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More than RoommatesEpisode 135 - Roommates Drift—Mission-Driven Couples Thrive In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott explore what it means to be on mission together as a couple. Whether you’re raising kids, leading a class, or serving behind the scenes, a shared purpose breathes life into your marriage and moves you from being just roommates to intentional partners in the gospel.Let us know if you have any feedback on these shorter/mini episodes! Scriptures:Ecc 4:9-12Acts 20:24Eph 2:10Eph 5:15-17 Questions to Discuss:1...
2025-07-0119 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 134 - A Marriage Game Plan: Know, Be, Do, Experience In this episode, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss what it means to build an intentional marriage using four categories: what you want to know, be, do, and experience together. In this mini episode we encourage couples to dream together and define their marriage vision through Scripture, spiritual disciplines, and fun experiences.Let us know if you have any feedback on these shorter/mini episodes! Questions to Discuss:1. What do we want to KNOW about marriage, and about each other?2. What kind of people do we want t...
2025-06-2415 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 133 - Trust is Built in Drops: How to Grow Together In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott talk about the importance of trust in marriage. Trust is foundational in any relationship, but especially in marriage. They discuss how past wounds—whether from family, friends, or former relationships—can deeply impact your ability to trust your spouse and experience true intimacy. Let us know if you have any feedback on these shorter/mini episodes! Scriptures Referenced:1 Peter 2:23-24James 1:19 Resources:Podcast Episode – More Than Roommates, Episode 61 – Trust: How to Build It...
2025-06-1716 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 132 - Before You Text Your Spouse—Turn to God In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss the common habit of going to friends or a spouse before going to God for wisdom. While community is important, the best place to start is with the Lord. Scriptures:Matthew 6:33James 1:5Proverbs 3:5-6PR 19:11 Questions to Discuss:1. Who and what do you turn to when you’re looking for counsel and advice?2. Are you more of an internal or external processor? How about your spouse?3...
2025-06-1021 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 131 - Walking Through Hard Seasons in Marriage In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott talk about how to keep your marriage healthy while walking through hard and difficult seasons in life (i.e., loss, illness, infertility, emotional strain). Through biblical truth and personal stories, they discuss how couples can remain unified, cultivate gratitude, and grow spiritually even in life’s darkest valleys and seasons. Scriptures:1 Cor 7:28John 16:33Luke 6:47-49PS 34:18Phil 4:4-7LamentationsJames 1:2-4Rom 8:28Gal 6:1-5
2025-06-0328 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 129 - Holding On Through the Heartache: A Story of Infertility and Hope, Part 1 of 2 (feat. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle and Scott interview Drew & Paige Greenway about their story of infertility and the challenges they’ve faced along the way Drew and Paige reflect on how these trials affected their faith, marriage, and understanding of God, while offering hope, empathy, and wisdom for others walking a similar path. Part 1 of 2.Scriptures:Gen 2:24Rom 12:15 Resources:Website & Resources – Julie Fowler MinistriesBible Study for Women - Treasures in the Waiting: Finding God’s Comfort, Counsel, and Compani...
2025-05-2033 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 128 - Marriage and Foster Care (feat. Derek & Kellie Davidson) In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle & Scott interview Derek & Kellie Davidson about foster care and adoption. May is National Foster Care Month and in this episode, the Davidsons offer a glimpse into how their marriage has been shaped through saying “yes” to God’s call. While sharing their story, full of joy and challenges, they reflect on how families and the church can step in and reflect Christ’s love for vulnerable children.ScripturesJames 1:272 Cor 5:18Isaiah 1:17Jn 13:34-35Psalm 127:3
2025-05-1341 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 127 - Healing From Sexual Abuse (feat. Dr. Juli Slattery) In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle & Scott talk with Dr. Juli Slattery from Authentic Intimacy about how past sexual abuse impacts individuals and their marriages. With biblical truth, personal insight, and expert care, Dr. Slattery shares how healing can happen in safe relationships marked by trust, patience, and grace. We hope this episode provides hope and healing for those affected by sexual abuse. Scriptures Referenced (in context):Rom 12:15John 10:10PS 34:18Rom 8:28 Resources:Juli’s Ministry – Authentic IntimacyJuli’s...
2025-05-0629 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 125 - How Married Couples Can Love Their Single Friends Well In this episode of More Than Roommates, Scott, Derek, and Gabrielle explore what it looks like for married couples to value, support, and engage their single friends in meaningful ways. They reflect on how Scripture elevates singleness, how the church sometimes unintentionally devalues it, and how we can better reflect the love of Jesus—whether single or married. Scriptures:1 Cor 7:7-8MT 19:12PS 16:11MT 19:6Luke 8:21 Resources:Book – Single, Dating, Engaged, Married, by Ben StuartBook – Single Today, by Ryan We...
2025-04-2225 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 124 - Why Couples Must Lose In Order To Win In Marriage In the episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss our tendency and desire to win and be right in marriage, when the goal is to “lose”, become more like Jesus, pursue oneness, and walk in humility. Scriptures:Gen 2:18-25John 10:10Phil 2:3-41 Tim 1:151 Cor 13:6 Resources:Removed Series from Harris CreekWatermark Marriage Conference – Lance Sisco - Keeping Score in Your MarriageBook – The Meaning of Marriage, by Timothy & Kathy KellerMore Than...
2025-04-1524 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 122 - What Does it Look Like For Jesus to Be the Center of Your Marriage? In this live recording of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott respond to John Elmore’s talk from the 2025 More Than Roommates Marriage Conference. We discuss some of the practical implications of the fact that Jesus is the composer, conductor, and canon of the melody of our marriages. If you haven’t listened to it yet, go ahead and listen to John’s message. Questions to Discuss:1. How can you make Jesus ultimate in your marriage?2. How can you and your spouse become more dependent on the Lord in your life an...
