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Pure Victory Podcast6. Mary's Story: A Woman AddictedWelcome to episode #6! In this episode, Mary Derkson gives us an inside look on what it's like to be a woman hooked on porn when culture still thinks it's an issue just for men.Here is a brief summary of the episode.33% of porn searches on Google are made by womenWomen can get hooked on pornography in the same way that men can. Porn entices us and feeds us lies so that we keep looking it up, forming an addiction and an increased level over time. It's h...
2024-05-2332 minPure Victory Podcast2. Matt's Story: Quitting Porn....TwiceSHOW NOTESWelcome to episode #2! In this episode, Matt Cline shares details from his life, his battle with pornography, and ultimately, how getting free led him to starting a ministry to help others around the world.Listen to his story and see what you can apply to your own life!Here is a brief summary of the episode.Are You Keeping Secrets?Secrets keep us bound in pornography and often lead to other forms of harmful sexual behaviour. Matt kept his struggle with porn...
2024-05-2322 minPure Victory Podcast105. A Deep Clean From Porn: Sathiya SamWelcome to episode #105!In this episode, Matt and Braden talk with author, and podcaster, Sathiya Sam.The personality ethicOur unique personality is God-given, and much has been made of it in the past few years, discovering our specific personality make-up with things like Enneagram and myers-briggs. These are great tools, however an unhealthy mindset can birth itself out of this when we decide that we cant take personal responsibility and instead scapegoat our actions based on the way we are "wired". But when we are a person of character we change based on...
2022-04-2734 minPure Victory Podcast104. Dr. Juli Slattery: How Does Sexuality Define Identity?Welcome to episode #104!In this episode, Matt and Braden talk with author, podcaster and co-founder of authentic intimacy, Dr.Juli Slattery.Purity culture creates sexual sinners and sexual phariseesWhen the message from the church is that we should save sex for marriage, it creates two classes of people. One class of people who have screwed up and are now impure. The other class of people did it right and should be blessed! The trouble is, God's blessing and His grace isn't reserved just for those who do things right - and it isn't...
2022-04-2025 minPure Victory Podcast103. Dr. Juli Slattery: Trusting God With Our SexualityWelcome to episode #103!In this episode, Matt and Braden talk with author, podcaster and co-founder of authentic intimacy, Dr.Juli SlatteryOur sexuality and spirituality are intertwinedSex (sexuality) is a bigger deal than the world makes it out to be as it has such a profound affect on our lives and is connected to our spiritual lives as well. It can shape how we view God, and because we all have brokenness in this area, we need God's help to lead us in having a proper view of Himself as well as our...
2022-04-1325 minPure Victory Podcast102. Healing The Inner Child with Drew BoaWelcome to episode #102!In this episode, Matt and Braden interview author, podcaster, and founder of Husband Material, Drew Boa.Body memories have powerWe have different kinds of memories and some are more powerful than others. When we have a memory that's attached to a song, hearing that song will probably bring us back to an initial or emotional memory we had while that song was playing. In the same way, when we have a memory that's attached to a certain kind of situation, emotion, or person, it's easy to get triggered to go...
2022-04-0633 minPure Victory Podcast101. Befriending Our Sexuality With Drew BoaWelcome to episode #101!In this episode, Matt and Braden interview author, podcaster, and founder of Husband Material, Drew Boa.Befriending our sexualityOften we feel frustrated with our sexuality because we either take an avoidance approach or completely give in to our sexual desires. Both approaches miss out on the fact that sexuality is a God-given thing and it is good, so in our brokenness we either repress our sexuality or release (or indulge in) it. We have to recognize that our sexuality is God-given, but has been broken due to our world and...
2022-03-3028 minPure Victory Podcast100. Sexpectations: 4 Things You Need To Know with Mike NovotnyWelcome to episode #100!In this episode, Matt and Braden talk about hidden patterns of behaviour that can lead to porn and discuss the importance of building awareness around these "default responses."4 things we need to know (plus a bonus point)Mike's book, "Sexpectations," outlines four key points about sex:Sex is goodSex is workSex is fierySex is unnecessaryAn underlying message that Mike wants us to know is that sex is forgivable. Specifically, sinful sexual activity is forgivable by God and does not have to define our future.Sex...
2022-03-2326 minPure Victory Podcast98. Safe Communication with Travis and Adelle GrahamWelcome to episode #98!In this episode, Matt and Braden talk with Travis and Adelle Graham from The Noble Marriage about how to talk through hard issues in marriage, the consequences of staying silent, and the beauty of learning to be real.Travis and Adelle swept big issues under the rugTravis and Adelle didn't know how to communicate when red flags and concerns arose. Adelle was scared of talking about pornography because she worried didn't know how to handle it if her fears were confirmed. Travis was molested as a child, which contributed to...
2022-03-0926 minPure Victory Podcast97. Travis and Adelle's Story: Red Flags, Betrayal, And Jesus' Transforming LoveWelcome to episode #97!In this episode, Matt and Braden hear Travis and Adelle Graham of The Noble Marriage share their personal story of total transformation in their marriage.Travis' body was shutting downTravis had endured abuse as a child and extreme trauma in his career as a police officer, among other things. Because of suppressed pain, not having a safe place to share his trauma, and indulging in sin, he started feeling the effects of his trauma in his body. Only in his 30s, he needed a cane and a dog to help...
2022-03-0240 minPure Victory Podcast96. Does Sexual Compatibility Matter?Welcome to episode #96!In this episode, Matt and Braden talk about sexual compatibility, and whether it holds up or if it is potentially damaging our ideas surrounding sex.We are different- and that is ok!Our society elevates the idea of sexual compatibility, and often it is rooted in the idea that we need to be the same sexually with our partner, in libido, desire, and in our needs. If we don't have these similarities with our partner, then we are "not" sexually compatible, and are probably with the wrong person. But this idea...
2022-02-2327 minPure Victory Podcast95. Becoming Aware Of Our Default ResponsesWelcome to episode #95!In this episode, Matt and Braden talk about hidden patterns of behaviour that can lead to porn and discuss the importance of building awareness around these "default responses."Default responses are reactionaryOver time when we respond to feelings or circumstances in a particular way, it becomes ingrained in our minds as well-traveled neural pathways of behaviour. These responses become so well established to the point we don't even think about what we are doing. For instance if something makes us anxious, we may retreat from others and and become isolated...
