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Big Dating EnergyFirst Kiss, First Time, First Sex PartyThis week is all about firsts! Ely Kreimendahl, Dan Savage and Zachary Zane share their best first time stories. Jeff shares a few firsts of his own, too. From first kisses, to first sex parties, there are so many memorable first times in this one.Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/Order your copy of Big Dating Energy Available now!Follow Ely Kreimendahl on Instagram: @elykreimendahlSubscribe to Ely’s SubstackRead Dan Savage's column, listen to Savage Lovecast, learn more about the HUMP! Festival and more here.Follow Zachary Zane on In...2024-07-1849 minBig Dating EnergyIt's Shame All the Way Down with Ely KreimendahlEly Kreimendahl is a writer, comedian, and therapist. She’s also the host of the Shame Spiral podcast and just an absolute delight. She joins Jeff for a conversation on shame, why it’s so painful to experience, why we’re afraid to talk about it, and why confronting our shame can be so empowering. Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/Follow Ely Kreimendahl on Instagram: @elykreimendahlSubscribe to Ely’s SubstackIf you’re near Brooklyn, check out Ely’s monthly queer comedy show, Gay Shame. Pre-ord...2024-05-1639 min
The Real QuestionDid They Quit: Nicotine?The next person we're checking in with this week is Ely Kreimendahl – host of one of our favorite podcasts, Shame Spiral. How did things turn out for Ely? Was she able to quit nicotine?--This show is completely funded by Patreon, and we are so grateful to our supporters who make it possible. If you can, please considering chipping in! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2023-12-2610 min
Shame Spiral"I Don't Think You Can Out-Evil Me" w/ Jes TomHi Shame Spiralers! I'm briefly emerging from our mid-season hiatus just to drop this very special bonus episode with comic, writer & actor Jes Tom! (Our Flag Means Death, Less Lonely.) Jes is one of my favorite comedians and you can and SHOULD drop everything you're doing and go see their one-person comedy show Less Lonely at the Greenwich House Theater in NYC, from now through January 6! This hilarious, poignant show is written & performed by Jes, presented by Elliot Page, and has been described as "an exploration of sex in the face of death and gender transition o...2023-12-191h 22
Shame Spiral"Traumatized & Raw-dogging Life" w/ Alegra KastensThis week I spiraled out with psychotherapist, OCD specialist, writer & content creator Alegra Kastens! We talked OCD origin stories and the thoughts that broke our brains, the obsessive struggle to discern if you don't like someone because you're not into them or because there's something wrong with you, fear of being cancelled and social media trolls, the idea of "harm," and what it really means to harm someone, obsessing about finding a partner and worrying about your eggs dying, the dangerous proliferation of unlicensed TikTok mental health "coaches" and the messages they disseminate, the intersection of trauma, shame and O...2023-11-071h 28
You Are GoodBut I'm a Cheerleader w. Ely KreimendahlWe're not perverted! We get good grades! We go to church! We are cheerleaders! In which we dive into But I'm a Cheerleader with the wonderful Ely Kreimendahl.You can find Ely online here. Look for Ely's podcast Shame Spiral wherever you're listening to this show! You Are Good is a feelings podcast about movies.You can buy a You Are Good logo shirt DESIGNED BY THE GREAT LIZ CLIMO here.You can find us on Twitter, Instagram, BlueSky, Tik...2023-11-011h 06
Shame Spiral"Accidentally Shaming Monica Lewinsky" w/ Nicole J. GeorgesThis week I spiraled out with writer, illustrator, podcaster & professor Nicole J. Georges! (Calling Dr. Laura) We talked shame and recovery from harmful family dynamics, making amends to yourself & others, the important of zines and yahoogroups for isolated young 90's queers, shoplifting, vegan betrayals, gossiping, gaslighting, writing memoir when you know your family won't be happy about it, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Nicole shared several incredible shame stories, including a true showstopper: a moment in which she may have accidentally shamed one of the best women of our time who we agreed deserves not a SINGLE iota o...2023-10-311h 06