2025-04-0121 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 119 - How To Invest Time, Money, and Energy Into Your Marriage In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk about the importance of good investments. There are many ways we can invest our time, money, and energy, and in this episode we discuss the importance of regularly investing in your marriage. Resources:Book - Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes... Everything, by Juli Slattery (release July 1, 2025)MTR Episode 62 – Your Marriage and the Unhurried Life (feat. Chris Schultz)MTR Episode 64 – Questions to Ask Your Spouse Every WeekMTR Episode 90 – Our Favorite Marriage ResourcesIntenti...
2025-03-1125 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 118 - Small Things Make a Big Difference in Marriage – (feat. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goi In Part 2 of their interview with Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how the little things truly matter in marriage. We discuss the importance of believing the best about our spouse and why we need a combination of quality and quantity time together. Scriptures:1 Peter 3:9Rom 2:4Phil 4:8 Questions to Discuss:What are some small changes you can make in your marriage that could make a big difference?How do you and your spouse do at believing the be...
2025-03-0430 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 117 - Changing the Way We Talk About Marriage – (feat. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins) In Part 1 of a 2-Part interview, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott interview Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins about the small things that make all the difference in marriage. In Part 1 we discuss the myth that 50% of all marriages end in divorce and why it’s harmful to perpetuate this myth Scriptures:1 Cor 13:13Hebrews 3:131 Cor 7:28 Questions to Discuss:How can you build your sense of hope in your marriage?What would you tell a young couple before they get married? How would you encou...
2025-02-2526 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 116 - How Can You Serve Each Other in Marriage When You Don’t Feel Like It? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss the importance and centrality of serving your spouse in marriage when life is full and busy and when you don’t feel like it! Scriptures:Mark 10:45Gal 5:13Phil 2:1-11Phil 1:271 Cor 13:61 Peter 3:7 Resources:Book – Us in Mind: How Changing Your Thoughts Can Change Your Marriage, by Ted LoweMore Than Roommates – Episode 16 – The Importance of Empathy in Marriage (feat. Ted Lowe)...
2025-02-1824 minMore than RoommatesResources to Help Marital Intimacy and What To Do Next? MTR Quickies Episode 12 In this mini episode of More Than Roommates (our last “Quickie”), Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what’s next—what do you do with all that’s been shared in these 12 days of Quickie episodes. We also share some recommended resources to help you take the next step in your marriage and sexual intimacy. Questions to Discuss:Which episode of the 12 days of Quickies was most helpful to you?What’s something you learned in this series that you want to apply in your marriage?Are there some concepts discussed in...
2025-02-1410 minMore than RoommatesFrequently Asked Questions About Sex - MTR Quickie Episode 11 In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss some frequently asked questions about sex, including questions about cussing in the bedroom, sexual abuse, can I say “No,” sex during menstruation, and more. Scriptures:1 Corinthians 7:1-5Hebrews 13:4Ephesians 4:29 Questions to Discuss:How do you handle it in your marriage when one of you is in the mood for sex and the other isn’t?Is there any part of your past/your story that would be helpful to discus...
2025-02-1314 minMore than RoommatesIs the Goal of Sex Mutual Orgasm? MTR Quickie Episode 10 In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss a frequently asked question about orgasms—for him, for her, and the elusive unicorn of mutual orgasm. We also discuss some common differences between the male and female orgasm. Questions to Discuss:Have you and your spouse discussed your expectations about how to please each other?How can you take one step to help your spouse reach orgasm?How do you do in giving feedback to each other in the bedroom? Resources:...
2025-02-1212 minMore than RoommatesA Christian Perspective on Birth Control - MTR Quickie Episode 9 In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss a frequently asked question— how followers of Christ should think about and make decisions about birth control. What does the Bible say and how Christians should think about birth control. Scriptures:Psalm 127:3Romans 12:21 Cor 6:19-20 Questions to Discuss:Have you and your spouse discussed your views about birth control?Take some time to pray about what God would have you do regarding birth control. Do some resea...
2025-02-1114 minMore than RoommatesAddressing Common Myths About Sex - MTR Quickie Episode 8 In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss some common myths and stereotypes about sex drive, desire, and frequency and some potential differences between men and women. Questions to Discuss:What’s the biggest challenge you face in your marriage related to sex drive, desire, and frequency?Have a conversation with your spouse about the topics raised in this episode. Make sure you listen well and seek to understand. Resources:Book – Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Diff...
2025-02-1012 minMore than RoommatesWhat If There’s Pain, Guilt, or Shame in Sex? MTR Quickie Episode 7 In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss common challenges couples face with sexual intimacy. These challenges (such as past abuse and trauma, physical pain, guilt and shame) are more common than we might realize, and if you’re struggling, you are not alone! Scriptures:Romans 8:1Genesis 32 Cor 5:17 Questions to Discuss:What’s been the biggest challenge the two of you have faced in sexual intimacy?Who can you connect with to discuss any issues/challenges you fa...
2025-02-0912 minMore than RoommatesMarried Sex In Different Seasons of Life - MTR Quickie Episode 6 In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how sex changes in different seasons of marriage – newlyweds, with a newborn, with kids in the house, empty nest, and everything in between. Scriptures:1 Peter 3:7Genesis 2:25Song of Solomon Questions to Discuss:How can you best serve each other in marriage and sexual intimacy in your current season of marriage?What’s one challenge you anticipate in the season ahead and how can you proactively address some of the po...
2025-02-0810 minMore than RoommatesIs It Okay To Have a Quickie? - MTR Quickie Episode 5 In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss whether or not it’s within bounds to “have a quickie.” We discuss different ways to think about sex depending on your schedule and margin, and how to have a healthy rhythm of intimacy. Questions to Discuss:1. Are you and your spouse on the same page when it comes to quickies?2. How can you make space for more extended time for intimacy together? Resources:Book – Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Reimagining...
2025-02-0710 minMore than RoommatesSpecific Questions of What’s In and Out of Bounds - MTR Quickie Episode 4 In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss specific questions of what’s in and out of bounds in the bedroom. What does the Bible say about specific questions such as pornography, masturbation, positions, oral sex, and so much more. Scriptures:Hebrews 13:41 Cor 6:18Ephesians 5:3MT 5:27-281 Cor 10:31 Questions to Discuss:1. What are some ways you can honor your spouse and serve them in the bedroom? Discuss with one another.2. Take a few momen...
