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Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy113 | No Stone Unturned in Recovery from Porn-Fueled InfidelitySexual sin—especially porn-fueled infidelity—doesn’t just wound a marriage; it buries it under shame, secrecy, and shattered trust. But just as Jesus called Lazarus out of the grave, He can resurrect even the most broken relationships.
Your marriage may feel like a tomb right now, but Christ specializes in resurrecting dead things.
Today in this hope-filled, and sometimes emotional conversation, we’ll talk about why sexual betrayal feels like a “death” in a marriage—and how Christ offers resurrection from the tomb of our sin. How God uses others to help us move...2025-07-0731 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy113 | No Stone Unturned in Recovery from Porn-Fueled InfidelitySexual sin—especially porn-fueled infidelity—doesn’t just wound a marriage; it buries it under shame, secrecy, and shattered trust. But just as Jesus called Lazarus out of the grave, He can resurrect even the most broken relationships.
Your marriage may feel like a tomb right now, but Christ specializes in resurrecting dead things.
Today in this hope-filled, and sometimes emotional conversation, we’ll talk about why sexual betrayal feels like a “death” in a marriage—and how Christ offers resurrection from the tomb of our sin. How God uses others to help us move...2025-07-0731 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy99 | When the Past Invades: 4 Steps to Victory Over Euphoric RecallOn today’s episode, we delve into the topic of euphoric recall, a painful yet critical aspect of sexual addiction recovery.
Emily shares her perspective as a betrayed wife, highlighting the emotional turmoil that accompanies these intrusive memories.
Meanwhile, Johnny explains his own experiences with euphoric recall and outlines a robust four-step battle plan to confront and dissolve these recollections.
It’s not a pleasant part of the journey to healing, but one necessary to face head-on with your spouse and a community of support.
We...2025-03-3133 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy99 | When the Past Invades: 4 Steps to Victory Over Euphoric RecallOn today’s episode, we delve into the topic of euphoric recall, a painful yet critical aspect of sexual addiction recovery.
Emily shares her perspective as a betrayed wife, highlighting the emotional turmoil that accompanies these intrusive memories.
Meanwhile, Johnny explains his own experiences with euphoric recall and outlines a robust four-step battle plan to confront and dissolve these recollections.
It’s not a pleasant part of the journey to healing, but one necessary to face head-on with your spouse and a community of support.
We...2025-03-3133 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy92 | Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual BetrayalHave you ever found yourself in a situation where you realized that making a significant personal sacrifice was the key to resolving a difficult situation?
And that this decision would alter your life as you know it?
Often, these moments involve putting the needs of someone else first. It’s those we love most with whom we often decide to "die to self."
We’d love for you to join us today as Johnny shares four pivotal moments from his recovery journey where he chose to put Emily ahead of himself in their marr...2025-02-1037 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy92 | Dying to Self: Transformational Moments in Recovery from Sexual BetrayalHave you ever found yourself in a situation where you realized that making a significant personal sacrifice was the key to resolving a difficult situation?
And that this decision would alter your life as you know it?
Often, these moments involve putting the needs of someone else first. It’s those we love most with whom we often decide to "die to self."
We’d love for you to join us today as Johnny shares four pivotal moments from his recovery journey where he chose to put Emily ahead of himself in their marr...2025-02-1037 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy78 | Forgiving the “Other Woman” - A Path to Peace After Sexual Betrayal TraumaOn this show, we have often talked about forgiveness - the need for extending forgiveness and how to walk out forgiveness. It has been in the context of forgiving your spouse for sexual betrayal, but what about the other woman? Or women? There are many different scenarios and every marriage has a unique story of brokenness. But there is a common thread of knowing there are those outside of your marriage who contributed to and/or participated in your spouse’s sexual sin. How do you forgive these people who you may not even know?
In...2024-11-0428 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy78 | Forgiving the “Other Woman” - A Path to Peace After Sexual Betrayal TraumaOn this show, we have often talked about forgiveness - the need for extending forgiveness and how to walk out forgiveness. It has been in the context of forgiving your spouse for sexual betrayal, but what about the other woman? Or women? There are many different scenarios and every marriage has a unique story of brokenness. But there is a common thread of knowing there are those outside of your marriage who contributed to and/or participated in your spouse’s sexual sin. How do you forgive these people who you may not even know?
In...2024-11-0428 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy73 | Unashamed Unafraid of My Sexual Betrayal & Recovery Story, ft. Steve ShieldsWe know our story of sexual betrayal and recovery is not the only one out there, so we are excited to share with you a compelling conversation we had with Steve Shields from the Unashamed Unafraid podcast. He tells his unique and very personal story of how a Christian man trapped in porn addiction was able to come to terms with his powerlessness, and after several recovery setbacks, was finally able to get experience freedom from shame and addiction and help others get free as well.
It is so good to know that we are n...2024-09-3051 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy73 | Unashamed Unafraid of My Sexual Betrayal & Recovery Story, ft. Steve ShieldsWe know our story of sexual betrayal and recovery is not the only one out there, so we are excited to share with you a compelling conversation we had with Steve Shields from the Unashamed Unafraid podcast. He tells his unique and very personal story of how a Christian man trapped in porn addiction was able to come to terms with his powerlessness, and after several recovery setbacks, was finally able to get experience freedom from shame and addiction and help others get free as well.
It is so good to know that we are n...2024-09-3051 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy71 | From Shame to Freedom: Revisiting "His Story"It's been almost a year and a half since we first told our stories of sexual addiction and betrayal on our podcast. A lot has happened since then!
We are so very grateful for the recovery, healing, and growth that both of us have experienced since D-Day in 2018. It has been due to God's help, tons of hard work on our part, and a great support community.
To commemorate our 37th wedding anniversary, we are taking a little slower pace for the month of September. So, on today's episode, we are re...2024-09-1645 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy71 | From Shame to Freedom: Revisiting "His Story"It's been almost a year and a half since we first told our stories of sexual addiction and betrayal on our podcast. A lot has happened since then!
We are so very grateful for the recovery, healing, and growth that both of us have experienced since D-Day in 2018. It has been due to God's help, tons of hard work on our part, and a great support community.
