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Raising MenFathers, Sons, and the Lost Language of Emotion with Dr. Gloria VanderhorstIn this episode, Shaun sits down with Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, a psychologist with decades of experience working with preschool boys often mislabeled as "problematic". They explore the "emotional desert" many boys are forced into by a culture that unintentionally shames their natural sensitivity. Dr. Vanderhorst explains how parents can move beyond surface-level behavior to address the root emotional needs of their sons, ultimately helping them grow into men of both strength and tenderness.Key TakeawaysThe Myth of the Stoic Infant: Contrary to popular belief, boys are born with a broader range of emotional expression than...
2026-02-1853 min
The True North ShowRaising Boys With Empathy And Intention with Dr Gloria Vanderhorst | Ep. 36On this week’s episode of The True North Show, I am joined by Dr Gloria Vanderhors,t who shares with us in depth the work she is doing to help men and father’s raise their boys to be comfortable with showing emotion and to have empathy. This work is going to have a huge impact on the generations that follow and the research she has uncovered is incredible and gives insight into the fact that men and boys are taught to be tough and not to show emotion. Bio:Dr. Gloria Vanderh...
2026-02-1852 min
lethal venomwhy husbands disappoint (feat. Gloria Vanderhorst)In this episode of lethal venom, I chat with Gloria Vanderhorst. Gloria is the author of a New York Times best-selling journal book called Read, Reflect, Respond: The 3 R's of Growth and Change. Her current focus is on the emotional development of men and boys and how the culture robs males of access to the full range of emotions, leaving them handicapped.To learn more about Gloria, go to her website https://www.drvanderhorst.com/ or by following her social media platforms.Facebook: https://facebook.com/gloria.vanderhorst.7YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/results?sp=mAEB...
2026-02-1234 min
DON'T PICK THE SCAB PODCAST💔 Divorce Recovery for Men Over 40: Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst's Expert Insights || DPTSP #138 || David M. Webb"Welcome to the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast. In this episode, I have the privilege of speaking with Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, a seasoned psychologist, insightful author, and advocate for men’s emotional healing. Together, we dive deep into the challenges men over 40 face during divorce recovery and how they can rediscover themselves in the process.💔 Divorce can feel like being cut in half, but you’re not alone. Dr. Vanderhorst sheds light on how society trains men from a young age to suppress emotions, making it harder to deal with the pain of loss and...
2026-01-3147 min
The Advisor with Stacey ChillemiRaising Emotionally Strong BoysBoys often get labeled “too much” or “difficult” when what they really need is emotional understanding.
Host Lisa Urbanski talks with psychologist Dr. Gloria K. Vanderhorst (nearly 50 years of experience) about why boys may show a broader emotional range, how parents and culture unintentionally shut that down.
In this episode, you’ll learn:✅ Why “stop crying” teaches boys it’s not safe to feel
✅ How over-scheduling + screens reduce social-emotional growth
✅ What healthy emotional development in boys actually looks like
✅ How to support men’s emotions without fixing, defending...
2026-01-3043 min
Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: Nurturing Through AdversityBuilding Emotional Intelligence in Boys and MenAre you raising a grandson who struggles to express his emotions, acts out in anger, or suffers from aches and pains you can’t explain? Do you worry about protecting the emotional future of the boys in your care, yet feel unsure how to break generational cycles of silence? You’re not alone—and it’s not too late to create lasting change.I’m Laura Brazan, and welcome to 'Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: Nurturing Through Adversity.' In this episode, we’re joined by New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, who brings 50 years of wisdom in child dev...
2026-01-2728 min
Mamahood After Trauma | Trauma Informed Parenting, Emotional Regulation for MomsFrom Surviving to Thriving: A Pathway for Mothers Healing from TraumaIn this inspiring episode of Mamahood After Trauma, host Emily Cleghorn welcomes psychologist Gloria Vanderhorst, who shares insights from 50 years of practice.
They explore how trauma affects mothers emotionally and chemically, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion, support systems, and the Internal Family Systems therapy model. Gloria highlights how understanding and nurturing different “parts” of oneself can foster healing, and offers practical tools for self-discovery and growth.
