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Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 198 - 2024 END OF YEAR WRAP PARTYJoin us with libations and preferred substances as we look back on the beautiful dumpster fire that was 2024.
—(1:27) 4-wings episode postpartum
—(9:39) “This podcast used to be good”
—(14:48) More Alexandra vs Emeka shit talk
—(21:28) Welcome to our end of year 5 drunk pod
—(24:10) What we’ve contributed to the enneagram
—(29:30) Embodying real spirituality
—(35:20) 2024 highlights - Akashic Records
—(39:58) Instinct zone stems
—(43:05) The heart center and 3w2 vs 3w4
—(1:02:10) Josh’s object relations theory
—(1:09:36) ChatGPT can’t mimic DG’s writing style
—(1:14:44) The dream girls and kung-fu / Unshaming the types with Kristen
—(1:24:39) Withdrawn...
2025-01-042h 58
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 191 - INSTINCT ZONE LOREwhat it do babyyy:
https://www.enneagrammer.com/instinct-zones
— (1:27) We watched Bone Tomahawk
— (5:06) Instinct Zone updates / Emeka’s 1-3 flame burnout
— (10:09) The Play Zones and nailing down long term relationship
— (15:23) Stackings within the stackings made a comeback / syn vs contra zone stems
— (22:05) The weirdness of 3-1 fetish
— (24:20) 3-2 containment and ‘health’
— (28:23) What’s SX2-3 really about?
— (36:31) Stacking vs Zone Stems
— (43:28) Reptilian SP3-1
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The Pain of the Blindspot seminar with John & Alexandra
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2024-09-1547 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 190 - ZEZONE EXTERRASSpilling more instinct zone insights:
https://www.enneagrammer.com/instinct-zones
— (1:27) souuuunddd check
— (4:18) Instinct Zone updates and DG’s SX2-3 game
— (9:43) SX2 game vs SX1 froth
— (14:44) SX3-2 and John’s meats sexual bias
— (19:08) Emeka SX3-1 feeding the fetish
— (23:12) John’s autonomy conflicts and the zones
— (27:08) Renewing the spark in Zone 1
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John and Alexandra sexual instinct zoom course via https://www.theenneagramschool.com/sexual-instinct-class
The Pain of the Blindspot seminar with John & A...
2024-08-3133 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 189 - INSTINCT ZONE STEMSNew juice to wet your beaks. To follow along check out the intro blogs and videos here:
https://www.enneagrammer.com/instinct-zones
— (3:29) What are the instinct zone stems?
— (9:51) Why Alexandra feels like others are doing social wrong / SO2-1 the gossip flake
— (13:48) The Social Zones
— (16:54) DG’s social zone 1 provocations
— (27:22) John’s SO2-3 A-list player influencer vs Emeka’s SO3-2 group container
— (31:15) Alexandra’s SO2-1 sensitivity to social chemistry
— (34:05) Emeka’s impractical SP1-2
— (38:10) The Self-pres Zones
— (41:26) DG and Alexandra’s SP3-2 cozey uniform
— (54:45) Sexual zones / Je...
2024-08-221h 27
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 187 - THE AKASHIC RECORDS - IKRAMFull on mystical woo.
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— (3:29) What are the akashic records? and what’s a reading like?
— (11:49) DG’s a russian doll earth man
— (20:35) Alexandra’s a forest fairy warrior
— (37:45) John’s a player of dark entities
— (53:45) Emeka’s a grounding fusion of raw instinct
— (1:08:54) Ikram’s a golden angel channeler
John and Alexandra are teaching a sexual instinct zoom course this summer starting 7/30 via theenneagramschool.com
Finally figure out what type of toxic you are with Enn...
2024-06-131h 20
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 171 - PART2.OPS SOCIAL ROLES - IKRAMContinuing where we left off with Ikram and the Objective Personality Social Types. We’ve been typed #3 for DG, Alexandra, and John. #2 for Emeka. #4 for Ikram.
— (6:16) The sp/so framing of the social roles concept makes it smaller / does social roles have any implications for the sexual instinct?
— (8:40) Emeka vs John sx/sp with responsibility vs specialization
— (11:43) Flex masculine identity vs Friends feminine identity
— (18:23) Specialization and responsibility minimize personhood in lieu of what i’m doing
— (20:40) Responsibility-specialization tidal waves
— (34:01) What is responsibility vs specialization
— (40:35) Sexaul display as a Social Role 1 and 4
— (50:48) What...
2023-11-2359 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 170 - OPS SOCIAL ROLES - IKRAMWe’re talking about the Objective Personality Social Types this week with Ikram. We’ve been typed #3 for DG, Alexandra, and John. #2 for Emeka. #4 for Ikram.
— (7:55) *Gasp* John is taking responsibility / intro to OPS social roles
— (14:18) What does flex mean?
— (20:03) Flex vs friends
— (27:39) Friend saviors get their flex through connections with people / Flex alienates friends
— (31:44) Distribution of social roles / Jesus is a #1?
— (34:01) What is responsibility vs specialization
— (40:01) How specialization last shows in Emeka
— (43:38) Your social role is the position you take in a social dynamic
— (45:36) Flex last for Ikram / Flex last doesn’t mean...
2023-11-151h 24
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 167 - THE RAGEThe fuming and stewing gut types.
— (4:03) Alexandra wants to be led when she’s in the mood
— (9:05) David is very angry at the sun
— (16:49) And the plague of bread people
— (20:35) Alexandra finally admits she has a rage problem
— (30:30) Emeka’s rage is the fuel that keeps the car running people over
— (34:25) 8 vs 1 fix anger and boundaries / the games begin once the 8 lets you in
— (42:41) 4s and 8s are drama queen inversions of each other
— (45:59) The cutting denigrating rage of 1s
— (50:02) 1s think they know the one best way to do everything
T...
2023-10-0256 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 166 - THE FEARDelving into the fear and anxiety of the head types.
— (3:57) 5 fear of being contaminated
— (10:40) Avarice is a sense that personhood isn’t robust enough to be fully exposed in the world
— (11:30) The 8 line to 5 and the 2 line to 8
— (16:30) Ways to work on 5 avarice
— (19:18) 5 fear as one way endless monologues
— (24:17) How Emeka and John experience 5 fix fear
— (33:52) 6 fear of fear itself
— (37:02) 6 considering all possibilities / fear disguised as responsibility and logic
— (46:48) 6 preemptive call outs and self-deprecation / the essence quality of 6 is to be the universe’s eye
— (50:33) 5 subjectivity vs 6 objectivity
— (57:37) Toxic 7 fe...
2023-09-261h 18
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 155 - THE LAST SHALL BE FIRST— (4:16) What it’s like to have frustration, rejection, or attachment last
— (14:26) Emeka’s rejection/frustration refined border freakouts
— (23:16) DG & Alexandra are rejection last ghostly 9s
— (25:22) John’s frustration/rejection locked down non-personhood
— (32:54) What 4s with more attachment are like
— (42:55) Attachment/rejection are stable negotiators
— (48:56) Gut lasts are unhinged
— (50:42) Head lasts are impulsive creatures
— (54:40) Heart lasts are dead inside
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2023-06-0258 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 150 - 2 lone swordsmen telling instinctstoriesDeserted by the others, the two lone swordsmen continued into the abyss of the unknown. With only memories of forgotten ancient texts to guide them. These are their stories.
