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The MentalEdge PodcastE. #138 Your Life Is A Song!The 7th Episode of the 7th Season!The completion of the Calibrations Series: Your Life is a Song! its the perfect metaphor for picturing how to manage balance in your life.Just like a live mixing engineer riding the faders, you get to choose what shines out front during each era of your life. You get to choose when some of the faders get pulled back and some pushed forward. With great care you learn how to delicately manage those important faders in your life. Listen to Fernando and Jay describe this powerful a...2025-05-0833 minThe MentalEdge PodcastE# 137 "That No Contingency Life"Cuz what I Do, don't depend on You!There is a way to live that creates a sense of relevance without the requirement of eventual accolades. It's called...."living a no contingency life." Meaning in short, that you decide you won't rely on recognition to fuel your desire to do what's right. You won't give for the sake of someday receiving. You won't love for the sake of someday being loved. It sounds impossible but it's not...it's all about the focus! and Yes, for us its a work in progress too!This i...2025-03-2535 minThe MentalEdge PodcastE #135 Power Trip'n: Don't Be a Butthole!Have you ever caught yourself being an absolute butthole to somebody who loves you? 🤔 Did you ever feel deeply convicted right in the middle of it? What a blessing that can be!That's exactly what happen to Jay the day he and his wife set out to build the local stray cat (Fred) a house made of readily available scraps. The menial task began to dredge up emotions associated with previous difficult projects from the past. Luckily, before Jay could ruin the day the Holy Sprit gave him a hard backhand right in his kitch...2025-01-1733 minThe MentalEdge PodcastE. #134 The Alignment Assignment!2025 is going to be your year. This is not fluff! Over the past few years if you are one of the people who did the hard thing and took the promotion, but it didn't pay what it was supposed to, or you got up early and did that extra thing that makes other people feel special, this is going to be the year that it all counts. This is the year that the last 4 years of faith adds up to something great for the faithful!We are gonna ask you to declare your 2025 goal today!2024-12-0942 minThe MentalEdge PodcastE# 132 "That Knife Life"My good men, if you to were to assume the life of a knife which one would you be? the one that spreads butter or the one that splits the tree.This is the poetic question posed by Jay and Fernando in this relevant MENtal Metaphor Episode.Surely you would choose the Sharp edged knife, whose very make up, craftsmanship and precision screams purpose. What other comparisons can be made? Tune in to find out. As always...Prepare to be MENtally MANsformed. That Knife Life is the inspirational episode you deserved today! 🔪2024-11-0644 minThe MentalEdge PodcastE# 129 "That One Time I Stole A Candy Bar"Fernando and Jay talk about Jay's life of crime. It's an all out confessional. Now full disclosure, the lesson here isn't really about being a candy snathcer! It's about how the presence of security in your life facilitates the lack of scarcity. So sit back and shove a little fun size candy bar in your mouth while you shove this episode in your ears and in your spirit!2024-05-0233 minThe MentalEdge PodcastS.6 E#128 God Math!Fernando and Jay talk about a phenomenon known as God Math. You heard it right. Not Trigadumetry or Advance Calcubutz, we are talking about the devine often unconventional way God takes what seems impossible and metaphorically and even sometimes literally, feeds the masses. So strap in, pluck in those ear buds, grab a note pad and pencil and we promise, this aint no "arithmatrick", nope!This is the type of multiplication that matters!2024-03-0735 minThe MentalEdge PodcastE #127 Is Love Selfish?This coversation between Fernando and Jay was the result of overhearing somebody saying this all too common phrase: "I can't believe you are doing this to me after all I have done for you!"Don't get us wrong.... We're fairly certain that we all might have said this or thought this at some point in our lives but..Ultimately, it's a glimpse into a flawed philosophy. The belief that your kindness somehow creates a debt that will always be honored. When in fact, if your motivation for doing good things is in the expectation of