George & Jess - Podcast Details

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TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT441 - Go Play Amongst YourselvesCousin Vinnie was over as they prepared to take George to Hawai'i on vacation. We discussed their recent adventures in gender, being about as far into their nonbinary transmasculinization as Jess is, but living in a much bigger city, but neither possessing nor desiring passing privilege. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed...

2025-09-1328 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#429 - Side Effects May Include DatingCousin Vinnie came to visit, so we sat down and talked about their past two years and Jess' past year on testosterone, comparing to George's initial experiences on T over a decade ago. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can be found online at TransPanTastic.net, you can e...

2025-03-2936 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#428 - Sandwich That's Been At 7-Eleven Too LongWhen westerners call the generational status of caring for children and elders simultaneously "Sandwich Generation", Jess thinks that makes it sound like flavorful fillings in an easily handled form, but we have found it to be far from tasty. George especially finds it challenging while also dealing with repeated illness and injuries. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have...

2025-03-1529 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#413 - And Not In A Fun WayWe went back to Alaska to pick up Child#2, and took our own little vacation along the way, stopping in Seattle first. But of course, nothing ever goes to plan around here, so in addition to George having a date and Jess getting to see a friend, we also had to do long-distance parenting and kid-transit troubleshooting. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote...

2024-08-1727 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#410 - What Is The Gender Here?George has recruited Cousin Vinnie to help take Child#2 to visit the boy's adult half-brother, while Jess is having lots of social time both with and without George, and we all are having our challenges interacting with the allocishets. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can be found...

2024-07-0639 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#405 - Gates And HoopsGeorge's endocrinologist is changing offices, Child#2 needs various healthcare documentation to prepare for disabled adulthood, and Jess is trying to access endocrinology services at the gender clinic, all while we attempt to get ready for George's next stage of surgery. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can be...

2024-04-2741 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#401 - Starting To Feel Out Of My MindGeorge and Jess are both having difficulties keeping their hormones regulated, although in completely different ways and with completely different outcomes. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can be found online at TransPanTastic.net, you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com, and "TransPanTastic" is searchable on most soc...

2024-03-0228 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#399 - You Said You Were Excited About My DickAs George continues to recover from surgery, as swelling decreases and scars shrink and fade, we discuss how both he and Jess have felt about this process and about his nearly-complete outcomes. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can be found online at TransPanTastic.net, you can email us...

2024-02-0340 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#396 - FeeeemalesThe third stage of George's lower surgery is recovering well so far, meanwhile Jess is home parenting and managing the household, so we recorded from different locations to talk about it. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can be found online at TransPanTastic.net, you can email us at...

2023-12-0924 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#393 - Emerge Out The Side Of My BodyWe've taken a couple of trips recently, while waiting for George's final stage of surgery. Our travels weren't without complications, as Jess got covid which almost upended one trip, and George got shingles which has postponed his surgery. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can be found online a...

2023-10-2828 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#385 - Ain’t TrynaAs we prepare for Jess to visit their non-nesting partner and George to visit Cousin Vinnie and the Surgeon for metoidioplasty follow-up, children needed to be managed and plans needed to be made for their management. While this is always the case when we both leave town at once, this week we had a number of unexpected changes and challenges. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous...

2023-07-0837 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#370 - It’s Been One Week (Hysterectomy, Part 2)Picking up where we left off last week, as George tells Jess they don't need to wait around for him at the hospital. After getting home, he got news about the insurance coverage for his metoidioplasty. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can be found online at TransPanTastic.ne...

2022-12-1022 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#365 - The Whole PackageGeorge finally got to his first consult for lower surgery. Jess was still home with COVID-19, so Cousin Vinnie went with him for emotional support and shenanigans. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can be found online at TransPanTastic.net, you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com, and...

2022-10-0124 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#364 - Big Queer AdventureJess brought COVID-19 home from STLV, and with George's metoidioplasty consult looming he decided to run away from home to avoid the risk of catching it and missing his appointment. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can be found online at TransPanTastic.net, you can email us at Tra...

2022-09-1721 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#362 - That Wasn’t Supposed To Be Your Problem, But It Wasn’t Supposed To Be Mine Either.Jess has been trying to date for a while, and while we've been working out the logistical and interpersonal challenges, George has realized that he's ready for another step in his transition. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can be found online at TransPanTastic.net, you can email us...

2022-08-2030 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#359 - Pattern RecognitionWhen a social interaction goes sideways, especially an interaction with a stranger, there's always a question of how much bigotry played into the negative outcome. George notices those patterns in some situations, and Jess recognizes them in others, because we are, as always, opposites in so many things. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that i...

2022-07-0930 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#354 - I Remember That I Used To RememberGeorge is monogamous. Jess is not. Thankfully, this hasn't caused a problem for us, even as Jess has begun dating more actively in the past year. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can be found online at TransPanTastic.net, you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com, and "Tra...

2022-04-3033 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#353 - My Cousin’s Sister Who Is Also My CousinWe attended Mission Chicago, but while Jess was doing all the trekkie convention things, George was visiting family he hadn't seen in decades, and seeing a ballgame. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can be found online at TransPanTastic.net, you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com, and...

