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Fifty Shades of Gender100. Reflections (part 4): discoveries so farIn this fourth Reflections episode, Katy interviews Esther as she reflects on further conversations she’s had with gender-diverse folks, what she’s learned about gender, as well as her own journey and how she and the podcast have evolved over three years since the podcast started. We also talk about the decision to take a break, trusting your intuition, intersectionality, internalised misogyny, using inclusive language, questioning everything, opening conversations rather than shutting them down, what allyship can look like, and reclaiming authenticity. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/reflections-4 Registration for our allyship course is now open! Find...2023-10-261h 13
Fifty Shades of Gender91. HARRIS EDDIE HILL #2: agender, non-binary, trans (with a dash of 'boy')Harris Eddie Hill is a podcaster, best-selling author and coach. Harris's pronouns are they/them or ey/em, and they are agender, non-binary, and trans (with a dash of 'boy'). Find out what that means to Harris in this episode. We also talk about being on testosterone, embodying queerness in intimate relationships, finding safety in yourself, navigating family dynamics and having consensual conversations, the importance of having access to a supportive community, what it was like living through Section 28 times, allyship and inclusivity, and exploring kink. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/harris-2 You can now register your i...2023-03-021h 05
Biz AlchemyEsther Lemmens - Rediscovering your intuitive voiceEsther Lemmens is one of Jacquelyn's first clients (and her fabulous graphic designer) and it’s been a joy to witness the deepening intuitive journey that she’s taken over the last few years. She is a creative rebel, intuitive designer, and queer mystic. She's also an artist, podcaster, budding writer, truth seeker, and gentle activist. Generally non-conforming, she likes to refer to herself as a ‘rebel with a cause’. Her motto is “do YOUR thing, YOUR way”, and she passionately believes that authentic, unapologetic and at times radical self-expression is the most important gift we can give to ourse...2022-11-0735 min
The Wizard's Way of ManifestingEsther Lemmens: Embracing Your Intuition and Becoming More Intentional with Your ManifestationJoin Mark as he explores the journey of becoming a more intentional and effective manifester with his guest Esther Lemmens. Esther (she/they) is a creative rebel, intuitive designer, and queer mystic. She's also an artist, podcaster, budding writer, truth seeker, and gentle activist. Generally non-conforming, she likes to refer to herself as a ‘rebel with a cause’. Her motto is “do YOUR thing, YOUR way”, and she passionately believes that authentic, unapologetic and at times radical self-expression is the most important gift we can give to ourselves – and to the world.Connect with Esther at https://estherlemm...2022-11-0457 min
Fifty Shades of Gender90. Ninety Shades of Gender: taking a breakEsther is taking a break from creating new episodes for now, and talks about she came to that decision. Thank you to all our patrons, to those who bought us a coffee, donated, listened, shared and helped. Until next time! More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/90shades 2022-09-2910 min
Fifty Shades of Gender89. CLEO MADELEINE: queer, trans, womanCleo Madeleine is a researcher, activist, and poet. Cleo's pronouns are she/her, and she is queer, trans, and a woman. Find out what that means to Cleo in this episode. Join us as we briefly go down a rabbit hole of queer history and time, talking about the entanglement of sexuality and gender, linguistic limitations, the intersection of history, language, and identity, what is left out of history, the construct of normativity, levels of activism, and the many ways things can get lost in translation. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/cleo 2022-09-151h 14
EmpowerographyBreaking Societal Norms with Esther Lemmens S01 EPS 363In the latest episode of the Empowerography Podcast, my guest is Esther Lemmens. Esther (she/they) is a creator, artist, podcaster, budding writer, truth seeker, gentle activist, and queer mystic. Generally non-conforming, she likes to refer to herself as a ‘rebel with a cause.’ Her motto is “do YOUR thing, YOUR way,” and she passionately believes that authentic, unapologetic and at times radical self-expression is the most important gift we can give to ourselves—and to the world. Esther is the founder and host of the Fifty Shades of Gender podcast and contributing author to the best-selling book 'Sacred Redesign –...2022-09-0255 min
Fifty Shades of Gender88. LUX: queer, genderfluid, polygender, non-conforming manLux is a psychotherapeutic counsellor and French expat, who has been in the UK for over ten years. Lux's pronouns are he/they, and he is a queer, genderfluid, polygender, non-conforming man. Find out what that means to Lux in this episode. We also talk about seeing labels as a field, the need for softness as well as radicality in activism, how gender identity is separate from gender expression, the pathologising of queer identities, not being able to simplify your complexity into a static gender, how gender plurality and sexual fluidity intertwine, and not leaving any part of us...2022-09-0155 min
Fifty Shades of Gender87. BRIANNE LEESON: autigender, bisexual, polyamorous, demi-romanticBrianne Leeson is a writer, artist, and voice actor, and the creator of the supernatural comedy audio drama, Today’s Lucky Winner. Brianne's pronouns are she/her, and she is autigender, as well as bisexual, polyamorous, and demi-romantic. Find out what that means to Brianne in this episode. We also talk about doing womanhood differently and the infinite flavours of gender and gender expression, accidental polyamory and unpacking social and religious conditioning, what we can learn about communication from autistic people, sensory issues and how they shape expression, finding freedom in embracing your neurodivergence, and questioning everything. More on ww...2022-08-1855 min
Fifty Shades of Gender86. IZZY KERSHAW: transgender woman, bisexual, ADHDIzzy Kershaw is a singer/songwriter and music producer. Izzy's pronouns are she/her, and she is a transgender woman. She's also bisexual and has ADHD. Find out what that means to Izzy in this episode. We also talk about how big a part of identity gender is and how that can change, the importance of making the distinction between sex and gender in healthcare, being trans in the music industry, an enlightening acid trip, how music can take people on a journey, the innateness of gender from the perspective of brain science, and the desire to belong. More...2022-08-0439 min
Fifty Shades of Gender85. VICTOR MARTINEZ #2: transgender, non-binary, pansexual, neurodiverse, ADHDVictor's pronouns are they/them, and they are transgender and non-binary, as well as pansexual, neurodiverse, and ADHD. Find out what that means to Victor in this episode. We also talk about being out as a trans person at work, having a different understanding of the same labels, normalising gender diversity in society, body dysmorphia and gender expression, transphobia in the media, unlocking aspects of identity, and the evolution of awareness. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/victor-2 2022-07-2159 min
Fifty Shades of Gender84. KAI GREY: trans-masculine, transgender, queer (non-binary)Kai is a Garden Designer and consultant, and CEO at Polaris Garden & Landscape Architects. Kai's pronouns are he/him, and he is trans-masculine, transgender, queer, and a tad non-binary. Find out what that means to Kai in this episode.. We also talk about the importance of representation, experiencing intimacy and sex and navigating expected as well as unexpected changes being on T (testosterone), consent and re-establishing boundaries, separating masculinity and femininity from body parts, qualities, and dynamics like dominance & submission, and never being done with transitioning. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/kai 2022-07-0700 min
Fifty Shades of Gender83. LOLA PHOENIX: agender, non-binary, queerLola Phoenix is a writer, podcaster, and author of the recently published book The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy. Lola's pronouns are they/them, and they are agender, non-binary, and queer. Find out what that means to Lola in this episode. We also talk about being accidentally gender non-conforming, not relating to normative experiences, prioritising action over language, the power in choosing our response, what we do versus who we are, the similarities between an unconventional gender journey and exploring alternative relationship styles, solidarity and the need to unite, the importance of understanding and regulating our nervous system, and...2022-06-231h 26
Coffee & GeographyCoffee & Geography S02E22 Esther Lemmens (UK)Kit and Esther Lemmens drink fresh mint tea, chatting about swapping Holland for Norfolk, gender identity and conformity, being a first-time published author, switching to natural washing products, amongst other things!Esther (she/they) is a creator, artist, podcaster, budding writer, truth seeker, gentle activist, and queer mystic. Generally non-conforming, she likes to refer to herself as a ‘rebel with a cause.’ Her motto is “do YOUR thing, YOUR way,” and she passionately believes that authentic, unapologetic and at times radical self-expression is the most important gift we can give to ourselves – and to the world. Esther is th...2022-06-1853 min
Coffee & GeographyCoffee & Geography S02E22 Esther Lemmens (UK)Kit and Esther Lemmens drink fresh mint tea, chatting about swapping Holland for Norfolk, gender identity and conformity, being a first-time published author, switching to natural washing products, amongst other things!
