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Unwanted FraternityUF Season 3 Episode 20: Dating Again, our storyIt's really difficult to get back out there and start dating again. In this 2 part series, Greg and Jen share all that was involved with getting back out into the dating scene. This candid look shares both sides of the picture.
2025-05-2238 minUnwanted FraternityUf Season 3 Episode 19: Interview with Director of Health and Wellness at VCSIn this episode, Greg and Jen interview Chizzy Anderson, Director of Health and Wellness at Valley Christian School, Chandler, AZ. Chizzy shares her experiential wisdom with Greg and Jen on how she helps students navigate grief, divorce, and trials as they try to complete school responsibilities.
2025-05-1550 minUnwanted FraternityUF Season3 Episode 18: Licensed Counselor Claire PachuiloJoin Greg and Jen and special guest Claire Pachuilo, licensed marriage and family counselor, as they dive a little deeper into the world of mental health and the effects of grief and loss on children and families. Claire's extensive experience in such approaches as Internal Family Systems (IFS), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), as well as Dialectal Behavioral Therapy (DBT) gives her great insight into how the mind and body processes trauma.
2025-05-0740 minUnwanted FraternityUF S3E17: Special Guest Bailey Tonkinson on CounselingJoin Greg and Jen as the discuss the benefits of counseling with special guest Bailey Tonkinson. Bailey shares his insight into the importance of getting the right help when going through grief.
2025-05-0241 minUnwanted FraternityUF Season 3 Episode 16: Discussing Biblical CounselingAs we begin this series on Biblical counseling, Greg and Jen begin the discussion on what is Biblical counseling and the benefits of talking through your grief. In this series, we will have guests on to talk about their own experiences as well as professional counselors offering their expertise.
2025-04-2630 minUnwanted FraternityUF Season 3 Episode 15: Our Kids' ReactionsEveryone responds to grief differently. In this episode, Greg and Jen revisit Day 1 of telling the kids about what happened. Greg shares how his kids handled losing their mom and Jen shares how her kids handled hearing Dad was moving out.
2025-04-1743 minUnwanted FraternityUF Season 3 Episode `14: Jen's Story Pt. 4 The Final ChapterThe final chapter of Jen's story is shared in this episode. Listen as Jen shares what life was like directly following the divorce and how she created a new normal.
2025-04-1039 minUnwanted FraternityUF Season 3 Episode 13: Jen's Story Pt. 3This second to last installment of Jen's story dives deeper into the realities of going through a divorce. She discusses the difficulties of talking through mediation and the reality of those first few times you have to drop the kids off at the other person's place.
2025-04-0445 minUnwanted FraternityUF Season 3 Episode 12: Jen's Story Pt.2Jen continues to share her story as she brings us through the last part of the end of her marriage.
2025-03-2746 minUnwanted FraternityUF Season 3 Episode 11: Jen's Story Pt. 1Recently Greg shared his story, and in this episode, Jen shares hers. In part 1, Jen shares what it was like going through the initial loss of a marriage.
2025-03-2146 minUnwanted FraternityUF Season 3 Episode 10: Marriage and Family SeriesGreg and Jen are beginning a series on Marriage and Family when it comes to the Fraternity. You don't want to miss this series as they go deep into topics like divorce, counseling, parenting other people's kids, etc.
2025-03-1335 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Season 3 Episode 9: March 6 Greg's StoryIn this episode, Greg shares his story and the raw emotions that come with being in the "day of" the tragedy each year. Listen as he shares his story and experiences.
2025-03-0737 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Season 3 Episode 8: People BeforeIn this last part of the series, Greg and Jen talk about the wisdom that can be gained from leaning into those who have journeyed before us. They jump into the Bible to feature some key men and women who have grieved well.
2025-02-2742 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Season 3 Episode 7: People NewIn this episode, Greg and Jen tackle the topic of dating again after loss and all the "News" that come with life after loss. Listen as Greg and Jen share the ups and downs of dating all the way from "how do you flirt" to "who is a good fit"! As well, they touch on how difficult it is to encounter new experiences when they could trigger old emotions. So much in this episode!
