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Stone and PineStone and Pine Book 4 Chapter 16: The Fire and the torchSome moments aren’t lessons—they’re ceremonies. In this chapter, Alden Elior walks into the clearing with a torch in hand and a fire before him. One by one, he lays down the burdens that no longer serve: shame, anger, regret, expectation, and the ghosts of relationships long carried. This is not destruction—it’s release.Through this ritual of fire, Alden honors every mistake, forgives every absence, and lets the weight of the past turn to light. He releases parents who couldn’t love well, friends who betrayed, and the boy who didn’t know better...
2025-10-1508 minStone and PineStone and Pine Book 4 Chapter 15: Out on a branchSometimes love feels like a risk. In this reflection, Alden Elior explores what it means to trust again—after betrayal, after disappointment, after watching the branch snap beneath you more than once. He faces the ache of friendships that failed, the fear of being fooled again, and the slow rebuilding of self-trust.Through the gaze of love he now receives from Julie, Alden begins to see that the trembling he feels isn’t warning—it’s growth. That love doesn’t have to mean falling, and discernment doesn’t have to mean distance. He learns that wisdom...
2025-10-1508 minStone and PineStone and Pine Book 4 Chapter 14: The order of PineIf stone is the order of permanence, then pine is the order of presence.In this meditation, Alden Elior turns from mountains to trees—away from command and into companionship. Pine doesn’t demand reverence; it simply remembers you. It recalls your rhythm before the world taught you to rush. It holds your peace until you’re ready to reclaim it.Here, Garth reflects on what it means to live a life that bends but doesn’t break—to stand rooted, breathe peace, and remain when others flee. Through stillness, forgiveness, and the quiet endurance of love, h...
2025-10-1507 minStone and PineStone and Pine Book 4 Ch 13: Linda psychological makeupAfter eighteen years in a relationship that kept him small, Garth begins to see himself through new eyes. What happens when a man who has accepted the story of being “less than” finally meets someone who mirrors his worth back to him? This episode of Stone & Pine explores the moment of awakening—the painful unraveling of old identities, the pull between shame and hope, and the quiet discovery that who we really are has been waiting all along.Keywords / SEOStone and Pine, self-discovery, emotional healing, affair recovery, rebuilding identity, leaving emotional abuse, power vs force...
2025-10-1511 minStone and PineStone and Pine Book 4 Chapter 13: When truth is LoveSometimes the most loving thing a man can do is speak the truth—gently, clearly, and without the need to be right. In this reflection, Garth explores what it means to bring truth that connects instead of wounds, to stand with someone rather than above them, and to let questions become invitations rather than accusations.From that moment of courage, a deeper revelation unfolds: what it means to speak from Stone and Pine. Stone represents eternal truth—the unshakable, ancient voice of God that never moves. Pine represents living presence—the warm, breathing compassion that never leaves. Togeth...
2025-10-1509 minStone and PineStone and Pine Book 4 Chapter 12: Processing the painThis chapter is both a guide and a confession—a sacred moment where grief becomes ceremony. Garth describes, in raw and practical form, the ritual he uses to mourn the unseen boy within him. What begins as a structure for emotional healing becomes a living encounter: sitting in his truck, holding space for the boy in the frisbee line, the boy who stood alone, unseen until mocked.Here, Alden Elior does what no one else ever did—he returns for that boy. He witnesses him. He stands beside him. And through that act, the man becomes whole. The...
2025-10-1506 minStone and PineStone and Pine Book 4 Chapter 11 part 2: Owning my voiceThis second half of Owning My Voice moves from public vulnerability to private healing. After the declaration “I Am No Longer Silent,” Garth faces one of the deepest questions of his story: What part of me still believes that being needed is more valuable than being known?Through that question, a buried childhood memory surfaces — a fourth-grade moment of humiliation on stage that shaped decades of silence. In this episode, Alden Elior returns to that moment as the father beside the boy, rewriting it not with perfection but with compassion. He teaches that failure is not the enemy...
2025-10-1513 minStone and PineStone and Pine Book 4 Chapter 11 Part 1: Owning my voiceGarth steps out from the wings. After sharing his first book, Discovery, with his Manalizing brothers, he chooses radical vulnerability over protective silence—naming the old habit of shrinking when louder voices fill the room, and replacing it with a new creed: I am no longer silent.In this episode, he unpacks why disappearing once felt safer than being seen, traces that fear back to a fourth-grade stage stumble, and then rewrites the memory by becoming the father who stands beside the boy in the spotlight. What follows is a powerful declaration about speaking with peace (not pe...
2025-10-1505 minStone and PineStone and Pine Book 4 Chapter 9: The man I was meant to beIn this powerful chapter, Garth—as Alden Elior—finally meets the man he was always meant to be. No longer defined by titles, applause, or performance, he steps into the quiet strength of peace, presence, and purpose. This reflection is both revelation and rebirth: the story of a man who once felt unseen, now becoming the lighthouse he was destined to be.Through raw honesty and divine clarity, he reclaims his role as a giver of peace, a father to the wounded, and an architect of others’ greatness. This is not ambition—it’s alignment. It’s the moment w...
2025-10-1508 minStone and PineStone and Pine Book 4 Chapter 2: A Man I'll BeStepping out of performance and into embodiment, this chapter asks a simple, seismic question: What does it feel like to walk the world as the man you now claim to be? Garth (as Alden Elior) explores protective presence with Julie, learns to receive peace as identity—not reward—and finds his soul’s home in the mountains and pines. From the “I Am Peace” declaration to building the stone Inner Chamber, he moves from seeking calm to being calm: a shelter, a still point, a lighthouse. This is the felt experience of becoming—a man whose strength speaks peace.Keywor...
