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Nope! We're Not MonogamousThe Hidden Price Tag of Figuring Out Non Monogamy AloneSend us a textAre you trying to navigate ethical non-monogamy through trial and error? In this episode I reveal why the DIY approach to non-monogamy often leads to unexpected emotional and relationship costs.Episode Highlights: • Understanding the hidden costs of unsupported non-monogamy • Real stories from couples navigating ethical non-monogamy • Practical solutions for common non-monogamous relationship challenges • Expert strategies for building successful non-monogamous relationshipsThe Real Price of DIY Non-MonogamyI break down five often-overlooked costs that can derail your non-mon...2025-03-0621 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousThe Anxious Person's Toolkit for Successful Non-Monogamous Connections with Lola PhoenixSend us a textAre you navigating the emotional landscape of non-monogamy? In this episode, I chat with Lola Phoenix, author of "The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy", "The Non-monogamy Journal", and host of the "Non-Monogamy Help" podcast. We chat about the complexities of open relationships and how to build a toolkit for managing the intense emotions that often arise.Key Insights:The importance of having a personal "anchor" in non-monogamous relationshipsCreating a self-care emergency protocol for challenging emotional momentsWhy traditional advice like "just go on a date night" might not always...2025-02-1347 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousThe Hidden Costs of Ignoring Jealousy in Non-Monogamous Relationships, EP. 97Send us a textHave you ever tried to brush off jealousy, hoping it would simply fade away? In this eye-opening episode, I uncover the hidden costs of ignoring this powerful emotion in non-monogamous relationships.Uncover the truth about jealousy:Why avoiding jealousy actually intensifies its impactHow unaddressed jealousy erodes trust and emotional safetyPractical steps to prevent jealousy from damaging your connectionsWe'll uncover the subtle ways jealousy can take root, even when you think you're "handling it." Learn how to recognize the early signs and address them before they escalate into relationship-threatening...2025-02-0619 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousReignite Your Dating Life: Overcoming App Burnout and Finding Your PeopleSend us a textAre you tired of swiping endlessly on dating apps, feeling like you're getting nowhere? In this episode, I sit down with Julie and Yue, the dynamic duo behind the Dateable podcast and authors of "How to Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love." These dating experts are here to shake up your approach to modern romance, whether you're monogamous, non-monogamous, or somewhere in between.We dive deep into why non-monogamous dating often leads to better sex, the importance of DIY-ing your relationships for ultimate happiness...2025-01-3053 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousWhy DIY Jealousy Solutions Fall Short in Non MonogamySend us a textHave you ever found yourself caught in the grip of jealousy, promising that next time will be different, only to find those familiar feelings resurface? If you've been trying to tackle jealousy on your own without success, you're not alone. In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on why DIY approaches to managing jealousy often fall short, and why deeper work is crucial for lasting change.I'll explore the hidden complexities of jealousy, moving beyond surface-level solutions to uncover the root causes that keep us stuck. I'll share insights on...2025-01-2311 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousThe Unexpected Paths of Non-Monogamy: A Conversation with Annie Undone, EP. 94Send us a textAre you ready to challenge everything you thought you knew about relationships? In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with Annie Undone, a writer, artist, and relationship anarchist who's been through it all - from monogamy to swinging, polyamory, and now relationship anarchy. Together, we unpack the raw truth about opening up relationships and why it might just lead to the end of your current partnership... but that's not necessarily a bad thing.The Uncomfortable Truth About Opening UpWhy most people are terrified of opening their relationships (and...2025-01-1647 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousHow to Turn Jealousy Into a Tool for Growth, Ep. 93Send us a textHave you ever felt that knot in your stomach when your partner laughs a little too hard with someone new? Or that tightness in your chest when they're excited about a fresh connection? Jealousy can be an unwelcome guest in our emotional landscape, especially in non-monogamous relationships. But what if I told you that this intense feeling isn't your enemy, but potentially one of your most powerful allies?In this episode, I'm sharing a perspective that completely changed my approach to jealousy. We're looking deep into why jealousy feels so primal...2025-01-0935 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousWhy 2025 