To commemorate our 37th wedding anniversary, we are taking a little slower pace for the month of September. So, on today's episode, we are re...2024-09-1645 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy70 | Straight Talk: A Candid Revisit of a Betrayed Wife's JourneySeptember is our anniversary month and we're celebrating by taking a break from creating new episodes this month, but rather updating and replaying a few of our most popular episodes.
Today we are revisiting Episode #2 Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me, where Emily bares her soul to tell the story of Johnny's marital infidelity* fueled by pornography use. And although it was Not Her Fault in any way, she is not perfect and you will hear some of the ways she fell short in her life too. But God is bigger than any failure, heartbreak or...2024-09-0933 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy70 | Straight Talk: A Candid Revisit of a Betrayed Wife's JourneySeptember is our anniversary month and we're celebrating by taking a break from creating new episodes this month, but rather updating and replaying a few of our most popular episodes.
Today we are revisiting Episode #2 Her Story: My Husband Betrayed Me, where Emily bares her soul to tell the story of Johnny's marital infidelity* fueled by pornography use. And although it was Not Her Fault in any way, she is not perfect and you will hear some of the ways she fell short in her life too. But God is bigger than any failure, heartbreak or...2024-09-0933 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy69 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #5 Spiritual LeadershipWives, do you have a desire for your husband to lead you and your family spiritually? Of course!
Husbands, are you at a loss for what that looks like and how you can show up for your wife in this area? Yeah, probably.
Unfortunately, in many Christian marriages, this is often a reality. A wife will take up the responsibility of being the spiritual head of the home because her husband isn’t stepping into that role.
When betrayal and addiction are revealed, reasons for his passivity becom...2024-09-0234 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy69 | 5 Things a Betrayed Wife Needs...(Series) #5 Spiritual LeadershipWives, do you have a desire for your husband to lead you and your family spiritually? Of course!
Husbands, are you at a loss for what that looks like and how you can show up for your wife in this area? Yeah, probably.
Unfortunately, in many Christian marriages, this is often a reality. A wife will take up the responsibility of being the spiritual head of the home because her husband isn’t stepping into that role.
When betrayal and addiction are revealed, reasons for his passivity becom...2024-09-0234 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy62 | Social Media Hack Triggers Trauma From Porn-Fueled InfidelityHow was your week? Did it go as planned? This week, a verse really hit home for us in a big way...
We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps. Proverbs 16:9
Imagine this - just as we were about to hit the button to record today’s podcast episode, a sudden interruption caught us off guard. Johnny received a private message that sparked a whirlwind of emotions and confusion. It was from a woman Emily didn't know.
Talk about getting triggered!
It t...2024-07-1524 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy62 | Social Media Hack Triggers Trauma From Porn-Fueled InfidelityHow was your week? Did it go as planned? This week, a verse really hit home for us in a big way...
We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps. Proverbs 16:9
Imagine this - just as we were about to hit the button to record today’s podcast episode, a sudden interruption caught us off guard. Johnny received a private message that sparked a whirlwind of emotions and confusion. It was from a woman Emily didn't know.
Talk about getting triggered!
It t...2024-07-1524 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy47| Sexual Intimacy with a Recovering Sex Addict in Marriage (3 of 3)Hopefully you’ve heard both sides of our sexual intimacy story, or lack thereof, in episodes 45 and 46. If not, we encourage you to listen to those to gain a better understanding of how we got to the place where our broken marriage got new life after God intervened and recovery began.
Now, we share a wonderfully intimate sexual life together, but it wasn’t easy getting here. On today’s show we will run down the progression of our sex life from Discovery Day and Disclosure Day when Johnny confessed his regular porn use and extra-m...2024-04-0135 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy47| Sexual Intimacy with a Recovering Sex Addict in Marriage (3 of 3)Hopefully you’ve heard both sides of our sexual intimacy story, or lack thereof, in episodes 45 and 46. If not, we encourage you to listen to those to gain a better understanding of how we got to the place where our broken marriage got new life after God intervened and recovery began.
Now, we share a wonderfully intimate sexual life together, but it wasn’t easy getting here. On today’s show we will run down the progression of our sex life from Discovery Day and Disclosure Day when Johnny confessed his regular porn use and extra-m...2024-04-0135 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy46 | Sexuality as a Sex-Addict in Marriage (2 of 3)Men, do you have a secret relationship with pornography and/or others outside of your marriage? Are you consumed by your thought life and hiding things from your wife that you don’t want her to know? Is sex with your wife becoming challenging, difficult, or just too much effort? Do you feel misunderstood? Are you afraid that if she knew everything about you, she would leave you?
Last week, Emily shared her perspective on our sexual relationship through the years up until Discovery Day and Disclosure Day when Johnny came clean of all his sec...2024-03-2535 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy46 | Sexuality as a Sex-Addict in Marriage (2 of 3)Men, do you have a secret relationship with pornography and/or others outside of your marriage? Are you consumed by your thought life and hiding things from your wife that you don’t want her to know? Is sex with your wife becoming challenging, difficult, or just too much effort? Do you feel misunderstood? Are you afraid that if she knew everything about you, she would leave you?
Last week, Emily shared her perspective on our sexual relationship through the years up until Discovery Day and Disclosure Day when Johnny came clean of all his sec...2024-03-2535 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy44 | Fearing the Worst? How to Plan for Sex Addiction Slips & Relapses in Your MarriageLadies, now that you know your husband has been unfaithful and broken covenant with you; maybe through pornography use, maybe it even escalated to being sexually active outside of your marriage, I want to ask you, what is your biggest fear?
If you are like me, you are afraid that he will do it again. This is a very real and natural thing to be concerned about. Trust me, if it happened once, it can happen again.
Now, if your spouse is in recovery and making good, steady forward progress, it ma...2024-03-1150 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy44 | Fearing the Worst? How to Plan for Sex Addiction Slips & Relapses in Your MarriageLadies, now that you know your husband has been unfaithful and broken covenant with you; maybe through pornography use, maybe it even escalated to being sexually active outside of your marriage, I want to ask you, what is your biggest fear?
If you are like me, you are afraid that he will do it again. This is a very real and natural thing to be concerned about. Trust me, if it happened once, it can happen again.