2025-02-0614 minMore than RoommatesWhat's In and Out of Bounds in the Bedroom? - MTR Quickie Episode 3 In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss some general principles of what’s in bounds and out of bounds in the bedroom. Sex cannot involve others besides your spouse (Matthew 5:27-28), cannot involve willingly hurting your spouse against their will (Philippians 2:3-4), and cannot violate your or your spouse’s conscience (Romans 14). Come back tomorrow as we get even more specific. Scriptures:MT 5:27-28Phil 2:3-4Rom 14 Questions to Discuss:1. Have you and your spouse ever discussed what’s...
2025-02-0509 minMore than RoommatesTalking to Your Spouse About Sex - MTR Quickie Episode 2 Let's talk about Sex! In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the importance of talking about sexual intimacy in marriage and why couples often struggle to discuss sex. Part of the reason why so many couples struggle in their sex life is because they don’t talk about it. Scriptures:Genesis 2:25Ephesians 4:29 Questions to Discuss:How do you and your spouse do at talking about sexual intimacy? Why is it sometimes challenging for you and your spouse to discuss sexu...
2025-02-0410 minMore than RoommatesWhat Does the Bible Say About Sex? - MTR Quickie Episode 1 In this mini episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott kick-off a series of “quickies” about sex and the most frequently asked questions about marital sex and intimacy. In this first episode we discuss a Christian, biblical theology of sex—we want to help you think rightly about the gift of sex. Scriptures:Song of Solomon 1:2, 5:11 Corinthians 10:31Phil 2:3-4Genesis 2:24-25 Questions to Discuss:Why do you think that sex is so significant in marriage/to married couples?Do you...
2025-02-0309 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 115 - Fighting FOR Your Spouse In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how you can fight FOR (not against) your spouse. What does it look like to stand up for and defend them when they face unjustified criticism from someone else (i.e., parents, children, friends)?Scriptures:Genesis 2:24-25Romans 12:19Matthew 5:38-40PR 26:4-5MT 18:15-17Hebrews 3:13Questions to Discuss:Do you have any hot takes that you’re willing to fight for/defend?...
2025-01-2823 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 112 - Do You Speak Your Spouse’s Language? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the five love languages (as written by Dr. Gary Chapman) and how knowing our love languages allows us to better speak the love language of our spouse. When we know their love language, it gives us an opportunity serve our spouse in a way that honors them. Scriptures:1 Peter 3:7Phil 2:3-4 Resources:Book – The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that LastsResource - 5 Love Languages QuizBlog Post - How ...
2025-01-0721 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 111 - Looking Back and Forward with Gratitude Happy New Year! In this brief episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott briefly reflect on the last 12 months as we look backward on 2024 and forward to 2025 with gratitude. Questions to Discuss:What are you most grateful for from the past 12 months?What are you most looking forward to in 2025?How can you and your spouse cultivate a habit of gratitude for your lives and marriage? Scriptures:Joshua 4
2024-12-3110 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 110 - Hope This Christmas Merry Christmas Eve from the More Than Roommates team! In this brief Christmas Eve reflection, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss our true hope and where hope is found on Christmas Day and every day!Scriptures:Proverbs 13:12Romans 15:13Questions to Discuss:What’s your favorite Christmas gift you’ve ever received?What are you hopeful for this Christmas?What’s your greatest hope that God would do in your marriage and through your marriage?
2024-12-2408 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 109 - Marriage Myth: We Think We're Healthy Because We Don't Fight (feat. Greg and Erin Smal In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott interview Greg and Erin Smalley about conflict and the myth that an absence of conflict means a couple must be healthy. We discuss what the Bible says about conflict and how healthy conflict repair can help us to be fully known and fully loved.Questions to Discuss:1. Do you believe that quarrels and conflict can help couples truly know each other better?2. Are there areas of your marriage where you have avoided tough conversations and swept any issues under...
2024-12-1735 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 108 - How the Reactive Cycle Affects Your Marriage In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the reactive cycle couples often get into with each other when their expectations aren’t met. We often fall into harmful patterns that can lead us to negative reactions in our marriage. What is this cycle and how do we get out of it?Scriptures:PR 15:1Rom 12:2Phil 4:8Resources:Hope Restored Marriage Intensive (from Focus on the Family)The Reactive Cycle “Test” – through this brief assessment you can lear...
2024-12-1023 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 107 - Memorable Ways to Celebrate Your Wedding Anniversary It only comes one time every year, but it’s worth celebrating! In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to celebrate your wedding anniversary in a memorable and significant way.Resources:Blog Post – 30 Unique Ways to Celebrate Your AnniversaryScripture:Ephesians 5:31-321 Peter 3:7Questions to Discuss:1. What’s your favorite party you’ve ever been to?2. What are your expectations for your anniversary? Make sure you discuss what each of...
2024-12-0324 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 106 - When Do I Overlook An Offense? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk about what it means to overlook a small offense in marriage. When is it okay to overlook it and when do you need to address and discuss it?Scriptures:Proverbs 19:11Romans 12:181 Corinthians 13:4-7Resources:Harris Creek Conflict: Field GuideHarris Creek Peacemaker GuideMore Than Roommates – Episode 44 – What To Do When Your Spouse Annoys YouQuestions to Discuss:1. What...
2024-11-2624 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 105 - Mutual Respect in Marriage (feat. Kyler & Britt Nixon from Love Your First Year) In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle and Scott interview Kyler and Britt Nixon about mutual respect in marriage. The Nixons primarily work with young couples, but this message is relevant for every couple. The Nixons provide practical ways to provide mutual respect in your marriage. Scriptures:Ephesians 5:33Ecclesiastes 4:12Romans 12:10MT 7:12Resources:Follow Love Your First Year on Instagram!Website – Love Your First YearOnline Course - Love Your First YearBlog Post - The 5...