— (5:25) The role of cultural differences in the expression of type / confrontational blunt 9s from other cultures
— (12:20) How our early life experiences and environment create an unexpected relationship with certain instincts / Emeka and food
— (22:01) Digging up John’s leftover concept of each instinct having a close vs distant optimal distance
— (28:28) The difference between 9s merging and sexual instinct merging / instinctual dynamics in relationships
— (36:45) Wild topic switch to so...
2023-04-171h 06
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 147 - OPS INTERMISSIONCheck out our prior episodes on objective personality if you haven’t already. John - Ti/Se-CS/P(B) / Alexandra - Se/Fe-PB/S(C) / David - Te/Se-PC/S(B) / Emeka - Se/Te-PC/B(S).
Watch Stolen Youth on Hulu for next week.
— (5:59) 3 Playas vs John’s Play-last / What is Blast
— (10:28) Play is co-creative real time learning / PC vs PB
— (14:51) Blindspots and tidalwaves / Emeka’s Sleep-last
— (17:46) Alexandra and John’s Play vs Play-last relationship dynamic / Emeka’s Play and De as a reclusive 8 rejection type
— (21:00) Hopefully eventually the enneagram gets integrated into...
2023-03-2630 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 146 - II.SCRATCH MY SOUL::IntercourseCont’d.
— (6:02) This is now a 9 enabling self-pres podcast
— (11:26) Become a hope machine / lift some weights
— (18:14) We should do an episode on the self-pres love language
— (21:11) John’s sleep vs Emeka’s sleep last as recluse cavemen
— (26:29) Tackling big life topics through the lens of the enneagram / most relationship advice is missing the thing it most needs - the sexual instinct
— (31:15) Finding your attraction orientation apart from what’s generally accepted as attractive
Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com
Check out John and Josh’s ne...
2023-03-1941 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 139 - in your dreams (part 1) - Kristen OberlyOur dreamlord Kristen is with us this week to discuss exploring the corridors of our nocturnal psychodramas.
— (9:48) How Kristen got into dream interpretation
— (14:52) Dreams are a way to open up a dialogue with your unconscious and push the ego off its pedestal
— (19:14) Collective projecting from a lack of a transcendent function
— (21:48) What does dreamwork add to understanding your enneagram type?
— (26:41) Every person or object in a dream is an aspect of yourself
— (28:13) Emeka’s psychic dreams and how those work / John’s mundane counter-4 dreams
— (37:55) The significance of recurring dreams
— (40:51) How Kristen stays gro...
2023-01-2950 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 138 - A NEW VARIANT OBJECT RELATIONS THEORY OF THE CENTERS - Josh LavineJosh is back to unveil his profound new model of the centers and object relations from a point of view of development. This is major.
— (13:30) Josh explains how his variant model of object relations and the centers came about / issues with the protecting and nurturing object relational framework
— (20:03) Ken Wilber’s holonic theory of consciousness and the centers as a sequence of development through sensation, gaze, and symbol
— (27:48) Object relational affects are oriented to the milieu of each center / frustrated, rejected, or attached to sensory impact, gaze & attention, or symbol & orientation
— (28:48) How this framework makes the c...
2023-01-211h 34
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 137 - 2022 YEAR END WRAP PARTYJoin us on our annual end of year drunk pod looking back on 2022’s ups and downs.
— (7:13) Parasocial discord and drawing lines in the sand
— (15:23) Looking back on the vibe of 2022 and the growth of the pod
— (23:38) The year of Emeka slowing down / DG’s hot nerd creative updates
— (32:44) Revisiting Alejohndra conscious sex talk and the sexual instinct
— (50:51) Nancy getting married and moving halfway across the globe
— (59:26) Favorite episodes and ideas for 2023
— (1:07:04) John and Josh’s new formal enneagram school
— (1:16:59) Play vs play last OPS talk
— (1:30:44) Last call for 2023 plans
Che...
2023-01-071h 42
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 136 - THE DEVELOPMENTAL ENNEAGRAM [PART II] - Josh LavinePicking up where we left off with Josh and Spiral Dynamics.
— (1:38) The conflict of what it means to help people with the enneagram from the worldviews of different stages of development
— (7:33) Yellow distinguishes between and integrates interior subjectivity and external objectivity
— (12:53) DG’s 7-fix ain’t got time for yellow
— (16:31) Yellow makes finer distinctions beyond Green’s assumption that everyone’s whole
— (20:43) The limitations of Yellow is the insistence that everyone can develop
— (25:57) Teal has an awareness of construct as a vantage point for meaning making
— (29:55) The way to develop is to reach the limits of y...
2023-01-0353 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 135 - THE DEVELOPMENTAL ENNEAGRAM [PART I] - Josh LavineBHE 135 - THE DEVELOPMENTAL ENNEAGRAM [PART I] - Josh Lavine
Josh of What It’s Like To Be You is hangin with us this week.
He broke down how the enneagram is missing and needs a developmental* model (*Not Riso’s Levels of Development)
— (14:44) Our understanding of the enneagram evolves with the development of an introspective eye
— (16:51) The ability to see oneself is a developmental achievement / words have different interpretations and meanings for each stage of development
— (19:50) Riso’s levels of development is a measure of identification and awakening. It’s not a vertical deve...
2022-12-2250 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 134 - THE 2 REJECTION EPISODE - Niklas WilkensNiklas joins us to dive more into the inner workings of our favorite type.
— (11:22) Niklas’ journey realizing and seeing his 2 rejection type structure
— (14:18) Emptiness is what ignites the 2’s rejection dynamic
— (17:38) The irritating penetration of 2 rejection / what’s behind the desperation of the possession dynamic
— (21:09) The all or nothing of rejection prevents seeing the dynamic / the instinctual blindspot as the gateway
— (27:54) The 2 and 8 oppositional relationship to life force / contending with the rejected shadow self
— (37:59) 2’s shutdown their autonomy to protect the relationship
— (41:43) The emotional landscape of 2 is tethered to the dynamic working with the other
2022-12-121h 18
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 126 - THE COURTNEY REJECTION EPISODE [PART I]Courtney is with us this week to work her magic on rejection.
— (4:43) Courtney is here to bring the pain and hear rejection types suffer / What’s been opening up for Emeka?
— (8:49) How rejection types set the dynamic up so it doesn’t work — a pre-rejection frame
— (13:10) Courtney gives a recap/overview of object relations and why it matters
— (15:02) Our O.R. is a blueprint for how relationships need to be setup in order for us to feel like a person
— (16:24) What separates rejection from attachment & frustration is the cutting off from awareness of the original wou...
2022-09-1750 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 125 - REJECTION IS POSSESSIONWe’re bringing the pain to rejection types. How penetrating the other becomes the replacement for connection.
— (2:08) The penetration and leverage of rejection is a possession of the other
— (4:25) Riffing on what sexual 8 possession really means / all the rejection types are doing possession through their centers
— (11:06) Possessing the other becomes a replacement for the connection the rejection type assumes is not on the table
— (13:46) Callback to soul intercourse and how that had a parental rejection dynamic for Emeka
— (16:51) Rejection types are tracking how much it matters to you / tiers of penetration
— (20:36) Rejection types needing...