2025-02-1931 minUnwanted FraternityUF Season 3 Episode 6: People Left Behind (The Kids)In this episode, Greg and Jen dive a little deeper into the topic of those left behind after loss. They discuss the kids, and more specifically what happens when the kids go through grief and their community happens to exist mostly on social media. The use of technology to chronicle grief can be tricky, especially for teens. Don't miss this episode!
2025-02-1334 minUnwanted FraternityUF Season 3 Episode 5: People Left BehindIn this episode, Greg and Jen discuss those left behind after loss. There is so much life to sort through when you enter into the Fraternity. This episode focuses on the influence you have over others. It's difficult to keep emotions in check when you are grieving and yet it is so important.
2025-02-0635 minUnwanted FraternityUF Season 3 Episode 4: Stories of Love After LossIn this episode, Greg and Jen share several stories of those who have lost loved ones and tried to start life again after loss. Listen in as they discuss the ups and downs of this process and also bring in the hope of Christ.
2025-01-3036 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Season 3: Timeless Truths of GriefIn the Fraternity, there are timeless truths that come with grief and loss. Listen as Greg and Jen talk about this from two perspectives of people lost (death and broken relationships). Whether this is day 1 or day 1,000, these timeless truths will encourage and guide you ultimately toward healing through Christ.
2025-01-2333 min
Unwanted FraternitySeason 3 Episode 2People lost. Greg and Jen take a deep dive in to the difficulties of losing someone to death or divorce. They bring in Scripture to support the process of moving forward.
2025-01-1533 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Season 3 Episode 1We're back! Greg and Jen are back with new content for Season 3. Throughout this season, Greg and Jen will go deep into the topics that are sometimes difficult to work through in the Fraternity like understanding others' perspectives, taking care of your own needs, and handling the bumps life hands you after you think you have healed. This is all brought to you through the lens of the Bible. You don't want to miss this season!
2025-01-0926 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Relationships: MarriageIn this episode, Greg and Jen introduce the 10-week series on Unwanted Fraternity Relationships. During this series, they will discuss topics like marriage, family time, conflict, divorce, and blended families.
2023-09-2826 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Mental Health & The Church, Pt 6In this episode, Jen & Greg finish their discussion on Mental Health by discussing what options there have been, and are, for the local church. So many decisions are made by a local pastor and volunteer board of elders involving the congregation that often this issue of mental health gets bypassed. Listen in as the couple discusses what can be done at the local church level to help those in need.
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2023-09-1428 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Mental Health & the Bible, Pt 5In this episode, Jen & Greg continue their discussion on Mental Health and the Bible. The couple focuses on mental health & men in the Bible, Join the Tonkinsons for a biblically based discussion on mental health!
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2023-08-2428 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Mental Health & the Bible, Pt 4In this episode, Jen & Greg continue their discussion on Mental Health and the Bible. The couple focuses on mental health & men in the Bible. Join the Tonkinsons for a biblically based discussion on mental health!
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2023-08-1726 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Mental Health & the Bible, Pt 3In this episode, Jen & Greg continue their discussion on Mental Health and the Bible. The couple focuses on mental health & women in the Bible, particularly the woman with blood (Luke 8) and Naomi/Ruth (Ruth). Join the Tonkinsons for a biblically based discussion on mental health!
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2023-08-1026 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Mental Health & Bible, Pt 2In this episode, Jen & Greg continue their discussion on Mental Health and the Bible. Amazingly, mental health issues are not a modern phenomenon! Traumatic events took place thousands of years ago and they're recorded in the Bible! Listen in as the Tonkinsons discuss some of these events. As well, the couple will share incredible (and practical) resources pertaining to mental health.
