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Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and JessBetween Grief and Gratitude: Our Final Episode Of Feel ThisIn this deeply moving final episode, Frank and Jess explore the art of ending well, examining both the grief of letting go and the celebration of what they've created together over four years of podcasting. Their conversation weaves through themes of vulnerability, mutual appreciation, and the transformative power of intentional relationship. Key points: - Frank and Jess's decision to end the podcast - Exploration of different approaches to endings and grief - Discussion of "failure narratives" versus authentic assessment of value - Deep appreciation for their...2024-11-181h 34Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#78 Sparks of Aliveness and Rediscovering the Why in CreativityIn this introspective episode, Frank and Jess explore the delicate balance between personal growth, creative expression, and the challenges of public sharing. Their conversation weaves through themes of authenticity, inner spark, and the importance of boundaries, all while considering the future direction of their podcast.Key points:- Frank shares his uncertainty about continuing the podcast in its current form, expressing a desire for more structure and connection with listeners- Jess reflects on her recent experience of allowing herself to create art at a slower, more authentic pace2024-10-201h 21Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and JessSession #77, The Tarot's Whisper: Embracing the Universe as Other# Feel This: Episode 77 In this deeply reflective episode, Frank and Jess navigate the complexities of emotional states, the power of connection, and the profound insights offered by tarot. Their conversation weaves through personal struggles, the nature of consciousness, and the transformative potential of engaging with the world around us. Key points: - Frank shares his experience of feeling "dorsal" and emotionally heavy, likening it to his 11-12 year old self - Jess reflects on her recent challenging day and the importance of connection during difficult...2024-10-061h 15Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and JessSession # 76: Tears and Tarot: Navigating Growth and VulnerabilityIn this deeply introspective episode, Frank and Jess explore the interplay between personal growth, vulnerability, and the wisdom found in tarot cards. Their conversation weaves through themes of emotional processing, professional relationships, and the profound insights that can arise from seemingly mundane experiences. - Jess shares her recent experience of emotional vulnerability, including spending "a more than normal amount of time crying yesterday" and making a difficult decision to decline an opportunity to maintain balance in her life. - Frank opens up about his fears and joys in witnessing Jess' personal growth...2024-09-221h 15Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#75 Riding the Waves: Balancing Excitement and Stillness in Life's Flow# Feel This: Episode 75 In this episode, Frank and Jess dive deep into the realms of presence, excitement, and the natural ebb and flow of energy in our lives. They explore these themes through the lens of a Tarot card - the Six of Cups - which sparks a rich discussion about balance, healing, and the joy of being present in the moment. Key points: - The importance of balancing excitement and stillness in our lives - How to find presence and joy in any circumstance...2024-09-081h 25Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and JessSession # 74- Unveiling the Emperor and Empress: A Tarot Journey into Self-AwarenessIn this enlightening episode of "Feel This," Frank and Jess dive deep into the realm of tarot, self-awareness, and the delicate balance between action and receptivity. Frank and Jess explore how tarot can be a powerful tool for self-reflection and gaining new perspectives on life's challenges. They discuss the importance of seeing things as they truly are, the balance between taking action and being receptive, and the value of fully embodying one's authentic self. The conversation touches on themes of personal growth, the limitations of thought-based existence, and the transformative power of presence and...2024-08-251h 09Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#73- Embracing Sadness as Self Care
In this deeply introspective episode, Frank and Jess explore the delicate balance between structure and freedom, giving and receiving, and how these dynamics play out in their personal growth and relationship.
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[00:01:27] Frank leads a grounding meditation on self-compassion and care[00:07:49] Jess shares her experiences with balancing structure and freedom in her life[00:13:00] Frank discusses his relationship with sadness and the practice of being present with emotions[00:25:00] Exploration of the giving and receiving dynamic in relationships[00:34:20] Frank opens up about his cu...2024-08-111h 33Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and JessSession #72: The Dance of Parts: Integrating IFS, Tarot, and Authentic ConnectionIn this expansive episode, Frank and Jess dive deep into the integration of tarot into their podcast format, exploring themes of inner relationships, self-compassion, and the power of embracing the unknown. Key points: [00:01:14] Frank leads a grounding meditation on gentleness and internal family systems [00:09:07] Jess shares her experience with a nonviolent communication class on transforming the inner critic [00:16:57] Discussion on the recent tarot reading for Frank and its lingering effects [00:25:26] Jess pulls three tarot cards: Two of Cups, Nine of Wands, and The Lovers [00:33:59] Exploration of the Two of Cups and internal relationships [00:47:08] The Nine of...2024-07-281h 25Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and JessSession #70: Unveiling the Seven of Cups - A Tarot-Inspired Journey into Belief and PerceptionIn this thought-provoking episode, Frank and Jess delve into the complex world of beliefs, exploring how our perceptions shape our reality and impact our relationships. Through the lens of tarot and personal experiences, they discuss the vulnerability of sharing our deepest truths and the courage it takes to stand firm in our beliefs while remaining open to different perspectives. The conversation touches on the fear of rejection when our beliefs differ from others, the importance of internal validation, and the potential for growth that comes from engaging with diverse viewpoints. Frank and Jess challenge...2024-07-121h 29Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and JessSession #69: Feel This 2.0, Enter the TarotIn this episode, Frank and Jess vulnerably navigate the waters of change as they discuss bringing Jess's tarot practice into the podcast. Through authentic sharing and deep listening, they explore the fears, excitement, and growth opportunities that arise in the face of transition. The tarot cards offer profound insights on presence, unity, and self-care, mirroring the very themes that emerge in their conversation. As Jess steps more fully into her purpose and Frank embraces the co-creative process, "Feel This 2.0" is born—a testament to the transformative power of relationship and the wisdom that lies within each of us. ...2024-06-161h 19Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and JessSession #68: The Power of Practice In Everyday LifeIn this session, Frank and Jess