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The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastAre you feeling all the feelings?In this episode, we explore why silencing our emotions is never worth the cost.[0.42] Chelle reads the storybook [1.12] Evie shares the tool, Accessing Self[3.00] Outro This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michellemcquaid.substack.com2025-08-0503 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastWhat if you're already enough?In this episode, we explore the question: When, where and with who, did you start believing your looks determined your worth?[0.42] Chelle reads the storybook [1.12] Evie shares the tool, Wood Choppers Breath. [3.14] Outro This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit michellemcquaid.substack.com2025-07-2903 min
Yellow Shelf PodcastThe Good Girl Game Changers Podcast, host Dr Michelle McQuaid The Good Girl Game Changers Podcast, co-hosted by Dr Michelle McQuaid and Evie Wright, is focused on helping women dismantle limiting “good girl” beliefs—people‑pleasing, perfectionism, and self‑sacrifice—using evidence‑based tools and personal insight. A podcast show determined to helpwomen break free of their ‘good girl’ beliefs with practical evidence-based tools to embody their unique selves. To connect with Michelle ... https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-good-girl-game-changers-podcast/id1750227 https://michellemcquaid.substack.com/podcast https://www.michellemcquaid.com/podcast/ 2025-07-1705 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastThe conversation we all need to be havingDo you find yourself feeling increasingly isolated despite being surrounded by people? How many opportunities for connection do you miss each day? What if the antidote to our social disconnection was as simple as pausing to notice the humanity in the stranger beside you?[02:02] Mo shares her concept of "rewilding" instead of retiring in her 70s.[07:38] Chelle and Mo discuss how they began huddling together when she moved to Toronto.[11:59] Mo introduces the concept of a "conversation of possibility".[19:09] Mo shares four prompts for starting conversations of possibility.[25:16] Mo...2025-05-0638 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastWhat happens when you snap?When you micromanage your team, do you explain it away as your "controlling part" without making amends? When you snap at a friend, do you blame it on your "defensive part" and move on? Or do you find ways to both honor these parts of you while taking responsibility for how they affect others?[02:47] Chelle shares ah-ha #1 about Gabby's four-step check-in process for connecting with parts[10.21] Evie explains the "Notice, Know, Need" to help you get to know your parts better.[19:50] Chelle shares ah-ha #2 about Gabby's important reminder that we need to take accountability for...2025-04-2948 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastNext time you're triggered try thisNext time you're triggered try thisLISTEN NOW: 4 steps to turn reactivity into thoughtful responsesWhen was the last time you felt stretched so thin you could snap? Maybe someone dismissed your hard work with a casual criticism? Or perhaps one tiny detail fell through and suddenly you heard yourself unleashing a torrent of blame that didn't even sound like you?[0:52]: Chelle provides a quick recap of Internal Family Systems for listeners[4:11]: Gabby explains how protection mechanisms like perfectionism and control develop as survival strategies in childhood.[7:34...2025-04-2221 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastAre you burning bridges or building them?When was the last time you felt tempted to walk away from someone in your community who thinks differently than you? Maybe they have opposing political views, communicate in ways that frustrate you, or prioritize values that don't align with yours. In a world that feels increasingly polarized, it's tempting to believe that drawing hard lines and protecting our territory is the only way forward.[2:09] Chelle recaps Episode 13 with Sophia Fifner, President/CEO of Columbus Metropolitan Club who drives bold conversations and strengthens civic communities. [4:03] Chelle shares ah-ha #1 on Sophia's insight that activism is not...2025-04-1547 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastDo you need a virtual huddle?In a world that often pits women against each other, this workshop offered a radical alternative: women huddling together, uplifting one another. A huddle is a space where women energize each other simply by being together—where competition softens into collaboration, isolation turns into connection, and individual challenges are met with collective strength.In this evidence-based session, we explored how to:✨ Ground & gather – Clear your energy before entering a huddle so you can show up grounded and fully yourself.