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Psychoanalysis and AddictionPsychoanalysis and Addictions: Two analysts talk about their training during CovidAuthor and psychoanalyst Graeme Daniels welcomes guest Eric Miller to talk about psychoanalytic training amid the Covid crisis, controversies relating to DEI, and the dawning of the AI revolution, as written about in Graeme's latest book, An Analyst in Training, published by Bloomsbury.
2026-02-2243 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionPsychoanalysis and Addiction: Skipping over the ball and chainPsychoanalyst and author Graeme Daniels profiles a 2019 analytic paper by Graeme Taylor entitled "Creativity and Perversion: waiting for the muse", about a man beset with addictive paraphilia and a thwarting of creative impulse. Daniels observes how such an insight-oriented, in-depth treatment such as this would struggle to co-exist alongside the zeitgeist of infidelity treatment models that privilege guilt-leveraging interventions
2026-01-1547 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionIf a body catch a body: Holden Caulfield and PsychoanalysisPsychoanalyst and author Graeme Daniels continues his rumination on adolescence. In this episode, he reads passages from his book, An Analyst in Training, published this year by Bloomsbury, and from the novel, Catcher in the Rye, whose protagonist, Holden Caulfield, features as part of a motif in Graeme's non-fiction.
2025-11-2834 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionA Psychoanalytic Idea of Guilt (part one)In this episode, author and psychoanalyst Graeme Daniels further discusses the aftermath of the trial of AB1775 at the California Superior Court in August, including its anti-climactic judgement. Commentary explores the curious presence of guilt--of a subject of treatment, that of its providers, of an adjudicating state--amidst this battle over privacy rights.
2025-09-0839 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionThe trial about sex, child abuse, and the state's right to know about it!Get comfortable, because soon you won't be. Psychoanalyst and author Graeme Daniels, fresh from his front seat at the trial of child abuse reporting law AB1775, reports and comments upon the testimonies given, the cross examinations leveled, and the judgements made in the August 2025 trial that had been on hold for 6 six years, based upon a law about viewing child sexual abuse material (CSAM) that is now 10 years old. And the ending is shocking.
2025-09-021h 11Psychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Psychoanalysis 7: The "right to know" what happens in treatmentGraeme Daniels, psychoanalyst and author, presents the first of a two-part commentary about psychotherapy and privacy, pitting the needs of significant others, family, the community--even the state--against the needs for individuals to seek psychotherapeutic treatment with optimal confidentiality. The contexts are sexual infidelity and child abuse reporting law.
2025-08-2334 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Psychoanalysis 6: Psychoanalysis spars with a sex addiction specialistIn this episode, psychoanalyst and author Graeme Daniels chats with Dr. Davide, " the empathy coach" about infidelity and sex addiction treatment, exploring the "2 Es model of emphasis and empathy", and challenging the premises of the "right to know" ethos of many providers in this field
2025-08-1747 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Psychoanalysis 5: An Analyst in TrainingAuthor and psychoanalyst Graeme Daniels introduces his book, An Analyst in Training, published by Bloomsbury, in conversation with Portuguese psychologist Pedro Job. The compare training experiences in Portugal versus the United States, and discuss what motivates mid-career professionals to become psychoanalysts
2025-08-0955 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real about Psychoanalysis (4): On Kiss-Cams and Eagle-eyed Ge-jeansPsychoanalyst and author Graeme Daniels discusses Freud's concepts of infantile sexuality, slips, group psychology, plus latter-day analytic theories of a social unconscious within the context of today's quickly moving, disposable, and replaceable headlines
2025-08-0236 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Psychoanalysis (3): Broken Open in the Power DownPsychoanalyst and author Graeme Daniels speaks about the writings of Avgi Saketopoulou, commenting on her concepts of psychic overwhelm, transgressive play, affirmative and limit consent, in the context of sadomasochistic rituals, with an eye towards how such phenomena emerge in psychoanalytic treatment
2025-07-2131 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Psychoanalysis (2): Submission, surrender, masochism, and being eatenIn this episode, psychoanalyst Graeme Daniels talks about masochism, surrender and submission, weaving in theories of Freud, Klein, and Winnicott with reflections upon addiction, BDSM, repetition compulsion, even rape--all relating to a paper by Emmanuel Ghent from the nineties, plus the fifty year anniversary of a famous shark film