2022-04-1642 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#352 - The Land Of The QueerWe both each took a kid on a trip. Jess took Child#3 to Washington DC to make up for the school trip that COVID cancelled. George took Child#2 to Arizona to visit family and so George could see spring training. As usual, shenanigans were had. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment!

2022-04-0243 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#340 - Don‘t You Hate It When You Get In Trouble?George had to borrow Jess' car to get to a meeting, but when things aren't "as usual" mistakes can happen. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can be found online at TransPanTastic.net, you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com, and "TransPanTastic" is searchable on most social net...

2021-10-1630 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#337 - SurfacesGeorge's orientation is monogamous, and Jess is polyamorous. A recent situation had us discussing these differences and how they affect us or might be perceived. As usual, we also touched on how these affect, or are affected by, parenting and our respective genders. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! W...

2021-09-0427 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#317 - Picture is UnrelatedFestivus is almost a month away, but we have some grievances to air. George's testosterone is still difficult to obtain, then he got postal mail for his deadname from a university he attended NOT under that deadname. Jess has hard side-eye for Discovery's writers about unburying their queers again, and also for the "catering" service that didn't bother to heat their food before handing it off for Thanksgiving. Picture is unrelated at knowyourmeme.com/memes/picture-unrelated. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to k...

2020-11-2828 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#315 - How To Work A ZoomAs George was considering a potential promotion opportunity, he was also considering how his still-new-and-strange male privilege affected that prospective interview. Jess, on the other other hand, was considering how being out about their genderqueer status would make office interactions different in a potentially emotionally charged situation. We're both still working remotely, so that adds another layer of oddity to the entire situation, but we're making the best of it as we are able. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect...

2020-10-3126 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#313 - Bits and BobsGeorge got some feedback on his self-introduction coming-out, and Jess sat thru a racial equity training at work. These experiences made us think about our own social and political leanings, how they became what they are, how we instill our values in our children, and how those values contrast with the smallish town we live in. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.c...

2020-10-0324 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#309 - Beer In A JarTestosterone HRT has been known to thicken the blood, and George's hematocrit numbers are up. Jess is getting their hysterectomy, and also needs to manage their bloodwork, especially since their IUD hormones lowered their "good cholesterol" HDL. COVID-19 is making everything harder, and Jess' surgery is scheduled for the first week of school, but we'll muddle through like we always do. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a...

2020-08-0833 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#302 - Dust To Dust"A case of the Mondays" is the fictional ailment one might experience in an office job upon returning from a weekend. So why do George's Mondays seem longer now that he's working from home? The Pronouns Song that Jess referenced can be found at youtube.com/watch?v=8Hb30PE1xgo. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you ha...

2020-05-0235 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#299 - Your Right To F*ck Things Up Ends At My Front DoorWhile quarantined with a small human, George got to work mostly from home. Jess didn't, but they were only a little put out by it. Not only did Child#2's other mom decide to show back up after half a year starting drama again, but the boy decided to express curiosity about George's genitals. For previous notable instances of the "Dick Patrol", see Episode 100 and Episode 262. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know...

2020-03-2130 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#297 - I'm Not Really The Creepy GuyWe went to Gallifrey One, as we do every year in February. We help out some behind the scenes, and pay attention to the ways the LGBTQIA+ community is welcomed into the con. Between bringing the pronoun ribbons, parenting from afar, noticing women having apprehensive reactions to George's (cis-passing but intentionally visibly trans) masculinity, and Jess noticing others' reactions to the gender-affirming bathroom signage, a queer time was had by all. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most...

2020-02-2242 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#296 - Lady BitsIt often strikes George as slightly odd, how folks treat him now, compared to how they treated him prior to transition. It strikes him as downright bizarre, however, the excessively gendered ways in which they reinforce the genderedness of those interactions, especially after having had them pointed out. Whether it's at work, or at his endocrinologist, or at Jess' surgery, binary-minded cisgender people are weird. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by...

2020-02-0833 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#291 - These Are All ExperimentsJess is feeling some kind of way after TDOR, and not quite ready for Thanksgiving, so George reminds them of all the things we have to be thankful for. We referenced: - Gerry Brooks' "Teacher Spouse" bits, see one at facebook.com/watch/?v=837088456500750 - How we decided to put bizarre lawn ornaments in our yard, at transpantastic.net/2016/12/broken-string-all-gone.html We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by c...

2019-11-3030 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#290 - Funny Looking LadyWe have had some really strangely gendered interactions lately, and the only explanation we can come up with is that the cis are not okay. From George's clients to Jess' colleagues, cisgender folks focus on their own genders in ways we find baffling, and police our gender in ways that are just annoying. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you h...

2019-11-1629 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#284 - The Committee on Forming CommitteesWhen George got his drivers license changed back in 2013, he needed a doctor's note and had two options. Many states are new increasing their number of options for documentation of gender, and Jess is finally getting their license changed too, with significantly fewer barriers to access. Now that they have an accurate identity document, how many other records will they be able to change, and will that initiative to make their own changes affect the larger system of recordkeeping statewide? We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we...