✨ Ask extraordinary questions – Turn everyday questions into ones that invite deeper reflection and connec...2025-04-1152 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastWho's walking toward change with you?Do you feel called to make a difference but unsure where to begin? Have you held back from getting involved with community groups because you don’t fit the loud, outspoken image of what an “activist” is supposed to be? In a world that feels increasingly fractured, finding authentic ways to engage has never mattered more.[0:02] Chelle introduces Sophia Fifner, author of The Advocate Next Door and president and CEO of the Columbus Metropolitan Club. [2:15] Sophia shares a"uniquely you" moment. [5:24] Sophia explains what fuels her work - her personal experience as a survivor of sexual...2025-04-0842 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastAre you stuck in reactivity?How are you showing up in your most important relationships? We all have moments where the people we love the most get the worst version of us. Why? Because when things feel hard, our protective parts often leap into action. [1:59] Chelle recaps Episode 11 with Anna Milaeva, certified transformational coach and co-founder of FINO. [3:23] Chelle shares ah-ha #1 on Anna's explanation of Internal Family Systems (IFS) as a model of human transformation and healing.[6:35] Evie shares 'Uniquely You' tool - The Breath to Self - a gentle breathing technique to access self energy without forcing...2025-03-3147 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastHow do you deal with disagreements?What do you do when a conversation gets uncomfortable? When someone’s perspective challenges yours, do you lean in, get defensive or shut down? It’s easy to retreat into habits of self-protection, but these moments don’t have to push us apart — they can be opportunities for deeper understanding, growth, and connection when we create a space of compassion for ourselves and each other.[0:57] Chelle introduces Anna Milaeva, certified transformational coach and internal family systems practitioner who helps leaders, teams and organizations bridge deep inner work with practical execution.[2:39] Anna shares a "uniquely you" moment a...2025-03-2444 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastDo you uplift others?Are you intentional about whose encouragement and support you seek out? Do you notice yourself or the women in your life silence achievements and downplay success to avoid seeming ‘boastful’? Is your instinct to compete and outshine, or to uplift and support other women?[2:06] Chelle and Evie recap Episode 9 with Kasey Edwards, columnist and bestselling author of ten books, including her latest Goodbye Good Girl, Hello Me!. [4:23] Evie shares ah-ha #1 on Kasey's "Critic Card" tool she shared which helps us filter criticism. [7:40] Chelle explains the 'Uniquely You' tool - The Cheer Squad Card - to...2025-03-1737 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastHow do you deal with criticism?Do you feel your cheeks burn with shame and your stomach clench with humiliation when someone criticizes you? Does the fear of other people’s judgment keep you from sharing your ideas at work or in your community? Do you long to put yourself out there but worry that people will think you’re getting too big for your boots?[1:27] Chelle introduces Kasey Edwards, Australian columnist and bestselling author.[1:46] Kasey shares a ‘good girl’ moment dealing with the launch of her new book "Goodbye Good Girl, Hello Me!" [3:11] Kasey introduces the ‘Fig Jam List’ techn...2025-03-1037 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastDo you feel like you're 'too much'?By Evie WrightToday, I turn 30.As I sit here at the edge of a new decade, I find myself reflecting on the journey that brought me here.Five years ago, I was at my lowest. Not just because of my circumstances, though they were heavy - losing my job, being alone in a new state, watching the world shut down around me as COVID19 started - but because I didn’t know me. I had spent years contorting myself into someone more acceptable, more agreeable, more “fine.” I smiled when I want...2025-03-0602 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastHow do you show up to a huddle?When you gather in a group, do you arrive anxious and disconnected? Are you stuck in your head and unable to truly show up for the collective experience? Do you struggle to trust the natural flow of energy that emerges when people come together?