Lady Journey PodcastShame w/Ely Kreimendhal | Ep 251 | Lady Journey PodcastKatie and Sarah interview comedian and therapist, Ely Kreimendahl, about most embarrassing moments, resilience and having kids when there’s a donor involved. 2023-10-2446 min
Shame Spiral"I'm Definitely Not A Beach Read" w/ LaToya JordanThis week I spiraled out with writer, poet and lovely person LaToya Jordan! We dug deep into her recently published novella, To The Woman In The Pink Hat, and some of the issues it explores: medical racism, infertility, white feminism, the Women's March, and uterine transplants (?!?,) and also spiraled about twenty-something alcohol-induced regrets, the struggle to "make the first move" in attempting friendship with adults and fellow parents, and how sometimes the right amount of shame just affirms you're not a sociopath. Plus, LaToya shared a vulnerable , poignant and retrospectively hilarious shame story about being "outed" as a...2023-10-2452 min
Shame Spiral"Inappropriate In Front Of Steve Harvey & America" w/ Ashley LyleThis week I spiraled out with brilliant television writer, showrunner and co-creator of YELLOWJACKETS (!!!!!!) Ashley Lyle! We talked nicotine and being 90s teens, the moment you realize you can hurt your mom's feelings, caring too much about what people think of you at the expense of the people who truly care, the vicious procrastination cycle and ADHD, anxiety & shame intertwined, unhinged goth childhood behavior, feeling replete with humiliation on CELEBRITY FAMILY FUED, and so much more! I also gave Ashley two Yellowjackets- specific shame game scenarios, which she was an incredible sport about (even though they fully elevated he...2023-10-171h 09
Shame Spiral"Daddy Needs To Gamble" w/ Ali LiebegottThis week I spiraled out with hilarious and deeply relatable novelist, television writer & painter Ali Liebegott! We talked regret, people pleasing and the shame of saying no, making mistakes and accepting your own and others' flaws , accidentally farting on a stranger in a grocery store, taking your students to a casino, wishing your childhood fish was more like a dog and SO MUCH MORE. Ali's published a handful of incredible award-winning books, including : The IHOP Papers, The Beautifully Worthless, Cha-Ching!, and The Summer Of Dead Birds. She's also written for television, including on amazing shows like Transparent, The Se...2023-10-101h 01
Shame Spiral"I Can Talk About C*m & Have A PhD" w/ Amy SilverbergThis week I spiraled out with the brilliant & SUPER funny stand up comic & writer Amy Silverberg! (Comedy Central, The Paris Review) We talked Jewish parents, boundaries, talking about your students and boyfriends in your stand up, fake vs real vulnerability, codependency and hurting people more in trying NOT to hurt them, how being teased can feel like love, being a recovered ghoster, and SO MUCH MORE. Amy also shared several juicy shame stories AND we went deep into the world of her relationship with her now infamous therapist, DR. BARBARA. Amy's debut novel First Time, Long Time is...2023-10-0356 min
Shame Spiral"Am I Breaking The Contract Of This Bagel Place?" w/ Django GoldThis week I spiraled out with the hilarious and thoughtful writer & stand up comedian Django Gold! (The Late Show With Stephen Colbert) We talked social awkwardness, persecution complexes, the weirdness of being an introverted comedian, accepting your flaws, parading around your job with a beard full of ice cream, torturing yourself with anxiety, the benefits of getting older, spectacularly bombing a stand up set and ON YOUR BIRTHDAY, unintentionally breaking the social contract of a bagel place, and so much more. Django also had to face off with maybe my MOST gruesome shame game scenario yet- and while it's no...2023-09-2653 min