The conversation empowers mothers to break cycles of trauma, embrace agency, and heal while parenting, reminding listeners that recovery is a gradual, transformative journey.
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2026-01-1524 min
The Chronic TruthWe Train Boys Not to Feel | The Hidden Crisis in Male Mental HealthWhat if everything we think about boys and emotions is backwards? Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, a pioneering psychologist with 50 years of experience, will pull back the curtain on the emotional suppression of men in our culture. In this enlightening and thought-provoking episode, Gloria reveals:🔴 The Shocking Research: Boys enter the world with a wider emotional range than girls. Dr. Vanderhorst explains how we systematically train them to suppress it from infancy, and the lifelong cost of that narrowing. 🟢 The Relational Fallout: Why the phrase "boys don't cry" is a direct con...
2026-01-0925 min
Father TalksBreaking the Silence: Emotional Development in BoysSummaryIn this conversation, Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst discusses the emotional development of boys and men, emphasizing the importance of emotional expression and the impact of cultural messages that often suppress it. She highlights the role of fathers in modeling emotional literacy and the need for safe spaces for men to express their feelings. The discussion also touches on the advantages of attention deficit, the significance of journaling, and the shift towards more emotional openness among younger generations.
2026-01-0558 min
The Heal Thrive Dream PodcastEP210: Understanding Emotional Needs and Healing from TRAUMA with GloriaGloria K. Vanderhorst is one of the speakers at the Finding Your Purpose After Trauma Summit. Register now to reserve your spot for free at https://www.healthrivedream.com/FindingYourPurposeSummitGloria K. Vanderhorst has 50 years of experience helping preschoolers through adults examine emotional needs and heal from trauma. She has worked with individuals, families, groups, and schools. Our brains record experiences from the moment we are born. Our storehouse of experiences can be used to help us or harm us. Too many times, our early histories jump into the present without our awareness and undermine our interactions with...
2025-12-1630 min
The T.R.O.N. PodcastDr. Gloria Vanderhorst- seasoned psychologist, author, wife, motherSend a text Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst has over 50 years of experience helping individuals—from preschoolers to adults—understand their emotional needs and heal from trauma. She has worked extensively with individuals, families, groups, and schools, guiding people toward deeper self-awareness and healthier relationships.Gloria’s work is grounded in the understanding that our brains record experiences from the moment we are born. These early experiences shape how we see ourselves and interact with others—often influencing our present lives without our conscious awareness. When unresolved, early histories can quietly undermine relationships with family, friends, and colleagu...
2025-12-1638 min
The Advisor with Stacey ChillemiIs Traditional Masculinity Harming Your Son's Emotional Health?If you’re still telling boys to “man up,” you’re training them to shut down... and it’s costing them in school, friendships, and future relationships.
Host Stacey Chillemi sits down with psychologist Gloria K. Vanderhorst to break the “tough guy” myth and show families how to raise emotionally strong, deeply connected boys.
You’ll learn:⚡ How to spot the difference between “typical boy” behavior and a real cry for help🧠 The early experiences at home and school that wire boys for emotional health (or shutdown)🗣️ Simple scripts to coach boys through big feelings without s...
2025-12-0947 min
The Jazz for Peace™ Podcast featuring Rick DellaRattaGloria Vanderhorst: Online Therapy Boys to Men & More! S:1 E:4 Legacy SeriesGloria Vanderhorst is a seasoned psychologist, author, wife, mother, and grandmother who, drawing from her own experiences, has long focused on encouraging change in how we raise boys. Gloria has 50 years of experience helping preschoolers through adults examine emotional needs and heal from trauma. She has worked with individuals, families, groups, and schools and her best-selling new book, Read, Reflect, Respond: The 3 R’s of Growth and Change, available on Amazon, can help you understand your complex history and heal from early traumas. This engaging discussion which led to her parents introducing her to the music of Dave Brubeck as...
2025-12-0845 min
Modern Family MattersWhen the Past Parents the Present: How Early Histories Shape Parenting and Co-ParentingSend a textJoin us as we sit down with Psychologist and Author, Gloria Vanderhorst, to discuss how our early histories can jump into the present without our awareness and undermine our interactions with our children and co-parenting abilities.Gloria, who has practiced for 50 years, explains how the brain stores every experience—both accessible and hidden—and how these memories can suddenly emerge to affect our present-day interactions. The conversation explores gender differences in emotional expression, the impact of technology on children's communication skills, and practical strategies for divorced parents navigating co-parenting challenges. Gloria also intr...