2022-02-1633 minPure Victory Podcast94. The Art of UnpluggingWelcome to episode #94!In this episode, Matt and Braden share their experiences about unplugging from technology, along with some stats Unplugging technology and intimacy with God often go togetherBraden started off 2022 with a break from social media and immediately felt more at peace and more sensitive to God's presence and leading. When Matt had to take Facebook off of his phone in order to save space, he found he didn't even think about the app for days. It was only when it was in his face that he went on it. Removing certain...
2022-02-0931 minPure Victory Podcast93. Dave and Kirsten Samuel: A Brand New Marriage...With The Same Spouse!Welcome to episode #93!In this episode, Matt and Braden continue to chat with sexual betrayal coaches, Dave and Kirsten Samuel, who are making a major impact.Healing cant be fast-trackedOnce the pathway to healing is determined (accountability, support, counselling etc), it cant be rushed or taken for granted. It takes a consistent effort and a commitment to the process as a couple, as well as a daily surrender to God to bring healing and reconciliation. Dave and Kirsten had to give up much of their past life for a season, with a commitment to...
2022-02-0245 minPure Victory Podcast92. Dave and Kirsten Samuel: Exposing Secrets After 25 Years Of MarriageWelcome to episode #92!In this episode, Matt and Braden chat with Dave and Kirsten Samuel, sexual betrayal coaches who are making a major impact. Discovery-day will come!Dave wanted to beat his battle with lust alone, so he spent over 25 years of his marriage not opening up about his problems. Kirsten saw red flags, but ignored them only to find out that she had legitimate concerns years earlier. Eventually, God will expose you for having secrets so you can finally live free - and Dave says he's glad He did it!Not...
2022-01-2641 minPure Victory Podcast91. Brad & Lisa's Unrelenting Pursuit Of RestorationWelcome to episode #91!In this episode, Matt and Braden chat with Brad and Lisa Valencia (hosts of the Unrelenting Pursuit podcast) about what restoring their marriage looked like after Brad's affair almost led them to divorce.You need guardrails in your marriageBrad had to rebuild trust with Lisa and he did it through establishing guardrails in their marriage. She was able to see his phone any time and he wouldn't go to places that in the past had let him stumble. Guardrails keep us from going off the cliff so that we can...
2022-01-1934 minPure Victory Podcast90. Brad & Lisa's Story: Porn, Infidelity, And A Divorce Lawyer's ConfusionWelcome to episode #90!In this episode, Matt and Braden chat with Brad and Lisa Valencia (hosts of the Unrelenting Pursuit podcast) about how God saved their marriage after facing porn addiction, infidelity, and an imminent divorce.Prayer is vital!In all seasons of marriage, prayer is an essential component to a healthy and thriving marriage. But is it always the first go-to when we are faced with difficult seasons or hurdles like hidden secrets or infidelity? Brad and Lisa share how prayer was a huge part of the reason they were able to take...
2022-01-1236 minPure Victory Podcast89. Why Does Jesus Matter?Welcome to episode #89!In this episode, Matt and Braden discuss a big question: Does Jesus matter?Does Jesus matter for life?Since we are created by God, we have purpose and have value! This speaks to our identity, that we are accepted and that Jesus' death on the cross paid the price for our sins. All we need to do is receive that gift and follow Him! Does Jesus matter in getting free from porn?Because porn is merely a symptom of deeper issues, we need Jesus to heal our hearts...
2021-12-2234 minPure Victory Podcast88. Deliverance, Sex, And Porn Addiction with Doug BalzerWelcome to episode #88!In this episode, Matt and Braden interview author, speaker and director of reKindle.tv, Doug Balzer about the connection between spiritual deliverance and sexual activity.The stats prove the effectiveness of deliveranceAccording to the research that Doug did, there is a direct connection between deliverance and sexual immorality. Here are some his stats:47% of people who had gone through deliverance had a noted increase in sexual satisfaction.37% of people decreased.37% of people who once received dark, sexualized dreams now are free.35% said they noticed a notable...
2021-12-1530 minPure Victory Podcast87. Restoring Deliverance To Discipleship with Doug BalzerWelcome to episode #87!In this episode, Matt and Braden interview author, speaker and director of reKindle.tv, Doug Blazer. They discuss with Doug a biblical understanding of deliverance ministry (getting rid of demonic activity), and why it matters for all of us!We live in a physical and a spiritual realityOften we are only focused on the physical reality of our world and lives because it is what we see and can touch. However we are made up of a physical body, but also a soul (our emotions, mind, will) and our spirit...
2021-12-0829 minPure Victory Podcast86. The Vahen King Story: Infidelity In A Wheelchair And A God Who RestoresWelcome to episode #86!In this episode, Matt and Braden interview the first ever Miss Wheelchair Canada, Vahen King, about the restoration God did in her marriage after she committed adultery and wanted a divorce.Insecurities came to the surfaceVahen was newly engaged when transverse myelitis attacked her body, putting her in a wheelchair. This compounded insecurities that already existed because she wanted no one to see her in a chair. Her fiancé, Vaughan, stood by her side, but the pain of her new reality exposed many insecurities inside of Vahen that came to t...
2021-12-0143 minPure Victory Podcast85. What Support Do I Need In Marriage?Welcome to episode #85!In this episode, Matt and Braden chat about why marriages need support in all seasons and all stages of life!Support for Marriage (3 A's)When there is the presence of addictions, abuse or adultery in a marriage, third party help is not just an option but is vital/essential to the survival of the relationship. These are areas that need the support of professionals, and often the ongoing presence of support till the issues are dealt with to the point that the marriage can continue. But it does take an active...
2021-11-2429 minPure Victory Podcast84. How To Identify Shame - And Crush It For Good!Welcome to episode #84!In this episode, Matt and Braden go over the two ways shame manifests in our lives, the specific factors that allow shame to grow, and what to do to crush it for good!There are two ways shame manifests itselfWhen we have shame, we will engage in soul isolation, physical isolation, or both.Soul isolation is when we are with people, but don't let anyone in. We are protecting ourselves because we don't want anyone to see the worst parts of ourselves. We are embarrassed by the sins...
2021-11-1736 minPure Victory Podcast83. Husbands: Here's What To Tell Your WifeWelcome to episode #83!In this episode, Matt and Braden cover a scary topic for husbands! What should they tell their wives about their porn addictions, what they should not tell, and how should they go about it. Every marriage is differentEvery person and every marriage is different. There are dynamics that work for some that don't work for others, so when thinking about when and how to share hidden sin with your spouse, you have to take into account your individual dynamic. The wisdom of Jesus is absolutely necessary because He can lead...