2024-11-1938 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 104 - Holidays and In-Law & Family Expectations In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discussing holidays, especially related to expectations around family and in-laws. How can you proactively address some of the challenges couples often face around holiday expectations?Scriptures:James 4:1Matthew 7:12Phil 2:3-4Galatians 1:10Questions to Discuss:1. What’s your favorite Holiday movie? Is Home Alone a Christmas movie? (Yes, of course it is!).2. How can you fight back against selfishness during the holidays?3. How can you an...
2024-11-1226 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 103 - Protect Your Marriage (Live from the 2024 MTR Marriage Conference) Live from the 2024 More Than Roommates Marriage Conference! In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott respond to a testimony of infidelity shared live at the 2024 More Than Roommates Marriage Conference. We share some lessons learned on how to protect our marriages.Registration is now open for the 2025 More Than Roommates Marriage Conference! Find out more at harriscreek.org/events.Scriptures:1 Corinthians 10:12-13Romans 13:14Luke 6:47-49PS 16:11MT 7:3-51 Tim 1:15
2024-11-0725 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 101 - Elections, Your Vote, & Your Marriage In this special episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk Elections, Your Vote, and Your Marriage. We discuss whether you and your spouse should share who you’re voting for, how you can disagree well, and what to do if you disagree on who to vote for.Scriptures:MT 22:15-222 Cor 6:14Ephesians 4:3-5MT 5:13-16Jeremiah 29:7Romans 12:1-2Eph 4:29Questions to Discuss:1. What are some disagreements that you and your sp...
2024-10-3125 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 100 - How Marriage Has Changed Us Welcome to the 100th episode of More Than Roommates! In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott celebrate the fact that we’ve now released 100 episodes! We share some of our favorite episodes, what we’ve learned about marriage through this podcast, and how marriage has changed each of us.Questions to Discuss:1. What have you learned about yourself, your spouse, and marriage through listening to More Than Roommates? Share with our team by emailing marriage@harriscreek.org2. What is God currently teaching or showing you about your marriage?3. How...
2024-10-2924 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 99 - Marriage Through Different Seasons of Parenting In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the unique challenges and opportunities that come along with different seasons of parenting, from newlyweds to the empty nest. How can you keep your marriage strong in every season?Questions to Discuss:1. What’s your favorite season of the year? (Winter, spring, summer, fall)2. How can you keep your marriage strong in your current season of marriage and parenting?3. Regardless of the season you’re in, what are the priorities for your marriage and family?4...
2024-10-2229 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 98 - Discover and Celebrate Your Spouse's Gifts In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to discover and celebrate the spiritual gifts God has given to both you and your spouse. How can you live on mission together, using and highlighting the gifts God has given to each of you?Scriptures:Ephesians 41 Corinthians 12Romans 121 Peter 4Ephesians 5:25-27Questions to Discuss:1. What’s the best gift you’ve ever received?2. What are your spiritual gifts?3. How can...
2024-10-1522 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 97 - Why Are In-Law Relationships Often So Challenging? Why is conflict between a husband and wife and the in-laws so common? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss some common challenges couples often encounter with family and in-laws and discuss some ways to proactively build and reactively repair in-laws relationships.Scriptures:Ruth 1:16-17Romans 12:18Hebrews 12:14Romans 12:10Matthew 7:3-51 Peter 3:7Genesis 2:24Col 3:12-14Resources:More Than Roommates – Episode 94 – How to Be a Better Listener in Marr...
2024-10-0828 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 95 - Sabbath Rest and Your Marriage In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk what the Bible says about rest, the importance of Sabbath rest and your marriage, and reasons why we struggle to Sabbath. Scriptures:Exodus 20:8-11Genesis 2:2-3Mark 2:23-28MT 11:28-30Resources:Books - Practicing the Way and The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry, by John Mark ComerPodcast, More Than Roommates, Episode 62 – Your Marriage and the Unhurried Life (feat. Chris Schultz)Podcast, More Than Roommates, Episode...
2024-09-2428 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 94 - How To Be A Better Listener In Marriage In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss one of the most important skills required for healthy marriages. We discuss why we struggle to be good listeners and what we can do about it.Scriptures:James 1:19Proverbs 18:2Romans 12:101 Peter 3:7Questions to Discuss:1. What are you listening to now (podcasts, audiobook, music)? Share with your significant other.2. Discuss with your spouse some of the reasons why you struggle to listen well? What are your...
2024-09-1721 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 93 - Who is Ashley Madison and Why Should You Care? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the Ashley Madison scandal and how to fight temptations in your marriage. We want you to be more than roommates and to fight for your marriage as you guard against the enemy who seeks to destroy you and your marriage.Scriptures:MT 10:26Rom 2:161 Cor 4:5PS 32:3-4James 4:1MT 5:27-301 Cor 7:281 John 1:9James 5:16Ephesians 4:26-271 Cor 6:18PR 28:13
2024-09-1025 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 92 - How Do I Balance Time With My Spouse and With Friends? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk about how to balance time with your spouse, family, and friends. Is it possible to strike a healthy balance in how to best spend our time together and with others? Resources:More Than Roommates – Episode 49 – Made For People (feat. Justin Whitmel Earley)More Than Roommates – Episode 13 – Why We Need Healthy Friendships and Community For Our Marriage Scriptures:Genesis 2:18Hebrews 10:23-25Galatians 6:11 Corinthians 15:33Proverbs 18:24 Question...
2024-09-0324 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 91 - Q&A About Sex & Marriage (feat. Kait & JJ Tomlin) In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle and Scott interview Kait & JJ Tomlin from the Heart of Dating. We have a great discussion about sex and marriage as we pepper Kait & JJ with all kinds of questions.Resources:Heart of Dating WebsiteFollow Heart of Dating on InstagramPodcast – Heart of Dating with Kait & JJ TomlinPodcast - That Sounds Fun – Sex + Dating with Kait & JJ TomlinBook – Married Sex, by Gary Thomas and Debra FiletaWebsite – Authentic Intimacy MinistryWebsit...