2025-10-1520 minStone and PineStone and Pine Book 4 Chapter 1: Standing in the LightIn this opening chapter, Garth Haslem—through the voice of Alden Elior—steps out of the shadows of shame and into the radiance of truth. No longer defined by the wounds of the past or the need to prove his worth, he declares a new way of being: one of peace, power, and presence. “Standing in the Light” marks the moment when the man who once sought healing now becomes the healing itself. This is not reinvention—it is remembrance. A sacred return to the strength, calm, and light that were always there.Keywords: Alden Elior, Sta...
2025-10-1507 minStone and PineStone and Pine Book 3 Chapter 5: The OppositionIn this chapter, Alden Elior confronts the voice of opposition—the inner opposition that whisper old lies of failure, shame, and unworthiness. What once felt like repentance now reveals itself as self-condemnation: the voice of a frightened child mistaken for the truth. Through quiet awareness, Garth learns that these voices are not proof of weakness but echoes of survival. As he reclaims his peace amid daily pressures, he discovers that he no longer loses peace—because he is peace. From the cave of stillness to the white flowers of renewal, he finds that even in noise and chaos, the sanc...
2025-10-1516 minStone and PineStone and Pine Book 3 Chapter 4: SeenIn this chapter, Alden Elior steps into one of the deepest gates of becoming—what it means to be fully seen. Through a quiet conversation and a vivid remembering, Garth returns to the boy he once was: the one who sat alone in church, afraid to take up space, believing that men were dangerous and that belonging was earned. In a sacred act of reparenting, he sits beside that boy, speaks peace, and promises protection. What unfolds is not just healing—it is union. The boy and the man meet, and in their meeting, Alden Elior is born: not a ma...
2025-10-1513 min
ManalizingManalizing 42 Glenn Lovelace - Heal the Boy, Forge the Man. Brotherhood, Brokenness and the Will to RiseHe lost a home, broke his body, and nearly ended his life — but somewhere in the wreckage, he found God, purpose, and a new definition of being a man.Glenn Loveless has lived a life most men couldn’t survive. He’s a husband of 21 years, father of seven, former bodybuilder, and founder of Your Wingman Coaching. He’s also a man who has known pain — from losing a home in a lawsuit, to surviving a mountain bike crash that nearly killed him, to facing the moment he held a gun to his own head.
2025-08-151h 08
ManalizingManalizing 41 Wyatt Black: Violating the Man Rules - Survival and Speaking TruthHe’s a soldier, survivor, and straight shooter. But behind the humor and grit is a man who’s been choked, stabbed, and nearly took his own life — and lived to talk about it.🎧 Episode DescriptionWyatt Black is the kind of man who’s seen both sides of the line — the uniformed world of order and the private world of chaos. A U.S. Army veteran and tech entrepreneur, Wyatt opens up about the night his wife tried to kill him, his struggles with PTSD, and the moment he almost ended his life in a bathtub with...
2025-06-051h 05
ManalizingManalizing 40 Boo Andersen: The Refiner’s Fire — Boo Anderson on Football, Faith, and Becoming Who You Really AreHe was a linebacker for the University of Utah — strong, driven, and unstoppable. But the real story started after the lights went out and life got quiet.🎧 Episode DescriptionBoo Anderson is a man who’s lived both power and pain. A former University of Utah linebacker and now a successful financial planner, husband, and father, Boo opens up about what happens when life doesn’t go according to the playbook.In this episode, he shares his story of chasing dreams, tearing his ACL, watching the NFL slip away, and going through d...
2025-05-301h 16
ManalizingManalizing 39 Adam Sharp - Forgiving and finding peace in the painHe’s buried six friends to suicide, lost his dad, his marriage, and nearly himself — but learned how to turn pain into peace and struggle into strength.Adam Sharp knows loss.In the past eight years, he’s buried six people to suicide, lost his dad unexpectedly, and watched his marriage of seventeen years dissolve. Yet somehow, he’s not bitter — he’s grounded, grateful, and wiser than most men you’ll ever meet.In this powerful conversation, Adam talks about grief, guilt, and the impossible moments that break a man down. He s...
2024-08-131h 15
ManalizingManalizing 38 Jeff Beck: The Creator’s Curse — Jeff Beck on Purpose, ADHD, and the Lies We Tell OurselvesHe looks like he has it all — talent, brains, creativity — but inside, he fights the same voices every man does: lazy, useless, not enough.Jeff Beck is the kind of guy who seems to have it all figured out. Brilliant, creative, successful — a photographer, game designer, podcast host, and comedian. But what happens when the man everyone admires starts wondering if any of it matters?In this honest and raw conversation, Jeff opens up about ADHD, imposter syndrome, and the late-night voices that whisper, you’re not enough. He shares how he w...
2024-08-131h 21
ManalizingManalizing 37 Sean Van Brunt - Freedom Isn’t What You Think — Sean Van Brunt on Homelessness, Addiction, and Taking Back His LifeHe was homeless, drunk, and ready to end it all — until he learned that real freedom isn’t doing whatever you want. It’s becoming who you’re meant to be.At twenty-six, Sean Van Brent has already lived a lifetime.Marine veteran, roofer, and entrepreneur, he’s been homeless, addicted, and suicidal. He’s also been sober, successful, and at peace — and the gap between those two worlds came down to one word: freedom.In this raw conversation, Sean opens up about being kicked out of the Marines, losing his sense of worth, and spi...