[2:10] Chelle recaps Episode 7 with Tina Bruce, intuitive mentor, co-founder of Soul Wander retreats and author of Big Little Breath[3:57] Chelle shares ah-ha #1 on understanding how perfectionism and control disrupt natural flow and connection in huddles. [7:40] Evie guides listeners through the 'Uniquely You' tool - Shiatsu Swings. A practice to...2025-03-0338 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastCan you lead without being perfect?Are you feeling the call to bring women together in a ‘huddle’? Do you worry that you first need to have everything perfectly figured out? Does the thought of holding space for others leave you feeling overwhelmed?[0:57] Chelle introduces Tina Bruce, intuitive mentor, author and co-founder of Soul Wander retreats. [1:55] Tina shares a recent experience with her "good girl" being triggered by criticism. [5:12] Tina and Chelle discuss their shared experience in Nepal and why they chose to start the conversation there. [18:54] Tina discusses accessing the subtle body and how she works with...2025-02-2449 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastDo you need help saying "no"?How many times this week have you agreed to do something you didn't want to do? Are you drowning in 'shoulds' while your own priorities get pushed aside? Does the thought of saying 'no' fill you with anxiety? [2:38] Chelle recaps the previous episode with Lindsey Godwin, Molly McGuigan, and Miriam Novotny co-authors of: Ditch The Ditty: Doing What Matters Instead of Doing It All. [3:31] Chelle shares her first a-ha moment about understanding what a "ditty" is and the importance of ditching them using the 4-Ds framework.[8:08] Evie introduces the "Do-You-Really?" mirror tool for supporting others...2025-02-1734 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastWhy do we keep saying yes?Do you exhaust yourself being the office superhero who can't say no? Are you the go-to person for tasks nobody else wants? Do you find yourself organizing the office party, managing the school fundraiser, and hosting family gatherings – all while secretly wishing someone else would step up?[01:38] Chelle introduces guests Lindsey Godwin, Molly McGuigan, and Miriam Novotny, authors of the new book, "Ditch the Ditty".[02:00] Molly shares the origin story of "Ditch the Ditty".[04:35] Miriam explains the different categories of tasks: duties, deeds, delights, and ditties[06:13] The team introduce their decision tr...2025-02-1042 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastHave you lost who you've dreamt of being?Have you been taken by surprise to discover just how deeply society’s ‘good girl’ expectations shapes your choices? Do you find yourself wondering how these beliefs took hold, no matter how free-spirited your childhood may have been? [0:02] Chelle introduces the podcast and Evie Wright, co-author of 'The Perfectly Imperfect Women's Journal'. [1:56] Evie shares her compelling journey from paramedic to burnout, describing her transition from Queensland to Melbourne and finding her path in yoga and wellbeing work.[6:04] Evie recalls growing up on a commune, describing a childhood filled with nature and freedom, while reflec...2025-02-0342 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastIs being 'good' costing you too much?Do you remember the first time you learned you needed to be "good" to be loved? Perhaps it was a gold star for sitting quietly, or praise for putting others first, or the silent treatment when you spoke up too loudly. For Chelle, it was a little golden book that cost just 40 cents at the supermarket checkout - a book that would shape how she saw herself for decades to come.[1:04] Evie introduces Dr. Chelle McQuaid and their upcoming books: "The Perfectly Imperfect Little Girl" and "The Perfectly Imperfect Women's Journal" launching February 2025.[1:46] Chelle shares...2025-01-2755 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastDo you know how to huddle?When it comes to connecting with others, do you know exactly who's in your huddle and how they support different areas of your life? Have you mastered the art of making clear asks when you need their help? Or do you tend to struggle to nurture the relationships you need?[1:51] Chelle recaps Episode 1 with Brooke Baldwin, former CNN anchor and author of "Huddle: How Women Unlock Their Collective Power."[2:43] Chelle shares Aha #1: The fundamental need we all have to be part of huddles.[8:28] Evie introduces the tool "Map Your Huddle" to help us...2025-01-2033 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastDo you need a huddle to break free?Do you yearn for meaningful connections beyond quick coffee catch-ups and surface-level networking? Are you surrounded by women in your daily life - at work, in your neighborhood, or through your children - yet missing those deeper bonds of mutual support? Do you dream of having a powerful circle of women to celebrate your wins, lift you through challenges, and inspire your growth?