2021-11-1040 minPure Victory Podcast82. The Dave Hafner Story: Meeting Jesus In PrisonWelcome to episode #82!In this episode, Matt and Braden interview special guest, Dave Hafner, who just happens to be Braden's Dad! They discuss his story of how he met Jesus in prison, and how that hope relates to us wherever we are!Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and women...
2021-11-0335 minPure Victory Podcast81. Are You Really OK? With Debra FiletaWelcome to episode #81!In this episode, Braden is running solo talking with author, speaker and counsellor, Debra Fileta to discuss her book Are You Really OK?Emotional HealthOften the mindset we have with emotions is that they dictate our response to life and we don't give any thought to the roots of our emotions or that they are signals for something that may be going on under the surface. Emotions can explode out of us when we haven't addressed what we are feeling in a healthy way or given our emotions a healthy...
2021-10-2737 minPure Victory Podcast80. Roots To Addiction: Trauma And The World's Subtle MessagesWelcome to episode #80!In this episode, Matt and Braden follow up on last week with two more roots to addiction: trauma and the impact of the world's subtle messaging.There are various kinds of trauma10/10 traumas - Identifying what the biggest traumas in our lives are usually doesn't take too long. Abuse that we've endured, tragedies, or some other big event will stand out. However, there are other kinds of trauma too.2/10 traumas - Little bothersome events that are repeated over and over again in our lives can start to add up...
2021-10-2039 minPure Victory Podcast79. Is Your Family Dysfunctional?Welcome to episode #79!This week, Matt and Braden chat about family dysfunction as this will often play a part in our current behaviour, specifically a porn addiction.We all have degrees of dysfunction in our familyA perfect family doesn't exist. Because of this, we all have layers of dysfunction that stem from our family of origin. That isn't to say that our parents or family didn't provide us with good things or pass on healthy patterns to us, but that we all have dysfunctional areas we need to acknowledge and recognize. This isn't...
2021-10-1330 minPure Victory Podcast78. The Slippery Slope To AddictionWelcome to episode #78!This week, Matt and Braden slip n' slide into two of the slippery slopes to addiction you might find yourself on without even knowing it.Slippery Slope #1: The things we doDo you scroll social media, watch movies, or escape into other activities to avoid conflict that's brewing in your life or your soul? These things aren't all bad, but when we use neutral vices to pass the time because we don't want to look ourselves in the face and deal with what's hard in life, we are living in a...
2021-10-0629 minPure Victory Podcast77. Exposing FantasiesWelcome to episode #77!This week, Matt and Braden discuss fantasies and why it matters to expose those destructive thought patterns!Fantasies are often linked to past experience or hidden desiresMany of us have experienced moments in the past that have shaped our current fantasies. Trauma, early sexual experiences, hurts, and shame are all components that may have been part of our past and when we learn more about our fantasies, we see that there is often a link. Exposing our fantasies in the right environment can help in understanding what our fantasies are...
2021-09-2930 minPure Victory Podcast76. Taking The "Taboo" Out Of Sex with Brett UllmanWelcome to episode #76!This week, Matt and Braden chat with author and speaker, Brett Ullman, about the connection between sex and media and what the church can do about it!Media can take us down a dark path - but it doesn't have toMedia can be bad, but it can also be good. Really, our phones are nothing until we do something with them. The algorithms will show you what you've shown to be interested in, so click on things and follow pages that are healthy and won't bring up triggering posts in...
2021-09-2241 minPure Victory Podcast75. Brett Ullman's Story: Navigating Mental HealthWelcome to episode #75!This week, Matt and Braden chat with author and speaker, Brett Ullman, about mental health and mental illness, and what affect pornography can have on mental health.Mental health is different than mental illnessWe have more control over mental health than mental illness. We can control health by doing things like eating well, sleeping, praying, exercising, and a variety of other things. Illness, though, is when schizophrenia, chemical-based depression, and other properly diagnosed mental illnesses comes into play and you need a different approach to treatment depending on what is...
2021-09-1541 minPure Victory Podcast74. Lust And Sexual Desire: What's The Difference?Welcome to episode #74!This week, Matt and Braden relieve some guilt people feel about their sexual desires by differentiating between lust and sexual desire.God gave you a sexual desireWhen porn has run rampant in our lives, it's common to wish for no more sexual desire. We need to instead pray for wisdom in discerning what is lust and what is a healthy sexual desire. God gave us sexual desires to be attracted to the people we get married to and see God's beauty, among many other reasons. He wants us to crave...
2021-09-0828 minPure Victory Podcast73. The Company You Keep: Why It MattersWelcome to episode #73!This week, Matt and Braden talk about how the company we keep could help or hinder our journey towards freedom from porn and other bad relational/sexual patterns.Are you being influenced negatively by others?When we are battling to get porn out of our lives, one of the challenges that can keep us stuck may be the people and social structures in our lives. We tend to adopt the mindsets of those people closest to us, whether negative and positive, which can either help or hinder us in getting free. If...
2021-09-0131 minPure Victory Podcast72. Sheila Wray Gregoire: The 47 Point Orgasm GapWelcome to episode #72!This week, Matt and Braden continue talking with renowned author, blogger and speaker, Sheila Wray Gregoire. In this episode they discuss why there is an orgasm gap between men and women, and how we need to change the way we think about sex for the better!Frequency is not the issueOften frequency is not the issue even though it has been advertised as such! Usually there are other dynamics at play, and these underlying factors are the real culprit as to why there may be sexual dissatisfaction. One example is the...
2021-08-2529 minPure Victory Podcast71. Sheila Wray Gregoire: The Great Sex RescueWelcome to episode #71!This week, Matt and Braden chat with renowned author, blogger and speaker, Sheila Wray Gregoire on her newest book, "The Great Sex Rescue."The messaging around our sex education can be harmfulOften the teaching in Christian circles can be that sex is one sided, in that women's needs are not addressed or sex is only seen as a man's need. This is harmful as sex is designed by God to be enjoyed by both men and women and the teaching should reflect that. Because it hasn't always been that way, the...
2021-08-1829 minPure Victory Podcast70. Kelly's Story: Affairs, Abortion, Abuse, And Seeing Jesus Face-To-FaceWelcome to episode #70!This week, Matt and Braden talk to Kelly Lamanteer who works with the wives and women hooked on porn in Restored Ministries.Trauma in childhoodKelly grew up with religion, but didn't know Jesus. She loves her family, but her parents divorced when she was three. After multiple affairs, her parents went to marriage counselling, where her dad started sleeping with the marriage counsellor. They divorced and her dad married the marriage counsellor. Her mom married again, this time to a porn addicted man who again turned to infidelity. Kelly only knew...