2024-08-131h 06
ManalizingManalizing 35 Chako Fairbanks : What Do You Say To The Widow?Her husband collapsed beside her while cutting a tree. In minutes, the life she loved was gone — and she had to learn what to do when the world stops.🎧 Episode DescriptionChaco Fairbanks isn’t a man, but her story speaks to every man who’s ever loved deeply and lost hard.Nine months ago, her husband Cody died suddenly while they were remodeling a house in the Smoky Mountains.In this conversation, she walks us through that day — the CPR, the hospital, the silence afterward — and what grief really feels like when the...
2023-11-1756 min
Left of the LakeGarth Haslem: Home InspectorStructural inspector and engineer Garth Haslem shares his experiences and advice on maintaining a structurally sound home. He emphasizes the need for homeowners, contractors, and insurance companies to be aware of potential issues and the importance of soil preparation to prevent water damage. He also discusses two podcasts he hosts. Episode Highlights How Garth ended up moving into his current home after an initial misconception about the location His interesting experience of breaking into his own home and inspecting it from a career perspective A tale of witnessing a real-life National Geographic scene of an eagle a...
2023-11-0937 min
ManalizingManalizing 32 Lauren Busch: From Trauma to Tools and Moving ForwardLauren Bush has lived through what most of us can’t even imagine — and come out the other side with fire, grace, and truth that men need to hear.In this raw and powerful conversation, we talk about what it means to heal after sexual abuse, how trauma passes through generations, why hurt people hurt people, and how a man can love and protect a woman who’s been through hell.Lauren doesn’t hold back, and neither do we. This is about courage, empathy, and the work it takes to stop the cycle — in ourselves...
2023-10-111h 06
ManalizingManalizing 31 Dennis Harris - The Atomic Bomb of Grief: A Cop, a Father, and Choosing to StayWhen grief detonates, the blast doesn’t stop at one life. Former Utah County deputy Dennis Harris sits down with Garth Haslem to tell the story he’s spent decades learning to say out loud: his 15-year-old daughter died by suicide with his duty weapon. What followed was shock, isolation, a family blown into survival-mode “islands,” years of therapy, and a long crawl back toward each other. Dennis shares how talking—really talking—became the pressure valve that kept them from exploding, why he built a safety device named after his daughter, and the night he nearly ended his ow...
2023-10-0439 min
ManalizingManalizing 30 Chris Rexwell - The Long Winter: Fatherhood, Isolation, and Starting OverWhen the courts, the silence, and the empty house all close in, what does a man do?Chris Rexwell —a father, veteran, and Alaskan native—talks with Garth Haslem about what it’s like to lose your child for eight months, to come home to nothing but echoes, and to somehow find your footing again. From court battles and controlling partners to rediscovering purpose through service, Chris’s story is about the quiet resilience it takes to keep going when every instinct tells you to give up.They talk about loneliness, identity, masculin...
2023-09-2735 min
Fitness Realty PodcastEpisode #76: Garth Haslem’s ManalizingWith a description like: “Men talking about what men don’t want to talk about. It’s pretty vulnerable, so put on your hardhat and listen in,” you know this podcast means business.
Garth has seen his fair share of dark times and now analyzes the importance of a male support system for men. Unlike typical women, he explains how being vulnerable as a man can be extremely difficult and can often lead to suicide if a support system isn’t in place. Garth’s passion rings loud and clear in his voice as he wants to s...
2023-09-2528 min
ManalizingManalizing 29 Jade Moellendorf - EP — Spherical Man: Building Brotherhood, Balance, and BelongingWhat happens when a man decides he’s done living alone—and starts building a brotherhood instead?In this heartfelt conversation, Jade Mollendorf, founder of Spherical Man, joins Garth Haslem to talk about the loneliness, silence, and strength that shape modern men. From divorce and fatherhood to personal growth and purpose, Jade’s story is about choosing connection over isolation and courage over conformity.He shares how one golf trip with friends became a global men’s movement—teaching guys to be spherical: balanced, whole, and unafraid to live outside the box. Together...
2023-07-121h 24
ManalizingManalizing 28 Buck Hedges: The Cowboy Philosopher: Hard Lessons from the HeartlandSome men swing a hammer. Some build websites. Buck Hedges does both—then saddles a horse, rides into the hills, and thinks deeply about what it means to be a man.In this grounded, heartfelt conversation, Buck and Garth talk about hard things: loneliness, bullying, anger, marriage, faith, and the slow work of learning how to communicate when no one ever taught you how. From ranch life to IT work, from explosions and loss to laughter and love, Buck’s story reminds us that courage isn’t the absence of fear—it’s what you do with it....
2023-06-3045 min
ManalizingManalizing 27 Joe Devito: From Heroin to Hero -Shadow Work, Fatherhood & MasculinityJoe DeVito shouldn’t be here. After childhood trauma, an intentional overdose, and years lost to addiction, he walked five miles to detox and rebuilt his life from the inside out. Today he coaches men through shadow work, boundaries, initiation, and conscious fatherhood. We talk: the “golden shadow,” why assertiveness prevents rage, how absence (not just physical) wounds kids, and why purpose is buried beneath the parts of us we reject. This isn’t theory. It’s hard-won wisdom for men who are done pretending and ready to lead.Guest: Joe DeVito — Sovereign Man | joedevitocoaching.com Host: Gar...
