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Charting Toward IntimacySex After a Fight | Ep. 220Get the Orgasm Course for Catholic Women right here!In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen discuss the challenging topic of navigating sex and intimacy after a fight. They provide insights on balancing the physical and emotional aspects of intimacy, recognizing the importance of the sacrament of marriage, and the choice to be intimate despite lingering feelings of hurt. They also emphasize the significance of prayer, sacraments, and spiritual growth to strengthen marriage. Ellen and Kathleen share personal experiences and practical advice on overcoming mental blocks, addressing arguments, and nurturing the marital bond.___________________________________ Did...2025-05-1227 minCharting Toward IntimacyShould We Always Say Yes? | Ep. 219Check out the Orgasm Course fort Catholic WomenIn this episode, Ellen delves into the complex issue of whether one should always say yes to their spouse in a marital context. Drawing parallels with the Annunciation, where Mary freely chose to say yes, Ellen offers a practical meditation to help navigate these feelings of obligation. The episode encourages listeners to reflect on their decisions without overthinking and to seek inspiration from Mary's example of a joyful and grace-filled yes.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here...2025-05-0508 minCharting Toward IntimacyWhat If I'm Giving More Effort Than My Husband? | Ep. 218Get Let's Talk About "It" right here and transform your marriage and sex lifeThis episode delves into the common experience in marriages where one spouse feels they are giving more than the other, particularly in the context of sex life and overall marital responsibilities. Ellen and Kathleen discuss the myth of a 50/50 marriage and share personal stories of times when they and their spouses bore unequal burdens. They highlight how these imbalances are a part of life’s seasons and encourage focusing on the effort and sacrifices each partner makes in different areas.___________________________________ Di...2025-04-2828 minCharting Toward IntimacyIs Sex Obligatory in Marriage? Should it be? | Ep. 217Get Let's Talk About "It" Right HERE!Ellen discusses the concept of marital debt and the perceived obligation for married couples to have sex. She explores this in the context of Catholic teachings on attending Sunday Mass and Holy Days of Obligation. Ellen argues that the true essence of these obligations lies not in mere obedience but in a deep, life-giving desire. Just as attending Mass should stem from a genuine yearning to connect with God, marital intimacy should be driven by a desire for deep communion with one's spouse, rather than a mere sense of duty2025-04-2109 minCharting Toward Intimacy"I Hate NFP" and Other Things We Think | Ep. 216Check out the Getting in the Mood Guide!In this episode Ellen and Kathleen explore the challenges and frustrations often associated with Natural Family Planning (NFP). They delve into the importance of choosing positive thoughts and gratitude, even in difficult circumstances, to improve one's marital intimacy and overall outlook on NFP. Through practical advice and thought-provoking insights, Ellen and Kathleen encourage listeners to shift their perspective, recognize NFP as a gift, and find strength in their faith and discernment.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended...2025-04-1435 minCharting Toward IntimacyHow Do I Find Time For Sex? | Ep. 215Check out our courses and guides at Vinesinfullbloom.com/coursesIn this episode Ellen addresses the common concern of finding time for sex in the midst of busy modern lives filled with jobs, kids, and various commitments. Ellen emphasizes that we find time for what we prioritize, comparing the scheduling of sex to the commitment of attending Mass. She encourages listeners to evaluate their weekly activities, prioritize sex, and follow through on these priorities to enhance their marital intimacy. Ellen suggests practical steps, including scheduling and hierarchical prioritization, and reassures listeners to trust in God's provision of...2025-04-0714 minCharting Toward IntimacyFeeling Distracted? Try Storytelling | Ep. 213Need help getting in the mood for sex. Your answer is the getting in the mood guide, right hereEllen discusses the challenge of staying present during sex and introduces the concept of storytelling as a helpful technique. She clarifies the difference between storytelling and role-playing, emphasizing the importance of maintaining the dignity of the act in accordance with Catholic faith. Ellen provides examples of how couples can use their imagination to create engaging scenarios and memories to enhance intimacy. She also mentions a new guide available for more tips on getting in the...2025-03-2407 minCharting Toward IntimacyIt's Actually Not Okay to Read Romance Novels and Watch Bridgerton | Ep. 212Check out the Getting in the Mood Guide Here!In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen discuss the appropriateness of Catholic women consuming romance novels and PG-13/R-rated media like Bridgerton and Game of Thrones. They explore the potential negative impact such content can have on brain chemistry, intimacy, and marital relationships. The hosts offer practical advice on recognizing and eliminating detrimental media from one's life, emphasize the importance of using one's imagination positively, and recommend using spiritually enriching content like Song of Songs to foster intimacy. They also introduce a forthcoming 'Getting in the...2025-03-1730 minCharting Toward IntimacyThat's a Really Hard Sell | Ep. 211Get the FREE Foreplay Foundations Course right here!In this episode, Ellen discusses the challenges of communicating and embracing the Church's teachings on Natural Family Planning (NFP) and marital intimacy. She reflects on a personal conversation with a family member who acknowledged that NFP is a 'hard sell.' Ellen delves into the difficulties of living out these teachings, the role of suffering in the Christian life, and how enduring these challenges can ultimately lead to spiritual growth and redemption. She encourages listeners to remain steadfast in their faith and commitments, despite the inherent struggles.___________________________________2025-03-1014 minCharting Toward IntimacyFight for Connection | Ep. 210Transform your sex life with 7 essential conversations - Get Let's Talk About "It"In this episode Ellen and Kathleen discuss the ease with which marriages can become disconnected and offer strategies to counteract this. They emphasize the importance of intentional habits and routines in fostering connection, particularly in the context of marriage and intimacy. The conversation also explores the need for persistence in these efforts and compares these habits to continual prayer, highlighting that even small, seemingly rote actions can have substantial power and efficacy over time. ___________________________________ Did we mention a...2025-03-0329 minCharting Toward IntimacyWhat if I Just Don't Really Like Sex? | Ep. 209Get the FREE Foreplay Foundations Course Here!Ellen addresses common questions and concerns about sexual desire within marriage. She discusses the significance of sex as a renewal of wedding vows and as a way to image the Trinity, emphasizing the importance of intentionality and respect toward the sexual union in marriage. Ellen explores how apathy towards sex can harm relationships and underscores the holy and essential nature of sex within a Catholic marriage.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at...2025-02-2416 minCharting Toward IntimacyWho Told You That Sex Should Be Effortless? | Ep. 207Transform your sex life with 7 essential conversations - Get Let's Talk About "It"Ellen and Kathleen tackle the common misconceptions about sex and intimacy within marriage, particularly the idea that sex should be effortless. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses2025-02-1041 minCharting Toward IntimacyIs Making Out OK While Abstaining? | Ep. 206NEW Course Let's Talk About "It" is available NOW!Ellen addresses the question of whether it is okay for couples to make out while trying to avoid pregnancy during the fertile window. She explains the role of sexual arousal in preparing the body for sex and discusses the potential physical and emotional discomfort of arousing each other without the intention to have sex. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.c...2025-02-0307 minCharting Toward IntimacyHow can Memorizing Scripture Improve our Sex Lives? with Jackie Angel | Ep. 205Get Jackie Angel's new book Memorize Scripture here (use code ELLEN10 for 10% off!)In this episode Ellen is joined by Jackie Angel to discuss her new book, Memorize Scripture. They explore how memorizing scripture can enhance prayer life, and ultimately improve relationships, especially in marriage and sex life. Jackie shares her journey in ministry, the inspiration behind the book, and practical advice for integrating scripture memorization into daily life. The conversation dives deep into the benefits of focused prayer and present-mindedness, linking these practices to a fulfilling intimate relationship with your husband. ___________________________________ Did we...2025-01-2725 minCharting Toward IntimacyWhy Is Sexual Pleasure So Elusive? | Ep. 204Get the FREE 5-day Foreplay Foundations Course today!Ellen explores why sexual pleasure is so elusive. Discussing perspectives from Karol Wojtyla's 'Love and Responsibility,' Ellen explains how pleasure is collateral and not the primary end of human action. This episode covers the importance of focusing on love and self-giving actions rather than directly seeking pleasure, which can make it elusive. Ellen emphasizes that this elusiveness is actually beneficial, helping to ensure that spouses do not use each other merely as means to an end.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's...2025-01-2010 minCharting Toward IntimacyTry Again! | Ep. 203Get the Orgasm Course for Catholic Women right here!In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen discuss perseverance in enhancing marital intimacy. They emphasize reframing thoughts around sex and intimacy, offering practical advice on trying again and tweaking approaches when efforts seem to fail initially. The conversation also delves into the emotional and spiritual aspects, highlighting the importance of patience, mindset shifts, and prayer in overcoming challenges and achieving sexual pleasure. Listen in for insights on maintaining a healthy and holy sex life, even through tough seasons.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this...2025-01-1328 minCharting Toward IntimacyWhat Does the Church Actually Teach about Foreplay? | Ep. 202Check out the FREE Five Day Foreplay Course!In this episode, Ellen addresses common questions about foreplay and the Church's teachings on it. Covering topics such as the physiological effects of sexual arousal, the necessity of foreplay in intercourse, and the moral guidelines surrounding orgasms for both men and women, this episode provides a comprehensive overview. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve y...2025-01-0616 minCharting Toward IntimacyIs Sexual Passivity Ruining Your Marriage (With Mike "Gomer" Gormly) | Re-Run of Ep. 155In this episode, Ellen and guest Mike 'Gomer' Gormley discuss the issue of sexual passivity in marriages, specifically through a Catholic lens. They explain what sexual passivity is, how it impacts relationships, and practical ways to combat it. Ellen emphasizes the importance of non-sexual touch and mutual understanding, while Gomer shares insights from his experience in parish ministry and personal anecdotes. They dive into the complexities of male and female perspectives on sex and intimacy, highlighting the significance of communication, respect, and appreciation in fostering a fulfilling marital relationship. This insightful dialogue aims to equip couples with the tools...2024-12-301h 07Charting Toward IntimacyHow's NFP going? | Ep. 201In this special 200th episode, Ellen and Kathleen delve into their personal experiences with Natural Family Planning (NFP) and their fertility journeys over the past year +. They reflect on the impact of these experiences on their marriages and share heartfelt conversations about the challenges and blessings they've encountered. Tune in for an intimate and honest discussion on faith, family, and marital intimacy.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.com2024-12-2332 minCharting Toward IntimacyHow to Not Get Distracted During Sex | Ep. 200Getting distracted during sex not your only struggle with sex? That's why we created the Catholic Sex Course for Women, check it out here!In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen discuss the common issue of getting distracted during sex. They provide practical tips and strategies for staying present, such as using grounding techniques, involving your senses, and communicating with your spouse. They also emphasize the importance of cultivating a positive mindset towards sex and how sharing this struggle with your spouse can help. Join Ellen and Kathleen as they explore ways to enjoy and engage in meaningful...2024-12-1629 minCharting Toward IntimacyHow to Actually Want Sex During the Luteal Phase | Ep. 199Get the Catholic Sex Positions Guide right here!Stop right now and listen to episode 162 of this podcast before you listen to this episode!In this episode, Ellen addresses the common issue of women experiencing low sexual desire during their infertile periods while using Natural Family Planning (NFP). She provides practical tips to help navigate this challenge, starting with the importance of sleep, adequate nutrition, and stress management outlined in episode 162. Ellen suggests techniques such as scheduling sex, wearing comfortable attire, and mentally preparing yourself to enhance desire. She also emphasizes viewing sex as a...2024-12-0913 minCharting Toward IntimacyPorn, Prayer, and NFP: Victoria's Story | Ep. 198Get the Catholic Sex Course for Women right here!In this special episode, Ellen shares the powerful testimony of a woman named Victoria, who experienced profound changes in her marriage and sex life through faith and prayer. Overcoming personal struggles and the challenges posed by her husband's use of pornography, Victoria's story emphasizes the transformative power of God's providence, natural family planning, and intimate connection. This heartfelt narrative demonstrates how persistent devotion and understanding can turn a relationship filled with pain into one of love, joy, and deep intimacy.Bloom for Women is an...2024-12-0228 minCharting Toward IntimacyWe're Too Busy | Ep. 197In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen discuss the impact of busyness on intimate relationships. They highlight how constantly busy schedules can strain the connection with spouses and offer practical strategies to maintain intimacy. Additionally, they share personal experiences and the role of faith in navigating stressful, chaotic periods, emphasizing the significance of prioritizing family and marriage over societal pressures and financial worries.Check out the O Course for Catholic Women right here! ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.co...2024-11-2536 minCharting Toward IntimacyDo You Have a Habit of Saying No? | Ep. 196In this episode, Ellen discusses the common habit of saying no to sex initiated by a spouse. She shares her personal experience of realizing this habit and challenges listeners to reflect on their reasons for frequently declining intimacy. Ellen encourages evaluating whether these reasons are genuine or simply habitual excuses, urging a more mindful approach to fostering a loving and unifying sexual relationship with their husbands.Get the Catholic Sex Course for Women right here!