Esther (she/they) is a creator, artist, podcaster, budding writer, truth seeker, gentle activist, and queer mystic. Generally non-conforming, she likes to refer to herself as a ‘rebel with a cause.’ Her motto is “do YOUR thing, YOUR way,” and she passionately believes that authentic, unapologetic and at times radical self-expression is the most important gift we can give to ourselves – and to the world. Esther is the founder and host o...2022-06-1853 min
Fifty Shades of Gender82. ANGELA LOCASHIO: autistic, queer, genderqueer womanAngela Locashio (aka Mama Pistachio) is a trauma-informed educator and coach, and sexologist. Angela's pronouns are she/her, and she says she's always open to they/them. She is an autistic, queer, genderqueer woman. Find out what that means to Angela in this episode. We also talk about following social scripts and role playing, how authenticity and performance are not mutually exclusive, vulnerability, understanding all parts of ourselves, how we are wired to choose acceptance over authenticity, being yourself in the workplace, the intersection between gender and neurodivergence, and how we are all normal. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com...2022-06-0948 min
Fifty Shades of Gender81. FLEASSY MALAY: queer, gender-diverse, neurodiverse, genderfluid womanFleassy Malay is a poet, spoken word artist, performer, and writer. Fleassy uses they/them and she/her pronouns, and they are a queer, gender-diverse, neurodiverse genderfluid woman. Find out what that means to Fleassy in this episode. We also talk about embracing the validity of the phases we go through, belonging in both women's spaces and queer spaces, inclusive language and adding more nuance to conversations, internalised shame and being willing to confront our own conditioning, having observations rather than answers, how sacred rage can change the world, and playing in all the spaces. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender...2022-05-2657 min
Fifty Shades of Gender80. ANNE HODDER-SHIPP: queer femme, neurodivergent, ADHD (agender, non-binary, demigirl)Anne Hodder-Shipp is a sex and relationship educator dedicated to providing accurate, empowered, compassionate, and expansive sex education. Anne's pronouns are she/they, and she is a queer femme. They're also neurodivergent with a recent ADHD diagnosis. She doesn't have language that totally feels right, but says that sometimes agender, non-binary, and demigirl work. Find out what that means to Anne in this episode. We also talk about not having a sense of belonging, feeling safe in your skin, self-soothing and meeting yourself where you're at, upholding meaning over language at all cost, how the gender binary is weaponised...2022-05-1255 min
Fifty Shades of Gender79. CHRISTINE TOKLEY: trans woman, non-conforming, disabled, neurodivergentChristine's pronouns are she/her, and she's ok with they/them pronouns. She identifies as a trans woman and is also non-conforming, disabled and neurodivergent. Find out what that means to Christine in this episode. We also talk about how the spectrum of physical biological sex and that of the social construct of gender overlap, the idea of sex dysphoria rather than gender dysphoria, medical transition vs social transition and being comfortable on the inside first, supporting people in a way that works for them, the difference in how we all perceive reality including gender, the need for nuance...2022-04-281h 33
Fifty Shades of Gender78. CLAIRE PROSHO: transgender woman, bisexual, ADHDClaire's pronouns are she/her, and she is a transgender woman. Find out what that means to Claire in this episode. We also talk about the lack of female role models in the 70s, trying to reconcile the expected side and the authentic side of us, the entanglement of gender, mental health and neurodivergence, feeling like yourself for the first time, reframing gendered activities, identifying as vs identifying with, gender alignment rather than transition, and having more stories to tell. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/claire 2022-04-141h 22
Fifty Shades of Gender77. JENN: genderfree, autistic, fatJenn sets up websites and tech systems for micro businesses. Jenn doesn't have much of an attachment to pronouns and says they or she are fine. They are genderfree, and she also gave us the labels autistic and fat. Find out what that means to Jenn in this episode. We also talk about choosing your own gender badges, the absurdity of assigned gender roles, being conscious of gender-neutral language, how autism in women is underdiagnosed, the limited choices when it comes to clothes, the balance of body neutrality, the various struggles fat people face, and putting the rainbow first...2022-03-3155 min
Fifty Shades of Gender76. SKIN: queerSkin is the singer of the rock band Skunk Anansie, a radio show and podcast host, and author. Skin's pronouns are she/her, and she is a queer person. Find out what that means to Skin in this episode. We also talk about stepping stones to new language, the obsession with beauty in the gay community, breaking gender roles, given names and designing your own sense of self, a cultural sense of identity, expanding on feminism, marriage and motherhood, chosen family and learning how to love each other, staying open and giving people a chance to change their minds...2022-03-1745 min
Fifty Shades of Gender75. Reflections (part 3): discoveries so farIn this third Reflections episode, Katy interviews Esther as she reflects on further conversations she’s had with gender-diverse folks, what she’s learned about gender, as well as her own journey and how she and the podcast have evolved over a year and a half since the podcast started. We also talk about imposter syndrome, intuition and following the flow, prioritising self-care, expanding on pronouns, improvising and thinking on the spot, reclaiming labels, coming out of the spiritual closet, how the lines between being on the outside and being on the inside are blurring, and that being an ally...2022-03-031h 07
Mamas BoysAn Honest Talk of Gender Identity With Esther Lemmens, Mamas Boys Ep. 15Join Zhi, Dominik and Nick on an open talk of Gender, Identity and Transgender with the Host of 50 Shades Of Gender, Esther Lemmens. We learn Esther's story of how she started her podcast and her story about how her significant other transitioned. Also in this talk we learn why pronouns are important and why identity is integral to the human experience. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/mamasboyspodcast)2022-02-251h 40
Fifty Shades of Gender74. A Clear Perspective on gender: a channeled message from Oron and MedhaThis is an episode with a spiritual twist. I have a conversation with Oron, through Medha. Medha is an intuitive energy healer and channeler – to be exact, a direct voice channel – and she has a podcast called A Clear Perspective, where she shares the guidance that comes through from Oron in answer to people's questions. Oron start by talking about what it takes for Medha to allow this energy to come through, and then about expansion and going beyond right and wrong, external and internal division, how truth lies on a spectrum, reclaiming your sense of self-worth, power versus forc...2022-02-1734 min
Fifty Shades of Gender73. PAIGE LOEWEN: partner of a transgender womanPaige is married to a transgender woman, Esther (or Elle), who came out to her in October 2020. They've been married for 16 years and have two children. Find out more about Paige's experience in this episode. We also talk about being married to a troubled person, becoming more bold and growing into your skin, learning to communicate our needs, the freedom in speaking our truth, going through your own journeys together, that it's ok to not put a label on yourself, and how we may find ourselves in one closet or another. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/paige 2022-02-0350 min