explore the concept of practice and how it can be applied to various aspects of life, from engaging with addictive behaviors to finding joy in the present moment. They illuminate the importance of integrating all parts of ourselves and finding the hidden wisdom in even the most mundane activities. Key Takeaways: - Viewing everyday activities as practices can help us find deeper meaning and opportunities for growth - Allowing ourselves to fully experience and enjoy the present moment can help break patterns of compulsive...2024-06-021h 15Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and JessSession #67: The Knight of Resignation - Navigating Vulnerability and AcceptanceIn this session, Frank and Jess dive deep into the murky waters of resignation, uncovering its sneaky power. Jess names the constriction and anger bubbling up around her upcoming art show, while Frank shares his own experiences navigating the push and pull between connection and self-protection. Together, they explore how resignation can act as a false bottom, making us believe that disappointment is inevitable and vulnerability is just too risky. But they also discover that by differentiating from resignation and bringing gentle awareness to it, we can start to untangle ourselves from its grip. Jess even pulls some tarot...2024-05-191h 26Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and JessSession #66: Exploring Healing and Self-Awareness with AIIn this thought-provoking session, Frank and Jess venture into the uncharted territory of using artificial intelligence for self-discovery and personal transformation. Frank introduces his work with Claude, an AI model developed by Anthropic, which he has tailored through meticulously designed prompts to act as a mirror for deep introspection. For listeners new to the concept, prompts are the initial instructions given to an AI that significantly shape the subsequent interaction. They are a way to "program" the AI to better serve specific purposes, like fostering self-awareness. Key Takeaways: Thoughtfully crafted AI prompts can turn...2024-05-051h 19Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and JessSession #65: Detoxing from Fear and ControlFrank and Jess share the practice of softening, the most amazing antidote to defensiveness. Softening connects us to a fuller sense of self, by creating space for our “negative” parts. This detox process can be slow and scary, but it leads to more flow and energy to take action naturally, without having to push ourselves. Recorded 4/10/2024 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! We would love to stay connected!  Join Our Mailing List and talk with us directly! Coming soon! A Feel This online community space. Keep an eye and ear out!2024-04-2158 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and JessSession #64: The Mom Shack - Grieving a Dream to Find Peace in the PresentIn this deeply personal and revelatory episode, Frank vulnerably shares about a profound setback he recently faced and the powerful emotions of grief and shame that arose in its wake. Jess holds space for Frank's authentic expression, as they navigate the complex terrain of grief, shame, and the inner child's longing for joy and connection. Through their dialogue, Frank and Jess model the transformative potential of being witnessed in our rawest experiences. They explore the importance of allowing all emotions to be felt and expressed, without trying to bypass or "fix" the discomfort. As Frank touches the...2024-04-071h 18Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess(Re-Release) Rupture and RepairAfter hitting a bump in the relationship road, Jess & Frank share what happened and how they got back on track and reconnected. This rich conversation begins after an 8 minute meditation settling into the body and checking in with any relationship where you may be feeling confusion, complication or rupture. Recorded 5/26/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to remain anonymous. Either way, we would love to hear...2024-02-251h 25Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#61 - Surfing the Waves: From Beauty Culture to Inner VoicesFeel This: Exploring Trauma, Healing, and Awakening In this episode of 'Feel This', hosts Jessica and Frank delve into the depths of the human mind exploring trauma, healing, and awakening with an opening grounding meditation. Their conversation navigates towards various subjects such as acceptance, beauty culture, judgment, relationship with oneself, interpretation of indirect communications and the roles these take in forming individuals' experiences and responses. Both Jessica and Frank recount personal anecdotes forming the crux of their experiential conversations. The episode emphasises the practice of understanding oneself, maintaining the presence of consciousness...2024-02-111h 07Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#60, Part 2 - Relaxing with the Parts That Can’t RelaxAs the conversation continues, Jess sees Frank's agitation as a spot of color rather than a wash over the whole canvas. A connected exploration follows, including how we learn to surf the waves of our feelings and parts with growing and nuanced skill. When parts ask, "Did I make a mistake?" can we rejoice with our contraction? Can we say yes to our nearly overwhelming feelings and beliefs and stories? How do we say yes to our no's? The episode ends with a content cliffhanger that Frank and Jess are excited to explore in the next episode. ...2024-02-0435 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#60 pt 1 Minding the Gap: Finding meaning and connection through agitationWhen Frank enters into the space feeling agitated, it opens up a conscious dialogue about the gaps in our perceptions of ourselves and how others see us, what meanings we create when we are "struggling" with circumstances in life, and the difference between struggling or simply being present to all feelings as they arise. Lots of gaps to mind, each offering an infinite richness in their mystery. Join us for the open and courageous in-the-moment exploration of relationship and presence. New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! We were selected...2024-01-2838 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#59, Part 2 -- My Part's Worst FearIn part two Frank’s and Jess’s parts quickly get all tangled up in a mini drama of judgments and apology after Frank retroactively says the thing he was afraid Jess might hear as criticism… and she does. Or, rather, her parts do! This gives us a chance to return to a question from episode 58: Can we choice-fully make meaning when our parts are triggered? We also look at what is the “Self” and is it a part or simply who we are? Recorded 1/10/2024 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're her...2024-01-2133 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#59, Part 1 — The Mid-Winter Meeting of the HermitsJess and Frank enter into a wintery conversation, one which Jess likens to two hermits meeting during a break from their separate retreats from the world. The tone is introspective and deliberate. In the first section, both Jess and Frank allow themselves to let go more into a flow in the episode, allowing for a relaxing of their 'doing,' task-oriented minds, easing into a present moment conscious and interconnected "we" space. They open to the discomfort of this unknown, acknowledging and embracing the anxiousness about stepping into it. This leads to a mutual...2024-01-1447 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#58, Part 2 — Finding Windows of AgencyAs the conversation on meaning-making continues, Jess and Frank make room for disagreement to be a source of connection. While Frank explores the importance that conscious meaning-making holds for him right now, Jess gets clearer on her internal resistance to the idea of always having some agency.  