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Three Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 6: Not Messing Around: The Pleasures Of Being A Mean GirlIn this episode, Rachael encounters the uncanny intelligence of the patient's unconscious. The patient, having criticised Rachael for her “messy” management of her clinical practice then adopts the same management style and surreptitiously benefits from it. Feeling guilty, the patient has a dream revealing these dynamics but withholds her insights from Rachael. This produces a desire in Rachael to be mean and partake of the jouissance of revenge. By unpacking her own unconscious with Gill, it becomes clear to Rach that her countertransference wish is a clue to the patient's fear, which is preventing her from surrendering into the patie...
2025-07-1323 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 5: Up Against The Limit: Staring Into The VoidIn this episode, Andrew finds himself embodying traumas the patient has experienced but has placed an explicit prohibition on articulating. During his therapy sessions with Rob, Andrew respects this prohibition. There is much else to speak about and the session feels lively. However, after every session Andrew feels strangely dead, reflecting a limit on his capacity to comfortably process powerful affects when words are off limit and the patient wishes to screen off pain and to avoid facing into the void. Questions are raised about the perils of going along with the patient's wish n...
2025-06-1529 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 4: I'm Not OK That You're OKIn this episode, Andrew presents us with an insoluble ethical dilemma. Is it desirable or even possible for therapists to remain neutral when the patient lives by a value system very discrepant from their own and seems to do so comfortably and credits the therapy for this outcome?Andrew and Gill agree that therapists are not neutral as they have their own moral compasses, even if they believe it is incumbent on them to bracket them. They also agree it is fair to question the patient about the consequences of their new found comfort...
2025-05-1125 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 3: Unexpected Twists and Turns: Prayer Cards Part 2In this rich episode, Rachael grapples with a variety of complex nuanced issues such as an unexpected ending and the feat of balancing the therapist's self interest with the patient’s interest in a number of domains, including payment. Also on the table were inner conflicts around masochism and self care and the potential risks and rewards of playfulness and creativity and the inherent pleasures and perils that they engender.At the end of the session, Rachael and Gill concluded that whatever side we finally land on in the resolution of inner conflict, it is...
2025-04-1628 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 2: Us Vs Them Thinking - A Silent Threat To Your Mental HealthIn this episode, Andrew struggles with the power of splitting and projection as they close down thought, generate anger, and diminish compassion.He gets caught in these dynamics and struggles with his own reactivity as anger and defensive intellectualisation masquerading as thinking emerge in the therapy space.Through supervision, Andrew realises the fear and existential threat that underpins these dynamics. He moves from a wish to confront binaries and from an appeal to both/and thinking to understanding the feelings underpinning either/or thinking, projection, and othering.
2025-03-0224 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 1: How To Spot Narcissism - Red Flags and Dating HacksIn this episode, Rachael works with a young woman who is desperate to find the right man and equally desperate to find a failsafe way to make a good choice. A prolific consumer of social media, she scours all the information about red flags that are meant to help someone spot a narcissist (e.g. lovebombing, gaslighting, self-centredness). She appeals to Rachael to assist in this endeavour of constructing and applying lists of red flags. Rachael tries to shift the agenda to fostering agency, but to no avail.
In supervision, Gill asks a series of questions which le...
2025-02-0225 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 8: Hooked On A Feeling: Traumatophilia and TraumatophobiaIn this episode, Rachael is conflicted about performance artist Petra's wish for Rachael to watch a video of Petra engaging in human suspension.
Rachael has an immediate countertransference feeling that she doesn’t want to be “implicated". Rachael does not understand this feeling as she is aware of the mastery involved in this activity and also Petra's pride in her ability. However, Petra also speaks of her engagement in this practice as a means of regulating her affect.
Rachael comes to understand that her reaction to Petra’s request was con...
2024-12-2225 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 7: The Sound of SilenceIn this session, Andrew is confused by why Amber, an anorexic adolescent woman, is so silent in session when she chats easily with other team members. Andrew is sidetracked both by his anxiety about his position in the team and his anxiety that he is getting it wrong.
In supervision, Andrew comes to understand that his different treatment by Amber may signal something positive including Amber's emerging desires for male attention. He explores how safety for both him and Amber may lie in introducing material that can cut across the intensity of the therapeutic co...