2023-06-2354 min
ManalizingManalizing 26 Jason Christiansen - The Wild Dad, the Warrior Son, and the Weight of ArmorYou think you know what it means to be a man—until you meet Jason Christensen. He’s the kind of dad who teaches his sons to fight him, to think for themselves, and to tell women they’re beautiful. He’s also a divorced father who walked through heartbreak, failure, and faith—and came out knowing exactly who he is.In this raw, hilarious, and deeply honest episode, Garth and Jason dive into everything from fatherhood to divorce, masculine energy to vulnerability, spiritual awakening to the real meaning of heaven. Jason talks abou...
2023-05-291h 05
ManalizingManalizing 25 Braden Lawson - You never know what a man carriesSometimes you meet someone who changes the way you see strength. Braden Lawson is a Utah realtor, a gay man, and a survivor who’s lived through addiction, rebellion, and rediscovery. In this conversation, Garth and Braden talk about what it means to own your life—your choices, your identity, and your mindset—without apology or self-pity.From growing up in a blue-collar home to battling stereotypes, from being locked in a boarding school to selling homes across Utah, Braden has learned that the hardest moments can become the greatest teachers. He shares how on...
2023-05-021h 10
ManalizingManalizing 24 Wes Earls - Autopilot, Abandonment, and AwakeningWhat happens when a man wakes up and realizes he’s been living on autopilot—running the same patterns, reacting the same way, and never truly steering his own life?In this episode, Wes Earls joins Garth Haslem for a raw, winding conversation about loneliness, control, and the patterns that keep men stuck. From childhood abuse to school bullying, from suicidal thoughts to spiritual awakening, Wes shares how he finally learned to stop living as a passenger and start driving his own life.Together they explore isolation, masculinity, and the deep power of self-awareness—the moment...
2023-03-301h 15
ManalizingManalizing 23 Enrique Cahua - Punched in the Face by Life: From Divorce and Darkness to LightAs I write this, I'm looking for words. This is one of the most powerful interviews you'll hear. Not just on Manalizing - anywhere. Enrique appears to have it all - the looks, the health, the cars and toys, the intelligence, the money, the athleticism - all of it.But his demons are dark. They know him and how to get to the inner core of him - just like the rest of us. This is one of the most memorable interviews ever for Garth.AI's take on the interview...
2023-03-071h 27
ManalizingManalizing 22 TJ Mclellan: Drink a Cup of Badass-From War, PTSD, and Darkness to Strength and LightWhat happens when a man walks through war, loss, and darkness—and decides to build instead of break?In this powerful episode, Air Force veteran and real estate broker TJ McClellan shares how losing his bunk mate to self inflicted termination in Afghanistan shattered his world—and how that pain became the turning point for living fully, loving deeply, and creating connection wherever he goes.TJ and Garth dive into the things men never talk about: guilt, numbness, faith, brotherhood, and how physical strength can become emotional therapy. From the battlefield to the gym to the...
2022-12-281h 17
ManalizingManalizing 21 Devin Westover: The Mechanic and the Trash CompactorHe’s a mechanic. He’s got the truck, the tools, the house, the wife, and the kid.From the outside, Devin Westover looks like every man’s definition of “doing it right.”But inside? He was a trash compactor.Stuffing down pain from miscarriages, exhaustion, a broken family, and a near-suicide no one knew about. Until one day, the bag split open.In this episode, Garth sits down with Devin Westover — a man who’s lived the hard road from pressure to peace. They talk about growing up without hearing “I love you,” wat...
2022-12-261h 05
ManalizingManalizing 20 Padraic Walsh: The Legal Dad: From Brokenness to Enough — with Pauric “Rick” WalshHe was bullied as a kid, chased approval through bars and bad choices, lost his marriage, lost his job, and nearly lost his life.But in the silence after the storm, he heard a different voice — one that said, “You’re not done yet.”In this episode, Garth sits down with Pauric (Rick) Walsh, an Irish immigrant who went from construction worker to lawyer, from alcoholic to advocate, and from “not enough” to a man who is. Rick shares how bullying, divorce, and near-suicide shaped his purpose: helping fathers who are fighting for their children and themselv...
2022-12-211h 12
ManalizingManalizing 19 Kateri Reyes: Reclaiming Sacred Ground: Kateri's Story of Abuse, Faith, and FreedomThis one is different. It’s not theory — it’s survival.In this episode of Manalizing, host Garth Haslem sits down with Kateri Reyes, a woman who spent 15 years in an abusive marriage and somehow came out stronger, wiser, and full of light.What started as a story of pain becomes a masterclass in healing, self-worth, and divine partnership. Ari tells the truth about physical and emotional abuse — the fear, the shame, and the lies that keep people trapped. But she also shows the way out: reclaiming sacred ground, retraining the nervous system, and rediscovering that str...
2022-11-271h 27
ManalizingManalizing 18 Eddie Villa: The Voice Inside: How to Turn Your Inner Critic into an AllyWhat if your biggest flaws were the keys to your greatness? In this Manalizing episode, host Garth Haslem sits down with Eddie Villa — speaker, author, strengths coach, and one of Garth’s closest friends — for a powerful, raw conversation about becoming the man you were created to be.Eddie’s journey goes deep: a rough childhood, absent father, ignored son, early fatherhood, and a life spent searching for meaning. But through all that pain, he learned one life-altering truth — we are infinitely unique, and when we finally stop running from who we are, everything changes.“Once th...
2022-11-251h 24
ManalizingManalizing 17 John Emanuele: You Don’t Have to Lose Yourself to Win the FightWhen everything falls apart — your marriage, your finances, your health — what keeps a man going?In this Manalizing episode, host Garth Haslem talks with John Emmanuele, a Wisconsin dad who’s lived through just about every kind of storm: divorce, false accusations, custody battles, and even his wife’s cancer diagnosis.Through it all, John never stopped fighting for what mattered most — his kids, his marriage, and his peace.This is a story about endurance, fatherhood, and the quiet kind of faith that only shows up when everything else is stripped away.“You’re gonna...
