist’s chair is the last place we want to find ourselves. I share a recent distressing dental experience and use it to discuss how anxiety manifests differently in different people. In Part 2 I answer a listener question about how to deal with a toxic workplace. I explain that all organizations exist on a spectrum of toxicity and then walk through how to decide whether poor mental health is the price the listener is willing to pay to keep her job. In Part 3 Ta...

2022-08-251h 04

Serving Cult 7. Fall in Love with getting GhostedYes, I mean it! Getting ghosted is a blessing in disguise. In Part 1 I explain how ghosting is a key indicator that someone is unwilling or unable to develop trust and emotional intimacy with you. I explain that it is only the beginning of what will be a string passive aggressive behaviour from the perpetrator, and that we must learn to heed ghosting as an early end of an inevitably doomed relationship. In Part 2 I answer a listener question about what to do when a bestie befriends an abusive ex-friend. I use an anecdote about how a strong friendship...

2022-08-181h 13

The Design Business Show The Design Business Show 194: Building a Brand Through Podcasting with Jessica KupfermanJessica Kupferman is the co-host and co-founder of the She Podcasts brand, which currently supports over 21,000 female podcasters and has a digital marketing reach of over 55,000 content creators. Her sweet spot is helping podcasters set up systems for growth and training them on how to obtain sponsorship. She also is an internet “Bat Girl” with an odd amount of experience in way too many software services. When she's not planning the next She Podcasts LIVE, you can find her offering education to independent podcasters on marketing, growth, and sponsorship. Here’s what we...

2022-08-1849 min

Serving Cult 6. Self-Sabotage, Crossed Boundaries and Unreciprocated EffortWarning! Today bubbles will be burst. In Part 1 I challenge the idea of self-sabotage. I invite you to consider how self-sabotage is actually a trauma response, and explain that defining our body’s act of inertia as "sabotage", is discrediting its effort to keep us safe. I then use my journey with chronic dieting and eating disorders to illustrate this. In Part 2 I answer a listener’s question about how to handle a friend who repeatedly crosses their boundaries and who doesn’t make an effort. I use Gottman’s relational theory of “bid’s for connection”, my theory of “ladder of...

2022-08-111h 35

Serving Cult 5. Boundaries, Relationship Fantasies and CultsIn Part 1 I talk about the difference between telling people your boundaries versus living them. I discuss how boundaries are about protecting and honouring ourselves and our standards rather than controlling the behaviour of others. I hone in on the concept of consequences and acknowledge how difficult they are to act out because it places the consequence of a crossed boundary on us and not on the other person. In Part 2 I answer a listener question about how to mourn the death of a relationship they have fantasized about and exaggerated in their mind. I contextualize fantasy as a...

2022-08-041h 20

Serving Cult 4. Ego, Imposter Syndrome and Obi WanIn Part 1, I talk about ego and how surrendering my ego has transformed my recovery from food addiction. On the flipside, I discuss how ego has sabotaged my efforts, and describe ego as a defensive mechanism in response to stress. In Part 2, I answer a listener question about whether it’s possible for imposter syndrome to show up in romantic relationships. I discuss how imposter syndrome is often just trauma dressed up, and how interrogating negative self-talk and learning about attachment theory could ease their overwhelm. And in Part 3, Trent and I take a deep dive into all things Ob...

2022-07-281h 12

Serving Cult 3. Therapy Gone Wrong and A Crush on a TherapistI discuss the experience of going to therapy as a counsellor myself, and a traumatic run-in with an overzealous one. I then answer a listener’s question about developing a crush on her therapist and explain transference and dreamwork to help contextualize and normalize her feelings. I discuss ethics that protect patients and therapists from romantic entanglements and leave her with actionable tools to process said feelings within the session itself. Trent joins me for the last segment where we mull over satirical gift ideas for dads, sad frozen pizzas and our quirky sense of humour. T...