2024-12-0722 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 6: Internet Connection or Intimate Connection?In this episode, Andrew finds himself conflicted. His talented young patient reflects a contemporary set of values and ideas that Andrew wishes to honour, but he has a nagging sense that Jaxx is running ahead of himself. He is caught between admiring Jaxx’s resilience and wondering about the cost. But Andrew is not sure if his worry reflects a more conservative world view in himself or real potential danger for Jaxx.
In the session Andrew recognises that he needs to move to a both/and position, validating Jaxx's achievements while holding his vulnerabilities and bei...
2024-11-2427 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 5: Trauma and Magic Powers Part IIIn this episode, Rachael revisits the complex feelings that child sexual abuse evoke in both patient and therapist. Rachael discovers that her wish for magic powers has not disappeared and has reappeared in a different form. Beyond this, Rachael contacts both the magic and the terror of the therapeutic journey itself and the loneliness this sometimes produces in the therapist.
Both Gill and Rachael conclude that while trauma itself is to be regretted, the person that we emerge as in the wake of trauma is to be embraced as a crucial and valuable aspect of...
2024-10-1329 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 4: When Two Become One: The Seduction of MergerIn this episode, Andrew surprises himself by the degree to which his patient has led him into dissociating from his own inner subjectivity and into merging with the patient's agenda. This agenda, in turn, reflects the patient's merged state with his partner so that “two become one”.
Andrew is able to use supervision to take up a third position and to take a perspective which frees him to use his own thoughts, thereby helping the patient shape his own subjectivity independently of his partner.
2024-09-0125 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 3: Erotic Countertransference: The Taboo of Being Turned OnIn this episode, Rachael approaches the taboo of sexual attraction in therapy and its tendency to lead to dysregulation, involuntary self-disclosure, and shame.
Rachael's feelings unduly amplify her self-consciousness, complicating the ongoing therapeutic task of understanding her and her patient's contribution to the co-construction of their relational field.
After engaging Rachael in a discussion of the reality/fantasy divide and the difference between voluntary and involuntary self disclosure, Gill invites a recourse to theory both as a stabilising force in the choppy waters of the embodied and as a w...
2024-07-1427 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 2: Too Good for the 'HoodIn this episode it becomes clear that Andrew and his patient Manuela are unconsciously co-constructing a dynamic in which Manuela is under pressure to be cultured and cool in order to maintain Andrew's admiration, while Andrew is under pressure to take up a lesser position. As the supervision unfolds, Andrew becomes aware of how his envy is at the heart of this dynamic and how he is projecting certain longings onto Manuela. He becomes aware this leads to both an underplaying of Manuela’s limits and vulnerabilities and the overplaying of his own and keeps her stuck in a re...
2024-06-0424 min
Sherlock & Co.Silver Blaze - Part FourOFF TO THE RACES - the case was finally coming together. Sherlock had narrowed down on a motive and the suspects could only be a chosen few from the stable. We headed to the local police station to speak to Fitzroy Simpson. And after that, well, Sherlock kind of took over. Part 4 of 4.For merchandise and transcripts go to: www.sherlockandco.co.ukFor ad-free, early access to adventures in full go to www.patreon.com/sherlockandcoFollow me @DocJWatsonMD or get in touch via...
2024-04-3031 min
Sherlock & Co.Silver Blaze - Part TwoIF THE SHOE FITZ. My companion and I traversed the windy Moors in search of the missing Silver Blaze. That was our second port of call. Our first was to see Inspector Gregory.. and most importantly, the corpse of the late June Straker... But that only left more questions. Part 2 of 4.For merchandise and transcripts go to: www.sherlockandco.co.ukFor ad-free, early access to adventures in full go to www.patreon.com/sherlockandcoFollow me @DocJWatsonMD or get in touch via email docjwat...
2024-04-1635 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 1: The Therapist's Revenge: Trading Porn for Prayer CardsRachael comes to realise that feeling provoked by the patient’s apparent self-centredness in enactments that occur in the waiting room and in the session has led to a wish to be provocative in return. She first enjoys then tussles with revenge fantasies. By talking through these fantasies and owning their pleasure, she recognises their meaning, and this opens up multiple perspectives.