Recorded 12/27/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! We were selected in 2023 by Feedspot in their Top 30 Internal Family Systems Podcasts! The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place in. They will enhance y...2024-01-0738 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#58, Part 1 — Mortality and Meaning-Making During the HolidaysToday begins with a lovely, deep, sense-based meditation. Then Frank and Jess discuss the windows of power and meaning that open up in a moment of panic after Jess’s mom is in a car accident the day before Christmas Eve. Recorded 12/27/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! We were selected in 2023 by Feedspot in their Top 30 Internal Family Systems Podcasts! The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place in. They will enhance your listening experience of our podcast an...2024-01-0550 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#57, Part 2 — Mind Altering Possibilities, Part 2Today the conversation exploring Frank taking a low dose of ketamine in the podcast space continues. Woven through with exploration and connection, Jess gives voice to parts both curious and uncertain and Frank stays with his authentic desire even as he hears Jessica’s questions and concerns. Recorded 11/22/2023 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place in. They will enhance your listening experience of our podcast and give you tools to use in your life and relationships. 2023-12-2429 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#57, Part 1 — Mind Altering PossibilitiesWe begin with an experiential and grounding meditation. This leads into a slow, spacious “feelings first” conversation in which Frank suggests doing a low dose of ketamine during the podcast and Jessica has feelings, thoughts, questions, and parts. Recorded 11/22/2023 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  The primer episodes below establish the space our conversations take place in. They will enhance your listening experience of our podcast and give you tools to use in your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Modes of Communication 2023-12-1728 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#55, Part 2 — Engagement is Always Good, Right?When we put ourselves and our creations “out there” we can’t control how others will respond. In this episode, more connected and coming in with different points of view, Frank and Jess dive into a discussion about social media. Frank sees any response as an ultimately positive move, while Jess is aware of her protective parts pushing a “I don’t care what people think” message. Recorded 10/16/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will en...2023-11-2843 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#55, Part 1 — Dancing in the “We Space”After a lovely meditation, today’s episode finds Frank in flow creating music and Jessica watching with curiosity the parts she has that seemingly want to paint… not painting but instead finding distraction through random to-do’s. A connected We Space is cultivated by Frank and Jess naming parts that want to come forward, others that want to hold back, and which are feeling ambivalent. All this leads to the beginnings of a conversation both are interested in about how (and why!) we show up on social media. Recorded 10/16/2023 New to Feel This...2023-11-1946 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess(Re-release) Looking Into Internal Family Systems(Originally released January 2022) What are “parts” and why are we always talking about them? Today we’re exploring Internal Family Systems and modeling what working with it looks like. This episode offers an overview on a healing modality we’ve been strongly influenced by in our lives that shows up here, in Feel This.   Frank is Level 3 IFS trained and has been practicing since 2014. Jess has been using IFS since 2015 in personal healing and as a relationship tool.  Recorded 01/04/2022  Links ⁠Internal Family Systems Tim Ferriss Episode #492 Richard Schwartz & IFS ⁠ ⁠AEDP - Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy ⁠ New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! ...2023-11-121h 33Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess(Re-release) The Red Button(Originally recorded December 2021) Today Frank shares a powerful thought experiment he calls the Red Button, inspired by the intense experience of having a life-threatening brain tumor. We also get very clear about one of our foundational practices on this podcast: Feelings first, content second!  Recorded 12/21/2021  New to Feel This? We're happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Mod...2023-10-221h 36Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#54, Part 2 — When Fun is Fun, Not AvoidanceWhen our kid parts get overwhelmed, finding “serotonin hits” in fun activities, video games and bright colored paint for example, can be just the thing. Today Frank and Jess share how taking care of their 10 year olds has changed with growth and healing. Connecting in real time with each other, in this episode they demonstrate how connection leads to healing… and then fun is simply fun! Recorded 9/20/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will en...2023-10-2046 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#54, Part 1 — Old Story, All New TerrainWhen we are with another person, how do we live as if that current moment is more important than any other thought or idea? In this episode, Frank and Jess leave their little bubbles and throw all their toys in together, and the relationship begins to come forward in new ways. In this space, Frank shares his current experience of an old, familiar story returning in a whole new way, ready for some deeper excavation. Recorder 9/20/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the s...2023-10-0844 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#53, Part 1 — Sitting Quietly In the Middle of the MessMoving from the pressure and stress of travel back to clarity and presence, Jess shares her quiet moment of revelation along Highway 1. She first had to choose to move into the hot mess of feelings and judgments, which she had unsuccessfully been trying to dismiss, dodge or manage. While in the middle of all that messiness, the magic occurred! Recorded 9/11/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well a...2023-09-2450 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#52, Part 2: Reaching Out from Inside the Triggered SpaceWhen our internal turmoil of thoughts and feelings seem more real than what’s happening around us, how do we connect to ourselves and others in the now? Frank is sharing his experience visiting Maui after the fires. He moves between presence to his intense internal experience and connection to Jess in the present moment. This balancing act has an effect that you may find surprising! Recorded 8/14/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below wil...2023-09-1743 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#52, Part 1: Connecting Through The Maui FiresHow do you keep track of ourselves in the face of trauma? How do we not lose ourselves when others are sharing their trauma