2025-12-0228 min
Ask the Experts with AlkaBuilding Emotional Resilience in Children: Insights with Dr. Gloria VanderhorstAlka Sharma welcomes Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst to discuss emotional needs and developmental differences in early childhood. The conversation explores the impact of trauma on young children and therapeutic approaches to address it. Emphasizing resilience and emotional health, they delve into writing with empathy and tackling childhood isolation. Dr. Vanderhorst highlights trends in trauma-informed care and the significance of group support. They discuss personal journeys through trauma, the importance of past experiences in therapy, and how preschoolers respond to trauma, fostering emotional brilliance. The episode concludes with ways to connect with Dr. Vanderhorst and closing remarks.
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2025-11-2350 minAsk the Experts with AlkaBuilding Emotional Resilience in Children: Insights with Dr. Gloria VanderhorstAlka Sharma welcomes Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst to discuss emotional needs and developmental differences in early childhood. The conversation explores the impact of trauma on young children and therapeutic approaches to address it. Emphasizing resilience and emotional health, they delve into writing with empathy and tackling childhood isolation. Dr. Vanderhorst highlights trends in trauma-informed care and the significance of group support. They discuss personal journeys through trauma, the importance of past experiences in therapy, and how preschoolers respond to trauma, fostering emotional brilliance. The episode concludes with ways to connect with Dr. Vanderhorst and closing remarks.
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2025-11-2350 min
Mothers of Boys Survival GuideHow to Talk to Teen Boys: Communication Tips to Build TrustTeen boys are… a mystery. One minute sweet, the next minute grunting, eye-rolling, or insisting they’re “fine” while their world is clearly on fire.
In this week’s Mothers of Boys Survival Guide podcast, I’m joined again by psychologist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, and we dig into what’s actually happening inside the brains and hearts of our pre-teens, teens, and young men.
We talk about:
✔️ Why communication gets harder
✔️ Power struggles (and how to survive them)
✔️ Lying, embarrassment, and shutdowns
✔️ Teen risk-taking (hello, cliff-jumping 😳)
✔️ Rituals that help boys open up
✔️ How to stay connected—...
2025-11-1943 minMothers of Boys Survival GuideTips for Teaching Young Boys to Use Their Words: Advice from an ExpertWhy do young boys sometimes shut down or struggle to express what they feel? Psychologist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst joins the Mothers of Boys Survival Guide to explore the emotional world of boys and how parents can help young boys use their words instead of their fists or feet.
Dr. Vanderhorst explains how boys develop emotional intelligence differently from girls, why they often communicate through action rather than language, and how small changes in our responses can build lasting trust and confidence. From classroom frustrations to grocery store meltdowns, this episode offers real-world parenting advice and a deeper...
2025-11-1242 min
The Robin Smith Show#202 Gloria Kay VanderhorstAs a psychologist, Gloria’s career has covered the lifespan, starting with working with preschoolers, mainly boys, because female teachers are more distressed by boys than girls. Throughout almost 50 years of private practice, she has worked with preschoolers, elementary-aged children, teens, adults, and couples. Her training in Emotion Focused Therapy and Internal Family Systems has been effective in helping each client heal from childhood injuries and learn to embrace their strengths. Her recent book, Read, Reflect, Respond: the 3 R’s of Growth and Change is designed to help adults examine their histories and grow into the present. Stimulat...
2025-11-101h 58
Healing For The SoulWhy Husbands DisappointHealing for the Soul Podcast | Season 6: Episode 38Guest: Gloria Vanderhorst – Psychologist, Author of Read, Reflect, Respond: The Three R’s of Growth and ChangeTopic: Why Husbands DisappointWhy do so many men struggle to express emotions and how does that impact relationships? 💭With 50 years of experience in psychology, Gloria Vanderhorst dives deep into how culture shapes the emotional lives of men and boys, starting from infancy. 👶➡️👨In this powerful episode, you’ll discover:💔 Why men often seem “emotionally unavailable”...