Now, if your spouse is in recovery and making good, steady forward progress, it ma...2024-03-1150 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy42 | Recovery Step 12: A Great Awakening - 7 Ways to Serve Others While Healing From Sex AddictionHave you ever experienced a life-changing revelation that compelled you to share it with others and integrate it into your life? This is similar to the impact of embracing recovery and is at the very heart of what we felt when we surrendered to Jesus. Today, we will explore the 12th step of recovery, and how we can actively share our message while living out these steps in our daily lives.
So, grab a beverage and something to take notes with and join us as we discuss 7 ways we can share our message of hope w...2024-02-2633 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy42 | Recovery Step 12: A Great Awakening - 7 Ways to Serve Others While Healing From Sex AddictionHave you ever experienced a life-changing revelation that compelled you to share it with others and integrate it into your life? This is similar to the impact of embracing recovery and is at the very heart of what we felt when we surrendered to Jesus. Today, we will explore the 12th step of recovery, and how we can actively share our message while living out these steps in our daily lives.
So, grab a beverage and something to take notes with and join us as we discuss 7 ways we can share our message of hope w...2024-02-2633 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy41 | Recovery Step 11: How Can We Know? 6 Points to Ponder When Seeking God’s WillDo you find it difficult to connect with God and know his will for your life?
If you said yes, you are not alone. Just like the recovery journey, it takes a lot of persistent and consistent effort to cultivate a close relationship with the Lord. It doesn’t come naturally to us mere humans, but there is a roadmap for discovering how to make connecting with God a priority. It’s found in the Bible. Today we are going to unpack Step 11 of the Sex Addicts Anonymous Recovery Program, which is all about this somet...2024-02-1934 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy41 | Recovery Step 11: How Can We Know? 6 Points to Ponder When Seeking God’s WillDo you find it difficult to connect with God and know his will for your life?
If you said yes, you are not alone. Just like the recovery journey, it takes a lot of persistent and consistent effort to cultivate a close relationship with the Lord. It doesn’t come naturally to us mere humans, but there is a roadmap for discovering how to make connecting with God a priority. It’s found in the Bible. Today we are going to unpack Step 11 of the Sex Addicts Anonymous Recovery Program, which is all about this somet...2024-02-1934 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy40 | Valentine's Day Fails and Favorites Before and After Sexual BetrayalLet us be the first to wish you a happy Valentine’s Day! Okay, how did that make you feel? Did you smile? Did it make you cringe? Did it bring up a feeling of excitement, or anger or even dread?
We’ve found that Valentine’s Day is a tricky holiday. Well, it’s not a public holiday, but it is a recognized day on the calendar for celebrating love between sweethearts. We’re going to be talking today about the different ways people either love or hate this day that comes around every year with s...2024-02-1242 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy40 | Valentine's Day Fails and Favorites Before and After Sexual BetrayalLet us be the first to wish you a happy Valentine’s Day! Okay, how did that make you feel? Did you smile? Did it make you cringe? Did it bring up a feeling of excitement, or anger or even dread?
We’ve found that Valentine’s Day is a tricky holiday. Well, it’s not a public holiday, but it is a recognized day on the calendar for celebrating love between sweethearts. We’re going to be talking today about the different ways people either love or hate this day that comes around every year with s...2024-02-1242 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy39 | Recovery Step 10: 4 Ways to Keep Your Relational Slate Clean & Stay Clear of Porn AddictionDo you have a daily practice of self-reflection? Do you ever stop to take stock in how you act, think, and feel when relating to others? Most of us have heard the phrase - wash, rinse, repeat. And no, we aren’t talking about the latest greatest shampoo. Today as we talk about the 10th Step in SSA Recovery we will peel back the layers of what a daily personal inventory can look like and why we should even do it?
From the Green Book of Recovery:
“In the 10th step we embrace the d...2024-02-0528 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy39 | Recovery Step 10: 4 Ways to Keep Your Relational Slate Clean & Stay Clear of Porn AddictionDo you have a daily practice of self-reflection? Do you ever stop to take stock in how you act, think, and feel when relating to others? Most of us have heard the phrase - wash, rinse, repeat. And no, we aren’t talking about the latest greatest shampoo. Today as we talk about the 10th Step in SSA Recovery we will peel back the layers of what a daily personal inventory can look like and why we should even do it?
From the Green Book of Recovery:
“In the 10th step we embrace the d...2024-02-0528 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy38 | Recovery Step 9: Become an Action Hero! Righting the Wrongs of Our Destructive Sexual BehaviorLast week we asked the question: Have you ever hurt someone and come to not only realize that you hurt them but understood exactly how you hurt them?
This week we want to ask: Have you felt any fear or intimidation when making the choice to go back and right that wrong?
We have a special guest today who is going to share with us his experience with Step 9 of the Sex Addicts Anonymous Recovery Program.
So go ahead and pop in your ear bud and join us...2024-01-2945 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy38 | Recovery Step 9: Become an Action Hero! Righting the Wrongs of Our Destructive Sexual BehaviorLast week we asked the question: Have you ever hurt someone and come to not only realize that you hurt them but understood exactly how you hurt them?
This week we want to ask: Have you felt any fear or intimidation when making the choice to go back and right that wrong?
We have a special guest today who is going to share with us his experience with Step 9 of the Sex Addicts Anonymous Recovery Program.
So go ahead and pop in your ear bud and join us...2024-01-2945 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy37 | Recovery Step 8: My Addiction To Porn Hurt Others. 4 Questions to Ask When Making it RightHave you ever hurt someone and come to not only realize that you had hurt them, but understood exactly how you hurt them?
Today as we cover the 8th step of recovery of Sex Addicts Anonymous, it is time to do the work of making a list of those we've harmed through our destructive sexual behaviors and become willing to make amends.
Working this step means finding the willingness to bring resolution to these relationships, regardless of whether or not those involved behaved rightly toward us. This process of becoming willing to make a...2024-01-2227 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy37 | Recovery Step 8: My Addiction To Porn Hurt Others. 4 Questions to Ask When Making it RightHave you ever hurt someone and come to not only realize that you had hurt them, but understood exactly how you hurt them?
Today as we cover the 8th step of recovery of Sex Addicts Anonymous, it is time to do the work of making a list of those we've harmed through our destructive sexual behaviors and become willing to make amends.