Shame Spiral"Okay, I'm A Monster" w/ Allison RaskinThis week I spiraled out with the delightful & brilliant writer, podcaster, and mental health advocate Allison Raskin! (Overthinking About You, Just Between Us) We talked the nuance around mental health diagnoses, all about OCD, insecurities around friendship, self-compassion as the antithesis of shame, the liberating potential of knowing your own schemas, and even meta-processed a few moments INVOLVING EACH OTHER that made us both spiral, if you can believe. If you're not already listening, go binge Allison's podcast Just Between Us, buy her new book Over Thinking About You, about the intersection of mental health & romantic r...2023-09-191h 22
Shame Spiral"That Good Will Hunting Moment" w/ River ButcherThis week I spiraled out with super funny & absurdly talented comedian, writer, actor & podcaster River Butcher! (The Knew Guys, League Of Their Own.) We talked fear of people leaving if you dare to share your feelings, the difficulty of actually implementing your coping skills when things are POPPING OFF, giving a gift to your inner child and carrying all previous versions of you inside yourself, letting go of trying to be a "better person," somatic therapies, striking out in baseball and SO MUCH MORE. Check out River's incredible podcast The Knew Guys everywhere you get your pods...2023-09-121h 19
Shame Spiral"Congratulations On Your Perfect Parents" w/ Lane MooreThis week I spiraled out with wonderfully deep, refreshingly honest and truly hilarious writer, actor, comedian, musician AND podcaster Lane Moore! (Tinder Live, You Will Find Your People) We talked shame and relational trauma, the damage done by unrealistic and grossly prescriptive self-help books, dealing with the incessant self-critical DJ playing the worst songs over and over in your head, making art from pain, the struggle to believe there's nothing wrong with you, the difficulty of giving yourself the grace & compassion you freely give others, and SO MUCH MORE. Check out Lane's incredible podcast I Thought It Wa...2023-09-0558 min
Shame Spiral"The Shame Of Breaking Someone's Heart" w/ Carly MontagThis week I spiraled out with hilarious & deeply relatable stand up comic, podcaster (and fellow neurotic Jew) Carly Montag! We talked the pervasive fear of making others' feel bad, coming out as queer via an improv class revelation, Jewish guilt and hypervigilance, the shame of feeling stupid, internalized homophobia and the pressure to marry a nice Jewish boy, the rocky learning curve of your first relationships and the regrets that follow and SO MUCH MORE. Carly performs stand up in NYC, DC and beyond, and is the co-host of one of my fave podcasts, Alone At Lu...2023-08-291h 13
Shame Spiral"Your Dad Dies And You Have Gay Sex" w/ Joel Kim BoosterThis week I spiraled out with incredibly talented comic, writer and actor Joel Kim Booster! (Fire Island, The Other Two, Shrill) We talked the impact of growing up extremely religious and queer, fear of going to hell and terrifying fantasies of what hell would be like, caring way too much of what others' think about you, being young and extra thirsty, people pleasing tendencies (except for with the TSA,) the journey of going from shameful to shameless, a dead Dad orgy, masochistically name searching yourself on Twitter and SO MUCH MORE.Joel has written for and/or...2023-08-221h 09
Shame Spiral"If It's Hysterical, It's Historical" w/ Tara SchusterThis week I spiraled out with the disarmingly honest, lovely, hilarious & brilliant writer Tara Schuster! (Glow In The F*cking Dark, Comedy Central) Talking shame with Tara was hilarious, delightful, and honestly inspiring AF. We talked shame and trauma, the relief and empowerment that comes from knowing when the past is crash landing into the present, drunk dialing your therapist, self-compassion & forgiveness, the good side of "selfishness," reparenting yourself, existential angst and SO MUCH MORE. Tara is the author of two incredible mental health/self-help books (with a fabulous dash of memoir.) Her book Glow In The...2023-08-1559 min