Fifty Shades of Gender72. TALEA BOELSEMS: agender, metagenderTalea uses any pronouns, and they are agender and metagender. Find out what that means to Talea in this episode. We get philosophical and dig deeper into gender identity, and we talk about the challenges with finding language for something just beyond our grasp, nature vs nurture and what is innate in our identity, and peeling away layers and finding nothing. As we start to wrap up the conversation, some more really juicy things came up, so we keep going for another 10 minutes or so after I thank Talea for sharing her experience. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/talea 2022-01-201h 09
Fifty Shades of Gender71. RENÉE YOXON: trans, non-binary, genderqueer, maveriqueRenée Yoxon is a singer, songwriter, and gender-affirming voice teacher. Renée's pronouns are they/them, and they are non-binary trans. They also identify as maverique and back in the day, genderqueer. Find out what that means to Renée in this episode. We also talk about being who you are right now, bridging the trans and cis experience, how 'passing' is morally neutral, internal vs societal perception of gender, simultaneously upholding and tearing down gender binaries, and how the voice is more nurture than nature. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/renee2022-01-0645 min
Fifty Shades of Gender70. REV ROWAN BOMBADIL: genderqueer shapeshifter & sex witchRowan Bombadil is a psychosexual coach and interfaith minister, dedicated to bridging the binaries between sex and spirit. Rowan's pronouns are they/them/their, and they are a genderqueer shapeshifter and sex witch. Find out what that means to Rowan in this episode. We also talk about deconstructing boxes and binaries, the link between gender, sex and magic, reclaiming the body and revealing more of ourselves, roleplay vs shapeshifting, multiplicity and spanning the gender spectrum, transformation through intention, and celebrating the sacred in ourselves. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/rowan 2021-12-231h 23
Fifty Shades of Gender69. ZELDA: intersex, trans-adjacent, disabledZelda is a performer and magician. Zelda is happy for people to use the pronouns they feel are appropriate. She is intersex and disabled, and refers to herself as trans-adjacent. Find out what that means to Zelda in this episode. We also talk about using fun vs boring as decision-making criteria as opposed to male vs female, having a gender identity as fluid as a body identity, knowing the science versus living the science, giving hope by being yourself, being a bridge between dualities, lucky genetic quirks, and being a special case. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/zelda 2021-12-0957 min
Fifty Shades of Gender68. ESTHER LOEWEN: transgender womanEsther Loewen uses she/her pronouns, and she is a transgender woman. She also identifies as a parent, spouse, pastor, professional includer, and queer. Find out what that means to Esther in this episode. We also talk about how coming out is an ongoing process, questions to ask yourself on the gender journey, finding hope in spirituality after trauma, grieving the loss of vocation, taking a leap of faith, embracing how god made us, integrating and honouring the old self, and entering the next chapter in life with dignity and grace. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/esther 2021-11-2554 min
Fifty Shades of Gender67. LEONIE DAWSON: non-binaryLeonie Dawson is a proudly neurodivergent multi-passionate entrepreneur, author, podcaster, prolific course creator and massive swear bear. Leonie's pronouns are she/they, and they are non-binary. Find out what that means to Leonie in this episode. We also talk about honouring the land we inhabit, the freedom that came from adding a 'they' pronoun while having a 'she' experience, being non-conforming in business, the importance of having open and honest money conversations, knowing who you are inside and standing for what you believe in, kicking the social media habit, and smashing the patriarchy by being more of yourself. More o...2021-11-1157 min
Fifty Shades of Gender66. ANNA SANSOM: genderqueer, gender-responsive, woman, queer dykeIn this episode, I have a conversation with Anna Sansom, a writer, author of erotic fiction and also author of the book Desire Lines, which is a combination of memoir, erotica, and an invitation to reflective self-inquiry. Anna's pronouns are she/her. She experiences herself as genderqueer and feels herself to be gender-responsive. Find out what that means to Anna in this episode. We also talk about the energetic space between people, being responsive vs being reactive, how boxes can be constricting as well as expansive, playing with gender and sexuality, reclaiming the word 'dyke', self-healing through sexual experiences...2021-10-2853 min
Fifty Shades of Gender65. Listener Questions (1): terminology explainedThis episode is a slightly different one again; the first of a Listener Questions series. I'm answering a question (or rather, responding to a request) from one of our listeners, Connie, who said "I would love to hear a podcast on the definition of terms used on the podcasts." So here it is! More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/listener-questions-1 2021-10-1422 min
Fifty Shades of Gender64. BRIAN BELOVITCH: cis-gay male of trans experienceBrian Belovitch is an author, actor and activist. Brian's pronouns are he/him/his, and he identifies as a cis-gay male of trans experience. Find out what that means to Brian in this episode. We also talk about being different and growing up in the 60s and 70s, looking for validation, living a fantasy life, performing the role of perfect woman, dealing with judgement, how everyone's journey is unique, finding a different way to be comfortable, and going full circle and reaching a new destination. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/brian 2021-09-3058 min
Fifty Shades of Gender63. JEN HARTMANN: non-binary, bigenderJen Hartmann is a fashion designer and founder of the trans-positive label Baal Fashion. Jen is pretty much ok with all the traditional pronouns, but prefers he/him. He is non-binary and also identifies as bigender. Find out what that means to Jen in this episode. We also talk about growing up with a very gendered language, being expected to fit into cultural and gendered stereotypes, disrupting the fashion industry and the future of innovation, how clothes are an integral part of gender expression, navigating entrepreneurship and the challenges that come with doing your own thing, surrendering to divine...2021-09-2340 min
Fifty Shades of Gender62. JACOB PROFITT: non-binary, gay, drag queenJacob Profitt is a geography teacher. Jacob's pronouns are they/them, and they identify as a gay non-binary person. Find out what that means to Jacob in this episode. We also talk about the freedom that comes with going to university, societal conditioning around masculine and feminine binaries, exploring gender identity through drag, being non-binary in education, feeling attracted to male presenting people as opposed to masculinity, and being inspired by a younger generation. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/jacob 2021-09-1636 min
Fifty Shades of Gender61. DOROTHY 'THYO' PIERRE-LOUIS: non-binary, trans-masculine, bigender, toric, graysexualDorothy Pierre-Louis uses he/him/his pronouns, and his nickname is Thyo (pronounced like Theo). He is non-binary and also uses the labels bigender and trans-masculine, as well as toric and graysexual. Find out what that means to Thyo in this episode. Thyo (pronounced like Theo) is a simple urban animal who resides with his friends in a cozy den in Philadelphia. He currently works as a technical recruiter and aspires to make it in the entertainment/media industry as a writer. This dream is slightly hindered by the fact that Thyo is a recovering survivor of the Ivy...2021-09-0945 min