2022-11-0652 min
ManalizingManalizing 16 Ray Rocha: the custody fight that nearly broke him - and made himSometimes the moment that saves your life looks like a beer can flying through the air.In this episode of Manalizing, host Garth Haslem sits down with Ray Rocha — a salesman, drummer, father, and 31-year sober alcoholic who learned how to rebuild his life one brutally honest day at a time.Ray’s story starts in chaos: a broken home, addiction by 14, and years of denial. But the turning point came when his mother hurled a six-pack at him and said, “Here’s your beer, asshole.” The next morning, Ray walked into his first AA meeting —...
2022-11-0459 min
ManalizingManalizing 15 Teigun Peterson: Forgiving the father - a lesson in strengthTegan Peterson looks like life’s been easy — clean-cut, confident, and now engaged to Garth’s “bonus daughter,” Mandy. But behind that smile is a story of deep hurt, early responsibility, and the kind of maturity that only comes from pain.In this Manalizing episode, Garth Haslem sits down with Tegan to talk about growing up through divorce, being told by his mission president that “you can’t change,” and learning the hardest lesson a man ever faces — forgiveness.This is a conversation between two men who understand what it means to be let down by those you looke...
2022-11-0245 min
ManalizingManalizing 14 Aaron Walker - Isolation is the enemy of excellenceWhat happens when the man who has everything loses it all in a single, tragic moment?Aaron Walker — “Big A” — built and sold businesses, made millions, and lived a life most men only dream of. But in 2001, a car accident claimed a man’s life and shattered Aaron’s sense of purpose. In the aftermath, he faced shame, isolation, and the kind of soul-searching that either destroys a man or remakes him.In this episode of Manalizing, Garth Haslem sits down with Aaron to talk about the accident that changed everything, the faith that rebuilt him, and the...
2022-10-2848 min
ManalizingManalizing 13 Damian Davis - Not every action deserves a reactionWhen life hits hardest, most men shut down. Damien Davis didn’t.At just 28, he’s been through what many men never recover from — a toxic breakup, depression, fatherhood in chaos, and a custody battle with someone diagnosed as bipolar and narcissistic. Yet somewhere in that wreckage, Damien found what he calls his secret sauce: the ability to not react.He’s a mental health worker who’s seen the cycle from both sides — professionally and personally. In this conversation, he and host Garth Haslem talk about purpose, anger, control, and why sometimes the strongest move a man c...
2022-09-2742 min
The HomeMedicThe HomeMedic #85 Meth - meth stories part 2As a former meth decontamination specialist, Garth Haslem (The HomeMedic) has been in hundreds of meth homes - and cleaned them up. He has stories. He tells some of them in this second part of 2.
2022-08-2712 min
The HomeMedicThe HomeMedic #84 Meth - meth stories part 1As a former meth decontamination specialist, Garth Haslem (The HomeMedic) has been in hundreds of meth homes - and cleaned them up. He has stories. He tells some of them in this part 1 of 2.
2022-08-2711 min
ManalizingManalizing 9 Jordan Hanks - Jordan Ricks Hanks: Loving Through Stage 4—What Men Can Do When Cancer Hits Home”Jordan Ricks Hanks was 30 when life changed fast: a rare CDH1 genetic mutation, stage-4 gastric signet-ring cancer, major surgeries (stomach, ovaries, colon, gallbladder), and a newborn in the NICU. She sits down with Garth to share how she and her husband Riley are facing the unimaginable—together—and what men can actually do when a partner is hurting.Jordan talks candidly about diagnosis, treatment, faith, and the everyday actions that kept their marriage connected: five-minute foot rubs, honest check-ins, and giving your partner permission to step out of the “panic box” for a breath of air. Her message...
2022-08-1839 min
ManalizingManalizing 7 Garth Haslem - This Time It’s Me – Garth Haslem on Fathers, Failure, and Finding PurposeDescription:In this special episode of Manalizing, the mic turns around. Host Garth Haslem takes the hot seat as his friend Howard Little interviews him.Garth opens up about the quiet ache of an absent father, the years spent chasing a paycheck instead of a purpose, and the long road through a loveless marriage that nearly erased who he was. He talks about building Crossroads Engineers, raising daughters, walking through divorce, and the woman who finally saw the man he was meant to be.This isn’t a highlight reel—it’s...
2022-08-0852 min
Base HitsBase Hits 45 Gratitude is goodBase hits can still be made when I'm busy. And here's a bit of gratitude for me being busy. Who am I grateful to? I don't know why God the Father and Jesus Christ do what they do for me, but it all strengthens my resolve to do what they're entrusting, hoping and needing me to do. We all have purposes - here's a bit about mine.
2022-08-0506 min
Base HitsBase Hits 44 Arguing with myselfSome days I wonder if I did anything at all, then I remember I got a lot done. This was one of those. I tend not to give myself credit for stuff when I do move forward, but I'm real good at remembering when I didn't meet the bar. That said, I came up with a concept that will be a centerpiece of my marketing and branding. I call it arguing with myself. Might as well - I do it anyway.
2022-08-0408 min
Base HitsBase Hits 43 BakerLearning how to lead well is a new experience for me. I've learned how to run a 1 man business and can do that comfortably. Employees? Leadership? Management? Stretch. Also, now I'm a baker. Who woulda thought?