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach...2024-11-1807 minCharting Toward IntimacyOne (Really Hard) Thing You Can Do Right Now to Improve Your Sex Life | Ep. 195Ellen discusses the essential role of forgiveness in maintaining a healthy sexual and marital relationship. She emphasizes that forgiving a spouse, while difficult, is crucial for opening up emotionally and physically within the marriage. Ellen outlines what forgiveness truly means and why it is necessary, dispelling common misconceptions. She also connects unforgiveness with physical tension and reduced sexual pleasure, offering practical steps to forgive through faith in Jesus.Check out the Catholic Sex Course for Women right here!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books!2024-11-1109 minCharting Toward IntimacyTempering Male Sexual Arousal with Kurt Holloway | Ep. 194Ellen and her husband Kurt discuss strategies to balance arousal differences between partners during foreplay and sex, particularly when a man's arousal curve is faster than a woman's. They stress the importance of mutual responsibility for each other's pleasure within a Catholic marriage, offering practical tips for men to manage their arousal and focus on their wives. Key elements include effective communication, patience, and intentional practice to ensure both partners enjoy a mutually satisfying sexual experience. The episode addresses misconceptions about sexual duration and underscores the selfless nature of intimacy, aiming for both partners to achieve pleasure together.2024-11-0419 minCharting Toward IntimacyThe One Thing That is Guaranteed to Fix Every Marital Problem | Ep. 193In this episode, Ellen discusses the profound impact of the sacraments of the Eucharist and Confession on improving sex life and marital intimacy for Catholic women. Drawing insights from 'The Imitation of Christ,' she highlights the healing and restorative power that these sacraments offer, emphasizing their importance in curing vices, overcoming temptations, and enhancing love and grace in marriage. Ellen encourages regular participation in these sacraments as a way to strengthen marriages, suggesting practical strategies for attending Mass and confession together with a spouse, even in challenging circumstances. The conversation aims to inspire listeners to integrate sacramental grace...2024-10-2817 minCharting Toward IntimacyHow to Talk About Sex Everyday with Your Husband | Ep. 192In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen emphasize the importance of discussing sex daily with your spouse as a way to improve communication and eliminate the negativity often associated with these conversations. They suggest setting aside just five minutes each day to ensure regular, comfortable discussions about sex. Topics include how to initiate conversations, preferences, personal hygiene, foreplay, and addressing past experiences. They provide practical tips and conversation starters to make these talks more effective and enjoyable.Get the Catholic Sex Positions Guide Here!Mentionables Website (CHARTING10 gets you 10% off!)Here's the conversation starters...2024-10-2121 minCharting Toward IntimacyCan We Use Sex Toys? | Ep. 191Ellen discusses the moral licitness of using marital aids, commonly known as sex toys, in Catholic marriages. She explains that while replacing sex with such aids is immoral, their use to enhance pleasure and intimacy within the marital act is acceptable. Specific aids like vibrators and penis rings are discussed in detail, emphasizing their role in improving the sexual experience without compromising the moral requirements of intercourse, such as ejaculation inside the woman. Ellen highlights the importance of using these tools as enhancements rather than necessities and offers guidance based on theological insights and teachings.___________________________________ ...2024-10-1407 minCharting Toward IntimacyMen's Sexual Health and Nutrition | Ep. 190In this episode, Ellen and guest Ginny Noce discuss the critical role of nutrition and lifestyle in enhancing men's sexual health. Ginny, a registered nurse and fertility awareness instructor with a master's degree in nutrition, shares insights on how diet impacts hormone health, libido, and overall well-being. Key topics include the importance of antioxidant-rich foods, managing blood sugar, pairing carbohydrates with proteins, and the benefits of strength training. The conversation also offers practical advice for women to support their husbands in making healthy lifestyle changes, emphasizing the significance of a balanced diet and regular exercise.Get connected...2024-10-0731 minCharting Toward IntimacyTouch Time (Why you need to do this!) | Ep. 189Ellen addresses the challenge of feeling uncomfortable with any touch from your husband automatically leading to sex. She introduces 'touch time' as a technique to build comfort and safety with non-sexual touch between spouses. Touch time involves structured sessions of touching each other in non-sexual ways to break the association of touch leading to sex, fostering a healthier tactile relationship.Check out the Catholic Sex Course for Women right here!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy...2024-09-3013 minCharting Toward IntimacyStop Shoulding On Yourself! | Ep. 188In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen discuss the common struggle of saying 'should' in your sex life and how it can negatively affect your intimacy. They explore the importance of understanding the underlying reasons for these feelings. The hosts emphasize the need to shift from a scarcity mindset and provide practical advice on embracing a healthier, more fulfilling intimate life. They also touch on the spiritual aspects of sex and remind listeners to seek both physical and spiritual solutions.Check out the O Course for Catholic Women right here! ___________________________________ Did we mention a b...2024-09-2331 minCharting Toward IntimacyAlleviating Male Performance Issues Related to NFP | Ep. 187In this episode, Ellen addresses a listener's question about male sexual dysfunction, particularly erectile dysfunction and inability to finish, related to performance anxiety and natural family planning (NFP). She offers insights from a Catholic perspective on alleviating mental pressure, increasing intimacy frequency, and open communication between spouses. Ellen also discusses the importance of reframing thoughts around sex to reduce anxiety and highlights the significance of maintaining interest and support to help alleviate shame. The episode concludes with suggestions on bringing these issues to prayer and seeking God's grace in these challenges.Get the Catholic Sex Positions Guide...2024-09-1614 minCharting Toward IntimacyPursuing Your Husband (Why it's the best thing for your marriage) | Ep. 186In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen discuss the importance of pursuing your spouse outside of the bedroom, offering practical advice and theological insights. They stress the significance of intentional love actions and how they reflect our relationship with God. The hosts share personal experiences and practical tips. They also highlight the challenges humans face in initiating love and emphasize the need for constant prayer to combat negative influences that prevent us from loving our spouses fully.Check out the O Course for Catholic Women right here! ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this w...2024-09-0934 minCharting Toward IntimacyWives, Be Subordinate to Your Husbands (What it ACTUALLY Means) | Ep. 185Ellen dives into the frequently misunderstood Ephesians chapter 5, elucidating its true meaning and emphasizing the profound responsibilities it places on both husbands and wives. She explores how Ephesians chapter 4's call to holiness frames the subordination described in chapter 5, clarifying that husbands are to embody Christ-like virtues, making marriages beautiful through mutual love and sacrifice.Get the Catholic Sex Positions Guide right here!