2019-08-2424 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#280 - The Paragraph That Is Actually A ListWhat do we like about each other? Why are we still happy together after almost a decade? What is it about Jess that makes George's time and effort worthwhile? What is it about George that keeps Jess coming back home every night? We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We c...

2019-06-2939 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#276 - I'm That GuySocializing at work is a common way to build a sense of teamwork, and taking time to do it can cognitively hit the reset button on one's levels of effort and engagement with assigned tasks. The way that George is expected to socialize at work is different when he's perceived as male, from how it was prior to transition. Engaging with "the guys" is still a new experience, but he's getting the hang of it in his introverted way. Jess, on the other hand, being an autistic genderqueer extrovert, wants ALL the social times, even on business trips, and...

2019-05-0424 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#273 - I Know That I Don't Know What I'm DoingGeorge finally had that interview he's been preparing for, and noticed once again that he was treated with a type of respect he never got when he was presenting as a butch lesbian. When we had other guy friends over, who had also previously identified as butch lesbians, they related similar experiences. When Jess joined them, George explained that his wife really isn't a girl, and they were cool. Things are going well for now, and life seems to be looking up! We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial...

2019-03-2333 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#269 - Sometimes It's Just JelloContinuing our month of stories, we recount how our early shared experiences shaped how we interact with one another. What did menopausal George lose his mind over? Why did Jess freak out at a Hanukkah party? We'll find that it's true, sometimes a jello is just a jello. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that i...

2019-01-2628 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#266 - You're Not Wrong.The neighbors invited us over for drinks, and we discussed many progressive topics, including trans folks. They are older, and not generally aware of the "right" way to discuss things, but they are also not entirely wrong in their understanding of the world. Child#2's other mom has been off and on the attack, and Jess keeps making predictions that they hope to be wrong, but generally aren't. Fifth grade math is a challenge for a fifth grader with a developmental delay, but it might be even more of a challenge for George to help Child#2 find right answers...

2018-12-1543 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#263 - NormallacyAfter a year and a half of ridiculous stress levels caused by things like Child#2's mom trying to move them away but sending him back, George nearly being killed by his intestines, Child#2's behaviour outgrowing his meds, Jess' job change being exponentially more time and effort than advertised, various elderlies' illnesses, holidays, false abuse allegations and pursuant visitation issues, George's work schedule and duties changing irregularly and irrationally, Jess getting contracted out of the obnoxious job without a safety net, George's mother's passing, Jess getting a better job that changes their daily schedule, and the merry-go-round of...

2018-11-0328 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#260 - A Rainbow A DayMost members of minority communities encounter experiences that they know wouldn't happen to members of the majority community or dominant demographic. "That wouldn't happen if..." or "They only say that because..." is not an uncommon refrain, not only among queer and trans communities, but also among POCs, religious minorities, and differently abled persons. Between Jess' new job and being percieved as a "girl", George's continuing experience as a man who was socialized female, and our experience raising children with unique challenges, we have our share of "unusual" experiences as well. Gerry Brooks is the principal and public...

2018-09-2227 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#259 - Resistant To RealityWhen George's ex (Child#2's other mom) accused Jess of abuse, everyone knew it was bunk, but nobody realized just how much trouble she would continue to make in the long run. But even when it's not being complicated by difficult adults, parenting is still hard, and as our two youngest become tweens, we are doing our best to continue to be good parents and good people. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us...

2018-09-0835 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#258 - New Job, Who Dis?Jess has had some trouble with coworkers and employers percieving their direct demeanor as unsettling or off-putting. This is not an uncommon experience for AFAB persons who have a more masculine way of being in the world, but the ubiquity of the experience doesn't make it any more pleasant. They got a new job last year, but felt it to be a poor fit, so attempted to find a different position this year. Interviews abound, but offers were scarce, should they femme it up some? And how the heck should they do that? Also, it's a good thing George...

2018-08-2529 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#255 - I Put It There But It Doesn't Really Exist (Abuse Allegations, Pt. 2)After the shock of being accused of Jess abusing Child#2 and George allowing him to be abused, we found our footing back in reality as the surrounding circumstances began to shed light on the missing parts of the story. Jess didn't hurt her kid, George wasn't neglectful, and Child#2 and his other mom are both bullies who see themselves as victims. The damage is done, and we're still picking up the pieces, but it looks like our family is on the mend, and George's goodness is slightly less infinite but still quite plentiful. We are here to sha...

2018-07-1430 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#254 - Silently Cursing My Infinite Goodness (Abuse Allegations, Pt. 1)Child#2 was adopted by George before his transition, in a time when almost nowhere allowed same-sex second parent adoption. In his infinite goodness, he continued to provide his ex a form of joint physical custody, and numerous supports for her to be an effective parent. As a spoonie, she has been in and out of her child's life with no judgment or ill will from us, but the most recent time she came back, she brought all hell with her, and accused Jess of abusing Child#2. Will we be cleared of these allegations? Will we lose our jobs? Will w...