with us, or when we are sharing our trauma with others? In part one of this episode, Frank shares his feelings and relationship to the fires in Maui, as a part time resident. Together, Jess and Frank process the emotions related to the fires while simultaneously working to be present in the moment and connected. Witness how their connection brings an enlightening energy to the intensity, modeling clearly how presence in relationship is...2023-09-1048 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#51, Part 2: The Interplay of Healing and AwakeningFrank and Jess engage in a deep and introspective conversation about their present experiences and the value of connection. They explore the concept of being fully present in the moment and the importance of staying connected to one's authentic self. They discuss the interplay between healing and awakening, and how a soft and open nervous system can facilitate the process of awakening. They also touch on the power of compliments and the joy of expressing gratitude. Overall, their conversation highlights the beauty of being present and the transformative potential of genuine connection. Frank-(00:14:53) 2023-09-0349 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#51, Part 1: Navigating Disconnection and Obligation in RelationshipsSummary:Jess and Frank start the episode by inviting listeners to bring their attention to their inner experience of being in the moment. They emphasize the importance of staying present and not getting caught up in thoughts or external distractions. Jess shares her nervousness and excitement about an upcoming trip and the release of her website. Frank guides her through exploring her feelings of irritation and anger, offering a safe space for her to express herself. They discuss the concept of obligation and how it can impact relationships. The conversation deepens as they explore the dynamics of connection...2023-08-2759 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#50, Part 2: Conflict at KaraokeWhen someone responds to Frank’s big energy at karaoke with a strong request for boundaries, Franks shares his experience of staying with himself and his emotions. Recorded 07/31/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Modes of Communication https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/nzuOUvLZltb Pri...2023-08-2048 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#50, Part 1: I Can’t Feel My MouthFresh out of a dental procedure, Jess shares her experience, which is both personally specific and universally human. Having this fallible and impermanent body with history of trauma in a vulnerable, mundane moment is one of life’s everyday rollercoasters. Frank explores what it’s like to be a “good listener” and an authentic listener. Link: Episode 3 - The Red Button Recorded 07/31/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening...2023-08-1353 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#49, Part 2: The Risk and Exhilaration of RelationshipAn invigorating conversation ensues when Jess asks Frank to reflect on their relationship. Here’s the bottom line for all of us: There is great potential to experience tremendous aliveness within relationships. And it comes from the transparent revelation of feeling. Feeling sourced in authenticity, self focus and personal responsibility. Mentioned: Cenote, Love Languages Recorded 07/17/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you too...2023-08-061h 04Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#49, Part 1: Laughing with Me, Not at MeIt’s a little unusual… Frank is feeling grumbly while Jess comes in open and happy. From this place they explore when poking fun brings lightness and joy into a relationship versus when it feels critical. Recorded 7/17/2023 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Modes of Communication https://spotifyanchor-web.app.l...2023-07-3048 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#48, Part 2: The ReadingJess gives Frank a reading of three tarot cards, looking more deeply into his growing sense of who he, and you, truly are. The cards reflect what is has meant to see himself more as pure awareness than ego and thought and where this new awareness leading him. Card Images: Ten of Swords King of Swords Page of Wands The Empress Recorded 7/7/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes e...2023-07-2347 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#48, Part 1: New Tool, New Resistance, New PerspectiveWhen we are at home in ourselves and our awareness, our thoughts are no more “us” than the hair on our heads. We explore “staying home” within ourselves and each other as Jess gets ready to pull tarot cards for Frank. Recorded 7/7/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Modes of Communica...2023-07-1642 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#47, Part 2: “Trust, Let Go, Open”Jess interviews Frank about his recent ketamine journeys. Frank shares particular meditations that have been a part of his soft movement toward challenging and mucky areas within. The positive feedback loop created by these journeys and nurturing awareness of the spiritual heart is allowing him to bring this open peace to others when that tightness shows up in them. Recorded 06/19/23 Links - Loche Kelly , Adyashanti , Ketamine New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes b...2023-07-0938 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#47, Part 1: What if We Start Crying and Can't Stop?Jess is feeling a sadness today and there is no fixing needed! She and Frank explore going slow as a means to soften toward the inner, emotional experience. Which sounds nice, but can stir up fears around “being emotional.” Also, it turns out grief is normal when we’re finally given a cup of water in the desert. Recorded 06/19/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give yo...2023-07-0249 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#46, Part 1: How “Me” Meets “We”Today we explore how arguments are opportunities to return to ourselves again and again. Frank shares a recent experience where both he and his partner were triggered during an everyday conversation and how he navigated his inner turmoil and pull toward blame. Ultimately the practice of self-tending is tending the relationship as well. Recorded 06/14/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you t...2023-06-1859 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#44, Part 2: Money Like FireJoin us for a dive into Frank’s money story. We look at where our money beliefs come from and how getting to know them paves the way to a more creative future.  