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom...2024-09-0216 minCharting Toward IntimacyWhat Do I Do if My Husband Doesn't Agree With Church Teaching? Ep. 184Ellen welcomes Dr. Sarah Bartell, a moral theologian specializing in marriage and sexuality, to discuss how to handle situations where a husband does not agree with Catholic teachings on sex, intimacy, natural family planning, and contraception. They explore the church's teachings, practical advice for maintaining intimacy during abstinent periods, and how to approach conversations with a non-compliant spouse. Sarah shares insights on prayer, the importance of emotional intimacy, and examples of holy couples who have navigated similar challenges.Get on the waiting list for Sarah's My Delight CourseGet Sarah's FREE guide to Enhancing Marital...2024-08-2640 minCharting Toward IntimacyTHE Most Important Requirement of a Married Relationship | Ep. 183Ellen and Kathleen discuss the crucial role of empathy in relationships, particularly in the context of a married sexual relationship. They emphasize the importance of understanding and sharing the feelings of one's spouse, navigating differences in sexual desire, and the necessity of communication and compromise. The episode highlights that empathy is essential for both partners and stresses that both the spouse with higher and lower desire need to exercise empathy to foster intimacy and understanding in their marriage.Catholic Sex Course for Women - get all the info right here!___________________________________ Did we mention...2024-08-1928 minCharting Toward IntimacyShame isn't Actually a Bad Thing! | Ep. 182In this episode, Ellen explores the complex concept of shame in the context of sex and intimacy for Catholic women. Drawing insights from St. John Paul II's "Love and Responsibility," she discusses the dual nature of shame—its protective aspect to prevent objectification, and its role in seeking true love. Ellen delves into how positive shame safeguards intimacy, while emphasizing the need to eliminate negative shame influenced by purity culture and Manichaeism. She explains how love can absorb shame in a healthy marital relationship, ensuring respect and the true value of each person.___________________________________ Did we me...2024-08-1216 minCharting Toward IntimacyWhen to Stop TTA (Trying to Avoid) | Ep. 181In this episode Ellen and Kathleen delve into the highly requested topic of knowing when it's the right time to stop avoiding pregnancy and start trying to conceive. They explore the differences between the two approaches and discuss the beautiful openness couples can experience. Emphasizing a faith-based perspective, they talk about discerning God's will, the significance of prayer, and the importance of aligning one's will with God's. Through personal anecdotes and insights, Ellen and Kathleen offer guidance to Catholic couples navigating this stage of their marital journey.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's...2024-08-0528 minCharting Toward IntimacyYour Difference in Sex Drive isn't the Problem | Ep. 180In this episode Ellen delves into the common marital issue of differing sex drives between spouses. Ellen emphasizes that every couple faces this problem at some point and highlights the importance of understanding the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire. She offers actionable advice on dealing with these differences, including improving communication, managing stress, ensuring adequate sleep, and proper nutrition. Ellen encourages spouses to stop blaming the disparity itself and instead focus on understanding and empathizing with each other's needs. Tune in for a compassionate and practical discussion aimed at enhancing intimacy and marital happiness.Get the...2024-07-2919 minCharting Toward IntimacySex Sucked for the First Year of our Marriage | Ep. 179In this episode I (Ellen) am joined by my husband Kurt to discuss the challenges we faced during the first year of our marriage, primarily focusing on our struggles with sex due to acute vaginismus and poor communication. We delve into how these issues affected our relationship, what we learned about the physical and mental aspects of sex, and how we ultimately overcame these challenges. We also introduce a new course on painful sex and the importance of a dual approach in addressing both the physical and mental aspects. Join us as we share our personal journey and offer...2024-07-2233 minCharting Toward IntimacyThe Different Types of Painful Sex with Tighten Your Tinkler | Ep. 178Get our FREE Download of 5 tips for less painful sex!In this episode of Charting Toward Intimacy, Ellen Holloway is joined by Christina Walsh, co-owner of Tighten Your Tinkler, to explore various types of pain experienced during sex and the role of pelvic floor health. Christina, a licensed physical therapist, shares insights from personal and professional experiences, discussing causes such as hypertonic pelvic floors and the impact of trauma. Together, they emphasize holistic approaches, practical tips, and the importance of communication with spouses to address and mitigate these issues. Check out our other episode with...2024-07-1536 minCharting Toward IntimacyFamily Vacations and Sex | Ep. 177In this episode Ellen and Kathleen dive into the complexities of maintaining a healthy sex life during family vacations. They discuss practical tips for navigating shared living spaces, the importance of sustaining intimacy without sex, and creative ways to find private moments with your spouse. The conversation also covers how to handle charting for Natural Family Planning (NFP) while out of routine, including the use of phone reminders, habit stacking, and consulting with your NFP instructor. This episode offers valuable insights and practical advice for keeping the flame alive even on busy family trips.Get the Catholic S...2024-07-0828 minCharting Toward IntimacyWhat Does the Church Actually Teach about Oral Stimulation? | Ep. 176In this episode host Ellen Holloway delves into the topic of oral stimulation. Ellen explains the church's teachings on what is permissible and how oral stimulation fits into moral boundaries as foreplay leading to intercourse. Highlighting the importance of both male and female sexual pleasure, she clarifies that while female orgasm can occur during oral stimulation, male ejaculation must happen during intercourse to uphold the procreative purpose of sex. Get the Catholic Sex Positions Guide TODAY!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! ...2024-07-0111 minCharting Toward IntimacyTrying New Positions | Ep. 175Trying new positions can be a lot! Maybe you're not sure how to approach the conversation or you don't even know any other positions to try. This week, Ellen and Kathleen talk all things trying new positions in the bedroom! NOW AVAILABLEThe Catholic Sex Positions Guide48% off for a limited time!Over 70 pages, 50 + positions with illustrations, instructions, tips, and troubleshooting___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen...2024-06-2431 minCharting Toward IntimacyThe Mystery of Sexual Pleasure and the Body | Ep. 174In this episode Ellen delves into why there isn't a checklist for sexual pleasure in marriage and why that's a good thing. She discusses the theological perspectives on the human body and sexual pleasure, emphasizing the opportunity for couples to learn and grow through the newness of each intimate encounter. Ellen encourages couples to embrace the mystery and discovery in their sexual relationship, likening it to the ever-evolving experience of prayer and communion with God.Interested in the Orgasm Course for Catholic Women? Click Here___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's...2024-06-1712 minCharting Toward IntimacyGrooming and Shaving | Ep. 173In this episode Ellen and Kathleen discuss the nuances of grooming and shaving the genital area from a Catholic perspective. They address common questions around the morality of grooming, reasons people choose to groom, and the purpose of genital hair. The episode also covers the importance of communication between spouses about grooming preferences, realistic expectations versus those influenced by pornography, and helpful tips for safe grooming practices. Get the Orgasm Course for Catholic Women HERE!