Working this step means finding the willingness to bring resolution to these relationships, regardless of whether or not those involved behaved rightly toward us. This process of becoming willing to make a...2024-01-2227 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy36 | Recovery Step 7: Holding on to Pride? Humility Before God = Freedom From PornographyHave you come to a place in life where you have been humbled by your own actions and are ready to move forward with hope and integrity? It is time to approach God humbly and ask him do for us what we cannot do for ourselves.
From the Green Book of Recovery:
"We may wonder why it is necessary to ask humbly. Many of us have confused humility with humiliation. We were more familiar with pleading for, or demanding what we wanted, than with asking. In fact, it takes humility to ask for h...2024-01-1528 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy36 | Recovery Step 7: Holding on to Pride? Humility Before God = Freedom From PornographyHave you come to a place in life where you have been humbled by your own actions and are ready to move forward with hope and integrity? It is time to approach God humbly and ask him do for us what we cannot do for ourselves.
From the Green Book of Recovery:
"We may wonder why it is necessary to ask humbly. Many of us have confused humility with humiliation. We were more familiar with pleading for, or demanding what we wanted, than with asking. In fact, it takes humility to ask for h...2024-01-1528 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy35 | Recovery Step 6: Ready to Move on From Sexual Integrity Issues? 4 Questions to Help you DecideHave you come to a place where you understand that some of the things that you do are not beneficial for you? Or are even hurtful to others?
What do you do once you’ve discovered this? Do you say, “Well, that’s just me.” Or, do you decide that you want to change these behaviors for your own good and the good of those you love? If so, how do you go about making these changes?
From the Green Book of Recovery:
Character defects are undesirable traits, attitudes, and belief...2024-01-0832 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy35 | Recovery Step 6: Ready to Move on From Sexual Integrity Issues? 4 Questions to Help you DecideHave you come to a place where you understand that some of the things that you do are not beneficial for you? Or are even hurtful to others?
What do you do once you’ve discovered this? Do you say, “Well, that’s just me.” Or, do you decide that you want to change these behaviors for your own good and the good of those you love? If so, how do you go about making these changes?
From the Green Book of Recovery:
Character defects are undesirable traits, attitudes, and belief...2024-01-0832 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy34 | New Beginnings for Marriages in the New Year After Sexual BetrayalHave you noticed that New Year’s resolutions don’t last much past January for most people? Statistically, 91% of Americans fail at New Year’s resolutions. That’s not very encouraging.
We were going to talk about the reasons why resolutions are so hard to keep in today’s episode, but then Holy Spirit intervened. So, we threw out our outline and just had a candid conversation about our first New Year after sexual betrayal shattered our marriage.
Today, on New Year's Day, we want you to know that resolving to stay in your...2024-01-0128 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy33 | The Greatest Gift at Christmas: A 12-Stop Journey To God’s Plan for RedemptionBefore you got married, you had in your head an idea of what you wanted your marriage to look like. You had all kinds of hopes and dreams and they were all good, positive things and you made plans according to this picture in your mind.
But things didn’t go exactly as planned.
This is not the first time this story has played out. God made plans for how he wanted his relationship with mankind to look.
Men, God intended for you to have a work to do...2023-12-2535 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy32 | Recovery Step 5: What Have I Done? Admitting How My Porn Addiction Hurt Myself and OthersHave you gotten to the point in your life where you are ready to tell someone else every terrible thing that you’ve done in your life?
If this thought doesn't excite you or possibly even terrifies you, then you’re in good company. Baring our souls to another person is not something we come by naturally. However, the longer we keep secrets locked behind the door of our minds, the longer we will stay trapped in our addictions and true freedom will continue to elude us.
From the Green Book of Rec...2023-12-1831 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy31 | Recovery Step 4: Who Am I? A Fearless Search - The Origin of My Sex AddictionHave you turned your will and your life over to the care of God? Are you ready to gain an understanding of how you violated your personal moral boundaries and allowed addiction to set into your life?
From the Green Book of Recovery:
In taking the 4th step, we begin to know ourselves for who we really are. Building on the foundation of the first 3 steps, we take stock of the feelings and patterns that have shaped our lives. We come to realize that our addiction is more than just unmanageable sexual activities; it includes...2023-12-1136 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy30 | Has Adultery Grinched Your Christmas? 2 Ways to Approach Holiday Season Triggers After Sexual BetrayalIs the holiday season hard for you after sexual betrayal? Or any date that reminds you of the devastation that sexual betrayal brings into a marriage? It sure was for us in the beginning.
What is a healthy way to deal with these triggers when they occur?
Today we are going to have a conversation about how these dubious dates affected our marriage and how we worked through them so that they are no longer as painful as they once were.
So, pop in your earbud, grab you...2023-12-0431 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy29 | Recovery Step 3: 3 Things To Know When Leaving Porn BehindHave you admitted your powerlessness over your porn addiction? Have you come to believe that a power greater than yourself can restore you to sanity?
These two questions encapsulate steps 1 and 2 of the Sex Addicts Anonymous 12-step recovery program. In today’s episode we will unpack Step 3. which focuses on surrendering our plans and path. Are you ready to turn EVERY part of your life over to God?
At this point in our program, we are simply willing to move forward. We decide to make a commitment to recovery, and to our spiritual grow...2023-11-2727 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy28 | Giving Thanks In Your Broken Marriage Through GratitudeWhat does Thanksgiving Day mean to you? Here in the United States, it is recognized as a national holiday on the 3rd Thursday of November each year. Today we want to look beyond what’s considered to be the traditional activities of this special day, such as gathering of family, turkey dinner with all the fixings, football, post dinner food comas, all the pies and of course, leftovers. And while all those are very special traditions; we want to take time today to reflect on what it means to truly give thanks and be grateful for what we have be...2023-11-2031 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy27 | Recovery Step 2: Porn Making You Crazy? Believing God Can Restore Your SanityDo you see yourself in this vicious cycle of chaos?
When we utilize technology to view pornography and use it for our own sexual satisfaction, then walk away from our devices, it can give us the illusion that we are in control. But how quickly do we shift from promising ourselves that we’re not going to do it again to contemplating what we've seen then anticipating our next opportunity to view only to inevitably return to using pornography to meet our own needs?