2025-11-051h 07
Let’s Get Real with Jena BurrisThe Cost of Teaching Our Boys to Hide Their Feelings (Part 2) with Dr. Gloria VanderhorstFree Resource for MomsFeeling overwhelmed and like you’ve lost yourself in the chaos of motherhood?You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep feeling this way.I created this FREE guide for you: 🎁 The Overwhelmed Mom’s Guide: 10 Small Changes to Start Feeling Like You Again Simple, realistic shifts you can start making today without adding more to your plate.👉Grab it here: https://jenaburris.kit.com/ecc29b3801Episode 26: The Cost of Teaching Our Boys to Hide Their Feelings...
2025-11-0430 min
Beverly Hills Magazine★ Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst’s Boys to Men Insights 👦The World's Most Famous Podcast🎙️ Season 10, Episode 2Exclusive Interview with Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Psychologist & Author Welcome to The World's Most Famous Podcast by Beverly Hills Magazine, hosted by Editor-in-Chief, Jacqueline Maddison. In this episode, Jacqueline is joined by Dr. Gloria VanderhorstGUEST WEBSITE: www.DrVanderhorst.comUnderstanding Boys Before Men, Emotional Strength BeginsDr. Gloria Vanderhorst challenges cultural habits that suppress boyhood feelings and reshape male emotional health. She reveals that boys are not born stoic—they simply learn to hide how they feel. Growing up in Maryland and serving DC, she guides families an...
2025-10-3040 minLet’s Get Real with Jena BurrisThe Cost of Teaching Our Boys to Hide Their Feelings (Part 1) with Dr. Gloria VanderhorstFree Resource for MomsFeeling overwhelmed and like you’ve lost yourself in the chaos of motherhood?You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep feeling this way.I created this FREE guide for you: 🎁 The Overwhelmed Mom’s Guide: 10 Small Changes to Start Feeling Like You Again Simple, realistic shifts you can start making today without adding more to your plate.👉Grab it here: https://jenaburris.kit.com/ecc29b3801Episode 25: The Cost of Teaching Our Boys to Hide Their Feelings...
2025-10-2824 min
Adversity to Strength with Lee FreemanGloria Vanderhorst: The Emotional Lives of Men, a Deep DiveIn this conversation, Gloria Vanderhorst, a psychologist, discusses her journey into understanding the emotional lives of men and boys. She highlights the societal pressures that lead to emotional suppression in males and the importance of emotional expression for mental health. The discussion covers the impact of parenting, societal expectations, and the role of technology in communication. Gloria emphasises the need for men to reconnect with their emotions and the benefits of doing so in relationships and personal growth.
2025-10-2354 min
Marriage iQEpisode 94 - Teaching Boys to Feel: Healing the Emotional Divide in Marriage with Dr. Gloria VanderhorstWhy do so many men struggle to express emotion—and what happens to marriages when they do? In this compelling episode of Marriage IQ, Drs. Heidi and Scott Hastings sit down with psychologist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, whose groundbreaking work on the emotional development of men and boys reveals surprising truths.From toddler tears to marital tension, Dr. Vanderhorst explains how boys are taught early on to suppress tenderness, sadness, and fear—and how that emotional restriction shows up later in intimacy, conflict, and connection. Toge...
2025-10-1741 min
Experience Over ExpectationRead • Reflect • Respond: How Stories Unlock Trauma (with Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst)What if the stories you love could unlock the stories you’ve hidden? In this conversation, psychologist and author Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst shares how reading short, evocative narratives—and then pausing to reflect and respond—can surface long-stored experiences, deepen emotional access, and begin healing. We explore boys’ and men’s emotional development, why reassurance can accidentally shut down intimacy, and two simple tools anyone can use to reconnect with buried memories.Guest: Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst — Psychologist, author, wife, grandmother; 50+ years helping people across the lifespan translate life experience into growth. Author of Read, Reflect, Respond: The 3 R’s of Growt...