Listen in for accessible and practical tools we can all use to befriend this often fraught form of energy. Recorded 5/9/23  New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and r...2023-05-2845 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#44, Part 1: Taking 100% ResponsibilityToday Frank is experiencing very strong emotions, like getting too close to a hot stove, and Jess shares some money beliefs that contribute “drama triangle” energy to her struggle with money. Recorded 05/09/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Modes of Communication https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/nzuOUvLZltb 2023-05-2151 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#43, Part 1: Contractions Come Like a StormJess and Frank negotiate how to have a more structured conversation when Frank has been feeling contracted and cocooned in his nervous system. Recorded 05/05/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Modes of Communication https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/nzuOUvLZltb Primer #2 - Looking into I...2023-05-0742 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#42, Part 2: Relationships are MessyJess and Frank finish up their conflict, tie up some relational and anger loose ends, and talk about their upcoming money conversation. Recorded 4/11/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Modes of Communication https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/nzuOUvLZltb Primer #2 - L...2023-04-3039 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#42, Part 1: Anger as RollercoasterBefore moving to the topic of money, Frank and Jess need to clear a conflict in the relational space. Our anger matters. Your anger matters! And when we’re listening to someone else’s angry parts, we’re likely to experience defensiveness. Buckle up, it’s gonna be a spicy ride. Recorded on 4/11/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your...2023-04-2336 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#41, Part 1 What are We Doing Here?Frank and Jess explore the parts that show up in the podcast that want to be seen and the parts that don’t want to be seen. They ask, “Are we creating something of value here?” Also, Frank’s experience helping Wendy while she was sick and Jess getting a bunch of “old” art ready for a new Airbnb in North Carolina. We begin by grounding into what we’re feeling and not trying to fix what we’re feeling. Recorded 03/28/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Ou...2023-04-0944 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#40, Part 2: I Can Show Up for a Younger MeFrank shares his recent adventure going to speech therapy without shame and feeling empowered to undo something deeply habitualized with the parts and feelings that have shown up along the way. Recorded 03/17/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Modes of Communication https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/nzuOUvLZltb Primer #2 - L...2023-04-0244 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#40, Part 1: Growth and ChangeFrank shares the story of his lifelong lisp and why he has decided to go into speech therapy now. Recorded 3/17/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Modes of Communication https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/nzuOUvLZltb Primer #2 - Looking into Internal Family Systems https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/PFdr9uLZltb Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it o...2023-03-2644 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#39, Part 1: Release Control, Find Safety WithinJess shares a dream in which “Frank” makes an appearance. Also, they look at how anxious “safety” differs from the true safety that comes from being ok with whatever happens next. Recorded 03/10/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Modes of Communication https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/nzuOUvLZltb Primer #2 - Looking...2023-03-1247 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#38, Part 1: Blah or Angry? We Can Still ConnectFrank comes in in a somewhat dorsal state, feeling a bit disconnected, and though being in “dorsal” is not generally desirable, Jess is surprisingly grateful.  Today’s meditation moves our awareness from the outer world to our inner world and primary emotions. Links: Dorsal vagal state Recorded 02/14/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer...2023-02-2651 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#36 Part 1: Where Pain is Mandatory but Suffering is OptionalAfter a short sense meditation, Jess and Frank look at their “anxious” and “depressed” cycles as natural and normal and being with old patterns in new ways. TW: This episode contains references to depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation. Please listen with care for yourself and your nervous system. Links: Deb Dana and the Polyvagal System Recorded 1/17/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give...2023-01-2946 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#35 Part 2: Finding Ground in Stormy SeasReady for today’s adventure story time? Frank’s father becomes deregulated, leading Frank into a cascade of young parts. Can he hold onto himself? Can he practice what he preaches in a stressful moment and come back to himself? Jess brings interesting inquiries to the postmortem analysis. TW: This episode contains references to childhood trauma and violence, Ketamine treatment, psychotic breaks. Please listen with care for yourself and your nervous system. Links: Polyvagal, dorsal vagal Recorded 1/3/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our...2023-01-2256 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#35 Part 1: When “Out of Control” is Feeling ALIVEIt’s an exciting ride of revelation and connection. Jess comes in significantly triggered, while Frank is annoyed with “Frank the Podcast Host” after listening to a recent episode. In today’s meditation we notice our thoughts as the “Theater of the Mind” and reflect on the recent Holiday season TW: This episode contains references to Ketamine treatment. Please listen with care for yourself and your nervous system. Recorded 1/3/23 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place i...2023-01-1546 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#34 Part 2: All As It’s Supposed to BeContinuing their conversation, Jess and Frank explore the interplay between authentic desire, the honest Yes and No, and what happens when Shoulds soften. Hint: We don’t need to put so much energy into controlling the flow of our lives. TW: This episode contains references to sexuality. Please listen with care for yourself and your nervous system. Links: Somatica Recorded 12/06/22 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your li...2023-01-0842 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#34 Part 1: Coming CleanIn today’s 8 minute meditation we turn toward the present moment and see how that changes the present moment.  Then we each share examples of that juicy, very human tendency to want to squirm our way out of our missteps and lies and the medicine of setting the record straight. TW: This episode contains references to sexuality, aging parents, illness and mortality. Please listen with care for yourself and your nervous system. Links: Somatica Recorded 12/06/22 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer epi...2023-01-0151 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#33 Part 2: Exploring Rupture in the “We” SpaceHave you heard the phrase “Don’t Believe Everything You Think”? Well, what do we do when something “feels” SO true, but we know it’s not? We explore changing long-standing patterns and ways of seeing that can’t be changed by simply thinking differently. TW: While there are no obvious triggers in this episode, please listen with care for yourself and your nervous system. Links: Non Violent Communication, NVC Needs List, Dr. Yvette Erasmus, Byron Katie, Wabi sabi Recorded 11/22/22 New to Feel This? We're happy you're here! Our prim...2022-12-1848 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#33 Part 1: Relational ResiliencyWhat do we do when an unresolved hurt from our past is suddenly activated simply by someone's response to what we’ve said? Today Jess and Frank take an opportunity for some live rupture and repair. Today’s meditation moves the awareness down to