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2023-08-0328 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Mental Health & the Bible, Pt 1In this episode, Jen & Greg address Bible characters who were challenged with moments of trauma. Join the couple as they dive into the Scriptures and learn from God through these amazing men and women!
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2023-07-2728 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Highlights of Mental Health and Grief showsIn this episode, Jen & Greg recap the previous 10 podcasts pertaining to Mental Health and Grief. Join the couple as they look back on an amazing 10 episodes! Also, listen in for some valuable mental health resources that you can tap in to as well as share with others!
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2023-07-2028 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realties - Mental Health & Men - Kevin Meek, Pt 2In this episode, Greg concludes his discussion with Kevin Meek regarding mental health and men. Kevin shares his story, the ups and downs, how the church has responded to mental health, and what he has found as success in this area. A must listen!
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2023-07-1327 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Mental Health & Men, Kevin Meek, Pt 1In this episode, Greg interviews Kevin Meek to discuss mental health and men. Kevin shares his riveting story of his challenges and successes through the years. You will not want to miss this first (of two) episodes to hear Kevin's insight and wisdom on mental health and men. His story will grip you!
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2023-07-0627 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Mental Health & Women - Donna Raum & Nicole Tonkinson, Pt 2Jennifer, Nicole, and Donna continue their discussion on Mental Health and Women. Donna and Nicole (mother and daughter) dive deeper into the this topic by addressing their own journeys, how women in the church have responded, and what can be done to continue encouraging women who are struggling with mental health issues. You'll want to tune in to this episode!
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2023-06-2927 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Mental Health & Women - Donna Raum & Nicole Tonkinson, Pt 1Join Jennifer, Nicole, and Donna as they have a much needed discussion on Mental Health and Women. Donna and Nicole (mother and daughter) share their stories and give valuable insight into this topic. You will want to tune in to this two-part series!
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2023-06-2228 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Mental Health & The Church - David Ruybalid, Pt 2In this episode, Jen & Greg continue a fascinating discussion with special guest David Ruybalid on mental health and the church. David's wisdom, intellect, and love for God's people provides an amazing discussion on such a needed topic! Do not miss this episode!
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2023-06-1527 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Mental Health & The Church - David Ruybalid, Pt1In this episode, Jen & Greg are joined by special guest David Ruybalid to discuss mental health and the church. You are not going to want to miss this fascinating discussion as the couple dive in head first with David into a discussion that involves David's story and his wisdom on mental health and the local church!
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2023-06-0827 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Mental Health & Youth - Dom P. & Claire G., Pt. 2In this episode, Jen and Greg continue this fascinating discussion with Dom Pachuilo and Claire Graff about mental health and youth. Incredible stories and keen insight will keep you tuned in! Dom & Claire open up their wealth of knowledge and insight into this topic! Listening to this couple is a must!
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2023-06-0128 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Mental Health & Youth - Dom P. & Claire G., Pt. 1In this episode, Jen and Greg have the privilege of talking with Dom Pachuilo and Claire Graff about mental health and youth. Their stories and professional work will immediately draw you in! Join us for this two-part series on such a powerful, an important topic – mental health and youth. Learn from this couple how to understand and wrestle with mental health challenges amidst grief.
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2023-05-2527 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Mental Health & Marriage - Shawna Meek Pt 2In this episode, Jen & Greg continue their unbelievable discussion with Trauma Coach, Shawna Meek. Shawna reveals to the couple not only how she survived infidelity in her marriage, but also how God restored her marriage to Kevin in ways neither could anticipate. Shawna has much needed wisdom for our listeners on what to do when you experience trauma in a marriage. A must listen to!
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2023-05-1826 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Mental Health & Marriage - Shawna Meek Pt 1In this episode Jen & Greg have the pleasure of spending time with Trauma Coach, Shawna Meek. Shawna's story is one you will not be disappointed in! Join us as we dive in to how God worked in Shawna and Kevin's marriage through the tremendous highs and devastating lows. You do not want to miss this epidsode!