Last week we introduced the Step 1 of the...2023-11-1322 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy26 | Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s PullDoes pornography use have a hold on you or someone you love?
Today we are talking about Step 1 of the 12-Step Sex Addicts Anonymous recovery program. This is Johnny’s chosen recovery program so we will be sharing what this step entails, how he approached this step and why it is so imperative to start here. We will also be hearing from Emily on how she views the process and progress of Johnny’s 12-Step recovery journey.
From the Green Book of Recovery: In our addiction we held onto the belief that w...2023-11-0635 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy26 | Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s PullDoes pornography use have a hold on you or someone you love?
Today we are talking about Step 1 of the 12-Step Sex Addicts Anonymous recovery program. This is Johnny’s chosen recovery program so we will be sharing what this step entails, how he approached this step and why it is so imperative to start here. We will also be hearing from Emily on how she views the process and progress of Johnny’s 12-Step recovery journey.
From the Green Book of Recovery: In our addiction we held onto the belief that w...2023-11-0635 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy25 | Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?What if you had been confronted with the fact that your life had become unmanageable and through this revelation you discovered that you were powerless over a major struggle in your life? And what if you came to believe that this major struggle in your life was an addiction? You may be asking, "How did I get here? What do I do about it and how do I get out of it?"
If there was a measurable way to reclaim the manageability in your life, would you want to take the steps necessary to...2023-10-3030 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy25 | Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?What if you had been confronted with the fact that your life had become unmanageable and through this revelation you discovered that you were powerless over a major struggle in your life? And what if you came to believe that this major struggle in your life was an addiction? You may be asking, "How did I get here? What do I do about it and how do I get out of it?"
If there was a measurable way to reclaim the manageability in your life, would you want to take the steps necessary to...2023-10-3030 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy24 | Would You Marry Your Betraying Spouse Again? Renewing Vows After Porn-Fueled Infidelity -This Time...Mean ItUp until now, we’ve been talking a lot about taking steps to stabilize, grieve, heal, and renew our marriages after sexual betrayal. We've covered heavy topics like confession, boundaries, apologies, and forgiveness. and in our last episode even dipped our toes into the waters of reigniting sexual connection and what true intimacy looks like.
But today, we're switching gears. We're going to take a step back from the weightier topics for something more lighthearted and enjoyable.
If you’ve decided to stay married and have been working through the recovery proces...2023-10-2334 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy24 | Would You Marry Your Betraying Spouse Again? Renewing Vows After Porn-Fueled Infidelity -This Time...Mean ItUp until now, we’ve been talking a lot about taking steps to stabilize, grieve, heal, and renew our marriages after sexual betrayal. We've covered heavy topics like confession, boundaries, apologies, and forgiveness. and in our last episode even dipped our toes into the waters of reigniting sexual connection and what true intimacy looks like.
But today, we're switching gears. We're going to take a step back from the weightier topics for something more lighthearted and enjoyable.
If you’ve decided to stay married and have been working through the recovery proces...2023-10-2334 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy23 | 7 Steps to True Intimacy After Sexual BetrayalHave you wrestled with this question? Can there still be a meaningful sexual relationship after experiencing sexual betrayal? The short answer is YES, but today, we're not diving into the world of makeup or guilt sex. Instead, we'll be delving into the realm of true intimacy.
Intimacy is often misunderstood as just being synonymous with love and sex. While sex is a part of it, there's a deeper layer involved. It's about gradually building a connection with your spouse, one that's rooted in honesty, vulnerability, and transparency. So, join us as we explore the intricacies o...2023-10-1648 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy23 | 7 Steps to True Intimacy After Sexual BetrayalHave you wrestled with this question? Can there still be a meaningful sexual relationship after experiencing sexual betrayal? The short answer is YES, but today, we're not diving into the world of makeup or guilt sex. Instead, we'll be delving into the realm of true intimacy.
Intimacy is often misunderstood as just being synonymous with love and sex. While sex is a part of it, there's a deeper layer involved. It's about gradually building a connection with your spouse, one that's rooted in honesty, vulnerability, and transparency. So, join us as we explore the intricacies o...2023-10-1648 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy22 | How Long Will This Hurt? Experiencing The 5 Stages of Grief Through the Lens of Sexual BetrayalHello Friend,
Have you experienced grief? We normally associate grief with the death and loss of someone we love, and we can also grieve the loss of something we are emotionally attached to like a job or home. But there is also a loss that occurs through betrayal. With this type of loss come the very same emotions that are common to losing someone or something dear to us.
After sexual betrayal, the loss of the relationship you thought you had can trigger the grieving process. Finding out about your spouse's hi...2023-10-0944 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy22 | How Long Will This Hurt? Experiencing The 5 Stages of Grief Through the Lens of Sexual BetrayalHello Friend,
Have you experienced grief? We normally associate grief with the death and loss of someone we love, and we can also grieve the loss of something we are emotionally attached to like a job or home. But there is also a loss that occurs through betrayal. With this type of loss come the very same emotions that are common to losing someone or something dear to us.
After sexual betrayal, the loss of the relationship you thought you had can trigger the grieving process. Finding out about your spouse's hi...2023-10-0944 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy21 | Breaking Free: How To Escape the Grip of Porn Addiction with Emmanuel and Bekah GuarinoThe prevalence of sexually explicit content continues to surge, becoming increasingly accessible with each passing day. Who's it hurting? A better question might be, who isn't it hurting? Pornography affects everyone from innocent children to grandparents and there’s really no escaping it in our culture today. So, what can we do?
Today we are sharing a discussion we had with a young couple who experienced the devastation of pornography use in their marriage. But, they didn’t let it destroy them. In fact, they are doing something amazing to help others struggling with porn addic...2023-10-0236 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy21 | Breaking Free: How To Escape the Grip of Porn Addiction with Emmanuel and Bekah GuarinoThe prevalence of sexually explicit content continues to surge, becoming increasingly accessible with each passing day. Who's it hurting? A better question might be, who isn't it hurting? Pornography affects everyone from innocent children to grandparents and there’s really no escaping it in our culture today. So, what can we do?
