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Wholehearted LovingEp23 | The Confident Burger Chef - Lessons for (Re)Parenting with Support Instead of PressureMost of us were raised on pressure to perform and shame about getting things "wrong" — all while we're meant to be learning and discovering everything about ourselves and the world we live in. Gentle parenting, and compassionate re-parenting, is the way we're going (with ourselves and our children), and we're seeing powerful results. Today's conversation is about building skills in these areas for our families and our own inner children/adolescents.
More of what we talked about:
00:36 Body Connection Practice
06:42 Feeling stupid and the shame that comes with it and the hiding that re...2023-06-0443 min
Wholehearted LovingEp22 | The Hot Shame of Feeling Stupid, Bad or Wrong - How to Manage with Proprioception & MoreHave you ever felt stupid? Like you should have known and you didn't, or like someone THOUGHT you should have known and you didn't, or you said the "wrong" thing? (We know you have, and we have too.)
Oof, what a feeling! The rush of fear, the flush of shame, the desire to run and hide or lash out and defend. We all know these feelings, and we all have our ways of coping -- some healthier than others. Our cultural understanding, our family system, our current circumstances all serve to inform our beliefs and behaviours in...2023-05-2839 minWholehearted LovingEp21 | Finding Peace in Futility & Accepting What We Can't ChangeSerenity to accept the things we can't change, and wisdom to know the difference -- this is what we're talking about here today, along with tools and perspective to help you connect with that awareness and (eventual) serenity. In this episode, G employs an example of one of her kids and a mac & cheese tantrum to illustrate our varying responses to the anger we express when we hit a wall of impossibility, and we discuss ways to honour those parts, our other parts, and the bigger picture.
More of what we talked about:
00:30...2023-05-2138 minWholehearted LovingEp20 | Far From Home (and All the Fears That Come With It) - Call-in Show
There's no way around it -- if you're alive, you're going to regret a decision at some point. You're going to second-guess yourself, you're going to be miserable, and you're going to laugh and feel free and have a wonderful time. You're going to love people, and miss people, and wish you could split yourself into pieces so you could be everywhere all at once.
In today's episode, we make some space for that with caller Aleksandra, who's recently moved abroad and is feeling all the ways we feel when we miss our people...2023-05-141h 07Wholehearted LovingEp19 | We Are What We Practice - Living Out Your Deepest Values in Life & RelationshipsThe ways we behave show us our truest values -- and they're not always aligned with what we think we believe. Most of the time, we're living on auto-pilot, slogging through an unexamined life just trying to feel good or safe day to day. But when we bring focus and attention to the ways we feel, the ways we spend our time, and the areas we tend to give our energy to, it can be eye-opening!
With new awareness, we can see the patterns we act out on a daily basis and the impact...2023-05-071h 08Wholehearted LovingEp18 | "What's the High Value Way to Reply to This Text Message?" Being "HV" in Dating & RelationshipsWe hear a lot of people using this term "High Value" as a qualifier when talking about their behavior, or a potential date or partner's behavior -- but what does it really mean? High Value isn't a set of words, or any specific response; it's the embodiment of self-honouring, and honouring our values outwardly in our speech, energy, words and actions. Which is easier said than done -- especially if we've spent a lifetime hiding from who we really are, and who we're afraid we are, and what we want for our lives.
After so long learning...2023-04-3049 minWholehearted LovingEp17 | S*xual Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships - Call-In Show Part 2We all have ups and downs in our relationships -- and some times are more intimate than others. There are many paths to intimacy, and intimacy means different things at different times. In today's episode, a listener seeks support around blocks to s*xual intimacy in her long-term relationship. This is an episode in two parts: in part one we explore and reframe relationship challenges, and in part two we talk about solutions and healthy, connected ways to explore these challenges for ourselves.
If you want support for yourself or your relationship, you can...2023-04-2345 minWholehearted LovingEp16 | Call-In Show! Part 1: S*xual Intimacy in Long-Term RelationshipsWe all have ups and downs in our relationships -- and some times are more intimate than others. There are many paths to intimacy, and intimacy means different things at different times. In today's episode, a listener seeks support around blocks to s*xual intimacy in her long-term relationship. This is an episode in two parts: in part one we explore and reframe relationship challenges, and in part two we talk about solutions and healthy, connected ways to explore these challenges for ourselves.
If you want support for yourself or your relationship, you can...2023-04-1649 min
Wholehearted LovingEp15 | My Inner Voice is a Jerk Called Dave! (He Means Well)Is your inner voice soothing or ranting? We all have the tools we need to be kind with ourselves -- we use them every day with other people. Using them with ourselves is usually an unfamiliar practice that takes work like anything else. Today we talk about growing our capacity to think kind thoughts when we're alone, and use kind words when we're with others.