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach o...2024-06-1034 minCharting Toward IntimacyPainful Sex, Differing Comfort Levels, and Communicating about Sex | Ep. 172Today Ellen is answering a question from Instagram:My husband really resists oral, but sex has been painful for me. He's really rough. I spoke up and there's been no change. As you can see there are a lot of facets to this question and we cover it all in this episode!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex l...2024-06-0325 minCharting Toward IntimacyLingerie Style Guide | Ep 171In this week's episode Kathleen and Ellen talk about some common elements of lingerie. They discuss both personal preferences as well as how certain elements can fit well for certain body types or seasons of life (like postpartum or pregnant bodies!)We talk through some pieces specifically on the Mentionables website. While we reference specific pieces the conversation is tailored to style elements that you might notice in any lingerie!You can use the code CHARTING for 10% off your purchase at Mentionables and your purchase helps support the show!Please note...2024-05-2733 minCharting Toward IntimacyWhat is the 10-minute Unwind? | Ep. 170Ellen addresses the struggle many women face in transitioning from their busy day to intimate moments with their spouse. Highlighting the inherent multitasking nature of women's brains, Ellen introduces the '10-minute unwind' as a method to help focus and prepare for intimacy. Check out the O Course for Catholic Women here!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and t...2024-05-2115 minCharting Toward IntimacyNFP is NOT "Catholic Contraception" | Ep. 169In this episode, Ellen and Kathleen delve into the distinction between Natural Family Planning (NFP) and contraception, addressing common questions and concerns from a Catholic perspective. They explore the theological significance of sex, the church's stance on NFP versus contraception, and how these practices reflect one's relationship with God's will. The discussion covers the physical and spiritual aspects of marital intimacy, the importance of responsible parenthood, and the role of prayer and discernment in using NFP. They acknowledge the challenges and sacrifices that may come with practicing NFP but also highlight its potential for spiritual growth and deeper marital...2024-05-1333 minCharting Toward IntimacyWhat if I'm Not Comfortable With Something My Husband Suggests? | Ep. 168In this episode Ellen discusses how couples can handle differing levels of comfort with sexual acts. She emphasizes the importance of communication, respecting each other's boundaries, and defaulting to the less comfortable spouse to maintain a loving and trusting relationship. She provides guidance on how to navigate situations where one partner is uncomfortable, suggesting that saying no is an opportunity for growth and deeper intimacy. The discussion includes how to handle uncomfortable situations both during and outside the sexual act, advocating for clear communication as the means to a fulfilling sexual relationship within marriage.___________________________________2024-05-0614 minCharting Toward IntimacyChastity is More Than Just Abstinence - IT'S SO MUCH MORE | Ep. 167In this episode Ellen and Kathleen explore the topic of chastity within marriage, emphasizing that chastity goes beyond merely abstaining from sex. They discuss the deep and abundant grace available through the sacrament of marriage and how living out chastity can enhance marital intimacy and union. The conversation covers the Catechism's teachings on chastity for all baptized individuals, regardless of marital status. They debunk common misconceptions about chastity, highlighting its importance across different life states and within marriage, where it encompasses engaging in sexual relations healthily and wholesomely. The episode also touches on inappropriate behaviors that contradict chastity in...2024-04-2928 minCharting Toward IntimacyMessy Liturgies and Sin-Filled Marriages | Ep. 166 In this episode Ellen shares a personal revelation about finding God's presence and grace in the imperfections of married life and liturgical celebrations. Despite her initial frustration with less-than-perfect liturgies during the Easter Triduum, Ellen is reminded through prayer that God's grace is not limited by human imperfections. She draws a parallel between her experience with liturgies and the realities of married life, emphasizing that God works through the 'messiness' of both to bring about His grace. Apply to 1:1 Coaching!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our r...2024-04-2214 minCharting Toward IntimacyStop Treating Good Sexual Thoughts Like Intrusive Thoughts | Ep. 163In this episode of Charting Toward Intimacy, Ellen and Kathleen tackle the challenge of internalized purity culture and its impact on women's sexual thoughts. They discuss the phenomenon where healthy sexual desires within the context of marriage are mistakenly treated as intrusive thoughts due to purity culture's teachings. The discussion includes defining intrusive thoughts, sharing personal struggles with accepting sexuality, and the journey of healing the relationship with sex from the perspective of Catholic women. Check out the 12 week Renewed Intimacy Coaching Program___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click...2024-04-0129 min
Charting Toward IntimacyYour Marriage Doesn't Need to Be Perfect | Ep. 160Ellen addresses the common pursuit of perfectionism in marriage and sexual relationships, emphasizing that perfection is not a prerequisite for intimacy or spiritual growth. She discusses how striving for a perfect relationship or sexual encounter can be paralyzing, whereas embracing the imperfection can lead to significant growth, healing, and a deeper bond. Trial, error, and grace-filled perseverance in sexual intimacy can transform and sanctify marriage.Get the Orgasm Course for Catholic Women at vinesinfullbloom.com/orgasm___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's...2024-03-1112 min
Charting Toward IntimacySex is Not a Love Language | Ep. 159In this episode of 'Charting Toward Intimacy', Kathleen and Ellen discuss the misconception of sex being a love language. They explain that sex should be a result of love and intimacy rather than the base of it, and argue that using sex as the glue that holds a relationship together creates a false expectation and could become unfulfilling over time. The five love languages - words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch - are examined, with the assertion that each is inherently separate from sex. The necessity of understanding one's own and their...2024-03-0426 min
Charting Toward IntimacyAre you reducing sex to a purely physical act? | Ep 158In this episode Ellen discusses the deep connection between sex and prayer. She implements the teachings of the Catechism, arguing that just as prayer cannot be reduced to spontaneous desire but requires an active will, sex should also not be reduced to spontaneous physical desire. She encourages listeners to recognize the depth of sexual relations as an experience of unity and not just physical satisfaction. She also stresses that desire for sex should be understood as a longing for deeper unity and relationship with one's spouse.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode...2024-02-2516 min
Charting Toward IntimacyNFP is Unfair | Ep. 157This podcast, led by Ellen Holloway and Kathleen Chavones, discusses the challenges of sticking to Natural Family Planning (NFP) during instances of limited fertile days and mandatory abstinence due to serious medical or financial constraints. It emphasizes how suffering and sacrifice are crucial elements of the Christian journey. They tackle the often-perceived unfairness of NFP, clarifying how beliefs about God not wanting us to suffer are misleading. They argue that during these periods of struggle, couples need support from the virtues of prudence, temperance, and fortitude, and that relying on God's grace is essential to persevere...2024-02-1922 min