2025-07-0541 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Psychoanalysis: Sexualizing Asymmetric TimePsychoanalyst Graeme Daniels begins his newly re-configured podcast series with a review of a paper by Israeli psychiatrist/analyst Amit Saad: a paper about time arrows, the timelessness of the unconscious, causal loops, the Oedipal myth and Oedipal development, and what Saad describes as the "sexualizing of asymmetric time"
2025-06-1925 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction (bonus): Training and personality disorder, addiction, and...do I just hit pillows?Psychoanalyst Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, a Bloomsbury/Rowman & Littlefield publication, discusses the fraught cottage industry of personality disorder and addiction treatment training, lambasting in particular certificate programs that are reductive of complex phenomena
2025-05-2348 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction (bonus episode): That trial's been delayed again!Psychoanalyst Graeme Daniels, lead author of the book Getting Real About Sex Addiction (published by Rowman & Littlefield), excoriates the California Superior Court, which has once again delayed its trial of AB 1775, a 2015 law that amended now forty five year old child abuse laws to oblige psychotherapists to violate the confidentiality of patients who report viewing sexual material that depicts minors. Daniels paraphrases the case brief from the case plaintiffs that lays out the reasons this law should be ruled unconstitutional and overturned. The state is procrastinating!
2025-04-2935 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (21): Fecal missiles, Mother Earth, and God's warm hugGraeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, a Rowman & Littlefield/Bloomsbury publication, talks psychoanalysis, masculine ego, psychosis and addiction, with Portuguese psychologist Pedro Job, relating these subjects to the film and play, Dr. Strangelove.
2025-02-0957 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (20): The problem of mandated treatment, or none at allIn this follow-up to his discussion with AB1775 plaintiff Don Mathews, Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, a Rowman & Littlefield publication, speaks of laws that inhibit proper use of mental treatment, the implications for mandated treatment episodes, plus the problem of people being deterred from proper treatment altogether.
2025-01-2930 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4(19): Child abuse reporting law finally gets its court dateGraeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, published by Rowman & Littlefield, interviews Don Mathews, plaintiff in the forthcoming case against the state of California and a 2015 law originally named Assembly Bill 1775. This case, a decade in the making, is about privacy rights and psychotherapy versus the state's efforts to police child pornography
2025-01-1452 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (18): Who's the patient and what's the story?Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, published by Rowman & Littlefield, reads an email from a disgruntled impacted partner about responses to Esther Perel's State of Affairs. From this, Daniels discusses the problem of integrating perspectives amid a treatment culture that fosters taking sides.
2025-01-0245 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (17): SplitsGraeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses factions within the fields of sex addiction/infidelity treatment: the factions that purport to represent acting out or addicted individuals or their impacted partners. A typical scenario explored from two sides illustrates ideological biases and tacit rules.
2024-12-2236 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (16): Control behavior, not feeling, and don't try to converse with a tickIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, published by Rowman & Littlefield, discusses the problem of being a neurotic--not controlling how you feel--which underlies many addictions, which is about not controlling behavior. He also discusses in the spirit of the season the celebrated loners of yuletide literature, and cautions that guilt as an intervention works much more in Hollywood than it does anywhere else
2024-12-1728 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (15): Where am I going with that?Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, published by Rowman & Littlefield, talks about the vagaries of sex addiction or infidelity treatment--its flawed premises and biases--particularly with respect to treatment efficacy, and offers an anecdotal vignette as to how a psychoanalytic treatment might explore the mind of an addict in treatment.