2022-09-081h 03
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 123 - REJECTION LETTER ＜ADDENDUM＞ - JosephWe’re continuing our discussions on rejection. This time with the Enneagrammer/DAA typing team riffing on some new insights.
— (6:22) Lever points and what being indispensable means to a rejection type / Joseph’s impression of feeling used by rejection types
— (9:47) Emeka’s analogy of rejection types as limited persons born with missing limbs
— (15:38) Frustration is in relation/reaction to an ideal, while rejection assumes a baseline of being cut off
— (17:35) Rejection types see their offerings as transactional resources and indispensable commodities
— (22:29) What’s necessary to get 8s is to understand how they control potent leverage po...
2022-08-251h 03
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 122 - THE MISSING PIECES [PART 2] - AlexandraWe’re back to explore more missing pieces blindspots. But first, Sophie joins us to discuss upcoming Fourth Way talks organized by her and John’s group.
— (29:43) Exploring various polarities and opposites
— (36:43) John’s body last vs Alexandra’s heart last
— (41:07) The difference between using a polarity to grow vs using someone to outsource the needs of a missing piece
— (47:34) You must identify and become aware of the polarities at work in you so you can integrate those blindspots rather than outsourcing them externally
— (51:38) Couples make unconscious agreements to maintain their opposite qualities to ensure they don’t...
2022-08-181h 11
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 119 - THE MISSING PIECESThe instinctual blindspot ain’t the only one you need to integrate. We explore how certain types, centers, and qualities that are missing in us become shadows.
— (6:42) How we’re attracted to those that embody typological qualities we’re missing
— (11:53) We’re drawn to and most affected by our last weakest center
— (15:40) Unaddressed blindspots become unconscious demons and quarter life - midlife crisis
— (23:40) Exploring the types that are missing for us / Emeka’s missing superego and 9
— (24:59) Nancy and DG are missing the rejection types 2/5/8
— (31:10) Extreme polarity is very attractive but unstable
— (35:56) What missing all the rej...
2022-07-2747 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 118 - [LIVE POD] Q&A/AMAWe haven’t deserted y’all. Coming live to you from Brooklyn, NY answering your AMA questions. And we’ve got a small live audience with us. Link to the live video on Youtube: https://youtu.be/plnJ9a1pFUA
— (8:30) We’re all mistyped
— (9:55) Yes, you’re the toxic one if your 9 has checked out
— (11:58) Self-pres 9s carrying the weight of the world
— (15:44) 9s being mean and dramatic but nice in different contexts
— (19:16) Hexad types with attachment fixes and vice versa
— (29:13) Josh and the What It’s Like To Be You pod / what it's like to interv...
2022-07-201h 03
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 116 - THE UPSIDE DOWN TRIANGLE / REFLECTIONS - AlexandraWe went off the deep end to explore the upside down hexagram triangle and David’s reflections between hexad and attachment.
— (12:08) Recapping what 3/6/9 represent for humanity vs the hexagram triangle
— (16:14) The hexagram triangle is the upside down of the 369 triangle
— (18:06) DG’s reflections and how the hexad types types are born of the attachment types (3>7/8, 6>1/2, 9>4/5)
— (26:33) The hexagram is out of sync with the cosmic flow
— (27:16) The line from 9 to the space between 4/5 is the everything to the nothing
— (30:04) John dives into the spheres of existence on the kabbalah / the tension between the everything and th...
2022-06-171h 00
What It's Like To Be You#1: Emeka Okorafor (SX/SP 8w7 854) — Typing Others, Not Knowing I'm Being Provocative, Advice for Relationships with 8s
Emeka Okorafor is a Sexual 8, and he is a world expert in Enneagram typing. He co-runs Enneagrammer.com, co-hosts the Big Hormone Enneagram Podcast and the Dark Arts Academy -- weekly classes where you can watch the Enneagrammer team type a celebrity live.
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Timestamps: 00:00 Intro to What It's Like To Be You 1:35 Intro to E...
2022-06-071h 23
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 108 - THE TINDER SWINDLER - AlexandraThis week Emeka and Alejohndra are discussing the Netflix doc, The Tinder Swindler. The rest of crew has been held hostage by our road back to you haters in Prague. Please paypal $500 to bhepodcast@gmail.com or David and Nancy will die. Love you babies forever.
— (7:58) Overview/Summary of the premise and why this story is compelling from the POV of the enneagram
— (13:29) Attachment is the fundamental O.R. structure for everyone and people don’t really connect with each other
— (15:28) 3s are mirroring back to you what you find valuable and crafting an emotional landscap...
2022-03-281h 05
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 103 - HORMONAL ASTROLOGY ＜0＞ SYNASTRY - AlexandraThis week, Alexandra is here to help us delve into our hormonal astrological compatibilities.
— (3:37) Alexandra’s intro to composite and synastry compatibility
— (5:38) Nancy David
— (10:59) John Emeka
— (24:57) Emeka Nancy
— (32:21) David Emeka
— (40:05) John Nancy
— (47:46) David John
— (52:54) Alexandra Everyone and closing thoughts
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2022-02-051h 03
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 097 - ATTACHMENT TO DISCONNECT [Bermuda Edition PART 2] - Courtney & CzanderContinuing where we left off with Courtney and Czander and attachment to disconnect from the 3-6-9 Bermuda Triangle.
— (9:26) How does a good attachment form for attachment types if attaching is based on not being seen?
— (17:13) 9s needing contrast and negation to find themselves and resisting being located
— (22:52) Attachment types exist in shifting context, which makes them resistant to pinning down self-location and identity
— (29:58) How 9s are open but ‘not there’ in their attachments, and how that gets in the way of relationships
— (46:58) Courtney explains how a healthy attachment for a 6 helps affirm and trust her...
2021-12-111h 16
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 096 - #NOTAN8This week we're tackling type 8 misconceptions and misinformation that lead so many to mistype and idealize type 8.
— (10:26) Emeka’s overview of often overlooked aspects of the 8 type structure
— (15:22) 8 is dissociating to reject and stay separate but involved by embodying the protecting function
— (19:40) 8s are separate and expansive in ways that dehumanizes themselves and others
— (23:18) 8 control is about setting boundaries and terms of engagement, not telling people what to do or being angry
— (28:48) 6 and 9 superego’s trying to make type 8 into a good person with ‘protecting the underdog’. And what 8’s are really protective of
— (40:53) The...
2021-11-281h 27
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 095 - ATTACHMENT TO DISCONNECT [Bermuda Edition PART I] - Courtney & CzanderThis week Courtney and Czander are with us to attempt to uncover the mysteries of attachment to disconnect from the 3-6-9 Bermuda Triangle.
— (13:30) Courtney’s take on how the 3 is committed to remaining slippery and disconnected
— (17:02) 3’s maintain a disconnect by assuming people only want their palatable selves instead of their genuine selves
— (26:59) The 3’s attachments are a prop for how their original caregivers defined value
— (40:17) The crafted persona that the 3 presents will always be disconnected from the true self so the 3 never feels validated
— (43:49) The 6 remains slippery because they’re trying to garner support...
2021-11-211h 00
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 079 - HEXAD VS ATTACHMENT UNDRESSED [PART CONT’D]We’re back with new insights to share continuing our hexad vs attachment series.