Shame Spiral"What Kind Of Psychopath Has Half A Beer?!" w/ Emma WillmannThis week I spiraled out with incredibly hilarious, honest and charming comedian, writer & actor Emma Willmann! (Colbert, Comedy Central, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend) Emma and I talked ADHD, addiction and recovery, accidentally learning things from TikTok, getting in a fight with Chelsea Handler, ungodly shameful moments with exes and discerning when apologizing is for you and not them, and unpacked maybe my MOST BRUTAL hypothetical shame game scenarios yet ( sorry Emma!) Follow Emma on Instagram and TikTok @emmawillmann and Twitter @iamemmawillmann to catch her insanely funny clips, and stay in the know on upcoming shows! Emma's out performing stand up...2023-08-081h 19
Shame Spiral"I Would Live, B*tch" w/ Nori ReedThis week I spiraled out with comedian, writer & actress Nori Reed! (Netflix is a Joke, HBO Max, Comedy Central) Nori's stand up is iconic, hilarious and brilliant, and she was featured in New York Magazine as one of Vulture's "Comedians You Should Know And Will Know In 2021." She also recently wrote for seasons five & six of Disney's Raven's Home, creating Disney's first ever live-action trans character, which led to a GLAAD award nomination! Nori and I talked class and financial shame, weirdly going to the same uber-niche Northern California hippy therapy school (!!!!) in the hopes of having a transformational expe...2023-08-011h 02
Shame Spiral"Oh God, My Clients Might Listen To This" w/ Jess SprengleThis week I spiraled out with queer, neurodivergent and gender expansive psychotherapist Jess Sprengle! (@TheCrankyTherapist on IG) Jess is an Eating Disorder Specialist and Educator, and especially passionate about engaging with the intersection of the LGBTQIA+ experience, neurodivergence, and eating disorder recovery. We talked shame as an adaptive response, the fear of being a bad therapist, explored brutal therapy-themed shame scenarios and the strange and specific experience of being a therapist with a social media presence, "cool girl" archetypes, boundaries, dopamine and social media, owning the reality that therapists are real, messy, and flawed people, and SO MUCH MORE. 2023-07-251h 09
Shame Spiral"Embarrassing Myself In Front Of Jon Hamm" w/ Mara WilsonThis week I spiraled out with writer & actor Mara Wilson! (Good Girls Don't, Matilda, Mrs. Doubtfire) We talked growing up in Hollywood, being a chronic oversharer, the prison of being a "good girl," the drama of young adult relationships, anxiety & OCD, My So-Called Life, and so much more! Plus, Mara shares a multi-layered shame upon shame upon SHAME story about embarrassing herself in front of multiple celebrities....and then sharing the story with a friend and feeling shame yet AGAIN by her response. Follow Mara on Instagram and Twitter @marawilson, check out her Substack, and listen to ...2023-07-181h 23
Shame Spiral"Get Me Out Of This Meat Suit!" w/ Marisa CraneThis week I spiraled out with queer author and hilarious, deeply relatable person Marisa Crane! (I Keep My Exoskeletons To Myself) We talked internalized homophobia, being menaces in our twenties, self-sabotage, parenting shame, botox and the horror of lying to Drew Barrymore, why it's so damn hard to give yourself the grace you freely give everyone else, the quiet shame of being a jock in the literary world, Rugby as an addictive self-punishment tool, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Marisa shares a shame story about having a history of infidelity in their relationships, feeling like they had r...2023-07-111h 28
Shame Spiral"Give Me All The Hard Things" w/ Xander BogerThis week I spiraled out with physical therapist & cast member of instant queer reality tv classic The Ultimatum: Queer Love Xander Boger! This one is a special treat for all you fellow Queer Love Ultimatum fans, because we dove deep into shame around deciding to be on the show, being on the show, and the emotionally complicated aftermath. And we don't just discuss the show- we also went hard on queer relationships and codependency, chasing people who are giving you every signal that they don't want to be with you, being a healthcare provider with a public persona, and...2023-07-041h 18