Fifty Shades of Gender60. EMME PORTER DeWITT: agender [transgender, nonbinary], queer [demisexual+]Emme Porter DeWitt is an author, advocate, and authenticity coach. Emme's pronouns are they/them/theirs. They are agender and also identify as transgender, non-binary, queer and demisexual. Find out what that means to Emme in this episode. We also talk about how we all have our own unique flavour of humanity, making sense of attractions, the importance of emotional connection, building your own blueprint for relationships, the possibilities in the term queer, being a solo advocate, how parents can build a healthy relationship with their gender-expansive kids, and getting rid of the boxes altogether. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender...2021-09-0255 min
Fifty Shades of Gender59. VICTOR MARTINEZ: non-binary, transgender, pansexual, panromanticVictor's pronouns are they/them, and they are non-binary and transgender, as well as pansexual and panromantic. Find out what that means to Victor in this episode. We also talk about identifying vs being, the freedom in expressing yourself, that clothes have no gender, connection to culture, having an awareness of your own mental health, processing out loud, and how gender expression is for yourself rather than others. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/victor 2021-08-2658 min
Fifty Shades of Gender58. GREYSON: trans man, xenogender (wolfgender), furryGreyson, a furry and budding artist, is a trans man, but identifies with wolfgender, which is a xenogender. Greyson uses he/him/himself as well as wolf/wolfs/wolfself pronouns. Find out what that means to Greyson in this episode. We also talk about discovering your identity through playing someone else, separating gender from male/female, man/woman and masculine/feminine, how queer identities are a lot of work, self-medicating with testosterone, respecting artistry and artists by paying them well, and how gender journeys are a great way to get to know yourself deeper. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com...2021-08-1949 min
Fifty Shades of Gender57. JIN WICKED: agender, non-binary, autisticJin Wicked is an artist, illustrator, and writer, on the autism spectrum. Jin's pronouns are they/them, and they are agender and non-binary. Find out what that means to Jin in this episode. We also talk about pushing boundaries, questioning what's normal, seeing the body as a canvas, finding beauty and art in everyday life, discovering being neurodivergent, integrating different identities, being present in the moment, and learning to be human. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/jin 2021-08-121h 24
Fifty Shades of Gender56. JUNO ROCHE: trans & queerJuno Roche is a writer, campaigner and author of the books Queer Sex, Trans Power and Gender Explorers. Juno's pronouns are they/them, and they are trans and queer. Find out what that means to Juno in this episode. We also talk about being a writer as part of identity, affirming surgeries versus trying to preserve youth, transitioning into transness as opposed to into a woman, being attracted to masculinity rather than men, owning your skin and celebrating yourself, being an intimacy virgin, and getting lost in words. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/juno 2021-08-051h 04
Fifty Shades of Gender55. BEVERLY LITTLE THUNDER: Two-Spirit Lakota womanBeverly Little Thunder is an activist, community leader and teacher, and founder of a non profit organisation that provides a safe space for ceremony for Indigenous LBGTQIA people. Beverly uses she/her pronouns, and she is a Two-Spirit Lakota woman from the Standing Rock Band in North Dakota. Find out more about her story in this episode. We also talk about what the term Two-Spirit encompasses, how religious indoctrination led to Two-Spirit people being ostracised, the cultural and societal roles we assign masculinity and femininity to, how tradition has evolved with community needs, that you don't have to give...2021-07-2944 min
Fifty Shades of Gender54. LYNN KEISER: transgender womanLynn Keiser is a professional in technology and mentor to younger transgender people. Lynn's pronouns are she/her, and she identifies as a transgender woman. Find out what that means to Lynn in this episode. We also talk about how being trans can offer a unique perspective into human psychology, the evolution of relationships and attraction, facets of identity, leaping into the unknown, and doing as much – or as little – as you need to be happy. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/lynn 2021-07-2255 min
Fifty Shades of Gender53. LOR: intersex, non-binary, demiboy, bigenderLor is an entrepreneur, author and teacher and uses he/she pronouns. He is non-binary, and intersex – assigned female at birth but genetically male – and she is figuring things out when it comes to gender identities, currently working with the labels demiboy and bigender. Find out what that means to Lor in this episode. In addition to the aforementioned labels, Lor also talks about identifying as trans. She has since asked me to omit this label from the title. In Lor's words: "I've since been reflecting on this as I don't believe I should bend to societal pressure to label...2021-07-1554 min
Fifty Shades of Gender52. DEAN RASMUSSEN: transgender, trans man, trans-masculine, genderqueer, non-binary, pansexualDean is a Life Coach who is passionate about empowering the LGBTQ2S community. Dean uses he/they pronouns. He is a trans man, but they also resonate with the labels trans-masculine, genderqueer and non-binary. Find out what that means to Dean in this episode. We also talk about being a non-binary parent, separating the role of nurturer from gender, experiencing dysphoria in pregnancy, gender assumptions and how we are perceived, how testosterone can affect attraction, and the freedom that can come from trying out names and pronouns. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/dean 2021-07-0842 min
Fifty Shades of Gender51. J LAURENCE SARNO: trans manLaurence Sarno is a former entertainer and journalist who now runs a marketing communications consultancy. Laurence's pronouns are he/him. He generally describes himself as a trans man, but his joke about labels is that he's everything in LGBTQIA except the 'L' and the 'A'. Find out what that means to Laurence in this episode.. We also talk about being perceived as you are, a very speedy transition journey, privilege, what we can learn from unconventional relationship styles, embracing who you are, unpacking judgements, and becoming your most authentic self. CW: depression, suicide. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/laurence 2021-07-011h 04
Fifty Shades of Gender50. Reflections (part 2): discoveries so farIn this second Reflections episode, Katy interviews Esther as she reflects on further conversations she’s had with gender-diverse folks, what she’s learned about gender, as well as her own journey and how she and the podcast have evolved almost a year since the podcast started. We also talk about expectations, finding the essence of each conversation, the subtleties of language, intuition and setting intentions, awareness and facets of identity, assigned titles, smart business decisions, the discomfort of learning, and discovering ourselves as we go. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/reflections-2/ 2021-06-241h 15
Fifty Shades of Gender49. Being LGBTQIA+ in Higher Education (HE)This episode was created in collaboration with NEACO (Network for East Anglian Collaborative Outreach) and the University of East Anglia for Pride Month 2021. Kit Rackley (whom you may remember from episodes 1 and 12) and myself have a conversation with students Barney, Charlie, Jacob and Ro about their experiences being LGBTQIA+ in Higher Education. We also talk about fitting in boxes, breaking barriers, finding comfort in anonymity, redefining yourself, looking after your mental health, the importance of asking for help and support, finding yourself as well as your people, and being who you were meant to be. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com...2021-06-171h 01
Fifty Shades of Gender48. CARA WILDE: parent of a transgender teenCara Wilde is a neurodiverse channel, mystic and Empath. She has two children, one of whom is transgender. Find out more about Cara's journey in this episode. We also talk about questioning your gender and looking beyond body parts as a cis person, assumptions and misinformation about hormone/puberty blockers, supporting and empowering your child and watching them thrive, what it would be like if we were all free to explore gender, and why we should all question what's considered normal. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/cara 2021-06-1045 min