— (1:26) Revisiting the curious case of David Gray and his hidden very weird attachment
— (9:09) Reviewing the last episode’s insights on the individuated vs attachment yes and no
— (12:40) The premature yes of attachment vs the premature no of rejection vs the ‘yes, but no’ of frustration
— (16:50) Emeka’s experience of the severing of rejection and ‘no’ as a baseline
— (21:47) Nancy’s reaction and how the grass isn’t greener on the hexad side
— (30:36) The latest on John’s book release and Courtney joining us n...
2021-07-1034 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 071 - SOUL::INTERCOURSE [Part 1]We’re getting all up in your soul g-spot this week, exploring the different dimensions of sexuality and chemistry. How to meet someone energetically during sex.
— (4:02) Emeka’s revelation about his sexuality
— (9:32) How Nancy senses a sexual partner’s energy and soul
— (16:10) Soul level attraction and introverted vs extroverted sexuality
— (27:14) What makes good sex good?
— (28:08) The feminine sexuality of being penetrated and taking someone’s energy in
— (30:36) Nancy’s experience of having soul intercourse with her partner
— (34:57) How to deeply meet someone sexually
— (37:44) Self-love to deepen a sense of your body’s arousal
— (42:57...
2021-05-1455 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 069 - ‘TERRIBLE’ TWOS - Alex & FayThis week we’re joined by two twos, Alex Giroux and Fay Willow, to unpack our negative bias against 2s. We attempt to atone for our sins. Forgive us for we shall sin again.
— (10:06) The collective shadow that type 2 represents culturally
— (19:40) Emeka and John reacting to their mothers being 2s
— (29:58) How Alex experiences her own neediness as a social blind 2
— (38:00) 2s feeling like they have to offer something to justify their existence as rejection types
— (43:40) How our 2s interpret the notion that their love is conditional and is giving to get
— (53:27) The friction betwe...
2021-04-241h 28
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 067 - COUNTERTYPE IS DUMB [Part 1]This week we’re unpacking Countertype, a deplorable concept plaguing the enneagram.
— (1:26) The origin of subtype
— (5:43) What is Countertype?
— (11:23) Social 9 Countertype - “Participation”
— (16:37) Instinct is the basis of the personality
— (18:15) Social 8 Countertype - “Solidarity”
— (26:56) Emeka hates everything about the sexual 8 quote
— (30:51) Sexual 1 Countertype - “Zeal”
— (39:10) Self-pres 3 Countertype - “Security”
— (46:44) Self-pres 2 Countertype - “Privilege”
Don’t forget to leave a voicemail for the Loveline with your type specific kinks and sexual fantasies. The number is (323) 696-0647. Or you can email a voice note to bhepodcast@gmail.com.
2021-04-0854 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 065 - BREATHWORK: Rebirth In The ZoneThis week, after another heart-opening transformative meetup in the zone, we’re discussing our experiences with breathwork.
— (3:24) We recount a powerful spontaneous breathwork session in The Zone
— (7:52) What is a breathwork session and how does it work?
— (23:00) How processing and releasing trauma is like exorcising demons
— (27:42) David’s breathwork session with John
— (38:05) Emeka’s breathwork session with John
— (47:58) Nancy feeling parts of her body function as they were intended after her breathwork session
— (50:08) Resources and recommended breathworkers
2021-03-2655 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 064 - TOXIC REACTIVE — Courtney SmithThis week we’re diving into the often negative reactive types as we continue our series exploring the harmonic groups.
— (3:42) What are the assumptions of the reactive type lens?
— (6:06) How each harmonic group is disconnecting from the heart and presence
— (13:52) Why do reactive types focus on the negative story behind things
— (20:38) The story the competency type lens focuses on
— (22:44) The contrast of reactive types in each center from John, Emeka, and Courtney
— (43:10) How do David and Nancy experience reactive types
— (49:55) How our reactive types relate to other reactive types
— (59:26) The power dynamic in 8 re...
2021-03-201h 15
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 063 - LOVELINE #3 // Undressing Archetypes & Bullsh*tWe’re back at it with another thirsty LoveLine Q/A episode.
— (2:22) What archetypes and myths do we each identify with and how does the shadow show up in relationships?
— (33:16) Criticism that we could end up going off the rails with the potential for bullshit
— (55:10) Trifix essential qualities
— (59:49) How to tell the difference between an 8 with a 6 fix from a 6 with an 8 fix
— (1:08:03) Is Countertype legit?
To be featured on the next LoveLine episode leave a voicemail at (323) 696-0647 or email in a pre-recorded voice note to bhepodcast@gmail.com
2021-03-101h 14
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 062 - BIG FLICK ENERGY: Silence Of The ManhunterThis week we’re diving into Manhunter and Silence of the lambs to explore the perspective of the image center as represented by these serial killers.
— (6:19) Overview/summary of Silence of the Lamb/Manhunter
— (11:00) The Manhunter serial killer as a sexual 4
— (27:24) Hannibal Lecter as a 3 and Clarice as a type 6 or 9
— (37:24) Idealized androgyny as a form of self-transformation
— (39:31) Lecter’s social 3 fancy boi sensibilities
— (41:18) What it means for image types to try to be themselves
— (45:26) The difference between the 3’s adaptability in identity vs the 4’s overly defined point of identity
— (55:09) How Dolarhy...
2021-03-041h 10
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 061 - ANTIPOSITIVE OUTLOOKThis week we’re diving into the not so sunny positive outlook types as we start off a series exploring the harmonic groups.
— (8:05) What is the positive outlook harmonic group?
— (13:53) How 9’s self-erasing makes them seem less positive than 2 and 7
— (17:14) Why it’s named harmonics
— (24:40) How positive outlook gets in the way of inner work
— (31:12) The positive type premature expert
— (33:08) The 9’s brand of know it all narcissism
— (41:02) The negative shadow of positive types
— (42:44) The dark side of 9
— (47:01) The shadow of 7
— (48:01) How David and Emeka experience their positive outlook influences
— (56:0
2021-02-241h 04
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 060 - DEVILS OF HEALTH [Part 2]We’re continuing where we left off to get more specific with how the average levels of health operate.
— (8:36) Everyone is at average levels of health
— (16:34) What does it mean to be at Level 4?
— (20:54) Type 4 at level 4
— (23:48) Type 9 at level 4
— (29:13) Type 3 at level 4
— (33:56) The real difference between level 4 and level 3
— (38:47) Type 8 at level 4
— (47:00) The transition to level 5 from level 4
— (55:16) How 9s compartmentalize conflict and disengage at level 5
— (1:05:24) Level 6
2021-02-181h 08
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 059 - DEVILS OF HEALTH [Part 1]This week we’re diving into the often misunderstood levels of health.
— (3:38) Health is not a measure of positive outcomes or attitudes
— (7:32) History of the levels of health and what it means
— (12:08) You don’t overcome your type as you go up the levels
— (13:26) The shock between going from level 4 to level 3
— (17:27) What it means to do inner work to liberate attention
— (26:49) Just being aware of your type is not freedom from it
— (33:18) Gurdjieff as a healthy 8 who wasn’t always a ‘good’ person
— (38:42) Inner and outer considering
— (42:06) David’s story about an experience of...
2021-02-111h 13
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 058 - #NOTA5As promised, this week we’re diving into the nuances of #nota5 in response to one of your voicemail questions.