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2023-05-1126 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit, Self-Control - Caden & Nicole TonkinsonIn this episode, Jen & Greg Tonkinson continue their discussion with Caden & Nicole Tonkinson on the topic of self-control. The young married couple share their thoughts on how they grow in self-control as a couple and as individuals, and how they have exercised self-control in their grief. Powerful moments in this episode from Caden & Nicole!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.2023-05-0426 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit, Self-Control - Caden & Nicole TonkinsonIn this episode, Jen & Greg Tonkinson continue their discussion with Caden & Nicole Tonkinson on the topic of self-control. The young married couple share their thoughts on how they grow in self-control as a couple and as individuals, and how they have exercised self-control in their grief. Powerful moments in this episode from Caden & Nicole!
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2023-05-0426 minUnwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit, Gentleness - Caden & Nicole TonkinsonIn this episode, Jen & Greg have the pleasure of interviewing Caden & Nicole Tonkinson on the topic of gentleness. Caden & Nicole share their powerful stories of how their challenging upbringing helped shape their lives, how gentleness affects dealing with grief, and the joys and challenges of being newly married. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.2023-04-2726 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit, Gentleness - Caden & Nicole TonkinsonIn this episode, Jen & Greg have the pleasure of interviewing Caden & Nicole Tonkinson on the topic of gentleness. Caden & Nicole share their powerful stories of how their challenging upbringing helped shape their lives, how gentleness affects dealing with grief, and the joys and challenges of being newly married.
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2023-04-2726 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit - FaithfulnessIn this episode, Jen & Greg launch in to a frank discussion on an aspect of the Fruit of the Spirit that is easy to understand but very difficult to apply - faithfulness. Join in on the discussion and listen to how UF members can receive God's faithfulness and apply that faithfulness to others, even during the trying times of life.
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2023-04-2026 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit - KindnessIn this episode, Jen & Greg discuss the benefits and challenges of practicing kindness. Join them as they dive head first in to this wonderful episode!
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2023-04-1426 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit - GoodnessIn this episode, Jen & Greg tackle the difficult topic of goodness. Greg leads this discussion and focuses on God's goodness, our need to act with goodness, the logical aspect of goodness, and the experiential aspect of goodness. The couple attempt to answer such questions like, What is goodness?, How can God be good if my life is so painful?, and, Why is it so hard to act with goodness? Too much to talk about in too little time!
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2023-04-0627 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit - Patience, Pt 3In this episode, Jen & Greg pick up where they left off - talking about patience. Jen leads this discussion on the real challenges and tremendous blessings of living in a spirit of patience while navigating tragedy. Join us for a very honest discussion on patience!
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2023-03-3028 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit, Patience - Coach and Cindy Gilliland, Pt 2In the second of this two-part episode, Jen & Greg spend the episode with special guests Damon "Coach" and Cindy Gilliland. The couple share their experience with cancer which hit Coach not only once, but twice. Join the conversation and listen to how this amazing couple dealt with tragic news and how they continue to place their hope in Jesus!
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2023-03-2327 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit, Patience - Coach and Cindy Gilliland, Pt 1In this episode, Jen & Greg spend the episode with special guests Damon "Coach" and Cindy Gilliland. The couple share their experience with cancer, how it has impacted them and where they find the strength to exhibit patience in the midst of a severe storm. Don't miss this first of two episodes with Coach and Cindy!
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2023-03-1627 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit - Joy Pt 4, Andra GoodIn this episode, Jen & Greg continue their discussion with friend and CEO of Leighs Mission (www.leighsmission.com), Andra Good. Andra and Jen discuss their friendship, an amazing story given all of the circumstances. Andra and Leigh Ann were best friends and now God brought another person into Greg's life. Hear how God wove together yet another beautiful friendship in the midst of uncertainty!