the belly, bringing new meaning to the phrase “trust your gut”. TW: While there are no obvious triggers in this episode, please listen with care for yourself and your nervous system. Links: For more about the Domination and Collaboration Paradigms visit Dr. Yvette Erasmus’s website. Recorded 11/22/22 ...2022-12-1149 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#32 Part 2: A Pause Before the Rising Tide Toward ActionAsk yourself, “Am I reaching out to you from love, joy, security, care, and presence OR from anxiety, panic, worry, and fear?” Whatever the answer, simply notice. TW: We’re not aware of this episode containing triggering references. Nonetheless, please listen with care for yourself and your nervous system. Links: When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron Recorded 11/08/22 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as wel...2022-12-0436 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#32 Part 1: Fantasies Crumbling Into an Unknown SelfToday’s meditation takes you into a 9 minute, nuanced exploration of the breath and acknowledging your current emotions. Then we share the discomfort of our current growing edges and the feelings that come with crossing the gap between who we are and who we want to be. Can we do it without causing harm? TW: This episode contains references to cults, misuse of power, prostitution, and death. Please listen with care for yourself and your nervous system. Links: The Vow  Cover Story, Season 1: Power Trip The Path  Reco...2022-11-2745 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#31 Part 2: When Difficult Family Dynamics Aren’t Very DifficultFrank shares two rich stories from his recent family reunion that might look like family drama and chaos to most, instead staying grounded and aware of the invitations into control and anger. Trigger Warnings: Family abuse, potential gun violence, political differences Links: Uncle Frank, 2020 movie Recorded 10/25/22 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. 2022-11-2043 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#31 Part 1: The Payoff of Self-AttunementMeditation (8 min) - Listening closely and attuning to right now within, which we return to again and again, like practicing scales on a piano. Frank shares stories from his recent family reunion, including his own “latent growth”, that now results in handling family interactions with calm and warmth. Trigger Warnings: Physical & Verbal Family Abuse; Bullying Recorded 10/25/22 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tool...2022-11-1342 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#30 Part 2: Distortions and NightmaresSo, getting to know my distortions is how I begin to myself and others?! In Part 2 we look at disidentification, distorted thinking and why it can be so intense to wake from these nightmares we call reality. Links:  Nine of Swords image Ten of Swords image Happiness Book: From Strength to Strength by Arthur Brooks Recorded 10/11/22 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for y...2022-11-0633 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#30 Part 1: Safe Containment for BIG EmotionsFrank begins with a nuanced meditation on sound which transitions into a nuanced exploration of our current mental patterns and stories. Today we look at creating safe containment to be in direct relationship with our emotions. We’re looking specifically at anger, the compartmentalizing we do in childhood to keep ourselves safe, and how that cuts us off from our life’s energy and flow. We explore other options and ways of creating space for the “wild horses” within us. Recorded on 10/11/22 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our prim...2022-10-3047 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#29 Part 1: Intrinsic and Extrinsic Rewards-- Finding FlowToday’s meditation asks us to be with the experience of our feelings purely and separate from the thoughts that accompany them, a practice that few of us have been taught. After Jess shares a project she’s excitedly working on, the discussion turns toward the intrinsically, or internally rewarding and the extrinsically, or externally rewarded things we do. If an intrinsically rewarding life is a more flowing and joyful life, then how do we approach those extrinsic tasks that inevitably move us toward more of what we want? Recorded on 09/27/22 Ne...2022-10-1629 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#28 Part 2: Attending to Triggered PartsToday Frank dives into a recent experience that left him ruminating. Ruminating can signal that we may be stuck on the drama triangle and have parts that need attending. Frank shares the process of attending to his parts and Jess shares about her experience with fasting for the first time. Recorded 9/20/22 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1...2022-10-1151 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#28 Part 1: In the Flow of the HeartWe begin with an 8 minute heart-centered meditation taking you right into the flow of care moving from you to those you love and vice versa. After a chat about the physical, emotional, and spiritual heart, we get into a different kind of check in that includes sharing from the present moment experience of our physical, emotional and mental realms. Recorded 9/20/22 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here! Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience...2022-10-0239 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#27 Pt 2: Tapas…More than Just Small Bites#27 Part 2 Tapas… More than Just Small Bites When Frank and Jess look to understand Frank’s personal growth trajectory, they return to Frank’s brain tumor experience. Jess brings in three yogic concepts, including tapas. Not easily translated from Sanskrit, tapas is often translated as fiery zeal, austerity, or intense discipline. With this inspiration, they look at the effect of Frank’s two and half year long near-death experience on his personal spiritual clarity. The three yogic concepts mentioned in this podcast are from the beginning of the second book of Patanjali’s sutras. Here’s a little bit more about them...2022-09-2535 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#27 Part 1 Internalizing Love for OurselvesThis episode is released in two parts. Today begins with a beautiful 10 minute basic practice of connecting and communicating with our parts from Self. Then Frank and Jess explore the whats and whys around internalizing self-judgment and internalizing love and compassion. The choice seems obvious… Right? Recorded 9/13/22 New to Feel This? We're so happy you're here!  