Charting Toward IntimacyThe Most Vulnerable Thing You Can Do | Ep. 156This episode focuses on the emotional complexities of initiating sex within a Catholic marriage, emphasizing the importance of understanding individual desires and the associated vulnerabilities. Through an in-depth discussion, Ellen addresses various misconceptions about physical desire and urges couples to explore deeper emotional and spiritual desires and how it relates to sexual intimacy. Helpful strategies are suggested for initiating and responding to initiation in a loving, considerate manner. The podcast closes with the need for clear communication and understanding in terms of family planning intentions and the perceived readiness for sexual intimacy in a woman's perspective.2024-02-1215 min
Charting Toward IntimacyIs Sexual Passivity Ruining Your Sex Life? - With Mike "Gomer" Gormley | Ep. 155Mike 'Gomer' Gormley joins host Ellen as they discuss the detrimental effects of sexual passivity on marriage and ways to overcome it. Gomer provides valuable insights from a male perspective, emphasizing the importance of sexual initiation, communication, respect, and genuine love in maintaining a healthy sex life and marriage. The duo takes a deep dive into topics such as the significance of non-sexual touch, misconceptions about male and female sexual drives, and the role of honest, non-judgmental conversation in fostering intimacy. The podcast episode serves as a platform for open dialogue on a significant, yet often overlooked issue in...2024-02-051h 07
Charting Toward IntimacyHow to Take the Pressure Off of Sex | Ep. 154In this podcast episode, Ellen addresses the challenge of navigating sex within a marriage, particularly from a Catholic perspective. She discusses a situation where a couple put such heavy emphasis on the religious significance of sex that it led to tension and avoidance, reducing their sexual encounters drastically. Ellen proposes that adding a sense of fun and lightness to one's sex life can relieve the pressure, fostering trust and openness between partners. This approach can be implemented via laughter-oriented activities, games, or playful preludes to sex, ultimately improving sexual intimacy and communication in marriage.2024-01-2910 min
Charting Toward IntimacyAre You the Gatekeeper of Sex? | Ep. 153In this podcast Ellen, discusses the idea of women becoming gatekeepers of sex in a relationship, specifically within the context of a Catholic marriage and family planning. In conversation with guest Grace Stark, editor for Natural Womanhood, they suggest that the issue can be seen as an issue of communication rather than a power struggle. They discuss ways to foster stronger communication, and to share responsibility for family planning and initiating intimacy. Additionally, they delve into strategies to shift from a default 'no' response to a 'yes', fostering an atmosphere of openness and honesty within the relationship.2024-01-2230 min
Charting Toward IntimacyIf You Could Re-do Your Wedding Night, What Would You Change? | Ep. 152In this episode, hosts Ellen and Kathleen talk about lessons they wish they knew on their wedding night. They highlight the importance of open communication, and understanding the depth and holiness of sex within marriage, and how it goes beyond just fulfilling an urge. They emphasize the need to translate the intellectual understanding of the sanctity of sex to the heart. Both share their insights about how this realization has been a journey, requiring continual growth and wrestling with the realities of intimacy. Both hosts express a desire to normalize conversations about sex in their circles and feel that...2024-01-1526 min
Charting Toward IntimacyPornography, Sex Manuals, and Sex Therapy, Oh My! with Dr. Sarah Bartel | Ep. 150Ellen is joined by Dr. Sarah Bartel for part 2 of their conversation on licit and illicit acts. The episode focuses primarily on pornography, sex manuals, sex therapy, and imaginative role-play in marriage. They stress the importance of respecting both the unitive and procreative functions of sex in Catholic teaching.Please go listen to the episode prior to this one titled Sex Toys, Lingerie, and Orgasms, Oh My! with Dr. Sarah Bartel before listening to this follow up conversation.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on...2024-01-0136 min
Charting Toward IntimacySex Toys, Lingerie, and Orgasms, Oh My! With Dr. Sarah Bartel | Ep. 149Ellen discusses sex and intimacy within the confines of Catholic marriage with guest Dr. Sarah Bartel. The primary focus is on demystifying varying questions related to sexual acts in Catholic marriage, ensuring they respect both the procreative and unitive aspects of sex. These include discussions on topics as varied as the use of sex toys, wearing lingerie, and the acceptance of different sexual acts.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.com2023-12-2529 min
Charting Toward IntimacyNever Give up on Intimacy: A Deep Dive into Despair | Ep. 148Ellen and Kathleen are discussing on how to overcome despair and struggles associated with intimacy in a marriage. They emphasize that giving in to despair only strengthens the negative forces affecting our lives. They stress the importance of holding onto faith and prayer, and provide tips for dealing with difficult periods.___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to...2023-12-1825 min
Charting Toward IntimacyYour Assumptions Are Killing Your Sex Life | Ep. 146Ellen and Kathleen discuss a myriad of assumptions women often make about sex, how they negatively impact one's sex life, and how to overcome them. They delve into the concepts of responsive and spontaneous desires, discuss misconceptions about men and women's sexual needs, emphasize the importance of communication in sex, and highlight that sex is an individualized experience, unique to each couple.Get The Orgasm Course for Catholic Women ON SALE in honor of the Immaculate Conception! Codes available through December 8, 2023 at 11:59 pm PTUse code IMMACULATE49 for $49 dollars off...2023-12-0428 min
Charting Toward IntimacyArousal Curves and Getting Past Plateau | Ep. 145Ever been stuck during arousal because you hit a plateau and you don't know what happens next? This episode is for you.Ellen outlines two main models for understanding and navigating female sexual arousal in this episode.Masters and Johnson's four-phase linear model, which is applicable for both men and women, includes excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution.Basson's cyclical model, purely focused on female sexual response, takes the varied facets of female sexual response into consideration.Get The Orgasm Course for Catholic Women!___________________________________ Did we mention a book...2023-11-2714 min
Charting Toward IntimacyHow Do You Find Peace When Sex and Family Planning Don’t Go as Planned? | Ep. 144Ellen and Kathleen discuss the topic of finding peace when sex and family planning don't go as planned. They delve into how controlling sexual outcomes can hinder the freedom and fullness that are inherent in marital intimacy. They suggest that recognizing the divine role in every sexual act and outcome, and surrendering the need for control, can lead to peace in family planning, even when things go awry. They also discuss the pressure of societal norms vis-a-vis family size, and encourage listeners to pray for peace in surrendering their families to God's divine plan.2023-11-2033 min
Charting Toward IntimacyEmbracing Patience: A Journey Toward Holiness and Intimacy | Ep. 143In this episode, Ellen discusses the virtue of patience, particularly in the context of sex, marital intimacy, and pregnancy. She explores the connection between patience and our spiritual, emotional well-being and offers practical tips to make waiting more bearable. Her key messages underline that patience is a stepping stone to holiness and is not a burden. She emphasizes the need to embrace patience and view it as an opportunity for growth and spiritual development, going so far as to associate it with joy. Toward the end of the episode, she provides some strategies for practicing patience...2023-11-1316 min