2024-12-0633 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (14): Integrity disorder (part two)part two of Graeme Daniels' excoriation of contrived labeling in the field of sex addiction treatment.
2024-11-1730 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4(13): Integrity disorderGraeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, published by Rowman & Littlefield, discusses the language of mental health disorders, distinguishing for the listener categories that are prominent in social media but not standardized conditions as determined by the American Psychiatric Association or the World Health Organization, or peer-reviewed in professional literature.
2024-11-1230 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (12): Born Small, Addicted to Guilt (part two)Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, published by Rowman & Littlefield, reads part two of his analytic paper, "Born Small, Addicted to Guilt", presenting the case of Mr. D, illustrating the concept of repetition compulsion as it relates to self-punishing/pleasure-seeking behaviors of addiction, plus the displacement of guilt via patient/addict and--equally importantly--treatment provider-induced displacements of shame onto overwrought expressions of guilt.
2024-10-2849 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (11): Born Small, Addicted to Guilt (part one)Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, published by Rowman & Littlefield, offers a preview of his academic paper, "Born Small, Addicted to Guilt", about psychoanalytic treatment of addiction, ahead of his public presentation at the San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis.
2024-10-1535 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (10): The unconscious of the Wolf ManGraeme Daniels, lead author of the book, Getting Real About Sex Addiction, continues a discussion of the unconscious, venturing into a famous dream of a patient of Sigmund Freud's, dubbed "Wolf Man". The interpretation of his famous dream reveals (and represses) elements of aggression, fears of death, of castration anxiety relating to Oedipal wishes and a memory of a "primal scene".
2024-10-0134 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (9): Deconstructing the sex positiveIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, published by Rowman & Littlefield, discusses the implications, the subtext, and the truer meanings within the increasingly popular sex positive therapy movement.
2024-09-1828 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (8): The UnconsciousIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, talks in historical and Freudian terms about the unconscious as a centerpiece of a psychoanalytic approach to the treatment of somatic symptoms, inhibition, guilt, and loss.
2024-09-0334 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (7): A further reflection on women's infidelityIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, published by Rowman & Littlefield, reflects upon the recent guest appearance of Michelle Langley on the podcast, and considers further her opinions about female sexuality and the myths that society attaches both to women's infidelity and domestic violence.
2024-08-2035 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (6): A discussion about women's infidelity with author Michelle LangleyIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, welcomes guest Michelle Langley, author of Women's Infidelity: Living in Limbo: What women really mean when they say "I'm not happy", to discuss myths that men and society have about women's sexuality, and debunk the idea that women are less inclined towards infidelity than men
2024-08-0648 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (5): the paradox of marked distressGraeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses the World Health Organization's category of compulsive sexual behavior disorder (CSBD), focusing upon its ambiguous and complicated "marked distress" criteria for diagnosis
2024-07-1035 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (4): Empathy, validation, and projective identificationA mouthful of jargon? No, argues Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction. This episode presents common scenarios culled from dialogues between so-called sex addicts and their impacted or betrayed partners, and asks, what does it mean to be empathetic? to "validate" ? how does a feeling denied get communicated to another?
2024-06-2835 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (3): Jails, Institutions, death, and hurt feelingsGraeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses the emotional impact of problem sexual behaviors, both for PSBs and their impacted partners, and features a case illustration of a group discussing whether to reveal porn use to an impacted partner
2024-06-1830 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (2): religious bias with a progressive nodIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, riffs on numerous ideas previously addressed in this podcast series: where analytic perspectives on addiction fit in with the sex addiction field; the ethical/moral biases of practitioners, and how those biases play out among gender divides
2024-06-1045 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S4 (1): A positive review of the book!Opening podcast of season, Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, outlines topics that will be addressed on upcoming podcasts, including the re-framing of "the problem"; he then discusses a positive review of his and Joe Farley's book by Kirkus magazine, examining reviewers' comments in detail.