Shame Spiral"It's Hard To Be A Person, Man" w/ Busy PhilippsThis week I spiraled out with actor, writer and reproductive justice advocate Busy Philipps! (Girls5eva, Cougar Town, Busy Phillips Is Doing Her Best, This Will Only Hurt A Little) We talked fear of being a bad person, processed some internet drama, unpacked our experiences with experiental hippy therapies, pondered over how good it feels to smash things and the difficulty of directly asking for what you need, got real about our shameful struggle to stop saying "YOU GUYS," and so much more! Plus, Busy shares a super juicy and vulnerable shame story about being in a mo...2023-06-271h 14
Shame Spiral"Compulsively Pressing The Relief Button" w/ Gianmarco SoresiThis week I spiraled out with stand up comic, actor and writer Gianmarco Soresi! (Comedy Central, JFL, The Late Late Show With James Corden) We talked being a child of divorce, contempt for institutions but desire for community, fear of being seen as a certain kind of man, zoom vs in-person therapy, existential crises, being a yeller from a yelling family, and so much more. Plus, Gianmarco shares a shame story about being asked by his Mom for his assistance in a wine-cellar related mission against his soon-to-be ex-stepfather, and making a choice that led to a dy...2023-06-201h 22
Material GirlsBonus Ep: Shame Spiraling with Ely KreimendahlIn this bonus episode, Hannah and Marcelle are joined by comedian and podcaster Ely Kreimendahl (she/her) for a discussion about shame, relationships, being adults and podcasting! If you haven't already fallen in love with Ely's show, Shame Spiral, check it out! Now is the time! We'll be back in two weeks with a regular Witch, Please episode that adds to the Appendix! Note: This conversation was recorded in February 2023!Enjoyed the episode? Get more bonus content just like it on Patreon! You can become a supporter at any tier for more perks and bonus content...2023-06-1323 min
Shame Spiral"Loud Jewish Women Who Change The F*cking World" w/ Vanessa ZoltanThis week I spiraled out with author, podcaster and atheist/Jewish/humanist chaplain extraordinaire Vanessa Zoltan! (Hot & Bothered, Praying With Jane Eyre) We talked internalized anti-semitism and loud, powerful Jewish women, wanting to be so good that no one can talk sh*t about you to their therapist, shame and love for the romance genre, treating secular things as sacred, and SO MUCH MORE! Plus, Vanessa tells a shame story about being stalked in college, and navigating shame around not only the experience of that primary trauma, but friends' harmful and misattuned reactions to it. Follo...2023-06-131h 05
Shame Spiral"Chronically Mature For My Age" w/ Yamini NambimadomThis week I spiraled out with hilarious standup comedian, writer, actress & podcaster Yamini Nambimadom! (Pillow Fight Podcast, Chicago 10's) We talked about everyone thinking you're fine even when you're not, the struggle to ask for help, people pleasing, being a "difficult" child, immigrant parent expectations and feeling pressure to be the best, mean internet comments, dating, shame embodied as a horrible Beetle named Billy, and so much more! Plus, Yamini shares a shame story about being in a relationship where she often felt judged by her ex-girlfriend's friends, and then making a small, very human error that left...2023-06-061h 11
Good Jewish LoverIn this episode, Rabbi Brent is joined by Ely Kreimendahl, queer comic, author, psychotherapist and host of Shame Spiral to discuss an ancient sage who is forced to confront his ego after 70 years of sleep, overbearing parents (having them … Read the rest
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Shame Spiral"A Perfect Storm Of Terrible Wonderful" w/ Maggie SmithThis week I spiraled out with brilliant poet, writer, editor and teacher Maggie Smith! (Good Bones, You Could Make This Place Beautiful.) We covered SO much juicy ground in this episode, diving deep into Midwestern humility and shame around success, what you owe or don't owe people as an artist, being an introverted kid with an extroverted mom, imposter syndrome, apologizing for your accomplishments, the idea of a "failed marriage," feeling shame about feeling shame, parenting fears, and so much more. Plus, Maggie tells a shame story around her experience of her poem "Good Bones" going incredibly vir...2023-05-301h 15