2018-06-3028 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#253 - On Tuesday Let's Have QueersOh, wait, it's pride month? Jess' history with pride events is fairly limited, but George has been to many over the years. From "accidentally" attending a parade in Chicago as an egg-mode high-schooler, to bar hopping in Hawaii, to the first Dyke March in San Francisco, to Child#2 walking in the Trans March in his socks, he's been around the block a bit, but that doesn't stop us from planning for more. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the mos...

2018-06-1628 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#251 - Out-Do Your Facial HairDysphoria sucks. As a genderqueer person, some of our culture's homophobic and transphobic framing of fluidity has seeped into Jess' psyche, as evidenced by their reaction to a recent discussion about their dysphoria. Jess' dysphoria as a nonbinary person is different from George's dysphoria as a binary trans man, but they share some similarities. George uses STP's made from half-gallon plastic jugs, like those seen in the links below: - youtube.com/watch?v=TLiaVVihEn4 - youtube.com/watch?v=kmHFvqLuMxU We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who fi...

2018-05-1936 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#250 - 'Cause I'm SpoiledGeorge's mom broke her shoulder, Child#2's other mom also had a medical emergency, and both of these things happened on the same day that George had two appointments and Child#2 had one. George's anxiety has anxiety, his mom still can't use the right pronouns and doesn't even recognize him half the time when she percieves him as male, but he still feels spoiled because Jess does his shot. Brightsiding. It helps. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the...

2018-05-0538 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#248 - "Mildly" SkepticalOur challenges are "mildly" increased lately, and by "mildly" we mean completely and entirely. Just like Jess is "mildly" tech-addicted, and George is "mildly" overscheduled. But we stay afloat as we usually do, with lots of "mild" coping humor and the blessing of therapists who aren't gender-dumb. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't l...

2018-04-0732 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#247 - I Think It's The Chicken CansGeorge and Jess have been like ships passing in the night lately, often near but rarely interacting with one another, because of extra responsibilities and challenging circumstances. So today, at a distance, we engaged in some "first date" conversation starters, just to re-engage with one another and make sure we could have a conversation. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If y...

2018-03-2438 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#244 - Everybody's DifferentWhen Jess and George first met, George noted Jess' odd inability to notice or remember certain details unless they were pointed out. They could tell you the title of that one Star Trek episode with "that one thing that did the thing", but they couldn't remember where they put their glasses or when their next staff meeting was supposed to be. They would vacuum and scrub and dust but leave that once-worn pair of jeans on the arm of the couch for over a week or miss a giant puke stain on the side of the toilet. Jess thought...

2018-02-1029 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#242 - ExtravagantlyCrazySh-tThe holidays happened. As often, in blended families, they happened on the "wrong" day. As often, in *our* family, they came with the usual nonsense of crazy old people, crazy small people, and Jess and George trying not to catch the crazy. Then George took Child#2 and hopped on a plane to his sister's house, where things were amazingly heteronormative, and he didn't catch the crazy but he might have caught the flu. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with t...

2018-01-1340 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#241 - A F-ckton Of PrivilegeGeorge's male privilege has, generally, made his life easier at work, but there are some ways in which the changes haven't made his job easier. Jess' new position has also had gendery oddness, and they have noticed many more effects of privilege, both from gender and from class. But as a teacher, Jess is happy to have created a culture in their classroom that offers students the freedom to be themselves and express their orientations, identities, and other aspects of their selves, in ways that best suit them. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience w...

2017-12-3027 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#240 - Dying For A Few DaysAfter her eye surgery, George got five calls in three days from his mother, who really should've called 911 instead of him each time. Jess should know by now to expect George's elderly and increasingly senile relatives to act like toddlers. It shouldn't come as a surprise to them when his aunt has a temper tantrum, or when his mother refuses to use her walker because "I can do it myself!", but here we are. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect...

2017-12-1634 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#239 - Tilted FlamingosFlamingoes? Meh. Depression and transition. They are things. They affect one another. George shares his experiences. Jess pokes him. We have a conversation about depression and gender dysphoria. Can you hear George's brainfog? And what is "Gender Lite"? Or is it "GenderLight!!!"? Could we hang Gender Lights on the awning when the Christmas Lights come down? We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.c...

2017-12-0226 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#233 - Is It Because I'm Queer?Jess' new job is amazing, so long as they don't check their email. Entitled parents of entitled children are entitled, and it's driving Jess a little bonkers. George is back to working full time too, and some of the ladies have noticed that he's lost weight. But being sick for four months solid will do that to a person. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey...

2017-09-0922 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#232 - Standards Of CareGeorge has a respiratory infection, the kids are getting ready for back-to-school, and Child#2 decided he'd try to get out of trouble by getting Jess in trouble. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can be found online at TransPanTastic.net, you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com, and...

2017-08-2635 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#227 - Little Plaid DressThere are many aspects of our relationship that are heterogenous. We are a mixed-faith couple, mixed-orientation, and we also come from different generations. Being raised in distinctly different times caused us distinctly different experiences with regards to technology, culture, and gender. Dysphoria was more distinctly gendered for George, in a time when everything was much more gendered, while Jess' more flexible "modern" upbringing didn't highlight the genderedness of their awkwardness. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You...

