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A Surrendered Life with the KgailesWhy God’s Word Isn't Working In You - The Four Soils ExplainedHave you every wondered why the same Word changes some lives and bounces off others? In this conversation, we unpack Jesus’ parable of the soils as a mirror for the heart. We look at the path, the rocky ground, the thorny ground and the good soil, and how distraction, shallowness and crowded priorities choke what God wants to grow.This is not a message of condemnation but an invitation to cultivation. We talk practical ways to become “good ground”: plow the heart with repentance and humility, plant the Word with attention and obedience, protect the se...
2025-11-1658 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesThe Gift of Suffering: Building Spiritual EnduranceThere are seasons where you know what God has said, but the journey feels long, tiring and stretching. You’ve started well, but staying faithful has become the real battle. This episode is a conversation on spiritual endurance, what it is, why we need it and how God builds it in us.We talk about endurance as more than just “surviving a hard time.” It’s the grace to keep moving with purpose when progress is slow, prayers seem delayed and the race feels uphill. We unpack how endurance helps you actually finish your God-give...
2025-11-0938 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesRaising a Kingdom Family - with the Hadebe'sWhat does it look like to build a home that carries the heart of God? In this heartfelt episode we sit down with Minister Mfundo Hadebe and his wife, Mrs. Sphe Hadebe, to trace their journey of marriage, parenthood and community-building. Together we talk about shaping family culture with Kingdom values, surrendering our parenting to God, creating rhythms that keep Jesus at the center and leading our children from a place of love, wisdom and integrity.This conversation is hope for anyone called to be a generational curse-breaker and a builder, whether you’re si...
2025-11-021h 06A Surrendered Life with the KgailesVictory Over The Battle Of The MindThe fiercest battles aren’t always around us, but rather they’re within us. This episode is a practical, hope-filled guide to winning the war in your thought-life. We unpack how ideas, narratives and inner scripts shape your emotions, decisions, and destiny, and how to replace them with truth so your life begins to follow the mind of Christ. We talk about moving from spirals of fear, lust and cynicism to a renewed mindset marked by clarity, peace and purpose.You’ll learn simple, realistic rhythms for a healthier inner world: “Word before world,” short trut...
2025-10-191h 01A Surrendered Life with the KgailesDiscernment in the Digital Age - Modern Day Idolatry?Your feed is discipling you. In a world designed to keep you scrolling, this conversation is about taking back your attention so your life is led by presence, not by the next notification. We unpack how algorithms shape what you love, how constant noise numbs your discernment, and why clarity returns when you slow down and choose what (and who) gets to speak into your soul.We share a practical “rule of life” for the digital age: Word before world, intentional screen sabbaths, curating voices that form you toward wholeness, a slow-share rhythm for hot...
2025-10-1227 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesHoneymoon Phase or Heart Posture?Is the “honeymoon phase” real for Kingdom couples? And if it is, does it have to end? In this conversation, we unpack the difference between early infatuation and lifelong intimacy, and why covenant love isn’t powered by novelty but by a heart posture that keeps choosing, tending and pursuing. We talk about how to guard the “little foxes” that spoil what’s growing, and how to return to first love by doing the “first works” again. Drawing from Ephesians 5, we explore what it means to nourish and cherish each other through real seasons: work, ministry...
2025-10-0536 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesThe Role Of A Royal PriesthoodIf Part 1 asked “What is the Kingdom?” this conversation asks, “Who are you in it?” In Christ, you are not just saved, you are set apart as royal priesthood. That means two callings held as one: the authority of a king and the access of a priest. We unpack how Kingdom sons and daughters carry both, governing life under Jesus’ lordship while ministering to God and interceding for people.This episode explores what it looks like to live from the altar (presence, holiness, intercession) and lead at the gates (work, family, culture) with wisdom and humili...
2025-09-2832 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesTaking Up Your Royal Position: What Is The Kingdom Of God?Before you can walk in royal authority, you have to know the Kingdom you belong to. In this foundational conversation, we strip away clichés and confusion to explore what Jesus actually meant by “the Kingdom of God.” It’s not a Sunday routine or a future destination only, it’s God’s present rule, His government and culture breaking into everyday life, transforming hearts, homes, and whole societies.We talk about the Kingdom as a reality you’re born into, seek first and carry wherever you go. Citizens have a constitution (the Word), a culture (ri...