[0:57] Chelle introduces Brooke Baldwin, former CNN anchor and author of Huddle: How Women Unlock Their Collective Power.[2:12] Brooke discusses the vulnerability and courage required to publish her Vanity Fair essay.[3:11] Brooke shares...2025-01-1340 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastWho helps you stay true to yourself?When something triggers your perfectionism or people-pleasing, who helps you stay true to yourself? Do you have role models who show you what authentically pursuing your dreams looks like? Are there people in your life who celebrate rather than judge when you step outside society's 'good girl' expectations?[3.00] Chelle announces how tools and resources work together to help us stay true to ourselves.[3.41] Evie explores how understanding our response to triggers - whether rushing to please others or shutting down - is crucial for breaking free from conditioning. She introduces "The Perfectly Imperfect Women's Journal"...2024-12-1620 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastBreaking free from our 'good girl' beliefsDo you ever feel like you're constantly juggling expectations - both your own and others' - of who you're supposed to be and how you're supposed to show up in the world? Maybe you've been labeled as "too much" or "not enough." Perhaps you've found yourself exhausted from striving for an impossible standard of perfection or silencing your own needs to please others. If any of this resonates, you're not alone. Over the past year, we've been on a research journey to understand how women navigate the ‘good girl’ expectations that often stop us from being our true selves.2024-12-0940 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastWhat's holding you back?When fear shows up in your life, how do you typically respond? Do you stay safely within your comfort zone to avoid any risk of failure? Or have you learned to make peace with your fear and take courageous action anyway?[1.55] Chelle shares her first a-ha about normalizing fear and regulating fear response. [8.38] Evie introduces three powerful questions to check if fear is keeping us too safe.[13.04] Chelle shares her second a-ha about courage being a developable skill. [17.00] Evie introduces Margie's tool: "How much life are you willing to give up?" 2024-12-0230 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastDo you have a courage gap?Do you find yourself playing it safe to keep others happy? Does the thought of disappointing people fill you with dread? What if your desire to be ‘good’ is actually stopping you from being great?[0:54] Chelle introduces Dr. Margie Warrell, bestselling author and leadership advisor who helps organizations build cultures of courage.[1:50] Margie shares a personal story about times she found it hard to break free of good girl expectations.[7:12] Margie and Chelle discuss learning to disappoint people and the challenge of saying "no."[13.57] Margie helps us understand how fear lives in t...2024-11-2541 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastAre you over functioning?Do you find yourself constantly pushing to achieve more? Are you always trying to perfect everything you do? Or have you learned to sometimes put down the weight of endless ambition and just be present in your body?[1:45] Chelle & Evie recap their conversation with Nahid de Belgeonne from Episode #23, introducing her as the "nervous system whisperer".[2.44] Chelle shares her first a-ha: We're not a brain with a body, we're a body with a brain.[5:12] Evie gives the option of Nahid's tool of the 6:6 breath and an untimed breathing practice focused on gentle exhale...2024-11-1826 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastAre you protecting everyone but yourself?Do you exhaust yourself trying to protect everyone else's wellbeing while ignoring your own needs? Have you become so skilled at silencing your body's signals that you only notice them when you're completely depleted? What if your nervous system is desperately trying to tell you something that could free you from these depleting patterns of self-sacrifice?[0:03] Chelle introduces the Good Girl Game Changer podcast and shares a uniquely you moment about protecting others.[0.59] Chelle introduces Nahid de Belgeonne, author and somatic movement educator, specializing in guiding clients through burnout and anxiety.[2:05] Nahid shares...2024-11-1144 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastAre you stuck in the past?Does your perfectionist part tend to micro-manage others at work? Or does your people-pleasing part rush to control your family dynamics? While these protective parts of you have good intentions, they're often stuck in outdated strategies that no longer serve you or others well. But how can you ask them to stand down?