2017-07-1531 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#223 - It Must Be Something Wrong With You (Cousin Vinnie Returns, Pt. 1)Our first ever guest, from Ep#95 and Ep#96, has come back to visit! We mentioned, then, how their new car affected their frequency of traffic stops, but they have since observed the effect of various other drivers in their old truck. Following up on George and Jess' discussion of health care challenges, Vinnie contribues their doctor experiences to our discussion. Then we return to a frequent discussion topic, sexism in the workplace. Long rambly conversation commence! We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what y...

2017-06-1725 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#222 - Awareness Of My VulnerabilityAs George recovers from his last hospital stay and prepares for his upcoming surgery, he recalls his concerns about his gender and how others will be affected by it. He also expresses a sense of "nakedness" from the lack of bodily self-determination. Then he realizes, all those types of discomfort are part of dysphoria! Jess also recalls experiencing dysphoria that they didn't realize was dysphoria, although their dysphoria is often more social, while George's was more physical. How do we cope with, or work around, discomfort with our respective genders? That's a skill that we've both got a pretty good...

2017-06-1021 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#220x - Fourth Manniversary Retrospective (Entire Conversation With Clips)The full version of the last three episodes, with a new outtake from Episode 1! *** 0:00:23 - 0:36:26 TPT#218 - Getting Your Hands On The Substance On George's fourth manniversary we reminisce about his transgender journey, from the earliest days of his first decision to transition, to the difficulty he had in accessing HRT, and the joy of finally getting the right amount of testosterone in his body. The following episodes were referenced, at the following times: - 0:02:29 - Episode 1: making the decision to transition - 0:04:05 - Episode 1: impatience with access to transition - 0:09:22...

2017-05-281h 50

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#216 - Ground ZeroWe got Child#0 to sit down with us at the mic, and we discussed their process of discovering their identity as agender. Egg mode made a traumatic childhood more traumatic, but George and his then wife's welcoming home helped them begin to recover. They are still recovering, and as they come to a larger understanding of human gender, the recognition that "there are others like me and I'm not just broken" is something that many of us can identify with. George took a binary backseat for most of the conversation, as the genderqueer folks discussed their identities and experiences.

2017-04-2935 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#212 - George's Ambulance ServiceThe lots-o-travel month has come to an end, and George thought he could finally get back to being productive at work. But he was wrong. Thankfully, his male privilege made life easier when trying to help problem-solve for a family member who was caught driving down the highway in the wrong direction! We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a...

2017-04-0137 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#193 - Don't Be A D*ck About It.It's okay to like things, to dislike things, to like or dislike people, even to have opinions on things or people. But to paraphrase a recent viral tweet, "Opinions are for things like 'I dislike coffee', not 'I dislike black people'." It is generally frowned frowned upon, and for good reason, to dislike people, for certain traits that have been historically used to justify their disenfranchisement. One would break Wheaton's Law to do so. So when we happen to dislike the company of some transgender persons, for reasons not directly related, but possibly tangentially related, to their trans-ness, how...

2016-11-1938 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#162 - Q's & A's Round 6Did you meet us at some event? What should I do if my kid is trans? Does Jess have any voice tips for MtF's? Does George have any packing preferences for FtM's? Will we host your client on our podcast? We tried for six questions, but only got to five. The tutorial video for the homemade STP is at youtube.com/watch?v=TLiaVVihEn4 and we have a longer discussion of George's initial experiences with prosthetics in Ep#66 "Packing, Peeing, and P*nises" at transpantastic.net/2014/06/packing-peeing-and-pnises.html. We are here to share our entire in...

2016-11-1234 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#188 - Taco TuesdayWhy do men and women give Jess different change when they are sent to retrieve Jess' lunch from the taco truck? And why on earth would Jess plagiarize a failing term paper? And did that plagiarism report make Jess more sweary than they've ever been? And can George rename election day "taco tuesday"? We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a re...

2016-10-1534 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#179 - Over Here... No Over Here! (Yosemite Road Trip, Pt. 2)As we finish the discussion of our trip to Yosemite, we have a discussion with Jess' aunt, the one who asked which child George birthed, about Child#2's adoption and her own adoption of one of her four kids. Then continuing with our challenging children through a poopy train ride, repeated swim breaks, and George's discomfort over using an STP in the most crowded bathroom in the middle of nowhere with the dick patrol in tow. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect...

2016-08-1338 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#177 - Monkey MoustacheGeorge recently got a male privilege upgrade. Gender discrepancies in pay and treatment at work are well documented, but transgender folks often have unique insights after experiencing cultural expectations in different gender presentations. We discuss how George's colleagues, including some who have known him for over a decade, treat him differently now. Jess is jealous, but gets to rib him about his moustache, or lack thereof, so life is okay. The monkey with a moustache that we found looked something like [this], and the human monkeytail moustache looks something like [this]. We are here to share our e...