2025-10-1634 min
Life of Love with Julie HilsenBoys to Men Surprising Emotional SwingsSend us a textWhy do so many men seem “fine” on the surface but struggle to share what’s underneath? In this powerful conversation, Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst explains a mind-blowing truth: boys are born with a wider emotional range than girls—and our culture trains it out of them. We explore how this shapes fathers, marriages, intimacy, and “grumpy old men” — and what actually creates emotional safety, connection, and healing at home. We also share a simple Feelings Reference Chart you can use at your kitchen table to help boys (and men!) put words to w...
2025-10-1643 min
Byte Sized BlessingsInterview: Gloria Vanderhorst ~ The Glowing Lady & the Healing!Gloria shares a tale from her childhood this week-one where she was given a death sentence and sent to the hospital...and not expected to live! It was in the middle of the night, after the surgery, that she received her healing...and a glimpse of the majesty at the heart of the Universe. She's an author, a psychologist and a human who really desires to help all of us attain our best selves, but she especially works with men, helping them to discover their emotional depth.To read a bit more about Gloria and her work, click...
2025-10-1359 minByte Sized BlessingsByte: Gloria Vanderhorst ~ The Glowing Lady & the Healing!Gloria shares a tale from her childhood this week-one where she was given a death sentence and sent to the hospital...and not expected to live! It was in the middle of the night, after the surgery, that she received her healing...and a glimpse of the majesty at the heart of the Universe. She's an author, a psychologist and a human who really desires to help all of us attain our best selves, but she especially works with men, helping them to discover their emotional depth.To read a bit more about Gloria and her work, click...
2025-10-1309 min
Stroke It Guide PodcastEP 197 How We Crush Men's Soft Side with Dr. Gloria VanderhorstIn this powerful episode of The Stroke It Podcast, host Jenny Townsend welcomes Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, an experienced clinical psychologist, speaker, and author, who brings decades of wisdom on parenting, relationships, and emotional healing.Dr. Gloria takes a deep dive into how cultural norms have shaped boys to suppress emotions, teaching them to be tough instead of tender. While once seen as survival skills, these outdated expectations are now harming marriages, fatherhood, and children’s development. 💔Drawing from her impactful books “Read, Reflect, Respond: The Three R’s of Growth and Change” a...
2025-10-0250 min
LIFE WELL LIVED BY OMOBOLA STEPHENE423: Raising Sons In The 21st Century With Dr. Gloria VanderhorstOn today's show, host Omobola Stephen is honored to have Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst as a guest to discuss on the topic of raising sons in the 21st century. Dr. Gloria has wisdom gained through 50 years of experience working with preschoolers through adults in her dynamic psychology practice. Her current focus is on the emotional development of men and boys and how the culture robs males of access to the full range of emotions, leaving them handicapped. She is the author of a New York Times best-selling journal book called Read, Reflect, Respond: The 3 R's of Growth and Change....
2025-09-2741 min
ObservedayPage Turners and Personal Growth: Dive Into New Book Month — Gloria Vanderhorst | Ep 25If you’ve ever wondered how reading can help you grow emotionally and connect with your family on a deeper level, this episode is for you. I sit down with Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, psychologist and author of Read, Reflect, Respond, to talk about the power of books in shaping how we understand ourselves and those around us.This episode touches on why boys actually start out with a wider range of emotions than girls—and how our culture shapes (and sometimes limits) what they’re allowed to feel. You’ll also hear surprising insights about how journaling and refl...
2025-09-2022 minBeverly Hills Magazine★ Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst’s Proven Method to Heal Trauma 🧠The World's Most Famous Podcast🎙️ Season 9, Episode 6Exclusive Interview with Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Psychologist & Author Welcome to The World's Most Famous Podcast by Beverly Hills Magazine, hosted by Editor-in-Chief, Jacqueline Maddison. In this episode, Jacqueline is joined by Dr. Gloria VanderhorstGUEST WEBSITE: www.DrVanderhorst.comDr. Gloria Vanderhorst is a leading voice in trauma recovery and mental health transformation. With years of clinical experience, she helps people heal through empathy, connection, and science-based therapy. Her compassionate approach empowers individuals to overcome pain and rediscover joy. Through her work, Dr. Vanderhorst reminds us that h...