Alone At LunchAlone Being a Jewish Kid in a Christian Choir with Ely KreimendahlThis week we are joined by Ely Kreimendahl! Ely is a standup comedian, writer, and podcast host. She is also a psychotherapist, specializing in working with LGBTQIA individuals, artists, and trauma/PTSD. Make sure to check out her podcast Shame Spiral and stand up show Gay Shame! In this episode we discuss growing up as one of the only Jewish families in her Chicago community, trauma jokes, Bat Mitzvah themes, writing letters, being a theater kid, going to film school, and so much more. You don’t want to miss our discussion about how Ely wasn’t allow...2023-05-291h 10
Shame Spiral"I'm A Real Legally Blond Truther" w/ Ilana PeñaThis week I spiraled out with screenwriter, showrunner & director Ilana Peña! (Diary Of A Future President, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend) We talked how earnestly loving things can make you an easy target, the double punch of when shame and anxiety spirals intertwine, annoying film and theater school bros, feeling haunted by the fear of being a horrible person, being too anxious to do drugs, and so much more. Plus, Ilana shares a hilarious and vulnerable shame story about how at the precise moment that she finally thought she had left her gullible, messy teenaged ways behind her and wa...2023-05-231h 10
Shame Spiral"And This Is Why You Can't Trust Foxes" w/ Aparna NancherlaThis week I spiraled out with brilliant and hilarious stand up comic, writer & actress Aparna Nancherla! (The Standups, Crashing, Bojack Horsemen, Colbert) We talked the relentless suspicion that you're intrinsically wrong and how anxiety finds a million little ways to confirm that, spiraling over confrontation and relationships, flip-flopping between anxiety and depression, the torturous tension in both craving and fearing vulnerability, shame embodied as a bottomless pit, and so much more! Plus, Aparna shares a shame story about being a pre-teen and having a slightly delayed response to helping a family member- and how she metabolized that ob...2023-05-161h 20
Shame Spiral"Settle Down, Sweet Yeti" w/ Lachrista GrecoThis week I spiraled out with author, speaker, curator & librarian Lachrista Greco! (@theguerrillafeminist, Olive Grrrls: Italian North American Women & The Search For Identity) Lachrista has published several books with another coming soon, is doing incredible work around preventing and coping with digital violence, and is all-around brilliant, passionate, hilarious and so relatable. We talked growing up with learning disabilities and the crushing ableism in the American education system, the horrors of adolescence, including crushes and mean girls, the agony of being considered boring, anxiety and obsessive thinking about what others think of you, shame embodied as frat-bro Yet...2023-05-091h 05
Shame Spiral"People Are Baking Bread & I'm Making Martinis" w/ Abbi CrutchfieldThis week I spiraled out with hilarious standup comedian & actress Abbi Crutchfield! (Up Early Tonight, The Late Show With Stephen Colbert, The Kid Is In School Podcast) We talked Mom shame, losing your cool, self-blame and that relentless internal critical voice, talking to kids about difficult topics, pandemic feelings, when your coping skills are also a defense, and soooo much more! Plus, Abbi shares a shame story about a tiny jar of sprinkles that led to a not-awesome parenting moment that kept her spiraling for a YEAR (which btw is much longer than she deserved to spiral, in...2023-05-021h 09
Shame Spiral"Don't Make Kids Read Hamlet" w/ Jay JurdenThis week I spiraled out with brilliant comedian, writer and actor Jay Jurden! (The Problem With John Stewart, The Late Show, The Tonight Show, High Maintenance) We talked being a tortured queer youth and shameful early queer relationships, biphobia, obsessing over what others' think of you, the anatomy of a shame spiral, the plague of coolness being equated with not trying, fear of abandonment and vulnerability, friend breakups, and so much more! Including the hidden danger of exposing young minds to the dangerous text known as HAMLET. Follow Jay on TikTok, Instagram & Twitter @jayjurden to stay posted on...2023-04-251h 30