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2023-03-0928 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit - Joy Pt 3, Andra GoodIn this episode, Jen & Greg continue their discussion with friend and CEO of Leighs Mission (www.leighsmission.com), Andra Good. Andra shares the story of Leigh's Mission and how God used tragedy to display His lovingkindness through this incredible non-profit. Hear how Andra began to find joy in the midst of her pain through serving others!
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2023-03-0228 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit - Joy, Andra Good Pt 2In Part 2 of this 4-part series, Jen & Greg interview friend and CEO of Leigh's Mission, Andra Good. Andra shares her experience of losing her best friend, the grief that followed, and what God has chosen to do with that experience. Andra highlights the aspect of joy (Fruit of the Spirit) she did and did not experience throughout her journey of loss. You don't want to miss this interview!
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2023-02-1627 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit - Joy, Andra Good Pt 1In Part 1 of this 4-part series, Jen & Greg interview friend and CEO of Leigh's Mission, Andra Good. Andra shares her experience of losing her best friend, the grief that followed, and what God has chosen to do with that experience. Andra highlights the aspect of joy (Fruit of the Spirit) she did and did not experience throughout her journey of loss. You don't want to miss this interview!
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2023-02-0928 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit - Peace Pt 2In this episode, Jen & Greg wrap up their discussion on one of the more challenging Fruit of the Spirit, peace. Challenging because our society is plagued with experiencing the opposite of peace by way of stress, anxiety, burdened, and overwhelmed. The couple will look at what the Bible says about peace and how to live in peace even amidst your pain.
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2023-02-0228 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit - Peace Pt 1In this episode, Jen & Greg discuss the aspect of the Fruit of the Spirit known as peace. The two will work through various aspects of peace including when they've both experienced peace and why peace is so hard to obtain and maintain.
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2023-01-2628 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit - Love Pt 2In this episode, Jen & Greg continue the discussion on the Fruit of the Spirit. The focus for this episode is on the first aspect of the Fruit of the Spirit - love. The couple will focus on how important it is to understand how much God loves us and how that should shape how we love others, especially during seasons of grief. Come and join the conversation on what it means to love and be loved!
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2023-01-1928 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Fruit of the Spirit - Love Pt 1In this episode, Jen & Greg discuss how to faithfully embrace and live out the Fruit of the Spirit, beginning with love. The couple will focus on defining love, God's love for His Son, and His love for us, as well as offer some practical advice for maintaining love in the midst of pain.
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2023-01-1227 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Press On!In this episode, Jen and Greg encourage their listeners to consider a couple of ideas as they enter into 2023 - God Matters Most, and, Press On! The couple discuss what 2022 brought everyone and if a grade was given in various areas of life, how would you have done?! What about in your walk with the Lord? Amidst the pain many have experienced in 2022, you can trust that God still matters most and that He wants you to press on in 2023!
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2023-01-0527 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Focus on TodayIn this episode, Jen and Greg discuss two options to consider as you move into the New Year - Adjust Your Thinking from Tomorrow to Today, and, Adjust your Actions from Random to Routine. The couple discuss the importance, when going through grief, to accept God's promises that "His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness." (Lam 3:23)
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2022-12-2927 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Surviving the Holidays, Pt 3In this episode, Jen & Greg continue their discussion, Surviving the Holidays. This is the 3rd and final episode of a 3-part episode that will dive into helping Fraternity members survive and even thrive during the holiday season. You do not want to miss these episodes!
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2022-12-2227 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Surviving the Holidays, Pt 2In this episode, Jen & Greg continue their discussion, Surviving the Holidays. This is the 2nd of a 3-part episode that will dive into helping Fraternity members survive and even thrive during the holiday season. You do not want to miss these episodes!
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2022-12-1528 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Surviving the Holidays Pt 1In this episode, Jen & Greg embark on the discussion, Surviving the Holidays. This is a 3-part episode that will dive into helping Fraternity members survive and even thrive during the holiday season. You do not want to miss these episodes!