Fifty Shades of Gender47. HELEN BELCHER: woman with a trans historyHelen Belcher is an activist working to promote trans inclusion for more than a decade. Helen's pronouns are she/her, and she is a woman with a trans history. Find out what that means to Helen in this episode. Find out what that means to Helen in this episode. We also talk about the different faces of conversion therapy, losing your religion, being publicly trans in politics, systemic transphobia and holding the media accountable, how the bathroom argument is really about gender apartheid, voting for what we want rather than against what we don't want, and how knowing the...2021-06-0355 min
Fifty Shades of Gender46. CHARLIZE JAMIESON: transgender womanCharlize's pronouns are she/her, and she is a transgender woman. Find out what that means to Charlize in this episode. We also talk about the importance of community and local connections, owning who you are, society's obsession with looks, that it's never too late to be brave, how your path is unique rather than right or wrong, and that people don't need to change their minds to have a change of heart. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/charlize2021-05-2754 min
Fifty Shades of Gender45. ...: trans-androgynous, genderqueer, non-binary, abinary, maverique, bi/pan oriented aroace, multiply disabledWe were asked to take this episode down. Although this story is unique and there is of course no replacement, you can listen to other episodes from genderqueer, non-binary, maverique, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, aromantic and disabled folks on fiftyshadesofgender.com/podcast. You can also search by label on fiftyshadesofgender.com/episode-list.2021-05-2000 min
Fifty Shades of Gender44. TARA DAX: non-binaryTara Dax is a biologist, streamer, cosplayer and Trekkie. Tara's pronouns are they/them and they identify as non-binary. Find out what that means to Tara in this episode. As well as geeking out on Star Trek and conlangs (constructed languages), we dive deeper into masculine and feminine. We also talk about finding resonance in pronouns, meaning in a name and connection in a character, and they debunk certain gender arguments people assume are rooted in biology. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/tara 2021-05-1344 min
Fifty Shades of Gender43. SALLY GOLDNER: bi/pan trans introvert HSP womanSally Goldner AM is an educator, speaker, leadership consultant and life coach. Sally's pronouns are she/her, and she identifies as a bi/pan introvert & Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) trans woman. Find out what that means to Sally in this episode. We also talk about how our unique personality labels interact with each other, unlearning and unblocking ourselves, balancing the masculine and feminine in leadership by becoming better at receiving and listening, and breaking the binary by queering Tantra. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/sally 2021-05-0646 min
Fifty Shades of Gender42. EVEY WINTERS: transgender, transsexual womanEvey Winters is a transgender advocate, educator, and hot sauce addict. Evey's pronouns are she/her. She uses the labels transgender and transsexual woman, and also educates about both of these labels. Find out what that means to Evey in this episode. Find out what that means to Evey in this episode. We also talk about identity and how it forms, manhood and womanhood vs masculinity and femininity, metagender (which is what's between cisgender and transgender), learning vs education, how to have conversations about gender, and exploring the uniqueness of womanhood. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/evey 2021-04-2954 min
Fifty Shades of Gender41. HARRIS EDDIE HILL: trans non-binary, agender, trans-masculineHarris is a coach and LGBTQ+ advocate on a mission to educate the general population about gender identity. They're also the host of The Transection Podcast, the third season of which is airing on April 30th. Harris's pronouns are they/them or ey/em. They identify as trans non-binary, agender and trans-masculine. Find out what that means to Harris in this episode.We also talk about doing gender differently, how finding your labels can help you find your people, how much our culture revolves around our reproductive capabilities, finding an unexpected calling as an introvert, and how gender happens...2021-04-2249 min
Fifty Shades of Gender40. BELLA CASCARINI: trans womanBella's pronouns are she/her, and she is a trans woman – with more emphasis on the woman part than the trans part. Find out what that means to Bella in this episode. We also talk about what affects how we're perceived, how noticing small moments of genuine happiness can help us embrace our identity, finding a name that feels right, what settling into femininity can look like, how films and tv are problematic in hindsight, hurdles on the coming out journey, working through shame, trusting your gut, and accepting your light and your dark, to your bones. More on ww...2021-04-1551 min
Fifty Shades of Gender39. GENEVIEVE: trans non-binary, genderqueerGenevieve is a sex and relationship therapist (in training). Genevieve's pronouns are they/them. They say the easiest terms are non-binary and queer, and they definitely identify as trans as well. Find out what that means to Genevieve in this episode. We also talk about being born into activism, performing womanhood, reframing feminism, women's spaces vs LGBTQ spaces, how what's 'normal' is rigid and idealised when it comes to sex and relationships, teaching consent from a young age, and why we should all consider therapy. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/genevieve 2021-04-0832 min
Fifty Shades of Gender38. DEVI IRONY: non-binary, dominantDevi Irony is a dominant and sex worker, as well as an activist and educator in the kink and BDSM scene. Devi's pronouns are they/them, and they are a non-binary person. Find out what that means to Devi in this episode. We also talk about the freedom that can come from embracing a label, how certain body parts are not necessarily gender markers, societal conditioning and standards and playing with gender presentation, how gender fits into BDSM and kink, what 'sex work' can include, kink trends in times of a pandemic, and the importance of touch and human...2021-04-0149 min
Fifty Shades of Gender37. CHARLIE ORRISS: transgender FTMCharlie Orriss says he would love to be a mental health ambassador one day. Charlie's pronouns are he/him, and he identifies as an FTM (Female To Male) trans man. Find out what that means to Charlie in this episode. We also talk about labels as a protection as well as a hindrance, how gender and mental health go hand in hand, the therapeutic benefits of cosplay, and what Dissociative Identity Disorder can be like. CW: self-harm. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/charlie-orriss/ 2021-03-2524 min
Fifty Shades of Gender36. YAS NECATI: non-binaryYas is a journalist and writer based in London. Yas's pronouns are they/them, and they identify as non-binary. Find out what that means to Yas in this episode. We also talk about detaching activities from gender, pre-colonial gender identities, the importance of writing a will and letter of wishes, why it is essential for public health policy to accurately record trans and non-binary gender identities on death certificates (which is currently not possible), and what we CAN do to respect and honour a person's gender identity after they have passed away. CW: death, suicide. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender...2021-03-1832 min