2021-08-1130 minPure Victory Podcast69. Myth Busters: Porn, Libidos And A Lifelong BattleWelcome to episode #69!This week, Matt and Braden bust the myths that say porn use is tied to libidos and will be an overwhelming, lifelong battle.Myth 1: Porn use is tied to your libidoPorn use doesn't increase and decrease in correlation with people's sex drives. If that were the case, people in their 50s and 60s wouldn't ever experience an increase in their porn use, but in reality, they often do.Porn use is more an issue of brain chemistry, emotional maturity, and spiritual understanding. When you start to figure out the...
2021-08-0423 minPure Victory Podcast68. Myth Busters: Wedding Nights & Sexy Test DrivesWelcome to episode #68!This week, Matt and Braden bust myths about the expectations surrounding the wedding night, as well as taking sex for a "test drive" before getting married. Myth 1: The Wedding NightThere is a myth in our culture that the wedding night is supposed to be fireworks. Some people think that if it doesn't work out that way, the relationship might lack sexual compatibility. This is a damaging concept because intimacy with a spouse takes time to grow and nurture. The key to avoiding disappointment on the wedding night is to talk about...
2021-07-2826 minPure Victory Podcast67. Myth Busters: Blue Balls And Wet DreamsWelcome to episode #67!This week, Matt and Braden bust myths about blue balls and wet dreams. Tune in to hear yet another episode about things you've probably never heard talked about in public. Blue balls are real - but not nearly as common or bad as men claimThis is the definition of blue balls from healthline.com:"Blue balls, known medically as epididymal hypertension (EH), is a condition that can affect people with male genitals. It's not serious, but causes pain and aching in the testicles after having an erection without...
2021-07-2129 minPure Victory Podcast66. Covenant Eyes: Why It's A Must HaveWelcome to episode #66!In this brief episode the guys chat about Covenant Eyes and the importance of using it to protect your devices and to help in building better accountability. Share With Your FriendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.Stay TunedNext week, Matt and Braden begin a 3 part series busting the myths of porn! You won't want to miss it!ResourcePure Freedom Community for...
2021-07-1508 minPure Victory Podcast65. Path Out Of Porn P4: Lifelong GrowthWelcome to episode #65!In this week's episode, Matt and Braden talk about the importance of filling the void that is left after we get porn out of our lives, specifically with proactive choices that move us towards healing, growth and impact. Have an attitude to grow and to be a lifelong learner!We can be tempted to stop growing when we get porn-free, but there is a void that porn once occupied that needs to be filled. Often we have pain and habits in our life that have been tied into our addiction so...
2021-07-1427 minPure Victory Podcast64. Path Out Of Porn P3: Healing In CommunityWelcome to episode #64!In this week's episode, Matt and Braden talk about why we need community in our lives and how to powerfully set up effective community in both 1-on-1 settings and group settings. This is a practical 'how-to' if you're looking for an added boost in your journey to freedom!Community is a non-negotiableWe all want to be the person who can win battles on our own, but we aren't designed to live like that. We are designed for community and have to be humble enough to realize that it's seeking people...
2021-07-0727 minPure Victory Podcast63. Path Out Of Porn P2: Getting Honest And Receiving ForgivenessWelcome to episode #63!In this week's episode, Matt and Braden talk about getting honest, what that means, and how it plays an integral part in getting free. They also chat about what forgiveness actually means and the importance of receiving it in our freedom journey.Honesty moves us towards healing. Hiddenness and half truths hinder healingBeing fully honest means sharing the full truth instead of sugar-coating it or sharing only bits and pieces. If we don't fully disclose our struggle with porn, we will be stuck in the same cycle of shame and...
2021-06-3036 minPure Victory Podcast62. Path Out Of Porn P1: Awareness Of The ProblemWelcome to episode #62!In this week's episode, Matt and Braden touch on a wide range of things a porn addiction will effect in a person's life. Tune in for some much needed motivation to address habits that hinder you!Be awareMental health is something people often think of as a separate issue from porn. Other times, they'll see it as the reason they go to porn. Rarely will they think of porn and masturbation as being the reason they have mental health issues. When people quit porn, they often come to experience a...
2021-06-2330 minPure Victory Podcast61. Sneak Peek! Intro To The Path Out Of Porn 4-Part SeriesShare With Your FriendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe at any app where you can find podcasts to get notified each time a new episode goes live!ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline...
2021-06-2205 minPure Victory Podcast60. The Nick Stumbo Story: Breaking The Chains Of ShameWelcome to episode #60!In this week's episode, Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, shares his story and talks about how to break free from a culture of shame.Trying harder doesn't workAttempting to beat porn in a a try harder mentality leads to a binge purge cycle, and it led Nick to years of struggling behind closed doors and being bogged down in shame and guilt. When we focus on just the behaviour, it becomes about managing a problem on the surface level, but true freedom comes with inner healing which...
2021-06-1646 minPure Victory Podcast59. Richard De La Mora: The Pastor Who Married An Ex-Porn StarWelcome to episode #59!In this week's episode, Richard De La Mora shares how he's been able to look past the history that his wife has in the porn industry and see her instead as a product of God's grace and transformation!Honesty leads to intimacy...but pray about it!Honesty and conversation leads to intimacy. Richard wanted to know everything about his wife's past because he desired for her to know that he fully loved her despite her past. You have to be ready to hear things that you don't want to hear though...
2021-06-0835 minPure Victory Podcast58. From Porn-Star To Pastor: The Brittni De La Mora StoryWelcome to episode #58!In this week's episode the guys chat with Keith Johnston as he shares his story about how a $15K phone bill due to porn use rocked his world. He also shares about how he came to terms with that moment and how it was a catalyst for him to get help!You will always look for affirmation that you're not receiving Brittni grew up in a home with verbal abuse and toxic relationships. She was never affirmed or told that she was beautiful, so when she got affirmed when stripping at...
2021-06-0130 minPure Victory Podcast57. Keith Johnston: Porn Use And A $15,000 Phone BillWelcome to episode #57!In this week's episode the guys chat with Keith Johnston as he shares his story about how a $15K phone bill due to porn use rocked his world. He also shares about how he came to terms with that moment and how it was a catalyst for him to get help!Porn use progressively gets worse Often we think porn use will get better over time and that we can just live our lives thinking it will go away on its own. But porn use progressively gets worse over time until...