2024-02-1826 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 8: XOXO Gossip Girl; Who's Afraid of the Big Bad Wolf?In this episode, Rachael encounters a worthy adversary in the elegant and charismatic Iris. Beguiled by Iris charm and colourful stories Rachael can’t help feeling seduced. However she also feels manipulated and is irritated with herself and Iris. Nevertheless she still feels the pull to captivation in the session. In the end, Rachael realises that the most worthy adversary that she has is herself and in freeing herself contemplates helping Iris to be both her charismatic and her vulnerable self.
2023-12-0529 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 7: Sex TalkIn this episode, Andrew struggles to disrupt his patient's rigid self-control, ever mindful of a psychotic potential that could be unleashed given the patient's history of experiencing a psychotic episode. Andrew experiences both the seductions of a meeting of minds and the potential tyranny of his patient's mind that fears the body, its appetites, and affects.
2023-11-0627 min
Underground Groove (programas emitidos)Underground Groove (Parte 1 & 2) 23 de noviembre 2023 (@RadioCirculo)- Parte 1 incluye;
KLEEER, CIRT GILL & THE JAM-A-DITTY BAND, THE THREE DEGREES, EXECUTIVE FORCE, BRANSAM, STARVUE, THE WHISPERS, MADONNA, CLAUDJA BARRY, LARRY GRAHAM, NICK STRAKER BAND.
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THE FATBACK BAND, NEW XPERIENCE, BB&Q BAND, ERODISCOTIQUE, ELECTRIC SMOKE, GWEN GUTHRIE, THE FANTASTIC ALEEMS, PHILLY DEVOTIONS, PORTABLE PATROL, MIDNIGHT STAR.
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2023-11-041h 59Three Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 6: An Education on Trauma: The Obliteration of Thinking and FeelingIn this episode, Rachael is provoked by a disrupted patient. Power struggles and challenges emerge in the room as Rachael struggles to think and not enact in the face of the patient's enactments. Technical questions of courageous speech versus disruptive challenges are engaged as Rachael shows great integrity and courage in taking in the challenges of supervision to come to an expanded understanding of trauma.
2023-10-0226 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 5: SHUSH! When Talking Is The Problem and Not The CureIn this episode, Andy is frustratingly blocked by his patient's difficulty in listening and by her incessant talking, both of which reveal parts of her self and mask others. Ironically, Andy himself has to surrender into listening rather than talking and into only having recognised small snippets of his thoughts, if any at all. He becomes aware of the deprivation under his patient's excess and how this fuels the discrepancy between her subjective reality and his experience of her.
2023-09-0328 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 4: Dine In or Take Away TherapyIn this episode, we encounter Rachael's struggle with an avoidant patient who is fearful of closeness. Rachael is conflicted between her desire for the patient to make progress and to stay present to the work and to 'dine in', and her awareness that, for his desire to move forward to emerge, she needs to take a step back and let him continue with 'take away' for a while longer.
2023-05-2228 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 3: Dank Memes, TikTok, and Unprocessed GriefIn this episode, Andrew finds himself challenging his patient's perception of him as an internet dinosaur, too old to be familiar with youth culture. In engaging this challenge, Andrew finds both a way to connect with his patient, but also a way to collude to avoid an underlying grief which needs to be addressed.
2023-05-0130 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 2: The Dangers of Addiction: Help Me, Help YouIn this episode, Rachael struggles with exasperation and grief as she writes a court report for a patient who has relapsed. To be both truthful and helpful is no mean feat, and nor is accepting the limits of her responsibility while still grappling with how to move the therapy forward.
2023-04-1027 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 1: Neurodiversity: Lost in TranslationIn this episode, Andrew, Gill, and Rachael explore the hot topic of neurodiversity. We conclude that whatever the political and ideological controversies, our main focus needs to be on the person in the room.
2023-03-1928 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 8: When The 'Not Me' Is Actually Not MeMisrecognition and the projection of others are a perennial problem, but perhaps more so for those who are queer identified. But whoever is at the receiving end of mistaken identity, the effects are very unpleasant as Gill, Andrew, and Rachael come to know first hand in this episode.
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2022-07-1126 min
Three Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 7: Decent Or Indecent ExposureIn this episode, Gill, Rachael, and Andrew grapple with feelings of exposure as Rachael becomes aware that her private and professional lives have collided, but the exact nature of this is unknown.