[2.06] Chelle & Evie recap Episode 20 with Dr. Tori Olds who shared Internal Family Systems (IFS) tools to help us strengthen our self-leadership and the coaching session with Evie in Episode 21 where we saw some of those tools in action.[5.30] Chelle coaches Evie through...2024-11-0440 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastDo you trust your Self?What if those ‘good girl’ parts of you that seem stuck in old patterns - like perfectionism, people-pleasing, and protecting others - are actually trying to keep you safe? And what might change if you could help them trust that you're now capable of responding to life’s challenges in healthier ways?[0.43] Chelle introduces Dr. Tori Olds, psychologist and co-founder of Deep Eddy Psychotherapy.[1.15] Chelle summarises the content we covered in the conversation with Tori in Part 1 and Tori helps us reconnect to the ideas and tools that were shared.[4.52] Tori shares some furthe...2024-10-2842 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastHow do you find your Self?When have you led with curiosity, compassion, clarity and calm? How have you shown up to challenging situations with courage, creativity, confidence, and connection? When your Self - with a capital S as identified in Internal Family Systems (IFS) practices - is present, what makes this wiser and kinder state possible?[2.27] Chelle recaps episode #19 with Dr. Tori Olds where she introduced us to Internal Family Systems (IFS) and a set of tools to help us strengthen our self-leadership.[4.51] Chelle shares Ah-ha #1 from Tori which is we all have a Self, which is our wisest and...2024-10-2142 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastCan you be your wisest and kindest Self?How does it feel when you’re the wisest and kindest version of yourself? What impact does it have on you and others? What might life be like if you could more consistently show up as the person you are capable of being?[0.57] Chelle introduces Dr. Tori Olds psychologist and co-founder of Deep Eddy Psychotherapy.[1.48] Tori shares a 'Uniquely You' moment she remembers from her childhood.[3.57] Tori explains how Internal Family Systems (IFS) helps us understand our capacity for self-leadership.[10.24] Tori explains what 'Parts' mean in IFS when we talk about th...2024-10-1441 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastDo you really belong?When it comes to the relationships you prioritize in your life - family, friends, colleagues, and community - do you really belong, or are you just fitting in?[0.46] Chelle introduces Dr. Dan Siegel, founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center at UCLA and the executive director of the Mindsight Institute. [1.42] Dan shares his tool on how understanding our brain is in the 'palm of our hands' which provides insights into how we can better comprehend the workings of our brain.[3.58] Dan teaches us about the 5 F's - fight, flee, freeze, faint/flop and fawn...2024-10-0739 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastDo you show up for yourself?When you’re struggling, how do you show up for yourself? Do you stoically push through whatever challenge you’re facing? Do you distract yourself by running around and helping others? Or do you make the space to sit down and listen to what your body and brain need you to know?[1.46] Chelle introduces Dr. Dan Siegel and explains why we're unpacking some of the comments and ideas in this ah-ha podcast before the release of the full conversation with Dan.[3.25] Evie helps us to unpack Ah-ha #1 which was Dr. Dan Siegal's 4S model - safe, seen, soot...2024-10-0125 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastAre you scared to set boundaries?When it comes to setting and honoring the healthy boundaries you need in your life, are you scared of how other people will respond? Will your family be mad? Will your friends be hurt? Will your colleagues be upset?[1.49] Michelle recaps episode #15 with Juliane Taylor Shore on the six steps to boundary setting and shares this as her first Ah-ha. [5.59] Michelle and Evie walk through the six steps together to help Evie navigate setting a boundary in her personal life. [20.27] Evie shares Ah-ha #2 where not only could we use these six steps to...2024-09-2435 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastSix steps to setting boundaries that stickWhen it comes to setting boundaries, do you send others mixed signals instead of clear messages? Are your efforts to communicate what you need packed with awkward moments or kind connections? Do you come away second-guessing yourself or full of self-respect?1.33 Chelle & Juliane review the four different types of boundaries we need for our brains to feel safe. 2.20 Step 1: Find your big why10.27 Step 2: Define your boundary16.10 Step 3: Anticipate potential responses 26.08 Step 4: Anticipate your reactions 27.34 Step 5: Create a self-soothing plan28.16 Step 6: Say it and follow...2024-09-1744 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastWhat boundaries do you need to set?When it comes to setting better boundaries, it helps to start by figuring out exactly what kind of boundary you most need. Is it an external boundary (between you and someone else), an internal boundary (the work you do to support yourself), or both? And how do you figure this out?