2021-05-2630 minPure Victory Podcast56. Trey Morgan: Intimacy Busters In MarriageWelcome to episode #56!Trey and Lea have been married for 32 years and have more than one thing going for them. They're new grandparents and new empty-nesters, but there's one thing they're experiencing that isn't new to them: sex is better than ever. In this weeks episode Trey breaks down Intimacy busters that can hinder our sex life, and how identifying them can help us in being proactive!There are a lot of intimacy bustersKids are amazing, but when they're sharing your bed with you at night, your marital intimacy will be left longing...
2021-05-1920 minPure Victory Podcast55. Trey Morgan: The Nitty Gritty Details Of Amazing Sex In MarriageWelcome to episode #55!Trey and Lea have been married for 32 years and have more than one thing going for them. They're new grandparents and new empty-nesters, but there's one thing they're experiencing that isn't new to them: sex is better than ever. Trey says it's been on an upward trend for years and shares how that's possible in this week's episode.God isn't embarrassed about sexGod intentionally put Song of Solomon in the Bible - a book about a husband and wife chasing each other sexually and talking openly about what sexual acts...
2021-05-1228 minPure Victory Podcast54. Ben Bennett: Thriving As A Porn-Free SingleWelcome to episode #54!Ben Bennett is 32 and single, living in victory over sexual sin, and leading a global movement bringing people into the freedom Christ paid for.Underlying issues are easy to missBen tried to white-knuckle his way out of his porn addiction for years on his own. Finally, when he pursued groups and let others into his battle, he was able to begin his journey to freedom. He spent more than 4.5 years in programs trying to understand his underlying issues. He learned how childhood trauma had affected him, how his brain had...
2021-05-0543 minPure Victory Podcast53. Josh McDowell: How Every Church Can Tackle Porn (And Why It's A Must)Welcome to episode #53!This week, the guys chat with well known apologist, author and speaker Josh McDowell on the pervasiveness of porn, and how to effectively deal with it in and outside of the church.Porn is an epidemic and it affects us all!The affects of porn are far reaching and building awareness of its prevalence and the way it damages us all is a key part in moving towards health. Porn causes both men and women to lose purpose and to lock up hearts so that it is harder to give and...
2021-04-2835 minPure Victory Podcast52. EXPOSED: Hidden Routines That Lead To PornWelcome to episode #52!This week, the guys discuss rituals that are a pattern of behaviour we often aren't aware of that keep leading us back into porn use.Porn use has a pattern of behaviour that runs in the background without us knowingWhen we struggle with a porn addiction, there often is a routine that we enter into before and after each instance of porn use. This behaviour becomes a ritual in our lives that becomes ingrained in us. It traps us by becoming a subconscious behaviour that we don't often link to...
2021-04-2127 minPure Victory Podcast51. Wives Roundtable With Rosie And Charity: Feeling Safe After BetrayalWelcome to episode #51!For the second week in a row, Braden's wife Kristen leads a wives roundtable with Rosie Makinney and Charity Munoz. This week, the ladies share incredible advice on what a wife needs to do feel safe with her husband in the recovery from betrayal trauma.You need real supportAs a wife, you just need to hear that you aren't crazy. Through having community, you'll get to see that other women going through betrayal are beautiful, normal women who also have husbands using porn as an escape. Having women that can...
2021-04-1437 minPure Victory Podcast50. Wives Roundtable With Rosie And Charity: Responding To Porn In Your MarriageWelcome to episode #50!This week, Braden's wife Kristen takes the reigns to interview Rosie Makinney and Charity Munoz on what a wife needs to do when she discovers her husband is watching porn.Seek understanding at all costsWives - his porn consumption is not about you. It's so easy to react, freak out, and go to the worst-case scenarios in your head about who he really is, but do research and learn about what porn use does to your husband, your marriage, and to you. You are hurting yourself by not understanding his...
2021-04-0737 minPure Victory Podcast49. Lessons From The Fall Of Ravi ZachariasWelcome to episode #49!This week the guys discuss what we can learn from the moral failures of Ravi Zacharias and others, while navigating the feelings we have when we learn the dark side of those we looked up to.A mature faith isn't dependent on othersWe will be often disappointed if we put our faith in Christian leaders and not Jesus because a person of mature faith trusts in God alone! That doesn't mean we can't look up to others, but it does mean we hold our view of them loosely, remembering that...
2021-03-3131 minPure Victory Podcast48. Pastor Gary: The Power of a Clear ConscienceWelcome to episode #48!This week, Pastor Gary Taitinger shares wisdom on living a life free from sin and overcoming temptation. What we do and say eventually ends up on the evening newsSin is insanity. We think we can live in a way opposite to God's design and live in God's blessing. Sin love darkness, obscurity, and anonymity. It's an illusion that has a way of being revealed. God's law is such that what is kept in darkness will always come out and even though it's for our good, God would rather us live...
2021-03-3135 minPure Victory Podcast47. Dalton's Story: Married And Same-Sex AttractedWelcome to episode #47!This week, Matt and Braden talk with Dalton Harrisgreen about his struggle with a porn addiction and the added shame that comes with feelings of same sex attraction. Share With Your FriendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeNext week, Matt and Braden talk with District Superintendent of the PAOC in Alberta/NWT, Gary Taitinger, about having healthy sexual boundaries as a person in leadership.
2021-03-1733 minPure Victory Podcast46. God's Heart For You!Welcome to episode #46!This week, Matt and Braden share the God's heart and love for each listener. Whether you've struggled with habitual sin for decades or not, being assured of how He loves us is so vital to flourishing in life.God Constantly PursuesWhen we're in sin and feel distant from God, He is always pursuing us. He is desiring relationship with us above anything and is continually drawing us in with His gentle kindness. However, He doesn't pursue us so aggressively that it gets in the way of our choice. After Braden...
2021-03-1028 minPure Victory Podcast45. Dr. Fenske: Rewiring Your Brain 101Welcome to episode #45!This week, Matt and Braden continue their chat with Dr. Ted Fenske. Dr. Fenske goes into detail on how to rewire our brains after porn and sexual addiction has negatively impacted it. Give Your Brain A Chance To HealGet off the internet. Dr. Fenske says that because of the highly addictive nature of internet pornography, where videos have a higher impact than still pictures, you need time away from the internet in order for your brain to have a chance to heal. There is no patch or medication for porn...