Shame Spiral"You're Not Gonna Call Me Dirty Because You Feel Dirty" w/ Robby HoffmanThis week I spiraled out with ridiculously funny & brilliant standup comic and Emmy-winning television writer Robby Hoffman! (Workin' Moms, The Chris Gethard Show, Odd Squad, Just For Laughs) We talked class shame, being the poorest and most religious Jewish kid in school, the way people disown and project shame on others so they don't have to deal with their own, queer love, dating and drama, being excellent in crisis and bad at the day to day, the shame-diminishing impact of even one person's kindness, and SO MUCH MORE. Follow Robby on Twitter @iamrobbyhoffman and Instagram @robbyhoffman for upc...2023-04-181h 28
Shame Spiral"The Piece Of Sh*t At The Center Of The Universe" w/ Isabel HagenThis week I spiraled out with hilarious standup comedian & Julliard-trained violist Isabel Hagen! (The Tonight Show, Just For Laughs.) We talked obsessing over what people think of you, the shame spiraling that performing comedy evokes and how Isabel deals with BOMBING, addiction/ recovery, why being vulnerable feels both so good and oh so bad, what it would be like to be a person who isn't plagued by constant shame spiraling, and so much more! Plus. Isabel shares a shame story about having finally decided to stick up for herself- and in doing so ending up accidentally pushing bac...2023-04-111h 17
Shame Spiral"I Shouldn't Normalize Being A Selfish A**hole" w/ Clara OlshanksyThis week I spiraled out with standup comedian & writer Clara Olshansky! (Flamethrowers, My First Joke.) We talked career shame, dating shame, shame embodied as the snake from the Garden of Eden, the horrible things you tell yourself when you've descended into a spiral, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Clara tells a heartbreaking and very relatable shame story about a moment in a teen improv class that haunts them to this day- which inspired me to share a similar adolescent shame story of my own. Follow Clara on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @claraolshansky, and keep your eyes peeled for...2023-04-041h 04
Shame Spiral"The L Word Made Me Gay" w/ Jess SalomonThis week I spiraled out with super funny stand up comedian and former UN war crimes lawyer Jess Salomon! ( The Tonight Show, JFL, The El-Salomons) We talked late-in-life ADHD diagnoses, the nightmare of being told you have bad breath, The L Word as a catalyst for Jess' first lesbian experience, Judaism and Zionism, Manatees as the embodiment of shame and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Jess tells an incredibly embarrassing shame story about accidentally mocking someone to their face and having to sit with the discomfort of what that revealed about her- which inspired me to share a pretty brutal s...2023-03-281h 17
Shame Spiral"Got My P**** Ate In The Orchards" w/Marcella ArguelloThis week I spiraled out with standup comedian, writer & actress Marcella Arguello!!! (Bitch, Grow Up! on HBO Max) We talked shamelessness, the value of owning your sh*t and being uncomfortable, plastic surgery, love and dating, family dynamics, and what Marcella thinks truly pushes the envelope in comedy. Plus, Marcella tells a shame story about performing at a comedy festival while reeling from the recent loss of her Dad...and being shocked by an intervention from her friends about her questionable, grief-fueled behavior. Marcella's debut standup comedy special "Bitch, Grow Up!" is streaming NOW on HBO & HB...2023-03-211h 14
Shame Spiral"Shame Leads To Starvation From Life" w/ Theo GermaineThis week I spiraled out with actor, writer & activist Theo Germaine! (The Politician, Work in Progress, They-Slash-Them.) We talked growing up queer/trans in the Midwest, shame embodied as a lanky, hungry bear, the relationship between shame and surviving trauma, navigating sharing vulnerably about yourself when you're a public person, and sooooo much more. Plus, Theo tells a shame story about being impacted by negative reviews of a film they were in, which hurt extra hard because the harshest critiques came from their own queer community -and were basically the opposite of what Theo was hoping for. ...2023-03-141h 16