[2.24] Michelle recaps Episode 13 with Juliane Taylor Shore on setting healthy boundaries. [4.13] Michelle shares Ah-Ha moment #1 on the difference between a boundary, a request, a demand and a complaint. [7.28] Evie shares our Uniquely You tool of The 3H's of Setting Healthy Boundaries. Evie...2024-09-1038 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastDo you need to set better boundaries?When it comes to feeling respected and valued in your relationships, do you know when to make requests and when to set boundaries? Or do you spin your wheels making complaints or issuing demands instead?[0.57] Michelle introduces Juliane Taylor Shore. [1.52] Juliane shares her Uniquely You moment with us.[4.51] Juliane explains why boundaries are a way for people to be more connected to one another. She helps us to understand what happens to our brain when we set boundaries.[15.09] Juliane helps us understand the difference between a boundary, a request, a demand...2024-09-0347 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastHow to safely connect with othersWhen it comes to connecting with others, does your nervous system tend to run “too hot” or “too cold”? Or are you able to live in the secure relating sweet spot of “just right”, even when your relationships become challenging?[1.52] Michelle recaps Episode 11 - Part 2 of the podcast with Sue Marriott on Secure Relating. [2.54] Evie reintroduces the "zones of relating", in particular The Red Zone which causes our protection circuits to up-regulate and intensify our attention, emotions, and actions.[3.47] Michelle shares her ah-ha moments about The Red Zone and shares our Uniquely You Tool of Taking A Coo...2024-08-2630 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastDo you find it hard to trust?Do you find it hard to trust others? Do you long to have closer relationships but find yourself overwhelmed with anxiety and fear when people want you to open up? Do you find being emotionally close with others confusing and exhausting?[1.18] Michelle and Sue summarise part 1 of the conversation around secure relating and the "zones" of relating.[4.40] Sue helps us understand more about the "blue zone" and it's link to childhood and emotionally unavailable caregivers and how that causes insecure attachment.[7.04] Sue explains what you could try if you find yourself in the "...2024-08-2037 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastAre you a people pleaser?When your interactions with others become challenging, how does your nervous system respond? Are you able to stay grounded with your connection circuits turned on? Or do your protection circuits take over and turn you into a people-pleasing or protecting machine?[3.14] Michelle recaps episode 9 with Sue Marriott, starting with the definition of secure attachment.[5.38] Michelles shares Sue's insights on how 'secure relating' is available to everybody regardless of our childhood experiences.[6.05] Michelle recaps how our nervous systems move between connection and protection along what Sue termed as 'zones'.[7.24] Evie shares Ah-Ha #1...2024-08-1336 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastAre you securely attached to yourself?When it comes to your relationships, do you bend over backwards to please others in the hope they’ll love you in return? Do you play it cool and silence your needs in the hope they’ll admire and respect you? Or, are you able to interact in ways that embody trust and love for yourself and others?[4.20] Sue explains secure attachment and how it impacts our relationships.[7.14] Sue shares how 'secure relating' is available to everybody regardless of our childhood experiences.[10.57] Sue outlines how our nervous systems move between connection and protection and...2024-08-0646 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastThe gifts of envy and angerWhen you feel envy or anger, how do you respond? Do you put on your kindest face for everyone to admire, while viciously criticizing yourself for being petty and mean on the inside? Or do try to rid yourself of these emotions by shaming and blaming the people who made you feel this way?