2025-09-2135 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesPartnered For Purpose - with the KhumalosWhen God joins two people together, it’s never just about romance or the altar, it's about Kingdom purpose. In this episode, we are joined by Lead Pastor Lihle Khumalo and his wife, Pastor Mandisa Khumalo, for a powerful conversation on what it means to be Partnered for Purpose.Together, we unpack how marriage and ministry intertwine, how family values are built on Kingdom principles and how couples can impact their communities by serving beyond themselves. This is not just a conversation for married people or those in ministry. Whether you’re single, waiting on G...
2025-08-311h 04A Surrendered Life with the KgailesThe Power Of Forgiveness: Where Healing BeginsForgiveness is at the very heart of the Gospel, yet it is one of the hardest things to practice in real life. In this episode, we dive into a raw and wide-reaching conversation on forgiveness: what it looks like in marriage, in friendships, in family, and even in our walk with God.We explore why forgiveness is not a feeling but a decision, why it’s a discipline we grow into, and how unforgiveness silently poisons our hearts if left unchecked. From personal offenses to deep wounds, we reflect on how grace creates space fo...
2025-08-2455 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesSigns That You Are Transitioning To A New SeasonSeasons are God’s way of moving us from where we were to where He wants us to be. But how do you know when you’re truly in transition? In this episode, we explore the signs that you are shifting into a new season, and how to recognize the hand of God in the midst of change.From shedding old environments, relationships, and even mindsets, to embracing new opportunities, connections and identity, transitions are never easy, but they are necessary for growth. Scripture reminds us: “To everything there is a season, and a time t...
2025-08-171h 10A Surrendered Life with the KgailesGod As The Father To The Fatherless- With Rev. Mlungiseleli JabulaniThis week, we are joined by Rev. Mlungiseleli Jabulani, a husband, father, pastor, and servant leader in the African Methodist Episcopal Church, where he serves as President of the men’s ministry chapter in his region.In a heartfelt and timely conversation, we explore the reality of fatherlessness and its impact on individuals, families, and communities. Rev. Jabulani shares biblical truth and personal insight on how God reveals Himself as a Father to the fatherless, offering healing, identity, and belonging to those who have been abandoned, neglected, or left unseen. We reflect on the de...
2025-08-101h 08A Surrendered Life with the KgailesHealing the Firstborn Daughters: Deliverance from an Orphan Spirit - With Mbali MatholeIn this episode, we sit down with purpose coach and faith-based storyteller Mbali Mathole to explore a profound and often unspoken reality: the emotional and spiritual weight carried by firstborn daughters.We delve into the pressures of perfection, early responsibility and emotional displacement that so many firstborn daughters silently endure. At the heart of it lies the orphan spirit, a sense of abandonment, performance-driven love and disconnected identity (even while surrounded by people).Through this powerful conversation, we unpack how this spirit can shape womanhood, relationships and faith journeys — an...
2025-08-0355 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesThe Surrender Of A Kingdom Man - Thato MahlatsiIn this rich and wide-reaching conversation, we’re joined by Thato Mahlatsi, a passionate young believer whose life speaks volumes about what it means to live surrendered, even when the path looks nothing like what you planned.We journey through his powerful story of redirecting from medicine to education, and how that shift became less about career and more about God’s deeper call to alignment and obedience. We explore what it means to carry vibrant faith while serving in a structured denominational setting, and how the fire of the Holy Spirit doesn’t need t...
2025-07-271h 11A Surrendered Life with the KgailesDestigmatising Mental Health In The Body Of Christ - Dr. Phumla DubeIn this episode, we sit down with Dr. Phumla Dube, a medical practitioner and aspiring psychiatrist whose life and journey uniquely bridge science, faith and healing.We explore the often-overlooked importance of mental health within the Body of Christ, breaking the silence around issues that many believers suffer through quietly. Phumla opens up about her own personal healing journey through mental illness, how God met her in the valley, and why emotional and psychological wellbeing matter deeply to our spiritual lives.This episode is both a gentle confrontation and...
2025-07-2047 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesKingdom Women in Servant Leadership - Ps Mandisa KhumaloIn this episode, we are joined by Pastor Mandisa Khumalo: a Kingdom woman, servant leader, and voice for purpose-driven obedience. She shares her personal journey and testimonies of what it truly means to lead from a posture of surrender, humility and unwavering faith.Together, we explore God’s design and mandate for women in His Kingdom, not as second-class citizens, but as co-heirs and Spirit-empowered carriers of purpose. Pastor Mandisa reflects on how God has used her “yes” to unlock transformation, and what it looks like to serve with both strength and softness, authority and su...