Today we are sharing a discussion we had with a young couple who experienced the devastation of pornography use in their marriage. But, they didn’t let it destroy them. In fact, they are doing something amazing to help others struggling with porn addic...2023-10-0236 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy20 | From Porn Queen To Child of God Now On Mission To Help Others Find Freedom with Elizabeth SpragginsHey Friend,
Have you ever been curious about the untold stories of those in the adult entertainment industry? Do you question the authenticity of what you've heard about or witnessed on the screen?
We've recently been talking a lot about the harmful impact of pornography on consumers and their loved ones, but only briefly explored the profound effects it has on those who take center stage.
Today, prepare to be captivated as we engage in a compelling conversation with Elizabeth Spraggins, a remarkable individual who once lived in...2023-09-2554 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy20 | From Porn Queen To Child of God Now On Mission To Help Others Find Freedom with Elizabeth SpragginsHey Friend,
Have you ever been curious about the untold stories of those in the adult entertainment industry? Do you question the authenticity of what you've heard about or witnessed on the screen?
We've recently been talking a lot about the harmful impact of pornography on consumers and their loved ones, but only briefly explored the profound effects it has on those who take center stage.
Today, prepare to be captivated as we engage in a compelling conversation with Elizabeth Spraggins, a remarkable individual who once lived in...2023-09-2554 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy19 | Feeling Like I’m Not Enough: How Comparison Can Distort Self-IdentityAs a fallen human race, we tend to compare ourselves to others in many ways, the way people look, what kind of clothes they wear or car they drive, what job they have or what kind of house and neighborhood they live in. This comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy or pridefulness. I imagine most, if not all of us, have or have had some degree of comparison working against us in how we feel about ourselves.
Today we are going to explore the feeling of not being enough and how the destructive practice of comparison s...2023-09-1845 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy19 | Feeling Like I’m Not Enough: How Comparison Can Distort Self-IdentityAs a fallen human race, we tend to compare ourselves to others in many ways, the way people look, what kind of clothes they wear or car they drive, what job they have or what kind of house and neighborhood they live in. This comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy or pridefulness. I imagine most, if not all of us, have or have had some degree of comparison working against us in how we feel about ourselves.
Today we are going to explore the feeling of not being enough and how the destructive practice of comparison s...2023-09-1845 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy18 | Feeling Like I’m Not Enough. What If Pornography Is Not My True Addiction?In our marriages when there is sexual betrayal fueled by pornography use or addiction, it is easy to only focus on the outward behaviors because they are so painful and destructive. But what if there is something deeper under the surface that you are unaware of? What if the addiction was only the evidence of an underlying problem. Would you be willing to explore the possibility?
I’m a recovering sex addict with over 4 years of sobriety and I’m grateful that I discovered that there was something insidious behind my acting out behaviors. This realiz...2023-09-1132 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy18 | Feeling Like I’m Not Enough. What If Pornography Is Not My True Addiction?In our marriages when there is sexual betrayal fueled by pornography use or addiction, it is easy to only focus on the outward behaviors because they are so painful and destructive. But what if there is something deeper under the surface that you are unaware of? What if the addiction was only the evidence of an underlying problem. Would you be willing to explore the possibility?
I’m a recovering sex addict with over 4 years of sobriety and I’m grateful that I discovered that there was something insidious behind my acting out behaviors. This realiz...2023-09-1132 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy17 | Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual BehaviorAs the wife of a recovering addict, I’ve learned that there were clues displayed by my husband that pointed to addictive behavior. I was aware of his periodic pornography use but didn’t put it together with these behavioral clues to realize that there might be a serious issue. Now that we have been working on our recovery for several years, I have discovered what I either missed or ignored as signs of a porn addiction. We are going to share some information with you today that I wished I had known before it had escalated into compulsive porno...2023-09-0440 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy17 | Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual BehaviorAs the wife of a recovering addict, I’ve learned that there were clues displayed by my husband that pointed to addictive behavior. I was aware of his periodic pornography use but didn’t put it together with these behavioral clues to realize that there might be a serious issue. Now that we have been working on our recovery for several years, I have discovered what I either missed or ignored as signs of a porn addiction. We are going to share some information with you today that I wished I had known before it had escalated into compulsive porno...2023-09-0440 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy16 | ”It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal?” And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing PornographyIf pornography is no big deal, why are so many marriages destroyed by it?
If pornography is harmless, why are so many people around the world hurt by it?
If pornography is no big deal, why do we hide it from our wives?
If pornography is harmless, why do we hide it from our children?
How much do you know about porn and the pornography industry? I didn’t know much about it when I got married and I didn’t really want to. I thought it was something non-b...2023-08-2829 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy16 | ”It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal?” And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing PornographyIf pornography is no big deal, why are so many marriages destroyed by it?
If pornography is harmless, why are so many people around the world hurt by it?
If pornography is no big deal, why do we hide it from our wives?
If pornography is harmless, why do we hide it from our children?
How much do you know about porn and the pornography industry? I didn’t know much about it when I got married and I didn’t really want to. I thought it was something non-b...2023-08-2829 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy15 | Giving Bad News? 6 Things We Said While Confessing Adultery In Our MarriageHave you ever told someone something you knew they were not going to want to hear? Do you have something you need to tell someone and are terrified about how they will react? Are you afraid to say it because it could cause them significant pain and/or jeopardize your relationship with them?
These are very natural emotions that come with telling difficult news. This was our predicament when we made the decision to tell some people about the reality of infidelity in our marriage.
Today we will share with you how we w...2023-08-2130 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy15 | Giving Bad News? 6 Things We Said While Confessing Adultery In Our MarriageHave you ever told someone something you knew they were not going to want to hear? Do you have something you need to tell someone and are terrified about how they will react? Are you afraid to say it because it could cause them significant pain and/or jeopardize your relationship with them?
These are very natural emotions that come with telling difficult news. This was our predicament when we made the decision to tell some people about the reality of infidelity in our marriage.
Today we will share with you how we w...2023-08-2130 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy14 | To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity StoryYour marriage has suffered a massive blow of betrayal. Adultery through pornography and/or extra-marital relationships has been discovered. You both want to save the marriage, if possible, by working on reconciliation and recovery. But now you’re wondering if you need to tell anyone or if you should just keep it private and work on it together.