recipricahol love...w...2023-12-0134 minThe MentalEdge PodcastE #126 Feels Vs RealzIn a world that caters to feelings does the truth even still matter?Listen to Fernando and Jay talk about their perspective on the Feelz Vs Realz debate. Is your kindness contributing to somebody else’s blindness? Are you capable of lovingly telling the truth to somebody who matters to you? Oh there is so much good stuff to talk about. So let this episode be the truth you invest in for the next 32 minutes.And don’t be shy, let us know how you “feel” about it. 2023-10-2345 minThe MentalEdge PodcastE#125 It's Simple.."Get off the Nipple"Fernando and Jay discuss a relational dynamic that is poisonous for men to be in.Based on overhearing a conversation in the parking lot this topic was catapulted to the forefront of our podcast line up. That right, what dynamic would enable a fully capable middle age man to be talked down to like a child…..Its typically, a dependency issue. Does somebody you depend on treat you badly? And do you feel helpless…What can you do about it?The hard truth is: Ur Gonna Haft Get Off Da Nipple!2023-10-0226 minThe MentalEdge PodcastE# 123 Do You Experiment With Yourself? "That Cold Shower Power"Seriously, when was the last time you shook things up and decided you were going to try something radically different. We're talking about testing your limits and seeing what new disciplines or regiments might catapult you into a new realm of manly confidence! For example, have ever wondered, "do cold showers really make you feel better"...or do they just rob you of joy and piss you off? well hop on in and crank down that lever and find out for yourself. What are you waiting for?When was the last time you di...2023-08-2331 minThe MentalEdge PodcastE#122 True Generosity = 0 Expectation!Fernando had something on his heart that he wanted to talk about. There are many facets of generosity. But true Generosity goes beyond the tithe and it expects nothing in return. "Are you a generous man"? Fernando Asks!Let us know fellas. Click the play button to hear all about it!2023-08-0331 minThe MentalEdge PodcastE #120 Shed the Shame: An Interview with Susanna LopezSusanna Lopez is the wife of handsome MentalEdge Co-host Fernando Lopez Jr.She aint to shabby herself, lemme tell ya. She's a beautiful person inside and out and thats not fluff I assure you. Just listen to her candidly reflect on her life. The only thing that trumps her beauty is her modesty and her work ethic.Her openness and honesty will prove to be refreshing and astoundingly brave as she reveals something she has never told anybody. Please do yourself a favor and listen to this episode. Young ladies, if...2023-04-281h 05The MentalEdge PodcastE# 118 An Interview with Sade Carrasquillo "For the Love of the Arts"Fernando and Jay sat down with Sade Carrasquillo, our third incredible woman in a series of 7!Sade is The Founder and Executive Director of For the Love of the Arts.A non profit organization dedicated to reducing youth violence by introducing them the arts and helping them discover their hidden talents. Sade has a personal story that helps her connect with the youth she serves. Isn't it awesome that through surrender, your conquered past becomes part of someone else's future. Amen!2023-02-2340 minThe MentalEdge PodcastE# 117 "Full of Purpose" and Interview with Jena Rae Maldonado!Fernando and Jay sit down with another amazing woman. Jena Rae Maldonado, a Celebrate Recovery lead Facilitator, the President of the Porter County Republican Women and a newly elected Portage Township Board member. Wow!To be so effective and valuable within the community she must have always made the right choices in life right. Not hardly, in fact...The enemy had destructive plans for Jena. But then God! 2023-02-1429 minThe MentalEdge PodcastE #116 "Always on the Run" an Interview with Missy Wacasey!Ladies and Gentleman, The MentalEdge would like to introduce you to the Alpha Queen of CreataSpacePlace....Missy WacaseyFernando and Jay are dedicating the next 7 episodes to women who have inspired them.First up. A lady that has inspired so many, Missy Wacasey. Whats so impressive and inspirational you might ask....How about the fact that she's a real deal USW Local 1011 Steel Worker and has been for the past 24 years. Using a torch as tall as her to scarf cracks out of steel slabs. Yeah that's her daily lineup!2023-02-0839 minThe MentalEdge PodcastE# 115 