2021-03-0321 minPure Victory Podcast44. Dr. Fenske: How Porn Affects The BrainWelcome to episode #44!This week, Matt and Braden chat with Dr. Ted Fenske, a cardiologist who deals with addiction medicine and is an expert on the effects of addiction on the brain. Dr. Fenske discusses what porn use does to our brains and how it affects out day-to-day living!Porn takes advantage of our natural reward pathway in our brainPorn acts much like cocaine and fentanyl (along with many other drugs) in hijacking the natural pleasure center in our brain. This brings us to the point where we need the advanced and ongoing...
2021-02-2423 minPure Victory Podcast43. Former NHL Star Ryan Walter: A Marriage In The SpotlightWelcome to episode #43!This week, Braden and his better half (wife Kristen), continue their chat with former NHL player Ryan Walter and his wife Jenn. They discuss how they built and maintained intimacy in marriage while navigating a pro hockey career. Connection Requires IntentionalityRyan and Jenn were able to build intimacy and connection because they were intentional in doing so. They both learned what each other needed in regards to feeling loved, so they intentionally leaned into those areas whether Ryan was at home or on the road. This keeps the unity and f...
2021-02-1730 minPure Victory Podcast42. Stanley Cup Champion Ryan Walter: Boundaries In MarriageWelcome to episode #42! This week, Braden and his better half (wife Kristen), chat with former NHL player Ryan Walter and his wife Jenn. They discuss what it meant to have healthy boundaries in marriage while navigating a pro hockey career. Healthy boundaries start with an agreementRyan and Jenn were able to build health in their marriage because they discussed and were in agreement about their boundaries. When a couple is on the same page with the expectations in their marriage, it creates a strength in the relationship that isn't there if things are left up i...
2021-02-1031 minPure Victory Podcast41. Developing Practical Intimacy With JesusWelcome to episode #41! This week, Matt and Braden share little tips that they have found powerful in making prayer and Bible reading come alive and help them grow their relationships with Jesus. Don't Chase A FeelingWe can certainly feel God at times, whether that's emotionally or physically, but the feeling isn't what we should chase. God says, "Be still and know that I am God," not 'feel' that I am God. When we rise above the need for feeling, it grows our relationship with Jesus so that even when we aren't feeling or seeing Him e...
2021-02-0336 minPure Victory Podcast40. Ways To Connect To God (And How It Helps You Beat Porn)Welcome to episode #40! This week, Matt and Braden chat about the different ways we connect to God, and why it is important to understand this so that we can build into better health in our own lives. Porn can cause an intimacy disorder, and that means broken connections When porn is in our lives it twists and distorts the way we connect to others and often it robs us of any true and lasting connection to people. It also can stop us from connecting to God, and that will inhibit us from enjoying healthy forms of in...
2021-01-2726 minPure Victory Podcast39. Building Intimacy In Your MarriageWelcome to episode #39! This week, Matt and Braden discuss how to rebuild intimacy in marriage after porn or other sexual immorality has destroyed your unity.There are many forms of intimacyWhen we talk about 'being intimate,' we are usually talking sex, however, there are several different forms of intimacy. Building a relationship with sex as the foundation is not going to go well when we ignore the other kinds of intimacy needed to build a marriage. When God said that we will leave our parents and 'cleave' to our spouses as two become one...
2021-01-2024 min
Girl2Girl PodcastUnder Construction with Zoe HafnerMy mother-in-law, Zoe Hafner joins me for this week's episode where we talk about what home here looks like on Earth and how it compares to our home in Heaven. After a year of upheaval, we process together and recognize that summer always comes.
2021-01-1853 minPure Victory Podcast38. Sorry! Marriage Won't Fix Your Porn ProblemWelcome to episode #38! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden discuss why marriage isn't the solution to a porn problem like so many single people hope it will be.Porn Isn't About SexIt's easy to think that more sex will cure the need for porn - until we realize that aren't sex drive isn't always related to porn use. Going deeper and finding the reasons why you use porn as a single person will help you grow as a person, while allowing you to view sex in a healthy way while single, but especially when...
2021-01-1326 minGirl2Girl PodcastStepping into Yourself with Lizzy HafnerLizzy Hafner joins me in today's episode where we talk a bit on teaching during a Pandemic, what we value and the influence that it has on how we make decisions, couples' therapy and standing up for what we believe in and protecting our people.
2021-01-1140 minPure Victory Podcast37. The When, Where, & Why Of Your Porn HabitWelcome to episode #37! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden discuss three important questions in building self-awareness; when, where, and why we look at porn! The WhenUnderstanding the time that we are most susceptible to looking at porn is a key component in building good self-awareness. Usually, when an addiction like porn plagues us, we are far more reactive than proactive. Being reactive at the moment we are most prone to look at porn is not a recipe for freedom or success. We need to have good awareness ahead of time so that we can p...
2021-01-0632 minPure Victory Podcast36. The Munoz Story: Intimacy After Betrayal with Clinton and CharityWelcome to episode #36! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden continue talking with Marilyn Evans about the practical steps parents can take to protect their kids! Lies In The Marriage Led To "D-Day"Clinton told Charity that porn was a past struggle, when it was actually still present in his life, along with strip clubs and massage parlors. To help set us free, God will always bring our sins into the light if we don't repent of them ourselves. This is what happened with Clinton. Him and Charity call it 'D-Day,' or 'Discovery Day...
2020-12-3034 minPure Victory Podcast35. Talking To Your Kid About Porn with Marilyn EvansWelcome to episode #35! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden continue talking with Marilyn Evans about the practical steps parents can take to protect their kids.Start talking about porn and sex in the homeAs parents, we need to get comfortable talking about porn so that our kids feeling safe talking about it in the home. Start small by discussing porn and sex with your spouse if you're married. Practice saying all of the words that you'll need to bring up so that you're comfortable talking about them. Once you're ready, start talking to your...
2020-12-2329 minPure Victory Podcast34. Parents Beware: Porn Is Coming For Your Kids with Marilyn EvansWelcome to episode #34! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden talk to Marilyn Evans from Parents Aware to help create awareness on how porn will affect their child.Porn Targets ChildrenPorn companies attach misspelled words like 'gummy bares' or 'hot weels' that kids might type into search engines as tags and keywords to their videos. This way, when kids do searches with these words, porn videos pop up. They want people to be lifelong porn consumers so they target them when their brains are years away from being fully developed.Social Media Creates...