2024-08-2742 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 90 - Our Favorite Marriage Resources In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the books, podcasts, and resources that have most deeply affected their marriages. With a lot of great resources out there, we want to help you to be thoughtful about the resources that impact your marriage. Scriptures:Proverbs 11:2Job 12:12Proverbs 13:20Resources Mentioned:The Glorious Pursuit, by Gary ThomasThe Meaning of Marriage, by Tim and Kathy KellerCherish, by Gary ThomasMarried Sex, by Gary Th...
2024-08-2028 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 89 - Exceeding Your Spouse's Expectations In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss expectations in marriage – where do our expectations come from, what if they’re not met, and how can you exceed your spouse’s expectations? Part 2 in a 2-part mini-series on expectations.Scriptures:James 4:1Proverbs 13:121 Corinthians 7:28John 16:331 Thessalonians 5:16-18Questions to Discuss:1. When’s the last time something did not meet your expectations?2. What are the main sources of your expectations in your marriage?3...
2024-08-1325 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 86 - The Dangers of Money & Marriage In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the potential dangers of money and how money can affect your marriage in both positive and negative ways. Scripture:1 Timothy 6:10Acts 5:1-11Matthew 6:21Psalm 24:1 Questions to Discuss:1. What’s something dangerous you’ve done in life?2. What do you think about the statement that we should be more afraid of the dangers of money?3. Where does money draw you offsides in your marriage?4. What a...
2024-07-2327 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 85 - Is There Anything Hidden In Your Marriage? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss a story where a couple’s “secret” argument was overheard by a room of people. What would happen if others heard your arguments that take place behind closed doors? Scripture:Luke 8:17Matthew 12:36Proverbs 5:21MT 18:15-171 John 1:5-7 Questions to Discuss:1. What reality show would you and your spouse want to be on?2. What if everything you did and say was broadcast for the rest of the worl...
2024-07-1624 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 84 - Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage - Part 2 In Part 2 in this 2-part series on marriage, divorce, and remarriage, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott focus on remarriage, how you can help others walking through marriage challenges, and the role community can play in helping proactively and reactively strengthening marriages.Scriptures:Matthew 19:3-12Genesis 2:18-25Ephesians 5:22-331 Corinthians 72 Corinthians 6:14Matthew 5:27-32Questions to Discuss:1. Pray that God would strengthen your marriage and that God would protect you from separation and divorce.2. How can...
2024-07-0926 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 83 - Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage - Part 1 In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk about what the Bible says about marriage, divorce, and remarriage and how this plays out in our marriages. This new episode will be helpful for your own marriage and as you seek to encourage friends in their marriages.Scriptures:Matthew 19:3-12Genesis 2:18-25Ephesians 5:22-331 Corinthians 72 Corinthians 6:14Matthew 5:27-32Questions to Discuss:1. Have you ever studied and discussed with your spouse what the...
2024-07-0225 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 81 - How To Grow In Emotional Intimacy (Part 2 In A Series) In Part 2 in a series on emotional intimacy, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to practically grow in emotional intimacy with your spouse. Check out Part 1 of this 2-Part series if you haven't already! Scriptures:Genesis 2:25Galatians 6:2Ephesians 5:31-32Matthew 18:15-17Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 Resources:Podcast – More Than Roommates - Episode 80 – Fully Known, Fully LovedPodcast – More Than Roommates - Episode 64 - Questions to Ask Your Spouse Every WeekBook – Untangle Your Emotions, by Jennie AllenBook –...
2024-06-1826 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 80 - Fully Known, Fully Loved (Part 1 in a series on emotional intimacy) We don’t often talk about emotional intimacy in marriage—we get to be fully known and fully loved in marriage. In part 1 of this 2-part series on emotional intimacy, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what it means to be emotionally intimate in marriage.Scriptures:Genesis 2:252 Corinthians 12:9-10Resources:Book – The Voice of the Heart, by Chip DoddBook - The Naked Marriage, by Dave and Ashley Willis3 Questions to Ask Your Spouse:1. Is there...
2024-06-1124 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 79 - Is Drinking Good For Your Marriage? Are you and your spouse thoughtful about your views and practices about drinking/alcohol? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to be more thoughtful about decisions you make about drinking and alcohol.Scriptures:John 21 Corinthians 6:121 Corinthians 10:31Ephesians 5:18Isaiah 5:22-23Questions to Discuss:1. When did you have your first alcoholic drink (if ever)?2. How can you and your spouse be more thoughtful about alcohol and your marriage?3...
2024-06-0427 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 78 - How Does Anger Affect Your Marriage? Many of us struggle with anger in small and big ways. How does your anger impact your spouse and your marriage? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how anger impacts our own marriages and how anger can affect your marriage as well. Scriptures:Proverbs 15:1Ephesians 4:26-27Proverbs 21:19James 1:19-20, 4:1 Questions to Discuss:1. What are the small day-to-day things that get you frustrated?2. Do you find yourself quick to anger or slow to anger? Wh...
2024-05-2826 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 77 - Struggles, Recovery, and Your Marriage (feat. Ann Daly) Like it or not, our struggles affect our marriages more than we realize. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle and Scott talk with Ann Daly about struggles, recovery, and your marriage. Because of Jesus, life change is possible for everyone and for every marriage.Scriptures:James 5:16Proverbs 28:13Genesis 2:24Galatians 1:10Romans 5:3-51 Peter 4:19Galatians 6:9Hebrews 3:13Resources:Regeneration recovery – change is possible!Regeneration Struggle Finder – What are you struggling with...
2024-05-2123 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 76 - Decisions We Make in Marriage That Might Seem Weird to the World In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss things we do that may seem weird to the world but allow us to be different in our marriages than the struggling marriages we all see around us. These are decisions we’ve each made that may seem unique but allow us to strengthen our marriages.Scriptures:Romans 12:21 Peter 2:11Philippians 3:20-212 Timothy 2:4Resources:Podcast & Blog Post - 5 Weird Decisions that Make My Marriage Awesome...