Turn Down to Turn Up!Fernando and Jay discuss the value of taking a break from perceived need. Jay is about to take the next weeks and dedicate one day each week, to a complete food and social media fast. What day?...MANday of course. Fernando has a private commitment he will fill you in on in the coming weeks as well. How do you make Monday even more of a MANday in MentalEdge land. You deny yourself the things you have been taught you're supposed to need and tell the Creator that you have purposely turned down the...2023-01-2126 minThe MentalEdge PodcastS.4 E #29 The Course of Divorce Part 3 The Future of Me!It' all said and done, right? You're just waiting for that final official legal notification that comes in the mail. You are officially divorced. Most will tell you that this letter arrival was a liberating moment. But Fernando and I would like you to know that it's ok if at first its not so celebratory and instead feels a little like a surreal low moment. And even though its considered final in the eyes of the court, what's separated on paper isn't always as separated in our hyper connected world. How do you man...2022-11-1037 minThe MentalEdge PodcastS.4 E#27 The Course of Divorce Part 1Full disclosure, this is not an episode about reconciliation. Although we will usually give the advice that you should always try to save your marriage, this is not an episode about that...for the sake of this conversation, we are going to say.."that ship has sailed".In addition this is not an episode where you'll hear two previously divorced men, bash their ex-wives. As Fernando would say..."we don't sip that poison".This is an episode where we acknowledge the many emotions you will feel during the process of divorce. This is an episode...2022-10-2531 minThe MentalEdge PodcastS.4 E #25 Things You Just Don't Do!Sometimes Fernando and I like to have a little fun. Cut it up as they say...So, we asked the question to some of our Social Media Friends.What are some things that you just don't do? Here's a few.Yes of course that Rhymes...just like the little ditty at the end of the episode. Some of our gracious friends responded. Were you one of them? Your gonna hafta listen to find out. So dont be a chicken and get ta click'n2022-10-0416 minThe MentalEdge PodcastS.4 E#24 Harnessing the Power of AngerAnger is a natural response to injustice. However, it often results in uncontrollable responses that evolve into regret. But it doesn't have to be that way.Is it possible that anger can be used for construction instead of destruction? Of course it is. Remember it's not the fuel that is the problem, it's how we choose to burn it. Anger can be motivational propellent or catastrophic combustion.Its up to us!So make the decision to be in charge of your emotional response toward being angry. Listen to Jay and Fernando p...2022-09-2818 minThe MentalEdge PodcastS.4 E#22 Can Your Future Shape Your Past?The Question is..."Can your Future shape your past?" Fernando and I believe it can. We have one request, don't try to answer the question until after you listen to the Episode.Then please, let us know what you think! Remember...if you like what you heard. The most flattering thing you can do is like and share!2022-08-2924 minThe MentalEdge PodcastS.4 E#20 Random Conversations With Awesome People!The verdict is in, people are awesome. To prove this Fernando, Jay and Missy set up tent at Hobart's Amazing Thursday Night Summer Market to share the news that an incredible new business has arrived in Hobart (CreataSpacePlace and the MentalEdge Studio) and to randomly interview anybody who was game. The Night was full of great conversation and a little surprise for old Jay. Somehow I "accidentally " witnessed my youngest son land his first Kiss. Or at least I saw it get landed on him. Thats his story anyway.Let's just leave it at that. Tu...2022-08-0938 minThe MentalEdge PodcastS.4 E#19 Netflix and Chill on Your Highlight Reel!Fernando And Jay get to talking about how you can sometimes get caught up in believing that you whole life aught to look like a non-stop highlight reel of incredible events. It's a silly un-realistic fantasy that can make you feel like you're not succeeding.The truth is, Whether it be Netflix and Chill leisure or mountain top victory, those moments are only a tiny percentage of your life. You have to do battle with your mind and your social media feed to in order to not be fooled by the silly