2020-12-1623 minPure Victory Podcast33. Life After A Porn AddictionWelcome to episode #33! In this week's episode, Braden is interviewed by his wife, Kristen, on what changed once he was porn free. Our life goal should be more than just getting free from porn!Our main goal in life should be to know Jesus more in a process of growth and healing. If we just fixate on porn and believe that getting sober is the source of our joy and happiness, we will be left feeling disappointed. Getting sober is a great goal, but pursuing growth is what transforms us. Once sober, we need to keep m...
2020-12-0932 minPure Victory Podcast32. How To Be A Great Accountability PartnerWelcome to episode #32! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden share essentials every person needs to know to help a friend out of a porn addiction.Set Expectations and Establish BoundariesTo have an accountability relationship last and end in success, expectations and boundaries should be established right from the start and then communicated about throughout. Boundaries with time, how to communicate, and what to share are all important in setting a relationship up for success. Develop A Skill-SetThere are a variety of skills that are effective in leading someone to breaking...
2020-12-0234 minPure Victory Podcast31. 4 Must-Do's To Beat PornWelcome to episode #31! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden talk about four simple steps everyone should take to get porn out of their lives and move towards growth and healing! Must-Do #1: Remove AccessIf we have access to our drug of choice (sexual vice), it will be very hard to have any degree of success and we can stay stuck in a rut. We have to get drastic in removing our access to porn, whether that is throwing out all things that tempt us towards porn, getting rid of apps, or even limiting our access...
2020-11-2529 minPure Victory Podcast30. Matt's Story: Beating Insecurities For GoodWelcome to episode #30! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden talk about the link between insecurities and porn, where insecurities come from, and what can be done to overcome them.Insecurities Negatively Impact How We Perceive LifeTypically, insecurities come from a legitimate situation that hurt us. The hurt that we feel gets rooted in us and attaches itself to our identity. This then changes the way we perceive situations to the point where even when we receive love from someone, we will often miss it or deny the love we're receiving. Forgiveness Is...
2020-11-1832 minPure Victory Podcast29. The Link Between Social Media And PornWelcome to episode #29! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden discuss the link between porn and social media, and how social media actually creates more disconnect in our lives than healthy connection.Social Media Is Highly AddictiveSocial media is designed to keep our attention. The various platforms are all created in a way to wire our brains to keep coming back for more. Even though there isn't anything inherently wrong with using social media, we do need to be aware that it can become a coping mechanism for stress that often eventually leads to porn.
2020-11-1137 minPure Victory Podcast28. Rick's Story Pt 2: Restoring A Life Shattered By AddictionWelcome to episode #28! In this week's episode, Rick Thomson shares Part Two of his incredible story journeying from the rock bottom that his sexual addiction took him to to a life of freedom, impact, and joy like he never thought possible.Rick's First Wife Couldn't StayRick didn't want his marriage to end, but his wife couldn't take the lies and the revelation that she had been married to a man keeping secrets from her for 15 years. He turned over full custody to her, losing all control over when and where he could see his kids.
2020-11-0429 minPure Victory Podcast27. Rick's Story Pt 1: The Worst Story His Counsellor Had Ever SeenWelcome to episode #27! In this week's episode, Rick Thomson shares Part One of his incredible story journeying from the pit of peep shows, lies and cheating, to ultimate freedom from the bondage of porn.An Innocent Beginning Can Lead To Huge DestructionRick found pornographic magazines and would occasionally look at them with friends. He was a pastor's kid, but started partying when he was team captain of the best hockey team in town. A girl caught his eye, and she put an end to that. He didn't tell her anything about where his porn addiction...
2020-10-2839 minPure Victory Podcast26. Are You Sorry You Look At Porn? How You Can Know For Sure!Welcome to episode #26! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden discuss why being sorry is only part of the equation towards healing. They break down why repentance is a far better mindset to have and what that means for our lives.There is a difference between being sorry and being repentantWhen someone is sorry they look at porn it is often because they feel bad they got caught or feel guilty for what they've done. Being repentant means asking for forgiveness and turning from the behavior. This speaks to taking action to pursue a different...
2020-10-2129 minPure Victory Podcast25. The Mindset Of A ConquerorWelcome to episode #25! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden tackle one of the biggest traps in porn addiction - the victim mindset. Victim thinking will keep people stuck in sin forever if it's not recognized, addressed, and done away with. Learn how to do just that, so you can come away with the mindset of a conqueror.Victims Blame Anyone and AnythingWhen someone has taken on the mindset of a victim, they blame anyone and anything for what's going wrong in their lives because it's more comfortable to do that than to take responsibility...
2020-10-1432 minPure Victory Podcast24. Vern's Story: A Porn-Addicted PastorWelcome to episode #24! In this week's episode, Braden and Matt interview Pastor Vern as he shares his story of having porn in his life as a pastor. He also shares specifically about how those in ministry can get porn out of their lives to better help others! Share With Your FriendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeNext weeks episode tackles moving from victim thinking to living as m...
2020-10-0732 minPure Victory Podcast23. What To Expect On The Porn-Free JourneyWelcome to episode #23! Wrong expectations can set people back in their journey to getting porn-free so it's important to manage expectations well so they can empower us, instead of discouraging us.Putting Expectations on Others is DamagingExpecting God or others to be the key to your freedom, instead of taking the onus onto yourself will be damaging in the long-run. Seek help from God and others, but don't expect them to do everything for you. God designed us to co-labour with Him and to be in a community of people. Expecting too much from...
2020-09-3031 minPure Victory Podcast22. Establishing Identity: The #1 Key To Beating PornWelcome to episode #22! In this week's episode, Braden and Matt discuss identity and why it may be the single most important thing in having freedom and victory over things like porn!Identity shapes our mindsetWe tend to make choices based on what we think about ourselves and what we think about our world. Pornography and other addictive behaviors are destructive and those behaviors can shape our beliefs, and what we believe about ourselves. If we believe that we are abandoned, lost, dirty, unlovable, and rejected, then we will steer the course of our lives...
2020-09-2328 minPure Victory Podcast21. Being Single In A Hook-Up CultureWelcome to episode #21! Our sexualized world is promoting and making way for hook-ups more than it has in 50 years. We're seeing the damage of it, but yet single people are pressured into dating and hooking up with others, just to be seen as valuable.Be Proud Of Living Clean!Because of how normalized the concept of hooking up is, we can sometimes feel like there's something wrong with us if we're not engaging in it - even if refraining is our choice. Be proud of yourself for making great decisions, staying pure, and setting yourself...