2024-06-0442 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (25): ShameIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and lead-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, contemplates the pros and cons of the sex addiction label from the point of view of the would-be addict and the impact partner, and then speaks of the intertwining of guilt and shame, in which false guilt, as perpetuated by sex addiction treatment models, often obscure attention to underlying shame
2024-05-0838 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (24): female sex addiction/women's infidelity (part two)Part two of this discussion, Graeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, offers some case illustrative descriptions culled from his work with female sex addicts/problem sexual behaviors--compares/contrasts with profiles exhibited by male patients--again referencing the writing of Michelle Langley
2024-04-2333 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (23): female sex addiction/women's infidelityGraeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses female sex addiction and women's infidelity, profiling the provocative insights of Michelle Langley, author of Women's Infidelity: Living in Limbo, and highlighting that book's compatibility with psychoanalytic theory
2024-04-2334 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (22): Short term treatment versus the in-depth long termGraeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, revisits the chestnut meta debate that exists between proponents of short term treatment options versus those, like Graeme, who advocate for a longer term commitment to in-depth treatment--as "triggered", by marketing tactics used by treatment programs.
2024-04-1533 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (21): sexual integrityGraeme Daniels, lead author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, welcomes therapist Eddie Capparucci as a guest to the podcast to discuss sex addiction and/or sexual compulsivity, plus the matter of how psychotherapy imparts, facilitates exploration of sexual mores, or imposes a society's values upon those who seek mental health treatment.
2024-04-0747 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (20): instinct and personality, nature and nurtureGraeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, riffs on ideas of instinct, personality development, Freudian theory, the rigidity of defenses, and relates these ideas to what happens when people seek help for their problems yet impulses still emerge
2024-03-1629 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (19): That child abuse reporting law is going to trial!Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, invites therapist and sex addiction expert Don Mathews back to the podcast to discuss a controversial, now nine year old California law about reporting use of underage porn that has moved through supreme and appellate courts and is now about to get its due in an LA superior courtroom. Don is an expert witness in the trial.
2024-03-0650 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (18): Psychodynamics, sexual compulsivity and positive psychologyIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, welcomes therapist Andrew Suuskind as a guest to discuss sexual compulsivity, the pathologizing of sex, psychodynamic underpinnings to problem sexual behavior, plus the fostering of emotional resilience and the embracing of imperfection.
2024-02-2147 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (17): The splits of Madonna-Whore and Saint-BruteIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses again the psychic defense of splitting in the context of one famously understood "split", Freud's Madonna Whore complex, and a lesser known female-to-male splitting analogy, the Saint-Brute.
2024-02-1531 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (16): All (or most) of what I have to say about SAIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, improvises a version of his recent webinar for the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH), about all things to do with psychoanalysis and sex addiction
2024-02-0252 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (15): the illusion of actionIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, contemplates the presence, the pedigree, the value (or not) of the phrase "actions speak louder than words" in modern culture, and what psychoanalysis, the business world, and the law, have to say, in actions and words, about this principle.
2024-01-1933 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (14): addiction as pleasure-seeking, shame avoidanceGraeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses addiction from a psychoanalytic and 12-step perspective, speaking of the importance of consciousness as a precursor to honesty; the problem that addicts often don't know what they're feeling because their defenses are so embedded.
2024-01-0531 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (13): on individual treatment versus couples therapyIn this episode, Graeme Daniels draws from a vignette from the book Getting Real About Sex Addiction, to discuss the relative merits of individual therapy or psychoanalysis versus couples therapy in the context of sex addiction or infidelity recovery treatment.
2023-12-2031 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (12): Three therapists talk about sex addiction treatmentIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, welcomes to the podcast two first time guests, therapists Jen Shelby and John Kravitz, to discuss their affiliation, work with sex addicts and impacted partners of sex addiction.
2023-12-1241 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (11): a review of "US"In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, reviews Terrence Real's 2022 book, "US", observing its relational life therapy model, which utilizes ideas grounded in psychoanalytic theory as well as modern neurobiology. Daniels further comments upon the book's application to couples therapy.