We went through this same scenario and today we are going to let you peek inside our marriage and the devastation we experienced through infidelity to see the process we went through when trying to decide, To Tell...2023-08-1432 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy14 | To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity StoryYour marriage has suffered a massive blow of betrayal. Adultery through pornography and/or extra-marital relationships has been discovered. You both want to save the marriage, if possible, by working on reconciliation and recovery. But now you’re wondering if you need to tell anyone or if you should just keep it private and work on it together.
We went through this same scenario and today we are going to let you peek inside our marriage and the devastation we experienced through infidelity to see the process we went through when trying to decide, To Tell...2023-08-1432 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy13 | His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From InfidelityTriggers, what are they and how do they affect us? Triggers come without warning and without our permission. Today we’re going to dissect the ways we are triggered and how we should handle them, so they are not destructive, but rather an opportunity for healing, connection and growth. And good heavens, do they ever stop?
Grab your favorite beverage and buckle up as we talk about triggers.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com
2023-08-0734 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy13 | His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From InfidelityTriggers, what are they and how do they affect us? Triggers come without warning and without our permission. Today we’re going to dissect the ways we are triggered and how we should handle them, so they are not destructive, but rather an opportunity for healing, connection and growth. And good heavens, do they ever stop?
Grab your favorite beverage and buckle up as we talk about triggers.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com
2023-08-0734 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy12 | His Adultery Shattered My Reality. How Do I Know What’s Real?What actually happens to a person who has experienced betrayal? What happens in the mind of one who has their reality shattered in an instant?
Today we’re going to be discussing the effects of this type of mental and emotional injury when someone is betrayed. We’ll be sharing with you how this affected us after Johnny’s confession of adultery through pornography use and extra-marital relationships and how we sorted through the reality that our marriage was not what Emily thought it was. We’ll also share what we did to sift through the wreck...2023-07-3145 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy12 | His Adultery Shattered My Reality. How Do I Know What’s Real?What actually happens to a person who has experienced betrayal? What happens in the mind of one who has their reality shattered in an instant?
Today we’re going to be discussing the effects of this type of mental and emotional injury when someone is betrayed. We’ll be sharing with you how this affected us after Johnny’s confession of adultery through pornography use and extra-marital relationships and how we sorted through the reality that our marriage was not what Emily thought it was. We’ll also share what we did to sift through the wreck...2023-07-3145 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy11 | Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual BetrayalDo you find it hard to forgive someone who has hurt you deeply?
On our show today, we’re going to unpack 4 keys to unlocking forgiveness. This method is simple, but it’s definitely not easy. So how do we get through this difficult process? We will share with you how this approach played out in our marriage after porn-fueled infidelity and where we turned for help.
Grab your favorite beverage and spend some time with us as we delve deeper into the topic of forgiveness.
We pray th...2023-07-2437 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy11 | Freedom and Healing: 4 Keys to Unlocking Forgiveness After Sexual BetrayalDo you find it hard to forgive someone who has hurt you deeply?
On our show today, we’re going to unpack 4 keys to unlocking forgiveness. This method is simple, but it’s definitely not easy. So how do we get through this difficult process? We will share with you how this approach played out in our marriage after porn-fueled infidelity and where we turned for help.
Grab your favorite beverage and spend some time with us as we delve deeper into the topic of forgiveness.
We pray th...2023-07-2437 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy10 | When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing ApologyDo you appreciate getting an apology? Do you have a hard time extending one? Do you even know what a good apology looks like?
Join us today as we cover the 8 steps to a healing apology, which is so helpful in a marriage, especially when there has been some form of betrayal.
We have experienced the power of this healing apology in our own marriage after the discovery and disclosure of pornography use that escalated into infidelity. Giving an apology the wrong way can be even more hurtful than not doing it...2023-07-1741 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy10 | When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing ApologyDo you appreciate getting an apology? Do you have a hard time extending one? Do you even know what a good apology looks like?
Join us today as we cover the 8 steps to a healing apology, which is so helpful in a marriage, especially when there has been some form of betrayal.
We have experienced the power of this healing apology in our own marriage after the discovery and disclosure of pornography use that escalated into infidelity. Giving an apology the wrong way can be even more hurtful than not doing it...2023-07-1741 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy09 | I’m So Angry! How I Overcame Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy StepsDo you get angry while driving in traffic? Have you ever had or seen road rage? Are you the person that yells at everyone making stupid and even dangerous driving mistakes from inside your car with the windows up?
I can’t say I’ve never had a burst of anger when driving, but in recent years I have made it a practice to try and give other drivers the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they have an emergency, maybe their kids are distracting them... And it also helps to remind myself that I have probab...2023-07-1042 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy09 | I’m So Angry! How I Overcame Anger from Sexual Betrayal in 3 Simple But Not Easy StepsDo you get angry while driving in traffic? Have you ever had or seen road rage? Are you the person that yells at everyone making stupid and even dangerous driving mistakes from inside your car with the windows up?
I can’t say I’ve never had a burst of anger when driving, but in recent years I have made it a practice to try and give other drivers the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they have an emergency, maybe their kids are distracting them... And it also helps to remind myself that I have probab...2023-07-1042 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy08 | 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 2)When you think of the word honesty, do you view it in black and white or on a sliding scale? Those who see it in black and white might argue that a person either tells the truth or they don’t. Those who prefer a sliding scale approach may categorize white lies at a 1-2, lies of omission at a 4-5, but a deceptive or premeditated lie at 9-10. Honesty, in this person’s mind, is relative.
In our show today, we’re going to talk about rigorous honesty. We were first introduced to this concept t...2023-07-0329 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy08 | 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 2)When you think of the word honesty, do you view it in black and white or on a sliding scale? Those who see it in black and white might argue that a person either tells the truth or they don’t. Those who prefer a sliding scale approach may categorize white lies at a 1-2, lies of omission at a 4-5, but a deceptive or premeditated lie at 9-10. Honesty, in this person’s mind, is relative.
In our show today, we’re going to talk about rigorous honesty. We were first introduced to this concept t...2023-07-0329 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy07 | 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 1)Did you know that there is more than one way to lie?
A lack of honesty can leave others in your life on uncertain ground. How do we overcome this deceptive practice and what is the key to complete honesty?
Spend the next half hour with us as we talk about 5 different ways we lie to each other, how lying affects our relationships and what we can do to change it forever.