2020-09-1632 minPure Victory Podcast20. Sexual Abuse Recovery with Dr. Kelli PalfyWelcome to episode #20! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden talk with trauma and sexual abuse therapist, Dr. Kelli Palfy. You can order her book, Men Too: Unspoken Truths about Male Sexual Abuse, here. What is Sexual Abuse?Not everyone is 100% sure of what sexual abuse is. Being old enough to consent is a key factor in determining what qualifies as abuse. Legally in Canada a child under the age of 16 cannot give consent as they are not deemed mentally mature enough to provide consent from a legal standpoint. Sexual abuse can be any kind o...
2020-09-0931 minPure Victory Podcast19. Why Trying To Quit Porn Doesn't WorkWelcome to episode #19! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden chat about why trying hard to get porn out of your life will leave you feeling stuck and defeated. Practically learn the difference between 'trying hard' and 'training yourself in godliness’ and why it’s absolutely essential that you have the right approach.We Try Hard in Our Own StrengthWe often try hard in our own strength and understanding. We try to beat porn on our own, but keep it hidden so that we don't need others or God. We try to keep ahead of i...
2020-09-0233 minPure Victory Podcast18. Guilt-Free Godly Sex ActsWelcome to episode #18! In this week's episode, Matt and Braden go taboo, tackling what goes on behind closed doors to help make sure you can have guilt-free, enjoyable sex in marriage.People Have QuestionsNot everyone is 100% sure on the sex acts God wants us to enjoy and what He wants us to stay away from in marriage. If that's you, it's okay. Your heart is likely for God and for your spouse if you're wanting to make sure what you're doing is healthy and wise. God wants us to have guilt-free, enjoyable sex and...
2020-08-2628 minPure Victory Podcast17. Bonnie's Story: Betrayal In MarriageWelcome to episode #17! In this week's episode, Bonnie Ragan leads us through the process that wives go through when their husbands are engaged in porn so that both wives and husbands can understand the process from the wife's perspective.Setting up a Marriage for TroubleBonnie was pregnant when she and Brian got married. During her pregnancy, Brian lied about an encounter he had with another woman, but came clean a year into marriage when the Lord convicted him to share. They didn't know of anywhere or anyone to go to for...
2020-08-1934 minPure Victory Podcast16. Taking Fantasies CaptiveWelcome to episode #16! In this week's podcast, Matt and Braden go deep into exposing where fantasies come fromWhat's the harm in fantasizing?Fantasies lead us to act out. If we learn how to eliminate fantasies, we won't continue on in the journey to eventually acting out in porn, masturbation, or fornication. Our brains don't know the difference between our thoughts and reality, so the more we dwell on fantasies, the less content we'll feel with the actual reality of our life. There are typically 4 sources of fantasy1) Unfulfilled D...
2020-08-1235 minPure Victory Podcast15. The Porneia StandardWelcome to episode #15! In this week's podcast, Braden and Matt discuss the importance of living for God's standard, and not the world's standard when it comes to sexual behavior. They discuss the mindset when we have God's standard and how it helps us move away from things like and addiction to porn or other unhealthy sexual behaviors. Here is a brief summary of the episode.The Porneia Standard: Porneia is the word used in the bible that describes sexual immoralityThe Bible gives us God's standard for sexuality. It isn't a bunch of rules o...
2020-08-0526 minPure Victory Podcast14. God's Design For SexWelcome to episode #14! In this week's podcast, Matt and Braden take a deep dive into the relationship between sex and covenant. There is much to God's design for sex, but the idea of covenant is one of the most powerful aspects to this design.Here is a brief summary of the episode.Covenant means to commit to relationship forever, unconditionallyTo enter into a covenant with someone is to commit to giving your whole self to that person. When we're in a covenant relationship, we are vulnerable and surrender any leverage to make the...
2020-07-2925 minPure Victory Podcast12. Pastors: When Porn Infests Your ChurchWelcome to episode #12! In this week's podcast, Braden and Matt discuss the importance of intentionally addressing pornography in the church. Find out what the Bible says about it, what happens when church leaders take action, and practical ways to implement programs in your church.Here is a brief summary of the episode.Church leaders need to understand the threat porn is presentingThe time for urgency is now! If we don't talk about porn and sex in the church, we'll be spinning on our wheels in the church, but going nowhere. When people are...
2020-07-1530 minPure Victory Podcast11. Triggered: Planning for the WinWelcome to episode #11! In this week's podcast, Braden and Matt discuss triggers and how they lead to porn use. Understanding what triggers are is an important component in getting free from porn as we need to be self-aware of the process we go through when battling an addiction.Here is a brief summary of the episode.What are 'triggers?'Triggers are the first part of the addiction cycle. They are the catalyst of the process we embark on that leads towards porn. They incite a behavior in us that leads...
2020-07-0831 minPure Victory Podcast9. Al and Val's Story: Porn Almost Ended Our Marriage!Welcome to episode #9! In this week's podcast, Braden and Matt interview FamilyLife Canada staff, Val and Al. They share about how porn almost ended their marriage - and how they chose to fight and save their relationship!Here is a brief summary of the episode.Denial and hiddenness create secrecy and mistrustAl and Val share how a veneer of secrets may keep the outside appearances looking okay, but a big secret like a porn addiction leaves a feeling of insecurity that can't be glossed over. It is better to tell...
2020-06-2434 minPure Victory Podcast7. Can God Still Use Me If I Watch Porn?Welcome to episode #7! Tune in to hear God's heart for those who battle a porn addiction while wanting desperately to do great things for God.Here is a brief summary of the episode.God can work through anybody anytimeGod works through Christians, non-Christians, donkeys, and whatever other vessel He sees fit to use. He is the one that makes things happen and we don't bear fruit for God's kingdom by doing anything apart from Him. Having said that, we can put ourselves in a position to be an open...
2020-06-1024 minPure Victory Podcast3. Braden’s Story: Busted By His WifeSHOW NOTESWelcome to episode #3! In this episode, Braden Hafner talks about his journey with porn, misunderstanding his addiction, and how he ultimately moved towards healing and freedom!Listen to his story and see what you can apply to your own life!Here is a brief summary of the episode.Pornography use has a natural progression that almost always leads to addictionSince porn is highly addictive and often gets introduced to us in our development years, the addiction can take deep roots like...
2020-05-1323 min