Fifty Shades of Gender35. JARETH NEBULA: transgender, agenderflux, demiboy, alienJareth is a multifaceted transgender creature who dabbles in multiple types of artistic expression and crafting, and is also a professional model. Jareth's pronouns are he/him. He is transgender and also likes to use the labels agenderflux, demiboy and alien. Find out what that means to Jareth in this episode. We also talk about the nuances of gender labels, the difference between gender identity and gender expression, modelling before and after coming out as transgender, what we've made masculine and feminine mean, and turning yourself into a walking piece of art. CW: extreme body modification, surgery. More on...2021-03-1142 min
Fifty Shades of Gender34. CASSIAN LODGE: non-binary, agenderCassian's pronouns are they/them and they identify as non-binary and agender. Find out what that means to Cassian in this episode. Cassian started the Gender Census in 2011 and they talk about their main learnings and insights in the nine years of running it. We also talk about finding gender inside (or not), navigating public toilets, passion and experience versus education, the overlap between gender identity and sexual orientation, finding common ground where there appears to only be contradiction and conflict, and microactivism; how small actions can have a big impact. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/cassian 2021-03-041h 06
Fifty Shades of Gender33. RACHEL LANGE: non-binary, queer, autisticRachel Lange is a parent, freelance writer and artist, as well as editor of QueerPGH, a community-led publication out of Pittsburgh. Rachel loves to hear they/them pronouns, but is not offended by she or he if they are well-intended. They are a non-binary queer autistic person. Find out what that means to Rachel in this episode. We also talk about questioning everything and looking at things differently, being gender non-conforming in different cultures, freeing yourself from gender roles, being a non-binary parent, and giving yourself permission to do things the way you want. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com...2021-02-2535 min
Fifty Shades of Gender32. CAMERON: female but trans, trans-feminineCameron is a Doctor of Computer Science and University Lecturer. Cameron's pronouns are she/her, and she is a newly discovered woman. She refers to herself as female but trans. Find out what that means to Cameron in this episode. We also talk about gender roles in society and relationships, how life has changed after coming out only a month before this conversation took place, and the role of loss in embracing your true self. CW: abuse, death. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/cameron 2021-02-1830 min
Fifty Shades of Gender31. CN LESTER: transCN Lester is a musician, writer, researcher, queer/trans/feminist activist, and author of the book Trans Like Me. CN's pronouns are they/them, and they are a trans person. Find out what that means to CN in this episode. We also talk about the importance of strategy when it comes to gender education, effects of testosterone on the singing voice, books, and the queer history of opera. CW: castration. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/cn 2021-02-1137 min
Fifty Shades of Gender30. CASSIE BRIGHTER: Latina woman of trans experienceCassie is a writer and public speaker focusing on intersectionality and social justice. She's the founder of Empowered Trans Woman and Smart Sluts, a sex-positive community of women. Cassie's pronouns are she/her, and she is a Latina woman of trans experience. Find out what that means to Cassie in this episode. We also talk about the subtleties and challenges of inclusive language, internalised transphobia, being the best of both worlds, toxic masculinity as a cult, sex positivity and freeing ourselves from shame, female anatomy, consent, and leaving a legacy. CW: suicide, death, rape. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender...2021-02-041h 03
Fifty Shades of Gender29. JOE: femme boy, non-binary, transJoe is an educator and trainer on improving inclusivity in workplaces and schools at the Norfolk LGBT+ Project, and he's also an artist running a small business as an illustrator. Joe's pronouns are he/him, and he identifies as a femme boy, non-binary, and trans. Find out what that means to Joe in this episode. We also talk about socialisation and reinforcing gender stereotypes, performing gender versus living gender, medical versus social transitioning, mental health struggles, how being willing to get it wrong is better than staying silent when it comes to supporting people, and the benefits of s...2021-01-2859 min
Fifty Shades of Gender28. RACHEL LAWSON: no gender labels, thank you very muchRachel is a keen traveller and regular speaker at tech events, usually on the subject of community building. Rachel's pronouns are she/her, and she's not fond of using gender labels for herself. In her words, she is a woman and identifies as a motorcyclist, a technologist, and many other things. Find out what that means to Rachel in this episode. We also talk about being something versus identifying as something, coming out at work, riding a motorbike, travelling solo, and how safety is a relative thing. To clarify some terminology that is used in the episode: T is...2021-01-2144 min
Fifty Shades of Gender27. RAY: binary transgender man, FTM, gayRay's pronouns are he/him, and he identifies as a binary transgender man, who also happens to be gay. Find out what that means to Ray in this episode. We also talk about how feminism includes everyone, why some men need reproductive health care, the difference between male and female banter, approaching the gender journey from a neurodivergent perspective, and the distinction between using labels as part of your identity versus part of your journey or experience. CW: suicide, addiction. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/ray 2021-01-1430 min
Fifty Shades of Gender26. ANGUS BROWN (ANNIE): transgender woman, butch lesbianAngus Brown (or Annie to her close friends) is a musician and performance poet whose writing is heavily influenced by themes of gender, sexuality and mental health. Angus's pronouns are she/her and she identifies as as a transgender woman and butch lesbian. Find out what that means to Angus in this episode. We also talk about the balance of masculinity and femininity, the evolution of the word ‘lesbian’, that labels can resonate whatever their original meaning, how gender identity influences self-expression, navigating being a teenager again, sexuality and attraction, and that moving from one side of the line of androgyny...2021-01-0732 min
Fifty Shades of Gender25. Reflections (part 1): discoveries so farThis is another episode that’s different from the usual format. We are reversing roles, so Katy is interviewing Esther as she reflects on conversations she's had with gender-diverse folks, what she's learned about gender, as well as her own journey and how she evolved through it. We talk about what it means to Esther to be cisgender, what gender diversity (or a lack thereof) was like growing up, how the podcast is a way of expressing her identity, recovering perfectionism, Vulcan philosophy, and that in the end, we are all more alike than different. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/re...2020-12-311h 05
Fifty Shades of Gender24. ALF RAVN: agender, transgender, non-binaryAlf is a Danish tiny-house-living minimalist training to become a circus artist. Alf's pronouns are they/them. They are transgender and identifiy as agender and non-binary. Find out what that means to Alf in this episode. We also talk about observing gender from a distance, the obstacles on their transition journey, hormone imbalances and the effects they can have, and asking the question ‘what makes a man a man, and a woman a woman?’ More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/alf 2020-12-2441 min
Fifty Shades of Gender23. ROBIN RICE: parent of a transgender adultRobin Rice is an internationally published author, social change artist and mentor to leaders. Robin uses she/her pronouns and considers herself a cisgender woman. She is the mother of two sons, one of whom is transgender, and runs a project called Your Holiday Mom, which is all about offering LGBTQ youth a loving mother's support between Thanksgiving and New Year's Day. If you’d like to offer support, you can comment on YourHolidayMom.com and if you’re LGBTQ+ and are struggling with family dynamics or loneliness at this time of year especially, it’s a wonderful place to find hope...2020-12-1721 min