2016-07-3032 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#175 - My Scale Doesn't Go That HighAs we did the survey from last week's episode, it made us think about the balance of chores and household labor in our home and how that is different from more typically heteronormative couples. Jess also learned, and was mildly concerned by, the fact that George's happiness dial only has one click above average. George has embraced his inner Eeyore, however, and is more content with his life now, than he has ever been, even with the dick patrol running around. If you missed it in our social media feeds, the Gender Diverse Parenting Survey is at GenderDiverseParents.com. If...

2016-07-1630 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#173 - Do The Thing!The kids were driving George batty. Child#1 is sneaky, Child#2 is angry, and Child#3 is whiny. Jess gets preachy, Bob-the-dog is smelly, we just need one more dwarf for a full set... Mirror, mirror, on the wall, who's the bothered-est of them all? We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can...

2016-07-0242 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#164 - Blood Stains On The CarpetSpring break happened. Child#2's teachers wanted to schedule a meeting ASAP before it did, and we were mildly concerned that it might be a problem, but it turned out to be mostly mundane. Which is good, because things are rarely, if ever, mundane with this kid. George took him on a vacation to visit family while Jess caught up on school work, and hijinks followed as usual. (And the song is "Smooth Criminal".) We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect wi...

2016-04-3034 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#157 - Wibbly Wobbly Gendery Cultury"We should record about that." This phrase happens in our conversations at least once a week, often more. By the time we find a free hour to sit down with a microphone, the topic has completely escaped our memory... So this time George made a list! From Canadian masculinity compared to American masculinity, to the perpetual "bathroom dilemma" and losing STP enthusiasm, to Jess' "man tact", to dealing with deaths and other awkward social events, gender is inescapable. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what y...

2016-03-1237 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#135 - Hormones From HellAfter over two years on testosterone, George's second puberty is well underway, but have his hormones started causing him trouble? While we wait for his blood work to come back, we discuss how Jess' hormones have also caused her trouble, and especially recently. We round out our conversation of hormone stuffs with the thought of both of us preparing for our respective visits to the gynecologist. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking t...

2015-10-1026 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#134 - Sitting On FansChair (n): A piece of furniture designed for supporting the human bodyFan (n): An appliance that pushes air around.Transgender (adj): A person whose assigned/biological sex and psychological gender are not in congruence. You can sit on one of these things. Sometimes two, but we're not that kind of podcast. George thinks in pictures and concepts, Jess thinks in words and sounds. Sometimes this creates a struggle to communicate, but generally we work it out. Words are important to the transgender community, and with good reason. Words can create or destroy, can harm or heal. Bu...

2015-10-0326 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#132 - Yes, Sir. Thank You, Sir.We moved. George was able to accomplish more things, more easily, as a man, than he ever could pre-transition. Jess is mildly jealous. But he did lots of the moving-stuffs while she was working or doing homeworks so we're even. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you have a request/suggestion that isn't listed, comment! We can be found online at TransPanTastic.net...

2015-09-1935 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#127 - Something I'm Usually Aware OfAfter two years of medical transition, George is regularly perceived as the man he is. This has caused Jess to be perceived more as a woman in his presence. Others' perceptions of us have recently highlighted just how gendered our culture is, and how the expectations of our perceived genders affect our comfort or discomfort with social interactions. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.co...

2015-08-1533 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#116 - It's My Only LanguageJess thinks in words, George thinks in pictures. That sometimes makes it difficult to communicate when the words are needed to share the pictures and ideas in his head. As George's body continues to change, and his place in our world continues to settle into the "man camp", he considers how and when to best express the unique viewpoint that his experiences with HRT, with the changes testosterone has brought, with masculinity and femininity, and with emigrating from the "woman camp" have provided. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but w...

2015-05-3031 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#114 - Three-Year-Old LogicJess and George are fairly rational people. We prefer to use our brains whenever possible, but we are sharing our lives with other people who have clear limits to their sense of reason. Whether it's George's mom, entitled-genius Child#3, developmentally-delayed Child#2, or autistic-teenager Child#1, we often have to be the logical ones on behalf of those in our care. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.po...

2015-05-1632 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#106 - Junk and StuffGenitals are a touchy subject in most of western culture, and no less so for most of the transgender community. We follow up previous discussions of George's "junk", and jump into Jess' "junk" also. Figuratively, of course. Frank discussion of lower dysphoria, sex, and genderqueer identity follow as we let the conversation follow our thoughts. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by clicking to a one-question anonymous survey at vote.pollcode.com/32371374. If you ha...

2015-03-2129 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#103 - With A Puppy Dog and Jesus on the CrossWe are both people of faith, but only Jess is a person of religion. We've discussed before how our respective faith backgrounds overlap and how we adapt to a mixed-faith marriage, but now Jess has invited the whole queer Jesus gang to our house. George would probably have an issue with this, if it weren't his best friend and said friend's wife in charge of the group. We are here to share our entire intersectional experience with anyone who finds it beneficial, but we want to know what you connect with the most. You can let us know by cli...

2015-02-2835 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#96 - Life In Attention Whore-ange (My Cousin Vinnie, Pt. 1)In the second part of our conversation with George's cousin, we discuss marriage and family life as queers in the suburbs, and how different it is from the earlier history mentioned last week. Jess did a little googling and found the Craigslist ad we mentioned at http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/sfo/50077506.html. Hey, look!! There's a new survey!!! If you liked this episode, or if you didn't; if you want more guests, or if you don't; if you like discussion of faith, sex, childhood, transition, parenting, or whatever crosses our minds, let us know at http://vote.p...