— (3:46) Why people mistype as 5 and the common misconceptions
— (9:28) The contrast between the intellectualism of 9 and 6 vs 5
— (11:33) 5’s obscure discovery vs 6’s referential truth
— (18:14) 6’s orientation to intellectual integrity
— (26:30) 5s are not always smart or intellectual
— (30:41) David and Emeka’s body type impressions of 5
— (41:00) Queen’s Gambit as a fictional example of 5 detachment and disconnect
— (43:06) 9s and 6s relating to the detachment of 5
— (47:23) The pain and suffering of 5
— (50:57) Famous examples of 5s and #nota5s (Einst...
2021-02-031h 07
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 057 - LOVELINE #2 // Thirst Spotting & Inter-stack MatingWe’re back at it with another thirsty LoveLine episode.
— (2:19) How can sexual blinds recognize when someone is attracted to them?
— (28:02) What is it like to date your instinct stacking and the other stackings?
— (50:09) What type would say yes to marriage for a green card and will Nancy accept his proposal?
— (56:44) Can we do a riff on #nota5? YES, we’ll devote of all the next episode to it.
To be featured on the next LoveLine episode leave a voicemail at (323) 696-0647 or email in a pre-recorded voice note to bhepodcast@gmail.com.
2021-01-271h 00
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 056 - Vehicles of Essence - Shepherd HoodwinWe’re wrapping up our Michael Teachings talk with Shepherd by diving into the overleaves.
— (2:37) Action axis // Warrior and King roles
— (8:54) The bossiness of the King role in a normal person
— (12:36) Goal of acceptance
— (16:15) Goal of flow
— (17:16) Goal of discrimination
— (25:17) Goal of dominance
— (27:51) What are sliding overleaves?
— (28:54) Goal of submission
— (31:01) Spiritualist Attitude
— (32:30) Nancy/Emeka/John having the skeptic attitude
— (42:07) The idealist attitude
— (44:20) Reserve and Passion mode
— (48:08) Caution and Power mode
— (51:52) How different overleaves cause friction in relationships
— (54:19) What it’s like for a role to have high frequency
—...
2021-01-201h 12
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 055 - THE CHANNEL - Shepherd HoodwinThis week we’re diving into the nuances of channeling and souls with Shepherd.
— (6:06) How is channeling different from intuition? The difference between channels, mediums, and psychics
— (9:34) The different planes one can channel from
— (12:14) How does Shepherd know he’s channeling Michael
— (18:49) How does Shepherd get information when he’s channeling the Michael Charts
— (21:30) What is the Akashic Record?
— (25:45) Why don’t we remember what our soul chose?
— (30:04) Is channeling something anyone can learn to do?
— (36:38) What role does bias and discernment play?
— (43:36) Channeling entities other than Michael
— (46:01) What’s the felt experience o...
2021-01-131h 31
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 054 - Enter The Michael Teachings - Shepherd Hoodwin
We’re starting off the year diving into Michael Teachings with Shepherd Hoodwin.
— (6:53) What is channeling
— (9:37) History of Michael Teachings and how Shepherd started channeling
— (21:04) Do the roles have something they’re trying to accomplish?
— (25:26) Soul type characteristics and inputs
— (32:20) Inspiration/Expression/Action/Assimilation Axis
— (36:47) The definition of the soul in MT vs Gurdjieff
— (39:48) Why the name Michael and why do they care?
— (46:39) Positive/negative poles and the chief obstacle
— (51:42) Essence role distribution in groups
— (54:20) Scholar role with the different centers
— (60:08) David as an example of the Chief Obstacle of greed
2021-01-061h 49
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 053 - 2020 YEAR IN REVIEW WRAP PARTYYa girl and boys are closing out the year with a very lit unsober wrap party. We’re looking back on the year and its most memorable parts and of course talking shit. Grab a drink and/or a smoke and join us as we look back on the beautiful train-wreck that was 2020.
— what our most listened to episodes are
— what nancy really thinks about podding with a bunch of soc-last dudes
— shout-outs to all our guests, reviewers, and patrons
— Ideas and plans for 2021 (nota4, the loveline, and book launches)
Happy New Year!
2021-01-011h 05
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 052 - LOVELINE #1 // Jealousy and Mail-Order BridesOur very first LoveLine pod is here. Hats off to the four brave pioneers who sent in voicemails for this seminal work. We see you Sarah and we honor you. How to not be awkward as a sx-blind head type? How do we deal with jealousy and is it type or instinct specific? What type would David mail-order as a companion on a desert island? And finally, what’s the most triggering breakup we’ve had? To be featured on the next LoveLine episode leave a voicemail at (323) 696-0647 today.
2020-12-241h 06
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE BONUS: Michael Teachings Teaser // IntroIn this bonus pod, Emeka and Joseph get you started on this thing called Michael Teachings. An interesting deep spiritual system we’ve been very much into. We start off with how we got into it. What is Michael Teachings and what is channeling? (4:38). How do I know this isn’t bullshit? (6:48). Roles (10:53). Essence Twin (19:24). Cadence Positon/Casting (22:04). Goal (28:40). Attitude (31:01). Mode (32:12). Chief Obstacle (33:34). Body Type (35:16). Center (37:41). Soul Age (38:02). Summary/Recap (38:28). Why we care about Michael Teachings (42:47).
https://shepherdhoodwin.com/michael-charts/
https://www.amazon.com/Journey-Your-Soul-Explores-Teachings/dp/1583945490
Artwork: Tomasz Alen Kopera
2020-12-1845 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 051 - The Archetypal Masculine - Curtis NielsenThis week we’re joined by Curtis, an actor, jungian dreamworker, and therapist who leads John’s jungian men’s group. Curtis takes us on a journey of masculine issues from an archetypal and mythological lens, as a continuation of the discussion we had on the serial killer pod. The individuation process and why leaving mother and integrating the feminine is important for the masculine. How men unconsciously self-sabotage as way to instigate in the ritual of individuation. How men cling to archetypal insecure masculinity in the absence of an individuation process. The relationship between rage and intimacy in men. T...
2020-12-171h 30
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 050 - TYPE DATING HORRORS: The Worst Type is Every Type [Part 2] - Corinna BloomThis week our friend Corinna, a sexual 5, is joining us to roast the worst parts of dating the head types. Don’t forget to sign up for John’s session on the centers at this week’s Global Enneagram Summit using his link:https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs20/JohnL . We start off where we left off roasting type 4. Then we get into it with Corinna with 5 (26:27), 6 (52:50), finishing off with 7 (71:11). Remember to hit up our BHE Love Line voicemail with your comments and/or questions to be featured in a future episode. Call (323) 696-0647 today.
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2020-12-091h 29
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 049 - TYPE DATING HORRORS: The Worst Type is Every Type [Part 1]This week we’re roasting the worst parts of dating each type. Everything that sucks about dealing with each type romantically. But first, be sure to sign up for John’s session on the centers coming up at the Global Enneagram Summit using his link: https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs20/JohnL . We start off with the gut types. 8, 9 (18:50), 1 (25:20) and finish off with 2 (33:56) and 3 (42:01). We’ll continue with 4 and the head types in Part II of this series. Don’t forget to send in your BHE Love Line questions and comments to be featured in a future episode. Leave us a voi...