2022-08-0205 min
Base HitsBase Hits 42 Running around rocksMost of us men think we're strong. Give us a problem, we'll solve it. We do. We solve. We finish. We go. But asking us to talk about what it does to us? That's an uphill climb. And what happens when we do? That's interesting too.
2022-08-0104 min
Base HitsBase Hits 41 Defending the showSometimes when you ask a guy to be vulnerable, people get uncomfortable. Not just the vulnerable dude, but others who are not used to that. I witnessed the results of that.
2022-07-3005 min
Base HitsBase Hits 40 Face shotsI feel like I'm getting to where I can start streamlining things. It's not about a thousand tasks that must be done before I get started - at least not at the moment. It feels like now I need to be moving into the production phase. Get stuff out, get it marketed, get it moving. But for today? Face shots is my base hit
2022-07-2905 min
Base HitsBase Hits 39 Much stuffThere are always a lot of competing interests in a life. Entertainment, body, relationships, money, keeping business afloat, starting new ones - the list goes on. Still, how do you make sure that what's most important stays at the top of the list? How do you make sure that little stuff isn't eating up all the time for the big stuff? Here's that podcast
2022-07-2804 min
Base HitsBase Hits 38 Lever dramaWhen you're the CEO, the janitor, the marketing guy and the tech guy, things can sometimes get interesting. Still, I'm learning and growing, and there are mistakes that I won't make again
2022-07-2607 min
ManalizingManalizing 6 Pele Tautu Talking to the MoonPele grew up between ocean calm and street violence on Oahu’s North Shore—where respect was enforced, tempers ran hot, and boys learned to win by force. In this raw, grounded conversation, he and host Garth Haslem unpack the moments that shaped him: learning to surf, shouldering a young father’s shame when the money didn’t pencil, and the nights he sat in the backyard “talking to the moon” because unloading on his family would do more harm than good.They go straight at the hard stuff—Christmas blow-ups, leaving the house to keep from doing damage...
2022-07-2646 min
Base HitsBase Hits 37 That sucksThere are a lot of rocks in the road when it comes to doing manalizing. First, men don't talk about stuff because it's vulnerable. Second, when men are vulnerable it doesn't always come out well or get taken well. Then I fear that it becomes evidence that men shouldn't be vulnerable. This sucks, and I don't have an answer. Sure wish I had someone who could answer this for me.
2022-07-2506 min
Base HitsBase Hits 36 Manager and tech geek - all in oneBeing a podcaster and entrepreneur means you get to wear a lot of hats. Some of them I'm not comfortable in - like being an audio tech geek. Or like managing people in a professional way. Still, I've got it in me because I have to have it in me. There's a way because there must be a way. Here's my Friday report.
2022-07-2313 min
Base HitsBase Hits 35 Formatting the formatI don't know how many people are better at arguing with themselves than me, but I'm exceptionally good at it. As a businessman, I'm used to coming up against a business decision that I'm not feeling qualified to make, but knowing that I don't have anyone who can help me who is experienced in that arena. So I just make it. This is not unlike the experience men make every day. This podcast includes one of those moments for me
2022-07-2204 min
Base HitsBase Hits 34 A day for the dynastySometimes I get some time to get things done. This is one of them
2022-07-2207 min
ManalizingManalizing 5 Pele Tautu Being an ImmigrantPele grew up on the North Shore of Hawaii, where love and violence lived side by side. In a world that taught boys to fight first and feel later, he learned to survive by strength, anger, and silence. But survival isn’t the same as peace.In this episode of Manalizing, Garth Haslem sits down with his close friend Pele — a husband, father, grandfather, and quiet warrior — to talk about what happens when the rules of your childhood no longer fit the man you’ve become. They explore the weight of cultural expectations, breaking cycles of aggression, and what...
2022-07-2145 min
ManalizingManalizing 4 Todd Nielsen Outer Toughness, Inner DesperationTodd Nielsen spent his life chasing danger. As an undercover cop, he kicked in doors, faced gunfire, and cleaned up the darkest corners of humanity. But the real battle wasn’t on the streets—it was inside.When an injury ended his career, Todd lost everything he thought made him a man: the adrenaline, the badge, the brotherhood. What followed was addiction, darkness, and almost the end of his life. Then came a different kind of rescue.In this episode of Manalizing, Todd sits down with Garth Haslem to talk about pain, trauma, and the long...
2022-07-201h 03
Base HitsBase Hits 33 Dudes and motivationWouldn't it be nice if the path to entrepreneurship, saving lives and helping men off their respective islands were always glamorous, motivating and easy? How will I ever know even if any of my efforts are making any difference? Here's my daily brain struggles - as well as my arguments I have regularly with myself. Part of being me I guess.
2022-07-2011 min
Base HitsBase Hits 32 Failure and guidanceToday was a near failure but gratefully I have a team. That team includes people on the other side who are most anxiously engaged to help me succeed. I'm doing all I can to listen
2022-07-1907 min
Base HitsBase Hits 31 Depression and surprisesFor a guy who's used to be outside doing stuff, it feels less than great when I have an involuntary day of not doing stuff. I know, manalizing is my purpose and future, but today it feels like I've got to do manalizing because there are no inspections. So that's my report. And then something happened. Whoever is pulling the strings does have a sense of humor. This is another entry in my gratitude journal
2022-07-1807 min
Base HitsBase Hits 30 SweetnessToday I departed from a report of all the base hits I did - there were plenty because I was granted a good deal to time to get things done. Those were all overshadowed by the sweetness that was my interview with Todd Nielsen. Great man. And I know I only breezed by how deep he runs. Some day when I have him back, I hope that I'm able to draw out more of who he is and get it captured on sound waves for all of us.