Our primer episodes establish the space our conversations take place in. The episodes below will enhance your listening experience as well as give you tools for your life and relationships. Primer #1 - Modes of...2022-09-1833 minFeel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#26 Authentic DesireBeginning in the few minutes of meditation with what’s present, we explore what becomes one of the themes of the day, seeing the universal in the personal. Have you ever noticed how the movement between personal and interpersonal spaces is one of the most basic and yet tricky parts of being in a healthy relationship? Bringing our authentic desire is essential to authentic connection. Recorded 8/30/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if...2022-09-041h 33Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#25 Harmonious & Disharmonious EmotionsAfter a 9 minute meditation, we get right into an exploration of what “good” and “bad” emotions look like through a non-dual lens and how the story of the Tower of Babel may explain why “We Chat” is so dang tricky. Enjoy! Recorded 8/23/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to remain anonymous. Either way, we would love to hear from you and include your energy and awareness into our creative process. https://anchor.fm/feelthis/message About this Podcast...2022-08-291h 32Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#24 “Unblending” is Awakening#24 Unblending is Awakening What’s unblending? Today, after 6 minutes dropping our awareness into our heart and belly, we look at how to find space from our critical messages and the pressure of “trying for excellence”. Who are we once we stop trying? Recorded 8/16/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to remain anonymous. Either way, we would love to hear from you and include your energy and awareness into o...2022-08-211h 32Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#23 A Wee Chat about “We Chat”Starting with a short drop into the heart and belly and the basic emotions, we discover how Frank’s energetic flatness affects Jess’s enthusiasm. And so begins a conversation exemplifying many key features of “We Chat”* which we eventually make explicit. Other themes include our adaptive child parts and their relationships with the energies of our fathers. *For more on We Chat, check out our first episode about the Modes of Communication. Recorded 8/9/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us k...2022-08-141h 23Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#22 Mothering Our Black HolesAfter a short 4 minute meditation with the senses, we create safety before beginning a “We need to talk” conversation. We revisit Jessica’s definition of Reciprocal Vulnerability and Frank brings attention to his young parts wanting recognition. This sets us into a juicy conversation about the difference between what our young parts think they want and how it actually feels in our system to receive that now. Recorded 8/2/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name o...2022-08-071h 13Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#20 Processing Our Podcast Release Event#20 Processing Our Podcast Release Event We begin with a lovely meditation helping to reflect on a significant event. And then we dive into our own reflections on our podcast release event the night before this recording. We make mention of a number of topics, including AEDP, oobleck, and Terry Real’s book Us. Recorded 6/16/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to remain anonymous. Either way, we would lo...2022-07-111h 19Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#19 Wu Wei or My WayJessica is looking at bringing more of herself forward in the podcast space. Great, right? But how will this affect the dynamic between Frank and Jess? Frank shares the concept of Wu Wei, or the way of effortless living, which may be the deepest fundamental principle he moves toward and aligns with. And with that, we dive in. Recorded 6/14/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to...2022-07-031h 31Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#18 Family of HealersToday we explore being healers in a lineage of healers and the complexity of giving and receiving healing and connection with those closest to us. We also dip our toes into what we mean by “the system” and creating safety in the space between Me, You and We; and how we’re co-creating this podcast with a priority on aliveness, connection and joy. Recorded 5/31/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you...2022-06-121h 23Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#17 Rupture & RepairAfter hitting a bump in the relationship road, Jess & Frank share what happened and how they got back on track and reconnected. This rich conversation begins after an 8 minute meditation settling into the body and checking in with any relationship where you may be feeling confusion, complication or rupture. Recorded 5/26/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to remain anonymous. Either way, we would love to hear...2022-06-051h 25Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#16 "An Empathetic, Almost Telepathic, Communication"Is there a difference between observation and presence? How does choice work and serve our nervous systems? We explore these questions and a practice Frank has developed to help find completion within when those relational hiccups come along that, for whatever reason, we can't share with the other person. It’s an empathetic, almost telepathic communication. Today begins with an 8 minute meditation moving our presence from our head down to our gut and looking at our relationships from that place within. Recorded on 5/17/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so le...2022-05-291h 25Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#15 Verbalizing Your “Is-ness” is Inherently ImpactfulWhen we share the impact someone has had on us, however fumbling, we touch them. But sometimes it doesn’t land how we intended! So Then what do we do? Can we reconnect after a miscommunication without “taking back” what we’ve said? Recorded 5/3/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to remain anonymous. Either way, we would love to hear from you and include your energy and awareness into our crea...2022-05-231h 24Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#14 When did you lose your voice? How did you find it?Today we’re going to explore “Big T” trauma, “little t” trauma, and even some of “The Air We All Breathe” societal trauma, with Jessica sharing a bit of her story and the significance of losing (and finding) her voice. We begin by inviting you into presence through a 5 minute sense meditation, which begins after we talk about why tuning into our senses is so valuable. Recorded 4/26/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to remain anonymous. Either way, we...2022-05-151h 38Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#13 When Saying “No” Leads to More “Yes!”Today we explore the possibilities of this virtuous cycle:  At times when we’re feeling more ourselves and connected to our inner Yes and our inner knowing —-> We feel more fully responsible for ourselves and our lives -—> Which allows us to set clearer, healthier boundaries -—> Which leads to feeling even more fully ourselves —-> And so it goes! This episode begins with an 8 minute settling in, connecting to yourself and others.  (Tip from Jess: If possible, try listening to the meditation through headphones or earbuds to create a more immersive experience!) Recorded 4/12/2022 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a c...2022-05-081h 25Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#12 The Safe Space Between Us - Riding Together or Not At AllToday’s revelation is in seeing more clearly the relationship between the internal Drama Triangle our parts get hooked by and how that can stir up Drama Triangle energy with others. Can we avoid getting hooked into our own persecutor/victim/rescuer mentality while still looking to connect? Does it help to move toward or away from the pain in ourselves and each other? We also spend time looking at our window of tolerance, Somatic Experiencing, and co-regulation. This episode begins with a six minute sense meditation including tuning into the quality of experience we want to ha...2022-05-021h 07Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#11 Outside the Garden, Out in SpaceToday we’re on the edge of that lush Jungle of Consciousness we love so much. We’re looking in, asking “What puts us outside of deep connection? How do we get back in?” But before we find our way back Jess goes way waaay out, giving us an opportunity to look into the generative nature of groundlessness and the myth of dissociation as it relates to capitalism and productivity.  