2020-12-0254 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 048 - Astrology & Big Hormone Compatibility - Odinaka EzeokoliOd's back in da house for a very hormonal episode on astrological compatibility and chemistry. Why he thinks the sign of your mars placement can determine sexual chemistry. The difference between the attraction compatibility of mars vs venus. How the north node and south nodes reveal how our life purposes intersect and what you might be learning from a partner. The Juno astroid and what we deeply desire for long term relationships. The Pattern vs Co-Star astrology apps. And finally, Od demonstrates these ideas by showing us the hormonal chemistry dynamics of the BHE crew.
2020-11-2654 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 047 - Object Relations 69 Round II - Courtney SmithCourtney’s back to finish off the pain thots who didn't feel the 6 and 9 Object Relations in our previous pods got the adequate TLC. We start off with a refresh on what attachment type object relations are. And each of the ‘misses’ and O.R. dynamics for 3, 6 (17:28), and 9 (50:42). Is ‘authority figure’ the best way to describe how 6s externally look for support? The 9 responses to #nota4 on the forums. How the attachment types each represent the archetypal human. And we wrap up interviewing DG on the 9’s O.R. dynamics and rage. How to get our 9 babies to show up.
2020-11-201h 37
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 046 - Instinct Mating Games [Part 1]Back at it with another juicy episode on attraction and sexual display from the point of view of the different instincts. What are the instinctual love languages? The role gender plays and other factors. The way each instinct is framing how an attraction is going. We each take a look at this for ourselves in the context of dating and all the games we play. The reciprocity and contextualizing of social. The provocative hooking and spilling of sexual. And the grounded sensuality and consummation of self-pres.
2020-11-111h 06
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 045 - Election Vents and Stress MarksWe gotta vent about this damn election y’all. We talk about what might happen in the coming weeks. Riots and violence in the streets depending on who wins. How mercury retrograde might influence the election. Why Trump commands such a cult following. How Trump’s Michael Teachings King archetype plays a role in his ability to galvanize a following. And how things could still get worse even if Biden wins.
2020-11-0550 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 044 - THE HEAD IS A VISION - Courtney SmithCourtney’s back with us to dive into the mind’s eye of the head center. How the mind is how we frame things and what generates the stories we tell ourselves. How each head type uses narratives to distort reality. What is it about 6s and head types that people identify with and like? How the center perspective of spiritual teachers influences their teachings. Gurdjieff’s gut center style vs that of his students. The verbal/language orientation of the head center making head types great teachers and dissectors. How COVID is making us all 6. We wrap up with o...
2020-10-291h 29
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 043 - THE HEART IS AN OCEANThis week we’re diving into the ocean of the heart center. How heart types frame things within an emotional landscape. Starting out with 3s and how, contrary to popular belief, they’re a very emotional type. Emeka falling in love with a 3. How heart types give emotional context. John and Nancy’s romantic heart-centered approach to the enneagram. Symbols representing an eternal beating heart. How the heart space is about allowing something or someone to transform and change your sense of who you are. What it means to fall in love and why that’s central to heart types. W...
2020-10-2156 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 042 - GUT IS KINGHow do we learn the enneagram? This week the boys start off with modes of learning and motivations for getting into the enneagram. And from there, a freeform dive into the archetypal energy of the gut center. How David and Emeka learned the enneagram as gut types. Gut types channelling power and autonomy at the root level of existence. Channeling zeitgeist change and using the non-verbal energy of the body to create transformative experiences. Finally, David tells the story of his interesting gut experience with a Sexual 8, Amma the hugging saint.
2020-10-141h 03
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 041 - Serial Killer Freaks and the EnneagramWhat is it about serial killers that gets us so hot? In this episode we dig into the enneagrammic psychology and cultural underpinnings of serial killers. The connection between serial killing, death, and the sexual instinct. Why the victims are usually objects of sexual desire. Why is serial killing primarily a male phenomenon? How repressed conservative culture plays a role in encouraging masculine insecurity and a compartmentalization of sexual desires. Normalizing kink and how that may be contributing to the decline of serial killers. We wrap up with incels and the similar factors behind it.
2020-10-071h 14
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 040 |\| Read Between the Lines [Part 2]At long last, a super thicc Part 2 of our deep dive into the inner lines of connection. For a refresher check out BHE 034 for Part 1. We get right back into it starting with 7 (10:08), 1 (40:16), 4 (58:53), and finally 2 (85:08). One last thing, fans of David’s delicious voice should let their appreciation spill forth into a review on the Apple podcast app. And check out John’s new site johnluckovich.com for his enneagram coaching and very tasteful nudes.
2020-09-301h 41
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 039 - THE ZONE: Big Hormonal Guide to Meditation [Part 1]Basking in the afterglow from a very hormonal heart-opening weekend with friends, we wanted to explore how we could access more of ‘the zone’ in our daily lives through meditation. (The zone was so intense David passed away and is no longer with us). But first, we talk about what it feels like to be more centered and in touch with ourselves from the perspective of our types. What is meditation and why is it important? How to get started with just 5 minutes. Doing a body sensations scan and breathing to sense more of yourself. The different types of medi...
2020-09-2352 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 38 - Object Relations Daggers to the Heart [Part 3] - Courtney SmithCutting deeper and twisting the knife again with Courtney. We’re back with more O.R. insights and stabbings. We look into how to capture trifix essential qualities. The difficulty of attachment types feeling their types and essential qualities. What is essence? How each O.R. affect is an attempt to return to an experience of essence. And how personality tries to do and achieve essence through instinctual drives by trying to manage the O.R. wound. We’ve got a map of consciousness here folks. We mapped this out for our types. 4 (27:15), 8 (38:18), 6 (43:52), 3 (50:23), and last but not least 9 (71:58).
2020-09-151h 22
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 37 - Object Relations Daggers to the Heart [Part 2] - Courtney SmithOh does it hurt so good. Continuing where we left off with Courtney bringing the object relations pain, starting with type 5. Then the attachment types 3 (17:05), 6 (37:43), and 9 (60:25). We get into an interesting theory on why attachment types are more common. Why attachment types have a disconnected use of their home center. And how attachment O.R. is a false individuation. Eat up pain piggies, and we’ll be back with more O.R. stabbings in Part 3.
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2020-09-081h 18
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 36 - Object Relations Daggers to the Heart [Part 1] - Courtney SmithPrepare to have your minds blown this week as we’ve been graced by the object relations pain queen Courtney Smith. She joins us to share clear new insights on object relations that will rearrange your perspective on why each type is the way they are. We examine the core wound as interpreted by each type in early childhood. What are ‘misses’ in the nurturing and protecting functions and how each type identifies with them? In this episode we cover the core object relations wounds of frustration types 7, 1, 4. Then rejection types 8 and 2. Part 2 of this series will cover 5 and the at...
2020-09-021h 16
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 35 - Toxic Positivity Culture and the EnneagramThis week we dug up an unreleased but relevant early episode on how the cultural tyranny of positivity gets in the way of inner work and people accurately viewing the types and themselves. #Nota4 vs the self-help compulsion to view type 4 as a positive type. What the gap between 4 and 5 on the symbol represents. How health is not about having positive attitudes or outcomes. How people often use the enneagram to avoid negative truths and reinforce positive type based perspectives. Cultural differences and how it influences the expression of types and what people expect from the enneagram. How class...