[2.20] - Chelle & Evie unpack the recent podcast with Elise Leohnen and how she helped us to unpack how our good girl mindsets get shaped by the world around us. [4.57] - Aha #1: We unpack Elise's statement: “Even though we don’t want to subscribe or c...2024-07-2927 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastWhy do we feel the need to be 'good girls'?Growing up, were you encouraged to be a ‘good girl’? Do you find yourself, even as an adult, still struggling to meet this impossible set of expectations? Where do these beliefs come from, and why are they so hard to free ourselves of?[1.36] Elise shares a 'good girl' belief she has been working on recently.[4.05] Elise explains why so many women believe they need to be 'good girls' and where these ideas come from.[7.51] Elise explores how society grooms us to be 'good girls' and the costs.[12.12] Elise shares how, as adul...2024-07-2333 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastDo you see criticism as a gift?When someone offers you feedback or criticism, how does your body respond? Do you brace yourself for the sharp pain of hearing you’re not good enough? Or does your heart open up with appreciation, and your mind fire up with curiosity for the opportunity to learn? How might a growth mindset help you listen to feedback with self-compassion?[2.34] - Chelle & Evie unpack Dr. Carol Dweck's definition of a growth mindset.[6.54] - Aha #1: Why do we often feel afraid to take on challenges and persist, and how does this drive our obsession with perfectionism?...2024-07-1632 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastCan a growth mindset free you from perfectionism?Do you hustle through your days chasing perfection? Does the prospect of failing fill you with fear? Is feedback and criticism painful to hear? Then, practicing a growth mindset could help free you from your 'good girl' hustle for perfection.[2.33] Carol defines the difference between a fixed and a growth mindset.[3.38] Carol shares how fixed and growth mindsets impact our confidence.[5.12] Carol explains how gender beliefs can impact our fixed and growth mindsets.[7.36] Carol outlines how our fixed and growth mindsets get shaped in our lives.[10.00] Carol explains how...2024-07-0927 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastThe best question to ask if you're strugglingWhen you’re struggling what do you say to yourself? Studies suggest many of us say horrible things to ourselves in these moments like: “You're so stupid!”, “You’re such a loser!”, “No wonder no one loves you!" or worse. But what's the best question to ask ourselves in these moments?[2.40] The most common tool women report using to break free of their 'good girl' beliefs and embody their unique selves.[3.33] A-ha #1: Why do women tend to be more self-critical than men?[6.40] Tool #1: How we can Shuffle The Script to help extend more self-compassio...2024-07-0226 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastDo you need fierce self-compassion?Do you find it difficult to say “no”? Are you scared of setting boundaries? Can you confidently and calmly stand up for yourself? If mastering these skills feels like it might stretch you well outside your comfort zone, then the skills of fierce self-compassion may help.[1.31] Kristin explains why studies suggest women struggle more with self-compassion more than men.[5.24] Kristin outlines how the three elements of self-criticism are designed to keep us safe but tend to backfire.[8.31] Kristin explains how self-criticism can undermine our wellbeing.[11.40] Kristin explains how self-compassion provides a helpful alternative to s...2024-06-2533 min
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastBecoming uniquely youWhat's the positive alternative to being a 'good girl'? In this workshop replay we share insights from our latest research with women around the world on:[6.28] Why we sometimes believe we need to earn love by performing perfectly, pleasing everyone, and protecting others.[7.53] The positive 'good girl' alternative that helps us believe love is given to ourselves and others by showing self-compassion, securely attaching, and strengthening self-leadership.[11.42] How can we find the balance between our good girl and positive alternative beliefs.[31.43] The practices and tools to help us build self-compassion.[39.14] The...2024-06-181h 02
The Good Girl Game Changers PodcastWhy 'good girls' burnoutWe’ve been asking woman all over the world what being a ‘good girl’ means to them. Most of them shared early childhood memories between the ages of 6 – 11 where usually a family member or a teacher had encouraged them to be a ‘good girl’ if they wanted to be safe, successful, and loved. We've found for many women this early childhood experience has become a deeply held belief – a mindset – that continues to shape the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors of these women decades later often leading to exhaustion, loss of identify, and deep resentment. How can we break free of these beliefs...2024-06-0731 min