is the Year to Let Go of Jealousy, Ep. 92Send us a textAre you tired of jealousy hijacking your relationships? Imagine stepping into 2025 with the power to transform those uncomfortable feelings into opportunities for growth and deeper connection. In this episode, I'm sharing three powerful tools to help you navigate jealousy in non-monogamous relationships with confidence and grace.What You'll Discover:How to identify jealousy in your body before it spirals in your mindThe art of uncovering hidden triggers that fuel jealous thoughtsA game-changing approach to reframing jealousy as a helpful signalKey Insights:Why suppressing...2025-01-0214 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousPolyamory Explored: Jealousy, Communication and Coming Out Strategies With Kathy LabriolaSend us a textAre you grappling with jealousy in your non-monogamous relationships? Curious about the differences between solo polyamory and relationship anarchy? In this eye-opening episode, I'm joined by the legendary Kathy Labriola, a counselor, nurse, and author with decades of experience guiding polyamorous and non-monogamous folks.Mastering JealousyUnderstanding why jealousy arises and how it differs from envy or covetingPractical strategies for addressing the root causes of jealousySolo Polyamory vs. Relationship AnarchyExploring the nuances between these relationship stylesHow different approaches impact emotional dynamics2024-12-2653 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousGraceful Rejection: The Art of Saying No Without Burning BridgesSend us a textHow do you turn someone down romantically without creating awkwardness or burning bridges? In this episode, my partner, Danny, and I tackle one of the trickiest aspects of non-monogamous relationships: rejection. Inspired by a question from one of our Patreon supporters, we explore how to say "no" in a way that’s respectful, kind, and true to your own boundaries.Key Topics We Cover:Why Over-Explaining Hurts More Than It Helps: Learn how to set boundaries without feeling the need to justify yourself.Handling Social Dy...2024-12-1227 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousBeyond Swiping Finding Authentic Connections in SeattleSend us a textAre You Ready to Rethink How You Date?Tired of endlessly swiping on dating apps and feeling like you're spinning your wheels? In this episode, I sit down with Rozie Erlewine, a compassionate matchmaker and polyamorous community organizer who’s been helping people connect in the Seattle polyamory scene since 2017. Rozie, the founder of Seattle Inclusive Matchmaking and host of polyamorous speed dating events, brings fresh ideas to creating real, intentional connections outside the apps. Here’s What We Talk About:✨ How Seattle’s polyamory scene has evolved over the...2024-11-2828 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousCatapults and Consent: When Kink and Polyamory Overlap with StillSend us a text Are you ready to get an in-depth look into navigating kink and non-monogamy together? This episode is your ultimate guide to understanding the fascinating intersection of kink, polyamory, and non-monogamous relationships. I’m sitting down with Still, a veteran kink community organizer and co-host of Tasty!—South Seattle's monitored monthly kink night at The Lumber Yard Bar. Together, we unpack what it really takes to create safe, trusting, and authentic experiences in these diverse communities. What You’ll Learn:How Kink, Polyamory, and Swinging Communities Overlap: Discove...2024-11-141h 02
Nope! We're Not MonogamousBoundaries, Bedrooms, and Beyond, Navigating Non Monogamous Dating with Shannon WhaleySend us a textCurious about what it really takes to date in the non-monogamous world? In this episode, I’m joined by Shannon Whaley, an anti-hustle business coach and newly-out polyamorous explorer, as we dive into the challenges and breakthroughs of non-monogamous dating. Together, we break down the nuances of setting clear boundaries, asking the tough but essential questions, and finding self-worth after surviving toxic relationships.Shannon opens up about her journey and how embracing both non-monogamy and BDSM practices has transformed her approach to building healthy, authentic connections. Whether you’re navigating jealousy, lear...2024-10-3152 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousBeyond Vanilla The Intersection of Polyamory and Kink with Maeve McBrideSend us a textEver wondered what happens when kink and non-monogamy collide with trauma healing? In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Maeve McBride, a kink and ENM educator, erotic coach, and the Executive Director of Kinkfest 2025, to talk about how these worlds intersect—and it’s not just about the fun stuff (though there’s plenty of that too).Maeve takes us on a journey, from supporting polyamorous families through childbirth to becoming a powerhouse in the kink community. We dig into how kink can actually be a tool for healing trauma...2024-10-171h 02