2020-08-2659 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 034 |/| Read Between the Lines [Part 1]This week we dive into the often misunderstood lines of connection and why it’s important as a path for growth. What does it mean when your type goes to the line of integration or disintegration? And why it’s more accurate that we’re drawing on both types in our lines of connection positively and negatively. Starting with the triangle types we go into how each type goes to the types in their lines of connection in healthy and unhealthy ways. As we go along David adds in his abstract ‘birth stories’ insights for each line of connection. We cover 3...
2020-08-201h 08
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 033 - TRI-FIXATION HOW-TO GUIDE [Part 2]This week we’re finishing up our trifix series by exploring some of David’s magical trifix concepts. What is a fix and a stem. How stems form a sub-theme to the core type. The difference between fixes and the lines of connection (integration/disintegration lines). What health means in the enneagram, and how the lines of connection work. How trifix has impacted our growth and self-awareness. How descriptions and definitions get in the way of understanding. And we wrap up with the usual useless beast terribleness.
2020-08-1252 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 032 - ESCAPE MISTYPING HELLBefore we get back to our tri-fixation how-to series we made a pit stop to discuss mistyping and the drama that ensues when people aren’t seen as the type they think they are. The essential role curiosity plays in deeply understanding the enneagram. Why it’s important to separate your ego from your self-typing. The emptiness and disappointment of all the types. What it’s like to realize you’ve mistyped. And letting go of the self-fantasies we prop ourselves up with when identifying with type.
2020-08-0532 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 031 - TRI-FIXATION HOW-TO GUIDE [Part 1]In case you didn’t know, ya boyz (Nancy❤️RIP) got your back on how to figure out trifix once and for all. In this episode we lay out a guide for landing on your trifix by going into each center and discussing what it’s like to have each fix. We start out with the body/gut center and how each fix is maintaining ego boundaries and distance. Then the heart/image center (26:41) and how each fix is creating identity and self-image. And finally the head center (50:04) and how each fix is overdoing a different style of insight.
2020-07-291h 16
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 030 - TRI-FIXATION ROAST [Part 3]: You wishMaking your wishes come true with the 3rd round of our BHE Enneagram Universe Syndicate trifix roasts. In this episode we’ll be roasting the following trifixes: 379 DJ (extra dose of abuse as requested), 147 Princess and the Pea, 146 Big Pain, 145 Insectoid, 137 Welcome To My Ted Talk, 136 Middle Manager, 135 Robocelibate, 127 Cool Teacher, 126 Ballbuster/Ok Boomer, 125 Friend Zone.
2020-07-2256 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE Bonus: Big Flick Energy - DARKIn our first ever bonus episode, John and Emeka explore the enneagrammic and inner work insights from the Netflix show Dark Season 3. SPOILER ALERT: Don’t listen if you haven’t seen the show. We focus on on the inescapable cycle of the knot and Adam’s futile attempts to free himself. The parallels to inner work and the law of 3. The need for a 3rd force to free ourselves from perpetuating the same patterns that imprison us.
2020-07-1737 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 029 - TRI-FIXATION ROAST [Part 2]: Is it Fat Enough?Throwin’it back with another thicc episode of our BHE executive council certified trifix roasts. In this episode we’ll be exploring and roasting the following trifixes: 368 Kyle/Kylie, 359 Flatlined, 358 American Psycho, 279 Hippie Burnout, 278 Smothering Jazz Hands, 268 I Wouldn’t Hurt a Fly, 269 Stockholm Syndrome, 259 Spineless Saint, 258 Cult Classic.
2020-07-1553 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 028 - TRI-FIXATION: Welcome to our Roast [Part 1]Are you a Bermuda or a Huh? This week we dive into trifix. What is it and why does it matter? How enneagram triads help us make use of it. We dive into our list of trifix roast names, developed by the BHE Enneagram Universe Chief Executive Council Internal Committee. We’ll be exploring each of the following trifixes in this episode: 479 Huh?, 478 Revolving Door Rehab, 469 Whiny Tears, 468 Public Display of Affliction, 459 Hateful Ghost, 458 Useless Beast, 379 DJ, 378 Chad/Stacy, 369 Bermuda Triangle.
2020-07-081h 06
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 027 - ASTROLOGY: What’s Your Sign Baby? - Odinaka EzeokoliWe need to talk about astrology y’all. Od, a comedian and astrologer, is with us this week to help us explore what insights astrology has for inner work. First, we address skepticism of astrology. What astrology is looking at vs the enneagram. What is astrology and how does it work? What are the 3 most important aspects of a natal chart? Collective astrology and the coronavirus. Racism and America’s shadow Pluto Return. Od’s journey from the enneagram to astrology. Gurdjieff and the significance of cosmic events for inner work. And we wrap up with the astrological vibe of our...
2020-07-021h 22
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 026 - RECAP: Type Interview Insights and Shit TalkThis week we’re recapping what we've learned from our series of type interviews. We start out on the nature of type wings. The introspective inner beam of 4 and the ‘in the dark’ quality of types fully in the gap. The parallels between 9s and 3s absorbing and taking in outside perspectives as their own. The universal quality of the 369 Bermuda types and their connection to people. The self-orientation of the hexad types. The perception of 8s as confident vs how they experience themselves on the inside. And we wrap up with why 4 is the Chad/Stacy of the enneag...
2020-06-2435 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 025 - Black Lives Matter and the EnneagramThis week we’re talking about the Black Lives Matter protests. How to confront racism and its parallels to inner work and the enneagram. How actively working to undo unconscious racism is inner work. Race and Class as personality types and unconscious biases that have to be uncovered and faced the same way we do our enneagram types. Wanting to be healthy and good as a bypass to the finish line vs educating ourselves and confronting what needs changing continually. We wrap up with a story of how racial profiling sent cops with guns to Emeka's apartment.
2020-06-1737 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 024 /- Stairway to Seven -\ Colleen & FernandaWe finally wrangled a couple of 7s to join us to dive into the heart of 7. The dark side of 7 that people don’t get to see. The sudden whiplash when 7s get frustrated and critical. The unexpressed guilt of 7s, and how it’s expressed for 7w6 vs 7w8. What social and sexual 7s are like. How 7s experience the passage of time. And we wrap up with some shit talking.
2020-06-1053 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 023 - Gurdjieff and the Origin of the Enneagram - John LuckovichGurdjief’s discovery of the enneagram symbol in Egypt. What the symbol means and the cosmic laws it represents. The enneagram of process explained. The difference between essence vs personality. Personality as the unbalanced use of the three centers of intelligence. And how inner work is a practice to be more present through sensation in all three centers.
John is teaching a weekly online enneagram class this month at Maharose. Check it out at the link below:
https://www.maharose.com/products/mondays-june-1st-22nd-online-the-enneagram-4-week-series
2020-06-0347 min
Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 022 - M9GA Part 3: Philosopher of the Universe Shit [POTUS] - Alexandra & TaraWe’re back where we left off in the M9GA series with more POTUS. Our 9s start off with their experience of fear of loss and separation. How the 9 connection to everything is in opposition with the over-specificity of 4. The slippery fish quality of 9s not wanting to be pinned down, and the 9’s need for space in relationships. We check in with how our 9s are dealing with corona anxiety and their line to 6. And we wrap up with how we tricked our 9s into doing this podcast.