More of what we talked about:
00:25 Self-connection practice
4:17 Being intentional about our thoughts and words
6:48 Learning to be with the harsh voices inside us
12:02 A practice to bring relief...2023-04-0943 minWholehearted LovingEp14 | Caretaking & Minding Our Business: How to Love People Without Taking Over or Losing OurselvesThe difference between caregiving and caretaking is significant: offering care someone needs and has requested, vs stepping in (usually unrequested) to manage other people's feelings, fears, worries, anxieties. Pro tip: we usually caretake others as an unconscious way of dealing with our own fears and anxieties...the feelings we don't care for for ourselves. In today's episode we talk about loving people while loving ourselves, and minding our own business instead of minding everyone else's.
More of what we talked about:
00:25 Body Practice
2:41 Using sounding practices to free us in speaking our truth...2023-04-0258 minWholehearted LovingEp13 | Pressure & Overwhelm: Handle It "Bird by Bird"You know you can only take one step at a time. Yet, we expect ourselves to leap and jump and spin - and then we're surprised when we're tired and we flop. Or we give up on a new path that felt so exciting but quickly turned into an overwhelming pressure cooker of our own expectations. In this episode we talk about slowing down - forcing ourselves to slow down! - and the unexpected positive outcomes that brings. And most importantly, we practice together, again, bringing you one step closer to making these healthy coping tools habitual in your...2023-03-2633 minWholehearted LovingEp12 | Knowing What You Need and Want | Learning DiscernmentWe all have limitations and constraints, and they are not a reflection of our love or care. When we recognize this, we learn not to take things so personally. When we recognize this, we learn to discern who can help us in the moment – which friend to call, where to get the support you need. You can absolutely fill your bucket, and there are people who can help you fill it. There are also people who can’t – but maybe they can help you hold the bucket, or repair the hole in the bucket, or maybe they feed you or hel...2023-03-1950 minWholehearted LovingEp11 | Love, Death & Trauma: How We Show Up for Each Other in Hard MomentsHard truth: We can’t always be there for each other, or be there in the ways we might like, even if we love each other deeply. When we feel obligated to prove our love, when we feel pressure to perform even when we don’t have capacity, when we show up carrying our own baggage to someone else’s tragedy – we’ve slipped out of alignment and need to ground and centre.
And we might need to protect ourselves, or our energy. And that’s okay too.
We can’t always show up when our loved ones...2023-03-1252 minWholehearted LovingEp10 | Am I Safe, Do I Matter: Communicating Your Feelings in Ways Your Love Can Still Be FeltIt’s good to know your love language – but don’t let that limit your access to the love and care that are all around you. How can we practice shifting to really see how someone shows their love for you in simple and profound ways?
And how can we communicate our feelings such that – even in difficult conversations – our love can still be felt?
In this episode, we share tools that help you recognise sincerity, and unlimit yourself when it comes to giving and receiving love. We show you how to recognize love by reminding...2023-03-0541 min
Wholehearted LovingEp 09 | Expressing Love in Ways That Might Surprise YouLove is something we all crave. Yet at the same time, love can feel so scary. It can feel scary to open ourselves to receive love and scary to vulnerably express our love. How can we practice shifting this and stop robbing ourselves of beautiful moments and experiences?
In this episode, we show you how by reminding you to catch and linger in moments of delight, to let compliments sink in and to feel the love and care in people's boundaries.
More of what we talked about:
00:37 Be in tune with yourself exercise
04:15 Your idea of how others should love you ...2023-02-2649 min
Wholehearted LovingEp08 | The Weight of Your Own Judgments: Let Us Help You Get Rid of ThatOh, how we suck sometimes! And oh, the things we avoid when we think we're going to suck! Today we talk about what we're learning, what we suck at, and the paths we've taken around self-image, self-judgments and connecting self-discovery with joy & delight.
In this episode:
- judgments & being judged
- learning vs sucking
- self-image & projections
- movement for self-connection & -soothing
- permission to try
Mentioned in this episode:
- Elia Mrak https://www.eliamrak.com/meet-elia-mrak
- Brooke Yantzi https://www.brookeyantzi.com/
- Laughing lady reel: https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cnw1naLg77j/?utm_source=ig...2023-02-191h 07Wholehearted LovingEp07 | Dating & Relationships: How to Rewire for JoyToday we explore an expanded worldview around dating and relationships -- the ways our ideas and behaviours have changed after years of deep shadow work, and the ways our people have changed over the course of their inner work too. If you tend toward jealousy, clinginess, fear, anxiety, co-dependence, controlling, and you're ready (or almost ready) to face it, this episode's for you.
In this episode:
- new ways of thinking about dating
- scarcity v abundance mentality
- celebrating wins
- unlearning reactivity (it'll be clunky!)
- challenging your patterns of thinking & behaviour
Each episode comes with prompts for jo...2023-02-121h 18Wholehearted LovingHuman Design Not-Self Themes: Questions for When You're Feeling Bitter, Frustrated & MoreHuman Design is a system of personal knowing and discovery which we've found helpful, in the vein of Enneagram, Gene Keys, and astrology. In the language of Human Design, the "Not-Self" is our expression and experience of being out of alignment or unhappy in a given circumstance -- depending on your Design, this will show up for you in different ways. Ways you can predict, and manage!