2024-05-1428 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 75 - Simple Ways to Build Culture In Your Marriage Do you and your spouse have inside jokes, traditions, or rituals that make your marriage unique and build a culture of exclusivity in your marriage? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the importance of building a strong culture in your marriage that makes it different than any other marriage on the planet.Scriptures:Genesis 2:24-25Revelation 2:4Proverbs 5:18Resources:Blog Post - How Inside Jokes And Rituals Can Strengthen Your MarriageDiscussi...
2024-05-0722 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 68 - What Are You Currently Learning In Your Marriage? In Part 2 of this series on being a learner in marriage, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss different ways we can all learn in marriage and what we're each learning in our own marriages currently. Scripture:1 Peter 3:7James 1:22-25Resources:Blog Post - Do You And Your Spouse Have Teachable And Humble Hearts In Marriage?Book – The 5 Love Languages, by Gary ChapmanQuestions to Discuss:1. How do you learn? What kind of learner are you?2. What...
2024-03-1923 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 67 - What We Did And Didn't Learn in Premarital Counseling In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what they did and didn’t learn in premarital counseling. Whether engaged or married for decades, we hope today’s new episode encourages and challenges you in your marriage.Scriptures:Proverbs 18:2James 1:191 Corinthians 7:28Resources:Book – Tim Keller, The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of GodBook – Scott Kedersha, Ready or Knot? 12 Conversations Every Couple Needs to Have before MarriagePodcast...
2024-03-1227 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 66 - Do You and Your Spouse Talk More Than The Average Couple? Multiple studies and articles show that the average couple talks to each other for only twenty minutes per week. In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss practical ways to make time in your marriage to connect and communicate with each other. All healthy couples might intentionally fight for time together.Scriptures:Colossians 3:12-14Matthew 18:15-17Ephesians 4:29Resources:Blog Post - Do you talk more than the average couple?Questions to Discuss:1. Are you...
2024-03-0525 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 63 - Celebrating One Year of More Than Roommates (feat. our spouses!). In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott celebrate one year of More Than Roommates with some very special guests. Together we talk through some great conversations for you and your spouse to have that will help grow your marriage. Thanks for joining us this first year. We're so excited for all to come in the year ahead. Scriptures:Ephesians 3:20-21Hebrews 3:13 Resources:Book - The Ready or Knot Prayer Guide, by Scott KedershaPodcast – Episode 53 More Than Roommates – Friends, Partners, and Lovers (feat. Kevin...
2024-01-3035 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 54 - Technology and Your Marriage (Part 1 in a 2-Part Series) Technology can be both a blessing and a curse. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss ways to grow in oneness in your marriage when it comes to phones and technology.Scriptures:Genesis 2:24-25PR 28:13Romans 13:14Psalm 139:23-24Galatians 5:1Questions to Discuss:1. Is there anything technology-related that’s off-limits to your spouse? Are there any legitimate reasons why your spouse doesn’t have access to your phone/iPad, social media accounts, texts… ?2...
2023-11-2824 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 51 - How to Make This Your Best Holiday Season Yet (Part 1 in a 2-part series) How can we keep our marriage strong in the middle of a very full holiday season? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss practical ways you can strengthen your marriage and family to make this the best holiday season yet!Scriptures:Mark 10:45Romans 12:1-2Questions to Discuss:What are some holiday traditions we can start or continue to do in our marriage?What’s your favorite Christmas movie? Song? TV show?Take a few mi...
2023-11-0725 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 50 - Are You Quick To Own Your Part Or Quick To Blame Your Spouse? Many of us tend to be quick to blame our spouse and slow to own our part. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how we can do a better job of owning our part instead of blaming. Draw the circle around yourself and work on the person inside the circle.Scriptures:Matthew 7:3-51 Timothy 1:15Psalm 139:23-24Proverbs 28:13Shownotes:How to Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told, by Harrison Scott Key
2023-10-3125 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 48 - How to Keep Your Marriage A Priority When You Have Kids In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to keep your marriage strong when you have kids. It’s easy to make your kids your number one priority, so we discuss practical wisdom on how to keep your relationship with Jesus and your spouse strong while still raising your kids.Scriptures:Ephesians 6:10-20, Genesis 2:24, Eph 4:1-3, Romans 12:18, PR 13:20, 22:6, Mark 10:45, MT 20:28, 1 Cor 7:3-5, 1 Peter 5:8, Phil 2:3-4Questions to Discuss:How do you and your spouse view children? Are they a blessing or...
2023-10-1731 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 47 - The One Habit That Can Most Strengthen Your Marriage What if there was one habit you and your spouse can do in your marriage that would dramatically increase your likelihood of marital success and satisfaction? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott talk about the importance of prayer in marriage and share about Scott’s new book, The Ready or Knot Prayer Guide. Scripture:James 5:16, Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, Matthew 18:20 Scott’s New Book! The Ready or Knot Prayer Guide – 100 Prayers for Dating and Engaged CouplesBook Website and Pre-Order Bonus InformationPre-order Bo...
2023-10-1021 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 46 - What Factor Makes the Biggest Difference in Healthy Families? BONUS EPISODE! In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott share some of their takeaways from their interview with Professor Nancy Pearcey about her book The Toxic War on Masculinity. They discuss what surprised and encouraged them and also discuss what healthy spiritual leadership in the home looks like.Scriptures:Galatians 3:28, Genesis 1:26-27, Proverbs 22:6Shownotes:Book by Nancy Pearcey – The Toxic War on MasculinityEpisode #45 of More Than Roommates - Interview with Professor PearceyBlog Post – What Does Spir...
2023-10-0524 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 45 - The Toxic War on Masculinity (feat. Nancy Pearcey) What if much of what you hear about marital satisfaction and divorce rates inside and outside the church is actually incorrect? In this week’s episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott interview Professor Nancy Pearcey about her latest book, The Toxic War on Masculinity. Stay tuned for a bonus follow-up episode later this week! Nancy Pearcey is the author of The Toxic War on Masculinity: How Christianity Reconciles the Sexes, as well as Love Thy Body, The Soul of Science, Saving Leonardo, Finding Truth, and Total Truth. She is professor and scholar in residenc...