2025-07-1359 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesThe Power of Words – How to Speak Life in Every SeasonWords carry power: power to build, heal and restore…or to wound, limit and destroy.In this episode, we reflect on the spiritual and emotional impact of our words, and why learning to speak life is a vital part of walking in surrender to Christ. From the declarations we speak over ourselves to the language we use in our relationships, every word becomes a seed with the potential to shape reality.Join us for a conversation that invites you to evaluate your language, renew your mind and align your vo...
2025-07-0652 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesMeet Our Parents: Building A Generational Kingdom LegacyA lifetime of faith. A legacy still unfolding.In this episode, we sit down with the very couple whose surrender laid the foundation for our own, our parents. With nearly four decades of walking with God through the highs and lows of marriage, parenting and purpose, they open up about the values that shaped them, the grace that carried them and the faith that continues to guide their steps.This is a conversation about more than history, it’s about heritage. About building homes rooted in God, handing down pr...
2025-06-301h 01A Surrendered Life with the KgailesLooking Back, Leaning Forward - A Reflective And Hope-Filled ConversationEvery now and then, it’s important to pause, not just to teach, not to rush ahead...but simply to reflect.In this special episode, we step back from the usual format to take a breath and look at how far God has brought us. We talk through the journey so far, the lessons we’re learning, the encouragement we've received from Surrendered Saints and the quiet hopes we’re carrying for what’s next.It’s a heartfelt, honest check-in, a moment to realign, give thanks, and remember why we sta...
2025-06-2232 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesHealing From Heartbreak - When Life Didn't Go As You HopedNot every love story ends the way we imagined. Sometimes life hands us a “no” where we were praying for a “yes,” and we’re left holding pieces of a heart we thought was whole.In this episode, we speak to those navigating disappointment, loss and the kind of heartbreak that lingers long after a goodbye. Whether it’s the end of a relationship, the shattering of expectations or the silent grief of dreams that didn’t come to pass, we believe God still meets us in the middle of the pain.Th...
2025-06-1538 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesContentment In Christ (While Everyone Else Is Getting Married)What do you do when it feels like everyone else is finding love, building families and stepping into their “next”, while you’re still waiting?In this tender and honest episode, we speak to the hearts of those who feel overlooked, left behind or forgotten in the waiting season. We explore the quiet ache of unmet desires, the spiritual tension of longing and trust, and the deep truth that our identity and joy are not tied to timelines or relationship statuses, but rooted in Christ alone.This isn’t a call t...
2025-06-0827 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesFaith v/s Feeling - Navigating Lonliness & DesireLoneliness, longing, desire...we all feel them, but how do we respond when those feelings threaten to overwhelm our faith? In this honest and heartfelt episode, we open up a real conversation about what it means to live surrendered when your emotions are raw, your prayers feel unanswered, and your heart aches for something more.Together, we wrestle with the hard questions: How do you keep trusting God when loneliness lingers? How do you hold your desires with open hands without letting them consume you? And how do you distinguish between what you feel...
2025-06-0131 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesPart 2: Is There Such A Thing As "The One"? Traits of Counterfeits v/s Fruit of God-Ordained SpousesIn Part 2 of Is There Such a Thing as “The One”?, we dive deeper into one of the most important (and often overlooked) conversations: how to distinguish the traits of a counterfeit relationship from the fruit of a God-ordained union.Many people wonder, “How do I know if this person is really from God or just looks the part?”In this episode, we explore not just the red flags of counterfeit relationships (spiritual compromise, inconsistency, isolation etc.), but also the marks of a God-ordained relationship (peace, alignment, accountability, spiritual fruit).
2025-05-2532 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesIs There Such A Thing As "The One" - How To Recognize Your God-Ordained Spouse From CounterfeitsIs there really such a thing as “The One”? Or is that just a romantic myth wrapped in spiritual language?
In this heartfelt episode, we unpack the often misunderstood idea of a “God-ordained spouse.” We explore how to discern divine alignment, recognize red flags, and posture your heart to hear God clearly when it comes to love, relationships, and marriage.
We also explore the danger of counterfeits—relationships that look “right” but lead you away from God’s purpose—and how to guard your heart while waiting in faith.