Nope! We're Not MonogamousSex Geeks Get Real: Consent Talks Before Getting Busy with Reid MahalkoSend us a textEver wondered how sex educators navigate their own intimate encounters? In this candid and eye-opening episode, I sit down with renowned sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko for an intimate conversation about the intricacies of communication, consent, and safer sex practices.As we chat on a hotel bed (where else?), Reid shares his wealth of experience and practical wisdom on navigating hookups, casual encounters, and the complexities of intimacy in non-monogamous relationships. With his trademark humor and openness, Reid offers invaluable insights that will leave you feeling more equipped to have...2024-10-0350 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousManaging Jealousy in Open Relationships with Therapist Ann RussoSend us a textNavigating the complexities of non-monogamous relationships can be challenging, especially when it comes to dealing with jealousy. In this conversation, I sit down with Ann Russo, a licensed clinical social worker and therapist specializing in non-monogamous relationships, to explore the intricacies of love beyond traditional boundaries.Ann shares her unique perspective, having grown up in a non-monogamous household, and offers valuable insights into the world of ethical non-monogamy. We discuss the importance of communication, self-awareness, and authenticity in building healthy non-monogamous relationships.Key Insights You'll Gain:Understanding the...2024-09-1947 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousShuffling Relationship Dynamics with a Deck of Cards, Ep. 83Send us a textImagine a game that sparks deep conversations, fosters understanding, and strengthens your relationships. That's exactly what the brilliant minds behind The Non Monogamy Card Game have created. This innovative tool is designed to help you explore the complexities of ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and open relationships in a fun and approachable way.In this episode, I sit down with Ayala & Kristen, the creators of this game-changing resource. As professional psychotherapists from Northern California, they've poured their expertise into crafting 150 thought-provoking questions that encourage players to explore their values, desires, and needs within...2024-09-0543 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousFluid Bonding and STI Awareness Navigating Sexual Health in Ethical Non-Monogamy with Susan BrattonSend us a textIn this eye-opening episode, I sit down with the incomparable Susan Bratton, a true pioneer in sexual wellness and non-monogamy. With decades of experience under her belt, Susan shares her wealth of knowledge on everything from STI testing to hormone replacement therapy, offering insights that could revolutionize your sex life.Susan's candid approach to discussing her personal journey, including her current throuple arrangement and experiences with over a thousand threesomes, creates a safe space for exploring the intricacies of non-monogamous relationships. Her expertise in sexual techniques, communication skills, and intimate health...2024-08-221h 14
Nope! We're Not MonogamousMonogamy? In this Economy? With Author Laura BoyleSend us a textLet’s explore the complexities of living in polyamorous relationships with relationship coach Laura Boyle, author of Monogamy? In this Economy?Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory. We discuss the challenges and triumphs of shared living, finances, and parenting in multi-partner households.From cohabitation logistics and financial planning to co-parenting strategies and managing breakups, Laura offers practical advice and candid insights. We also dig into the social stigmas and legal challenges faced by polyamorous families.Discover how real people are navigating the intricacies of polyamory and creating fu...2024-08-0852 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousNavigating Consent and Pleasure in Non-Monogamy with Jamie LoveSend us a textThis episode gives you a peek into the remarkable journey of Jamie Love, from a conservative religious background to leading a thriving, international sex-positive community, Sex Positive World. You'll hear how Jamie fosters spaces where people can explore intimacy and sexuality openly and shame-free.Key Discussion Points:The Power of Consent in Everyday Life: We explore the power of small consent practices like cuddle parties and massage nights for fostering healthy connections and healing pleasure disconnects.Creating Safe Spaces for Exploration: Discover...2024-07-2543 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousPolyamorous Elders: Planning for Your FutureSend us a textIntrigued by polyamory but unsure how it translates to long-term relationships? Especially as we age?Today, we're venturing into the world of thriving polyamory in your golden years. Joining us is the amazing Kathy Labriola, a therapist, nurse, and author who's been living the poly life for 50 years! Kathy is author of four books on consensual nonmonogamy: Love in Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships, One of my fav's , The Jealousy Workbook, The Polyamory Break-up Book: Causes, Survival.Kathy's new book, "Polyamorous Elders," tackles the unique joys