2015-01-1033 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#93 - Man CaveLike Jack Sprat and wife, we often end up on opposite sides of a meal, task, or situation. George eats the fatty parts of the bacon, Jess eats the lean. George builds things, Jess sews things. George cleans, Jess cooks. While this is just a function of our respective experience and aptitudes, it often ends up seeming terribly heteronormative. We would really appreciate, if you haven't taken our quick and anonymous survey, if you would please do so by going to poll.pollcode.com/15998381 or by clicking the link at TransPanTastic.net. We can be found online at http...

2014-12-2028 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#89 - Filter FailTransitioning later in life has both advantages and drawbacks. After one and a half years of medical transition, and almost two years since deciding to do so, George and Jess reflect on life as it is and how it has changed. Waiting until middle-age has made the process easier by far than it would've been at a younger age, but George still would've done it long ago if he'd known how beneficial it would've been. From muscles and facial hair to social and cultural shifts, things are different, and it's a good thing. We would really appreciate, if you ha...

2014-11-2228 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#84 - Optimum NormalcyJess has mentioned before that she has become frustrated with managing small people at work. It's her job as a teacher to do so, but it has become increasingly clear that her talents and temperament are best suited to a secondary or post-secondary position. As she searches for a better job, the issue of how to discuss her family life and how to be a good queer role model for her students have been a topic of discussion for the two of us, and we have discussed the question of how "out" to be on George's behalf now, before she...

2014-10-1827 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#83 - Lots of BSChild#2 has been participating in boy scouts for a few months now, and while Jess still has reservations about their history with the LGBT community, George has been all about getting him involved with positive opportunities for male socialization. We would really appreciate, if you haven't taken our quick and anonymous survey, if you would please do so by going to poll.pollcode.com/15998381 or by clicking the link at TransPanTastic.net. We can be found online at http://TransPanTastic.net/, you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com, and "TransPanTastic" is searchable on most social networks. We would lo...

2014-10-1129 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#73 - Doing It As A ManGeorge's transition has made him clearly male in appearance, and this affects everything from his health to his social interactions. Jess is generally happy to support him in each situation, even when her own queerness gets lost in the shuffle. When hiking or exercising, when dealing with his mom, or when dealing with strangers in public, there are new experiences for both of us to explore. We would really appreciate, if you haven't taken our quick and anonymous survey, if you would please do so by going to poll.pollcode.com/15998381 or by clicking the link at TransPanTastic.net....

2014-08-0235 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#68 - Working While TransThere are few benefits to working for the government. The pay is crummy and job security is tied to the budget which is sadly tied to politics. But one thing we have going for us is that we're protected by law. If they want to fire us for being transgender, they have to find another reason to put on the paperwork! Thankfully, neither George nor Jess work in a hostile environment, but the situations we find ourselves in are often interesting, amusing, or just facepalm-inducing. You can hear more about George's work coming-out in episodes 28-30, and the email...

2014-06-2833 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#67 - MANeuveringGeorge has the sniffles and the microphone seems to have become an antenna for some sort of radio signal. Jess managed to minimize the frequency containing the interference, but it's still there as background noise. Even so, we manage a follow-up discussion of dysphoria as it relates to last week's discussion of packing, peeing, genitalia, and options for lower surgery. The links from our prior discussion of STPs, including the "homemade" item we keep referencing, is at transpantastic.net/2013/10/stping-links.html. We would really appreciate, if you haven't taken our quick and anonymous survey, if you would please do so...

2014-06-2141 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#60 - Social SecurityThe system of government pension in the United States is called Social Security. The number assigned to each American citizen and legal resident is called a Social Security Number, and it is used for all manner of federal identification. And like many government processes, it's a pain in the rear to change. Jess & George are both public employees, familiar with the simultaneously inane and labyrinthine procedures necessary to accomplish anything within government agencies, but bringing gender transition and his family's unique brand of interpersonal communication to the equation makes for a real adventure. We can be found online at ht...

2014-05-0347 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#55 - No More Dying On Fridays!Why does it always have to be friday? Jess & George discuss how the changes in George's hormones have changed the way he deals with stress and emotional overload. Also, Jess might be a psychopath and George has been on HRT for about ten months. We can be found online at http://TransPanTastic.net/, you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com, and "TransPanTastic" is searchable on most social networks. We would love to hear from you, so let us know what you think or what you want to hear about!

2014-03-2931 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#54 - "You're Such A..."Genderedness happens. Lately, Jess has caught herself saying "You're such a man!" to George often enough to have become a joke. But upon wider examination, George is "Such a man!", #3Child is "Such a girl!", #2Child is "Such a boy!", #1Child is "Such a teenager!", and Jess is "Such a geek!". We can be found online at http://TransPanTastic.net/, you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com, and "TransPanTastic" is searchable on most social networks. We would love to hear from you, so let us know what you think or what you want to hear about!