Fifty Shades of Gender22. HANNAH WATSON: transgenderHannah's pronouns are she/her, and she doesn’t mind they/them. She is transgender, and although not fond of labels, the terms non-binary and asexual semi-resonate with her as well. Find out what that means to Hannah in this episode. We also talk about gender identity versus biology versus sexuality, to what degree gender defines you, why the term 'gender confirmation surgery' is a better term than 'gender reassignment surgery' and 'sex change’, conforming to society’s norms, and 'unconventional' types of love, attraction, intimacy and relationships. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/hannah 2020-12-1036 min
Fifty Shades of Gender21. FELIX: non-binary, transgender, queerFelix is a figure skater and university student, who plans to go into teaching. Felix's pronouns are they/them. They are non-binary transgender and describe their sexuality as queer. We also talk about the difficulty with fitting in boxes, having to perform gender, how body and identity are different, the binariness in teaching and sports, and how you can figure out your gender at any age. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/felix 2020-12-0316 min
Fifty Shades of Gender20. ELA XORA: transgender woman, anti Intersex Genital Mutilation activistEla is an artist from London, who epicentres her work on classics, binarism and horses. Ela's pronouns are she/her or they/them. She identifies as a transgender woman and is an anti Intersex Genital Mutilation activist. Find out what that means to Ela in this episode. We also talk about the roots of the word hermaphrodite, how the gender-critical movement is far from new, Hippocrates as a gender critical pioneer, the blatant suppression and erasure of transgender and intersex gods – and human beings – in art history and modern museums, and how history is starting to be unmasked. Please be aware...2020-11-2652 min
Fifty Shades of Gender19. How to be a better gender-diverse allyThis is a slightly different episode than usual. It’s Transgender Awareness Week this week, and Esther has a conversation with two cisgender LGBTIQA+ people; Tiga-Rose, an intimacy coach and sex therapist in training, and Ophelia, an historian, archivist and conservator, under the watchful eye (or ear) of project co-creator Katy Jon Went, who is transgender and non-binary, about how to be a better gender-diverse ally. We also talk about how to introduce pronouns into conversations and what to do if we get it wrong, the power of names and their importance in identity, ignorance versus privilege when it comes to wa...2020-11-1952 min
Fifty Shades of Gender18. SOPHIE JAMES: transsexual, transvestiteSophie is a forty-something married parent of three kids and somewhere on the trans spectrum. Sophie's pronouns are she/her. She uses the words transsexual and transvestite of herself, but considers herself to be a work in progress and very much Sophie. Find out what that means to her in this episode. We also talk about finding the balance in family dynamics, having two different personas, and being yourself no matter what labels you use. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/sophie 2020-11-0522 min
Fifty Shades of Gender17. SAM BETTENS: transgender manSam Bettens is a musician and lead vocalist of the Belgian band K's Choice (founded in 1992) and also of new Belgian electropop band Rex Rebel. Sam's pronouns are he/him, and he identifies as a transgender man. Find out what that means to Sam in this episode. We also talk about music and creative expression, self-identifying, the benefits of ageing, family and relationships, hormone therapy, body image, self-acceptance and being proud of who you are, and finding your voice in a whole new way. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/sam 2020-10-2943 min
Fifty Shades of Gender16. KATY JON WENT: transgender, non-binary, asexualKaty Jon Went is a public speaker and educator on gender, identity, sexuality, mental health, human rights, diversity and inclusion. Katy's pronouns are they/them or she/her. They are transgender and identify as non-binary and asexual. Find out what that means to Katy in this episode. We also talk about adolescence and development, religion, conversion therapy, crossdressing, being outed, depression, aesthetics, sex workshops, hormone therapy, being a reluctant transsexual, gender reassignment surgery, going on a journey towards authenticity, and freedom of expression. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/katy 2020-10-221h 11
Fifty Shades of Gender15. KYL MYERS: genderqueer woman, gender-creative parentKyl Myers is a sociologist, educator, and globally recognized advocate of gender creative parenting. Kyl's pronouns are they/them or she/her. They identify as a genderqueer woman and are a gender-creative parent. Find out what that means to Kyl in this episode. We also talk about being raised with conventional gender roles, trying on different gender labels and pronouns, how names fit or not, what it’s like to bring up a child without gender expectations, and the start of a gender revolution. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/kyl 2020-10-1537 min
Fifty Shades of Gender14. ALLAN D. HUNTER: genderqueer, gender invertAllan came out in 1980 as an identity he distilled on his own, as nothing of the sort was being discussed anywhere that he could find. As for pronouns, Allan says "they are all wrong and I'm not picky”. He now identifies as genderqueer and gender invert. Find out what that means to Allan in this episode. We also talk about sexual orientation versus gender identity, feminism, double standards, gender expectations, finding people like yourself, and listening better to stories that are not like our own. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/allan 2020-10-0839 min
Fifty Shades of Gender13. THEO WILL (TW) McKENNA: genderfluid, non-binary, asexual, grayromantic lesbianTheo is an aspiring queer writer and lover of memes and video games. Theo's pronouns are they/them (or fae/faer online) and they identify as genderfluid, non-binary, asexual, and a grayromantic lesbian. Find out what that means to Theo in this episode. We also talk about pronouns and neopronouns, the asexuality scale, the difference between sexual attraction and romantic attraction, platonic crushes, queerplatonic relationships (QPRs) and boundaries. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/theo 2020-10-0143 min
Fifty Shades of Gender12. KIT RACKLEY #2: non-binary, trans-feminine, demigirl, genderfluidKit is an ex-high school teacher and a passionate educator, blogger, author and performer – focusing on environmental and LGBT+ issues. Kit’s pronouns are they/them, and they identify as non-binary, trans-feminine, demigirl and genderfluid. Find out what that means to Kit in this episode. We also talk about football, privilege, teaching, altruism, politics, the NHS, finding common ground in unexpected places, and what it’s been like being publicly and visibly trans. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/kit-2 2020-09-2451 min
Fifty Shades of Gender11. CHARLIE CAINE: gay trans manCharlie Caine is a theatre composer, lyricist and LGBT+ and political activist. Charlie's pronouns are he/him and he identifies as a gay trans man. Find out what that means to Charlie in this episode. We also talk about gender identity & expression vs sexual orientation, gender roles, transitioning, dysphoria, gender identity clinic (GIC) waiting lists, trans visibility and activism, and how there is no such thing as a universal trans experience. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/charlie 2020-09-1733 min