2022-07-211h 09

Serving Cult 2. Grief, Childhood Trauma and Teachers Gone WildI talk about being gentle in times of grief and making peace with the process through the lens of a personal loss. I answer an Advanced Bitch’s question about why I prioritize healing trauma before addressing addiction. I then give you a tool to combat perfectionism, which is a trait hardly taken seriously, but can kill – literally. Finally, we finish on a silly note with Trent joining me for a hilarious dissection of a local education scandal. To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podc...

2022-07-1447 min

Serving Cult 1. Flight Mode BitchI answer an Advanced Bitche's question about how to handle her flight response that results in uprooting her family when faced with triggers. In discussing her dilemma I detail the four trauma responses: I explain how to address when they don’t serve you, and how to have compassion for yourself through them. I also discuss how to embrace parts of your personality created from your trauma response and how to identify and leverage the benefits that may be hidden within it. To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be...

2022-07-0742 min

Serving Cult Ask An Advanced Bitch - TrailerHello, I’m Elizabeth. And I was formerly fucked up. Very fucked up. It took years and years to unlearn self-sabotage, rewrite negative self-talk, forgive myself and others and develop the tools to understand and manage my trauma. Through therapy, and becoming a therapist and life coach myself, I leveled up my mind, body and soul - and have realized my true nature as a confident, self-assured, free woman. Or for short, an Advanced Bitch. And I want this for you, too! Every week I’ll deliver no-nonsense episodes that break down and simplify the dirty work that is tran...

2022-06-1503 min

Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen How We Heal Ourselves: Complex PTSD and Familial Roles with Elizabeth KupfermanThis show marks the kick-off of themed episodes, where we’re looking at the question, “How do we heal ourselves?” In the episodes coming up over the next couple of months I'm going to be talking to therapists, psychiatrists, psychologists, and others who have a different perspective or expertise around the topic of healing. To begin, I’ll be talking to experts who are sharing their wisdom about family roles, trauma responses, epigenetics, attachment styles, and even healing ancestral wounds. You know how much I love talking about the deeper stuff and the things that we talk about in...

2022-01-1957 min

Speaking of the Arts Greenhouse Theatre Project, the Macklanburg theatre, Sager Reeves Gallery & the Columbia Art LeagueA swedish mystic artist, a woman who runs with wolves, a mid century painter who explored the micoscopic and the massive, a musical revue set in an unmarked bar on Christmas Eve, and the chance to acquire art and support an organization that has been supporting artists for over 60 years. And it's all on this week's show, with actor and director Elizabeth Braaten Palmieri and playwright Julia Valen from GreenHouse Theatre Project talking about their Urban One Acts: 'Hilma' and 'Wolf Play'; Stephens College's Macklanburg Theatre director Jennifer Hemphill chatting about reworking the musical revue 'And the World Goes Round...

2021-10-2259 min

The Four Q Podcast Ep 08 Elizabeth Kupferman- From Trauma, an eating disorder and addiction to total Advanced Bitch- let's sprinkle some fairy dustElizabeth Kupferman (coop-fur-man) is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Advanced Personal Growth Work Creator, wife of the kindest man I ever met, mother to two grown-ass adults, grandmommie to a 3 year old boy and another boy on the way whose love language is words of affirmation and acts of service (she's bilingual). She is also the amazing creator of advanced bitches- Instagram.com/advancedbitches , advancedbitches.com You will feel this amazing women's energy in the podcast. I can tell you I was smiling for the rest of the day after this. But I was fan girling a lot about her- and i...

2020-11-2245 min

The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast Elizabeth Kupferman - The Irreverent Grief Guide: How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3, Eating Disorders, and Doing the WorkHey Friends! Thank you for downloading the podcast, my name is Arlina, and I'll be your host. So, it's with a heavy heart that I share the news, we lost a good friend in our community. We affectionately called him "Big Chris". He was not only big in stature, but he had a bigger than life personality. He had a wicked sense of humor and a heart of gold. If he got up to speak at a meeting, you knew it was going to be good because he was both hilarious and profoundly wise.