2022-07-1507 min
Base HitsBase Hits 29 Competition and CapacityI have a lot of things that are important to me. My wife and family, then comes my future. I need to keep in shape, manage my inspection business, keep up on my voice (brain exercising and fun), manage homemedic and manalizing, exercise the body (swim and bike), keep up on the yard (tree landscaping is killin me), and make sure my employees are well guided. It's a lot. Today is an example of how I went too far in one area and left nothing for the rest of the categories.
2022-07-1405 min
Base HitsBase Hits 28 frustrations and roadblocksSome days everything becomes a roadblock. What should be easy is nearly impossible. And then important things fall off the plate. And then you spend all night dream/thinking about how to fix the hard stuff. And - no shocker here - you wake up and it's still not fixed. That was my day
2022-07-1306 min
Base HitsBase Hits 27 Fails, tech issues and inspirationIt must be true that when you're swimming in the muck the most, that's when you get help from above. That's happening to me today.
2022-07-1307 min
Base HitsBase Hits 26 Marketing, producing and failsSo sometimes I realize that I don't have the answers, and nobody I know does either. This is one of those times.
2022-07-1109 min
Base HitsBase Hits 25 Good friends are awesomeSometimes I need to be reminded that no matter what I do to achieve my goals and fill my purpose, it's not about me. I can work my butt off, but I still need to rely on others, including God himself. Can't do it myself, no matter how much God and friends may think I should. Here's how the Lord and my friends came through this time.
2022-07-0810 min
Base HitsBase Hits 24 The home buyers train gets fueledThe path to podcasting entrepreneurship for me has been roughly an 8 year exercise in patience. So many tens of thousands of dollars spent in anticipation of someday getting it back. That day may be just beginning as I explain the latest of my efforts to get the HomeMedic train rolling - and why I'm less passionate about that these days
2022-07-0708 min
Base HitsBase Hits 23 Time and money and gratitudeI think I'm like a lot of people: whatever I get, I want something else. It's human nature to complain. The thing is I realize that the Lord is giving me what I say I want - even if I keep changing my mind as to what that is. What is vital, at least from my point of view, is gratitude. If I keep complaining that I don't have now what I want next, then there will be problems. I'm certain of that.
2022-07-0610 min
Base HitsBase Hits 22 July 4 and empty nester entrepreneur prioritiesWhen you're married to the awesomest woman on the planet and you have a day full of free time, sometimes you have a choice to make. You can give her the quality time she's hoping for and deserves, or you can spend the day getting stuff done. I'd rather keep her. That said, I did strike something of a balance between the two.
2022-07-0504 min
Base HitsBase Hits 21 Those peaks are killing meMy voice is supposed to be great - that's what everyone tells me. That's a good thing, right? Well, my voice is a pain in the hiney when it comes to the editing. I blow into the microphone and it thinks a hurricane hit. Then I have to go back in and edit all the peaks. Painfulness.
2022-07-0407 min
Base HitsBase Hits 20 8.4 MilesSome days just feel like that. You have 2000 little tasks to do, and they all have to get done, but it feels like you're not accomplishing anything important. This is one of those days. Despite that, there are some wins here. And one big win.
2022-07-0209 min
Base HitsBase Hits 19 Listen and ask questionsAs I do the manalizing podcast, I listen extra carefully for the secret sauce from the people who are winning at life and relationships. I got a pretty good one in the episode with Colby the deck guy. Nope - I don't know his last name, but he's a very cool dude.
2022-07-0105 min
Base HitsBase Hits 18 OMG it's everywhere!This is about a moment that shaped my future. Somebody I know fairly closely confided in me that my message hits pretty close to home for him. This is the moment that confirmed to me that this is my purpose. That I'm doing what I've been gifted to do. It's very reassuring, very liberating, and very saddening. It's everywhere - and there's only one of me.
2022-07-0105 min
Base HitsBase Hits 17 Physically fatI've come to realize that being the podcaster ain't all studios and microphones. Someday when someone actually cares about what I'm doing, I'll be invited out into that real world place where I'm flapping my jaw with more than just one person in front of me. And there? I can't be a lump of man-ishness.
2022-07-0106 min
Base HitsBase Hits 16 Prepping properlyThis manalizing podcast thing I'm doing ain't just a walk in the park. I found this out the hard way, and I'm a bit guilted that I didn't prep one of my good friends well enough. Feeling like I laid a fast one on him. Here's what I learned
2022-07-0101 min
Base HitsBase Hits 15 Mixing itSometimes being a podcaster means you gotta be a techno geek. At least the geek part comes relatively easy for me. Here's my battle with techy stuff, and how doing it became another base hit for me
2022-07-0104 min
ManalizingManalizing 3 Kolby Drew Drugs, light & deck buildingKolby Drew has lived on both sides of the mountain. Once a top salesman, he fell hard—sixteen trips through rehab, years on the street, and nights sleeping behind a hardware store. Then came the moment that changed everything.In this Manalizing conversation, Kolby talks with Garth Haslem about losing everything, remembering who he really is, and rebuilding his life one honest choice at a time. He opens up about addiction, shame, faith, marriage, and what it means to truly love yourself after years of self-destruction.This episode is raw, spiritual, and full of hard-won tr...