Fifty Shades of Gender10. BONNIE BAKENEKO: trans-masculine, non-binary, graysexualBonnie is a multimedia artist working with themes of gender, body horror, psychosexuality and trauma. Bonnie's pronouns are he/him or they/them and he identifies as trans-masculine, non-binary and graysexual. Find out what that means to Bonnie in this episode. We also talk about Dissociative Identity Disorder or DID (previously called Multiple Personality Disorder or MPD), gender dysphoria, body dysmorphia, drag, self-expression, body autonomy, radical tenderness and vulnerability, choosing kindness, being a flawed being rather than good or bad, spoon theory, and how the body could be considered a forest rather than a temple. Please be aware that throughout this ep...2020-09-1045 min
Fifty Shades of Gender9. ALYS WILFRED EARL #2: trans-masculine, non-binary, genderfluidAlys Wilfred (or Fred, for short) is a writer, storyteller and folklorist. This is our second conversation, just over 20 months after our first conversation in December 2018, which was episode two of the podcast. Fred's pronouns are still they/them or xie/xir (or he/him if you insist), and they identify as trans-masculine, non-binary and genderfluid. We talk about the minor and major effects of testosterone (or T) injections including voice changes and mental health, body dysmorphia versus gender dysphoria, recovering from top surgery and being topless, options for bottom surgery (phalloplasty versus metoidioplasty or meta for short), and why...2020-09-0331 min
Fifty Shades of Gender8. MEL: non-binary, asexual, aromanticFor personal reasons, Mel asked us to take her episode down until further notice. We have honoured her request, and may do a follow-up episode some time. If so, we will update the episode page with the details and add the details here as well. Although Mel's story is unique and there is of course no replacement, you can listen to other episodes from non-binary, asexual and aromantic folks on fiftyshadesofgender.com/podcast. You can also search by label on fiftyshadesofgender.com/episode-list.2020-08-2700 min
Fifty Shades of Gender7. ANGE: parent of a transgender childFor personal reasons, Ange asked us to take her episode down, so we have honoured her request. Although Ange's story is unique and there is of course no replacement, you can listen to other episodes from parents of transgender and non-binary children and adults on fiftyshadesofgender.com/podcast, and you can find an article on the blog called 'Is your partner, child, parent or friend transitioning, or questioning their gender?' with all of these episodes to listen to. You can also search by label on in the episode list.2020-08-2001 min
Fifty Shades of Gender6. SOPHIA WISE ONE: gender-transcendentSophia is a speaker, singer, mentor, transformational storyteller, visionary, and prayer of prayers. She is also the host of several podcasts, including “Vagina Talks with Sophia Wise One”, “Medicine Caller”, and “Temple Erotica: Stories of Sacred Sexuality”. Sophia identifies as gender-transcendent and welcomes all pronouns. Find out what that means to Sophia in this episode. We also talk about the physical experience, spirituality, vibration and energy, the divine feminine, the female body, menstruation, Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD), sex, and embodying the genital energy of both sexes. We talk about gender as a role, archetype or presentation, and also conditioning, oppression of the feminine...2020-08-1347 min
Fifty Shades of Gender5. SARAH CORKE: intersex, non-binarySarah's pronouns are she/her or they/them. She found out she was intersex at 19 and subsequently got involved with local charity Evolve, which supports transgender, genderqueer, gender-questioning and intersex kids and young adults. Sarah also identifies as non-binary. Find out what that means to her in this episode. We also talk about Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome (AIS), Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT), gonadectomy surgery, Queer Britain, being different and getting attention, being queer and bisexual, Differences in Sexual Development (DSD) and Intersex Genital Mutilation (IGM). More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/sarah 2020-08-0626 min
Fifty Shades of Gender4. EDALIA DAY: transgender, non-binaryEdalia Day is a spoken word artist, video designer and theatre maker. Edalia's pronouns are they/them. They are transgender and identifiy as non-binary. Find out what that means to Edalia in this episode. We also talk about acting, clothes, the tv show The Good Place, the gender binary, support groups, visibility and the term ‘passing’, gender options on forms, Hamlet, free speech, representation of trans people in the media and in comedy, and films like Silence of the Lambs and Ace Ventura. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/edalia 2020-07-3049 min
Fifty Shades of Gender3. HARRI ELOUISE NELLAR: trans-feminine, non-binaryHarri Elouise was a couple of years into their gender journey when we recorded this conversation in January 2019. Harri’s pronouns are they/them, and they identify as trans-feminine and non-binary. Find out what that means to Harri in this episode. We also talk about the difference between gender identity/expression and sex, gender clinics and the medical transition process, use of singular ’they’ and getting pronouns right, coming out to family, friendships, being a shy kid, and fitting in versus belonging. More on http://www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/harri/2020-07-2357 min
Fifty Shades of Gender2. ALYS WILFRED EARL: trans-masculine, non-binary, genderfluidAlys Wilfred (or Fred, for short) is a writer, storyteller and folklorist who specialises in orality, and medieval and early modern textual cultures. Fred's pronouns are they/them or xe/xir and they identify as trans-masculine, non-binary and genderfluid. Find out what that means to them in this episode. We also talk about parenting, transitioning, top surgery, hormone therapy (Testosterone or T for short) and the effects on the body, adolescence, binding, bisexuality, relationship, fertility, writing, storytelling and pronouns. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/alys-wilfred 2020-07-1637 min
Fifty Shades of Gender1. KIT RACKLEY: genderfluid, trans-feminine, non-binary, demigirlKit Rackley is an ex-Geography high school teacher, now working as an education and program officer for a non-profit that promotes and facilitates collaboration between the climate and energy sectors. Kit’s pronouns are they/them, and they identify as genderfluid, trans-feminine, non-binary and demigirl. Find out what that means to Kit in this episode. We also talk about labels, gender presentation, parenting roles, the journey of gender discovery, USA thrift stores, San Francisco, Harry Potter, feminism and privilege. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/kit/2020-06-2945 min
Into the Woods with Holly Worton340 Esther Lemmens ~ How to Connect With Your Body's Innate Wisdom I'm excited to introduce today's guest, Esther Lemmens. You may remember her from episode 284, when we talked about How to Express Yourself and Live a Purpose Driven Life. Today's topic is all about body wisdom, which is something that I've personally struggled to connect with over the years. About Esther Lemmens Esther is still a visual arts lover, book and word addict, course junkie, ethical eco-warrior, organic foodie, green tea connoisseur, holistic health geek, professional pedant and crazy cat lady, with a zest for life! Her motto is...2020-01-2744 min
Into the Woods with Holly WortonEsther Lemmens ~ How to Express Yourself and Live a Purpose Driven Life Today's Guest I'm excited to introduce today's guest, Esther Lemmens. Esther is a visual arts lover, book and word addict, course junkie, ethical eco-warrior, organic foodie, green tea connoisseur, holistic health geek, professional pedant and crazy cat lady, with a zest for life! She’s also a Visual Brand Consultant and Graphic Designer with almost 20 years' experience in Design and Creative Artworking (the technical and detailed process of preparing documents for print), and she helps unconventional entrepreneurs make their branding more recognisable and memorable, so that they attract more of their ide...2018-12-3155 min