2025-09-1739 min
Stuck in the Middle PodcastThe Hidden Strain of Caregiving and the Power of Reflection in Personal Change with Dr. Gloria VanderhorstAbout Gloria Vanderhorst: Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst is a licensed psychologist offering virtual therapy in Maryland and Washington, DC. With over 40 years of clinical experience, she has worked with preschoolers, teens, adults, and couples, guiding them through life’s challenges with compassion and expertise.Her therapeutic approach integrates Emotion Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and Traumatic Incident Reduction. She focuses on healing early trauma, improving emotional functioning, and strengthening relationships. Dr. Vanderhorst also supports the court system with co-parenting guidance and reunification services for families.In her free time, she en...
2025-09-0927 min
Shrinks Who DrinkDr. Gloria VanderhorstToday's guest is Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, PhD. who joins us to talk about evidence-based methods to support emotional healing, relational growth, and long-term resilience in life. She also talks about her journal book "The 3 Rs of Growth and Change" which is available on Amazon.
You can contact Gloria here: https://drvanderhorst.com/
2025-09-0250 min
Abstract EssayAbstract Essay in its Fifth season, featuring Gloria Vanderhorst as my guest.Gloria VanderhorstPsychologist, Writer, Advisor and MentorI started my practice as a psychologist working with preschool children, mainly boys, as the female teachers saw them as problematic with their exuberance and physical energy and labeled them as hyperactive or attention-deficient. My work resulted in their fathers coming to therapy to explore their emotional angst. I was privileged to see how our culture robs males of access to the full range of emotions necessary for a healthy sense of self and healthy relationships with others. As I continued to work with...
2025-08-2523 min
Becoming Parents - Birth Stories and Birthwork WisdomHer Own Birth Experience, Her Mom After She Gave Birth, Psychologist & Writer - Gloria Vanderhorst - S7 E69My parenting journey starts with my birth when my own mother was screaming at the sight of me.Helping others to parent has been an integral part of my professional life.Using the latest and best therapy techniques marks my current work to help others heal from injuries delivered by their parents.Writing about parenting and personal growth is my passion.I am a psychologist in private practice and a writer. My recent book: Read, Reflect, Respond: the 3 R's of Growth and Change is a guide to personal growth.
2025-08-2033 min
Coffee with Bearded Bad DadEP#155: ADHD is a Superpower? The Truth About Raising Boys & Emotional IntelligenceAre we wrong about ADHD? Psychologist Gloria Vanderhorst, with 50+ years of experience, explains why attention deficit might actually be an advantage—fueling innovation, creativity, and leadership. We dive deep into how boys are raised, why emotional intelligence matters more than ever in the AI age, and how parents can break free from outdated patterns.Gloria shares insights from her book Read, Reflect, Respond and gives a preview of her upcoming release on how NOT to mess up raising your sons. This is a must-watch for parents, educators, and anyone curious about ADHD, psychology, and raising emotionally healthy kids....
2025-08-151h 06
Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: Nurturing Through AdversityRaising Emotionally Whole Boys: A Grandparent's GuideAre you a grandparent striving to raise emotionally healthy boys in a world that sometimes discourages men from expressing their true feelings? Do you wonder how to break generational cycles that keep boys trapped in an “emotional desert,” unable to connect with their vulnerabilities and strengths? Are you seeking guidance on nurturing grandsons and granddaughters alike, empowering them to access their full emotional selves?I’m Laura Brazan, host of ‘Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: Nurturing Through Adversity.’ In this episode, we’re joined by psychologist Gloria Vanderhorst, who brings over 50 years of experience to help us understand the vital role g...
2025-08-1225 min
The Healthy Post Natal Body PodcastRaising Emotionally Healthy Boys interview with Dr Gloria VanderhorstSend a textHave you ever wondered why, when we all say we want emotionally healthy boys/men, society makes it soo difficult to teach them how to be emotionally healthy and well rounded?This week I have the pleasure of being joined by Dr Gloria Vanderhorst.Dr Vanderhorst is a psychologist who has 50 years of experience working with anything from preschoolers to adult and she offers a fascinating insight into the structural issues that families are faced with when trying to raise boys.We all know the saying "It takes...