2022-07-0152 min
Base HitsBase Hits 14: Sound tech r not meIt kills me when I do an earth shaking podcast like the one with Jordan Hanks, and the sound levels aren't right. Too puffy sometimes, too weak sometimes. Worse, it's me that's the problem. Ugh. Here's what I'm choosing to do about it
2022-06-2506 min
Base HitsBase Hits 13: Magic Questions under constructionWhat I learned about puff shields? I'm not immune. In fact, I think I'm the reason they were invented. Also, I've been doing my interviewees and my listeners a disservice. I get that letting an interview flow is one thing, but when it causes or allows an interview to not be as complete as it could be, then I've harmed everyone. I used some fabulous training put on by Rob Cornilles (gameface.com) and put together what I believe are excellent questions that will steer the discussion, without letting things get left on the side of the...
2022-06-2413 min
Base HitsBase Hits 12: Asking Better QuestionsTaking on a subject like this requires that I have my A game going where it comes to listening and asking the right questions. I realize that not just asking questions, but asking the right questions is key to the success of helping men everywhere. And it's not just the men I'm helping because there are marriages and families and lives involved. Here is a description of my journey
2022-06-2329 min
Base HitsBase Hits 11: Facebook setup and moving the trainSome days it just feels like the train insists on staying right there. I push it forward, and it doesn't move much. How is this thing going to get to 60 mph when I'm pushing and it doesn't want to move?
2022-06-2208 min
Base HitsBase Hits 10: When I suck as an interviewerDoing the manalizing interviews can be tough - men don't talk like that! We don't share the inner workings of our soft touchy feely side. Shoot - we don't even like to acknowledge our touchy feely side. And then Garth goes and just stabs a friend of his with questions about that stuff? Tough. Here's my afterthoughts about yesterday's interview with Robert Snow.
2022-06-2111 min
Base HitsBase Hits 9: God is in chargeSo I realize from time to time that I should rely on "the rules" less and on my own judgement more. The Lord has given me the guidance I need and it's up to me to accept.Thankfully, I was arguing with myself about Sunday shows, and had come to the wrong conclusion. Here's how I was redirected. It makes sense now - the "rules" that I put on myself based on the guidance from others are simply guidance. Only God and myself make the final decisions.
2022-06-2006 min
Base HitsBase Hits 8: AuthenticityThe day was busy with fires, but I still got my base hits. Here's what I realized about how to make the podcast and the interviews authentic. It doesn't have to be a repeat, but it does have to be authentic!
2022-06-1805 min
Base HitsBase Hits 7 Interview with Frank PhotiadisMy interview with Frank was my primary base hit yesterday. I talk about that and the little techy issues I'm running into as well. Bumpers, bouncies, wire issues, etc. This path toward serving the world is full of all kinds of little skill sets I have to learn
2022-06-1807 min
Base HitsBase Hits 6 How words will revolutionize my businessJust a few words, done in the right places can change a business. In this episode I explain how the phrase "there are no coincidences" and "when the student is ready the teacher appears" applies to me and my business. By the way, Rob Cornilles. If you can find a way to be taught by him, do it. It's worth whatever his price is.
2022-06-1611 min
ManalizingManalizing 1 Garth Haslem - why I'm doing manalizingLet's face it: Life is hard for everyone. It's hard for women, and it's hard for men. Here's the thing from my chair: if a woman has a problem, she has girlfriends. If a man has an issue, he often has no-one. This results in a man isolating himself. Sometimes this results in addictions, abuse, and other forms of "toxic masculinity". Sometimes it also results in suicide.Men's issues cannot be ignored - at least not without consequences. This podcast is men talking about stuff that men don't talk about. We don't have to be isolated and...
2022-06-1603 min
Base HitsBase Hits 5 Maybe a confessionMaybe just to keep me humble, but right after a day that was nothing short of a grand slam, I struggle to decide if I got my base hit. Maybe I did, but it felt like more of a walk - or a strikeout. Here's why.
2022-06-1606 min
Base HitsBase Hits 4 Sometimes it's a grand slamMy impromptu interview with a human slice of sunshine was nothing short of life changing. In this podcast I talk about meeting her and what it was like to interview such an inspiring and life brightening person. Jo - thank you.
2022-06-1607 min
Base HitsBase Hits 3 Following my planIt's awesome when your plan and reality meet up. When it doesn't? You improvise. At least I do.
2022-06-1607 min
Base HitsBase Hits 2 It's Sunday - Where is the plate?Personal mental struggles that give an inside view of Garth's brain. His competing values and thought processes. Admittedly, some of it is brain twisty, but there are principles behind them all
2022-06-1614 min
Base HitsBase Hits 1 Why I'm doing thisBase hits results from a challenge to make progress every day for 90 days - something of a 90 day challenge. I know that if I don't measure progress for each day, I'll forget all about it.So I was going to journal but then I figured I'd file my journal in the closet or lose it. Then I was going to blog it. Blogs are not my style. Podcast it? Yep! Then I know that both you and I are holding me accountable.This is the story of an entrepreneur as he moves from being a...
2022-06-1604 min
The HomeMedicCritter feces - when things get poopyWhat's more gross than critters in your home? Nothing. Except maybe critter feces. Here's what you should know about their poop
2021-08-1814 min
The HomeMedicCritter fecesCritter feces: Super gross, super unwelcome in your home. Here's how to keep your family safe
2021-07-2714 minThe HomeMedicKeeping your home safe from mice, part 2The second of two episodes on mice. We talk about the disease they cause, and how to reduce the risk your family faces
2021-07-2714 min
The HomeMedicKeeping your home safe from mice, part 1Besides being severely icky, mice can be dangerous to your family's health. They leave feces that can create major health problems for your family. Here's what to do about keeping mice out and your family safe from hantavirus
2021-07-2713 min