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2022-12-0828 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Being ThankfulIn this episode, Jen & Greg discuss all they're thankful for since the inception of Unwanted Fraternity. The couple praise God for all He's blessed them with not the least of which are all the UF members they've met along the way who have shared their stories of pain, grief, hope, and redemption.
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2022-12-0128 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Cindi Wong Interview Pt 2In this episode, Jen & Greg conclude their interview with Cindi Wong. Cindi's story is unique on so many levels that it will take two episodes to discuss all that Cindi has been through. Cindi's story is one of trauma, grief, and horrific circumstances, but balanced with faith, joy, and healing. Tune in for this special two-part interview!
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2022-11-2427 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Interview Cindi Wong Pt 1In this episode, Jen & Greg interview Cindi Wong. Cindi's story is unique on so many levels that it will take two episodes to discuss all that Cindi has been through. Cindi's story is one of trauma, grief, and horrific circumstances, but balanced with faith, joy, and healing. Tune in for this special two-part interview!
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2022-11-1727 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Foundational Values...Jesus Is...Holy Spirit Is...In this episode, Jen & Greg continue their discussion on some core values of the Unwanted Fraternity, most importantly that true healing can only be found in Christ. The two discuss aspects of Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit that prove why they can be trusted to deliver you from your pain!
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2022-11-1027 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Foundational Values...God isIn this episode (our 25th episode!), Jen & Greg discuss one of the foundational values in Unwanted Fraternity and that is this, ultimate healing can only be found in Christ. And if we want to pull it back even just a little further, ultimate healing can only be found in the triune Godhead. God the Father, God the Son, God the Holy Spirit. Today, we are praising God the Father for being our Provider and Deliverer.
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2022-11-0327 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - When You Cannot Relate, Pt 2In this episode, Greg continues his interview with Jen regarding what it is like to date and eventually marry a widower. Is it possible to have a healthy relationship with someone who still has a love for someone else? Listen in to what it was like for Jen to date a man who was in a happy marriage that was suddenly taken from him. She'll answer questions about jealousy, comparisons, and eventually trusting in God's plan.
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2022-10-2727 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - When You Cannot Relate, Pt 1In this episode, Greg interviews Jen regarding what it is like to date and eventually marry a widower. Listen in to what it was like for Jen to date a man who was in a happy marriage that was suddenly taken from him. She'll answer questions about jealousy, comparisons, and eventually trusting in God's plan.
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2022-10-2026 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Interview with Josh & Lexi Bera, Pt 2In the second of a two-part episode, Jen & Greg have the honor of interviewing Josh and Lexi Bera. Josh and Lexi are a young couple who have been married for two years and by looking at them, one would think they are living the ideal life. But Josh and Lexi were both unexpectedly diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when they were teens (Josh 18, Lexi 16). Join us and listen to this courageous couple discuss the disease, family, faith, and dating! You will be inspired for sure!
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2022-10-1327 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Interview with Josh & Lexi Bera, Pt 1In the first of a two-part episode, Jen & Greg have the honor of interviewing Josh and Lexi Bera. Josh and Lexi are a young couple who have been married for two years and by looking at them, one would think they are living the ideal life. But Josh and Lexi were both unexpectedly diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when they were teens (Josh 18, Lexi 16). Join us and listen to this courageous couple discuss the disease, family, faith, and dating! You will be inspired for sure!
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2022-10-0628 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Jesus is our Number OneIn this episode, Jen & Greg will address the fine line between having a healthy vs. unhealthy perspective after loss. Losing someone should involve grieving and lamenting. But could it be that some of us have moved that person into a position only reserved for God and without even knowing it, we made that person somewhat of an idol in our life? Listen in as the two discuss this sensitive topic!
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2022-09-2927 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Dating During GriefIn this episode, Jen & Greg try to tackle the topic of dating during grief. Many Fraternity members have lost a loved one or have been through a divorce. What's it like to "get back out there?"! They'll share some stories and give some biblical wisdom for those thinking about dating once again.