2025-08-1046 min
Pete Vs Anxiety!!!!!Psychologist, Writer, Advisor and MentorMy guest today is the NY Times best seller, Gloria Vanderhorst About her I started my practice as a psychologist working with preschool children, mainly boys, as the female teachers saw them as problematic with their exuberance and physical energy and labeled them as hyperactive or attention-deficient. My work resulted in their fathers coming to therapy to explore their emotional angst. I was privileged to see how our culture robs males of access to the full range of emotions necessary for a healthy sense of self and healthy relationships with others. As...
2025-07-2949 min
KAJ Masterclass LIVEAuthor Spotlight: Gloria Vanderhorst – Read, Reflect, Respond | Author's Voice with KAJA special conversation with author Gloria Vanderhorst on her book “Read, Reflect, Respond - The 3 Rs of Growth and Change.”Get the Book Here: https://www.amazon.com/Read-Reflect-Respond-Growth-Change/dp/1633023036=================================👤 *FEATURED GUEST*Gloria K. Vanderhorst, Ph.D. has 50 years of experience helping preschoolers through adults examine emotional needs and heal from trauma. She has worked with individuals, families, groups, and schools. Our brains record experiences from the moment we are born. Our storehouse of experiences can be used to help us or harm us. Too many times, our early histories jump into the present without our awareness and undermine our int...
2025-07-2128 min
KAJ Business & Money LIVEAuthor Spotlight: Gloria Vanderhorst – Read, Reflect, Respond | Author's Voice with KAJA special conversation with author Gloria Vanderhorst on her book “Read, Reflect, Respond - The 3 Rs of Growth and Change.”Get the Book Here: https://www.amazon.com/Read-Reflect-Respond-Growth-Change/dp/1633023036=================================👤 *FEATURED GUEST*Gloria K. Vanderhorst, Ph.D. has 50 years of experience helping preschoolers through adults examine emotional needs and heal from trauma. She has worked with individuals, families, groups, and schools. Our brains record experiences from the moment we are born. Our storehouse of experiences can be used to help us or harm us. Too many times, our early histories jump into the present without our awareness and undermine our interac...
2025-07-2128 min
Stronger in the Difficult PlacesHow Men Are Conditioned to Emotionally Abandon usWhy do so many women find themselves in relationships where they're doing all the emotional labor? And what role does childhood—and especially the way we raise boys—play in this dynamic? In today's powerful episode, Dr. Gloria K. Vanderhorst joins me to unpack the lifelong impact of early emotional conditioning—particularly for boys. With over 50 years of experience working with individuals, families, and schools, Dr. Gloria brings deep insight into how our earliest experiences shape how we love, relate, and often repeat patterns without even realizing it. We explore why boys are often taught to dis...
2025-07-1533 min
Relatable WisdomAre You Living Your Life—Or Someone Else’s? Time for a Reality Check!— Gloria Vanderhorst | Ep 52In this episode, I dive into the idea that "you can be anything you want to be" with my special guest, Gloria Vanderhorst. Gloria is a compassionate psychologist and writer with over 50 years of experience helping people find where they truly belong. We talk about how family expectations and self-doubt can get in the way, and why it's so important to pay attention to our own life experiences. Gloria shares inspiring stories, like how an 80-year-old found new energy through photography and how taking risks and exploring—like "read, reflect, respond"—can open hidden doors within us. We also talk...
2025-07-1421 min
Through the Trauma PodcastThe Pressures of Male Emotional ExpressionIn this episode of Through the Trauma Podcast, Amber Larkins speaks with psychologist Gloria Vanderhorst about the unique challenges and pressures faced by boys in today's society. They discuss the importance of emotional expression, the impact of parenting styles, and the role of mentorship in helping boys navigate their emotional development. The conversation also touches on the influence of media and technology on young boys, as well as strategies for fostering open communication between parents and their children. Vanderhorst emphasizes the need for boys to access their full range of emotions and the responsibility of parents and society to...