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2025-05-1832 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesCovering Each Other: How To Be A Safe Space For Your PartnerIn every Kingdom marriage, there will be moments when your spouse needs more than correction, they need covering. In this episode, we explore what it means to be a safe space for your partner: emotionally, spiritually, and relationally.
Covering is not about ignoring sin, it’s about protecting your spouse’s heart while allowing God to do the work. It's about holding space, extending grace, and being the kind of partner that reflects the love of Christ, even in weakness and vulnerability.
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2025-05-1158 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesHow to Navigate Conflict in Kingdom RelationshipsConflict is inevitable in every marriage—but how we handle it determines whether it breaks us or builds us.
In this episode, we explore how Kingdom couples can navigate conflict in a way that protects covenant, fosters unity, and reflects the heart of God. You’ll learn why the goal isn’t to win arguments—but to win each other. We unpack the spiritual dangers of unresolved conflict, the wrong weapons we often use (pride, silence, defensiveness), and how to fight with grace, humility, and forgiveness.
Whether you’re in a tough season or simply want to strengthen how you and your s...
2025-05-071h 00A Surrendered Life with the KgailesThe Slow Life: Embracing the Pace of JesusIn this episode, we explore the sacred invitation to slow down and live at the pace of grace. In a world that glorifies hustle, noise, and constant motion, we’re learning how to embrace what we call the "slow life", a lifestyle rooted in intentional rest, spiritual rhythm and deep connection with God.
We talk about what it means to step off the treadmill of busyness, re-center our lives around what truly matters, and walk in sync with the gentle, unhurried rhythm of the Holy Spirit. This episode is all about trading pressure for presence and performance for peace.
2025-04-201h 01A Surrendered Life with the KgailesIdentity over AssignmentIn this episode, we explore a truth that’s often forgotten in today’s performance-driven culture: your worth is not in what you produce, but in who you are in Christ.
So many believers unknowingly tie their identity to titles, roles, and spiritual output—leading to burnout, insecurity, and comparison. But the Kingdom of God calls us to become before we do. Before God gives you an assignment, He confirms your identity.
2025-04-1357 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesSurrendering Personal Struggles and Finding RestorationWe all encounter personal struggles...whether it’s mental health, addiction, insecurity, trauma, financial hardship or spiritual dryness. But what sets Kingdom marriages and communities apart is this truth: we are not meant to carry these burdens alone or in silence.
In this episode, we dive into the healing journey of surrendering individual struggles and walking the path of restoration. Through biblical truths and honest conversation, we explore how vulnerability, spiritual unity, and divine grace create space for transformation in our relationships and lives.
2025-04-071h 03A Surrendered Life with the KgailesCombating and Discerning Spiritual Warfare on Kingdom Marriages/ RelationshipsIn this powerful episode of A Surrendered Life with the Kgailes, we uncover the often-unspoken reality of spiritual warfare in Kingdom marriages. Why are God-ordained unions such a threat to the enemy? How do we recognize when our marriage is under spiritual attack? How do we fight back in the Spirit? Using Scripture, wisdom, and practical insight, we explore how to guard your marriage through prayer, vulnerability, and unity. We dive deep into the enemy’s tactics and God’s strategies for restoration. This is a must-listen for couples who desire to walk in spiritual authority, protect their covenant, and adva...
2025-03-3057 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesThe Foundation of a Kingdom Relationship / MarriageIn this episode, we unpack the true foundation of a Kingdom relationship and marriage — one built not on self-interest, feelings, convenience, or culture, but on God's design, purpose, and presence.
We get real about what it means to surrender your love story to Christ, how to prioritize spiritual alignment, and why a strong Kingdom foundation is essential for enduring love and purpose-driven partnership.
2025-03-241h 02A Surrendered Life with the Kgailes“From the wilderness to the altar” - Our Marriage Testimony.In this episode, we go on a deeply personal journey through all that shaped our path to marriage. From seasons of waiting and refining to the undeniable moments of God’s hand at work, we share how our love story unfolded in His perfect timing. We share lessons we learned in the wilderness, the challenges, the faith tests, and the surrender that prepared us for the covenant of marriage. Through it all, we saw God’s faithfulness in ways we never expected.
2025-03-1758 minA Surrendered Life with the KgailesWelcome to A Surrendered LifeWelcome to A Surrendered Life with the Kgailes! In this episode, we dive into what it means to fully surrender to Jesus Christ. Join us as we embark on this journey of faith, love and generational impact.
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