notion that your li...2022-07-2631 minThe MentalEdge PodcastS.4 E.14 Service With A SmileFernando and I have learned many valuable lessons in 4 seasons. Many of those lessons have served us well in the future in ways we didn't expect!One of the most valuable lesson we've learned is that Compensation for service isn't always the type you swipe. You don't alway get that gas money. But we seem to have this intuitive, life learned, boomerang blessing, confidence that helps us discern when it makes sense to be part of the solution and not worry about that milk money. Each and every time we have dedicated our time and d...2022-05-0920 minThe MentalEdge PodcastS.4 E.9 Do You Believe in Hidden Progress?Fernando had this vision of a stone worker striking a rock. 100 or 1000 times..boom boom boom boom, over and over and over again and then suddenly, after what seemed like no progress, the rock broke. Was it all about the last Blow?How often do we stay vigilant until the work is done. How often do we peel off just before the breakthrough? How often do we fail to realize that the delay in completion is exactly where we experience the most growth? Where our character is developed in ways that immediate success simply couldn't have fostered. 2022-03-2827 minThe MentalEdge PodcastS.4 E.7 How Important Is Respect In A Mans Life?There are few words more powerful in a mans life than to hear that he is highly respected. As young men we are told that this thing which is so important to us has to be earned. It seems love is supposed to be unconditional yet respect is very conditional. At times we have gone to great lengths to facilitate being respected and sometimes we have done things we regretted when we felt dis-respected!Many of us have tried to purchase respect through the acquisition of possessions but the tradeoff is costly and those things didn't generate...2022-03-1543 minThe MentalEdge PodcastS.4 E.6 The Problem With Beating Your Meat!Attention...Ladies and Children..this episode is not for you...Men only please.Fernando and I think Its time to get back to the Man topics that made this show great. So what do we do?..We tackle the one topic nobody will dare touch. Beating your Meat...Like Fernando says..this was a tough one to talk about but..this is why we do this show.Listen to this no holds barred conversation about this taboo topic. If your favorite little rascal is Spanky..this ones for you. Heck its for all of us. 2022-03-0847 minThe MentalEdge PodcastS.4 E.5 You Can't Read a Poem Like A Science Book!Sometimes the tried and true method just doesn't fit. You may have had success as a parent and watched your oldest child stand on the podium and accept the spelling bee trophy only to find that for you second child, reading doesn't come easy. In this example a blanket approach to parenting might fall short. Yet this same child who struggles to spell and read seems to be able to play the piano by ear. Its so important to understand and respect their uniqueness. Whether it be children or our opportunities it may require us to be fle...2022-03-0222 minThe MentalEdge PodcastS.4 E.3 Restore to More, An Interview with Marco and Delia of Restored Nutrition!What does success look like to you? In the beginning of this Interview Marco turned the question back on me because it's an important question to him and Delia and he wanted to make sure we weren't getting it twisted. It was an easy question to answer though, because we felt like we were sitting across from success. Fernando bounced off of that defining moment and we began to breakdown where this couples drive and determination comes from...spoiler alert, its the same place their favor comes from. You won't want to miss a second of this fi...2022-02-1429 minThe MentalEdge PodcastS.4. E.2 An Interview With Roy Serafin.."Your Once In A Life Time Moment is Safe With Him"MentalEdge Nation your about to meet one of the most inspirational Entrepreneurs that has ever appeared on our show. Mr. Roy the Photographer Serafin. You don't want to miss a minute of our conversation with this fascinating creative mind. During our conversation both Fernando and I felt like we should have been paying Roy for some of his secrets. But he was as generous as ever. Why, because that's the type of relationship he wants to have with the people he Coaches and Photographs. Roys a full time highly successful Wedding photographer and Business coach. An...2022-02-061h 07