Charting Toward IntimacyWhat if my husband doesn't agree with just reasons to use NFP? | Ep. 142In this episode of 'Charting Toward Intimacy', Ellen is joined by Kathleen's husband Michael.We'll explore how couples should handle disagreements on Natural Family Planning (NFP). We delve into varying perspectives on the justifiable reasons for using NFP, and consider the implications when one spouse does not agree with its use. The conversation covers the importance of effective communication, recognizing personal desires versus pleasure, and the significance of divine judgement in one's decisions. The episode emphasizes the need for empathy, understanding, and mutual alignment in a marriage with regards to NFP, while acknowledging the...2023-11-0624 min
Charting Toward IntimacyHow to get out of a sex rut | Ep. 140Feeling like you're in a rut? Looking for some suggestion on how to get out of said rut? This is the episode for you. Ellen and Kathleen share from personal experience some of the best ways to get out of a sex rut.The Orgasm Course for Catholic Women is available now. Sign up for lifetime access.We highly recommend checking out Pray More Novenas if you have trouble remembering to complete a novena!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here...2023-10-2330 min
Charting Toward IntimacyDefining Licit and Illicit Actions | Ep. 131How do I know if something is morally good or bad? Is there a way to judge the things we do in life (especially in the sexual realm) to know if it's the right thing to do? Yes! there is a way to judge human actions. The Church gives us a very clear, step-by-step process to evaluate the morality of an action. Ellen will talk you through these steps in this week's episode!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! 2023-08-2132 min
Charting Toward IntimacyOvercoming Pain | Ep 128Pain with Sex is not normal.Let me say that again. Pain with sex is not normal. If you're experiencing pain, let this episode be the wakeup call you need to do something about the pain you're experiencing.Kathleen and Ellen share some of their experiences with pain and discomfort and give you some tips if you are experiencing pain!Links:Sweet Almond OilTighten Your Tinkler use code CHARTING50 for $50 off!___________________________________2023-07-3129 min
Charting Toward IntimacyOne Surefire Way to Improve Your Sex Life with Dr. Sarah Bartel | Ep. 121It might not sound as sexy as you think. The one thing you can do to improve your sex life is to work on your marriage as a whole!Looking for Abundant the full marriage course we mentioned on the podcast? Click right here! If you sign up through this link, you'll get a free one hour coaching session with Ellen alongside the course!___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy...2023-06-1230 min
Charting Toward IntimacyWhat the Heck is NFP? | Ep. 117Want to get started with NFP but don't know where to go? Heard of NFP but you don't really know what it is? Have some questions about Natural Family Planning that you haven't been able to get a clear answer on? Look no further than this episode.Kathleen and Ellen answer the basic question of "What the heck is NFP?" We go over the cycle, methods of fertility awareness, the difference between birth control and using NFP, and a bunch of frequently asked questions about NFP like "why does is cost money?" and "do...2023-05-1528 min
Charting Toward IntimacyTips for Your First Time | Ep. 116Got questions about your first time? We have answers!Kathleen and Ellen share a little bit about their own first times to make you feel like you're not alone if your first time is.....not so great.We touch on questions like "what lube should we use?" "How do we figure out positions?" "What if we're tired on the wedding night?" "My friend told me about bleeding, what's the deal with that?"Our Lube recommendations: Almond oil or Jojoba OilSex BlanketMentionables...2023-05-0849 min
Charting Toward IntimacyForeplay categories! | Ep. 111Ellen and Kathleen are back with another Charting Toward Intimacy episode. This week, we are talking about foreplay. What is foreplay?We have two basic categories for you Anticipatory Foreplay and Escalatory ForeplayAnticipatory Foreplay is simply things that make you anticipate sex at some point in the future. Anticipatory is more emotional in nature, but can still be physical.Escalatory Foreplay is things that lead to arousal and then sex. Escalatory is more physical in nature, but can still be emotional.Anticipatory Foreplay can last a day...2023-04-0331 min
Charting Toward IntimacyNFP Basics | A New Way to Introduce NFP in Marriage Prep | Bonus EpisodeNFP Basics is an add-on marriage preparation module that any marriage prep/pre-cana program can easily implement into their program. NFP Basics covers the theology behind why the church teaches NFP for family planning and why the church has a prohibition on contraception and fertility treatments like IVF. Then the program covers basic fertility science and gives an overview of most of the major methods available to couples to track the woman's cycle and plan their family.In this episode, Ellen is on to tell you a little more about the program and her...2023-03-0113 min
Charting Toward IntimacyLet's Interview Ellen and What's the Future of the Podcast? | Ep. 100Kathleen takes over today and interviews Ellen about the past, present and future of the podcast. We chat about what started the podcast and where the spirit is leading us for the future of the podcast. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses2022-12-1251 min
Charting Toward IntimacyNFP Through the Seasons: Postpartum | Ep. 86Welcome to our NFP through the seasons series! We'll go from Adolescence to Perimenopause and everything in between.This week's topic is NFP during the postpartum season. Kristi from @postpartumgrace is joining us this week. If you're in it now, soon to be, or know someone in this season, this episode is a must listen! We talk methods, burnout, lack of sleep, health, mental capacity for charting, Baby Blues, PPA and PPD, and more!___________________________________Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books!2022-09-0542 min
Charting Toward IntimacyIs Ellen Pregnant? - Processing the Emotions Around Pregnancy | Ep. 77Hey guys! this episode gets pretty personal as Kathleen and I process the emotions behind the possibility that I (Ellen) am pregnant with a method error pregnancy. This is something that a lot of us using NFP have either experienced or are scared of experiencing. Listen in for a real life conversation processing the possibility of being pregnant when I really don't want to be. Wondering what the outcome is? You'll have to listen to the end when I share. In a similar situation or feel like you need so...2022-07-0433 min
Charting Toward IntimacyChristy's Infertility Story - Natural Remedies and Restorative Medicine | Ep. 68This Infertility Awareness Week, we're sharing another story of a woman who has been through infertility and found help in natural remedies and restorative medicine, especially diet and rest! Listen in as Christy Murray shares her journey with us and her tips.Links:www.healthylifequiz.comChristy's Website: www.blueveilwellness.comFree download mentioned on the episode www.fertilityboostingfoods.com___________________________________Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books!Have a question you want to...2022-04-2522 min
Charting Toward IntimacyCrappy Charting (and how to overcome it) | Ep. 63Raise your hand if you're a crappy charter! Kathleen and Ellen both are sometimes and we talk about why it's not good to be a crappy charter and how to overcome it if you're in a season of crappy charting. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out o...2022-03-2132 min
Charting Toward IntimacyChastity | Ep. 61Ever wondered what Chastity ACTUALLY is. Kathleen and Ellen break it down from the Catechism and call out all the wrong and negative definitions we've had about chastity our whole lives. Guess what "all the baptized are called to chastity" (CCC 2348)Buy yourself a copy of the Catechism___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady t...2022-03-0732 min