2020-05-2745 minBig Hormone EnneagramBHE 021 - Runnin’ Through the Six - Beth & MarinaTwo texan sexual 6s are with us this week to get into the guts of 6. We start out with their boldness and attraction to high pressure situations. Unpacking what Naranjo’s sexual 6 ‘Strength and Beauty’ means. The 6 line to 3 and the need to ‘earn it’ through hard work and prove they're deserving. 6 anti-narcissism vs 4’s ‘i’m the gift’. Why 6s anticipate criticism, put themselves down, and self-sabotage. How 6s can overcome their inner critic and allow themselves to be great. We wrap up with some clear differences between 6s and 4s.
2020-05-201h 04Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 020 |1| The Loneliest Number |Part 1| Jamie & MaryTwo soc-last 1s are with us this week to dive into the heart of the loneliest number sexy librarian. We get into how Jamie’s critiques were the genesis of the collage exercise. And how Mary ruined John’s life. The differences between a 1w9 and a 1w2. How our 1s experience rigidity vs chaos and their orientation to aesthetics and creativity. What sexual 1s are like, and how soc-last 1s navigate the social realm. And finally, how our 1s experience judgement and self-control.
2020-05-1257 minBig Hormone EnneagramBHE 019 •III• The Law of THR33SOM3S •III• Elisa & KatieA social last 3 and a social 3 are with us to complete a threesome of 3s with Nancy. We start off with how our 3s are stuffing their feelings and anxiety during quarantine. How 3s reflexively adapt to others and what authenticity means to them. The hero’s journey of 3s becoming who they were meant to be. The sense of being a conduit of something greater. And finally, 3s and the sexual instinct.
2020-05-051h 19Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 018 (❤️) Two Good 2 You Baby (❤️) Alex & LauraWe’re joined by a social 2 and social-last 2 to help us dig underneath the sugary sweet hearts of 2s. How they reject their own needs and only see themselves through serving others. The difficulty of 2s to own up to their own selfishness and potential to cause harm. Their intense love for connection. 2s and the sexual instinct. Wrapping up with our 2s lending their relational expertise to a touchy situation.
2020-04-291h 19Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 017 8=> E!GHT Balls 8=> Paula & SienaWe’ve got a trifecta of sexual 8s with Paula and Siena joining us to discuss the soul and heart of 8. The body as a container of expansive energy. How 8s dissociate through action and immediacy. Why 8s feel no one has their back, and how they self-negate as rejection types. And finally, what it’s like being a sexual 8. Wrapping up with an epic sexual 8 story.
2020-04-221h 28Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 016 -§- P5NTAGRAM.i5000 -§- Rio & YamiraTwo social 5s, Rio and Yamira, join us to discuss what it means for 5 to have an intellectual orientation. Their disconnect and alienation from the body. 5 vs 9 in conflict and stress. The detachment and not giving-ness of 5s. And how social 5s connect.
2020-04-141h 08Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 015 ~ Aristocrats of Disdain Type IV ~ Ilaria & JosephA prince and a princess are with us this week to discuss all things type 4. We take a look at the ‘churning’ frustration and reactivity of 4s. How hatred and rejection ties into the self-differentiation of 4. The artifice of crafting a self-image and why 4s aren’t authentic as you might think. The overt differences between 4w3 and 4w5. And what the type 4 perspective has to contribute during these dark town COVID-19 times.
2020-04-071h 14Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 014 - [FACE/OFF] Social Firsts vs Social Lasts: Laura & AlexandraWe’re joined by Social types, Laura and Alexandra, to discuss the contrast between Social-first and Social-last, highlighting David’s taboo story in BHE 011 (13:44). How Social types frame around potential reactions and how Social-lasts view connection. And finally, Social types experiencing loneliness.
2020-03-311h 07Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 013 - The 369 Bermuda Triangle Types: FarahFarah, a 6 with the 693 tritype, joins us to discuss her experience being triple attachment. Why 369s find it difficult to find their inner voice. The struggle of comparing to others vs wanting to be unique. And finally, why 6s have a thing for punishment.
2020-03-2447 minBig Hormone EnneagramBHE 012 - Making Nines Great Again (Part 2): Alexandra and Tara // Philosopher of the UniverseIn Part 2 of the M9GA series we take a dive into the contrast between the wholeness of 9 vs the alienation of 4. How 9s can be individualistic but still feel connected to everything. And what’s really going on underneath 9s being vague and not being upfront.
2020-03-1745 minBig Hormone EnneagramBHE 011 - THIRST TRAPS (Part 2): Sexual Types Be Creepin’Nancy solves the mystery of the appeal of incest porn and the term ‘Daddy’. John’s Magic Mike routine is the kind of intensity sexual types bring to a relationship. Emeka tells us what it’s like to date sexual types. David tells a story about his inappropriate relationship with a sexual 1.
2020-03-0946 minBig Hormone EnneagramBHE 010 - Making Nines Great Again (Part 1): Alexandra and TaraDavid and special guests Tara and Alexandra take us deep into their experience of being 9s. Why it’s easy to mistype as 4 and 5. The sensitivity of 9s. Feelings vs sensing through the body. The need to be seen of 9 vs image types. And so much more.
2020-03-021h 36Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 009 - THIRST TRAPS (Part 1): Sexual Types and SexualityHow sexual types view sexual interest in comparison to sexual blinds. What are sexual types like? Sexual 8s, Sexual 2s, and Sexual 4/5.
2020-02-2554 minBig Hormone EnneagramBHE 008 - Let’s Talk Politics (A President’s Day Special)We discuss current presidential candidates, their types, and the political landscape. Why Trump is so often mistyped. Why Bloomberg is an asshole and would be worse than Trump and so much more.
2020-02-171h 36Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 007 - Enneachella and How To Get More Young People Into The Enneagram. How 3s See Potential and Value“Ok Boomer” and the generational divide in the enneagram. Why don’t enneagram conferences appeal to young people? Potential changes to make and our ideas for an Enneachella/Enneagram Fyre Festival. We discuss what sexual 3s are like and 3’s ability to see potential and value. We then wrap up with 8s and negativity.
2020-02-111h 10Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 004 - Let’s Talk About SEX. The Sexual Instinct and the Function of the Centers. Libidinal Energy
After obligatory dirty jokes and Emeka riffing on Sexual type woes, John starts us off with Gurdjieff’s views on sex, “the three shits”, and sexual stagnancy. How sexual energy leaks into the other centers. What is Kundalini? David touches on the sexual instinct as an archetypal serpent. Nancy gets into her experience with the sexual instinct and the instinct sensation exercises we did at John’s IEA workshop. We wrap up with the generational and cultural awareness impacting our views on sexuality.
2020-01-201h 06Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 001 - Introductions Galore: Our Enneagram Backgrounds and Typing Journeys, Why Typing Is ImportantWelcome to the genesis of Big Hormone Enneagram. Your hosts with the mostest are John Luckovich, Nancy Walter, David Gray, and Emeka Okorafor. In this episode you'll get to know us and hear how these 4 odd insurgents found their way to a thing called the Enneagram.
2020-01-061h 32Big Hormone EnneagramBHE 002 - Introduction Redux, Christian Culture and the Enneagram, The Sexual InstinctEmeka fills in important BHE character and background missing in Ep 1 intros that underscore our collective approach to the enneagram. We take a look at the overlay of spirituality, religion, and christian culture on how people are approaching enneagram, and how that weaves together with generational and class differences. Why it's important to integrate light and dark in enneagram inner work.
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