2020-11-2059 min

She Podcasts Giving Zero EffsThe new She Podcasts Super Squad is almost open and we break down exactly what tools we used to put it together and how we solved the problem of streaming behind a paywall! Elsie describes the exciting connection between Zoom and Otter.ai and how it’s been saving her life. We finish off with an existential discussion around social media and whether or not people have a responsibility to post publicly in order for it to be real. THE SHE PODCASTS SUPER SQUAD IS HERE! Want to get serious about your education in the po...

2020-09-111h 05

She Podcasts Pretzel Sticks, Noodles and Podcast AdvertisingCome to Podcast Movement! Use coupon code shepodcasts to get 15% off! You guys! Our LIVE EVENT AT PODCAST MOVEMENT! Support our Patreon page! Communicate with us via Twitter by using the hashtag #AskSheP and of course follow us on Twitter Have something to say? Send us a Speakpipe message! Super Quick Re-cap! Elsie shares about her squishy body and why she’s so happy she started running again “Instead of being a pretzel rod you’re a noodle” nice insight by Jess about Elsie Talking about body sizes, weak and not weak Awesome...

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She Podcasts 129 Doth Thou Protest Too MuchGet our She Podcasts Products for 40% off until 2/10/2017! Use coupon code B5 over here! Save the Dates: February 23–25 in Florida for the 1st ever She Podcasts EVENT PodFusion via Podfest! GET YOUR TICKETS NOW! Support our Patreon page! Communicate with us via Twitter by using the hashtag #AskSheP and of course follow us on Twitter Show 129 Super Quick Re-cap! Two year old chaos and should we stop chatting about our personal lives? We discuss Hey guys, if you want to work with us at Podfusion, you can email us at info...

2017-02-061h 14

She Podcasts 092 Innovative Sponsor Relationships And Prizefighting PodcastersTHE SHE PODCASTS BRUNCH LIVE! CHICAGO. JULY. SIGN UP Thank you to our amazing Sponsors! The premium Mastermind for Women Podcasters from BizChix and the only team that you need to keep podcasting, Team Podcast! Communicate with us via Twitter by using the hashtag #AskSheP and of course follow us on Twitter Show 092 Super Quick Re-cap! Jess and Elsie discuss introversion We will be ready to be social on our super awesome LIVE She Podcasts EVENT! Yas Yummy food, pretty colors, Carnivale: Brunch Bash Elsie’s Tool Tips: a new feed validator, and why yo...

2016-04-1156 min

She Podcasts 079 Advice From Experienced Podcasters, A Super Big Gulp Sized EpisodeThank you to our amazing Sponsors! The amazing Bossjock app and the dashing Audio Editing Solutions and the magical Team Podcast! Wanna sponsor our show? Check out our Media Kit! Communicate with us via Twitter by using the hashtag #AskSheP and of course follow us on Twitter Show 079 Super Quick Re-cap! Final recap, with huge HUGE huge thanks for our sponsors We are having a sale and it’s over today! Everything in our shop is 50% off until 11:59pm December 28, 2015! You need to fill out the What Did Jessica Say survey - co...

2015-12-282h 29

She Podcasts 066 Mindfulness Vs Throwing SpaghettiOur next webinar is all about LinkedIn for Podcasters! Sign up! Communicate with us via Twitter by using the hashtag #AskSheP and of course follow us on Twitter Show 066 Quick-Guide Catch up! We are so excited! We have a LinkedIn webinar coming up A cold really harshed Elsie’s mellow Stories about laryngitis The how to get your hotel room under a different name via Taylor! In depth feedback about our privacy/stalking How Jessica feels that she deals with past-stalker types Second guessing yourself with your online relationships if you happen to be gregarious and ou...

2015-09-2159 min