2014-03-2235 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#49 - Tall TreesIn what we hope to be the final installment of the "dad's dead so let's move mom across the country" story, we finally get to make that drive across the country. With George's mom. Leading Jess to be very thankful that George had been to therapy long before they ever met. We can be found online at http://TransPanTastic.net/, you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com, and "TransPanTastic" is searchable on most social networks. We would love to hear from you, so let us know what you think or what you want to hear about

2014-02-1545 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#48 - Division of LaborWe almost split this week's episode into two parts. We considered it for two reasons. George and Jess were in two different places, doing two separate things. Their stories of their time apart are in two contrasting narratives, with two comparable stories of caring for their respective charges. Additionally, the time is almost as long as two of our usual episodes... But in the end, we two can't be separated for long, and so we kept the story of our separate weeks as one (long) episode. We can be found online at http://TransPanTastic.net/, you can email us...

2014-02-0841 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#41 - Schedule TetrisBlended families and blended visitation schedules mix with work and school schedules, and it often doesn't quite fit into the 24 hours and 7 days that our culture and place in the solar system provide us. George is a morning person, Jess is a night person, and the kids are sometimes persons, so we all do what we can to make things work. We can be found online at http://TransPanTastic.net/, you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com, and "TransPanTastic" is searchable on most social networks. We would love to hear from you, so let us know what you thin...

2013-12-2128 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#34 - That Gender StuffJess has always felt rather ambivalent to the concept of gender, but recent changes in George's behaviour and affect have made her realize just how she really is less ambivalent and more oblivious. Close friends and partners of trans* persons have occasionally recognized the social and emotional changes caused by hormone treatment, and remarked "Oh, that's why women/men do that!", validating stereotypes. But when her natural inclinations are all over the gender spectrum and she doesn't even realize the genderedness of her own actions, what's a princess-man to do? We can be found online at http://TransPanTastic.net/, y...

2013-11-0237 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#30 - Back To WorkReturning to work after three weeks of leave can be daunting, but the results of surgery and changes from five months on testosterone have probably affected that process, and George's colleagues have been, on the whole, supportive and encouraging. Meanwhile, the kids are still extra-special, and Jess is slightly peeved that George made her put clothes on but is otherwise content. We can be found online at http://TransPanTastic.net/, you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com, and "TransPanTastic" is searchable on most social networks. We would love to hear from you, so let us know what you thi...

2013-10-0529 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#23 - Holy Absurdity, Petman!Life is crazy. Kids are definitely crazymaking, but sometimes the pets are worse. Or maybe they're better, depending on your attitude and preferred level of crazy. Our three dogs are in their twilight years, and it shows. A is a deaf and senile, B is blind, and C is just kinda stupid. They're all expensive, but the kids love them and they had George before Jess did so she'll let them stay. We can be found online at http://TransPanTastic.net/, you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com, and "TransPanTastic" is searchable on most social networks. We wou...

2013-08-1724 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#22 - Friends and Family?George likes the family he was born with, Jess is often confused by that. Even so, they both like the family they have chosen for themselves, and the friends they choose to fill their lives with. Watching our friends and family adapt to new pronouns and secondary sex characteristics, often subconsciously changing their own patterns of interaction, has been an interesting exercise in sociology. We can be found online at http://TransPanTastic.net/, you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com, and "TransPanTastic" is searchable on most social networks. We would love to hear from you, so let us...

2013-08-1028 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#19 - Wedding WeekendGeorge & Jess went to Seattle, home of the Space Needle, GenderCast, the Seahawks, lots of rain, and our good friends who just got married! The trip was George's first time going "full time", and it was, overall, a positive experience. From the Trans*101 talk we stumbled into, to the gorgeous wedding, to the drag king show, a fun time was had by all. We can be found online at http://TransPanTastic.net/, you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com, and "TransPanTastic" is searchable on most social networks. We would love to hear from you, so let us know wha...

2013-07-2027 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#16 - One Month on 'T'At just over a month on testosterone, George has just had his third injection. We discuss the ups and downs of the injection cycle, and how that experience has affected George so far, and how Jess is dealing with poking him in the rear on a fortnightly basis. We can be found online at http://TransPanTastic.blogspot.com/, and you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com. We would love to hear from you, so let us know what you think or what you want to hear about!

2013-06-2917 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#8 - George's 'Princess Man'Last week was all-about-George week, but some of you have asked about the other half of our fine team. So this week Jess talks about herself and her experience as pansexual nonbinary/genderqueer quasi-femme. We can be found online at http://TransPanTastic.blogspot.com/, and you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com. We would love to hear from you, so let us know what you think or what you want to hear about!

2013-05-0414 min

TransPanTastic: Transgender parenting, work, marriage, transition, and life!TPT#3 - Parenting Is Hard.We have kids. Three of them. Jess brought numbers one and three, George brought number two, to share a home for just over two years now. Numbers one and two are special-needs, and all three of them like to drive us crazy. We can be found online at http://TransPanTastic.blogspot.com/, and you can email us at TransPanTastic@gmail.com. We would love to hear from you, so let us know what you think or what you want to hear about!

2013-03-3011 min