Recorded 03/25/2022  Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use yo...2022-04-251h 14Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#10 The Magical Field of PlayWhat does it mean to be a multidimensional, experiential storyteller? How do our stories become static or frozen? Frank shares what Leonardo DaVinci’s curiosity did for him during his brain tumor experience and Jess knows that what feels like play points toward healing and sometimes the particularity of what each of us is here to do. Along the way there are little explorations of Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Experiencing, and Synesthesia. All this after a five minute meditation. Recorded 03/02/2022 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an...2022-04-111h 26Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#9 Greetings from the Land of Judgment and Expectation!Considering that today’s episode begins in the Land of Judgment and Expectation, the amount of joy and laughter might surprise you. We begin with a 7 minute meditation tuning into our different emotional streams and taking time to affirm and acknowledge our present moment experience. Links: Brain Games is Now Over Recorded 02/22/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to remain anonymous. Either way, we would love to he...2022-04-041h 26Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#8 What We Believe About TraumaWhen Jess shows up in a more triggered and critical internal space, the subject of trauma becomes our focus… trauma as unprocessed, impacted experience, trauma as a sacred temple of unveiling our true Self. Also, we dip into Frank’s perspective that all conflict is internal conflict. All that after beginning with a 5 minute meditation connecting with your inner oracle!  Recorded 02/15/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to remain anony...2022-03-201h 11Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#7 Please Do Not Eat the MenuHave you ever thought about the difference between verbalizing an experience and having an experience?  Well, it turns out you can’t eat the menu. After 4 minutes of settling in, we get an update on Mr. Shoes’ health which leads us into an expansive exploration of the wisdom found when viewing our lives from the “room of our death.”  Links: Stealing Fire Recorded  02/08/2022  Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer t...2022-03-101h 22Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#6 Grow Slow or with FlowWhen Frank comes into the podcast space “weighed down” by his beloved dog, Mr. Shoes, having health issues, a conversation ensues about mortality. Frank sees his practice of compassionate presence bearing fruit during challenging times, while Jess shares the struggle of parts believing in some sense of personal control. Frank shares his belief that everything happens as it’s supposed to, and they discuss how these perspectives affect personal growth.  Recorded 02/01/22  Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use...2022-03-021h 19Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#5 Seeing What Is & Being SeenFrank’s recent mantra “Be With What Is” is the catalyst for today’s show. But what’s that got to do with chaos and abundance, the awkwardness of our own vulnerability and the muchness of our appreciation of each other and this amazing podcast space? Recorded 01/11/2022  Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to remain anonymous. Either way, we would love to hear from you and include your energy and awareness into our cr...2022-01-191h 09Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#4 Shoulds & WantsCan we hear our authentic desires? How do we trust that spark of excitement sourced in our body’s experience of the present moment? After a 4 minute meditation, today we question the “Shoulds” coming from our social conditioning and look more closely at our “Wants”.  Recorded 12/28/2021  Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to remain anonymous. Either way, we would love to hear from you and include your energy and awareness in...2022-01-071h 18Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#3 The Red ButtonFollowing a couple minutes of meditative check-in, Frank shares a powerful thought experiment he calls the Red Button, inspired by the intense experience of having a life-threatening brain tumor. We also get very clear about one of our foundational practices here on this podcast: Feelings first, content second!  Recorded 12/21/2021  Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to remain anonymous. Either way, we would love to hear from you and include yo...2022-01-021h 36Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#2 The Unicorn WranglerAfter a 2 minute meditation we jump in, sharing a calming practice for re-centering when you’re triggered by fear. We also introduce the ”Unicorn Wrangler” and question whether or not this part of us has our best interests in mind.  Recorded 11/18/2021  Links Dave Chappell movie, Half Baked Soul Collage NLP - neuro-linguistic programming TED The Three Key Steps to Creativity: Copy, Transform, and Combine  Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you pr...2021-11-261h 00Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and Jess#1 Beginning with an EndingOn Frank’s last day in Louisville he shares how his seemingly stressful situation, moving cross-country to Portland, OR, isn’t.  We also talk about the price of competency and perfectionism.  Recorded 10/28/2021  Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we can use your name or if you prefer to remain anonymous. Either way, we would love to hear from you and include your energy and awareness into our creative process. https://anchor.fm/feelthis/message About t...2021-11-171h 11Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and JessPodcast Primer #2 : Looking Into Internal Family SystemsWhat are “parts” and why are we always talking about them? In the first of our “Looking Into” series we’re exploring Internal Family Systems and modeling what working with it looks like. Each episode in the Looking Into series offers an overview on a theory or healing modality we’ve been influenced by in our lives that shows up here, in Feel This.   Links Internal Family Systems Tim Ferriss Episode #492 Richard Schwartz & IFS  AEDP - Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy  Frank is Level 3 IFS trained and has been practicing since 2014. Jess has been using IFS since 2015 in pe...2021-11-151h 33Feel This with Frank and JessFeel This with Frank and JessPodcast Primer #1: The Modes of CommunicationThe Modes of Communication are fundamental to our conversations. They are the doorway into what makes our podcast “experiential.”  In this episode we share the five modes, Chit-Chat, It Chat, Me Chat, We Chat, and Now Chat, and give you a foundation so you can listen to what’s happening beyond the level of content in our podcast, as well as begin to notice these modes during your own communications. Recorded 7/29/22 Your Feedback is Welcome! Please leave us a comment. We might share it on an episode so let us know if we c...2021-11-1552 min