2023-11-2934 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (10): The Heart of Addiction (a review)Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, reviews the book The Heart of Addiction by Lance Dodes, M.D., and focuses upon its thesis: that "true" addictions have a psychological underpinning that entails unconscious defenses against infantile states of rage and helplessness
2023-11-1649 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (9): addiction treatment as a team approachThe pros and cons of working in a team: Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses the history/trend of treating addictions with a so-called team approach, highlighting the reasons that collaborative models are popular and worthwhile, exposing what is problematic pertaining to patient-clinician confidentiality
2023-11-0138 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (8): Exposure, shame, and AxolotlsIn this episode, Graeme Daniels and Joe Farley, authors of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, tell anecdotes about feeling exposed, shameful, under pressure, yet working through tough moments with a sense of dignity and resilience. The questions are: how do people cope with their most primitive insecurities? Who are we in such moments, and what can we summon from inside, our reptilian brains or our higher selves?
2023-10-1854 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (7): A case of impacted partner treatment revisitedIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, revisits intersectional issues, socio-political undercurrents that influence/infiltrate the therapeutic space of sex addiction treatment, and then applies these ideas to the case of an impacted partner previously spoken of in this series and profiled more comprehensively in the book.
2023-10-0644 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (6): What we have to say about SA (part two)Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, follows-up on matters of guilt, shame, the phenomena of repetition compulsion, defenses like displacement, with a discourse on how these ideas relate to female sex addiction and the treatment of impacted or betrayed partners.
2023-09-2256 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (5): What we have to say about SA (part one)In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, reviews some basics regarding SA treatment: SA as a diagnostic matter, the marginal yet influential role of psychoanalysis; extending from that, this episode reviews the significance of symptom-formation, displacement, acting out, and repetition compulsion, as important theoretical concepts that inform treatment approaches both within psychoanalysis and outside of its professional circles.
2023-09-081h 08Psychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (4): Perversion, part twoIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, previews his and Joe Farley's forthcoming webinar presentation at the annual conference of the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (whew-got that out!) with a second rumination on the subject of perversion with a nod towards Freudian and Kleinian psychoanalysis. Oh, and robots!
2023-08-2533 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (3): PerversionIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, talks about perversion from a psychoanalytic perspective, not a religious or moralistic one, and relates the subject to sex addiction treatment, plus concepts of voyeurism, fetishism, and masochism.
2023-08-1140 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (2): The Shadow of Esther Perel (part two)In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, addresses use of full disclosure exercises and polygraph examiners in sex addiction treatment, and follows-up upon a recent podcast about the views of Belgian therapist Esther Perel relating to infidelity and sexual mores in the 21st century
2023-07-2939 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S3 (1): Talking about Countertransference with sex addicts and their impacted partnersIn this first episode of season 3, Graeme Daniels and Joe Farley, co-authors of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, speak about the psychoanalytic concept of countertransference as a crucial aspect of treatment: the clinicians thoughts and feelings, drawn from the past, that transfer onto therapeutic relationships. An overview of theory and case illustration.
2023-07-171h 00Psychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (21): Talking about PsychoanalysisNo laugh track, applause, or gimmick sound effect on this one: two guys, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, and Pedro Job, clinical psychologist from Lisbon, Portugal, have an impromptu conversation about important concepts in psychoanalysis: projection, projective identification; about getting lost or else figuring out who we are, in relationship to others and ourselves, in any given moment.
2023-06-2238 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (20) The Shadow of Esther PerelIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, shares from his essay entitled "The Shadow of Esther Perel" which reviews the Belgian therapist's 2017 book, State of Affairs: rethinking infidelity, and links his commentary to psychoanalytic principles and in particular, the current state of sex addiction treatment.
2023-06-1530 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (19): the psychic defense of projectionIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, welcomes clinical psychologist Pedro Job as a guest from Portugal to discuss the psychic defenses of projection and projective identification: what is projecting into versus projecting onto, and how does this apply to the workings of addictive thinking.