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2022-09-2227 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - God’s TimingIn this episode, Jen & Greg discuss what it means to live by God's timing. They cover two aspects of this including 1) How can we best use the time we have, and, 2) God's promises to accomplish His will all the while providing for His children.
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2022-09-1428 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - God, Bless MeIn this episode, Jen & Greg will discuss the awesome privilege we have as believers to ask God to bless us. God has a lot to give and He delights in blessing His children. Contrary to what many believe that to mean, the word “bless” means to kneel. So, the picture is that the person being blessed would kneel before the person doing the blessing and the blessing was then transferred. When we ask for God’s blessing, we’re not asking for more of what we could get ourselves. Rather, we're asking God to show favor to us and that we wi...2022-09-0828 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Singleness with Kelly C. & Marie M. Pt 2On this episode, Jen & Greg will continue the discussion with Kelly Clausen and Marie Martin on the realities of singleness. Two godly, amazing women, in their 30's, share the intricacies of being a Christian single in America. Join us on this amazing discussion over two episodes as we talk about being single, trusting the Lord, how the church views singles, aloneness, and advice for other singles!
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2022-09-0127 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Singleness with Kelly C. & Marie M. Pt 1On this episode, Jen & Greg will dive deep with Kelly Clausen and Marie Martin on the realities of singleness. Two godly, amazing women, in their 30's, share the intricacies of being a Christian single in America. Join us on this amazing discussion over two episodes as we talk about being single, trusting the Lord, how the church views singles, aloneness, and advice for other singles!
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2022-08-2527 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Acutely AloneOn this episode, Jen & Greg will take a sharp turn from their recent conversations involving biblical community and address the issue that if we’re being honest, so many Fraternity members struggle with, and that is being alone. In fact, the couple will be addressing what it means to be Acutely Alone, and how members of the Fraternity can live in community and at the same time go through severe, intense seasons of feeling alone. Finally, Jen & Greg will look to Jesus and glean from Him what to do in those moments of being acutely alone.
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Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Storytelling is GoodIn this episode, Jen and Greg will discuss the value of telling our stories. They will share several reasons why sharing our stories of loss, pain, and brokenness is not only helpful for others, it's incredibly cathartic for the one sharing. Jen and Greg will also read and discuss two powerful stories sent in from two Fraternity members, Nora and Tammy, who navigate loss that involves family members.
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2022-08-1126 minUnwanted FraternityUF Realities - Caden and Bailey Tonkinson Interview Pt 2In this episode, Jen and Greg continue their conversation with Caden and Bailey Tonkinson, discussing experiencing grief as a child. Caden (22) and Bailey (18) are Greg's bio kids and Jen's step-kids. Caden was 10 yrs old and Bailey was 6 yrs old when they lost their mother, Leigh Ann, as she was killed waiting at a stoplight. The two will discuss community, family, and advice for other youth. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.2022-08-0426 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Caden and Bailey Tonkinson Interview Pt 2In this episode, Jen and Greg continue their conversation with Caden and Bailey Tonkinson, discussing experiencing grief as a child. Caden (22) and Bailey (18) are Greg's bio kids and Jen's step-kids. Caden was 10 yrs old and Bailey was 6 yrs old when they lost their mother, Leigh Ann, as she was killed waiting at a stoplight. The two will discuss community, family, and advice for other youth.
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2022-08-0427 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Caden and Bailey Tonkinson Interview Pt 1In this episode, Jen and Greg sit down with Caden and Bailey Tonkinson to discuss experiencing grief as a child. Caden (22) and Bailey (18) are Greg's bio kids and Jen's step-kids. Caden was 10 yrs old and Bailey was 6 yrs old when they lost their mother, Leigh Ann, as she was killed waiting at a stoplight. Listen, from a child's perspective, how two boys dealt with the devastating news and how they navigated their own grief.