2023-10-0332 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 44 - What to do When Your Spouse Annoys You It’s inevitable for every married couple that you will walk through times when your spouse annoys you. What do you do in these situations – overlook it, pray about it, talk to them about it, talk to others about it? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Scott, Derek, and I Gabrielle discuss what to do when your spouse annoys you.Scriptures:James 4:1Matthew 7:3-5Proverbs 19:111 Corinthians 13:5Shownotes:Episode 25 of More Than Roommates - How to Have Hard Conversations and...
2023-09-2629 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 42 - When’s the Right Time To Grow Your Family? We’re answering our most frequently asked questions! When do you start trying to grow your family? How many kids should you have? What if you want kids but can’t get pregnant? How should couples view children? Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott answer these questions and more in this week’s new episode of More Than Roommates.Scriptures:Genesis 1:27-28Psalm 127:3-5James 1:17Matthew 19:12Matthew 28:19-20Show Notes:Blog Post: How to Change the World: Raise a Godly...
2023-09-1228 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 40 - The Impact of Gender Roles in Marriage (Part 2 in a series on roles) In this episode (Part 2 of a 2-part series), Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what practical implications of what the Bible says about roles in marriage. We discuss how biblical roles play out in marriage with specific examples from our own marriages.Scriptures:Proverbs 18:2, Phil 2:3-4, Romans 12:10, 1 Corinthians 12Resources - We’re including more resources that normal since we know this is a topic about which many husbands and wives have questions.From God Questions - What is egalitarianism?From Got Questions - What is...
2023-08-2930 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 39 - What Does the Bible Say about Marital Roles? (Part 1) In this episode (Part 1 of a 2-part series), Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what the Bible says about roles in marriage. We discuss different views on marital roles, and even share some of our own different views on this topic. Roles are often misunderstood and abused, so we all need to think (and act) rightly on this topic.Scriptures:Ephesians 5:22-28, Genesis 1:26-27, 2:28, 3:16; John 14:26; Mark 10:42-45Resources - We’re including more resources that normal since we know this is a topic about which many husbands and wi...
2023-08-2227 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 35 - How to Identify the 4 Negative Horsemen of Communication and Conflict What are the 4 Horsemen of communication and conflict? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss four negative patterns all couples need to watch out for and remove—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by Dr. John M. GottmanScriptures Referenced:Philippians 2:14, Proverbs 21:19, James 4:6, 1 Peter 5:5, 1 Timothy 1:15Questions to Discuss:1. How can you fight back against being overly critical of your spouse?2. Text your spouse right now and tell them on...
2023-07-2521 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 34 - It's That Marriage Q&A (feat. Jonathan "JP" Pokluda) Hey Podcast World! In this episode of More Than Roommates, Jonathan "JP" Pokluda, Lead Pastor of Harris Creek and Host of the Becoming Something Podcast, joins Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott for some marriage Q&A. We discussed trends in marriage, what JP is learning in his own marriage, and how to prioritize your marriage in the midst of the busyness of life.Becoming Something with Jonathan PokludaWhy Do I Do What I Don't Want to Do?, by JPScriptures: 1 Peter 3:7, PR 18:22, Matthew 5:27-28
2023-07-1826 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 32 - Are You and Your Spouse Aligned in Your Sexual Expectations? (Part 3 of 3 in a series o In Part 3 of this 3-part series on sex and marriage, Scott, Gabrielle, and Derek discuss two more barriers to intimacy couples often face. We discuss sexual expectations (sexpectations) and unresolved pain, sin, or struggles. We hope this 3-Part series has helped you have some needed conversations about intimacy. Married Sex, by Gary Thomas and Debra FiletaRethinking Sexuality, by Juli Slattery#4 - We all have unmet expectations1. How satisfied am I sexually?2. How satisfied is my spouse sexually?3. Where are our sexual e...
2023-07-0428 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 31 - Too Busy to Get Busy (Part 2 of 3 in a series on marital intimacy) In Part 2 of this 3-part series on sex and marriage, Scott, Gabrielle, and Derek discuss three barriers to intimacy couples often face. We discuss the importance of working on our marriages, communicating well, and how schedule and busyness affect marital intimacy. Married Sex, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta #1 - We’re not willing to work hard on our marriage.1. On a scale of 1-10 (1-horrible, 10-perfection), how would I rate our marriage?2. How would I rate our sex life?3. What would it take to incr...
2023-06-2726 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 29 - How Can You Think Rightly About Sex and Marriage? (Part 1 of 3) In Part 1 of this 3-part series on sex and marriage, Scott, Gabrielle, and Derek discuss how to have a healthy and right view of sex and marriage. We all bring baggage and challenges into marriage when it comes to sex, but if we want to have a healthy sex life, then we must learn how to think rightly about it. Married Sex, by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta Questions to Discuss1. What were some fears you had about sex before you got married?2. Do you believe you an...
2023-06-2026 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 27 - How Can You Celebrate Your Spouse Well? What does it look like to celebrate your spouse well? Instead of competing with each other, what would it look like for you to consistently celebrate them. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss practical ways to rejoice with and celebrate your spouse.Five Love Languages, by Dr. Gary ChapmanFive Love Languages QuizQuestions to Discuss:1. How do you do at celebrating each other?2. What’s one way you can celebrate your spouse today? Now go do it...
2023-06-1323 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 25 - Hard Conversations in Marriage and How to Do Them Well In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how and why to have hard conversations with your spouse. Most couples struggle with hard conversations because of things like pride and defensiveness. But, when we do this well, it can strengthen our marriage in every way!Shownotes:One Conversation with My Son that Left Me Speechless.Questions to Discuss:1. Why is it difficult to have hard conversations in our marriage?2. What’s the best time for us to have hard co...