2023-06-0745 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (18): Freud and Klein theories of Oral and (the other one) sadistic impulsesIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, gets back into analytic theory, expounding upon Freud's repetition compulsion, Melanie Klein's theories of projective identification, oral and anal sadistic impulses, and locates them as antecedents to some concepts that are prominent in modern day pop psychology.
2023-06-0334 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (17): Psychoanalysis and SA treatment amid Covid and related phenomenaIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, pays tribute to the late Martin Amis, a novelist and essayist who had something to say about porn addiction. Daniels also provides an informal post-mortem on the Covid-psychotherapy era: what's changed about how therapists work, how sex addicts play, and what might now stick around?
2023-05-2933 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (16): The Group Behind the Group (part two)In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, expands upon ideas of group psychology, adding elements that influence the practice of group therapy: from the tacit rules or "contracts" that bind groups, segregate groups, protect from external groups, to the habits that people exhibit when expressing themselves in company.
2023-05-2034 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (15): The Group Behind the GroupIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, wades again into the intersection of addiction theory and social mores, exploring how societal "groups" that are institutions, niche fields in psychotherapy, recovery movements, philosophical traditions, shape the values that are insinuated into mental health treatments.
2023-05-1036 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (14) You Have Been Lied To!In this episode, Graeme Daniels and Joe Farley, authors of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, talk about how the consumer of psychotherapy and addiction services has been lied to about what is effective treatment, providing illustrations from their book, including contemporary empirical research on treatment efficacy.
2023-04-301h 03Psychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (13): a commentary on verbal and non-verbal communication and addictionIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, again remarks on the staples of psychotherapy, this time time commenting upon non-verbal versus verbal communication, citing illustrations relevant to addiction and couples' communication, and relaying theory by the likes of D.W. Winnicott, Jacques Lacan, and Sigmund Freud.
2023-04-1833 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2(12): calling out the staples of psychotherapyIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, critiques some commonplace ideas within psychotherapy, remarking on the verbosity with which ideas of empathy, "boundaries", "I" statement prescription, love language tropes are invoked and dispensed in the field of treatment
2023-04-1236 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (11): Flowers are (not) the solutionIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, shares a short story that illustrates conflict avoidance, inhibition, plus fantasies of disinhibition and redemption via a symbol of romance and apology, in the context of a group experience.
2023-04-0430 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (10): Schizoid personality typeNo tik tok video with someone reading off symptoms from a diagnostic standards manual. Graeme Daniels and Joe Farley, authors of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discuss Schizoid personality disorder and/or type in the context of recent podcasts about Narcissism and Borderline Personality disorder, trace the history of psychoanalytic theory relating to Schizoid personality, and relate the phenomenon to a certain profile of sex addict
2023-03-2851 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (9): listening to and reading about sex addictionTeasingly curious title, maybe? Graeme Daniels reads a few passages from his and Joe Farley's book, Getting Real About Sex Addiction, contextualizes its content, both in terms of sex addiction treatment and psychoanalytic theory, but also with respect to current events
2023-03-2232 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (8): is sex addiction an excuseRight up there with the question, is this a thing? In this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and co-author of the book, Getting Real About Sex Addiction, takes a brief swipe at this topical question/issue, observing nuances from previous discussions on this subject, most notably how notions of "sickness and health" as it pertains to the disease concept of addiction, influence strong reactions for and against the concept of sex addiction in particular
2023-03-1427 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (7): Borderline Personality DisorderNo, not a cheesy "how to spot and deal with a borderline" show. Graeme Daniels and Joe Farley, psychoanalytic psychotherapists and co-authors of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discuss the controversial diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), comparing it to Narcissistic Personality Disorder, reviewing its history in the field of psychoanalysis, tracing its theoretical etiology, and comparing psychoanalytic treatment of BPD with contemporary methods like Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
2023-03-0759 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (6): Misogyny and MisandryGraeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses the undercurrents of hate, and in particular gendered hate, that exist within sex addiction, and with the human mind in general, as a product of our primitive capacity for splitting defenses
2023-02-2548 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (5): Excess drive and betrayal, the two benchmarks of SAIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses recently historical criteria for assessing sex addiction, citing proposed diagnostic categories, and separates that consideration from the observation of discovery and betrayal phenomenon, which so often serve as that which leverages a therapeutic intervention
2023-02-1838 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (4): more on impacted partners, blaming, psychoanalytic and alternative approachesIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, re-visits the treatment of impacted partners, discusses controversies around victim-blaming, revisits the matter of denied experiences, revisited memories, the theory of Apres Coup, plus additional comment about the case illustration of Anne.