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2022-07-2827 minUnwanted FraternityUF Realities - Caden and Bailey Tonkinson Interview Pt 1In this episode, Jen and Greg sit down with Caden and Bailey Tonkinson to discuss experiencing grief as a child. Caden (22) and Bailey (18) are Greg's bio kids and Jen's step-kids. Caden was 10 yrs old and Bailey was 6 yrs old when they lost their mother, Leigh Ann, as she was killed waiting at a stoplight. Listen, from a child's perspective, how two boys dealt with the devastating news and how they navigated their own grief. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.2022-07-2826 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Community Can Be MessyIn this episode, Jen & Greg discuss the challenges that can arise when we try to do community with others. Being in community, even biblical community, can be messy for several reasons and not the least of which because we struggle to handle grief well. What to say and what to do when someone in our community is hurting can be difficult. Listen in to some practical ways to biblical community well!
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2022-07-2127 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Community is a Beautiful ThingIn this episode, Jen & Greg encourage Unwanted Fraternity members by discussing the desire, need, and benefits of being in biblical community. Community is necessary to grieve well but it can be challenging for one reason - community involves people! Listen in and be encouraged!
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2022-07-1427 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Hope is What Gets Us Up Each DayIn this episode, Jen & Greg remind the weary Unwanted Fraternity member that hope is granted to all believers in Christ which is so important to remember in your time of pain. Rather than seeing hope as "wishful thinking," this episode will turn to Scripture and confirm that hope is anything but wishful thinking. Rather, you can live your life this side of heaven with confidence that God is not only doing a work in your life (even during your suffering), but that He is also preparing a place for you in glory! Be encouraged by listening to this episode!2022-07-0726 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Faith is Found in UF MembersIn this episode, Jen & Greg walk through the importance of maintaining faith during your season of grief and suffering. Defining faith is key to this discussion. As well, Jen & Greg will focus in on two aspects of faith: those mountain-top moments we need to be trusting God in, and those daily moments when getting to work on time is a victory! Finally, you'll be offered some "faith principles" that will help you maintain your faith when it is needed most.
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2022-06-3026 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Doubting GodAfter doing a 3-part series on Anger, we thought it was fitting to discuss a natural result of being angry - doubting God. What does it really mean when we think of doubting God? What is it that we are honestly doubting? Join Greg and Jen as they jump in and discuss this weighty issue!
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2022-06-2327 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Anger Pt 3: Can I Be Angry at God?In this third of three episodes, Greg and Jen discuss being angry at God. Can we be angry at God? Or is there a better way to live in right relationship with our Heavenly Father that is authentic but also reverent? We will address some similarities and differences between being angry and lamenting. This matters because sometimes God is the target of our frustration and we need to get this right! Hear powerful stories from other Fraternity members as well!
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2022-06-1627 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Anger Pt 2: The Crossroads of ForgivenessIn this second of three episodes, Greg and Jen discuss the reality for many Fraternity members - dealing with anger, and in this episode they tackle the difficult issue of forgiveness. Often, if not always, this issue will have to be addressed as we journey through our pain. What does the Bible say about forgiveness? Am I bound to forgive? What did Jesus do? All of these questions and more will be discussed.
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2022-06-0927 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - Anger Pt 1: We Experience Widespread AngerIn this first of three episodes, Greg and Jen discuss the reality for many Fraternity members - dealing with anger. Is anger an acceptable emotion? What's the difference between righteous vs unrighteous anger?
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2022-06-0227 min
Unwanted FraternityUF Realities - We Are Massive in Number & Unquestionably BrokenIn this episode, Greg and Jen discuss the benefits of being in a Fraternity that is massive in number. They also address the reality of being unquestionably broken and that Jesus understands your brokenness and He grieves when we're broken.
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2022-05-2627 min
Unwanted FraternityAre You an Unwanted Fraternity Member?In this episode, Greg and Jennifer welcome you to the Unwanted Fraternity, share their personal stories, and discuss the realities of the Unwanted Fraternity.
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2022-05-1927 min