2023-06-0625 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 22 - What Questions Can Help You Make Decisions in Marriage? Life and marriage seem to be filled with one decision after another. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss helpful six questions to ask when making decisions. Shownotes:Sermon from Jonathan “JP” Pokluda - Questions to Ask When Making DecisionsBlog Post - One Way to Help You Avoid Life's Biggest Regrets and Mistakes Questions to Discuss With Your Spouse:1. How can you and your spouse improve you make decisions?2. Do you tend to process decisions with others or jus...
2023-05-2323 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 21 - How Can We Have Healthy Relationships With Our In-Laws? In-Laws often get an unfair reputation. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss several ways to grow a healthy relationship with each of your parents and families. We discuss practical ways to navigate the challenges and opportunities that come with our families.Questions to discuss with your spouse:1. What is your vision or hopes for what your family and in-law relationships can look like?2. What's one intentional step you can take to strengthen your relationship with each of your families?3. Take a few...
2023-05-1626 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 20 - How Can I Intentionally Pursue My Spouse Every Day? (feat. John McGee) How can I love my spouse well every day? Our marriages reflect the amount of work and effort we put into them. In this episode, Scott, Derek, and Gabrielle interview John McGee, the Senior Director of Resources at Watermark Community Church in Dallas, TX. John has an abundance of wisdom we can learn from as he shares how he and his wife intentionally pursue each other.Shownotes:Watermark ResourcesTiny Habit ChallengeJohn & Pam McGee’s talk from the Uncommon Marriage ConferenceQuestions to...
2023-05-0933 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 19 - Removing Sin So Your Marriage Can Thrive Healthy marriages are filled with small challenges and sin struggles couples must attend to every single day; things such as busyness, selfishness, and pride. In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott address some challenges we must focus on every single day to grow a healthier, more intentional marriage.Shownotes – Marriage, by Paul David Tripp, Adam Grant Tweet
2023-05-0226 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 18 - Your Money and Your Marriage Money and financial problems often rank high in the reasons why couples struggle or get divorced. What does the Bible say about money and how does it affect our marriages? In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss four biblical principles that can help your marriage when it comes to money and finances.Resources – Becoming Something – Money and Family, The Marriage Challenge, by Art Rainer
2023-04-2526 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 17 - Is Kindness In Marriage Really That Big Of A Deal? We all want to be kind in marriage, but for some reason, it can be so challenging to show kindness to our spouse! In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss some of the reasons why we struggle to be kind to our spouse and ways we can be kinder to each other.Resource – The Kindness Challenge by Shaunti Feldhahn
2023-04-1824 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 15 – How Can I Be Spiritually Intimate With My Spouse? What does it look like to be connected spiritually with your spouse? How do you pursue Jesus well together even with your different personalities and wirings? In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott share some ways you can pursue Jesus together.Shownotes – Bible Reading Plan, Spiritual Pathways by Gary Thomas
2023-04-0423 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 14 - Can You (and Your Spouse) Have Friends of the Opposite Sex? What is the wise thing to do when it comes to marriage and friends of the opposite sex? In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to be above reproach with opposite sex friendships and share some practical ways to be thoughtful about opposite sex friendships.Why Do We Want to Put a Stone in Your Shoe?
2023-03-2826 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 13 - Why We Need Healthy Friendships and Community For Our Marriage What role do friendships and community play in marriage? In this episode, Derek, Scott, and Gabrielle discuss how friendships play a key role in marriage and the ways in which community provides both support and encouragement.
2023-03-2121 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 12 - Identifying Negative Communication Patterns How's your marital communication? Ever need help resolving and managing conflict? In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss harmful marital communication patterns and how they affect our relationships. Learn how to better communicate by identifying your communication ditches. Check out the book A Lasting Promise by Scott Stanley, Trathen, McCain, Bryan
2023-03-1424 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 11 - Celebrating Our Differences How do you handle the differences you have with your significant other? Do you resent them and do they drive you crazy? Or do you embrace and celebrate them? In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to celebrate your differences and see how the Lord can use them to strengthen your marriage.
2023-03-0723 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 10 - How to Talk About Lust & Pornography In Part 2 in this series on porn, we discuss how to discuss our struggles with community and the importance of confession in marriage. Scott, Derek, and Gabrielle share authentic, biblical, and practical thoughts on confession and community.Freedom Starts Today, by John ElmoreWhy Do I Do What I Don’t Want to Do?, by Jonathan “JP” Pokluda & Jon Greenregen recoveryBecoming Something Episode 203 - A Conversation with a Former P*rn Star (feat. Joshua Broome)
2023-02-2826 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 7 - How to Keep Pursuing Your Spouse In Part 2 of this bonus 3-part series, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to keep dating and pursuing your spouse. Even in the busyness of life, we need to look for ways to make our marriage a priority.
2023-02-1311 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 6 - Why to Keep Pursuing Your Spouse In this special episode, we talk about the importance of continuing to date and pursue your spouse, long after you say, “I do!” Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss why to keep dating your spouse.Here are a few resources we reference in this Special 3-Part Series:Waco Date GuideHow to Make Date Nights (With Your Spouse) Less BoringConversation StartersDefy Drift Conversation Cards
2023-02-1211 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 5 – Good Habits Help Make Great Marriages In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott each share three things they’re glad they did from the beginning in their marriages. Whether you’re already doing these things or not, it’s never too late to start good habits and practices in your marriage.
2023-02-0727 minMore than RoommatesEpisode 4 - Mistakes We Made As Newlyweds In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott share three mistakes they each made from Day 1 of marriage. Whether you’re a newlywed or married for decades, it’s never too late to make changes in your marriage.
2023-01-3124 minMore than RoommatesMore than Roommates - Trailer Welcome to More Than Roommates, where we want to help you take the next step to be more intentional in your marriage. We want to help you avoid falling into the trap of being merely roommates with your spouse. We hope that through authentic, biblical, and practical conversation you will gain tools and wisdom to help you take one step closer to the Lord and the marriage He intends for you and your spouse. Listen in as Scott Kedersha, Gabrielle McCullough, and Derek Davidson help you intentionally strengthen your relationship.
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