2023-02-1031 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (3): Secrets keep you sickGraeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses this well-known 12-step recovery slogan in the context of a psychoanalytic treatment, a would-be couples therapy episode that will address sexually acting out, seen through a psychoanalytic lens. This poses the question, what happens if a patient says, "should I tell my partner why I'm seeking treatment?"
2023-01-2734 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (2): case illustration of an impacted partner of sex addictionIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist, recounts a case illustration of an impacted partner of sex addiction, taken from his and Joe Farley's book, Getting Real About Sex Addiction. Daniels speaks to the trauma, both recent and historical, that manifests in the patient's life, distorting relationships yet playing out live in the treatment process.
2023-01-1735 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction S2 (1): Review of season one ideas, preview of more to comeWelcome to season two and the year 2023! Graeme Daniels, psychoanalytic psychotherapist and co-author of the book, Getting Real About Sex Addiction, reviews all the principles, facts, and theories discussed in season 1 relating to sex addiction treatment and psychoanalysis, and previews how these areas will be expanded upon in season 2.
2023-01-0352 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 21: addiction, 12-step recovery, therapy and analysisin this episode, Graeme Daniels and Joe Farley, authors of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, are joined by recovery specialist Haven Jo Beck to discuss addiction, the history of the 12-step movement as influenced (or not) by psychoanalysis, plus the bridge between 12-step recovery and in-depth psychotherapy.
2022-12-2054 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 20: the roots of sex addiction, part two (feminist theories)In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, revisits the roots of sex addiction matters, this time sketching and commenting upon feminist theories from psychoanalysis that are popular both within sex addiction treatment and across psychotherapeutic models
2022-12-0933 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 19: etiology, the theoretical roots of sex addictionIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses etiological, psychoanalytic theories that relate to sex addiction, contrasting the ideas of attachment theory, Freudian psychoanalysis, and modern psychoanalytic thinkers like Jean LaPlanche.
2022-11-2632 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 18: treating Narcissism alongside sex addictionIn this episode, Graeme Daniels and Joe Farley, authors of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discuss treatment of Narcissism in the context of sex addiction: as a legitimate point of clinical concern, and also as a weaponized, dubiously applied label.
2022-11-1256 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 17: group therapy/group psychology and sex addictionIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, profiles the uses of the group format in the treatment of sex addiction, the influence of the 12 step movement with respect to group psychology, and discusses psychoanalytic theory relating to group psychology, drawing upon the writings of Sigmund Freud and Wilfred Bion
2022-11-0435 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 16: sex addiction, child abuse reporting, privacy lawsIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, and guest Don Mathews discuss a controversial California law pertaining to child abuse reporting that has significantly impacted the treatment of sex addiction over the last decade.
2022-10-2049 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction: the sex addiction of Dr. StrangeloveGraeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, reprises a presentation about psychoanalysis, sex addiction, and the classic black comedy, Dr. Strangelove, featuring impersonations, commentary, film and musical clips. Based on a 2021 presentation entitled "Dr. Strangelove in the 21st century, or how I learned to stop worrying and love the virus" (click on link) at the "Creativity and Madness" conference
2022-10-081h 00Psychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 14: Riding the high you're disgusted withIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, shares a short story vignette about a male sex addict in a typical "triggering" situation, prefacing the creative illustration with an exposition of two important Freudian concepts: repetition compulsion and death instinct.