Shame Spiral"I Have Everything You Want & I'm Stress Cutting My Hair" w/ Milly TamarezThis week I spiraled out with comedian, writer & actress Milly Tamarez! (Betches Sup Podcast, Clown Parade, Wait, Wait...Don't Tell Me) We talked shame and social media, dating and breakups, shame embodied as a sneaky, slithering snake, the brutal impulse to compare yourself with others in the entertainment industry, staying grounded and hopeful when your world view is challenged, and SO MUCH MORE. Follow Milly on Twitter @MillyTamarez, and TikTok and Instagram @milly_tamarez. Listen to her podcast Betches Sup, catch her hilarious episode of Clown Parade, produced by Will Ferrell and Bowen Yang & Matt Rogers of Las...2023-03-071h 07
Shame Spiral"Rosebud Baker Is A Self-Care Queen" w/ Rosebud BakerThis week I spiraled out with stand up comedian, actress & writer Rosebud Baker! (Whiskey Fists, Life & Beth, SNL) We talked being recovering alcoholics, living like a disgusting swine on tour, feeling no shame when you should and big shame when you shouldn't, sparring with your therapist, the urge to isolate, screaming in the shower, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Rosebud shares a story about being young, drunk and oh-so-white- and coming face to face with some unconscious racism that had bubbled to the surface in a shamefully humiliating, regretful, and cringeworthy way. You can follow Rosebud on In...2023-02-281h 10
Shame Spiral"I Can't Make An Old Lady Cry" w/ Niles AbstonThis week I spiraled out with stand up comic, television writer and director Niles Abston (Dave, Household Name.) We talked being a people pleaser in life and the furthest thing from it in comedy, shame embodied as a chilled out orangutan, the most humiliating thing that could happen on a second date, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Niles shares a story about dropping out of college to move to LA and ending up living in his car for a year- his shame insisting that throughout the whole experience he not tell a soul what he was going through. Ni...2023-02-2158 min
Shame Spiral"Killin' It At The Hot Dog Factory" w/ Ariel DumasThis week I spiraled out with the delightfully funny, charming, and ELEVEN TIME EMMY-NOMINATED Ariel Dumas (Head Writer- The Late Show With Stephen Colbert.) We talked the three shameful things that happen to everyone in adulthood, why feeling bad can feel oh so good, the spooky and powerful embodied physicality of shame- and Ariel even tolerated me enthusiastically (and obvs unofficially) diagnosing her with ADHD! Plus, Ariel shares a shame story about accidentally mass emailing HUNDREDS of students a message that likely sent them all careening into their own shame-anxiety spiral! Always enjoy Ariel's work on...2023-02-1456 min
Shame Spiral"Everything Except The Oprah Diarrhea" w/ Clementine FordThis week I spiraled out with actor and writer Clementine Ford (The L Word, The Young & The Restless.) We talked Mom guilt, bisexual invisibility, shame vs embarrassment, toxic diet culture & fatphobia in Hollywood, the complexities of having a famous mother, and so much more! Plus, Clementine tells a shame story about how a seemingly benign seat on a plane quickly spiraled into feelings of worthlessness- and all the history and emotional layers that came together to create that brutal moment. Follow Clementine on Twitter @clementinesford and Instagram @clementineford, and can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elyk...2023-02-0759 min
The Dr. Lodi PodcastEpisode 21 - Dr. Lodi Live 1.29.23This episode features answers to health and cancer-related questions from Dr. Lodi’s social media livestream: January 29th, 2023.Join Dr. Lodi’s FREE Q&A livestreams every Sunday on Facebook, Instagram, and Tiktok (@drthomaslodi) and listen to the replays right here. Submit your question for next Sunday’s Q&A Livestream here: https://drlodi.com/live/ Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/DrThomasLodi/Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/drthomaslodi/ Shame Spiral: a comedy podcast about shame! Because NO ONE roasts you harder than yoursel...2023-01-311h 44