Charting Toward IntimacyProvidentialism vs Responsible Parenthood | Ep. 58Our first NFP IRL episode with co-host Kathleen and we are talking about Providentialism vs responsible parenthood. You might find after listening that it's less a "vs" rather a partnership between the two terms throughout the different seasons of your journey with NFP. If you want to read along:Humanae Vitae Definition: With regard to the biological processes, responsible parenthood means an awareness of, and respect for, their proper functions. In the procreative faculty the human mind discerns biological laws that apply to the human person. (9)With regard to man's innate...2022-02-0738 min
Charting Toward IntimacyNFP IRL Trailer | Bonus EpisodeAnnouncing a new type of Charting Toward Intimacy episode called NFP IRL (in real life) co-hosted with Kathleen Chovanes. These episodes are going to have a particular focus on the ups and downs of using NFP in your day to day real life. Charting Toward Intimacy is back February 7 with our first NFP IRL episode. NFP IRL is going to be every other Charting Toward Intimacy Episode___________________________________Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books!Have a question you want to hear answered...2022-01-2001 min
Charting Toward IntimacyOur Views on Sex and Intimacy Coming Into Marriage | Ep. 57Bekah from Feminine Genius Ministries joins us to chat on the harmful views of sex and intimacy we have going into marriage and how those are affected by and how they affect NFP use. Here's some of the resources we mentionedTheology of the BodyChristopher WestOur Bodies Tell God's Story (This is what Bekah mentioned was written for a Protestant audience)Theology of the Body for BeginnersGood News About Sex and MarriageHoly Sex!To Love, Honor and Vacuum...2021-12-1334 min
Charting Toward IntimacyHoneymoon Sex! | Ep. 56What is the big deal with the wedding night and honeymoon when it has to do with sex? Is there a way to plan around your fertile time if you're trying to avoid a pregnancy? What do you do now that sex is on the table when its been off the table for so long?This episode is here to answer those questions and more. Klarissa and Jonathan Chichioco join us to discuss these SPICE: using the abstinence times to pursue Spiritual, (non-sexual) Physical, Intellectual, Creative, and Emotional intimacy. Looking for support around...2021-11-2936 min
Charting Toward IntimacyPostpartum Doctor's Appointments | Ep. 55Ellen here today sharing the two experiences I've had with postpartum doctor's appointments and the dreaded "what kind of birth control do you want?" question. ___________________________________Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books!Have a question you want to hear answered on a future podcast episode? Click Here to submit questions!Looking for support around sexuality, NFP, sexual ethics, or something we talked about in this episode?Click here to schedule a free 15 minute coaching call. ...2021-11-0118 min
Charting Toward IntimacyFinding the Right Method | Discernment Questions (Part 2) | Ep. 44We are joined by Ellen Mitchell, FertilityCare Practitioner Intern and fellow lover of helping others figure out the best FABM for them!We're talking through some basic questions you can ask yourself to discern what the best fertility awareness based method is for you. The questions are below! This episode has been split into a part 1 and a part 2. Want a nice pretty version of the questions with space to write in your thoughts and answers? Email podcast@ellenholloway.com or message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/c...2021-07-2643 min
Charting Toward IntimacyFinding the Right Method | Discernment Questions (Part 1) | Ep. 43We are joined by Ellen Mitchell, FertilityCare Practitioner Intern and fellow lover of helping others figure out the best FABM for them!We're talking through some basic questions you can ask yourself to discern what the best fertility awareness based method is for you. The questions are below! This episode has been split into a part 1 and a part 2. Want a nice pretty version of the questions with space to write in your thoughts and answers? Email podcast@ellenholloway.com or message me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/c...2021-07-2632 min
Charting Toward IntimacyFinding the Right Method: Sympto-Thermal | Couple to Couple League and SymptoPro | Ep. 42This episode is covering Sympto-Thermal methods. Be sure to check out the rest of the episodes in this series to learn about the three different method types of FABMs! Carlos and Mariana who teach with Couple to Couple League are chatting with me (Ellen) who teaches with SymptoPro. Reach out to Carlos and Mariana: cascafu@gmail.comCouple to Couple League: https://ccli.org/SymptoPro: https://www.symptopro.org/___________________________________ Did we mention a book on th...2021-07-1930 min
Charting Toward IntimacyAlphabet Soup (AKA: Defining Common Terms) | Bonus EpisodeThere are a lot of terms and acronyms that float around the NFP and FA world (like those two acronyms). There's also a lot of different ways people define those terms. In this super short bonus episode, Ellen is here to define some of those terms in the way that we will be using them here on this podcast. This is not to say these are the only possible definitions of these terms, it's just to help you and other listeners understand when we use these terms and acronyms. Did we mention a bo...2020-10-1906 min
Charting Toward IntimacyTalking to your friends about NFP | Ep. 6We are joined by Janessa Nufable to discuss talking to your friends about NFP. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our courses: vinesinfullbloom.com/courses2020-08-3127 min
Charting Toward IntimacyIs Prayer a Part of Your Foreplay? | Ep. 5I'm joined by Joe Nufable for this episode where we talk about prayer within your marriage (and making it a part of your foreplay). We touch on desirability, redefining the word foreplay, and suggestions for engaged couples and those who are single. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on this week's episode? Click here for our recommended books! Reach out at instagram.com/chartingtowardintimacy/ or email us at ellen@vinesinfullbloom.comReady to improve your sex life and take it to the next level? Check out our c...2020-08-1739 min
Charting Toward IntimacyGod's In My Bedroom (and I like it) | Ep. 4Today we chat with Dn. Tim Roberto from the Diocese of Oakland on discovering God's love through spousal intimacy. Hint: talk about it!If you're not married, don't worry there's some awesome nuggets for you too!We touch a a tiny bit on the Theology of the Body (TOB) in this episode. For more info, resources, and courses on TOB, check out https://tobinstitute.org/Charting Toward Intimacy is sponsored by the Diocese of Oakland. ___________________________________ Did we m...2020-08-0326 min
Charting Toward IntimacyNFP stories: Rose and Jorge | Ep. 3In this episode we are joined by two guests who share their personal stories with NFP. Rose shares how NFP helped her through her struggle with infertility and helped her have her daughter. Jorge shares about his reversion to the Catholic Church and how his discovery of the Theology of the Body lead to learning about NFP and how he fell in love with the practice as he brought it to his marriage. ___________________________________ Did we mention a book on thi...2020-07-2025 min
Charting Toward IntimacyWhat the heck is NFP? | Ep. 1 [Please go listen to the updated version- Ep. 117]Oh hi there! You have found the first ever episode of Charting Toward Intimacy. Guess what, I've learned a lot since I started this podcast and some of the information in this episode isn't exactly correct. I'd love for you to take a look at some of the more recent episodes of the podcast and the updated version of this episode with the same name at episode 117 (Just search in your podcast player).Thanks for understanding that we're all human and we all grow and learn!Best,...2020-07-2018 min