2025-07-1144 min
When "Not Yet" Becomes "Right Now"Defying the Odds: Resilience Through Adversity with Dr. Gloria VanderhorstSend a textJen speaks with Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, who shares her inspiring journey of overcoming significant challenges, including being born with spina bifida and later facing life-altering circumstances. Gloria discusses her early life, the importance of emotional intelligence, her journey to motherhood and her work with boys and fathers. She emphasizes the need for resilience, the power of emotional expression and the importance of continuing to push through obstacles. Gloria also introduces her book, 'Read, Reflect, Respond,’ which aims to guide readers through personal growth and transformation.Key Takeaways:Gloria's early li...
2025-07-0940 min
Been There Got Out PodcastMasculinity & the Emotional Growth of BoysJoin us for an enlightening conversation with Gloria Vanderhorst, a distinguished psychologist whose five decades of experience provide a rich tapestry of insights into the world of male emotional expression. Gloria brings her depth of expertise to the forefront as we examine the constraints American cultural norms place on men's emotional vocabulary, beginning in childhood. Through her work with preschoolers, adolescents, and adults, Gloria unravels the complexities behind societal expectations that often suppress the natural emotional range boys are born with, impacting their capacity to form deep, intimate connections as they mature.Our discussion navigates the critical...
2025-07-0435 min
Rooted Within HerLet's Talk All Things Rooted With Gloria VanderhorstJoin us as we talk about overcoming challenges and truly going after your destined desires to ensure you are on the right path to success. Website: www.drvanderhorst.com
2025-07-0320 min
The SVee Show: HERstory in the makingGloria's story: Why Your Story MattersToday on The SVee Show, I’m so happy to welcome someone whose personal story and professional work are both incredibly powerful. Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst has spent over 50 years helping people, from preschoolers to adults, navigating trauma and building healthier relationships. Her journey is deeply moving. Born with spina bifida, Gloria’s earliest moments had a ripple effect that she only came to fully understand much later in life. She’s now passionate about helping others make sense of their own past through therapeutic approaches like Internal Family Systems.
She’s also the author of the best-selling book Rea...
2025-06-3032 min
Book 101 ReviewBook 101 Review in its Fifth season, featuring Gloria K Vanderhorst as my guest.Read, Reflect, Respond - The 3 Rs of Growth and Change READ, REFLECT, RESPOND: The 3 Rs of Growth and Change will provide you with stimulating content to READ at your pace. Each piece will encourage you to deeply REFLECT on yourself, your relationships, and the life you want to live. As you RESPOND to each piece, you will discover interesting parts of yourself and your history leading you to grow and create change for the future. The adventure of self-discovery awaits! As you go deeper into the early influences which impact the present you will begin ne...
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Heart to Heart with AbagabaGloria Vanderhorst: Psychologist, Writer, Advisor and MentorIn this powerful episode of Heart to Heart with Abagaba, we sit down with a guest whose voice carries the weight of five decades in the field of psychology. A Psychologist, Writer, Advisor, and Mentor, she has spent her life helping others grow—from the earliest stages of childhood to the complex journeys of adulthood.Her current focus is a vital and often overlooked one: the emotional development of boys and men. In a culture that often silences their inner lives, she invites us to reflect on what’s lost—and what can be reclai...
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The Chris Voss ShowThe Chris Voss Show Podcast – Read, Reflect, Respond – The 3 Rs of Growth and Change by Gloria Vanderhorst
Read, Reflect, Respond – The 3 Rs of Growth and Change by Gloria Vanderhorst
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READ, REFLECT, RESPOND: The 3 Rs of Growth and Change will provide you with stimulating content to READ at your pace. Each piece will encourage you to deeply REFLECT on yourself, your relationships, and the life you want to live. As you RESPOND to each piece, you will discover interesting parts of yourself and your history leading you to grow and create change for the future.
The adventure of self-discovery awaits! As you go...
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The Elisha ShowGloria Vanderhorst on Helping Men Heal, the Psychology Behind Growth, and Her Book Read, Reflect, RespondIn this insightful episode, Ambassador Elisha welcomes Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, psychologist and author of Read, Reflect, Respond:
The Three R's of Growth and Change. Gloria shares how a tough Calculus II class pivoted her path into psychology, her transformative work with men and boys, and why many men struggle with intimacy and emotional expression.
She also reveals how her interactive book helps adults reflect on life-changing moments and embrace personal growth.
Don’t miss her powerful stories and upcoming work on fatherhood and emotional development
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