2022-09-2530 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 12: how an addict thinks (or doesn't)In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses addiction from the POV of a psychoanalytic theory of thinking. Addicts don't like to think, or they fear thinking, is the idea. Daniels also speaks of how sex addicts dichotomize their own sexuality and that of objects, referencing Freud's famous Madonna Whore complex.
2022-09-0334 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 11: case illustrationsIn this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, discusses a case illustration of an angry impacted partner from the book, who exhibits splitting defenses, dichotomizing self and others. Daniels also references the work of analyst Vamik Volkan, drawing attention to the analytic treatment of a female sex addict.
2022-08-2737 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 9: an analytic approach, how it looks and sounds (2)In this episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, expands commentary on how confidentiality is managed in a sex addiction treatment episode, and then introduces an important feature of psychoanalytic method, the stance of abstinence and/or therapeutic neutrality, which may not be quite what you think it is.
2022-07-2932 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 8: an analytic approach, how it looks and soundsPsychoanalytic psychotherapist Graeme Daniels, co-author of the book, Getting Real About Sex Addiction, published by Rowman & Littlefield, reiterates some analytic concepts that are relevant to sex addiction treatment, seeks to demystify the psychoanalytic model by offering a few illustrations
2022-07-2336 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 7: gender bias in the treatment of male versus female sex addictsPsychoanalytic therapist Graeme Daniels talks about sex addiction/problem sexual behaviors via the lens of psychoanalysis, drawing from his and Joe Farley's book, Getting Real About Sex Addiction. In this episode, he speaks of the ways male sex addicts are treated differently than female sex addicts, starting with the curious discrepancy between rates of men versus women being treated for the condition.
2022-07-1534 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 6: Trauma model and the treatment of sex addicts and their partnersPsychoanalytic therapist Graeme Daniels talks about sex addiction/problem sexual behaviors via the lens of psychoanalytic theory, drawing from the book he co-authored, Getting Real About Sex Addiction. In this episode, he interweaves an ongoing discussion of intrapsychic splitting with theories of developmental trauma, with applications for both acting out individuals and their impacted partners. Much reference in this podcast to the theories of Freudian analyst and trauma treatment pioneer, Sandor Ferenczi.
2022-07-0938 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 5: ethics and politicsPsychoanalytic therapist Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, talks further about the analytic concept/defense of splitting, offering an illustration of craving states split from reflective states of regret, plus splitting in the form of rigid thinking, false states of certainty; he further speaks of gaslighting as a concept that actually yields a contrary ethos, and addresses the matters of sex addiction specialties (CSATS), sexual abuse reporting requirements, and so-called "no secrets" policies in sex addiction treatment.
2022-07-0236 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 4: ethics and politicsThis next episode wades into areas of ethics, sexual and gender politics, employing the psychoanalytic concepts of splitting and projection. Psychanalytic therapist Graeme Daniels discusses these ideas in the context of his and Joe Farley's book, Getting Real About Sex Addiction.
2022-06-2434 minPsychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 31/2 hour episode featuring psychotherapist and author Graeme Daniels talking about his co-authored book, Getting Real About Sex Addiction, and discussing the relevance of psychoanalytic theory to the field of sex addiction.
2022-06-1836 min
Psychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction 21/2 hour episode, Graeme Daniels, co-author of Getting Real About Sex Addiction, introduces some basics about sex addiction and psychoanalysis, giving the listener a fuller didactic introduction to the involved discussions that will follow in this series.
2022-06-1034 min
Psychoanalysis and AddictionGetting Real About Sex Addiction IntroIntroduction to podcast series based upon the book Getting Real About Sex Addiction, as published by Rowman & Littlefield. Authors Graeme Daniels and Joe Farley will be speaking about all matters relating to sex addiction and psychoanalysis
2022-06-0113 min