and...2024-07-1148 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousThe Alchemy of Pleasure: Transforming Relationships with Sasha and MoritzSend us a textLet's be real: navigating ethical non-monogamy (ENM) can be thrilling, confusing, and sometimes downright messy. But no worries! We've got power couple Sasha and Moritz on deck to spill the tea on building a strong ENM connection.With refreshing candor, they peel back the layers on cultivating extraordinary intimacy. You'll discover practical strategies for courageously expressing desires, setting boundaries, and managing the inevitable ups and downs with grace. Their approach transcends relationship structures, providing a roadmap for deeper vulnerability and growth within yourself and your connections.Here are just...2024-06-271h 09
Nope! We're Not MonogamousFirst Date Fun: Navigating Non-Monogamy with Humor and InsightSend us a textFirst dates in the non-monogamous world? We've got you covered!Join Ellecia and Danny for a hilarious and informative exploration of navigating this unique dating scene. From conversation starters (forget the weather!) to open communication, this episode equips you with the tools to feel confident and empowered.What to expect:Break the ice with questions that spark real connections: Learn how to ask engaging questions about someone's journey into non-monogamy and their existing relationships.Ditch the "what do you do?" routine:2024-06-1359 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousFrom Strict Religion to Ceremonial Celebrations: Dan's StorySend us a textImagine growing up in a world where love had strict rules, only to break free and discover endless possibilities. This is the story of Dan and Jennie, a married couple who defied societal norms to embrace ethical non-monogamy.For over 30 years, Dan and Jennie have navigated the challenges of leaving behind their conservative religious roots and exploring swinging and polyamory. In this honest and heartfelt conversation, Dan shares their journey, from dealing with shame and judgment to tackling the emotional rollercoaster of jealousy and breakups. His insights give us a rare...2024-05-301h 03
Nope! We're Not MonogamousUnpacking the Relationship Escalator: Lessons from 2 Decades of Ethical Non-MonogamySend us a text What if everything you thought you knew about relationships was wrong? Our guest today has been openly non-monogamous for over 20 years, challenging assumptions about love and intimacy every step of the way. Get ready to question societal rules and create connections that actually work for you.Over the past two decades, Brandon has navigated the intricacies of open relationships and ethical non-monogamy. He shares his journey - one filled with hard-won lessons on communication, self-awareness, and letting go of expectations. Brandon explains key concepts like relationship anarchy and the "relationship escalator" i...2024-05-1643 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousNo Rules Polyamory: Exploring Pleasure, Tantra and Sex MagicSend us a textCan sex magic really help you manifest your desires and enhance pleasure? In this candid conversation with Lona, a neo-tantra teacher and sexual bliss coach, we unravel the mysteries behind this esoteric practice. Lona shares her personal journey into non-monogamy, kink, and somatic therapy as gateways to deeper fulfillment. We explore the challenges of her transition from a decade in a monogamous relationship to forging her own path of "no rules" polyamory. Lona explains how she discovered tantra while studying witchcraft, and became fascinated by its power to merge sexuality and s...2024-05-0244 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousBeyond Fairy Tales: Real Connection Strategies UnveiledSend us a textToday, we're challenging everything you thought you knew about love with Adam Lyons, a world-renowned dating coach and psychology expert who's turning traditional views on their head.Adam argues that love isn't just an emotion; it's actually deeply rooted in science, specifically tied to the chemical oxytocin. He'll share how understanding the triggers of attachment, attraction, and happiness can completely transform the way we approach dating and relationships.Adam has a fascinating journey into polyamory and a rich background in both psychology and business, and hes outspoken in his...2024-04-1857 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousThe Marathon Problem: Overcoming Fears to Embrace Non-monogamy with Poly Pocket Podcast Ep. 72Send us a textWelcome to a candid exploration of the highs and lows of the non-monogamous journey, especially after the significant life transition of divorce. If you've found the path to non-monogamy leaving you with more questions than answers, feeling both overwhelmed and intrigued, this episode is for you.Joining me today are Hunter and Butcher, the insightful duo behind the Poly Pocket Podcast. As a married, UK-based couple navigating polyamory with children, they offer a relatable and supportive voice for those in the polyamorous, consensual non-monogamous (CNM), open relationship, or swinging communities. Their...2024-04-041h 03