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2022-06-1327 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 6: The Therapist's Destructive FantasyRachael, Gill, and Andrew work together to understand how the presence of subtle power dynamics, unconsciously enacted in the therapeutic relationship, are signalled by the therapist’s destructive fantasy.
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2022-05-2323 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 5: "Help! I'm A Borderline Nightmare And I Need Reining In"In this episode, Gill, Andrew, and Rachael are confronted with how intense feelings can muddy the waters and produce confusion about which feelings belong to the therapist and which to the patient.
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2022-04-2427 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 4: Protection And Its PerilsIn this episode, Rachael, Andrew, and Gill discuss the proverbial notion that the road to hell is paved with good intentions as Rachael's wish to protect the patient reveals hidden difficulties.
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2022-03-2625 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 3: The Sexiness Of The Self-Help GuruIn this episode, Andrew, Rachael and Gill tussle together over ethical and therapeutic issues as they wonder where self help ends and where helping oneself to what belongs to the other begins.
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2022-03-0530 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 2: Trauma And Magic PowersRachael, Gill, and Andrew struggle hard to resist the all-too-human desire for magical solutions to truly awful problems.
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2022-02-1427 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 1: Game Of CardsIn the first episode of season two, Gill, Andrew and Rachael plunge into the pleasures and perils of toxic masculinity and the allure of trading intimacy and authenticity for the exercise of power.
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2022-01-2325 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 8: Feeling Drowsy When The Connection Is LousyIn this last episode of season one, Gill, Rachael, and Andrew grapple with the challenges of staying awake when it seems that the other person is exaggerating wildly or, even worse, is somewhat out of touch with reality. Faced with the seemingly impossible task of finding a constructive way to express one’s thoughts to the person, it is easy to unconsciously zone out instead.
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2021-07-1030 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 7: When The Patient Demands Special TreatmentGill, Andrew, and Rachael wrestle with the thorny issues of rivalry and competition. They show how, ironically, being caught in rivalry can lead one to give away one’s authority, as the focus comes to be placed on competing rather than on occupying one’s own personal power.
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2021-07-0230 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 6: Fairweather Friend: The Honeymoon Is OverGill, Andrew, and Rachael encounter the common problem of when we are drawn in by charisma, fail to set firm boundaries and then experience guilt and anxiety about hurting the other person when we feel our boundaries have been transgressed.
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2021-07-0234 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 5: Therapist As Sex ObjectGill, Rachael, and Andrew dive into the heady brew of sex and aggression, showing how these issues can be unconsciously provoked and can then easily lead to shame and overwhelm.
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2021-06-2630 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 4: Twinning Isn't Always WinningGill, Andrew and Rachael uncover some unexpected disadvantages of friendliness, delving into how affability can cover up an unconscious fear of difference and otherness, and also mask a desire to be mirrored back positively to oneself.
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2021-06-2631 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 3: When An Explosion Is Detonated In Session (Part 2 of 2)Gill, Andrew and Rachael discover how unconscious disapproval can be communicated with ill effect and provoke bullying and verbal intimidation in return, resulting in overwhelm, dissociation, and an inability to think.
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2021-06-1835 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 2: When Our Best Is Not Good Enough (Part 1 of 2)Gill, Andrew and Rachael come to understand how an unconscious bias towards over-identifying with a person's trauma story inadvertently deprives the person of agency and disallows a more nuanced perception of the person.
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2021-06-1832 minThree Associating: Adventures in Relational Psychoanalytic SupervisionEpisode 1: Naming Without ShamingGill, Rachael, and Andrew explore the common problem of feeling conflicted between a wish to be accepting and the desire to be confronting of offensive stances and statements. They come to recognise how understanding one's own unconscious biases contributes to the solution.
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2021-06-1830 min
Conversations: Psychology & RelationshipsPsychotherapy on the couchDemystifying the art of talk therapy and the complex relationship between therapist and patientPsychotherapy, also known as 'the talking cure', is based on a profound and usually ongoing connection between a person and their therapist.This type of work, often dealing with long buried events or feelings, can be transformative for patients.Gill Straker has a lifetime of experience as a psychotherapist, in Australia and in her birthplace, South Africa.Her work counselling victims of brutality and trauma during the apartheid regime was fundamental to her ongoing practice....
2019-05-3052 min