We will also be sharing some details from our sometimes painful journey to find freedom from th...2023-06-2633 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy07 | 5 Ways We Lie and the Secret to Complete Honesty (part 1)Did you know that there is more than one way to lie?
A lack of honesty can leave others in your life on uncertain ground. How do we overcome this deceptive practice and what is the key to complete honesty?
Spend the next half hour with us as we talk about 5 different ways we lie to each other, how lying affects our relationships and what we can do to change it forever.
We will also be sharing some details from our sometimes painful journey to find freedom from th...2023-06-2633 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy06 | Setting Boundaries After Sexual Betrayal in MarriageHave you ever stopped to think about the significance of boundaries? What kind of feelings or emotions do you think of when you hear that term? Does it bring to mind negative connotations or a sense of being confined and restricted? Perhaps it even feels punitive or unfair. It's understandable to have these reactions, but let's take a moment to consider a different perspective. What if boundaries could actually be beneficial for all parties involved?
In today's episode, we're going to unpack the word "boundaries". We'll explore why boundaries are not only necessary but essential i...2023-06-1947 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy06 | Setting Boundaries After Sexual Betrayal in MarriageHave you ever stopped to think about the significance of boundaries? What kind of feelings or emotions do you think of when you hear that term? Does it bring to mind negative connotations or a sense of being confined and restricted? Perhaps it even feels punitive or unfair. It's understandable to have these reactions, but let's take a moment to consider a different perspective. What if boundaries could actually be beneficial for all parties involved?
In today's episode, we're going to unpack the word "boundaries". We'll explore why boundaries are not only necessary but essential i...2023-06-1947 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy05 | The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual BetrayalThe decision to stay married after sexual betrayal is a very difficult one to navigate. We understand this because the effects of infidelity shook each of us to our core. If you've been listening to our show you know we are still married, but we didn’t go through this on our own. We had an incredible amount of support and guidance along the way.
In this episode we're going to open up about the personal effects that infidelity had on each of us while shedding light on the reasons behind our mutual decision to pre...2023-06-1228 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy05 | The Effects of Infidelity and How We Made the Decision to Stay Married After Sexual BetrayalThe decision to stay married after sexual betrayal is a very difficult one to navigate. We understand this because the effects of infidelity shook each of us to our core. If you've been listening to our show you know we are still married, but we didn’t go through this on our own. We had an incredible amount of support and guidance along the way.
In this episode we're going to open up about the personal effects that infidelity had on each of us while shedding light on the reasons behind our mutual decision to pre...2023-06-1228 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy04 | Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and RecoveryHi Friend,
In today's episode we will be telling a quick version of our love story from how we met and got married up to the day of Johnny's confession of adultery that we call Discovery Day.
If you haven't heard our story as told by each of us from our own perspectives, you can listen to Emily's story in Episode 2 and Johnny's story in Episode 3.
We are telling our story together today to help you understand that we are ordinary people who love Jesus, but how the...2023-06-0520 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy04 | Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and RecoveryHi Friend,
In today's episode we will be telling a quick version of our love story from how we met and got married up to the day of Johnny's confession of adultery that we call Discovery Day.
If you haven't heard our story as told by each of us from our own perspectives, you can listen to Emily's story in Episode 2 and Johnny's story in Episode 3.
We are telling our story together today to help you understand that we are ordinary people who love Jesus, but how the...2023-06-0520 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy03 | His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral ValuesHi Friend,
On today's episode, Johnny tells his story of how a young boy with hopes and dreams for a wonderful future ends up confessing to his wife of 31 years that he is a sex addict and an adulterer. His painful story is tragic, but also beautiful because he knows the One who makes a way when there is no way. Jesus can make something beautiful out of the ashes of our lives if we let him.
We pray this episode blesses you!
Johnny and Emily
2023-05-2944 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy03 | His Story: I Betrayed My Wife and My Moral ValuesHi Friend,
On today's episode, Johnny tells his story of how a young boy with hopes and dreams for a wonderful future ends up confessing to his wife of 31 years that he is a sex addict and an adulterer. His painful story is tragic, but also beautiful because he knows the One who makes a way when there is no way. Jesus can make something beautiful out of the ashes of our lives if we let him.
We pray this episode blesses you!
Johnny and Emily
2023-05-2944 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy02 | Her Story: My Husband Betrayed MeHi Friend,
Today Emily is baring her soul to tell the story of her husband's marital infidelity fueled by pornography use. And although it was Not Her Fault in any way, she is not perfect and you will hear some of the ways she fell short in her life too. But, God is bigger than any failure, heartbreak or trauma. He is the redeemer of the lost and the comforter of the broken-hearted.
We pray this episode blesses you!
Emily and Johnny
💜Work with us...2023-05-2925 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy02 | Her Story: My Husband Betrayed MeHi Friend,
Today Emily is baring her soul to tell the story of her husband's marital infidelity fueled by pornography use. And although it was Not Her Fault in any way, she is not perfect and you will hear some of the ways she fell short in her life too. But, God is bigger than any failure, heartbreak or trauma. He is the redeemer of the lost and the comforter of the broken-hearted.
We pray this episode blesses you!
Emily and Johnny
💜Work with us...2023-05-2925 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy01 | ”Why Are We Talking About Betrayal?” A Q&A with the Betrayed and the BetrayerHello Friends!
This is our very first show on the Beyond Broken Vows podcast. Today we are telling you a little bit about us, what you will hear in this podcast, what you won't hear in this podcast, and our goal for sharing our personal story with you. Topics like betrayal, infidelity, and pornography addiction are difficult for many people to talk about, especially for those being affected in some way by them. We have definitely been through all of these, but we are also enjoying the blessings of reconciliation, redemption and recovery. With God i...2023-05-2915 minBeyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy01 | ”Why Are We Talking About Betrayal?” A Q&A with the Betrayed and the BetrayerHello Friends!
This is our very first show on the Beyond Broken Vows podcast. Today we are telling you a little bit about us, what you will hear in this podcast, what you won't hear in this podcast, and our goal for sharing our personal story with you. Topics like betrayal, infidelity, and pornography addiction are difficult for many people to talk about, especially for those being affected in some way by them. We have definitely been through all of these, but we are also enjoying the blessings of reconciliation, redemption and recovery. With God i...2023-05-2915 min