In this video we talk about helpful questions you can ask yourself when you're feeling like your "Not-Self", so you can get back to feeling more your self-self. We also share our own De...2023-02-0922 minWholehearted LovingEp06: Fear in Life and in Raising ChildrenFear can be all-encompassing, and so powerful -- it shuts us down, it has us do wild things, and most importantly it highlights what we want for our lives and relationships.
Today's episode is built around a viewer's question about her fear of having a daughter, resulting from her own experiences as a girl. In this episode:
- answering a listener's question
- how we project fear onto our kids
- fear's unexpected manifestations
- managing & moving fear energy
Each episode comes with prompts for journaling and reflection. You can find these, submit your questions and topic ideas, and learn m...2023-02-0532 minWholehearted LovingEp05: How to Take Your Time in Life & with Text RepliesWhat does it take to forgive? In today's episode we talk about the magic of taking your time when it comes to forgiveness, building conscious relationships, and replying to text messages. And we give you tools to make that time healthy, grounding and integrative, so you can deepen your connections instead of just stewing while you wait. Storytime: ESL cooking with love.
In this episode:
- forgiveness, repair and reconnection
- healing the mother wound
- taking your time
- feeling "safe" in conscious relationship
Submit your questions or topics at https://bit.ly/3ZmDDb2.
Each episode comes with prompts for...2023-01-291h 00Wholehearted LovingEp04: Hiding from Leadership, Hiding from My Chinese Heritage, Hiding in RelationshipToday's episode is a deep and personal conversation you might resonate with, around the ways we hide in life - from ourselves, from our circumstances, in our relationships. In the ways we relate with the world. Georgianna talks about how she experienced her Chinese heritage as a young person and how she's integrating that today. Steph talks about being a know-it-all and hiding from leadership and emotions.
In this episode:
- hiding from Chinese heritage
- loneliness in leadership
- being a know-it-all
- embracing who we are
Alexa Sunshine Rose, creator of non-codependent lullabies: http://alexasunshinerose.com.
Submit your qu...2023-01-221h 03Wholehearted LovingEp03: Panic Apologies, True Apologies, No ApologiesThe energy of a real apology is an important thing. We've all apologized out of shame, fear, urgency of some kind - to save face, to save a relationship, to make ourselves look good. In today's episode we talk about how to pause, how to manage shame, how to come to a place of genuine compassion (for ourselves and the other) before we apologize. We also talk about when we're not ready to apologize - which is okay too.
In this episode:
- co-parenting
- apologizing
- co-regulating
- shame
...2023-01-1552 min
Wholehearted LovingEp02: Who You Were, Who You Are, Who You're BecomingPast, present, and future - how do you define your identity? How do you tell your story? How do you want your life to feel? We explore this and more in today's episode with the simple but deep prompts: who was I, who am I, who am I becoming?
In this episode:
- noticing without judgment
- past, present & future selves
- compassion on your way
Submit your questions or topics at https://bit.ly/3ZmDDb2.
Find episode prompts for journaling and reflection at http://instagram.com/wholeheartedloving and...2023-01-081h 21
Wholehearted LovingEp01: So You Think You Want a Good LifeIf you want a good life, we can 100% help with that - but first, a brief and very personal questionnaire: what wisdom does your body hold, and are you willing to listen? Do you have years of pent up anger buried within you? Who or what defines your sense of self worth? When life hits hard, how do you pick yourself back up? Find out who we are and learn how you can use the hardships in your life as fuel for your transformation in this first episode of the Wholehearted Loving Podcast.
In this episode:
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The Growth Guide: Self-Improvement | Greatness | Impact | Creators | FI |Shadow Work and Conscious Relationship Training with Stephanie HunterStephanie Hunter is a shadow work facilitator and transformational mentor in Vancouver, BC, and online. She leads programs, including a weekly women’s group with Georgianna Lee of Rising Woman and semi-annual Conscious Relationship Training founded by Phil T. She is gifted with the ability to translate woo-woo into practical terms, for bringing humor into hard work, and for Radical Acceptance. Hence is ready to bless anyone in need of her gift by helping them. In today’s episode, we have an interesting conversation with Stephanie regarding the framework for conscious living and radical honesty. She walks us through the...2021-08-081h 42
The Worthiness Lab09: Shadow Work + The Search for Connection and Belonging with Stephanie Hunter (she/her)Stephanie Hunter (she/her) is a shadow work facilitator and transformational mentor, leading programs with family therapist Georgianna Lee of Rising Woman, as well as Conscious Relationship Trainings, with transpersonal therapist Phil T. Mistlberger, both online and IRL (Vancouver, Canada). She has a gift of translating woo-woo into practical terms, for bringing humour into hard work, and for Radical Acceptance — of herself, of you, of whatever’s arising right now. This sets a secure (and fun!) foundation for shadow work and self-discovery.In this episode we dive into what shadow work is, explore ways we are all in s...2021-07-2748 min